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Happy Fourth of July

here is one feature in this July issue that fills me with

great pride. It is our special section saluting fifty very

extraordinary women (page 85). We call them American

heroines and we are honoring one woman from each of our
fifty states. I know they are women you'll admire.

For over one hundred years, Ladies’ Home Journal has been
telling the story of the American woman. Often, I know, the maga-
zine writes about the famous and the glamorous. Well. these
women are not celebrities in that sense of the word, but their
achievements certainly deserve to be recognized—and celebrated.

For in many different and fascinating ways, they have helped
others, have improved their communities, have fought against in-
equality and have comforted the sick, the poor, the hopeless. They
are all strong women, but they are also women who care, and they
seem to me to represent the very best in the American spirit. What
better way, we decided, to celebrate our nation’s two-hundred-and-
eighth birthday than to tell you about them?

We also write about three quite special European women in this
issue. It wasn’t easy, but the Journal sent a reporter to Poland to
interview Danuta Walesa, wife of Solidarity leader and 1983 Nobel
Peace Prize winner Lech Walesa. I think you will find the interview
with this brave and loving woman a very moving story (page 58).
We also interviewed elegant Sophia Loren, who, at almost fifty,
seems more beautiful than ever (page 32). And we have a feature on
Princess Diana as she awaits the birth of her new baby (page 96).
Or is it going to be twins?

Now, I must confess that Princess Diana and I share something
unique. It isn’t merely that we’re both married to Englishmen who
are princes (each, of course, in his own way). In fact, we both
have sons born on June 21. William, who is rambunctious and
adorable, will be three. My younger son, Graham, who is also
rambunctious and adorable, will be fourteen. Clearly, this is a
season of birthdays—personal and national—and of celebrations of
all sorts when friends and family get together.

Another charming summertime feature in this issue is our story
on flower arranging (page 92).Even if you are all thumbs (like me),
it will show you how to create a pretty, seasonal centerpiece.

To help you with your own celebrations, try a recipe from our
wonderful summer entertaining feature (page 106). All the recipes
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is the season to enjoy, to enjoy seeing those we love, and, I hope, to
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42 THE
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By Carol Krucoff
EDITOR'S JOURNAL When the
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CAN THIS MARRIAGE BE SAVED? [BjAieieare HOWataEEenBETON

his case is based on information

from the files of the Pastoral

Counseling Service of Westfield,
New Jersey, a fully accredited program
of the American Association for Mar-
riage and Family Therapy, funded by
voluntary contributions. The true story
reported here is from interviews. Names
and details have been changed. The
counselor in this month’s case was the

Rev. Ace L. Tubbs, Ed.D.
Betty’s turn

“Tm fed up,” fumed thirty-eight-year-
old Betty, a well-groomed, overweight
mother of three. “I still care for Dave,
but his indifference is driving me crazy.
He doesn’t listen
when I talk, and
he refuses to re-
spond when I need
to discuss a prob-
lem. We have fights
every night over
every little thing,
but while I talk my-
self hoarse trying
to make a point, Dave just grunts into
his beer and tells me to get off his back.

“Last night, for example, we battled

Susan Faiola

over whether I had checked with him
about inviting the Andersons for dinner
this Saturday. I’d brought the subject up
a few days ago—we’ve owed then

| ner for months—and Dave agreed. Yes-

terday, I planned the menu and did
the shopping. I even splurged on an e
pensive bottle of French wine. As I was
telling Dave what we'd be having, he
coolly informed me he had plans to go on
a fishing expedition this weekend. ‘If I'd
agreed to this dinner of yours, Id re-
member, wouldn't I?’ he shouted. ‘You
just went ahead, made your plans and
assumed I'd go along. Well, this time
you're wrong! I’m going fishing.’

“J thought I was going crazy. It’s true
I’m in charge of our social life—other-
wise we wouldn’t have any—but | al-

*“My husband wont
talk to me”

Betty tried to communicate, but Dave turned a deaf
ear. What happens when lovers become strangers?

ways consult Dave, and I remember
mentioning the dinner to him. My frus-
tration and disappointment were so in-
tense, I ended up screaming at him.
“We're always fighting over domestic
issues, who's supposed to do what. But
if I mention to him that he forgot to pay
the heating bill, he just nods blankly,
and I know he hasn't heard a word I’ve
said. Since we both work, I made a
schedule of who would do the cooking
and shopping on which nights. Dave
went along with it at first, but now I'll
come home exhausted on Dave's night
to cook and find him sitting calmly in
his chair with a beer. ‘What's for din-
ner?’ he’ll ask innocently, and I could
just kill him. He seems to think his
only responsibility to this family is to
bring home a paycheck.
“We fight over budgets and spending
a lot. Just recently, I discovered he had
secretly siphoned money from our joint
account to start one of his own to pay
restaurant tabs when he’s out with
friends. I was shocked and I let him
know it, but he didn’t seem to care.
“Fighting every day is new for Dave
and me. For the first eighteen years of
our marriage, arguments were rare be-
cause I kept my complaints to myself.
“Recently, though, my doctor told me
that holding my feelings in check was
causing the severe stomach pains I’ve
been experiencing. I remember that
same thing happened to me in high
school when I felt insecure about being
weight. Emotional troubles always
affect me physically.

When I told Dave what the doctor
said, he agreed I should air my feelings
immediately, but it doesn’t help. Dave
res me or tells me to be quiet,

s even more tension.

l is the way it’s affecting

ur son, Chris. At sixteen, he’s the only
ld still at home. Donna, who’ nine-

1 i Kathy, who’ eighteen, are away
at e. Last fall, Chris sneaked

out at night, took the car and ran off to
California with a girlfriend. Fortunate-
ly, the police spotted him and brought
him back. But I didn’t realize how
much our problems were hurting our
son until I found a letter he was writing
to his girlfriend. It was right on the
kitchen table and I couldn’t heip seeing
what it said: ‘My parents are fighting
again. Mom is screaming and crying.
Dad is drinking. Sometimes I wonder if
it’s all my fault... .

“I cried and showed the letter to
Dave. I told him if we didn’t get profes-
sional help, I would leave him and take
Chris with me. Finally, Dave seemed to
understand how serious the situation
was, and agreed we should get help.

“T guess Dave is like my father in a
lot of ways. Dad was a dentist, and
when he was through seeing patients
for the day, he’d go upstairs to read or
listen to the radio. He didn’t talk much,
and I never heard him argue with my
mother. If there was a confrontation, it
was between my mother and me. On
the other hand, even though they didn’t
fight, I never saw my. parents hug or
show affection for each other.

“T don’t want that for my family, but I
can’t seem to get the message across to
Dave. He spends more time being affec-
tionate with the dog than with me.
When I complain, he says, “That's be-
cause the dog doesn’t bug me.’

“That really hurts. I hate bugging
and nagging, but he won’t do the little
things—or the big ones—unless I tell
him to, a dozen times. On birthdays
and Christmas, he’ll ask, ‘What do you
want?’ I might as well buy my own pres-
ents for all the meaning his have. Just
once, I'd like him to give me something
that shows he knows what I like.

“He's the same way with the children.
He’s never really listened to them or
cared about their schoolwork. He balks
at going to see the school principal
about Chris's problems. (continued)

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continued

Shris has some learning difficulties
shat were overlooked by his teachers
when he was younger; now these prob-
lems seem to be causing him much pain
in school. Anyway, Dave doesn’t seem
zoncerned. He thinks providing mate-
rial things is enough.

“Dave has been drinking more in the
past six months, since I started work-
ing as a computer-science teacher. I
think he feels threatened by my career.
Dave used to have notions about being
a company president, but he doesn’t
have the right personality for that kind
of position. He’s a fine engineer, but he
doesn’t get along well with people. |
never encouraged him in his grandiose
schemes for entertaining company
brass because I knew it wouldn't lead
anywhere. Now he blames me for his
failure to make it to the top.

“Even our sex life has deteriorated. I
certainly don’t enjoy making love when
he smells of bourbon and beer. Sex has
become mechanical, but Dave won't
taik about that either. I’m so desperate
for someone who cares about what |
want, I’m actually considering having
an affair. I've read every marriage
manual and pop psychology book I
could find, but nothing has worked. If I
can't get Dave to listen to me and dis-
cuss our problems, then I really don’t
think this marriage can be saved.”

Dave’s turn

“I hope we can work things out,” said
Dave, forty-four, a tall fair-haired man
who seemed ill at ease. “I don’t see why
we have to fight all the time. Take this
dinner with the An-
dersons—why did
Betty get so upset?
Can't she put the
food in the freezer
and invite them
over next weekend?

“The truth is,
she plans every-
thing the way she
wants it and then tries to maneuver me
to fit her plans. I usually go along so
she won't yell, but last night I’d had
enough. I don’t remember her ever
mentioning the Andersons.

“She orders me around as if I were in
the army, always deciding on routines
and schedules, and if I don’t meet her
expectations, boy, do I hear about it.
When she started working, she decided
we should each do half of everything at
home. She nagged me so much, I finally
agreed. But I don’t like the role rever-
sal. Cooking and doing dishes give me
a feeling of self-disgust.

“My parents’ home was very tradi-

tional. My dad went to work and my
mother took care of the house. They
never fought, and she didn’t mind that
he didn’t talk much. Dad died when I
was fourteen, and now, when I think of
him, it’s not for anything he said, but
for his presence. He was a rock I could
lean on. That's what I try to be to my
wife and children.

“But Betty is always trying to force
me into confrontations. I understand
intellectually that she needs to express
herself, though when she starts, I in-
stinctively withdraw. There’s no way I
can compete with her in an argument.
My style is to be cool and objective,
but I swear she does everything she
can to provoke me into losing my tem-
per. She bends every statement and
event to make me feel guilty. Betty
blames me for Chriss running away.
but the truth is, Chriss problems at
school were driving him away, not me.
It’s true I don’t get along with the
children as well as [d like, but I try to
be a good husband and father. ’m
faithful, I don’t gamble, I make a de-
cent living, but it’s never enough. Even
when I buy her flowers or take her to
dinner, the flowers are always the
wrong color, the dinner’s at the wrong
restaurant. When I ask her to tell me
what she wants, she answers, ‘If you
loved me, you'd know without my tell-
ing you.’ There’s nothing more I can do.

“Bettys changed a lot since we first
met. I was a junior in college and she
had just graduated from high school.
Back then, she was only interested in
getting married and starting a family.
But when the kids got older, she wanted
to go back to school. I could see she
needed to prove her self-worth, yet I
can’t help believing that a womans place
is In the home. Besides, though she de-
mands my support, she never encour-
aged my dreams of becoming a corporate
president. She refused to entertain my
friends from the office because she said
she didn’t want that kind of ‘phony’ life-
style. That’s why I started my own bank
account. I knew she would never under-
stand that I needed to have more pocket
money to live up to my image as a man
with a certain position to maintain.

“Betty was the first girl I was ever
serious about. I was attracted to her
because she cared about me—I had
known few people in my life who did. I
guess I’ve never been very good with
females. Even my mother had the up-
per hand with me. She was a real force
in our family, but I didn’t know how to
deal with her. Dad never talked back to
her, either. When I felt she was trying
to manipulate me, I would just nod my
head, tune out and do as I pleased.

“Betty claims I’ve been drinking too

much lately, but a few beers at the end
of the day are the only relaxation I get.
I'll admit, sometimes I have an occa-
sional shot of bourbon to help me
through those ‘discussions’ with Betty.
A man needs some sort of relief when
his wife makes him feel as if he never
does anything right. She even criticizes
me in bed, though I try to do everything
those marriage manuals say.

“T don’t want our marriage to end,
but things seem pretty hopeless. Why
can’t Betty ever see my point of view?”

The counselor’s turn

“Betty couldn’t see Dave’s point of view
because he rarely expressed it,” said the
counselor. “He found talking about
feelings virtually impossible, while
Betty desperately needed to know what
was on his mind, as well as share her
feelings. It was clear that working out
their problems would not be easy.

“In therapy, they began to realize how
similar their backgrounds were. In both
households, the mothers were forceful
women, the fathers quiet men who faith-
fully put bread on the table. Dave trans-
ferred to Betty his resentment toward
his manipulative mother and his pas-
sive, selective-listening approach to
dealing with her. Similarly, Betty, who
had grown up believing her parents
didn’t love her because they weren't de-
monstrative, transferred these doubts to
Dave. Serious problems were inevitable.

“The first step toward rehabilitating
their relationship was to eliminate
Dave's alcohol abuse. He was drinking
to escape his problems, but the alcohol
clouded his mind, making him unable
to deal with them. Finally, he agreed to
go to AA, and he hasn’t touched any-
thing stronger than carbonated water
in more than a year.

“However, Dave resisted the real work
of therapy until he came across the
phrase ‘No pain, no gain’ in an exercise
book. He saw that this axiom applied to
relationships, too, and once he was will-
ing to experience hurt, his lifelong pat-
tern of avoiding issues began to change.
He was able to really listen to Betty, as
well as articulate his own thoughts.

“Although she wouldn’t admit it at
first, Betty needed to change, too. Her
own insecurity made her feel that she
always had to be right. She had learned
to express her needs as demands, to
voice her criticisms in a provocatively
negative manner. I urged her, instead,
to preface her comments with some-
thing nice, and to admit once in a while
that Dave was right. This became eas-
ier as her career blossomed and her
self-confidence grew.

“T also encouraged her to recognize
Dave's needs and to learn to (continued)

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compromise in such areas as household
chores and money management. This
was hard for her, but she soon found
that sharing with Dave on an emotion-
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“As therapy progressed, Betty was
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As he began to contribute his own
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excited to discover he could have real
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friends and his colleagues as well as his
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their marital strife, has come in for
some family therapy sessions. Dave
and Betty have begun talking to him
about their problems, so he under-
stands that hes not responsible for
them. What's more, his father’s new in-
terest in him and his schoolwork has
given Chris more confidence, and now
hes the pride of his parents’ life.

“After two years of therapy, Betty and
Dave still argue, but in a more con-
structive manner. And this past Christ-
mas, for the first time, Dave didn’t ask
Betty for a list. He bought her tiny La-
lique love birds because he knew she
loved the fine crystal. Though progress
hasn’t always been rapid or steady, Dave
and Betty have come a long way toward
making their marriage work.” End

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nJune 24, 1983, I looked
in the mirror and saw
my mother. I stared at
the image, unable to
shake the sense of déja
vu. The woman who
looked back at me smiled at my con-
fusion. I wanted to shout, “Don’t come
yet. I’m still waiting to be a golden
girl.” But the forty-year-old woman in
the mirror, the one with faint streaks of
silver in her hair, and the shapely—but
jiggly—thighs, refused to budge.

In truth, that bright June morning
wasn’t the first time I’d noticed the
transformation. I] had always been told
that I resembled my mother and I knew
that I did—a younger version of her
that I remembered from my child- J
hood. But for the past six months, }
from certain angles, I had been dis- |
covering traces of her present face,
like faint overlays, obscuring my
own familiar features.

For my first thirty-five years, at
least, I hadn’t given forty much
thought. I was too busy to worry
about growing older. Even at thirty-
eight, I had laughed at the antics of
nervous fortyish women casting
about frantically for their lost youth.

After all, I still had my girlish
figure. In fact, I prided myself on it. I
owned two pairs of faded Levi's, which
I squeezed into successfully. In a
pinch, I could borrow my twelve-year-
old son’s blazer. And I got lots of smiles
when I waited at stoplights in my semi-
classic convertible. Maybe I wasn’t a
brand-new showroom model, but at
not-yet-forty, | was far from being a
vintage collector's item.

Besides, I reassured myself, lii
good. I was a short, almost-forty-year
old, married to a tall, handsome ma
and the mother of two terrific childrer
two dogs, two horses, one snake, and
assorted fish. I was also pursuing a ca-
reer aS a writer and living in a gor-
geous desert climate

So imagine my shock when I noticed
the first signs of Forty Fever in myself.
At first I was hardly aware of the symp-
toms. Then I caught myself devouring
“over forty and still glamorous” arti-

VAS

cles. I even found Elizabeth Taylor's
fight against fat fascinating. Whenever
I was asked my age, instead of saying
“Thirty-nine,” I would answer, “Almost
forty,” and hold my breath, anxiously
waiting for the exclamation of disbelief.
If I didn’t get the expected response, I'd
repeat the age, a little louder. When
that didn’t work, I'd sulk for a couple of
hours and rationalize that I must have
caught the other person on a bad day.

What was happening to me? Why,
after all these years, was I finding a
mere number so upsetting?

Examining my reaction honestly, I
realized I was balking at the thought of
reaching this benchmark. Forty seemed

so finite, and so very settled, so. . . old.

To make myself feel better, I re-
searched the age, and discovered that
hordes of people were having this big
birthday with me. Literally hundreds
of thousands of us whose parents had
the same idea in 1943 were marching
forward to take over the world. The
sheer numbers alone, I comforted my-
self, guaranteed that I would be able to
find strength—or at least anonymity—
in the vast and aging crowd.

What’ more, I learned that today
turning forty is considered chic. I was
forever finding articles featuring yet
another daring feat by a forty-year-old
letermined to crash through the age
barrier. My favorite was one mother
whose previous running experience
had been limited to chasing her son's
school bus twice a week waving his for-
gotten lunch. Yet, she went into train-
ing and celebrated her birthday by jog-

*¢Facing forty”

As the big birthday drew near, I did a lot of soul-searching .. .
and a lot of looking in the mirror, too.

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ging forty miles. No one, it appeared,
planned to enter the magic kingdom o
forty without swelling violins or a
least a Mickey Mouse parade.

No one, that is, except me. For some

unfathomable reason, against all com-
mon sense and no matter what the arti-
cles said, I felt miserable. I out-and-ou
disliked the idea of turning forty, and
at the same time, I felt foolish about my
reaction. Therefore, I was determined
to launch a counteroffensive, a majo
redevelopment effort to fight this down
er of a birthday. Reasoning that if I had
to wake up older, at least I'd wake up
thinner, I pledged myself to skinny city.
I still had some good months left and I
vowed to put them to use. I wasn’t
going to stand up and be counted
wearing what a friend calls “dolma
arms.” So, I bent, stretched and jogged
relentlessly. Hard and early, I hit
those places that tend to sag. I man
icured and dieted and pedicured.

At forty minus three months, the
mirror-staring sessions became more
frequent. In the process, I learned
one of life’s hard truths: After sleep
ing on your face for four decades, the
permanent press begins to wear out
Little character lines had emerged
when I wasn't looking. I treated my
self to a department store makeover at
the cosmetic counter and thankfull
discovered one bonus of age. If my new.
grown-up face had lost the sweet chub4
biness of youth, time had at least
brought me great cheekbones!

Nevertheless, although my outside
firmed, my insides still squirmed. So ]
stepped up my attack. I began voicing
my concerns about the big birthday te
anyone who would listen, hoping that
by verbalizing my fears, they would
disappear. But, for once, my family
failed me. My husband, normally sym;
pathetic, had sailed happily through
his fortieth three years earlier without
even a ripple of discontent. “Are yo
really serious about this fearing fort
stuff?” he asked. I gnashed my teeth
and prayed that a small attack of male
menopause would strike him. My older
sister, the actress, chided me long distance
“Think how (continued on page 24)

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lucky you are,” she trilled. “Here I am,

| too young to play character parts and

too old to be an ingenue. No one cares
how old a writer is.” She missed the
point. I cared. Even my understanding
mother joined the opposition. “How

| do you think I feel having such old

daughters?” she exclaimed. And this
was supposed to cheer me up? Only

| my younger sister offered solace. She

had the good sense to remain silent.
Happily, while all this was going on.
I received an unexpected boost to my

| morale as I watched my teenage daugh-

ter grow taller and more sophisticated-
looking than I. I basked in her com-
pany, and reveled in thinking of the
perfect future tableau: young mother
with old child. I chose to disregard the
fact that soon she might be having chil-
dren of her own.

Spring passed, and the countdown

| began in earnest. My friends began

| My favorite was

teasing me with well-meaning clichés.
“Don’t worry. You’re
only as old as you feel.” By mid-June

| the cards were trickling in. “After forty.

it’s a matter of maintenance,” said one,
as if I needed reminding. Everyone, it
seemed, was conspiring to make me
feel over-the-hill.

Although I had made a point of ex-
plaining to my family that I didn’t want
to be surprised with any fanfare or
party, I awoke on the fated day slightly
anxious and ill at ease. But my for-

| merly unsympathetic husband came

| through with flying colors.

He sur-
prised me with a marvelous trip to New
York City just for the two of us. “What
a way to go!” I told him, thrilled by his
special gesture. On the plane ride home,
I rested my head on his shoulder and
reflected that forty might not be so bad
if it led to more such weekends of

| luxury and glamour. Then, settling my

new age around me like a comfortable
sweater, I relaxed and prepared to en-

joy it to the fullest.

But suddenly I realized that while
this number fit me on the outside,
inside I still felt a little like I was
playing dress-up. Forty, Td always
been told, is grown up, but I wasn't
sure I really was. By forty you're sup-
posed to be well on the road; yet, here
[ was still congratulating myself
whenever I read the map right. Forty-
year-old people are those older folk
who look forward to their twenty-fifth
high school reunions. But I could still
do my high school cheers—with mo-
tions. And while some forty-year-old
women are grandmothers, I still got a
twinge when no one acted surprised to
hear I had a teenage daughter.

Whats more. I discovered that the

forty-year-old person I now am isn't
exactly the woman I had always ex-
pected to be. For example, from the
time I was old enough to have them, I
had prided myself on my nonstatus val-
ues. Designer labels? I upheld my fam-
ilys philosophy: Anyone can look spec-
tacular in a $250.00 outfit. The chal-
lenge is to do it on $24.95. At forty,
though, I discovered my course had
veered a little bit. Instead of priding
myself on my Agatha Christie clothes
—in which slashed labels leave cryptic
clues about the designer—I longed to
see Diane or Yves or Calvin’ entire
name spelled out just once in my ward-
robe. Maybe youre expecting me to
chastise myself for changing, but I
can't and I'm not even sorry. Maybe
that’s part of being forty. too.

When I was eighteen, I remember my
father sending me off to college, telling
me that I was who I was, that he
couldn't do anything more to shape me.
From his point of view, I was an inde-
pendent personality. responsible for
myself. Now, twenty-two years later, I
wish he were alive so I could tell him
that his assessment of me was prema-
ture. It is only since my fortieth birth-
day that I have gained that firm sense
of myself that tells me I have arrived.

Today, as I reflect from the vantage
point of forty-one. I realize that miscon-
ceptions abound about this special age.
We are warned that forty will find us
stripped of our youth, yet not gifted
with the dignity that comes with ad-
vanced age. In reality, though, forty
marks the beginning of an important
life cycle. an especially secure phase,
tucked between insecurity and social
security, which has a satisfaction all its
own. Like a broken-in pair of mid-heel
pumps, forty is comfortably stylish. It
can also be glamorous, even powerful,
for professionally, you are probably at
the peak of your career.

We forty-year-olds are more priv-
ileged than ever since old taboos about
forty have vanished. One forty-year-old
can be a first-time mother while an-
other can be a grandmother. A forty-
year-old woman can enter or reenter
the work force, make career changes,
start school or retire. She can kayak
down a river, learn to ski or even suit
up for the space shuttle. Life not only
can begin at forty, it can launch itself
in an entirely new direction. Indeed,
many women I know view their for-
tieth birthday as a watershed—a time
to take stock of the first half of their
lives and take action in the second half.
Nothing stands in the way of these
women. They know—as I do—that
forty is a state of mind. And it is one
that I have finally—and happily—
comé to terms with. Now, if I could only
feel this good about fifty. . . End

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ynamic wife. As he leaves the room,
ophia settles into a velvety sofa, long
22s crossed, oversized eyeglasses poised
n those classic cheekbones. Beyond
he glasses, a faint tracing of squint
nd laugh lines are the only clues to
er age. “I will be fifty in September,”
he says, smiling. “It doesn’t concern
1e. Every season of life is nice. I think

fit exactly my age, and I don’t think I
yould ever have a face-lift because you
an be given a very young face, but they
an’t change your soul, they can't
hange your head as you get older. So
here’s a kind of conflict, isn’t there?”
sesides, she says, “My children would
ot like for me to have a face-lift. They
ay, ‘Oh, Mommy, don’t change—you
re so beautiful, and you will always be
o beautiful.’ So,’ she says in her
harmingly imperfect English, “I feel
ery well in my skin.”

Sophia is wearing silk, an abstract-
rint dress in striking colors—among
hem her favorite, red. “I like to wear
lways something red, even if it is un-
erneath, out of sight.” It is one of her
everal superstitions, which include
voiding black cats, spilled salt and
roken mirrors. “Red brings me luck, I
hink, since I was born. There is some-
hing alive about it, something violent
md aggressive.” Not that Sophia is
ver violent, but, she says, “I am ag-
ressive, about once a year.” Sophia’s
gression takes a curious form. “Some
yvomen may throw things about when
hey are angry. I am not like that. Not
t all. When I am angry I become incre-
ibly calm, like a statue, with no ex-
ression in my face, no feelings. Noth-
ng. I do not talk.” Anyone exposed to
ier frigid calm, Sophia adds quietly,
gets the point. It happened to me last
ear when I was betrayed by someone I
hought was a friend. You know how
ometimes you think you have a friend,
ind you tell them some kind of inti-
nate things because you really have a
onging to talk to somebody—to get
hings out that are inside of you, like
alking to a priest at confession?” she
ays evenly. “Then this ‘friend’ repeats
vhat you have said in private, spreading
round your most intimate thoughts.”
der voice is suddenly cold and brittle.
I think that is the worst thing that can
lappen to you.”

Sophia may be referring to the wide-
y publicized revelations three years
igo of her relationship with French
ancer specialist Dr. Etienne-Emile
3aulieu, a married man with three
hildren. “Mutual friends” were quoted
is saying it was “love at first sight for
oth of them” when they met. The al-
eged romance surfaced publicly when

photographs of Sophia and the doctor
emerging from an apartment in subur-
ban Paris appeared in newspapers
around the world that summer, and
friends told reporters, “She made it
quite clear that she wanted freedom to
see the doctor whenever she wished.”
Ponti then moved from their Paris
apartment to Geneva, taking their two
sons with him, and Sophia followed.
She discreetly declines to elaborate
on her statement about what she con-
siders her betrayal, except to say, “I felt
cheated. And when I feel cheated, it

rarely bring
my problems

to Carlo. He has so

many things to do
that he doesn’t like to
hear this silly stuff. 99

means the end of a friendship forever.”
As quickly as this superb actress be-
comes intense she can become relaxed
again—and she deftly moves the con-
versation to one of her favorite topics,
extrasensory perception. For years, she
has had “eerie premonitions” of coming
events. “I am a witch,” she says lightly.
Asked if she belongs to a coven (a band
of persons practicing witchcraft), she
looks baffled. “I know nothing of these
how-you-say ‘covens.’ I am a Neapol-
itan witch,” Sophia declares proudly,
referring to her birthplace, Naples.
Neapolitans, she says, are usually
superstitious and often can see into the
future. Of her visions, she adds, “I have
never been wrong. One day in Paris, |
asked my secretary if we were insured
against fire. Now, this is not something
I ask my secretary every day. That
same night, fire broke out in our build-
ing, and I had to take the boys up to the
roof, where we huddled together in
blankets till five in the morning when
the firemen could take us back to the
apartment. I had to be treated in the
hospital for smoke intoxication. I had
clearly seen that fire in my mind seven
hours before it broke out.” On another
occasion in Paris, she had asked her
husband if their villa in Rome had in-
surance against theft. “He said we were
insured, of course, and asked why I
wanted to know. The next morning we
received word that thieves had broken
into Villa Marino and stolen every-

thing—even including my Oscar.”

Sophias most frightening insight
came a few years ago after she’d ac-
cepted an invitation to fly to Brussels
for a banquet. “The day before I was to
leave,” she says, “I had an overwhelm-
ing feeling of disaster. So I phoned and
said, ‘I’m sorry, I can’t go.’ They sent
another girl, a Miss Italia, in my place.
The day after, I learned that her plane
had crashed, and everybody aboard had
been killed.”

That incident not only reinforced her
respect for her own ESP but deepened
her lifelong fear of flying. “The more I
fly, the more scared I get,” Sophia ad-
mits, laughing. “I get in the plane and

_try to have an attitude of someone very

composed, a woman of the world who
flies all the time—which I do—but in-
side I die!” Sophia leans forward, flut-
tering her slender fingers in the air:
“This is how my stomach goes each
time the plane bumps. I think every
time, Mama mia, poor Sophia, to die
like this!” Her fear of flying is “not a
phobia,” she insists, but is based on her
perception of the law of gravity. “This
big thing made of heavy iron, with so
much luggages on it. You know it’s not
going to take off, never. And if it takes
off, it can’t stay up there, never.” She
shrugs. “You see, I don’t like to fly be-
cause it’s unnatural. I don’t have wings;
I'm not a bird. It’s that simple.”

She takes no nerve-calming medica-
tions. “When it gets bad, I pray. I have
great faith in God,” says Sophia cheer-
fully. A Roman Catholic, she attends
mass only occasionally, “when I feel
like it.” Ponti never accompanies her,
his apparent aversion to the formal
church dating back to their marriage in
1958, which the Catholic Church in
Italy refused to recognize. At the time,
Sophia was only twenty-three and had
lived off and on with Carlo, a married
man with two children, for several
years. He was reluctant to divorce his
wife for the budding young actress un-
til she went to Hollywood to costar in
the film The Pride and the Passion with
debonair Cary Grant. Cary and Sophia
fell in love, and he asked her to marry
him, which made Ponti realize that he
would lose her if he didn’t act. In her
biography, Sophia admits exerting a
certain amount of pressure on him. “I
told him, ‘Carlo, I love you, I have com-
mitted myself to you, but this is no life
for me. I want to feel pride when I’m
with you and feel a nice wedding band
on my finger... .””

Pontis response was to arrange a
proxy divorce from his wife and a si-
multaneous proxy marriage to Sophia
in Mexico. Cary Grant took it “bravely,”
Sophia recalls, but the quick action
backfired on the newlyweds because the
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the Mexican divorce illegal, and Carlo
was pronounced a bigamist. “It took
many troubled, frustrating, somewhat
perilous years,’ Sophia remembers
with sadness, “until we could become
really man and wife.”

She doesn’t like to recall those prob-
lems now—‘“they are so long ago’—
and is indignant when asked if she
feels any guilt about Cary Grant. “Me?
Why should I feel guilty about Cary?”
she cries defensively. Then softening,
adds, “But I can’t discuss that. It’s im-
possible. My relationship with Cary is
so dear to me that I don’t want to ruin
it by saying the wrong things. I never
see him. But Cary Grant stays in my
mind and in my heart forever.”

Nor does she like to discuss at
length her husband, whom she has
described as a workaholic, a genius
who “doesn’t talk much, so that I have
to guess what he’s thinking, what he
wants from me, what he’d like to do. I
have to take words from his mouth
with pliers.” As a result, Sophia says,
“| rarely bring to Carlo my problems
with the children or anything else. I
don’t go to my husband asking what I
should do when its something I can
cope with myself,” she smiles, “and I
can cope with most things. He has so
many things to do that he doesn’t like
to hear this silly stuff.” His business
travels and hers are often apart. And
rumors of his seeing other women have
dogged the marriage. Sophia scoffs at
the reports and claims, “Jealous is not
a word in my dictionary.”

But being alone as much as she is,
Sophia says reluctantly, sometimes
leaves her depressed. “We have, each of
us, Our own personalities. Sometimes,
if 'm depressed and people come and
try very hard to dig into me and say,
‘What's wrong, Sophia?’ I get fed up,”
she says firmly. “I want to deal with
my own moods myself. And maybe my
husband is the same way. Because I
know him, I respect his silence.”

Sophia admits that, being an emo-
tional person, she sometimes cries—
“alone, all by myself. Crying is_good,
because it helps you let go. But you
must remember”—she grins, in one of
her swift mood changes—‘“that I am a
Neapolitan, so I can be in a room,

ying to myself, and then I'll look in a

rror and think, What am I doing?

us is utterly silly! And the sense of
and I start to
s she cope when she’s

humor comes ver
laugh.” How do
very depressed? “When I get very up-
set. I sleep,” she says. “The more dis-
turbed I am, the easier I descend into
sleep. I'm like a deer, or a baby.”

The roughest time of recent years,

for both Sophia and Carlo, came in
1978, when he was charged with tax
evasion and trying to smuggle $12 mil-
lion out of Italy. Ponti was fined $24
million, and although Sophia was
found- innocent of the charges. both
she and he were banned from entering
her beloved homeland. Shortly there-
after. Sophia became less involved in
acting and more engrossed in commer-
cial activities—endorsing a line of eye-
glasses and, in 1981, touring heartland
America to promote a new perfume,
“Sophia.” Asked by a reporter why,
after being an international star for
twenty-five years, she “had to play Al-
lentown, Pennsylvania,” Sophia an-
swered uneasily. “You have to, or I
couldn’t do what I'm doing. It would be
wrong to give my name to a product
and then have nothing to do with it.”

This year, she and Ponti have lent
her name as creative consultant to a
lush, $1 billion Mediterranean-style re-
sort called Williams Island in the in-
tracoastal waterway between Miami,
Florida, and Fort Lauderdale. Sophia
owns a penthouse condominium there,
but claims no money has changed
hands yet. “I like to do in life beautiful
things that interest me.” she main-
tains, “and if money comes along later
on, I wouldn’t say no to it.” But any
suggestion that loyal Sophia is doing
these things to help Ponti pay his debt
is coolly rebuffed. “Why should I sup-
port my husband? IJ think it’ a little bit
absurd!” she snaps. “I think my hus-
band supports me in every way, like
every man should support his family.”

When asked, “Does he still owe a
great deal of money to the Italian gov-
ernment?” Sophia grows even testier.

“Well, I don’t know. Is this an inter-
view about money? I think we'd better
skip all this kind of talk.”

Much as she tries to forget the unfor-
tunate episode, it has affected Sophias
life: In 1982, she submitted herself to
Rome authorities and spent seventeen
days in jail in order to be able to return
freely to her homeland. And she claims
Carlo “has won all the trials, is com-
pletely exonerated. He can go to Italy
anytime he wants to.”

The Pontis currently have five resi-
dences: in Rome, Geneva, Williams Is-
land, a forty-acre California ranch near
Los Angeles, and in New York. The
Manhattan apartment is in the elegant
Hampshire House, overlooking Central
Park. “I have not stepped into it since I
was robbed there in 1971,” Sophia says
quietly. “It was ten-thirty in the morn-
ing and two men knocked at the door.
My secretary opened it, and they
banged her on the head and came in my
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Joseph Deltito, a Harvard Medical
School psychiatrist, is currently testing
the effectiveness of alprazolam (Xanax,
Upjohn Company), a tranquilizer that
has been on the market for three years
but has only recently been applied to
this disorder. Dr. Cary L. Hamlin, clini-

cal assistant professor of psychiatry a
Rutgers Medical School, in New Jersey,
is also working with a new drug thera-
py. He is using the beta-blocker pro-
pranolol (Inderal, Ayerst Laboratories)
in combination with an antidepressan
to treat agoraphobia patients.

Both treatments appear to be suc-
cessful at stopping panic attacks and
allowing sufferers to go outside and
visit the places they once feared. The
may finally be the key to freeing these
patients from the prison-without-walls
in which they live.

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It's easier to follow advice when you
understand why it’s important. Doctors}
have long known that sun exposure}
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cer; now they're beginning to under-
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Studies at the Frederick Cancer Re-
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immune system. Normally the body’s
T-lymphocytes—a type of white blood
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cells prevent the T-cells from doing
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“The man in the white Suit must be
Mommy’ friend”

H: has a button that makes Mom’s chair go
up and down. He has a water squirter. And
there’s a camera that shows what’s inside Mom’s
teeth: interesting stuff if you’re a toddler.

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dental society, and check the American Dental
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foot—right from the first visit.

To introduce your child to the dentist,
make an appointment for yourself

Your child will feel more comfortable with the
dentist if he makes his first visit as an observer,
and not as a patient.

This gives him a chance to explore the den-
tist’s office at his own pace, and to decide for
himself that these busy strangers in white are
really his friends.

Above all, he’ll see that you are relaxed and
that you accept the procedures as routine.

Alert your dentist’s office ahead of time to

expect a guest so that they can plan to take some
extra time to make your child feel at home.

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THE CHORES WARS

Buried underneath endless household squabbles over laundry and dirty dishes
are important issues of power, control and self-image. By Carol Krucoff

ouples break up over
big things, say the
experts—sex, money
and children. But
they fight over seem-
ingly small ones—socks on the
floor, dishes in the sink and dust
bunnies under the bed.

“As more couples choose the
dual-career path, the issue of
housework has become an increas-
ingly explosive topic,’ assert man-
agement specialists Francine and
Douglas Hall in their book, The
Two Career Couple (Addison Wes-
ley Publishing Co. Inc., 1979).

“Most fights over women’s rights
take place in the family kitchen,
not the state capitol.”

Consider the evidence: A 1983
Ladies’ Home Journal survey of
86,000 women revealed that what
most often makes women angry is
“when I have to pick up after every-
one else.” Most depressing is “when
everyone makes too many demands
on me.” Most common argument
with the children is over “house-
hold rules and chores.”

‘Married men’s aversion to house-
vork is so intense it can sour their
relationship,” conclude University

of Washington sociologists Philip
Blumstein, Ph.D., and Pepper
Schwartz, Ph.D., in American
Couples: Money, Work, Sex (Wil-
liam Morrow and Co., Inc., 1983),
their study of 6,000 wed and unwed
pairs. “The more housework [hus-
bands] do, the more they fight about
it.” So it’s no surprise that “working
wives still bear almost all the re-
sponsibility for household chores.”

Typically, women do 80 percent
of the household maintenance, and
men do 20 percent, found Univer-
sity of California sociologists Rich-
ard and Sarah (continued)

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continued

Fenstermaker Berk, after interviewing
a nationwide sample of 750 wives and
350 husbands for their book, Labor and
Leisure at Home (Sage Publications,
Inc., 1979). Despite all the talk about
more egalitarian relationships, “When
it comes to housework,” says Richard
Berk, “husbands do zilch.”

A typical skirmish in today’s chores
wars might sound much like this argu-
ment a Boston-area couple related to
Laura Lein, director of The Wellesley
College Center for Research on Women.
Husband: “I had a tough day, so after
supper I just wanted to go upstairs and

_ watch the news. But my wife started in

about doing the dishes, folding the laun-
dry, fixing the screen door. Well, I think
her job is less demanding than mine,
but I knew she expected me to do some-
thing, so I said, ‘Okay, I'll skip the news
and get the kids ready for bed so we'll all
be out of your way.” Wife: “He probably
wouldn’t admit this, but he really be-
lieves that a man should work and a
woman should stay at home. So, even
though Pm working full-time, the house-
work is still my job. He thinks he’s mak-
ing a big contribution by doing things
with the kids instead of pitching in and
helping me clear the dinner table.”

One reason why housework arouses
such controversy for this couple and
countless others like them, says Lein,
is that “the allocation of household
tasks reflects other aspects of the rela-
tionship—the relative importance of
earnings in the paid labor force, the
balance of decision-making power and
the self-image of each family member.
It is impossible to change task alloca-
tion without affecting these and other
facets of family life.”

After she and six other researchers
studied twenty-three dual-earner fam-
ilies with young children for her new
book, Families Without Villains (Lex-
ington Press, 1984), Lein found that
women almost always continue to do
most of the housework when they take
on paid work. “And most maintain
their earlier standards of house-
keeping,” she says. “For many, the an-
swer is to cut down on sleep.” Then they
tend to blame their fatigue, she says,
“on their own inability to get organized
or on their low stamina.” Men who
were brought up to consider paid work
their primary contribution to the fam-
ily “are likely to feel pressure to do
more around the home as their wives
enter the work force.” But most men,
she notes, “have little preparation for
such household tasks and must also
deal with a society that tends to ridi-
cule men who become involved in acti-
vities traditionally considered female.”

The result: “Families who can afford
to are purchasing more services, rang-
ing from convenience foods to child
care.” Also, the housework gap is nar-
rowing slightly. Yet if the wife is doing
less housework and her husband is
doing more, Lein says, “neither is
happy. Our interviews revealed that
women feel angry and men feel under-
appreciated.”

A good example is the physician who
broke a forty-year habit by learning to
put his breakfast dishes in the sink.
His wife, a public relations executive,
still has to rinse off the dishes and put
them in the dishwasher. “She kept hol-
lering about my leaving dishes on the
table,” he says. “So even though I’m up
at five o’clock to be at the hospital by
six, while she’s still asleep, I try to
please her by putting the dishes in the
sink. At that hour that’s the best I can
do, but she’s never satisfied.”

“IT don’t think I’m asking that much,”
his wife counters. “How is it he can
resuscitate a heart-attack victim, but
he can’t put a dish in the dishwasher?”

“Tm on my feet twenty hours at a
time,” responds her husband. “My
work is grueling, and the last thing I
want is to work at home. Maybe we
should just hire a live-in maid.”

“We don’t need a maid,” insists his
wife. “What I’m asking him to do won't
take more than three minutes. He gets
to walk into a clean kitchen each morn-
ing because I did the dishes the night
before. Why can’t I have the same priv-
ilege when I come down for my coffee?”

Fun chores vs. drudgery

One reason the good doctor may have
resisted putting his dishes in the dish-
washer could be that he saw the chore
as one with no rewards. Every chore
has a “drudgery quotient,” says Lein,
comprised of its flexibility, visibility
and sociability potential. Washing
floors, for example, may appear a more
attractive chore than washing dishes
because of its flexibility: The person re-
sponsible can do it when he or she
wants to, not right after every meal.

Not surprisingly, one reason women
are so dissatisfied with their mates’ at-
tempts at helping out is that men tend
to take over the most rewarding tasks.
“Guess who gets stuck with the invisi-
ble, unsociable jobs, like scrubbing the
toilet?” asks Lein.

The notion that the tasks men tend
to take on are the fun—or least dis-
tasteful—ones is supported by a 1981
study of more than 800 couples done by
Catalyst, a nonprofit New York-based
organization that promotes the full par-
ticipation of women in business and
professional life. “Basically, we found a
very traditional split—men fix the car,
women run continued on page 146)

ideas for
making peace

Do you believe human life cannot be
sustained in the vicinity of an un-
washed pot? Do you have nightmares
in which piles of un-picked-up toys
and games are crashing down on top
of you? Do you live with someone
who is oblivious to the fact that new
life forms are spawning in neglected
laundry baskets? Then you are a
prime candidate for induction into
the dreaded chores wars.

Like most. domestic arguments,
these are best resolved in a way that
allows both partners to come out
winners. So itsS important to com-
municate your needs, listen to your
partner and negotiate a plan that
satisfies everyone as much as possible.

Try these ideas for diplomatic div-
vying of housework:

@ Discuss your assumptions about
housework. Should tasks be split
equally? Should the person who
makes the most money do the least
housework? Problems often arise
when partners have different as-
sumptions about how things should
work and don’t realize it.

@ Keep a diary. Have each family
member record all nonjob, nonlei-
sure, nonpersonal tasks performed
in one week. Examples: Driving the
car pool, grocery shopping, paying
bills, fixing the toaster. After a week
or two, sit down and examine the
lists to see who's doing what.

@ Define tasks that are essentials.
Distinguish between what you wish
you could do and what you really
can do. Try to eliminate activities
that are neither necessary nor re-
warding. If in doubt, experiment to
find out what you can give up and
what you really want to keep.

@ Stay flexible and be prepared to
change. If your system isn’t work-
ing, renegotiate as needed. Don’t
wait until you feel exploited to ask
your family for help.

@ Don’t try to do everything. Taking
five minutes to sit and relax may
benefit the household more than
spending that time putting hospital
corners on a bed.

@ Schedule regular family council
meetings to discuss how the system
is working and what alterations are
required. Try holding a monthly all-
family, all-day housecleaning ex-
travaganza, followed by dinner out.

@ Get help. If you can afford it, buy
time-saving products and pay some-
one to do tasks for which no one has
the time or energy—and know the
address and telephone number of
the nearest fast-food carry-out!

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Pet health alert

Goviously, your pet can’t tell you when
it isn’t feeling well; it relies on you to
notice and get it to a veterinarian for
treatment. And, according to the Amer-
ican Animal Hospital Association,
there are a number of signs that can
tell you your dog or cat is sick:

@ A dull, dry coat could indicate such
problems as dehydration or a vitamin
and/or mineral deficiency.

@ Pale lips and gums (normally, these
are a healthy red or pink) can mean
anemia, a blood disorder that causes
weakness, listlessness and susceptibili-
ty to infection.

@ A yellowish discoloration of the eyes
or gums may signify jaundice resulting
from poison, leukemia, liver disease, or
a reaction to certain drugs.

@ Frequent head-shaking, scratching at
the ears or foul odors coming from in-
side the ear often mean an ear infection.
@ Discharge from the nose is a symp-
tom of several diseases, including dis-
temper, sinusitis and some allergies.

@ Listlessness and appetite loss may
indicate worm infestation passed in the
mother’s milk or picked up from dirt
left by other dogs. (Other signs include
diarrhea or scaly skin.)

@ With cats: A change in elimination
habits, straining upon urination or use
of an unsuitable area such as a bathtub
instead of a litterbox can be reason to
suspect Feline Urological Syndrome
(FUS)—a condition that can quickly be-
come serious if not treated with antibio-
tics or a change in diet.

Pet News

Tips on how to treat a jealous dog, choosing: the
right kennel, and more. By Laura Garnick

How to deal with
a jealous dog

A gentle, well-behaved dog can sudden-
ly become nasty and aggressive if it
feels nudged from center stage by the
arrival of a new baby. According to Dr.
John Stump of Purdue University’s
School of Veterinary Medicine, a baby
is likely to be seen as an intruder, and

the dog may react to this adversary by |

growling, snapping or biting. Some
dogs will even try to win back the at-
tention focused on the baby by revert-

ing to puppylike behavior, such as soil- |
ing indoors. (A dog may exhibit such |

reactions whether the newcomer is an
infant, a boyfriend or a new spouse.)
The obvious solution is to make the
pet feel secure by giving it plenty of
attention. Many people do just that, but

make the mistake of showering the dog |

with affection only when the baby is
not present and ignoring it at all other
times, which only reinforces the dog’s
jealousy. Some dog owners become
frightened of their pet’s aggressive be-

havior and put them out of the room,
which also makes the dog feel rejected.

The best solution, says Dr. Stump, is
to pay special attention to the pet while
the baby is present but not at other
times, so the animal will begin to asso-
ciate the reward of receiving attention
with the babys company. Soon, your
pet should become acclimated to the
new member of the family and return
to its normal, agreeable self. But, Dr.
Stump warns, never leave a baby or a
young child alone with your pet, even
for a minute. A child’s crying may dis-
tress a dog, who could inadvertently
cause harm by pawing at the youngster.

If, after a time, your dog does not
adjust to the baby, the only solution
may be to give away your pet—prefera-
bly to a family with no children.

Vacation plans
for your pet

If you leave your dog or cat in a kennel
when you go on vacation, you'll want to
make sure it gets the best care. The
American Boarding Kennels Associa-
tion (ABKA) suggests that you call
well in advance to reserve accommoda-
tions for your pet and that you visit the
kennel and check the following.
Appearance. The kennel should look
neat and smell clean. Even if there is a
no-visitors policy (which some kennels ff
have in order to prevent exciting the
animals), there should be an observa-
tion window to look through.
Security. The kennel should have
sturdy fencing, gates and dividers be-
tween runs, in case your pet decides to
try to find you. Facilities for cats should
be covered.

Safety. The kennel areas should be
free of any sharp objects, harmful
chemicals or other dangerous items
your pet could swallow.

Supervision. Your pet should be
checked regularly by someone trained
to recognize the symptoms and warn-
ing signs of illness or distress.
Sanitation. The kennel should have a
strict schedule of cleaning and disin-
fecting, including the use of chlorine
bleach to control canine parvovirus, a
serious disease transmitted by contact
with contaminated surfaces such as
clothing, shoes, grass and carpeting.
Health services. Some kennels retain
a veterinarian on the premises; others
prefer to use the client's regular vet.§
Find out what immunizations the ken-§
nel requires and be sure to have your
pet properly vaccinated. If you live in
an area in which fleas and ticks are a
problem, find out how the kennel con-
trols these parasites.

Your pet’s comfort. Carefully check
the provisions made for your pet’s com-§
fort, including temperature control,
protection from the elements, ventila-
tion, light, bedding, sleeping quarters
and exercise areas.

For a list of kennels accredited by
the ABKA, as well as more tips on how
to choose a kennel, send for “How to
Select a Boarding Kennel” by enclosing
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MOLESTERS BEWARE

As much as we try to protect our children, there are

times when they're going to be out on their own.

Read on to find out how to teach your children to be

their own best self-defense

ne day recently, sev-

en-year-old Linda

Haines (not her real

name) went out near

her house in Brook-

lyn with four friends
to try out her new roller skates.
She soon got so absorbed in watch-
ing her feet that she was left be-
hind. Just as she looked up, a man
stepped out of an alleyway, picked
her up and began to carry her off.
Linda looked the man in the eye
and said, “If you put me down, mis-
ter, [ll go with you.” Pleased at her
compliance, he did, and Linda im-
mediately yelled, “This man is tak-
ing me into the alley!” and skated
away on her wobbly legs. People
came running and caught him. He
turned out to be wanted for many
sexual assaults on children. Linda
wasn t lucky: was pre-
Her mother had taken a
course in self-defense and taught
Linda the techniques

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One of the most important things

she

just

pared

your child should know probably
won't be taught in school. Commu-
nity groups and parents are realiz-
ing that an especially effective way
to stem the growing tide of crimes
children is to teach the po-
tential victims that they can pro-

CU 1emsetves

‘Being trained in self-defense
sives child a big plus in con-
’ savs Helen Sheppard. di-
f Prevention Services at the
( ntry have
are SUCI as
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S ag st adult assailants

) o > Té cL hy iques

. By Helen Benedict

Southwest Community Health
Center in Columbus, Ohio, who
specializes in counseling assaulted
children and their families. “They
may never use the self-defense, but
because they have permission from
an authority to resist an assault
and know they can back that up
with fighting if they have to, they
become more assertive. And it is
amazing how many perpetrators
are scared off by that.”

An organization in New York
called SAFE (Safety and Fitness Ex-
change), a group that teaches self-
defense to women and children, es-
timates that 30 to 46 percent of all
children in the U.S. will be sex-
ually assaulted before age eigh-
teen. Other surveys show that half
of all reported rape victims are
younger than eighteen. and half of
these child victims are under twelve.
Still another study shows that more
than three quarters of all crimes
against children are sexual.

Offenders and victims come from
all races, religions, and socioeco-
nomic classes and neighborhoods;
boys and girls are assaulted in equal
numbers. Dr. A. Nicholas Groth, di-
rector of the sex offender program at
the Connecticut Correctional Insti-
tution in Somers, Connecticut, sums
up the dreadful proliferation of this
crime better than any numbers can:
“The dimensions of abuse are stag-
gering,” he says. “If we saw these
same numbers of children suddenly
developing some kind of illness, we'd
think we had a major epidemic on our
hands.” Our children are clearly at
great risk, yet while we teach them
how to cross a street and how to leave
a building in case of (continued)

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WHAT KIDS MUST KNOW

continued

fire, we do almost nothing to teac
them how to protect themselves.

The reasons we don't teach childre
such rules are many: We don’t know
how; we don’t even want to thin
about child assault, let alone talk
about it; we don’t want to frighten ou
children; and we feel uncomfortable
about discussing the topic with them
Even the most well-intentioned par
ents often do not adequately prepare
their children to deal with an assault
The one danger we traditionally war
children about—the stranger offering
candy—is the least likely type of at
tack. Dr. Groth says that most child
molesters are known to the child i
some way and are often someone the
child trusts. Also, Dr. Gene Abel, di
rector of the Sexual Behavior Clinic 0
the New York State Psychiatric In
stitute in Manhattan, says that lesgi
than 10 percent of the sexual assaultg™
on children are initiated with an ag
gressive attack. The rest are begu
with a trick or a friendly approach
putting a trusting child off guard. l

How, then, can you help your chil 1
dren protect themselves, without mak
ing them overly fearful or suspicious off;
all adults? “Children have good in-
stincts about people who are trying tap¥4
harm them,” says Tamar Hosansky, co!
founder of SAFE. “We tell kids to trust#
their instincts, and we also teach the
how to handle it if they are assaulted on
abducted. Children have more strengt
than is often realized, and they are nat
ural fighters. Instead of teaching kid
never to fight, we should teach the
how, when and why they should.” And
the fighting need not be physical. Chil
dren can be taught how to recognizeiyy
danger from an adult and reject the
approach before violence ever occurs. fi

Over the past five years, several pro
grams have been developed around the
country to teach children how to defend
themselves (see sidebar, page 162, for
list of major programs). SAFE is one oj
the most well-known programs; SAFE
also conducts regular self-defense
classes for Girl Scouts. TOUCH, an ed:
ucational program devised by the Il]lu-
sion Theater's Sexual Abuse Preventio
Program in Minneapolis, was origi
nally a pilot program in the Minneap
olis public school system. And a simila
program called CAP (Child Assaul@%
Prevention), based in Columbus, Ohio}
has been used in schools and communi.
ty centers in California, Ohio, Texas
and Massachusetts.

“Most children know something abouff
assault already, but it’s often wrongiy
and more frightening than the truth,’
says Hosansky. “Children (continued)

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WHAT KIDS MUST KNOW

comtinued

The question of when to bring up the subject of abuse
yrries many parents. Hosansky says the subject should
me up naturally. For example, if your child comes home
ym school crying because she has been bullied, you can
lk about how to handle such bullies. If the child gets lost
-a while, or hears a story about getting lost, you can teach
m how to get help. He should find a policeman or go into a
re where there are people, then ask for help and stay in
e store. He should not go into anyone’s house, basement or
r, Hosansky advises. Parents should also make sure that
eir children know their full name and address, including
ate, and their full phone number, including area code:
ey should also be taught how to call the operator, and
ake long distance and collect calls.
Other good opportunities for bringing up the subject are
the child sees a frightening person on a bus, is approached
a stranger, hears a story of a kidnapping, violence or
bbery, or reads a fairy tale or sees a cartoon of such
ings—these are very common.
You might say, “You know how the big, bad wolf tricked
ttle Red Riding Hood so he could eat her? Well, somebody
ight try to trick you, too. They might try to get you home
th them by saying they have a present for you. What
uld you do?” After the child answers, the parents can tell
r to say no and to come home and tell Mommy.

What the programs do

structors at SAFE, TOUCH, CAP and other personal
fety programs use many exercises in their classes that
rents can reproduce at home. At SAFE’ Girl Scout class
r ten- to twelve-year-olds, Hosansky and her partner, Pam
cDonnell (who co-founded the program), have the girls do
ese exercises (boys can do them too, of course):
iscussion. The children sit in a circle, and the instructor
scribes potentially dangerous situations and asks the
ildren what they would do. For example, “You think
u're being followed on the way home from school. What
in you do?” Let the children answer, then point out which
iswers are sensible, which aren't, and why. Bad answers
ildren might suggest are: “Stop and talk to the person to
ad out what he wants.” “Keep going home even though he’s
llowing.” Good answers would be: “Go into a store where
ere are people and ask for help.” “Call home from a phone
_the open and ask to be met.” “Wait in a busy store until
ie person goes away.”

ractice questioning authority. Children believe
rer adults tell them. They need to be taught that some-
mes people lie. Hosansky says that attackers often try to
>t to children by saying things like “Your mother is dead. I
ave to take you home,” or “Your mother doesn’t love you
aymore. She sold you to me.” In the con artist/child exer-
se described above, you can teach children to respond to
ich statements with, “I don’t believe you .. . My mother
ouldn’t do that without telling me first . . . I have to call
ad check with her first .. . I’m not supposed to go home
ith anyone else except Aunt Alice.” Hosansky suggests
iat parents make clear rules for their children, such as
ley must not take rides home from school from anyone
ccept Mommy, Daddy or a specific friend. Or designate a
de word so that a child will recognize that the adult
aiting to take him home has been sent by you.

ractice saying “No!” Dr. Groth quoted one of the moles-
rs he worked with as saying he picked on children because
ley were easy. “They never say no to adults.” Pair up the
uildren with each other or an adult. One plays the child,
1e the con artist. The con artist must try to think of a way
) get the child to go with him somewhere, or to let him in
1e house, and the child must keep saying, “No!” loudly and
rmly. For example, the con artist might say, “My wife is
pout to have a baby in the car, can | come

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in and use your phone?” As well as saying no, the child can
think of other ways of suggesting help without endangering
herself, such as pointing out the nearest public telephone.
After a while, the players should switch roles.
An eight-year-old boy in Minnesota was recently put into J

a situation like this. He was playing in a park when a kind-
looking man approached him and said he had a hurt puppy
at home. Would he come and help? The boy was not sus-
picious until he remembered he wasn’t supposed to go home}
with people he didn’t know. So he said, “My mom said I can't
go alone, but I can get my big brother to help.” When the
man refused, the boy ran home instead. The man, caught
with the help of the boys description, was wanted for a
string of sexual assaults on children. This little boy knew
what to do because he had been taught by TOUCH.
Practice lying. We teach children never to lie, but there are
times when a child should lie, such as telling a stranger on
the phone that Mommy is in the shower, when in fact she’s
not home. In the con artist/child exercise, children can
practice useful lies such as that they are meeting their
father (instead of admitting that they are all alone).

Practice being rude. “One six-year-old was getting |

WHAT KIDS MUST KNOW |

peated obscene phone calls,” said Hosansky. “I asked her

why she didn’t hang up, and she said, ‘That’s rude.’ ” Discuss

with children times it’s all right to be rude, and give them
| examples such as the one above.
| Teach children to help one another. Hosansky told of a
™ | case where a nine-year-old girl was playing with friends in
| apark. A teenage boy they all knew went up to her. grabbed
her by the hair and dragged her away. The other children
froze with shock, then finally ran home to tell their parents,
but the parents said they knew the boy and he wouldn't
hurt her. Finally, the girl’ mother was told and went out
searching for her. The girl had been raped. Children who
learn physical self-defense can be told that they can use the
same methods to help another child being abused as they
: would use for themselves. Again, use examples and ask the
children what they would do.
Practice screaming. The idea, explains Hosansky, is to
learn to scream from deep in the body, so that the scream is¥
a frightening yell, not a high-pitched squeak. If the noise is
too unbearable, scream into a pillow. Screaming words that

—— come naturally, such as “Stop,” “No,” or “Get away,” helps.
; Flora Colao, a social worker in New York who specializes in
se counseling child victims of assault, says that screaming §

words is better because otherwise a scream may be dis-
missed as a temper tantrum. She suggests, “Mommy wants §
s ; me home now!” “My mom doesn’t want me to go with you!”
: or “I don’t know this man!”
Practice fighting. The self-defense programs teach several
techniques that are especially useful for children,who are,
of course, much smaller and lighter than adults. The pro-
grams show children how they can hurt an assailant just
enough to distract him and give themselves a chance tof
escape and yell for help. For example, SAFE teaches chil-F
dren how to strike an attacker in a vulnerable area—kick-F
ing him in the shins, for example—and they also teach howf
everyday items can be used as weapons in an emergency. Af.
set of keys, for instance, can be held so that they protrude
from between the fingers of a clenched fist, making a punch
more effective. The children receive a lot of instruction and §>
practice, and it is made clear that all the methods are to bef,
used only if the child is attacked, not to hurt friends orf,
family. “We've found that children understand this,” says},
. Hosansky. “Usually the kids don’t ever have to use what,
a they've learned, but just knowing that they can protect ff,
¥ er themselves makes a big difference (continued on page 162) §y
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psychological research. By Sonya Friedman, Ph.D. |

I have a funny fascination with

pregnancy. Whenever I see some-

During pregnancy, many wom-
A en experience the very best of
themselves. Despite any an-
noying physical discomforts, the be-
ginning of a life within them is often a
magical time of attention, affection
and expectation. What’ more, preg-
nancy permits many women to fulfill
what they may believe to be their most
important role—joining with their
husbands to bring forth a concrete prod-
uct of their love. For others, it is the
expectation of nurturing a tiny, help-
less infant that is so very fulfilling. If
you found being pregnant an especial-
ly happy time of your life, it’s not sur-
prising you want to experience it again.
This longing may continue for many
years, even through menopause. But if
you stick to your decision not to have
another child, as your two children
grow older and more independent you
can focus your energies away from
mothering. Pursuing other interests,
such as a job or volunteer work, will
not necessarily make your longing for
pregnancy disappear, but being in-
volved in activities you care about will
be rewarding in its ow1

I am absolutely teri of plug-
ging in electrical neces.
Every time | plug in the r OF

my blow-dryer, | put on rubber glo
I still quake. Why am I so scared of s
thing most people do easily every da)

The cause of your fear could b
A an incident when you were

very young in which you re-
ceived a painful and frightening shock.

Another possibility is that when you
were a child someone told you horror

stories about what could happen if you
weren't careful. Even if you don’t re-
member an early experience like
these, chances are something hap-
pened to frighten you, and you have
reacted by having an exaggerated fear
of all electrical appliances to this day.

Once a pattern of fear has been es-
tablished, it can be very hard to break.
If you have found that living with this
phobia interferes with your everyday
life, you might want to consult a psy-
chologist who specializes in desensi-
tization techniques, which help a per-
son relax enough to finally confront
the real situation he or she fears.

Remember, though, most of us have
some fear that has an impact on our
adult lives. You might find it soothing
to ask a few friends to tell you about
their fears, whether they have con-
quered them, and how.

After my husband takes a shower
in the evening, he often wears
only his underwear around the
house. We have three growing daugh-
ters—the youngest is eight. Could see-
ing their father like this have any negative
effects on their attitudes toward sex

when they are older?

two thousand couples in

' 1970 and again in 1975, Dr.

_ dasso's findings indicate that

' frequency of sexual inter-

course increased significantly

, 2S partners’ salaries moved
oser together.

‘t makes no difference who

Large disparities in income
can damage a couple’s sex
life if both spouses work full-
time, according to a Univer-
sity of Minnesota study re-
cently completed by Guiller-
mina Jasso, Ph.D.

Based on an analysis of the
National Fertility Studies,
which interviewed more than

The answer depends on their
perception of your husband's
behavior. While its not un-
usual for a man to take a shower and
walk around in his undershorts before
getting dressed, it’s uncommon for him
to spend the entire evening that way.
Most men are aware of their daugh-
ters’ budding sexuality and make an
effort to distance themselves. It is pos-
sible, however, that your husband may
need to be reminded that having young
daughters requires a certain modesty
on his part as they approach adoles-
cence and become more aware of sex.

If, on the other hand, it is your hus-
band’s intention to be seductive, he
will probably resist changing his ways.
Your daughters are likely to find his
behavior embarrassing, disgusting or
possibly even scary. Whether or not
their attitudes about sex will be af-
fected depends on how aware they are
of his intentions and the degree to
which his seductiveness extends be-
yond just wearing his underwear
around the house.

If you believe your husband’s actions
are intentional, I’d advise seeking pro-
fessional counseling—preferably with
your husband, or on your own if he
refuses to cooperate.

EQUAL PAY MAKES MARRIAGE STRONGER

earns the higher salary, says
Dr. Jasso—the important fac-
tor is the ratio of the lower to
the higher income. If a hus-
band earns $30,000 and his
wife enters the work force with
a salary higher than $15,000
but less than $60,000, their |
marriage will improve. But if | —
she earns less than half or |
greater than twice his in-

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charm and made her husband proud of
her. (“I have fallen in love with you all

over again,” Lech was reported to have

said as he watched a live broadcast of

I
her speech from Poland.) In fact, through
the last three difficult years her per-
sonal strength has won the admiration
of many in Poland. “I have watched her
grow as a person and acquire amazing
dignity, which impressed everybody in
Oslo,” says a woman Solidarity mem-
ber from Gdansk. “In a way, she really
has become Poland’ First Lady, though
she never had such ambition. Her cour-
age as a wife and mother is amazing.”

When I met Danuta at her home, she
was dressed in a dark sweater and a
short woolen skirt and looked thinner
and paler than she had appeared in
Norway. In her crowded living room,
she was Just setting up a playpen for
the youngest of her children, a rosy-
cheeked, curly-haired toddler named

Maria-Victoria. Nearby, two other
flaxen-haired girls—Anna, four, and
Magdalena, five—were playing hap-

pily. “I’m going to be an actress,”
Magdalena told me and danced a little

jig in my honor. “My girls are used to

people and seem to like them,” Danuta
says, smiling.

Indeed, the children were born into a
house that is frequently full of visitors

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Given the events of
ing them has
Maria-Victoria was ten months old be-
fore her father finally saw her for the

time. The day of her birth—Janu-
ary 23, 1982—came five weeks after
Lech went to prison.

Like a recent nightmare, the details
of her husbands imprisonment are
etched in Danuta’ memory

On the night of December 12, 1981, a
Saturday—the day before martial law
was declared—Lech returned home
late from a meeting in the shipyard,
where he works as an electrician
Danuta and the children were awak-
ened at two in the morning by a friend
bearing the news that police were ar-
resting people on the night shift.

“Lech had anticipated the events, but
he was incredibly tired and wanted to
go on sleeping,’ Danuta recalls. “He
also did not want to alarm me. So he
said that nothing could be done at this
hour and that he would cope with it in
the morning. We tried to sleep, but half

toe

not been

easy

first

an hour later I heard furious banging
on the door. I jumped out of bed, and

looking through the spy hole, saw five
uniformed policemen and three sinis-
ter-looking civilians standing in front
of our entrance. They carried long
metal rods, obviously preparing to
break in, and shouted they had come
for my husband. I still refused to open
the door and told them they must wait
until Lech had had time to get dressed.
“At this point, Lech decided to get
up; he put a few essentials in a suit-
case, looked in on the sleeping chil-
dren, made a cross on each of their fore-
heads and finally came out to meet the
intruders. He was told that martial law
had just been proclaimed as of mid-
night throughout the country and that
he would be taken to Warsaw for ‘con-
sultations.’ But that was a lie. There
were to be no consultations, just intern-
ment. Leaning out of the window I saw
them escort my husband into a white
Fiat and drive away. The time was
twenty minutes after five in the morn-
ing. I was eight months pregnant.”
Was she afraid she might not see her
husband again? “I could not allow my-
self to think that,” she says quickly. “I
could not have carried on without faith.
But I had moments when I was terrified
to be alone and to have to live without
him at my side. The first weeks in par-
ticular were the worst; all the tele-
phones were cut off, and it was dan-
gcerous for friends and colleagues to
visit me. I felt totally isolated.”
Danuta was allowed to visit her hus-
band in his place of detention—an iso-
lated villa in the country—but their
exchanges (continued on page 128)

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By Taffy Herrmann

Can you separate medical facts from old wives’ tales? Do
you know what action to take in most emergencies? Or
what constitutes a serious symptom in a child?

See how many questions you can answer correctly in
each category. Your score will help you determine the areas
in which your medical knowledge is lacking.

General medical knowledge

1. What is the largest internal organ in the body?
a) heart b) brain c) liver d) stomach e) spleen

2. In a blood-pressure reading of 120/80, the lower figure
(80) is the:
a) diastolic pressure b) systolic pressure

3. Can you match these medical terms with their definitions?
a) phlebitis b)edema_ c)nocturia d) dysmenorrhea
e) stomatitis f) scotomas

1. An abnormal accumulation of clear watery fluid in the
tissues. 2. Difficult and painful menstruation. 3. Inflam-
mation of the mouth. 4. Flashes and blind or dark spots
before the eyes, usually the result of fatigue and strain.
5. Inflammation of a vein. 6. Excessive urination at night,
often caused by bladder inflammation, heart disease or
drinking too many fluids just before bedtime.

4. When your doctor writes “b.i.d.” on a prescription, he is
indicating to the pharmacist that the patient should take
the medication:

a) Three times a day at meals
c) Twice a day

b) Once a day

5. How many spermatozoa are produced by a man’s testes
during his reproductive lifetime?

a) 2,000,000,000,000 b) 1,000,000,000 c) 900,000
d) 600,000

6. A slow heartbeat er than sixty beats per minute) is
usually nothing to worry about

True () False LJ

7. Seeing halos arou
of nervous tension.
~ True CJ False 1

8. To keep hemorrhoids from g rse.
(choose one or more):

a) Take warm tub soaks b) Use supp

c) Eat a high-bulk diet that includes \

fruits and vegetables.

chts is often a symptom

you should

ins and raw

9. Moles often become cancerous.

True (J False U

10. Which medicine and vitamins should not be taken
together (choose one or more)?

a) Anticoagulants and medication containing aspirin
b) Tetracycline and antacids c) Antidepressants and codeine.

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Women’s health

11. The younger a woman starts menstruating, the earlier J
she will go through menopause.
True CF False 1

12. Breast lumps are always malignant.
True LJ False LJ

13. The female hormones estrogen and progesterone are
produced by the:
a) parathyroids b) adrenals c) ovaries d) uterus

14. When a woman is nursing an infant, she does not
menstruate, and therefore she cannot become pregnant.
Because of this, it is safe to have sex without birth control §
until she stops breastfeeding.
True CF False 0

Children’s health

15. A child should be vaccinated against polio initially
when he or she is three years old.
True (1) False 0

16. An infant's pulling or rubbing his ear is not cause
for alarm.

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17. Bundling a child in heavy blankets is a good way to

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risk of heart disease. pustules,

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because he will lose them anywer.

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True (J False 0

23. To stop a nosebleed. you should pack the nose with
gauze or ott her a absorbent material.

best way to get rid of a

TSS object sa the e eve (choose one or more

a) Rub your eye b link many times c) Fill an eyedropper

with warm water and gently wash out the eve.

25. When you lose weight. your stomach shrinks
26. Drinking a cup of coffee can help cure a headache.

be as likely to gain weight if you eat a
rather than the other

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whicl bile, converts sugars into glycogens
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ularly or strenuously should have a
checkup. Although bradycardia seems
to run in families, there are certain
diseases, such as hypothyroidism and
some types of heart malfunction, that
cause the heart to beat more slow ay
7. False. Seeing halos around light
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8. ab.c. Hemorrhoids

are enlarged

rectal veins that may cause bloody
stools, an uncomfortable feeling of full

ness, and prolapse, a

which the veins become
they protrude outside the
Warm tub soaks will help

condition i

tal muscles; suppositories will help
shrink hemorrhoids; and a high-fiber
diet that includes whole ene cenit raw
fruits and vegetables will help prev
constipation. If bleeding and pain .
sist, consult a doctor.

9. False. Moles seldom become can-
cerous. The problem is that what looks
like a mole may in fact be a melanoma
(a malignant tumor of the skin that

contains a dark pigment

toms of melanoma inclu
change in color or

develops any of these da
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continued

may hurt, which can mean that

he has
~ otitis media, a bacterial infection of the
middle ear. Call your pediatrician or

ear specialist promptly.
17. False. Piling on blankets only
increase the fever. To reduce th dy
heat, keep the house warm (72° to
75°F.) and dress the child lightly in cot-
ton pajamas or underclothes. Cover
him with a sheet or light blanket; give
him sponge baths with lukewarm
water, and make sure he stays in bed
and gets plenty of fluids.

Many doctors are now convinced that

fever may actually speed up the body’s de-
fense mechanisms and help to fight off
disease. When a child's fever is mild (ask
your pediatrician what temperature he
considers mild; doctors differ on this
point, though most agree that a tem-
perature of 101°F, taken rectally, is con-
sidered a fever), these methods are rec-
ommended to make him comfortable

and to keep his fever under control.
Caution: Avoid giving aspirin (salicy-
lates) to reduce fever. Recent studies

Suggest that when children suffering
from chicken pox, the flu or other viral
diseases are treated with aspirin, they
have a higher risk of developing Reye's
syndrome, a relatively rare but often

fatal disorder characterized by per.
nicious vomiting, liver dysfunction
convulsions and coma. Many over-the
counter drugs contain aspirin, so chec
the label carefully before administer
ing any medication to a child with fi
or flulike symptoms. (An aspirin sub
stitute—acetaminophen—has not bee
linked to Reye’s syndrome in children.
18. True. If left alone, chicken-po
pustules will heal without a sca
Scratching a lesion may cause a bacte
rial infection, resulting in permanen
scarring of the skin. To prevent a chil
from scratching, trim his fingernail
and, if necessary, cover his fingers wit
gauze bandages. Applying a calamin
lotion that contains an antihistamin
and giving frequent sponge baths wil
offer some relief. In severe cases, as
your doctor to prescribe special anti
itch medicines.

Keep the child in bed and make sur

he gets plenty of liquids, especially
during the feverish stage of the illness
Once the last of the blisters has drie
up—usually within two weeks—th
child is no longer infectious and c
resume normal activities. (Note: Do no
give aspirin to a child suffering fro
chicken pox; see answer 17 for impor
tant new findings.)
19. False. Primary or baby teeth need
the same care as permanent teeth. I
too many of a child’s twenty baby teeth
become badly decayed and have to be
extracted, the second set of thirty-two
permanent teeth may not come in prop-
erly. Also, healthy baby teeth, some o
which your child will not lose until he
is eleven or twelve years old, are essen-
tial for chewing as well as good speech.
Decayed or missing teeth can also de-
tract from a child’s appearance.

To prevent decay, make sure your
child eats a nutritious diet and prac-
tices good dental hygiene. Finally, reg-
ular dental checkups are important.
Many doctors recommend that visits to
the dentist begin when a child is two or
three years old.

20. True. To save the life of a choking
victim, first bend him forward and give
a firm slap between the shoulder
blades. If this does not dislodge the
obstruction, use a technique called the
Heimlich maneuver, which helps push
residual air out of the lungs to force the
food out. Stand behind the victim, wrap
both your arms around his waist and
let his head hang forward. Make a fist
with one hand; the thumb should be
pointing toward the victim's body. Place
your fist directly against the abdomen
just below his rib cage. Grasp your fist
with your other hand, and with a
strong upward thrust, press into the
victim’s abdomen. Repeat until the food
pops out of his throat. (Note: If you
can’t stand the (continued on page 160)

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When it comes to applying for charge
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be a significant factor—so it pays to
know how it’s compiled and what your
rights are. Here are a few facts to in-
crease your understanding.

@ Some gas company cards and travel
and entertainment cards—such as
American Express—don’t report to
credit bureaus. So a credit check on you
will not automatically show how you’ve
used these cards.

@ Since 1977, when the Equal Credit
Opportunity Act was passed, the law
has provided that credit information for
all jointly held cards be listed in both
parties’ names. However, in order to en-
sure that this is done, you must use
your first name (Mary Smith rather
than Mrs. John Smith). According to

By Katherine Barrett and Richard Greene

MONEY NEWS

Useful tips to help you manage your money

Geri Schanz, a communications serv-
ices specialist with the credit bureau
TRW, computers won't differentiate be-
tween Mr. John Smith and Mrs. John
Smith, and information in that case
would be recorded only for the husband.
@ If joint cards were issued before 1977,
information is not kept in _ both
names—unless you have requested that
this be done. That year, lenders were
required to inform card-holders of this
right, but many women did not ask for
the change. If you didn’t, but now wish
to establish a credit history, contact
your credit-card company (or depart-
ment store) to make sure any reports
are made to the bureaus in your name
as well as your husbands.

@ There are five major credit-reporting
bureaus. The easiest way to find the
location of your files is to ask your bank
or local department store where they
report. Getting a copy of your credit
record costs a nominal fee, usually $5
to $10, unless you've been denied credit
in the last thirty days, in which case it’s
free. (Note: Some bureaus will give
only oral, not written, reports.)

IRA TRAP

There's little question that IRAs are a
great tax shelter. If both spouses work,
they can protect as much as $4,000 a
year from taxes, and even if one part-
ner doesn’t work, the couple can shelter
up to $2,250 in their IRAs.

But there is a trap here, says Charles
Brown, of the Chicago accounting firm
Alexander Grant. If the nonworking
partner has made any earned income,
(as distinct from investment income),
then the IRS identifies both partners as
working. In that case, the couple can
only shelter in their IR As $2,000 plus
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nonworking partner. So, the non-
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A SMART TIP FROM
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Playing it safe

If you'd like to invest in stocks but
balk at risk, Eileen Sharkey, presi-
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To do this, you invest in a group of

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This technique won’t make you
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I wish my mother would save

something for her retirement, but
she spends money faster than anyone 1]
know. What can a compulsive spende
do to get help?

Compulsive spending seems td

have a lot in common with othey
addictions like drinking and gambling
According to Olivia Mellan, a psycho
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problem usually feel more depressed
after buying. “They buy out of a false
need—a feeling of emptiness,” sh¢
says. “The purchase bears little rela
tionship to what they really need.”

Compulsive spenders usually have
the sense of being out of control, and
may hide their purchases out of embar
rassment. They often start out with a
poor self-image, which is then aggra
vated by their buying.

To solve the problem, Mellan says its
important to understand the underly
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Here are some other tips from Al Horn
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@ Examine your motives. Are you buy:
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independence?

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going, and all the doors along the way are closed.

“This way,” the doctor says, lightly touching my arm. “I
know a place.” We are walking down the corridor side by
side, Sam and I, to find a vacant room where we can talk. All
the waiting rooms are crowded, televisions blaring. people
talking, killing time.

A moment later we are in the small waiting room next to
the ICU. The lights are out: the room is empty. “Slow day,”
he says as he sits down. | hesitate in the doorway. I’ve been
here before, and not on a slow day.

Looking mildly abstracted, he begins to rummage in the
pockets of his lab coat. Out of one he drags a pipe, the other
a tobacco pouch. He sits back, crosses his legs and begins to
fill his pipe.

“How long?” I say from the doorway.

Sam clears his throat, squints up at the ceiling while his
fingers continue to push tobacco into the pipe bowl. “That
depends,” he says finally.

“A year?”

“Not that long.”

“Six months?”

“Maybe.” The lighter glares, and he sucks in the smoke,
holds it, puffs it out.

I go over to the couch across from him. The cushions
wheeze heavily as I sit down.

“Will he be in pain?” I ask.

“No, not what you'd call real pain. Discomfort is a better
word.”

I look at him, thinking how odd that phrase sounds, but
that really there are no better words. I let my head fall
back, watch the smoke swirl] toward the air vent on the wall.

“What will it be like?”

Sam sucks his pipe, blows smoke, considering. “The tu-
mor will grow and fill up space, press on other organs.”

“Will his mind be clear?” My voice sounds oddly small
and far away, attenuated, like the smoke.

He nods. “It doesn’t seem to be that kind of tumor.”

I'm starting to feel drowsy, dopey, probably the effect of
watching the smoke swirl away, and. of course, I haven't
been sleeping well the last few nights since Phil was admit-
ted. I find myself thinking of the room next door, where Phil
was for so long after the operation two years ago. Before
that I never could imagine what it had been like for my
father, but now I can, with the tubes and the oxygen and the
heart monitor, and the nurses’ shoes squeaking hurriedly,
the doctors whispering and shaking their heads.

“This is better,” I say after a moment.

“What?” He blinks at me in disbelief, a lit match poised
over his pipe.

“T was thinking about my father. He died suddenly. This is
better. This way there’ll be time to get ready, time to say
good-bye.”

Sam makes a ragged noise as he clears his throat again.
He ought to get that taken care of, I think absently.

“Oh.” He looks at me skeptically, then nods. We sit quiet-
ly for a minute or so. Then he says, “What do you think he'll
want to do?”

“About what?”

He looks momentarily annoyed, no doubt at my apparent
lack of attention; he likes to get these discussions over with.

Not only that, his pipe has gone out. He takes it out of his f°

mouth, stares at it in disgust. “There are things we can do to
prolong life. Take out the kidney and put him on dialysis.
Remove bulk tumor, buy some time. Maybe years.”

I stare at him. Time for what?

“What kind of time is another question,” he says. He
peers into the bowl of his pipe as (continued on page 132)

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Don’t settle for so-so sex. Even long-married couples
can rekindle the passion of years past. Here’s how.

By Margaret D. Wilson

Is there sex after marriage? Of

course. Everyone knows sex is just
fine after we tie the knot—right
after, that is. A better question:
Can there possibly be passionate
sex after years of marriage, after
the kids are born, when sensuous
honeymoon nights are a some-
what dim memory?

“Traditional wisdom holds that

pas is the province of the
young life's seasoned vet-
erans ar‘ e to settle for a more
placid so e,’ says Ellen
Frank, Ph.D professor
of psychiatry and logy at

the Western Psychiat Institute

and Clinic, Uni vy of Pitts-
burgh School of Medicine. “Unfor-
tunately, the media r¢ ‘ce that
image—we rarely see vies or
read books about the very differ-

ent, but very intense, passio
comes only after years of mar
life. People believe that if lovemak
ing just stays comfortable, they
should consider themselves lucky.”
Of course, there are times when

even the happiest couples feel
their lovelife is just a bit .. . dull.
Yet interviews with marriage
counselors and sex therapists un-
derscore again and again that it is
indeed possible to instill a long-
standing sexual relationship with
excitement, intensity—and, yes,
passion. Couples whose lovelife
has grown lukewarm can learn to
redirect their lives so that sex
once again becomes not only a
pleasure but a priority. Reveals
one thirty-six-year-old mother of
three: “I’m still excited when I
think about making love with my
husband. Sure, there are times
when it gets overlooked—when
we're preoccupied with the chil-
dren's problems at school, or wor-
ried about whether my husband
ill get a promotion—but we nev-
er let 1t get too far away from us.
) stay sexy!”
[hats the secret. Though Amer-
ns are in love with spontaneity,
ch they like to imagine that
passionate sex simply ignites two

IrK Nara Tt

lives, the reality is that long-mar-
ried couples who are the happiest
and most enthusiastic about their
sex lives work hard to make it
that way. They reveal that sex is
an integral part of their lives and
they rarely let the concerns of ev-

eryday life, legitimate though
they may be, creep into the bed-
room. These are partners who

make time for lovemaking, who
feel good about themselves and
want to share that joy with each
other. Much can be learned from
those who have kept the fires
burning beyond the first few years
of marriage. But first, a look at
some forces that can dampen ardor
and extinguish desire, even when
two people truly love each other.

Inattention and apathy

According to marriage counselors
and sex therapists, one of the key
factors contributing to sexual
malaise is that couples forget to
really pay attention to sex in
their (continued on page 156)

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you will meet fifty of our country’s most
remarkable aasemeian eee ee

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Cindy Young, Alaska
Flying Nurse

Cass Irvin, Kentucky
Crusader for the Disabl

Nathalie Norris, Arizona
Fighter for Women

Doris Wagner, Illinois
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Guadalupe Quintanilla, Texas
Diplomat of the Streets

Fifty American heroines

LHd searched the
country to find these
fifty outstanding
women. We talked with
nearly two thousand
people, including state
officials, charities

and local media, and
discovered how many
impressive women
there are in this nation.
We applaud you all.

Alabama

Janie Shores
A Supreme Judge

“T still marvel at the miracle,” says
the first woman ever to sit on the
Alabama Supreme Court. “It’s a
long way from Loxley, Alabama.”
Janie, fifty-two, was born on a

tenant farm during the depths of

the Depression. Few in her family
had completed high school; no one
had even contemplated college.
Still, when she was only sixteen,
she traveled long distances to a job
by Greyhound bus so she could save
enough to put herself through col-
lege and law school.

At the end of the 1950s, she set
up her own law practice in Selma
because no local firm would even
interview her, much less hire her.

_The county bar association, whose
“membership was limited to male
lawyers,” Janie had to
change its bylaws to admit her.

Janie married a lawyer, moved to
Birmingham and, shortly after her
daughter was born, became Ala-
bama’ss first female law professor. “I
raised up a group of lawyers who
helped elect me to the state su-
preme court,” she says, laughing.

Actually, Janie was elected to her
seat in 1974 with the largest vote

—
recalls,

ever. It has turned out to be a su-
premely wise choice. From her
position on the court, Janie has
steadfastly fought sexual discrimi-
nation. As a result, a wife no longer
needs her husband’ss consent to sell
her own property. And Janie hasn't
ignored men either. She was instru-
mental in enabling fathers to gain
custody of their young children.

Alaska

Cindy Young
Flying Nurse

In Alaska, above the Arctic circle,
where Cindy Young lives and
works, the winter temperature can
drop as low as -70°F. Cold and isola-
tion are her enemies, and she fights
them constantly. Cindy’s work is
saving lives.

In a helicopter, she flies over
more than 88,000 square miles of
coastal plains, rugged mountains
and vast, inhospitable reaches of
frozen tundra to find, rescue, nurse
and transport people who need
medical care.

Cindy, a registered nurse who
specializes in emergency care, saw
the need for this program when she
was working as deputy director of
the North Slope Borough Health
Department. “Before we began the
search and rescue program,” twenty-
nine-year-old Cindy says, “people
would die because they were out
there with nothing.”

Twelve thousand North Slope
villagers were scattered across the
vastness in seven isolated enclaves,
unconnected by roads, with no doc-
tors or other medical practitioners.

Today, operating with state-of-
the-art equipment (some of it de-
signed by Cindy), she and a pilot go
out answer to calls that come
into the hospital in Barrow, Alaska.
The closest village is an hour’
flight time one way; the farthest is
four hours. The weather is often
frighteningly bad.

“We get a lot of calls to treat hy-
pothermia and frostbite,” she says.
Many of her patients are sports-

men, eager for an Alaskan adven-
ture, but naive about the effects of
the climate. “I’ve treated many pa-
tients in tents on riverbanks,” she
says. Cindy has rescued victims of
heart attacks, plane crashes, and
snowmobile and three-wheeler ac-
cidents. She also goes out to Eski-
mo mothers in difficult labor.

“We used to lose premature and
high-risk babies because we weren't
able to keep them warm in the
helicopter,” Cindy says. A year ago,
she organized the community in a
fund-raising effort to purchase a
neonatal transport unit. “It has giv-
en many, many babies a second
chance,” she says with satisfaction.

Last November, Cindy had a
brush with death herself. While out
on a search for victims of a plane
crash with her husband and two
pilots, their helicopter crashed in
blinding snow. Cindy’s husband,
Gene Young, suffered a broken
neck, as did one of the pilots. Crawl-
ing out of the wreckage, Cindy
treated the two men. Both have re-
covered. She was five months preg-
nant at the time. (She delivered a
healthy baby boy in April.) “We
were,” she says, “very, very lucky.”

Arizona

Nathalie Norris
Fighter for Women

Back in 1964, when Nathalie Nor-
ris first went looking for work,
newspaper help-wanted sections
had separate columns for males
and females. A decade later such
obvious employment discrimina-
tion was gone, but other insidious
forms of inequality were so firmly
built into the system that some
women didn’t even notice.
Nathalie Norris, now fifty-nine, no-
ticed, and she decided to take action.
Nathalie was working for the Ar-
izona State Employment Service in
1975 when its employees were pre-
sented with a new benefits plan,
featuring a tax-deferred lifetime
retirement annuity fed by individ-
ual contributions. Looking it over,

Researched and reported by Donna P. Conley and

Shirley James Longshore. Written by Bonnie Remsberg

Nathalie saw there were two lists of
amounts payable, one for men and
another for women. The amounts to
be paid to women were lower. When
she questioned the plan’s admini-
strator about the discrepancy, she
was told, “Do you want some man
to subsidize you? You women live
longer than men.”

Nathalie was familiar with civil
rights laws designed to eliminate
such inequalities. She signed up for
the plan, then filed a class action
complaint two days later. The com-
plaint soon grew into a suit.

“If I didn’t believe justice ulti-
mately prevails,” she says, “if I
werent an optimist, I wouldn't
have even begun. People saw me as
naive. A little naiveté is useful. If
you're a cynic, you believe you
can’t, and you're not going to try.”

Naive maybe, but tenacious. The
battle would take more than eight
years and great courage, and would
end in the United States Supreme
Court with Justice Sandra Day
O’Connor casting the decisive vote
ruling that sex discrimination in
pension plans violated the 1964
Civil Rights Act. “This was for all
women,’ Nathalie says of her victory.

Arkansas
Sharon Pallone

Protector
of Children

Since 1972, Sharon Pallone has
helped Arkansas’ abused children
and their troubled parents.

It all started one sweltering day,
when Sharon met a young woman
who was carrying an infant. The
woman appeared to be in trouble
The baby looked sick and unkempt.

Herself the mother of two, Shar-
on decided to get involved, and be-
gan to talk to the distraught young
woman. She listened in horror as

the teenager poured out the story of

her life, of the abuse she had suf-
fered as a child. She was full of fear
and anger as she finally confided
that she intended to starve her ba-
by to death. Fascinated, appalled

and determined “not to turn my

back on her,” Sharon gave support
to the young woman for months,
with such encouraging results that
a doctor friend suggested she train
people to do what she was doing.
Sharon gathered six friends and
talked them into helping her. The
first files of the group, called SCAN
(Suspected Child Abuse and Ne-
glect), were kept in her car. But giv-
en the great need for such assis-
tance, her grass-roots organization
grew rapidly, and a grant enabled
Sharon to begin training other lay
therapists to work with families
and communities. Today SCAN has
hundreds of lay therapists and pro-
fessionals treating
families across the country.

+ | California

Lanie Carter

CALIFORNIA REPUBLIC

Professional
Granny

When she was widowed at forty-
five, Lanie Carter was devastated.
What, wondered this mother of four
grown children, do I do now? The
answer she came up with to fill the
emotional void in her life has also
brightened the lives of countless
others and brought love to a gener-
ation of California babies and their
new, sometimes bewildered ea
ents. For Lanie turned herself int«
a surrogate grandmother

Her “career” began when Lanie
started helping out a friend in a
pediatricians office. Her personali-
ty was so winning and her manner
so relaxed that soon doctors and
nurses were referring worried
mothers’ questions to Lanie for an-
swering. She began to take calls at
home and, with the doctors’ approv-
al, set up a service for answering
nonmedical questions about ba-
bies. “Much of what I was doing was
giving emotional support,” she
“Most people who live here
from somewhere Their
cousins and aunts and uncles are
back in places like Chicago. They
don’t have their mothers to talk to.”

So Lanie drew up a proposal and
presented it to Scripps Memorial

Says

are else

thousands of

Hospital in La Jolla. She called
herself a New Family Consul-
tant. “What I really am,” she says,
“Is a grandma.”

Lanie, now fifty-six, has been a
spectacular success. Thousands of
babies have been born in her “fam-
ily,” and on Mother's Day each year,
her house is filled with cards from
them. Whats more, she is con-
stantly adding new names to the
list of children and parents that she
has helped. Lanie first meets pro-
spective parents at hospital child-
birth classes, or even earlier in
pregnancy if the doctors feel they
need extra support. She reassures
them, answers questions, gives ad-
vice on everything from breast-
feeding to diapering to how to han-
dle all-night crying. “The impor-
tant thing is that they meet me in
advance,” she says, “so when they
get here for the delivery, they know
there is a surrogate grandmother
available.” She keeps in touch, call-

ing after they have gone home,
meeting with them weeks later.

She is always available for them to

phone her.
“Sometimes, ”

phone rings all

she says, “the
night. Sometimes
they call just to be sure I’m there.”

She’s there. And it helps. She of-
ten runs into mothers in the super-
market who hug her and announce,
“Lanie, I never would have made it
without you!”

Colorado
Dee Bennett

Benefactor
to Boarders

Dee’s battle to raise the standards
of boarding homes that shelter the
elderly, the mentally ill and the

poor started one weekend in 1980
when a ski trip was canceled at the
last minute. That was a signal, sh¢
says, that “the re was something
else for me to do
A long-time supporter! Der

social services agencies, Dee
asked for a volunteer assignment
and was sent to a boarding house
“The agency apologized for sending

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| 4 ete was for all women,” said Nathalie Norris of Arizona
as the U.S. Supreme Court upheld her discrimination suit.

me there,” she recalls. “They told
me it was really bad, so I was pre-
pared. But when I got there, I
couldn’t believe it.”

The stench, she remembers, was
so awful, “you needed a gas mask.”
People were wandering around
with no supervision, no therapy, no
purpose. The food was inadequate;
so was sanitation. These homes,
she discovered, were not supervised
or licensed by any government
agency. Anyone could open a board-
ing house and run it any way he
wanted, with no interference.

I can’t allow this to go on, Dee
thought. She filed a report with lo-
cal authorities, then returned to
the home with a friend to talk to
the residents and distribute fresh
fruit. Both women were arrested for
disturbing the peace, taken to jail,
fingerprinted and released only af-
ter several hours. But that didn’t
discourage Dee—dquite the opposite.

She began to publicize the issue,
and formed CONCERN (Care of
Needy Citizens, Elderly, Retarded
Now) to raise funds and educate
people about the plight of those who
are living in unsatisfactory board-
ing homes.

She has already succeeded in get-
ting new legislation passed in Col-
orado, but she’s not satisfied.
“Now,” she says, “we're going for a
federal law.”

Connecticut
Ann Hanahoe
Hines

Pediatrician for
the Poor

“You can’t just like the kids,” says
Dr. Ann Hanahoe Hines. “You have
to like the parents, too, or you're
not going to be a very good pediatri-
cian.” Dr. Hines likes her patients’
parents so much that she spares
‘them worry over medical care they
cannot afford. She gives them her
services free of charge.

Ann, forty, always intended to
use her medical skills to help the
needy. She considered working in
an underdeveloped country. But
after marrying, she looked around
and saw plenty of need in her own
state. “There were people here who
couldn’t afford private care, and
who were going without proper

care for their children,” she says.

With a small inheritance left by
her parents, Ann opened the Hana-
hoe Children’s Clinic in Danbury,
intending to run it for only a year.
Ten years later, it is still there. The
clinic handles all pediatric situa-
tions, from runny noses and ear-
aches to more serious diseases.

Of her own young family, Ann
says, “You can’t help but think
about a trip to Disney World or a
new car, but for us there’s a convic-
tion that we owe our help to people
less fortunate than ourselves. A
‘get all you can’ philosophy is im-
moral when there are people who
don’t have what they should.”

Delaware
Stephanie Kwolek
Champion Chemist

Many police officers who never
heard her name are alive today
because of inventor Stephanie
Kwolek. Bending over her bench in
the laboratories of the DuPont
Company of Delaware, she made
the pioneering chemical discovery
that led to the development of the
material in bulletproof vests.

Stephanie, sixty-one, has been a
chemist all her adult life. Although
she originally wanted to go to med-
ical school, she couldn’t bear to give
up research. “I love the challenge,”
she says. “I love to learn.” Like all
good inventors, she also has more
than her share of persistence and
determination. “You need tremen-
dous drive to remain in this line of
work for a long time. So much of
what you do comes to naught.
You're lucky if you make one great
discovery in a lifetime.”

One of the most exciting mo-
ments of Stephanie's life came in
1965, when she discovered how to
make the strong, stiff fibers that
would later be used in bulletproof
clothing and helmets and _ protec-
tive garments for workers who use
knives and chain saws.

Indeed, her find was so unex-
pected that the laboratory techni-
cian to whom she took the solution
refused at first to work with it be-
cause it didn’t look right. She con-
vinced him to do it anyway, and

when he finished working with the
fibers, they held together exactly as
she had hoped they would.

Stephanie, who holds a total of
fifteen U.S. patents, says, “It’s hard
to believe that it’s taken such a long
time for women to be recognized as
scientists. The abilities have been
there all along.”

Florida

Dolores Norley

Provider for
the Retarded

“What happens to you doesn’t real-
ly matter,” says Dolores Norley, six-
ty-six. “It’s what you do with it
that’s important.”

Now a lawyer who specializes in
the legal concerns of the disabled,
Dolores has been working for the
mentally handicapped ever since
she and her husband discovered
that their son, then four, was re-
tarded. (A second son born with
multiple handicaps has since died.)
“T work with offenders inappropri-
ately placed,” she says, “the re-
tarded, deaf, cerebral palsied, au-
tistic, anyone who has a problem.”

When her son was young, there
were no programs or classes avail-
able—public school education for
the retarded had not yet been man-
dated by law. In desperation, Dol-
ores placed an ad in the paper ask-
ing parents with a similar problem
to gather at her house in Deland for
a meeting. On the appointed eve-
ning, forty people showed up. “Most
had children who were on institu-
tion waiting lists,” recalls Dolores.
“They knew their children didn’t
belong there, but they had no option
without community services to pro-
vide schooling, training and social
interaction for their kids.”

The meeting stirred the group to
action. With the help of contribu-
tions, they started classes in two
local synagogues. And their con-
certed lobbying effort eventually
resulted in the passage of a law re-
quiring classes for the mentally re-
tarded in Florida’s public schools.
“Thousands of children were able
to enter the Florida school system
for the first time,” says Dolores.

As her son grew older, other
needs became apparent. She start-

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Brother, pairing exemplary boys with younger offe

ed a workshop to train the moder-
ately retarded for semiskilled and
unskilled jobs, launched two social
clubs for mentally disabled adults
and opened a group home in her
own house where retarded people
could gain a sense of independence
and self-worth.

In addition, Dolores devised a po-
lice training program, now man-
dated in several states and in use in
Canada and England, that teaches
officers to recognize handicaps and
thereby avoid inappropriate ar-
rests. And at the age of fifty-nine,
Dolores entered law school so that
she could fight more effectively for
the legal rights of the retarded.

“I was given handicapped kids,
but I was also given intelligence
and opportunity, and I chose to
make them work together. Id like
to be a role model for parents, be-
cause I’ve learned that how we
treat our children dictates how so-
ciety treats them. I’ve chosen to
look at mine positively.”

Georgia

Carolyn Crayton

Community
Cleaner

Not long after Carolyn Crayton be-
gan her one-woman crusade to
clean up Macon, Georgia, a down-
town merchant she had been pres-
suring finally cleared the rubble
from a vacant lot he owned. Then
he erected a billboard calling atten-
tion to the improvement in huge
‘letters that read: “IS THIS OK,
CAROLYN?”

Wherever she has lived, Carolyn,
fifty-three, has strived to beautify
the community. In fact, she often
goes back to her former towns to
see how “her” plants and trees are
flourishing. But in Macon, she set
her sights even higher.

In 1974, largely due to Carolyn’s
efforts, Macon was made a pilot
program for the nationwide “Keep
America Beautiful” campaign. The
Clean Community Commission, as
it became known, resulted in a
massive, citywide cleanup effort.

Ten years after it began, the
campaign is still active. Half of the
town’s 140,000 people have attend-

ed Carolyn’s waste disposal and
beautification workshops. Litter
has been reduced by 82 percent.
“Being able to live in a clean
community helps us all,” Carolyn
exclaims. “It says that people in
this community are loving, caring
people. It’s just good for us.”

Hawaii

Melanie
Chang

Trailblazer
for the
Handicapped

“T want to help make a difference in
the lives of the handicapped,” says
Melanie Chang, thirty, “so I just
never take no for an answer.”

Based on her belief that “limited
experiences shape limited person-
alities,” Melanie set out in 1978 to
form a travel service that would en-
able handicapped people to enjoy
the wonders of her home state.

“The service's purpose,” Melanie
explains, “is to present the hand-
icapped person with the same expe-
riences everyone else has. The goal
is to pull them out of their closeted
worlds, to get them down here to
enjoy the aloha experience.”

To meet this goal, Melanie's
agency puts together packages for
blind, deaf, retarded and wheel-
chair travelers, as well as for the
elderly. As she says, “Lots of fam-
ilies don’t travel because they have
a handicapped member and don’t
want to leave him or her at home.
Here, they can all enjoy the trip.”

She works with hotels, airlines,
transportation services and other
tourist industries to make facilities
available and acceptable. “Logisti-
cal problems too often get in the
way,” she says, adding, “they don’t
have to. They can be solved.”

Wanting to see the disabled en-
joy the snorkeling, scuba diving,
swimming, sailing and other sports
activities Hawaii is famous for,
Melanie, from Honolulu, also be-
gan the International Disabled
Sports Association, which puts on
clinics and meets for people with a
variety of disabilities. “We even
teach blind people to play tennis by
sound,” she reports. “Once they
find out they can do that, they start
wondering what else they can do
that they didn’t think they could.”

Idaho
Sally Pena
Doyenne of Day Care

Sally Pena cares about children.
And at thirty-eight, she has accom-
plished so much for Idaho’s young-
sters that she’d probably be gover-
nor if kids could vote.

The focus of Sallys work has
been day-care centers. Since Idaho
is the only state in the Union that
has no mandatory licensing laws,
she felt something had to be done to
make sure that children were get-
ting the right start. So one day in
1981, she sat down at her dining-
room table in Boise and worked out
a plan—the genesis of her Day-
Care Observation Project. A Head-
start teacher herself, she decided
that she and her teaching col-
leagues could help others with less
experience to run the finest day-
care programs possible. These con-
sultants would examine and up-
grade facilities, set standards, make
recommendations and give much-
needed support to centers. And they
would do it all free of charge.

“We look not just for the things
that make a center healthy and safe,
but also for what makes a warm,
quality learning environment,” says
Sally, who holds a master’s degree
in early-childhood education. “In
follow-up sessions, we give the staff
positive feedback and suggestions
for improvement.”

Each year since the project be-
gan, the number of observations
has tripled. Sally now holds month-
ly workshops for people involved in
child care, and publishes a newslet-
ter to help keep them informed.
Eventually, she hopes to expand
the project even further, into pri-
vate homes where several children
are often cared for by a woman
working all by herself.

“The early years,” says Sally,
“are the time when children form
their thoughts about themselves
and develop feelings of worth they
will carry through their lives. With
so many children in day care, it’s
critical that they get the best care
possible.” (continued on page 137)

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SLOUGHERS

These beautifiers help polish skin
to a fresh glow bv accelerating re-
moval of dead skin cells, speeding
their replacement by new cells—a
process that makes any area of the
body look lovelier.

Chemical sloughers, exfoliat-
ing and clarifying lotions and
creams contain ingredients that
dissolve and lift off dead cells.

Physical sloughers remove dead
cells by abrasion. Granular scrubs,
ordinary sponges and washcloths
are gentle physical sloughers.
Loofahs, bath brushes, friction
mitts and polyester sponges provide
more vigorous sloughing. Use them
with a light touch at first.

Dare to bare them . . . our guide

CHEST

Your goal: A sexy,
silken expanse from

collarbone to cleavage
2S TY TT

Problem: Tiny bumps, a
rough, blotchy look.

Solution: “Treat skin on
chest as an extension of fa-
cial skin with twice-a-day
cleansing and moisturiz-
ing, plus an occasional
sloughing treatment,” says
Susan Chase, Coty’ nation-
al training manager. Before
slipping into a low-cut
dress, use a peel-off mask;
follow with a moisturizer.
(Bonus: Fragrance lasts >

. position.
n, hands fiat =
and pointing ©
a each other. —
upper body pus ese
style by bending arms.
Do 8 to 10 times-

Assume
as show

Toner for
chest,

longer on moisturized skin!)
Problem: Tiny red lines.
‘Solution: “Red lines—ac-
; ae small broken blood
sels—can be removed
from the chest and other
areas relatively easily and
inexpensively with an elec-
tric needle,” says Dr. Jona-
|| than Zizmor, chief of der-
“matology at New York's St.
Bocas Hospital. Its an
ce procedure that takes
af ek twenty minutes and
costs about $100. In some
‘| "cases, a second treatment
wv ill be necessary.
‘Problem: Crepiness and
fether serious sun damage.
| | Solution: Ask a dermatolo-
' gist about topical prepara-
that destroy the dam-
wed upper skin layer and
’ ow younger-looking skin
to grow in its place. Crepi-
"ness can be prevented or at
least postponed if you're
careful about using a sun-
creen on this area. “Its a
good idea to wear one, even
in 1 the city, on summer days,”
says Maybelline beauty ex-
rt Charlotte Lipson.

KNEES

Your goal: Flirty,
baby-smooth knees to
show off in the short

skirts of summer

ec mE
Problem: Sandpaper skin.
Solution: “Extra moisturiz-
ing can help smooth over-
grown hair follicles—kerato-
sis pilaris—that make some
knee skin look bumpy.” says
Dr Zizmor. For more even
color, you can try rubbing
your knees with lemon halves.

Lie as shown with _
between your =
Slowly bend > parallel
that calves are pare
to floor. Flex feet ae
turn to original pas
tion. Do 15 times:

Knee-thigh
trimmer (done
with a 7-inch
ball)

By Lois

doy

Johnson

Beauty and Fashion
Editor

TOES

Your goal: Tootsies
so pretty, you'll look
for any excuse to
kick off your shoes

SEES
Problem: Calluses, corns,
rough, tough skin.
Solution: A pumice and a
moisturizer will take care of
minor rough skin problems.
When stronger measures
are called for, Dr. Zizmor
suggests an ointment con-
taining salicylic acid and
benzoic acid. keratolytic in-
gredients that remove the
horny skin layers of which
calluses and corns are
made. “Be careful,” he cau-
tions. “Use just a little at
first to see how your skin
reacts.”

Problem: Odor. excessive
perspiration.

Solution: After bath or
shower, apply antiperspir-
ant. then a sprinkle of
powder. (If ordinary anti-
perspirant doesn’t work, a
doctor can prescribe some-
thing stronger.) Place de-
odorant pads inside shoes.

: te s how to perfect the “forgotten” areas of your body

Problem:

feet, ankles.
Solution: Immerse feet in
cool water for fifteen min-
utes or so. then relax with
feet elevated. A heavenly
treat on hot days: After
soaking. pat feet dry, then
splash on chilled witch ha-

zel or toilet water.

Exercises by Gai! Pudaloff, Director. Kinetics
NYC. Makeup. Linda Mason. Hair. Max Pinnell
for Bumble +

Swollen toes,

Bumble. Details, page 131

s shown. heels
ingertips =
. Rise e higher on
balls of feet. then ere
Do 15 times- = S
knees. place palms .
floor an roll” up

standing position.

Foot flexer and
strengthener

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From good-looks professionals and a top dermatologist . . .

UNDERARMS

Your goal: Sleekness sans stubble ...a must
when you're wearing summer's sleeveless styles

NECK

Your goa!: A neck
he'll love to nuzzle,
swan-soft, free of any
traces of tension
Problem: Neck skin that is
noticeably dryer and older-
looking than facia! =.
Solution: “Stepped-uy
_turizing for that are’ =<») -
Charlotte Lipson. “T:

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Curve left arm ove

SPOT TRICKS

Small blemishes, tiny discolora-
tions anywhere on the body, can be
camouflaged in a jiff with conceal-
er in stick or cream form. A shade
slightly lighter than skin tone is
best. Dot it on, then dust the area
with translucent powder to “set.”
A terrific smoother for dry

you apply a moistun a 4, as shown, 3m patches: Try warm (not hot) oil
important,” she adds. ; pul | head to left. compresses for softening rough or
or pat it on. The most BS e ete feel a tug callused skin on knees, toes. Satu-
pensive cream in the wor che muscles on the rate a cloth with warm olive or saf-
can be damaging if you put yt aide of YOUr neck.) flower oil. Leave in place until the
it on with such a heavy hand t i for 20 seconds. oil cools. Tissue off excess.
that the skin is dragged Re on right side Use blusher to turn neck and chest
from its moorings.” into beauty spots: To “slim” your
| Problem: Redness, irritation. neck, whisk blusher down the
| Solution: Keep hands off collars Call a doctor if sides; highlight collarbones with z
the area; remove suspected _ there improvement more blusher. g
irritants—necklaces, tight within a few days €

100
ices

Problem: Your deodor-
ant isn’t effective.
Solution: Try a product
with combined deodor-
ant-antiperspirant ac-
tion. Deodorants are an-
tibacterial; they inhibit
the growth of organisms
that metabolize sweat
and cause odor. Antiper-
spirants reduce or elimi-
nate sweating. “Some-
times a product works
for a while, then loses
effectiveness,” says Dr.
Zizmor. “When that hap-
pens, changing brands
may be the answer.”

oblem: Razor-sensitive
inderarm skin.

olution: If you've been us-
ng an electric razor, try
witching to a single- or
double-blade safety razor.
Change blades often; a dull
} one is hard on skin. (Shav-
ig in the direction of hair
rowth is less irritating
an shaving against the
rowth, though the latter
tives a closer shave.) Kind-
sst of all to sensitive under-
rms are cream or spray-on
epilatories that dissolve
the hair. “They're the best
shoice for women who are

BACK

Your goal: To look
as marvelous on the
way out as you

do on the way in

Problem: Blemishes.

Solution: “Wash area fre-
quently with a special dry-
ing soap or a granular
scrub,” says Susan Chase.
(Use a brush or loofah that
allows you to reach all
areas, or call someone in to

mask—ideal for use on the
back because it’s so easy to
apply...and you can
shower it off.” If problems

the condition is heredi-
tary, but when excessive
dryness is the cause,
moisturizer often helps.

Lie on floor as sh
your neck, 2 ‘~
E (To positio

bothered by ingrown Problem: “Chicken skin” help you scrub.) “For occa-
hair follicles,” says in the underarm area. sional deep-cleansing of
Dr. Zizmor. Solution: Sometimes pores, try using a clay-base

ees bent, hands cl

own, kn racked under you

inch ball y
Hat ball, lie on top of it,

‘more expert solutions to your spare-parts beauty problems!

persist, ask a doctor about a
topical antibiotic in an as-
tringent base. “Astringents
reduce the flow of perspira-
tion...many times the
cause of pimples on the
back,” says Dr. Zizmor.
Problem: Prickly heat.
Solution: Apply a mild
peeling lotion, such as cal-
amine, to affected areas,
suggests Dr. Zizmor. Since
perspiration is a factor in
prickly heat, which often
occurs in areas where cloth-
ing comes into close contact
with skin, it often helps to
wear somewhat looser styles
during the summer. Wearing
clothing made of natural fi-
bers, such as cotton and linen,
which absorb perspiration
much better than do syn-
thetics, can also be effec-
tive against prickly heat.

asped under
at the waist.
then adjust.’
5 seconds.

Hold for 1

Tension easer for
back and chest

DON’T clutter up

a cool blazer-and-tee
combination with trendy
dangles or a pair of flashy,
brightly colored earrings
that come on too strong for
some warm-weather styles.

DO pair classic unfussy
earrings with clean-lined
summer linens and cottons.
The polish of pearls or silver—
round, oval or square—is
simply perfect.

DON’T top off summer

dresses with the cardigan
or heavy sweater you’ve
worn all winter long. It
instantly takes the zip out
of even the prettiest outfit.

DO warm a cool evening
with the newer summer-
weight Japanese-inspired
toppers. They add just

the right finishing touch
for evening elegance.

DON’T unbalance the

proportions of the season’s
new shorter pants by
wearing high-heeled pumps.
They close in the look, detract
from the breezy styling.

DO flatter your feet with
flats or shoes with just a hint
of a wedge to balance the
season's new wider, cropped
pants. This open-toed,
ankle-laced version keeps
the look casual but classy.

DON’T ruin the

flattering simplicity and
modern lines of the smart
new chemise, opposite, by
belting it in at the waist.

DO wear this oversize,
pared-down dress the way
it was designed—free

and easy. The lack of body
definition makes it a great
style for every figure type
to wear this summer.

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Bumble + Bumble, NYC. Fashion details, page 13]

Sagi eapuy

DON’T break up the

sophisticated look of an
icy-pale summer suit with
jarring hits of too-bright
or too-dark colors.

DO continue the look
with paled-down
accessories—soft tints

of ivory, pink, beige. But
stick to a one-tone palette.

DON a mix business

and pleasure when it
comes to shoes. Weekend
espadrilles or sporty
sandals are no-nos for the
crisp office suit (below).

DO finish off tailored
styles with low-heeled
pastel pumps. Be cool in
slingbacks, open toes, side
cutouts, all with low heels
for comfort, elegant line.

DON’T expect your

usual bra to stay undercover
with the season's wonderful,
wider, collarbone-baring
necklines. That telltale
glimpse of strap can ruin
a terrific summer look.

DO choose a bra with
widely spaced straps to
wear with a bateau-styie
neckline. Better yet,
especially with the dare-
to-bare styles, try
wearing a strapless bra.

DON’T buy asuper-

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best. Halter styles focus
attention on upper body.

Get set for fabulous al-
fresco eating—from a
posh backyard party to
a poolside Polynesian
bash. Plus stylish food

for drop-in guests.

The change-of-pace star of this
Mediterranean menu is sum-
mer-style turkey breast, gently
flavored with rosemary, stuffed
with thin slices of prosciutto.
Spicy ratatouille of garden vege-
tables and a Parmesan-topped
pasta salad complement the main
dish deliciously. Other pluses in-
clude three appetizers—cherry
tomatoes stuffed with olives and
walnuts; cheese-wrapped grapes
rolled in pine nuts; dramatic veg-
etable rolls. And a perfect end-
ing—a luscious combo of spirited
raspberry puree and creamy choc-
olate. Recipes begin on page 112.

Glorious outdoor buffet

Olivade in Tomato Shells
Glorified Grapes
Vegetable Rolls Fresco
Rosemary Turkey Breast
Ratatouille
Orzo Salad
Baguettes
Pinot Grigio
Dessert Wine (Muscat or
Late-Harvest Riesling)

Raspberry-Chocolate
Bavarian

Coffee

‘Our marvelous meal for twenty-five is dinner with a
‘delightful difference. By Sue B. Huffman, Food Editor

Mai Tais Chi Chis

Crispy Coconut Shrimp
and Bananas

Chutneyed Snow Peas

Maui Roast Pork with
Rum Sauce

Luau Rice
Sesame Salad
Dry Rosé or White Wine
Macadamia Bars

Assorted Tropical Fruit

Mai tais and macadamia bars, roast pork and
leep-fried bananas, and more . . . to enjoy on a
summer's day. This taste-of-the-islands menu
vill have you believing that tropical breezes are
| lowing in your backyard. The glazed pork loin,
yrepared Hawaiian-style with a dark-rum-and-
ime sauce, the lightly curried rice, even the
mreen salad with its Oriental sesame-oil dress-
ng—all call to mind faraway places. The cream-
sheese-stuffed snow peas flavored with chutney
ind the banana-and-shrimp appetizers get
hhings off to a tasty start. (Be sure to make
xtras—they’'ll go fast.) But the place of honor on

he table goes to a spectacular arrangement of

ropical fruit for dessert—from mangoes to mel-
ins, pineapples to papayas—to savor as you
lream of dazzling sunsets. Recipes, page 118.

Sumptuous luau

Jur waterside party for sixteen will get youintotheswim | ||
of summer entertaining—even if you don’t have a pool! |

Opposite page. top,

a brunch/lunch bonanza.
Left to right: Loaf-of-Brea
Soufflé (with a hint of
Grand Marnier); Choose-
Your-Filling Roulades—
salmon, spinach and
potato. Opposite, bottom:
appetizer assortment, left
to right—Herb Dip (Dyon
mustard and horseradish
add zip) with crudités;
Chili Con Queso (perfect
with corn chips and a coo
drink); and Spiked
Kielbasa. Left. clockwise
from top: dinner
delights—Linguine with
Clam Sauce, Fettuccine
Carbonara, Rotelle with
Red Pepper Sauce and
Glazed Ham (plum
preserves help dress up
canned ham).

J. Barry O'Rourke

Last-minute entertaining

Summer is the time for friends
to gather—often on the spur of
the moment. But unexpected
guests can still be fed with

| flair, whether they drop in for

brunch, lunch, cocktails or din-
ner. Just use staples you can
keep stocked in your pantry, re-
frigerator and freezer. (Our rec-
ommended list, page 127.) A loaf
of white bread becomes a super
soufflé, frozen spinach and cream
cheese a velvety filling for a rou-
lade. Our recipes are simple and
flexible: for example, the three
sauce-and-pasta combinations
(opposite) can be mixed and
matched. Recipes for these and
other fast and fabulous ideas
begin on page 122.

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INSTRUCTIONS FOR GARNISHES FOR | ~ GLorious BUFFET
SUMMER ENTERTAINING

LOTUS ONION
Garnish for Chutneyed Snow Peas
Sumptuous Luau—recipe on page 120

(1) Choose a firm, round red onion
about 3 inches in diameter with no soft
spots. Cut in half crosswise. Onion
should have nice concentric circles; do
not use double onion. Trim off about 42
inch from the bottom so that it’s level.
(Save other half for another use.) (2)
With a sharp knife, make a V-shaped
cut across diameter of onion, passing

through the center. (3) Make V-shaped
cuts from edge to center all around like
the spokes of a wheel. (4) Separate
onion layers by pushing thumb through
bottom. Restack layers, staggering to
form petals of flower. (5) Make scallion
brushes by trimming off all but '2 inch
of the scallion’s green portion. Trim off
root end. With a sharp knife, fringe
white portion. Soak in ice water to curl.
(6) Place scallion brush in center of
lotus flower. Store in bow! of ice water
to cover until ready to use as a garnish.

WHITE RADISH FLOWER
Garnish for Roast Pork

Sumptuous Luau—recipe on page 120
(1) For core, ci

¥4 inch in dian
ish. Peel and se
cut off a 3- to 4-11
Carve into a sligh

l-inch piece about
‘om a white rad-
(2) For petals,
from radish.

ed triangle.

The base should be a ) 1¥2-inches
wide. (3) With a sha cut off a
paper-thin slice lengt form 1
petal. Place in ice wate slic-
ing to make about 10 t (4)

Place 1 petal against core; ce
with rubber band. Add petals |

ping them under rubber bat 5) Aft
all petals have been used, st«

with ice water to cover. (6, 7

radish rose by cutting two V-s

cuts across top: continue as in ste
Lotus Onion. (9) Place a radish in ¢
ter of flower. Attach with toothpick.

112

CABBAGE FLOWER
Garnish for Turkey
Glorious Buffet—recipe on page 116
(not illustrated)

Make 5 scallion brushes (see step 5
of Lotus Onion instructions). Remove
three good outer leaves from a red cab-
bage. With scissors, trim each leaf to
make ovals about 6x4 inches. Trim
thick midrib portion of stem from un-
derside of leaves so that whole leaf is
the same thickness. Cut a round '%-
inch-thick slice from a large carrot. In-
sert wooden toothpick through slice.
Tie scallion brushes together in a
bunch with rubber band. Trim ends to
an even length. Cover rubber band
with a strip of red cabbage, securing
vith toothpick. With carrot slice on
» bottom, stick cabbage leaves on the
thpick so leaves curve upward. Place
‘ion brush in center.

continued from page 106

GLORIOUS BUFFET FOR 25
pictured on pages 106—107

MENC

Olivade in Tomato Shells
Glorified Grapes
Vegetable Rolls Fresco
Rosemary Turkey Breast
Ratatouille
Orzo Salad
Baguettes
Pinot Grigio
Dessert Wine (Muscat or
Late-Harvest Riesling)
Raspberry-Chocolate Bavarian
Coffee

SHOPPING LIST #1

16 ounces Calamata olives cured in brine
8 ounces walnuts
5 ounces pine nuts (pignoli )
1 package (12 oz.) chocolate chips
1 box (4 envelopes) unflavored gelatin
2 pounds orzo (rice-shaped pasta)
2 packages (10 oz. each) frozen chopped

spinach
4 packages (10 oz. each) quick-thaw
raspberries
Black raspberry liqueur (14 cup)
Cognac (3 cup)

packages (8 oz. each) cream cheese

packages (5 oz. each) spiced cheese
with pepper

pints heavy or whipping cream

SHOPPING LIST #2

whole turkey. breasts (4—5 lbs. each)

ounces thinly sliced prosciutto

ounces sliced bacon

pints cherry tomatoes

pounds seedless red or green grapes

pound carrots

large cucumbers or 1 large
white radish (daikon)

large head red cabbage

large head savoy cabbage

medium eggplants

pound zucchini

red peppers

green peppers

large onions

large tomatoes

bunches fresh basi]

bunches parsley

lemons

‘2 pint fresh raspberries

> ounces Parmesan cheese

bottle rice wine vinegar

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vinegar Rosemary
Red wine vinegar 1 quart milk

Olive oil Butter
Vanilla extract Salt
Cornstarch Pepper

Soy sauce Garlic

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GLORIOUS BUFFET

continued

SCHEDULE
Up to 1 month ahead:

1. Invite guests.
2. Buy wine and liquor if desired

Up to 1 week ahead:

1. Order turkey breasts if necessary.

2. Buy ingredients on shopping list #1.

3. Make olivade filling; store covered in
refrigerator.

2 days before:

1. Buy ingredients on shopping list # 2.

2. Make turkey rolls; bake, cool to room tem-
perature and store unsliced in refrigerator.

3. Prepare grapes: cover and store in
refrigerator.

1 day before:

1. Prepare bavarians; cover and refrigerate.

2. Make vegetable rolls: store unsliced in
refrigerator.

3. Make ratatouille: cover and refrigerate
4. Make orzo salad: cover and refrigerate

5. Prepare tomato shells for olivade: cover
and refrigerate

6. Set up bar and buffet table

Day of party:

1. Buy bread

2. Fill tomato shells with olivade: cover and
refrigerate

3. Make sauce for vegetable rolls; cover and
set aside at room temperature.

4. Roll grapes in toasted nuts.

2 hours before guests arrive:

1. Transfer ratatouille and orzo salad to
serving bowl: cover and let stand at
room temperature.

2. Slice turkey rolls and arrange on platter.
Cover and let stand at room temperature.

3. Slice vegetable rolls and arrange on
platter.

4. Arrange grapes and stuffed tomatoes or
serving trays

5. Set up coffee. but do not brew

6. Unmold bavarians onto serving plates
garnish and refrigerate until serving time.

RECIPES
OLIVADE IN TOMATO SHELLS

Olivade is an Italian appetizer of finely
chopped olives and walnuts flavored
with cognac, olive oil and garlic. Here
we served it in cherry tomato shells, but
mushroom caps are equally delicious.

16 ounces Calamata olives cured in
brine (or 13 cups each whole
ripe and whole green olives,
chopped)

1 cup finely chopped walnuts
¥Y4 cup cognac

V4 cup olive oil

Chocolate Velvet Pudding Pie

1 package (4-serving size)
JELL-O* Brand Chocolate
Flavor Instant Pudding and

Pie Filling

1 cup cold milk
2 squares BAKER’S® Semi-
Sweet Chocolate, melted

(optional)

1 container (8 02.)

BIRDS EYE* COOL WHIP*
Non-Dairy Whipped Topping,
thawed

1 KEEBLER* Graham
Cracker READY-CRUST “
Brand Pie Crust

iS Prepare pudding with 1 cup milk as directed on package, with
electric mixer. Gradually blend in chocolate at low speed until smo

2. Then fold in whipped topping.

2D: Spoon into pie crust. Freeze until firm, about 4 hours. Garnish

as desired.

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1

2 small garlic cloves, crushed
Y4 teaspoon freshly ground
black pepper
4 pints cherry tomatoes (about 100)
Y2 cup chopped parsley

Drain olives and rinse well in cold

| water; pat dry. With small knife pit

| )lives: chop finely. In small bowl com-

xine olives, walnuts, cognac, olive oil,

zarlic and pepper. Cover and marinate

wernight. (Can be made ahead. Cover

hind refrigerate up to I week.)
With sharp knife, cut off top third of

‘omatoes. Scoop out and discard seeds

}and juice. Invert shells onto jelly-roll

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yan lined with paper towels. (Can be
made ahead. Cover and refrigerate up
'‘o 24 hours.)

A few hours before serving, stir
yarsley into olive mixture. Spoon into

cold or
about

tomato shells. Serve
temperature. Makes
100, about 30 calories each

prepared
at room

GLORIFIED GRAPES

Heres a good appetizer for the kids to
make. Let them pat and roll to their
hearts’ content

2 packages (5 oz.) spiced cheese with
pepper, softened
2 packages (8 oz.) cream cheese,
softened
5 jars (3 oz. each) pine nuts (pignoli)
2 pounds small seedless green or
red grapes
In medium bow! combine cheeses until
thoroughly blended. Cover and refrig-
erate until firm
Preheat oven to 325°F. In baking

lightly toast pine nuts about 10
minutes; cool. Chop coarsely; set aside

Divide into Work
with one quarter at a time, keeping
remaining refrigerated. Pat about 1
around
Arrange on a plate
chill. (Can be

tightly and

pan

cheese quarters.

teaspoon cheese each grape
in a single layer:
Wrap

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ahead
up to Zz
Roll in chopped nuts up to 24
before serving. Makes about

about 35 calories each

made

refrigerate

hours
150.

VEGETABLE ROLLS FRESCO

A spectacular presentation very much

worth the time required.

2 tablespoons butter
3 cups shredded carrots (about 7/4 Ib.)
Salt

(continued)

Want great-tasting summer pies?
Just take three steps and freeze.

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yackage (3 02.) JELL-O* ] container (8 02.)
rand Gelatin, Lemon Flavor
cup boiling water
tablespoons lemon juice
teaspoons grated lemon

ad (optional)

cups ice cubes

thawed

Brand Pie Crust

+ Dissolve gelatin completely in boiling water, stirring 5 minutes.
dd lemon juice, lemon rind, and ice cubes and stir constantly
itil gelatin is thickened, about 2 to 3 minutes. Remove any

melted ice.

- Using wire ‘vhisk blend in whipped topping; then whip until

Aooth. Chill, if necessary, until mixture will mound.

- Spoon into pie crust. Chill 2 hours or freeze until firm.

arnish as desired.

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Non-Dairy Whipped Topping,

1 KEEBLER® Graham
Cracker READY-CRUST

With Keebler Ready-Crust and Cool Whip
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in just 10 minutes.

Our summer pies aren't just easy. They're creamy, smooth,

set from a pastry crust.

and delicious. Cool Whip* Whipped Topping gives them
that wonderful homemade fresh taste. Keebler *
Graham Cracker Ready-Crust* gives them

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GLORIOUS BUFFET

continued

2 packages (10 oz. each) frozen
chopped spinach
Freshly ground pepper
1 head savoy cabbage (about 3 Ib.)
1 head red cabbage (about 3 Ib.)
2 tablespoons white or
cider vinegar
2 large cucumbers, peeled and
seeded, or 1 6-inch white
radish, peeled
Yq cup rice wine vinegar
Sauce

12 cups water
Y4 cup soy sauce
V4 cup rice wine vinegar
4 teaspoons sugar
1 tablespoon cornstarch

In medium skillet melt butter over
medium heat. Add carrots, sprinkle with
Yo teaspoon salt and cook, stirring fre-
quently, about 5 minutes. Remove from
heat and let cool to room temperature.

In large saucepot bring 2 quarts
water with 2 teaspoons salt to a boil
over high heat. Add spinach and cook
until completely thawed. Drain in a
fine sieve. Set aside to cool to room tem-
perature. In large bowl mix 1 teaspoon
salt and ¥s teaspoon pepper into spinach.

In large Dutch oven bring about 4
inches water to a boil. Add 1 tablespoon
salt. Core both cabbages. Discard tough
outer leaves. Place savoy cabbage in
water. Cook 2 or 3 minutes. With tongs,
remove 2 outer leaves. Plunge leaves
into ice water to cool, then drain in
colander. Continue cooking cabbage,
removing 2 outer leaves every 2 min-
utes until 8 leaves have been blanched.
Remove remaining cabbage from pot
(save for another use). Repeat pro-
cedure with red cabbage, adding 2 ta-
blespoons vinegar to the water.

Cut cucumber or radish into sixteen
¥4-inch strips about 5 inches long. Place
in shallow glass dish. Sprinkle on rice
wine vinegar.

Trim each cabbage leaf at stem end
to measure 5 inches from base to tip.
Place about 2 tablespoons grated carrot
along base of leaf. Place cucumber or
radish strip on carrot and top with

about 12 tablespoons spinach. Roll leaf

up from stem end. Wrap tightly in plas-
tic wrap. Repeat with remaining cab-
bage leaves. (Can be made ahead. Wrap
and refrigerate up to 24 hours.)

Just before serving, unwrap rolls and
slice diagonally into ¥2-inch pieces. Ar-
range on serving platter. Makes about
100 rolls, about 60 calories each. Serve
with sauce.

Sauce: In medium saucepan combine
sauce ingredients. Heat to boiling over
medium heat, stirring constantly. Cook
1 minute. Remove from heat and cool to
room temperature. Makes about 1 cup.

116

ROSEMARY TURKEY BREAST

This amazingly simple entree has the
plus of being low in calories.

3 whole turkey breasts (about 4—5
Ibs. each), thawed if frozen,
skinned, boned and halved*

6 garlic cloves

3 teaspoons fresh rosemary,
snipped, or dried rosemary,
crumbled and divided

¥4 teaspoon freshly ground black
pepper

12 ounces thinly sliced prosciutto

12 ounces sliced bacon

Because boneless turkey breasts have
an uneven thickness, it is necessary to
butterfly them, one half at a time.
Place smooth side down on work sur-
face. Starting where turkey begins to
thicken, cut in half horizontally to-
ward opposite edge without cutting
through. Open up along hinge; flatten
with your hand. For best results, it
should be '2 inch thick all over. Repeat
with remaining breast halves.

Preheat oven to 400°F. Crush 1
garlic clove and spread with ‘2 tea-
spoon rosemary and 's teaspoon pep-
per over each half: cover with 2 ounces
prosciutto. Roll up lengthwise and
place on a 15x12-inch piece of foil. Top
roll with 2 ounces bacon. Seal tightly
in foil. Place in metal roasting pan.
Repeat with remaining breasts.

Bake 1% hours. (Can be made

ahead. Do not unwrap. Refrigerate in
foil up to 24 hours. Bring to room
temperature before serving.) Makes
about eighty-six ‘2-inch slices, about
110 calories each.
“To bone, place turkey breast on cut-
ting surface skin side up and start at
edge by ribs. With small, sharp knife,
scrape away meat from breast by fol-
lowing contour of bones. With other
hand gently pull meat off as you cut.
Stop cutting when you reach “keel”
(breast) bone: turn breast and repeat
with remaining side. Carefully cut
meat away from keel bone. Remove
skin. Place breast smooth side down
and cut in half lengthwise. Cut out the
large white tendon from each breast
half. Discard skin and tendons.

RATATOUILLE

You'll need to make this recipe twice to
have enough for twenty-five hungry
people (unless you have restaurant
sized pots. in which case you can just
double the ingredients and then make
it all at once).

2 medium eggplants (1 Ib. each), cut
into '2-inch chunks

1 pound small zucchini, cut into
¥2-inch chunks

1 tablespoon salt

’2 cup plus 2 tablespoons olive
oil, divided

3 red peppers, cut into 2-inch chu

3 green peppers, cut into ¥2-inch
chunks

3 large onions, cut into '/2-inch
chunks

3 large tomatoes, peeled, seeded and
chopped

2 garlic cloves, crushed

1 teaspoon thyme

Yq teaspoon freshly ground pepper

3 tablespoons chopped parsley

2 tablespoons chopped fresh basil

In large colander set over a bow] com
bine eggplant and zucchini. Sprinkl¢
with salt and toss. Let stand 1 hour.

In large. heavy skillet heat % cuy
olive oil over medium-high heat. Drair
eggplant and zucchini on paper towels
Saute half until lightly browned
about 10 minutes. Transfer to a largé
Dutch oven. Add another ' cup oil t¢
the skillet and saute remaining egg
plant and zucchini. Transfer to Dutcl
oven. Heat remaining 2 tablespoons oi
in skillet: saute peppers and onions
minutes. Cover and cook 5 minute:
more. Add tomatoes, garlic, thyme anc
pepper. Cook uncovered until most o
the liquid has evaporated. Combine ir
Dutch oven with eggplant and zuc
chini. Cook 10 minutes more. Stir ir
parsley and basil. (Can be mad
ahead. Cover and refrigerate up to 2¢
hours. To serve, uncover and bring t
room temperature.) Makes 15 servings
about 120 calories per '2 cup. Make
twice for 25 people.

ORZO SALAD

a a
A simple, refreshing accompaniment ti
the turkey and ratatouille. Try to fine
fresh basil—it’ really essential.

2 pounds orzo (rice-shaped pasta),
uncooked

Y2 cup chopped fresh basil

V4 cup chopped parsley

Dressing

3/4 cup olive oil
6 tablespoons red wine
vinegar |
2 tablespoons lemon juice )
1% teaspoons salt |
V4 teaspoon pepper

12 cups (6 oz.) grated Parmesan
cheese

Cook orzo according to package direc
tions for al dente. Drain, rinse wit
cold water and drain again. Add basi
and parsley.

Dressing: In jar with tight-fitting lic
combine dressing ingredients; cove:
and shake.

Pour over salad and toss until wel
coated. Refrigerate. (Can be mad
ahead. Cover and refrigerate up to 2-
hours. To serve, bring to room tempera
ture.) Just before serving, add ee
and toss. Makes forty '2-cup servings
about 145 calories each. (continued

LADIES’ HGME JOURNAL » JULY 198

Winner In The Stretch.
Mozzarella.

A true mozzarella must pass certain tests. And CASINO
Mozzarella truly does. Try them yourself. Simply melt and pull
some CASINO Mozzarella—the 4
y/ stretchiness and stringiness proves
“it’s perfect mozzarella. Next, pinch a little
hredded CASINO Mozzarella between your
mngers and youll see it doesn't stick tightly
mogether. The result? CASINO Mozzarella is superb -
pr sprinkling on pizza, lasagne and all your
malian dishes. Not all mozzarellas pass these
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GLORIOUS BUFFET

continued

RASPBERRY-CHOCOLATE
BAVARIAN

We recommend making two of these for
this party. Its so delicious, you won't
mind if theres some left over.

Raspberry Layer

Yq cup plus 1 tablespoon sugar,
divided

1 envelope unflavored gelatin

Y4 cup water

2 packages (10 oz. each) quick-
thaw raspberries, thawed,
pureed and strained

2 tablespoons black raspberry or
framboise liqueur, divided

1 cup heavy or whipping cream

Chocolate Layer

Yq cup plus 1 tablespoon sugar

1 envelope unflavored gelatin

1 cup milk

1 cup chocolate chips

1 cup heavy or whipping cream
1/2 teaspoons vanilla extract, divided

Fresh raspberries, for garnish

Raspberry Layer: In medium saucepan
combine + cup sugar and _ gelatin.
Slowly pour in water. Let stand 1 min-
ute without stirring. Add raspberry

SUMPTUOUS LUAU
continued from page 109

LUAU FOR 16
pictured on pages 108—109

Mai Tais
Chi Chis
Crispy Coconut Shrimp and Bananas
Chutneyed Snow Peas
Maui Roast Pork with Rum Sauce
Luau Rice
Sesame Salad
Dry Rose or White Wine
Macadamia Bars
Assorted Tropical Fruit

SHOPPING LIST #1

pint heavy or whipping cream

2 jars (7 oz. each) macadamia nuts

3 cans (4 oz. each) Southern-style or
shredded coconut

4 quarts unsweetened pineapple juice

cups canned cream of coconut

Salad oil for deep-frying

quarts club soda

bottles dark rum (5 cups)

bottle vodka (3 cups)

bottle amaretto liqueur (1% cup)

bottle orange-flavored liqueur ('% cup)

Chilled dry rosé or white wine

SHOPPING LIST #2

1 boneless pork loin roast (5'2-6 Ibs.)
2 pounds medium shrimp in shell

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puree. Cook over medium heat, stir-
ring constantly, until sugar and gela-
tin are completely dissolved. about 5
minutes. Remove from heat: add 1 ta-
blespoon raspberry liqueur and pour
into medium bowl. Chill by placing
bowl over larger bowl filled one third
full with ice cubes (ice bath). Stir occa-
sionally, until mixture mounds slight-
ly when dropped from a spoon. about
30 to 60 minutes.

Whip cream until soft peaks form.
Gradually add 1 tablespoon sugar and
1 tablespoon raspberry liqueur. Beat
until well combined but not too stiff.
Fold 1 cup whipped cream into gelatin
mixture until well incorporated. Gent-
ly fold in remaining cream. Pour into
a round 10-cup glass bowl. Wrap the
outside of a 4-cup glass bow! with plas-
tic wrap: place in center of raspberry
mixture. Weight down smaller bow]
with an 8- or 10-ounce can until rim of
bowl is just above surface of raspberry
mixture. Cover all with plastic wrap
and refrigerate 5 hours or overnight.
Chocolate Layer: In medium saucepan
mix 's cup sugar and gelatin. Add
milk and let stand 1 minute without
stirring. Cook over medium heat, stir-
ring constantly, until sugar and gela-
tin are completely dissolved, about 5
minutes. Add chocolate chips and stir

pound sliced bacon

medium bananas

ounces fresh snow peas

limes

lemon

ripe papayas

large heads romaine lettuce

bunches watercress

bunches radishes

cups fresh bean sprouts

bunches green onions

Fresh gingerroot

large tomatoes

large onions

package (8 oz.) cream cheese

pound butter

jar sesame seed

Oriental sesame oil

jar curry powder

cups long-grain rice

Soy sauce (3 tablespoons)

jar mango chutney

cans (13%4 or 14% oz. each) chicken
broth

Assorted tropical fruit for dessert:
melons, pineapples, papayas.
mangoes, kiwi fruit. bananas

Vegetables for flower garnishes: red
and white radishes (daikon), green
onions, red onion

Ice cubes

STAPLES TO HAVE ON HAND

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All-purpose flour Ginger
Sugar Cloves
Baking powder Bay leaves
Vanilla extract Cornstarch

Salt
Pepper
White pepper

Brown sugar
White vinegar
Garlic

constantly with whisk until chocolate
is completely melted and blended wit

milk. Stir in 1 teaspoon vanilla. Pou

into medium bow! and chill over the
ice bath until mixture mounds slightly
when dropped from a spoon, about 15
to 30 minutes.

Whip cream until soft peaks form
Gradually add remaining 1 tablespoo
sugar and ‘2 teaspoon vanilla. Beat
until well combined but not too stiff!
Fold 1 cup whipped cream into choco
late mixture until well incorporated
Gently fold in remaining cream.

To remove small bowl from rasp
berry laver. carefully fill it with 1 cup
very hot water. Turn bow] and gent:
pull away from plastic wrap and rasp
berrv layer. Gently peel off plastid
wrap. Immediately pour chocolate mix
ture into hole. Cover with plastic wraz
and refrigerate 5 hours, or until set
(Can be made ahead. Cover and refrig
erate up to 24 hours.)

To unmold, place bowl into about
inches very hot water 10 seconds. I
vert onto serving platter. Garnish with
fresh raspberries. Refrigerate unt
ready to serve. Makes 18 servings
about 215 calories each. En

Glorious Buffet developed by Michel
Scicolone and Kate McArn Vosecky

SCHEDULE

Up to 1 month ahead:

1. Invite guests.

2. Buy wine and liquor.

Up to 1 week ahead:

1. Order pork loin if necessary.

2. Buy ingredients on shopping list #1.

3. Make macadamia bars: cut. wrap an
freeze. (Can be frozen up to 1 month.)

4. Order flowers if necessary.

2 days before:

1. Buy ingredients on shopping list #2.

2. Make filling for snow peas: cover an
refrigerate.

1 day before:

. Marinate pork roast; refrigerate.

. Make luau rice: cool, cover and refrigerate
. Blanch snow peas; wrap and refrigerate
. Wash salad greens; wrap and refrigerate
. Make sauce for shrimp; cover an
refrigerate.

6. Cut up pineapple for drink garnishe
refrigerate.

7. Make decorative garnishes; cover wit
water and refrigerate.

Day of party:

1. Remove macadamia bars from freezer.
2. Roast the pork and make sauce.
stand at room temperature.

3. Make mai tais and chi chis; refrigerate’
4. Cut and arrange fruit for dessert.

5. Prepare vegetables for rice; wrap a
refrigerate.

6. Make salad dressing.

2 hours before guests arrive:

Of Noe

1. Fry shrimp and bananas; keep warm if

low oven.

2. Fill snow peas: arrange on serving tra .

Refrigerate. (continue

LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL + JULY 19

ol and Sensuous

“a

Bask in the fun of a salad
and sandwich in one...with
KRAFT Bacon & Tomato Dressing

and creamy smooth California }
avocados.
Mmmmade for each other!

AVOCADO BLT SANDWICH

4 whole-wheat bread slices,
toasted
KRAFT Bacon & Tomato
Dressing
Lettuce
12 crisply cooked bacon slices
4 tomato slices
1 California Avocado,
peeled, sliced
For each sandwich, spread one
toast slice with approximately
1 tablespoon dressing; cover
with lettuce, bacon, tomato
and avocado. Top with
additional dressing.
4 sandwiches

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continued

3. Set up dessert and coffee buffet.

4. Stir vegetables into rice; spoon into
serving bowl.

Just before guests arrive:

1. Arrange shrimp and bananas on tray.

2. Stir drinks just before serving.

3. Slice pork; arrange on serving tray.
Just before serving:

Toss salad.

RECIPES
MAI TAIS

You can’t go to Hawaii and not have a
mat tai. However, if you indulge in
more than one, we suggest cutting it
with club soda or seltzer.

6'/2 cups unsweetened pineapple juice
4 cups dark rum
¥4 cup fresh lime juice
¥3 cup orange-flavored liqueur
¥3 cup amaretto liqueur
Ice cubes
Club soda or seltzer
Fresh pineapple wedge, for garnish

In large pitcher combine pineapple
juice, rum, lime juice and liqueurs;
stir. (Can be made ahead. Cover and
refrigerate up to 4 hours.) Before serv-
ing, pour into tall ice-filled glasses.
Add a splash of club soda or seltzer.
Garnish with pineapple wedge. Makes
24, about 155 calories each.

CHI CHIS

The Islands’ answer to a pina colada.

6 cups unsweetened pineapple juice
3 cups cream of coconut
3 cups vodka
12 cups ice cubes
Flowers or fresh fruit, for garnish

In blender combine first three ingredi-
ents; blend until smooth. (Can be made
ahead. Cover and refrigerate up to 4
hours.) Before serving, puree in blend-
er with ice. Serve in tall glasses gar-
nished with a fruit or a flower. Makes
16 servings, about 200 calories each.

CRISPY COCONUT SHRIMP
AND BANANAS

Your guests wl

these as you serve—they are addictive.

2 pounds medium shrimp in shells
12 cups all-purpose flour
1 tablespoon baking powder
1 teaspoon salt
V2 cup salad oil
1 cup cold water
3 cans (4 oz. each) Southern-style or
shredded coconut
4 medium bananas
Salad oil for deep-frying

Sauce

2 cups chicken broth
V4 cup soy sauce

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‘onsume as many of

4 teaspoons dark rum
4 teaspoons sugar

Peel shells from shrimp, leaving on
tail. With a sharp knife, make an inci-
sion lengthwise along the center back.
Remove black vein. Rinse under cold
water. Drain flat on paper towels.

In medium bowl combine flour, bak-
ing powder and salt. Add oil and stir
with wooden spoon until smooth. Grad-
ually add water, stirring until smooth.
(Batter will be thick.) Place coconut in
pie plate. Peel and slice bananas diag-
onally into ¥4-inch pieces.

In 3-quart saucepan or deep-fat fryer

heat 14 to 2 inches oil to 360°F. Hold-
ing each shrimp by the tail, dip in
batter, then lightly in coconut; with
tongs, place in hot oil. Cook a few at a
time until golden, about 3 minutes.
Remove with slotted spoon and drain
on paper towels. Let oil return to
360°F. between batches, discarding ex-
cess coconut with slotted spoon. Dip
banana slices in batter, roll in coconut
and fry as for shrimp. (Can be made
ahead. Keep warm in a 200°F. oven on
large cookie sheet up to 2 hours.)
Makes about 50 shrimp, about 70 calo-
ries each. Makes about 40 banana
fritters, about 60 calories each.
Sauce: In medium saucepan bring
sauce ingredients to a boil over me-
dium heat. Stir to dissolve sugar. Let
cool, then cover and refrigerate. (Can
be made ahead. Cover and refrigerate.)
Bring to room temperature before
serving. Makes 2's cups sauce, about
10 calories per tablespoon.

CHUTNEYED SNOW PEAS

If you don’t have a pastry bag, slit the
snow peas along one side and fill witha
demitasse spoon.

1 package (8 oz.) cream cheese

3 tablespoons mango chutney

1 teaspoon lemon juice

Ya pound sliced bacon, well cooked
and drained

12 quarts water
1 teaspoon salt
6 ounces fresh snow peas (about 50)

In food processor fitted with steel
blade combine cream cheese, chutney,
lemon juice and bacon. Process until
smooth. (Can be made ahead. Transfer
to small bowl, cover and refrigerate up
to 3 days. Let stand at room tempera-
ture 2 hours before using.)

In large saucepan bring water and
salt to a boil over high heat. Add snow
peas. Cook 30 seconds: drain and rinse
under cold water. Drain well. Cut a tip
diagonally from each snow pea. (Can
be made ahead. Cover with plastic
wrap and refrigerate up to 24 hours.)

With pastry bag fitted with #3 plain
tube, fill each snow pea with cream
cheese mixture. Cover and refrigerate

until serving time, up to 2 hour
Makes 50, about 35 calories each.

MAUI ROAST PORK
WITH RUM SAUCE

Lime juice, ginger and dark rum flavc
this reminiscent-of-the-Islands roast.

1 boneless pork loin roast (5'/2—6 Ibs.
Marinade

1 tablespoon dark brown sugar
2 tablespoons dark rum

2 tablespoons fresh lime juice
3 garlic cloves, pressed

2 teaspoons ginger

1 teaspoon salt

V2 teaspoon pepper

Glaze

V2 cup firmly packed dark
brown sugar |

12 tablespoons dark rum

4 garlic cloves, pressed

4 teaspoons ginger

Dash cloves

1 bay leaf, crumbled

Y2 teaspoon salt

V2 teaspoon pepper

32 cups chicken broth, divided

Rum Sauce

2 tablespoons cornstarch dissolve
in 3 tablespoons water

Ya cup dark rum

Yq cup fresh lime juice

Trim all but % inch fat from loin. If
large for roasting pan, cut in half.
Marinade: In small bow! combine
marinade ingredients; brush gene
ously on loin. Wrap tightly; refrigera
at least 4 hours or up to 24 hours.
Glaze: In small bow] mix glaze ingr
dients until smooth.

Preheat oven to 500°F. Roast loin,
side up, on rack in shallow roasti
pan 15 minutes. Reduce temperat
to 325°F. and roast 30 minutes mo
Remove drippings with bulb bas
Spread glaze over top and sides. A
1° cups chicken broth to roasting pa
Roast 30 to 40 minutes more until th
mometer inserted in center of lo
reaches 170°F. Transfer to cutti
board. Let stand at room temperatu
do not cover. Just before serving, c
into ‘4-inch slices. Makes 16 servin
about 440 calories each without sau
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bine remaining 154 cups chicken bro
with strained liquid from roasting pa
Bring to a boil over high heat and co
3 minutes. Reduce heat to low; whi
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saucepan warm rum over low heat. I
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flames die out, stir into sauce. Remo
from heat; stir in lime juice. Serve
room temperature. Makes 4 cups, abo
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LUAU RICE

A colorful curried rice that is a splendid
complement to the pork.

Ya cup salad oil
12 cups chopped onions
3 garlic cloves, crushed
2 tablespoons curry powder
3 cups long-grain rice
6 cups water
4 teaspoons salt
Yq teaspoon white pepper
3 large tomatoes, seeded and diced
1 cup finely chopped green onions

In large, heavy Dutch oven heat oil
over medium-low heat. Add onions and
garlic and saute until onions are
translucent. Add curry powder and
cook, stirring, 2 minutes. Add rice and
cook, stirring constantly, 2 minutes.
Add water, salt and pepper. Bring to a
boil over high heat. Cover, reduce heat
to low and cook 30 minutes. Remove
from heat; uncover and let stand 5
minutes without stirring. Transfer to
large bow! and gently toss with a fork;
cool. (Can be made ahead. Cover and
refrigerate up to 24 hours.) Just before
serving, toss rice with tomatoes and
green onions. Makes thirty-two '2-cup
servings, about 80 calories each.

SESAME SALAD

If you can’t find the Oriental sesame oil
(available in specialty stores and gour-
met sections), substitute peanut oil.

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continued from page 111

_. APPETIZERS

SPIKED KIELBASA

pictured on page 111

Any fully cooked sausage (frankfurters,
smoked sausage links, bratwurst or
knockwurst) can be substituted.

12 pounds kielbasa, cut diagonally in
Ya-inch slices
1 cup beer (without foam)
Ya cup firmly packed brown sugar
1 tablespoon cornstarch
3 tablespoons prepared mustard
2 tablespoons prepared horseradish

In large skillet combine sausage and
beer. Cover and simmer 10 minutes. In
small bow! stir together brown sugar,
cornstarch, mustard and horseradish.
Stir into sausage. Bring to a boil and
boil 1 minute until slightly thickened.
Makes 6 to 8 servings, about 475 calo-
ries per 6, 355 calories per 8.

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12 cups romaine lettuce, cut into
bite-size pieces
6 cups watercress,
stems removed
3 cups thinly sliced radishes
3 cups fresh bean sprouts
¥3 cup finely chopped
green onions
¥3 cup sesame seed, toasted

Dressing

1 tablespoon sugar
6 tablespoons distilled
white vinegar
3 tablespoons soy sauce
3 tablespoons water
2 tablespoons Oriental sesame oil
V4 teaspoon grated gingerroot

In large serving bow! combine all salad
ingredients except sesame seed. Cover
and refrigerate until serving time.
Dressing: In small jar with tight-fit-
ting lid combine dressing ingredients;
cover and shake well. (Can be made
ahead. Cover and let stand at room
temperature up to 24 hours.) Just be-
fore serving, shake again and toss with
vegetables and sesame seed. Makes 16
servings, about 55 calories each.

MACADAMIA BARS

If you substitute almonds for the mac-
adamia nuts, check after forty-five
minutes—they tend to cook faster.

Crust

2¥2 cups all-purpose flour
2 tablespoons sugar
1 cup butter, cubed
6 to 7 tablespoons cold water
Y2 teaspoon vanilla extract

CHILI CON QUESO

pictured on page 111

Serve warm with corn or tortilla chips
or raw vegetables.

1 can (11 oz.) condensed Cheddar
cheese soup, undiluted

1 cup (4 0z.) shredded Monterey Jack
cheese

1 can (4 0z.) chopped green chilies,
drained

2 whole tomatoes, peeled, seeded and
coarsely chopped (or use drained,
canned tomatoes)

4 teaspoon bottled red pepper sauce

In medium saucepan or fondue pot
combine all ingredients. Cook over
medium heat, stirring occasionally un-
til hot. Makes 2 cups, about 55 calories
per tablespoon.

HERB DIP

pictured on page 111
Sour cream lasts up to four weeks in
the refrigerator—keep it on hand.

1 cup sour cream
Y2 cup mayonnaise

Filling

2 cups heavy or whipping cream
Yq cup dark rum
142 cups sugar

Ya teaspoon salt

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

2 jars (7 oz. each) salted
macadamia nuts, coarsely
chopped, or 2%3 cups
slivered almonds

Crust: In food processor or large mix
bowl combine flour and sugar. Ag
butter and process (or cut in with pag
ry blender) until mixture resembl
coarse crumbs. Add water and vanill
process or stir just until mixture fo
a ball. On lightly floured surface rq
dough to a 13x8-inch rectangle. Pre
on bottom and sides of 1542x10%2-ing
jelly-roll pan. Refrigerate at least
minutes. Preheat oven to 400°F. Bal
dough 10 minutes. Cool on wire rac
Reduce oven temperature to 350°F.

Filling: Meanwhile, in heavy 3-qua
saucepan combine all ingredients e
cept nuts. Bring to a boil over
dium-high heat, stirring constant
Boil 10 minutes. Add nuts and cog
5 minutes more, stirring constant
Pour evenly into crust. Bake on cent
oven rack 50 to 60 minutes, rotatiy
every 20 minutes, until top is de
golden brown. Cool on wire rack. C
into 2xl-inch bars. (Can be ma
ahead. Wrap in plastic wrap, label a
freeze up to I month.) Makes 70 bar
about 125 calories each.

Sumptuous Luau developed by Miche
Scicolone and Kate McArn Vosecky.

2 teaspoons Dijon mustard

2 teaspoons prepared horseradish
1 teaspoon dillweed

1 teaspoon lemon juice

1 garlic clove, pressed

In small bow] combine all ingredie
and mix well. Serve with raw veget
bles or chips. Makes 1% cups, about 4
calories per tablespoon.

BRUNCH/LUNCH

LOAF-OF-BREAD SOUFFLE

pictured on page 110

A dynamite idea for a quick bru
entree using plain white bread.

3 tablespoons butter

6 slices firm-textured white bread,
trimmed

3 tablespoons raspberry
or strawberry jam

1 tablespoon Grand Marnier or swee}
sherry

4 eggs, separated

V2 cup confectioners’ sugar

Pinch salt

2 teaspoon vanilla extract (continu

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3 tablespoons flour
Confectioners’ Sugar

Preheat oven to 325°F
baking dish

ter. Add
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Butter a 6-cup
In large skillet melt but-

bread and brown on both

sides. Place 3 slices in baking dish
Spread with jam. Top with remaining
bread: sprinkle with liqueur

In large mixer bowl beat egg whites

until frothy. Add sugar, salt and va-
nilla and beat until soft peaks form
Fold in egg yolks. Sprinkle flour ove
mixture and fold in gently. Spread
over bread slices to edge of dish. Bake
25 minutes or until top ‘is golden
brown. Sprinkle with additional con-

fectioners sugar. Servé Makes 6
servings. about 220 ries eacl

CHOOSE-YOUR-FILLING
ROULADE

pictured on page 111
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V4 cup butter or margarine
2 cup all-purpose flour

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12 cups milk
Y2 teaspoon salt
Ya teaspoon bottled red pepper

sauce

4 eggs, separated and at room

temperature
Spinach, salmon or potato filling

P reheat oven to 400°F. Lightly grease
15%2x10'2-inch jelly-roll pan. Line bot-
tom with wax paper: grease

In 2-quart saucepan melt butter or

margarine. Stir in flour and cook until

smooth, stirring with wire whisk.
about 1 minute. Remove from heat.
Gradually whisk in milk, salt and red
pepper sauce. Cook, stirring con-
stantly. until mixture begins to boil
Remove from heat and stir in egg

volks. Let cool to lukewarm
In large bowl beat egg whites with
mixer on high speed until soft peaks
form. Fold into egg yolk mixture
Spread evenly into prepared pan. Bake
15 20 utes until browned. Imme-
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recipes follow a roll up
towel jellv-roll fashion from

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Salmon filling

1 can (152

drained
cup sour cream
cup frozen peas i
2 tablespoons finely chopped onioj
2 tablespoons chopped parsley
1 tablespoon lemon juice
2 teaspoon grated lemon peel
V4 teaspoon dillweed

oz.) red salmon,

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Spinach fi filling

2 tablespoons butter or margarine |

V4 cup finely chopped onion

2 packages (10 oz. each) chopped
frozen spinach

1 package (3 oz.) cream cheese

Yq teaspoon salt

Ys teaspoon nutmeg

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6 slices bacon, diced

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ing at shortest side of triangle, roll loosely jelly-roll fashion.
Place rolls point side down on an ungreased cookie sheet;
bend into crescent shapes. Bake 15 to 18 minutes. Remove
from pan and drizzle glaze over tops. Makes 8 crescents,
about 250 calories each.

Glaze: In small bowl combine confectioners’ sugar and
pineapple syrup until smooth.

LINGUINE WITH CLAM SAUCE

pictured on page 110

The twist here: Add grated lemon peel to the sauce. If you
don’t have a lemon, use the kind in a jar.

4 cans (61 oz. each) minced-clams

2 tablespoons olive oil

2 tablespoons butter or margarine

2 garlic cloves, finely chopped

2 tablespoons flour

Y4 cup chopped parsley

Y4 teaspoon salt

Y4 teaspoon freshly ground pepper

Y4 teaspoon grated lemon peel

1 pound linguine or other pasta, cooked
Grated Parmesan cheese (optional)

Why do we prefer Post Drain broth from clams; set aside. In saucepan heat oil

and butter or margarine. Add garlic and saute 1 minute.

F to the other bran flake? Sprinkle in flour and cook, stirring constantly, 1 minute.

r Add clam broth, parsley, salt, pepper and lemon peel;
. simmer 10 minutes. Add clams and heat. Toss with
P, cooked pasta. Serve with cheese if desired. Makes 4
| servings, about 615 calories each. (continued)

2 cups frozen hash brown potatoes
| Yq cup frozen diced green pepper

3 tablespoons frozen chopped onion
Yg teaspoon pepper

1 cup shredded Cheddar cheese

In large skillet cook bacon until crisp. Drain on paper
| towels. Remove all but 2 tablespoons drippings from
| skillet. Add frozen potatoes, green pepper, onion and
|, pepper. Cook 20 minutes, stirring occasionally, until po-
tatoes are tender and browned. Toss with bacon and

| Cheddar cheese.

PINEAPPLE CRESCENTS

4 Surprise your neighbor next time she drops in for coffee.
| We keep cream cheese in the freezer and soften it un-

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4 ounces cream cheese, softened

| 2 tablespoons sugar

Y2 teaspoon vanilla extract

| Ye teaspoon nutmeg

1 can (8% oz.) crushed pineapple in heavy syrup
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1 package (8 per package) refrigerated crescent rolls

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} 1¥Y2 to 2 tablespoons pineapple syrup (reserved

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Unroll dough; separate into 8 triangles. Spread about Every morning, it’s Post for us. No other 40%
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continued
GLAZED HAM

pictured on page 110

Keep a small canned ham handy—you
can have a meal for eight in an hour.

1 3-pound canned ham

Y2 cup plum or apricot preserves
3 cup orange juice

Yq teaspoon dry mustard

Y4 teaspoon grated orange peel

Preheat oven to 350°F. Bake ham 45 to 60
minutes. Meanwhile, in small saucepan
combine remaining ingredients. Heat,
stirring, until melted. Brush glaze on
ham every 15 minutes. Makes 8 servings,
about 365 calories each.

ROTELLE WITH RED
PEPPER SAUCE

pictured on page 110

Roasted red peppers, a boon to any
pantry, combine with walnuts (from the
freezer) to make this no-cook sauce.

1 jar (7 0z.) roasted red peppers,
undrained

1 teaspoon oregano

2 garlic cloves, halved

Y2 teaspoon salt

Y2 teaspoon freshly ground pepper

¥3 cup olive oil

¥3 cup walnut pieces

1 pound rotelle or other pasta

Y4 cup grated Parmesan cheese

In food processor or blender combine all
ingredients except rotelle and cheese;
puree. Cook rotelle according to pack-

age directions; drain. Pour sauce ove
rotelle and toss with Parmesan cheese
Makes 4 main-dish or 8 side-dish sery
ings, about 670 calories per 4, 335 calc
ries per 8.

FETTUCCINE CARBONARA

pictured on page 110

Bacon ’n’ eggs pasta—a perennial last
minute favorite.

6 slices bacon, diced

2 garlic cloves, pressed

V4 cup chopped onion

3 eggs

¥4 cup grated Parmesan cheese

V4 teaspoon red pepper flakes

Ye teaspoon freshly ground pepper

1 pound fettucine noodles or other
pasta, cooked

))n medium skillet combine bacon, garlic
ond onion; cook over low heat about 12
) ainutes. Meanwhile, beat eggs in small
ow!. Add cheese, pepper flakes and
\epper. In large bowl toss cooked pasta
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| ggs and toss again. Serve immediately
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Tortilla and/or
potato chips
Assorted pastas
Long-grain rice
Dry-roasted peanuts
Roasted red peppers
Red pepper flakes
Dry mustard
Raspberry or
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Plum preserves
Confectioners’ sugar
Potatoes
Onions
Garlic
Tomatoes

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were limited by the secret police always
hovering in the background, and Lech
rightly suspected the presence of mi-
crophones in the room. But the most
odious experience for a pregnant wom-
an was the body searches conducted be-
fore each visit by callous, cynical mem-
bers of the “zomos” (militiamen).

Although she was comforted by the
presence of her mother and sister,
Danuta was at her lowest during the
week before the baby was born. “We
had enough to live on, thanks to help
from the Church and packages from
abroad, but life without Lech seemed to
be stretching ahead like a succession of
gray days without end,” she remem-
bers. It was her deep faith that pulled
her through this period. “Both Lech
and I were brought up in very religious
families; prayer is a daily habit with
us. I know that Lech likes to converse
with God as if He were a friend; he tells
Him his plans for the day, asks advice;
it is a close, intimate relationship,
which has become essential to his
makeup and adds much to his strength.
I feel the same way, only I am not as
articulate as my husband! I prayed a
lot after Maria-Victoria was born, ask-
ing God to return her father to her.
Then one day I just set a date for her
christening, some way off, the last Sun-
day in November. I just knew that by
then Lech would be back. And so he
was—released in the middle of the
week, on a Wednesday.”

Nothing in her humble childhood and
early youth had prepared Danuta for
such trying experiences. She was born
in a small village in central Poland
into a family of nine children. Her edu-
cation was limited, and at an early age
she had to go to work. When her eldest
sister married and moved to Gdansk,
Danuta decided to try her luck in the
same city. She found a job in a florist’s
shop and likes to tell how one day Lech
Walesa came in “not to buy flowers, but
to get some change for a bus.” They
exchanged a few words, and to her sur-
prise he returned the next day and kept
coming in “again and again.”

Gdansk offered few attractions to a
penniless young couple, but there were
the sea, the beaches and the forest
walks along the seashore. In November
1969, they were married at a local
church; one year later, their first son,
Bogdan, was born. After Bogdan, a
child came every two years—first three
more boys, then three girls. “We were
permanently short of space and kept
moving from one rented room to an-
other. We even lived in a hotel for a
while, then in a tiny apartment on the
outskirts. Four years ago, we-ended up

128

in this place. And after Lech was elec-
ted to head Solidarity, we needed more
space to cope with the endless stream of
visitors,” Danuta says. “His colleagues
from the shipyard took down a wall be-
tween us and the apartment next door,
which gave us two more rooms. Thanks
to Solidarity, the children have sleep-
ing quarters of their own.”

Like her husband. Danuta is com-
pletely committed to Solidarity, the
great civic movement, which, though
now illegal, still enjoys the overwhelm-
ing support of the Polish nation—in-
cluding workers, intellectuals and
peasants. But being connected to Soli-
darity is very risky. The dreaded zomos
keep a constant watch on Walesas
movements, and their hostile sur-

hen we were
in the police
station, thirteen-year-
old Bogdan felt thirsty.
A policeman brought
him a drink. Bogdan
hesitated, then shook
his head. ‘It might be
poisoned, thank you.

I'd better leave it. 99

veillance casts a sinister shadow over
the life of the entire family. It hampers
the normal activities of the day and has
ruined countless social occasions, sum-
mer picnics, and skating expeditions
with the boys. Even christenings and
weddings have become an embarrass-
ment when friends have to submit to
police interrogation after being seen in
the company of the Walesas. “It is like
being weighted down,” remarks one of
Danuta’ friends.

Attacks on the Walesa family aimed
at destroying their popularity reg-
ularly appear in government papers.
Petty harassment never ceases. Danuta

was greatly excited when an anony--

mous German admirer presented the
family with a small Volkswagen bus for
their own use. She took driving lessons
and passed the test. The prospect of
piling seven children into the van and
taking off for the beach seemed like a
miracle. But not for long. The excite-
ment quickly faded when she dis-
covered that the zomos were following
the van everywhere. She was con-
stantly stopped for alleged driving of-
tenses, hauled in for interrogation,
queried about gas coupons. The new

tires developed mysterious puncture
and finally Lech decided that th
could not keep this generous gift. Seve
al months ago, Walesa donated it to t
Church’s Children’s Benevolent Fund.
With conditions what they are in P.
land today, such pinpricks are co
sidered part of the daily pattern of li
and most people shrug them off with
mixture of resignation and contemp
Much worse is the pervading insecuri
that comes from living in a police stat
Lech’s Nobel Prize award, while great
enhancing his stature, has by no me
ensured his personal safety. Mysterio
accidents do happen. And while Le
does have bodyguards who accomp
him to and from work each day, th
are not with him all the time, a
Danuta must fear for her husband's
and indeed her whole familys—safet
She does, however, maintain a bra
front. “I am very, very busy, so I don
have much time to brood over things.
have learned to take every day as
comes,” she explains. “The only times
worry are when I come up against pe
ple’s ill will or their intent to do mi
chief. I find that frightening. I wo
about the consequences it might ha
for all nine of us.”
One of Danuta’s big problems is ho
to secure a normal upbringing for h
children in the general atmosphere
mistrust that prevails outside t
home. Polish children, too, have
learn to cope with life in a police stat
We hear about their feelings from le
ters that have recently drifted fro
Poland to the West. Listen to Ada
aged ten: “Daddy told me to shut ul
and be careful, so I won't tell anyo
anything now, not even what we ha
for supper. He says everything no
must be a secret. Daddy even slee
with his eyes open. | swear it.”
Or Ianek, aged twelve: “Our teache
who is married to a policeman, sai
that during the martial law it is t
children of the policemen who are mo
miserable, because their fathers are o
active service. But I told her that m
little cousins are the most miserab
because my uncle is in prison in Ilaw
My teacher began to shout and told
to shut up or else I, too, would go
prison. And she added that Solidarit
people must be exterminated like tick
Our teacher is a Party Secretary; n
body loves her or even likes her. In o
class, everyone’s parents are in Sol
darity, and it was horrible to hear h
threats. But one day she just stoppe
shouting and burst into tears. . . it w
very strange.”
In thirteen-year-old Bogdan’s clas
the majority of children come from So
idarity, but being older, they’ve alread:
learned how to put up with certai
teachers or classmates. In (continued

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younger boys who
time of Walesa’s
Slawek, Yurek

school, it. is
worry Danuta.
imprisonment, he

and Pshenek were 1ed with ex-
pulsion when their fri: 1ounted an
indignant protest and organized an at-

tack against the sons of Party mem-
bers. In elementary he prob-
lems of a nation were ited to:
“Your father put Yureks lv in
prison, you scoundrel... .”

“T find it terrifying,” says D
“but how do you explain to a six-)
old not to use force when all arow
him in the streets he sees swarms oi
militiamen armed with batons and
ready to pounce on the people?” In
Lech’ss absence, Danuta was _hard-
pressed to deal with her sons’ diffi-

130

culties. “I had to try corporal punish-
ment,” she sighs. “But that seldom
works. It only creates resentment.”
The situation has improved since
Lech’s return, but the effects of a diffi-
cult couple of years have not entirely
disappeared. Bogdan, particularly, has
become introverted and silent. “His fa-
ther’s imprisonment and the constant
surveillance have had an effect upon
him,” says Father Jankowski, the par-
ish priest of the local fourteenth-cen-
tury church of St. Bridget and the Wal-
esas’ family friend.
He told me how, after Danuta’s return
from Oslo, he set off with the Walesas
1 young Bogdan for the Jasna Gora
astery in Czestochowa to deposit the
Peace Prize medal at the shrine of
Our Lady, Poland’s most holy place. “On
our way back we were virtually hounded
by the zc they kept stopping us for

| nary life. It is not normal to have s

| orders,” she says.) And she can’t hel

| his head. ‘It might be poisoned, thank

questioning and document checks, whic
made for a very slow journey. As wi
were sitting in one of their dreary polici
stations, Bogdan complained of feeling
thirsty. A policeman brought him a glas’
of water with ‘sok,’ a kind of fruit juic
Bogdan hesitated a moment, then shool

you. I had better leave it.’ The guar«
shrugged his shoulders; Danuta lookec
away sadly. The drink was probably al!
right, but the incident revealed Bogdan’
troubled young mind. What courag
must a mother possess in order to brin
up children in such circumstances!”

It also must take courage, or, at th
very least, patience, for Danuta to de
with the constant traffic through hej
apartment. For one thing, politics i
not of great interest to her. “I’ve bee
thrown into it. I try to inform myself,
she explains, “but what I want to d
most is to lead a normal, ordinary lif
Sometimes I feel ours is not an ordi

many people around us!” Does she re
sent it? “Has Solidarity ever come be
tween you and Lech?” I ask. “Of course
I long for a normal life, as do mos’
women. And I don’t agree with Lech or
everything, but I share his commit
ment, so I know there have to be sacri
fices—even the children understand.”

And while Danuta was delighte
with the Nobel Prize—“Not so muct
for my sake or the family, but for Po!
land”—she does admit to some misgiv
ings about the increased attention an
publicity. Her first reaction, she says
was to think that there would be eve
more visitors, and “When would I hav
time for the children?”

Then, too, she worries about her hus:
band’s health. (“He has ulcers, anc
ought to take it easy, but he is a diffi:
cult patient and never follows doctors

noticing “those telltale little lines” tha
have recently appeared around her owr
eyes. “I feel very much older, and I’
permanently tired,” she confides. “Peo:
ple ask me what I would do if things
were different. They want to know if |
have a hobby or something I particu:
larly enjoy doing. But all I can think o:
is how nice it would be to take it easy
for three whole days... so that per.
haps I could lie down and relax.” Wit
the memories of Oslo still fresh, Dan-
uta also thinks of traveling more—per-
haps to the United States. “I would love
to go there and see how people live. It
would be wonderful for the boys to have
that opportunity.... But at the mo-
ment, it all seems like a dream.”

Still, despite such longings, Danutz
stands by her husband steadfastly, anc
it’s obvious that theirs is a warm, lov-
ing marriage. Affectionately, she talks
about the private side of Lech. He is not

LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL = JULY 1984

one, she says, to turn away from a fes-
tive occasion. “He likes birthdays and
celebrations,” she laughs, “and you re-
ceive the Nobel Prize only once in a
lifetime, so of course that called for a

celebration!

More seriously, she talks of her re-
spect for him and his abilities. “I am
not afraid of anything my husband
she says firmly. “
believe in fate and pray that everything

might undertake,”

will turn out well.”

Given all their problems, I wonder
whether the Walesas ever considered
leaving Poland. But Danuta is shocked
at the very thought. “Never,” she in-
sists. “Neither Lech nor I would even
contemplate it for a moment. We be-
long here. How could we abandon our
country and the people who depend on
Lech’s leadership? And nothing would
please the government better than to
see all nine of us emigrate; getting rid
of Lech would indeed solve many prob-
lems for them. Oh, no! The Walesas are
definitely staying!” End

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if bewildered by the failure of smoke. “If he asks me, that’s
what I’m going to tell him.”

Abruptly he stands up, moves to the doorway, looks back
at me over his shoulder. He nods and walks out without
another word. I jump up and run over to the door, peer |
down the hall at his shrinking figure. Hey, wait a minute, I
start to call out, but he’s too far away, his stocky, white-
coated figure duck-walking swiftly toward the other end.
But I don’t run after him. In a moment it’s too late; he’s
turned a corner out of sight.

Inthe evening I bring Linnie to see Phil. It’s easier to bring
each child alone; together they are so restless and inquisi-
tive and nervous, constantly interrupting, asking for money
for the candy machine, the coffee shop. They can't stop for
a moment; and yet they always want to come. It is impossi-
. ble for their father and me to carry on a conversation, and
once here, they don’t seem interested in talking to or even
looking at this strange pale daddy who has to lie flat in his
bed so his blood pressure won't rise beyond its present
sufficiently dangerous level, or go so low that he'll pass out
the way he did in the bathroom the other morning.
Tonight David is at a friend’s for supper, so Linnie and |
have come alone. She spends some t
next to Phil, but after
“Mom, can I go to the coffee shop?’
She is so little, only six. “Do you know the way?” I ask
She looks insulted. “Of course. David
there lots of times.”
business, proud of not being a baby anymore. |

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I give her a quarter and she leaves, all

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has not come back. “Where do you suppose Linnie is?” Phil
asks suddenly.

I stand up and glance around the room. “She’s not back
yet?” The stark realization is that we haven't missed her:
we ve been too preoccupied. “Damn. She must have gotten
lost. I'll have to go look for her.”

Phil’ not supposed to get out of bed, but he throws back
the covers. I shake my head. replace them. “It’s all right,
I'll find her. I'll be back,” I say.

I walk down the corridor. The hospital is small, only
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clearings and retchings mount and fill the corridor with
a din that shrinks me to her size, and I feel a sudden urge
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course she would push the button herself and go down: she)
and her brother have done it many times. It is only re-
cently that she has been able to reach it: now she pushes
the button every chance she gets, fighting David for the
privilege: “No, let me.” I step into the elevator, trying to
imagine myself in her place, and press the button marked
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“Have you seen my little girl?” The woman behind the
counter is not the usual one; she doesn’t know me.

“How little?”

“She's six, about this high, light brown hair, brown eyes,
wearing ...” I can’t remember what she is wearing. The
woman behind the counter looks at me with disapproval.
How could I lose a little girl in a place like this and not
remember what she’s wearing?

“Is she a patient?”

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The woman gestures toward the magazine rack. “There
was a little girl over there looking at comics. But that was
a while ago. She bought some gum and left.”

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“Sorry.” She turns away: the coffee shop is closing for the
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interested. She probably blames me for losing my little
girl, for being careless and letting her out of my sight. |
should know better in a place like this. Just then a pleas-
ant voice comes over the intercom. “Visiting hours are now
over. Visiting hours are now over. Thank you.” | go out the
door and down the hall, back the way I came.

And of course I find her. She has gone straight on in-
stead of turning left, taken the wrong elevator—they all
look alike—pressed button 2, and come out in another
country.

She is huddled in the angle of the floor and the wall in
the middle of a corridor that opens off the one Phil’s room
is on. She has been so close all the time, just around the

corner, just out of sight. It was only a question of finding

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the right hallway. As I walk toward her I can see she has
been crying; her cheeks are blotched and streaked. But
she is not crying now. She’s staring straight ahead, her
eyes glazed and hopeless. The only indication of how long
she’s been crying is the slight rhythmic catch that jerks

her rib cage, the trembling of her body as she takes a
breath. She is so quiet, I can see why no one has noticed

her. I have told her and her brother many times that they
must be quiet, they must not bother anyone, or the nurses
won't let them come. And of course she could be anyone’s
child, sent outside to sit in the hall while Mommy and
Daddy say good-bye for the night. I walk up and stand next
to her, and still she does not see me.

“Linnie.”

She looks up, startled, takes one long shuddering breath
and bursts into tears. I kneel down, put my arms around
her and pick her up. She twines her arms and legs around
me the way she did when she was smaller.

“T guess you got lost, huh?”

She nods her head in the hollow of my shoulder, her breath
still catching. I begin to walk with her down the hall toward
the turning that will take us back to Phil’s room.

“But I knew you were lost and I found you, didn’t I?”

Again the little head nods and sighs, her body losing
some of its stiffness against me, for a moment reminding
me of the tiny infant she once was, needing me and
nothing else but air.

Partway down the hall she stiffens again and starts to
wriggle away. “Let me down. I want to walk.” I let her
slither down, but I still hold her hand.

“Don’t tell Daddy I got lost,” she says as we walk along.
The first steps are interrupted by her hiccups, but soon
they too subside. I look down at her; she’s blinking and
wiping her eyes and drying her face. She (continued)

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doesn’t want Phil to know that she’s been
crying. Already she carries with her a
sensitivity about causing other people
pain, feels guilty for not behaving well.
She doesn’t want Daddy to know, doesn’t
want him to think badly of her.

“I won't,” I say. | can’t bring myself to
tell her he already knows. But he will
not be angry or upset when we get
there; he will smile and say casually,
“Hi, there, where’ve you been?” and
that will be that.

Later on after we've come hore and
everyone is asleep, Linnie waxes up in
the night. I hear her calling to me. I

-hurry to her room and she is

her bed, in the angle of the wall <
mattress, her eyes wide and terri‘ied
She’s so shocked, she isn’t even crying.
She reaches out and grabs my <
pulls me toward her like a drowni:
person hauling on a rope. “I dreame
that robbers came and took me awa’
and I got away from them, but I didn’t
know where I was, and you didn’t know
where I was, and I couldn’t get back to
you.” She shuts her eyes and bursts
into sobs, twisting and clutching the
sleeve of my nightgown in her hands. I

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lie down, pulling her next to me, set-
tling her head into the crook of my
arm. As I stroke her hair I say, “If you
were lost, wherever you were in the
whole wide world, I would find you. I
would look and look and look and never
stop until we were together again.”

“But what if you didn’t know I was
lost? What if you thought I had just left
on purpose?”

“How could I not know that you were
lost? I knew you were lost at the hospi-
tal, didn’t I? And that time you got off
the school bus at the wrong stop I knew
right away and came and found you.”

“Uh-huh. But it was long.”

“But I still found you. It seemed long,
but it wasn’t, and I found you and now
we're together again.”

“Uh-huh.” She sighs, and smiles, her
eyes closing. “I'll never leave you,” she
says. Then she turns away on her side,
her head rolling off my arm, and goes
back to sleep.

I lie there for a long while. I think

bout what I’ve said to her and realize
lve repeated almost word for word
vhat I said to Phil that first afternoon
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atter Sam had left, watching his face.
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for the rest of you.” His eyes glaze over
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“This is the worst thing I could have
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I know that /he is thinking about my
father’s death, so long ago now. I was
twelve, my sister and brother six and
five. David is nine, and Linnie is six.

“T just don’t want to leave you,” he
says finally, and then he shuts his eyes.
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that might comfort both of us, I put my
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“You know how I’ve carried my father
all these years.” He nods. “I'll take you
with me just the way I have my father.
You will be with me. You will be with
all of us.”

He shakes his head slightly. “But you
won't be there, and I won’t be here.
We'll be in different countries.”

“You don’t know that. Nobody knows
that. Remember your dream the other
time? If there’s a way to find you, I'll
find you. Wherever you are in that
other country, I'll find you. I don’t care

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how big it is. I'll look and look and
never stop until we’re together again.”

It’s enough. He stares up at me for a
long moment, then sighs and shuts his
eyes again, settles back on the pillow.
He smiles, and his body relaxes slight-
ly. I let out the breath that I have been
holding carefully, so that it will not
sound like a sigh. “And meanwhile, Ill
carry you with me. We all will.”

“T hope so,” he says. I put my cheek
next to his, lean against his chest, wrap
my arms around his shoulders as far as
they will go. He puts his arms around
me. Our cheeks slide back and forth a
little, slippery with tears. It’s an odd
sensation, and I feel Phil’s cheek bunch
into a smile. I smile, too. ’'m thinking
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Somehow I’ve said the right thing, at
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Illinois
Doris Wagner

Mom toa
Thousand

‘Mother’s Day around here is a neat
jay,” says fifty-eight-year-old Doris
Wagner. “There are so many flowers, it
looks like a florist’s shop.”
Doris and her husband, Ralph, take
in foster children. Then they take in
more. And more. To date there have
deen more than a thousand.
Doris and Ralph, a foreman in a sew-
ing-machine factory, started their child-
tare career in a small way: They ap-
dlied to adopt a child when they learned,
after the birth of their daughter Sharon,
"chat Doris could not have any more
} children. Bothered by the amount of

aime the adoption process was taking,
| Doris went to the courthouse to check.
There, she was asked if she would help
ut by taking a homeless little girl.
“We didn’t need a baby,” Doris says.
‘Just someone who needed us.”

One child led to another. Of the hun-
dreds who have passed through their
‘loors, the Wagners have legally adopt-
sed eight. They still hear regularly from
more than five hundred of the children
they have fostered.

Caring for their large family is no
easy task. Doris, Ralph and the kids
grow vegetables in a big garden and
raise steers for their meat. When the
nouse is filled, they do ninety to a hun-
idred loads of laundry a week. But Doris
loesn’t mind. “Locking a child out or
sending him away is the worst thing
you can do to him,” she says. “These
kids need loving strokes, like every-
ody. They need to feel wanted,”

Indiana
Ruth Selkurt

An Inspiration
by Example

‘My greatest satisfaction is in giving
nope to people who are also victims of
tancer,”’ writes Ruth Selkurt. “I let
them know that, with determination, it
tan be overcome and that you can carry
on, if not a normal life, then as normal
1a life as possible.”

Ruth writes these words because can-
“2er—and twenty-two cancer operations
pon her throat and lower face—has left
haer unable to talk. Nevertheless, at
hsixty-nine, she devotes her time to pro-
viding comfort, reassurance and en-
“ouragement to other cancer patients.

“I feel you have two choices,” she says
of her struggle with cancer. “Getting on
top of it, or letting it ruin your life. It’s
a real test of your courage.” And that is
the message she conveys to the patients
at the two hospitals where she volun-
teers her time.

Her methods of communication are
simple and effective. Wherever she
goes, she carries a pad and pencil and
writes out what she has to say. When
she answers the phone, she taps the
pencil three times for yes, once for no.
A recording made by her husband ex-
plains the system to callers who might
be taken by surprise.

In addition to making the rounds,
the recipient of the 1980 Indianapolis
First Volunteer of the Year Award
plans and supervises patient activities,
works at the hospital gift shop and cor-
responds regularly with cancer sur-
vivors in retirement homes.

“People say that my example inspires
them,” she says. “That gives me a sense
of well-being.”

Iowa
Mary Garst

Queen of
Cattle Breeding

Back in the 1950s, Mary Garst was a
typical farm wife who lent a hand with
the work, raised her children and took
care of her busy husband. But some-
where along the line, Mary realized
that she could do more—lots more. At
the age of forty-eight she took over the
family cattle-breeding operation and
proceeded to turn it into “probably the
largest in the Midwest.”

One of her first moves was to’com-
puterize her business. “I’ve tried,” says
the only woman to be named Commer-
cial Cattle Breeder of the Year, “to
identify elements that have economic
significance in cattle breeding.” The re-
sult has been increasingly larger
calves in an industry where the aver-
age weight for calves had remained
about the same for forty years. In fact,
her scientific approach has been so suc-
cessful that universities now consult
her. What’s more, Mary Garst has re-
cently been inducted into the Iowa
Women’s Hall of Fame.

Today, Mary remains one of the few
women cattle breeders in the country.
In addition to managing her operation,
she serves on the board of directors of
several major corporations, and travels
the country lecturing on cattle-breed-
ing techniques and the role of women
in farming. “It’s a tough business,” she

tells farm groups. “Your chances of suc-
cess are enhanced if you believe that
the woman in a farm family can be
more than just the classic ‘farm wife.’
She can take responsibility and be
more than just her husband's helper.”

Kansas

Von Eulert

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KANSAS

Motivated by a desire to find something
challenging to do when her son started
junior high, Von Eulert, now sixty-four,
decided to return to school herself. She
considered a wood-carving course, then
saw an ad that the American Red Cross
had placed, offering to teach volunteers
to make Braille transcriptions. That,
Von thought, sounds more useful.

Thus began a brilliant career that
has changed life for blind people
throughout the nation. For the last
twenty years, Von has vastly extended
the scope and boundaries of Braille
transcription. She puts in fifty to sixty
hours a week at her work—hours for
which she does not charge. “I’m not
paid in money,” says this pioneer in the
field of Braille, “but in the satisfaction I
get from the feeling that I’m doing
something for someone.”

“Doing something” is an understate-
ment. The former teacher has de-
veloped codes to increase the useful-
ness of Braille in mathematics and sci-
ence and has translated advanced texts
in those fields. Now Von, the chairman
of the mathematics committee for the
Braille Authority of North America, is
developing a Braille code that can be
used with computers.

“T believe in improving the quality of
life,’ Von says, “both my own and-that
of others. There are lots and lots of
ways to do it. This is the way I chose.”

Kentucky

Cass Irvin

Crusader for
the Disabled

Cass Irvin has a lot of opinions, and she
would like to pass them on. That’s why
she publishes The Disability Rag.

An irreverent, feisty monthly, The
Rag arose out of Cass’s coming to terms
with her own disability (she has been
in a wheelchair since the age of nine, a
victim of polio) and her desire to raise
the consciousness of other disabled peo-
ple about where they fit into the world.

“Tt’s a civil rights publica-
tion,” explains Cass, thirty-
nine, who along with her edi-
tor funded the publication
for its first four years. “We
discuss issues of the disabled. We want
to get people to start thinking, to listen
to their feelings.”

One of those issues is terminology.

“Thats a problem for the disabled,”

Cass says. “Most words used to describe
us are words we never chose. We don’t
want to be called ‘special.’ Disabled is
the word we prefer. And nondisabled
rather than able-bodied is the word we
use for others. We want to use non-
loaded, factual terms.”

Cass admits that some disabled peo-
ple are not yet ready for the ideas es-
poused by The Rag. “It takes a while,”
Cass says. “It’s hard to have pride in
being something that everyone around
you is telling you that you don’t want to
be. But I know it’s not just okay to be
disabled; I like myself just as I am.

“Many disabled people,” she says,
“are living lives that other people tell
us we're expected to live. I’d like to help
change that. I’d like disabled people to
know that if this way of life is not the
one they want, they can take action.”

Louisiana
Jeanette

Singleton

Insurance
Champion

Jeanette Singleton knows firsthand
that women often get a raw deal when
it comes to medical insurance. After
all, she lost her own health insurance
when her marriage fell apart in its
thirty-sixth year, and with a chroni-
cally ill daughter and a bout with
breast cancer in her own past, she real-
ized that even if she could insure her-
self, the rates would skyrocket.

Something had to be done, she de-
cided, not only for divorced women who
lost their husbands’ company insur-
ance but also for the widowed and the
spouses of the newly retired.

Within a year, Jeanette had been
elected president of the Older Women’s
League—an organization campaigning
for pension and social security re-
form—and was soon pouring her en-
ergy into the health-insurance prob-
lem. The key issue was how insurance
policies could be converted to the wife’s
name following the end of a marriage.
Unfortunately, she found that even
when policies could be converted,
women ended up paying drastically
higher rates.

Jeanette pressured to get a bill in the
Louisiana legislature permitting con-
version at the same rate with the same

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coverage for women until age sixty-five
or remarriage. Finally, a bill was
passed providing continued health-in-
surance coverage at the same rate for
widowed spouses, and Jeanette hopes
that legislation covering divorcées and
spouses of retirees will be next.

Maine
Lucy Poulin

Homespun
Industrialist

One day in 1970, a friend came to Lucy
Poulin sick with worry over the hope-
lessness of her financial state. “What
will I do for money?” she asked de-
spairingly. Lucy thought a moment and
answered, “Let's sell your quilts.”

From that beginning has grown
Homeworkers Organized for More Em-
ployment, Inc., a crafts cooperative
with over five hundred members in one
of the poorest states in the country.
“Many of the elderly in Maine are
struggling today because of changes in
the economy,” says Lucy.

A former maid, Lucy formed H.O.M.E.
in an old farmhouse. Sales of quilts,
afghans, toys and mittens—“the sorts
of things people always make in their
own homes’—grew so brisk that she
soon found herself gathering helpers
and mailing checks to workers on a
regular basis.

H.O.M.E. has since grown to include
crafts classes and workshops as well as
literacy classes after Lucy learned that
some of the members were unable to
read the simple pattern instructions.
Participants are even starting to ex-
pand their skills into bigger projects.
They have made greenhouses, a shingle
mill and a sawmill and are now build-
ing homes on a cooperative basis for
residents of the community.

With its myriad activities, H.O.M.E.
remains a simple operation. Lucy,
forty-four, is its president, but she still
does the dump run once a week; as well
as other menial chores. “We're too near
to a struggle for survival up here to
bother with bureaucracy,” she explains.

Maryland

Fran Hviding

Battler for
Victims’ Rights

“When your children go out,” says Fran
Hviding, cofounder of the Maryland
Coalition Against Crime, “you remind

You don’t think to say, ‘Don't ‘
get murdered.’ ”

Fran's son, Stephen, died
one Sunday morning in 1981. The twenty.
two-year-old had gotten up early tc open'
the family sporting-goods store in subur:
ban Baltimore. As he stood at the coun.
ter, he was shot six times by a robber.

When Fran, now fifty, learned that
her son’s murderer was out on earl
parole from other vicious crimes when
he killed her son, she made up he
mind that she could not simply wallow
in her own misery. It’s too late for us
she thought, but something has to be
done for the sake of others.

With other family members of mur.
der victims, and interested citizens
Fran formed a coalition. Within a short
time their efforts began to pay of
A new police crime-fighting program
called COPE was set up, and victims
were finally permitted to include in
their court testimony explanations of
how a crime had affected their lives. ©

Today, in public meetings, speeches
letter-writing and lobbying campaigns
and media appearances, Fran and fel
low members of COPE continue ta
work toward stiffer penalties for repeat
offenders, increased police protection
and victims’ rights.

“What’s happening in our communi
ties is an abomination,” she says
“Eventually, it’s going to get better. It
just has to.”

-.. Massachusetts
Marie Balter

A Determined

A es SEIS Survivor
If one woman can give hope to mental]
patients today, it is Marie Balter. For, a
one time, this fifty-three-year-old was
severely psychotic herself. By age
thirty she had spent more time in men.
tal hospitals than out. Today, because oj
her determination to get well, she is 4
highly respected professional. Super
visor of the Northeastern Family Insti
tute, a private mental-health agency,
and a former consultant to the state
commissioner of the Department o
Mental Health, she devotes herself tc
improving life for the mentally ill.
Perhaps’ she works so hard becaus
she has never forgotten how they feel!
At the depths of her illness, Marie re-
members hallucinations—“all the colors
psychedelic, all the faces monstrous.”
That Marie was able to overcome her
illness is a tribute to her strength of
mind. Vowing to dedicate herself
those left behind, she completed college
and became a social worker at the hos+

Since Pier Roernts the sudden death
ty of her husband and her own bout with
: ancer, she has gone on to even greater
id) triumphs, receiving a master’s degree
from Harvard University in addition to
a) be ecoming a well-known lecturer on
ur ental health. In her current position,
she is in charge of five community pro-
grams, including a transitional resi-
mce for former mental patients, a
social drop-in center and a rehabil-
ation program. “I want to use my life,
the pain and sorrow, for the benefit
others,” she says.

Michigan
Helen Jean Guercio

Battling
Moral Bankruptcy

As a legal secretary for forty-four
rears, Helen Jean Guercio learned a
'great deal about the business of law. So
when she went to work in 1979 at the
United States Bankruptcy Court, Sixth
Judicial District, in Detroit, she soon
‘realized that something was wrong.
“Bankruptcy court was a cesspool,”
‘recalis the woman who cleaned it up.
_ Before she was through, the secre-
ary would uncover sex scandals and
_| bribery. People would be fired, indicted
it!and convicted, and her life would be

8 eatened more than once. “It was
It). scary as hell,” says Helen, aged sixty. “I
‘was alone.”

_ Helen’s doubts were first aroused
when she heard rumors of enormous
fees going to certain judges and noticed

daunted, she carried her complaint to
‘Washington, and the FBI was called in.
- Documenting charges and trying to
‘hold on to her job, Helen endured a
‘Merve-racking several years. Finally, a
sweep resulting from her work cleaned
‘the court of much of its personnel. “It
turned out that lots of people, really a
of people, knew all about this, but
they all said, ‘’'m just one person. What
can I do?”

tp} | “Well,” says Helen, who has decided
enter law school in the fall, “I’m just
g | One person, too.”

Minnesota
Marie Sandvik

Skid Row
Missionary

Tt was long ago that Marie Sandvik,
eighty-one, was a hungry immigrant

herself—long ago when she wandered
the streets of Minneapolis without
money or friends. But Marie never for-
got. “I must come back here and start a
place where people can come,” she de-
cided many years ago.

And come back she did. After work-
ing her way through college, graduat-
ing from seminary, conducting chil-
dren’s crusades in California, bringing
food to starving miners in Idaho, she
walked onto the worst skid row in Min-
neapolis, rented an abandoned bar un-
der a flophouse and put up a sign an-
nouncing “Gospel Service Tonight.”
Her first audience consisted of two hun-
dred drunks and thirty prostitutes.

That was forty years ago. Today the
Marie Sandvik Center continues an
unbroken record of feeding, clothing,
housing and giving comfort to thou-
sands of men, women and children in
Minneapolis who are poor and needy.

“We have opened a shelter for home-
less women, the bag ladies,” Marie re-
ports. “Last Christmas, over fourteen
hundred people, including seven hun-
dred children, attended a party with
food and gifts for all. We distribute
quilts, layettes, food bags. . . . But most
important, the center is a place where
people can come and feel at home.

“Someone will talk to them. Someone
will care,” Marie says. “I’m not old, but
when I’m gone, Id like people to say
that I was good to the poor.”

Mississippi

Carlette Hines

A Fighter
for Children

Carlette Hines, whose daughter, Jenny,
died of leukemia when she was five, has
for years been helping children strick-
en by cancer. Her involvement began
when she and her family moved to Mis-
Sissippi and discovered that the state
had no support groups, and that the
children’s cancer program simply did
not have enough equipment and per-
sonnel—children were having to wait
for the chemotherapy treatments they
vitally needed.

Carlette started a Candlelighters
group to give emotional support to par-
ents of children with cancer. She then
used it as a springboard to begin rais-
ing money to improve medical and sup-
port services for young cancer patients.
In addition, Carlette, now thirty-six,
and the other parents in her group set
up two apartments, stocked with sup-
plies, for families who had to travel
long distances to the hospital. Under
her direction, the group also began to
raise money for wheelchairs, prosthe-
ses, crutches and other medical sup-

‘vitally important.

plies for families who couldn’t afford

this essential equipment.

All of these services were, and are,
“Our patient load
grew so rapidly that we simply could
not have handled their care with the
one nurse we had,” says Jeanette
Pullen, director of the Children’s Can-
cer Program, which serves four states.
“We weren’t sure what we were going to
do until Carlette’s group did something
about it. They are invaluable.”

Missouri
Bertha Gilkey

A Transformer
of Tenements

There is no reason that public housing
has to be unattractive and institu-
tional, thought Bertha Gilkey, a young
woman who grew up poor herself. If
people had pride in themselves and in
their community, she knew the be-
draggled project where she had lived
since she was a teenager could be
turned into a bastion of hope and
creativity. “There’s nothing wrong with
being poor,” she says, “or with living in
public housing. What is wrong is
dumping trash out of windows, dealing
drugs, victimizing each other.”

Now thirty-five, Bertha has trans-
formed a neighborhood overrun with
drug pushers and rats, with garbage
heaps and abandoned units, into a
model community. Today, her public-
housing complex, Cochran Gardens, is
so pleasant to live in that urban planners
come from all over the United States,
Great Britain and Israel to copy it.

How did she do it? By mobilizing the
community, Bertha explains. Calling
on her long-time friends, she organized
crackdowns on drugs, truancy and
gang warfare. She pulled tenants into
cleanup crews. She started day-care
centers. In 1976, Bertha and her neigh-
bors set up their own apartment man-
agement agency—she has served as its
president ever since.

Her success has expanded into other
public projects in the city and plans are
in the works for new buildings and a
shopping mall. “The difference is really
something to see,” says Bertha.

Montana
Nancy Pasha

All-Around
Rescuer

Whenever they need help, people from
the wilderness area around the Big
Blackfoot River call on nurse Nancy
Pasha. They come to her about injured
animals, victims of heart attacks and

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highway accidents. She’s de-
livered babies and birthed
calves. Sometimes she gets
paid for the work she does;
often she does not.

She is responsible for saving more
than one life. There was a rodeo rider,
“a kid I'd watched grow up,” Nancy ex-
plains. In a roping contest, the seven-

- teen-year-old collided with a bull's

head and aspirated a chew of tobacco.
“Everyone thought he was dead,” she
recalls. With equipment in the bag she
carries everywhere, Nancy performed a
tracheotomy so he could breathe, then
resuscitated him. “He’s doing real well
now,” she says. “He’s fine.”

She was also there to give first aid to
a young child pinned under a car. “ ‘My
name’s Nancy,’ I told him, though I
wasn’t sure he was alive. ‘I’m a nurse.’ ”
While others lifted the car off the boy’s
fragile chest, Nancy lay beside him on
the icy highway under the big Montana
sky, warming him with her body and
praying. Finally, she heard a tiny voice.
“Nancy nurse,” he said, “I so hungry.”

Remembering that emotional eve-

ning through her tears, Nancy, forty-

one, sums up her strong feelings about
the work she does free of charge.
“What's money,” she exclaims, “when
that little boy is alive today.”

Nebraska
Lola Leu

An Uncommon
Cowgirl

You have to fight a lot of stereotypes to
become a woman rancher—especially
when you start out in a drought in the
midst of the Depression with only a
tiny plot of land and a tar-paper shack.

But Lola Leu, now seventy-four, was
determined. While other well-estab-
lished ranches were collapsing around
her, she kept herself going through the
difficult 1930s with little money but
lots of dreams. “My family said I was
crazy,” she recalls. “They said this was
no life for a girl. I decided to show ’em.”

Indeed, Lola did show just about ev-
eryone. Although she began with only
one team of mules, one milk cow and
ten chickens, with lots of backbreaking
work and long hours she was able to
expand her holdings enormously. To-
day, she owns 11,520 acres, a big ranch
for her part of Nebraska, and one of the
few anywhere that a lone woman has
built up from scratch.

Through the years, Lola has also
been active in conservation and she has
raised and educated six foster children.
In her lifetime, she has seen “the tele-
phone and the airplane come. I’ve seen
the highways built.” But while the

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world has changed around her, Lola’s
views on what’s important have not. “I
grew up on these plains,” she says. “I
love to stand out there and see the wind
making an ocean of the prairie grass.”

Nevada

Nancy Laird
Wildlife Healer

Nancy Laird’s garage hasn’t seen a car
since she moved to Nevada’s Washoe
Valley in 1974 with her two daughters.
Instead, the garage is an intermediate-
care facility for birds. Recuperating pa-
tients wander about in pens in the
yard. The more seriously ill birds—re-
covering from surgery or in shock—
rest in incubators in her living room.
And at one time or another, mountain
lions, deer, bobcats, coyotes and even a
beaver have shared her house.

It all started, Nancy remembers,
with a small, starving male sparrow
hawk someone had found. Soon, the
word traveled: Bring wild creatures to
Nancy Laird; she’s a nurse.

To aid her work, Nancy founded WAIF,
Wild Animal Infirmary for Nevada, a
nonprofit, tax-exempt, charitable cor-
poration. Department of Forestry and
Humane Society officials bring her ani-
mals, and area veterinarians help out
with diagnoses, surgery and other
treatments. But it is Nancy and her
two daughters, Laurie and Heidi, who
do most of the work.

“It’s exhilarating to take in an ani-
mal that’s badly injured, to see it get
well, and finally to release it back to
the wild,’ Nancy explains. “If you’ve
ever watched a bird soar off after it’s had
two broken wings, you never forget it.”

New
Hampshire

Helen Jobin

Anti-Drug
Activist

Many parents bemoan the drug situa-
tion in their children’s schools. But one
mother in Dover, New Hampshire, de-
cided to do something about it. “I don’t
believe you can take a defeatist atti-
tude,” says Helen Jobin, who decided to
take action after a party several years
ago when she heard one too many ter-
rifying stories from friends about the
local drug culture.

Helen began a five-week parent-
awareness course, and by the fifth

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Within a year of the start of|
her campaign, New Hamp-
shire became one of the first
states to pass legislation
banning the sale of drug parapher-
nalia. But Helen wanted to do more.

“You have to get the kids to see that
life is fun without drugs,” she says. So
Helen arranged a drug- and alcohol-
free dinner dance for the local high
school kids to replace the rowdy parties
of past graduations. The evening was so
popular that it was expanded into a
regular twice-weekly event, with a
juice bar, a dress code and prizes for
dancing. Other communities have be-
gun to copy the successful formula.

Helen continues to campaign, and
she says to her community, “What good
is anything if you don’t do something
for your future?”

_ New dersey
Hilda Hidalgo

A Master of
Education

Hilda Hidalgo knows that a person’s
potential isn’t always measured by de-
grees. That’s what makes her innova-
tive program to train Hispanic social
workers so special—participants are
accepted regardless of their educa-
tional background. The point, says Hil-
da, is “to establish a network of prob-
lem solvers to make a dent” in the
many problems of local Hispanics.

This year the first class will graduate
from Rutgers University. “That means
twenty-one people with master’s de-
grees,” Hilda says proudly. “Usually it
takes many years to graduate that
many Hispanics.” Her social workers
will be dealing with migrant laborers
who move into the cities and find atro-
cious housing, unemployment, drugs
and health and education problems.

Hilda’s commitment to her people
was first sparked by an experience she
had years ago in a dusty Texas town.
She had stopped in at a diner for a soft
drink when she saw a sign, “No Nig-
gers, no Chicanos, no Bitches.”

“T thought about what that sort of prej-
udice was doing to me and to other
people,” she says. Now, at fifty-five, Hilda
is helping to build a different world. a

New Mexico
Anne Beckman

Employer -
ofthe Elderly

Anne Beckman was a widow running a
recreation center for the elderly in Albu-
querque when she realized that what

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People couldn’t manage on their retire-
ment income.”
At the time, Anne was almost sixty. “I
knew there was nothing wrong with
.” she says. “I was willing to work. I
knew the others were, too.”

Today, at seventy-six, she is the
founder and sole proprietor of Rent-A-

ranny, a nonprofit employment agency

for people over the age of fifty-five. Her

cross-indexed files contain names of re-
t| tired doctors, lawyers, craftspeople,
»| tradesmen, laborers, handymen and of-

ce workers. “You name it,” Anne says,

4} “I've got it. All I have to do is look
4| through my files and I can find some-
z| one to do anything.”

Calls come into her home office,
where she works with three part-time
volunteers. Rent-A-Granny callers, in

ddition to looking for people to fill
full-time jobs, seek temporary help for
ard-cleaning, house-sitting and child
care. “The one thing I won’t do is find
‘baby-sitters’ for elderly people,” Anne
says. “The elderly don’t need sitters.
ey need companions.”
- Her Rent-A-Granny model, Anne be-
lieves, would be just as successful any-
_where in the country. “It simply needs
someone to do it.”

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s| the lives of babies born addicted to the

egal drugs their mothers used.
Her involvement dates back to a day
ourteen years ago when her daughter
spotted a young heroin addict on a New
ork City street holding a baby so
oosely it was about to slide into the
gutter. She promptly brought the baby
home to Clara.
t|' Today, Clara has cared for over five
s} hundred such infants. “They are piti-
ful,” she says. “They draw themselves
up with terrible cramps and pains,
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love. “I walk the floor with them, rock.
them, talk to them. That agony dimin-
ishes day by day, and within a month,
it’s completely gone.”

_ Now, she and her daughter work out
of a house in Harlem that they bought

and renovated with the help of a grant,
and the babies who come to “Hale
House” today are sent by hospitals and
drug-rehabilitation programs. What
hasn’t changed is the love Clara gives
—to her new babies or to the original
group of children who now come back to
visit their Mommy Hale.

North
Carolina

Arlinda Locklear

Advocate for
Indian Rights

In December of 1983, attorney Arlinda
Locklear stood up to argue a complex
legal dispute. She won it. Back home,
the Lumbee tribe of North Carolina
sang with joy that their daughter
had become the first Indian woman
to appear before the United States
Supreme Court.

From the time she was twelve years
old, Arlinda knew she wanted to be a

lawyer. By then she had seen her fam-

ily and her people discriminated
against in land cases and in broken
treaties. “The only way to whip dis-
crimination is to know how the system
works,” Arlinda says.

Upon graduation from law school, she
turned down job offers at twice the sal-
ary, opting instead to work for the Na-
tive American Rights Fund, a private,
nonprofit law firm that represents
tribes and individuals throughout the
country. In her years there, she has
broken new legal ground for her people.

“T stand with a foot in two cultures,”

_Arlinda, thirty-two, says. “I’m not like

everyone at home anymore, but I’m not
completely comfortable in the non-In-
dian world.” Still, she knows who, and
what, she is. While explaining that she
is her parents’ only child, she adds, “I
define my family the way Indians do. I
am part of a very large family.”

North
Dakota

Anne-Marit
Bergstrom

Cultural Crusader

Devil’s Lake is a small town located in
a sparsely populated part of North Da-
kota. Yet in spite of its size—popula-
tion 7,500—and its remote location, it
boasts a range of cultural activities
usually found only in the biggest cities.
This hasn’t always been so, however,
and Anne-Marit Bergstrom, forty-six,
is responsible for the change.

“People respond to quality,” says the
former lyric soprano whose glittering
career took her to New York City’s Car-
negie Hall. “If you give them more than
they realize they want, they will

become educated to want the best.”

With that in mind, Anne-Marit
founded the Arts and Humanities
Council and based it in her hometown
of Devil's Lake. Soon, an increasingly
impressive array of activities was
launched, which today includes: Artists
in the Schools, Classic Cinema Series,
Community Orchestra, a theater and
ballet company . . . the list goes on and
on. And the Council has raised funds to
bring in prestigious performers and
artists like the Vienna Boys Choir and
the Juilliard String Quartet.

The cultural program has been a suc-
cess with area residents. “We have had
folks come from sixty miles away when
it’s thirty degrees below,” Anne-Marit
says. “People need enrichment just as a
plant needs water.”

Ohio

Dorothy Fuldheim

First Lady
of Television

Her career spans five decades, but Dor-
othy Fuldheim, a television news ana-
lyst, has racked up enough accomplish-
ments to fill a century. Over the years,
she has interviewed Helen Keller, Al-
bert Einstein, the Duke of Windsor, all
the U.S. presidents, even Adolf Hitler
and Albert Speer, and just about every
other major news figure. Her journal-
ism kudos include the prestigious
Overseas Press Club Award. And she
counts among her news scoops her
story on the brainwashing of American
servicemen by the Chinese—she was
the first to report it.

At ninety-one, Dorothy is still giving
twice-daily commentaries and inter-
views on Clevelands WEWS station.
Her philosophy of journalism? “I try to
be helpful,” she says. “People are curi-
ous about how events will affect them. I
try to interpret what the economy,
technological changes and other issues
mean to people.”

To anyone who knows Dorothy, it is
no surprise that she has recently
signed a new contract that will keep
her working through the age of ninety-
three. And after that, who knows? “Life
is made up of a certain number of ago-
nies and a certain number of tri-
umphs,” she says. “Some people have
no triumphs. I’ve been lucky.”

Oklahoma

Martha King
A Good Neighbor

Back in 1969, quite a few people in
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nization was a good idea, but
no one did anything about it.
“Tt do things impulsively,”
Martha King says, “so I said,
Tll do it.” Today her agency helps
more than a thousand families a month
—whether they need groceries, a ride
to the doctor's office or legal counsel. In
one case, Martha raised several thou-
sand dollars for a family facing fore-
closure on their home because of loss of
employment. “Now,” she says, “they’re
back on their feet and regularly con-
tribute to Neighbor For Neighbor.”

Of all the people she’s helped, she
was most touched by a man who came
into the office recently with a $100 bill
in his hand. “He explained that he was
a recovering alcoholic,” Martha, forty-
nine, says. “He told me, ‘Nine years
ago, I needed groceries and you helped
me.’ For all that time, we didn’t even
know we'd had any impact on him.
When he donated the money he was
living in a tin shack, and he had worked
for two weeks to get that money.

“It’s that kind of spirit,’ Martha says,
“that restores your faith in humanity.”
That’s the spirit behind Martha King
and Neighbor For Neighbor.

Oregon

Bonnie Hill

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Environmental
Watchdog

Bonnie Hill lives with her husband and
four children in an Oregon valley sur-
rounded by wooded hills. There would
have been a fifth child, but she miscar-
ried one spring in the mid-1970s. Soon
after, she began to hear stories from
neighbors and former students about
their miscarriages, which also seemed
to be occurring in the spring. Thus be-
gan a trail of clues that would lead

the thirty-eight-year-old high school _

teacher to Washington, D.C., and result
in the suspension of a deadly herbicide
containing dioxin.

Bonnie happened on her first con-
crete lead—a research report linking
spontaneous abortions in rhesus mon-

_keys with dioxin, a contaminant found

in a certain herbicide—by chance. The
herbicide was the same one used on the
Oregon forests each spring.

Bonnie began to investigate, and her
work paid off. Spurred by her data, the
Environmental Protection Agency be-
gan to study the problem. Shortly there-
after, Bonnie testified at a federal hear-
ing, which resulted in the temporary
ban of the herbicide. As we went to
press, cancellation hearings were ex-

- pected to produce a permanent ban.

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| Pennsylvania
_ Deborah Wolff

Matchmaker
with a Mission

Deborah Wolff was a Philadelphia high
school teacher in 1965, and her hus-
band, Morris, an assistant district at-
torney. “My husband would come home
depressed about young kids who had
committed a first felony and were being
sent to detention centers,” she recalls.
He knew that incarceration meant
“they were almost certain to become
career criminals. He asked me to figure
out what to do.”

Debby’s solution was Take-A-Brother.
Her idea was to pair strong, older, ex-
emplary boys, like the ones she was
teaching in her high school American
government classes, with the young

first offenders. Debby, now forty-four,

drew up plans involving five pilot
schools. The program—which she and
her husband financed themselves—ex-
panded rapidly. “There was no incen-
tive for the older boys except the
chance to help someone,” Debby says,
“but they stayed with it. The pairs of
boys get together at least twice a week.
The younger boys almost become mem-
bers of the older boys’ families.”

Since starting Take-A-Brother, Deb-
by has become a mother of two, and a

lawyer. She often runs into her “boys,”

now grown, who tell her how important
the program was to them. In fact, some
of the younger ones have grown up to
become older brothers themselves.

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Joan Miele

M.D. Who Makes
House Calls

“All my life I wanted to do something
for other people,” Joan Miele says. But
for years, this tenth-grade dropout had
to concentrate on keeping food on the
table. She worked as a jewelry sales-
clerk and as a waitress. Then she
landed a job as a hairdresser. “The cus-
tomers were. always complaining about
their doctors,” recalls Joan, who had
married by then and had one child. “I
was so naive, I thought, ‘Gee, I could be
a doctor and treat people well.’ ”

The road was long and formidable.
She finished high school, then com-

pleted four years of co college in

three, working all the time |
and caring for her daughter.
When she was ready for med-
ical school, she discovered
that people over twenty-seven were not
encouraged to apply. Undaunted, she
flew to Mexico with her daughter,
finished medical school there, did an
internship-in Texas and a residency in
California, then came back to her home
and husband in Rhode Island.

Today, Joan, forty, keeps her office
open seven days a week. She makes
house calls and takes as long as her
patients need. But, she says, “the best
part of my life is seeing what my suc-
cess means to neighborhood kids. They
know that if I made it, they can, too.”

S * South

Carolina
Agatha Burgess
A Cook
for the Poor

Agatha Burgess cooks. All day, every
day except Saturday. She’s up by five,
pops the biscuits in the oven, checks
the turkeys and then starts the pies. ©

Who is eighty-one-year-old Agatha
cooking for? The shut-ins_and the hun-
gry of Buffalo, South Carolina. Why?
Because someone has to.

“Tve cooked country cooking ever
since I was a tiny little girl,” says
Agatha. “We were poor people, but we
grew our own vegetables and cured
sausages in the smokehouse.”

After thirty-four years as a machine
operator in a textile plant, Agatha re-
tired. But her well-known cooking was
such a draw that people would ask her
to prepare special meals for those in
need. Often, in fact, they didn’t even
have to ask. Agatha would just cook. “I
have a lot of love to give,” she says.

Today, Agatha accepts up to three
dollars for the meals served in her cozy
kitchen, but she still feeds all those
who cannot afford to pay. Indeed, she
gives away dozens of meals a week—
many to people who are confined to
their homes. To Agatha, this work
brings its own reward. “A lot of people
sit down and cry at night because some-
one’s been mean to them,” she says. “I
sit down and cry at night because peo-
ple are so good to me.”

South
Dakota

Phyllis
Old Dog Cross

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Phyllis 0) Old Dos Cross remembers the

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fine red flags on "hee tribal land,
he site for a new dam. Most vivid of all
is the memory of the relocation of her
family, when “everything we had was
flooded out.” The experience taught her
a lesson. “I learned,” she says, “the pow-
er of the government.”
The oldest of ten, Phyllis would one
y leave the reservation, get an educa-
ion (including nursing school, college
d graduate school) and join that gov-
rmment. Then, homesick and search-
ing for values, she would go back to
help her people. “I suddenly saw,” she
‘says, “that Indians were still being op-
ppressed, still being treated unfairly.”

Since then, her efforts on behalf of
Ber people have been monumental. She

elps battered wives and fights against

e high unemployment and alcohol-

that plague Indian families. She is
naps proudest of InMed, a program
she helped found that in ten years has
turned out over forty Indian physicians.

She lives quietly, trying not to rely

on technology and staying close to the
and. There’s no question that her an-
cestors would be proud.

Tennessee
Vicki Ventimiglia
Friend of
the Court

When a child gets in trouble with the
juvenile court in Henry County, the ex-
perience can turn his whole life

around. That’s because of Vicki Ven-
Remiglia, a woman who puts troubled
‘kids to work through her Center for
Activities and Public Service (CAPS).

Vicki, the wife of the local juvenile
court judge, saw the need for this pro-

‘gram when her husband began sen-

_tencing some youths to public service
activities. “They were sweeping the

‘courtroom, things like that,” says

Vicki. “Not really helping anybody.”

_ Vicki decided that through CAPS she
would find a way for these young people
to be really useful. One of her first
projects was having them plant a ter-
raced garden in the center of Paris,

Tennessee, “just for people to enjoy.”
F From there, she moved them to a local

' nursing home, where they also put ina
garden. “We had forty people in wheel-
_ chairs telling the kids how to plant

_ peas and beans,” she says. “Everybody

lly enjoyed it.”
_ Even after CAPS kids have worked

bee their public service hours, many

keep coming around, because “they’ve
_ learned to love helping people.
“T think the world of these kids,”

Vicki says emphatically. And they

ink the world of her.

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_ Texas
Guadalupe
Quintanilla

Diplomat of
the Streets

It’s a long way from fourth-grade drop-
out to university administrator—even
longer when you can’t read the signs
along the way because you don’t speak
the language. Guadalupe Quintanilla
not only made the journey, but once she
got there she used her experiences to
help break down barriers between the
Houston police and her people.

A native of Mexico, at age nine Lupe
was rated as having an IQ of 64 and was
placed in a slow-learners class in a
Texas school because she couldn’t un-
derstand the questions on an IQ test.
Lupe finally learned English when her
three children began to experience the
same frustrations she had encountered.
Determined to help them, she got a
high school equivalency certificate and
was allowed to enroll, provisionally, in
college. She soaked up the language
and lessons like a sponge. Today she
holds a Ph.D. and serves as assistant
provost of Houston University.

Her cross-cultural program was de-
veloped for the Houston police to avert
the tragedies that were occurring be-
cause officers didn’t understand the
people. Pointing out that Spanish dic-
tionaries teach formal terms, but that
police hear street talk, Lupe developed
a training session to teach officers the
words and customs they are likely to
encounter in Hispanic neighborhoods.
“ve worked hard,” Lupe, forty-six,
says, “to deserve the respect of my com-
munity. I like to think that now I can
open doors for others.”

| Deanna Edwards

Musical
Missionary

Deanna Edwards believes in music.
She has sung to the sick, the lonely, the
dying, and she has learned that “songs
can bridge the gap between people.”
Through her own feelings of home-
sickness Deanna discovered what her
music could convey. Temporarily living
in Illinois with her husband and sons,
she missed her Utah home. “I wanted
to reach out,” she recalls, “but was
afraid to.” A friend coaxed her into vol-
unteering at a local hospital, where an
elderly patient recited for her a poig-
nant poem about loneliness. “It rang a
bell in my heart,” says Deanna, forty-
one, who suddenly saw the old man’s
need to express how he felt. The next

time she went to the hospital, she
brought her guitar. Her songs brought
tears of understanding to the eyes of
her patients. From then on her music
“became a mission.” She began to write
songs to fit many emotions and situa-
tions—from the feelings of an old per-
son not invited to a Thanksgiving din-
ner to the pain of losing a loved one.

Now back in Utah, Deanna travels to
hospitals and nursing homes to sing her
songs. “Although I recorded them, you’ll
never hear my songs in the top forty,”
she says. But to the people touched by
Deanna Edwards’ music, those songs are
the sweetest sounds.

Vermont
Sarah Alden

Gannett

Helper to the
Handicapped

“Imagine,” says Sarah Alden Gannett,
“never going out for a meal or a visit
with a friend or taking a vacation.
Imagine having no time for yourself,
your other children or your husband.”

This, she realized, is too often the
case for the parent of a severely handi-
capped child. So last year, with the help
of friends, the sixty-three-year-old
mother of three opened the Children’s
Country Inn of Brattleboro. “Respite
care gives parents a breather,” says Al-
den, “a way to have some normalcy.”

Alden, whose husband is a state sen-
ator, had long been active in the com-
munity when she walked into an
agency that worked with children who
had severe developmental problems.
She came “just to help.” Next thing she
knew, “I was on the board.”

When a Victorian house next door to
the agency came on the market, Alden
snatched it up. “From there on,” she
says, “it was a lot of work and a lot of
pleasure.” The inn today has space for
children from infancy through eight
years of age, for periods of an hour to
two weeks. It has medical facilities but
remains homelike. “Its the way I
wanted it,” Alden says, “cheerful and
welcoming. It’s hard for these parents
to leave their children. I want them to
feel good about it.”

Virginia
_ Esther Schaeffer

A Voice for
the Deaf

All her life, Esther Schaeffer, forty-one,
has worked with the deaf and had deaf
friends. For years she made phone calls
for them “to the doctor or the mechan-
ic,” but it struck her that something
more needed to be done.

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With that thought, Esther worked
out the technology to put together Tele-
communications Exchange for the
Deaf, or TEDI. The, exchange makes
use of a device with a typewriter-like
keyboard and a screen on which the
deaf person types his message. When
that message reaches Esther (or an-
other volunteer) she relays it elsewhere

-by voice, thus vastly increasing the

number of places a deaf person can
reach by phone. No longer must the
deaf limit their calls to people who
have the necessary equipment to com-
municate with them.

At great financial sacrifice, Esther
has quit her job and expanded TEDI.
The service now handles seven thou-
sand calls a month and more than 150
volunteers contribute their time to it.
They have made calls to thrilled new
grandmothers, conducted arguments,
ordered pizzas and even delivered mar-
riage proposals. “This is not just a hot-
line,” Esther says. “We deal here in all
the big and small dramas of life.”

The future for such a service is limit-
less. “We’ve only scratched the sur-
face,” Esther says. “All I want is for the
deaf to be able to make a phone call.”

Washington
Ethel Gould

Friend to
New Americans

“The Hmong,” reports Ethel Gould,
seventy-three, “are still afraid to go
near the woods. They remember Com-
munists coming out of the forests at
home.” For the Hmong people, newly
arrived in the state of Washington from
the mountains of Laos, Ethel has been
a friend. She met them through her
church before they had learned any En-
glish, but she found it easy to reach out
to them. “Their hearts,” she says, “are
open to Americans. They’ve been
through so much and they’re grateful
for everything.”

Without Ethel’s help, adjusting to a
bewilderingly different culture would
be nearly impossible for the Hmong
families, since their own culture is

quite primitive. (They have had written
~language for a mere thirty years.)

Ethel, a retired teacher, not only helped
them to learn English, but also showed
them how to shop, clean, cook, drive
and use the telephone. “Everything you
do without even thinking, they have
had to learn to do,” she explains.

Ethel sees in the thousand Hmong
people in her area an eagerness to
learn and a tenacity that constantly
impresses her. And with her help, they
have already achieved some of the first
steps in the long climb that so many

other immigrants have made. They
have learned that the word “Hmong”
translated into English means free.

West
Virginia

Helen Powell

Coal Miner’s
Daughter

Houses in a coal mining camp are close
together, like the people. As a child,
Helen Powell would listen at night as
the man next door coughed and gasped
for breath, waiting to hear whether
each gasp would be his last. “They
called it ‘hasty consumption’ back
then,” Helen says. “The miners got it.”
The devastating disease that became
known as black lung killed her father
and both her brothers. “The mines,”
she says, “have taken their toll.”
Determined to aid sick miners, she
began by helping them with their legal
papers. Next she helped put together a
coalition that became the Disabled
Miners and Widows Organization. She
also pressed for federal legislation and,
in 1969, won compensation for victims
of black lung. But Helen, now fifty-five,

didn’t stop there. With the aid of col-

leagues, she formed the Black Lung
Association to inform people of their
rights to compensation.

Today this mother of two sits on the
board of directors of an organization
called Breath of Life, which she helped
create. This group works toward secur-
ing legislation, education and compen-
sation for workers in hazardous fields.
Across the country, textile workers,
shipbuilders, asbestos workers and

chemical workers will one day ‘be’

better off because of a caring little girl
who grew up in the West Virginia hills.

Wisconsin
Ardie Halyard

Banker
Extraordinaire

If it weren’t for Ardie Halyard, a deter-
mined sharecropper’s daughter, many
black people in Milwaukee wouldn't
have had the chance to own their own
homes. Almost sixty years ago, she set
out to apply for a charter to start a
savings and loan institution that would
handle black business.

Since then, Ardie has continued to be
a champion for civil rights. She laughs
that she’s a workaholic, and indeed, the
list of her accomplishments and hu-
manitarian activities could go on for
pages. In recent years, she has helped
set up a beautiful home for the elderly
in Milwaukee, worked on the board of
the local hospital, helped improve

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system and continued a sixty-year n= |
volvement with the local branch of the;
National Association for the Advance-
ment of Colored People (NAACP),
which she reactivated long ago with
her husband, Wilbur.

None of her various activities stops
Ardie, eighty-six, from keeping an eye
on her own bank, which has provided
loans to thousands of people. She
worked hard to start it back in the
1920s, when it served people in only a
six-block area. Today, it has customers
from all over Milwaukee, and she re-
mains active as chairman of the board.
“I keep busier than I should,” she says.
“But all of it has been fun.” »

Wyoming
Jackie Taylor
A Real Trouper

Jackie Taylor, thirty-seven, is an un-
usual woman. It’s not simply that she
runs Stagehands, an acting troupe of
eighty-five children. Or that her troupe
is booked a year in advance throughout
the West. It’s that Jackie Taylor's acting
troupe is special. Performing in sign
language (as well as normal speech), it
has allowed countless deaf children,
who could not otherwise appreciate the
theater, to understand and love it.
“Sign language is the third most used
language in this country after English
and Spanish,” says Jackie. “Yet so few
of us know anything about it or the
people who use it.”

Theidea for Stagehands came to
Jackie when one of her four children
brought home a deaf friend. Jackie had
taken the kids to see the musical An-
nie, and she realized how frustrating
the experience was for the deaf child.

Stagehands, which now has a wait-
ing list of over one hundred, started out
as a tiny troupe. But today, with a vast
repertoire of songs, all intricately
choreographed, the troupe has per-
formed for thousands. It’s a good bet,
too, that the young performers have
gained as much as their audiences. “I
know that all their lives these young-
sters will be more aware of disabilities
and more understanding,” Jackie says.

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order with a little redecorating. Com-
fort may be important July 26-27.

TAGRUS (Apr. 20—May 20) A spon-
taneous get-away visit to close relatives
’ would brighten your outlook. But don’t
try to surprise your hosts as you may
find—surprise!—they’ve gone away
themselves. Splurge on a little shop-
ping for yourself on the 23rd or 24th.

GEMINI (May 21—June 20) A benefi-
cent house of finance favors Gemini
this month, and this is a perfect time to
seek advice on savings and invest-
ments and to act on it. July 12 and 13
are especially lucky for finances, so
take advantage of them.

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CANCER (June 21—July 22) As past
worries and problems fade, Cancer, the
affectionate she-crab, climbs to the top
of the wheel of fortune. Whether you
try a new hairstyle, change your diet or
just put on a winning smile, your ap-
pearance is bound to shine. Watch for
romantic rendezvous July 8 or 9.

LEO (July 23—Aug. 22) Personal mat-
ters are on the line, so your utmost
sensitivity is called upon. Carefully
plan your next few steps toward dreams
and goals. This will keep you on sched-
ule and avoid upsetting loved ones—a
danger particularly on July 26 or 27.

VIRGO (Aug. 23-—Sept. 22) Time to live
it up, Virgo! As invitations roll in, you
may want to plan a party of your own.
The 22nd or 28rd could hold something
extra-special. Just wait!

LIBRA (Sept. 23—Oct. 22) You don’t
exactly have to forget others, but you
should concentrate on your own ambi-
tions this month. If there’s something
you want, this is the time to attain it.
Important decisions may require action
on the 5th or 6th.

SCORPIO (Oct. 23—Nov. 21) If you're
making travel plans, make them metic-

ulously; you'll have more time to enjoy
your vacation when it comes. Staying
with family or friends will ease your
budget. Look for good times and lots o
fun July 12 and 13.

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22—Dec. 21) Mon-
ey you've lent comes back to you, and youl
may receive gifts as well—perhaps fro
a relative seeking to confirm love and
affection. July 27 and 28 would be good
for talks about money with experts.

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22—Jan 19) Pour
ing over contracts and agreements this
month may pay off later. Focus on de
tails! July 12 or 13 may prove oppor
tune for beginning new partnerships
so be sure you're ready.

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20—Feb. 18) Chores
responsibilities, work and more work
all may pile up on you. Take time off to
relax. A rest in the sun will renew yo
in a hurry. Be ready for romance Jul
24 and 25.

PISCES (Feb. 19—Mar. 20) The real
ity of your lovelife may top your dreams
Set worries aside and let romance be
your guide. Take a break from your ev
eryday routine to add a special spar
July 17 or 18. —FREDRICK DAVIES§

LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL + JULY 19849

JOURNAL
AROUND THE

IS MAIL-ORDER
BUYING FOR YOU?

Mail-order buying is bigger than ever
if the catalogs that crowd our mail-
boxes every day are any indication.
With 50 million regular customers al-
ready, the industry is still growing.

= =While the vast majority of mail-
| order transactions leave both the man-
ufacturer and the consumer smiling,
remember that there are a few shady
operators out there. Here is how to
minimize your chances of becoming
the victim of a rip-off.

e Ask the company to substantiate
) claims that seem too good to be true—
™ such as those for hair-growing tonics
or money-making schemes. Avoid deal-
ing with any firm that cannot prove its
offer is valid.

*@ Buy from well-known firms when-
ever possible. The longer the company

has been in business, the more likely
it is to have prompt, satisfactory busi-
ness practices. If you don’t know any-
thing about the company, check with
your local Better Business Bureau or
consumer affairs office.

e@ Never send cash through the mail.
Cash can be easily lost or stolen, leav-
ing you without proof of payment. Use
money orders, personal checks, charge
accounts or special order blanks.

© Keep a record of your order, includ-
ing a copy of the offer, date sent, and
the company’s guarantee statement
and home-trial terms (if any).

e If the item you plan to buy is break-
able, find out in advance whether it
will be insured in transit. Any sup-
plier can send you uninsured damaged
goods and claim no responsibility.

e@ Shipping charges should be spelled
out and based on either the dimen-
sions of the item purchased or the
total cost.

e If you are ordering a gift and having it
shipped direct, include your full address
and the full address of the recipient.

e@ Put your phone number on the order
form, in case the company needs to
reach you.

@ Shop at local stores and compare
prices of items comparable to those you
plan to buy. Among the best buys in

many catalogs are those items avail-
able only through mail-order companies,
and not found in regular retail stores.

@ Make sure you can find the seller if
you have to. The dealer who lists only
a post office box number may be next
to impossible to track down if your
merchandise never arrives. Conversely,
fancy-sounding Fifth Avenue addresses
may be nothing more than mail-order
forwarding services. Make sure the
company lists its phone number, too.

@ Look for a refund policy. Don’t order
unless the offer includes a “satisfaction
guaranteed” provison that lets you re-
turn the merchandise and offers a
choice of a refund or a replacement of
“equal value.”

@ Don’t rely solely on the appearance of
an item in those slick color photo-
graphs, since it may be a disappoint-
ment when it arrives. Note the size,
weight, color and other characteristics
of the item you are considering.

@ Beware of deceptive language.
“French-style” does not mean some-
thing was made in France; it could
have been made in Timbuktu. If it’s
really French, the catalog will say so.

@ Also know what is included and
what is not; batteries, for instance,
will not be included unless the catalog
clearly says so. —JEAN E. LAIRD

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bers in a computer-like memory and
dial them by just touching a button.
“Hot line” phones have predesignated
buttons for programming emergency
numbers. Other systems will continue
to dial a busy number until a connec-
tion is made.

If you need your hands free while
doing phone work, a speakerphone
might be for you. Manufacturers offer
two basic types of speakerphones. The
simplest, listen-only phone permits
you to dial a number without lifting
the handset, but when your call is
answered, you must pick up the hand-
set and continue as usual.

Two-way speakerphones allow you
to carry on a hands-free conversation.
A mute button, which turns the micro-
phone off so you can comment to some-
one in the room, adds privacy.

If you are bothered by frequent, un-
wanted calls, a call censor will answer
the phone automatically. It requires
callers (only those calling from a
touch-tone phone) to punch in a code
number before it lets the call through.

Like the speakerphone, the cordless
phone also allows movement. It con-
sists of two parts: A base and a remote
unit. The latter operates like a stan-
dard phone, except that it is not con-
nected by wire to a phone jack. The
base plugs into a standard modular
phone jack and utilizes household elec-
tricity. The operating range will vary
according to the phone, where you
place the base and interference from
nearby objects, but most manufac-
turers claim ranges of 500 to 700 feet.

But cordless phones often make
beeping and burbling noises and some-
times ring even when no one is on the
line. They also can pick up static or
conversations from your neighbor's
cordless phones. And, especially i
yours is an older model, it may be
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With more than 250 different phones
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AT&T, Sears, Panasonic and a dozen
other companies, you can buy many
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But before you buy, look at all the

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features available and decide which
suit your needs.

Push-button models should,
ory, be more reliable than rotary-dial
phones because they have fewer mov-
ing parts to wear out. However, some

in the-

of the lower-priced, lower-quality
push-button phones have proved trou-
blesome. Some are prone to dialing
wrong numbers, “tinny” sounds or an-
noying echoes. So, if the phone doesn’t
work, you may end up spending more
than you bargained for. Make sure the
store will let you return it for a full
refund after a few days’ use.

In phones with an automatic dialer,
you can store frequently called num-

line. Look for a newer model that has a
security code that makes long-distance
rip-offs much more difficult. All cord-
less phones have push-button dialing,
but many do not work on the touch-
tone service. If you need this service,
choose an appropriate model.

AT&T has designed a phone espe-
cially for the disabled called the Glow
Phone. The entire top of the phone is
occupied by the touch-tone keypad,
which emits a low light when you pick
up the receiver and which has very
large numbers. If you have vision prob-
lems or insufficient strength to manage
those little holes and buttons, then the
sheer size and touch sensitivity of the}
Glow Phone keypad can be an enormous
boon to you. —JEAN E. LAIRD

LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL * JULY 1984

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JOURNAL
AROUND THE

UNDERSTANDING
AD LINGO

It’s easy to recognize what you'll save
when local stores reduce prices on mer-
chandise you're familiar with. But to
know if you're really getting a bargain
by buying at a “discount” store (where
labels are often unfamiliar or may have

_ been cut out) or by responding to an ad

you've seen on TV or in a magazine, you
must understand the advertising lan-
guage used by these types of businesses.

Say, for example, you see an ad in a
magazine for a set of cookware on sale

for $69 that “if sold separately” would
cost $99. Think twice. If you al-
ready have a 9-inch skillet and a one-
quart saucepan, you might find those
items you need for well under $99—
or even for less than $69. Obviously,

no matter what the sale price is, no
item is a good buy if you can’t use it.

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GLOSSARY

It is possible to spot true bargains if
you can understand the advertising
jargon and its use in an ad. Here is a
glossary of advertising terms that have
precise meanings for consumers.
Clearance. A type of sale to get rid of
merchandise that wasn’t or couldn’t be
sold at previous prices and to make
room for new items.

Close-out. A final sale of merchan-
dise permanently discontinued by the
manufacturer. The retailer usually
buys any remaining supplies at a price
reduction and passes the savings on to
the consumer.

Factory outlet. The seller and the
manufacturer are the same.

- Items that do not meet
quality standards. Products need only
be one-thousandth of an inch off the
standard to be classified as irregular,
according to government standards. Ir-
regular underclothes, socks, sheets
and towels are often good bargains.
The weave, material and quality are
usually the same as or quite close to
first-quality items.

Perishables. The selling dates on per-
ishables, anywhere between twenty-
four and ninety-six hours after pack-
aging for meat and breads, and ten
days or even longer for dairy products,

indicate the packager’s opinion of how
long the product will retain its opti
mal flavor and freshness. Sometimes
however, you can find these items dis
counted when they have passed their
selling date but in the store manager's
opinion are still wholesome. Check
these items out for yourself. Day-old
bread is often quite good, and dai
products are often dated so that they’l
be good for a week after the custome
buys them. Be wary, though, if the
price sticker covers the expiration date.
Regular price. The usual or before
sale price. If an ad says “Boys’ jackets
$10, regular, $25.99,” the store is offer
ing a $15.99 savings.

Sale. The word “sale” means only tha
the store has something to sell. To find
out if the store is offering a bargain, scru
tinize the fine print. For example, “Sale
Winter boots for $14.99. Made to sell fo
$25.99!” tells you nothing by itself.

But suppose the fine print say
“Each will contain the original label
Because of special sale price, we can’
reveal the manufacturer's name.” The
price probably does reflect a saving. I
may indicate that the manufacture
has overstocked and has sold at a los
to the store but is witholding its nam@
to avoid competing with itself.

However, if the fine print reads
“Large selection—imported boots, eac.
with original label,” beware. You hav
no idea of the material used, nor any
indication of the manufacturer’s repu
tation. Even “imported” doesn’t tel
you much. Chances are this boot is now
worth any more than the price stated.§
Special-purchase value. This mean#
that the store has bought the itemg
just for the sale. If the manufacture
has overstocked, or if the goods aré
irregulars, you may get a bargain.
Time limits. Many ads set limits
such as “For one week only,” “Send ir
before midnight tonight,” or “Only twé¢
per family”—on the merchandise o
fered. Though some stores stick t@
these limits, often stores will sell ay
the prices stated for as long as custom
ers are willing to buy them, even if th@
limits are exceeded. If you really wanf
to buy an item beyond the time or “pew
customer” limit, send in your orde
anyway. They may return your p
chase order, but chances are good thai
you'll get what you sent for.

Value. By itself (as in “Girls’ coats

$19.99, $25.99 value”), the word “val
ue” often indicates that the stor
doesn’t regularly sell this item. Mos
likely it was bought especially for thi!
sale, and the store determines the
coat’s value. You may save nothing.
Warehouse sale. Goods offered at ¢

reduced price only in the advertiser’
warehouse and usually not availablq@
in the retail store. —JEAN E. LAIRI

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JOURNAL

Q/ tried starting a mango plant from
seed recently, but only one little stem
came up. It had shriveled leaves and
soon rotted out. Why didn’t it grow,
and what can I do to ensure success
next time?

A Mangos make some of the best ex-
otic trees for the house. We often plant
mango seeds; some come up and grow;
others don’t. Yours may have bee
from a type of mango that doesn’t pro-
duce good growing seed, or it may have
been diseased. As you can’t really tell
if a seed is good just by looking at the
fruit, we usually plant the seed when
ever we eat a mango. Sooner or late
we hit upon a good one.

This is the method of germinating!
seeds we've found works best: Strip off
the outer skin of the seed while it is
still moist. Fill a 4-inch pot with house
plant mix. You can either place the
side with the lima bean-like dip in i
on top, or set the seed flat on its side,
and cover with an inch of soil. Put the
pot in a warm, sunny window and keep
the soil moist. With luck, the seed wil
germinate within a couple of weeks
and leaves will develop quickly. The
brighter the light, the closer together
the leaves will grow. Don’t let the young
limp, red-colored leaves discourage you
as they soon turn green and thick
When the plant has three sets of leaves
and a fourth coming out, nip off th
new pair to make the leaves branch.

Q A friend of mine told me that adding
lime to soil will help African violets
flourish. Is this true?

A Yes, and not only will it help Africar
violets, but most flowering houseplants)
as well. Unlike nonflowering house}
plants, which usually require an acidic
soil, most flowering houseplants grow
best in a neutral soil. Houseplan
mixes, in which we grow African vio
lets, are somewhat acidic to begin wit
and become more so from fertilizing
and as minerals leach out into the soi)
from continuous watering. Lime coun).
teracts the acidity. You can buy hortij_
cultural lime in powder form, but wi).
save our eggshells and grind then):
with a mortar and pestle or put then
through the blender. Two tablespoon);
of the fine eggshell chips or a table,
spoon of the powder should be added ty,
each quart of soil mix in which yov '
plant your African violets. Howeveij
don’t use lime at all if the water i):
your area is hard (which means limey))’
since adding additional lime wil).
make the soil much too alkaline.
—GEORGE A. AND VIRGINIE F. ELBER

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the home,” notes Susan Lund, director of Catalyst’s Career
and Family Center. “The exception was child care, which is
more equally shared than any other.

“Children are very responsive, and men are beginning to
realize that they want that reward. It’s a lot more gratifying
to feed a baby who coos at you like you're the greatest thing
on earth than it is to make a bed. Also, it’s more acceptable
for a man to take his kids to the zoo than to do the laundry.”

Respondents to the Catalyst survey listed “conflicts over
housework” as one of their top four problems in combining
career and family, Lund notes. Sometimes, however,
“arguments about housework may
an underlying conflict.

“A wife who yells at her husband for forgetting to pick
up milk at the store may really be saying, ‘You don’t care
about the children.’ If she’s upset that he didn’t do the
dishes after she’s been on her feet all day, she may be
telling him, ‘You don’t ibout me.’”

And it isn’t only tw er couples who have this prob-
lem. Whenever one traditional Minnesota couple become
irritated and dissatisfied with each other, they fight about
cleaning out the garage

“For thirty years, ve washed and ironed his clothes,
cooked his food, raised his children and cleaned his

house,” sa ‘-year-old homemaker. “The very
least he ca ghten out the garage so I can

manage to get

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RNAL + JULY 1984

just be the symptom of

never made enough money to afford a bigger house in that
fancy neighborhood where all her friends live.”

Housework may be also linked to other powerful issues,
such as sex. “When you ask husbands and wives W hat they §
would like changed in their marriages,” Caroline Bird, '
author of The Two-Paycheck Marriage (Pocket Books, §
1980), says, “he talks about sex, she about help with the JJ
housework. This connection between sex and housework Pi
turns up again and again.” Bird also believes that uncon- Jj
scious hostilities could spark some chores wars. ;

Said one housewife: “He was coming home and sitting Ri
down to read the paper while I was in the kitchen, fixing
supper with the baby playing under my feet. I'd set the
table, get supper on, feed her, give her a bath, get her
ready for bed, then do the supper dishes and the laundry.
At ten o’clock I could finally sit down and relax. But then
he would start in: ‘Aren’t you going to bed with me?’ Well,
I’m not going to take all that abuse and then give him
what he wants—even when I want it, too.

Yet the real struggle here is neither about housework
nor sex, Bird notes, but power.

Sociologist Sarah Berk concurs:

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floor.” Berk, who is working on a book titled The Gender
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men claim that when they try to pitch in, women will |
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“You'd think her kitchen was her kingdom,” says one

| well-intentioned male. “If I don’t put every utensil back

where she likes it, boy, do I hear about it. Sharing ought to
mean more than doing the assigned tasks. Both parties

have to relinquish some control.”

Another reason couples cling to traditional household

| tasks, Berk says, is that it “reaffirms gender. In a world

rife with sex-role confusion, these asymmetric arrange-
ments remind us of what we learned about maleness and
femaleness. For some people, women’s doing dishes and
men’s mowing the lawn is a division of labor that renders
the world sensible.”

But nothing in the female genes makes women better
than men at scraping pet poop off a rug. The notion that
male and female talents lie in “separate spheres” came

7; into vogue when factories sprang up during the nine-

teenth century, relates Susan Strasser in her book Never
Done: A History of American Housework (Pantheon Books,
1982). Once an equal partner in agricultural enterprise,
“the new housewife stayed at home,” she notes, “while her
husband went off to make money.”

To establish the honor of women’s domestic tasks in a
world focused on wage-earning, says Strasser, writers like
Catherine Beecher and her sister Harriet Beecher Stowe
argued that “the housewife fulfilled her most important
duty—that owed to God—by doing her housework and
teaching her children to work together for the good of
all... .” This ideology of separate spheres left a strong
legacy, evident in the “feminine mystique’ of the 1950s and
the exhortations of the New Right to “save the family”
during the late 1970s. The result of the century-old social-
ization process is that women often have a great—if unwit-
ting—emotional stake in housework.

147

“Very few men believe a sticky countertop can bear

witness against their character,” writes Barbara Ehren-
reich in Ms. “For us, housework was part of the definition
of adulthood, and often the most contentious issue of our

relationships with our mothers. Men may live out the
grandeur of the Oedipal drama; our ties to our mothers are
knotted with a thousand details of daily life—ironing,
‘picking up, table-setting—and being measured as a
woman, as a person, by our performance.”

While it’s unlikely that men will ever have an emotional
investment in eradicating ring around the collar, “they are
helping out more,” says Sarah Berk. “But that’s all they’re
doing—helping. That's very different from taking respon-
sibility, which involves thinking up and planning a task.”

Among the hundreds of couples in her study, says Berk,
“very few actively discussed household roles,” in part be-
cause it simply led to repeated arguments, and also be-
cause the arguments tended never to be resolved.

“For example, a woman would say, ‘I stopped doing the
dishes until we ran out and I couldn’t stand it anymore.
Then I gave in and washed them.’ This constitutes nagging,
which really means, ‘I care about this and you don’t.’ It’s
another reflection on whose responsibility housework is.
She’s responsible for both doing it and fighting about it.”

Children are helping out more around the house, she
says, partly because “they can be pressed into service in a
way husbands can’t. Women can invoke the notion that
helping out is good for them.”

Ultimately, despite all the hard feelings, Berk says,
“Most women are willing to accept domestic chores as
their responsibility because they occur in a context of
altruism and love. And labors of love are often difficult to
see as labors at all.” As one woman said, “Sometimes when
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The best way to resolve the chores
wars is to “negotiate before the fact,”

| says Berk, who did this with her hus-

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Yet, hard as it is, couples are finding

| solutions to their own chores wars. “A
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to their schedules. Some make up little §
rules. At my house, for example, the f

| person who leaves last makes the bed.
| Other couples have a more casual divi-

sion of labor and just pitch in and do

| whatever needs to be done.”

Families generally break down into
one of four housework structures, says
Wellesley College’s Lein:

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someone close to the Princess “leaked”
the information that she is expecting
twins. The rumor was so prevalent
that some of London’s betting shops
closed their books to bets on twins;
they were afraid of going broke if the
information proved true. While Diana
has already had an ultrasound scan,
which would tell whether she was
expecting twins, it’s highly unlikely
that her family or friends would di-
vulge such personal information.

As everyone knows, Diana is a natu-
ral for motherhood; her love of chil-
dren was as apparent in her choice of a
job as a preschool teacher as it is now
in the evident joy she receives from
greeting children on her official duties.
Diana is happiest when surrounded by
hordes of adoring youngsters who
want to tell her how much they love
her, hand her bouquets of flowers, give
her presents .. . or just offer her a shy
kiss. Having surrounded herself with
children both before and since her
marriage, Diana announced early on
that she wanted a large family—
maybe four or five children.

Charles, on the other hand, surprised
even his closest friends with his meta-
morphosis from bachelor prince to proud
papa. He has taken to family life with
remarkable ease, and no doubt Diana is
responsible for his “domestication.”

The royal routine

Like all young couples with small
children, the Prince and Princess have
settled down into a much less frenzied
social life, and it’s certain that the
arrival of a brother or sister (or both!)
for William will make them even more
eager to spend time at home. Charles
sees less of his older friends, the so-
phisticated “horsey set,” and Diana can
no longer spend much time with her
former roommates and_ childhood
friends. Instead, the couple has made
new friends together, mostly other cou-
ples like themselves with young chil-
dren. Instead of polo ponies and girl
talk, the conversation tends to revolve
around such topics as baby teeth and
educational toys.

And the Prince and Princess are de-
termined to have as normal a family
life as possible in spite of their time-
consuming official duties. At least one
night each week, Charles tries to
finish his work by five o'clock and
head home early. The very first thing
he does after greeting Diana is race
upstairs to the nursery and carry a gig-
gling Wills on his shoulders down to
the sitting room.

As Charles settles down to watch the
television news, William (continued)

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Prince and Princess for a Week

or even the most sophisti-
cated world traveler it would
have been the trip of a life-
time, but for Barbara Horst-
mann, who is a quadriplegic, and
her husband, David, it was as if
they'd been made Prince and Prin-
cess for a week. The winners of last
years LHJ Romance Contest—
whose prize was a fabulous VIP tour
of London—are from the small town

The couple shared a proper British tea
with novelist Barbara Cartland.

of Marshall, Minnesota (population
10,000), and neither had done much
traveling before. . . . In fact, neither
had a passport. But suddenly they
were whisked off like international
jet-setting celebrities for a tour that
included a visit to Princess Diana’s
family home, Althorp; coffee at
Number 10 Downing Street with
Britain’s prime minister, Margaret
Thatcher; and tea with best-selling
romance novelist Barbara Cartland.

One of their first visits was to New
Scotland Yard, a special honor since
ordinary tourists are not allowed in-
side. Shown around Britain’s police
headquarters by Chief Superinten-
dent E. F. Gleeson, head of Scotland
Yard, the Horstmanns completely
charmed the tough British bobbies.

One officer, who had heard the cou- -

ple’s story, confided: “I just can’t wait
to get home to tell my wife about
this. The world needs a lot more ro-
mance, and they’re a lovely couple.”

Another day, their limousine
picked up the couple at the Chur-
chill Hotel—where “the _ staff
treated us like royalty”’—and drove
them to the Tower of London to see
the Crown Jewels. The resident gov-
ernor greeted them and gave them a
private tour of the magnificent jew-
els on display. Barbara was es-
pecially entranced with the ornate
gold lily font, which is used at all
royal christenings . . . and which was
last used for the christening of Prince
William at Buckingham Palace.

Next on the agenda was a priv-

ilege conferred on few visiting heads
of state, let alone young couples
from Minnesota. Barbara and David
were honored with a private meet-
ing and a cup of coffee with Britain’s
leader, Margaret Thatcher. Sit-
ting together in the gold drawing
room of Number 10 Downing Street,
Mrs. Thatcher presented a special
gift to Barbara. “This is my personal
gift to you, and I don’t give many
away,” she laughed, as she gave Bar-
bara a small china pot handpainted
with a picture of the house. Barbara
remembers the meeting fondly:
“Mrs. Thatcher made me feel so spe-
cial, I had tears in my eyes.”
Another celebrity who enter-
tained the couple was novelist Bar-
bara Cartland, one of the judges of
the Journal’s romance contest. She
invited the Horstmanns to her home
and treated them to a traditional
English tea, complete with finger
sandwiches and delicate meringues
served on fine china with exquisite
silver. “She’s so down to earth,” re-

A private meeting with Prime Minister
Margaret Thatcher was a special honor.

calls Barbara Horstmann. “She's
very vivacious, and her attitude to-
ward life keeps her young. It’s hard
to believe she’s eighty years old!”

Their last day in England was also
one of the most exciting: a visit to
Althorp House, the Northampton
home of Lord Spencer, where Prin-
cess Diana grew up. The Horst-
manns were given a private tour of
the seventeenth-century mansion
and shown the estate’s priceless por-
trait collection, including a picture
of the first Lady Diana, who lived
during the eighteenth century. Bar-
bara can only describe the house as
“overwhelming. The portraits of all
her ancestors are truly spectacular.”

Home again in Minnesota, Bar-
bara treasures the diary she kept,
the photographs she took and the
souvenirs she brought back as re-
minders of “a week I'll never forget”
and “a dream come true.”

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happily tugs on his daddy’ hair or
grabs what have been dubbed Charles's
“Peter Rabbit” ears until the newscast
is over. Then father and son spend
about an hour playing on the floor.

Together Charles and Diana bring
William upstairs to bed and take turns
telling him stories. Charles is especial-
ly good at this parental task: His whim-
sical tale The Old Man of Lochnagar,
which he wrote for his younger broth-
ers when they were small, has become
a best-seller since its publication. After
giving William his good-night kisses,
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bright, curious and very, very mischiev-
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do” and tells people that while shes
away from home “Prince William will
be having a field day. He'll be breaking
everything in sight.” Besides a fond-
ness for flushing things down the toi-
let—Charless expensive handmade
shoes, hairbrushes, handkerchiefs, as
well as a soda bottle or two—William
also delights in scrambling up the
stairs ... and then waiting, laughing,
until someone comes to rescue him,
since he hasn't yet figured out how to
get himself down.

The toddler's nanny, Barbara Barnes,
is responsible for chasing after and
watching the “mini-tornado” most of
the time, and she will probably also be
charged with the care of the new baby.

So far, William is a happy and
healthy child, strong and independent.

While he started out looking like a
Spencer (Dianas maiden name), his
looks are now changing rapidly, and he
may actually wind up taking after his
father. Both Charles and his father,
Prince Philip, are especially delighted
with William’ physical coordination;
they are hoping he will turn out to be
athletic. William may also turn out to
be very tall: Doctors have extrapolated
from his age and height that he may
grow to be six feet two and a half inches
tall, only a little shorter than Eng-
lands tallest monarch, Henry VIII,
who ruled from 1509 to 1547.

The new baby. whether a boy or a
girl, will be third in line for the throne.
Genetics experts predict that the child
will be strong and attractive, with blue
eyes, fair coloring, and most likely a
strong jaw (from both the Mountbatten
side of Charless family, and from Di-
ana). It is said that Charles had the
final say in naming William. since
more than just personal taste was in-
volved: the name would also have to
suit a future king. This time, it’s likely
that Diana will get her way. George,
James and Edward, all names of pre-
vious kings, are most likely for a boy.
Elizabeth, Caroline, Mary, Victoria
(and perhaps Frances as a second
name, after Dianas mother), are pos-
sibilities if the child is a girl. It's very
unlikely that the child will be given an
unusual name, or even a currently pop-
ular one, like Debbie or Tracy. That
simply isn’t done in the royal circle.

Big brother William

William will be about twenty-seven
months old when the new baby is born
(Williams birthday is June 21), and the
new royal child, whether a boy or a girl,
will have a profound effect on big
brother William, and vice versa. Ac-
cording to Dr. Lawrence Balter, pro-
fessor of educational psychology at
New York University, “The main con-
cern the older child has is ‘If my par-
ents really love me the way they say
they do, why was it necessary for them
to go and have another child?’ ”

Most child-care experts agree that
the more independent the first child
has become by the time his brother or
sister is born, the better off everyone in
the family will be. “Nursery school age,
around age three, is considered the
‘ideal’ age to add a second child,” Dr.
Balter explains. “By age three, the old- |
er child already has friends, can ex-
press needs clearly, can go away from
home for short periods of time, is
weaned and toilet-trained. He isn’t in-
volved only with his parents anymore.”

Prince William, just over two years
old. may have some initial objections to
sharing the attentions of his parents
and his nanny. “At age two or two anda

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half, some children go through a nega-
tive stage,” says Dr. Balter, who hosts a
nationally syndicated radio program
(TALKRADIO) on child rearing. “They
are searching for their sense of inde-
pendence, and they want to let you
know that they have opinions, too. It
wouldn’t be at all surprising if a two-
and-a-half-year-old voices some signifi-
cant objections when a new baby ar-
rives.” All of these are normal reac-
tions, and caring parents and a con-
cerned nanny will help William learn
to love his new brother or sister, and
realize that his parents don’t love him
any less because the family is larger.

On the other hand, younger children
often grow up jealous of their older
brothers or sisters because of the priv-
ileges that age commands. In Diana
and Charless family, this problem may
be compounded by the fact that not only
is William the oldest child, he is also
heir to the throne. “It’s not unusual for
a younger sibling to envy the status of
an older sibling, regardless of whether
one is heir to a throne,” explains Dr.
Balter. Will Diana and Charles be able
to prevent this jealousy and foster a
good relationship between their chil-
dren? Yes, but it won’t be easy. Accord-
ing to child-care experts, they will have
to make sure to remind the younger
child that there are certain objective
reasons why the older child has special
privileges. And it’s important to offer
| the younger child the same privileges,
where possible, when he reaches the
|} same age. And if Diana gives birth to
twins, the problems of sibling rivalry,
of course, will be doubled.

In recent generations of the royal
| family, second children have not fared
| well. Princess Elizabeth’s younger sis-
ter, Princess Margaret, was delighted
as a child when she learned that her
sister—and not she—would be Queen.
Yet Margarets life has not been a
happy one: Unable to marry the man
she loved, she entered into a marriage
that ended in a messy divorce. More
| recently, she scandalized the royal fam-
ily by dallying on a tropical island with
a rock singer much younger than she.
All of this unconventional behavior
may be seen as an attempt to win the
attention she was denied as a child, and
especially as the younger sibling of the
heir to the throne. Princess Anne,
Prince Charless younger sister, also
went through some turbulent times.
| Considered brighter and more athletic
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theless denied much of the attention he
naturally received as heir. She ap-
peared to retaliate by snapping at the
press and the public. . . for which she
got the reputation of being “difficult.”
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and having children. She also found a
skill to excel in—horse jumping—
which gave her self-confidence.

Fortunately for the new royal baby,
it’s likely that Diana will be especially
sensitive to this problem. As a junior
member of her own family, she knows
what it feels like to have older siblings,
and she will no doubt try very hard to
make her younger child feel as loved
and valued as her older one. . . just as
she will ensure that William does not
feel neglected when the new baby be-
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What other changes are in store for
the family when the is born? Un-
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sidered the most well-t: -d of royal
babies. He accompanied his parents on
their tour of Australia, and Dia is

still reluctant to leave him for
length of time. A second child, however,

will change all that. It will be much
more difficult to travel with two chil-
dren, and Diana will certainly be
forced to leave the babies home with

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cologists, has stated, “The prognosis is
probably better for a woman who has
morning sickness. It generally means
that levels of placental hormones are
very high, which ensures a healthy fe-
tus.” Diana’s obstetrician, Dr. George
Pinker, has instructed her to eat a
breakfast of half a grapefruit with Be-
max (a health food), plus two slices of
toast with marmalade. She eats a light
lunch, and a dinner of fish or meat, with
a baked potato and a small helping of
dessert. She still exercises regularly, and
she and Charles are taking a refresher
course in natural childbirth from Betty
Parsons, the nurse who instructed them
before William was born.

And Diana has never looked better.
Just as during her first pregnancy, she
is setting new trends in maternity fash-
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and answering their questions. She
seems to know instinctively how to put
children at ease: She gets down on their
level, often kneeling in the street to
talk to them, and she is concerned
rather than condescending. Children
relate to her instantly; they sense the
sincerity and tenderness she possesses
in such abundance.

One example of her special magic in
dealing with youngsters came after the
IRA bomb attack on Harrod’s, London’s
largest department store, during the
Christmas season. The Princess volun-
teered to accompany Charles as he vis-
ited the victims. While the Prince, out-
raged by the violence, could offer only
cliches as condolences, it was Diana
who offered sympathy and comfort. It
was she who made a little Indian boy,
Ranjan Parmar, laugh and temporarily
forget the horror of his wounds.

Diana even opens up her home to her
littlest subjects. As patron of the Pre-
School Play Groups Association, she
gave a charming tea party for the twen-
ty-seven winners of a competition the
organization sponsored. As the young-
sters arrived at Kensington Palace,
each was given a special pendant cho-
sen by Diana. Later, they sat down to
tables decorated with streamers and
paper flowers. As balloons bounced off
the ornate ceiling, the lucky winners
devoured sandwiches, homemade po-
tato chips and miniature meringues,
all washed down with paper cups full of
orange punch.

As she gradually becomes more com-
fortable with her public role, the Prin-
cess has also become more involved in
charitable works. Diana is a patron of
eleven charities, and president of two
others. She has set up her own charita-
ble trust to donate money to worthy
causes, and at Christmas many special
appeals groups received personal checks
from her. Although the exact benefici-
aries and amounts of her donations are
secret, she favors organizations benefit-
ing children or medical projects. It is
said she gives more generously than
most other members of the royal family.

But of all Princess Diana’s hundreds
of appearances last year, perhaps the
one most touching, and most illustra-
tive of her new maturity, was her trip to
visit the residents of the Maytrees
home in Bristol. It was one of the chari-
ties that had benefited from her “Wed-
ding Souvenir Fund.” As the Princess
moved among the residents, she es-
pecially requested that they each pass
their hands over her face .. . for the
residents are all totally blind.

Princess Diana has grown up beau-
tifully, and as the new, mature Diana
and her family eagerly await the birth
of baby number two, the world waits
almost as eagerly with them. End

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relationship. Children clamor for time,
households must be maintained, job re-
sponsibilities sap energy—too often
people attend to the minutiae of daily
life at the expense of their primary re-
lationship, their marriage. Says Dr.
Frank: “Couples often fail to give sex
enough ‘prelude time’—time to simply
be together, to listen to one another, to
connect emotionally and intellectually
before they connect physically.

“The busy two-career, two-kid couple
may find that they get the last child off
to bed and then immediately try to be
sexual, when they haven’t had a chance
to connect all day,” adds Dr. Frank. “It’s
hard to make the transition from no
connection to sexual connection.” And
so, when the resulting sex is okay but
uninspired they assume it will always
be.” Points out Nathaniel Branden,
Ph.D., a Los Angeles psychologist and
author most recently of Honoring the
Self (Torcher/Houghton Mifflin, 1984),
“Nothing can so diminish sexual pas-
sion—no matter how potentially re-
warding a relationship—as starving it
to death with a lack of quality time
together. By getting lost in our work,
our friends, our children or our social
activities, we lose each other.”

Then, too, there are times when cou-
ples fall victim to apathy. Perhaps
they're less than enthusiastic about
their work; they’re burdened by money
worries or family concerns; their bore-
dom and anxieties rob them of energy
and spill over into their leisure time.

“For many, it is not simply that ro-
mantic attraction to their partners has
faded but rather that all their enthusi-
asms have faded,” says Dr. Branden.
“Why single out romance? The sexually
pallid couple have extinguished the pas-
sion in all areas of their lives.”

The day-in, day-out routine

Sometimes life’s seemingly innocuous
routine can become a passion killer.
Simone de Beauvoir, grande dame of
French letters, refused to marry her
lover and companion, the late novelist
and philosopher Jean Paul Sartre, be-
cause she feared their passion would
‘not survive the dailiness of married
life. “Eroticism is a movement toward
the Other,” she wrote. “This is its es-
sential character; but in the deep inti-
macy of the couple, husband and wife
become for one another the Same: no
exchange is any longer possible be-
tween them, no giving and no
quering.” An extreme position, to be
sure, but thought-provoking, for rou-
tine is perhaps the most insidious en-
emy of erotic love.

“In marriage, it’s often true that man

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and woman come to behave more like
roommates than lovers,” points out
Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., a clinical
psychologist in Oakland, California,
and the author of Male Sexuality (Ban-
tam, 1978). “The very commonality of
interests that draws you together—
your children, your home—can flatten
erotic excitement.” Often, this famil-
iarity can prevent a couple from shar-
ing new ideas, feelings or fantasies.

Flawed communication

Again and again, experts exhort cou-
ples to communicate. To many, that
sounds like pat advice; but the reality

eople who
are happiest
sexually are those

most capable of
keeping the hassles
of daily life out of
the bedroom.

is that without a vital, lively exchange,
passion—indeed the marriage itself—
is bound to fail. Says Donald Bloch,
M.D., a psychiatrist and director of the
Ackerman Institute for Family Thera-
py in New York City, “Sexually attuned
couples stay interested in each other,
and the sharing of the personal and
sexual self—the fantasies and fears—
is very stimulating.”

Adds Ellen Frank, “One thing ['m
always fascinated by is the dance that
takes place as people make the transi-
tion from their evening activities to
lights-out. Couples develop subtle ways
of sending—and avoiding—messages.
Do you take a shower, put on a sexy
nightgown, brush your hair—or do you
stand in front of the mirror and pluck
your eyebrows? We learn early on in
marriage to read those cues.”

However, communication goes be-
yond merely saying what you'd like to
do when. “Marital partners often treat
each other worse than they treat any-
body else in their lives,” says Dr.
Frank. “I’m not talking about physical
or verbal abuse. I mean the complete
opposite of that kind of intense con-
siderateness and gentleness character-
istic of people in a new relationship.
Sarcasm,” she says, “is the biggest en-
emy of intimacy. We often see couples
who really believe they're getting along

well who in fact communicate only with
one sarcastic dig after another. People
respond to that in their gut—and what
their gut tells them is that it’s not safe
to get near this person, to be vulnera-
ble. They build a wall of anger and re-
sentment that is one of the strongest
barriers to a sexual relationship.”

The climate for love

But despite the obstacles, many cou-
ples have toppled the barriers to pas-
sionate sex and continue to have deeply
erotic marital relationships. Says one
thirty-seven-year-old working mother
of a teenage daughter—one of those
lucky wives whose passion is well into
its second decade: “Something wonder-
fully sexy can happen when you really
trust somebody. That’ terribly impor-
tant for passionate sex because other-
wise youre inhibited and can’t let go.”

Deep and loving affection, the sense
of sureness so much a part of a long-
standing relationship, also can warm
the climate for love. Points out Shirley
Zussman, Ed.D., a marital and sex
therapist in New York City and direc-
tor of the Association for Male Sexual
Dysfunction, “Over time, you become
convinced the person is there for you,
cares for you and will always go to bat
for you. That's enriching and adds to
the quality of lovemaking.”

What can you do to add intensity to
your lovemaking? Most professionals
put little stock in tricks and props. Of
course, it can be thrilling to make love
on the living room floor instead of al-
ways in the bedroom, but such changes
are more superficial in their impact
than the following suggestions.

Focus on sex. People who are happiest
sexually are those most capable of
keeping the problems and hassles of
daily life out of the bedroom. First, they
learn to pinpoint what is bothering
them—for example, that they are upset
because their spouse screamed at the
children during dinner, not because
they don’t want to make love. But be-
yond that, they learn to concentrate on
the sexual act itself as well as on creat-
ing a sexual ambience so that erotic
feelings are naturally aroused. “Once
the bedroom door is closed,” says Ellen
Frank, “you should focus your thoughts
on the sexual act—on the senses of
touch and smell that trigger arousal.
Think of yourself and your husband as
lovers.” Simple, perhaps forgotten,
words and gestures used naturally in
the earlier years of their relationship
can all be highly erotic. For instance:
saying “I love you”. . . lightly touching
each other . .
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ourselves. Says Dr. Frank: “Positive feel-
ings about oneself is the variable most
strongly related to sexual satisfaction
and frequency. In our work, we’ve found
that women who like themselves, who
take the time to care for themselves
physically, feel sexier than those who
don’t. The payoff is an exciting sex life.”

Dr. Frank suggests figuring out what
would make you feel more like present-
ing yourself in a sexual way. Is your
work a drain on your time and energy?
Perhaps it’s time to rethink your job
situation. Did you gain weight during
the winter? Establishing a sensible diet
and exercise plan may be a smart move.
Schedule sex. Scheduling time to be in-
timate—physically or emotionally—is
another key to refiring a listless sex life

“Couples who rely solely on spon-
taneous urges do not have as much sex,
or sex that is as exciting, as those who
plan,” says Shirley Zussman. “Most
people think that sex should happen
without planning, that in a truly pas-
sionate relationship, the sparks fly. In
reality, sex hardly ever ‘just happens.’
Think back to when you were dating.
You planned sexual contact in the most
deliberate way: You fantasized about a

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spontaneous about that? And yet,”
adds Dr. Zussman, “married women
who feel sex has become humdrum tend
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as being very spontaneous, very sexual,
even when they weren't.”

Enrich your companionship. The cou-
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victim up, lay him down on the floor,
face up. Kneel and straddle the victim’s
hips. Place your hands in the same
position on the victim's abdomen. Press
down and upward sharply. Repeat until
food is dislodged.)

21. a.b.c.d.e. All of these cuts require
medical attention. If not treated properly,
they may result in infection, heavy scar-
ring and possible tendon or nerve injury.
22. False. For the best first-aid advice
for poisoning, call your poison control
center immediately. In many cases,
vomiting is recommended; however, it
can be dangerous if the victim is uncon-
scious, has convulsions, or has swal-
lowed a corrosive poison or product con-
taining gasoline, kerosene or other

tissues on the way up just as they did
on the way down.

Check the container of poison to see
if an antidote is recommended and
follow the instructions, unless the pack-
age is so old that the advice may be
outdated. If the poison or antidote is
unknown, make the victim drink a
glass or two of water, which will dilute
the poison. One final point: Remember
to take the original container of poison
with you to the doctor or hospital. Keep
a bottle of syrup of ipecac on hand to
induce vomiting, if it is recommended.
23. False. Most nosebleeds are caused
by a rupture in the mucous membrane
lining the nose and are usually the re-
sult of excessive nose-blowing. Though
there is no real harm in packing the
nose, too often the unpacking causes
the lining to rupture again. Instead: Sit
up with head back and grasp the nose
between your thumb and forefinger and
squeeze the nostrils tightly shut for
five minutes. If the nosebleed doesn’t
stop, pack ice on the bridge of your nose
and repeat the procedure. If it still
doesn’t stop, call your doctor. After it has
stopped, avoid blowing your nose for at
least twenty-four hours. This will give
the torn capillaries a chance to heal.
24. b.c. Never rub or scratch an eye
that has something in it. This may
cause scarring or imbed the object
deeper into the eyeball. Instead, blink
several times or shut the eyes for a few
minutes. The flow of tears may wash
out the foreign particle.

If the object still isn’t dislodged, fill a
clean eye dropper with warm water and
wash the eye gently. If discomfort per-
sists, inspect the lower eyelid by gently
pulling out and downward. If the object
is visible, use a moistened cotton ap-
plicator or the corner of a clean, wet
handkerchief to lift it out. Use care and
take ycur time. If pain or irritation per-
sists or the object seems too deeply im-

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bedded to remove, cover eye lightly
with a bandage and consult a doctor.
25. False. Although you lose fatty
tissue around your stomach while diet-
ing, your stomach remains the same
size. Still, you will experience a feeling
of satiety sooner when eating less.
Why? Because the desire for food is reg-
ulated by the appestat, a mechanism in
your brain believed to be concerned
with control of appetite. By eating less,
you slowly retrain your body to feel sat-
isfied with fewer calories.

26. True. The caffeine in coffee acts
both as a vasoconstrictor, which re-
duces the swelling in blood vessels in
your neck and head, and as a stim-
ulant, which combats the fatigue and
mild depression that often accompany a
headache. Caffeine is not a painkiller,
however, so if the headache is severe,
take aspirin, or if it persists, consult
a doctor.

27. False. According to The Harvard
Medical School Health Letter, there is a
slight difference in the way your body
metabolizes food between morning and
night, but so far there is no evidence
that the difference has any practical
medical significance.

28. True. Migraines are common in
high-strung, creative people with a
strong drive for perfection. Women suf-

fer from migraines ten times more
often than men. Exactly what accounts
for this difference is unknown; some
researchers believe that an endocrine
imbalance associated with menstrua-
tion may be to blame.

29. True. In a recent study, cold suf-
ferers were told to drink plain hot
water through a straw and then to sip
chicken soup the same way. They re-
ported that the chicken soup was fa
more effective in helping unclog their
stuffy noses. Why chicken soup is a bet

ter remedy than other hot fluids is ur

known, but if you start to feel feverish
it wouldn’t hurt to stock up

Scoring

Give yourself one point for each corre
answer:

41-43: Your medical knowledge is
excellent.

30-40: You are reasonably well-in-
formed medically, but you could use a
bit more knowledge

Under 30: You are not aware of essen-
tial medical information. Invest in a
good medical reference book and read
the medical articles in magazines and
newspapers End

Taffy Herrmann ts a freelance writer who
writes often on health and medicine

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I thought, My God, I’m going to die here
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Why?” The gunman ordered, “Don’t
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Sophia “will never forget his eyes as
long as I live, very light blue eyes, the
most beautiful eyes I had ever seen,
staring at me.” The men didn’t harm
her, but they did take her jewels, and
the trauma remains. (The robbers were
never found.) Abruptly, Sophia leans
forward and asks, “May I have a ciga-
rette?” Lighting up, she says carefully,
“T never smoke at home in front of my
children—never, never. It is only when
I’m on the road like this that I have a
cigarette. My boys don’t see me smoke.”

Whatever she is discussing, Sophia’s
mind drifts back to her sons. “I had
another premonition just yesterday,”
she says. It involved the Swiss obstetri-
cian, Hubert de Watteville, who helped
her give birth by caesarean section after
two miscarriages. “I knew my doctor
had been ill when I left home, and yes-
terday I felt an overwhelming urge to
phone.” She frowns. “I got his wife,
and she said to me, ‘Do you know that
Hubert died this morning at ten
o'clock?” Sophia was stunned, not at

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her ESP but because “I lost the greatest
friend of my entire life. Without him, I
would have been a woman without chil-
dren and surely, surely the saddest per-
son in the entire world.”

She remembers the overwhelming
sense of defeat she felt after her miscar-
riages, then learning of a “wonder doc-
tor” in Switzerland, and hearing him
say on her first visit, “There’s nothing
wrong with you, Sophia, only that you
have to take certain medications that I
will give you, hormones that you need,
because you lose your children from not
having enough estrogen and proges-
terone to keep your babies.” Sophia
rented a hotel room near Dr. de Watte-
ville’s office and “wrapped myself in the
cocoon of motherhood, staying in bed for
the entire pregnancy.” The most joyful
message of her life came when the doc-
tor told her, “Sophia, you have a fine
baby boy.” The same procedure was used
four years later and resulted in the
uneventful delivery of a second child
—her bonus gift of life.

“My sons have grown so beautifully,”
she says fondly, almost reverently. Now
fifteen, “Carlo is earthy, plays the piano,
and is an individual, a man—taller
than I am. He is for the moment, touch
wood, a very normal boy.” Eleven-year-
old Edoardo is a talented apprentice
actor-singer who has studied and per-
formed at the Lee Strasberg Theatre
Institute in Hollywood and is the guid-
ing reason for Sophia’s impending re-
turn to the movies. “My little one says
he wants to be in films,” she says, “and
by chance, I came across a script about a
nice emotional relationship between a
mother and her son, who happens to be
just my child’s age. So I said to my hus-
band, ‘Let’s put a budget together and do
this film because it’s a very good thing
for me to work again. And we'll see what
Edoardo can really do.” The movie,
under the working title Aurora, is being
shot this summer in Italy and costars
Daniel Travanti of Hill Street Blues.

Whatever may happen in the future,
Sophia Loren’ current priorities are
clear and specific. For her, love is “the
basis, the very essence of life. And the
overwhelming love of my life, above ev-
erything else, is my children.”

And marriage? “Marriage is like a
thread,” she says quietly, stretching her
arms apart and pinching her thumbs
and forefingers together, as though
holding tightly a taut, imaginary
thread. “It must go straight, or it will
ravel. And I think it is always the wom-
an who must keep the thread straight,
to save the marriage. That is because
women are wise and care about their
children. They have to make choices,

and they choose for the family—even
though sometimes they must sacrifice
themselves. .. .” End
162

WHAT KIDS MUST KNOW
continued from page 54

in how they handle difficult situations.”
Many criminals who take advantage
of children are so accustomed to their
victims being passive that they will
often give up on a ferocious child and
look for someone easier, explains Ho-
sansky. If, however, fighting only en-
rages the assailant more, the child
should stop. And if the assailant has a
knife, gun or other weapon, physical
self-defense should not be used.
Teaching a child to be assertive,
aware and self-confident is the best pro-
tection against assault. “If a child is
trained how to recognize a perpetrator,
not only is that child less likely to fall
victim to molestation, he is more likely
to identify the perpetrator so that he can
be arrested,” says Dr. Gene Abel. “Such
training won’t make child molestation
disappear, but it’s a start.” End

Writer Helen Benedict’s book Recovery:

How to Survive Sexual Assault for Women, |

Men, Their Friends and Families, will be
published by Doubleday in March 1985.

Safety sources

For more information on how to
teach your children to protect them-
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The Safety and Fitness Exchange,
Inc. (SAFE)

541 Avenue of the Americas

New York, NY 10011

Illusion Theater (TOUCH)

Sexual Abuse Prevention Program
Hennepin Center for the Arts

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Minneapolis, MN 55403

Child Assault Prevention
Project (CAP)

Strategies for Free Children

P.O. Box 02084

Columbus, OH 43202

Sexual Abuse Prevention: A Lesson
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The Coalition for Child Advocacy
P.O. Box 159

Bellingham, WA 98227

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—Beatrice H. Comas

Last Laughs

“It’s the Andersons! Quick, switch to educational TV!”

You’d never recognize Grandma

Where did the grandma of yesterday
go,

The grandma who took all the kids
to the show,

Who stopped by to chat, and before
we could ask it

Had tackled the laundry that spilled
from the basket,

Who offered to mend and to make the
girls’ dresses,

And pitched in to help clean up
toddler-made messes,

Who came on the run when the kids
needed sitting,

And brought along storybooks,
cookies and knitting?

Today’s grandma knows how to run
a computer,

She watches the market and buys
stocks that suit her,

She dons a pink smock for the
hospital lobby,

Has taken up skydiving, just for a
hobby,

She's gone back to college to get a
degree,

And zips around town in her bright-
yellow Z.

Grandmas still here, and there’s no
one to match her,
But call before eight, or you simply
won't catch her!
—Karen R. Heffner

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LADIES’ HOME as
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ast August we invited you to submit descriptions of community
MYRNA BLYTH groups that have come up with creative solutions to problems facing
EDITOR-IN-CHIEF that most vital American microcosm: the family unit. The impres-
} Sive response brought to our attention programs as varied as they are

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ART DIRECTOR worthwhile. These imaginative group efforts demonstrate that today people

are once again helping people in important ways. It is with great pride that

Jan Goodwin _ Sondra Forsyth Enos we introduce the two recipients of Ladies’ Home Journal's $1,000 prize.
eevee The Community Care Committee Two things set North Ridgeville, Ohio
Mary Mohler (population 22,000), apart: the all-volunteer
MANAGING EDITOR ay Community Care Committee and the town’ resi-
ARTICLES bY dent angel, social worker Ruth Goodrich. Thanks

Katherine Barrett Margery D. Rosen
Senior Editors
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to them both, families in distress quickly and
anonymously receive help. The CCC, a coordinat-
ing council comprised of the service clubs and
churches in North Ridgeville, began nine years
ago when local Methodist minister Jim Skinner
and his wife, Karen, resolved to find a way to help
Ruth help others. They discovered that church
and service organizations were eager to aid those

Phyllis Schiller North Ridgeville’s generally not helped by bureaucratic agencies.
BEAUTY AND FASHION Ruth Goodrich Thus the CCC was formed—and continues to
Lois Joy Johnson, editor flourish. Says Ruth, “At one time or another,
MARY CLARKE practically every home in this town has been touched by giving, receiving or
SS volunteering. That’s how our program works: oe knows that while
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KATE McARN VOSECKY Karen Zweig, both educators and mothers, 2
MARGOT ABEL became convinced through personal expe- 5
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Marilyn Diane Glass, editor and difficult. In 1982 in Arlington, Mas-
OE ee sachusetts, they opened The Parent Con-
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SEO Eee Bein offers workshops, support groups, con-| Parent Conmeci Fae

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CAN THIS
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— ra oe ee

“We dont agree

on anything”

George paid attention to everyone but Marge. What
happens when two people never see eye-to-eye?

his case is based on information

from the files of the Family Guid-

ance Center in Dallas, Texas, a
private, nonprofit family service agency
funded by the United Way. The agency
is a member of the Family Service Asso-
ciation of America and accredited by
the Council on Accreditation of Services
for Families and Children, Inc. The true
story reported here is from interviews,
though names have been changed to
conceal identities. The counselor in this
case was JoAnn Snyder, M.S., L.P.C.

Marge’s turn

“Who is this man I’m married to?” de-
manded Marge, fifty, a tall, slender
woman with a tense, unhappy face.
“George and I have just celebrated our
silver wedding anniversary, and I still
feel I don’t know him.
I am equally certain
he doesn’t know me.

“On the one hand,
my husband can be
jovial and happy-go-
lucky, always out for
laughs and a good
time. He has a mil-
lion friends, and
every one of them
thinks I’m so fortunate to be married to
such a fun-loving guy. But let George
have a few drinks, and a different side
of him emerges. He will turn on me ina
rage and pour out a hate-filled diatribe
-of cruel and vicious insults.

“T don’t mean to imply that George is
an alcoholic. He doesn’t drink often, but
when he does take a drink or two, usu-
ally at a party, I brace myself for what
will follow. The moment we’ve left the
group, Mr. Nice Guy disappears. George
goes into a tirade, accusing me of being
frigid, penny-pinching, nagging, bitchy
—every hideous adjective he can come
up with. When we get home, I bury my
face in my pillow and cry my eyes out. I
feel so worthless. But in the morning,

Doug Taylor

George reverts to his sunny self, spilling
over with apologies for having had a few
too many. When I try to discuss the
previous night he refuses to acknowl-
edge that any scene occurred.

“T fell in love with George because of
his exuberant approach to life. I had
been raised in a family that always put
duty before pleasure. My father, a Ger-
man immigrant who never went to high
school, had educated himself by taking
correspondence courses. He worked as a
self-employed building contractor and
supported us so well that mother never
had to work outside the home. Dad doled
out money to her to run the house, and I
don’t think she ever knew what they had
in the bank. Both my parents were strict
disciplinarians, and my sister and I
were always on our best behavior.

“T don’t know much about my parents’
personal relationship. I now think there
may have been some problems, but they
didn’t let it show. They lived apart for
three years while I was a teenager, but
that was supposedly because my father
had to be away on business. Dad and
Mama never argued. I can remember
only one fight, during dinner one night,
when mother got up, walked around the
table and slapped my father. I will never
forget the shock at seeing her do some-
thing so incredibly out of character.

“My high school years were pleasant. I
made good grades and enjoyed sports,
though I didn’t date much. After I grad-
uated I went to college, but soon dropped
out to take an office job. I had no particu-
lar career goal. All really wanted was to
be a houséwife and mother.

“When I was nineteen, I married
Frank, my girlfriend’s brother. It was a
foolish thing to do—I was in love with
love, not with Frank. Although I soon
realized I had made a bad mistake, I
hoped that once we had children, life
would be better. When three years
passed and I still had not become preg-
nant, my mother-in-law casually men-

tioned that Frank was sterile. He had
known this all along and had never told
me. After that, there just didn’t seem to
be any reason to stay married.

“George came into my life two years
after my divorce. He was a salesman
for the company I worked for, and I was
immediately attracted to him. But
George was married, and though he
and his wife were separated, I still
didn’t feel we should go out together. I
encouraged him to give their relation-
ship one final chance, but the effort was
not successful. Once George was legally
free, we were married.

“T can’t put into words what I actu-
ally expected from this marriage. I
know I hoped it would be more than it
is. When I look back over the past
twenty-five years, I feel as though we
have been treading water. Except for
having raised two children, now grown
and on their own, we have nothing to
show for all our time together.

“Not that I ever expected to be rich. I
knew George had an obligation to the
three children from his former marriage,
and I never quarreled over the portion of
his income that went to them. I have
resented his inability to adjust his life-
style to compensate for that expense.

“Although George won’t admit it, we
live hand-to-mouth. He works on com-
mission, and his earnings have never
been consistent. It’s true that many of
his career problems have not been his
fault. He started a promising business,
but that didn’t work, and his partner
was unreliable. I don’t blame him, but
his stubborn refusal to accept our sit-
uation makes me furious. How can he
take afternoons off to play golf when we
need every penny? How can he expect
us to eat out with friends several nights
a week when I’m going crazy trying to
figure out how to put food on the table?

“T went back to work several years
ago to help make ends meet. My job
consists of dull, boring, (continued)

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unrewarding office work, but that’s all I
feel qualified to handle. George uses
my earnings to subsidize his member-
ship in the country club. He’s the only
one who uses the facilities—I’m too
tired after work and housekeeping to
even think of going there. But George
shows no appreciation of my efforts.
Many nights, he doesn’t show up for
the dinner I’ve fixed, and he doesn’t
even call to tell me he’s not coming
home. Hours later, when he finally
walks in, he can’t understand why I’m
not in the mood to make love.

“T don’t feel that our relationship has
any meaning for George. Id like us to
spend time alone together to discuss
what matters to each of us. But every
evening, George wants to be out so-
cializing. When I attempt to talk to
him about the problems in our mar-
riage, he acts as though I’m speaking a
foreign language.

“T don’t want a divorce. George and I
have invested too much of our lives in
each other to split up now. But the
thought of going on as we have been for
another twenty-five years is more than
I can face. It was different when the
kids were home. I felt confident and
secure in the role of mother. Now that
its just George and I, I feel so un-
fulfilled and empty. Our relationship is
all I have left—and it isn’t enough.”

George’s turn

“T don’t know what I’m doing at a coun-
seling service,” said George, fifty-six, a
handsome, white-haired man with an
affable grin. “I’m a fun-loving guy who
takes life as it comes.
The last thing I
want is for some
cockeyed therapist
to change me.

“My dad was the
same sort of person.
All the youngsters
in the neighborhood
loved him. He’d take
us all fishing, build
a bonfire, tell us scary stories—he was
like one of the kids. My mother was the
one who always played the heavy.

“My father was a dredge operator
who worked at dam construction, and
every six to eight months he’d be trans-
ferred to a new location. I had attended
twenty-four schools by the time Mom
finally put her foot down and an-
nounced she was sick of moving. From
then on, my brothers and I saw Dad
only on weekends, and our mother took
over control of the family.

“As a kid, I had one big dream—to
become a doctor. When I graduated

from high school I was drafted into the
Navy, where I trained to become an op-
erating-room technician. I served as a
surgical assistant during the Korean
War, and was more competent than a
lot of the doctors. After my discharge I
entered college on the G.I. Bill, fully
intending to go to medical school. That
plan fell through, and I have no one to
blame but myself.

“T got married—which was crazy for
a young man in my position—and then
my wife, Sheila, immediately became
pregnant and had to stop working. I
held all sorts of odd jobs in the evenings
and on weekends, and we borrowed
money from our parents, but the bills
kept mounting. Sheila nagged me to
leave school and get a full-time job.

“My grades kept dropping. I blamed
that on financial pressure, but to tell
the truth, that was only part of the
problem. During my years in the ser-
vice, ’'d forgotten how to study. When I
flunked out of college in my junior
year, I was actually relieved. Finally, I
could go to work and support my family.

“T found a job selling office supplies,
and I was good at it. Our finances im-
proved, but our marriage didn’t. Sheila
was on my back constantly, and I could
hardly bear to come home at night. Two
more babies arrived, which added to
the chaos. We were both miserable and
decided on a trial separation.

“That’s when I met Marge. She was
tall and stately, lovely to look at and as
soothing to be with as Sheila was over-
bearing. At Marge’s urging, I returned
to Sheila to give our relationship one
last chance. The reconciliation was a
farce; my heart and mind were totally
focused on Marge. Though the divorce
was at my request, it was painful. I
have always felt guilty about leaving
Sheila with three children.

“Marge insists that we have nothing
to show for our twenty-five years to-
gether. What does she want, a twenty-
room mansion? We have two fine kids,
lots of friends, fun times to remember,
and good health.

“Having been through eight hellish
years of bickering with my first wife, I
resolved that things would be different
this time. I’m proud of the fact that I’ve
kept my oath. Marge isn’t the easiest
person to live with, but I’ve tried to
ignore the negative and focus on the
positive. When she gives me the cold
shoulder sexually, I grin and bear it.
if she doesn’t want to go out partying,
I go without her. Marge is a martyr.
When she starts pulling her ‘poor me’
act, I just close my ears.

“Marge’s big complaint is that I
sometimes get rowdy after partying
and pop out with things that might

have been better left unsaid. I occasion-
ally do that—but I always apologize. A
guy can’t be held accountable for every
remark he makes when he’s had one
beer too many, now, can he?”

The counselor's turn

“When this couple walked into my of-
fice, my initial reaction was an echo of
George’s,” said the counselor. ““‘What in
the world, I asked myself, ‘are these
two people doing here?’

“Within a few minutes, however, it
became obvious that there was a tre-
mendous difference in their personali-
ties. He was a ride on a roller coaster
that had no end, while she was a gentle
canoe trip on a rippleless lake. Despite
the fact that they had shared their lives
for twenty-five years, neither had de-
veloped any tolerance for the other’s in-
dividuality. Marge felt George’s social
behavior was extravagant; he felt she
was cold and a party pooper. Although
there were certain areas in which they
were compatible (they had no friction,
for instance, over raising their chil-
dren), they were in total disagreement
about the the use of their money and
leisure time.

“Most important, and hardest to deal
with, was that each had perfected a fa-
cade that prevented sharing and self-
exposure. In George’s case, the facade
was a clown mask, fashioned after the
personality of his genial but weak-
natured father. ‘Keep laughing and you
won’t notice what hurts you’ was his
motto. George was really filled with
bottled-up emotions—hostility toward
his domineering mother, anger toward
his nagging first wife and resentment
toward Marge when she exhibited any
of the traits of either of these women.
He also felt guilty about what he saw as
his life’s failures—his unsuccessful
first marriage, his aborted dream of be-
coming a doctor and his ineffectual
business ventures. Because his Mr.
Nice Guy image was so important to
him, he successfully repressed these
feelings most of the time. However,
when his control was loosened by alco-
hol, they came bursting to the surface.
George did not have a drinking prob-
lem per se; he drank very occasionally,
and then in moderation. But he did use
liquor as a scapegoat when his frustra-
tion level became too high.

“Marge played the role of martyr.
Her father had been the sole provider
and authority figure, and she viewed
George’s easygoing approach to life as a
sign of irresponsibility. Sensing that
his extravagances were his subtle way
of spiting her, she retaliated by denying
herself any pleasures.

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to be fixed up, but was resistant to any
idea of changing himself or herself. The
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marital problems. George was then able
to face up to his own contribution to
Marge’s unhappiness.

“As Marge recognized, this couple’s
problems were compounded by a break-
down in communication. George bot-
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my needs,’ she would say accusingly,
defying her husband to figure out what
these needs were. George, understand-
ably frustrated by this game-playing,
shrugged off the challenge and went
his own way. In counseling, Marge
learned to be more specific about what
she wanted. One assignment I gave her
was to come up with a list of things that
would give her pleasure. Amazingly,
she was unable to do this. She had sunk
so far into her martyr role that she
could not be the least bit self-indulgent.
Finally, with reluctance, she revealed
that she would like to be able to soak in
a hot bath for an hour after work. The
idea that she had been depriving her-
self of such a simple luxury was so lu-
dicrous that even Marge laughed.

“Soon George and Marge began to air
their feelings and to develop an appre-
ciation for each other as individuals. By
sharing the details of his past with his
wife, George was able to confront his
negative emotions and understand
where they came from. He learned to
express his feelings on a daily basis,
instead of letting them build.

“Marge and George have learned to
make compromises, and now spend lei-
sure time in activities they both enjoy.
Marge joins George for tennis and golf
on weekends, and is more open to home
entertaining. George, though still gre-
garious, spends many more evenings at
home, and if he does decide to have
dinner at the country club, he phones
Marge to ask her to join him.

“Now that she, too, is enjoying the
club facilities, Marge no longer com-
plains about the cost of membership. A
contributing reason for this is an in-
crease in family income. Marge re-
cently received a surprise promotion at
work: She was made office manager—a
direct result, I believe, of her new, posi-
tive approach to life.

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minated counseling, I phoned Marge.

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then added, ‘except that I’ve fallen in
love with my husband.’” End

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mother spoke before she died
at age eighty-five was “My
name is Mrs. Simon.” The young or-
derly who was moving her from her
hospital bed to a gurney (to be taken to
X-ray for what seemed to be an endless

series of tests), had been calling her

“Doll,” “Grannie” or “Annie.” My moth-
er’s first name was Anna, and she came
from a fairly formal European back-
ground, in which older people are
rarely on a first-name basis with any-
one but relatives and close friends.

Two weeks before her death, my
mother had been managing her large
home on her own. She worked ac-
tively as a volunteer for a number
of local civic organizations, read
books and listened to classical music
on the radio. Recently she had had
increasing difficulty walking. The
pain in her legs and some loss of bal-
ance made her physician decide to put
her in the hospital for a series of
tests. Before she left, she went to the
beauty parlor to get her hair done—a
weekly ritual for twenty years. My
mother, a great beauty throughout
her life, cared very much how she pre- |.
sented herself to the world.

The hospital her physician had
chosen was a large, university-affili-
ated institution, famous throughout
the United States for its outstanding
research record. My mother had an
excellent insurance program to supple-
ment her Medicare benefits, so she was
able to move into a small private room.
She had not been in a hospital since her
last child was born more than fifty
years ago, but she had never been
afraid of new experiences. She reas-
sured my stepfather, her husband of
more than twenty years, that once the
doctors found out what was wrong with
her she’d be fine. They would take their
daily strolls around the neighborhood
and even get to a movie or a concert.

I am a medical writer, and was on

“My name is
Mrs. Simon”

Old and ailing, my mother was fighting a valiant battle
against one of America’s best hospitals.

assignment on the West Coast when
the call came that my mother was
going into the hospital for what her
doctor called “routine tests.” I asked
whether I should come home. “Of course
not,” my mother said. “Finish your
work. I will manage. I always do.”

But somehow the situation worried
me enough so that I flew home a day
later. When I walked into her hospital
room I was appalled. My mother was

“They took away her glasses, her comb
and brush, as well as her dentures.”

not the same woman I had seen two
weeks earlier. Her hair was straggly
and uncombed, and her face looked
shrunken, I soon realized, because they
had taken her dentures away. “Senile
old people can hurt themselves with
those false teeth,” a nurse’ aide ex-
plained. That was the first time I had
heard the word senile applied to my
mother. People had used all kinds of
adjectives to describe her: willful, stub-
born, a little vain, but also intelligent,

adaptable and beautifully groomed.
Never had she been suspected of being
senile. Now I would hear that word
every day, many times, until the eve-
ning she died, and each time I would
protest vigorously. “Has there been
a medical diagnosis of senility?” I
asked the nurse's aide. The young
woman looked terribly surprised.
“She's eighty-five,” she replied in a
matter-of-fact tone. “People at that age
just don’t have all their marbles.” She
was putting crudely what many others
on the hospital floor, from cleaning
personnel to physicians, would put in
milder or more scientific terms.

I looked around the room, which
seemed as unkempt and forlorn as my
mother. Her lunch tray, untouched,
held a plate of tough-looking meat
and a hard roll, foods that would be
difficult to chew even if she had her
dentures. The gelatin dessert she re-
fused on grounds of taste. (I remem-
ber she used to look contemptu-
ously at a gelatin salad or dessert and
say, “Stop trembling ... I wouldn’t
dream of eating you.”)

“What have you eaten since you got
here?” I asked. “Not much,” she said.
“IT don’t seem to get anything I can
chew. They give me a menu every day,
but without my glasses I can’t read
it.” She slurred her words because it
was difficult for her to talk without
her dentures. Shaken, I asked about
the glasses. “A nurse took them away
with my pocketbook when I got here,”
she said simply. “I have asked every-
body who comes into the room to give
them back, but they insist I never
brought them in the first place.”

A quick search of her room turned up
the glasses and her pocketbook in a
closet, out of reach. Also in the closet
were her brush and comb, which ex-
plained the condition of her hair. By
that time I was furious, a feeling that
would intensify during the next ten
days.I went back tothe (continued)

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nurses’ station and asked that my mother
‘be given her dentures, eyeglasses and
personal grooming articles. “Well, if
you insist,” the nurse said. “But you
know that these senile people keep los-
ing things, and nobody on this floor has
time to look for them.” She was about
thirty, with a pair of glasses on a chain
around her neck. “Don’t you ever lose
your glasses?” I asked. “Of course,” she
said. “That’s why I have this chain.”

With her personal belongings back,
my mother was now able to see the
menu, read the newspaper and get-well
cards from friends and family, see the
numbers on the dial phone next to her
bed and talk to the outside world with
unslurred speech. She could (and did,
until the last day of her life) comb and
brush her hair. But the word senile con-
tinued to haunt her days and nights.

My stepfather, in his nineties, was
terribly worried about her. Together
they had coped very well in the big sub-
urban house, but now he found he could
not manage. His son and daughter-in-
law came to take him home with them
to another suburb more than thirty
miles from the hospital. He could no
longer drive, and his children held full-
time jobs. So while he and my mother
were able to talk daily on the phone, he
could not get into the city to see her.

But one afternoon he persuaded a
neighbor to drive him to the hospital
for visiting hours. When he called with
the good news, my mother started primp-
ing immediately. Not for the first time,
she asked to wear her own nightgown
and bed jacket instead of a stiff, rust-
stained, tied-in-the-back hospital gown.
But her nightclothes were not to be
found, and another nurse insisted they
had never been brought. “She’s just
imagining packing them. They imag-
ine lots of things.” A five-minute search
turned them up, still in her suitcase,
locked up at the nurses’ station. I insis-
ted that she wear her own clothes from
now on, unless there was a medical rea-
son for wearing the hospital gown. At
this point, several nurses began look-
ing at me as if senility were an infec-
tious disease and I had caught it. Ap-
parently, to many of these young peo-
ple, being old did not just mean being
senile, it also meant being so hope-
lessly ugly that appearance should no
longer matter.

My stepfather did not agree with the
staff. He thought my mother looked
very pretty in her silky, cream-colored
gown with matching jacket. They were
exceedingly glad to see each other and
spent the full two hours talking, then
just holding hands. When he left, he
asked me, “She’ll be home in a few

days, won’t she?” I assured him that
she would. (That’s what everyone had
told me.) They never saw each other
again. It was the last reasonably happy
hour my mother had.

The next day, the medical tests start-
ed in earnest, since a preliminary ex-
amination had not shown what was
wrong with her. It seemed as if every
hour another person came in to stick a
needle into her arm to get more blood.
Eventually, the veins in her arms col-
lapsed, and getting blood became more
difficult and painful. “Why do you have
to get blood so often?” she asked a resi-
dent who had come in to get one more
sample. “Why don’t you just come once
and get all you need? Then you wouldn’t
have to stick me with needles all the
time.” It seemed like a perfectly sensi-
ble question, one I had been meaning to
ask. “Old people ask such funny things,”
said the resident, laughing as he
probed for a usable vein.

By evening all the blood tests and X-
rays (for which she waited in a corridor
on a hard gurney for hours) failed to
reveal anything definite. Her personal
physician, whom she had visited for
more than thirty years, had left for two
weeks the day after she entered the
hospital. He had assured me that his
partner (who had never met my moth-
er) would cover for him and visit reg-
ularly, but the partner got the flu. That
left my mother in the hands of the hos-
pital’s teaching faculty, residents and
interns. They had a genuine, if aca-
demic, interest in finding out the cause
of her problems, so when ordinary tests
did not turn up any definite diagnosis,
they decided on some extraordinary
ones: a spinal tap and a bone-marrow
examination. I have had both and knew
they were frightening at best, very
painful at worst. “Why is this neces-
sary?” I asked. “If she has a brain tu-
mor or leukemia (which would be in
dicated by the spinal tap and bone-mar-
row exam respectively),what are you
going to do about it? She obviously can-
not withstand extensive surgery, radia-
tion treatments or chemotherapy. So
why are you doing this?” I never re-
ceived an answer.

When she entered the hospital, my
mother had signed a release (which
was not explained to her, and which,
without her glasses, she had not been
able to read) authorizing the hospital
staff to do any tests and procedures
they considered advisable. The resi-
dent on the floor reminded me that I
had no legal authority to stop any tests.
So my mother was rolled out of her
room on that gurney, and I did not see
her again for four hours. When she was
brought back, she looked gray and ter-
rified. She submitted to the spinal tap
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Malibu and staying out of the lime-
light—though some love of show busi-
ness has rubbed off. Since he was eight
years old he has had movie cameras of
his own and has made little films with
friends, sometimes pressing his mother
or father to appear in them, too. He is
also a well-trained pianist who com-
posed and performed the score of a vid-
eotape he sent two years ago as a for-
tieth birthday tribute to his mother,
who was then working on Yentl in Lon-
don. Jason chose to stay home when
Barbra shot the movie overseas, and
afterward, she found that their good
relationship was better than ever. “Be-
fore,” she remembers, “I felt guilty and
hid things from him—all my fears, my
flaws. I tried to play mother. But now
I’ve stopped preaching. I tell him
what I think or feel, and if he doesn’t
accept it, that’s fine. . .. Now the love
is just there. It’s unconditional—and
it’s very strong.”

Barbra’s outlook is more relaxed
in other ways as well. She still won’t
do live concerts for fear of being shot
by someone in the audience. But
during this period of new begin-
nings, she has spoken of finally tack-
ling that fear. And, now that the
overprotective influence of her ex-
lover Jon Peters is behind her, she
delights in regaining certain free-
doms. She drives, shops, even some-
times walks urban streets alone, es-
pecially in London. While filming
Yentl she lived for months in central
London’s Chelsea district in a ram-
bling Georgian mansion owned by
Billy Gaff, Rod Stewart’s ex-man-
ager. She found she could stroll the
trendy streets unrecognized—or at
least unbothered. She is now negotiat-
ing to buy a house in London and plans
to spend more time there. It’s easy to
understand why. England’ ailing
movie industry smothers her with re-
spect. She was a favorite of the British
technicians who worked on Yenil. Also,
European moviemakers and audiences
tend to venerate longtime stars more
than Americans d

As for her lovelife, Barbra’s taste in
men carries a specia! requirement. Ca-
sual and plainspoken in her own man-
ner, she likes a man who is not awed or
overwhelmed by her. His accomplish-
ments should give him the self-confi-
dence to stand up to her and take
charge when it’s called for. Of course, it
wouldn’t hurt if he were also rich
handsome, charming and sexy.

Last year she was linked with Rich
ard Gere and renewed a 1973 friend-
ship with Canadas Prime Minister
Pierre Trudeau. Rumors also flew about

romances with directors George Lucas
(Star Wars) and Steven Spielberg (E.T.),
but she has insisted these were friend-
ships between directorial colleagues.
Most recently, the man to fill the bill
has been Richard Cohen, a tall, boyish-
looking sandy-haired millionaire busi-
nessman in his forties, who was re-
cently divorced from Tina Sinatra
(Frank’s daughter). Barbra ran into
him last January at the fortieth birth-
day party for Kenny Rogerss wife,
Marianne. Cohen was escorting his
then live-in girlfriend, Marjorie Wal-
lace (a former Miss World), who soon
moved out. Cohen and Barbra dated
until her heavy travel schedule inter-
rupted once too often, and they stopped
seeing each other in late spring.
Lasting relationships don’t come any
easier to folks on the Hollywood merry-
go-round than they do to a divorced and

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to be treated
as a superstar
anymore,” says
Barbra. “I’m

a woman,

a mother, a
friend, a lover.”

middle-aged working mother—which,
in fact, is what Barbra is. Being in the
public eye only makes casual dating
harder, and any poor guy the press sees
her dining out with suddenly. becomes
the new love of her life.

Barbra’s friends believe she is un-
likely to marry again soon—if ever—
partly because of the pressures of star-
dom. For a woman whose life is so com-
plicated, the comforts of marriage can
be outweighed by the pains of making
it legal. Even outside marriage; Barbra
has found that relationships are com-
plicated by such precautions.

In the beginning of their eight-year
love affair, she and Jon signed elabo-
rate prenuptial agreements against the
day they married or parted. They did
part when Yentl went into production,
yet it is taking attorneys a long time to
sort out all the property the couple ac-
cumulated together. For example, it
seems Jon owns the twenty-four acres
of their hidden ranch in Ramirez Can-
yon, while Barbra kicked in for the

building and furnishing of its five
structures. The whole place may now
go to Jon, or up for sale, and last
March, Barbra bid the ranch a final
farewell with a very heavy heart.

Of her relationship with Jon she
says, “There were problems. One isn’t
able to live forever in the past. It was
necessary to leave, to go forward. To be
alone to make my film, totally open to
the outside world, free of the protection
that he had surrounded me with.”

She is, however, still generous in her
comments about him and appears to be
upset at any suggestion that he used
her to change careers from hairdresser
to film producer. “Jon is brilliant. I am
indebted to him for many reasons,” she
says. “He pushed me to write my first
song, ‘Evergreen,’ the theme for A Star
Is Born. It was he who had the idea for
the duets that I taped with Neil Dia-
mond, Barry Gibb and Donna Sum-
mer. And without me, he produced
Missing and Flashdance.”

Today, Barbra stays mostly at her
fairly modest house in Holmby
Hills, hidden behind a_ ten-foot
walled fence and cypress trees. She
shares its white and pink art
nouveau rooms with her son and her
mother, Diana Kind, who moved in
after suffering a mild stroke but is
now fully recovered. Mother and
daughter used to have a relationship
that was politely strained. It seemed
as if Mrs. Kind favored Barbra’s
younger sister, singer Roslyn Kind,
while holding back unqualified ap-
proval of her older daughter’s stun-
ning success. But in recent years,
Barbra and her mother have grown
closer. “I talk a Jot with my mother
and my son,” explains Barbra. In
fact, the star seems more at ease with
her life generally. “I read. I go to col-
lege, where I take a course in the psy-
chology of sex differences, and I look
around me.”

Barbra’s changing attitudes about
home, family, and just about every-
thing else owe a lot to the saga of Yentl.
Once the movie was made, selling it to
the public proved to be fraught with joy
and pain. The picture wasn’t a block-
buster, but it had a modest success,
grossing some $40 million in the U.S.
alone. Still, the critics were often cruel,
with the most wounding remarks com-
ing from Nobel Prize-winner Isaac
Bashevis Singer, whose short story in-
spired the movie. He felt the adapta-
tion was overdone. “As my Aunt Yentl
used to say,” he slyly recalled, “you can-
not make from a borscht a chicken
soup.” Barbra replied, “Mr. Singer is a
noted misogynist. I am not.”

Then, too, Barbra was very disap-
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nominations. Although the picture did win some prizes
and pop up on a few best-ten lists, when the Oscar nomina-
tions were announced earlier this year, Yentl rated five,
with only one in a major category. Barbra learned the
news at home that morning. “She was very hurt and disap-
pointed,” says close friend Marilyn Bergman. “To exclude
Yentl that way defies understanding.”

With Oscar prospects dimming and business at the box
office declining, it was clear she needed to push Yenil’s
overseas premieres in person. (Conveniently, this would
take her away on Oscar night, too.) The trip during March
grabbed headlines as she hopscotched to European open-
ings and was toasted everywhere—from lunch in Rome
with Fellini to dinner in Paris with Pierre Cardin at his
glittering party for her. The French typically saw her as a
prophet without honor and gave her their Officer of Arts
and Letters award, together with a standing ovation that
“made her weep. (Quipped a Yankee onlooker, “Don’t get
too excited, Barbra; they gave one to Jerry Lewis, too.”)

At the London premiere, she sat in the balcony with the
Queen’s first cousin, Princess Alexandra, who even waived
a fine point of protocol for her. No one stands up to leave
these affairs before the royal guest does, but the audience
would not stop applauding until Barbra rose and came
onstage to speak. Technically, by doing so she would end
the event. So she hesitated. The crowd yelled “Speech!”
The princess eyed the movie queen. Both grinned. Finally,
Barbra invited Her Highness to rise, and the princess
said, “No, no, they want you. You get up.” And Barbra did.

Not all the trip's headlines were happy. Barbra went

28 LADIES' HOME JOURNAL + AUGUST 1984

everywhere flanked by bodyguards, men built like Mr. Tf}
who snarled at fans and muscled the press, even in well-
mannered England. Says one cameraman who faced the
ire of one of Barbra’s two six-foot-six companions: “He toldj,
me to get lost or he’d smash my camera. She has to be
totally paranoid to surround herself with these thugs.”
In Rome, the overzealous behavior of Barbra’s guards,
was even worse. When one photographer snapped Barbra’),
picture as she was coming out of a store (she didn’t have},
any makeup on), he was knocked to the ground, beaten,§.
and later taken to the hospital with internal injuries.
The tour climaxed in Israel, where Barbra dedicated a
$1.5-million building she had endowed and named for her}
father. Here her Israeli guards were placed under certainj)
restrictions—but not ones you might expect. It seems that
during Farrah Fawcett’s visit to Israel a few years ago, the
former Charlie’s Angel had a highly publicized romances,
with one of her bodyguards, adding fuel to the breakup
with Lee Majors. So, each of Barbra’s guards was made to
sign an unusual contract stating that if they made any
advances toward her, they would be fined up to $10,000)
(more than a year’s pay for them). If Barbra made thef}
advances, of course, no fines were to be levied. |
These guards—and the protective wall that friends and
employees set up around Barbra—are apparently neces-)
sary for her well-being. As anyone knows who tours with}
her, it’S not easy being a superstar. The overwhelming
attention that she receives is “dehumanizing,” explain}
lyricists Alan and Marilyn Bergman, who accompanied}
her on this trip. “I began to identify with that African}
tribe that believes each time somebody takes your picturey
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Adds Rusty Lemorande, Streisand’s
\:o-producer on Yentl, “I used to think
);hat you could remain a normal human
»eing under such pressure. I don’t be-
ieve that anymore.”

Still, the orchestration surrounding
3arbra’s movements often tarnished
}aer image needlessly. In Tel Aviv, for
xxample, she came one hour late to a
‘reception in her honor—and was
-zreeted with boos from reporters. Bar-
‘ora, visibly shaken, said, “I have di-
rected, produced and starred in this
ilm. I have not organized this recep-
sion. I came when I was told to.”

She may very well have been right.
One of Israel’s top columnists placed
the blame for this fiasco on Barbra’s
oublicist. “He wanted us to treat her as
if she were the Queen of England, visit-
ing the Bedouins in the desert. He
therefore gave Streisand and the press
different time schedules, so as to make
the press wait for her.” He made just
one mistake. In a country where so
much happens every day, the press has
better things to do than wait for visit-
ing movie stars. (Lee Solters, Barbra’s
publicist, denies that her lateness was
stage-managed.)

Her good and bad press sold tickets,
and, cleverly, it stole a bit of thunder
from the Academy Awards. “That trip
was a triumph,” sighs Marilyn Berg-
man. “It more than made up for Bar-
bra’s disappointment with the Oscars.”
And of course, it also offered her a
chance to spend time in Israel and to
explore what has come to be a very
meaningful part of her heritage. With
the press kept at bay, Teddy Kollek,
the mayor of Jerusalem, showed her
around the Old City, where she went
shopping and bought some ancient
coins for her son. Then, at midnight,
she went to the Wailing Wall and put a
note among its ancient stones.

Even during her tour, it is likely that
Barbra was already looking toward the
future. After all, as Rabbi Chaim Seid-
ler-Feller, one of her advisers on Yenztl,
says, “Barbra is a woman obsessed
with doing the next perfect thing.” Now
that Jason is growing up, Jon Peters
has left, and Yentl is behind her, Bar-
bra is ready for a new challenge and is
still eager to win approval as a serious
artist. She dreams of playing in Antony
and Cleopatra and Hamlet, and she
says she’d love to film The Merry Widow
with Ingmar Bergman directing. She’s
even been talking about appearing on a
cable television series playing great
roles from the classics—“everything
from Hedda Gabler to Medea. I want to
do pictures that make a social point,”
Barbra told the Journal last winter,
“from which people come out inspired
to change, to grow, to move on.”

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movies that have commercial potential.
One, Triangle, costarring Jane Fonda,
is about union organizing after the in-
famous New York shirtwaist factory
fire of 1911 that claimed so many lives.
A second possible project is a comedy
with Goldie Hawn that comments on
the differing lifestyles of two New York
City girlfriends, one a housewife, one a
career woman. Another film would up-
date her second-biggest box-office hit,
The Way We Were, with its original
leading man, Robert Redford.

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direct the movie version of off-Broad-
way’s Little Shop of Horrors, co-produc-
ing it with friend Steven Spielberg.

In any case, insiders say that the
pain and joy of birthing Yentl has
changed Barbra, leaving her more un-
derstanding of others. “I used to won-
der why people were so shy with me,”
she recalls. “Now I’ve realized that it’s
the isolating factor of fame. I have to
give first to put people at ease.

“Before, I was driven,” she admits.
“Now I’m doing the driving. It’s easier
to be around me these days.” End

Additional reporting by Uri Klein.

Thomas Hutto

The case of
Jeremy Styron

A modern
medical miracle

By Elaine Fein

Last February, David, “the boy
in the bubble,” died a few
months after undergoing a
bone-marrow transplant that
doctors had hoped would cure
him of a rare, often fatal illness
known as severe combined im-
munodeficiency disease (SCID).
At the time of his death, twelve-
year-old. David was the old-
est surviving victim of SCID,
which affects about 200 new-
borns every year and is caused
when the bone marrow fails to
produce the white blood cells
needed to fight infection. Today,
scientists and physicians are
still unsure of the exact cause of
David’s death, but they hasten
to point out that bone-marrow
transplant techniques are a pow-
erful weapon for conquering a
host of life-threatening dis-
eases, including leukemia and
other disorders of the immune
system. Here, the inspiring
story of another young SCID
victim, whose harrowing ordeal
had a very different ending.

n a raw, chilly day

in Winston-Salem,

North Carolina,

Wanda and Jack

Styron sat numb-
ly on a couch in a small, win-
dowed conference room as a
young immunologist explained
what was wrong with their ten-
month-old son.

Jeremy, she said, was suffer-
ing from severe combined im-
munodeficiency disease; his body
lacked the normal protection
against germs. As a result, the
slightest cold could kill him.

“We were stunned,” Wanda re-
calls. Her melodious Southern ac-
cent and serene composure belie
her deep emotional strength. “The
doctor cried as hard as we did.”

Sitting in the living room of
her wood-frame house in rural
Greenwood, South Carolina,
Wanda, thirty-two, glances out
the window as_ seven-year-old
Jeremy races across the green
field of a neighbor's farm.

“T couldn’t believe what I was
hearing. The doctor said Jeremy
had no immune system at all.
They were quite (continued)

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astounded he’d lived so long already.

“Our only hope was a bone-marrow
transplant,” Wanda continues, her
voice cracking as she remembers the
nightmare of those years. “But that’s a
very tricky procedure. And at the time,
it would work only if they found a do-
nor whose marrow perfectly matched
Jeremy's. If they couldn’t, he would
have to spend the rest of his life in a
sterile hospital room.”

But Jeremy Styron made medical
history—he was one of the first pa-
tients to successfully receive a bone-
marrow transplant using unmatched
donor cells. That remarkable feat, two
years ago, culminated twenty years of
medical research on two continents—
and four agonizing years for a family
whose little boy waited in a hospital
room, sealed off from the outside world,
beyond the reach of human touch.

When Jeremy was born on June 24,
1977, there was no reason to suspect
anything was wrong. He was as pink
and healthy as any baby. With his
blond hair and blue eyes, he looked just
like his sister, Deana, five years older.

But when Jeremy was five months
old, he caught a cold that grew steadily
worse. As the weeks passed, the sniffles
and sneezes progressed to multiple in-
fections of the eyes and ears. Then a
mysterious rash inched across his body.
A bout of diarrhea was followed by a
severe case of double pneumonia. And,
at an age when most babies are rapidly
gaining weight, Jeremy dropped from
fifteen and a half to nine pounds.

With each new symptom, Wanda
grew increasingly frightened. Though
optimistic by nature, both she and Jack
found it harder and harder to remain
calm as their healthy boy grew steadily
weaker. Their pediatrician, equally con-
cerned about Jeremy’s inability to get
well, ran a series of routine tests with
puzzling results. Jeremy's blood, he told
them, seemed to be lacking the sub-
stances needed to ward off infections. To
be sure, he referred them to Bowman
Gray School of Medicine at Wake Forest
University, Baptist Hospital, in North
Carolina, where for twenty-eight days
Jeremy was subjected to a barrage of
sophisticated procedures.

“At first, we didn’t know what was
going on,” remembers Jack, thirty-four.
Wanda picks up the thread of their
story. “Carolyn Huntley, the immu-
nologist at the North Carolina center,
was the first to tell us about bone-mar-
row transplants and the work being
done at Memorial [Sloan-Kettering Can-
cer Center] in New York City.” Dr.
Huntley telephoned Memorial to see if

there was room for Jeremy. There was,
and less than a week later, a private
plane, dispatched by the local hospital,
flew the Styrons to New York.

The gray-white buildings of Memorial
Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center over-
look the East River on Manhattan’s ex-
clusive Upper East Side. One of a hand-
ful of hospitals around the country
with a special bone-marrow transplant
unit, Sloan-Kettering has been treat-
ing children with SCID since 1973,
when Dr. Robert A. Good, the world-
renowned scientist who pioneered
the bone-marrow transplant technique,
came to the center.

Understanding the human immune
system is the key to discovering how
the body protects itself against disease.
Most of our blood cells are manufac-
tured in the marrow, the soft fatty ma-

hey found
it harder to
remain calm

as their healthy
little boy
grew weaker.

terial that fills bone cavities. The white
cells, or lymphocytes, produce antibod-
ies, which we use to fight infections.
But if, as in Jeremy's case, the marrow
is not producing white blood cells, the
body has no protection against invad-
ing organisms, and a slight cold can
develop into a life-threatening condition.
Sometimes a transplant can rebuild
the body’s immune system, but until
just recently, the transplanted marrow
cells had to match those of the recipient
(such cells may occur in only one of
100,000 people outside a family) or a
lethal condition known as graft-versus-
host disease sets in. When this hap-
pens, the transplanted cells actually at-
tack the already seriously ill patient.
Dr. Good reasoned that if they could
remove the substances in the marrow
that caused this rejection—substances
called mature T-cells—then unmatched
marrow could be used to save lives.
Aware that doctors at the famous Weiz-
mann Institute in Israel were involved
in similar studies, Dr. Good invited Dr.

Yair Reisner, one of the Israeli re--
searchers, to join his team in New York.

The small private plane that whisked
the Styrons to New York landed at La-
Guardia Airport late in the afternoon.
“We were operating on automatic,” Wanda
recalls. “Jeremy was wrapped in layers of
sterile sheets—he looked so tiny in the
large cardboard box as they wheeled him
on a stretcher from the plane.”

At the hospital, Jeremy was rushed
upstairs to the nineteenth floor, where
the seven sterile rooms comprising the
transplant unit are located. For the
next few hours, nurses bathed Jeremy
with special soaps, a procedure that
was to continue twice a day for the next
four years, and took cultures from his
ears, eyes, throat and skin to make
sure he was germ-free.

“T had always assumed that Id be
able to stay with Jeremy,’ Wanda con-
tinues. “At the other hospitals, either
Jack or I would spend the night on a cot
in his room. When they told us that was
against hospital policy, I fell apart.

“And then the nurse said to get all
our kisses in now because we wouldn't
be able to touch him with our bare skin
for a very long time. That broke my
heart.” (Each visitor to Jeremy's room
had to don a sterile hospital gown, hair
cap, booties and plastic gloves.)

“Jeremy was so weak, he didn’t know
what was happening. Throughout the
flight and those initial tests, he hardly
whimpered. But then we kissed him for
the last time, and he started to cry.”

When Jeremy arrived at the cancer
center, the doctors estimated that he
might be there for nine months. How-
ever, it soon became clear that the Sty-
rons nightmare would last much longer.

The first setback came soon after
Jeremy had been admitted. Tests on
Wanda, Jack and Deana revealed that
their tissues did not match Jeremy’.
An immediate transplant was out of
the question.

“By the fall of 1978, we were both
beginning to hit bottom,” Wanda re-
calls. “At first, we tried to make friends
with the parents of other young pa-
tients. But when you see so many kids
dying, and the suffering they endure,
you shy away from relationships. You
find you don’t want to get involved be-
cause it’s too painful. Yet I remember
that Jack stayed up all night comfort-
ing the parents of a dying child. They
were from out of town, too, and had no
one else to turn to”

The Styrons knew they would have to
move the family to New York “for the
duration.” A social worker helped them
find a studio apartment one block from
the hospital, and Jack decided to risk
quitting his job in the marketing depart-
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JEREMY STYRON

continued

and look for another post in New York.
Fortunately, he was able to use his ac-
counting background to land a position
with a manufacturing firm a short com-
mute away. And Deana enrolled in the
first grade at nearby PS. 183.

Months passed with an agonizing
sameness. Jeremy’s world was an 8-
by-12-foot room. His large metal crib
rested against one wall, directly in
front of the laminar airflow unit, a so-
phisticated air-purification system.
(Patients like Jeremy are particularly
susceptible to infections from airborne
contaminants.) Two walls of the room
were made of clear Plexiglas. On the

other wall was a large picture window.

Jeremy loved to watch the boats mak-
ing their way up and down the river.
Jeremy played with the same kinds
of toys as other little children. His crib
was filled with stuffed animals of myr-
iad shapes and sizes, and multicolored
toys hung from the sides of his playpen.
But there was one big difference: The
hospital sterilized all his playthings—
indeed, everything that went into
Jeremy's room, from the small black-
and-white television and the potty stool
to his favorite Mickey Mouse tele-

phone. Even Jeremy’s clothes— Wanda
took great pride in dressing him in the
most colorful outfits—were sent to a
special laundry for sterilization.

Birthdays and holidays were special.
Little Jeremy celebrated four birthdays
in his small hospital room, and each
year Wanda and the nurses staged an
elaborate party complete with cake and
balloons. Jeremy adjusted remarkably
well to his life of confinement. “After
all,” points out Michael Tamaroff,
Ph.D., a psychologist and member of
the hospital support team, “he knew
nothing else. He grew used to seeing
visitors swathed in hospital gowns.
Jeremy was not depressed, and his in-
telligence was quite high.”

However, Jeremy did develop prob-
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since he could hear people speak but
could never see their lips move, hidden
as they were by the mask.

Wanda tried to aid her son’ speech
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When they played the videotape for
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“We all were very concerned about
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Medicaid and several medical grants
covered the hospitalization costs.”

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would talk to their little son about how
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would all be home together. Jack re-
lated with pride how, when Jeremy was
three years old, he learned to play base-
ball. “After watching games on TV—
baseball and The Merv Griffin Show
were his favorite programs—he’d stand
up and swing his tiny arms while we
rolled up sterile tissues and threw
them toward him. His swinging arms
made a great bat.”

Finally, by January 1981, after pains-
taking tests on laboratory mice and
monkeys, Dr. Reisner and Dr. Neena
Kapoor, the clinician/researcher on the
transplant team chosen by Dr. Good for
this project, perfected a method of
using soybean lectin (a plant protein)
coupled with a second preparation that
uses red blood cells from sheep to re-
move the potentially dangerous T-cells |
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Pat Neal has endured many tragedies, but none has devastated

her so much as the breakup of her marriage. Here, she reveals

the depths of her anger and her pain. By Cindy Adams

y life has been a Greek tragedy. I’ve had
great good luck and great bad luck. But
if I had it to do all over again, I wouldn’t
have married the b————..”

At age fifty-eight, after five children and thir-
ty years of marriage, Academy Award winner
Patricia Neal is the newest celebrity divorcée in
New York. She and Roald Dahl, the British writ-
er, were married in 1953. They were divorced last
year after, Pat explains, “he’d been having an
affair with my best friend for ten years.”

The tall, handsome brunet is no stranger to
emotional anguish. In 1960, a New York taxi
went through a red light and plowed into the
carriage of her four-month-old son, Theo, leav-
ing him brain-damaged. Then, two years later,
the couple's eldest child, Olivia, aged seven, con-
tracted measles, developed encephalitis and died
suddenly. “Roald became suicidal,” his former
wife explains. “I’m the one who kept us together.
I cried to myself all night, but by day I managed
to keep the family together.”

Yet the strain on the actress was taking its
toll. And soon it would be Roald who would have

to assume the dominant role in the family. In
1965, after Pat had been named best actress for
her performance in Hud, she suffered a series of
disabling strokes, and emerged from a two-and-
a-half-week coma unable to walk or talk or see.

But even the pain of that stroke cannot match
the pain Pat feels today. “Of all the horrendous
things Ive known, this divorce has been the
worst,” Pat admits. “My sickness was hell, but I
didn’t know all of what was happening. Somehow
this emotional tragedy is the hardest thing for me
to take. This woman, Felicity Crosland, whom my
husband has since married, was a costume lady on
my first Maxim coffee commercial. I liked her;
Roald liked her right away. I was having a sup-
per party and he told me, ‘Invite her.’ I abso-
lutely didn’t see what was happening.”

Pat later found out that she was unaware of a
great many things that were going on in her
marriage. “He was a killer with women, but I
wasn’t aware of it until I learned about this lady.
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continued

showed her around the house. She
loved everything that Roald had se-
lected, laughed at everything he said.

“Another time Roald went to Califor-
nia. He’d written a film script. I was at
our home outside London when he
phoned to say, ‘Don’t call me. I'll call
you.’ Since I believed my husband was
loyal, I thought nothing of it.”

One surprising constant about Pat is
her openness. Only professionally has
she honed the art of pretense. Stars of
Neal’s magnitude invariably have a
heavy patina of pride. Not Patsy Louise
Neal, born in the rough and tough coal

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Roald, they told me it was over. I really
thought Id broken it up. But I didn’t face
it, really. I think our minds work the
way we want them to.”

Oddly, in the years to come, Felicity
would continue to be Pat’s friend, and
would become, more and more, a part of
the family. Life continued this way un-
til Pat says she began to suspect her
husband was thinking up ways to get
her out of the house. “He wrote lectures
for me to deliver. He had me buy a
house in Martha’s Vineyard. He could
hardly wait for me to visit America. He
really had had enough of me.”

But it was not just this affair that
harmed the marriage. Pat realizes that
her stroke, and the way it changed her

f all the horrendous things,

this divorce has been the worst.
My sickness was hell, but I
| didn’t know all of what was happening.
This is the hardest thing to take.”

mining camp of Packard, Kentucky. “Td
have done anything to make the mar-
riage work,” she says firmly. “Hillbil-
lies don’t conk out easy. We’re tough.”

Her gaze is steady, unblinking. She
tells it like it is. And if she seems to
talk about her marriage somewhat ob-
sessively, it is only because she is still
trying to understand the hurt.

“T tried to keep us together. For many
years after I learned about this affair, I
tried. I found it out in June of ’75, a
year and a half after it had begun. We
three were at a gambling casino in
London. I'd just come back from Ameri-
ca, and as we sat in the bar, I noticed
Felicity was very much in charge, doing
the ordering and all that.

“In the ladies’ room she turned, looked
into my eyes for maybe fifteen seconds,
and suddenly, I knew. She said every-
thing without saying a word. Then she
left, and my heart went boinggg.

“Instantly I recalled the day before

~ when she and I had been alone in my

house. She told me she was having an
affair with a married man who had three
daughters and a son, and I remember
saying, ‘Oh, that’sjust like Roald and me.’
She said her man wanted to leave his wife
because he didn’t love her anymore.
Right to my face, she was telling me
about my husband and I didn’t know.”
At first, it seemed as if the affair
might be a passing fling . . . or at least
that what Pat naively wanted to be-
lieve. “When I confronted Felicity and

relationship with Roald, was another
factor. In spite of the touching treat-
ment of Pat’s recovery in the best-sell-
ing book, Pat and Roald, by Barry Far-
rell, the stroke and its aftermath dealt
a brutal blow to the relationship.

It was February 17, 1965, when Pat
first became ill. She had completed a
Paramount film prophetically titled In
Harm's Way, and was beginning work
on MGM's Seven Women. She’d just're-
turned from filming her first big scene
in this, her twenty-third movie, when
she experienced a terrible pain in her
neck and lost consciousness at a rented
home in Pacific Palisades. Her body, be-
trayed by a vascular insult usually re-
served for those a generation older,
failed her. Pat suffered three strokes in
rapid succession.

Rushed to UCLA Medical Center
with severe intracranial bleeding, she
remained in surgery seven hours. Pat's
condition looked so bleak that doctors
said they didn’t know whether they’d
done her a favor by saving her.

Weeks later when she regained con-
sciousness, the actress, whose career
had floated so effortlessly that she once
said, “It seems too easy .. . I feel I
haven’t suffered enough,” was utterly
helpless. She was unable to speak. She
had blurred and double vision. Her
memory was gone and her left side
seemed lifeless. Patricia Neal the star
became Pat Dahl the patient.

“For three years I did nothing,” she

recalls. “I lay in bed and that’s all. I
spent afternoons sleeping. Long, three-
hour naps every day. Do you know what
happens after a schedule like that for
such a long time? You just plain get out
of the habit of everything.”

It was her husband who took the
helm in the household. Dahl, writer o
short stories, contributor to The New
Yorker, author of the children’s book
Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, writ-
er of screenplays for such films as Chit-
ty Chitty Bang Bang and James Bond’s
You Only Live Twice, was no longer the
spouse with the successful but subordi-
nate career. It was his creativity, and
persistence in organizing therapeutic
programs that taught Pat once again to
walk and talk, to think, read, add, sub-
tract, write and remember. It was he
who pulled, almost wrenched, her back
to life, and in doing so he became a
controlling influence on her.

But after years of putting all his
energy into helping his wife, Roald was
faced with the fact that Pat was recover-
ing. Once again he was in danger o
playing a secondary role to his wife in
the family and in the world. “When I
became well he didn’t like going back
to where we were,” she says.

Pat takes a sip of tea and leans for-
ward. “Do you know how I was told that
this affair was still going on? By my
daughter Ophelia, with Roald in the
room. He wanted her to tell me. My
children had all known and had kept
this secret a long time. This particular
evening Ophelia said, ‘Mama, I think
you should know that Daddy and Felic-
ity are still seeing each other....’ I
could have killed him. I couldn’t sleep. I
was up all night....

“Felicity came to my house as I was
leaving for America—I had to get away.
I asked, ‘Would you marry him?’ No,
she said, she wouldn’t dream of it, and
she put her arms around me. I said to
her, ‘T’ll be back. Don’t forget that.’

“Friends told me: ‘Whatever you do,
don’t let a real break happen. Don’t get
a divorce.’ And I didn’t. I only went for
a separation, but when Roald got my
papers he filed to end the marriage. I
couldn’t stop the tears. I never really
thought a divorce would happen.”

In some ways, this part of Pat Neal's
life seems like a B-movie script. It’s as
though she has come full circle. For, in
the early fifties, Pat was herself the
“other woman” in Gary Cooper’ life.

It was 1948. Cooper, then forty-eight,
and Neal, twenty-three, had been teamed
in a movie based on Ayn Rand’s novel
The Fountainhead. He had been mar-
ried a long time and had a twelve-year-
old daughter. Pat was still single.

Director King Vidor has said that hi
costars “fell immediately in love. It
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By Mark Catalano and June Wuest Becht

hether you run marathons, pur-
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hold, success counts! But doing
your best takes more than wish-
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Journal spoke to ten such achievers to find out
their secrets of success and to see what qualities
drove them to the top of their fields. Was it per-
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ply a desire to stand out from the crowd?

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do your best—in any activity you choose.

A stepladder to the top

To Pat McCormick, fifty-four, there’s nothing mag-
ical about what makes a winner. “Everybody,” she
says, “has what it takes inside her.”

Pat’s success as an athlete consisted of sweeping
‘the diving events in both the 1952 and 1956 Olym-
pics. How did she do it? “I have five basic steps
that I follow in life,” says Pat, “and they’re what I
followed when I won my four gold medals.”

Steps one and two, she says, are simple. You

have to define your goal and work hard. It’s the
third step that’s tough. “You’ve got to learn to
fail,” she explains. “Anytime you try to achieve

something new, there will be pain, but you’ve got
to learn that this pain is a normal part of growing.

“The fourth step,’ she says, “is to surround
yourself with winners. It is these people, not the
negative ones, who will help you.” The fifth step is
to know not to settle for just one success.

As a speaker in Long Beach, California, Pat
shares her philosophy with executives and school
groups, as well as with her daughter, Kelly, who

at twenty-four is also a champion diver and a
contender for a gold medal in 1984.

“The steps are so basic and simple,” says Pat,
“that anyone can follow them, and whoever does
will be a success at his or her own level.”

“I wanted to win”

“To succeed you have to be motivated,” says sev-
enty-year-old Eleanor Holm. “And you get moti-
vated when you find out what your goals are, and
what it is that you really want.”

It was as a member of the 1928 Olympic team—
four years before winning her gold medal in the
100-meter backstroke—that Eleanor learned
what she wanted. “Winning in 1932 wasn't diffi-
cult because I had tasted what it was like being in
the Olympics in 1928. I hadn’t forgotten the sight
of that American flag being raised for the win-
ners. I wanted to see it go up for me. I wanted to
win the gold medal for the United States.”

Eleanor did just that in 1932, and went on to
have a successful show business career. In each
case, her attitude worked well for her—as it still
does today. “No matter what you want,” she says,
“it’s your motivation that will get you there.”

Being your best
“Tf I fail,” says Wyomia Tyus, thirty-eight, “then I
am pleased just to have done my best, even when
my best doesn’t make me number one.”

It doesn’t take long to figure out that success
doesn’t just mean winning to Wyomia, who came
in first in the 100-meter dash at the 1964 and 1968
Olympics. To this attractive mother of two, it
means trying hard and not giving up. “When I
was a competitor in the 1960s,” she recalls, “I was
taught to do my very best and to feel good about it.
I knew that if I ran the best race I could, ['d be
satisfied with whatever happened.”

Today, as an active public speaker, Wyomia says
she always relates life to athletics. “When you're
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quit in a different field?

“In my life, success means living
each day to the fullest. Its knowing
that I’ve put as much energy into living
a good life as I can.”

Adaptability is the key

For Peggy Fleming, the 1968 Olympic
figure skating champion, success de-
pends on the ability to perform under
any condition—when you're nervous,
when the lights are bright, when a
dozen cameras are focused on every

spin. “Adaptability is important,” says
Peggy, now thirty-six, “because a lot of
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so you feel different under different
circumstances.”

Whatever the situation, Peggy says,
she tells herself that “I’m going out and
that I'll just do it—TIll try my hardest.
At such times, you're relying on all
those hours of hard work and prepara-
tion to get you through.”

Today, Peggy, a mother, and special
commentator for ABC Sports, finds
that this same quality still brings her
success. “For me to do well I have to be
able to adapt to each situation,” she
says. “You can’t feel the same about

what you're doing every single time
you do it. You have to make the best of
things under the circumstances.”

Building self-confidence

“Through trial and error I began to
build my self-confidence,” says speed
skater Sheila Young Ochowicz, “and I
learned how to succeed.”

For this Olympic champion, the key
to building self-confidence was to start
small. “I wouldn’t say, ‘I’m going to
win,” she explains. “But Id set realis-
tic goals, taking things step by step.”

Though Sheila was unsuccessful in her
early attempts to make the Olympic
team, in 1976 she won the gold medal in
the 500-meter race. And Sheila doesn’t
even think her abilities are exceptional!
“T’ve always considered myself an aver-
age athlete,” she says, “but I learned
to believe in my capabilities.

“The important thing,” this thirty-
three-year-old mother of two continues,
“{s to have positive feelings about your-
self. If you’ve made mistakes in the
past, you don’t dwell on them. Instead
you try to correct those mistakes.”

“There's no such thing
as ‘I can’t’”

unable to walk until the age of eight
and had to wear braces on her legs un-
til she was nine. But in 1960, when she

American woman to win three Olympic
gold medals in track and field.

Wilma, forty-four, credits this accom-
plishment to her deep-rooted faith in}
herself. “There's no such thing as Tf
can’t,” she says. “Overcoming my
handicap came from determination.”

According to Wilma, the more set-
backs you encounter, the harder you
must try. “Of course we fail,” she says.
“Tve had a million failures. But you’ve
got to continue on to make it work.”

As president of the Wilma Rudolph
Foundation, an organization that en-
courages young athletes, Wilma is al-
ways emphasizing the importance of
having faith in one’s abilities. “You
have to believe in yourself,” she says,
“even when no one else believes.”

Seizing opportunities

“It's important to fight for oppor-
tunities,” says swimming champion
Donna de Varona, thirty-seven. “But
you have to go out and find those oppor-
tunities first. And in some cases, she
says, you have to create them.
“Working my way up in television
was the hardest thing in my life,” says
the 1964 two-time gold medalist who is
now an ABC sports commentator. “But
I learned that if you want to get ahead,
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in Los Angeles.

he eternal flame is lit and the XXIII
Olympiad begins, with all its pomp
and parades, tension and triumphs.
What you see on TV, however, is only
part of the drama. Unknown to mil-
lions of viewers are the inspiring sto-
ries of young athletes and their fam-
ilies who, year after year, have sacrificed time and
money to achieve excellence. They've taken part in
countless competitions before they have even become
eligible for national and international rankings.

To find out what it really means to be a champion,
we selected three Olympic hopefuls—a swimmer, a
gymnast and a long jumper. While no athlete can be
guaranteed success, these young women have excel-
lent chances of capturing the gold.

Tracy Caulkins
The trophies are everywhere in the living room of the
Caulkinses’ split-level home in Nashville, Tennessee.
Silver plaques and cups crowd the hearth; across the

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room, a glass cabinet holds the Sullivan award, given
to the nation’s top amateur athlete, a crystal vase for
the highest score at the 1978 World Championships
and several medals from the Pan Am Games.

Only one important piece is missing: Tracy
Caulkins, widely regarded as America’s greatest
female swimmer, has never won an Olympic gold.
“Gold medals are the only thing that matter to the
public,” Tracy says in her soft country drawl, trying to
sound nonchalant. “To me, they’re just something I
haven't gotten—and,” she breaks into a big grin,
“would really like to have.”

Tracy, twenty-one, usually gets what she wants.
She's broken sixty American records—the only Amer-
ican to hold a record in every stroke—and captured
forty-eight national titles, eclipsing the previous all-
time high of thirty-six, held by the late Johnny
Weissmuller (of Tarzan fame). She might well have
captured a gold in 1980 had the U.S. not boycotted the
Olympics that summer.

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“T didn’t understand what was going
on except that an opportunity for the
athletes was taken away. I was lucky:
I was young enough for another shot.
It makes me hungrier this time.”

This year’s boycott by the Soviet
bloc countries is also upsetting. “You
don’t have the satisfaction of knowing
you've competed against all the best
athletes in the world,” she says, “but
a gold medal is still something to be
very proud of.”

Tracy’s achievements are partly the
result of natural talent. At five feet
nine and 133 pounds, she has long
arms and legs and the ability to hy-
perextend her knees, making them
curve slightly backward to produce a
stronger kick. “She’s also mentally
tough, with remarkable concentra-
tion,” says Randy Reese, swim coach
at the University of Florida, where
Tracy will be a senior this year.

But quiet Tracy, with her layered
dark blond hair and blue eyes, hardly
fits the image of a bloodthirsty com-
petitor. “She’s your typical college stu-
dent, one of the nicest girls you'll
meet,” says Jeff Dimond, information
services director for U.S. Swimming
Inc., the national governing body for
competitive swimming. “On the start-
ing block, though, she gets fire in her
eyes and ice water in her veins.”

Tracy began swimming by chance.
When she was eight, her older brother
and sister insisted she join their club’s
swim team, which needed members
Tracy’s age.

“For a while we had three kids swim-
ming at different times in different
pools,” recalls Tom Caulkins, a large
man with a gray beard. “We’d wave to
each, stuck in traffic going in differ-
ent directions.” As the children be
came more involved with swimming, so
did their parents. “I was pushy,” Tom
admits with a laugh. “On the way
home from the pool, I always wanted
to talk about practice. I even bought a
stopwatch to time them. I thought I
was the world’ greatest coach. Its amaz-
ing how kids succeed in spite of you.”

In fact, Tom and his wife, Martha,
did much to promote their children’s
success. Instrumental in forming a
swim team, the Nashville Aquatics
Club, they helped raise money to hire
a coach and build a pool. “We didn’t
want to send our children away to
train,” explains Martha.

Tracy’s big breakthrough came at
the 1977 indoor national champion-
ship, when she was fourteen. She won
her first national title, in the 100-yard

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breaststroke. But winning hasn't
come without sacrifices. For Tracy, the
rigorous training regimen has left lit-
tle room to pursue personal interests.
“It’s been hard,” she says, “and there
were days I said I wanted to quit, but I
don’t think I meant it.”

Tracys fame has also triggered
some family problems. Brother Tim
quit swimming competitively, but
Amy, two years older than Tracy, be-
came a good swimmer—just not one
of the world’s best. Though the rivalry
never erupted into open warfare, it
created a tension that didn’t ease un-
til Amy made a name for herself play-
ing water polo.

For the Caulkinses, the years of
training have taken a financial toll,
though they claim they’ve never add-
ed it all up. “We just don’t want to
know,” says Tom. The cost of swim-
ming on a senior level varies greatly,
but it can run as high as $5,000 a
year. When Tracy represents the
United States overseas, U.S. Swim-
ming Inc. pays for her travel, and
Tracy and Amy both receive full
swimming scholarships to the Uni-
versity of Florida. But Tom, a director
in the county school system, and Mar-
tha, a high school art teacher, foot all
the other bills.

“Our kids learned early on that
there are no free lunches,” Tom says.
“They saw that those who practiced
the hardest swam the fastest in
meets, that you get what you pay for
in life. And they’ve also learned that
if they work hard, they can succeed—
whatever the next step may be.”

Just what the next step is weighs
heavily on Tracy. “I’m not planning on
swimming after college, and I realize
there’ll be a big hole in my life. But
I'll stay busy”—her voice trails off—
“somehow.” A broadcasting major, she’s
aiming for a career as a television
sports commentator.

But before she hangs up her tank
suit, there is Los Angeles. Though
she'll most likely compete in several
events, her two best are the 200-
meter and 400-meter individual med-
leys, a combination of the butterfly,
backstroke, breaststroke and free-
style. She is training hard, swim-
ming 13,000 to 16,000 yards a day.

“It’s real weird, all this work rest-
ing on a four-minute performance,”
Tracy says as she plays with the draw-
string on her team sweatshirt. “I hope
everything goes well. I know it’s not
the end of the world if it doesn’t—but
it sure would be nice.”

Mary Lou Retton

This is a Cinderella story, gymnastics
style. When an injured teammate was
forced to drop out of last year’s
McDonald’s American Cup, one of the
world’s most prestigious gymnastics
events, Mary Lou Retton substituted
at the last minute. The spunky brunet
swung and flipped between the un-
even bars, somersaulted along the
balance beam, set a meet record in
the vault and dazzled the crowd with
a floor display of twists and tumbles.
When the judges tallied up the final
scores, Mary Lou, the kid from the
West Virginia coal country, had won.

Since then, sixteen-year-old Mary
Lou has captured numerous honors
(she is now number one in the U.S.).
In Los Angeles, she may well become
the first American woman to receive
an individual Olympic medal in gym-
nastics, a sport traditionally domi-
nated by East European and Russian
athletes. The boycott doesn’t bother
Mary Lou. “I’m not going just to meet
the Russians. My goal is to do my best.”

For her parents, Lois and Ronnie,
the years of sacrifice at last seem
worthwhile—even the difficult deci-
sion to send Mary Lou, the youngest
of five children, more than one thou-
sand miles from home to train.

Mary Lou started gymnastics with
a local coach when she was seven, but
it soon became clear that she needed
more challenges. At a tournament in
December 1982, the Rettons met Bela
Karolyi, the former coach of Roma-
nian Olympic star Nadia Comaneci.
Karolyi had defected from Romania
in 1981 and was teaching gymnastics
in Texas. He told the Rettons that

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Mary Lou had great potential and
that he could help her.

“That meant leaving everybody,”
Mary Lou recalls, “but it was a chance
at the ’84 Olympics. I was so confused,
but one day I just decided to go.”

In January 1983, the Rettons drove
to Houston, where Karolyi had ar-
ranged for Mary Lou, then only four-
teen, to live with a family whose
daughter he was also training. At
first, being away from home was diffi-
cult. Mary Lou became very home-
sick, and Lois even considered moving
to Texas. However, Mary Lou was ada-
mant: “I didn’t want the family to be
split up just because of me,” she ex-
plains. Gradually, they settled into a
pattern of writing every day and phon-
ing once a week, and Mary Lou soon
adapted to her new family.

In some ways, Mary Lou is just like
any sixteen-year-old. She loves actor
Matt Dillon, devotedly watches soap
operas and collects stuffed lambs, al-
ways taking a favorite along to meets.

But the resemblance ends there.
Mary Lou’s life centers single-mind-
edly on gymnastics. She practices six
hours every day in hopes of making
the Olympic team, and crisscrosses
the U.S. as often as ten to fourteen
days a month to compete in different
meets. Over the years, she’s been to
China, Japan and South Africa. Al-
ways a good student, Mary Lou has
had to quit private school and take a
home correspondence course.

When her father, a partner in a
family business that repairs coal-min-
ing equipment, can get away from his
work, the Rettons travel to watch
Mary Lou compete. If they miss a
meet, they tape it on television. Some-
times, late at night, Ronnie will sit in
the family room and run the tapes
over and over.

Although at Mary Lou’s level, any
international travel is paid for by the
U.S. Gymnastics Federation, the Ret-
tons carry the cost of her training,
equipment, room and board. The
total: between $10,000 and $15,000 a
year—a large burden since the three
oldest children are now in college.

The cost is steep, but the Rettons
wanted Mary Lou to develop her natu-
ral talent. According to her coach, she
has the ideal build for a gymnast. At
four feet nine and ninety-four pounds,
she’s strong, with wide shoulders and
thick, muscular thighs. But in addi-
tion to strength, a gymnast must have
a dynamic personality, speed, coordi-
nation and an ability to interpret the

music in the floor exercises and on the
beam. “She is always expressing emo-
tions,” points out Karolyi. “She's lov-
ing what she’s doing and her per-
sonality shines through.”

Mary Lou has created her own spe-
cial flip—called, naturally, the Ret-
ton—that she performs on the uneven
bars. Of the four gymnastic events
—the uneven bars, the floor exercises,
the balance beam and the vaulting
horse—her specialty is the latter. She
is the only woman ever to accomplish
a breathtaking maneuver called a
double-twisting layout Tsukahara, in
which she does a roundoff onto the
vaulting horse and flies off to com-
plete one and a half backward somer-
saults and two full twists—all before
landing on her feet.

“The risk of neck or spinal injury is
great,” admits Lois Retton. “That's al-
ways in the back of my mind. In some
ways, I'll be glad when all this is
over.” So far, Mary Lou’s only injury
has been a wrist stress fracture—now
healed—that kept her out of last
year’s World Championships.

Her mother also worries about the
post-Olympics letdown. “I know she
wants to come home and be a normal
teenager,” says Lois, “and I hope she'll
be able to after all this glory.”

As for Mary Lou, she doesn’t let
herself worry too much. “Sometimes I
get down in the dumps,” she says,
“but then I picture myself in Pauley
Pavilion, where the gymnastics will
be held. People from all over the
world are there. Oh-h,’—she gig-
gles—“I get goosebumps.”

Carol Lewis

Carol Lewis is folding her laundry.
The first thing you notice is that it’s

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no ordinary laundry—the table is
piled with dozens of pairs of sweat
socks, running shorts and T-shirts
from track meets in Oslo, Helsinki
and other far-flung places. The next
thing you notice are her incredible
legs—long and muscular beneath her
miniskirt—which carry Carol to rec-
ord-setting long jumps.

“Many athletes have the same nat-
ural ability,” says coach Tom Tellez,
who trains Carol and her brother,
Carl, also a track star and Olympics
hopeful. “But what separates Carol is
her tremendous desire to be the best.
She has the confidence to achieve and
the openness to dream.”

The Lewises are America’s first
family of track. Carl, twenty-three, is
quickly closing in on what was once
thought an unapproachable world
record in the long jump, 29 feet, 2%
inches. He could win as many as four
gold medals in Los Angeles.

But twenty-year-old Carol is a
champ in her own right. For the past
two years, shes been America’s pre-
mier female long jumper, and at last
summers games in Helsinki, a prelude
to the Olympics, she placed third.

When it comes to competing, Carol
and Carl had their parents for role
models. Evelyn and Bill Lewis, both
former amateur athletes, are now
teachers and track coaches at rival
high schools in Willingboro, New
Jersey. The two older Lewis boys are
also fine athletes. Mackie, thirty, was
a high school track star, and Cleve,
twenty-eight, was the first black Amer-
ican player drafted by a professional
soccer team.

As a youngster, Carol was a tomboy.
While other kids swung on the swing
set, she stood on top of it. “I had to
learn not to be afraid for her,” says
Evelyn. Carol and Carl were insep-
arable, always playing sports togeth-
er. “Our Wimbledon was tennis in the
street with a white line for a net,”
recalls Carol, who now stands five feet
eleven and a half and weighs 155
pounds. “We’d have the Super Bowl in
the side yard, and the Olympics
would be laps around the house. We
always dreamed we'd be big-time
athletes,” she says.

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Willingboro Track Club. Carol, five,
and Carl, seven, would spend summer
afternoons building castles in the
sand pit and watching the older chil-
dren practice. When they grew up,
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important meets, families paid what they could afford and
the club held bake sales and raffles to raise additional
funds—with the Lewises often chipping in their own money
to make sure no child missed out. “At varying times, we
spent between two thousand and five thousand a year,” says
Evelyn. “It meant we had to wait six years for a living-room
carpet, but I don’t regret a penny of it. Some of our mem-
bers went to college on track scholarships.”

Though Carol was an excellent swimmer, diver and
gymnast, she ultimately chose track. “My parents didn’t
push us,” says Carol. “They just said, ‘Do what you enjoy,
but do it to the best of your ability.”

At sixteen she made the 1980 U.S. Olympic team, and
today she holds the American women’ indoor long jump
record (22 feet, 244 inches). At the University of Houston
she carries a regular course load and works out every day,
lifting weights, running or jumping.

“Every once in a while, I'll announce, ‘Coach, I’m retir-
ing,” says Carol, leaning against one of the stadium’ pil-
lars to catch her breath, her legs covered with sand. “But
the coach’1l say, ‘Yeah, go do some weights.’ Five minutes
later, ’m pumping iron and feeling fine. So much for my
retirement. Track is just such a big part of my life.”

Carol says she’s not surprised that the Russians and
their allies are boycotting Los Angeles. “Both govern-
ments are playing a lot of games and acting like kids: ‘You
didn’t come to mine, so I’m not going to yours,” she says.
“But I have a world record to go after. It doesn’t matter to
me whether the Russians come or not.”

To relax, Carol reads three to five romance novels a
week, and she shops with a passion, particularly for shoes.
The floor of her bedroom closet is cluttered with cowboy
boots, high heels, sneakers, flats and, of course, running
shoes. “It just makes me sick to have a cute outfit and no
shoes to match,” she says with a shrug.

It's that easygoing manner that helps Carol cope with be-
ing “Carl's younger sister.” Says Carol philosophically, “I
probably am in his shadow, but it doesn’t matter to me.
When I compete, I do it for myself, and on my own merit.” In
many ways, being track’s hot brother-sister duo has helped.
“T think it spurs her on,” says coach Tellez. “She sees Carl's
success and wants the same. But both would be successful
even on their own—they’re simply that kind of people.”

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have been followed by a film crew and mobbed by auto-
graph seekers and photographers. Every summer they
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when Carol went shopping with a male star of the West
German track team, the local newspaper announced—
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they write that we’re on steroids [substances—the use of
which is illegal for participants in amateur sporting
events—that increase muscle bulk]. It’s not true.”

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she feels a quick, inexplicable
pang of anxiety. Then she hears
a voice in her head; it is the
sound of her daughter crying for
help. For a brief moment she
wonders what is happening.
Then she jumps up from the
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friends that she has to go be-
cause her daughter is in trouble.
She runs home and, opening the
front door, sees her daughter
lying on the floor, crying out in
pain. A short while before, the
girl had fallen down the stairs
and broken her leg.

Several years ago, the Corsi-
cana, Texas, police department
spent three months searching for
the body of an eighteen-year-
old. When they finally turned to
a psychic in desperation, they
were given a description of the
area where the body could be
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rately described that the police
briefly wondered if the psychic
had been involved in the crime.

A group of scientists—includ-
ing professors from Massachu-
setts Institute of Technology,
Oxford University and Warsaw
University—recently traveled
to Egypt with psychics and a
film crew on an unusual mis-

sion: They were out to prove the
validity of psychic archeology.
Before “The Alexandria Pro-
ject” ended, the team had dis-
covered the ruins of Mark An-
tony’s palace, what may be the
ruins of a palace belonging to
Cleopatra, the probable site of
Alexander the Great’s tomb,
and a legendary library.

The incidents above are real;
the study of psychic phenom-
ena now occupies the minds of
leading scientists in this coun-
try and abroad. Though the
public may still associate this
field with tea leaves, tarot cards
and crystal balls, more than
three hundred eminent scien-
tists worldwide are involved
in parapsychology research.
They are all members of the
Parapsychological Associa-
tion, an affiliate of the pres-
tigious American Association
for the Advancement of Science.

And even those scientists
whose research is in more tradi-
tional fields are looking to the
work of parapsychologists with
fresh interest. Recent polls
show that more than one fourth
of this country’s scientific elite
believe in extrasensory percep-
tion (ESP). And nonscientists
are even more convinced. A ma-
jority of Americans believe in
ESP and also claim to have had
psychic (continued on page 58)

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Ladies’ Home Journal and John F. Kennedy Univer-
sity in Orinda, California—which has the only ac-
credited graduate department of parapsychology in
the country—invite you to take A >
part in an a parapsychological }
experiment in remote perception.
No special talent, ability or
equipment is required for the
test. Set aside a half hour on the
day of the experiment: Saturday,
August 11, 1984. Find a quiet,
private place where you can sit
undisturbed from 2:00 to 2:30 §
PM., Eastern Daylight Time (you
must make the correct adjust-
ment for your time zone, as everyone must be taking part
in this experiment simultaneously). Have paper and
pencil handy. Read the following instructions again a
few minutes before 2:00 P.M. to refresh your memory.
1 Relax and clear your mind.
2 At 2:00 p.m. (EDT), Mary Kay Wright-Malear, the
director of JFK’s Graduate Parapsychology Program
(see her photograph above), will be at some location in
the United States. Tune in to the environment she is
experiencing from 2:00 to 2:15. Notice shapes, images,
forms, sounds, smells, tastes and any other sensations
or feelings that occur during this period.
3 Sketch or draw any images, or jot down brief notes
about your experiences. Do not try to draw realistic or
artistic renditions; simply try to express some sense of
the surroundings or environment.
4 Do not try to identify the location where Mary Kay
is. Guessing and analyzing distort the process of re-
mote perception.
5 At the end of the fifteen-minute testing period,
complete the thirty-item questionnaire that follows,
answering each question yes or no. You may refer
back to your notes and sketches.
6 Send your questionnaire, sketches and notes to:
Parapsychology Program, Box LHJ, John F. Kennedy
University, 12 Altarinda Road, Orinda, CA 94563.
You may take part anonymously, but please include
the city and state you were in when you participated.
Your responses should be mailed soon after the ex-
periment, and no later than August 20, 1984.

Questionnaire

1 Is any significant part of the perceived scene in-
doors?

2 Isthe scene predominantly dark—for example, poorly
lighted indoors, dim outside, etc. (not simply dark col-
ors, etc.)?

3 Does any significant p

ception of height or depth, for example, looking up at
a tower, tall building, mountain, vaulted ceiling, un-
usually tall trees, etc., or down into a valley, or down
from any elevated position?

4 From Mary Kay’ perspective, is the scene well
bounded, for example, the interior of a room, a sta-
dium, a courtyard, etc.?

5 Is any significant part of the scene oppressively
confined?

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congested or cluttered?
7 Is the scene predominantly colorful, characterized by
a profusion of color, or are there outstanding brightly
colored objects prominent—for example, flowers,
stained-glass windows, etc. (not normally blue sky, green
grass, usual building colors, etc.)?
8 Are any signs, billboards, posters or pictorial repre-
sentations prominent in the scene?
9 Is there any significant movement or motion inte-
gral to the scene, e.g., a stream of moving vehicles,
walking or running people, blowing objects, etc.?
10 Is there any explicit and significant sound—e.g.,
voices, bird calls, surf noises, auto horns, etc.?
11 Are any people or figures of people significant in
the scene, other than Mary Kay or those implicit in
buildings, vehicles, etc.?
12 Are any animals, birds, fish, major insects or figures
of these creatures significant in the scene?
13 Does a single major object or structure dominate
the scene?
14 Is the central focus of the scene predominantly
natural, i.e., not man-made?
15 Is the immediate surrounding environment of the
scene predominantly natural, i.e., not man-made?
16 Are any monuments, sculptures, or major orna-
ments prominent in the scene?
17 Are any explicit geometric shapes such as tri-
angles, circles or portions of circles (such as arches),
spheres or portions of spheres, etc. (but excluding
normal rectangular buildings, doors, windows, etc.),
significant in the scene?
18 Are there any posts, poles or similar thin objects,
for example, columns, lamp posts, smokestacks, etc.
(excluding trees)?
19 Are doors, gates or entrances (excluding vehicles)
significant in the scene?
20 Are windows or glass (excluding vehicles) signifi-
cant in the scene?
21 Are any fences, gates, railings, dividers or scaf-
folding prominent in the scene?
22 Are steps or stairs (excluding curbs) prominent in
the scene?
23 Is there regular repetition of some objects or
shapes, e.g., lot full of cars, marina with boats, row of
arches, etc.?
24 Are there any planes, boats, trains, or figures of
these either moving or stationary apparent in the scene?
25 Is there any other major equipment in the scene,
for example, tractors, carts, gasoline pumps, etc.?
26 Are there any autos, buses, trucks, bikes or
motorcycles, or figures thereof (excluding Mary Kay’s
car), moving or stationary, prominent in the scene?
27 Does grass, moss or similar ground cover compose
a significant portion of the scene’s surface?
28 Does any central part of the scene contain a road,
street, path, bridge, tunnel, railroad tracks or hallway?
29 Is water a significant part of the scene?
30 Are trees, bushes, or major potted plants appar-
ent in the scene?

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continued from page 55

this is not far-fetched: “In my opinion,
almost everyone has psychic abilities,”
says Keith Harary, an experimental
psychologist and co-author with Rus-
sell Targ of The Mind Race: Under-
standing and Using Psychic Abilities
(Villard Books, 1984).

How do scientists define and analyze
this ability? Parapsychologists call
their field of study psi. Psi can be
divided into two categories—ESP and
psychokinesis (PK). ESP includes all
those abilities—telepathy, clairvoy-
ance and precognition—that allow
people to receive information through
channels outside the five known
senses. PK is the ability to move or
influence objects by thought.

Nobody knows what energy, force or
power is responsible for psi. But, while
it would be easy to argue that psychic
phenomena don’t exist because they
can’t be explained, it would be a mis-
take. After all, says Dr Gertrude
Schmeidler, professor emeritus of psy-
chology at City College of New York,
and psi researcher, “We may not know
what is responsible for psychic phe-
nomena . . . but the same is true of
gravity. We know it works, but we
don’t know why.” Much current psi
research is directed toward under-
standing the laws that govern psychic
phenomena, with the hope of someday
discovering the force behind them.
While psi may still be controversial, it
is no longer as mysterious as it once
was. Here’s what is known about the
hidden powers of the mind.

Telepathy

A mother’s sudden, strong feeling that
her daughter needs help is a typical
case of telepathy. Many people have
reported experiencing this direct
mind-to-mind contact, usually during
a crisis, when someone is in pain, in
danger or dying. Telepathy is most
likely to happen between people con-
nected by a strong emotional bond.
Besides a close tie between receiver
and sender, successful extrasensory
perception also seems to depend on a
person's ability to calm his or her
mind so that telepathic information
can get through. Many ESP re-
searchers are using meditation, hyp-
nosis, relaxation and other methods of
sensory deprivation to reduce the con-
stant flow of information reaching the
brain from the five known senses.
Exciting new research at New York
University has led to a plausible the-
ory of how telepathy might work.
Lloyd Kaufman and his colleagues are
using a new device called (continued)

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SQUID (superconducting quantum in-
terference device) to measure the
brain’s electrical activity several cen-
timeters above the scalp. Dr. Kaufman
is able not only to detect the brain’s
electromagnetic energy through thin
air, but he also claims to be able to
distinguish between different areas of
‘the brain being stimulated. According
to Karen Gravelle, a biopsychologist
and co-author with Robert Rivlin of De-
ciphering the Senses: The Expanding
World of Human Perception (Simon &
Schuster, 1984), “What if there are peo-
ple who can actually see this energy
field? There may be people who can
‘read’ other people’s mental state from
this information, and these would be
the people we consider psychics.”

Clairvoyance

The man entering the storefront psy-
chic parlor in Washington, D.C., is not
an average man-off-the-street. He is a
Navy official, and for nearly a year he
has visited professional psychics. Each
time he shows the psychics top secret
photographs and charts, and asks them
to determine by clairvoyance the loca-
tion of Soviet submarines.

According to investigative reporter
Ron McRae, in his book, Mind Wars (St.
Martin’s, 1982), these visits actually oc-
curred. Although the Navy officially
denies the story, McRae claims to have
government documents and interviews
that prove the Navy employed nearly
three dozen psychics for espionage
against Russia.

Clairvoyance differs from telepathy
in that only one person is involved—a
receiver who can somehow “see” dis-
tant objects and events.

The most dramatic examples of clair-
voyance today come from police depart-
ments, where psychics are helping to

locate missing persons, murder weap-
‘ons and criminals. During the past few
‘years, police chiefs across the country
have become less skeptical about psy-
‘chic assistance. More law enforcement
agencies are using psychics than any-
one realizes, says Marcello Truzzi, a so-
ciologist at Eastern Michigan Univer-
sity who is conducting an extensive
survey of the practice.

Precognition

One night while sleeping at his sister's
house, Mark Twain dreamed that his
brother, Henry, was a corpse lying in a
metallic burial case in the living room.
‘The next morning he told his sister of
the dream. A few weeks later Henry
died when a ship’s boiler exploded.
Twain's dream was precognitive. Pre-
cognition is the perception of events in

the future. Much of the lab work aimed
at understanding precognition involves
a type of experiment that scientists call
precognitive remote perception.

In one such experiment, Pat Price, a
former police commissioner from Bur-
bank, California, sat in an electrically
shielded room with two scientists from
SRI International, an independent re-
search institute in Menlo Park, Califor-
nia. At 3:00 pM. on the day of the ex-
periment, a third scientist got into his
car for a drive, not knowing where he
was headed. He knew only that his
right and left turns would be deter-
mined arbitrarily by the flow of traffic.

Price’s task was to determine where
the third scientist would at be 3:30 pM.
At 3:05, with a tape recorder running,
Price began to describe a boat dock
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talent or training is needed to be a suc-
cess at remote perception; it’s simply an
ability that many of us have (see quiz,
“How Psychic Are You?” page 56, to
find out how you can participate in our
remote perception experiment).

Psychokinesis

Psychokinesis is defined as the ability
to move or influence objects by thought
alone, without the use of any known
physical force. In theory, this mind-
over-matter power would enable a par-
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Drugs and surgery are traditional
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Plain talk
from
Rosalynn
Carter

By Phyllis Battelle

t was a November afternoon
in 1980, two days after Ron-
ald Reagan overwhelmingly
upset Jimmy Carter at the
polls to become fortieth
President of the United States.

Rosalynn Carter—still First
Lady, and still stunned and
“very bitter” after her hus-
band’s’ defeat—retreated to
their White House bedroom. “I
was exhausted and trying to
take a nap,” she remembers
now, “when Amy came in. She
leaned on the bed and said, ‘’m
sad about something.’ I asked
what it was, and she replied,
‘Do you know that I don’t even
remember my friends in Plains,
Georgia? All my friends are here
in Washington.” After a pause,
Amy, who was then twelve years
old, added with adolescent de-
fiance, “I don’t want to go back
to Plains. You may be a country
After writing her best-selling book, Rosalynn ena bee
Carter has come to terms with the pleasure and Rosalynn was at first sur-

the pain of the White House years. Here, she prised because Amy had always
been such a good little sport

talks about the difficult transition to private life. about everything.” Then she
nn Senwas “suddenly, overcome war
sympathy and understanding
for her only daughter. “All at
once, I realized Amy was right.
She was only three when Jim-
my was elected governor of
Georgia, and when it came
time to leave for Atlanta she
clung to my mother and
screamed that she didn’t want
to go. Four years later, when we
left Atlanta, where she’d made
good friends, she was devas-
tated and cried (continued)

¥ Wie:

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continued

herself to sleep almost every night.”
Now. Amy was again being forced ta
abandon her friends and was “abso
lutely miserable.” As she tried to con4
sole her daughter, Rosalynn admits she
was miserable, too. “I was overwhelmed

by the awful thought of going back tdi

Plains, a place I'd always wanted to get
away from when I was growing up. §
just couldn't imagine living there for
ever. There was another factor as well
They had lost the election—an electio

Rosalynn was certain they would wi

until the very day the votes were tabu

lated. “I hate to lose,” she says quietly.

The emotional cost of political lif
can be enormous, and not only the chil

dren are scarred. Rosalynn remembers

sitting through President Reagan’s in

auguration “concentrating on how hand#

some and young Jimmy and Fritz
Mondale looked, and how old Reaga

looked.” She said she couldn't cry that}
January day in 1981, even though sh@

kept feeling as if she ought to, “because

it would make me feel better.” It wag

only when she reached the airport for

the flight back to Georgia and saw Amyi

and her friends “sobbing their hearts
out” that her own eyes welled up.
Amys loneliness persisted back in

Plains. “Life at home was very hard onf

Amy,” says Rosalynn. “She was deter
mined not to make new friends because

she thought if she did she might forget.

her old ones—as she'd done before
when she had to move.” These days
however, she seems to be happier. No

sixteen, pretty and “just beginning te
discover boys,” Amy attends a private
college prep school in Atlanta, has a
perfect four-point grade average and
wants to become an astronomer. She is
also happy to be out of the hmelight
“Amy doesn’t want anyone to kno

who she is,” says her mother. “She was
elected president of a school club and
they wanted to put her picture in the
bulletin, but she absolutely refused
She’s always disliked politics and just

wants to be totally incognito now, a nor-§

mal child. Thats what she always
wanted to be.”

Rosalynn winces at memories of the}

1980 campaign, when President Rea-
gan often shouted at rallies, “Who
running the country?” and his au-
diences shouted back, “Amy Carter!’
Those memories still hurt; nobody
likes to be held up to ridicule—and th
Carters, a devoted family, often were.
Before Reagan invoked the name of
Amy as ruler at the White House,
“There were rumors that J was running
the country,” says Rosalynn. “The op
position started them to make Jimm
look weak after | began (continued

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continued

sitting in on Cabinet meetings in 1978.
They were just false. Anyone who
knows Jimmy Carter would realize
that he would listen to my suggestions
and then do exactly what he wanted to
do. He is a very strong man and very
stubborn.”

Seated on a long brocade sofa, Rosa-
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and much younger than her fifty-seven
years. As she talks now, back home in
} her native Georgia, the former First
Lady seems the essence of the South-
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In outward demeanor, she resembles
1 her pliant, almost shy successor, Nancy
Reagan, whom she calls “a very nice
woman” married to “a man without
very strong principles, in my opinion.”
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House, Rosalynn was anything but doc-
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and stubborn, and behind closed doors,
they often argued, usually over the
‘timing of his political decisions. But
‘even when she and Jimmy “clashed,”
she says, their tiffs were mostly conge-
(nial. “When I’m angry,” she confesses,
“I fuss at Jimmy. Then we talk it out.
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wife—marriage isn’t all sweetness and
light—except in our case, in the White
House he was the boss.”

The first White House argument,
Rosalynn recalls, was an emotional
one. “We'd been there only two weeks,
and I walked over to the Oval Office one
day. Jimmy told me he’d just sent the
word to turn the thermostats down to
sixty-five degrees. I was stunned! I
hadn’t been warm since we moved in;
already I was bundled up. I cried, beg-
ging him to keep the temperature at
sixty-eight. ‘You know I can’t even
think when I’m cold, I said. But
Jimmy’s attitude was “Too bad, we’ve
got to set an example for the country.”
From that day on, Rosalynn and Amy
wore knee-length cotton underwear
and layers of sweaters,
had to type with their gloves on.”

Shortly after that chilling decision,
President Carter made other White
House economy cuts. He reduced the
automobile fleet and sold the Presiden-
tial yacht, Sequoia. But when he began
cutting back White House - staff,
Rosalynn fought. “I was really upset,
because there’s no end to what a First
Lady can do if she has staff. I told him,
‘I need one more person!’ And his re-
sponse was, ‘Anybody you talk to in
government says they need one more

“and my staff

person.’ I said, and not very softly, ‘But
I'm not anybody you talk to. 'm your
wife.” He didn’t give in.

Rosalynn admits that sometimes
during arguments she wept in frustra-
tion, fully knowing her tears would not
sway the thirty-ninth president. “Jim-
my has no patience, no sympathy for
tears. He never wants anyone to be sick
or to complain.” She smiles. “He be-

lieves you accept your situation, and if

you make a mistake it’ water over the
dam—just move forward. It’s what
makes you strong.”

Certainly the toughest moments for
the Carters came during the Iranian
crisis. Rosalynn acknowledges she felt
“like a nagging wife. I was frustrated,
like everyone else in the country.” One
night, when she had returned from a
trip and was particularly aware of the
growing public demand for action, she
said to him, “Why don’t you do some-
thing, just do something!” Jimmy
asked, “What do you want me to do?’
She suggested mining the harbors. “H:

sat me down and said, ‘What if we do
that? And what if, in retalia

Iranians decide to take the hostages
out, one at a time—every morning at
daybreak—and stand each one before a
firing squad. Then what? We'd be at
war, and all our Americans tinued

~ ROSALYNN CARTER

continued

in Iran would be dead.” To Rosalynn it
was a lesson in patience. “What the
people saw as weakness in the Presi-
dent was really strength. But,’ she
adds with a trace of wistfulness, “if
Jimmy had bombed Tehran, I think he
probably would have been reelected.”
She remembers thinking, “Damn,
damn Khomeini!” And once she wrote
this rueful note in her diary: “I guess
we always have to do ‘the right thing.’”

Keeping a diary had been suggested
to her in 1971 by Richard Nixon. “When
Jimmy was governor of Georgia, Presi-
dent Nixon invited us to a White House
dinner for governors. I was standing in
the Red Room having coffee when the
President walked up to me and said,
‘Young lady, do you keep a diary?’ I
said, ‘No, sir, and he said, ‘Well, you'd
better keep one. If you don’t, you'll be
sorry.” She’s often thought since of the
irony of that comment. “I'll bet he
wishes he hadn’t kept such good rec-
ords,” she says, grinning.

Rosalynn wrote in her diary inter-
mittently, and it would prove to be a
great help in the transition to private
life after a decade in the spotlight.
Coming home was not without its psy-

chological jolts. “Before we left for the
governor’ mansion, I’d bought a crys-
tal chandelier for our nine-by-eleven-
foot dining room and thought it was
absolutely beautiful. When I saw it
again, after the state dining room, it
looked like a little candle hanging
there, and I said, ‘Jimmy, whatever
happened to our dining room?’”

Then, too, there was a certain absur-
dity to the change in their lives. In-
stead of earthshaking decisions there
were only small ones—like the time
the Carters decided to build a walk
from the front door of their modest
four-bedroom house to the road. “We
were having fun trying to decide wheth-
er the path should go straight to the
street or curve around a big tree,”
Rosalynn remembers. “And I said to
Jimmy, ‘Isn’t this a shame—the most
important thing in my life right now is
whether a walk should be crooked or
straight! And I really felt like that, after
all the important things we had done.”

For a while, Rosalynn immersed her-
self in cooking with a new food proces-
sor and microwave oven, creating din-
ners from the vegetables in her own
garden and fish and game brought by
Jimmy. She even made bread, hand
shucking the wheat that grows in
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including their sons and grandchil-
dren, former hostage families and such
world figures as French president Gis-
card d’Estaing, former prime ministers
Begin of Israel and Fukuda of Japan
and Egypts Anwar Sadat. Gradually,
Rosalynn admits she came to look upon
Plains as a “refuge.” where she didn’t
have to consider “every living soul as a
potential vote for Jimmy.”

But there was also something miss-
ing for the former First Lady—a pent-
up desire to express her feelings. That
emotional need was filled when she
wrote her autobiography, First Lady
from Plains. At the beginning it was
difficult. “I'd never written anything
but speeches before, and I tried to fluff
over all the hurt I felt. But finally one
day I started writing with abandon, re-
living everything, laughing out loud
and crying all by myself.”

She didn’t let Jimmy see it, “because
I didn’t want anybody criticizing every
page I wrote,” and he later expressed
surprise at the depth of her emotions.

As she reminisces, Rosalynn draws a
portrait of an intensely idealistic man
dedicated to “correcting all the wrongs
of the world, as he viewed them,” and a
fiercely loyal First Lady who had been
raised by a beloved father “who ex-
pected me to excel—making it very
painful ever to fail.” Her father died
when Rosalynn was thirteen, and six
years later, in 1946, she married his
mirror image: “Like Daddy, Jimmy just
always expected me to do everything
right, and if I ever had a tendency to
say I couldn’t do something, he had no
patience with it. So I always just tried
very hard to do the best I could.” Pro-
pelled into politics, which at first ter-
rified her, Rosalynn did well indeed—
touring the country between 1974 and
1976, dropping in on civic groups and
radio and TV stations, mustering cour-
age to say, “Hi, I’m Mrs. Jimmy Carter
and my husband is running for Presi-
dent.” It was she, more than anyone
else, who made “Jimmy Who?” into a
presidential contender; and she, more
than anyone, who wanted his presi-
dency to succeed. She believes it did.

The Carters’ rural Southern roots
and determinedly plain-folks style
were never accepted by the Washington
Establishment. “They just didn’t un- f
derstand him,” Rosalynn says in the
soft Georgia draw! that masks her re-
sentment. “At first I thought it was be-
cause they didn’t know Jimmy, so we}
invited executives and writers to a se-
ries of informal dinners on the second
floor.” They won few advocates. “I guess f
it’s a matter of personality,” she smiles. }
“They're kind to Ronald Reagan. Rea- f
gan is supposed to have charisma, but
I'm biased.I (continued on page 135) }

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dation in Topeka, Kansas, has a
baby girl with her husband, a
fellow psychiatrist. Dr. Clorinda
Margolis, of Jefferson Medical
College in Philadelphia, is mar-
ried to a philosophy professor
and has a family of five. Dr. Car-
olyn Maltas, of Harvard Medical
School in Boston, has three chil-
dren with her husband, a real
estate developer.

As experts in the field, can
you avoid the pitfalls in your
own marriages?

Dr. Delaney: Not entirely. Our
training, cer-
tainly, should

help us recog-
8 nize problems
s when they do
4 arise, but we
therapists can
get angry or
jealous just
} like everyone

strong feelings
develop, itS pret-
easy to throw
all the theories
out the window.
Dr. Maltas: Like
everyone else,
we choose our
spouses for rea-
=. sons that are
Dr. Carolyn Maltas =eyond rational
control. Although many of us have
undergone therapy or analysis, we
may still have a few emotional
blind spots that cause us problems.
Dr. Bernstein: I’ve had two mar-
ital therapists as patients, and
in neither case were they able to
obey rules they set for others.

Then how do you deal with
your own marital problems?

Dr. Bernstein: I try to discuss
one poem at a time, and
r : Swe I’m willing to
compromise—
neither one of
us should get
100 percent of
the pie.
Dr. Delaney:
Keep in mind
wee that a compro-
call mise does not
Dr. Anne Bernstein necessarily im-
ply dissatisfaction. A person
who enters into a negotiation
and gives a little more than she
intended probably feels terrific.
She has not made a donation;
she’s made an investment.
Dr. Margolis: When a problem
develops, my husband and I set
a time for a private discussion,
usually over dinner outside the
home, where we can’t be inter-

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rupted by phone calls. This gives
us a chance to hear each other
out, and even when we don’t find
a solution, we feel closer.

Is your professional experi-
ence ever a drawback in
your own marriage?

Dr. Delaney: Occasionally. We

therapists are often caught up

in the myth

that our rela-

tionships are

| supposed to be

| perfect, so we

may overana-

lyze every lit-

tle thing, or

we may find it

hard to admit

Dr. SusanDelaney our problems

and get professional help.

Dr. Margolis: Sometimes my

being a therapist makes my

husband expect too much of

me. If he is very angry, he

might say, “You should be able

to handle this better. You are

supposed to understand these

things!” Other times, I may

pull rank and use my so-called

expertise to win arguments. I

might be tempted to say, “You

listen to me because I know

how to look at these things.” Of

course, neither of these ap-
proaches is very productive.

Is your husband ever threat-
ened by your professional
accomplishments?

Dr. Margolis: No. My husband
and I have both been married
before, and we knew from exper-
ience that each of us (continued)

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wanted a spouse whose career was pro-

fessionally oriented.

Dr. Bernstein: My husband actually
wanted to meet me because I was a med-
ical student. At the time, he was an
engineer, but today he is a physician
himself. We derive a great sense of pride
from each other's accomplishments.
Dr. Maltas: I suspect that many men
experience an occasional twinge of jeal-
ousy or anger about their wives’ work-
ing, but if the man feels confident in his
masculinity and successful in his work,
the woman’s career won't be a major

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problem. If career tensions do come up,
it’s good preventive medicine to talk
about them as soon as possible, to avoid
serious problems later.

Dr. Delaney: It’s important for a work-
ing woman to feel comfortable in her
own mind about her career. If she wor-
ries excessively about threatening or
inconveniencing her husband, if she
acts guilty, he’ll sense that and follow
her lead. In many ways we train our
partners how to react.

Do you ever discuss your own mar-
riage with your patients?

Dr. Maltas: I tend to be a little more

forthright in couples therapy than I
would be with an individual patient.
For example, I'll tell them I have a
nineteen-year-old stepdaughter if I feel
that will give them confidence in my
ability to understand their own step-
child situation.

Dr. Margolis: Occasionally, if I think it
will help, I might mention how my hus-
band and I deal with a situation or han-
dle a particular problem.

What do you find most difficult
about marriage?

Dr. Bernstein: One of the most difficult
things is to remain alert to our own
needs and desires. Many of us simply
go through life without ever stopping to
think where we stand and what’ hap-
pening to us. Its also difficult to admit
our own shortcomings and meet our
partners halfway.

Are there new problems in mar-
riage today?

Dr. Maltas: We expect a great deal more

_ from our spouses today than we did

when we had extended families. We
want one person to satisfy all our emo-
tional needs—to be a stimulating com-
panion, lover, friend, good parent and
so on. Adjustments also have to be
made regarding the new roles for hus-
bands and wives. Women are expected
to be more aggressive and successful in
the workplace, and men to be more nur-
turing. This can create new rivalries
that surprise many couples.

Dr. Margolis: Still other adjustments
have to be made with so many women
attending conferences, meeting men for
lunch and traveling. Increasing sexual
temptation for both sexes puts pressure
on a marriage, too.

Dr. Delaney: In a society in which mar-
riage has become disposable, we have
very few role models to demonstrate
how to work things out. On the positive
side, we know more about helping peo-
ple with marital problems, and people
are asking for that help.

Are obvious sexual problems most
often the cause or the result of an
unhappy marriage?

Dr. Maltas: They can be both. In a
happy marriage, sexual difficulties
caused by physical problems or lack of
information may create a _ certain
amount of unhappiness, but they usu-
ally can be corrected outside of therapy.
Another group of sexual problems re-
flects fundamental difficulties in the
marriage itself. In this case, the mari-
tal problems must be resolved before
sex can improve.

Dr. Delaney: Some really (continued)

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fascinating research has indicated that
spouses in a good marriage can be strug-
gling with all kinds of sexual problems,
while people in an unhappy marriage
can sometimes have excellent sex.

What are the most common myths
you encounter about marriage?

Dr. Bernstein: One myth is that mar-
riage for love stands the best chance for
success. The truth is that love matches
are frequently the least enduring. Peo-
ple have to be matched in terms of
background and interests, so that after
glasses are taken off and the
‘real me” emerges, their compatibility
ren act.
Dr. De Another misconception is

that opp s attract. In reality, people
vith th emotional conflicts find
ach oth:

Maltas her myth is that mari-
tai and se oles have completely
changed as sult of the women’s
movement <¢ sexual revolution.

often believe that
be different from
onship, and they
i1ayed to find the

Young coupl
their marria
their parents’
are shocked and

traditional patterns coming to the fore.
People’s deepest feelings about what
they expect of themselves and their
spouses do not necessarily keep pace
with social change.

What’s the best way, do you think,
to handle a problem that crops up
over and over?

Dr. Margolis: Chronic battles over
money, sex and housework are usually
symptoms of an underlying irritability
based on feelings of being unloved or in
conflict. If the couple can talk about
their true feelings instead of fighting
over the superficial, they can often
work out a reasonable solution.

Dr. Delaney: Let’s say the husband
complains that the wife is always call-
ing her mother. The big deal is not the
phone calls, but that he’s afraid her
mother is consuming so much affection,
there won’t be enough for him. The so-
lution is for him to put into words what
he needs from his wife, and for her to
find ways to give it to him. There’
something absolutely compelling about
someone who understands what you
need and wants you to have it.

Why do people fight so much
about money?

Dr. Margolis: Part of the problem in-
volves the constant choices that must
be made over money—whether to put it
in a car or a vacation, whether to send
the children to private school, or what-
ever. If people come from diverse back-
grounds, they frequently have different
priorities and goals. More basic,
however, is the fact that money is a
symbol of security for many people. If
they feel insecure emotionally, they can
be very uptight about spending money.
Even if they are well-to-do, they fre-
quently feel there is never enough.

Do you feel a woman should have
money in her own name?

Dr. Bernstein: Absolutely. In my fam-
ily we have my money, his money and
our money. Not having some money of
her own places a woman in a very de-
pendent, unhealthy position. What if
her husband dies? What is she going
to do while the will is probated? Sec-
ondly, things do go wrong in mar-
riages, and many women who have
worked hard all their lives, outside
and inside the home, suddenly find
themselves with absolutely nothing.

Dr. Maltas: I don’t think there is a
right and wrong way to handle this.
Just as there are (continued) §.

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different styles of marriage, there are
different ways of managing money. It
can be dangerous for me, as a therapist,
to push an egalitarian model that
might suit me onto a couple for whom
traditional roles are more satisfying.

Dr. Margolis: My husband and I keep
our money in a joint account, and that
works for us. But if a woman wants
some money in her own name and the
husband objects, we need to ask why. Is
it because he feels the wife is building a
nest egg to leave him? Or is it because
his masculinity depends on controlling
the funds? The solution will depend on
finding out why they feel as they do,
how deeply they are committed to their
position and whether they can compro-

mise. It’s obviously not going to help if

the woman does get some money in her
own name and they fight about it for
the next ten years.

What’s the best way to deal
with interfering in-laws?

Dr. Bernstein: In-laws cannot interfere
if both spouses refuse to allow it. Usu-
ally when this problem persists, it is
because one spouse is encouraging it.
Often that person is unaware that he or
she is fanning the flames until it is
demonstrated in treatment.

Dr. Maltas: In-law problems are usu-
ally based on the husband or wife's 1n-
ability to give up depending on the par-
ents for support, affection and ap-
proval. The best a wife can do to handle
an in-law problem is to call her hus-
band’s attention to the fact that he is
allowing his parents to have a harmful
effect on the marriage. She should not,
however, discuss this matter directly
with his parents; it 1s up to the hus-
band to do that.

Do you have any advice for the wife
of a workaholic?

Dr. Bernstein: I find that if you scratch
the surface of a workaholic, the prob-
lem is not that they love their work, but
that they frequently have obsessive-
compulsive personalities and can’t let
go of anything until it is finished. Their
need to succeed is enormous, and they
frequently require professional help to
get to the root of their problems and
learn new behavior.

Dr. Margolis: My husband and I are
both workaholics, and we don't find it a
problem. We get a big kick out of what
we do, and we enjoy each other’ suc-
cess. If the spouse of a workaholic is
feeling lonely and left out, however, she
can plan activities to lure the work-
aholic away from his desk for a while.

She can also develop interesting ac-
tivities of her own.

What would you do if your husband
were unfaithful?

Dr. Bernstein: I would run to my near-
est psychiatrist to find out why I hadn't
seen this coming. I don’t believe these
things are ever sudden.

Dr. Maltas: I don’t think I really know
in advance how I would react. A lot
would depend on what I thought the
infidelity actually meant. Is my hus-
band testing the waters because he
really wants to get out of the marriage?
Or is he trying to get back at me be-
cause I have hurt him? My emotional
reactions might vary, according to the
circumstances, but in any case I would
probably push for us to see a marital
therapist, since efforts to directly com-
municate our dissatisfactions obviously
would have broken down.

Dr. Margolis: Because I think we have a
good marriage, I'd try to work it out. I
don’t believe every act of infidelity is a
sign of a problem in the marriage.

Dr. Delaney: Infidelity grabs a person
by the throat and stirs up all kinds of
dependency and aggression issues. I
have treated therapists who faced this
problem, and it was difficult for them,
even with their training, to resist the
temptation to beat their husbands over
the head, harp at them, never forgive
them and push them away repeatedly.
In every case, however, these women
were able to overcome their resistance
and to cope with the situation.

What advice do you have for wom-
en who are thinking of entering a
second marriage?

Dr. Margolis: Speaking from experi-
ence, | know that if there are step-
children, you can’t assume good rela-
tionships are going to happen over-
night. You need patience and under-
standing. But even if his children
dislike you or your children dislike
your new husband, there are limits to
the rudeness and unpleasantness that
should be tolerated. If your husband’s
ex-wife is trying to hold on to him
through the children, you should ask to
take part in the discussions. But you
also have to accept that things don't
always work out.

At what point would you seek mar-
ital counseling?

Dr. Delaney: If we had both made an
honest effort to solve a problem that
kept turning into a fighting match, I'd
know it was time to get a referee. I
wouldn't wait until our marriage
needed the intensive care unit.

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Dr. Margolis: 'd seek counseling if [j
noticed changes in my marriage that
made me uncomfortable, if I didn’t feel
we were giving each other support or if
we felt easily irritated with each other
and were unable to work things out. I'd
also seek counseling if I were undergo-
ing a separation or a divorce. Not only
because this would be a time of great
pain but also because this would be a
time for real growth and learning.
Dr. Maltas: We should mention that no
every period of stress or unhappiness is
a sign that professional help is needed.
Marriages go through many periods o
change when the couple may feel mor
distant or find themselves slipping
temporarily into unsatisfying patterns.

One final question: How does mar
riage counseling work?

Dr. Margolis: Different therapists han
dle it in different ways. I usually see
the couple together at first, then sepa
rately. My first question is, “What
brought you here?” One partner wil
say, “We've been fighting too muc
lately” or “I’m depressed all the time
and my husband won't talk about our
problems.” My goal is to get them talk
ing, to help them air their differences
and make some compromises. I ofte1
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love, and I remind them of things that
are still right about the relationship.
Dr. Delaney: Another part of the thera
pists job is to introduce new ways o
thinking about a problem—for exam
ple, to suggest that both partners are
equally to blame, which | firmly be
lieve. Even though I have refereed
quite a few shouting matches, I usuall
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gmne method or an-
dither is hazardous to
a womans health. In
some cases, the dan-
gers are clearly prov-
en—for example, the
risk of stroke or heart
attack in women over
thirty-five who smoke
and take the Pill. But
sometimes the fright-
ening headlines are
unconfirmed, even un-
true, and official de-
nials seldom lessen the impact
of the earlier scare. Last year,
reports circulated that if a
woman became pregnant de-
spite use of a spermicide, birth
defects could follow. Though the
accusation was eventually dis-
)missed as unproven, confidence

in spermicides took a nosedive.

The barrier methods may not
cause side effects, but they are
inconvenient and messy. They
are advertised as simple to use
until you check the fine print.
While an impatient lover waits,
a woman is advised to shake the
can of foam many times, or to
allow ten to fifteen minutes for
the vaginal suppository to melt,
or to make sure her partner
doesn’t withdraw abruptly and

IN SEVEN OUT OF TEN

CASES, IT IS THE

WOMAN, NOT HER
HUSBAND, WHO IS

STERILIZED—

DESPITE THE FACT

THAT VASECTOMY

IS CHEAPER AND JUST

AS EFFECTIVE AS
TUBAL LIGATION.

cause the condom to slip.
Less serious but extremely

troublesome are the minor side

effects, which are mainly associ-
ated with the Pill. Headaches
and breast tenderness may be
dismissed by some physicians as
trivial or unconfirmed by scien-

tific evidence, but they are sig-
nificant enough to make some
Pill users abandon the method.

After stopping the Pill, a wom-
an turns eventually to another
method of contraception, but of-
ten, there’ a critical period when
she can—and often does—
become pregnant. Though 92
percent of American women aged
fifteen to forty-four who are ex-
posed to the risk of unintended
pregnancy say that they use
contraceptives, our
record of effective use
is abysmal. Abortion
rates for young wom-
en in this country,
one indication of con-
traceptive failure, are
much higher than in
most Western Euro-
pean countries.

HOW WE GOT INTO
THIS MESS

Obviously, many wom-
en today don’t like the
available birth-control
methods and don’t use
them very well either.
But have women been
deceived by male sci-
entists and money-
hungry drug compa-
nies that sold contra-
ceptives before testing them ade-
quately? Or are women them-
selves really responsible for their
own misfortune, caviling at
minor side effects and ignoring
the real benefits of today’s
contraceptives?

Perhaps (continued on page 137)

J. Barry O'Rourke

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AMONTH OF
SUNDAES

WE DID IT! WE DREAMED UP THIRTY-ONE ICE
CREAM EXTRAVAGANZAS SO YOU CAN ENJOY
A DELICIOUS{Y DIFFERENT CREATION EVERY
SCORCHING DAY OF AUGUST. FROM A CLASSIC
WHO-CAN-RESIST HOT FUDGE SUNDAE TO FRUIT-
AND-NUT-CROWNED COMBINATIONS, IT’S A SUM-
MER FANTASY COME TRUE. RECIPES, PAGE 126.

BY SUE B. HUFFMAN, FOOD AND EQUIPMENT EDITOR

THE RIGHT
IMAGE

BETTER TOO SAFE THAN SORRY? NOT IN FASHION! |

hat word sums
up your clothes
personality? Con-
servative? Flam-
boyant? Either ex-
treme can be too
much of a good thing
—but a little bit of both can be
fun! So we asked fashion con-
sultant Emily Cho to show you
how to spiff up a shy wardrobe,
tame a‘ wild one to achieve a per-
fect fashionable balance. Pic-
tured are the right and wrong
approaches for daytime and for
evenings out. On these pages,
its the too-safe look ... the
same old classic lines worn the
same familiar way. Well, yester-
day’s classics aren’t good enough
for today. Conservative dressing
isn’t bad, it’s just so-so. And
it could be lots better.

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FOR BUSINESS
Stay away from the too-bland, every-
thing-matches suit (inset)—with its
perfectly safe proportions, its basic lit-
tle blouse and minimal accessories—
that says nothing about you. Instead,
put together:
@ Unmatched proportions—a shorter
jacket with a long skirt.
@ Textural interest—a rough, nubby
jacket and a soft knit skirt.
@ Strong, stylish blouse to introduce a
jolt of color, flatter the face with a gen-
tle ruffie and bow.
@ Finishing-touch accessories: nar-
row little belt, bold earrings.

Makeup, Linda Mason. Hair, Odile for Bruno Dessange

ndrea Alberts

PLAY/DAY CLOTHES
Make the most of a sweater-and-slacks
twosome. Trade in that thin, flat tur-
tleneck with yesterday's shoulders (in-
set). It creates a too-skinny up-and-
down look. The better bet—a sporty
combination that instantly makes a
statement with:
@ Contrasting texture, thanks to a
bold knit sweater that has slim styling
to avoid a bulky feeling.
@ The new bigger shoulder; the im-

portant fuller sleeve; the oversize face-
framing collar.

@ Eased-top silhouette.

@ An eye-catching belt.

@ The final touch: a freer hairstyle that
works with the new updated message.

EVENINGS OUT
Say good-bye to the prim little print
dress and pearls (inset). Its allover pat-
tern and matronly style is too prissy for
a gala evening. And the pumps are too
dark and heavy—especially with nude
hose. Even the hairstyle is dated. The
overall image—an unbroken, droopy
silhouette. The appealing alternative is
this elegant outfit featuring:
@ Waist-up interest—the larger pat-
tern on top focuses attention on face.
@ Red border accents, played up with
complementing earrings and shoes and
belt, snap the outfit together and add a
youthful, confident zip.
@ Plus vibrant lipstick and polish.

5 RULES TO REMEMBER
1. Simplicity is fine,
but be sure to add
interest with texture.
2. If your figure can’t
handle the new all-
over big looks, wear
them on top only; keep
the bottom slim with a
straight skirt or pants.
3. Mix fabrics and styles
as you please, but keep
color tone of major pieces
in the same family.
4. Update your old basics
with splashes of color and
bolder jewelry.
5. New looks demand new
attention to your hair and
makeup as well to achieve a
total update.

PRE ESE Re iy

TOO SEXY ISN'T THE RIGHT IMAGE EITHER!

verdoing can be as big
a fashion faux pas
as underplaying
your assets. Mak-
ing the most of
your femininity
doesn’t mean rely-
ing on the old clichés: tight,
short, loud doesn’t equal sex ap-
peal. Today, the looks that really
garner attention do it much
more subtly, with less obvious
but still exciting colors, soft fab-
rics, ultra-feminine lines. You
don’t need the tease of a little
black strapless dress that you’re
more out of than in. Choose the
less obvious accessory; opt for
the less clingy short skirt. There's
no need to raid the young-miss
fashions department either. Too-
young styles always age you. Its
lots smarter to look sophisticated,
sensuous and womanly.

FOR BUSINESS
Clingy clothes have no business at the
office. The plunging little shirt dress
(inset) could really have people who
matter seeing red. And the glamour-
girl makeup is too overdone for work.
Instead, try the professional, impor-
tant-looking suit. It offers these great
style points:
@ Tailored lines; feminine, flattering
color set off perfectly by pearls.
@ The no-blouse look for a subtle kind
of sexiness.
@ Straight skirt with a kick pleat to
show some terrific leg.

Andrea Alberts

PLAY/DAY CLOTHES
The obvious, too-tight, too-short, too-
young sweater (inset, opposite top) is
definitely something to give to your
younger sister. Even the most casual
occasion calls for a look that has more
style. Ditto the trendy jeans. And the
tousled sex-kitten hairdo tries much too
hard. The dangling earrings are over-
dressy, too dramatic, while the sandals
are too casual. You can create much
more provocative fun with this updated
jumpsuit. Note these pluses:
@ Elegant, creamy ivory color so flat-
tering to the skin.
@ The fluid, unbroken lines. -
@ The cuddly-soft knit material that
gives subtle body emphasis.
@ The large ivory earrings that play
attention onto face. The bold matching
bracelet that adds a signature touch.

EVENINGS OUT
t night you want glamour, not gim-
icks. This ill-fitting outfit, bosomy
nd too tight (inset), comes on too
srong. And that overly teased hairstyle
ghts the giant rhinestone earrings.
he fussy, patterned stockings are
ampishly outdated. Change this cos-
umey look for a simply elegant little
vening dress that is sensuous and
oxy. Here’s why:
)) Silvery-gray color—cool and classy.
\)) Charmeuse fabric—soft, silky, has
hae sheen of satin yet with.a subtle air.
» Fluidity—nothing clings, yet the
jody line is accentuated.
|}) Suggestion of a plunge without being
| 00 obvious.

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5 RULES TO REMEMBER
|. Toning down doesn’t mean losing ap-
eal. In fact, by picking elegant clothes,
}ou'll seem more intriguing.
).\. You don’t need color to blast your
}tatement—or that’s all people will
;emember about you.
ji. A sexy figure is sexy even in an un-
yerstated outfit. If you put the emphasis
)n elegance, you'll be noticed without
)ppearing overdone.
|» Looking chic means dressing appro-
riately for the occasion—as well as the
ime of day.
)te Too much makeup and full, teased
air aren’t part of today’s definition of
he word sexy. Glowing skin and subtle
1akeup are. Just ask your favorite man.

imily Cho (author of Looking, Working,
diving Terrific 24 Hours a Day, Bal-
hantine Books), with associate Neila
| 'isher, has a successful image con-
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unattached women want to be married. . . but these days}

ixty million Americans
—one third of all men
and women between the
ages of twenty and fifty-
five—do not wear gold bands on
their left ring fingers, have no
joint checking accounts and don’t
celebrate anniversaries. In short,
they are single.

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IN SEARCH OF MR. RIGHT

n unparalleled increase in the
number of unmarried people in
America has turned the sin-
gles industry into a $40-bil-
lion business. But just how effective is
this industry? To find out, the Journal
tested six ways of meeting Mr. Right.
Read on for how we fared in today’s
version of the dating game.

CLUB MED, SINGLE, AGE 27

The airplane landed in the Bahamas at
noon on a Thursday. In the hour it took
to claim baggage and reach the club, I
had already met two men and gained a
roommate (a woman my age). By two
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o’clock I was in the ocean. This, I

in this country than ever be-
fore—those who have never mar-
ried as well as those who have
been divorced or widowed—and
the total is on the rise. In 1970,
only 29 percent of the adult pop-
ulation was single, according to
the U.S. Census Bureau . . . but
by 1982, the figure had risen to
6 percent. Yet in spite of the

ought, is just what [ve been needing.
But the fun didn’t really begin until
that evening. By the time the
. disco opened its doors at eleven
“o'clock I had met enough people
to feel right at home. I can always
catch up on my sleep tomorrow, I
thought, as I began to dance.

I could have rested the next day or
even the day after that, I suppose, but I

waste time sleeping. I took tennis les-
sons, sailed, snorkeled, went on picnics
and worked on my tan. But no matter
what I chose to do, I was continually
thrown into contact with new people.

In the course of my four-day weekend
I met more men than I'd met in four
months in New York. Many were
around my age, but to my surprise,

: . 2 ” RESORTS didn’t. There was too much to do to

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statistics, this country is not in}
the midst of an I'd-rather-be-sin- }
gle revolution—far from it. Al-
though during the late sixties
and early seventies the swing-
ing singles lifestyle was glam-}
orized in books, movies and pop}
music, the majority of today’s un-}
attached men and women claim }
they are not single by choice. },

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quite a few were a good bit older. (There}
was even one man in his sixties who)
had come with his twenty-five-year-old}
son.) And it didn’t take long for me to
become especially interested in an at-
tractive Frenchman. By the second eve-§
ning we were talking like old friends.)
As the weekend progressed I becamef}
thoroughly infatuated. |
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visited New York, and I learned that)
infatuation, unhappily, does not stand
the test of time. In retrospect the disap-§
pointment was inevitable, but I don’t
regret my $400 Club Med trip for af
moment. Though I did not find true§,
love—I guess that’s a lot to ask of one,
four-day weekend—I did meet a variety},
of people in an easy, natural way. And I}
had a great time to boot.
Rating: 9.
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DIVORCED, AGE 45

“They're a great bunch of guys,” m
willowy blond counselor told me on my

| good man is harder than ever to find.

lost singles, especially those finding a mate tougher than ever.
ver thirty, are tired of living In the past, most people mar-
lone. Getting married and hav- ried someone from within a twen-
1g afamily is looking more and ty-mile radius of their home.
ore attractive to them. So why, Families, friends and close com-
ith marriage back in vogue munities were responsible for
nd vast numbers of potential helping to make the match. But
artners out there, areso many for many of us, those days are
‘ill single? A combination of so- over—Americans no longer stay
etal and personal factorsmakes in one (continued on page 145)

‘st visit to People Resources, seem- because six months later I must confess
gly Manhattan’s most prominent vid- _ to being a video failure. On the positive

dating service. We proceeded to side, I have made a super nice new
atch a demonstration tape and exam- friend. (He picked me.) The crusher,
e a sample book of bios, at which however, was that three out of the four
int I gulped and arranged tocome in’ men|JI selected did not want to meet me.

press, the cost of anew twelve-month potential lovers they're allotted. Be-

embership had risen to $790.] sides, who could take all that rejection?
I returned approximately two weeks Rating: 1 for me, but potentially a 3
ter, feeling fairly chic thanks to a for others. (continued on page 148)

tick touch-up from a friend, and shot
e breeze about my job, my travels and
yy Midwestern roots while the camera Me
) lled. A review of the tape revealed EAST SIDE
\.at I nodded my head a lot, squinted SINGLES SCENE—
lyme, waved my hands around and SEVEN WOMEN
‘ven made a few faces. I decided this TO ONE MAN
‘pas the real me and declined the re-
wake. My first mistake!
Filling out the bio form was a time-
nsuming process. I told the truth
out my age but fudged on my weight;
dicated my favorite restaurant, mov-
, Places to go, even “what gets me
‘)pazy.” I then proceeded to the library
look through the men’s bios. I moved
zht along past the man whose favor-
» place to go was a nudist camp, ruled
it the short men as well as those more
an five or six years younger (which
burrowed the field considerably) and
jome up with seven possibilities. After
itching their tapes, I eliminated
ree candidates and gave my coun-
‘lor the names of the men I still
umted to meet. They'll get in touch if
yyeey re interested, I was told.
)) ‘Maybe I should have tried the nudist,

TUE LOVE

lifferent from what it was during the swinging seventies. Todays

id make my own videotape. After, At that stage I gave up—I don’t know &
at is, the check for $450 was safely in how anybody finds the time or energy @
ind. [Several months later, as we went to issue invitations to the thirty-six @

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By Marilyn Diane Glass
Decorating and Design Editor
Deborah S. James, Associate Editor

aking a stroll down one of Savan-
nah’s treelined streets is like step-
ping back into America’s past. Ev-
erywhere you look is a bit of history.
So it was fitting and proper that we
made this beautiful old Southern
town the first in the Journal's new series of
historic house tours, USA, in which we'll
take you on armchair journeys to towns ex-
emplifying the best of America’s architecture
and design. Savannah is a city laid out in
squares that are filled with bright flowers and

towering shade trees. Called Savannah's “liv-
ing rooms,” these quiet oases provide the per-
fect backdrop for a diverse mix of stately
homes graced with intricate grillwork, high-
walled gardens. Since the mid-1950s, the His-
toric Savannah Foundation has lovingly la-
bored to save the city’s treasure of landmark
buildings. But Savannah’ homes, far from
being lifeless museums, are lived in and exu-
berantly decorated by owners proud of their
heritage. Some of the homes offer guest accom-
modations so that even the first-time visitor
| feels at home in the past. It’s an inviting com-
| bination of famed Southern hospitality and
| living history that is uniquely Savannah.

A three-story atrium
highlights the interior of
this freestanding
Savannah townhouse, set
back from the street.

The owners left its stark,
gabled exterior intact
but gutted the inside,
rearranging the rooms
around a glass-walled
open courtyard. The
result: The house was
instantly opened up

to the outdoors. This
dramatic modern shell
provided the ideal
background for an all-out
design scheme rich with
fine antiques, lush fabrics
and elaborate detailing.
An artful window
treatment—full apricot
moiré swags drape just
the top and sides of the
glass—allows light into
the living room, takes
advantage of the atrium’s
greenery. The soft, subtle
color of the window fabric
warms up the cool white
walls of the room. It

provides the perfec? foil
for the jewel-like
tones of the damask-
covered furniture.
The house is lavished
with fine furnishings.
A Regency bullseye
mirror (far right, top),
made of gilded wood
and embellished with
cornucopias and an eagle/}
reflects light into the
gracious dining room. The}.
entryway is adorned with}
lonic columns (lower

enn FE we iY

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E GINGERBREAD FROSTING OF VICTORIAN AND THE DRAMATIC CONTRAST OF GREEK AND GOTHIC

| ight). Upstairs, a small

)\uest bedroom (far right,

)ottom) owes its appeal to
in elaborate bed and

vindow treatment. 4
f

“gyptian cotton forms the
nodified French-style
anopy and tops the tall
\aarrow windows with a
\dourish of fabric. The

joovely view of the street
ds to the room’s charm.

| | ur thanks to Savannah Area Convention
nd Visitors Bureau, Historic Savannah
}/»oundation, Ballastone Inn and Jesse
fount House.
]

)

Bur Street is one of
Savannah’‘s most scenic
thoroughfares; it
encompasses five of the
city’s squares. Among the
many homes that line its
length is this Greek
Revival house. Built in
1843, the house had keen
divided into three
separate apartments.
The present owners
discovered it on their
honeymoon and
recognized its potential.
Converting the ground
floor of the house into a
family-run bookstore,
they restored the rest of
the interior to its original
gracious proportions.
Featuring decorative
cornice moldings and
fluted columns with
Corinthian capitols, the
living room is filled with
Chippendale furniture and
the wonderful colors of
Oriental rugs. The walls
are painted a subtle gray
that keeps the room cool

THE DOO

in the face of strong
Southern sunlight and

at the same time adds

a sophisticated touch.
Tieback window
treatments (bottom, far
right), which allow the
grillwork of the house’s
exterior to become an
integral part of the
interior decor, are

| neatly balanced by a
still-life arrangement

of decanter and crystal
glasses on the sideboard.
| Even the natural beauty
of a Chinese tallow, or
“popcorn,” plant, native to
Savannah, becomes an
exquisite addition to the
room (bottom, near right).

estled at the side of the

Sreek Revival townhouse
shown opposite is an
attached two-bedroom
carriage house. The
‘initimate confines of this
“house, which was owned by
2a native Georgian with a
dove of American antiques,
*have a rough-hewn country
charm. The living room
furniture is deliberately
small scale, with a

‘Shaker-like simplicity
|} that suits its size.

The toned-down primary
} colors of the upholstery

fabric provide a subtle
Shaccent to balance
gy neutral grasscloth-

‘wood floors. Most of
‘the furnishings are

mgathered over the years.
"Serving as a coffee table,
oa pine bench from the
family farm displays a
‘collection of decorative
boxes. A made-in-Georgia

tihunt board (circa 1820)

WELL AS BOLD PRIMA

tucked under the
stairwell shows off
delicate English
Leedsware with shell
edge. Candlesticks line
the mantel while a
whimsical pottery chicken
by Georgia artist Lanier
Meaders perches nearby.
Grouped in front of a
window dressed with
unusual wood blinds
(right) that pull up

like Roman shades

is a collection

of country baskets. The
resulting combination

of comfortable clutter
contributes a warm, kick-
off-your-shoes, make-
yourself-at-home feeling.

New Series

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Nothing about the red-
brick exterior of this
house prepares you for
the striking, twentieth-
century decoration
awaiting you inside. Its
interior is a surprising
departure from the rest
of the tour. Built in 1843
by famous architect
Charles Ciusky as one

of two mirror-image
townhouses, it had fallen
into disrepair. in 1968,
the present owners
restored the inside fo its
original elegance. But
rather than restrict the
furnishings to that period,
they chose to treat this
nineteenth-century house
in a dramatically modern
way. Strong primary
colors, combined with
contemporary design
elements—chrome, leather
and animal patterns—
punctuate the interior
with bold, sure strokes.
The foyer is the most
traditional room. The only

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“HOUSK=7

hint it gives of the rest of

| the house is the Empire

couch covered not in

| velvet but in a leopard

print. The living room (far
right, top) is decked out
in grasscloth walls with a
contrasting black marble
fireplace, and a modern
étagére displaying a mix
of Oriental and primitive
accessories. Splashes of
red in the modern
artwork add a fillip of
adventurous color carried

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SAVANNAH‘S SPECIAL CHARM IS A MAGICAL MIX OF THE SIMPLE AND THE ORNATE—DOLPHIN-

over into the L-shaped
kitchen/dining area as
well. There, a planked
wood ceiling painted
bright yellow, a black-
and-white big-check floor
and Breuer chairs add
their own note of obvious
drama. A wall of glass
brings into sight a totally
enclosed terrace garden
for dining with a view—
one of the many pretty
floral pleasures that
Savannah has to offer.

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LOWERS, WHIMSICAL STORE SIGNS AND GLASS AND IRONWORK W'

ULAR TASKS

Tan live oak trees hover
sabove the homes on Jones
‘Street, where this typical
‘townhouse is situated,
pproviding a cover of rich
greenery. Constructed

in 1847, the house has a
decorative scheme that
was planned around the
entertaining that is so
much a part of Savannah’‘s
‘lifestyle. The furniture
captures just the right
flavor of understated
elegance, though many
of the pieces are
reproductions. Sunny
gold walls adorned
“with simple dentil
molding are the perfect
complement. The living
room’s windows are
‘swathed with chintz ina
‘variation of the classic
‘swag and jabot. Both
idesign elements are
‘carried into the

uidining room, which stars
ea glass-topped table with
oe base. It’s Savannah
‘at its traditional best!

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tend to appear blue-
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“lifted” with light color.

102

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frazzled and beat? Help is at hand. Starting
here, can‘t-miss pointers from superstar
makeup artist Rex on how to perk up

your looks during the dog days of summer.
By Lois Joy Johnson, Beauty and Fashion Editor

@ Choose a cover-up one
shade lighter than skin
tone (not white!).

@ Apply gently. Take care
not to pull or rub. Apply
to dark areas in a small
arc at inner eyes. Use
fingertip or a flat, clean
eye-makeup brush to pat
edges, blending into skin.
@ Use concealer sparingly.
Covering your entire under-
eye area will emphasize
wrinkles, lines, puffiness.

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Kansas City-style
barbecued ribs

Rich Davis, Kansas City barbecue ex-
pert par excellence and creator of K.C.
Masterpiece Barbecue Sauces, here
gives his treatise on preparing bar-
becued ribs—both outdoors and in.

There are at least two ways to start a
fight at a large barbecue. One, admit
you forgot to bring the ribs; two, brag
that your barbecued ribs are the best.
Any master of the art of barbecuing
has developed his or her own style.

There is the “dry” smoked rib meth-
od adhered to by many, who insist that
if the ribs aren’t crusted with black-
ened tips, they aren’t done right.

There is also the “wet” method,
where the ribs are parboiled before
grilling or a water-pan rib smoker is
used. The latter technique requires set-
ting a pan of water between fire and
ribs to provide continuous moisture.

About the only thing most barbecu-
ers agree on is that ribs shouldn’t be
“grilled” over hot coals.

Purists say the worst mistake you
can make is putting barbecue sauce on
the ribs before they’re nearly done. Yet
basting a thick, rich sauce over slowly
smoked ribs during the last 30 minutes
of cooking lends a great flavor.

ATLANTA
Anne Byrn Phillips, Food Editor
The Atlanta Constitution

This recipe, featured in my book Cook-
ing in the New South (Peachtree Pub-
lishers, Ltd.), is from my husband,
Chris. His sauce is spread on during
the last 15 to 30 minutes of cooking, to
crisp the exterior. First, we use a bast-
ing sauce made of equal portions oil
and vinegar and seasoned with hot pep-
per, minced garlic, celery seed or salt, a
dash beer and salt and pepper. Then we
barbecue over a slow, steady fire.

CHRIS’S BARBECUE SAUCE

1 can (12 oz.) beer
142 cups ketchup
Y2 cup dark or light brown sugar
Y4 cup red wine vinegar
1 teaspoon dry mustard
1 teaspoon red pepper flakes
1 teaspoon dried basil
2 teaspoons Dijon mustard
8 dashes Worcestershire sauce

In medium saucepan combine all ingre-
dients. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat.
Simmer covered about 30 minutes, so
that ingredients will have time to
mingle. Turn off heat. About 10 min-
utes before ready to use sauce, simmer

108

Mesquite, currently in fashion, usu-
ally produces the hottest fire. Hickory
produces the sweetest, heavy-smoke
flavor, and fruit wood and a variety of
hardwoods are favored by others. Don’t
use pine or other resinous soft woods.

Here’s- my favorite way to fix bar-
becued ribs, Kansas City style.

@ Get 100 percent hardwood charcoal
briquets without coal or tar additives.
e Stack them in a mound to one side of
where the ribs will be placed, since you
want to smoke these ribs several hours,
not grill them. The charcoal should be
as far away from the meat as possible.
@ Let the coals get reddish-white so all
fire-starter chemicals are burned off.

e Take your favorite kind of ribs and
trim off all fat.

e Rub ribs on all sides (if desired, par-
boiled 30 minutes) with prepared mus-
tard. Sprinkle generously with paprika
and lightly with ground pepper and
dark brown sugar. No salt.

@ When the fire is ready, add hickory
wood that has been soaked 30 to 60
minutes in water to the edge of the
charcoal mound. Do not spread the
mound out as you would for grilling.

e@ Place the ribs in the smoker. Close
the lid with the damper nearly shut to
smoke the ribs away from the direct
heat. Do not open the lid, except to oc-
casionally rebuild the fire and add
more moistened hickory. You don’t
need a heavy smoke if you are smoking
for several hours, but some smoke

uncovered so it will thicken a bit.
Makes about 3 cups.

BIRMINGHAM
Jo Ellen O’Hara, Food Editor
The Birmingham News

This recipe is from Rachel Arrington,
whose husband, Richard, is the mayor
of Birmingham. She confesses to “just
throwing stuff in until it tastes right.”

BIRMINGHAM BARBECUE SAUCE

1 can (15 oz.) tomato sauce

1 cup ketchup

Y2 cup sugar

Ye cup chopped onion

2 tablespoons A-1 Sauce

2 tablespoons Heinz 57 Sauce
Juice of 1 lemon

2 teaspoons prepared mustard

Ya teaspoon salt

4 drops hot pepper sauce

In medium saucepan combine all ingre-
dients. Simmer about 5 minutes. Brush
sauce on ribs or pork roast during the
last 30 minutes of cooking. Serve extra
sauce on side. Makes 342 cups.

DALLAS
Dotty Griffith, Food Editor
The Dallas Morning News

Jimmie Mosley, a barbecue king from

should be coming from the closed vents
or edges of the smoker. Stacking ribs in
the smoker is perfectly acceptable since
they will stay moist that way. Keep the
fire low, away from the ribs, and add
moistened wood every 30 minutes or sq}
whenever needed for smoke. This ligh
smoking, slow-cooking process should
take 4 to 10 hours, depending on your
patience, skill and sleep cycle.

e Thirty to 45 minutes before serving
baste the ribs with your favorite bar.
becue sauce. (Plan on about 1 cup sauce
for each 24%2- to 3-pound slab of ribs
less if itS a thinner sauce like the
North Carolina vinegar-based variety.
Cover the smoker again, alert the
kitchen crew and get ready for a trul
American provincial treat—Kansasg
City-style smoked barbecued ribs.

Indoor method

Although the indoor method doesn’
produce the natural smoke flavor o
outdoor cooking, the results are sur.
prisingly delicious.

e Prepare the ribs straight from the
butcher or use the parboiled method
Rub generously with liquid hicko
smoke, at least 2 tablespoons per slab
Use the same mustard, paprika, peppe
and dark brown sugar rub.

e Preheat the oven to 400°F. Place ribs
on a rack in a pan; cook 15 minutes
Reduce heat to 250°F.; cook 2 hours.

e Brush with barbecue sauce; cook a
additional 30 minutes.

Austin, gave me this recipe for Bar.
becue Rub five years ago. It’s good or
ribs, chicken, brisket, you name it.

JIMMIE MOSLEY’S
BARBECUE RUB

1 cup coarsely ground black pepper
V2 cup sugar
Ya cup chili powder
2 tablespoons ground cumin
2 tablespoons garlic powder
1% teaspoons salt
Y4 teaspoon ground red pepper

Combine all ingredients well an
sprinkle lightly on meat to be grilled
Rub into meat and allow to sit 2
room temperature about 1 hour.

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and barbecuer extraordinaire. The ke
to his recipe for barbecued ribs is slo
cooking in a water smoker, such as

Cajun Cooker. The sauce is quite tas

and very simple.

MILTON GISH’S SAUCE

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1 small bottle (14 oz.) ketchup

1 bottle (5 oz.) Worcestershire sauce
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1 teaspoon garlic salt
Y2 teaspoon pepper

In medium saucepan combine all ingre-
dients. Cook over low heat 30 minutes.
Brush sauce on ribs during the last 30
to 45 minutes of cooking. Makes 3 cups.

HOUSTON
Ann Valentine, Food Editor
The Houston Post

Here’s a Texas recipe refined by exec-
utive chef Reto Demarmels at Inn on
the Park. The secret is the mesquite!

BARBECUED SPARE RIBS

4 to 5 pounds pork ribs (2—3 racks)

2 to 4 bay leaves*

2 teaspoons salt

3 tablespoons crushed peppercorns

3 heads garlic, peeled and cut into
quarters (yes, 3 heads!)

2 quarts (about 11/2 large cans)
cocktail vegetable juice

Place spare ribs in a large saucepot.

Add boiling water and cook 10 to 15
minutes; drain. Meanwhile, in large
roasting pan combine remaining ingre-
dients; add ribs. Cover and bake at
350°F. 2 hours or until fork-tender.
Remove ribs from roasting pan; cover

and keep warm while reducing the
sauce. Pour remaining’ liquid _into a
large saucepan and cook over high heat
until it is reduced to a honey-like con-
sistency, about 30 minutes. Remove
bay leaves. Makes about 4 cups sauce.

Baste ribs with sauce and grill over
mesquite wood about 30 minutes,
brushing frequently with sauce.
*Kditors note: Demarmels’s original
recipe calls for 12 bay leaves. We
thought this was high and reduced
them. If you love bay, use all 12!

KANSAS CITY
Art Siemering, Food Editor
The Kansas City Star

There’s no such thing as a recipe for the
long-tended, pit-smoked ribs typical of
K.C. that have smoked through the
night. This recipe is one that I im-
provised to emulate them.

A key ingredient—particularly when
ribs aren’t barbecued—is the hickory
seasoning known as “liquid smoke.”

Although the recipe calls only for
“prepared barbecue sauce,” it should be
the best sauce available in any locality.

INDOOR/OUTDOOR RIBS

4 pounds pork ribs or beef short ribs
Y2 cup strong-flavored beer

Browning Sauce

4 tablespoons light molasses

2 teaspoons all-purpose gravy
seasoning

1 teaspoon liquid smoke

1 teaspoon salad oil

Bottled barbecue sauce, as desired

Place ribs in a large roasting pan. Pour
beer around ribs. Cover tightly with lid
or heavy-duty foil. Bake at 400°F.
hour. In small bowl combine molasses,}
gravy seasoning, liquid smoke and oil;}
set aside. Remove ribs from pan; pa’
dry with paper towels.
To finish ribs in broiler: Place on rack,}
meaty side up. Brush generously wit
browning sauce. Place rack 4 to 6
inches from heat; broil 4 to 5 minutes}
or until browned to taste. Turn ribs;}
brush with more sauce and broil.
To finish ribs on grill: Brush wit
browning sauce. Grill over hot coals €
minutes or until ribs are well charred.
To serve, spread each portion over 2
slices white sandwich bread; pain
generously with barbecue sauce.
Makes 4 servings.

LOUISVILLE
Elaine Corn, Food Editor
The Courier-Journal

Anyone can make barbecue sauce if h

sets his mind to it. That’s the feeling of
2o0sh Newman of Henderson, Kentucky,
who, with his wife, Pat, operates Posh
& Pat’s, a small place off U.S. 41 North
1ear the Ohio River. Posh sells messes
of pork ribs, beef and pork sandwiches
und whole chickens. But mutton makes
the magic here. Western Kentucky is
:alled the mutton capital of the U.S. No
natter what Posh may pit-barbecue, it

somes with a choice of his special bar-
yecue sauce, mild or hot. He generously

shares their recipe, which is prepared 5
zallons at a time.

POSH & PAT’S BARBECUE SAUCE

\Y% cups ketchup

\% cups tomato puree
{Y2 cups water

¥4 cup vinegar

tablespoons sugar

tablespoons Worcestershire
sauce

2 teaspoons salt

teaspoons pickling spice

teaspoons chili powder

teaspoons ground red pepper

teaspoon lemon juice

| n medium saucepan combine all ingre-
lients. Heat to boiling over high heat.

| teduce heat and cook 15 minutes, stir-
‘ing occasionally. Brush sauce on meat
iberally just before removing from

on the side. Makes about 5 cups.

MEMPHIS
Christine Arpe Gang, Food Editor
The Commercial Appeal

Memphis is a barbecue-eating town, as
evidenced by the International Bar-
becue Contest held every May.

Here, barbecued ribs are prepared 2
ways: dry or wet. Dry ribs are served
with a sprinkling of the dry seasoning
mix also used in cooking. Wet ribs are
basted with sauce during the last 30
minutes of cooking.

MEMPHIS DRY SEASONING MIX

tablespoon unflavored meat tenderizer
tablespoon garlic powder

tablespoon onion powder

tablespoon black pepper

tablespoon ground red pepper

1 tablespoon paprika

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In medium bowl combine all ingre-
dients. Pour into salt shaker. Before
cooking ribs, sprinkle both sides gener-
ously with seasoning mix; rub into
meat. Cook ribs slowly over charcoal
and water-soaked hickory chips in a
covered barbecue cooker. Turn fre-
quently to prevent burning. After 2 to 3
hours, mop ribs with sauce (recipe fol-

grill, about 5 to 10 minutes. Serve rest

lows). Then place away from direct heat
to smoke another 30 to 60 minutes.

MEMPHIS BARBECCE SAUCE

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tablespoon salad oil
Y4 cup finely chopped onion
garlic clove, minced
large bottle (32 oz.) ketchup
¥Y4 cup dark corn syrup
Y2 bay leaf
1% tablespoons Worcestershire sauce
1 tablespoon vinegar
1 teaspoon dry mustard
Y2 teaspoon ground cumin
Red pepper to taste

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In large saucepan heat oil. Add onion
and garlic and saute until tender. Add
remaining ingredients; bring to a boil
and simmer 30 minutes, stirring occa-
sionally. Remove bay leaf. Makes about
3¥2 cups sauce.

WINSTON-SALEM
Beth Tartan, Food Editor
Winston-Salem Journal

Pork barbecue is a lifestyle in North
Carolina. Anyone who expects to be
elected governor of the state has to con-
sume large quantities of barbecue with
great gusto! The true pork barbecue is
cooked over coals of hickory wood and
then brushed as it cooks with a non-
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NORTH CAROLINA
BARBECUE SAUCE

Y2 cup vinegar
3 tablespoons lemon juice
1 tablespoon prepared mustard
1 teaspoon ground pepper
1 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon sugar
2 teaspoons Worcestershire sauce
Y2 cup butter
Hot pepper sauce to taste

In medium saucepan combine all ingre-
dients; heat, stirring. Brush sauce over
pork or beef ribs, pork shoulders or
chicken every 15 to 20 minutes as they
cook over charcoal, preferably with some
hickory chips. Makes 1% cups. End

AUGUST RECIPE INDEX

Here is a listing of recipes appearing in this issue includ-
ing those from the Journal kitchen and advertisements.

BARBECGE SAUCES AND MIXES

Birmingham Barbecue Sauce p. 108
Chris's Barbecue Sauce p. 108

Jimmie Mosley’ Barbecue Rub p. 108
Memphis Barbecue Sauce p. L11
Memphis Dry Seasoning Mix p. 111
Milton Gish's Sauce p. 108

North Carolina Barbecue Sauce p. 112
Posh & Pat's Barbecue Sauce p. 111

Bavarian p. 111

Creamy Lemon Meringue Pie p. 132
Sangria Peaches p. 50

Spectacular Stripes p. 111

Barbecued Spare Ribs p. 110

Burrito Burgers p. 50

California Beef 'N Bean Tacos p. 113
Crispy Fried Chicken p. 31

Grand Aioli Platter p. 112
Indoor/Outdoor Ribs p. 110

Kansas City-Style Barbecued Ribs p. 108
Open-Faced Heroes p. 124

Tomato and Cheese Frittata p. 114

MISCELLANEOUS

Chilled Corn Bisque p. 124
Light & Easy Avocado Dip p. 113
Stuffed Pepper Boats p. 112
Vinaigrette p. 54

SALADS

Cilantro Cucumber Salad p. 50

Grilled Beef Salad with Green Sauce p. 124
Paella Rice Salad p. 14

Sunset Fruit Salad p. 129

SUNDAE SAUCES AND TOPPINGS

Blueberry Sauce p. 126
Cinnamon Walnut Sauce p. 126
Coconut-Pecan Topping p. 126
Fresh Strawberry Sauce p. 126
Frosty Fruit Topping p. 126
Hot Fudge Sauce p. 126
Orange Sauce with Melon p. 126
Peanut Butter Sauce p. 126
Raspberry Sauce p. 126

Rosy Ginger Sauce p. 126
Spiced Apple Topping p. 126
Vanilla Wine Sauce p. 126

Banana Crisp p. 126
Black Forest Sundae p. 126
Candy Cane Sundae p. 126
Cherries Jubilee

Sundae p. 126
Choffee Sundae p. 126
CMP Sundae p. 128
Cran-Orange Sundae p. 128
Creamsicle Sundae p. 128
Creole Sundae p. 128
Ebony and Ivory

Sundae p. 128
E.T. Sundae p. 128
Frosty Fruit p. 128
German Chocolate

Sundae p. 128
Go-For-It Sundae p. 128

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Grasshopper Sundae p. 128
Hot Fudge Sundae p. 128
Irish Coffee Sundae p. 128
Its It p 129

Lemon Whip Sundae p. 129
Margarita Sundae p. 129
Nouvelle Sundae p. 129
Nutty Raisin Sundae p. 129
Peachy Keen Sundae p. 129
Pina Colada Sundae p 129
Rosy Ginger Sundae p.
Rum Dum Sundae p. 129
Seasons in the Sun p. 129
Spiced Apple Sundae p. 129
Strawberry Sundae p. i
Twin Berry Sundae p. 12
Vanilla Wine Sundae p. 129

COOL COOKING
continued from page 93

GRAND AIOLI PLATTER

pictured on page 92

The great specialty of Provence, where it
is consumed in alarming quantities on
Bastille Day. Aioli, a rich garlic mayon-
naise, is traditionally served with salt
cod. Here, a lightened version is served
with poached chicken breasts.

8 chicken breast halves
12 small new potatoes, washed and
halved
1 bunch carrots (°/4 lb.), halved
crosswise, then lengthwise
Y2 pound green beans, trimmed
Y4 pound snow peas, trimmed
2 sweet red peppers, cut in strips
Aioli
1 egg yolk
1 whole egg
3 tablespoons coarsely chopped
garlic (about 6 large cloves)
1 teaspoon salt
Y4 teaspoon Dijon mustard
Pinch ground red pepper
Y4 cup lemon juice
1 tablespoon red wine vinegar
1% cups olive oil (or a combination
of olive and vegetable oils)
V4 cup sour cream

In large skillet arrange chicken breasts
in a single layer, slightly overlapping.
Add about 1 inch hot water; cover and
bring to a boil. Immediately reduce heat
to low and poach-steam breasts until
just firm (not springy) when pressed
gently in the center, about 10 minutes.
Remove from heat, partially uncover
and cool. Transfer to a plate (reserve liq-
uid for a soup) and chill covered.

Blanch or steam vegetables until just
tender-crisp. (The most efficient way is
to place potatoes in boiling salted water
or top of steamer first and blanch or
steam until partially cooked, about 4
minutes. Add carrots and cook about 3
minutes more, then add green beans
and cook 4 to 5 minutes more. Add
snow peas for final minute, then re-
move from heat and refresh vegetables,
keeping them separate, under cold
water to stop cooking and set color.)
Chill on a paper towel-lined platter.
Aioli: In food processor combine egg
yolk, whole egg, garlic, salt, mustard,
red pepper, lemon juice and vinegar un-
til smooth. With machine on, add oil a
drop at a time. When mixture begins to
thicken, add oil a teaspoonful at a time
at first, then in a slow, steady stream.
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Transfer aioli to small bowl. Cover and
chill 1 hour or longer. Correct season-
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calories per tablespoon.

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chicken and thinly slice breast halves
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Salt
Olive oil
1 cup thickly sliced mushrooms
Y2 cup sliced green onions
1 cup long-grain rice
1 can (13% or 141% oz.) chicken
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1 cup diced mozzarella cheese
4 thin slices pepperoni or salami, cut
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Freshly ground pepper
Lemon juice
3 tablespoons shredded mozzarella
cheese
2 tablespoons freshly grated Parmese
cheese

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rinse under cold water and drain agai
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rice is tender, 15 to 17 minutes. Transfer
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taste, and a little lemon juice. Td
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Miriam,” he said. He wanted to
make up for the irretrievable lost
years. “I bou ight Soe in Paris." -

on their way to
boxes of gold and
blue Sévres porcelain, yards of Al-

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the Queen, New Orleans,
Crescent City. “Ah, New Orleans!”

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with it.” He was about to say “as

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in front of his daughter he said, “a
one would expect.”

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the rising din an
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motion in ae dazzling sunligh
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ustle of carts, stray dogs, wor
men, horses and c

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French Market had the most a
tonishing crowd they'd ever seen i
one place. Here and there you coul
g a free Negro woman b
the color of her kerchief, as she sol
the delicacies she cooked over
fire. On beds of ice, fresh fish gli
tened a silver. Ladies with par
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sauce. She looked touching, sma

as she was, licking her fingers,
ornate high-] -bac ked chair, with

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Every woman around the tab
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mma—they had bee
instructed to call their father’s wi
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bloomed over a foam of black lace
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daughter Pelagie. a soft you
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the green bayou kota the ee poh ss

wld “The heat,’ Emma would say.
r4@Monroe, move closer with that fan.”
lis At the end of the meal, she would
marge, “Have some of Seraphima’s
nm ttle cakes, Miriam, my dear. Lan-
) wes de chat, cats’ tongues, they’re
impalled. Ridiculous name for any-
th zing so delicious.” Emma’s mouth
angered like a cat’s tongue on the
iu} yllables of “delicious.”
mj At last, chairs were pushed back
mynd everyone passed through the
ia rst parlor into the second. In the
re rst, the blinds were always drawn
ri gainst the sun. At evening, a
.ifrave blue light came through the
thg lats, touching gilded chair frames
kind yellow silk, crystal bric-a-brac
nd mirrors. In the second, the pi-
eno, the harp and the bookshelves
#) rade a more lively setting.

i¢ The full days seemed to glide by
#5 the children grew accustomed to
¢) 2eir life. It was decided that David
mould go north to school to study
uw iedicine, since that was his ambi-
aon. -Soon Miriam, too, started
#cthool. On her thirteenth birthday,
‘pae family gave her a white satin
s@ lary. For every day there was a
age with an orange blossom in the
porner. Miriam’s pen ran over the

silky paper in the round American
script she was learning that now
replaced her old handwriting.

When Miriam was fifteen, Pe-
lagie had a baby, and a christening
party was held. Miriam had been
introspective and wrote:

“T felt quiet, though not exactly
sad, with so many strangers talk-
ing at one another, not to one an-
other. So I walked down to the
bayou and sat on a rock.

“T heard somebody come up be-
hind me and I jumped. It was a man
from the party who wore a fashion-
able hat. He said his name was Eu-
gene Mendes and he knew I was
Ferdinand Raphael’s daughter.

‘Tm waiting for my servant to
row me home, he said. Then he
wanted to know what I was doing
there by myself. I told him I liked
the stillness. He asked me how old I
was, and I told him I would soon be
sixteen. He said, ‘Then the young
men will come to the family box at
the opera to be introduced.’ He
smiled. His teeth are square. When
his skiff arrived and his servant
hailed him, he stood up. He is so
tall he stoops a little.

“Quite suddenly he bent over my

hand and kissed it. His lips were
wet. When he raised his head he
had that smile again. He has
strange eyes, the color of tea. ‘Tl
see you at the opera,’ he said, ‘when
you are sixteen.’

“Why do I write this down? I
don’t know. It seems to me that
men have power over women. There
is so little one knows about them,
what they are like under their
broadcloth and linen. I don’t even
know how they look. I shiver inside
when I think about it, and then I
feel so warm. Am | imagining crazy
things, or are they true?

“I want to love somebody, that’s
what I want. Still, ’m afraid. I
don’t want to be like Pelagie; I want
to be free.”

he pier glass reflected
four women grouped
around Miriam on the
night she was to make
her debut at the op-
era. There was her servant, Fanny,
kneeling to fluff and perk six rust-
ling petticoats, a hairdresser, Emma
and Eulalie. The latter had come in
spite of herself, and stood now, hold-
ing the bouquet. Emma beamed. In

117

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irlam wanted everything out of life...

a sense, Miriam’s triumph was hers
as substitute mother.

It was finally the night when
they put her hair up as Pelagie de-
scribed, and Miriam wore dia-
monds in her ears. She stared at
the stranger in the glass, the stran-
ger whose naked white shoulders
rose out of pastel ruffles.

“Fanny!” Emma said impatient-
ly. “I do believe you’ve got the pet-
ticoats reversed. The double taffeta
goes underneath, so as not to crush
the muslin. Now, raise the skirt
and reverse them.” Emma _ was
mildly exasperated. “Oh, I do so
miss my Monty! I had to part with
him just before you came to us,
Miriam. He was the most marvel-
ous dressing maid, never made
mistakes. Unfortunately, he got too
old to wait upon a lady.”

In the evenings, Miriam thought,
young men will call. They will play
cards with Papa, but they will have
come for me. And tonight at the
opera, in the family boxes, people
will look over, whispering, “Yes,
that’s the little Raphael girl. I won-
der who will marry her—”

They walked to the opera
through a fine warm drizzle, pick-
ing their way to the dry spots. But
Miriam, buoyed with an optimism
so like her father’s, walked with a
silvery gauze curtain between her-
self and what was to come. Tonight
the curtain would be drawn back,
and a dazzle revealed.

he was aware of greet-
ing and being greeted
as she mounted the
stairs and took her
seat in their box.
“Look, Miriam,” whispered Em-
ma. “There are the de Riveras. You

. are going to spend the first night of

Passover at their house, aren’t you?
I must say, they are one of the best
Jewish families, with all that Henry
has done for your temple. And Rosa
always looks so smart. She must
spend a fortune on her clothes.”
Ferdinand leaned across Emma
and winked at Miriam. Even with
all of New Orleans society around
them, she knew he was proud of
her. And she was sure he was re-
membering, as all at once she re-

membered, that first night when he
arrived in Europe and promised
her great things.

“After the performance of La
Juive we'll go to Vincent's for past-
ry and chocolate,” he said.

The curtain went up then on a
square in front of a cathedral. The
music rose with shimmering
voices. There was a Passover feast:
O God, God of our fathers, they
sang. In that setting, the music was
familiar, and yet so strange.

Miriam looked about in the dark-
ness and wondered whether anyone
besides herself was moved. In the
next box, people were whispering,
not listening to the music.

During the intermission, many
people were introduced.

“Mr. Mendes called you Rachel,”
her father said. “He pays you a
compliment. He thinks you resem-
ble Halevy’s heroine.”

Miriam thanked the man. She
knew she had seen him somewhere
before. The tea-colored eyes seemed
not to blink, his gaze was so steady.

Then she remembered the after-
noon of the christening, down on
the bayou. Eugene Mendes turned
to her and said, “You have grown
even more beautiful than I ex-
pected you would, Miss Miriam.”

She smiled in acknowledgment
just as the curtain was about to rise
again. Her father barely had time
to remark, once Mr. Mendes was
out of hearing, “A distinguished
young man. He will go far.”

Every evening for the next two
weeks, a carriage drawn by a gray
horse pulled up under Miriam’s
window, and Eugene Mendes came
to the house. He drank port with
Ferdinand Raphael and played
cards with the other men.

Coming away from the window,
Fanny would say, “If you count a
hundred gray horses, you'll be sure
to marry the first man you shake
hands with after that.”

Miriam would laugh. “Can you
count the same horse over and over,
or must it be different ones?”

As always, she was to spend the
first night of Passover at the de
Riveras’. Each year, her father re-
ceived his proper invitation, but
he always found a reason not to go.

When Fanny had finished witk
her hair and Miriam went down.
stairs, her father kissed her good:
night and said, “Very kind of Mr
Mendes to be calling for you.”

“Very kind,” she said.

“He's a religious man.”

And you forgive him that? she
thought ironically.

But at the de Riveras’, Miriar
was more relieved than disappoint
ed that Eugene Mendes was seatec
at the other end of the’ table. I
would be worrisome to sit beside
him all through dinner, holding the
conversation exactly right. Emmé
had warned that men don’t like
prattling women. Of course, mar
ried ones like herself prattled al
the time.

Miriam looked down at the rec
velvet neckline above her breast:
and touched her earlobes, where
the little diamond buttons were
still safe. Hadn’t Eugene Mende:
told her that she was beautiful’
Through the general murmur o

‘prayer, his voice was distinct. Anc
p

Miriam, taking a sip of wine, fel
her head grow light.

Rosa de Rivera was saying, “
came from Charleston as a bride. I
took four weeks by carriage anc
horseback. My family founded the
temple in Charleston; I had s¢
many friends, such deep roots.”

“T heard about your efforts to ge
Judah Touro to do something fo:
our synagogue, Mr. Mendes,” saic
her husband Henry.

“He’s had quite a history. Arrivec
here in 1802 with nothing in hi:
pocket.”

“The man’s been a fighter from
the start. Worth a fortune today, o:
course. Shipping West Indies rum
tobacco and horses.” Mendes saic
this forcefully. “There’s nothing he
doesn’t touch.”

“You're describing yourself, too
of course,” the host said graciously

“Tm hardly in the same class
He’ buying a plantation twenty
miles south of here, Belle Chasse.”

“But you have a fine place of you
own,” Rosa said.

“Oh, you can’t mention it in the
same breath as Belle Chasse.”

. “Don’t you believe it,” Rosa whis
pered as they left the dining room

iove and happiness, and something more.

It’s just that he doesn’t like to talk
bout himself.”

If it were Papa, Miriam thought
yndly and ruefully, he would be
alling everyone how many rooms
here were. “I suppose you would
all Mr. Mendes a modest man,”

& he said then. “A simple man.”

“Simple?” Rosa laughed. “That’s
ae one thing I would never call
im.” Regarding Miriam, her eyes
arrowed. “It’s a lucky girl who will
et him, I can tell you.” Rosa im-
ulsively squeezed Miriam’s hand.
[t couldn't happen to a nicer girl,
ither. Such an attractive man—”
osa was swept into the parlor. She

oft Miriam alone for a moment
rith the echo of her words: “Such

n attractive man.” That was what
veryone called him.

On the following morning, a ser-
ant bearing a note invited Emma
nd Miriam to visit Mr. Mendes at
is new house. Gray kid gloves and

bonnet heavy with roses waited
n the bed for Miriam while Fanny
rushed her hair. For an instant,
1eir glance met in the mirror be-
wre Fanny’s eyes were quickly low-
red and hidden behind her lashes.

“You look beautiful,” Fanny said,
istening the last hairpin.

As the carriage rolled on down
ae avenue, Emma echoed Fanny:
You look lovely, Miriam.” Miriam
ad the strange sensation that they
rere racing downhill so fast they
ouldn’t stop.

“Tm so eager to see the house,”
imma was saying. “It was built by

very wealthy auctioneer named
armentier—before he lost his
ioney. Gambling,” she added. “It’s
ne thing to make money, and an-
ther to hold onto it.”

They stopped in front of a build-
ag larger and finer than the Ra-
hael home. Eugene Mendes was
raiting at the top of the steps to
reet the ladies. Inside, he smiled

.Jlightly as the little procession
iade its way through the rooms.

Upstairs, massive armoires of
osewood and mahogany stood with
yur-poster beds. Emma spoke ap-
roval: “Most elegant!”

Outside, in the gazebo, they sat

is}Own at a round table on which
akes and coffee had been set out.

veryone told her he was the man for her.

Emma immediately praised the
cakes, taking three. She admired
the camellias against the wall, the
jessamine and the lilies; she loved
the peal of the cathedral bells. But
Eugene was only half paying atten-
tion to Emma. His eyes were on
Miriam now. She was uncomfort-
ably conscious of his stare.

Some distance away, a plaque
marked the spot where someone
had been buried in the garden. One
might think oneself in a forest, it
was so green and still. Miriam con-
sidered, would it be a happy thing
to be a wife in this house?

“You are very thoughtful, Miss
Miriam,” said Mr. Mendes.

She was forced to look at him. “I
was admiring the statue,” she said,
pointing to where a small stone fig-
ure of Aphrodite stood above a two-
tiered fountain. Into a little pool
the falling water splashed and dou-
bled like the flounces of her skirt.

“And do you like my house?” Mr.
Mendes asked, persistent.

“Oh, yes. I hope you will be very
happy in it.” She said this with the
courtesy that was expected of a
guest. It was strange how different
Eugene Mendes seemed to her to-
day. There was almost something
too intense about him.

“You're shivering,” Mr. Mendes
said. “Are you cold?”

“She's in the shade,” Emma said.
“Move over into the sun, Miriam.”

Now her skirt almost touched
Mr. Mendes’s knees. Why was she
so afraid of being close to him?

In the carriage on the way back
home, Emma let out her breath at
last. “To tell the truth,” she said,
“your father and I have already
talked about this. We’re delighted.
And why shouldn’t we be?”

Miriam did not answer. She nev-
er fainted, but she felt queer.

“We both think you’re a very for-
tunate girl. New Orleans is scarce-
ly filled with eligible Jewish men.

“They tell me his country place is
delightful, too. You see, I have in-
quired as if you were my own
daughter, my dear.”

She laid her hand on Miriam’s
arm. “Why, it must seem like a
fairy tale to you sometimes.”
Miriam turned her head away.

“Why,what is it? Whatever could
be troubling you?”

“T don’t know exactly.
sure how I feel.”

“Well, you’re young, and a young
girl has dreams of love, of course.
It’s ideal, if it’s there. But it develops.
I was only fifteen when I married.
and my Pelagie was sixteen, like
you. If only my poor Eulalie—”

Now the lament would come, as
it always did.

“T don’t understand it. So she'll

I’m not

just be another old auntie, that’s

all. She can help Pelagie with her
children. And you with yours when
they come along, Miriam.”

“For women, the choice is always
the same,” Miriam said suddenly,
remembering something. “It hap-
pened in Europe, in our village.
When I was very little, Opa wanted
Aunt Dinah to marry a man who
had the best house on the street.
But he was fat and ignorant, and

she wouldn’t. So he asked my
cousin Leah instead.”
“And did your cousin marry

him?” Emma inquired.

“Yes, and they had four beautiful
babies when we left.”

“Ah! You see? It all worked out,”
said Emma. “Didn’t it? I should
imagine your aunt is sorry now. A
girl should listen to her elders. It’s
the same the world over.”

t all went very quickly. The
engagement was celebrated
at a formal breakfast, the de-
jJeuner de fiancailles, with
the giving of the ring. The
wedding date was set for a Satur-
day night, in spite of Emma’ pro-
test that “the better people” always
married on Monday or Tuesday.

Fanny fluttered through the
house as the gifts arrived, sorting
through Dresden _ shepherdesses,
embroidered linens, lace mantillas
and silver trays. Eulalie alone re-
mained apart. She sniffed about
one silver bowl: “You could put
enough punch in that for an army.”

“Well, we can fit three hundred
here at home, with no trouble at
all,” Ferdinand said.

There had been no time to get a
new wedding dress, for the bride-
groom didn’t want to wait. Miriam

would wear an heirloom worn b:
Pelagie and Emma before her. Sh
would also wear her diamond ear
rings and a pair of narrow gol
bracelets, which had arrived with ;
letter from her brother, David.

“These belonged to our mother,
he wrote. “I was to keep them fo
you until you were married. I wis!
I could be there with you. ... Yet, i1
a way, I am always with you.”

She could have repeated fron
memory that letter. He had als
written: “You have not told m
much about the man you are t
marry. Il understand it must be har
to put your deepest feelings on pa
per. But I know you must love hin
very much; he is a serious man, an
I am very glad for you... .”

So, on this tide of generous en
thusiasm, Miriam was swept along
Never once did it occur to her tha
she had not spent a single hou
alone with the man she was to mar
ry—although if it had occurred t
her, there would have been nothin;
that she or any other girl in he
position could do about it.

oads were crossed an
corners were turne
in this upstairs room
where the pier glas
stood in its tall ova
frame. The afternoon sun had al
ready faded, but the tilted glas
still shone, reflecting the couch o1
which Miriam lay. Objects on thi
tables and chests now took on life
announcing the hour: the veil, th
white gloves and white handker
chief waiting in a little white bas
ket, with the corbeille de noce, th
bridegroom’ gift.

Pelagie, followed by Fanny, rushes
into the room. Fanny laid a wreatl
for the veil on the dresser. The tw:
women bustled lightly as they pre
pared the bride. Pelagie chattere:
happily.

“They've brought mountains c
ice from the ice house on Chartre
Street. Papa must have ordered |
hundred bottles of champagne. W
mustn’t let people drink so muc!
that they stay all night, though
don’t suppose it matters. At mi
night, Mama will be sure to tak
you upstairs.”

LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL + AUGUST 19€

Does any woman ever know for sure?

Te
-

“Imagine,” Pelagie said, “you'll
ave the same room where Sylvain
ad I began.”
Fingers fumbled at her back, fas-
“ming the buttons that ran from
ack to waist. Her own fingers
noothed the two fine gold hoops at
ar wrist. Her mother’s fingers
ight have smoothed them so. Da-
‘dhad held them for her all these
»xars. And suddenly she knew
hat she was missing. If only, she
ought, this minute, now, he were
sre to say in that positive way:
as, this is right, this is good.
Then she straightened her shoul-
ars. David had written how
eased he was with her marriage
‘a serious man of their faith; she
ustn’t look for anyone to lean on
yw. She must stand on her own
rength. From the hall below came
ve sounds of arrival and greeting.
“They're here!” Fanny cried.
Jome, look!”
Pelagie warned, “She mustn’t be
‘en until Papa brings her down.”
“Good heavens!” Emma cried,
ishing in. “You haven’t got the
ul on! Come, it’s almost time.”
As if crowning a queen, the wom-
1 set the veil and coronet of or-
age blossoms on the bride's head.
}louded in white, the bride stared
.the girl in the mirror.
| Someone knocked at the door.
}Now,” said Emma, opening it for
2rdinand.
| Along with his dark suit and his
}itin tie, Ferdinand wore his tri-
»mph. “Mark my words, the Pica-
} ine tomorrow will say it was one
‘the most magnificent weddings
uls city has ever seen!”
Miriam took his arm. “I’m ready,
apa.” They moved toward the top
‘the stairs.
And at the same time, with that
mer eye that some call mind and
hers call spirit, she could see her-
lf with clarity: This is my day, the
}3ak of my days. I shall always re-
Jiember the smallest things, the
) YUquet on my arm, and my own
#nile breaking to answer the up-
urned faces. For isn’t this the hour
lve been waiting for? The gleam-
ig world is piled with joys, and I
gave only to stretch out my hands
ind take them. End

My seventeen-year-old daughter
Q: obsessed with cleanliness. She
washes her hands all the time,
gets very upset if she thinks a drinking

glass has a little spot on it, and so on.
Whats behind her extreme behavior?

The obsessive/compulsive syndrome
you have described can be the result of
an overwhelming fear of sickness or of
death. If as a child your daughter was
told that a relative died of “germs,” she
may be overly sensitive to the idea of
germs in the environment and indulge
in this ritualistic compulsion to ward
off being sick.

This syndrome: can also be sex-re-
lated. According to Freudian psychol-
ogists, elaborate hand-washing may be
an unconscious response to “unclean”
thoughts or actions, most likely those
involving masturbation.

This problem needs professional at-

tention. I advise you to contact a good
behavioral or cognitive therapist who
can help your daughter by restraining
her from acting out her compulsion
while helping her to consciously expe-
rience her fears. You should know,
however, that this symptom frequently
proves resistant to treatment, and that
she will need a supportive person
(probably you) to encourage her.

| used to love to travel, but ever
since my daughter was born a
year ago I've dreaded the thought

of going away and leaving her behind. I'm
supposed to go on a three-day business
trip next month and | just don’t know how
I'm going to do it. Is this common?

This is a very common reaction in
young mothers, who often establish a
“nesting pattern” in order to do more

| - caretaking of their babies. But you’re

also experiencing an ordinary fear that
every parent has: “What if something
happens while I’m gone? Or worse,
what if my plane crashes? Who: will
take care of my baby?” All of us realize
that our children are vulnerable to
mishaps, yet we all go on with our lives

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Why you feel the way yo
psychological research. By Sonya Friedman, Ph.D.

= —=

u do,

as best. we can, not only for our sakes
but also for our children’s sakes. There
are many ways to protect yourself and
your child while you’re away. Leaving
the child with a trusted family member
and phoning twice a day will reassure
you. A tape-recorded message for the
child keeps your presence alive, par-
ticularly if a picture of you is shown at
the same time the message is played. I
hope that you will have the courage to
overcome your dread. The best way is to
have a short period of time apart while
doing everything you can to cushion
your fears. This brief separation will be
a minimal step down the path of inde-
pendence we al] must take for our chil-
dren’s healthy development.

A friend of mine went to a hypno-
Q: to help her lose weight and
she says it worked. She did lose
thirty pounds. Now I’m tempted to do the
same, but I'm a little leery of hypnosis.

What do you think of this method?

Many people have an incorrect notion
of what hypnosis is all about. Because
most of us have seen some onstage ma-
gician/hypnotists, as part of their act,
make individuals get up and behave
foolishly in front of others, we have be-

SPEECH PROBLEMS TIED TO EMOTIONAL DISORDERS

Speech or language disorders,
which occur in 13 percent of all
children and are twice as com-
mon among boys as girls, often
relate to emotional problems, ac-
cording to Dr. Dennis Cantwell,
Campbell Professor of Child Psy-
chiatry at GCLA. .
In a study of six hundred pre-
school and grade-school children
with communication disorders,
Dr. Cantwell found that 53 per-
cent suffered from emotional
problems ranging from simple
phobias and insecurities to more

come suspicious and fearful of this me-
dium. In fact, it is a clinically prove
technique that has much to offer. ,

The remarkable thing about hypno-fy
sis is that the individual will take a
suggestion only from someone she
already feels comfortable with. Yo
do not become a different person o
have impulses that you would not nor.
mally have. Intelligence, concentratio
and motivation are necessary for hyp+,
nosis to work, and most people have§
excellent recall of the hypnotic session

Post-hypnotic suggestion works this
way: An individual who formerly de
voured an entire cake in one sitting is
given the suggestion while hypnotized
that cake tastes like pickled cabbage,
After the session, although she may re
member nothing of the hypnotist’s sug-§,
gestion, she turns up her nose at the,
sight of cake and may even ask if it hagy
a funny smell. Or the therapist may
plant the suggestion that every man o
the beach this summer will be staring
at her in her bikini. With that in mind
does she really want that hot fudge
sundae? In this way, hypnosis helps yo
change your behavior by telling yo
that things are different from what
you normally perceive. Under the guid
ance of a well-trained hypnotist, yo
can have a good experience.

oso” = —

aggressive and hyperactive be-
haviors. However, as stuttering
or lisping improved, so did the
child’s emotional state.

More complex language disor-
ders left longer-lasting scars. Dr.
Cantwell stresses that parents
should closely observe their child
to determine whether pronuncia-
tion, vocabulary and grammar
development are age-appropri-
ate. Early diagnosis and treat-
ment can prevent more serious
psychiatric and behavioral prob-
lems from developing later.

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saute 3 minutes. Add garlic; saute 1 min-
ute. Add tomato, saffron stirred with 2
tablespoons chicken broth, seasonings
and 1 teaspoon salt. Add rice and cook 3
minutes, stirring occasionally, adding a lit-
tle more oil if too dry. Add remaining
chicken broth and water; bring to a boil.
Stir; cover and reduce heat and simmer 15
minutes. Add shrimp. If liquid has been
absorbed, add a little water. Simmer cov-
ered 2 to 3 minutes or until rice and
shrimp are tender. Transfer to large bowl
and cool slightly.

While rice is still warm, stir in re-
maining ¥3 cup olive oil, pepperoni and
peas. Cool to room temperature. Stir in
peppers, parsley, lemon juice, salt and
pepper to taste; cover and refrigerate.

Remove from refrigerator about 20
minutes before serving. Serve gar-
nished with sliced tomatoes, green
onions and olives, if desired. Makes 6
servings, about 460 calories each.
Suggested menu: Chilled green beans
blanched and marinated in oil and
lemon, Paella Rice Salad, red-leaf and
romaine lettuce salad, crusty Italian or
French bread, raspberry or lemon ice.

CHILLED CORN BISQUE

This full-bodied soup, with sweet corn
kernels offset by the slight tang of but-
termilk, can serve as the main course for
a hot-weather supper or lunch.

1 tablespoon salad oil
1 large onion, coarsely chopped
3 carrots, sliced
2 celery ribs, sliced
1 teaspoon salt
6 cups fresh corn kernels (cut from
about 9 ears) or 3 packages (10
oz. each) frozen corn, thawed
¥4 cup cold water
1 can (13% or 141% oz.) chicken
broth, degreased
Pinch thyme
¥4 cup (about 1% lb.) cooked ham, cut
in 1-inch slivers
Sait
Freshly ground pepper
Dash nutmeg
1 cup buttermilk
7/3 cup milk
1 small sweet red pepper, julienned
Chopped parsley

In heavy saucepan heat oil. Add onion,
carrots, celery and salt. Toss to combine.
Cook covered over medium-low heat, stir-
ring occasionally, until slightly softened,
about 10 minutes. Increase heat to high.
Add about two thirds of the corn (reserve
remaining), water, chicken broth and
thyme; bring to a boil. Reduce heat and
simmer covered 15 minutes.

With slotted spoon transfer about
half the vegetables to food processor or
blender. Puree until nearly smooth
(work in batches, if necessary). Return

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puree to saucepan and add remaining
corn. Simmer 5 minutes. Transfer to
large bowl; add ham, salt and pepper to
taste and nutmeg. Cool, then cover and
chill. Remove from refrigerator about
15 minutes before serving. Stir in but-
termilk and milk. Add more milk if
needed to bring soup to medium-thick
consistency. Sprinkle each portion with
a few red pepper slivers and chopped
parsley. Makes 6 servings, about 250
calories each.

Suggested menu: Ripe tomato and red
onion salad, Chilled Corn Bisque, cole
slaw, whole wheat bread, blueberry
cobbler or sugared blueberries and
strawberries.

GRILLED BEEF SALAD
WITH GREEN SAUCE

Plan to grill a little extra flank steak next
time you barbecue so you can enjoy this
piquant salad. The green sauce is also tasty
on grilled or steamed fish or chicken, over
pasta or drizzled over ripe sliced tomatoes.

1 pound leftover grilled flank steak,
sliced diagonally (or sliced rare
roast beef, cut into strips)

6 to 8 leftover boiled or steamed new
potatoes in their skins, thickly
sliced

1 pint ripe cherry tomatoes

Green Sauce

1 cup loosely packed parsley leaves
1 cup loosely packed fresh basil
leaves
1 garlic clove
¥4 teaspoon salt
2 to 3 tablespoons Balsamic or red
wine vinegar
2/3 cup olive oil
Freshly ground pepper
2 tablespoons capers, rinsed and.
drained

1 hard-cooked egg, riced,
for garnish

Arrange sliced steak and potatoes on a
platter; garnish with cherry tomatoes.
Green Sauce: In food processor or
blender combine parsley, basil, garlic,
salt and 2 tablespoons vinegar; process
until evenly chopped. Add a little oil
and scrape mixture down if necessary.
With machine on, gradually add olive
oil. Transfer to small bowl and stir in
pepper and capers. Taste and add
enough extra vinegar to give the sauce
a nice tang. Makes 1 cup sauce, about
95 calories per tablespoon.

Stir well and drizzle over beef and
potatoes. Garnish with riced, hard-
cooked egg. Makes 4 servings, about
275 calories each without sauce.
Suggested menu: Marinated roasted
red and green peppers with anchovies,
Grilled Beef Salad with Green Sauce,
crusty bread, sliced plums and nec-
tarines with a dash of Amaretto, served
over vanilla ice cream.

OPEN-FACED HEROS

Sweet, marinated roast-peppers-and-
basil spread give this hearty sandwich
plenty of flavor.

4 large sweet peppers, preferably a
combination of red, green and
yellow, if available

1 tablespoon Balsamic or red wine
vinegar

Basil Spread

1 cups loosely packed basil leaves
1 garlic clove
3/4 teaspoon salt
Freshly ground pepper
¥3 cup good olive oil

1 loaf crusty Italian or French bread,
about 10 to 12 inches long, split
lengthwise

8 ounces mozzarella cheese, thinly
sliced (cut slices in half to fit width
of bread if necessary)

8 thin slices cooked ham or salami
(cut slices to fit width of bread
if necessary)

Rinse and dry peppers; place on foil-
lined baking sheet. Broil, turning with
tongs as necessary, until spotted with
black on all sides, about 8 to 14 min-
utes. Remove from heat; wrap tightly
in foil and set aside to cool. When cool
enough to handle, remove pepper skins
with small knife, then halve and care-
fully remove stems, ribs and seeds. Cut
peppers in long strips 1 inch wide and
transfer, with their juices, to a plate.
Sprinkle with vinegar and set aside.
Basil Spread: Choose a few small basil
leaves and refrigerate for garnish.
Place remaining basil, garlic, salt, pep-
per to taste and about 2 tablespoons oil
in food processor or blender and process
until evenly chopped, scraping down as
necessary. With machine on, gradually
add remaining oil.

Spread cut surfaces of bread liberally
with basil spread. Place a slice of
cheese at one end of loaf half, then ar-
range enough pepper strips, with
juices, to cover width of bread, partially
overlapping cheese. Place a slice of ham#i
or salami partially overlapping pepper
strips, then another slice of cheese,}#
then more pepper strips. Continue un-
til all ingredients have been used.
Sprinkle with a few grinds fresh pep-
per, then tuck in reserved basil leaves.
Makes 4 servings, 685 calories each.
Suggested menu: Avocado halves filledj”
with flaked leftover fish tossed with lemon
mayonnaise or lemon juice and olive oil,
Open-Faced Heros, cucumber, carrot and
celery sticks, peach pie. End

Richard Sax, author of Old-Fashioned
Desserts (Irena Chalmers) and Cook-
ing Great Meals Every Day (Random
House), is book critic for Cuisine maga-
zine and contributes regularly to sev-
eral publications.

LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL + AUGUST 19

| ght & Easy
vocado Dip

-alifornia Avocados,
ightly mashed
‘sp. salt
) (bsp. lemon or lime juice
) tsp. Worcestershire Sauce
Uedium tomato, peeled,
ieeded and chopped fine
2up green onions, chopped
) dash or two of Taco Sauce,
) 0 taste
mbine all ingredients and
ve alongside
lifornia Beef 'N Bean Tacos.

5 sae e rs
t t f |

California Beef 'N Bean Tacos

} California Avocados, halved, pitted, 12 (44%, oz. pkg.) Old El Paso
peeled & sliced into crescents Taco Shells

Tbsp. lemon juice Shredded lettuce

{b. lean ground beef Shredded Cheddar cheese
1Y, oz. pkg.) Old El Paso 1 cup (8 oz. jar) Old El Paso
Taco Seasoning Mix Taco Sauce

15 oz. can Old El Paso

Mexe-Beans (chili beans)

tinkle avocado crescents with lemon juice. Brown ground beef; drain

. Add Taco Seasoning; mix according to directions. Stir in beans and
uid. Simmer until liquid is reduced; about 5 minutes. Heat Taco Shells
cording to directions. Fill each shell with 2 heaping tablespoons of beef
xture. Top with cheese, lettuce and avocado crescents. Serve with Taco
uce. Makes 12 tacos.

CALIFORNIA AVOCADOS
The Sensuous Food.”

1984 California Avocado Commission
d El Paso is a registered trademark of Pet Incorporated

Here's a tasty dish for a perfect summer day. Brought to
you by California Avocados and Old El Paso® Mexican Foods.

Make a summer supper that’s special with Old El Paso Taco
Sauce, full of vine-ripened tomatoes and zesty green chilies.
Make it crisp and crunchy with the fresh corn flavor of
Old El Paso Taco Shells.

And, make it luscious with California Avocados.
Just nestle golden green crescents of avocado inside each filled
taco shell. You'll see. Nothing complements Mexican food
like the smooth, creamy taste of California Avocados.

That’s a summer supper— Mexican style!

Medium
’ Taco Sauct

A MONTH OF SUNDAES
continued from page 87

SAUCES & TOPPINGS

BLUEBERRY SAUCE

2 cups blueberries

Y2 cup sugar

1 tablespoon lemon juice
Dash nutmeg

Y2 teaspoon vanilla extract

In 2-quart saucepan combine blueber-
ries, sugar, lemon juice and nutmeg.
Bring to a boil; reduce heat and simmer
15 minutes. Remove from heat; stir in
vanilla. Cool. Makes 1 cup.

CINNAMON WALNUT SAUCE

1 cup firmly packed dark brown sugar

2 cup water

1 teaspoon ground cinnamon

2 whole cloves

Y2 cup coarsely chopped walnuts,
toasted*

In small saucepan combine sugar,
water, cinnamon and cloves. Bring to a
boil; boil 5 minutes. Remove from heat
and discard cloves. Add walnuts to
sauce; cool. Makes 1% cups.

*To toast walnuts: Spread in shallow
baking pan and heat in preheated 350°F.
oven 6 to 8 minutes. Let cool to room
temperature.

COCONUT-PECAN TOPPING

2 tablespoons butter or margarine
2/3 cup shredded coconut

Y2 cup coarsely chopped pecans
2/3 cup dark brown sugar

2 cup water

In medium saucepan melt butter or
margarine over medium heat. Add co-
conut and pecans. Cook, stirring, until
coconut is golden brown, about 5 min-
utes. Add brown sugar and water. Bring
to a boil; boil 2 minutes. Remove from
heat; cool. Makes 1% cups.

FRESH STRAWBERRY SAUCE

2 cups sliced strawberries
. Ya cup sugar

1 tablespoon lemon juice
Yq teaspoon almond extract

In saucepan combine al! ingredients.
Bring to a boil, reduce heat and simmer
10 minutes. Remove from heat; stir in
almond extract. Cool. Makes i¥3 cups.

FROSTY FRUIT TOPPING

In medium bowl! combine 2 cups sliced
peaches, ¥2 cup blueberries or raspber-
ries and 1 sliced banana.

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HOT FUDGE SAUCE

1 cup unsweetened cocoa
¥4 cup granulated sugar
Y2 cup brown sugar
Ye teaspoon salt

1 cup heavy or whipping cream
Y2 cup butter or margarine,

cut into pieces
1 teaspoon vanilla extract

In medium saucepan stir together co-
coa, sugars and salt. Stir in cream and
butter. Bring to a boil, stirring con-
stantly; boil 1 minute. Remove from
heat; cool 5 minutes. Stir in vanilla.
Makes 2'2 cups.

ORANGE SAUCE WITH MELON

Y4 cup sugar
11% teaspoons cornstarch
1 cup orange juice
Y2 teaspoon grated orange peel
1 tablespoon lemon juice
12 cups honeydew balls
12 cups cantaloupe balls

In 2-quart saucepan combine sugar and
cornstarch. Gradually stir in orange
juice. Stirring constantly, bring to a
boil over medium heat and boil 1 min-
ute. Remove from heat; stir in orange
peel and lemon juice. Cool; gently fold
in fruit. Refrigerate. Makes 3% cups.

PEANUT BUTTER SAUCE

1 cup miniature marshmallows
1 cup milk

¥4 cup creamy peanut butter

Yq cup dark corn syrup

In small saucepan melt marshmallows
in milk over medium heat. Add peanut
butter and stir until blended. Stir in
corn syrup. Cool. Makes 142 cups.

RASPBERRY SAUCE

1 tablespoon sugar
1/2 teaspoons cornstarch
1 package (10 oz.) unsweetened
frozen raspberries, thawed
Yq cup raspberry liqueur or brandy

In small saucepan combine sugar and
cornstarch; mix well. Pour raspberries
into strainer set over saucepan. With
back of spoon, press fruit through
strainer into saucepan. Bring to a boil
over medium heat, stirring constantly.
Boil 1 minute. Remove from heat and
stir in raspberry liqueur or brandy.
Cool. Makes 1 cup.

ROSY GINGER SAUCE

3 cups sliced rhubarb, fresh or frozen
2/3 cup sugar
1 cup sliced strawberries
1 tablespoon finely chopped
crystallized ginger

In medium saucepan combine rhubarb

and sugar. Cover and cook until tender,
about 6 minutes. Add strawberries and
ginger; cook 2 to 3 minutes, stirring oc-
casionally. Cool. Makes 2% cups.

SPICED APPLE TOPPING

1 can (21 or 22 oz.) apple pie filling

Y2 cup apple juice

1 tablespoon red cinnamon candies
V4 teaspoon nutmeg

In small saucepan over medium heath,
combine all ingredients. Cook until the},
candies have dissolved and sauce ha
come to a boil. Remove from heat; cool.
Makes 1% cups.

VANILLA WINE SAUCE

2/3 cup dry red wine

2/3 cup water

Y2 cup sugar

Ya cup fresh lemon juice

2/3 vanilla bean or 1 teaspoon
vanilla extract

In small saucepan combine all ingre
dients. Bring to a boil over high heat
stirring until sugar is completely dis
solved. Boil until reduced to % cup
about 20 minutes. Remove vanilla
bean; cool. If using vanilla extract, add
to sauce after sauce is cooked and re
moved from heat. Makes % cup.

SUNDAES

All recipes make 1 serving

BANANA CRISP

Roll 2 scoops chocolate chip ice crean
in sweetened chocolate-flavored rice ce
real. Place scoops in dish. Top with
tablespoons chocolate syrup. Garnish
with banana halves.

BLACK FOREST SUNDAE

Place 1 scoop cherry vanilla ice cream
in dish. Top with 2 tablespoons choco
late syrup mixed with 4% tablespoo
cherry brandy or kirsch, a dollop oj
whipped cream and chocolate cookie
crumbs. Garnish with a cherry.

CANDY CANE SUNDAE

Place 1 scoop peppermint stick ice
cream in dish. Top with 2 tablespoong
marshmallow creme and crushed pep
permint candy.

CHERRIES JUBILEE SUNDAE

Place 2 scoops pistachio ice cream ir
dish. Top with 3 tablespoons bottleq
cherries jubilee sauce.

CHOFFEE SUNDAE
Combine 4 cup butterscotch (continued §

LADIES' HOME JOURNAL + AUGUST 1984

“New Seven Seas’ Bacon Dressings
top Kraft’ in taste test!”

— The Undercover Rabbits

“We've got the proof!
People prefer new Seven Seas®
Bacon & Buttermilk and
new Bacon & Tomato Dressings
over Kraft®!’’

The Undercover © | oe Nae : Pa
Rabbits were out ~ . Nie ae

at sea when they —
discovered the
best-tasting bacon ©

| dressings — 3
new Seven Seas®
Bacon & Buttermilk —
and new Seven Seas® —
‘Bacon & Tomato.
‘Both outscored Kraft®

in consumer taste " '
tests! Yet there was =
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CRAN-ORANGE SUNDAE

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CREAMSICLE SGNDAE

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CREOLE SUNDAE

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chopped toasted pecans.

EBONY AND IVORY SUNDAE

Place 1 scoop each chocolate chocolate
chip and chocolate chip ice cream in
dish. Top chocolate chocolate chip with
2 tablespoons marshmallow creme and
chocolate chips. Top chocolate chip ice
cream with 2 tablespoons chocolate
syrup and shredded coconut.

E.T. SUNDAE

Place 2 scoops vanilla ice cream in dish.
Sprinkle with chopped peanuts. Top
with 3 tablespoons Peanut Butter
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FROSTY FRUIT

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GRASSHOPPER SUNDAE

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HOT FUDGE SUNDAE

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LEMON WHIP SUNDAE

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MARGARITA SUNDAE

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NOUVELLE SUNDAE

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spear if desired.

ROSY GINGER SUNDAE

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Top with 2 tablespoons Spiced Apple
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STRAWBERRY SUNDAE

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TWIN BERRY SUNDAE

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ithe dice by his thoughts, a mother to
‘concentrate and lift a 2,000-pound au-
tomobile to free her child trapped un-
derneath. But psychokinesis has only
been demonstrated in laboratories on a
much smaller scale.

Psychic warfare

‘Perhaps the most unnerving aspect of
parapsychology research is the recent
talk of a psychic arms race between
the United States and the Soviet
Union. A few years ago an intelligence
report on the progress of Soviet para-
psychology raised the possibility of a
massive Soviet psychic warfare project.
Sooner or later, the Defense Intel-
ligence Agency report said, the Soviets
would be able to know by psychic
means the contents of secret U.S. gov-
ernment files, the deployment of
‘troops and ships and the location of
our military installations.

There is so far no evidence that the
}Soviets can do any of this yet. But just
|in case, the Pentagon wants to be pre-
poared. The Navy, the Army, the Air
'Force, the Marines and several intel-
ligence agencies, including the Defense
‘intelligence Agency and the Central
Intelligence Agency, have all conducted
gsychic research. Tax dollars currently
‘fund almost forty separate projects, to
)che tune of millions of dollars a year.

Using psi

Some parapsychologists have ques-
tioned the motives behind such mili-
sary uses of psi, and have gone on to
/ursue a number of less threatening,
more commercial applications. One of
these scientists, Russell Targ, says that
‘after a hundred years of laboratory
experiments, more acceptance will be
zained for psi if it is shown to be useful
on the marketplace.”

In 1982, Targ left SRI International,
;where he had researched psi abilities
wander government contracts for the
gast decade, and formed Delphi Associ-
sates, a consultancy in applied psi re-
search. He intends to show how useful
‘9si can be in such enterprises as the
»xploration of oil, gas and minerals.

Others who see promise in harness-
‘ng psi talk about its potential for
iloing everything from diagnosing dis-
zase to choosing investments. But
while enthusiasts dream of a future
where psi can be put to good use, re-
search is still in the early stages.

While we can’t be sure about accu-
cately forecasting the future just yet,
it’s a safe bet to predict that a lot more
pattention will be paid to psychic phe-
;ajomena and psychic research in the
jays and years to come. End

BETRAYAL
continued from page 38

romance.” Long after that film was
over, Pat’s love affair with Gary Cooper
flourished. In fact, it had a long run.
The difference is that Mrs. Rocky Cooper
weathered the storm in her marriage
while Mrs. Pat Dahl did not. Thinking
about that time long ago, does Pat now
wish she had fought harder for Gary
Cooper—the way Felicity fought for
Roald Dahl?

“No. I got myself into a sticky mess
that never should have worked. I
shouldn’t have started our love affair in
the first place and Gary shouldn’t have
either. But, then, when you do, and he
loves you and you love him, then it just
gets out of hand. It was right that we
didn’t marry. I’m happy a divorce didn’t
take place. He was married to her, and
that’s how it should have stayed.

“Gary was the most gorgeously at-
tractive man I’ve ever known. He was
the biggest attraction of my life. I’ll
never know another like it. Roald and I
got on well for years, but we didn’t have
that kind of feeling. When Gary and I
were finished, I was brokenhearted. I
was gaunt, all bones, down from one
hundred thirty-five to one hundred
eleven pounds. I couldn’t eat or sleep.

“T had a bit of a nervous breakdown.
Finally I went to Atlanta to visit my
sister, and I met a doctor who talked to
me and helped me. Without him Id
have been in an insane asylum.

“It was I who walked out on Gary.
Gary’s mother had something to do
with it. He was in New York in the
hospital with an ulcer, thanks to all we
were going through. I called his moth-
er. I'd gone by her house with Gary
many times. I said, ‘Can I please come
and see you?’ And she said, ‘I don’t
want to see you.’ I started to blubber,
‘P-p-p-please . . .. And she said, ‘I don’t
ever want to see you again.’

“T hung up and started crying. Then I
called Gary in New York and said, “This
is it.’ See, his mother had put the final
thought in my mind that this had to be
over. His mother wanted the best for
him. She didn’t want me to come along
and destroy her son’s marriage, and I
guess she was right.”

The bitterness between Pat and the
Cooper women lasted for years. But the
wounds healed after Pat suffered her
stroke. “So, I suppose,” she says, “things
do have a way of straightening out.”

Will Pat ever be able to put this new
breakup behind her? Will she be able to
see her own anger cool? “Who knows?”
she says slowly. “It depends on what
happens in life.”

Falling silent, she looks out the win-
dow at New York’s East River. The city
is a refuge for her, she admits, and she

is grateful to have her beautiful apart-
ment in a place that she loves. In a way,
New York is her therapy. “And it’s a
good city for work,” she adds. “I need to
work. I want to work. I must work.”

She visits her children in London,
and occasionally they visit her. She
sees her mother, who lives in Florida
and who has been very supportive. And
she spends a good deal of time traveling
the country, giving her autobiographi-
cal lecture, “An Unquiet Life.” As for
the future, she seems optimistic.
Armed with that faith, Pat is of the
opinion that from here on life will be
more positive. One indication of this is
Pat’s recent invitation to the White
House. About its occupant she says,
“Ronnie was not a great actor, but he was
good and he knew how to memorize
lines.” Their friendship began in 1948.
He was the leading man in her first film,
John Loves Mary, but they had met ear-
lier at a party. “Ronnie arrived with an
older woman,” Pat recalls. “It had just
been announced that he and Jane Wy-
man were divorcing. He was _heart-
broken, in agony, and he began to weep.
He wept and wept in this lady’s arms.”

The following year they costarred in
The Hasty Heart, and stayed at the same
hotel. “We had rooms next to each other.
He was suffering with his divorce; I was
in love with Gary, so neither of us was
interested in dating. We went to restau-
rants and parties together. Weekends we
took rides. But there was nothing ro-
mantic between us.”

She hadn’t seen her old friend since
he was in the White House, and said so
publicly. Somehow this came to Presi-
dent Reagan’s attention, and at a state
dinner this spring Pat Neal was seated
at the presidential table.

As far as Pat’s own career goes, she
has just completed a TV movie, Love
Leads the Way, costarring Timothy Bot-
toms, and she will also guest-star in a
new ABC series, Glitter, this fall.

What about her personal life? Will she
marry again? The answer is an empha-
tic no. Is she sick of men? With charac-
teristic dry humor, she says, “Let’s just
say I’m disturbed by them.”

Again, it seems as if all conversational
roads still lead to Roald. It is a subject
that consumes her. “Roald was great in
the beginning, but then, I’d say, he be-
came a different man. I guess that you
live with a man every day and you still
don’t really know him.” A pause, then
slowly, “Yes, I still loved him.”

At the door, Pat smiles and says:
“When we made Hud, my best scene was
left on the cutting room floor. I played
Alma the housekeeper. It was a scene in
which a young boy comes to Alma and
asks what life is all about, and I say to
him, ‘Honey, you'll just have to ask some-
body else.’” End

131

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JEREMY STYRON
continued from page 34

removed a small amount of marrow
from his hipbone, placed it in a collect-
ing bottle and brought it to the lab.
Explains Dr. Kapoor: “It was then com-
bined with soybean lectin, which acted
like a glue, binding together with the
mature T-cells so they would sink to the §
bottom of the test tube. Marrow cells
remaining on top were given a second |
and third purification by mixing them
with red blood cells from sheep.

“That took eighteen hours and re- }
quired our undivided attention. Then I
went to Jeremys room, and while he &
lay in his crib, I infused all the cells &
through his intravenous line. The ac- §
tual transplant took only twenty min- §
utes, but we prayed for dramatic re-
sults. We needed to boost Jeremy's im-
mune response—which was measured
at zero—closer to the normal level of
ten thousand.”

Wanda and Jack remember the pe-
riod following the first transplant as a
very low point. As one lab report after
another revealed no change in Jeremy's
immune response, they despaired that
he would ever get well.

Throughout the summer of 1981, lab
tests continued to show no improvement.
But then, on an Indian summer day in
September, Jack knew “something was
going on.” Arriving at the hospital, he
was greeted by a grinning Dr. Kapoor.

“Jack, come here,” she said. “Guess
what Jeremy's immune response is.”

“Fifteen hundred?” Jack asked.

“No, try again,” she responded.

“Three thousand?”

“Noe

“Then what?” Jack finally demanded,
his voice rising with excitement.

“Eighty-three hundred!”

“Jack called me immediately,’ Wan-
da continues. “I was home, vacuuming!
I just dropped everything and dashed to
the hospital. I can’t describe the feel-
ing... . I was finally going to have my
little boy back again!”

Jeremy remained in his room during
October as tests were conducted to be
sure his antibodies could function nor-
mally. They did, and soon he was al-
lowed to leave the room that had been
his home for 1,275 days.

After a gala farewell celebration Jer-
emy joined his family in their apart-
ment. Weekly checkups continued for
another month, but his condition re-
mained stable, and with the help of a
therapist his speech improved. Since he
had been fed intravenously for so long,
at first Jeremy found it difficult to chew
and swallow food. Gradually, he over-
came that problem, too, and soon he
was consuming more than 1,500 calo-
ries a day and gaining weight.

132 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL « AUGUST 1984 §

In December, the doctors gave the
Styrons permission to return home.
Jack resigned his position and rented a
*railer for the family’s journey back to
South Carolina.

Today, Jeremy weighs a _ healthy
hirty-five pounds. At forty inches tall,
ie is still small for his age, but doctors
edict he’ll soon catch up.

“Of course, whenever Jeremy gets
ick, we worry,” says Wanda. “In fact,
ast winter he was home with pneu-

‘nonia, but the antibiotics worked fine,
nd he recovered quickly. The doctors
re confident that we’ve won the battle.

“Tll always remember the day Jer-
my started school,” she adds wistfully.
The nightmare was behind us, and I
yas a mother again, in charge of my
ittle boy. I knew Jeremy had a future
ike every other child.” End

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understanding of how unmatched mar-
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host of deadly diseases caused by a
malfunctioning of the blood-produc-
ing tissues,” says Dr. Robert A. Good,
who today heads the cancer research
program at the Oklahoma Medical Re-
search Foundation in Oklahoma City.

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BE A WINNER
continued from page 48

work in ways that will help your per-
formance. For instance, if your job is to
be in front of the camera, you have to be
willing to take acting classes or work on
your writing skills. Whatever it is, you
have to be creative about it.”

To Donna, there’s another factor to
success as well—the people who helped
her along the way. “We don’t do things
in isolation in this life,” says Donna,
now president of the Women’s Sports
Foundation. “When someone succeeds,
you have to realize there were a lot of
people who were there for her, and that
is one of the reasons she made it.”

Persistence pays off

“To succeed, you need drive and dedica-
tion,” says Debbie Meyer Reyes, thirty-
one. “You’ve got to stay with it, what-
ever you're doing, day after day.”
Debbie learned this lesson firsthand
when she was a teenager. She wasn’t a
great swimmer, but she loved the sport,
and decided to to try out for the Arden
Hills Swim Club in Sacramento, Cal-
ifornia. Her performance on the first
day was discouraging—she was ex-
hausted after just four laps. But Debbie
wouldn’t give up. She began to work on

her strokes, day in and day out, even
though “a lot of kids made fun of me.”

Gradually, her endurance increased,
and within a year she was swimming
up to ten miles a day. In 1968, three
years after that first practice, Debbie
became the only American woman ever
to win three individual Olympic gold
medals in swimming. “If you find some-
thing you really enjoy, you’ve got to
stick with it and put in that little bit
extra,” says Debbie, now a mother of
one. “Everyone has it. What you have to
do is dig down deep and find it.”

Toeing the line

Micki King Hogue hasn’t forgotten the
lessons of a decade ago. “The things I
learned on the diving board in terms of
pushing myself and going that extra mile
—that discipline carries over now and
makes me a better person,” she says.

For this springboard diving cham-
pion, it was discipline and the ability to
stick to a self-imposed regimen that led
to a gold medal in 1972. “As a diver, I
was very disciplined about everything
from making sure I got to a workout on
time to staying in Friday nights so I
would be in good form at the pool on
Saturdays.”

Micki, forty, is now a lieutenant colo-
nel in the U.S. Air Force and the high-

est ranking female officer at the Air
Force Academy in Colorado. Also a
mother of two, she says, “Self-discipline

is a basic part of living. You have to be}

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ROSALYNN CARTER

continued from page 72

/on’t understand,” she says, adding
) lyly, “I guess it’s his teeth.”
| Rosalynn feels strongly that her hus-

and was treated unfairly by the media

}arough much of his administration. “I
} on’t like to criticize the press, because
ou can’t win that way,” she says, “but
s long as Jimmy was an independent,
mely candidate they wrote great sto-
| ies. Once he was a serious threat, they
| egan tearing him apart.” The first me-
} ia onslaught came before the election,
) hen Jimmy told a Playboy interview-

r he had lusted in his heart for other

‘omen. “That was in the headlines for
| ays, and I was terribly nervous about
) hat it would do to the campaign,” she
»members. “I got a little gun-shy for a
‘hile about saying anything.”

There were, of course, other press
criticisms. Rosalynn didn’t mind that
ae was described as an “iron magno-
a” and “a woman of calculating ambi-
on.” (“Iron is strong and I am strong.
nd I’ve never seen anything wrong
ith ambition,” she says.) But she was
)nnoyed by the media’s indifference to
jer pet project of mental health in
} merica—“I was told mental health
as not a ‘sexy’ issue” —and by the me-

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turned to prayer for sustenance. “I’m
not very open about my religion. I don’t
even talk a lot to Jimmy about it, but
its always there,” she says quietly.
“When I was really frustrated, I even
fussed at God, the way I did with Jim-
my. I'd say, ‘Dear God, I’m only human!”
But there were many good times. “We
really had a lot fun at the White
House,” Rosalynn remembers.

Rosalynn misses that life. “Most of
all, I miss Jimmy being there making
the correct decisions. I’m not comfort-
able about who is leading our country
now. Jimmy did a lot of unpopular
things because they were right. If Rea-
gan sees something is unpopular, he
shifts his position. He changed on
China, on Lebanon, even on deficits—
and this was the man who was going to
balance the budget!”

In the end, Rosalynn believes, it was
not Ronald Reagan who defeated her
husband. His sword of Damocles, she
maintains, was the wrath of Kho-
meini—with an assist from Senator
Edward Kennedy, whose dogged fight
for the nomination “split the Demo-
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four years ago. There is a serenity
about her now. And whatever one
thinks of the Carter presidency—de-
tractors call it a disaster, admirers say
he was the right man in the right place
at the wrong time—it brought to the
forefront one of America’s most active
and attractive First Ladies. Her book is
a best-seller, her family happy, her life
fulfilling. Yet there is a longing to com-
plete an unfinished dream. “I would
love to see Jimmy run again for Presi-
dent, although he says he is not the
slightest bit interested,” Rosalynn Car-
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grained as her femininity as she re-
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a bit of both. More humble now than in 1960 when the Pill
was first introduced, the experts know that birth control is
vastly more complex than they had initially realized. One
reason: Sexual intercourse is fraught with emotion, and the
control of fertility, tied directly to lovemaking, is not merely
a technical maneuver to keep sperm and ovum apart. For
many women, it is a decision racked by ambivalence that
they must evaluate again and again. But other factors, too,
zomplicate the picture.

initial claims were exaggerated. When front-page headlines
nailed the oral contraceptive as infallible, a wonder drug,
joctors assured patients there was no evidence it caused the
slightest harm. Women wanted to believe in the miracle
chat would eliminate anxious waiting for a period to start,
lesperate back-alley abortions and the conflicts of a meno-
gause baby. So, within a year of its release to the public,
-housands of women were using the Pill.

The bad news came less than a decade later, with reports
of blood clots, heart attacks and strokes among Pill users.
vomplaints of weight gain, nausea, depression, brown facial
spots and variations in libido multiplied. Often, the nega-
sive was overplayed. In 1969, a report in a book by Barbara
Seaman, The Doctors’ Case Against the Pill (Doubleday),
nade dire predictions of “a Pill-caused cancer epidemic that
will dwarf the thalidomide birth-deformity tragedy.” Then,
n 1970, Senator Gaylord Nelson held a series of public
Hniearings in Washington, D.C., that grabbed headlines. At
the time of the hearings, approximately eight million women
were taking the Pill; afterward, sales dropped slightly,
‘hough they soon stabilized.

Pill use has increased over the last few years, but it has
# 1ever regained its early magic, and the controversy over its
safety continues. Today, 18 percent of all American women
‘ake the Pill, and though this translates into a hefty ten
nillion users, they remain wary.

The IUD also developed problems a few years after its
ntroduction in the early sixties. Although many experts
varned against it, some overenthusiastic doctors inserted the
levice in young women who had never been pregnant—a
yainful procedure, and often futile, for this was later found to
ye the group most likely to expel it. Other women didn’t expel
he IUD, but they became pregnant anyway, causing a brand-
new dilemma for the obstetrician and the mother-to-be: Do
7ou remove the device during the pregnancy or leave it in
lace? Whichever you do, will it harm the fetus? One IUD, the
Jalkon Shield, was withdrawn from the market in 1974 when
t was linked to septic mid-trimester abortions, which some-
Imes resulted in death for women who became pregnant
while wearing it. Later, the device was found to be five times
nore likely than other types to cause pelvic inflammatory
lisease, which could result in sterility and even death for
vomen who became pregnant while wearing it. Despite the
yublicity about its hazards, doctors believe that thousands of
vomen are still wearing the Dalkon Shield.

However, many family planners believe the endless barrage
f criticism against contraceptive methods is not only an
verreaction but also a disservice to millions of women. They
oint out that the Pill is particularly safe and effective for
eenagers, yet many teens, frightened by the headlines, re-
use to take it. What's more, now that the Pill’s real dangers
rave been pinpointed, new studies are discovering that it
offers some important noncontraceptive benefits: It may pro-
ect a woman against cancer of the ovaries and endometrium
the uterine lining), benign breast disease, ovarian cysts,
‘heumatoid arthritis and pelvic inflammatory disease.
Nomen’s health priorities have changed. A new complication
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more natural methods of contraception.
The Pill tampers with hormonal secre-
tions, and the IUD alters the natural
menstrual flow, characteristics that
prompt some women to veto both. “Men
don’t understand the security that a
normal menstrual period brings to a
woman,” explains Susan Philliber,
Ph.D., a sociologist at the Center for
Population and Family Health in New
York City. “Women are highly sensitive
to this life rhythm that punctuates
every month. If the flow is heavier or
lighter than usual, if we cramp more or
less, we become concerned that some-
thing is wrong.”

This is the reason some women are
choosing a modern version of the rhy-
thm method advocated by the Roman
Catholic church. A woman is fertile only
for several days each month around
the time she ovulates. Abstinence at
that time prevents pregnancy, but a
woman must be absolutely certain that
she has pinpointed the few critical
days. Some feminist health centers are
touting this “fertility awareness” as
better for the body than artificial con-
traception. Yet its drawbacks are se-
rious: A woman must time her sexual

138

activity by the calendar, and even if she
adheres faithfully to the strictures, her
risk of pregnancy is 24 percent.
Contraceptive needs have shifted. De-
signers of modern contraceptives ex-
pected to meet the needs of a female
who remained a virgin until she mar-
ried at twenty-one and wanted a total of
three children spaced every two years
and then some protection during her
years of diminishing sexual activity.

But a woman today needs a con-
traceptive that works for the different
stages in her life. She may have had sex
for the first time at sixteen, married
at twenty-five, postponed childbearing
until she was thirty, and then had one
or two children, perhaps with different
spouses. She typically has had sex over
a longer time period, more often, and
with many more partners than women
did two decades ago.
The abortion issue adds to the problem.
Some critics of abortion, which was le-
galized by the Supreme Court in 1978,
charge that women tend to rely on the
procedure instead of taking the time to
find a more appropriate method of birth
control. Abortion figures show this is
untrue, yet the controversy over the is-
sue adds another complication.

Though one out of five American
women has had an abortion, Planned

Parenthood reports that the typica!
patient is young and unmarried (3¢
percent are teenagers) and hasn’
been taught how to use contraceptives
About 75 percent never have anothe!
abortion. Many eagerly accept the con
traceptive counseling offered by thd,
abortion clinic: It is their first oppor
tunity to learn about birth-control op
tions and how to use them.

The human element keeps tripping us
up. No doubt some birth-control fail
ures can be blamed on the doctor wh«
helps a woman choose a method anc
fails to show her how to use it. “Many
physicians have little experience in the
fitting of diaphragms, and even if they
have such experience, they may con
sider the time required for proper in
struction of the patient excessive an
nonremunerative,” wrote the late Chris
topher Tietze, M.D., who served man:
years as senior consultant to the Popu
lation Council.

However, the medical profession iff
certainly not to be blamed when &
woman leaves her diaphragm in th
drawer or forgets to swallow her Pil
Our psychological mind-set may welf}
be the worst culprit of all. Sociologis}?
Kristin Luker, Ph.D., of the Universit}y
of California at San Diego, points out uf
her book, Taking Chances: (continued}}

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Abortion and the Decision not to Con-
tracept (University of California Press,
1975), that Americans love to push risk
to its limit. All women, she says, take
contraceptive risks at some time, en-
gaging in tacit self-bargaining in
which the immediate inconvenience of
using a contraceptive is weighed
against the remote and uncertain risk
of unwanted pregnancy.

Then, too, the American attitude to-
ward sex may be another reason we fail
to use contraceptives. Americans are
still so caught up in the romance of sex
that their sentiments often conflict
with such mundane details. Western
Europeans, by contrast, seem realistic
about the role sex plays in daily life
and consider birth control a personal
and social responsibility.

Americans, too, are incur-
ably romantic about babies.
“The idea that if you don't
have a baby, you're really not
a woman is still widespread,”
says Susan Philliber. Some
even suggest there may be an
instinctual urge to mother-
hood that makes women un-
consciously sabotage their
own contraceptive efforts. Yet
this belief runs counter to the
history of birth control, stretch-
ing back to ancient days when
Egyptians fashioned crude
pessaries out of crocodile dung
and Jews used sea sponges as
cervical caps. Women have al-
ways wanted to control their
fertility and, paradoxically,
have often failed. At least four
research projects are now un-
der way to find out why.

Too often nature crosses us up. No mat-
ter how carefully we plan, the body
doesn’t always do what it’s supposed to
do, and selecting a contraceptive can be
difficult when you’re unsure of your
physical needs. Some women are high-
ly fertile; others have trouble conceiv-
ing. Though, in general, a woman's fer-
tility is at its height during her teens
and twenties, diminishing during her

_ thirties and forties, this, too, can vary.

One woman, although told by several
doctors that she was sterile, finally de-
cided to adopt a baby. Nine years later,
she says, “I found to my surprise and
delight that I was pregnant. After the
birth, I was fitted for a diaphragm
which I used faithfully—and a few
months later I was pregnant again.”
Her toddlers are barely a year apart,
and today, at thirty-nine, this woman
and her husband are seriously con-
sidering sterilization. “My family’s
complete,” she says. “Why should we

142

continue to hassle with birth control?
Would you trust it if you were me?”

The final step

It is this fear and distrust of birth-con-
trol methods, combined with a desire to
end their childbearing, that is the
basic reason couples opt for steriliza-
tion. Ironically, they are taking this
permanent step when marriage itselfis
less permanent than ever. According to
the Association for Voluntary Steriliza-
tion, in New York City, nearly 7 million
American women and 5.7 million men
have been sterilized since 1971, and
these figures rise by almost one million
annually. Though vasectomies were
once the more popular procedure, tubal
ligation is now the method of choice.
The average age for having one’s tubes
tied? Thirty. Half of the candidates for
this surgery are in their twenties.

FOR MANY WOMEN,

CONTRACEPTION IS A

DECISION RACKED
BY AMBIVALENCE,

ONE THAT THEY MUST
EVALUATE AGAIN
AND AGAIN.

A vasectomy costs about $240, and a
tubal ligation about $1,180, five times
as much. However, insurance often
covers all or part of this amount: The
ligation costs can be further reduced if
the procedure is performed under local
anesthesia on an outpatient basis—a
safe alternative that hasn’t yet become
popular. Almost half of all tubal liga-
tions are performed before a woman
leaves the hospital following child-
birth. As with any surgery, steriliza-
tion has its share of complications:
Bleeding, infection and fever are not
uncommon, and may require a second
hospitalization in a few cases.

But for most women, the benefits of
sterilization outweigh the possible haz-
ards. “Women who choose steriliza-
tion,” points out Susan Philliber,
“know for sure they don’t want any
more babies, no matter what.” Some
report a tinge of regret for a period of
life that is over, but these longings usu-

cision, according to a recent study by
the Centers for Disease Control (CDC).
Other studies estimate that only about
one in one hundred requests a rever-
sal—a complex, expensive and not al-
ways successful operation. Therefore,
the Association for Voluntary Steriliza-
tion advises couples considering the
procedure to seek professional counsel-
ing about their decision.

What’s ahead?

A new variation of tubal ligation, the
removable silicone plug (RSP) method,
now used experimentally by a few U.S.
surgeons, could revolutionize the field.
The RSP requires no surgery and can
be performed on an outpatient basis
under local anesthetic. A liquid sili-
cone material is pumped through a
catheter into the fallopian
tubes, where it solidifies and)
forms a barrier preventing fer-
tilization. Later, a nylon loop
attached to the plug, pulled o
by a surgeon’s forceps, can dis-
lodge and remove the plug.

Does the RSP method work?
The first part of the tech-
nique—blocking the tube wi
the silicone plug—is now be-
ing refined. But the reversibl
part is less certain; so far, i
has been successfully per
formed on rabbits but not o
humans. Doctors also fear tha
the temporary plug may
the fallopian tubes, makin
later conception difficult.

One of the newest birth-con
trol methods is a contraceptiv
sponge that’s sold over th
counter in drugstores. Made o
polyurethane, the sponge nr
sembles a white doughnut with a dim
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and thrown away; but each sponge cos
about $1, twice as much as a condom
Once moistened and inserted to cove
the cervix, the sponge releases its stor
of spermicide.

The sponge is convenient, and on
size fits all. It eliminates the hassle o
messy creams and jelly, and it’s effec-
tive for twenty-four hours, no matter
how often you have sex. However, some
women have difficulty removing the de-
vice, even with a loop attached. An
though it is described as just as effec-
tive as the diaphragm, comparative tri-
als in the U.S. and abroad revealed that
pregnancy rates ranged from 9 to 27
percent, similar to those reported for
other vaginal methods.

Far more disturbing, however, is the
news that four women who (continued)

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used the sponge were stricken with
toxic shock syndrome. All four women
have recovered, and it should be noted
that the number is not great compared
with an estimated quarter million
women who use the product.

Feminist groups are enthusiastic
about the cervical cap, a version of the
diaphragm, from England, which will
probably receive Food and Drug Ad-
ministration (FDA) approval by 1985
A thimble-shaped cup of soft rubber
that fits snugly over the cervix and
stays in place by suction, the cervical
cap requires only a teaspoon of sper-
micide and therefore is less messy than
other barrier methods. Though the cap

144

two women cannot be fitted; some re-
port difficulty inserting and removing
it. Occasionally, the cap is dislodged
during intercourse. The greatest user
complaint is an embarrassing odor ap-
parently triggered by bacterial growth
around the cap. Removing the device
after a day or two usually eliminates
the offensive smell.

There is, however, one unresolved
problem with cap use. After three
months some women have shown sus-
picious changes in their Pap smears;
once they stop using it, the Pap smears
return to normal.

Far closer to the promise of spon-
taneous sex plus no-hassle birth con-
trol is Norplant, a product now in gen-
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‘which women would stand up and
‘cheer remains elusive—a male contra-
ceptive. The basic obstacle to a male
contraceptive lies in the continuity of
the male reproductive machinery. Wom-
en ovulate once a month, but men pro-
duce some 120 to 150 million sperm
every day. Moreover, drugs that success-
fully stop sperm production usually af-
fect a man’s sex drive as well. One possi-
oility under investigation is gossypol, a
»ottonseed derivative that has been used
n China, although it has been associ-
ated with infertility in some men.

While we're waiting for the perfect

sontraceptive, Gabriel Bialy, Ph.D., di-
-ector of contraceptive development at
the National Institute of Child Health
ind Human Development, believes men
ind women should consider taking
urns with birth control. If this idea
s appealing, a woman might encour-
ige her husband with the information
hat throughout the world, forty mil-
ion men use condoms, thirty-three
nillion have had vasectomies, and un-
old millions still rely on withdrawal
coitus interruptus). Even in the U.S.,
he condom rates third in popularity,
vehind sterilization and the Pill, and
irovides a bonus by protecting against
exually transmitted diseases. Used
lone, its failure rate is 10 percent. But
‘fon her fertile days a woman also uses
SH oam, the combination is virtually as
ffective as the Pill.

Unfortunately, the dilemma of labora-
ory-effective contraceptives that women
20 often find ineffective, unsafe or
istasteful has no simple solution. “No
ingle contraceptive is ever going to
rovide the perfect answer,” says Jac-
ueline Darroch Forrest, Ph.D., direc-
or of research at the Alan Guttmacher
astitute. “We do not all have the same
iology, nor the same degree of motiva-
on.” In other words, the effectiveness
* a contraceptive depends upon the
‘oman who uses it. And there is no
uestion that any contraceptive is bet-
*r than no contraceptive at all.

Dr. Forrest and her co-authors of
faking Choices, Howard W. Ory, M.D.,
nd Richard Lincoln, suggest that a
‘oman periodically review her contra-
sptive method to make sure that it

) iatches her age and sexual style. “The

ght birth control at one stage of [a
oman’s] life may well be the wrong
ae at a later stage,” they write.

Has the dream of a perfect contracep-
ve died? Perhaps it was unrealistic in
ie first place. The use of birth control
as always been a human, not a techni-
il, decision, a series of trade-offs—
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place. Many singles wind up far from
family, often in cities or suburbs where
they don’t even know their neighbors.

The loss of the old social networks is
bad enough, but the difficulty involved
in establishing new ones makes mat-
ters worse. Often, the way we live today
limits even the most basic kinds of
human contact. We bank with machines
instead of tellers, shop in large malls
rather than neighborhood stores and
spend most of our evenings watching
television in the security of our own
homes instead of being out with others.

Obviously, in such situations the
chances of meeting someone and estab-
lishing a serious relationship are poor.
However, the odds are worse for women
than for men, and are worst of all for
women twenty-eight and over.

The brutal truth is that today there
are simply more single women than
there are men to pair up with. In cities
like Atlanta, Boston, Dallas, San Fran-
cisco and New York, women outnumber
men—¥in fact, on the East Side of Man-
hattan it is estimated that there are
seven single women for each unat-
tached man! Add the centuries-old tra-
dition of women marrying men two to

three years older than they, as well as
the increase in the number of male ho-
mosexuals in recent years, and the im-
balance becomes even more acute.
“One day, you wake up, look in the
mirror and realize that time is march-
ing on,” says Jennifer, a forty-year-old
New York executive who spent more
time climbing the corporate ladder
than worrying about her social life. “So
you start to go out and mingle, and
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men between the ages of twenty and
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| Carroll interviewed for their book Singles: The New Amer-

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LOOKING FOR LOVE

continued

only sixty-two suitable men available for every one hundred
women between the ages of thirty to thirty-four, and only
forty-three for every one hundred women between the ages
of forty and forty-four. By the time a woman reaches her F°
early sixties, a meager twenty-seven suitable men for every

one hundred women remain. (Considerations such as age

and level of education were used to determine suitability.) P*

What women do wrong

More than a shortage of available men or the loss of com-
munity is working against the millions of single American F*
women. For some, especially if they’ve been married before, F
past relationships can stand in the way of establishing new
ones. “Divorced women are often angry at their ex-hus-
bands and afraid of being hurt again,” says Simone Lillian,
a New York psychotherapist whose research focuses on
what people seek in a second marriage. “As a consequence,
they tend to be suspicious and critical of men they meet, P
which limits the possibility of becoming involved.

“Widows, on the other hand, idealize their past mates to
monumental degrees. They want a spouse who is as much as
possible like the man they remember. However, since they ©
don’t expect ever to find someone who’ as good, they are
reluctant to try at all.”

Forming a new attachment is even more difficult for those
women whose kids are still at home—not only do they have
to deal with their own conflicting emotions, but they must
deal with their children’s as well. And in spite of their
difficulties in getting back into the singles scene, the fact is #
that previously married women stand the best chance of #¥”
developing a serious relationship, according to Dr. Martin V.
Gallatin, a Manhattan sociologist. “Women who’ve had long- F
term relationships are used to having a man around,” he says,
“so they know how to deal with men and what to expect.”

The situation is different for women who have never been FP
married. These women often defeat themselves before they
even try to find a mate. Though most say they want to be
married, they’re leading lives and setting priorities that
leave little room for establishing serious attachments. a

Many of today’s single women, especially those who came
of age in the early seventies, want everything—marriage, ~
career, self-fulfillment. Wanting it all, however, does not Pu
mean getting it all, especially when their priorities pull
them in different directions.

It used to be that when faced with a decision between
marrying a man or furthering a career, the marriage won.
But that’s no longer always true. Though the majority of the
three thousand singles that Jacqueline Simenauer and David F

icans (Simon & Schuster, 1982) claimed they wanted to marry,
an astounding 72 percent of the men and 75 percent of the Pi
women named their careers as their main source of happi- F*
ness. “Time and energy are required to establish vocational PX

| success,” says Roberta Bumberg, a New York psychothera- f#

pist, “which means that the same effort can’t be devoted to F*
finding a partner or to developing a relationship.”

The dark side of success
Making it to the top doesn’t help all that much if you're a F

hurt. The unfortunate truth is that most men were not
raised to marry a doctor or a lawyer. In fact, a study in
progress at Ohio State University indicates that among
highly educated women there is an exceptionally low mar- F*
riage rate. Researchers surveyed women who'd had their ©

of these achievers were still single, compared with 5 percent |

'f the general population of women in
he same age group. This is partly be-
ause getting an education takes time,
nd as a woman ages, the odds of her
aarrying decrease. But there's more to
t than that. “Women have stepped
way from their traditional roles very
uickly,” says Dr. Leslie Faerstein, clin-
¢ director of the Family Service In-
titute of New York. “But men’ percep-
ions have not changed as fast. Men
aay be able to accept the new sexual
quality on the job, but it’s been more
ifficult to do so on a personal level.”
The financial independence that
omes with success has also meant that
aany women today no longer need to
aarry—a husband has become an op-
ion rather than a financial necessity.
\s a result, they can be choosier about
aen. “I had friends who were afraid of
ing old maids, and so they compro-
nised,” Jennifer says. “Not me. Id
ather take a good book to bed any day.”
Today more and more women like Jen-
lifer are in fact taking their books in-
tead of their boyfriends to bed with
hem. In the past couple of years, single
yomen have adopted a more conservative
ttitude toward sex. “I don’t rush into sex
mymore,” says Anne Kalik, a thirty-
wo-year-old Californian. “One-night
tands don’t work for me—they don’t give
he relationship a chance to blossom.
Most of my unattached friends agree.
They've all been through the swinging
ingles scene and they've come to realize
hat it’s not worth the emotional expense.”

Beating the odds

3efore America’s single women resign
hemselves to a life of sleeping alone
und dining on single-serving cans of
una, they should take heart. There are
xeople out there looking for relation-
ihips and marriage, and the trend
: ! seems to be growing.
.| Some single women have changed
, heir lifestyles dramatically to better
; bake advantage of the recent swing
_boack to marriage. “I didn’t want to end
_}ap as a successful career woman who
,)inds herself alone once she’s reached
._Vthe top,” says former New York City
fl resident Ann Slegman. So, after five
_)vears of living in New York, Ann quit
) er prestigious job and moved back
piome to Kansas City. “It’s easier to
meet men here,” she says. “There's a
ywhole network of people—relatives,
_)'Tiends, acquaintances, parents’ friends
“| —who know that you’re single and who
- pwill fix you up with people, not just
“ bance but many times.”

Of course, most women aren’t willing
70 take such a drastic step. But they can
still improve their chances of finding
ove with these expert recommendations.

Career women can establish a net-
work of colleagues who will introduce

147

them to male acquaintances, says Dr.
Robert N. Sollod, director of the Clini-
cal Program of Graduate Psychology at
Cleveland State University.

Press friends and relatives for intro-
ductions, says Dr. Faerstein. And wom-
en shouldn’t limit themselves to meet-
ing men—each new girlfriend can lead
to a whole new circle of friends.

To meet people with similar interests,
single women can join a special inter-
est group, recommends Dr. Elayne J.
Khan, director of the New York Center
for Sexual and Marital Guidance. Or
they can attend conferences where
they'll meet people involved in fields
that are related to theirs.

Women must take the initiative, says

Dr. Gallatin. “And they shouldn’t be too

terest,” recommends Dr i
messages often go unanswered
because they’re never received.”

Talking to strangers, while
ing in line or on the bus, is a }
to vastly increase the number of
you meet, says Dr. Khan.

Biases that may be keeping women
from establishing relationships with
appropriate partners should also be
challenged:

e Women—especially those who have
advanced in their profession—severely
limit themselves if they insist on look-
ing for men more successful than they
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a fifty-vearold Russian sociologist
with a wonderful sense of humor, a

sweet but not- -my-type forty-five-year}-

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COMPUTER DATING, DIVORCED, AGE 47

With increasing concern, I checked off my multiple-choice
answers to the Team Project computer dating question-
naire. This was certainly not the highly sophisticated, in-
depth form that I had anticipated.

Despite my growing hesitation, I returned the question-

4} naire along with my check for $25, and within three weeks
received three names, addresses and phone numbers . .
which I put on my desk and then ignored. In fact, Bob, one of

} the three, called me. After a brief conversation, we decided
to meet. How would I recognize him? He described himself
and said he’d be carrying a red economics text.

As the time for our meeting approached, I gathered the

} fragments of facts I had and grew eloquent in my mental
picture of him: He would be about forty-five, very mas-
culine, quite good-looking, rather tall (five feet eleven
inches somehow became six feet two), tastefully dressed,
well informed and extremely articulate. And as his qual-
ities grew in my mind, my own seemed to diminish.

At the art museum, I scanned the crowd: The man I had
imagined was not there. There was a short man, but he
looked much older than I had indicated as desirable (fifty-
three was my limit) and his dress and physique were—how
shall I say it?—like no one I knew. When I finally eased out

} from my hidden vantage point for a better look, I spied the
red book the man was carrying. I thought, I’ll be polite,
spend an hour with him—then it’ll be over.

} However, I found Bob to be a gentle, kind man, and I

| gradually began to relax and enjoy his company. After leav-
ing the museum we took a walk, and over drinks and then
dinner we discussed everything from God to the Holocaust.
| Yet when he asked when we would see each other again, my

, )pTesponse was, “Let’s think about it,” although I knew this

might mean we wouldn’t see each other again. I just could

4 not come to terms so quickly with my feelings toward this

man, nor with the manner in which we’d met.
PS. He never called, and I didn’t call him. But, even so, I

don’t regret our evening together.
,, Rating: 3
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_,'The men seated at the bar looked up as my girlfriend and I
|walked in the door. They scanned the two of us from top to
} bottom and then back up again. By the time we reached our
r »seats, I felt as if I had been strip-searched. We ordered two
glasses of wine anyway and attempted to act natural.
| When two men in their thirties entered the bar twenty
‘minutes later, we both glanced up briefly and then quickly
resumed our conversation. No, we did not like what we saw.
‘Standing a few feet away, the newcomers, however, pointed,
appraised us and conferred. Finally, our lack of encourage-
ment became obvious and they turned their attention to
., More receptive game.
The second bar we tried was better, but not by much. The
..; men seemed younger, trendier, more professional and more
attractive. We got the once-over again, but at least it was
:| less obvious—this time I came away feeling clothed but
* ; woefully inadequate. Somehow I did not measure up to all

: } those svelte blonds with button noses and strands of pearls |
»who were getting the attention. We stayed just long enough |

} to realize that we were being ignored, picked our egos off
the floor and left.
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4 friendly enough and maybe we'd been too sensitive, but
somehow, my friend and I decided, the singles-bar scene was
.adefinitely not for us.
, Rating: 1. End

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complaint, but to get enough bone mar-
row, they had to pierce her breastbone.
She said it hurt terribly, but everybody
had told her, “Old people’s bones are so
brittle. It can’t hurt much. Be a good girl,
Annie.” From that evening until she died
two days later, she cowered in her bed and
started to cry whenever anyone in a
white coat came into the room. She also
stopped speaking English, reverting ex-
clusively to her native German.

Her new attitude brought yet an-
other specialist into the picture: a neu-
rologist whose questions seemed ex-
ceedingly silly to her. He wanted to
know what day it was and who was
President of the United States. “I could
tell him who the city councilman from
my district is,” she said to me in Ger-
man, “but why should I?” The neurolo-
gist motioned me out of the room and
started to ask me about her medical
history. “Has there been any insanity
in your family?” he wanted to know. I
inquired why he was asking. “Well,
your mother is clearly having a psy-
chotic episode,” he said. “She's talking
gibberish.” I pointed out that far from
talking gibberish, she was speaking
clear, grammatical German. He looked
a little disconcerted, made a note on
her chart, did not apologize, and left,
never to be heard from again.

I had been spending nights at the
hospital, but that night my mother was
so exhausted, I was sure she would
sleep. I was tired myself, so I decided to
go to my apartment and return early in
the morning. After all, what else could
happen to humiliate and hurt her?

Something could. Early the next
morning, before I arrived, she was
wheeled from her room to a small au-
ditorium, where a large number of white-
coated individuals poked her, looked
into her eyes with flashlights and then
discussed her condition at great length.
Obviously, she had been the subject of
teaching rounds, in which one intern or
resident presents a difficult case to his
colleagues and professors. I had been
the subject of teaching rounds myself
when I was in the hospital two years
earlier, but I had been asked whether I
would agree to this procedure, and I
had been dressed in a nightgown and a
robe, neat and dignified. My mother was
there in one of those hospital gowns,
open at the back. Nobody had washed
her face or combed her hair. She was
terribly embarrassed and exhausted.

For the rest of the day she was in pain.
Her feet hurt. Her back hurt. She was
dizzy. She could no longer get to the

| toilet alone, and finding someone to help

her was no easy task. I spent a lot of time
trying to get some pain medication for

150

her, finding an extra pillow to put behind
her back, asking someone to bring a bed- }
pan. She had developed diarrhea, and jf
once when she soiled her bed it took i
thirty minutes to get a nurse’ aide to
come with clean sheets. Certainly the
floor was busy and probably under-#
staffed, but after all those days at the}
hospital, it had become obvious to me}
that the five old people on that floor had §j
their bells answered last. “Those people
are always complaining” or “They just
want attention” were sentiments heard
a lot around that nurses’ station.

As a medical writer, I was appalled at ¥
the way this hospital’s trained profes-§
sionals were treating their elderly pa-
tients. They, of all people, should be
well aware that “old age” and “senility”
are not interchangeable terms. In fact,
only 5 percent of older people ever suf-
fer from severe intellectual impair-
ment. Fifteen percent may suffer some
mild disability, such as minor memory
loss. But 80 percent of those who live to
very old age, into their eighties or even
nineties, never experience any symp-
toms of senility at all.

We tend to forget that Picasso was
painting the last day of his life. He died F
at ninety-one. Alfred Hitchcock was}
planning a new film. He died at eighty.

Martha Graham, America’s greatest fil

dancer and choreographer, produced #&
brilliant new dances this year—the
year of her ninetieth birthday. What is
true for them is true for hundreds of
thousands of older Americans who
could live full, productive lives, who
could teach us and our children about
the past and thus prepare us for the
future, if we would just let them. To
discriminate against the very minority
we are all destined to join is the most
irrational prejudice of all.

Late that evening my mother started
to have difficulty breathing. The fioor
resident ordered one more X-ray. The
gurney came through the door. “Nein,”
my mother said. “No, no... ” “Now
don’t you be difficult, Dolly,” said the
orderly, as he transferred her from bed
to gurney. He was younger than her
youngest grandson. That’s when she
announced firmly and with dignity: P
“My name is Mrs. Simon.” They got her f
as far as the elevator. I was holding her
hand when she stopped breathing. The
resident sounded the alarm. I was told &
to go to the waiting area as an emer-#
gency cart came rushing down the hall
and fifteen people collected around her.
Her heart had stopped. They tried to
resuscitate her, but nothing worked.
She was dead.

“We tried everything,” said the resi-
dent who came to tell me it was all over.
“Except to treat her with dignity and
respect,” I wanted to say, but I didn’t.
I wrote this article instead. End

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A Prestigious Award

n June 14, Ladies’ Home Journal was the proud recipient of the 1984

Magazine of the Year Award, presented by the American Society of

Journalists and Authors. It is a very great honor indeed to be the
magazine of the year! And, though I don’t want to boast, I feel I should tell yo
the reasons we won this award, which were stated on the handsome plaque I
received: “For Innovation and Excellence, to Ladies’ Home Journal, which ha
communicated to its readers a new dimension in editorial content.”

The award was presented at a gala dinner in New York’s Warwick Hotel.
Many Journal staffers as well as ASJA members and their guests were there to
celebrate the occasion. ASJA is a group of professional writers whose work i
featured in almost all of our leading magazines. Some of the
material in our magazine is staff-written, while many of o
features are contributed by excellent free-lance journalists.
One of the most rewarding experiences an editor can have i
working creatively with an accomplished writer to produce
a memorable article. At the Journal we were really de
lighted to receive an award from a group that is so knowl
edgeable about what makes an outstanding magazine. I
the picture at the left, I look as though I am applauding.
Actually, that is a trick of the camera, but it’s just exactl
what I felt like doing—applauding the Journal's superb
staff, who every month produce a magazine that such an
eminent group as ASJA has chosen to honor.

Earlier in the month I attended another distinguished
gathering. I was invited to a White House briefing at whic
Vice-President Bush, Secretary of the Treasury Regan and
Dorcas Hardy, assistant secretary at the Department of
Health and Human Services, spoke about issues that relate to women and ta
the nation as a whole. During the briefing, there was one unexpected visitor
President Reagan. He told us he just couldn’t resist stopping in, and he brought

graduate number one in her class (and the first woman to graduate number one
from any service academy), together with her very proud parents and brother.
Afterward, I had lunch at the Department of Commerce, where our briefing
continued. It was an exciting day, and it made me realize
once again how important the woman’ vote is in this elec-
tion, how far women have come in recent decades and how

After the briefing, I stopped by the office of Lois Haight
abuse in the April issue, we asked you to write to the attorney
they’ve received nearly twenty thousand letters from Journal

force in getting a tougher bill against child pornography
passed. I have received letters from several congressmen ac-
knowledging the Journal's help. Lois and I promised each

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EDITOR'S
JOURNAL

CAN THIS
MARRIAGE
BE SAVED?
“My husband is
never there for me”
By Jane Marks

A WOMAN TODAY
“My special son,

my special joy”

By Joyce James

CAROL BURNETT
By Susan Dworkin

America’s funny lady is
bound for Broadway—and
the start of a new life.

MYTHS ABOUT
INFIDELITY

By Norman Lobsenz

What marriage counselors
now know about

coping with an affair.

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THE KENNEDYS

How Jackie became
her own strong woman
By Harrison Rainie

Why the pain hasn’t
ended for Ethel’s family
By Peter Collier

and David Horowitz

By Mary Mohler

87 THE NEW ONE-

PAYCHECK FAMILY

By Barbara Wagner
and Roberta Grant

An up-to-the-minute
report on today’s new
full-time mothers.

MEDINEWS
By Beth Weinhouse

CHRISTIE
BRINKLEY

By Cliff Jahr

In spite of her spectacular
success, this supermodel
is still not satisfied.

MONEY NEWS
By Katherine Barrett
and Richard Greene

Shrewd and sensible
financial tips.

HOW TO STAND UP
TO PUT-DOWNS

By Madeline Pober

Tips on shielding yourself
against verbal jabs.

NEWS FOR
PARENTS

GOING BEYOND!
By Betty Friedan

The author's spirited,
unforgettable diary of her
courageous Outward
Bound expedition. >

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“My husband is
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of Bronxville, Eastchester and Tucka-
hoe, as well as churches and friends.
The true story here is based on inter-
views. Names and other details have
been altered to conceal identities. The
counselor in this month’s case was the
Rev. James Walkup, D. Min.

Jenny's turn

“Tm tired of pretending I’m happy with
Tim,” said Jenny, a tall, young-looking
woman of thirty-seven wearing neat
beige linen pants and a white blouse.
“You're going to think I’m ungrateful
or crazy, that I have
no right to be mis-
erable, but I’m sick
of pretending we’re
the ideal couple.

“T thought I was
= the luckiest woman
on earth when Tim
= asked me to marry
¢ him. We’d met one
year earlier, when he was in medical
school and I was finishing my master’s
in art history and working part-time at
the medical library. Tim was tall, with
Robert Redford looks and a slight
Southern accent. I acored him and I

ey sayye

. knew he’d make a compassionate doctor.

“T guess I was destined to marry a

physician. My dad was a cancer re-
searcher who often had to trave! and
lecture about his work. Having him

gone so much was very hard on my
mom, and I would get very upset when-
ever she cried and begged him not to
go. I know it must have been lone

her, but why did she have to be sc
tense? I hated her weakness. Anyway,
carrying on didn’t help. In fact, it
seemed to drive Dad deeper into him-
elf when he was around. Dad was such

’ for

a great man. I don’t know why she
couldn’t be more supportive. I vowed
that when I got married, I would never
behave that way with my husband.
“The first year we were married, I
never felt a twinge of anger or resent-
ment. Tim was working incredibly long
hours in the hospital; sometimes he
didn’t even get home between shifts,
but I was very sympathetic. I pampered
him. I didn’t even mind if he fell asleep
at the dinner table. I knew he would
soon be starting a private practice and
our life together would really begin.
“Boy, was I wrong! Tim was invited to
join an older doctor in a thriving pedi-
atric practice that specialized in treat-
ing babies with correctable defects. The
practice was in a small town a few
hours away and though there was no
work for an art historian in the area
Tim was so excited about the new prac-
tice that we moved as soon as possible.
He dove right in, working Sundays and
evenings. Sometimes he didn’t get home
until midnight, but he was always out the
door by seven in the morning. Even during
our time, at supper or in bed, the phone
would ring constantly and Tim would
spend hour after hour reassuring and con-
soling the worried parents of sick babies.
“T felt edgy and neglected, but forced
myself to bury such selfish feelings. No
way was I going to act like my mother.
“Anyway, within a few months, I
found I was pregnant—with twins. I
joked that it was a ploy to get Tim’s
undivided attention, but frankly it
didn’t seem too funny when I realized I
was actually getting more of that from
my obstetrician. In fact, while I was in
labor, even though Tim was there to
coach my breathing between contrac-
tions, he was chatting away with my
doctor about his many interesting
cases. I wanted to kill him.
“When we took the babies home, life
was busy and happy. Little Andrew
Scott and Timmy, Jr, were adorable,

and Tim made me feel wonderful about
my new role, calling me a born mother.
During this period, Tim worked part of
every day as well as four evenings a J
week, but whenever he was able to pop
home for an hour or so, he would bathe
and feed the children, or do whatever
needed to be done. Some days he really
saved my sanity. Tim was always ten-
der and patient with his infant sons.

“The problem was that the second the
babies were tucked in their cribs, Tim
would either get back on the phone
with a patient or drive to the hospital.
It’s funny—life with twin babies was
exhausting, but it wasn’t until they
were a little older and more indeper-
dent that I realized how much vicarious
attention I had gotten from watching
Tim lavish tenderness on the children.

“Still, I couldn’t allow myself to
blame Tim for what was missing in my
life, or to admit that I was anything
less than the super-understanding doc-
tor’s wife that a man like Tim expected
and deserved. So I became involved in
community projects and all the chil-
dren’s activities. I had lots of friends;
but deep down I still felt sad and, yes,
deprived, because my husband never
seemed to need or want to spend an
evening just with me.

“Half the time he’d fall asleep with
his clothes on, sitting in his chair with
a medical journal. Once in a while, if I
flew into a rage and yelled, ‘Put that
thing down,’ Tim would look so strick-
en that Id immediately apologize,
agreeing that my anxiety was probably
due to premenstrual tension.

“But I kept wondering, Where do I
come in? His partner, Greg, feels free
to call Tim in at any hour, even if it’s
not an emergency, and Tim drops ev-
erything. Once Greg called him out just
to talk about redecorating the office,
and Tim still went. ‘I can’t be rude,
Jenny, he said. But he never had
trouble turning me down. (continued)

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best-sellers on marriage to try to figure
out why Tim was avoiding me. Maybe I
wasn’t pleasing him, maybe I was try-
ing too hard... . So I'd get my hair
frosted or fix filet mignon for dinner
with a white chocolate mousse for des-
sert. I'd be super cheerful—but nothing
changed. It only added to my depres-
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your husband. What a saint! He saved
our daughter's life.’ Even harder to live
with were my friends’ complaints about
their husbands’ drinking or chasing
other women. They had such appalling
troubles, so how could I feel bad?

“It's not as if Tim doesn’t care: He
notices when I’m upset or depressed,
and he’s always offering to let me hire a
cleaning woman, as if I’m overworked
or something, which I’m not. When I
try to tell him about my empty feel-
ings, he questions me as if it’s an inter-
view, and usually ends up asking if ’m
expecting my period. Tim just doesn’t
understand what I’m talking about
when I say I want to share our thoughts
and feelings. I might as well be speak-
ing Russian. I don’t think he even
knows what anger is. He’s never once
gotten mad at me. I guess it must be his
Southern upbringing.

“This year, the twins entered high
school, and I thought I would try teach-
ing art history. I found a job at a small
college forty miles away. I love my
work, but as I drive back and forth
every day, I know it isn’t filling up the
void. I don’t know why I’m so unhappy
in a marriage most women would envy.
I love Tim—but if he can’t ever be there
for me, too, then what’s the point?”

Tim's tarn

“T never knew Jenny felt so aban-
doned,” said Tim, forty-one, a very
handsome man with clear blue eyes and
gently curling, prematurely gray hair.
“She always used to
thank me for help-
ing with the boys,
even though she’s
the one who does
everything. She's a
wonderful mother
and homemaker.
I’ve been happy—
and I assumed she
was, too. Now I feel like an insensitive
idiot for having to be brought in here
and told that my marriage is a sham.
“Jenny's often said my work inter-
feres with our home life, but she should
know from her father that medicine is
not a nine-to-five profession. She's al-

ways known how deeply I want to make
a real contribution, not just mark time.

“Since she started teaching, Jenny’s
been the one who brings all the paper-
work into the bedroom. There have
been times when she’s preparing a lec-
ture late into the night, and I’ve
thought, Gee, wouldn’t it be nice if we
could both just relax? But I never said
anything. I never would.

“Tve tried to think where I went
wrong, where I’ve made Jenny suffer. I
know there were times when she
screamed at me about my long hours,
but then she immediately reassured me
that her crabbiness was due to her hor-
mones, not my schedule.

“You know what does drive me crazy,
though? Years after the fact, Jenny will
hit me with all the terrible things I did
or didn’t do. She actually told me just a
few months ago that I hadn’t been at-
tentive enough when she was in labor.
Lord, I was there for hours, holding her
hand, sponging her forehead. But ap-
parently, I had the audacity to mention
something other than her contractions.

“Tve often noticed a certain look on
Jenny’s face—tension, I suppose. I’ve
told her to hire household help if she’s
overloaded, but even that suggestion
bugs her. Sometimes all I have to do is
glance at a medical journal and she'll
scream, ‘Put that thing down.’ That's
just the way her mother is: very in-
tense. I’m afraid to open my mouth.

“Jenny thinks yelling clears the air.
In her family, people blew up. In mine,
with my father, if you blew up, it was
the end of the world. I don’t want to
argue with Jenny until I can fully un-
derstand her needs and her point of
view. So I ask her questions, and then
she gets even more agitated.

“We've never had a real fight—prob-
ably rare nowadays, considering the
high divorce rate. I’m proud of the fact
that we don’t have a lot of upheaval. I
guess I don’t understand anything.

“It’s very important to me to be the
best doctor I can. Does that make me a
terrible husband? Look, it’s no fun to
get in the car on a cold, rainy night
when I'd much prefer to stay home and
watch a ball game with Andy and
Timmy. But if the phone rings and it’s
an emergency, sometimes I have to stay
out all night. I admit I do get very in-
volved in my work, but it’s important
work. J save lives!

“T’ve wanted to be a doctor ever since
my mom died. I was only nine, and I
felt wounded by losing her. Dad said
they just didn’t know how to save her,
so I decided I would grow up and dis-
cover how to make people well. What a
presumptuous little kid!

“Maybe I’m still a little kid. I grew

up in a home where you were never
impolite to an older person. Jenny
thinks I should stand up and tell Greg,
who is my mentor as well as my part-
ner, to quit being so demanding. I know
he’s a little demanding—and I’m not
saying [m unwilling to set limits to
please Jenny—but no matter which
way I lean, I feel pulled apart.

“T always assumed Jenny and I were
a team. Now I find she can’t stand to
live with me! I’ve tried to be strong, but
now I feel so unsure and helpless. I just
don’t want to lose her.”

The counselor's turn

“When Jenny and Tim came in,” said
the counselor, “Jenny had every inten-
tion of ending the marriage, which she
described as lonely and artificial. Jen-
ny’s dilemma, by the way, is very com- J
mon among the wives of doctors, minis-
ters and others in the helping profes-
sions. Having a husband who is sympa-
thetic and available to everyone, but
exhausted and burned out at home,
can diminish a wife’s self-esteem and >
cause much anger. However, Jenny and
Tim had other problems that needed to
be resolved as well.

“Our first task was to get this couple
to acknowledge that a conflict existed
and had in fact been there for most of
their fifteen-year marriage. Jenny was
grateful to be told that the distance be-
tween them was real and not some-
thing she had imagined. She had so
hated her mother’s clinging behavior
toward her father that she had tried to
block out any negative feelings she had
about her own marriage. Yet masking
her true feelings behind super-cheer-
fulness only made Jenny more appalled
by her infrequent but intense out-
bursts at Tim. Since she couldn’t justify
her feelings, she thought she must be
crazy—especially since everyone else
thought Tim was perfect.

“Jenny suffered from what we call an
‘empty bucket fantasy—an expecta-
tion that her husband would automat-
ically see that her bucket was empty
and fill it. After years of patiently hop-
ing, she only recently tried to fill the
bucket herself by getting a teaching
job. That helped, but it wasn’t enough.

“Complicating the problem was the
fact that when Jenny’s frustration did)
erupt, Tim was unable to respond. An-
ger was a foreign language to him.
Thus, Tim believed that any anger in
Jenny was either a complete con-
demnation of him, or a hormonal im-
balance in her. ‘

“T suggested that they both work on
‘saying what you're feeling when you're
feeling it,’ and allowing the other per-
son to react. When she (continued)

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continued

tried this, Jenny realized, for the first
time, that she didn’t have to be like her
mother and bounce back and forth be-
tween rage and meek compliance: She
had every right to talk to Tim, to nego-
tiate their schedules and say when she
felt they needed to get away and talk.
Once she began to speak up, Tim, in
turn, took steps to alter his schedule.

“Tim also learned that he had the
right to ask for what he needed—such
as more guilt-free time to read a medi-
cal journal—and he could even let a
sharp or irritable remark slip out with-
out demolishing Jenny. Though he had
picked up on Jennys unhappiness
years ago, Tim realized that rather
than help her solve her problems, he
had retreated into the safety of his
work. Only then could he feel like a
grown-up instead of like a scared little
boy who might lose the woman he
loved. Tim acknowledged that his ego
had been excessively tied up in his
practice, not only because it was impor-
tant and he was good at it, but also
because he unconsciously saw his ac-
complishments as a way of fighting
back against the helplessness he had
experienced when he lost his mother.

“Now, for the first time, Tim saw that
his relationship with Jenny needed
cultivating, too. Tim surveyed the real
demands of his work to see if he could
put some of his less essential duties
aside. He bought a phone-answering
machine for use during dinner, and he
agreed to reserve family time, either on
Saturdays or by trading off with his
partner and taking another day or two
evenings during the week. Tim admit-
ted he had been nervous about telling
Greg he needed time off, but he stood
firm and Greg accepted it. While Tim’s
perfect Southern manners are too much
a part of him to abandon, he is finding
that he can say no to his older partner.

“At the same time, Jenny had to face
the fact that she had married a man
who was committed to a very time-con-
suming profession. Only now did she
see that her father’s distance came not
just as a result of his wife’s hounding
but also because he had been deeply
absorbed in his work.

“By learning to acknowledge and
share their feelings, Tim and Jenny
have managed to shake off the rigid
and isolating codes of good behavior
that each had tried to live by. There is
more spontaneity and fun in their
lives. To celebrate, Tim bought tickets
for a trip to Paris—the couple’ first.
‘Jenny can visit all the museums she
wants during the day,’ he said teasing-
ly. ‘As long as she’s free to spend time
with me from dinnertime on.’ ” End

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“My special son,
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“Your baby is mongoloid.” The doctor’s words stunned me. I
couldn’t know then the wonder Michael would bring into our lives.

uly 5, 1970: This evening I gave

birth to Michael, my fifth child.

Immediately, I sensed something
was wrong. A nurse whisked Michael
away before I could see him. Then the
doctor calmly asked my permission to
call in a specialist. Now I’ve learned
that Michael is critically ill, with one
lung that doesn’t expand, blood that
won't clot, and jaundice. I am lying
here, alone in the dark, praying that he
will live, that he will be all right.
July 6: This morning a specialist strode
into my room and coldly told me,
“Your son is mongoloid.” I hardly know
what that means. §
It’s been twenty-four
hours now and still
no one will let me
see Michael. What’s
wrong with him? Is
he ugly or deformed?

At last, this eve-

ning, I got my first
look at my precious @P® >
little son. When I L Be
saw him, lying in an oxygen tent with
several tubes connected to him, I
thought, They have to be wrong—he
looks like any other baby to me.
July 15: It really hurt to leave the hos-
pital with empty arms last week. Mi-
chael is so weak, the doctors told me he
had only a 50 percent chance of liv-
ing. Every time the phone rings, I
think, This is it, he’s gone.
July 25: Today | visited Michael at the
hospital and they to | could bring

him home! I called my | od imme-
diately, and asked him ¢ x the ba-
by’s clothes. At the hospitz waited
while a nurse brought Mich 1. and
dressed him. She didn’t say a werd. I

wanted to scream at her, “Look a= him.
He may have slanted eyes but he « a
beautiful little boy. He is ours ana
love him. Why are you acting tb
way?” I realize now that she felt sorry
for us and didn’t know what to say.

I am very nervous about caring for
Michael. I put the bassinet right next
to my bed so I can reach out and touch
him now and then during the night to
make sure he’s breathing.

August 15: Today I went to the library
in search of answers, since the doctors
couldn’t seem to help me. I learned that
Down’s syndrome—the correct medical
term for what the first doctor had
called mongoloid—means there is an
extra chromosome in every cell in
Michael’s body, but the books I read
were so negative. They used phrases
like “idiot” and “can never be expected

Michael celebrates his first birthday
with brothers and sisters; rides his first
horse at age five; gives Mom a hug.

to grow beyond the mental age of four
or five.” Well, this is enough to scare
the wits out of anyone. I just know my
Michael has more potential than those
dated books say he does.
October 1970: The first few months at
home with Michael have been no differ-
ent from those with any of my other
children. I bathe him, feed him, rock
him and sing to him. My eyes tell me
he is different, but my mind is not
ready to accept that fact.
December 1970: Michael’s first Christ-
mas, and I was afraid he wouldn’t
notice anything. But just move him
close to the tree and he breaks into a
big grin, watching the tinseled wrap-
ping come off those packages.

I finally sat the other children down

and told them about their baby brother.
They all accepted his special condition
and loved him even more. Larry, my
husband, had quietly accepted Michael
from the beginning. I guess I’m the
only one who still refuses to know in
my heart that Michael is different,
even though I can say the words.
January 1971: Today I took Michael to
the doctor’s office. He is six months
old. A woman came in with a little girl
who pulled up on her mother’s lap and
stood on her legs. I thought she must
be about ten months old, but when I
asked the mother her daughter's age,
she answered, “Five
months.” I felt like
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my Michael can’t
even hold his head
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ea Up like that. I felt
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f \fact that my pre-
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he lay sleeping, I stood by his bed and
cried for the little boy who would never
be like other little boys. For the first
time I began to think of his future.
July 1971: After all the problems he
had at birth, Michael’s first year has
been very good. The doctor says there is
no sign of a heart murmur, which is
common in children with Down’s syn-
drome. I took a course this year at the
University of Miami on Michael’s prob-
lem, and I’ve joined a group of mothers
whose children all have the same hand-
icap. We enjoy our coffee sessions to-
gether. Our children play in the middle
of the floor, and sometimes we get down
and play with them.
August 1971: I was nervous about tak-
ing one-year-old Michael to visit my
parents for the first time. They had
never seen a Down’s syndrome child.
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the kids climbed out of the car with
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chael or feel sorry for him. I've got to mus-
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need their pity, only their acceptance.

Jane 1973: Today I accidentally locked the
front door behind me with Michael inside.
At first I was scared but soon calmed down
and rang the doorbell. By this time two of
my neighbors had arrived. They told me I

~ would never get Michael to understand

that I wanted him to open the door. I told
him, “Michael, pull up to the door and
turn the knob.” After I told him two times,
he pulled up to the door and opened it. You
can just imagine the look of surprise on
our neighbors’ faces, and the love and
pride on mine.

August 1974: This summer I have been
working with Michael, trying to get him
to walk. Now, success! By the time we
got back from our vacation, Michael was
finally walking, after four long years.

Nancy freshens fancy.

The other Down’s syndrome mothers
are putting their four-year-olds in
school, but I am not ready to let Mi-
chael go. Maybe next year. Michael
knows all the characters on Sesame
Street, as wellas his ABC’s and hiscolors.
And he can count on his fingers to ten.

Up to now he has been a little angel,
but since he started walking a few
things have changed. One day he came
to me and said, “Mama, I write.” I said
“That’s nice,” until I saw where he had
written—all over my white walls. You
have those days! What do you do? You
scold and then go right on loving them.

Michael caught a firefly and put it in

a jar. He called it the bug with a light.
There are so many pleasures he can
enjoy. Sometimes I think he is the
lucky one. I hope to teach all my chil-
dren that not only big things count.
Small ones do as well.
May 1976: Spring is here and the earth
seems to be reborn. Michael and I feed
the birds and watch them eat from the
window of our new home in West Vir-
ginia. He’s five years old and talks a lot
now, but sometimes it’ hard to under-
stand what he’s saying. I always helped
him say grace at table until one day he
said, “No, Mama” and did it himself.
The words aren’t so clear, but I am sure
God in His wisdom understands.

June 1976: Michael is almost six and }
know I have to let him go and put him
in school. Oh, how that hurts! For the
first time since I had my first baby
will be completely alone during th
day. Can I handle that? I don’t really
know. My every waking moment has
been wrapped up in my children.
Michael is going to his special, state
supported school today. Here comes
that big yellow bus. My heart is in m
throat. He looks so little getting on.
can’t hold the tears back. I will surel

.Iniss my little guy tagging after me as

do my housework. But there are sd
many changes for me to think and
worry about. I sense Larry pulling
away from us, losing interest. I don’
know what to do except feel the pain.
Fall 1977: Michael is seven and doing
well in school. His teacher says he: is
ahead of the other handicapped chil
dren his age. I have a job working in 4
hospital as a nursing assistant. Some
days I am so tired, but Daddy is gone
now, and I have to work to support m
children. All the children help me wit
the housework. Michael wants to do his
share of the work, and we encourage
him to do so. It’s hard to explain a di
vorce to a normal child. It’s impossible
to explain it to a retarded child. Once
in a while, Daddy calls and says he ig
coming over. Michael is happy running
and looking out the window and wait
ing. The few hours he does spend with,
Daddy are happy ones. As for me, nq
matter how tired or depressed I feel}
when Michael puts his little armg
around my neck and says, “I love you
Mama,” I feel like a millionaire. '
February 1978: I have met a wonderfu:
man. He is coming tonight to meet the
children. I have no doubt the older chil#
dren will be fine, but what about
Michael? I could never marry anyoné
who didn’t accept Michael for what he
is. The big moment is here, and afte}
the introductions, Michael says, “Are
you going to be Daddy Rick?”

April 1979: Michael is going to the
Special Olympics this year. He will be
gone for two days—his first time away
from home. He is on the bus smiling
out of the window at his Mommy anc
his new Daddy Rick. He’s so excited.
June 1980: Each day, I am so amazed§
Almost ten, Michael is capable of enjoy
ing many of life’s pleasures. He reads
most everything. He loves to play bal}
with our poodle. Michael throws i
and Blackie fetches it. They play lik
this for hours. I have learned muct}
from having Michael. I only wish he
could understand the concept of danger
He doesn’t understand war or killing—
all those things the rest of us have
face. How do you tell someone wh¢
loves everyone that some people may
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became ill. Her bones ached, and she huddled
in bed. The hotel management sent up chicken
soup. Friends told her to go to the hospital. But
Carol knew it was only the flu. She also knew
that what was making it seem so much more
terrible than an ordinary flu was that she

really didn’t know what to do with her life. And
so for ten days, she couldn’t get out of bed.

Her marriage to Joe Hamilton had ended
after twenty years. Carol had met him when
she was just starting out in television, when he
was separated from his first wife and their
eight children. She had married him despite
enormous public disapproval. Now (continued)

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continued

the marriage was over, and their own
three daughters were having to adjust
to traveling between mother and father.

She had sold her house in Hawaii
and didn’t know where to live. Two of
her daughters—Carrie and Jody—
were in college on the West Coast. Her
youngest, Erin, was still in high school.
What should she do about Erin?

Carol had had oral surgery to correct
an overbite. The weak chin that had
always made her feel ugly had been
replaced by a sharp, determined jaw
line. She knew she was more attractive
now than she had ever been, but even
her new appearance created problems.
Maybe she was now too pretty to be the
kind of wild, slapstick, self-deprecating
comedienne she had always been. What
should she do next?

Carol lay in bed and let the questions
and concerns roll over her. Could she
risk a big change in her career? What if
her next move was a flop? Could she
survive a flop? She didn’t have the an-
swers, and she got more depressed, but
experience had taught her that if you
just wait, if you don’t pursue a solution,
one can come to you.

So she waited and waited. And the
solution she needed came to her: What
she wanted to do was move back to New
York. She wanted to go back to Broad-
way musical theater, to the kind of
show like Once Upon a Mattress, which
had started her as a performer twenty
years ago. She was going to sing and
dance and treat herself to what she
called the “ultimate turn-on” of being
out there on the stage, “just the au-
dience and me, alone.”

Now, healthy and strong again, she
is pursuing those goals. Surrounded by
scripts in that same hotel room, she
laughs. “It used to be show business,
now it’s show business. It costs five mil-
lion dollars to put on a Broadway musi-
cal!” But the cost wasn’t deterring her.
She was meeting with producers and
composers. (She was also dating them!)
“T've got the wanderlust,” she says en-
thusiastically. “I love to go, to do, ex-
periment, experience, and then start
something else again. And now I think
' it’s time to start a new life.”

Carol’s new good looks are an in-
spiration to any woman. Her auburn
hair is cut short and chic. She is wear-
ing tan slacks and a white hand-knit
sweater, which sets off her gorgeous
suntan. Her new chin isn’t perfect—it
drags her mouth down a little and
makes the lower half of her face less
mobile than she might like—but the
overall effect is stunning. Her green
eyes glitter with anticipation and a
toughness that comes from experience.

For all her success, Carol Burnett,
forty-eight, has not had an easy life.

Both of her parents were alcoholics,
and she and her younger sister were
reared by their grandmother, “Nanny.”
Living in Texas and Hollywood, the
family remained on the margins of pov-
erty and was often on the welfare rolls.
“My dad was a big, long drink of water,”
she says softly, “very slim and hand-
some. He had this vulnerability about
him. But he was ineffectual because he
was a drinker and he couldn’t hold
down a job.” Her parents separated
when Carol was eleven. “I remember
Mom breaking his bottles in the sink; I
remember their fighting; her throwing
him out.” By the time they divorced,
her mother had also started drinking.
“She was in bed all the time. She never
ate. I tell you, that’s what kills alco-
holics. No nutrition.”

Carol’s mother must have felt a deep

“T
was raised to
be little Miss Priss,

Miss Pure, Miss
Shockable,” Carol
Burnett recalls
with a laugh.

resentment when she saw how depen-
dent on their grandmother her little
girls were becoming, but she was
powerless to do anything about it. Says
Carol, “One time when Mother was not
too drunk, we were sitting in the
kitchen. She was playing the ukulele,
and we were singing and talking. She
said: ‘I want to tell you about that pre-
cious grandmother of yours—she has
lied about the number of times she was
married. Nanny had talked about
three of her husbands, so that’s all I
thought she had. ‘She’s been married
six times!’ Mama said. She made it
sound like Nanny had committed ax
murders. I was devastated.”

Telling that story now, Carol is not
devastated at all. “Actually, I don’t
think it was so terrible.” She laughs.
“Nanny had great gams. She was a
Southern belle, a flirt. As a matter of
fact, when she died, at eighty-two, she
had a forty-year-old boyfriend.”

It’s clear that these memories come
back td Carol now because she is so
concerned about her own daughters,
about the impact of her divorce on
them. And they have an added pres-
sure: They are pretty, and Carol wasn’t
pretty as a young girl.

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“T was popular,” she says, “but buddy:
popular, you know? When I was in|
junior high school, I wanted to act in
school plays, but I was also editor of the
school paper. My mother said: ‘Always
write; no matter what you look like,
you can always write. Mama didn’t
mean it in a cruel way, but that’s the
message I got when I was twelve years
old: Nobody’s going to look at you, so
you had better develop a talent that
doesn’t require beauty.”

It has been very difficult, therefore,
for Carol to face the task of advising
daughters who are really good-looking,
and who are being challenged by the
looser sexual morality of the times. “My
girls knew so much more at twelve
than I did at twenty, just from enter-
tainment alone, from television..When
I was a girl, I knew nothing .. . about
anything.... ” She still can’t get the
word “sex” out of her mouth, after all
these years. “I was raised to be little
Miss Priss, Miss Pure, Miss Shocka-
ble,” she recalls with a laugh.

Returning to the subject of her
daughters, she says, “I used to tell my
girls not to get married real early. I got
married—for the first time, before
Joe—at twenty-two. I thought it was
the thing to do. We had gone together
but we had never been intimate; I was
just curious about...”

She still can’t say it. But the fact is, it
is fairly difficult for any woman to ex-
plain to modern daughters that once,
long ago, you got married in order to
have sex, and not after discovering that
sex was good. “He was a very young
man,” Carol says, smiling, remember-
ing her own innocence. “We were more
friends than anything else. I haven’t
seen him for years but I have no ill
feelings. I do worry that my girls will
be afraid of marriage. I hope and pray
that they will make good choices, out o:
love, out of caring; that’s all I can do.”

Carol Burnett seems sure of hersel
as a parent and confident of her future.
She has a kind of sixth sense about the
do-ability of the impossible. She says
she is not a particularly religious
woman, but she does believe in some-
thing outside of ourselves that guides
our’ lives and makes apparently wild
dreams come true.

When she was a student at UCLA,
she had a wild dream that she would go
to New York and star in a Broadwa
musical directed by George Abbott. Sh
was studying on a scholarship. He
family was on welfare. And she wa:
earning seventy-five cents an hour tak-
ing tickets at a movie theater. Sh
knew her mother and her grandmothe
had no confidence in her looks or he
ability as a performer; but she saw her-
self in New York. In her mind it had
already happened; it was (continued)

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continued

just a matter of acquiring the money
to get there... and she had no idea
where the money would come from.

“Our professor in the musical-com-
edy workshop at UCLA asked us to
entertain at a party. The show would
also be our final exam. So I went to the
party and I did a scene from Annie Get
Your Gun. There was this big buffet
and we were all grabbing the free food,
when a man and his wife came up to
me and asked: ‘What are your plans
for the future?’

“T said, ‘’m going to New York.’

“He said, ‘Why aren’t you there now?’

“T said, ‘I can’t afford it yet.’

“He said, ‘Ill give you the money.’

“T assumed he had had a few too many,
but his wife said no, he means it. He
gave me his card and told me to call him.
I figured he would forget, but he didn’t. I
bummed a car and went to see him in
San Diego. It was a big office, and he told
me that when he came to this country,
somebody had staked him. He had prom-
ised he would do the same for other peo-
ple. There were three conditions:

““One,’ he said, ‘this is a loan. There’s
no interest. You pay it back in five
years if you can. Two, if you are suc-
cessful, you must promise to help out
others. And three, don’t ever give my
name to anyone.’ And he had his secre-
tary draw up a one-thousand-dollar check.”

In New York, Carol stayed at the Re-
hearsal Club, the residential hotel that
was the subject of the play and movie
Stage Door, about young hopefuls try-
ing to make it on Broadway. She audi-
tioned for a revival of Babes in Arms,
and came “this close”—she presses her
long fingers together—to getting the
role of the girl who sings “Johnny One
Note” and “The Lady is a Tramp.” But
she missed out on the role, and suc-
cumbed to a colossal case of the Stage
Door blues.

“Wait a minute, Carol,” yelled her
kid sister, who was staying with her
at the time, “youre the one who’
always saying the thing that’s gonna
happen will happen....”’ Within an
hour the phone rang. It was the pro-
ducer of a show called Once Upon a
‘Mattress. She wanted Carol to audi-
tion. The show was being directed by
George Abbott.

Carol’s performance in Once Upon a
Mattress—as the princess who can feel
a pea underneath a huge stack of bed-
ding—electrified the audience and
launched her into her career as the
queen of American comedy.

She moved onto The Garry Moore
Show, where she met Joe Hamilton.
She made spectacularly successful tele-
vision specials with such costars as

Julie Andrews, Dolly Parton, Beverly
Sills and, most recently, Placido Do-
mingo. She developed her own comedy
show, which became a staple of Amer-
ican family television for nine years.
She crossed her eyes; she fell on her
face; she broke down doors; she dangled
from windows; she had more pails of
water thrown on her than anybody in
the history of the medium. But there
came a point when, for Carol Burnett,
the mugging had to stop, and the com-
edy could no longer be quite so light.
“I changed over the years of our
show,” she says simply. “I watch some of
those old tapes and I just die. I was
forcing, pushing, loud. I didn’t start to
mellow until our seventh year. I think
our ninth year was the best, because we
stopped going just for laughs and
started going more for character.”
Millions of homemakers knew per-
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taking a risk for.
You can't stay in
bed your whole life.”

her dumb-ox husband, Ed, and her im-
possible kids and her screeching Mama
seriously, the audience would be in
tears. Carol's comedy, like her life,
turned on a dime. If you didn’t keep
laughing, you could easily feel devas-
tated by the tragedy of it all.

Whether we realized it or not, Carol
used much of her past in the zany skits
on her TV show. For instance, there was
a boy she was in love with when she
was in high school; his name was
Tommy Tracey. He had never looked at
her, not once. She used to doodle her
name as “Carol Tracey” in school and
pretend that she and Tommy had chil-
dren together and they were called
Stacey and Dick.

How she laughed at herself on na-
tional television about her crush on
Tommy Tracey. But she wasn’t laugh-
ing when she talked about him now. “I
heard back through some friends that
Tommy wished I would lay off, because
he was married and had a family and
was a principal at a high school some-
where and the kids were teasing him.
And this past year, he turned fifty, and
some of his friends called and asked if I
would show up at a surprise birthday
party for him. And I didn’t. I thought

that would be wrong of me, because it
was his birthday.”

- However, even when she’s serious,
Carol can’t resist just a little joke. “I
did send him a dozen roses,” she winks,
“with a card that said [she clears her
throat as though making a major an-
nouncement], ‘I think you should know
that I have finally gotten over you...
as of last week.’”

Carol’s favorite story about figures
from her past ends with another joke—
but this time, the joke is on her. She
and Harvey Korman were doing a
sketch called “The Pail.” She explains,
“I was this woman who went to see a
psychiatrist, played by Harvey. I was
talking about my problems, and they
all boiled down to this: When I was
three years old, a bully took my pail.
And I had hated him all these years,
and I wanted my pail back.

“Welllll .. . Harvey turned out to be
the bully. And he has my pail, in the
psychiatrist's office. But when I take it
and look at it, I say, “Wait a minute!
This is not my pail! This pail belongs to
Mary Johnson!” But something about
the line bothered Carol. “I asked the
writers can’t I use a real name, please?
I mean, ‘Mary Johnson,’ really....
They said sure, go ahead, so I said,
‘Wait a minute! This is not my pail!
This pail belongs to Adrienne Lenore
Weingart!’” It was the name of a girl
Carol had gone to Selma Avenue Gram-
mar School with and whom she had not
seen since.

The morning after the show aired,
Carol's secretary got a call. A lady from
Las Vegas wanted to know why she had
heard her maiden name mentioned on
The Carol Burnett Show.

“Well, you and Carol were in the
sixth grade together,” explained the
secretary. There was a long pause.
“Gee,” said the former Adrienne Le-
nore Weingart. “I don’t remember her.”

Carol Burnett laughs and laughs.
She loves that story. Because the joke is
on her, and by her standards, those are
the best jokes.

All of the conditions that gener-
ous stranger placed upon his loan so
many years ago have been met. Carol
paid him back five years to the day of
the loan. (“I guess that was just my
sense of order.”) She has never given
out his name. And she has helped oth-
ers as he helped her: through grants to
both UCLA and Emerson College and
through educational support for a dis-
advantaged child who is now a doctor
(and who will never know who made
his education possible).

Carol has also resolved other aspects
of her past. She has lain to rest many of
the memories, like the memory of
Tommy Tracey, with a healthy irony.
The angers— (continued on page 154)

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that youl never believe

t hurt terribly when I
found out about Bill’s
affair,” recalls Angela, a
tall, model-slim woman
in her mid-thirties. “All
those lies about late
business meetings and out-of-
town trips. I became absolutely
furious, though, when I real-
ized how much I had worried
about him working so long and
so hard—and all the while he
was having a fabulous time!”
@ Steffi, twenty-eight, a dark-
haired school nurse with two
children, blames herself for her
husband's infidelity: “I’m not as
interested in sex as he is... . I
guess I’m just not good enough
in bed,” she says slowly.
@ Don, a thirty-one-year-old
advertising salesman who still
looks like the college football
hero he once was, was crushed
to discover his wife’s affair with
her boss. “She swears it’s over
and she wants to rebuild our
marriage,” Don says, shaking
his head. “But I keep seeing her
making love with him. I don’t
think Ill ever get over that!”
Despite the brave talk about
living in sexually liberated
times, such anguished words
bear witness to the fact that a
spouses unfaithfulness remains
one of the most devastating expe-
riences a man or woman can suf-
fer. Although infidelity affects
men and women differently—
not only in the reasons they seek

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extramarital sex in the first
place but also in the ways they
deal with the discovery of a be-
trayal—marriage counselors
have found that there are never-
theless many shared percep-
tions. For some people—Angela,
Steffi and Don among them—
the pain of a betrayal is inten-
sified because they subscribe to
common myths about infidelity
that magnify their turmoil,
making it harder to cope with an
extramarital affair.

“It is crucial for couples to be
able to separate the misconcep-
tions that surround infidelity
from the facts that marriage
counselors and sex therapists
have learned in their work,”
points out the Reverend Alan
Loy McGinnis, co-director of
the Valley Counseling Center
in Glendale, California. “Only
then can they learn to handle
the emotional pain as well as
effect constructive change in
their marriage to make certain
one instance of infidelity does
not become a pattern.”

Here, six myths about infideli-
ty that can shatter a marriage—
and the facts we now know.

Myth: My spouse would not

have been unfaithful if our sex
life had been more satisfying.

By Norman Lobsenz

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again

Fact: The idea that a partner
seeks sex outside the marriage
because sex within the mar-
riage is insufficient or unexcit-
ing is perhaps the most com-
mon belief about infidelity to-

day, and it remains the hardest ©

one to dispel. Marriage coun- |
selors point out, however, that
most _infidelities—especially —

those of women—do not stem =

from a desire for better sex, but —

rather from a need for more |

nonsexual affection. 2
“T don’t even enjoy the sex |

that much, so why can’t I stop?” _

one woman asked Judith Dav- |
enport, M.S.W., a psychothera-
pist with the Center for Coun- ~
seling and Psychotherapy in |
Santa Monica, California. The |
woman knew her frequent af-
fairs were threatening her mar-
riage, but until she spoke with ©
a therapist she hadn’t realized
how furious she was with her
husband because he criticized |
her constantly. “She was afraid
to let her anger out,” Daven-
port explains. “The infidelities
were her unconscious way of
getting back at him.”
Sometimes a person is un- |
faithful because of a need to |
prove his or her sexual attrac- |
tiveness. Straying spouses—es-
pecially middle-aged men— |
have affairs in a_ panicked
effort to recapture lost youth. “I |
know I’m getting older,” one |
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‘wood lover I am.”

A man’s infidelity may also be a way
f acting out unresolved childhood re-
ellion against authority. One man,
aised by a domineering mother whom

ue was unable to challenge or disobey,
‘ransferred his resentment to his wife.
Tis extramarital escapades were a

hildish—and ultimately self-defeat-
ng—way of asserting his freedom.
Certainly, the novelty of a new sex-

ial partner, or the thrill of breaking a

aboo, can for a time enhance sexual
lesire and arousal, but it never roots
ut the basic problem that led to the
nfidelity in the first place. “I have
ound in my practice,” says Los Angeles
amily counselor Marcia Lasswell, as-
ociate clinical director of the marriage

und family therapy program at the Uni-

ersity of Southern California, “that a

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about them.

Myth: While I’m hurting, he (or she) is
enjoying the excitement of the affair.

Fact: With few exceptions, infidelity
soon becomes an overpowering emo-
tional burden for the unfaithful part-
ner. “Angela may have thought her
husband, Bill, was having a great
time,” says Marcia Lasswell, the coun-
selor who worked with the couple. “But
once the first flush of infatuation wore
off, Bill was miserable.”

“T don’t expect Angela or anyone else
to feel sorry for me,” says Bill. “After
all, I did cheat on her. But I have to say
the disgust I felt wiped out my illu-
sions. I hated the business of telling
lies, making up cover stories, checking
the car for telltale signs.”

“Guilt is the hardest feeling to bear,”
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destroys a relationship. I’ve seen mar-
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with another man. He knows it isn’t
true, but he must convince himself that
it is to lessen his own guilt.”

An affair, then, is not a no-strings-
attached escapade. Indeed, experts
have found it can create as many ten-
sions as a marriage, and often the pres-
sure of deceit leads an unfaithful
spouse to sprinkle clues about in an
unconscious effort to be caught.

There is also a flip side to the affairs-
are-always-thrilling myth: Marriage
counselors have learned that the be-
trayed partner does not always suffer
as much as he or she claims to. “I’ve
known cases in which the spouse is ac-
tually relieved,” says Tom McGinnis,
Ed.D., a Fair Lawn, New Jersey, psy-
chotherapist. “Trying to satisfy all the
needs and demands of a partner is, for
some husbands or wives, too great a
burden.” The classic example is the
long-time wife of a wealthy man who
knows about but condones her hus-
band’s dalliances with younger women.
Secure in the knowledge that her hus-
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0 forgive my spouse for what he (or
she) did; things will never be the same.

Fact: “One may not be able to forget the
ncident,” says therapist Lasswell, “but
unless unfaithfulness is blatant or
thronic, most spouses do forgive once
they work through the initial shock. If
hat were not so, there’d be many more
‘livorces than there are.”

Some people, like Don—who men-
ally replayed the image of his wife in
xed with her lover—deliberately choose
10t to forgive. They say, “I can’t”; they
nean, “I won’t”; and they cling to the
iurt out of self-pity or as a way of es-
ablishing moral righteousness. Still
thers hoard their forgiveness like a
yargaining chip or a weapon: One
yoman, aware that her husband had
1ad an affair with a former secretary,
1ever alluded to the infidelity until he
»bjected to her plan to complete her
sollege degree. “For once, why can’t you
ro along with something just for me?”
he blurted. “After all, you owe me!”

Lasswell points out that there are
everal reasons why people forgive
heir spouses. Some forgive out of fear
»r dependency. “What else could I do?”
me woman told her. “Divorce him?

}Nould the kids or I be better off?” Oth-
irs forgive for practical reasons: Says

. forty-eight-year-old real estate de-

veloper: “All right, she had this one

iffair. It’s over now. We’ve forgiven each
itther for many hurts over the years,
ind time healed those wounds. If I let

t, time will heal this one, too.”

Some spouses believe they can for-
five and forget only if they know all

| he details of an infidelity. Arthur, a
| hirty-eight-year-old attorney, describes
ris experience: “I had a one-night ro-
nance when I was out of town on a
ease. To this day, I don’t know why I did
t, because I really do love my wife. But
oolishly, 'd written the girl’s name and
»hone number on a business card, and
ny wife found it when I emptied my suit
vockets at home. She accused me of
»eing unfaithful, and I admitted it. I told
ier it would never happen again.

“But when I asked her to forgive me,
he said she simply couldn’t until she
snew everything that had happened
vetween the girl and me. Otherwise,
‘he said, she’d never be able to put the
# ncident out of her mind.”

" Lhe collecting and storing of painful
irmages, however, only makes it harder
yo erase an infidelity from the mind
; und from a marriage. Complicating the
foroblem is that some people take a
Mnasochistic satisfaction in lacerating
) hemselves. “The impulse to ferret out
Jvery minute aspect of an infidelity is

malicious as well as pointless,” says
Alan Loy McGinnis. “Making a partner
recount the sexual act and the emo-
tions exchanged is severe punishment
for both partners.”

Myth: If I ignore evidence of my part-
ner’s infidelity, the affair will blow over.

Fact: Marriage counselors report that
playing ostrich more than likely leads
to repeated incidents of unfaithfulness.

“I would have had to be blind not to
know Greg was cheating,” recalls Car-
oline, a twenty-eight-year-old dancer.
“He produces a network news show, but
even a TV producer doesn’t have busi-
ness meetings every Saturday and Sun-

, nfaithful

spouses
often have

no complaints

about their marital
sex lives.

day. And the snappy way he dressed for
those meetings, too! Usually, slacks
and a sport shirt were fine for work.
Suddenly, he started wearing a tie or a
suede vest. But when I tried to be affec-
tionate, I got the cold shoulder.”

At the time, Caroline believed she
had only two choices. “I thought if I
made a scene, it would drive Greg away
for good. And suppose I was wrong?
How would he react if I accused him
unjustly? So I decided to ignore every-
thing and hope it would pass.”

“Such behavior risks giving the im-
pression that you don’t care,” says Bev-
erly Hills psychotherapist Joyce Sny-
der, who counseled Caroline. “And if
you avoid facing the issue for fear of
stirring up conflicts, you can trigger
repeated incidents.” Greg assumed
Caroline knew of his affair and was giv-
ing him unspoken permission to con-
tinue. When he broke up with the other
woman a few months later, the prob-
lems in his marriage were still there.
He soon began another liaison.

Counselors report that, generally speak-
ing, women are more likely than men to
avoid facing the reality of an infidelity
because they feel that casual sex has lit-
tle emotional meaning for a man. But,
adds Snyder, “A partner who shuts his
or her eyes to obvious evidence is in ef-

fect collaborating with the infidelity.”

Myth: Toying with the idea of extra-
marital sex is a fatal first step toward
real unfaithfulness.

Fact: Most married people do fantasize
occasionally about having an outside
fling. “If we are honest with ourselves,”
says Laura Singer, Ed.D., a New York
psychotherapist and family therapist,
“we realize that almost everyone, at one
time or another, has sexual desires for
persons other than his or her spouse.”
And there’s nothing wrong with such
fantasies, either.

But do most spouses act on these de-
sires? Does dreaming about an affair
inevitably lead to having one? “It’s not
surprising that we tend to think every-
body’s doing it,” says Ray Fowler, Ph.D.,
a family therapist and executive direc-
tor of the Academy of Family Media-
tors. Yet counselors find that in reality,
most married couples have never been
unfaithful and believe that extramari-
tal sex is wrong. In their landmark
study, American Couples: Money, Work,
Sex (William Morrow and Company,
Inc., 1983), University of Washington
sociologists Philip Blumstein, Ph.D.,
and Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., report
that “the personal standard most peo-
ple hold for themselves is monogamy.”
So, while there may be a good deal of
wishful thinking, the crucial issue,
says Laura Singer, “is whether or not
we act on our wishes.”

Myth: If a partner has been unfaithful,
the marriage is damaged beyond repair.

Fact: Some marriages strained by in-
fidelity do break up. But in such cases,
the infidelity is more likely to be a
symptom rather than a cause of the
conflict. Typically, the disclosure of an
affair can be a constructive crisis—the
spur that impels a couple to examine
their relationship honestly. As a result,
says Tom McGinnis, “an affair can help
preserve or revitalize a marriage that
is on the verge of disintegration.”

For instance, counselors report that
couples are surprised to find that a ca-
sual infidelity (as opposed to a long-
term affair with emotional overtones)
seldom is the result of lost love between
spouses. According to Marcia Lasswell,
it is not very common for a man to be
unfaithful because he “fell out of love”
with his wife. Nor does infidelity lessen
that love. On the contrary, an affair
often convinces the straying spouse
that the “other woman” is less attrac-
tive and less interesting than his wife.

Moreover, a partner’s affair often has
a remarkably stimulating effect on
marital sex. Therapists find that after
infidelity is (continued on page 157)

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Elizabeth

One morning Simon Kerslake, M.P., was unable
to concentrate fully on the orders of the day. He
left the House of Commons early and perused
the shop windows in Bond Street before emerg-
ing from Cartier with a small blue leather box
that he placed in his jacket pocket.

Returning home to Beaufort Street in
Chelsea, he took a shower and shaved for the
second time that day. At nine o’clock he trans-
ferred the little box to his dinner jacket, checked
his bow tie and left the house. When he reached

By Jeffrey Archer

Chelsea Square, he parked his MGB outside
Number 4 and was ushered inside by a butler.

Simon could hear the high tones of Lavinia’s
voice coming from the drawing room, but it was
not until he entered that he realized it was her
father she was addressing.

“Good evening,” Simon said, before kissing
Lavinia gently on the cheek. She was wearing a
long green satin evening gown.

‘Tm having lunch with the Chief Whip to-
morrow and thoughtId putina (continued)

Love and politics are always full of surprises in this excerpt from a new
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word on your behalf,” Sir Rufus said.

“That's very kind of you,” said Simon,
hating the fact that contacts seemed
more important than ability.

“Not at all, old boy. To be honest, I
almost look upon you as one of the fam-
ily nowadays.”

Simon nervously touched the little
box in his inside pocket.

“That's settled, then,” said Lavinia.
“So let’s be off to Annabel’s. Night-
night, Daddy.” Lavinia gave her father
a peck on the cheek. Simon shook
hands with Sir Rufus rather formally.

“Tsn’t that wonderful of Daddy?” Lav-
inia said to Simon as he started the car.

“Oh, yes,” said Simon. He guided the
car into the Fulham Road. “It’s very
kind of your father.” A few spots of rain
made him turn on the windshield wipers.

“Mummy says that with our family
behind you, anything could happen.”

Simon felt a little sick. He swung the
car into Belgrave Square.

“And did I tell you about the hunt
ball next month? Absolutely everyone
is expected to be there, I mean everyone.”

“No, you didn’t mention it,” said Si-
mon, who had never admitted to Lavi-
nia that he couldn’t stand hunt balls.

He saw the cat run out in front of the
double-decker bus and threw on his
brakes just in time. A moment later La-
vinia screamed, “Oh, God, I’m bleeding.”

Simon drove quickly to St. George’s
Hospital and leaped out to help Lav-
inia. Although there was blood on her
face, the cut above her eyebrow didn’t
look all that deep to Simon.

It must have been Simon’s evening
clothes that made the duty nurse move
a little more quickly, ushering them
immediately in to see a doctor.

“There’s blood all over my beautiful
dress,” Lavinia said between sobs.

“The stain will wash out,” the doctor
said matter-of-factly.

“But will I be left with a scar for the
rest of my life?” asked Lavinia.

“Good heavens, no,” replied the doc-
tor. “It’s only a flesh wound. It won’t
even require stitches. The most you
might expect is a small headache.” The
doctor damped the blood away.

“Are you certain?” demanded Lavinia.

“Absolutely,” said the doctor. “But
perhaps it would be wise for you to go
home and change your dress if you are
still planning to go out to dinner.”

“Of course, Dr. Drummond,” said Si-
mon, checking the name on the little
lapel badge. He thanked the doctor and
helped Lavinia to the car. Lavinia didn’t
stop whimpering all the way home.

Simon returned to Beaufort Street.
He took the little box from his blood-
stained dinner jacket and placed it on

his bedside table. He opened it and
studied the sapphire set in a circle of
small diamonds. He thought about the
hand he wanted to see wear the ring.

The next morning Simon telephoned
to find that Lavinia was fully recovered,
but Daddy thought it might be wise for
her to spend the day in bed. Simon
promised to drop by later.

When Simon reached his office in the
Commons, he phoned the hospital.

“It’s Simon Kerslake,” he said when
Dr. Drummond came to the phone. “I
wanted to thank you for the trouble you
took with Lavinia last night.”

“Tt was no trouble at all—in fact, it
was the least of the night’s problems.”

Simon laughed nervously and asked,
“Are you free for lunch?”

ummy says
that with

our family behind

you, anything could

happen,” Lavinia
said, and Simon
felt a little sick.

Dr. Drummond sounded somewhat
surprised, but agreed to meet him at
one o'clock at the Coq d’Or.

Simon arrived a few minutes early,
ordered a gin and tonic and waited at
the bar. At five past one the maitre d’
brought the doctor to his side.

“Tt was good of you to come at such
short notice,” said Simon.

“Tt was irresistible,” she said.“It’s not
often I get invited to lunch when all
I’ve done is clean up a flesh wound.”

Simon laughed and found himself
staring at the beautiful woman. She
was slim and fair, and her large brown
eyes had kept him awake most of the
night. He recalled her calm poise of
yesterday, but today she revealed an
infectious enthusiasm. The maitre d’
guided them to a table in the corner,
and Simon couldn’t help noticing men
stop to take a closer look as she passed.

“T know it sounds silly,” he said after
they sat down, “but I don’t know your
first name.”

“Elizabeth,” she said, smiling.

“Mine’s Simon.”

“T remember,” said Elizabeth. “In fact

I saw you on the news last month giv:
ing your views on the state of the Na;
tional Health Service.”

“Oh,” said Simon, sounding rathe
pleased. “Did it come over all right?”

“You were brilliant,” she replied
“Only an expert would have reali
you didn’t know the first thing abou
the subject.”

Simon was momentarily stunned an
then burst out laughing. Over a mea
he couldn’t remember ordering, h
learned about Elizabeth, including th
facts that she’d been to school in Lon
don before training at St. Thomas’
Hospital, and right now was only work
ing relief at St. George’s for a week.

“One week later and we never woul
have met,” she explained. “By the wa
how is Miss Maxwell-Harrington?”

“Spending the day in bed.”

“You're not serious?” said Elizabeth

Simon burst out laughing again.

“Tm sorry, ve probably insulted
dear friend of yours.”

“No,” said Simon, “that was yesterday.

While sitting on the end of Lavinia
bed that night, Simon learned th
Daddy had “fixed” the Chief Whip.
didn’t stop Simon from telling Lavini
about his meeting with Elizabeth D
mond. Simon was surprised at how we
Lavinia appeared to take the news. H
left to return to the House of Commo
for the ten o’clock evening vote.

In the corridor, the Chief Whip too
Simon aside and asked if he could se
him in his office at twelve the n
morning. Simon happily agreed. Aft
the vote, he wandered into the Whip
office, hoping for a clue.

“Congratulations,” said a juni
whip, looking up from his desk.

“On what?” asked Simon nervously.

“Remember, I never said a word
said the junior whip. Simon smiled a
returned home. He was unable to sle
much that night or stand still most
the following morning.

Miss Norse, the Chief Whip’s agi
secretary, looked up from her typ
writer when he came in at noon.
tapping stopped for a moment.

“Shall I wait?” Simon asked.

“No,” said Miss Norse, soundi
somewhat surprised. “He said th
whatever he wanted to see you abo
was no longer important, and he w
sorry to have wasted your time.”

Realizing that Lavinia had doubl
crossed him, Simon went to the neare
telephone booth and started to dial h
number. Then he hung up suddenly.
waited for a few moments before he
aled seven other digits.

“Dr. Drummond,” she said crisp
when she answered.

“Elizabeth, it’s Simon Kerslake.
you free for dinner?”

“Why, does Lavinia need (continue

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“No,” said Simon, “Lavinia died—somewhat prematurely.”

Elizabeth laughed and said, “I’m afraid I don’t get off
until ten-thirty.”

“Neither do I,” said Simon. “We work the same late
hours. I could pick you up at the hospital.”

“You sound a bit low,” said Elizabeth.

“T’ve grown up about twenty years in the last two days.”

With only a tiny majority to defend his seat, and the
election fast approaching, Simon began spending all of his
time with the Coventry constituency.

Elizabeth took a few days of vacation to spend in Coventry
with Simon. She could think of no better way to find out
what grass-roots politics was really like. For their first
rounds of canvassing, she wore her only suit, which she had
bought before she interviewed for hospital jobs. Simon ad-
mired her sense of propriety. But her fair hair and slim
figure still had all the local press wanting to photograph her.

“You'll enjoy this,” said Simon as they walked up to the
first door. The street list was on a card in his pocket.

“Good morning, Mrs. Foster. My name is Simon Kers-

lake. I’m your Conservative candidate.”

“Oh, how nice to meet you. Won’t you come in for tea?”

Simon politely declined, and when the door closed, he
put a red line through the name on his card.

“How can you be sure she’s a Labour supporter?” de-

manded Elizabeth. “She seemed so friendly.”

“The Labourites are trained to ask all the other candi-

dates in for a cup of tea to waste their time.”

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Elizabeth couldn’t hide her disbelief. “That only con:
firms my worst fears about politicians,” she said. “How
could I ever have fallen for you?”

Mrs. Foster’s next-door neighbor said, “I always vote
Conservative.”

Simon put a blue line through the name and knocked orf
the next door.

“My name is Simon Kerslake and1I.. .”

“Get lost, creep,” came the reply. |

“Who are you calling creep?” Elizabeth retaliated as thd
door was slammed in their faces. |

“Don’t be offended.” Simon calmly put a question mark b¥}
the name. “There’s no telling who he votes for.” t

At the next door a jolly red-faced lady named Mrs. I
vine said, “Hello, Simon,” before he could open his mouth}!
“Don’t waste your time on me, I’1l always vote for you.”

“Thank you, Mrs. Irvine. But what about your next-doo
neighbor?”

“Ah, he’s an irritable old basket, but I'll see he gets t
the polls on election day. He'll put his cross in the righ?
box. He’d better, or Ill stop keeping an eye on hi
greyhound when he’s out. Who knows, you might even pic}
up the greyhound’ vote.”

After they covered four more streets during the next thre!
hours, Elizabeth took away his pencil. “Politics is so dishor
est,” she said, grinning. “I'd prefer to marry a millionaire.’

“Then you'd better find a rich American senator. On
parliamentary salary it should take me about two hurfi
dred and forty-two years to achieve that.” }

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nents, Alf Abbott and Nigel Bainbridge, and their wive#:
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| holding the attention of the audience.
He quoted figures with an ease that
impressed Elizabeth. But although the
local press proclaimed Simon the victor,
he remained downcast by the national
| prediction of a landslide for Labour.

They spent election day traveling
back and forth from polling halls to
Party headquarters. When the Coven-
) try Town Hall clock finally struck nine,
Simon and Elizabeth collapsed on the
steps of the last polling hall. Simon knew
there was nothing he could do now that
| the last votes were being cast. Just
| then, the jolly lady, accompanied by a
sour-faced man, came out of the hall.

“Hello, Mrs. Irvine,” said Simon.

She smiled.

“Looks like she fixed the greyhound

vote,” Elizabeth whispered.

i3 “Now don’t fret yourself, lad,” Mrs.
4 Irvine said. “I never failed to vote for
the winner in fifty-two years, and that’s
4 longer than you’ve lived.” She winked.
4 A small band of supporters accom-
‘panied Simon and Elizabeth to Town
Hall to witness the count. There the
first person Simon saw was Labourite
Alf Abbott, who had a big, happy grin.
4, The little piles of ballots were checked
th first in tens, then hundreds—and fi-
nally thousands. As the night wore on,
Abbott’s grin dwindled to a smile, from
t}.a smile to a poker face, and finally toa
look of anxiety as the two piles grew
closer and closer in size.

For over three hours the process of
emptying the boxes continued, and the
scrutineers checked each little white
slip before handing in their own rec-
ords. At one o’clock in the morning, the
Coventry town clerk added up the list
of numbers in front of him and asked
the three candidates to join him.

He told them the results.

Alf Abbott smiled. Simon showed no
emotion, but called for a recount.

He paced nervously as the scru-
tineers checked and double-checked
each pile: a change here, a mistake
there. At last the scrutineers handed
back their figures. Once again the town
clerk added up the columns of numbers
before asking the candidates to join him.

This time Simon smiled, while Ab-
bott demanded another recount. The
town clerk said it had to be the last
time. Both candidates agreed in the ab-
sence of their Liberal rival, who was
sleeping in the corner, secure in the
knowledge that no amount of recount-
ing would alter his position.

Again the piles were checked and
\double-checked and five mistakes were
\discovered in the 42,588 votes. At half-
gppast three in the morning, with coun-
ters and checkers falling asleep at their
tables, the town clerk told the stunned
candidates that there would be a final
recount in the morning.

All the ballots were replaced in the
black boxes, locked and left in the safe-
keeping of the local constabulary for
the night. Simon and Elizabeth booked
into rooms at the Leofric Hotel.

Elizabeth brought a cup of tea to Si-
mon’s room at eight o’clock the next
morning, and found him still in bed.

“Simon,” she said, “you look like one of
my patients just before an operation.”

“T think [ll skip this one,” he said.

“Right now youre still the represen-
tative, and you owe it to your sup-
porters to remain as confident as
they feel,” she said rather snappishly.

Simon sat up and stared at Eliza-
beth. “Quite right,” he said, picking up
his tea, unable to hide his pleasure.

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and returned with Elizabeth to the
Town Hall, where they were greeted by
a battery of television cameras.

The town clerk gave the signal to
start the recount. When the counters
and scrutineers had finished, they sat in
front of their piles and waited for the
slips to be collected for the clerk. After
the clerk had added up his little col-
umns of figures for the final time he
found that four votes had changed sides.

He explained to Simon and Alf Ab-
bott the procedure he intended to adopt
in view of the extraordinary outcome.
Then he walked up on the stage with
the two candidates in his wake.

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Putting the pieces
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Plaster casts and crutches are no longer
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covers (she had appeared on nearly two

hundred even at that point) to become
famous overnight. Suddenly she was
that golden smiling creature who lent

her name to Cover Girl, Chanel No. 19,
Mastercard, Kinney Shoes and Naturat-

Light Beer. Then came a poster, a cal-
endar, a movie and a beauty/exercise
book. But what’s behind this “face of
the eighties”?

Christie is curled up in a swivel chair
in a spare office of the sportswear com-
pany that bears her name. Even in this
drab space, she radiates the sun-kissed
health and sweetness of an all-Amer-

‘ican girl. Her lemon-streaked mane

tumbles over the shoulders of a rough-
weave pullover. Her open face, bearing
traces of her Norwegian ancestry, has
that eerie knack of looking different at
different moments, depending on her
mood, the light and the angle.

Her mood is bubbly today as she
speaks of a childhood that seems to
have been happy. Raised in well-heeled
Malibu by “very supportive” parents—
her stepfather, Don Brinkley, is the pro-
ducer of CBS's Trapper John, M.D.—
Christie was a shy tomboy who rough-
housed with older brother Gregg when
she wasn’t off on her own. “I walked
around speaking fake French. I even
sang fake French songs,” she recalls.
“Everything was building up to my life
in France.” Finally, upset by the use of
drugs at her high school, she trans-
ferred to the local Lycée Francais.

At seventeen, she dropped out of
UCLA and ran through a series of jobs.
She sold ice cream (“I got blisters and
chubby”), clothes (“I was allergic to the
neon lighting”) and plants (“I liked
that”), until, with $1,000 saved up, she
jetted off to Paris.

There Christie threw herself into the
artist’s life of struggle, renting a tiny
garret in Montparnasse, which lacked
a toilet and running water. “I either
used the public baths four blocks away,”
she giggles, “or filled a bucket from the
faucet upstairs. I ate rice and sardines
because canned tuna was too expensive,
but it made me proud to take care of

. myself. Everybody should know she

can. A lot of women just get married
right away.” Soon enough, however,
Christie was wed to Jean Francois Al-
laux, a French illustrator.

Her Cinderella story began one spring
day when, wrapped in a shapeless rain-
coat and walking her dog, she was spot-
ted by a photographer. “Hey, excuse me,
are you a model?” he asked. Christie
shrugs. “I thought it was just a line.”

It wasn’t. Nearly penniless by then,
she accepted the photographer's help
and, in short order, was taken on by the

‘

Elite Model Agency. “She was a flower-
child type,” recalls its president, Johnny
Casablancas. “A cute doll of a girl, too
fragile to be sexy.”

She still weighed a hundred and
forty pounds, but promptly shed fifteen

of them by fasting on yogurt, which

“gave me a calcium deficiency,” she
claims. “One day I passed out in a cafe.
When I woke up in a doctor's office, my
chipmunk cheeks were still very much
in evidence.”

Before long, those cheeks smiled
from magazine covers around the
world. Ironically, Christie’s insecurity
about weight and figure flaws would
become the very thing that lifted her
above the crowd.

Every winter Sports Illustrated runs
a special swimsuit issue. “I said, ‘Oh
please, no,” sighs Christie, recalling
the first offer to pose. “ ‘Swimsuits are
the one thing I can’t do,’ and they said,
‘Trust us.’ Well, that day on the beach I
was so nervous that I wouldn’t even

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boys. Billy’s a man.”

face the camera full front. ’'d bury one
hip under the sand, or I'd suggest we
work in the water so I could sink down
to hide the legs. I kept thinking, Let’s
see, if I put one hip out like this, and
one shoulder up, its gonna make me
longer here and thinner here. ... ”
Those pictures were the start of
Christie’s super success. By 1979 she
had landed on the magazine's cover,
and slipping newsstand sales jumped
by 11 percent as a result. She posed for
the cover twice more and sales still
climbed. Men liked that she was curvy,
not bony like most models, and they
had seldom seen a hip thrown at the
camera that way. “I look at those pic-
tures now,” she laughs, “and they really
are too much. I hide them. But I acci-
dentally invented brand-new poses. It’s
funny, isn’t it? Trying to mask weak
points is what made me a success.”
Seen now as Chery] Tiegs'’s successor,
Christie took off. She hired publicists,
lawyers and a personal manager. She
switched to the Ford Model Agency and
tackled work with a new zest that ev-
eryone noticed. “That sudden inspira-

tion she had,” says Eileen Ford, the
agency head, “I didn’t know where it
came from. But the timing seemed j
right for her.”

Christie overhauled her personal life!
as well, and in 1981 divorced her Frenc
husband of eight years. “Divorce is
never really fun,” she observes. “Work
took us in different directions.”

Soon after, she began a highly pub-j,
licized live-in relationship with an
other young Frenchman, Count Olivie
Chandon de Brialles, race-car drive
and only male heir of France’s leading!
champagne makers. They met ata Stu- ;
dio 54 party launching the Christie
Brinkley calendar, and _ thereafte
Chandon sent white roses every day. }

For some two years, Christie and}.
Chandon burned brightly in the gossip
columns and on New York’ night scene
sometimes arriving at discos on hi
souped-up motorcycle. But as with so
many playboy race-car drivers before
him, speed tragically claimed Chan
don’s life in March of last year. He
drowned in Palm Beach after his racing!
car catapulted into a canal.

Though Christie usually watched
Chandon’ races from the pit, she heard
the news of his death in New York and
promptly flew to California and went
into seclusion with her family. She
could manage only a brief statement tof;
the press (“Grief is immensely per-}
sonal”), though insiders say her painf
was worsened by their having broken},
up just before his death. :

Eyebrows were raised at the sudden-L
ness of her recovery. She and pop-music
star Billy Joel met at a beachfront hotel}
while vacationing on the secluded Ca
ribbean isle of St. Barthelemy. “Billyp}
was playing the piano,” she recalls. “Iw
walked over to listen. Then I starteahy
singing, and he accompanied me.” It
was instant attraction. Joel, then soorfy
to be divorced from his wife/manager off
ten years, turned up with Christie at <
Beach Boys concert in New York only
one month after Chandon’s death.

They make a surprising couple giver
their different backgrounds (he was <
street-tough lounge singer from work:
ing-class Long Island before storming
onto the pop-music stene in 1974), a fac’
that Joel, who is two inches shortei
than Christie, is well aware of. “Every
day,” he says, “I grab hold of her anc
say, ‘Christie, I can’t believe this
What's a stunning girl like you doing
with a guy like me?’ She says, ‘Why
not? I love you. Most of the guys I'v
been out with until now were like little
boys. You’re a grown man [he’s thirty
five], and that’s very exciting.’ ”

In fact, many claim that Joel’s recen
hit single “Uptown Girl” is abou
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music video in which the two appear
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station in her limousine. With a rich-girl
smile, she bewitches Joel, who portrays
a singing and dancing grease monkey.

In spite of their differences, the cou-
ple have grown very close. Christie often
travels on the road with Joel to photo-
graph concerts (she’s a camera buff who
has covered prizefights for Ring Maga-
zine), but her presence, of course, ex-
cites her own fans. “The first time I
went to a concert of Billy’s,” she says,
“people yelled, ‘Hey-y, Christie, how ya
doin’? Sign this—sign this!’ It was an-
noying, so now [| have a bodyguard fol-
low me around. I don’t like fame.”

Still, Christie’ fame is increasing
and is costing her more than her
privacy. She is now wrestling with the
problems models always have when
they are determined to tackle movies
and become a “personality.’

Following her manager's advice, she
made her first movie, National Lam-
poon’s Vacation, last year, and it proved
embarrassing. She wound up dunking
naked in a swimming pool. “As soon as
she had to act, she didn’t know what

was happening,” says costar Chevy
Chase. “The picture was done quickly,”
Christie explains. “When I asked our
director for instruction, he just said,
‘Get in there, kid, and be yourself.’”

This April she appeared on a Bar-
bara Walters special and plunged into
the shark waters of ad-libbing. Asked
gently by Walters if Olivier Chandon’s
death a year before had changed her,
Christie flushed and could not finish a
sentence for a whole half minute. (Un-
believably, no adviser had prepared her
for this inevitable question.) Finally,
her eyes misting over, she said, “Sud-
denly you realize nothing’s important.
Just try not to let yourself get upset
about things anymore because—(snap-
ping her fingers] y know?” The show
ended with her doing an imitation of
Shirley Temple singing “On the Good
Ship Lollipop.”

Christie was furious with Walters af-
terward, because as critics remarked,
Christie seemed like a typical empty-
headed model. “She is adorable,” says
an irked Barbara Walters, “but shall
we face it? She looked a little frothy
and she is a little frothy. Maybe what
you see is what you get.”

“Christie is a lighthearted girl,”
counters Eileen Ford, “but remember,
models are selling dreams. It’s better not
to be terribly serious. If she’s not the

supersophisticate Barbara Walters is
maybe she will be when she’s that old.”

Christie’s panicky reaction was tc
cancel all interviews (“Oh, brother,’
moaned one of her publicists, “ther
she goes again”) and to swear o
movies until a part with “depth” come;
along. In the meantime, she studie;
acting. “I’m not going to listen to any
body’s advice this time about ‘getting
your feet wet,” she says with bitter’
ness. “I’m too public now.”

While she won’t be acting or ad-lib
bing for a while, she will still be very
busy with her own swimsuit and spo
wear lines, which go on sale nationwid
this month. Moreover, her contrac
with Russ Togs, Inc., to promote an
wear Christie Brinkley clothes ca
earn her $2 million in three years. “
capture Christie’s flavor,” says Russ dif.
vision president Harvey Rosenzweig
“my designers went through her closetsj)
We had long discussions with her, ang;
she did some sketches, too. You seq
she’s going to have to wear thos
clothes and like them.” What if sh
doesn’t like them? “Well,” he admit
with a grin, “hopefully she'll be a lc
better at acting than she is right now.ff

Come what may, Christie’s life rol
merrily on. She and Billy Joel, despit#
grueling work schedules and a breaku
or two, steal all the time they can tc
gether at her airy apartment overlook
ing Central Park and at his Gatsby-lik
mansion on Long Island Sound. Instea
of making the disco scene, they prefe
rock concerts and tooling along countr
back roads on his motorcycle (evel)
though just before he and Christie me}
Joel fractured his thumb and wrist in}.
motorcycle crash).

Though Christie refuses to speak
their romance, according to Joel, the
like “the simple things in life, lik}
walking through woods, holding hand
kissing through a movie and going f
a nice meal.” The couple favor coz
French and Italian hideaways.

Whatever Christie feels about Olivié
Chandon, Joel thinks the loss is n
behind her. “She’s still in mourning t
day,” he says. “She's very upset thi
people think she’s forgotten all abo
Olivier and buried herself in me... .

As for their future, there have bee
rumors of marriage. However, Christ
is certainly too busy to think abo’
marriage and children at this stag
and her clothes endorsement wou
seem to rule out a pregnancy anytin
soon. But she’s still young, and the a
vance of wrinkles on that fabulous fa
doesn’t worry her at all. “Actually,
will be kind of a relief to take the er
phasis off the looks.” Her hands wa?
away such foolish vanity.

“When it goes,” she says with?
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| in the chic jewelry
mmm | store, Millie refused
—____f to acknowledge the
withering way he scanned his
customer's simple dress and icily
answered her questions about
earrings in the showcase. Then
the man suddenly looked directly
at Millie and, piercing the muted
sounds of the elegant shop,
drawled disdainfully yet dis-
tinctly, “They’re all rather costly.
Maybe you'd do better with the
more moderately priced items on
the other side of the floor, dear.”
Millie blushed furiously and now
recalls, “I wanted to do two things
at one time—strangle him and
disappear into the floor.”
When Anna decided to throw
a baby shower for her best
friend, Susan, she contacted all
the guests, planned an elabo-
rate luncheon menu, baked the
bread and desserts, and kept
track of which present each
guest was bringing. She also
splurged on decorations for her

living room—pink and blue bal-
loons and streamers, which she
draped festively from her ceil-
ing lighting fixture. Finally, every-
thing was in place. When the
first guest arrived, Anna ea-
gerly opened the door, and in
walked Christie, who surveyed
the preparations and sniffed,
“Balloons at a baby shower?
How corny can you get?”
Julie’s husband became his
most playful, expansive self one
evening when the subject of
sports came up. “Oh, Julie has
lots of skiing stories, don’t you,
honey?” he interjected. “Last
month she couldn’t even slide
thirty feet on perfectly flat
ground to get to her class!” As
he erupted in laughter Julie
giggled right along with him.
Later, one of her friends asked
her, “How could you let him say
that awful thing about you?”
Millie, Anna and Julie were
put down. They were zapped,
and thus confronted by one of
the more unpleasant little facts
of modern life. The put-down is
the zinger, the few loathsome

How to stand up
to put-downs

Here’s how to muster your defenses and fend off stinging verbal darts that can
permanently poison a friendship or devastate a marriage. By Madeline Pober

words that are meant to hurt or
humble. They can even be
sweet words, but the style be-
lies the substance: The intent
is nasty and nobody’ fooled.
Don Rickles and Joan Rivers
have made the put-down a na-
tional pastime, and most of us
grin when fast-food television
commercials use “Where's the
beef?” to jab at the competi-
tion. The put-down has become
increasingly prevalent, even fash-
ionable. But its victims still feel
the punch, even if they chuckle
to cover the hurt.

“A put-down doesn’t have to
involve a situation in which
someone is clobbering you,” says
Lee G. Wilkins, Ph.D., a psycho-
therapist who practices in New
York City. “It can be done in a
humorous kind of way, or it can
be extremely subtle. But it has
just enough of a nub of truth in
it to have a real impact.”

Usually uttered before an
audience, where it packs the
most punch, the put-down typ-
ically comes out of the blue and
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continued

before you can muster your defenses.
How you react depends on two signifi-
cant factors. The first is how you feel
about yourself. For if nothing else, put-
downs are perfect barometers of self-
esteem. Those who have it respond in a
spontaneous, natural way to put-downs
and walk away unscathed, while those
who lack a strong sense of self-worth
are usually frozen at the time and up-
set afterward. “Self-confident people,”
says Dr. Wilkins, “can probably deal
with put-downs quite effectively; poe
don’t short-circuit as fast as
unassertive individuals with
low self-esteem.”

But the second variable is
also crucial: who is doling
out the abuse. Not surpris-
ingly, put-downs from strang-
ers are the easiest to shrug
off. Phyllis, a thirty-nine-
year-old mother of two who
manages a small bookstore in
her Midwestern town, claims
that such attacks don’t really
bother her. “I’ve learned not to
give myself any grief over
digs from people I don’t even
know,” she says. “Just last
week, for example, I took
some clothes to the dry clean-
ers, and there was a new clerk
behind the counter. She was
going through the pile and
when she got to my green-and-
white striped silk blouse with a big
onion soup splotch on the front, she
stopped and said, ‘Heavens, these things
are really a mess.’ Well, they weren’t
any messier than anybody else’s stuff,
I'm sure, and I just laughed. Why should
I let a person like that get to me?”

Phyllis is right, of course. Barbed
words from a stranger shouldn’t have
much impact. But pair a dig with a more
meaningful environment such as the of-
fice or the volunteer bureau and the re-
sult is probably nagging pain. In Phyl-
lis’ case, any member of the bookstore
staff has the power to cut deeply because
the work milieu matters to her. “It has to
do with your investment in what they
think of you,” says Leah Schaefer, Ph.D.,
a New York City-based psychologist and
psychotherapist.

“The other day,” recalls Phyllis with a
grimace, “one of the men who work for
me—I mean, I’m his supervisor—asked
me if I had read a certain book review
that had been in the paper. I said I
hadn’t and he said, ‘Oh, too busy with
the kids, I suppose!’ Well, I was furious,
mostly because he was right. Amanda
had an ear infection last week and
it was all I could do to cope. But I just
hate ‘working mother’ gibes that come

from all the unmarried people at work.”

Yet if put-downs from colleagues are
unpleasant, abuse from close friends is
tantamount to betrayal—bad enough
when the two of you are alone but de-
structive when other people witness the
treachery. “There is shock,” says Dr.
Schaefer, “that from the very place you
expected understanding or friendship,
you got a hostile jab instead. You care for
somebody, and she turns against you
suddenly. You're so devastated that
you're just reeling from it.”

This sort of thing is just what hap-
pened to Roberta, whose good friend
Claudia is also her co-leader of a grade-

put-downs best

by turning on their heels
and walking out, while
others treat attackers

as if they didn’t exist.

school parents’ group. Claudia
is an aggressive organizer;
Roberta, a creative but quiet
collaborator. At one large
meeting Roberta uncharacteristically
asserted herself on an organizational is-
sue. When Claudia once again took the
floor, she oozed with invidious sweet-
ness, “Oh, it’s so great for you to speak at
meetings—we hope Roberta always
speaks.” Roberta’s teeth clenched, and
she thought—but did not say—“You
fool, how dare you be so patronizing to
me.” The bitter thought lingered, eating
away at their mutual trust. Eventually,
Roberta mustered the courage to con-
front Claudia about the incident and for-
tunately the tale has a happy ending:
Claudia admitted to resenting having
her power eroded by Roberta’s speaking
out, and she was big enough to apolo-
gize. In this case the hostile put-down
that could have destroyed a friendship
ended up strengthening it.

Friendships, however, are not usually
as emotionally charged as are familial
ties, and gibes tossed between spouses
and other family members are the most
dangerous of all—though astonishingly
common. And often, when a wife com-
plains of being made fun of, her husband
will dissemble, “But I was only teasing!”

ome people handle

Many women just learn to put up wi
marital put-downs even though they

aching inside. Joan, a forty-year-o
Texan active in community chari
work, ruefully recalls one of the famil
frequent Sunday barbecues for friends

“I was bringing out a fancy pie I
proud of when my husband, Art, wi
cracked, ‘Mother's got a lot of talents
too bad cooking isn’t one of them.’
two sons slapped their knees and th
the older one piped up, ‘Better watch
everyone, the last time Mom made thi
Dad was sick for days.’”

“Putting down or making fun
Mother can be an ingrained habit th
gets to be a joke among ail t
men in the family,”
Wilkins says. “Mother is 0
long-suffering about it, b
there’s a powerful underc
rent of hurt and anger ther

Joan was indeed silent, b
to herself she thought ven
fully, [ll get him where
hurts later on. Yet she nev
had the nerve, and unf
tunately, later on it was Jo
who continued to suffer—s
got a migraine. Harvey
Ruben, M.D., associate clir
cal professor of psychiatry
Yale University and the
thor of Competing (Pinna
Books, 1981), who practices
New Haven, says of spo
teases, “It could be a ga
that theyre playing wi
each other, but if one person is bei
hurt by it and the other person is c
tinuing to do it, then it surely is we
ening the fabric of the marriage.”

Meanwhile the victims end up wi
splitting headaches, knots in th
stomachs and murder in their hearts
all because they didn’t get back. B
could it be that, unlike men, we’re p
grammed not to respond?

“Women have been raised to be pol
and sweet in our society,” says
Harold Greenwald, a California-ba
clinical psychologist. Men, on the ot
hand, learn to give and take ver
roughness. “From the early days
locker-room banter to later years
joshing roasts, men are more comfo
able dealing with verbal attacks
gressively, because it’s something t.
they’re used to,” says Dr. Ruben. A
because women aren’t used to it, w
they do get catty, they’re usually ou
really wound someone.

Whatever their relative social pr
ess, at times both men and wo
can have trouble handling put-do
Everyone has periods when self-c¢
fidence withers. Fatigue, stress over
nances or a child’s health, or tensi
at work—all can create vulnerabili
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Greenwald, “is that people take that ini-
tiating incident and continue to dwell on
i} it sometimes for weeks, even months.”
3 =©6-: You get the why-didn’t-I’s. You relive
the moment endlessly, flagellate your-
N} self with it, wish you'd handled the inci-
dent better. Your dissatisfaction with
yourself is nourished by yet another poi-
son dart. In this way the put-down works
as a masochistic tool.

It would be nice, certainly, if all of us

lm always had the perfect rejoinder ready,
as did Dorothy Parker, a writer widely
celebrated for her wit. One classic bit of
dialogue involved another writer with a
quick tongue, Clare Boothe Luce, with
whom Parker feuded over the years.
They had both arrived at a door at the
same time, and Luce deferred, saying to
Parker, “Age before beauty.” Without
missing a beat, Parker retorted, “Pearls
before swine,” as she swept dramatically
through the open door.

But most of the time people don’t
manage to come back with a witty re-
mark. “There are some people who will
never learn how to use words quickly,”
says Dr. Schaefer. “Other people are good
with words and quick, but cannot orga-
nize their minds for rejoinders.”

Luckily, there are alternative tech-
niques for putting put-down artists in their

places. “Some people handle put-downs
best by turning on their heels and walk-

ing out,” says Dr. Schaefer, “while some

others treat attackers as if they’re noth-
ing, pretend they didn’t even hear them.”

Self-awareness is critical. Cynthia, a
thirty-five-year-old schoolteacher, knows
she handles herself well in front of an

“audience.” At a recent community

meeting to discuss the purchase of a

traffic light, a viperish neighbor re-
»marked to a group of people as Cynthia
and her husband walked into the room,
“Well, now, look who’s honoring us with
their presence!” Cynthia maintained
the “posture of dignity” that works for
her. “I know how to conduct myself so
| that the other person looks like a fool.
If their remark is off, they’re going to
| appear ridiculous.” This is known as
“putting them on quiet time,” says Dr.
Greenwald. “You can also simply ask:
MW) ‘Why are you doing this?’ which at
Wa) the right moment can put the offender
} on the defensive.”

“We can all learn how to handle our-
\selves,” says Dr. Schaefer, “how to eval-
‘uate a situation and know what's best
‘for us. Some people love confrontation,
‘love the tangle of it, and some people
ihate it. If you have some self-confidence
‘and awareness, you might never excel
iat verbal warfare, but that doesn’t
‘mean you'll be devastated by it.”

Cynthia used her air of confidence to

freeze out her heckler and make the
woman look silly. Anna, who had si-
lently seethed through the baby shower,
found a different way to turn a put-down
to her advantage. She’d walked into an
afternoon function for the neighborhood
association when one of the women—
whom she didn’t like and hadn’t seen for
a while—asked what she’d been doing.
Anna answered, “Interior decorating,”
whereupon the woman turned to two of
her friends and said patronizingly, “How
do you like that; she’s doing interior dec-
orating.” Anna immediately turned to
one of these friends—whom she liked
very much—and said animatedly, “Yes,
its really great! I love it!” And they
started talking excitedly about Anna’s
latest success. Dr. Greenwald calls this
tactic “joining, then reframing.”

This technique won’t always help, of
course. Sometimes there’s no way to re-
shape the speaker's meaning. But it
helps to remember that people who put
others down most often do so in order to
build themselves up. They may act su-
perior, but they feel inferior.

“A person who is constantly putting
people down probably has feelings of
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she wouldn’t be acting that way,” Dr.
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push them away and keep that distance
with these quips.” She adds, “It’s usu-
ally done to someone with whom they
think they can get away with it.” And
certain people are easier to put down
than others. As English writer William
Hazlitt said, “The way to procure in-
sults is to submit to them. A man meets
with no more respect than he exacts.”

On the other hand, it is possible to
hear put-downs when they’re not even
there. If around each corner lurks some
verbal killer, and your reaction is al-
ways emotional and lasting, you may
have a problem. “If you don’t feel good
about yourself, you probably take to
heart what other people say, and feel
that whatever the other person is say-
ing is the truth,” says Dr. Ruben. Per-
haps in this case, it would be wise to
heed the words of the Roman philoso-
pher Seneca: “It is often better not to
see an insult than to avenge it.”

Most of us are normal neurotics:
We're aggravated if one of the sniper
attacks hits home, but most of the petty
insults get lost in the past; they never
much mattered. Those we do remember
teach us for next time. We learn that
self-awareness and self-esteem form
the best armor. And although we might
not be as witty as Dorothy Parker, we
can all know and like ourselves well
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Are your kids going back to school
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hereditary: For example, if you have
hammertoes or bunions, be on the
lookout for similar problems in your
children’s feet. (A podiatrist can pro-
vide specific exercises and suggest
other precautions to help minimize
those inherent weaknesses.) Here are
some other tips from Dr. Scholl’s on
caring for children’s feet.

®@ Check shoe size every three months.
(For children under six years old, make
that every four to eight weeks.) Don’t
wait for a child to tell you his shoes no
longer fit: Developing feet often don’t
hurt, even when squeezed into shoes
that are way too small.

e How can you tell if the shoe fits prop-
erly? The rule is that there should be a
thumb’s width between the child’s toe
and the end of the shoe—but remem-
ber, that’s the child’s thumb, not yours
or the salesperson’.

e It’s not just the shoes that count: Be
sure your childs socks are the right
size, too. If they’re too small, they'll
make the toes curl under.

®@ Teach your kids to cut their toenails
properly—straight across, not on an
angle—to prevent ingrown toenails.

@ Give your child frequent heel-to-toe
foot checks. Look for tender spots, red-
ness, white patches indicative of ath-
lete’s foot, shiny or cracked skin, puffi-
ness and ingrown toenails.

@ Running shoes can be an excellent
choice for active children, as long as
you buy good ones. Look for arch sup-
port, rubber reinforcement at heel and
toe, and good resilient soles. (But don’t
let kids wear running shoes without
galoshes on rainy or snowy days, cau-
tions the American Podiatry Associa-
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dampness for any length of time can
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frostbite, is characterized by blistering,
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@ Finally, don’t worry if you’ve let your
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PARENTING TIP

Do the snaps on the legs of baby’s
overalls keep popping open? Here’s an
easy way to fix them. Very gently, tap
the knob (the half of the snap that has
the protruding part) with a hammer.
Try the snap. If it doesn’t fit tighter,
tap and test again. The snap will
work perfectly.

—Candace Danner, Westland, MI

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Red pepper sauce gives it zip.

In blender combine 2 cans (14% oz.
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Add 2 tablespoons sour cream, 1
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Toaster-oven broiled until golden.

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IT HAD TO PASS AN EYE TEST.

At Frigidaire, good design
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For example, take this life-
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It’s readable. In fact, if you
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If you also consider how
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(many range knobs aren’t),
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off (so you can clean behind it,
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An uncommon display of
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You see, no matter where
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Not only does it lift

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Its continuous “upsweep”’
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BEFORE WE PUT THIS DIAL ON OUR RANGE

Cres Cael Ceceteh

By Betty Friedan

I knew the minute I heard about the expedition that I wanted to go
along. I'd made a resolution years ago that I was going to give myself
some adventure—trekking in the Himalayas, a boat down the Amazon,
something like that—before it was too late.

B fi What is a woman of my age doing,
e ore planning to set off on an Outward
Bound wilderness survival expedition in the North
Carolina mountains with nine strangers? Of course,
I’ve always had a secret yen for exploration, adven-
ture. But that sort of thing doesn’t appeal to my
friends, and I hate traveling alone. Besides, I’m al-
ways too busy with deadlines, my house, my kids,
the women’s movement and research for my new
book on the age mystique.

And though I am too embarrassed to talk about it
much, I myself had been suffering from that denial
and dread of age that makes it so hard to truly
celebrate the milestone birthdays—forty, fifty, sixty,
even thirty. I had been seeking out individuals, en-
vironments, experiences that seemed to promise a
different kind of breakthrough, which I call “The
Fountain of Age.” That is how I happened to be ina
health spa last winter, where I came across a zesty

woman whom I thought had to be around thirty-
three until she came in to dinner with her children
and grandchildren. She mentioned that she had just
signed up for an experiment that Outward Bound
was planning for September, for the first time, for
people over fifty-five. “Would you send me their liter-
ature?” I heard myself asking... .

She had to be kidding! “Going Beyond—lIntensive
for Adults 55+” included an intimidating four-page
medical exam form for my doctor to fill out, plus
another four pages on physical conditioning. “Work
yourself up to three or four miles of continuous jog-
ging for at least one month before your course be-
gins. Do as many sit-ups and push-ups as you can in
one set on a daily basis . . . pull-ups to build upper
body strength...”

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enough to lug two or three too-heavy suitcases through
srowded airports. Given feminist morality, I wouldn’t let a
man carry my bags for me. On the other hand, how could
anyone, male or female, carry in a backpack all the stuff on
she Outward Bound required clothing list? All this wool—
pants, shirts, sweaters, socks, gloves. “Wool is warm though
wet,” it says. Where am I going to find wool in August? And
there’s a whole page about boots. (“You will need to put about
‘hirty miles on your boots to break them in. . . .”)

I figured ’'d manage the whole thing by jogging three and a
ialf miles every morning for a week with my new jungle boots
m—that’s twice around the Central Park bicycle track across
rom my apartment in New York. My friends call my seven-
een-minute mile a “schlog,” and even my doctor says I should
ry to make it more “aerobic.” But when it comes to filling out
he Outward Bound medical-exam form, he says, “Are you out
f your mind? I can just see you halfway up some mountain,
1aving an asthma attack.”

“Come off it, Charlie,” I protest. “It’s a program designed
or people my age. They’re not going to have us climb rocks
anything dangerous like that.”

He calls the Outward Bound staff and they agree I’m not
o do anything I don’t “feel up to.” “You can go,” my doctor
ays, “but I still think you’re crazy.”

»aturday Leaving myself no time for second thoughts, I
pend the plane ride to North Carolina proofreading an
verdue manuscript, which I drop into an airport mailbox
vith a scribbled note of instructions in case I don’t come
vack alive. Among a crowd of teenagers getting into vans I
ee a couple of sturdy Sunday-school-teacher types, a mus-
ached man who looks like a spaghetti commercial, a hearty
nd balding giant in suspender overalls (plumber, under-
aker, small-town grocer?) and my friend Cecelia. “You ac-
ually came!” she says. “Why not?” I growl.

On the van heading for our first campsite, we eye each
ther suspiciously. First names only, we are told, and no
what do you do, where do you come from?” As we ride
cross the state lines, first into South Carolina, then
reorgia, we learn that we will not be told where we are
‘oing and what we are going to do much before it happens.
‘he three “leaders” giving out all this information are lean,
quscular, marathon-runner types—Dave, Judy, Keg. The
even of us victims introduce ourselves with hearty bluff-
ess, nervous laughs or (me) noncommittal blankness:
‘uth, Letha, Jerry, Earl, Bob, Cecelia, Betty—an unglamor-
us- looking lot, long-in-the-tooth middle-American, except
yr Cecelia, chic in jungle camouflage from head to toe.

At the first campsite, a grassy little hill off the road, our gear
3 handed out: backpack, poncho, sleeping bag, ground cloth,
im cup (which is to serve as eating plate, drinking cup, and
ashing bowl), spoon, water bottle, and iodine to purify the
rater. We are to pack all this, plus our clothes, in the backpack.
‘ut first we form what is later referred to as a “trust circle.”
‘ach person massages the neck and shoulders of the person in
‘ont, then pits her strength against his, hand-to-hand, to see
tho can force the other’s arm down. Well, Bob with the mus-
ache is clearly bigger than I am. I put my energy to the task—
nd nearly knock him and myself over! “You’re not supposed to
‘0 at it so intensely,” he says, patronizing.

And now a little sunset jog, three miles down the road
ind back. We are assured that Outward Bound is not com-
‘etitive, that each person moves at his own pace. But every-
ne’s pace is clearly a lot faster than mine. That mousy-
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between us, in addition to all our own
junk, the two kerosene stoves, tarpaulins
for lean-tos, large water jugs for cooking
and a week's worth of foodstuffs. We are
to organize our own menus, cooking,
cleanup. They instruct us on the proper
ecclogical use of the shovel for toilet, and
the disposal of toilet paper, “though
leaves would be better.”

As instructions are given on how to
put up the tarps and prime the stoves, I
feel my customary mechanical inept-
ness set in. What on earth can I do well
at all, in this Going Beyond craziness
I’ve gotten myself into? Then it occurs
to me that nobody has touched the un-
appetizing mess of dried-food bags and
cans. I realize that I could make a curry
out of the canned chicken, dried ba-
nanas, apples, raisins, rice. There is, at
least, curry powder, plenty of dried
garlic and a couple of fresh onions and
carrots. I’ve never actually made chick-
en curry, but I’ve eaten a lot in Indian
restaurants. Sex-role stereotypes not-
withstanding, I set some of my new sis-
ters to chopping up the onions and car-
rots and opening the cans. I even dream
up an Indian-style salad—yogurt, cu-
cumber, green pepper, tomatoes. My
Going Beyond mates are suitably im-
pressed by the creative mix of fruit and
fowl. Craig Claiborne, you should see
me now! No wine, alas.

After the meal, we sit around the
campfire and share why each of us is
here, “going beyond.” Ruth, a sensible-
looking woman, says with a perky gleam
in her eye: “I’ve had the feeling lately
my horizons are closing in. I’ve done my
best for the kids. I’d like to climb a few
peaks before I settle for a rocking chair.”

Earl, the huge Southern hulk with
the slightly pompous manner of a judge
or minister or Rotary Club toastmaster,
was attracted, quite simply, by “the
risk of it. To come here for ten days,
completely removed from anything
we're used to, not knowing what will
happen, who the others will be.”

This is one of the rare Outward
Bound groups in which women out-
number men. Do women become more
adventurous with age? After they’ve
lived through or grown beyond the fem-
inine mystique, are women more likely
to take risks or relish new ways to
test themselves than men are? Could
that be one reason women live longer?

I smooth my sleeping bag over a flat,
fragrant bed of pine needles. Lying
there, looking at the stars from my
sleeping bag, I feel surprisingly com-
fortable, free of the vague fears that
keep me brooding, awake, at home. I
give, and get, too much of my energy
now in that impersonal public life;

strangely, I sometimes get a hint of
that nameless feeling women used to
complain of, “trapped” inside their role
as housewives-mothers—or men in
their breadwinner role. I’m somebody's
wife, somebody’s mother, I’m a lawyer
bucking for partner, ’m a spokesman
for women’s liberation—but who am I
myself? It feels good to be stripped
down to oneself, away from the role. It’s
a long time since I’ve had this feeling of
trying something really new . . . not
knowing what to expect.

Sunday The Chattooga River, where
we head now for two days’ shooting
rapids, is where the movie Deliverance
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become more
adventurous with

age? Could that be

one reason women

live longer than men?

was made. We are given life jackets and
hard hats. We pick up three guides, who
show us how to paddle the rubber rafts,
“drawing” right or left, and “ferrying”
across the current by heading beyond
where you really have to go and letting
the current swing you back. After
lunch, all the guides and instructors
get into one raft, and we make up the
“crews,” on our own, in the other two.
The rapids begin to get scary. We take
turns paddling in different positions. I
do not volunteer to be captain. I’m glad
no one here knows that I am supposed to
be a leader of women. Sitting up in the
bow, paired with that big guy, Earl, I
begin to get the hang of it—the rhyth-
mic swing of the paddle, the flick of the
wrist, and when and how to set the blade
against the current, or “draw” or
“sweep” in longer circles. They have put
Ear! on the left and me on the right,
because “draw left” is the crucial stroke
to get into and out of most of these
rapids. After we miss a few, it becomes
clear that Earl, despite his brawn, does
not have the extra upper-body strength
for a strong left draw. But if I sweep out
to the right and Cece behind me back-
paddles, Earl’s left draw works okay.
“Have you done this before?” asks Judy,
surprised at my sudden competence. “In
summer camp,” I remember. “In college.

And on my honeymoon. The Songi
River.” More than thirty years ago.

Now we go over Bull Sluice, a tor
tuous tunnel rapid that seems to dro}
twenty feet at least. Earl draws,
sweep right, we plunge over, there’
nothing to hang on to, the raft is hurl
ing down, slamming into the wall.
lean in, we hit bottom and paddle liki
crazy. Nobody falls in.

After we pull ashore, I take in thé
cliffs and the trees and the tired, soa
ing, amazed exhilaration that I’m sti
alive—what a beautiful river! Deli
erance indeed.

We hike up a hill above our campsité
to a road where the truck has broug
our backpacks. Carrying mine full
loaded for the first time, I barely manj,
age to get back down to camp. Thi
night I do not sleep well under th
stars. I'll never be able to climb ;
mountain with that weight on my back}
And since I volunteered to be in charg
of dinners, I have to carry those heav:
cans of oil and tomato sauce.

Cece has already asked Earl to ca
her share of the heavy camp pots. As
feminist, I have to disapprove. “You’r})
crazy,” she says. “Those guys happen
be stronger than we are.” Feelin
foolish, I ask Bob with the mustache i}
he’d mind adding the cans of tomat
sauce to his pack. He gives me a fish,
look. He’s probably thinking: “Womer#,
they want equal rights and still expedp
us to be chivalrous and carry theif
tomato sauce.”

At the “circle,” before dinner, w
take turns reading or reciting a med)
tation grace. Tonight, Bob reads a pas
sage from Thoreau from the back of t
North Carolina Outward Bound Schod
Journal: “I went to the woods because
wished to live deliberately, to front on
the essential facts of life, and see if
could not learn what it had to teacl
and not, when I come to die, discove
that I had not lived. I did not wish t
live what was not life, living is so deaj
nor did I wish to practice resignatio
unless it was quite necessary.”

Monday For Stage IV of this Chal}.
tooga River, a guide takes charge of eaci*
raft. These next rapids are too tric
for amateurs to navigate. In the cal
stretch below Five Falls, I take my tu

as captain, and manage to steer t
clumsy raft from the stern.

The young guides tell us how the
dreaded taking on people as “old” as w
are. But, as it turns out, they did
have to exert any extra effort. We ai
the first group in years to have no o
fall overboard.

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the guides, they and the troika try jj.
figure out what made the differenc\}»
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show off and outdo one another, like the
kids do.” Maybe we’ve outgrown macho,
even the men? “You listened more in-
tently than other groups do,” Dave ven-
tured. “I guess you made up for dif-
ferences in muscular strength by
cooperation.” Maybe wisdom?

On the truck back into Carolina, we
practice tying complicated knots with
ropes we are now handed, along with
compass and whistle. The truck depos-
its us at a lookout point halfway up a
mountain range. The peak is awesome,
remote, but it does not occur to me to
turn back. Earl helps me hoist my pack
onto my back and adjust the shoulder
strap. It seems awfully heavy. A good
thing I unloaded the tomato cans on
Bob, feminist ideology or not.

We leave the road, to climb up a
short, steep path to the ridge trail,
where we are supposed to camp to-
night. I literally double up under the
pack. What’s wrong with me? Age, after
all? Dave comes back down to investi-
gate. He says the pack doesn’t fit me
right. He says if I can just make it up
the first steep part of the path, the trail
itself is pretty level to the campsite,
and then I can trade my pack for one
that suits me better. I crawl on my
hands and knees under that ghastly
pack up to the ridge. I’m delaying ev-
erybody. I feel a terrible disappoint-
ment. I don’t want to quit “going
beyond.” This is what it must feel
like to be dumb in school.

Dave brings over his own personal
blue backpack to trade for mine. It’s
smaller and lighter, all right. Earl
comes over to my sleeping bag and in-
sists that I pack up and practice before I
go to sleep. I stand upright. The weight
seems to be carried by my hipbones
now. So it wasn’t the decline of age,
after all, but a matter of engineering!

Tuesday We squat on the ground,
learning to take our bearings with map
and compass. The troika leaves us to
make our own way over the ridge, to our
next destination, across Steele’s Creek.
Earl volunteers for the rear. He has been
so effortlessly the leader until now that I
~ figure he’s holding back to give the oth-
ers a chance. But I get very touchy when
he keeps coming up behind me and offer-
ing me a hand every time there’s a rock
to climb or a steep slide to negotiate.

It’s getting dark already. Surely it’s
not that late. A storm is coming. As we
get out our lunch, a circle is called. The
troika, which has rejoined us, orders all
food and common camp gear into the
middle. What now? What's now is “soli-
tary”—each one of us is deposited in our
own little spot of wilderness along the

creek to survive alone for the next
twenty-four hours.

My spot is a dense jungle of black-
green vines (wild giant rhododendrons),
choking tall trees (pine, spruce, what-
ever), rotting branches, stumps, rocks,
and dank masses of vegetation, rising
rather steeply from the creek bed. Only
one place, six or eight square feet be-
tween some trees, seems level enough to
set up camp in. Some big fallen branches
are clotting it up. I drag them out of the
way, clear the rocks off my floor of decay-
ing leaves. It’s surely going to rain soon.
I construct a diagonal roof ridge, knot-
ting together the longest pieces of rope,
and drape the poncho into a geometric

can't control

the ropes at all.
I am swinging out
from the cliff face,
heading for the corner

of the precipice.

teepee. Call me Frank Lloyd Wright! I set
up my ground cloth underneath, sticking
out a bit on each side, put my sleeping
bag under the central peak, and the pack
with my clothes underneath for a pillow.

Its chilly and dark already in this
dank, rotting jungle—although it can’t
be much more than six o’clock. Nothing
to read. They expect you to meditate, I
suppose, but I never know what they
mean by “meditate.” I think by the seat
of my pants, in action as it were. I get
into my sleeping bag, and it starts to
rain. Hard. I am getting wet, from un-
derneath! The funny thing is, all my life
Ive been terrified of being alone. And
now, I’m not even scared! Being alone is
not my problem—it’s how to keep my
sleeping bag from getting wetter. They
keep warning us about hypothermia—if
you get too cold and wet, your body tem-
perature falls, and you could die even
though you don’t feel freezing cold.

After endless hours, too wet to sleep, I
see a light approaching. It’s Dave, check-
ing, “solitary” or no. Am I cold? Oh no, I
say cheerily, just a bit wet. He says it’s
because my ground cloth is sticking out
beyond the edges of my shelter; it draws
the water in. After he leaves, I kick my-
self for being so macho—and take an
asthma pill, just in case.

But, strangely enough, even so wet,

and beginning to feel the cold, I don’t
have an asthma attack. My adrenalin
must work in the face of real danger.
Maybe all I have to fear is fear itself?
only this long wet night would end.

Wednesday Back at the campsite, the

troika has made a huge fire and cooked a
hot chowder. Judy has even baked gin-
gerbread. I toast my wool-wet body by
the fire till steam pours out around me.
It starts to rain again; we make a circle
under the tarp to share our solitary ad-
ventures. There is a new bond between
us, an elation we all share now, together
again, having survived the twenty-four
hours alone.

After the meal, we set off for our next
destination, an island in the creek’s
fork. The troika calls another circle
and warns of the real dangers of hy-
pothermia for those of us with wet
sleeping bags. They suggest we zip
them together to pool our body heat.
The women are willing, without regard
to gender, but the men clearly don’t
want to. We women decide to pool our
own heat and let the men fare for them-
selves. Interesting that we women are
more attuned to survival, transcending

modesty and inhibitions, than the men.

Thursday By morning, between the
shared body heat and the wind, my bag
and clothes and even my jungle boot
are dry. We set off for a poetic sounding
spot called Starry Night, which turn
out to be a dirty campsite.

As we sit around the campfire that
evening, a couple of strange figures
crash out of the darkness. They are in
troduced as Ann and Kitty, our “climb
ing instructors” for tomorrow. They are
professional mountain climbers who
have been scaling rock and ice peaks
for some years now. Rock climbing?

Friday We are given hard hats again,
and heavier ropes to knot around ou
legs like diapers and secure with belay.
ing pins. On flat ground, we simulate
climbing “on belay”’—that is, with a
rope around your waist attached to the
waist of the person at the top, secured
in turn by a rope around a tree. The
leader belays your slack, or holds you
up if you fall. And “on rappel,” you ga
down a sheer perpendicular cliff b
bracing your feet against the rock, to aj
rope that she plays out from above.
One by one, we each have to belay up
a sixty-foot cliff. I can’t even seem to get
started. I finally find a quarter of an
inch crevice for a toehold, and a teeny
little rock nipple to get a hand around)
About ten feet from the top, I get stuck
My legs are beginning to tremble. I a
terrified of looking down—everybod
else seems to have finished and they
are all yelling (continued on page 152

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Women are
talking about
the most
vital issue

of our time.

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you be
listening?

uring the last
days of summer,
Americans talk.
As the children
spray one another
with water from
the hose and the
supper cooks on
the barbecue, the grown-ups sit
and share what’ on their minds.

I remember the summer
when all we talked about was
the hideous quagmire of Viet-
nam. It seemed such an un-
solvable problem then.

A decade ago, we talked
about Watergate. The President
had just resigned. The unthink-
able had happened, perhaps be-
cause people had been talking
about Watergate for so long that
their voices were loud enough to
be heard across the land.

Other years, other summers,
we discussed the energy crisis
and inflation. As we talked and
set the table and called the kids,
we didn’t come up with solu-
tions to any of these tough prob-
lems. But just by expressing
and sharing our concern, we

& PEAC

were able to make those who
could deal with these problems
understand that we, the people,
wanted some better solutions.

This summer, I think, people
are going to be talking about
the toughest problem of all, nu-
clear disarmament. Many of us
have grown deeply concerned
about what is certainly the most
important and treacherous is-
sue of our time. Of course, there
is no real debate about this sub-
Ject. Who wants the horror of a
nuclear war? But as we discuss
how to keep the peace, each side
calls the other's views irrational
and overly emotional; each side
accuses the other of being naive
and dangerous.

Still, it is vital that we keep
discussing this issue, listening
to different viewpoints, decid-
ing what we believe.

In the following article, a va-
riety of concerned women share
their feelings about nuclear
arms. We hope what they say
will start you and your family
talking, too.

—Myrna Blyth, Editor-in-Chief

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“T think we’re closer to nuclear
war now than we’ve ever been
... even closer than during the
Bay of Pigs crisis,” says Joanne
Woodward from the plush office
she shares with husband, Paul
Newman, on New York’s Fifth
Avenue. “We are not achieving
anything by a buildup of weap-
ons that we cannot possibly
use. We all know rationally
that the first country that sets
off a weapon is guilty of geno-
cide, because it’s not possible to
use just one nuclear weapon.
There would have to be escala-
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physicist, has told us that if this
happens, the world as we know
it will be destroyed.”

To Woodward, fifty-four,
there is nothing complicated
about this issue. She believes
the escalation of arms is mov-
ing us all closer to oblivion.
“You can talk weapons systems
and how many they have and
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an irrational argument. We can quote
numbers until we’re all blown up, but
that isn’t going to change what's happen-
ing. What's going to change things is for
people to say, we cannot think this way.

“Only in dialogue is there any hope,”
she continues. “If I were President, I
would be on that phone hours at a time,
saying we must talk. The United States
and Russia need to understand that
there is no way we can achieve any-
thing by fighting. The world cannot ex-
ist with this kind of tension.”

A new view of world relations will
also be helped, Woodward believes, by
the increasing involvement of women.
That’s one reason she is chairing the
first National Women’s Conference on
Preventing Nuclear War, which will be
held in Washington, D.C., this month.
“Eleanor Roosevelt said it’s up to the
women. She said that in 1933. I think
maybe she was correct, because I think
that men have always prepared for war.
That’s the way they think. Women are
much more concerned with the idea
that they have borne children and have
nurtured them, and they don’t want to
see them destroyed.”

Defending ourselves
in a dangerous world

“We're all in the same boat,” says
Kathleen Troia, the principal deputy
assistant secretary of defense for public
affairs. “Just about everyone wants
peace, but peace is a goal, not a specific
policy. The more women learn about
the subject, the more they’ll realize
that it’s not as simple as it may seem.
There are some very tough questions
you have to ask about how you defend
yourself in a dangerous world.”

Troia has been asking tough ques-
tions about the nuclear arms race and
Soviet-U.S. relations since she began
working for Henry Kissinger as a part-
time secretary when she was a college
student. Now, at thirty-three, she is the
civilian equivalent of a three-star gen-
eral, and has worked very closely with
Defense Secretary Caspar Weinberger,

writing many of his public statements
over the last few years. She also wrote
President Reagan’s famous “Star Wars”
speech of March 1983, wh »)ked to-

- attack
eap-

ward a future in which a nui
might be prevented by defens
ons in space.

Not surprisingly, Troia takes < d-
line view of the country’s defense
gations and firmly believes that a n
tary balance must be maintained to
prevent Russian aggression. “It is ver:
clear that the Soviet Union has signifi-
cant advantages,” she explains. “In the
1970s, we had a cumulative decline of

20 percent in our defense spending, while
they were embarked on the most mas-
sive military buildup the world has ever
seen. Some say that imbalance doesn’t
matter, but I disagree. Unless we com-
pensate for our own decade of neglect,
that advantage could, in time, become
significant enough that the Soviet
Union would be tempted to exploit it.”

To keep this from happening, says
Troia, the United States must maintain
its ability to retaliate in kind. “Deter-
rence is, quite simply, letting your adver-
sary know that the costs to him of ag-
gression will far outweigh any potential
gains. We have let it be known that, were
we attacked, we would respond to the

ere ata

place in

the world where
we don’t need

more weapons.”

attack and wreak an equivalent amount
of damage. It’s this threat that we feel
has kept the peace for forty years.”

For that reason, Troia believes a nu-
clear freeze would be a mistake. Worse
yet, she says, is the idea that the Unit-
ed States should take the initiative and
simply begin to disarm itself. “When
people say, ‘Let’s have unilateral disar-
mament, they forget that this is not a
particularly nice world we live in. I
think it’s very foolish to put your faith
in the hope that a nation that has shown
itself aggressive will treat you fine.”

The realistic way to prevent the hor-
ror of a nuclear war, Troia says, is to
couple a strategy of deterrence with
continued scientific research into the
development of defensive weapons, and
to continue negotiations for arms re-
ductions. “I think the combination of
all three of these steps, over time, will
probably make us far safer,” she says.

Protecting the earth

“T like to think of my role as a voice
from the land,” says Linda Kirkbride, a
Wyoming rancher with intense brown
»ves. “The smell and touch of the earth,
the rolling grasslands that I can see for
1iles—these have become so much
» meaningful to me since I’ve be-

gun to speak out on this issue.”

It’s no surprise that Kirkbride thinks
about nuclear war more than mos
Americans. On the Wyoming ranc
that she shares with her husband an
three young children are three missiles
and a launch control site that is manne
24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Eacl]
one of these missiles is hidden under ¢
concrete slab that can roll back to allo
the missile to be launched. Each on
could destroy about eighty Hiroshimas

To Kirkbride, the continuing nuclea’
buildup in this country just doesn
make sense.

“It’s time to stop,” she says, lookin
out over the pine trees and garden be
hind her three-bedroom house. “Twent
years ago, Secretary of Defense Robe
McNamara said we had enough nuclea
weapons to wipe out the whole world
You’d have enough with two hundre
and fifty weapons on each side. Now
have more than ten thousand each.

“We're at a place in the world whe
we don’t need more weapons. We ha
enough. The Soviets have enough, to
But they have responded that as long g
we're building, they'll build, and we’
responded that as long as they’re build
ing, we'll build. That sort of thinki
has got to come to a halt.”

Kirkbride, thirty-five, has been e
pecially critical of the MX missil
which the government would like
install in silos in Wyoming. She b
lieves this would make us vulnerab
since those silos are already targeté¢
by the Soviet Union, and would give
clear message of aggression that wou
be very dangerous to the world. “To ma
the Soviet leadership more paranoid
probably the worst thing we can do.

“Tm trying to be as careful as I ca
not to be naive,” she continues. “I’m
saying ‘take our missiles out.’ I knq
that until the Soviets do some serio
dismantling of their own, we can’t 1
tally disarm. But we can do somethi
to show good faith.”

Today, Kirkbride has two visions
the future. In one, she sees her bea'
ful land reduced to a large, empty bla
crater. In the other, she sees hope.
have this picture in my mind of
grandchildren or even my great-gra
children taking me by the hand a
leading me to the missile sites, a
showing me that the missiles are bei
dismantled. ‘See, Grandma,’ they'll s
‘the country doesn’t need these a
more. We can use this land for crops

“We must defend ourselves”

“There are a lot of things worse thi
death,” says Jane Budde, a forty-ty
year-old mother of two who lives i)
barn-red house in Lawrence, Kanss
“Tm a Christian, and I believe tial
death is not the end. I would rather 3
survive than live under (continu

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dead than red.’ I hope there’ a solution. B
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and we can’t be bullied.”

Last year, a television movie abo
nuclear war, The Day After, mad
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of America’s intercontinental missif
defense is based in Kansas. And Buddy
like many residents, participated
the movie as one of the extras.

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munications between the major powe
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to bargain from a position of strengt

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people on the right are of the opin
that we should ‘ nuke ’em till they g
in the dark and then shoot ’em.’
theyre wrong. I don’t want war.
body in her right mind wants war.
we have to be prepared for it. We me
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been translated into Lego bricks—
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2 ounces dried French lavender

1 ounce dried rosebuds

1 ounce orrisroot powder

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nop, suggests this misty morning
ath potpourri:

6 ounces rosebuds

4 ounces lavender flowers

2 ounces marjoram

2 ounces rosemary leaves

1 ounce pennyroyal

1 ounce patchouli

10 drops orrisroot oil

10 drops sandalwood oil

5 drops bergamot oil

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has some excellent packages—one of
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which includes hotel accommodations
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turn-of-the-century interiors.

But Copenhagen is by no means the
only attraction on Sealand. The
northern coast boasts a number of an-
cient brooding fortresses, among
them, Castle Kronborg in Elsinore—
better known as Hamlet's castle. The
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ied in this town’s magnificent cathe-
dral since the 12th century. Then
wander through the Viking Ship:Mu-
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from the Roskilde Fjord not long ago.

If your time in Scandinavia is lim-
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trip to Sweden. You can hydrofoil over
to Malm6, Sweden’ third largest city,
in the morning, visit the university
town of Lund in the afternoon and be
back in Copenhagen for cocktails.

To explore the other islands and the
Peninsula, you can either rent a car
or take one of the many bus or rail
tours. On the neighboring island of
Funen is Odense, birthplace of Hans
Christian Andersen. The surrounding
fairy-talelike countryside is famous
for its manor houses and castles.

If you cross over from Funen to the
Jutland Peninsula on the Little Belt
Bridge, you'll be a short, lovely drive
from Jelling, the old royal seat and
site of the famous Runic Stones erect-
ed by the Viking warriors Gorm the
Old and his son Harald Bluetooth.
Then drive to Ribe, Denmark's oldest

market town (founded in 948), with
its splendid five-aisled cathedral dat-
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Legoland Park is located.

If you have the time, continue north
through the idyllic lake district to
Silkeborg to see the Tollund Man, the
well-preserved 2,000-year-old man
found in the nearby peat bogs. Then
on to Viborg, with its lovely Roman-
esque cathedral and its frescoes, and
from there to Spettrup, a medieval
castle par excellence, complete with
herb garden and double moats.

For real Viking land, keep on to
Aalborg, where you'll find Lindholm
Hgje, the largest burial site of the
Viking period, then back down to
Hobro, with its Viking earth-ring
fort. (Kids are fascinated by these
mysterious places.) Coming back
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east coast you can see the other fa-
mous bog man, the Grauballe Man, in
Arhus, Denmark’s second largest city.
Or stroll through the collection of 17th-
and 18th-century houses, brought
here from all over the country. Ebel-
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folklore all its own, makes a pleasant
final stop in Jutland, and you can
ferry back to Sealand.

Denmark is a terrific place to go if
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there seems to be a never-ending sup-
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LONDON BROIL

1 beef top round steak (London broil) (about 3 Ibs.)

1 clove garlic, crushed

2 teaspoons cracked pepper

2 tablespoons olive oil

1 green pepper

1 large onion

2 garlic cloves

1 large eggplant (1'/ Ibs.)

2 zucchini (about % Ib.)

Y2 pound mushrooms

1 cup garlic-flavored vinaigrette

1 can (16 oz.) tomatoes with juice
Salt and pepper

Spread beef with garlic, pepper and oil. Broil for 10
minutes on each side for rare, 12 minutes for medium.
Cool and then chill.

Chop the green pepper, slice the onion and mince the
garlic. Leave skin on eggplant, but cut away stem and
chop into medium dice. Slice zucchini; wipe mushrooms
clean with a damp towel, then slice.

Place vinaigrette dressing into a large saucepan. Add
chopped vegetables and tomatoes with the juice. Simmer
uncovered until vegetables are soft and mushy, about 30
minutes, stirring occasionally. Taste, then season with
salt and pepper if needed. Cool, then chill.

When ready to serve, cut London broil into thin slices.
Serve with chilled vegetables. Makes 6 servings.

CHILLED TROUT WITH EGG
AND MUSTARD SAUCE

6 fresh or frozen trout, dressed
1 cup chicken broth
Juice of 1 lemon
Salt
hard-cooked eggs, finely chopped
tablespoons parsley, finely chopped
tablespoons scallions,
finely chopped
cup plain yogurt
cup mayonnaise
tablespoon prepared mustard
Parsley, dill, lemon slices, hard-cooked eggs

Preheat oven to 350°F. Place trout side by side in 13x9-
inch baking dish. Add chicken broth, lemon juice and ¥2

teaspoon salt. Cover with foil and
bake in oven for 30 minutes. Remove
from oven and cool, covered, in refrig-
erator. Chill for several hours.

In a bowl, combine remaining in-
gredients and stir until well blended.
Season to taste with salt.

Remove trout from cooking liquid
and drain on paper towels. Strip off
skin and remove heads and tails.

Place trout on serving platter and
spoon sauce evenly over them. Chill
until ready to serve. Garnish with
parsley, dill, lemon slices and sliced
hard-cooked eggs. Makes 6 servings.

CHICKEN TONNATO

6 chicken cutlets, about 2 Ibs.
(boneless, skinless chicken breasts)
Salt and pepper
Flour for dusting
Ys cup butter or margarine
1 can (62 oz.) tuna, drained
2 garlic cloves
2 tablespoons anchovy paste
Y2 cup olive oil
Y4 cup white wine vinegar
Y4 to Ys cup heavy cream
Chopped parsley
Drained capers

Sprinkle chicken cutlets with salt and
pepper. Dip chicken into flour and
coat. Shake off all excess flour.

Heat butter or margarine in a large
skillet and brown chicken breasts
slowly until cooked, about 25 min-
utes. Remove from pan, drain on pa-
per towels and place on a serving plat-
ter. Cover and chill.

Place remaining ingredients except
parsley and capers into a blender and
whirl until smooth. Pour sauce evenly
over chicken and chill several hours.

Just before serving sprinkle chick-
en with parsley and capers. If desired,
serve with sliced tomato, marinated
artichoke hearts, black olives. Makes
6 servings.

SMOKED HAM LOAF WITH
MUSTARD SAUCE

4 cups ground smoked ham (1 Ib.)

Y2 cup minced celery

4 slices white bread, crumbled

2 eggs

Y3 cup minced onions

1 tablespoon prepared mustard

Y4 teaspoon ground cloves

2 tablespoons frozen orange juice
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1 egg

1 tablespoon prepared mustard
¥Y2 cup corn oil
Yq cup cider vinegar
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ground ham, celery, bread, eggs, on-
ions and mustard. Shape mixture in a
loaf pan, then unmold onto a greased,
foil-lined, shallow baking pan. Bake
for 40 minutes.

In a small bowl, mix cloves, orange
juice concentrate and honey. Spread
mixture over ham and bake for an-
other 15 minutes. Remove from oven
and cool. Wrap and chill for 1 to 2 hours.

Combine sauce ingredients in a
blender and whirl until smooth. Cut
loaf into slices and place on serving
plates. Spoon sauce over slices and
serve. Makes 6 servings. End

From the book 32 Warm Weather
Dishes, by Helen Feingold. Copyright
© 1983 by Barron’s Educational Se-
ries, Inc. Published by Barron's Edu-

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of your job and make
the most of yourself
with these answers
to your questions

on working life.

By Shirley Sloan Fader

Pay raise. When I was hired, I was
promised a raise after six months. It’s
been eight months now and no raise.
What can I do?

Do you think your work is commend-
able? If so, remind them of that raise.
Many executives expect you to take
the initiative in requesting more
money, privileges or promotions. As
they see it, if you’re not saying any-
| thing, you must be satisfied. Also,
many employers continue to believe
that compliments and appreciation
will keep a woman employee happy,
whereas they expect to have to reward
a man with money and promotions to
keep him content. So make sure you
speak up for yourself.

If your request for a raise is re-
fused, there’s probably a hidden mes-
sage. Unless your boss can give you
reasons that make sense to you, you
should probably assume _the real
answer is: We’re not impressed with
your abilities and maybe it’s time to
think about another job.

Co-worker worries. Someone I work
with has personal problems, and the
quality of her work is slipping. As a
result, my work load is heavier. We
are not especially close and I don’t
know how to talk to her about it.

Concentrate on the change in her
work rather than on her personal be-
havior. Mention the areas of her job
that affect yours and let her know
what she needs to do in order for you
to do your own work. An example:

PS. 14

“Could you please get me all the price
data by Tuesday at noon every week
so I can get my Wednesday reports in 9
on time?” Since you’ve indicated that }
you have a stake in the matter, she'll J
realize that you’re not being a busy- bi
body and she may make a real effort 9
to meet your needs. Even if she}
doesn’t, be patient. Help is probably
on the way. If the quality of her work J
has really deteriorated, her superiors
will have noticed the change as well
and will be pressuring her to take
hold or leave.

Boss personality types. I solved af
problem that my boss has been strug- J
gling with for months. I did it eth-
ically just by getting around red tape.
Yet instead of being grateful, my boss
is furious. I don’t understand.

Your boss—like many—is probably a
security-oriented type. Management
consultant Dr. Andrew H. Souerwine
explains these supervisors want a
standard operating procedure for ev-
erything. They get upset and dis-
pleased if you question procedures or
even suggest changes. When you “go
around” the system, as you did, they
panic and get very angry. The next
time you're job-hunting keep in mind
that you will probably do better with
what Dr. Souerwine calls the “action-
oriented” boss, who will be impressed
with your creative problem-solving
skill as well as your ability to get
things accomplished.

Fear of promotion. I’ve been offered
a chance to move up, but I’m not
really sure I want the responsibility
of supervising other people. I get
quite nervous just thinking about the
problems that might come up.

Only you know your own goals and
personality. But a study by the Center
for Supervisory Research of seven
thousand people who were promoted
to supervisory positions showed that
most of them had worried unnecessar-
ily. More than 50 percent of the new
supervisors admitted that they were
initially very concerned about how tom”
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have, and what to do about subordi-f
nates’ complaints. If these anxieties
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that after being in their supervisory)
positions for a while, only about 10
percent of the recently appointed su-
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hard to handle. Overall, 80 percent of
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Making mistakes. When a problem
arises and youre clearly at fault, your
best response may be “I made a mis-
take” or “Yes, you're right.” Once
you've admitted your error, there’s not
much more anyone can say. They have
to drop the subject and go on to some
thing else. If you argue or deliver long
apologies and explanations, it empha
sizes the situation, branding the inci
dent into people’s memories.

Selling your ideas. When you're trying
to convince your boss or co-workers t¢

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“originality” of your idea. A report ir
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tions Management Review points ou

that people may say they want innovagy

tion, but they usually respond better i
you mention similar-sounding ideas
that have worked successfully.

Honestly . . . Beware of making state
ments like “Honestly, I didn’t know” o1
“Frankly, I was just trying to help.’
Although youre using them for empha;
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many people respond suspiciously t¢
words like “sincerely” or “honestly.” As
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your organization sells. When thei
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reasonable, it could lead to majo
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don’t feel capable of giving advieml wrth

about which item to choose.

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versation with your boss or co-wor}hll\
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questions until you find out what thf, ;
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Home

~~! One- paycheck —

D uring the past decade, it seems we've
heard only about working mothers. But
how does the other half live? (Forty-eisht
percent of all mothers with children under
six stay at home.) Turn the page for a special
report on todays full-time homemaker .. .
and how her lifestyle is affecting her family

and her own sense of identity.

By Barbara Wagner and Roberta Grant

AL am —_—

} Yest

ry 7,

LHJ, 1954

ways to express herself without neglecting her role
as a wife.” LH, 1954

“The happy wife adants
her mood to her

| husband’, conceals her
disappointments, and
puts the big chair by the
fire where he wants it,
even though it spoils
the effect she planned.”
LHJ, 1955

erday

“You have to learn to
be unselfish, to
put yourself second.”

“With a little thought, any resourceful woman can find

“Without realizing it,
you may have acquired
. | habits of speech and
\| behavior that irritate
your husband and
detract from your
appeal. See if you can’t
“f/f eliminate unnecessary
friction in your marriage
by cutting down on the
irritants.” LH, 1954

What's the difference between
a homemaker today
and one in the past? Plenty!

hen Sharon Schneide
returned to work a fe
months after giving
birth at twenty-seven tq
her daughter, Gretchen
she had a beautiful baby
girl, a devoted husband and a new position a
head nurse at a major California medical cen+
ter, a definite promotion over her last job. “I fel
as though I had achieved everything,” she re}
calls. “But the honeymoon didn’t last long:
While I loved my new job, the twelve-hour day¢
were exhausting. I saw Gretchen for about ong
hour each day, and it seemed as if she thought
the baby-sitter was her mother.Soon I began td
feel I wasn’t achieving my goals at work, my}
child didn’t know me, I wasn’t a wife to Frank. }
couldn’t seem to have any of it, let alone ‘have i
all.’ ” After careful thought, and at considera}
ble financial sacrifice, Sharon, now thirty-threef
decided to leave her career and return home t¢
be a full-time wife and mother.
@ Nancy Kaplan, a thirty-one-year-old New
York City interior designer, found that being :
working mother just didn’t pay. “When Brian wag.
six months old,” she remembers, “I went back t¢
work. Before the baby, although my salary wasn’}
huge, the money I made had been ours to spend}
suddenly, everything went to the baby-sitter.t
Nancy weighed the pros and cons of her wor}f’
situation and decided to put her career on hold if’
order to take care of Brian full-time.
@ “I’ve had a successful career,” says Maggi¢
Scott (not her real name), at thirty-five th 4
mother of two young children. Maggie once rel
ished the power and prestige of her highly paid’
position as vice-president at a large Chicag#*
advertising agency, but now she wants to expe}.
rience the rewards of being home. “I’ve won th: }
accounts, taken the trips, had the busines}
lunches at elegant restaurants,” she says. “Now ["
want to enjoy spending time with my children. '

Maggie, Nancy and Sharon exemplify a nev},
breed of American homemaker. Like millions ch,
wives, during the past fifteen years they’ve exh,
perienced both the benefits and the stresses chy
the two-paycheck marriage. Now, however, the},
have young children and they’ve decided thaf,
home is the right place for them to be. |

Although there are more working mother},
with children under six than ever before, thf,

yast five years have seen a steady decline in the
iumber of mothers with children this age who
mter the work force each year. According to
tatistics from the U.S. Department of Labor, 55
vercent of women who gave birth in 1982 did
1ot reenter the labor force even after a full
rear of mothering. Dr. Amitai Etzioni, an emi-
ent sociologist and professor at George Wash-
ngton University in Washington, D.C., says,
There's definitely a trend toward women leav-
ng their careers to be with their families. Nine-
een-eighty-two was the first year in seventeen
rears that the divorce rate went down. We’re
iow seeing a general return to the traditional
jvalues and the family structure. The thrust of
he seventies, where a woman placed her career
head of her children, is definitely over.”

Of course, millions of women never totally
| spoused the seventies career rhetoric in the
‘}irst place. They may have been working wives
ut they always counted on being stay-at-home
Jaothers at some point. Still, what’s intriguing
| bout this new generation of homemakers, and
ne factor that separates them from their fifties
nd sixties counterparts, is that being home
J oday is a conscious decision, an actively chosen
vay of life. Two decades of feminist struggle for
areer opportunities and equal pay have also
‘}arned women the right to find individual solu-
ions to the puzzle of combining personal goals
ith marriage and motherhood. And while it’s
rue that many young mothers must continue to
york due to financial necessity, when circum-
tances allow, some women have the courage
nd the conviction to choose the more tradi-
jional role of full- time homemaker, even if the

yjage: that women should be covering all the
_lases Simultaneously.

Still, new stay-at-homes need every bit of con-
jidence they can muster, for although their
_|hoice may seem, superficially, a return to tra-
ition, it is freighted with emotional and finan-
‘tial complexities that their predecessors never
liad to face. A woman during the fifties and
‘lven in the sixties knew every nuance of the
ole she was supposed to play as a full-time
iomemaker. Every voice she listened to—her
‘ja0ther, her husband, her favorite magazines—
rticulated what to do and how to be, even how
‘lo think and feel. Yet today there are fewer
ules and role models for the new stay-at-home
“aothers than for any other group of women in
ur society. For example, how does a woman
.ccustomed to earning an income and wielding

n her husband for grocery money? Can their
equal partnership” withstand this sudden im-
valance? How does the two-paycheck family ad-
ust to the sudden jolt of living on one salary?
low does this new (continued on page 142)

uthority feel when she’s suddenly dependent —

“I've had the career

success, the expense

account lunches.

Now I want to

enjoy spending time
with my child.”

“Being a mother has made me stronger, more sure of
myself. Now Jim and I make all our decisions together,
even figuring out the mortgage payments on the house.”

“A wife used to focus
on what was best for
m her husband and
children. I try to do
things that are

= important for me as

well as for my family.”

“When I told my husband
I wanted to stay home
with the baby, he
exploded. ‘What! We'll
never survive without

”

your salary.’

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on calories? Not with thes/
recipes for tasteful dining |.
created by master chef
Pierre Franey. So, indulge |
yourself with fabulous
eating on the light side.

iSourmet cookbook

Nhen cooking expert Pierre Franey,
thor of the weekly “60-Minute
xourmet” column in The New York
sg!umes, starts whipping up some low-
‘alorie classics, you know the results
1ave to be veritable masterpieces of
‘alorie-conscious cuisine. Fantastic
ish, chicken and veal entrees, as
vell as vegetables, salads, even lus-
y | :

*lious desserts, are made without
‘ream or flour-based sauces and with
just a touch of butter and salt. What
‘tives these culinary creations their

gourmet quality? Chef Franey’s wise
ways with herbs and spices, liqueurs
and wines added in just the right
amounts. Deluxe dining without heavy
sauces and fattening ingredients!
Here, Pierre Franey in his kitchen,
giving the final toss to his Pasta with
Mango and Vegetables. It’s a tender
mélange of macaroni twists, broccoli,
zucchini, tomatoes, mushrooms, green
onions and mellow mango, topped off
with a vinaigrette dressing. Recipes
for this and more begin on page 126.

“i =

ow-calorie
sourmet

cookbook

J. Barry O'Rourke

You won't miss a single thing (except the calories!) in
Pierre Franey’s new versions of traditional favorites.

More marvelous ways to keep calories
and fats down, flavor up. The main-
dish medley (opposite page, clockwise
from top) starts with Sauteed Chick-
en Provencal: hearty French country
cooking with a savory accent of garlic,
tomatoes and fresh mushrooms. Ham-
burger au Poivre Blanc: white pep-
percorns, dry red wine and a dash of
cognac make this chopped sirloin
main dish elegant enough for com-
pany. Poached Cod with Vegetables:
the satisfying mix includes carrots,
turnips and asparagus—as eye-ap-

pealing as it is delicious. And, last-
ly, Veal Navarin: a change-of-season
stew that’s spiced with garlic, thyme
and bay leaf. For dessert, three per-
fect endings. Poached Pears in Red
Wine and Honey: a taste of thyme, the
plus of peppercorns give them a deli-
ciously different zest. Apple Soufflé:
no egg yolks, no flour, just the season-
al wonders of juicy apples spirited
with calvados. Orange Slices in Cas-
sis: elegantly simple . . . simply extrav-
agant! Recipes for all the low-calo-
rie gourmet dishes begin on page 126.

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ad

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BACK TO SCHOGs

BEAUTIE

Makeup ABC's Question: What was the one ening her brows (eliminating stray hairs frou

_—

beauty product Karen needed most and didn’t bridge of nose, under curve of brow) creatd
Problems: uneven skin tone « even own? Answer: Concealer! We suggested a subtle, eye-opening effect. Switching froj
wild brows e outdated hairstyle the new liquid wand-type to cover the too- natural gloss to a rusty-red lip color (with a dil)
dark skin tones around her eyes. It instantly of light lip color blended at the center of Hf
erased Karen's “up-all-night-grading-papers’ bottom lip) gave her mouth much more empf
look. Other attention-getting changes: Neat- sis. And what did Karen's class think? “Prett?

Hair notes Karen's new asymmetrical hair-
style took shape when hair at the nape was
shingled for a sculptured back view. The new
length—half an inch above her ear tips—was a
cut above her old hairstyle. Finishing flour-
ish: bangs were cut at a forty-five-degree angle

= —

with rip-shear scissors. The new look rates

an apple for teacher—and for the hairstylist!

&...
Booth
Preschool

teacher
New York

| On the first day of a new term it's not just the kids

ywho want to make a great impression. Teachers do,
jtoo, whether they face a roomful of tearful toddlers

or tuned-in teens. So when four pedagogical pros
asked us to help start their educational year off

‘right by spiffing up their looks, we gave them a
basic beauty lesson. The results—grade-A gorgeous!

By Lois Joy Johnson, Beauty and Fashion Editor

, Problems: oily complexion -«
| schoolgirl hairdo

Carol Pollock
SCE va mre Colom Cai

Hair notes Caro! had been forcing her hair
into an unnaturally stiff look straight out of
her student days. She had kept to the same
routine of hot rollers, blow-drying and over-
highlighting for too many years. A short
course in restyling was needed to restore
shine and texture to her hair, and to create a
more flattering look. Hair length was snipped

Makeup ABC's Carol's first assignment—to
switch from her heavy superemollient foundation
that caked and clogged her pores to a lighter
water-based version. Next project—to brush up
on the pluses of translucent loose powder to cure
breakthrough shine. Extracurricular skin-care—
alternating a cleansing mask for oily skin with a
revitalizer that would keep her skin clean, smooth
and soft. When it came to color choices, we told
Carol that the strong purple and blue eyeshadows
she had favored were wrong for her. Combined
with a pink-toned foundation and frosty, berry
shades of lip and cheek colors, they worked
against the glowing golden tones of her natural
complexion. For a look that would make her
third graders sit up and take notice (and maybe
even learn their multiplication tables!) Carol
needed to use sunnier makeup shades. Our sug-
gestions—a gold-toned base and warm coppery-
brown eyeshadow plus subtle burnished apricot
for cheek color and spicy cinnamon lip color.

by three inches. The crown area was layered
slightly to release natural curl. The result—a
freer, more becoming hairstyle that softened
her features and worked with her new sim-
plified makeup. Best news of all: The style
took no homework at all—Carol could just
shampoo, add mousse and finger-dry and she
was ready to face a classroom of eager students.

uljuayJeg adsoan

BACK TO SCHOOL

BEAUTIES

Problems: strong jaw e
overplucked brows «too |
much hair around face

Makeup ABC's We showed Ann,
who had been using very few cos- |
metics, how the right makeup and |
beauty techniques could cook up an
exciting new look. The biggest les-
son she had to learn was not to over-
pluck her brows: That made her eyes
seem smaller in comparison to the
width of her face and strength of her
jaw. More food for thought—using
soft olive greens on her eyes, es-
pecially at outer comers, to elongate
shape, make them a dramatic focal
point. Soft brown contour powder
with pink above played up Ann's high
cheekbones. A soupcon of clear red
lip color was the finishing touch to give
importance to her smiling mouth.
Hair notes A new-looking short cut
boosted Ann's looks by lifting her
hair up and away from her face to
reveal her forehead, neck, cheek-
bones. The crown section was left
about two and a half inches long,
back hair tapered to a long, wispy
nape. Final addition—a technique
called pointing, in which just the
ends of her hair were cut with the

points of scissors for maximum lift, J
volume. Overheard in the halls: “Doesn't
the home ec. teacher look terrific!" 9

We taught teachers Ann
_and Deborah the three
R's of making the most
| of their looks: reshap-
ing brows, revitalizing
makeup colors and find-
ing exactly the right cut.

_ Problems: overprocessed hair e
_ large forehead e thin brows

Makeup ABC's Turning an art professor into a
work of art was an easy makeover. We began by
applying a new palette of makeup colors: a
corrective green underbase to tone down overly
pink facial color, followed by sheer beige liquid
foundation, replacing the rosy foundation Deb-
orah had been using. To complete the picture,
we concentrated on her eyes and lips. Her over-
plucked brows were drawn to too fine a line; the
distance between the crease and the brow was
much larger than the distance from her lashline
to the crease. The resulting look was dated and
aging. Reshaping and filling in her brows to a
more natural shape created a youthful, more

up-to-date impression. Deborah's even features

Hair notes Deborah's damaged hair needed a
quick refresher course in style and shaping. We
designed a cut that eliminated the damaged
parts and played up her lovely, even features by
allowing her hair to softly frame her face. Deb-
orah's new style calls fora shampoo and finger-
styling only—no hot rollers or blow-drying
required. It's a low-maintenance masterpiece!

Deborah Healy

Montclair, NJ

College professor

needed extra drama. She had been applying
her makeup with equal emphasis to eyes,
cheeks and lips so that none of them really
stood out. The result was the same as if she
were wearing no makeup at all. We layered on
smoky-gray eyeshadows, so her eyes would
become an attractive focal point. Then, we
added new dimension to her eyes by emphasiz-
ing the socket crease for a more sculpted look.
The exciting effect was heightened with strong
bordeaux color on Deborah's lips to balance the
emphatic eye makeup, and to prevent her
mouth from just fading from view. Modern art!

Hair: Gerard Bollei of Gerard Bollei at The Galleria, New York
City. Makeup: Linda Cantello. Fashion specifics, page 156

uljuayleg adi0a5

FASHION

GUIDE

Styles to invest in
this season: Six easy
pieces that will give
you a whole wardrobe
of great looks. Plus
all you need to know
about fashion this fall.

This year’s status suit-
ables are a soft touch—
frankly feminine without
losing one stitch of sleek
styling. Perfect pair-ups: a
longer, collarless cardigan,
slim side-pleated skirt.
Our choice: A natty two-
some in rich-girl colors of
deep navy, elegant Bor-
deaux, frosted with creamy
accents. A silky blouse,
gently bowed at the throat,
and ropes of pearls provide
finishing polish.

Other options: Suit your-
self by substituting trou-
sers toned to the cardigan.
Fit: A soft it should
gently follow vour body
without clingin | empha-
size curves subti:

Soft-suit
accessories -

You already have some
of the most important
accent items for the
new suit look put away
in your closet or tucked
in a bureau drawer.

®@ Cashmere cr wool
cardigans—the

perfect sweaters to
top off this

year’s new soft skirts.
@ Hand-knit wool
vests—especially the
button-down kind in
tweeds or Fair Isle
patterns—for

a layered look.

@ Paisley/challis
scarves—wrap them
ascot-style and

tuck into neckline of
sweaters or shirts.

@ Pins to cluster by

the bunch—on jacket
lapels or sweaters.

@ Pearls—one strand
or five—to wear alone
or twist and mix

with crystal beads

or fake jewels.

Makeup: Rex. Hair: Opposite page,
Stephane Lempire. This page and
following, Lawrence DePalma,
Pipino-Buccheri Salon. Navy blue
suit with Bordeaux trim, blouse,
Koret. Fashion details, page 156.

Another fabulous look to
fall for this year—the new
longer easy-wear sweat-
erdress. As comfortable as
your favorite pullover for
daytime, it flows effort-
lessly into evening ele-
gance with just a quick
change of accessories.

Our choice: The fine art of
sweaterdressing, in a fire-
house-red long-sleeved knit
with simple this-minute
_button-front detailing.

| Other options: Choose your
: favorite sweater style: ki-
mono, raglan or set-in
sleeves .. . V-necks or ba-
_teaus or turtlenecks .
‘notched or round collars,
_ soft cowls and hoods.

| Details you don’t want:
| Patch pockets, zippers, self-
belts and oversize shoul-
-der pads—anything that
detracts from the clean
| styling. Simplicity is the
| key to this look.

Fit: Keep the undercover
| Story in good shape. Knits
move with your body;
_ bulges in the wrong places
| interrupt the fluid line.

Herbert Schulz

The wit of the

smart cardigan
suits, slide-on

new knits—

chemises

Sweaterdress

Savvy

Most figure-flattering
style to choose is one
that falls freely from
shoulder to hem.

Slide a blouse, silk
shirt or tee underneath
... add ona long
cardigan to wear loose
or belted ina

toned-in color.

Go-with accessories—
small buys that

make a big impact:

® Textured hose to
emphasize the sporty,
sweatery look.

(Try the latest

flashy neon colors

to perk up more
neutral-colored
sweaterdresses.)

® A textured slim
belt—fabulous fakes in
snakeskin, lizard and
alligator patterns. Or,
wider natural belts to
sling on at hips when
you’re sweaterdressing
(as shown).

®@ Hats to top it all off:
menswear fedoras,
soft sit-over-the-eyes
banded berets,
schoolgirl brimmers.

TERRES LT Cs

Anne Klein I! sweaterdress.

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| issue with

Skirting the

classy,
sophisticated
styles

Long on good looks, the
lean skirts show a touch
of calf to accentuate legs in
the nicest possible way.
Our choice: Tne season’s
gray flannel classic—hip-
hugging, back-buttoned—
topped off by a new-for-now
sweater shirt instead of a
silk blouse, for even more
fashion flair.

Other options: A sweep of
pleats or gently flared
trumpet bottom adds spirit
to the look. And then there
are flexible rib-knit tube
skirts to ease into.

Fit: Watch that rear view.
These new skirts are fit-
ted close to the body so cut
and line must be perfect.
Choose styles that skim
over your hip, stomach
and derriere without hug-
ging. Take the skirt on a
trial run before you leave
the dressing room—sit,
walk, bend your knees.
Fluid fabrics with more body
and drape—flannel, twill
and wools—will move with
you . . . won't create lines or
ride up when you sit dewn.

Colorful cues
The dyed-in-the-wool—
and flannel, corduroy,
twill—shades to note.
Menswear neutrals
(shown this page):

@ Gray shading

to charcoal.

@ The browny browns—
clay, tobacco, russet,
cream, beige, taupe.

@ Indigo, henna,
raisin and ochre.
Full-color choices:

@ Crayon-brights—
cobalt blue (opposite),
kelly green, standout
reds, pretty pinks.

®@ Neon hits of fuchsia,
turquoise, yellow.
Shopping hints:

@ Stick to one classic
color family for your
skirts, jackets, trousers.
You can accent with a
range of other colors.
@ Check your
complexion—pinker,
rosier skin tones

look best with gray
and black, while

more golden skin

is complemented by
brown shades.

—- Ee 6 hhhr

Anne Klein {1 gray flannel
skirt and sweater blouse.
Fashion details, page 156.

The winter
cover-up:
hot color

for cold

Wrap up your winter Big-coat
wardrobe in a generously buying
cut greatcoat—yards of = eal ;
menswear plaids, checks, Ss ~~ Pac

houndstooth and sizzling
solids. The stylish hall-
marks: eased-over, round-
ed shoulders; roomy rag-
lan sleeves; longer length,
to go with the season’s
newest skirts.
Our choice: Electric blue,
patch-pocket sweep of a
coat. It’s oversize enough
| to handle a crisp hounds-
, tooth jacket underneath
while still keeping pro-
portions in check.
Other options: The single-
| breasted swagger coat with
a standout fit that falls
straight from the shoulder.
It will give you a leaner,
longer silhouette. Deeply
vee’d, low-button closings
are also more slimming for
your figure. Try it in coun-
try-style Harris tweed or a
stately Prince of Wales plaid.
Fit: Make sure that the
lapels are in correct propor-
tion to the coat you choose—
not too wide or too narrow.

Herbert Schulz

doesn’t mean
overwhelming.
Make sure

you don’t get

lost in the coat,
but don’t destroy
the smart styling
by shortening

it to last year’s
knee-grazing hems.
The bottom line
—at least one inch
beyond the new skirt
lengths. The best
try-on technique is
to wear a suit, jacket
or heavy sweater.
This year’s big look
is big enough to
carry it off—without
your feeling the

pinch. Stay away from
the ties that
bind—belts at the
waist unflatteringly
cut the proportions
of the coat—and
you!—in half.
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J.H. Collectibles.
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weather

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The verve of
menswear—
tweeds and.
twills and plaids
and checks

Pants perfection
Check these areas

min the dressing-

room mirror.

@ The back view: A
looser fit is slimming.
Keep things reomy, not
tight, across the
derriere. Watch for
signs of pulling when
you sit, walk, bend.

@ The front view:
Pants should hang
straight from waist to
shoe with no tightness
at the crotch. Waist

of pants should rest
comfortably on yours.
Narrow waistbands
offer the most
flattering fit. Fly
fronts should lie flat—
zippers were made
not to be seen.

@ The long and short
of length: Make sure
pants are the same
length all around—not
longer in back. Hems
should break so that
even when you walk
they hit the top of
your shoe. Be sure to
bring along shoes
with the heel height
you'll be wearing.

Marvelous men-tionables:
The jaunty interpretation
of his-for-her dressing
shows up with new spirit
in flattering, precision-
tailored menswear pants.
Our choice: The city-gent
look that draws its inspira- |
tion from wide-leg cuffed ~~
houndstooth pants with ~~
a pleated, man-styled fly ©
front. The rest of the dandi-
fied mix—-saucy layers of
a muted mustard-and-rai-
sin plaid shirt, tweedy
crew, mustardy wool jack-
et and a wool knit tie to
finish up with panache.
Other options: The sur-
prising contrast of mens-
wear crispness in pants
made of soft earth-toned
corduroy, classic gray or
winter-white flannel.

Fit: Look for a just-like-a
man’s cut: natural waist,
fly front, belt loops. An-
sled side pockets will mini-
mize hips; front pleats
will disguise tummy bulge.
Wider-cut legs will allow
for easier movement and
camouflage any figure flaws.

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Jones New York jacket, trousers, shirt.

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jackets—
easy fit,
great
style!

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newest in black—a
sporty staple for
flannels, tweeds, cords.
@ Black “alligator”
flats: a feminine
version of a

man’s moccasin.

@ Men’s-style oxfords
in glistening

black and white.

@ Tassled ghillies,
flatter brogues (as
shown far left), low-
heeled textured pumps
with off-center straps.

For everything
A mid-height (1- to 2-
inch) geometric heel,
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Lance Karesh and Gene Pressman for
Basco. Shirt and tie, Adrienne
Vittadini. Details, page 156.

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‘The

heart of the house:

Contemporary, yet comfy and cozy—that’s the appetizing
recipe for this entertainment/cooking center for a family
of five. Extending the wall behind the kitchen sink out
into the backyard of their Connecticut house, the owners
created the space necessary for an attractive family room.
The secret ingredient that made the plan so practical is a
simple laminated-wood counter that connects the two areas
—high enough to conceal dirty dishes, yet just the right
height for pass-through serving and easy conversation. A
bay window overlooking a tree-filled view has a southern

exposure, which, combined with vaulted ceilings, gives the

room an airy, light-filled charm. A play of light and darkj

woods—rough cedar paneling, bare oak flooring—provides

the background for a decorating scheme kept easy and flexi-&%

ble. Clean, crisp white upholstered sectional furniture can
be regrouped to accommodate a roomful of guests or a trio o
children doing their homework. A handsome handmade pine
armoire holds a VCR, television, stereo. The eat-in kitchen
area was spruced up with paint—its pale yellow cabinets
and white countertops keep the room spacious and cheery.

More than just a place to cook and eat, and friendlier than the old front parlor, today’s
the spot where friends and family gather.

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traditional Westchester home got a touch of West
Coast easy living with a remodeled kitchen/liv-
ing area. The owners, native Californians, want-

ed to give their Colonial-style house a more
open plan that flowed from the kitchen, the hub
if family activities. With three youngsters to keep track
if—one just a toddler—they needed a way for the kids to
pemain in sight without being underfoot. The remodeled
pace allows the kids to play, watch TV or do homework, all
inder the watchful eyes of Mom while she’s busy preparing
neals. The new arrangement works within the house’s ex-
sting space. The kitchen area, left essentially untouched,
ias a practical U-shaped placement of cabinets and ap-
iliances for maximum work efficiency. A central beam that
ouldn’t be removed was neatly converted on one side into a
oat closet with louvered doors. On the other, in the family

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this home, a lot of little rooms add up to one big beautiful heart of the house!

room, the beam provides space to nestle a TV/stereo enter-
tainment center. The former sewing room was opened up to
house a dining table and chairs, along with a cabinet
(moved out of the original kitchen) that proudly displays a
collection of spatterware and baskets. The overall decorative
scheme is simple and stylish, in keeping with the house’s
architecture. Windows are dressed with a traditional swag
treatment; upholstered pieces are kept to friendly beige hues,
accented with blue-and-white country rugs that keep the
different areas separate and yet unified. Added-on skylights
and a 19th-century American mantel highlight the family
room. And Americana accents abound, from the kitchen’s
warm wood cabinets and bright tiles to folk-art decoys.

Quilts from Made in America Antiques. Runner and rag rug from Thos. K. Woodard. Living room
carpet from Stark Carpet. Needlepoint pillows and striped mohair throw from Woolworks. Painting
over fireplace from Kennedy Galleries, Inc. Spatterware from B. Altman & Co

ing a Kennedy can mean
py triumph. . . or tragedy

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The

ast April, Jacqueline
Bouvier Kennedy Onas-
sis flew home from Eu-
rope to be with the
Kennedy clan after
twenty-eight-year-old
David Kennedy died of
drug overdose. At the private fu-
eral mass at Ethel’s home, Hicko-
y Hill, David's eldest sister, Kath-
xen, and his uncle, Ted Kennedy,
aoke of the few happy times in
lavid'’s life, and of the tragedies that
yertook him. It was an all-too-famil-
ww Kennedy story of a young life
nding prematurely, and virtually
ll the mourners were weeping
‘hen Ted Kennedy had finished.
Several present noted that Jackie
‘as weeping as well, and for most,
_was the first time they had ever
sen her cry. Before she left, she
id Ethel how sorry she was and
ow much she wished things had
een better for David. At that mo-
1ent, one couldn’t help wondering
thether Jackie did not think the
ame thing about herself ... did
ot ponder why in the last two
ecades being a Kennedy has so of-
2n seemed synonymous with pain.

Far left: Jackie and
son John weathered
their tragedies. Below:
Young David Kennedy.
The inscription reads,
‘A future President
inspects his property.”
4 The signature: John
Wed Kennedy. Near left: A
§ tormented David
showed none of the
§ promise of his youth.

But despite the anguish of yes-
teryear, and the recent sorrow of
her nephew's death, those close to
Jackie agree that today the fifty-
five-year-old woman has reached
an immensely satisfying and re-
warding time in her life. “I don’t
think she’!] ever be happier,” says a
relative. “She has seen her children
grow up safely and begin responsi-
ble lives. While some of the youn-
ger generation of Kennedys—espe-
cially Ethel’s sons—have brought
terrible suffering on themselves
and their parents, hers have es-
caped pretty much without a
scratch.” And by any outward mea-
sure, Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis
has also survived her ordeals.

In her book editing job at Double-
day and Company, Jackie has made
the kind of mark on the world that
she wanted to make. She has man-
aged to secure a niche of serenity
and productivity for herself that
would have seemed almost impossi-
ble in the early sixties, when she
was the most celebrated woman in
the world, or in the later years of
that decade when her marriage to
Onassis made her the most excori-

ow Jackie became her own strong woman

ated woman of the moment. Yet
what is most important to her is
that she has been a good mother to
John, twenty-three, and Caroline,
twenty-six. This task has always
been her highest priority.

And it is by examining Jackie in
her role as mother that one gains
the clearest insight into her per-
sonality and strengths. Whether
she was America’s First Lady, a
wealthy Greek billionaire’s wife or
a New York career woman in pub-
lishing, she has remained consis-
tent as far as her children are con-
cerned. She may have kept the
world guessing, but Caroline and
John always knew where she stood
on matters of behavior and values.
And she embodied the best quali-
ties of parenthood: love, patience,
affection, concern.

“Jackie did not always have the
close, physical contact with her
children that many mothers have,”
says a friend of Caroline’s. “They
were apart for a lot of the time. But
she somehow managed to give

them the (continued on page 131)
By Harrison Rainie

Why the pain hasn't
ended for Ethel’s family

avid Kennedy always remembered the
exact moment when he “discovered” his
Aunt Rosemary. It was while he was stay-
ing in California, one of the many times
he had been exiled by his family to deal
with his heroin addiction. He was leafing

through magazines when he stumbled onto an article ,
about lobotomies, featuring a picture of Rosemary
Kennedy in her sixties, standing and smiling outside
the Wisconsin nursing home where she has lived all
her adult life. Until that moment, David knew only
that his aunt was retarded and institutionalized. But
now, reading about the lobotomy she had undergone, |
he experienced a sudden surge of identification.

“The thought crossed my mind that the same thing
that happened to her could have happened to me,” he
later told us during an interview. “She was an embar- iH
rassment; I was an embarrassment. She was a hin-
drance; I was a hindrance. ...” The haunting image
of the woman with the wounded smile remained with
David for the rest of his life. i

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By Sue B. Huffman, Food and Equipment Editor

TURNOVERS

continued from page 111

SPANAKOPETA
(GREEK SPINACH TURNOVERS)

pictured on page 110

Time-consuming to assemble but well
worth the effort.
Filling
2 tablespoons olive oil
Y2 cup finely chopped onion
2 packages (10 oz. each) frozen
chopped spinach, cooked and
squeezed dry
’%2 pound feta cheese, crumbled
Yq teaspoon nutmeg

Y2 pound filo dough (about)
Y2 cup butter, melted

Filling: In medium skillet heat oil. Add
onion and saute until golden brown,
about 8 minutes. Remove from heat.
Add spinach, feta and nutmeg. Mix
well; let cool.

Preheat oven to 350°F. Cut filo into 3-
inch-wide strips. Place one strip on
work surface with narrow end facing
you. (Keep remaining strips covered
with wax paper topped with a damp
towel to prevent drying.) Brush with
melted butter. Top and repeat with a
second strip. Measure 1 tablespoon fill-
ing onto narrow end, pressing down
slightly. Lift a corner of the strip next
to the filling and fold over so that it
touches the opposite (long) side and
forms a triangle enclosing the filling.
Continue folding filo, keeping the tri-
angular shape. Place on ungreased
cookie sheet. Brush with butter. Repeat
with remaining filling and butter.

Bake until golden brown, about 30
minutes. Serve warm. (Can be made
ahead. Cool completely on wire rack,
wrap tightly and freeze up to 1 month.
Do not thaw. Reheat on cookie sheet in
preheated 350°F. oven 30 minutes.)
Makes 2 dozen appetizers, about 95 cal-
ories each.

PIROSHKI
(RUSSIAN BEEF TURNOVERS)

pictured on page 110

Great to have in the freezer for those
impromptu happy hours.

Pastry

1 cup butter or margarine, softened

1 package (8 oz.) cream cheese,
softened

2 cups all-purpose flour

1 teaspoon baking powder

Y2 teaspoon salt

Filling
2 tablespoons butter or margarine
1 cup chopped onions

1 pound ground beef
3 hard-cooked eggs, finely chopped

112

Yq cup chopped fresh dill
or 1 teaspoon dried

1 teaspoon salt

Yq teaspoon pepper

1 egg, beaten

Pastry: In large mixer bowl combine
butter or margarine and cream cheese.
Beat at medium speed until well
blended. In small bow] combine dry in-
gredients; mix well and stir into butter
mixture to form a dough. Divide in
half. Wrap each half and refrigerate at
least 8 hours or up to 24.

Filling: In medium skillet melt butter
or margarine. Add onions and saute 5
minutes. Add beef and cook until meat
loses its red color, crumbling with fork
as it cooks. Drain off drippings. Add
eggs, dill, salt and pepper. Cool to room
temperature.

Remove pastry from refrigerator; let
stand 20 minutes. Grease 2 large
cookie sheets. Preheat oven to 400°F.

On lightly floured surface roll half
the dough ¥ inch thick. With 3-inch
cookie or biscuit cutter, cut out rounds.
(Reserve scraps.) Top one side of each
round with 12 teaspoons filling. Mois-
ten edges with water. Fold in half;
pinch edges to seal. Place on cookie
sheet. Brush with beaten egg. Prick
with fork to form steam vent. Repeat
with remaining dough and filling, re-
rolling scraps. Bake until golden
brown, 15 to 20 minutes. Transfer to
wire rack to cool. Serve hot or warm.
(Can be made ahead. Cool completely,
wrap tightly and freeze up to 1 month.
Thaw at room temperature about 2
hours. Reheat on cookie sheet in pre-
heated 350°F. oven 10 minutes.) Makes
about 4% dozen appetizers, about 90
calories each.

PASZTECIKI
(POLISH MUSHROOM
TURNOVERS)

pictured on page 110

Rich and savory. Excellent as appetizers
or soup accompaniment.

Pastry

1% cups all-purpose flour
1 cup butter, cut into pieces
Y2 cup sour cream
Filling
1 pound mushrooms,
very finely chopped
2 tablespoons minced shallots
Ye teaspoon salt
Ye teaspoon freshly ground pepper
Yq cup sour cream
1 tablespoon chopped parsley

1 eggs yolk
2 teaspoons cold water

Pastry: In medium bow! combine flour
and butter. With pastry blender or 2

knives, cut butter into flour until mix |
ture resembles coarse crumbs. Wit]
fork, mix in sour cream until past
holds together. Shape into a ball. D
vide in half. Wrap each half and refrig
erate at least 8 hours or up to 24.
Filling: In heavy medium skillet com
bine mushrooms, shallots, salt and pep
per. Cook over medium-low heat, sti
ring frequently, until liquid has evapa
rated, about 10 minutes. Let cool, the
stir in sour cream and parsley. Cove
and refrigerate until thoroughly chille
and ready to use.

Preheat oven to 350°F. On lightl
floured surface roll one piece doug
into a 14-inch square. Cut out round
with a 3%-inch cookie or biscuit cutte
Chill scraps before rerolling. Top on
side of each round with 2 level tea
spoons filling. Moisten edges wit
water. Fold in half; lightly pinch edge
to seal. Place on ungreased cooki
sheet. Combine egg yolk and wate
Brush on each turnover. With tip a
sharp knife make 2 or 3 slits to forn
steam vents. Repeat with remainin
dough and filling. (Can be made aheaa
Cover and freeze until firm. Transfer tf
airtight container. Freeze up to 3 week
Place frozen turnovers on ungrease(
cookie sheet. Bake in preheated 350°F
oven until golden brown, about35 mi
utes.) Bake until golden, about 35 mi
utes. Serve hot. Makes about 2 doze
appetizers, about 120 calories each.

CALZONE
(ITALIAN CHEESE TURNOVERS)

pictured on page 110

If you want, you can use the frozen pizz
dough available in most supermarkets

Dough

3 to 3% cups all-purpose flour or
bread flour, divided
1 tablespoon sugar
14% teaspoons salt
1 package active dry yeast
1 tablespoon olive oil
1 cup very hot tap water
(120°—130°F)
Filling
2 containers (15 oz. each)
part-skim ricotta cheese
1 pound part-skim mozzarella
cheese, shredded
Yq cup grated Parmesan cheese
Ya pound sliced prosciutto,
cut into Y4-inch pieces
2 tablespoons chopped parsley
Ya teaspoon freshly ground pepper

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at times for women. We
have come into our own in an age of
scientific breakthrough and medical
miracles. We’re living longer than
ever before, with a life expectancy of
seventy-eight years (eight years
longer than men). The U.S. Census
Bureau projects that by the year
2050, our life expectancy will reach
eighty years. And even that may be
an underestimation. Dr. Roy Wal-
ford, professor of pathology at UCLA
School of Medicine, and author of
Maximum Life Span, believes that
by the next century, through special
diet, fasting and exercise, women
could live to be one hundred and
twenty . . . and look fifty!

A list of the differences between
men and women proves that, with-
out a doubt, we are the stronger
sex—champions at living. But
women, not surprisingly, always
want more . . . not only longer lives,
but health and beauty, too. With sci-

ence as our handmaiden, we may yet
achieve that Eden. Plastic surgeons
now rival sculptors with their re-
sults; cosmetic companies compete
with pharmaceutical companies to
develop more effective products. And
government-based research on aging
in women is finally under way.

There are also studies being done
on how women react to stress at
work, why they live longer than
men, how the environment causes
wrinkles, and how diet affects ag-
ing. Most exciting is the mounting
evidence that exercise is a miracle
that keeps us fit and youthful.

This special eight-page section
contains new information and ad-
vice from many anti-aging allies—
dermatologists, plastic surgeons,
makeup and hair experts, special-

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anti-aging lifestyle, every woman
can look and feel younger than her
years, and better than ever before.

By Sylvie Reice

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Physical changes

Medical problems

Preventive measures

How a woman age
|__Under thirty ___Forties

| A woman is in her top physical
condition now with shiny hair
and smooth skin. She is also
probably the tallest and
strongest she will ever be.
Intelligence, too, is at its peak.
By the late twenties, however,
mid-life begins to set in
physiologically, and there is a
very gradual decline in the
body’s ability to fight off disease.
Acne may persist from the teen
years, or even begin now as small
red spots on the chin and mouth
| area during stressful times.

For most women, there are no
physical problems at all during
these young years. But despite
youth and general good health,
urinary tract infections and
gynecological problems may
occur now, ranging from painful
and abnormal periods to
pregnancy or sterility worries,
vaginal infections and cystic

| breasts. Varicose veins may

» develop in the last months of
pregnancy in some women,
especially those with a family
history of this condition.

| Now is the time to initiate

"| beauty regimens, to make a

- habit of exercise and to develop
nutritional savvy. Every woman
should schedule an annual Pap
smear, pelvic and breast exam
(twice a year for women on the
Pill or using an IUD). Monthly
breast self-examination is a
must—most breast lumps
are discovered by women
themselves. For cystic breasts,
cut down on caffeine and take
400 to 800 units of vitamin E
per day. To prevent urinary
tract infections, doctors
advise emptying the bladder

» immediately after sex.

The first signs of aging become

» noticeable in the form of tiny

lines around the eyes and on the
thin, sensitive upper eyelids.
“Frown lines” and nasolabial
folds (from nose to jaw) may
become evident, and sun damage
may show up in the form of
uneven pigmentation. A woman
may become aware of weakening
eyesight. (Her hearing will
diminish slightly, too, but she
probably won’t notice it.) Bone
loss, due to a lack of calcium,
may start in the late thirties.

Stress-related ailments, such as
muscle spasms, low-back pain,
ulcers and migraine headaches,
often affect women during this
decade of career and family
building. Urinary and
gynecological problems continue
from the twenties through the
fifties, with increasing risk of
malignancies of the breast,
ovaries and cervix. One out

of five women of child-bearing
age may develop uterine fibroids.
(Usually not troublesome, they
shrink with menopause.)

Serious cleansing, moisturizing
and exfoliating can still bring
the bloom of youth to thirties
skin. Stress, however, will leave
its mark on the face, and anyone
who wants to look and feel
youthful must carve out some
“serene time.” Relaxation
techniques may correct stress-
related disorders, and also ease
symptoms of premenstrual
syndrome. The American Cancer
Society recommends that

a woman have her first
mammogram between thirty-
five and forty.

Start taking steps to prevent
osteoporosis (bone loss): regular
exercise and a calcium-rich diet.

Two significant changes occur
now: The sebaceous oil glands
shrink, causing the skin to
become dry; and collagen fibers
begin to wear down, resulting in
slackness in the skin of the
throat. Women will also worry
now about graying hair,
periodontal (gum) and other
dental problems and added
inches on their hips and waist
(from changes in the distribution
of body fat). Thirty to 35 percent
of bone mass may be lost
between the ages of forty and
eighty if women don’t take the
proper preventive measures.

Generally, hypertension surfaces
after age forty-five, although
some women on the Pill develop
it at a younger age. In the late
forties, depression afflicts some
women facing both aging and
the “empty nest” syndrome.
(However, we know that
depression can also be
biochemical in nature.) At this
time, hormonal changes may
produce irregular premenstrual
bleeding. A startling statistic
indicates that mortality

from lung cancer will exceed
mortality from breast cancer

by 1985 in women of the postwar
baby- boom generation.

“High-powered” creams, like
those containing collagen, are
needed now to make skin supple.
Some women opt for plastic
surgery in the late forties (and
onward), and for them, it may
also be a psychological lift.
Women who are severely
depressed should seek
professional help; drug therapy
today can be highly effective.
Sensible eating habits are a
must. A note of caution: Aside
from being harmful to health,
crash-dieting causes wrinkles!
A mammogram every two
years is recommended.

LADIES' HOME JOURNAL + SEPTEMBER 198

om the time we are born until the time we die, our bodies are constantly changing,
t there's much we can do to control the aging process. Knowing what
to expect—and what to do about it—will help you stay healthy and look young.

_ Some fifty-year-olds, because of
good grooming or heredity, do
not show their age. But in most
menopausal women, wrinkles
are more pronounced and hair is
thinner. Also, sun-caused brown
spots emerge and the nose tends
to lengthen. The lower estrogen
level may cause exacerbated bone
loss. Many women will find
stretching movements harder
because of a lack of collagen in
the connective tissue. Vision
continues to get poorer, and

the senses of taste and hearing
also become duller.

These are years of great changes
in health. Menopause may bring
hot flushes, cold sweats, vaginal
dryness, insomnia and mood
swings, but 80 percent of
women experience only minor
symptoms, or none at all.
Arthritis and “vague pains”
begin to plague women, and

the digestive system becomes
less tolerant of fatty foods.
Overweight women are at risk
now of developing diabetes and
other medical problems. Angina
(chest pain) may signal a

heart problem.

During menopause some women
feel sexually free for the first
time. But for those bothered

by menopausal symptoms,
medications and support groups
can help. Some doctors
recommend estrogen therapy,
but others consider it risky,
especially for women with a
background of cancer, cysts or
blood clots. The American
Cancer Society recommends
mammography once a year from
fifty on. In this decade, reduce

calorie intake to 1,800 a day.

| Fifties | Sixties and over _

Minor afflictions now are “liver
spots” (freckles that appear with
age) and a loss in the ability to
hear high frequencies (usually
not missed). More troubling is
the dehydration of facial and
body skin (unless cared for) by
internal factors and the
environment. Most serious is the
possibility of severe bone loss,
(see page 121 for osteoporosis

} information), which may cause a

woman to shrink in height or
sustain dangerous fractures,
especially of the hip.

Today, many sexagenarians

are unhampered by medical
problems. But for others, serious
age-related illnesses, such as
hardening of the arteries, heart
attack, stroke and cancer, can
arise now. (Heart disease is

the leading cause of death for
women, as well as men.)
Cataracts are a common
problem of older people, as is
glaucoma, although the latter
may be controlled by

regular ophthalmological
checkups and treatment.

Continued skin care, avoidance
of the sun and regular exercise
has kept many a sixty-year-old
agile and attractive. It’s
important to stay mentally as
well as physically active, since
there’s strong evidence that
using the mind helps to preserve
it. If a woman has been eating
a low-fat, low-sodium, high-
calcium diet, she is probably
not at risk for heart disease or
osteoporosis. And with a life
expectancy of seventy-eight
years, she has lots of

time ahead to live a full and
active social, intellectual

& and sexual life.

How to look
and feel younger

Make yourself physically fit. A daily
half hour of vigorous exercise pro-
motes health. Include exercises for
strength, flexibility and cardiovascu-
lar conditioning.

Protect your skin from sun. Sun is
the major cause of skin’s aging; don’t
spare the sun block.

Make a ritual of beauty routines.
Devote as much time to cleansing,
toning and moisturizing as you do to
applying makeup. Sleep is a cosmetic;
don’t shortchange yourself. Make
sure you keep your makeup, hair-
color and wardrobe up-to-date.
Practice preventive medicine. Sched-
ule annual checkups, and become
knowledgeable about health issues,
especially those pertaining to women.
Attend a clinic, be hypnotized or quit
cold turkey, but give up cigarettes, for
health and beauty’s sake.

Make calories meaningful. Foil kil-
lers like hypertension and osteoporo-
sis with a low-sodium, high-calcium
diet. A diet low in fat and cholesterol
will help prevent heart disease. Don’t
overdose on vitamin supplements,
and do drink plenty of water.

Find ways to handle stress. Every-
one needs “me time.” Popular relax-
ation techniques range from yoga,
meditation and deep-breathing exer-
cises to biofeedback. Cassettes with
relaxation messages are available.
Stay involved. Intellectual interests,
courses and reading keep you young
at heart and interesting. Work at so-
cial relationships; they ward off lone-
liness and depression.

Don't shortchange your sex life. A
fulfilled sex life is the natural enemy
of aging. Leave time and energy for
sex in your life, just as you do for
children, chores and interests.

117

elawes ej!ays

_ Rejuvenati

} hat single

factor, more
than any oth-
er, causes the
skin to age?
To find out
we queried
three lead-
ing doctors.
@ “Heredity first, then sun,” says der-
matologist Ronald Sherman, of Mt.
Sinai School of Medicine, New York.
“Women might be more convinced and
frightened about sun damage if they
saw it right away, but there’s a delay of
about ten to fifteen years. Actually,
most people have skin damage before
they’re twenty from playing in the sun
as children. Women need to educate
themselves, as well as their children,
about the sun’s time-bomb effect.” (The
good news is that National Institutes of
Health studies show that signs of aging
rarely appear in protected skin until
sometime after age fifty, and even then
aging progresses very slowly!)

For sun-damaged skin after the fact,
Dr. Sherman uses what he calls a “mid-
range” chemical peel. “Unlike a very
deep phenol peel it does not cause scar-
ring. The mid-range peel removes the
upper layers of damaged skin, leaving a
smoother, more evenly pigmented skin.”
@ “After overexposure to the sun, fa-
cial expressions cause the most wrin-
kles,” says Dr. Norman Orentreich,
clinical associate professor of dermatol-
ogy at New York University School of
Medicine. “Raising the eyebrows,
frowning, squinting, smoking, pursing
the lips, squishing up the skin when
you hold your head in your hand, sleep-
ing on one side of your face . . . repeat-
ing a facial expression year after year
will permanently etch it into the face.”

Facial expression lines can be less-
ened with collagen replacement, says
Dr. Orentreich, because the lines are
basically due to collagen loss.

@ Dr. Sherre!! J. Aston is associate

~ professor of surgery at New York Uni-

versity Medical Center. He is one of a
handful of “aesthetic” plastic surgeons
who do not do reconstructive surgery,
but concentrate instead on beautifying
features. Like Dr. Sherman and Dr.
Orentreich, Dr. Aston believes that the
sun plays a major role in the skin’s
aging. He also believes heredity plays
an important role. “After that comes
general health, and specifically ciga-
rettes and alcohol.

“Over a period of time, alcohol con-

118

sumption causes a constant dilation of
the blood vessels—this is why drinkers
get red noses. Often the person who

drinks also smokes, which presents a _

greater problem. Smoking raises the
carboxyhemoglobin level in the blood
so that red cells don’t have enough oxy-
gen-carrying capacity. It also causes
vasoconstiiction—the tiny blood ves-
sels close down so the skin does not
receive adequate blood and nourish-
ment, and of course that is very harm-
ful, especially over time.”

Making up for the years
Two experts share their philosophy and
pass along makeup techniques.
“Women give their age away by their
makeup and hairstyling,” says famed
makeup artist Rex. “Makeup is fash-
ion; a woman must keep up, even as she
takes her age and skin tones into con-
sideration.” Here are some makeup
rules from Rex:
@ Itsa pity to disguise really youthful
skin, but after age twenty-five and un-
til age thirty-five, you can let go and
experiment with makeup.
@ Thirty-five to forty-five is the most
difficult age. This is the time to cut
down on makeup.
@ From forty-five on—once she’s ac-
customed to wrinkles and how to cam-
ouflage them—a woman can start to
achieve a new makeup look.
@ Most women are too heavy-handed
when they try to apply their makeup.
Start light and then add.
@ Never use dark pencil on upper lids
unless they’re smooth; dark-penciling
lower lids makes eyes look smaller.

@ Lighten your brows as your haiy
grows lighter, because dark brows give
a severe look.

@ Never put green or blue eyeshado

ng the fac

on creased lids, because it calls atten}
tion to them; but if your eyes are your).

best feature, use lots of mascara.

“Making up should take no more ,

than ten to fifteen minutes,” says Trish
McEvoy, a skin-care specialist and
makeup artist who shares an office
with Dr. Sherman, her husband. “Fro
forty on, a woman who looks good is
probably using less makeup, but using
it correctly.” Here are her pointers or
looking good at any age:
@ To camouflage lines or wrinkles
use matte makeup. Cover brown spots
and moles with more than the usua)
amount of cover-stick. Then apply
foundation over the spot and surround:
ing area, blending carefully. Remove
excess with a damp makeup sponge
and apply pressed powder.

Always use a foundation one shadg

De oma Gen stom ACR<_ erste atk oeer

lighter than your skin, so you won’:

appear to be masked.

@ Apply blusher to the cheekbone
then back and up; that way, you fram
the eye with color.

@ Any time you put on foundation o7
blusher, be sure to remove the exces;
with a cotton ball.

@ Contour the brow by brushing on
tan-pink eyeshadow from the base o
the eyelid up toward the brow, and enc
at brow line. Then rim the line above
the lashes with a thin line of color.

@ Paper-cut lines above the lips star
in the thirties. If you outline your lip:
with a lipstick pencil, your lipstick
won't bleed into these lines.

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o many women, plastic surgery seems like a dream come true: Who wouldn't want to
ook younger instantly? The reality, however, is a bit more complicated. Knowing the
acts about cosmetic surgery can help you decide whether it's right for you.

(Blepharoplasty)

(Rhinoplasty)

Nose

Face-lift

(Rhytidectomy)

ections Dermabrasion /Chemical peel

en
(Wrinkle, acne scar removal)

inj

Colla:

i 13,090

31,000

73,000

42,000
15,000

A mini-guide to plastic surgery

At any age when
folds on upper lids
are excessive or
wrinkled, or when
bags under eyes
cause aged look.
Never too late.

Any time after full
development (late
teens, early
twenties); also, in
forties when nose tip
begins to drop from
loss of elasticity.

Generally, very late
forties through
seventies, unless
surgeon sees
sufficient loss of skin
elasticity to warrant
earlier surgery.

Usuaily the fifties.
Both dermabrasion
and chemical peel
(as well as collagen)
can be used to
remove small lines
above and below the
lips. The surgeon
makes this decision.
These procedures
are also used for
mature “road-map”
wrinkling from

sun exposure.

Usually the forties.
Collagen injections
are used to plump up
frown lines, crow’s
feet, wrinkles and
small lines above

and below the lips.

Usually under local
anesthesia so
surgeon can evaluate
how the lids are
moving and how
“tight” they are.
Takes 1 to 2 hours.
Usually performed
in doctor's office.

Under local or
general anesthesia.
Operation lasts
anywhere from 45
minutes to 2 hours,
either in a hospital
or surgeon’s office.

Under local or
general anesthesia.
Takes 2 to 4 hours,
depending on
whether other
procedures are
included. Patient
usually opts for
overnight stay in
hospital.

Usually performed
in surgeon’s office.
With dermabrasion,
a high-speed
electrical device
removes the upper
layer of skin. The
chemical peel burns
off the upper layer,
so new skin can
emerge.

Under a local
anesthetic similar to
novocaine, tiny
amounts of Zyderm
collagen (a natural
protein similar to
that in our

own skin) are
injected along the
line of the wrinkle.

Generally
7 to 10
years

A lifetime

5 to 7
years

5 years

6 months
to 2 or 3
years,
depending
on skin
thickness.

Can be
repeated.
Touch-ups
require
less
material.

Removal of too much
skin can cause
“wide-eyed” look.
Very rarely, bleeding
can cause pressure
against the arteries
and result in
blindness.

Patients who suffer
rhinitis (chronically
runny nose) may
find the condition
worse after surgery.

Nerve injury, causing
loss of feeling or
motion. Certain skin
types may develop
thicker scars in
front of or behind
the ears.

Some skin has
pigment that may
discolor or scar;
patients must

be individually
screened.
(Procedures usually
cannot be performed
at all on black skin.)

Some people are

allergic to collagen.
A simple test must
be taken by anyone
considering this

procedure to screen
out sensitive skins.

A week to 10 days;
bruising around eyes
lasts up to 3 weeks.
Final results are not
visible for a few
months.

Splint removed in
10 days; normal

activities resumed
in 3 weeks. Slight

swelling persists for
6 to 9 months.

Ten days, but
swelling and black
and blue marks last
3 to 4 weeks. Slight
swelling persists for
6 to 8 months.

Dermabrasion scab
gone in 1 week;
pinkness of skin
lasts up to 2 months,
but can be covered
with makeup.

The same is true for
chemical peel, but
initial healing takes
10 days.

Results of both are
gradually
undermined by
frowning and by
smoking.

Swelling subsides
in 48 hours.
Results of collagen
injections are
gradually
undermined by
frowning and
smoking.

This chart was prepared with the cooperation of Dr. Mary McGrath, Chief of Plastic Surgery,

George Washington University Medical Center, Washington, D.C.

For more free information and for recommendations for certified plastic surgeons in your area, write to:
American Society of Plastic and Reconstructive Surgeons, Patient Referral Service,
233 North Michigan Ave., Suite 1900, LHJ, Chicago IL 60601. Or phone (312) 856-1834.

$1,500 to
$3,000

$1,500 to
$3,500

Generally
$2,000 to
$4,500;
can go to
$10,000

$500 to
$900 for a
partial
procedure; #
$1,500 to
$2,500 for
entire face

$100 to
$700,
depending
on how
much
collagen

is used

119

Hang on to t
iooking hair

matures, her

hair damage

builds up,”

says Philip

Kingsley, a

y noted tri-

Jin chologist
Ks a z =! (specialist
in hair care) with clinics in New
York and London. “Perms, coloring,
straightening and environment
take their toll. But proper care
can still make the hair look good.”

Hair loss is most often due to
aging and heredity, but it may
also be caused by megadoses of
vitamins, crash dieting, stress,
certain drugs, the Pill, chemo-
therapy, even the aftereffects of
pregnancy and menopause. Hair
loss in many cases is temporary
or can be helped by a trichologist
or a physician.

Kingsley has observed two new
groups of women suffering from
hair loss—“women who are los-
ing hair due to high-protein diets
lacking complex carbohydrates,
and very athletic women who
overextend themselves. Adding
potatoes and whole-wheat bread
to the diet solves the first prob-
lem, and slowing down usually
s stops the second.”

To keep hair healthy, shampoo
as often as possible: It keeps hair
clean, and doesn’t dry it out as is
commonly believed. Use condi-
tioners regularly, and protect
your hair from the elements
when outdoors. Avoid anything
that puts tension on the hair,
such as teasing and vigorous
brushing. Find ways to handle
stress, and eat a nutritious diet.

Finally, a woman who wants to
keep her hair looking young has
allies besides her doctor or tricho-
logist. A good haircutter, stylist
and colorist can make a tremen-
dous difference in a woman’s ap-
pearance and outlook at any age.

ifty percent of aging
in the U.S. is related
to a sedentary lifestyle,
rather than to some in-
herent biological clock
ticking away,” said
Everett L. Smith, M.D.,
of the University of
Wisconsin's Depart-
ment of Preventive Medicine, speaking
at a recent meeting conducted by the
President’s Council on Physical Fit-
ness and Sports. “We have it in our
own power to change that lifestyle and
slow down the aging process by mak-
ing a conscious decision to use it
rather than lose it... to commit our-
selves to physical activity. I prefer to
see that happen at a young age, but it’s
never too late.”

At age forty, Mary Vlamides took
that first step and changed her life and
her appearance. Working ten hours a
day with her husband in the restaurant
business in Dallas, she was constantly
depressed and tearful. “I couldn’t face
the next day,” she recalls. “When my
overweight husband was told to run, I
decided to run with him for encourage-
ment. It wasn’t easy. I kept dropping
out. But when I saw how well he was
doing, I thought, If I don’t stay with it,
I'll look like his mother! Besides, I saw
that women who didn’t run with their
husbands lost them.

“Running was agony. I would walk,
run, walk, run—it took me six months
to run a mile. Then I had a party! Now I
run ten miles every morning.”

Mary dropped from a size twelve to a
size nine and says, “I always had very
thin legs, which I hated. Exercise really

Exercise your’

toned them up. Also, my eyes and facd,

tend to be puffy, especially when I wak«

up—it’s a family trait—but after a runj,
the puffiness and the bags under my,

eyes are gone. I don’t need a face-liff.

... or any kind of lift. Once I startec

running, I stopped being depressed; iff,

seems to solve things for me.”
In 1973, Mary ran the Boston Mara
thon and became record-holder fo!

women aged forty to forty-five. She’f,

run ten marathons since. In 1983 shd,

was named the third top marathon ru:

ner in her age group—fifty to fifty§,
five—in Texas. “I don’t do it to comf,

pete,” she says. “It’s just thrilling. Anc

running lets me indulge my weaknesi,

for sweets and still remain a size nine.

You don’t have to be a competitivi,

runner to reap the benefits of aerobif,,

exercise. “Many people use aerobic ex
ercise as a form of self-medication,

says Phyllis Sharlin, a psychiatric sof,
cial worker at Family Service of Princif,

George's County in Maryland.“Depres
sion is the most common disease 0
our age. Unfortunately, it often hit;

ne
mt

women mid-life, when many of thenj,

are not physically fit. Recently, @,

study group of older women runner:
was asked why they ran, and a fre

quent answer was, ‘It helps me cop %

with stress.’ Ninety percent replied
‘Running makes me feel more comfor
able about growing older.’ All the run

ners in the group were less depresse¢

than the non-runners.”

n
ip
%
7

In another research study, a psychol :

ogist gave individual therapy to oni
group of depressed patients and had thi

other group run as therapy. The run

ning treatment was found to be jus

LADIES' HOME JOURNAL - SEPTEMBER 1984}

as effective as the psychotherapy.
Sharlin offers a few explanations for
the phenomenon. “Depressed people

}assume they are worthless, hopeless
jand helpless. When they participate in
}an exercise program, they get quan-
| tifiable results—the ability to run or

3wim farther, increased muscle tone—
which contradict their earlier beliefs
about themselves.” Also, during en-
durance running, the brain releases
chemicals called endorphins, natural
opiates that some people claim are re-

|, sponsible for “runners’ high.”

e
e
y

1.
Ir

“We don’t know all the answers,” says
Sharlin, “but its an exciting thought
that a depressed person could benefit as
‘much from running as from psycho-

| therapy.” In a study of one hundred and
'twenty normal women, eighteen to

forty-two years old, who were begin-
ners in either a jogging program, an
exercise program or an art class, and a
control group that began no new ac-
tivity, a psychologist reported that
only joggers felt less anxiety, while
subjects in the other groups did not
change significantly. “It would seem
that the largest untapped health re-
‘source is the person herself.”

The list of the benefits of regular
aerobic exercise, aside from its psycho-
logical value, is staggering. Scientists
shave demonstrated that the quality
of life is vastly improved in people
who exercise regularly.

Aerobic exercise reduces the likeli-
‘hood of heart attack; strengthens mus-
cles, tendons and bones; improves
breathing capacity and blood supply;
reduces high blood pressure; controls
weight (and, indirectly, hypertension
and diabetes); and generally retards
the aging process. Aerobic exercise
also improves sleep and circulation,
which results in benefits to the com-
plexion. And exercise replaces fatigue
with energy and reduces fat.

For smokers, exercise provides another
benefit. Psychologist Kelly D. Brownell, of
the University of Pennsylvania, says,
“Studies show that a large percentage of
smokers give up the habit when they
start vigorous exercise.”

There are optimistic tidings, too, from a
Swedish study that indicates that regular
use of a stationary bicycle may reduce
varicose veins.

Yet, in spite of these benefits, and in
spite of the nationwide jogging-walking-
aerobic dancing boom, half of America’s

| one hundred sixty-three million adults

still never exercise. Why?

option to stay young

“We equate physical fitness with ath-
letics instead of with health,” says Mil-
lie Cooper, co-author with her husband,
Dr. Kenneth H. Cooper (founder of the
Aerobics Center in Dallas), of Aerobics
for Women. “We do a few leg-ups in
leotards to lose weight and think that’s
fitness. We all want to look slim and
youthful, but that takes sweat—liter-
ally.” In her book, Cooper explains that
when you exercise and sweat, the pores
open and cleanse the skin. “There are
no shortcuts to achieving cardiovascu-
lar-pulmonary fitness—and that’s what
exercise and youthfulness are all
about. A _ television-watching, ciga-
rette-smoking sixteen-year-old who
never moves a muscle can look older
than an active seventy-year-old!”

Psychologists lay the blame for inac-
tivity on societal factors and a lack of
motivation. Says Major Dennis Kowal, an
Army research psychologist, “Women
must get over the fear of failure and the
fear of injury so they can enjoy exercise for
itself, Its just not true that women are
more injury-prone than men.”

Dr. Robert Nirschl, of Georgetown
University School of Medicine, claims
that most doctors still don’t promote
fitness, and that people have confused
exercise goals. “In the end, this con-
fusion leads to dropout or injury. Many
people take up a sport to get into shape,
rather than getting into shape to take
up a sport.” He cautions, “Know your
goal. Know your body. You may not be
able to do the Jane Fonda routine.”

When you're choosing an exercise
program, make sure it is balanced and
complete, consisting of both aerobic ac-
tivities to develop endurance by exer-
cising the heart and lungs, and exer-
cise to improve flexibility of joints,
sense of balance and overall muscle
tone. To help you stick to your program,
here are some tips from the experts:

@ Start now and set goals for yourself.
Write them in a diary. Better, post them
on your refrigerator.

@ Find an activity you really enjoy,
and consider joining a group if that will
motivate you more.

@ Start slowly. Too much too soon pro-
grams you for failure. Check your prog-
ress and reward yourself periodically.

@ Picture yourself looking fit and beau-
tiful. Paste a snapshot of your face on a
photograph of a great body.

@ Keep reminding yourself that 50 per-
cent of aging relates to sedentary living.
Youthfulness is not a matter of age, but
of an active lifestyle.

Boning up on
osteoporosis

steoporosis is
not inevitable
if women take
steps to pre-
vent it,” says
Dr. Lila Wallis,
an endocrino-
logist/intern-
ie ist at The New
York Hospital. “After cardiovas-
cular disease and breast cancer, I
consider osteoporosis to be the
third main health threat to post-
menopausal women.”
Osteoporosis is a silent enemy;
gradually and with no pain at
first, the bones become thinner.
The spine may compress, then
later collapse, causing “dowager’s
hump.” Approximately thirty
people a year, mostly women, die
from the complications of hip
fractures due to osteoporosis.
Women at risk of developing os-
teoporosis include: thin, small-
boned white women; women with
a family history of the disease;
women whose ovaries were re-

=F Vy

moved at an early age; and sed-

entary women. Smokers and
drinkers are also at risk.

For proper bone mass to be
maintained, bones must be
stressed as they are exercised.
Exercises that place moderate
stress on the spine and long
bones (arms, legs), such as walk-
ing, jogging, bicycling and danc-
ing, are especially recommended.

To prevent bone loss, experts
recommend thirty minutes of ex-
ercise three to six times a week,
and calcium supplements if the
diet is not rich in foods contain-
ing calcium, such as milk and
dairy products, spinach, broccoli.
Post-menopausal estrogen ther-
apy can also prevent bone loss.

arg. om
ae

eyawey e}lays

ne of the more dis-
. turbing aspects of

. getting older is look-
hing in the mirror
and watching the
i/features and figure
that were so firm and
attractive in youth
slowly begin to sag
and droop with the years—the result of
living on a planet with gravity. But the
downward drift can be stopped—even
reversed—with exercise. In the search
for eternal youth and the fight for eter-
nal firmness, regular exercise is one of
our most potent weapons.

The following exercises were de-
signed by Nicholas Kounovsky, fitness
expert and consultant to the National
Center for Health Fitness at American
University, specifically to combat the
sagging that comes with age.

These exercises are very effective if
performed at a comfortable pace, with-
out rushing, gradually perfecting each
movement and striving for six to ten
repetitions. Make sure you breathe
deeply and regularly, inhaling through
your nose and exhaling through your
mouth. Your chest should be expanded
when you've taken a deep breath, and
compressed after you exhale.

Of course, everyone—particularly
people who do not exercise regularly—
should check with a doctor before be-
ginning an exercise program.

Form a fist by placing one of your
hands over the other. Put the fist
against your chin and press, gently
resisting with your neck muscles.
Continue to resist as you move your
head backward and then forward.
Gradually increase the resistance.

The following people have also cooperated in
providing information for this article: Dr. Stanley
Birnbaum and Dr. Martha Friedman, New York
Hospital/Cornell University Medical Center; Si-
mone France, New York City skin-care specialist;
Betty Jerrett, Germaine Monteil; Joe Melnick and
Jane Nichols, The Erno Laszlo Institute; Patti
Holmes, Miami University; Myrna Lewis, Mt.
Sinai Medical School; Jane Porcino, author, Grow-
ing Older, Getting Better.

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Kneel and place one hand over the
other on the back of your head. Press
your hands against your head and
resist with the muscles of the neck
and upper back. As you resist, move
your head, shoulders and elbows
forward, and then straighten up.

Stand with your legs apart, body bent
forward, head up. Holding a two- to
five-pound weight (barbell, telephone
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continued from page 112

high speed 2 minutes, scraping bowl
occasionally. Stir in enough additional
flour to make a soft dough. Turn out
onto lightly floured surface. Knead un-
til smooth and elastic, about 8 minutes.
Place in oiled bowl, turning to oil top.
Cover; let rise in warm, draft-free place
until doubled in bulk, 30 to 60 minutes.
Meanwhile, prepare filling.
Filling: In large bowl combine all in-
gredients; mix well and set aside.
Punch dough down; divide into 8
equal pieces. Cover; let rest 15 minutes.
Preheat oven to 450°F. Roll and stretch
one piece dough into an 8-inch round.
Spoon % cup filling onto one side.
Moisten edges with water. Fold dough
over filling; pinch seam to seal. Roll
edge upward to form a tight seal. Place
on ungreased cookie sheet. Brush with
olive oil. Shape 3 more, then bake 15
minutes or until lightly browned. Cool
on wire rack 5 minutes before serving.
Repeat with remaining dough and fill-
ing. (Can be made ahead. Cool com-
pletely on wire rack, wrap tightly and
freeze up to 1 month. Thaw at room
temperature about 2 hours. Reheat in
350°F. oven 10 minutes.) Makes 8,
about 600 calories each.

CORNISH PASTIES
(ENGLISH MEAT PIES)

pictured on page 110
Perfect for a picnic—or a lunch box.
Pastry i
4 cups all-purpose flour
2 teaspoons baking powder
1 teaspoon salt
¥Ya cup butter, cut into small pieces

¥Ya cup lard or vegetable shortening
4/3 cup ice water
Filling
¥_ pound lean pork, cut into
Y2-inch cubes
¥Y_ pound boneless veal, cut into
Ya-inch cubes
2 cups finely diced uncooked
potatoes
1 cup finely diced carrots or
rutabaga
1 cup chopped onions
14% teaspoons salt
Y_ to Y2 teaspoon freshly ground
pepper
1 egg, beaten

Pastry: In large bowl combine dry in-
gredients; mix well. With pastry blend-
er or 2 knives, cut in butter and lard or
shortening until mixture resembles
coarse crumbs. With fork, gradually
mix in ice water. Gather dough into a
ball. Divide into 4 equal portions. Wrap
each and refrigerate 30 minutes. Pre-
pare filling.

124

Filling: In large bowl combine pork,
veal, potatoes, carrots or rutabaga and
onions. Sprinkle with salt and pepper;
toss thoroughly.

Preheat oven to 400°F. Grease 2 large
cookie sheets; set aside.

On lightly floured surface roll one
piece dough into a 14-inch round. Cut
out 6-inch rounds. (Reserve scraps.)
Top one side of each round with % cup
filling. Moisten edges with water. Fold
in half; seal edges with tines of fork.
Place on cookie sheet. Brush with
beaten egg. Repeat with remaining
dough and filling, rerolling scraps of
dough. Bake 15 minutes. Reduce oven
temperature to 350°F. Bake 35 minutes
more. Transfer to wire racks to cool.
Serve warm or at room temperature.
(Can be made ahead. Cool completely,
wrap and freeze up to 1 month. Let
stand wrapped at room temperature un-
til completely thawed, about 2 hours.
Reheat if desired in 350°F. oven 10 to 15
minutes.) Makes about 20, about 295
calories each.

EMPANADAS
(MEXICAN BEEF TURNOVERS)

pictured on page 110

The empanadas (turnovers) of Latin
America vary greatly from country to
country. Some are fried and some
baked, and foods from almost every cat-
egory are used for filling. We’ve chosen a
spicy picadillo filling.
Filling
1¥%2 pounds boneless beef sirloin, cut
into ¥Y4-inch cubes
Yq cup salad oil
2 cups chopped onions
2 garlic cloves, pressed
2 medium apples, pared, cored and
chopped
1 large tomato, peeled, seeded and
chopped
Y% cup raisins
Y4 cup chopped pimiento-stuffed
olives
1 jalapefio pepper, seeded and
minced, or 1 tablespoon
canned jalapefio
Yq cup dry sherry
1 tablespoon cider vinegar
2 teaspoons cinnamon
1% teaspoons salt
Ys teaspoon pepper
Yq teaspoon ground cloves
Y2 cup slivered almonds, toasted

Pastry

4 cups all-purpose flour
2 teaspoons baking powder

11% teaspoons salt
Ya cup butter, cut into small pieces
¥Y_ cup lard or vegetable shortening
7/3 cup ice water

1 egg, beaten

Filling: In large heavy skillet saute

beef in oil over medium-high heat until

browned. Add onions and garlic. Cook
stirring, 5 minutes or until onions a
lightly browned. Add remaining ingre
dients except almonds. Simmer un
covered, stirring occasionally, 20 min
utes. Let cool to room temperai
then add almonds.
Pastry: In large bowl combine dry in
gredients; mix well. With pastry blend
er or 2 knives, cut in butter and lard o
shortening until mixture resemble
coarse crumbs. With fork, graduall
mix in ice water. Gather dough into
ball. Divide into 4 equal portions. Wra
each and refrigerate 30 minutes.
Preheat oven to 400°F. Grease 2 larg:
cookie sheets; set aside. On lightl
floured surface roll one piece dough
inch thick. Cut into 7-inch rounds. To
one side of each round with ¥% cup fil
ing. Moisten edges with water. Fold i
half. Flute edge to seal. Place on cooki
sheet. Brush with beaten egg. Pric
once with fork to form steam vents. Re
peat with remaining dough and filling
rerolling scraps of dough. Bake unti
golden brown, 25 to 30 minutes. Trans
fer to wire rack to cool. Serve warm o
at room temperature. (Can be mad]
ahead. Cool completely, wrap and freez
up to 1 month. Thaw at room tempera
ture about 2 hours. Reheat in preheatec
350°F. oven 15 minutes.) Makes 12
about 650 calories each.

CHAUSSONS AUX POMMES
(FRENCH APPLE TURNOVERS)

pictured on page 111

Don’t let the name scare you. Thes
turnovers are quick and easy to make
plus they keep well in an airtight con
tainer up to five days.
1 package (17% oz.) frozen puff pastry
Filling

Ye cup sugar

1 tablespoon flour

1 teaspoon cinnamon

3 cups peeled apples, cut into

¥Ya-inch pieces

1 egg, beaten
Frosting

Ya cup confectioners sugar
1 tablespoon milk (about)

Thaw pastry according to package di
rections. Grease 2 cookie sheets. Pre
heat oven to 400°F.
Filling: In medium bowl combin
sugar, flour and cinnamon; mix well
Add apples and toss until coated.
On lightly floured surface gently un},
fold thawed pastry sheets. Roll on
sheet into a 12-inch square. Cut inti
four 6-inch squares. Top each squar
with about ¥% cup filling. Moisten edge
with water. Fold in half to form tri

angles. Place on cookie (continued

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continued

sheet. Brush with beaten egg. With tip
of sharp knife make 2 or 3 slits to form
steam vents. Repeat with remaining
pastry and filling. Bake until golden
brown, 25 to 30 minutes. Transfer to
wire rack to cool. (Can be made ahead.
Cool completely, wrap tightly and freeze
up to 1 month. Thaw at room tempera-
ture about 2 hours. Reheat on cookie
sheet in preheated 350°F. oven 10 min-
utes.) Drizzle with frosting while still
warm. Best served warm. Makes 8
turnovers, about 385 calories each.
Frosting: In small bowl combine con-
fectioners’ sugar and milk. Stir until
smooth, adding drops of milk if needed
to reach drizzling consistency.

FRIED PEACH PIES
(SOUTHERN FRUIT TURNOVERS)

pictured on page 111

Fried or baked, these are a delicious
way to feature dried fruit.

LOW-CALORIE GOURMET

continued from page 93

PASTA WITH MANGO
AND VEGETABLES

pictured on pages 90-91

Y2 pound macaroni twists

1 tablespoon plus 1 teaspoon salt

1 bunch broccoli

2 small zucchini, halved and sliced

2 ripe tomatoes, cut into %2-inch cubes

Y4 pound mushrooms, cut into Y4-inch
slices

1 cup chopped green onions

1 mango or 2 peaches, cut into thin
wedges about 1 or 2 inches long

Vinaigrette Dressing (recipe follows)

Boil pasta with 1 teaspoon salt 10 min-
utes or until al dente; drain.

Cut florets from thick stem of broc-
coli. If they are large, make 2 slices in
stem of florets or cut in half to ensure
even cooking. Blanch broccoli in boil-
ing water 3 minutes. Drain and cool.
Blanch zucchini in boiling water 2 min-
utes. Drain and cool.

In large salad bowl combine broccoli,
zucchini, tomatoes, mushrooms, green
onions and mango or peaches with
pasta. Toss gently. Add vinaigrette
dressing and toss again. Makes 6 serv-
ings, about 365 calories each.

VINAIGRETTE DRESSING FOR
PASTA SALAD

1 tablespoon Dijon mustard

3 tablespoons red wine vinegar
Ya cup olive oil

Ya cup salad oil

3 tablespoons water

126

Filling
1 package (8 oz.) dried peaches,
finely chopped
Ye cup sugar, divided
Y4 teaspoon nutmeg
14%4 cups water

Pastry
2 cups all-purpose flour
1% teaspoons salt
“3 cups vegetable shortening or
cup butter and ¥3 cup lard
6 to 8 tablespoons ice water

Confectioners sugar

Filling: In small heavy saucepan com-
bine peaches, ¥4 cup sugar, nutmeg and
water. Bring to a boil; cook 10 minutes.
Reduce heat and simmer, stirring fre-
quently to prevent scorching, until
slightly thickened, about 3 minutes
more. Stir in remaining ¥2 cup sugar.
Let cool to room temperature.

Pastry: In large bowl combine flour and
salt; mix well. Add shortening or butter
and lard. With pastry blender or 2
knives, cut in shortening until mixture
resembles coarse crumbs. Add water 2

8 turns freshly ground pepper

In small bowl blend mustard and vin-
egar, stirring with a wire whisk. Com-
bine oils and pour very slowly into
mustard mixture, whisking until
slightly thickened. Beat in water. Add
pepper. (Can be made ahead. Store re-
frigerated up to 1 week.) Makes % cup.

SAUTEED CHICKEN PROVENCAL

pictured on page 92

—

broiler-fryer chicken, cut into 10
pieces (3 Ibs.)

1 teaspoon salt

6 turns freshly ground pepper

2 tablespoons olive oil

1 tablespoon chopped garlic

Y4 cup chopped onion

1 teaspoon dried rosemary

¥Y2 teaspoon thyme

Ye pound small mushrooms

1 cup diced tomatoes, peeled and
seeded, or 1 can (16 oz.) whole
tomatoes, drained and seeded

Y4 cup dry white wine

Y4 cup chicken broth

4 tablespoons chopped parsley

or basil

Sprinkle chicken with salt and pepper.
In heavy skillet heat oil; add chicken,
skin side down. Cook 8 to 10 minutes
until golden brown on all sides. Add
garlic, onion, rosemary, thyme and
mushrooms. Cook, stirring, 5 minutes.
Spoon off all fat in skillet. Add
tomatoes, wine and chicken broth, stir-
ring to loosen brown bits on bottom of
skillet. Simmer uncovered 10 minutes.
Thicken sauce by reducing it briefly
over high heat. Stir in parsley. Makes 4
servings, about 410 calories each.

tablespoons at a time, stirring with 4
fork until mixture leaves sides of bow]
and forms a ball. Divide dough in half
Wrap one piece dough; set aside. O
lightly floured surface roll remaining
piece ¥% inch thick. Cut out 5-inc
rounds. (Reserve scraps.) Top one side
of each round with 2 level tablespoons
filling. Moisten edges with water. Folc
in half; seal edges with tines of fork
Repeat with remaining dough and fill
ing, rerolling scraps of dough. (Can bé
made ahead. Wrap tightly and freeze uj
to 3 weeks. Remove from freezer; le
stand wrapped at room temperature un
til completely thawed, about 2 hours.
Bake or fry (see below). Serve warm
with confectioners’ sugar. Makes 1
305 calories baked, 335 calories fried
To bake: Place on ungreased cooki
sheet. Bake in preheated 425°F. oven 1
minutes. (Tops should be pale.) Trang
fer to wire rack to cool.
To fry: In deep-fat fryer or Dutch ove
heat 1¥2 inches salad oil to 375°F. F
pies until lightly browned, 3 to
minutes. Remove with slotted spoo
Drain on paper towels. Enc

VEAL NAVARIN

pictured on page 92

3¥%2 pounds boneless stewing veal,
very lean and cut into
l-inch cubes
Ye teaspoon salt
8 turns freshly ground pepper
2 tablespoons salad oil
14% cups chopped onions
1 garlic clove, finely chopped
¥Y_ cup dry white wine
cup chopped fresh tomatoes
cup chicken broth
Y2 teaspoon thyme
1 bay leaf
1 cup carrots, quartered lengthwise
and cut into 12-inch strips
1 cup white turnips, cut into
1¥-inch strips
Ya cup celery, cut into 1¥2-inch strips
¥4 cup frozen peas, run under warm
water and drained
cup chopped parsley

Sprinkle veal with salt and pepper. I
large Dutch oven heat oil. Add veal on!
third at a time and cook over high hea
until evenly browned. This should tak
about 15 minutes.
Add onions and garlic; cook, stirring
a few minutes. Add wine, tomatoegie
broth, thyme and bay leaf. Cover an
cook 30 minutes or until tender.
Meanwhile, in large covered saucé
pan cook carrots, turnips and celery i
boiling water 1 minute. Drain well. Ad
vegetables to veal. Cook about 15 mir
utes more. Remove veal and vegetable
and reduce liquid to half. Add peagi,.
Pour over veal and vegetables. Sprink]y
with parsley. Makes 8 servings, abou
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continued

POACHED COD WITH VEGETABLES

pictured on page 92

3 carrots
2 white turnips (about '¥ Ib.)

12 asparagus spears (about % Ib.) or 1
package (10 oz.) frozen spears,
thawed

¥Y4 teaspoon salt, divided

4 codfish steaks (4—6 oz. each),
Yq inch thick

Y4 cup milk

1 bay leaf

2 peppercorns

1 sprig parsley

Quarter carrots and cut into 3-inch
pieces. Peel turnips, cut through mid-
dle and quarter each half. Peel as-
paragus with a vegetable peeler; cut off
tough ends to make 5-inch-long spears.

In saucepan place carrots in water to
cover. Add % teaspoon salt. Bring to a
boil and cook about 5 minutes. Add
turnips and cook about 4 minutes. Add
asparagus and cook 3 minutes more. (If
frozen, cook 1 minute.) Remove vegeta-
bles from heat, drain and keep warm.
Place fish in large skillet and just
barely cover with milk and 1 cup water.
Add remaining salt, bay leaf, pepper-

corns and parsley. Bring liquid to a boil
and simmer 4 minutes.

With slotted spatula transfer fish to a
warm plate. Serve with vegetables.
Makes 4 servings, 140 calories each.

HAMBURGER AU POIVRE BLANC

pictured on page 92

2 pounds lean ground beef sirloin

Y2 teaspoon salt
1% to 2 tablespoons crushed white

peppercorms

2 tablespoons chopped shallots

2 tablespoons cognac

Yq cup dry red wine

Ya cup chicken broth or beef stock
tablespoon butter

—_

Shape meat into 6 hamburgers, about
3 inches in diameter and % to 1 inch
thick. Sprinkle with salt. Press crushed
peppercorns into meat to help pepper
adhere. Heat a heavy skillet (prefera-
bly cast iron). Add burgers and grill 3
to 4 minutes on one side, 4 to 5 minutes
on the other side. Transfer to warm
platter. Discard all fat from skillet; add
shallots and cook briefly; do not brown.
Add cognac and red wine. Reduce liq-
uid by half and add stock. Reduce to
about 6 tablespoons. Swirl in butter
and pour sauce over burgers. Makes 6
servings, about 315 calories each.

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you can create salads that

ORANGE SLICES IN CASSIS

pictured on page 92

8 medium navel oranges
¥Y_ cup orange juice

4 tablespoons cassis

1 tablespoon lemon juice

“a c- ep ef

With an orange zester, remove surface
of the skin of 3 oranges in long, very
thin strips. There should be about ¥%
cup. Place peel in pan with cool water.
Bring to a boil and drain immediately.
Set aside. Cut off top and bottom of
each orange. Remove skin and white
membrane from all the oranges. Re-
move each section without any of the
membrane that radiates from the cen-
ter. Place sections in a bowl along with
orange juice, cassis, lemon juice and
reserved peel. Toss gently. Cover tight-
ly and refrigerate at least 2 hours.
Makes 6 servings, 130 calories each.

APPLE SOUFFLE

pictured on page 93

5 Golden Delicious apples
2 tablespoons butter
6 tablespoons sugar, divided
2 teaspoons grated lemon peel
3 tablespoons calvados or applejack
8 egg whites
Confectioners sugar (optional)

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Butter bottoms and sides of 6 individ-
ual (6 oz.) soufflé dishes. Place in re-
frigerator. Peel and core apples. Cut
into quarters and slice very thinly.
There should be about 4 cups. In large
skillet melt butter. Add apples, 4 table-
spoons sugar and lemon peel. Cook at
high heat, stirring, about 10 minutes or
until all liquid has evaporated and ap-
ples have browned slightly. Add 3 table-
spoons calvados; mix well.

Preheat oven to 450°F. Transfer ap-
ples to food processor and puree finely,
about 1 minute; transfer to large bowl.

In large mixer bow] beat egg whites
until stiff but still moist. Beat in re-
maining 2 tablespoons sugar. With
large rubber spatula, fold puree into
egg whites. Spoon equally into pre-
pared dishes. With your thumb, create
a channel around rims of dishes to al-
low for expansion. Place on a baking
sheet and bake 7 minutes. Reduce oven
temperature to 425°F. and bake 5 to 7
minutes more. Sprinkle with confec-
tioners’ sugar and serve immediately.
Makes 6 servings, 165 calories each.

POACHED PEARS IN RED WINE
AND HONEY

pictured on page 93
8 Bartlett or Bosc pears

Juice of 1 lemon
Y2 cup sugar
Y2 cup honey
1¥% cups red wine
Ye teaspoon vanilla extract
2 whole cloves
3 peppercorns
Ys cup cassis
Ye teaspoon dried thyme or
1 fresh sprig

Peel and core pears with vegetable
peeler. Leave stems attached. Place in
saucepan just large enough to hold
them standing upright. Add remaining
ingredients. Bring just to boiling, then
cover and simmer very slowly, about 30
minutes. Lift pears from pan; stand up-
right in a serving bowl. Strain sauce
over pears and let cool before serving,
basting occasionally with wine sauce as
they cool. Makes 8 servings, about 185
calories each with 2 tablespoons syrup.

BROILED FISH FILLETS WITH
ORANGE BUTTER SAUCE

Y2 cup orange juice

2 tablespoons butter

1 cup fresh diced tomatoes

4 fillets of white-fleshed fish such as
fluke, red snapper, striped bass or
lemon sole (about 1'/ Ibs.)

4 teaspoons olive oil

Y2 teaspoon salt

8 turns freshly ground pepper

2 tablespoons chopped fresh coriander
(cilantro)

Preheat broiler. Pour orange juice into
small saucepan. Reduce by half over
high heat. Add butter and tomatoes.

Brush fish with oil on both sides.
Sprinkle with salt and pepper. Arrange
on unheated broiler tray and place 2 to
3 inches from source of heat. Broil 3 to
4 minutes or just until fillets are
cooked through. Remove from heat and
serve with orange sauce. Garnish with
coriander. Makes 4 servings, about 260
calories each.

SHRIMP INDIAN STYLE

1 tablespoon olive oil
¥Y_ cup onion
1 tablespoon chopped garlic
1¥%2 pounds fresh shrimp, shelled
and deveined
2 tablespoons curry powder
Y2 teaspoon salt
Yq cup lime juice
Y2 cup sour cream
cup plain yogurt
cup chopped fresh coriander
(cilantro)

In large, nonstick skillet, heat oil. Add
onion and cook briefly, then add garlic,
shrimp, curry powder and salt. Cook,
stirring frequently, about 3 minutes.
Add lime juice, sour (continued)

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BROILED FLOUNDER
A LA MOUTARDE

4 flounder fillets (about 11/2 Ibs.)
1 tablespoon olive oil

2 tablespoons Dijon mustard

7 turns freshly ground pepper

2 tablespoons chopped chives

4 lime wedges

Preheat broiler. Arrange fish on a bak-
ing sheet or in a baking dish and brush
with oil. With a pastry brush, spread
mustard evenly over fish. Sprinkle with
pepper. Broil about 3 inches from heat
source about 2 minutes, or until golden
brown. Do not overcook. Serve on indi-
vidual dishes, sprinkled with chives
and accompanied by a wedge of lime.
Makes 4 servings, about 175 calories
each.

JULIENNE OF CARROTS
AND SNOW PEAS

34 pound carrots, peeled and trimmed
Yq pound snow peas, trimmed
1 tablespoon butter

2 tablespoons sesame seed

Y2 teaspoon chopped garlic

2 tablespoons chopped chives or
green onions

1 tablespoon light soy sauce

Slice carrots into julienne strips about
1% inches long. Slice snow peas into
strips about % inch wide. In saucepan
place carrots in water to cover. Bring to
a boil; simmer 4 minutes. Add snow
peas. Cook 2 minutes more, stirring oc-
casionally; drain. In large skillet melt
butter; add sesame seed. Cook until
seed is lightly browned, stirring fre-
quently. Add garlic, carrots and snow
peas, chives and soy sauce. Saute, stir-
ring, 1 minute. Serve. Makes 6 serv-
ings, about 65 calories each.

FRESH FRUIT SALAD WITH
GRAND MARNIER

Juice of 1 lemon

cup sugar

tablespoons Grand Marnier
tablespoons peach jam
cup orange sections

cup seedless grapes

cup hulled strawberries
cup blueberries

mango, peeled and sliced
cup peeled, sliced apples
cup peeled, sliced pears

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1 small red onion, thinly sliced
1 cup prepared Hidden Valley Ranch salad dressing —
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Gently combine.

sugar, Grand Marnier and peach jam.
Add fruit and toss until well coated.
Chill until ready to serve. Makes 8
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SEPTEMBER RECIPE INDEX

Here is a listing of recipes appearing in this issue, including
those from the Journal kitchen and advertisements.

APPETIZERS

Paszteciki (Polish Mushroom Turnovers) p. 112
Piroshki (Russian Beef Turnovers) p. 112
Spanakopeta (Greek Spinach Turnovers) p. 112

DESSERTS

Apple Souffié p. 128

Chaussons aux Pommes (French Apple Turnovers) p. 124
Creamy Coconut Pie p. 134

Dutch Apple Pie p 143

Fresh Fruit Salad with Grand Marnier p. 130

Fried Peach Pies (Southern Fruit Turnovers) p. 126
German Sweet Chocolate Pie p 134

Light ’n Fruity Pie p. 135

Orange Slices in Cassis p. 128

Poached Pears in Red Wine and Honey p. 129

ENTREES

Beef Stroganoff p. 139

Broiled Fish Fillets with Orange Butter Sauce p. 129
Broiled Flounder a la Moutarde p. 130
Calzone (Italian Cheese Turnovers} p. 112
Cornish Pasties (English Meat Pies) p. 124
Empanadas (Mexican Beef Turnovers) p. 124
Fried Chicken—Back Cover

Hamburger au Poivre Blanc p. 128

Pasta with Mango and Vegetables p. 126
Poached Cod with Vegetables p. 128

Sauteed Chicken Provencal p. 126

Shrimp Indian Style p. 129

Tuna-Avocado Salad p 62

Veal Navarin p. 126

MISCELLANEOUS

Dilly Tomato Soup p. 62

Hidden Valley Ranch Nouvelle Potato Salad p. 130
Julienne of Carrots and Snowpeas p. 130

Pita Snack p. 62

Vinaigrette Dressing for Pasta Salad p. 126

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No one likes insects. Many of us don’t

even like to think about them. But you

can keep the little pests at a distance if

you follow these tips.

Flying Insects. Certainly t]

most effective way of keep

sects out of your home is also

. obvious—screens. If your

seem to be doing the job they

check them for holes and

fit snugly around skylighi

dow frames. If insects floc

time you walk through the doo

any white light bulbs (which attra

kinds of bugs) with yellow “bug” lig

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If just a couple of insects get in, a

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flyswatter will, of course, take care of

them. But if a number intrude, try an
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once it’s dried. It neutralizes com-
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Antifly strips that hang from the
ceiling work well in rooms with good
air circulation. Don’t use them in
rooms without ventilation because the
vapors they give off can cause respira-
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Outdoors, make insect control easier
by keeping places where flies like to
breed well away from the house and
often-used yard areas. Flies will breed
in compost heaps, mulch and grass clip-
pings, and mosquitoes prefer birdbaths,
plugged-up rain gutters and mud pud-
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If you’re thinking of buying an elec-
tric light designed to lure bugs and
electrocute them, beware of manufac-
turers’ claims that they clear areas of
bugs or eliminate certain insects.
These lights, according to Dr. George
re of the National Pest Control

ciation, in Dunloring, Virginia,
ay actually attract more bugs than
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ght in a removed but not-too-dis-

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You can also avoid a few bites if you
remember that mosquitoes tend to be
more active when the weather is cooler,
that is, in the morning and evening.

Insect repellent, like Off or Cutter’s,
is very effective against mosquitoes, es-
pecially if you’re picnicking. When re-
applying repellent, be sensitive to indi-
vidual needs, since it can take up to
two hours longer for an application to
wear off one person than another.
Fleas. According to Dr. Rambo, flea col-
lars for your pet won’t prevent flea in
festations. The pesticides they release
are localized around your pet’ head
and shoulders, leaving his back un
protected. So, if your pet does contract
fleas, it’s best to take him to a vet
erinarian. Home remedies are just not
as safe or as effective as the treatments
your vet can use, and some can even
increase your pet’s discomfort by agi;
tating the bites he already has. Follo
all instructions for follow-up care te
avoid overdoses or side effects.

Next, clean your home. A thorough
cleaning, rather than pesticides, wil
do the job. The trick is to completely
clean all the places around your hom

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where fleas are likely to live and breed.

Inside, carpets provide excellent
sreeding grounds for fleas, so thor-
yughly clean and disinfect all carpeted
areas, including under furniture. A
good vacuuming will do, but throw out
lisposable vacuum bags right away, or
smpty nondisposable bags thoroughly
yy shaking and treat with a powder or
spray insecticide. Shampooing rugs is
in even surer way to eliminate fleas.
[ake special care around areas where
our pet spends a lot of time. And don’t
orget to clean your car as well.

Your yard will be the toughest place
o rid of fleas. Types of fleas vary from
egion to region, and a local garden
tore can help you select the remedy
vest suited for your area. Or call your
tate cooperative extension service,
vhich will probably have homeowners’
uggestions for controlling local pests.
tockroaches. Cockroaches are so com-
non in many large cities that the prob-
em has become two-fold: getting rid of
hose in your home and keeping those
n your neighbors’ homes from reinfest-
ng yours. This means that any control
rogram you choose must include ex-
ermination and follow-up measures.

For a severe infestation, you may
vant to call a licensed exterminator,
vho may have access to pesticides not

available to you, usually because they
require special equipment or handling.
Before you hire an exterminator, shop
around for the best service at the best
price. Pest-control operators are profes-
sionals, so expect the same degree of
competence from them that you would
from a doctor or dentist. Look for a
company with a membership in the Na-
tional Pest Control Association and
which is active in local associations and
cooperative extensions.

Also, ascertain exactly how much
cleaning and fumigating will be done,
what chemicals will be used, and if the
chemicals used can damage your fur-
nishings. Ask how often the company
will return for follow-up service.
Though you may need to vacate your
home for a few hours during the first
visit, this is usually not necessary, ac-
cording to Joe Savage, an entomologist
at Cornell University’s Cooperative Ex-
tension. Most services contract out for
once-a-month visits, and many guaran-
tee their services as well.

You can tackle the problem yourself
if you're willing to put in the time and
effort. Remember, for every bug you
see, there are as many as fifty more
breeding where you can’t see them.

To get rid of cockroaches, clean the
places where they breed—under sinks,

behind appliances, in basements—any- i
where dark, damp and warm. It may be
necessary to move your appliances. ih

Once these areas are clean, spray
them with an insecticide that has both
“knock down” and residual properties.
“Knock down” means the spray will
quickly kill insects that it lands on.
Residual means that the spray will con-
tinue to kill bugs once it’s dry. Check
the label for an estimate of how long
the spray lasts. Also, you’ll get better
results if you use a sprayer designed to
get into those hard-to-reach crevices.

Lay down a powdered insecticide
with boric acid in places that roaches
are likely to reestablish themselves. If
you live in an apartment, you'll even be
protected against cockroaches wander-
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ment. Replace the powdered insecticide
every month.

If you can’t get into all the little cre- |
vices and crannies, use a fogger or |
“bomb,” a can of extremely concen-
trated insecticide that releases its con-
tents in a mist to penetrate dark cor-
ners. These fumigators alone will not
kill an infestation, but they will drive
insects out from walls to where you can
lay pesticides to kill them. They are
quite potent, so be sure to follow all
precautions on the label. —LISA SIEGEL

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eeling that they always had her sup-
ort and concern and love. It is a kind
f mental emotional link that takes
lace whether the kids are five feet
way or five thousand miles away. Ask
ne how she did it? I don’t really know,
xcept to say that she gave them the
ense that nothing in her life was as
mportant as they were, and there was
.othing they needed from her that they
ould not get.”

When Caroline was quite young, her
aother often had to “arrange” outings
or her with family friends, such as
uthor George Plimpton, so Caroline
ould leave the gilded prison of home
nd enjoy the attractions of New York
rith someone less noticeable than
ackie. But today, while Caroline has
aherited her mother’s inclination to be
iffident, her shyness masks tremen-
ous strength: She took charge and vol-
nteered for the heartbreaking task of
lentifying her cousin David’s body at
ae morgue. And Caroline also holds a
2sponsible job as researcher-producer
1 the special projects and audiovisual
‘epartment of New York’s Metropolitan
Tuseum of Art. She recently handled a
arge press conference in New York
ith tremendous aplomb in the course
‘fher job. Caroline and her steady boy-
‘iend, Edwin Schlossberg, an artist
ond designer, often attend dinners and
varties with Jackie.

John Kennedy, Jr., has a much more
wmbivalent relationship with his an-
2»stry and his fame than Caroline. “He
mew he was somebody pretty special
vary early im his life,” says a school
-iend. “He knew he could get away
‘ith more in class than some of the
ids. He acted up a lot. When he was in
rep school he had a bunch of follow-
*s—we called them “John Kennedy's
ourt’—who would do anything for
im and kind of worshiped him be-
iause he was a celebrity. You’d hear
»yme of them talking after spending
jyme time with him about how ‘John
: iid me this’ and ‘John told me that’ as

it were the word from Olympus. It

ind of went to his head. He wasn’t a
»0d student [in prep school] at all and

was mostly because he was fooling
round. He’s no genius, but he could
ave done much better.”

The turnaround for John came in col-
“ge when he developed some serious
)iterests. Friends say his commitments
') studying international relations, to
sting and to athletics were partly
»wurred by his natural maturation,
iartly by the interests of his friends,
ad largely abetted by Jackie’s pa-
eence. “I think she knew there was
»mething there in John and it was

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going to take a longer time emerging
than it did in Caroline,” says one of
Jackie’s former escorts. “Boys develop
later anyway, and it was to her credit
that she didn’t crack down hard on him
and alienate him. I gather they had
some pretty good battles over the way
he was conducting his life. But most of
the time she was content to wait until
he found himself or until he really
crashed. It turns out she was right, and
he began to come into his own.”

Since graduating from Brown Uni-
versity, John has traveled in India,
pausing occasionally to study at such
schools as Delhi University, doing re-
search on Third World poverty, social
issues and economics. Jackie has en-
couraged him in this venture because of
her own interest in the country. And no
doubt it didn’t escape her that John
benefited by being out of the U.S. at a

time when speculation about his life
might have hit its peak: the twentieth
anniversary of his father’s death last
November. Family associates expect he
will follow the traditional path and go
to law school upon his return. “I don’t
think it’s in John’s nature to be a politi-
cal activist, but he has been drawn to
political and social studies in recent
years anyway,” says Andy Karsch, a
friend of his and Caroline’s. “He de-
cided that he wants to be a person of
consequence, and he’s making all the
moves to position himself to get there.”

Recently, another friend of John and
Caroline’s ran into Jackie at a large
reception at the Metropolitan Museum.
He could not get over how effusive she
was in describing her children’s doings.
“She went on and on about them as if
they were running the world,” he says.
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ibsorption with their lives. She is
he eternally proud parent.”

The parent/child relationship cuts
oth ways, for now it is the children
vho often support her. “Jackie was in
he sourest mood one day when Car-
line and I ran into her,” recalls Car-
line’s friend. “Immediately, Caroline
tarted mimicking her in that high,
oft-whisper voice and pretended to be
n a tantrum. In a couple of seconds she
ad her mother laughing and had
urned her whole mood around. They
re each other's life-support system.”

In looking back at the past, one can
ee that Jackie plotted her family’s
rowth and development with a series
f steps that appeared to have one pur-
yose—putting some distance between
.erself and her children and the Ken-
edy legend. To get away she needed
listance and security. Thus the first
riant step came when she moved her
amily out of Washington to New York
Yity and began to set a course for John
ind Caroline that took them outside
he Kennedy world. The second, even
arger step came when she married
\ristotle Onassis.

“Most people think Jackie just mar-
ied Onassis for the money,” says Larry
Newman, a Hyannis Port neighbor of
he Kennedys. “Undoubtedly there was
ome of that involved, but at the begin-
ling it was very clear they were in love.
"hey'd have champagne lunches and
hen go pirouetting up the street like
eenagers in the middle of their first
ove affair She was absolutely mad
ibout the guy.”

In addition to his money, Onassis of-
ered Jackie something equally valu-
ible: a new last name and as much
pace as she chose between herself and
1er Kennedy past. “You want to know
he best thing about Onassis?” Jackie
mce asked a startled dinner compan-
on several years after the shipping
nagnate died. “Marrying him liberated
ne from the Kennedys—especially the
<ennedy Administration. None of
hem could understand why I’d want
hat funny little squiggly name when I
ised to have the greatest name of all.”

Still, whatever relief her marriage to
Inassis brought, it also carried with it
2 public odium that took an emotional
oll. Jackie turned almost overnight
rom an icon to a con lady in the pub-
ics eye. For several years, she didn’t
seem to care. The security her relation-
ship with Onassis brought her and the
children were worth the price. How-
ver, as things cooled with Onassis and
Jackie began to look toward the future
n the mid-1970s, she started to focus
mn her public standing.

“Tt dawned on her that the public
perception, while it was distorted and
vicious, had some truth to it,” says one
relative. “She did spend a lot of time
and money on herself, and there wasn’t
much to show for it except a bad press.
Things were changing in the social
world at the time, too. It wasn’t nearly
as acceptable in those years as it had
been in the past for a bright, talented,
rich woman to do nothing but spend
money, travel and dabble in the arts.
She made a deliberate choice to change
course and rebuild her image. The chil-
dren were growing up and she needed
to do something that mattered and re-
covered for her some of her lost glory.”

Eve wipes
Onassis

liberated me from
the Kennedys,’

says Jackie.

Jackie decided to enter the publish-
ing business and also to become in-
volved in some well-chosen, non-con-
troversial projects such as the restora-
tion of Grand Central Terminal in
Manhattan and the economic develop-
ment of Bedford-Stuyvesant that Bob-
by Kennedy had sponsored during his
years in the Senate. As she explained
later, “What has been sad for many
women of my generation is that they
weren't supposed to work if they had
families. There they were, with the
highest education, and what were they
to do when the children were grown—
watch the raindrops coming down the
windowpane? Of course women should
work if they want to.”

Her decision to become a book editor
was a stroke of genius. At once it put
her in touch with vibrant, engaging
people who shared her intellectual in-
terests and, more important, her un-
derstanding of the necessity of balanc-
ing publicity with privacy. She first
worked at Viking Press as a consulting
editor for two and half years, beginning
in 1975. But it was only in 1978, after
she became an associate editor at Dou-
bleday—where she still works—that a
measure of serenity entered her life.

Jackie won converts at Doubleday by
doing such commonplace things as
placing her own phone calls and mak-
ing coffee for co-workers. “What struck
me is how normal she is—friendly to

everyone, a great sense of humor and
the best listener that [ve ever wit-
nessed,” says a Doubleday employee.
“When you stop and think, She really
doesn’t have to do this, it makes her all
the more impressive.”

Although she has not yet been re-
sponsible for a best-seller, she is cer-
tain to have one soon: Last January
Jackie won out over several other pub-
lishers to sign superstar singer
Michael Jackson to write his memoirs.
The book is due out next spring. To
finalize the deal, she flew to Los An-
geles to meet with the singer. Her
strategy worked, and Jackson was
promised over $300,000 for his life
story. “Doubleday brought Jackie in
because they thought she could go to
the Queen and get a book,” explains
one literary agent. “But Jackie thought
celebrities would come to her. Finally,
she realized she was a heavy piece of
furniture and she had to start moving.”

Her co-workers uniformly say she is
among the easiest people to deal with
in an industry in which egos are large
and antagonisms strong. “She can be
stubborn when she sets her mind to
something, and when she loses an ar-
gument she pouts like anybody else,”
says one Doubleday editor. “But she
can be the life of the party at editorial
meetings. She is funny and witty and
biting. Sometimes she does the
damnedest silly things, calling people
who are grossly unsuited to do the kind
of work she is seeking. Other times her
ideas are brilliant for their origi-
nality—she can match personalities
and projects in unusually workable
ways. And she has the biggest Rolodex
in the office. Nobody else has the range
of contacts in literature, politics and
the arts that she has.”

Jackie's impressive roster of business
contacts and friends reflects a life spent
mingling with some of the era’s most
fascinating people. Today, her social life
can best be described as “upright.” The
most significant man in her life is
multimillionaire _ financier-industrial-
ist Maurice Tempelsman. Tempels-
man’s income derives from his family’s
firm, Leon Tempelsman & Son, from
his own American Coldset Corporation
(a Dallas-based manufacturer of dia-
mond drill bits) and a host of other
European holdings that specialize in
African mining and manufacturing.

Jackie met Tempelsman through a
friend after her longtime financial ad-
viser Andre Meyer died. She liked him
immediately and asked him to handle
her finances. Soon, their professional re-
lationship became more social. “Jackie
relies on him in some of the same ways
she relied on Onassis,” says a relative.
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that she deeply appreciates.” Her con-
nection to him also keeps any would-be
suitors away. Tempelsman is now her
regular escort and they are said by
friends to be “about as close as Jackie
ever gets to anyone.”

For all the beneficial changes Jackie
has made in her life, she is still a mys-
tery, even to those closest to her.
Friends describe her as uncommonly
thoughtful. ‘She sends dozens of gra-
cious handwritten notes a year to those
who have done favors for her. But none
of her friends have found Jackie baring
her soul—she confides in no one. If any-
one threatens to get too close or press
too hard about her past, she will shut
the person off with that famous, frozen,
passionless smile.

One of the men who dated her reg-
ularly for a while remembers a night
when he recounted story after story
about his life and the things he had
seen. “She laughed and was genuinely
interested in everything I said,” he re-
called. “She asked questions that got to
the core of things and made me remem-
ber parts of stories that I had forgotten.
Incredibly attentive—that’s the only
way to describe her. Then, all of a sud-
den, it dawned on me that all the dis-
cussion had been about me. Partly out
of politeness and partly out of real curi-
osity, I said, ‘Enough of me. I haven’t
done anything that compares to you.’
She could have responded a thousand

ways, but all she said was, ‘Yes, it’s
been interesting.’ I knew the minute
she said it that it was all she was going
to say, and it was said in a way that told
me the conversation was finished.”

There was a time when her desire for
privacy led her to great lengths to avoid
any kind of attention from the press or
public. George Plimpton remembers:
“She would never take to the streets
unless she was -wrapped and folded in
some outrageous scarf and huge sun-
glasses. You’d see this creature walking
down the street and look down through
the long tunnel of scarf or whatever
and at the very end see. . . Jackie! She
had quite an amazing assortment of
headpieces at one point in her life, just
so she would not have to feel a prisoner
in her own apartment.”

But recently her attitude has
changed. “Jackie has really begun to
show the bright side of herself,” says
longtime Kennedy worker and associ-
ate Paul Corbin. “On the day of the
dedication of the Kennedy Library, I
was eating breakfast in the Ritz Carl-
ton in Boston when she came down the
stairs into a mob of photographers. A
scene like that would have bugged the
hell out of her a few years earlier, but
she kind of had fun with them this
time. She called out to me, ‘Hey, Cor-
bin, walked right up to me and gave
me a big kiss in front of them all. I
thought to myself, Nobody does it bet-
ter than Jackie when she wants to.”

One of the best examples of the heal-
ing effect of time on Jackie’s life is a

shopping trip she took on Manhattan's |
Lexington Avenue last November. A |
young man was browsing through a
magazine shop when a soft voice in-
quired over his shoulder, “Excuse me,
are there any more Newsweeks back
there?” Preoccupied, the man grabbed
one of the magazines picturing the un-
forgettable features of John Fitzgerald
Kennedy on its cover, and thrust it at
the woman without looking at her. But
something in her “Thank you” com-
pelled him to turn toward her, and for a
moment he couldn’t believe his eyes.
Walking toward the cashier was Jac-
queline Bouvier Kennedy Onassis with
a copy of the magazine commemorating
the twentieth anniversary of her hus-
band’s assassination. Dressed casual-
ly—with no attempt at disguise—she
paid for the magazine and walked out.
Even though the nation’s attention was
again focused on her and her family in
the orgy of remembrance of JFK on the
twentieth anniversary of his death,
Jackie felt comfortable enough to walk
down a teeming boulevard unescorted.
What's more, the woman who once com-
plained bitterly—and with some justi-
fication—about the merciless hounding
she suffered at the hands of crowds,
photographers and the media, went al-
most entirely unnoticed. End

Harrison Rainie is a correspondent for
the New York Daily News, covering pol-
itics and Congress. He is the coauthor
(with John Quinn) of Growing Up
Kennedy (G.P. Putnam’s Sons, 1983).

DAVID

continued from page 109

up identifying with the one family
member who had become a non-person
as well as a non-Kennedy was an espe-
cially ironic fate, because the begin-
ning of his life had been so promising.
“You might not believe it,” he told us,
“but when I was a kid I was a sort of
golden boy in my family. I couldn’t do
anything wrong.” Robert Kennedy was
especially close to David, apparently
seeing something of himself in his son:
both of them sandwiched into the mid-
dle of large, boisterous families; both of
them with two powerful older brothers
to deal with; both runts of the litter.

~ While Ethel and the other children
agitated for the Presidential bid
through RFK’s days of indecision about
whether to challenge Lyndon Johnson
early in 1968, David alone opposed the
candidacy. “I didn’t want my father to
run for President,” he once told us. “I
thought he might get killed.” He had
horrifying nightmares during the spring
of 1968. They all became reality the
night of June 5, 1968, when he sat by
himself in front of the television watch-

136

ing as the man who had rescued him
from the surf earlier that afternoon
was murdered in the passageway of a
Los Angeles hotel.

It was the moral vacuum this event
created, even more than the terrible
imagery of the death, that traumatized
David. His mother, Ethel, as he later
said, was simply “not there” for him.

Ethel’s function in the family had al-
ways been that of the madcap mistress
of ceremonies at Hickory Hill, the Ken-
nedy estate in Virginia. She was the
one who could be counted on to pull
pranks, such as using live bullfrogs as
centerpieces for important dinners.
She had always been, in the words of a
family friend, “more Kennedy than
thou,” taking her mother-in-law, Rose,
as a model. (She boasted jokingly of
having outdone Rose’ nine children
with her own eleven.)

As Robert Kennedy’s wife, Ethel was
particularly good at giving him the
support he needed as a public figure.
However, her achievements as a mother
were more questionable. Ethel left the
mothering to the succession of employ-
ees who found her so difficult to work

for. As her eldest child, Kathleen, tole
us, “My mother and aunts didn’t reall
raise us. We were the responsibility of
governesses.”
Preoccupied with her own grief at
her husband’s death, Ethel didn’t cal
David the night of the assassination or
even the next day to talk to him about
what he had witnessed on the televi
sion screen. (“In fact,” he told us bit
terly not long before his own death
“she hasn’t talked to me about it to this
day.”) During RFK’s funeral, Ethel was
lost in her role as widow; during thé
wake at Hickory Hill, she tried to per
petuate the illusion that nothing had
changed except that Bobby was now i
heaven directing their lives from thi
new and improved vantage point.
The summer after the death Ethel
edgy and remote, handing out capricio
punishments to her children and bound
ing around the tennis court in nonsto
doubles matches with family friends, a
though she was several months pregnantia#y
While Ethel turned inward, Davidg
looked to the brother just above him i
age, Bobby, Jr., for guidance. In pa
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generation between Joseph, Jr., and
Jack. But instead of competing to see
which of them would become the politi-
cal leader of the family, as their uncles
had, David and Bobby, Jr., entered a
conflict of extremes. Like his brother,
David began to smoke marijuana, and,
acting on Bobby’s dare, he took mes-
caline that first summer after his fa-
ther’s death. Over the next few years, as
the family became divided into sur-
vivors and victims, David fell into the
second category.

As David became increasingly
intractable, Ethel was often irra-
tionally angry with him. She would bar
him from the house, and he sometimes
slept alone in the backyard. The two
seemed constantly at odds. It was al-
most as if being his father’s favorite
made David too much for her to bear.

Looking back at this time, David
later said of his mother, “Her idea was
that it really didn’t matter whether or
not I had actually done anything
wrong. I would do it sooner or later so
she might as well get heavy with me in
advance. I remember it clearly. This
was the point in my life when every-
thing began to turn against me.”

At.prep school David prided himself
on being high as often as possible. Eth-
el saw this desperate claim for atten-
tion as a willful departure from the
Kennedy ideals. She reacted (as she
‘had immediately after her husband’s
death) by sending David away. The
‘summer trips she contrived for him
over the next few years—to the Black-
foot reservation in 1970 and to Califor-
«nia the following year to work with Ce-
sar Chavez—were meant to remind
him of his father’s political heritage.
(They only reminded David that his fa-
‘ther was dead and that he was being
forced to live as a virtual nomad, ex-
»pelled from a Kennedy Eden.

By the summer of 1973, when David
was eighteen, Ethel stopped looking for
socially redeeming situations for him
and sent him to Colorado as a laborer
on a ranch. Pam Kelley, a neighbor at
the Cape who was also going through a
rebellious time, went with him.

Back in Massachusetts, the two of
them were invited to Nantucket for a
weekend with Joe II, then twenty-one.
Desperate for any family contact, Dav-
id immediately accepted. The weekend
culminated with him and Pam being
thrown from Joe’s jeep during a wild,
careening ride. David’s vertebrae were
‘tracked; Pam Kelley's spinal cord was
‘damaged, leaving her paralyzed.

David came to depend on the mor-
)phine he was given in the hospital to
relieve his emotional as well as his

physical pain. “It felt great, just great.
I'd drift off to sleep and wake up and
figure it was eight hours later and time
for the next shot. ’'d look at my watch
and realize that it had only been an
hour and a half since the last one. I'd
start yelling in agony to get them to
hurry up.” Once released from the hos-
pital, he went from morphine to heroin,
the last remaining forbidden zone of
drugs. By the time David went to Nash-
ville in the summer of 1974 to work on
the Tennessean, he was on the verge of
serious addiction.

“He was still a kid at this time, but
nobody from home visited him,” re-
members John Warnecke, Jr., son of the

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trouble nobody
came,” said
David Kennedy.

architect who had designed the JFK
gravesite. He was also in Nashville that
summer (and also having a drug prob-
lem). “My impression was that they
were so worried about their image that
they didn’t see each other as real peo-
ple. David paid the price for this.”

In spite of David's serious drug prob-
lems, he enrolled at Harvard Univer-
sity. But he was less interested in Cam-
bridge intellectual life than in the drug
life in the nearby Roxbury ghetto. One
day in 1976, Peter Kaplan, a friend
from Harvard, found David in his room,
nearly comatose with a raging fever.
Doctors diagnosed bacterial endocar-
ditis, a potentially fatal inflammation
of the heart lining that can be caused
by dirty hypodermic needles.

As David hovered near death during
the first days of a six-week hospitaliza-
tion, there was a great outpouring of
concern from his mother and the rest of
the family. They sat reading to him at
his bedside, brought a robe from Mu-
hammad Ali and got Art Buchwald to
come in and tell jokes. But when it
became clear that David would survive,
the concern seemed to dissipate.

“Ethel is spectacularly naive,” says
Peter Kaplan. “David needed an au-
thoritative presence in his life at this
time, and there just wasn’t one
around.” The Kennedy ethos, which
coped so well with extremes of triumph
and tragedy, didn’t work with the kind

of nagging problems of daily life that
David experienced.

Profoundly suspicious of psychother-
apy as a treatment for emotional tur-
bulence—David had never been taken
to see a therapist either right after his
father’s death or as his problems were
accumulating—the family neverthe-
less hired psychiatrist Lee Macht, who
identified David as a compulsive risk-
taker. Macht (who would later have his
license suspended) prescribed Perco-
dan, a painkiller, to keep David off
heroin and away from the dangerous
places where heroin was sold. But the
net result was to increase David’s drug
use significantly.

In 1978 David overdosed again, this
time by shooting cocaine and Dilaudid,
a morphine surrogate. The family de-
cided once more to get him out of the
way, this time to McLeans, a Massachu-
setts clinic for the emotionally dis-
turbed. After several weeks he was
shipped off to England and put under
the care of Dr. Margaret Patterson,
who had developed “neuro-electric ther-
apy.” This method involved wearing a
Walkman-like headset that emitted
electrical impulses, which were sup-
posed to subdue the craving for drugs.
Again, the treatment was unsuccessful.

Back in the U.S., David slipped
deeper into a drug netherworld and a
life that seemed an inside-out version
of the usual Kennedy existence. He got
love from his younger brothers, Chris-
topher, Max and Douglas, but only cen-
sure from the family elders, who felt
that he had betrayed the Kennedy tra-
dition. Even Bobby, Jr., who shared
David's drug abuse but had managed to
keep it secret, scorned his brother as
someone whose fate it was always to get
caught. And Ethel, in the words of
David's old friend Paul Kirby, avoided
him “like a cheap suit of clothes.”

In 1979, David was arrested at New
York’s seedy Shelton Plaza Hotel, a
well-known “shooting gallery” where
he had made drug connections before.
It was the most brutal collision be-
tween the Kennedys’ private reality
and public image since Chappaquid-
dick. He was hospitalized again, and
this time the family got a judge to come
in for a bedside hearing. They talked
about a lifetime conservatorship, but
David held out until they settled for
just six months’ control over him.

Once again the solution was to get
him out of the way. David was given the
choice of returning to McLeans or go-
ing to California under the supervision
of a drug therapist named Don Juhl.
He decided on the latter course, al-
though he was informed that the treat-
ment would cost $5,000 a week of his
own trust funds.

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family visited him during his Sacra-
mento exile. Longtime family friend
Tim Haydock says, “David could have
used some family support. I think they
avoided him because he represented a
weakness they feared in themselves. I'd
travel to California and when I got
back they’d all ask if ’'d seen David.
But they never called him themselves.”

After the conservatorship had lapsed
and David was through with Juhl’
therapy—although not with his sub-
stance abuse—he decided to stay in
California, as he later told us, “to con-
centrate on my mental breakdown.”
Existing on several Diet Pepsis and one
or two slices of cheese a day, he sat in
his room suffering through hallucina-
tions that seemed almost a montage of
his family’s violent encounter with the
last twenty years of American history:
“T thought I was Lee Harvey Oswald. I
thought I had killed my father I
thought that my father was trying to

-drown me in the surf. And then I
thought that Lyndon Johnson knew my
father was trying to kill me and so he
sent all these sharpshooters out and
they sort of gave my father the chance
to give his final speech and then they
killed him... .”

Finally stabilizing himself, David
learned at this time about Rosemary’
lobotomy and began to consider the ter-
rible price his family had paid for
greatness. But although he tried to
cultivate an ironic posture toward the

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Kennedy legacy, it was, he admitted to
himself, “in the blood.” He begged his
family to let him return to the East
Coast, and came back early in 1981.

David was then off drugs, but drink-
ing heavily. He felt that the family was
unforgiving, making it clear to him
that whatever his future might be, his
past would always be an albatross
around their necks. It irked him that
he alone had been forced to pay for the
drug abuse that other Kennedys had
also practiced over the years. The feel-
ing was directed particularly at his
brother Bobby, who despite having
blazed the trail to heroin, had nonethe-
less managed to finish the University
of Virginia Law School, get married,
find a job as an assistant prosecutor in
the Manhattan District Attorney's of-
fice and even maintain his illusions
about someday running for Congress.

When Bobby became ill with symp-
toms of a drug overdose aboard a flight
to South Dakota in the summer of 1983
and was arrested at the airport for her-
oin possession, David was both sad-
dened and pleased. He didn’t want his
brother to suffer, but felt that when the
member of the family commonly re-
garded as the best and brightest got
into trouble, it might win greater toler-
ance for him. But as the Kennedys
drew a protective circle around Bobby,
the net effect was to make David feel
more isolated. “I can’t believe it,” he
told his old friend Nancy Narleski in a
telephone conversation. “When I was in
trouble nobody came. When Bobby gets
into trouble everybody is there.”

In the last few months of his life
David became increasingly shaky. He ©
had reentered Harvard but dropped
out again. He was working at the
Atlantic Monthly in what he regarded
as a menial job. Early this spring he
checked himself into a New Hampshire
clinic to “dry out,” but was soon ex-
pelled for chemical abuse.

Some of his cousins were too busy to
go to Palm Beach and visit Rose this
Easter, but David, ever the loyalist,
made the trip, checking into the Bra-
zilian Court Hotel because there was no
more room at his grandmother's house.

The Easter weekend became yet an-
other traumatic family occasion for
him. He was bitterly attacked for his
contribution to our book on the Ken-
nedys, which some in the family re-
garded as unflattering. Bobby, Jr,
Chris Lawford and others had talked to
us as much as David had, and with
equal candor, but as usual, David got
the blame. The word family members
used in attacking him was “traitor.”

In his last phone conversation with
Nancy Narleski the day before he died,
David was brokenhearted. He said that
his brother Joe told him he was “the
bane of the Irish—the informer,” while
Bobby, Jr., had said that “he didn’t de-
serve to bear the Kennedy name.” Nar-
leski says, “David was crying when he
told me this. He kept saying that he was
afraid that they were going to try to lock
him up again. The last thing he said
before he hung up was, Tm the Rose-
mary of my generation.”

It would be easy simply to say that
David had finally kept the rendezvous
with death that had been made when
he was a twelve-year-old boy helplessly
watching his father’s assassination on
television. Yet the Kennedys and those
who have become addicted to their on-
going melodrama have perhaps had too
easy a recourse to fate as an explana-
tion for every tragedy. The observation
of one of David's close friends is worth
considering: “If what had happened to
him had happened to someone who
wasn’t a Kennedy, we'd call it child
abuse or something worse.”

David's needs, like those of his aunt
Rosemary forty years earlier, chal-
lenged the very nature of Kennedy am-
bition. Understanding, let alone meet-
ing, these needs would have meant a
questioning of the family’s self-ap-
pointed role as America’s premier polit-
ical dynasty. This, above all else, was
impossible. End

Peter Collier and David Horowitz are
coauthors of The Rockefellers (Holz,
Rinehart and Winston, 1976) as well as
this year’s best-selling The Kennedys:
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homemaker fill her days? How does she feel about herself?
None of the answers come easily, but many women today
are finding they’re willing to tackle these problems in order
to enjoy the privilege of coming home.

And coming home is a privilege to these new homemakers,
because unlike the stay-at-home mothers of previous decades,
they are not afraid to make time for selfish pleasures—in-
deed, they are accustomed to doing so. “A wife used to focus
only on what was best for her husband and children,” says
Karen Greenwood, the twenty-five-year-old mother of a six-
month-old girl (pictured on page 89). “I'm trying to do things
that are important for me as well as for my family.”

“It’s a real pleasure to be home,” says Maggie Scott, the
former advertising executive. “I love calling my time my
own. I read voraciously, I play the piano, and with help from
a baby-sitter, I can get out to play tennis.”

Women are finding this new relaxed pace can add greatly
not only to their own satisfaction but also to their entire
family’s sense of well-being—even on a reduced income.
Sharon Schneider, the nurse who gave up her important
hospital position, finds the benefits far outweigh the loss of
her salary. “My husband and I used to come home and just
snap at each other, and at Gretchen. Now we treasure our
time together.” In such an atmosphere, say the new home-
makers, marriages can actually improve.

“When you're busy getting up, making breakfast, going to
work, making dinner and going to bed,” observes Sharon,
“there’s not a lot of time to think about your marriage. But
when I stopped working, I had the time, and I saw things I
wanted to change between us. We discussed them, and now
our relationship is so much better.”

Still, if being at home brings obvious benefits in terms of
personal satisfaction and marital well-being, it is in their
relationship with their children that the new stay-at-home
mothers find the most significant dividends. Maggie Scott
savors the hours she spends with her two preschoolers. “I love
taking them to the library or to a movie, or reading them a
story. The media tell you that quality time is fine if you can’t
give quantity. But I happen to know my kids prefer quantity.”

Maggie admits that when she was a working mother, she
felt tremendous guilt at being away from her children. Ac-
cording to Dr. Jerome Kagan, a developmental psychologist
at Harvard University, going home for Maggie was doubly
beneficial. “What makes the mother happy is good for the
child,” he says. “Ultimately, it’s not a matter of whether the
mother works or not, but how she feels about herself. Her
children will sense whether she feels frustrated and guilty
or confident and satisfied, and they will react accordingly.”

“Many women have to work, or need to work in order to
feel good about themselves,” says Karen Greenwood. “And
I'm sure their kids will turn out fine. But I would rather be
home right now, enjoying this phase of my life.” Karen
worked in the art department of a magazine.

This idea of enjoying adult life in different phases is
another of the strikingly new attitudes shared by today’s
full-time homemakers. In the past, being in the home was
simply a fact of life: a mother’s destiny, not to be questioned
until she was suddenly confronted with an empty nest and
time on her hands. Now, however, staying home with the
kids can be one of many stages in the life of a modern
woman. “A woman can have it all,” says Maggie Scott, “but
it’s a lot more fun if it’s done sequentially.” Says Dr. George
Weinberg, a New York City psychotherapist and author of
The Heart of Psychotherapy (St. Martin’s, 1984), “Focusing
on one area at a time permits a greater feeling of satisfac-
tion and achievement.”

Yet if having a career and motherhood in (continued)

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matter of giving two weeks’ notice. Fam-
ilies today must decide whether they can
afford the loss of that extra paycheck.
Census Bureau figures show that the av-
erage two-paycheck family earned
$28,073 in 1982, while the average sin-
gle-salary household earned only $18,913.

“We had to cut back on absolutely
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predict will become the number-one
luxury during the rest of this century:
leisure time. To Sharon, the trade-off
seems well worth it. “I’ve had to do
some real thinking and research to lo-
cate free or inexpensive activities for us
to share,” she says. “But there are al-
ways lectures at the college or a picnic
supper in the park. And the library!
When I was working, I loved the library
but never had the time to go to any of
their films or talks by famous authors.
Now it’s a luxury I can take advantage
of, and it’s an evening out for all of us.”

Sharon remains convinced she made
the right decision in choosing to stay
home, but making the choice was a
nerve-racking experience. She was for-
tunate, however, that her husband gave
her his full support. Other women are
not always so lucky. Leslie Rush (not
her real name), thirty-one-year-old
mother of Emma, worked as a publicist
at a major film company before giving
birth. Her $30,000 salary, coupled with
her husband Jim’s $40,000 income as a

salesman, allowed the Rushes a sophis-
ticated and very comfortable New York
City lifestyle. When Emma was born,
the couple both assumed that Leslie
would return to work after a three-
month leave. But as the date of her
return approached, Leslie was increas-
ingly torn. “I found myself crying as I
counted down the days I had left at
home with Emma. I wanted to stay
with her all the time.”

When Leslie told Jim she was think-
ing of making her maternity leave per-
manent, he “exploded,” Leslie recalis
with a grimace. “He said it would be
impossible for us to survive without my
salary. We had just moved into a new
apartment and our rent had doubled,
and we saw how expensive it was to
have a baby. We were both scared, and
we fought a lot. But finally he agreed
with me, and it hasn’t turned out to be
so bad. We’re in a lower tax bracket
now, and I think that helps.”

Ironically, Jim’s reaction was the
complete opposite of his counterpart’s
thirty years ago, when a man felt

shame if his wife worked. “Men aref,

afraid to be the sole breadwinners to-

day and they’re reluctant to admit it,”},
says Marjorie Hansen Shaevitz, a coun-§,
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Work Relationships in La Jolla, Cal-
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conflict about whether their wives
should work or stay home with their
children. While they want their wives
to work for the financial benefits, they
still have the image of their own moth-
ers staying at home with them. This
contradiction can result in tension in
the marriage.”

Marital tensions and masculine fears
can give way, however, in deference to
that powerful image of the full-time
mother. Most husbands realize that, al-
though they may be the sole wage ear-
ners once again, there are tangible re-
wards to be gained from having their
wives at home. “We have a happy baby,”
says Leslie, “and Ron is convinced it’s

. because I’m with her most of the time.
He also likes coming home to home-
cooked meals and he enjoys the sense
that we’re a real family unit.”

Karen Greenwood agrees. “My hus-
band really respects my decision to
stay home. He compliments me on
what a good mother I am. He was proud
of me when I was working and now he’s
proud of me as a mother.”

If anything, being home has made
Karen more of an equal partner. “I used
to be real easygoing, letting Jim make

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most of the decisions, but having the
baby has made me stronger. I feel I
know what's right for her, and it’s made
me more sure of myself. Now Jim and I
make all our decisions together, even
things like figuring out the mortgage
payments on our new house.”

Still, not all marital adjustments are
so positive or smooth. Joan Klein, a
thirty-year-old former employment man-
ager, found the decision-making power
in her family subtly altered when she
stopped working.

“T was no longer contributing, and I
began to feel that he had more right to
make the decisions because he was pay-
ing for everything. He tried to reassure
me, telling me, ‘Its our money,’ but
emotionally I think he sometimes feels
it’s really his money.”

Joan’s experience is fairly typical.
According to Marjorie Hansen Shae-
vitz, the stay-at-home wife “moves into
a supportive household role and places
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What we all must learn is to go ahead
and do what seems best and most plea-
surable. If you feel good about yourself,
you'll be able to withstand some scorn
from certain quarters.”

Most of the time, new full-time
homemakers do feel good about them-
selves and their choices. In a sense,
they are pioneers—breaking old ground,
perhaps, but with new attitudes and
goals. For many, those goals include an
eventual return to the workplace, for
both financial and emotional reasons.
As children grow, notes Karen Green-
wood, expenses grow right along with
them. “A second income will come in
_handy when it’s time for braces, sum-
mer camp, and a college savings ac-
count,” she says. “Those things, at that
age, will be as important for my daugh-
ter’s emotional health as the time I’m
spending with her right now.”

Returning to the work force can be
essential for a woman’s own emotional
health as well. “It’s not just a matter of
keeping busy once the kids are in
school,” says Joan Klein, the former
employment manager. “I don’t want to
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Yet how easy is it for a woman to
return to the work force after many
years at home? Women today seem
more acutely aware than ever before of
the risks they’re taking in temporarily
abandoning their jobs or professions.
“For a doctor or lawyer, taking a few
years off can be a death knell,” says
Maggie Scott. “Hospitals and law firms
just don’t make allowances for any kind
of extended maternity leave, and your
colleagues who continue to practice
will leave you in the dust. Nobody’s
safe,” she sighs. “My own business, ad-
vertising, is a ‘young’ profession. IfI try
to go back at forty, I'll be considered too
old. ’'m going to have to retrain for
something else.”

“The world of work has yet to recog-
nize that women are making an essen-
tial contribution by having children,”
says noted sociologist Lionel Tiger, au-
thor of Women in the Kibbutz (Harcourt
Brace Jovanovich, 1975).

“Having babies is the major issue for
working wives today,” says New York
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ness, author of Sweet Suffering (Bobbs-
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tutions. In my opinion, the whole
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to have this freedom of choice without
being penalized by men or by society,
but so far, women are not getting
their just desserts.”

So it may seem that struggling to
have it all, even sequentially, is a
daunting task for today’s new stay-at-
home mothers. Yet these women are
the true inheritors of the ongoing
struggle for equal rights. Far from
running away from today’s choices and
challenges, when they return home to
their kitchens and their children they
are entering a new arena of personal
commitment and growth. How they
fare, both at home and in their even-
tual return to the workplace, will de-
pend as much on society’s acknowledg-
ment of their unique contributions as
on their own courage and dedication to
seeking the best way of life for them-
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the room stood to be sure of a better view.
When the pushing back of chairs, the
coughing and the nervous chattering had
stopped, the town clerk began. He tapped
the microphone in front of him.

“T, the returning officer for the dis-
trict of Coventry Central, hereby de-
clare the total number of votes cast for
each candidate to be as follows: Alf Ab-
bott, Labour, 18,437; Nigel Bainbridge,
Liberal, 5,714; Simon Kerslake, Con-
servative, 18,437.”

The supporters of both the leading
candidates erupted in a frenzy. It was
several minutes before the town clerk’s
voice could be heard above the babble.

“In accordance with Section Sixteen
of the Representation of the People Act
of 1949 and Rule Fifty of the Parlia-
mentary Election Rules in the second
schedule to that Act, I am obliged to
choose between candidates by lot. I
have spoken with the Lord Chancellor
and he has approved the toss of a coin
as a decision for this purpose.”

Pandemonium broke out again as Si-
mon and Abbott stood motionless.

“Last night,” continued the clerk,
aware that ten million people were
watching him on television for the first
and probably the last time in his life, “I

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borrowed from Barclays Bank a golden
sovereign. On one side is the head of
King George the Third, on the other
Britannia. I shall invite the sitting
Member, Mr. Kerslake, to call his pref-
erence.” The town clerk rested the
golden sovereign on his thumb. He
turned to Simon and said, “You: will
call, sir, while the coin is in the air.”
The silence was such that they might
have been the only three people in the
room. Simon could feel his heart thump-
ing as the town clerk spun the coin.
“Tails,” Simon said clearly as the
coin was at its zenith. The sovereign hit
the floor and bounced, turning over sev-
eral times before settling at his feet.
Simon stared down at the coin. The
town clerk cleared his throat before de-
claring, “Following the decision by lot,
I declare the aforenamed Mr. Simon
Kerslake to be the duly elected Mem-
ber of Parliament for Coventry.”
Simon’s supporters charged forward
and carried him out of Town Hall and
through the streets of Coventry. Si-
mon’s eyes searched for Elizabeth, but
she was lost in the crush. He spent the
day traveling around the constituency,
hoarsely thanking his supporters for
the hard work they had put in. But for
his most loyal supporter, when he
found her, he could manage only four
words: “Will you marry me?” End

GOING BEYOND
continued from page 74

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today—of risking something I was trulf”
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as a twenty-story building and as steef”
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either side to nothingness. Dave saysf”
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«s my limit.” “Then we'll take you off the rappel.” He leans
wer the cliff edge. I manage to get back up those fifteen feet,
and slide on my behind back from the edge. I know I was right
0 yield. But I do not relish being cast out of the group.

I edge forward a bit to watch the others rappel down. I can
see that Letha is scared all right, but not terrified. “I get my

sxourage from you,” she says, releasing her brake. What on
}:arth did she mean by that? Because I was such a coward,
she feels brave? Well, she tells me later, she’s been getting
sourage from me ever since she read The Feminine Mystique
ind heard me speak in Kansas City, and if I had the courage
0 say, “I don’t have to prove myself,”and get off the rappel,
she could surely get down that three hundred feet.

We're to end with a marathon run back to Outward Bound
‘f readquarters, where we’re spending the last night. Over
linner, we share, finally, our real-life identities—and tell
what “going beyond” has taught us.

“After this, you feel you can do anything,” says Jerry, who
wns a computer business in Iowa. “But how do we keep on
roing beyond back home?” He’s fifty-six. For the first time
1e and his wife are going to be alone together, with their
ast kid off to school.

“The people I know back home think I’m crazy for doing
such things at my age,” says Earl, who is seventy-two. He
iold his prosperous insurance agency after nursing his wife
‘or seven years before she died. Now, he goes all over the
world, consulting on pension plans, taking jobs that will get
1im to new places he wants to go. He also seems to have a
1umber of lady friends, and he likes to get all dressed up
ind take them dancing. “I lead a double life,” he says.

Five years ago, at fifty, Bob let his partners buy him out of
the Madison Avenue advertising agency he headed, and
iow he runs his own one-man shop out of his home in New
Jersey. He got tired of the commuting rat race. “I began
asking myself, ‘What kind of life do I want to live?’” he says.
de’s been trying his hand at a lot of things he’d never done
yefore—sailing, gliding. “But this is a different kind of
soing beyond. To have been with a group of strangers—who
yecome closer than family—for eight days, and to have seen
iothing but noble manifestations of the human spirit.”

“T learned here that I can be much more than I ever
thought I could,” says Cecelia, who amazes everybody by
yg evealing she is sixty-four. “I was always a woman people
ooked at. Now, instead of trying so hard to look younger, I
want to explore my own aging process.”

“Doing something like this opens a little window of the
spirit you can go through when the walls seem to be closing
n,” says Ruth, who is a teacher in a Washington suburb.

Letha is a social worker in Kansas, a widow who got her
naster’s degree after she nursed her own daughter through
serious illness, then started a halfway house to help young
ysychiatric patients get back into the community. Now, she
wants to go beyond that and run a hospice for the dying.

I am last in the circle. I say who I am. The women, it
seems, have known all along but did not break my cover. “I
aever had much use for women’s lib,” Bob says in confusion.
#arl is incredulous. “Then you must be a celebrity,” he says.
‘I just liked you for your gutsy spirit.” I could have kissed
aim (and later did). I get paranoid about being liked for my
‘celebrity” instead of for who I really am.

“To be who you really are is to be celebrated,” I suggest
now to the others.

After Will we see each other again? It almost doesn’t
matter. A few weeks later, though, I get a call from my
protector, Earl, from North Carolina. He has to go to Wash-
fe ington on business. He’ll come on to New York and take me
“yj dancing. Nobody I know in New York goes dancing. We go to
ais ‘the Rainbow Room. We go to a disco. He’s a mean dancer! So
* yam I—going beyond! End

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WAR AND PEACE

continued from page 82

nuclear weapons outside of Honeywell,
Inc., a company that makes cluster
bombs and parts of missiles. She
pleaded guilty to trespassing and was
given a ten-day sentence, while report-
ers went wild over the notion that the
police chief's wife was a prison inmate.

Then anonymous threats led her to
being placed in solitary. “I wasn’t so
upset by those phone calls,” she says. “I
was far more upset at being locked up
in asmall cell with a blocked window, a
hard bed, a toilet with no toilet seat, a
sink and nothing else.”

But in spite of this experience, Bouza
insists she would go to jail again if she
had to. Still on probation, she doesn’t
hesitate to take part in demonstra-
tions, and on the second Monday of
every month she can be found leading
Women Against Military Madness
marches in downtown Minneapolis.

What prompted this formerly reti-
cent woman to action? “I just came to
the point in my life when I realized I
had to do something. The more I read,
the more I became convinced that un-
less individuals spoke up, we’d have a
nuclear war. I thought to myself, Does
one voice make a difference? And I de-
cided it did.”

Bouza, fifty-three, frankly admits
that she reacts to the nuclear disarma-
ment question on an emotional level.
“Tm not a policymaker. I’m not an ex-
pert,” she says. “But I think we have to
have a little trust in the world. I think
Russia is more afraid of war than we
are, because they have had several wars
on their soil in recent times.”

Today, Bouza gives frequent speeches
—something that used to terrify her
—and plans to increase her involve-
ment in the nuclear disarmament move-
ment. Her husband is supportive of her
(“How could I be embarrassed by an act
of conscience?” he told reporters after
her arrest last year), and although she
continues to get occasional threats and
anonymous letters that say she’s a tool
of the Russians, she shrugs these off.
“We're taught to hate the Russians, but
to hate anybody is crazy,” she says. “Be-
sides,” she adds softly, “I'd rather be
killed myse!f than drop the first bomb.”

Children: the hope of the future

We may talk about the nuclear night-
mare, but our children actually have
real nightmares about nuclear war.
What do you say when your eleven-
year-old asks if she'll have time to kill
herself before the bomb gets here? How
do you reassure your seven-year-old
when he dreams the bomb has fallen
and you've been killed and he’s all
alone and terrified?

Susan Jones, thirty-nine, is one
teacher and mother who has thought a
lot about the effect of the nuclear arms
race on children. She first became
aware of it during a classroom discus-
sion two years ago, when one of her
third graders admitted that a visit to a
military base with a relative had been
terrifying. The destructive power of
weapons had been described to him in
such detail, he said quietly, that he
couldn’t sleep for a week.

Then another boy, one of the bright-
est and most confident in the class,
spoke up. He admitted to his fears of a
nuclear war. “I want to be an astronaut
when I grow up,” he told the group,
“but I don’t know if I ever will grow up.”

Once the subject was broached, Jones
was hit with a flood of comments. She
heard about dreams in which the chil-
dren saw their houses burning and pic-
tured themselves futilely looking for
their parents; they described their feel-
ings of panic when everything around
them had disappeared.

“Over and over as I heard these com-
ments I was just washed with a feeling
of disbelief,” Jones says, her eyes well-
ing up at the memory. “These young
children felt a level of despair that I
don’t allow myself to feel.”

Jones's concern led her to join Educa-
tors for Social Responsibility, a nation-
wide group of concerned teachers and
parents dedicated to educating children
on decision-making in a nuclear age.
And she also began to wonder how
adults like herself could help children
deal with the issue.

“Children are confused,” she says.
“They're especially confused about the
difference between conventional and nu-
clear weapons. They see Dan Rather and
Peter Jennings on television every night
at seven, and these broadcasters talk
about wars and battles, guns and bombs,
in the atmosphere of great tension that
pervades these news shows. The children
pick this up and just never know when
the big bomb will be dropped and the
world will be literally, in their own
phrase, blown to smithereens.”

Just talking about the nuclear is-
sue—something that most of the chil-
dren were reluctant to bring up with
their parents—cleared up many of the
misconceptions and seemed to make
the youngsters feel better. But Jones's
message to children goes beyond that.
She tells them that ordinary people can
affect what happens in the world.
“Feeling powerless is whats most
harmful,” she says. “We cannot afford
for our children to believe that the sit-
uation is hopeless. They need to be told
clearly that there are people in the
world who share their concerns and
who will work to see that a nuclear war
will never happen.” End

CAROL BURNETT

continued from page 28 a
against her mother, against Nanny—
have cooled and turned to love and regre’
She is even finding a way to demonstrate.
with her talent, her love for her father;
who was never the father he could have
been and who did not live to see her
success. “I used to go to the movies and
watch Jimmy Stewart when I was a kid,
she says. “Mr. Smith Goes to Washington
Its a Wonderful Life ... I knew them
frame for frame. Jimmy Stewart re
minded me a whole lot of my dad.
wanted my dad to be like Jimmy becai
my dad was really so wonderful and nice
He was never mean when he was drunk.
had this thing about someday meeting
Jimmy Stewart; I knew I would someday.’

And this month, Carol begins shooting
The Late Christopher Bean, about a town
doctor (Stewart) and his family and ho
keeper (Carol). “It's a comedy,” she says
But these days, Carol Burnett's comedy ig
as sophisticated as her new designer
clothes. “It’s not just a light comedy,” she
muses. “It’s really a story about greed.”

For the actress, it’s a high-risk yee
She is settling her youngest daughte
Erin, at school in Boston, expecting that
she will spend weekends in New York
And she is looking for a two-bedroom
apartment to accommodate them both
Carol says she'll keep a place in Califor.
nia, but most of her time will be spent i
the East, in the world of theater. No
however, she isn’t the fearless and con
fident would-be actress who came to Nev
York so long ago to find success.

“There's a fear now,” she says. “People
expect something of you. You’re in a to
tally different position.”

It's not that she doesn’t think she ca
do a job in the theater. “I know I can da
it,” she says without vanity. And it’s no
that she fears getting stuck in a role oy
becoming her own stereotype. “No, I’ve
been lucky that way,” she says. “I’ve bee
allowed to do new things.” So what ig
Carol Burnett's fear?

“A fear of not making the right choice,
she answers. “I would not want to disap
point an audience. And it’s scary opening
a show. Everything that so many people
have worked on for so long hinges on tha
first performance.”

Carol sits very straight. Her hands ar
clenched. Her eyes are scared. “I take
that risk because anything worthwhile is
worth taking a risk for.” She grins sud
denly and loosens up. “It’s scary but it’
also exciting. Once that curtain goes up
there is nothing but you and the au
dience. It’s living! After all, you can’t jus
go to bed and stay there for your whole life!

She jumps up suddenly and declares
that she is hungry. “Come on,” she says
“let's go tie on the feed bag!” Like a gooc
ole Texas gal. : Enc

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March 1981: Speech has always beer
hard for Michael. Yet sometimes he
speaks too clearly: When my daughter:
girlfriend brought her newborn daughte;
to visit, Michael said, “She looks just like
Boss Hogg.” We were all embarrassed.
May 1983: Michael is almost thirteer
years old and becoming a little man
His bus driver left a message for thé
first time that Michael had misbehav
on the bus. It seems that Michael wai!
showing off in front of a new little gi
whom he calls Strawberry Shortcak
Guess we can chalk that one up to
first case of puppy love.

June 1984: Michael has come a lon
way. He understands so much mo
than I ever thought he would. Lookin
out the window at the hills behind ow
house one day, Michael turned to m
and said, “Mama, one day I am gonni
climb that mountain.” I smiled an
thought to myself, Son, I am sure yo
will. I myself have come a long way.
used to get upset when people jok
about the retarded. Now I just wall
away, because I am the lucky one Goi
chose to raise Michael. When I com
home from work at midnight, I go int
his room and kiss him on the cheek. H
opens his eyes and says, “Mama, I lov
you with all my heart,” and goes righ
back to sleep. Then, I think to mysel:
Yes, Son, you are going to climb th
mountain. I am sure there is a place fi
my Michael at the top. En

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INFIDELITY
continued from page 35

discovered, a couple tend to invest more
energy and imagination in improving
their sex life. Alan Loy McGinnis, who
has counseled hundreds of couples after
an incident of unfaithfulness, reveals
that in almost every instance, “along with
tears and anger, there is an increase in
frequency and intensity of lovemaking.”
Perhaps most important is the fact
that if a couple can draw on inner
strengths to learn from an affair how
they've failed to meet each other's
needs, they have an excellent chance to
rebuild their marriage. What’s more,
counselors have found that there are
ways to protect a marriage against in-
fidelity in the first place.
@ Tell your spouse that you value fidelity.
When one young husband had an after-
the-hockey-game dinner with five mar-
ried friends, he reported that one asked
mockingly, “How many here are faith-
ful?” “Nobody raised a hand,” the man
said, “not even me—and I’ve never
strayed. But you know, I was embar-
rassed to admit it!” It is crucial for
partners to assert their feelings about
fidelity; this includes avoiding friends
who treat the subject lightly.
@ Take an objective look at your mar-

YOU DON'T KNOW
THE WHOLE STORY.

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riage at regular intervals to strengthen
its good spots and mend weak ones.
Most people—if they admit it—are
rarely blindsided by a spouse's infidelity.
But too many ignore cues that some-
thing in the relationship is wrong. Ask
yourself: Are you bickering more than
usual? Never ignore signs that commu-
nication is flagging.

e@ Set reasonable mutual ground rules
for outside relationships. “No one can
share all of a spouse’s interests,” says
therapist Judith Davenport. “If you en-
joy concerts and he hates them, or he
loves tennis and you can’t hit the ball
over the net, give each other the free-
dom to share those activities with oth-
ers, including friends of the opposite
sex.” This fortifies rather than threat-
ens a marriage because it provides nec-
essary breathing space.

e@ Watch for early warning signals of a
potential affair. Peter Kreitler, a family
therapist in Pacific Palisades, Califor-
nia and co-author of Affair Prevention:
Techniques That Can Strengthen and
Protect Your Marriage (Macmillan Pub-
lishing Co., 1981), contends that it is
possible to detect a spouse’s interest in
someone else long before actual sexual
involvement occurs. These signals can
include unexplained absences, sudden
irritability or change in routine. “But

I'VE BEEN ON

MY FEET ALL DAY

WORKING AND COOKING
AND NOW I'VE GOT TO
STAND HERE LISTENING

TO HIM TRY TO SLIP
ONE BY ME.

remember that actions that seem sus-
pect miay well be innocent,” Kreitler
cautions. “You need to ask yourself, ‘Am
I being realistic or paranoid?’ ”

e Learn to forgive a spouse for a be-
trayal. Counselors believe a couple
must frankly confront the emotional
fallout of infidelity and reestablish the
trust essential to a strong marriage.
“There can be no real forgiveness as
long as a couple cling to feelings of
remorse or betrayal,” says Marcia
Lasswell. “They must find out what was
wrong with their relationship . . . why
the affair took. place. The key to re-
building trust lies in one partner's abil-
ity to answer truthfully, and in the
other’s willingness to understand and
honestly accept the answer.” Instead of
focusing on “Why did this happen to
me?” both partners should explore to-
gether the question,“Why did this hap-
pen to us?”

None of this is to say an affair is good
for a marriage, or that it is a quick fix
for marital tensions. But infidelity
need not be a deathblow. Rather, it can
influence husbands and wives to think
about fidelity in a new way, to take it
out of its narrow sexual meaning and
place it where it properly belongs—in
the context of commitment to total,
rather than solely sexual, loyalty. End

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sponded, “Tie my shoes what, Steph-
anie?” Stephanie considered for a mo-
ment, then said doubtfully, “Tie my
shoes... now?”
_ —dJan Hahn, South Milwaukee, WI

After a birthday dinner my daughter
had for her mother-in-law, my three-
year-old grandson helped with the
opening of the gifts. The birthday girl
had unwrapped a purse, a blouse and
a pair of gloves when Jason began to
look worried. He handed her the next
box and leaned over to whisper, “Don’t
worry, Grandma, maybe the next one
will be a toy!”

—Elaine Finkelstein, Rochester, MI

Last month my four-year-old daugh-
ter was talking on the telephone with
her grandmother, who gets a little
long-winded at times. After standing
silently for several minutes with the
receiver to her ear, my daughter sud-
denly exclaimed, “Grandma, I’m sorry,
I really gotta go now; the
phone is ringing!” 59
—Beth A. Harsch, Lititz, PA

today and gave you a $50,000 raise!”

The New Kid on the Block
By Jack Prelutsky

There’s a new kid on the block,
and boy, that kid is tough,

that new kid punches hard,
that new kid plays real rough,
that new kid’s big and strong,
with muscles everywhere,

that new kid tweaked my arm,
that new kid pulled my hair.

That new kid likes to fight
and picks on all the guys,

that new kid scares me some,
(that new kid’s twice my size),
that new kid stomped my toes,
that new kid swiped my ball,
that new kid’s really bad;

I don’t care for her at all.

From the Book THE NEW KID ON THE BLOCK. Copyright ©
1984 by Jack Prelutsky. Illustration copyright © 1984 by
James Stevenson. To be published by Greenwillow Books, a
division of William Morrow & Co., Inc.

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EDITOR-IN-CHIEF ee paigning for the office of vice-president. Ms. Ferraro’s exciting
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Katherine Barrett MargeryD.Rosen | Historian Arthur Schlesinger, Jr, who wrote an article in this issue
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EDITOR'S JOURNAL

CAN THIS
MARRIAGE

BE SAVED?

“My husband is impotent”

By Lois Duncan

A WOMAN TODAY
“T was jilted”
By Gloria Hernandez

DR. LINDNER’S

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Eat six meals a day—and
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TOM SELLECK: WE
KNEW HIM WHEN
By Harriet R. Modler

Tales of Tom’s youth—from
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111 THE ORDEAL OF

AN AMERICAN
FAMILY

By Patrick Pacheco

They were the perfect
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daughter's crisis
almost destroyed them.

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Camera 5. Inset of Geraldine Ferraro by Harry Benson.

OCTOBER 1984

84: YEAR OF
THE WOMEN

By Arthur Schlesinger, Jr.
Geraldine Ferraros
nomination was just
the start. Women could
well be the decisive
actor in this election.

WOMEN’S NEW
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A noted physician
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MONEY NEWS
By Katherine Barrett
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THE BABIES WHO
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By Arlene Fischer
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The disturbing facts
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A GUIDE TO PART-
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Part-time jobs today are
more plentiful, better-paid.

HOW TO STOP
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By Laura Stein
Are your fears keeping you
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PET NEWS

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By DR. H. LAPIDUS

Why do some
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From scrapes to broken scabs,
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Doctors know risk of infection is higher
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Or oily, more easily infected skin. Or
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Doctors don’t take chances.
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Why can’t Linda Evans,
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Diahann Carroll talks
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This case is based
on information
from the files of
the Family Service
Centers of Pinel-
las County, Clear-
water, Florida, a
private and non-
profit family ser-
vice agency, partially funded by the United
Way. The agency is a member of the
Family Service Association of America
and accredited by the Council on Ac-
creditation of Services for Families and
Children, Inc. The story reported here is
from interviews. The counselor was M.
J. Sutcliffe, a sex therapist, certified by
the American Association of Sex Edu-
cators, Counselors and Therapists.

Cindy's turn

“I know this sounds crazy, but after
three years of marriage, my husband
and I no longer make love,” said Cindy,
twenty-four, a pixie-faced woman with
curly brown hair. “I don’t mean our sex
life has diminished; I mean it no longer
exists—period. Although we care deep-
ly about each other, Jon has completely
lost the ability to make love to me.

“What's so ironic is that sex was won-
derful before we were married. Jon and
I started dating in high school, and we
shared an apartment all through col-
lege, which adds up to five full years of
healthy, happy lovemaking. We were
married right after graduation, and six
months later, Jon started having prob-
lems maintaining an erection

“T really can’t believe this is happen-
ing to us—we were the perfec* couple,
and now Im afraid my marriage will
disintegrate just like my parents’ did.
They fought like crazy and kept right
on fighting after they finally divorced,
when I was five. During my teens, ev-
erybody in my family seemed to be
getting divorced and remarried.

“My father stepped out of my life

“My husband is
impotent’

Jon and Cindy seemed to have everything. —
So why does a man lose the power to make love?

completely when I was seven, and I was
raised by my mother. Mom worked in
a department store, and we lived with
my grandparents. I had a happy enough
childhood; I breezed through school,
had many friends and went out for all
the extracurricular activities. I dated
a lot in high school, too, but I made
it a policy to play the field and not let
myself get attached to anyone. I sort of
flitted here and there—that is, until I
turned sixteen and met Jon.

“We met through friends, and if you
asked me what it was that hooked me
so quickly, I wouldn’t know quite what
to say. In many ways, were opposites.
I'm gregarious and outgoing; Jon's
quiet and introspective—very solid,
thoughtful and responsible. The mo-
ment I saw him, I felt I had known him
all my life. I chased him until he
caught me. From then on, neither one
of us ever looked at anybody else.

“T never thought much about what I
wanted to do after high school, but
when Jon applied for college, I applied
to the same one. We shared an apart-
ment and scheduled our classes so that
we could have lots of free time together.
That was a happy period for us. I ma-
jored in psychology, Jon majored in eco-
nomics, and we had grants and scholar-
ships to help us along financially. Dur-
ing college, our lovemaking was won-
derful. We were so much in love, sex
just seemed so natural. And since we
were virgins, we learned together.

“After our wedding, we settled down
to live happily ever after. I found a job
doing personnel work, and Jon went
into the management-training pro-
gram at the same department store
where my mother worked. We both also
started taking graduate courses at
night—I very much wanted to finish
my master’s degree in psychology, and
Jon was working toward his MBA.

“Tt seems to me that from that point on,
we hardly ever saw each other. My job was

a piece of cake,

but Jon’s was a

nightmare. He

had a full hour’s

commute each

way, which was
time-consuming

enough, but on.

top of that, he ares
was always being asked to work over
time and to come in on weekend
When he did have a free night, it wa!
invariably one of the nights I was i
class. Jon was also constantly bein;
sent off on buying trips. Sometimes hi
boss would give him a day’s notice
sometimes just a few hours.

“Jon hated his job—he was disguste
by some of the store’s unethical busi
ness practices—and I knew that thi
stress was affecting him emotionall:
So I never complained. I didn’t wan
our marriage to become a battlegroun
the way my parents’ was, but I couldn’
stand the lonely evenings. Since Ir
not the type to sit and watch TV fo
hours, I decided to start a part-tim|
business designing and custom-maki
clothes—a hobby I had always hop
would lead to something.

“It was during that period that o
sex life took its initial nosedive. In co
lege, we made love at least once a da’
but on our new schedule, we were luck
to fit sex in twice a week. Then, on
night, to our horror, we tried to m
love, and it just didn’t work.
couldn’t believe it! This had never ha
pened before. We kept trying and
nally got so frustrated we just gave u

“Three months later, the very s
thing happened. Jon was fine durir
foreplay, but then, when he was gettir
ready to enter me, his erection c
lapsed. From then on, things worsene
I was sure his problem was caused
stress, and when Jon lost his job at t
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job that very same day, working for a
competing department-store chain, and
though it wasn’t quite what he would
have chosen, at least the hours were
decent. Now we did have a lot of time
together, but Jon was never able to
maintain an erection again.

“We’ve tried everything, and I do
mean everything, to work through this
problem. Jon has had physicals by two
different doctors and been told by both
that he’s in perfect health. He takes
huge quantities of vitamins every day. I
went on a crash diet to make myself
more attractive and started wearing
lacy black negligees to bed at night. We
read a lot of sex books and did all the
things they suggested; we took bubble
baths together, burned incense in the
bedroom and tried making love by can-
dlelight. Jon even mounted mirrored
tiles on the ceiling over the bed, but we
had to take those down, because they
kept coming loose and falling on us. We
both dropped out of grad school, think-
ing we were pressuring ourselves too
much. That didn’t help either.

“By unspoken agreement, we almost
never try to make love anymore. We’re
too scared. We keep ourselves busy, so
on the surface, we’re still happily mar-
ried, but the knowledge of what we
once had and have now lost has created
a barrier between us. I feel I’m losing
my husband emotionally as well as
physically. I love him so much, I don’t
think I can bear this much longer.”

Jon's turn

“J don’t know what's the matter with
me,” said Jon, twenty-five, a serious
young man with short, neatly cut hair
and tortoiseshell glasses. “I’m crazy
about my wife, and I’d do anything to
be able to prove it to her physically, but
I just can’t seem to do it. It’s frustrating
and embarrassing and scary.

“But to be honest, I’m not very com-
fortable sitting here talking about sex
with a stranger. My family is pretty
straitlaced; Dad, who worked as a
clerk for an oil company, and Mother,
who was a secretary, are serious, quiet
. types. I certainly never talked with
them about sex. I have two sisters. The
older one suffers from Down’s syn-
drome, and I think because of that I
absorbed a strong sense of responsibil-
ity. We were a family that shared a
common problem. As a kid I was quiet,
inquisitive, interested in different
things: the stock market, scientific in-
ventions, nature and animals. I wasn’t
particularly social. I had only one girl-
friend before Cindy, and I never even
kissed her; we were just good buddies.

Cindy’s the only girl I’ve ever loved.

“Since we’re both bright academical-
ly, college was a playground. It wasn’t
until after we graduated and got mar-
ried that the real world finally caught
up with us. My first full-time job was a
disillusioning experience. The depart-
ment store where I was taking retail-
management training was part of a
major national chain that I had always
thought was on the up-and-up. Instead,
I discovered they were a total rip-off. At
one point, I had a large commission
coming, and they tried to cheat me out
of it. I wouldn’t permit that, and was
never forgiven for having stood up for
my rights. From then on, the manager
did everything possible to make life
miserable for me. One day, on the man-
ager’s whim, I was fired. I was never
given a reason for my dismissal, and
the manager’s nephew was given my
job. I would have initiated a lawsuit,
except I was afraid they'd take revenge
by discharging my mother-in-law. I
didn’t want that to happen.

“Tt was while I was working at the
store that I started having problems
performing sexually. The first time, I
really wasn’t worried. I'd been away on
a long buying trip, and though Cindy
had never actually said anything, I
could tell she was ticked off about it.
Neither of us was much in the mood for
lovemaking that night. But the second
time, I didn’t take it so lightly.

“When I lost my post at the depart-
ment store, though, it was the end of
everything. Of course, I went straight
out and found another job, but I still
felt ’d been kicked in the teeth.

“Counseling was Cindy’s idea, but
I’m going along with it because it rep-
resents our one final chance to save our
marriage. Truthfully, I don’t have much
hope. We’ve already tried everything.
And I have to admit, the whole idea of sex
therapy gives me the creeps. But Cindy
knows more about this sort of thing than
I do. She said you’re fully accredited, but
even so, if she and I are supposed to get
into bed in front of you and—well—do a
sort of show-and-tell thing—there’s no
way I'll go through with it.”

The counselor's turn

“Jon’s apprehension about entering
therapy for a sexual problem is very
common,” said the counselor. “Most of
my clients are highly relieved to find
out that the only bed they will be using
during the course of therapy is their
own, and that all sexual activity be-
tween them will take place in the pri-
vacy of their bedroom.

“Jon and Cindy were as solid a couple
as I have ever had as clients. They loved
each other and were committed to pre-

serving their marriage at all costs,
even if that involved the embarrass-
ment of discussing the most intimate
part of their relationship with a stranger.
As almost always happens, however,
once our initial session was over, thei
embarrassment vanished.

“During our first counseling session,
we reviewed Jon’s medical history t
make sure there wasn’t a physical rea
son for his impotency. Since he had al
ready been examined by two physi
cians, this did not seem probable, but
wanted to make sure there was nothin
wrong with his diet, that he was get
ting enough rest, and that he didn’
have any serious illnesses, such as dia
betes, that could affect his ability t
sustain an erection. Sometimes, medi
cations—including the antidepressant
commonly prescribed for mild anxi
ety—can also lower the libido, but Jo
was not taking anything.

“As we talked, one point soon becam
obvious: Jon and Cindy had made thei
lives so busy that there was little tim
for sex. Young and energetic, they be
lieved they could juggle everything
Ironically, when problems developed
they piled on still more projects to war
off emotional pain.

“My first goal with this couple was t
relieve the pressure they were under by
helping them realize how commo
their problem was. Although most peo
ple do not talk about it, periods of sex
ual dysfunction occur in almost al
marriages at one time or another, es
pecially when one or both partners ar
under stress. These problems usual]
right themselves automatically onc
the immediate problem is resolved, bu
sometimes a couple begins to panic
about the. situation, which in turn cre
ates a separate but equally disturbin
problem. The anticipation of not bein
able to perform sexually can actuall
create that situation, causing a man t
have erection or ejaculation problem
or a woman to be unable to reach or
gasm. This frustrating experience in
creases their fear of failure the nex
time, and soon, like Jon and Cindy,
couple may find themselves locked int
a pattern they can’t break.

“During our initial sessions we viewe
some educational films about impotenc
that showed how a couple mastered tech
niques, such as nongenital touching,
help them overcome their problem.

“Once Jon and Cindy became mor
relaxed about their situation, I describe
to them various intimacy-enriching
periences they could have at home th.
would get them more in tune with thei
sexuality. In the beginning, these activi
ties simply involved touching and clos
ness so Jon would not be (continue

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threatened by the challenge of having to
perform. Gradually, the exercises were
increased to include the caressing of
genitals and then actual intercourse. In
one exercise, Cindy was instructed that
when Jon had an erection she was to
wait and allow the penis to become soft
again before continuing sex play. Many
men are fearful that if an erection is lost
once, it won’t come back. By having
some experiences in which his erection
was purposely let go but was then re-
gained, Jon became less threatened.

“Along with actual sex therapy, we
also worked on increasing other areas
of this couple’s intimacy, particularly
their verbal communication. Cindy's
unhappy memories of her parents’ bat-
tles made her reluctant to demonstrate
any outward signs of anger in her own
marriage. As a result, she rarely ex-
pressed her negative feelings, allowing
them to build up inside her. Jon was
sensitive enough to pick up on her an-
ger, but was frustrated in his efforts to
respond appropriately. His family life
had been so quiet and introspective
that he had never been encouraged to
specifically voice his concerns. By prac-
ticing getting their feelings out into
the open, they took a second major step
in reducing stress.

“Another subject we spoke about at
length was the fact that good sex
doesn’t necessarily have to be spon-
taneous. Jon had complained during
therapy that Cindy was not willing to
plan time for sex because she felt that
to do so was unnatural and unromantic.
When we discussed this, Cindy realized
she was being unrealistic; when peo-
ple’s lives are as busy as hers and Jon’,
it is not only okay but absolutely nec-
essary to set aside time for sex.

“The more Jon and Cindy shared of
themselves, the more relaxed they be-
came—and the less difficulty Jon had
maintaining his erections. Because this
couple were so highly motivated and
committed to working at their relation-
ship, their progress was fast and steady.
Inevitably, they hit plateaus, but lost
distance was quickly regained, and
counseling was terminated after ten
weekly sessions. A follow-up session six
months later found them still satisfied
with all areas of their life together.

“One year later, I contacted Jon and
Cindy to ask their permission to pro-
pose their case as a possible subject for
this column. During the course of our
conversation, Cindy told me that they
were ‘abstaining from sex these days,
but for a very happy reason—Cindy’s
doctor had told them to wait six weeks
before resuming intercourse after the
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_ | dition to the many beautiful cards and

gifts I’'d received, I enjoyed the certain
knowledge that in two short weeks, at
the age of twenty-seven, I'd finally be
married to the man I loved.

Brian and I were very well suited.
When we had met two years before at
the aircraft plant where we both
worked, we were delighted to discover

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As soon as we were engaged we be-
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! | Brian to teach me to hike and back-
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astically about the wilderness

I couldn’t wait to set up house
in our new apartment. I also
planned to think more seriously
about my career. I was a recep-
tionist in the office of one of
the company vice-presidents, but
Brian and I figured we’d need a
larger second income to support
our married lifestyle.

But on that golden Sunday
two weeks before the wedding I
wasn’t thinking about anything
as serious as my career. “I can’t
wait to see the bridesmaids’

happily examined a beautiful
silver nut dish. Our wedding
was going to be a big affair with
a South-of-the-Border motif,
since I am of Mexican origin.
The ceremony was to be held at
a nearby Spanish mission with
a mariachi band playing tradi-

When Brian refused to marry me, I thought my life was over.
But picking up the pieces taught me a valuable lesson.

tional Mexican songs. My dress had
been specially designed and sewn, and
my mother had even traveled to Mexico
for my floor-length veil. We’d rented a
beautiful banquet hall,and every detail
had been attended to, from the flowing
champagne fountains to the formal,
three-course, sit-down steak dinner.
There certainly was a lot to think
about and a lot to do. Perhaps that’s
why Brian seemed so quiet that after-
noon as he helped me unpack the
shower presents. Or maybe he was just
tired. We’d both been working evenings
and every weekend to get our new
apartment in order. We had painted
every room and I[ had single-handedly
wallpapered the kitchen and bedroom
and put down a new kitchen floor. Now,
with a few days left, it stood nearly
ready—furniture in place, and even
the dishes, pots and pans carefully put
away. We would move into our beautiful
new home as soon as we returned from
our two-week honeymoon in Acapulco,
where we'd have plenty of time to rest
under the pleasantly warm tropical sun.

Every detail had
been planned,
from the
champagne
fountains to
the sit-down

The days following the shower were
busy ones spent working at the office,
sending thank-you notes and putting
the finishing touches on the apart-
ment. I talked with Brian every eve-
ning, so when he called Wednesday
night I didn’t think anything was un-
usual—until he blurted out that he
could not go through with the wedding.

My mind went blank. Had I unwit-
tingly done something to offend him?
Was there a part of the wedding he
wanted to change? In vain I begged him
to reveal what had brought about this
change of heart, but he refused to ex-
plain. Although he insisted he still
loved me very much, he had decided
that he could not marry me. In total
shock, and fueled by desperation, I per-
suaded him to come with me to see our
parish priest the following evening.

But as we sat in front of Father
Walsh the next night, Brian remained
adamant in his refusal to go through
with the wedding. In tears, I asked Fa-
ther Walsh for advice on how to con-
vince Brian to reconsider, but he an-
swered quietly that when one
person does not want to get
married, there is no marriage.
At that moment, I realized he
was right. There was to be no
wedding, no honeymoon, no
apartment and no future with
Brian. And nobody could tell me
why, since Brian refused to talk.

After a long, sleepless night I
dragged myself to work the fol-
lowing morning. My bossimmedi-
ately sensed that something was
wrong, so I broke down and con-
fided to her the awful reversal
that had occurred in the last
two days. She suggested I take
the day off and I agreed, grate-
ful to have a free day in which
to call a halt to the huge nuptial
production scheduled to take
place in a week’s time. Brian, 1
refusing to communicate with
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with anyone else, had dumped the
whole sordid mess into my lap. To add
insult to injury, my mother, apparently
reeling from the shame of the whole
situation, went out of town for three
days without telling me where she was
going or for how long. (When she did
return, my self-esteem was so low that I
never had the nerve to ask her why she
had gone away.) I was left completely
alone to undo all the arrangements I
had put together with so much love.

As I began my unhappy task, I
learned that people tend to blame
the bride for being jilted. Some people
actually came right out and asked me
what I had done to cause the groom to
change his mind. Enduring these of-

’ fensive remarks was not made any eas-

ier by the knowledge that as yet Brian
had not deemed it necessary to tell me
what had happened, either.

In the midst of my depressing er-
rands, I went to our apartment to gath-
er my things and discovered that Brian
had cleaned it out completely. All the
furniture, appliances, dishes, pots,
pans—everything was gone. (Later I
would learn that he had kept all the
wedding gifts as well.)

This seemed the most bitter blow of

care.”

all, and I became deeply despondent. I
felt too humiliated to face my friends,
and helpless to answer their questions.
Worst of all, though, was the searing
pain and anger I felt whenever I
thought of Brian’s obvious disregard for
my feelings as evidenced by his con-
tinued stony silence and cruel empty-
ing of our apartment. Deep inside I
knew I had to do something or I'd prob-
ably have a nervous breakdown.

My main concern was to get through
what would have been the wedding day
without becoming an emotional basket
case. I remembered that when my sis-
ter broke up with her boyfriend in high
school, her counselor advised her to
change her appearance in some way—
get a new hairstyle or a new dress. So I
took the money I had saved for the hon-
eymoon, and on the Saturday I was to
have been married I spent an exhilarat-
ing morning having various beauty
treatments at Elizabeth Arden. Then I
crossed the street to Sassoon’s, and at
one o'clock, the hour of the wedding, I
had my waist-length hair cut into a
fabulous new style.

I had made plans at the office to take
my two-week vacation anyway, intend-
ing to hide out at home until I felt up to
facing everybody again. But my new
look—and my new outlook—gave me
so much confidence that on Monday I

went to work and told my boss Id
changed my mind. Not running away
from my obligations was one of the
smartest decisions I made.

The next few months were difficult,
but I gritted my teeth and marched
forward. I did see Brian at work occa-
sionally, and my pride was further
wounded when I learned he had started
to date other women right away. But ]
did my best to ignore him. I would not
let his cruel rejection ruin my life. Be-
cause his calling off the wedding hac
eroded my health, I ate nourishing
food, took vitamins, and went swim-
ming at the Y every night to physically
work out the strain and tension I still
felt. And although Brian would neve1
be my husband, I didn’t let that stop me
from learning the things I'd asked him
to teach me. I joined a hiking club ai
the plant, and that weekend I went or
my first hike. I also began to conside!
seriously what I wanted to do with my
working years. I knew I could get «
better, more responsible job as a secre.
tary if I learned shorthand, so I en
rolled in an evening course at the loca
high school. One year later, I had a jot
as an executive secretary, and my nev
salary enabled me to move into ar
apartment,which I decorated with fur
niture and household items of my own
But prior to starting at my new com
pany, I went with a friend to Canada
where we had a great time.

Then, one evening, the phone rang
To my surprise it was Joe, the first boy.
had ever dated. We had remainec
friends. I had invited him to the wed
ding and then, of course, he’d received ¢
cancellation notice. Now he was calling
to make sure I was all right. I agreed t
meet him for coffee and was pleased t
see a kind, nonjudging smile on hi:
face. That evening Joe was calm an
caring, and during the followin;
months he was a real friend—someons
I could talk to and share my highs an
lows with. Our relationship grew, anc
two years after that first coffee date, |
married him. That was six years ago
and today Joe and I share a rewardins
life together.

At some point during my painful or
deal it dawned on me that I could creat
something positive out of my persona
tragedy. I saw myself grow from the pas
sive wallflower Brian had proposed t
into a strong, defined young woman wh
actively pursued her own interests anc
lived her own life. I recognize now tha
the humiliating experience of being jiltec
was the shock I needed to wake up an«
understand that I alone was responsibl
for my happiness and fulfillment. B:
standing on my own two feet, I under
stood that I could do for myself the thing
I once believed could be done only witl
the help of a man. En

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By Shirley Linde and Maury Breecher

No hunger, no
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can even have French
pastry. Just add up the
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ou don’t have to be
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generous snacks). Not only is
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prevents the cravings associ-
ated with most diets. As one
patient who lost 35 pounds pro-
claimed, “On Dr. Lindner’s diet
you can lose weight and still
enjoy eating. You’re well nour-
ished and never hungry!”

“People have a right to be
thin without being hungry,”
says Dr. Lindner. “A diet
has to keep you so satisfied
and make you feel so
good you want to
stay on it. That
way you begin to
eat and think
like a thin per-
son, sO you stay
thin over the
long term.”

Dr. Lindner
should know.
At five feet
seven, he once
weighed 235
pounds. He
tried diet after diet.
Finally, he created one
for himself that worked, and

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pounds for more than twenty-
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“And they can do it without
being hungry,” says Dr. Lind-
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three main meals and three
snacks per day, plus generous
amounts of foods that contain
almost no calories; they can
also enjoy special treats when-
ever they want them.”

Dieters on the Lindner plan
lose about two pounds per week
on the average, making the
diet safe and effective, even for
long-term dieting.

And it’s simple. You just add
up the points of the foods you
eat (see chart, page 29). There
is also a large group of no-limit
foods that you can eat to your

heart’s content.

Dr. Lindner's point system

To begin, keep track of all you
eat for one week. Eat as
you always do, but
carry anotebook and
write down the food,
with its point value,
the minute you eat
it. At the end of
the week, total
up your points.
To lose weight,
you must cut
down on the to-
tal number of
points youtake
in during the
next week. “It's
the number of
points you use
= up in a week
y that counts,” Dr.
‘ Lindner says. “You can
use more points on one
day and (continued)

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continued

wer on the next, as long as you do
it exceed the average you are allowed
- the week.” Dr. Lindner recom-
ends a diet of 40 to 50 points per day
> women (280 to 350 points per
ek), and 50 to 60 for men (350 to
0 per week).

Keeping track of your points will also
slp you recognize the foods that are
ur downfall—those that make your
int allowance skyrocket—and you
n begin to substitute other foods for
se that cause you to gain weight.

Dr. Lindner’s rules

Don’t skip meals, as you'll be more
ely to overeat at the next one.

Drink a minimum of eight glasses of
ter or no-sugar beverage per day.
Eat at least one serving (4 ounces) of
tein daily (fish, chicken, lean meat).
Eat one serving of vitamin-C-rich
d daily and at least one serving of
low or dark-green vegetables daily.
Drink two cups of skim milk every
y to ensure sufficient calcium intake,
take a calcium supplement.

Eat cereal foods (whole grains, no
sar added) every day.

Add a little fat for flavor and nutri-
nal balance. Most of us consume too
ich, but you do need two tablespoons
at a day.

lake a vitamin-mineral supplement
ry day.

Hat plenty of no-limit foods daily.
Vary your diet to get the best nutri-
aal balance.

Tips that make this diet work

Increase your activity. Exercise will
mn fat as well as inhibit hunger
res. So think movement! Most obese
ple are slow movers, while thin peo-
move more and move faster.

Don’t think in terms of self-denial.
sate interesting meals and snacks.
Leave a little something on your
te at every meal.

When you shop, buy only low-point
ds. What you buy is what you'll eat.
Drink one or two glasses of water (or
4p of soup) just before a meal to give
ta feeling of fullness.

uet your cooking help you. An aver-
: serving of boiled shrimp is only 8
nts. ... If you dip shrimp in batter
i fry them, you have 18 points!

f you routinely snack while watch-
TV, break the habit.

When you do snack, eat no-limit
ds or low-point fruits.

dave the proper snack foods pre-
ed so you won't be tempted to reach
more fattening things.

f you crave something sweet, try

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»ooking good in a bathing suit.

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‘ife, to not use food for emotional pur-
»oses. If you are bored or depressed, go
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Overestimating portion size is the

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POINT FOODS

Note: For foods not listed, calculate point
value by figuring 25 calories equals 1 point.

Protein foods

1 point per oz*: Abalone, bass, catfish,
chicken breast (no skin), clams, cod, crab,
flounder, halibut, lobster, mussels, oysters,
perch, pike, pot or farmer cheese, scallops,
sea bass, shrimp, sole, snapper, trout

1¥2 points: Bluefish, brains, carp, chicken,
dark meat (no skin), chili (just beans, no
beef), heart, kidneys (beef or lamb), liver (ex-
cept goose), salmon, smelt, swordfish, tuna
(packed in water), turkey (no skin)

2 points: Bacon (one strip), cream cheese (1
Tb.), duck, fish sticks (unbreaded), goose,
mackerel, pompano, salmon (smoked, or
canned in water), skim milk cheese, trout,
turkey giblets, veal, whitefish

3 points: Beef, lamb or pork (except fatty
cuts listed below), sardines (canned in oil),
chopped chicken liver (1 Tb.), liverwurst,
tuna (canned in oil), veal stew meat

3¥2 points: Fatty beef cuts, corned beef, short
ribs (not counting bone), spareribs

4 points: Cheddar, Swiss cheeses, egg, low-
fat cottage cheese (42 cup), peanut butter (1 Tb.)
5 points: Cottage cheese (¥2 cup), salami (1
slice), chicken frank

6 points: Hot dog

Vegetables with ae

1 point: Beets, 2 cup; black olives, 2; green

*Foods are measured by the uncooked ounce
unless otherwise indicated.

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olives, 3; water chestnuts, 5; sweet pickle, 1
2 points: Cole slaw, 2 cup; parsnips, ¥2 cup;
winter squash, 42 cup; Jerusalem chokes, 3 oz.
3 points: Black-eyed peas, 2 cup; corn, ¥
cup; fava or lima beans, 2 cup; pumpkin, 1
cup; fried onion rings, 5; chickpeas, / cup
4 points: Potatoes, french fried, 7 small;
potato, baked or boiled, 1 med.; yam, 2 cup
6 points: Baked beans, 2 cup

10 points: Hash browned potatoes, ¥2 cup

Fruit (fresh, canned unsweetened,
dietetic or water-packed)

1 point: Cherries, 3; cranberries, ¥2 cup;
date, 1; lemon, 1; lime, 1; plum, 1; prune, 1;
rhubarb, ¥2 cup; strawberries, /2 cup

1¥2 points: Papaya, 12 cup; pineapple, /2 cup
2 points: Applesauce, ¥2 cup; blackberries,
raspberries, blueberries, /2 cup; cantaloupe,
Yo: figs, 2 small; grapes, 15; nectarine, 1
large; peach, 1 large; tangerine, 1 large

3 points: Apricots, 4; banana, ¥2 cup; or-
ange, 3-inch diameter; passion fruit, /2 cup

4 points: Apple, 1 med.; avocado, “% large;
grapefruit, 1 med.; mango, 1; pear, 1 med.

8 points: Dried apricots, % cup; dried
peaches, 42 cup; raisins, ¥2 cup

Breads and cereals

1 point: Bread crumbs, 1 Tb.; buffet rye, 1
slice; croutons, 5; Norwegian flatbread, 1
slice; oyster crackers, 5; pretzels, 2; rye crisp,
1; soda cracker, 1; Triscuit, 1; Wheat Thins, 3
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This is your life, Tom
Selleck—as told by
the friends and family
who lived it with you
and know you best.

hen your college
buddy metamorphoses into
the superstar sensation of the
decade, it’s only natural to
wonder if he’ll have time to
see you. So Bob Osbrink
couldn’t help feeling nervous
when he wrote a note to Tom
Selleck’s secretary several
summers ago during a visit to
Hawaii. “Would it be conve-
nient,” he wondered, “for Tom
to see ‘Ozzer’ and his family?”

Tom’s reaction was swift
and enthusiastic. Not only
did he have time to see his old
college basketball teammate,
he was positively delighted.
He chartered a plane for the
family, set up a hotel and car,
and had them chauffeured to
the studio. “You must be a
friend,” said Tom’s secretary.
“A lot of people try to see him,
but only friends get through.”

That’s the way it is with
Tom. To the world (continued)

Tom Selleck always loved sports—
from elementary school days (top
right) to high school baseball
(center right) and basketball
(bottom circled). At center, left, he
poses for his tenth-grade yearbook.
(Yes, he was cute then, too!)

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“He wasn't considered the catch of the high school. He wasn’t the |
| heartthrob type,” says Tom’ high school sweetheart. |

at large, he may be known for
those legendary dimples, that
melting smile and that power-
ful physique, but to the peo-
ple who know him best he’s
just one of the guys—some-
one you can count on to help
you pour concrete for your pa-
tio, or to sit around with you
and have a few beers. As den-
tist and volleyball teammate
Fred Chuckovich says ad-
miringly, Tom Selleck is “a
pretty regular guy.”

Maybe that’s why the remi-
niscences of Tom fly so fast
when you get his friends
started. From grade school to
today, he’s been a people per-
son—maybe a little shy, but
always ready for fun. “I don’t
think I ever remember Tom
sitting in the house alone,
playing by himself,” says his
father, Robert Selleck, a suc-
cessful businessman.

Here, then, are some affec-
tionate memories of Tom—as
recalled by the folks who
knew him when: his family
and friends.

All in the family

The second child of four in an
utterly normal family, Tom
spent his childhood playing
Little League ball, chasing
lizards and following in the
footsteps of his more outgoing
older brother, Bob, Jr. The
way his father tells it, the big-
gest problem in rearing the
future star may have been in
getting him to clean his plate.
“Tom always had a mind of

Always popular but never a playboy,
Tom dated Shiara Kirsch (top right)
as a teen, and had a crush on
Sydney Kopeikin (top left). After
college (center), he dated
occasionally but soon wed Jacki Ray
(bottom left). How do you like him
without a mustache?

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| 40 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL « OCTOBER 1984

zis own, and you could not make him
lo anything that he didn’t want to do,”
Robert Selleck says, laughing. “To this
lay, Tom only likes certain foods. He
zever cared for salads. I don’t think he
will eat tomatoes or beans, although he
loes like peas.”

His father and mother may not have
een able to instill in their son a love of
yeggies, but their philosophy of child
‘earing certainly helped make him the
nan he is today. Neither Tom nor his
ister and two brothers were ever made
o feel superior or inferior to one anoth-
m this evenhanded policy is still in
widence now. In his spacious office,
lom’s father won’t even hang an oil
sainting of Tom sent by one of his fans.
nstead, it is simply propped up against
wall, while Mr. Selleck tries to figure
ut what to do with it. “It’s not appro-
riate to put in my office,” he explains.
And I couldn’t put it up at home, be-
ause then I wouldn’t have similar art-
york of my other children.”

Maybe that’s why Tom has always
acked conceit. “His most appealing
uality was that he was not enamored
rith himself,” says Shiara (Brumm)
tirsch, his high school sweetheart ,who
ves on a ranch in Oregon with her
usband and baby daughter. “Tomdidn’t
ome across as being self-impressed.”

Happy days

»ack in high school in the San Fer-
ando Valley, Tom was known more for
is athletics than his appearance. “He
as just one of the guys,” says class-
uate Larry Main, who now lives in Las
egas. He was always popular, but he
as never considered a lady-killer.

| Another friend through junior high
ad high school, Peggy (Smith) Von
onn, saw Tom as “cute, but not hand-
»ome, sort of long and lanky.” And even
hiara Kirsch says, “He wasn’t con-
dered the catch of the high school. He
asn’t the heartthrob type. I remember
uinking, Hey, girls, why haven’t you
en what I saw so easily?”

| What Mrs. Kirsch saw was “a de-
ightful, charming, sweet, kind and
sry nice-looking boy.” A great dancer,
mm took his girlfriend to parties,
ovies and the beach (sometimes with
s family along), and was “lots of fun,
ith a real good sense of humor.”

| While Tom wasn’t overly conscious of
s good looks, he did have a taste for
ce clothes. He spent much of his
xcket money acquiring Ivy League-
yle clothing and virtually every dif-
prent color of saddle shoes. “Tom loved
1oes,” recalls Sydney (Epstein) Ko-
vikin, a girl on whom Tom once admit-
)d having a crush.

Sydney was apparently just as taken
‘ith Tom. “He was always so gor-
vous,” she says. (continued )

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But the fates stood in their way. On
the day they were scheduled to have a
date, he was hit in the groin with a
baseball. “He couldn’t tell me what had
happened,” says Sydney. “He was al-
ways real shy. So his mother told my
mother, and that was that.

“Then fifteen years later, at our first
class reunion, when Tom came in with
Jacki, his wife, he said, ‘Jacki, come
here. This is the girl I was always em-
barrassed about,” remembers Mrs.
Kopeikin, now a San Fernando Valley
homemaker and mother of two.

Animal house

Long before National Lampoon immor-
talized the wild life of the college frat,
Tom Selleck and his fraternity brothers
were living it at Sigma Chi, the “jock”
house at the University of Southern
California. Although Tom was never
loud and raucous like some of his frat
brothers, he was very popular and was
voted the outstanding pledge of 1965.

By this time, Tom was outgrowing
his gangly teenage stage, and his
breathtaking good looks were quite ap-
parent. “Tom had a beautiful face,” says
Bill Brown, a close friend whom Tom
has known since he was eight. “If you
ever doubled, the girl you were with
would always want to talk to him.”

Still, most college co-eds had to ad-
mire Tom from afar. “People would al-
ways call me to get Tom to go to a DG
[Delta Gamma] or a Kappa sorority
party. But he did not go out very often,”
Brown says. In spite of his reticence,
Tom was not unaware of his good looks.
“We were both very narcissistic,” the
actor's friend recalls. “You couldn’t
laugh or smile, because you were afraid
your face would get lined.”

Tom generally stayed in the back-
ground for fraternity pranks. But occa-
sionally he would join in some of the
antics after the other members had
started them. One of the few times he
went all out was the night of the big
rock-band caper.

Brown remembers, “It started with a
shaving-cream fight. Then Tom and
several of the guys turned up a stereo
full blast, put on a Rolling Stones al-
bum, used tensor lights as imitation
boom mikes, got hold of some loud-
speakers and set up a mock concert in
front of a large picture window directly
across from the Kappa sorority house.

“With Tom on drums, the entire
group performed stark naked! The fun-
niest thing was, once the show got
started, the entire Kappa house went
dark and all you could see were the
heads of the sorority girls peeking out!”

Unfortunately, the Kappa house-

mother was peeking out, too, and she
reported Tom and his pals to the dean.

A star is born

Most people who knew Tom as a teen-
ager were somewhat surprised that he
set off on the road to stardom. He
wasn’t an actor, after all; he was an
athlete. “It was incongruous to us,”
says his father. “Tom was an outstand-
ing athlete, and if he had had the
proper breaks, he could have played
professional baseball or basketball.”
But while Tom was at USC, he began
to realize that his path in life might lie
in a different direction. He just wasn’t
the sports superstar he had hoped to
be. Although he was a graceful jumper
and “was awesome at slam-dunking the
ball,” according to basketball team-
mate Vince Mannino, he played only
second-string basketball and saw a
minimum amount of court time.

66 om is a
one woman
man,” says
a friend.
“He doesn’t like to

carouse. He'd like to
find someone who
wanted him not for
the star Tom Selleck
but for the person.”

It may have been during those long
between -play periods that the future
star's acting talent first became appar-
ent. Jim Lloyd, another former team
member, recalls how Tom would enter-
tain the second-stringers. “He would
mimic the crowd going crazy, like he
was a big hero coming into the sta-
dium. He had natural acting ability,
even before studying acting.”

Tom's good looks seemed to lead him
naturally to a few modeling jobs and an
appearance on The Dating Game (he
lost the girl). But when his big break
came, he almost missed it.

Toward the end of their college years,
Bill Brown and Tom had made it a firm
point to shun phone calls in the morn-
ing. After all, they and their frat broth-
ers were often up until three or four in
the morning, playing basketball, catch-
ing movies in nearby Hollywood or
holding impromptu races in the park-
ing lot. These late nights were rarely, if
ever, devoted to studying. “We were just
bright enough to get through school by

attending class occasionally and
rowing girls’ notes,” says Bill.

In any case, on one particularly si
nificant morning, the roommates
lolling in their bunks, and when th
phone began ringing, they tried thei
best to ignore it. But the caller woul
not give up. “We played odds or evens
see who would answer it,” says Bill. “
wound up getting it and the voice o

Fox was calling. I said, ‘Don’t you knoy
we don’t wake up until practice?”

But Richard Zanuck’s office woul
not be dissuaded. Someone there ha
seen Tom either on The Dating Game c
on a cola commercial with a basketbe
theme and had decided he had po
sibilities. After asking three or fo
times, the caller finally persuaded Bi
to get Tom to come to the phone. “Whe
Tom got on the line, he just kept say
ing, “Yes, yes,’ and nodding his head
Bill recalls. “After he got off the phor
and told me that Twentieth wanted
see him, I said, ‘This is stupid. You’
being set up by some of the guys.’ |

“But he went, and the rest is histo
He was signed to that Twentieth Ce
tury Fox training program, and tha
where he really got his start.”

Tom’s roommate, Bill Brown, playe
yet another role in shaping the dire
tion of the actor's life.

He introduced Tom to the actress ¢
model Jacki Ray. Soon the two we
married and had settled into the ki
of life that made one friend descri
them as “Ozzie and Harriet.”

“Jacki was behind him in eve i
he was doing, and he was behind he
says Leonard South, a producer w.
has known Tom since the fifth grad
“They were the sweetest people in
world and very affectionate together.

South’s two sons would play wil
Tom's stepson, Kevin, and like other
he was impressed by Tom’s relationshy
with the boy. “Kevin was his son as f
as he was concerned.”

Even after Tom and Jacki’ divord
the bond between the two remaine
Kevin, now sixteen, calls Tom “my
ther,” and visits him frequently
Hawaii. “Kevin absolutely adores b
father, and Tom is very attentive
Kevin when he’s here. They go
movies together, and Tom spends p:
vate time with him,” says Suzan#
Chuckovich, wife of Fred Chuckovic
one of Tom’s volleyball friends.

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Jacki hit Tom hard, and it is one f
those periods that friends and fami¥y
do not speak about much, though Sou
does speculate that Tom and Jacki’s «
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their symptoms every night, because
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onset of flow each month. To combat
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few days prior to the onset of menses.
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through the kids’ books: Nancy Drew
and the Hardy Boys, Someone or Other
and his Flying Dirigible, a pair of Liv-
ing Bibles, Little Women, 101 Experi-
ments to Do at Home. Out of the last
she remembers Toby and Lydia making
telephones of tinfoil, string and orange
juice cans. All these books are on their
way to the Salvation Army.

I am the woman, she thinks, who
gives things away.

For months Mary Ellen has been
cleaning. She started with the rooms
downstairs, purging them of the Orien-
tal throw rugs, the Constable and
Brueghel prints. The walls she painted
white. The living room she filled with
light furniture, simple chairs with
earth-toned burlap sacking for seats,
and lots of glass. A new look, cheerful
and lean, Scandinavian.

She hasn’t touched the basement yet;
it’s too depressing. If it weren’t for the
sad facts of plumbing, she’d seal it off
completely. Hendrick has helped her
move loads of furniture down there, the
stuff she couldn’t or wouldn’t sell. The
mahogany buffet, the armoire resem-
bling nothing so much as an ogre, the
brocaded love seat. In those days we
coveted heaviness and darkness to the
last bureau, she likes to think. But she
knows these were her parents’ things.
That’s why she keeps them. Daniel had
nothing when they met.

There is one window in the junk
room, a miniature, nine panes facing
north. The middle pane is a rainbow
arching out of pink clouds. The glass is
set in lead. Before they were married,
while Daniel was still in medical
school, his roommate Jerry was an am-
ateur glazier. Jerry opted out of surgery
eventually, is a dermatologist some-
where. “What a life,” Daniel would say,
shaking his head.

Now the sun lights up the rainbow.
There is a scuttling of leaves on the roof
outside. She can hire Todd, the boy next
door, to rake and bag them. Tonight is
Halloween. Sharon, the only one of her
children still at home, and her boy-
friend, Doug, are going to take care of
the trick-or-treaters while Hendrick
and Mary Ellen go to the movies.

In the corner she finds her mother’s
trunk, the one with brass studs and
deep-cut floral patterns. Inside are old
Halloween costumes. Here is Lydia’s
skeleton suit, her dancing senorita
gown, her astronaut helmet dangling
shreds of foil. Here is Toby’s Franken-
stein mask.

She piles it all on the floor. Here is
the Mexican sombrero, part of the Pan-
cho Villa outfit Daniel once used at a
masquerade party. She can’t remember

- what she herself wore. Yes, he was a

handsome Pancho, with the billowing
sleeves. He was too tall, but he hunched
over a bit and swaggered, trying out
some Spanish he’d picked up in the
Southwest and making it sound just
right; he never did anything unless it
was convincing. The hat was the real
thing. They’d picked it up in Nogales.
He was with the Public Health Service,
she was ostentatiously pregnant with
Toby; Lydia was almost three. When
they drove back to their reservation
town, Lydia was asleep, for once.
Daniel, the doctor in the desert, drove
with one hand on Mary Ellen’ belly.
She could feel the baby’s foot pressing
now and then, and she thought, Here is
my husband’s hand and my child’s body
and only my skin between them.

The bottom of the trunk yields loose
bits of costumes. Gypsy beads, awizard’s
wand, a grotesque nose. What to do
with it all? Who will take it?

oby is sitting in

the driveway,

looking up at fat
October clouds, when
suddenly an old party
shoe bursts through
the attic window.

She twirls the wand like the major-
ette she never was, and looks at the
bright heap of costumes. The house
then was full of Merlins, gremlins and
wood nymphs, and chuckled at night.

That rainbow was a promise between
them. They were moving from apart-
ment to apartment and he said the
pane would wait until they got their
own place, their first. Then it would be
the highest window. Well, here it is,
baby, she thinks, and here I am!

The shoe Mary Ellen flings at the
window is Sharon’s from kindergarten,
a party shoe. She trips backward; sits
down on Hendrick’s roll of insulation.
The window is broken. A car is turning
into the driveway. No one ever told her
about fiberglass: And her hands, when
they go to her face, are stuck with tiny
pink needles that won’t come out.

Toby enjoys surprises, like coming
home today. An hour after he finished
his psych midterm in the morning, he
was on the road.

The day is clear. It’s a long stretch
down through New Hampshire, but

Toby keeps music rolling from the tap
deck. He switches from Dvorak to th
Stones to Ella Fitzgerald—and he’
into Connecticut. He taps his foot or
the floor. Maybe he’ll do the old scare
crow trick tonight, just like Halloweer
in the old days: the raggedy jacke
stuffed with leaves, a pair of rippec
Levi's, those old fireman’s boots, th
Frankenstein mask if he can find i
Nobody notices the doorstep dumm
until it comes alive, groaning, reachin

sneaked up through the bushes, r
membering the ruse from the year b
fore, and blew him away with fir
crackers. So much for that.

Jay Kline, his parents both lawyer
the biggest, the loudest house in to
One whole summer Jay slept over
Toby’s, to escape the arguments. No
Jay is an actor, or trying to be one, i
New York. He appears in toothpas
ads, running up from the beach with
surfboard and a big smile. His paren
are still together. Its the Slatte
who’ve come apart. Maybe we were ow
this pain, Toby thinks; we were so hap

Through town now and past the ho
pital, Toby thinks of his father in the
somewhere, reading an X-ray, injecti
an artery, breaking bad news. F
thirty years he has been telling peop
in waiting rooms and corridors
over the telephone: “I’m sorry...”

Toby sits in his car in the drivew:
He is looking up at fat October clou
when a shoe bursts from the attic wi
dow. A dozen manic somersaults do
the roof and it lands on the dri
That'll be the rainbow, he thinks. Hi
surprised it lasted this long. He
hales, thinking about his mother.
developing countries, his anthropolo
reading tells him, the crisis of the fi
ily is one of too many people, broth
and sisters and wives and cousins,
ing to hold it all together. But what
have here at 77 Bay Road, he reflects,
a whirling inward, the rumble of bre
ages from the inner rooms of our
life. Mom is up in the junk room aga
He imagines her sobbing.

In the kitchen, Toby and his mother
talking. Toby swishes coffee in his m
“So when’s Hendrick coming?”

“Your guess is as good as mi
honey.” Hendrick is as chronically 14
as Toby’s father is punctual.

“Last time he ran out of gas.
the bridge.” he

“Oh, jeez.” They both laugh. His p#*

split. His father so meticulous abd”
details, his mother a walking tornz
of lost checks, bills,car keys. Dr. Slatte
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filing his nails. In restaurants he calculates tips to the cent.

“T like Hendrick,” Mary Ellen tells Toby, “because he was
the first to show me that someone nothing like Daniel could
still be attractive to me. He has red hair and fixes engines
and his laugh comes from way deep down, and I thought he
was a great big galumphing lumberjack.”

“So you're going to the movies?”

“Yup. Something about German generals in Africa.
Sounds awful, but I think James Mason’s in it, and he’s so
wonderful. I talked Hendrick into going over to that little
theater in Westerly where they bring you peanuts.”

“I saw Casablanca there one time.”

“Don’t remind me.” Toby’s father is a Bogart fan.

“Sorry,” Toby says. “Well. It’s good to be drinking your
coffee again.” Mary Ellen pushes aside her sandwich. She
lights a cigarette. She is so thin.

“Toby, the worst is behind me now.”

“Good!” He takes her hand.

“Everything’s been up, up, up. I’m meeting all sorts of
people. A teacher, a man at Sharon’s PTA, asked me to
snowshoe with him in the Catskills.”

“And you told him?”

“T told him to wait until everyone's divorces came through.”

Toby smiles. But she’s not eating. “What's up with
Hendrick’s divorce?”

“Oh, the same. Still staying with his mother. He’ll be glad
to see you. He’s such a funny bear of a man.” Mary Ellen
thinks about how Hendrick will come through the door,
ducking a little, unnecessarily; he’s tall, but not that tall.
He'll clap her kids on the back; “Hiya, sister,” he’ll say, and,
“Hey, man.”

“So it’s been good with him?”

The question hangs. Hendrick is nice. He opens doors.
And there’s always comedy; like the trip out on his boat,
which turned out to be a little dinghy. He wrenched his
shoulder trying to start the engine, and when they finally
got out to the island, it turned out to be a smidgen of sand
just some hundred feet offshore. It was nice out there,
though. They held hands.

“He tells me war stories, Toby. He was in Vienna after the
war. American zone, the occupation, all that. I was praying
nothing would remind him of Vienna tonight. What did
they do to Vienna anyway, cut it up like a pie?”

“Yeah, sort of.”

“Well, I don’t see why they didn’t just let the Viennese run
Itsy

Toby takes the dishes to the sink.

“You shaved off your beard. It makes you look like your
father.”

“Mom.”

“Oh, dammit, Tobias, I don’t want to cry anymore.” She
stands, back to the wall. Toby watches his mother turn her
head from side to side like a baby refusing the spoon. He
feels so helpless.

“You know he took her up to Sainte Auguste, Toby. Did
you know that?”

Toby didn’t.

“Oh, yes. Can’t you just see him showing her around?

Now here’s where we used to put on our skis, and here’s
where Sharon went to nursery school, and here's where
little Toby got hit on his little nose with a hockey puck. I can
see the tears in his eyes. As if he had some right, as if
something had been taken away from him.”

“T know.” Toby speaks softly. He knows that somethin,
has in fact been taken away from his father. The geometries
of loss, though different for all, are happy for none. Over his
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helpful hints.

By Patricia A. Sileo

With the high cost of today’s clothing,
proper care of apparel is more than
just a good idea—for most of us it’s
become a financial necessity. Protect-
ing your investment, however, means
more than cold washes, drip-drying,
or a trip to the local dry cleaner.
Savvy consumers are learning that
caring for clothes begins not with the
first stain, but when the garment is
initially purchased.

To make your wardrobe look better
and last longer, follow these buying,
cleaning and storing tips from Don
Tripolsky, associate director of the
Neighborhood Cleaners Association.

HITTING THE RACKS

When shopping for clothes, you may
consider style, color, texture, size, fit
and price. But you must also think
about how you'll have to care for the
garment. You probably already know
from experience that some clothes
just can’t be cleaned effectively. That
white wool dress with red suede trim
may seem irresistible in the store, but
when the trim bleeds into the dress
after its first cleaning, you'll wish
you'd been less impulsive.

To safeguard yourself, check the la-
bel before you invest in an outfit.
Look to see what the garment is made
of as well as how to care for it. In
general, natural fibers like linen, cot-
ton, silk and wool are your best bet. A
wool sweater, for example, is more
practical than an acrylic one, since
acrylics tend to stretch out of shape
permanently. Wools, on the other
hand, can be blocked back into their
original shape no matter how often
they’re worn.

There are times, however, when
man-made fibers are a better choice.
When buying a pleated skirt, for exam-
ple, you’ll do best with a fabric that’s at
least 65 percent synthetic, since man-
made blends hold pleats more effec-
tively than natural fibers do.

You also need to find out whether

Hanate with care

the garment’s been preshrunk—look
for the word “Sanforized” on the label.
But be aware that even Sanforized
garments may shrink up to 2 percent.
A good rule to follow: Never buy any-
thing that “just fits” (unless you want
your Calvins to look like they’ve been
sprayed on after one cleaning).

CARING FOR YOUR CACHE

You’ve got your new clothes home...
now what? No one knows better how
to care for clothes than a professional,
so when in doubt, head straight to
your favorite dry cleaner—hang-tags
in hand—and ask his or her advice.
But there are some general rules you
can follow when caring for clothes:
@ Clean your garments regularly.
Even small doses of perspiration, grit
and pollution will affect the longevity
and attractiveness of apparel.
@ Keep dust and pollutants from
wearing out fabrics by brushing your
clothes with a clothes brush between
cleanings. Use a lint brush to pick up
stray threads and pet hairs.
@ If you get caught in a downpour,
hang rain-soaked items in a cool,
well-ventilated place to dry.
Garments made with certain fab-
rics or trims (the silk dress that
makes you feel like a million or the
vintage sequined sweater you just
couldn’t resist) require added tender-
loving care. (The more frill, the more
skill you'll need!)
Lingerie. Most of your lace-trimmed
dainties can be washed in cold water
with mild detergent, then drip-dried.
If needed, press with a cool iron.
However, you'll still want to check
labels for instructions. And while

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created by chefs from some of the na-
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sure to satisfy the most discerning
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CHEDDAR CHEESE TORTE
Tante Marie's Cooking School
San Francisco, California

2 pounds white Cheddar cheese,
cubed
1% cups unsalted butter, divided
Yq cup port wine
Dash ground red pepper
1% cups chopped walnuts, toasted*
and divided
1 pound Stilton cheese

In food processor with steel blade pro-
cess Cheddar cheese, 1 cup butter, port
and red pepper until smooth. Spread
half the mixture on the bottom of an
8-inch springform pan. Sprinkle on
half the walnuts. Place in freezer to
chill. Remove remaining cheese mix-
ture from processor bowl. Set aside.
In same processor bowl (no need to
wash) process Stilton and remaining
¥2 cup butter until smooth. Spread
over first layer; sprinkle on remain-
ing walnuts. Place in freezer until
well chilled. Then top with remaining
Cheddar cheese mixture. Cover and
refrigerate. To serve, remove sides of
pan. Serve as a spread with crackers
and bread. Makes one 8-inch torte,
about 50 calories per tablespoon.
*To toast walnuts: Spread nuts in a
shallow pan; bake in a preheated
350°F. oven for 6 to 8 minutes. Cool.

SAUTEED DOVER SOLE
La Belle Pomme Cooiing School
Columbus, Ohio

2S RO OES

Batter

1 egg, separated
43 cup milk

3 tablespoons lemon juice
¥a cup all-purpose flour

Pinch salt
3 tablespoons chopped fresh dill or
1% teaspoons dried

4 fresh Dover sole fillets
(about 8—10 oz. each)
or other white fish

Salt and pepper

Salad oil

Lemon wedges for garnish

Batter: In medium bowl combine egg
yolk, milk and lemon juice. Stir until
well mixed. Gradually stir in flour and
whisk until smooth. Strain batter
through a sieve into another bowl. Stir
in salt and dill. Let batter rest 30 min-
utes at room temperature. Just before
sauteing fish, beat egg white until soft
peaks form. Gently fold into batter.

If necessary, cut fillets into pieces
small enough to fit into skillet. Sprin-
kle lightly with salt and pepper. Heat
¥4 inch salad oil in skillet over medium
heat until hot but not smoking. Dip
each fillet into batter, coating both
sides well. Saute in hot oil 1 to 2 min-
utes on each side until golden brown.
Remove and serve immediately with
lemon wedges if desired. Makes 4 serv-
ings, 340 calories each.

INDIVIDUAL SPINACH CUSTARD
WITH TOMATOES
L'Academie de Cuisine
Bethesda, Maryland

1 pound fresh spinach
1% teaspoons salt, divided

2 tablespoons butter, divided

2 eggs

Y% cup milk

Y2 cup heavy or whipping cream
Dash pepper
Dash nutmeg

1 tablespoon freshly grated

Parmesan cheese
2 tomatoes

Stem and wash spinach in cold water,
changing water 2 or 3 times. In a
saucepan blanch spinach in boiling
water with 1 teaspoon salt 1 minute.
Drain, cool in ice water; drain again.

In medium skillet saute spinach in
1 tablespoon butter, keeping the
leaves from breaking too much. Set
aside.

Preheat oven to 350°F. In medium
bowl combine eggs, milk, cream, “%4
teaspoon salt, pepper, nutmeg and
‘heese, stirring with a whisk until

ell blended. Butter six 6-ounce cus-
tard cups or 4 to 6 timbale molds.

Pour in custard mixture. Divide cooked
spinach equally among the cups.

Place in a 13x9-inch baking pan
lined with paper towels. Set pan on
oven rack and add 1 inch hot water.
Bake 30 minutes or until knife insert-
ed in center comes out clean.

Meanwhile, peel and seed toma-
toes; cut into small cubes. In medium
skillet melt remaining tablespoon
butter; saute tomatoes until liquid
evaporates. Taste, and season with salt
and pepper if needed. Unmold cus-
tards onto serving plate and surround
with tomatoes. Makes 4 to 6 servings,
285 calories per 4, 190 calories per 6.

COCONUT CREAM MOUSSE PIE
La Belle Pomme Cooking Schoo!
Columbus, Ohio

Crust

1 cup fine chocolate wafer crumbs
Y2 cup very finely chopped pecans
Ya cup butter, melted

Filling

1 cup flaked coconut

2 teaspoons unflavored gelatin

2 tablespoons cold water

5 egg yolks
Ya cup sugar

1 cup canned cream of coconut

2 cups heavy or whipping cream
2 teaspoons vanilla extract

Crust: Preheat oven to 350°F. In small
bowl combine wafers and pecans. Add
butter and mix with fork until evenly
moistened. Press evenly against bot-
tom and sides of a 9-inch pie plate.
Bake 10 minutes. Cool on wire rack.
Reduce oven temperature to 250°F.
Filling: Spread coconut in jelly-roll
pan or on cookie sheet. Place in oven
to “dry,” about 25 minutes. Cool. Com-
bine gelatin and cold water; set aside.
In small mixer bow] beat egg yolks
on medium speed. Gradually add su-
gar and continue to beat until thick
and lemon-colored, about 5 to 10 min-
utes. Reduce speed to low and gradu-
ally add cream of coconut. Transfer to
top of double boiler. Add gelatin. Cook,
stirring constantly, over simmering
water until mixture feels hot when
tested on inside of your wrist. Chill,
stirring occasionally, until mixture
mounds when dropped from a spoon.
Whip cream until slightly thick-
ened. Add vanilla and beat until soft
peaks form. Reserve 1 cup for garnish.
With a whisk, beat gelatin mixture to
soften. Fold in cream, then cooled co-
conut. Spoon into prepared crust.
Spoon remaining cream into a pastry
bag with a star tube and pipe a lattice
design over top of pie. Refrigerate at
least 5 hours or overnight. Makes 8
servings, about 580 calories each. End

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and designers.
By Deborah 8S. James

I recently inherited several

beautiful quilts from my great

aunt. I'd love to show them off
in my home. Do you have any sugges-
tions on how to display them?

Remember that antique quilts

are as fragile as they are beau-

tiful and should be treated
carefully. Be sure to hang your quilts
away from direct sunlight so that the
colors don’t fade. And never use sta-
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walls—opt for one of the following
methods instead.
@ Baste two-inch strips of Velcro at
two- to three-inch intervals along the
top edge of the back of the quilt, sug-
gests Blanche Greenstein, of Thos. K.
Woodard American Antiques & Quilts,
in New York. (For a very tautly
stretched quilt, run a single piece of
Velcro across the top of the quilt.) Be
sure that the stitches do not go
through to the front of the quilt. Sta-
ple or nail the opposite pieces of
Velcro directly to the wall or to thin
strips of furring wood that you then
mount on the wall. Quilts displayed in
this manner will hang freely—much
like tapestries.
@ Have a carpenter build a wood
frame (an artist’s stretcher) to the ex-
act measurements of your quilt, sug-
gests Pie Galinat, a quilt restorer. Use
Velcro to attach all four sides of the
quilt to the frame—this will help hold
the quilt’s natural shape.
@ For a less expensive display
method, sew muslin along the four
sides of the quilt and then staple the
muslin to a standard-size artist's
stretcher. The muslin around the
quilt will give it a framed look.

@ Sew a sleeve of muslin to the re-

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installations at the American Craft
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rod about three-quarters of an inch in
diameter through the sleeve, then
suspend the quilt from ceiling beams,
using strong nylon fishing line at
each end of the rod. (Don’t substitute
a piece of wood for the metal rod—
especially if your quilt is heavy—
since the weight will tend to make the
wood sag in the middle.)

@ If your quilt is very fragile, you
will need to keep it in an airtight
glass frame to preserve it.

@ Quilts that you will not be display-
ing should be packed in a cedar chest
to protect them from moths. But be-
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free tissue paper on the face of each
quilt, advises Pie Galinat, then fold
and wrap more tissue paper around
the outside. These precautions will
preserve your antiques for genera-
tions to come.

The wooden floor in my five-

year-old’s bedroom is in bad

shape. Is there a way I can sal-
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time or money?

Why not cover damaged wood

floors with a bright paint? The

vivid colors are sure to please
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painting also makes floors easy to
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To prepare your floor for painting,
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Most experts suggest using a solution
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Apply this solution with a mop, then
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water doesn’t soak into the wood. Let
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then sand it lightly with fine sand-
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floor is ready for a second coat, press
your thumb into the painted area. Ifa
print appears, you'll need to give the
floor more time to dry.) Next, apply
coats of floor and deck enamel. Allow

each coat of enamel to dry thoroughly,
then sand lightly with a fine grade of
sandpaper. The number of coats you ap-
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If you want to add some special
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Help! I just moved into an old

apartment, and the pipes that

hang below the bathroom sink
are covered with rust. Is there any-
thing I can do that won't require a lo
of work and money?

Here are some quick and eas

solutions that will improve

your bathroom’s looks withou
draining your finances.
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skirt and use the space for additiona
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dishwashing detergent—you'll probably
find that its mild enough to effectively
(and safely) clean your delicate washables.
Silks. It’s better to be safe than sorry,
so dry-clean all silks, since the dyes
that are used frequently bleed and
fade. And because silk is especially
susceptible to perfume, perspiration
and deodorant, you need to dry-clean
silks frequently to avoid damage
caused by regular wear.

Decorative trims. Baubles, bangles and
beads are a hot new look (and even
better if you have oldies), but they’re
tricky to care for. Since the wrong
cleaning process can cause trims to
melt, curl, discolor or come unglued,
‘it’s best to seek advice from your dry
cleaner before cleaning the garment.
Denim. Before dealing with denims,
first decide if you want to look like a
Sergio Valente commercial or an old
cowhand. Dry cleaning preserves that
“just bought” look, while machine
washing will make denim garments
look lived-in. After machine washing
jeans, straighten out twisted seams

and smooth wrinkles while the jeans

are still damp—it will make pressing
a lot easier. When pressing, be sure to
pull the fabric to stretch it a bit.

RX FOR TREATING STAINS

The best prescription for treating
stains in an emergency is don’t. If you
can possibly manage to live with the
spot, don’t do a thing until you can
clean the entire garment. However, if
you've spilled wine down the front of
your dress during the toast at cousin
Betty’s wedding, follow these tips:

@ Place a white towel or cloth napkin
behind the stain.

@ Wet another white cloth and dab
the stain. Never rub the spot because
it will wear out the fabric and may
leave a permanent mark. Two excep-
tions: velvet and corduroy should be
brushed, not dabbed.

@ Clean the entire garment as soon
as possible. If the stain is exposed to
heat, light and air for any length of
time, it will oxidize and may become
impossible to remove.

@ If you are having your clothes pro-
fessionally cleaned, point out the
stain to your dry cleaner and explain
what caused it. The information will
be helpful in removing the stain.

@ Never iron stained garments. Ap-
plying heat will set the stain, which
could make it impossible to remove.
@ Never use nail-polish remover to
take out nail-polish stains—not only
do you risk discoloring that part of
your outfit, but polish remover will
create a hole in certain fabrics.

OUT OF SIGHT

Now you've got the basics on how to
buy and clean your clothes. But to
ensure that they last for years, you
have to store them properly as well.
That means doing more than stuffing
your seasonal wardrobe into boxes
and piling them in the basement until
next year comes around.

@ Clean your clothes before storing.
“People often pack what they think
are clean clothes only to find an un-
removable stain when they break

them out the next season,” says Don
Tripolsky. These “invisible stains”
result from substances that contain
tannin, which is found in almost any-
thing edible, but especially soda, tea,
coffee, liquor, fruit juices and vegeta-
ble oils. Though the stains aren't
noticeable at first, the spots yellow
with heat and age.

@ Store your clothes in the coolest,
dryest closet in the house—prefera-
bly one that’s infrequently opened—
because materials tend to absorb
moisture. Make sure the closet has
been cleaned and mothproofed.

@ Use mothballs, but never inside
pockets—they’ll discolor the fabric.
@ Don’t pack clothing in plastic (par- |
ticularly the thin plastic from the dry
cleaner), since it clings to garments, }
trapping moisture and pollutants.

@ Give your clothes room to breathe
and use sturdy, well-constructed

hangers that won’t misshape them.
(Never hang knits, however—hang-
ing will stretch them out of shape.
Knitted garments keep best in draw-
ers or folded over hanger rods.)

Kei) uesns

@ Stuff shoes or boots with shoe trees
or paper before you put them away.

@ Short on closet space? Don’t want
to deal with the entire change-of-sea-
sons ritual? Consult your dry cleaner.
While services may vary, many will
clean, pack and store your clothes at
reasonable prices.

For additional information on car-
ing for your clothes, send a self-ad-
dressed, stamped envelope to: Book-
let, Neighborhood Cleaners Associa-
tion, 116 E. 27th St., New York, NY
10016. The Association will also an-
swer specific questions. And since the
Federal Trade Commission now re-
quires that manufacturers label all
garments with cleaning instructions,
you might want to look at “What's
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and Pennsylvania Ave. N.W., Public
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TIP OF THE MONTH

Give your dinner table some pizzazz
with creative napkin folding. Here
are a few suggestions from Vera, a
well-known manufacturer of linens.

@ Fan-fare: Fold napkin in half.
Start accordion, folding in three-
quarter-inch folds from the bottom to
about a third of the way from the top.
Fold in half with accordion pleats on
the outside. Fold right corners into
triangle overlapping at side by one

inch. Fold one inch overlap under to
create a base. Stand up and napkin
will fan out.

@ Handkerchief: Start with tri-
angle. Hold finger on center at bottom
(arrow). Lift right point of triangle to
left. Lift next point to left. Lift next
point again. Fold right side under to
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fold up to center. Take right corner up
to center, creating a diamond. Fold up
the bottom point to within one inch at
the top point. Fold the same point
back to the bottom edge. Fold back
sides and tuck in back. Stand napkin
up. Pull down the left and right peaks
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Nelson* was
rushed by am-
bulance to a
hospital near

her home i in central Illinois.
_ She had first begun to feel
_ labor pains that dawn—two
_ months before she was sup-
posed to. And by the time she
was wheeled into the delivery
room, the contractions were
coming too fast for the worried
doctors to stop them. In little
less than an hour, the baby she
and her husband, Mark, had
prayed for was born—a little
girl weighing two pounds six
ounces, whose arms were little
bigger than an adult’s finger
and whose skin was so translu-
cent that you could see her
blood vessels through it.

Like many pr emature in-

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fants, she suffered from severe

hyaline membrane _ disease,
and while neonatal experts
struggled to save her, the in-
fant’s fragile lungs just couldn’t
sustain life for long. A mere
seventy-two hours after she
was born, the tiny figure in the
tangle of tubes and wires died
of respiratory failure.

Why didn’t Caroline’s obste-
trician detect signs of trouble
and possibly prevent prema-
ture labor? Because Caroline
never saw a doctor while she
was pregnant. With Mark sud-
denly out of work and with no
health insurance, she simply
couldn’t afford to do so.

“In the hospital I cried con-
stantly,” says Caroline, finger-
ing a locket that contains a pic-
ture of her premature daughter.
“Mark tried to soothe me, but I
knew that, deep down, he was
really crying to himself.”

Today, she and her husband
bear not only the sorrow of
their loss but also a tremen-
dous burden of guilt and anger.
They realize now that with

home

You may be shocked
to learn that a baby
born in Singapore has
a better chance of
living to its first
birthday than one
born in the U.S. Why
are thousands of
infants perishing
needlessly in the
world’s richest nation?

obstetrical care, an infection
Caroline developed during preg-
nancy could have been detected |
and treated with antibiotics, —
and she probably would have
carried her baby to term. But
at the time, the fair-haired ©
twenty-six-year-old just hadn’t
understood how important pre-
natal care is. When the coal
mine in which Mark worked
shut down, the couple had pan-
icked over the state of their fi-
nances and decided that a doc-
tor was a luxury, not a neces-
sity. “When you have prac-
tically no income and you don’t
feel sick, the last thing you
spend money on is a doctor,”
Caroline says.

Tragic as their experience
was, Mark and Caroline Nelson
are typical of thousands of fi-
nancially strapped young cou-
ples who fall through the cracks ~
of the medical system each year.
Because of a lack of information,

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prenatal care they need. And with littl
or no prenatal care for the mothers
babies are three times as likely to die]
: Ae The result is that the United States
spe Fe ey Ree one of the richest and medically mos
2 | 3 aera ae t sophisticated countries in the world
AS ay, Rae aub-oueore » has a shameful record for infant mor
SORT aT Hee : (aie rs tality. This is where other countrie|
trim: Other colors Precott faofe send their sick children, where paj
About Bere} , tients come for the finest in medica}
care. Yet we rank an appalling eigh}
teenth in a comparison of infant deat]
rates with other industrialized nations
Judging from the statistics on infan|
mortality—which include the deat]
rates for infants from birth to ong
year—babies have a better chance o
surviving in Singapore or Hong Kong

than they do here.

In 1983, we lost 10.9 infants pej
1,000 live births, compared with 13.8
in 1978. That’s a welcome decline. Bu
there are cities in this country wher
the infant mortality rate actually wen
up during those years—places lik«
Milwaukee, Birmingham, Pittsburgh
Richmond, Jersey City, Philadelphig
and Louisville.

What are we doing wrong? Why ar
we losing more than forty thousan¢
babies a year in a country that has one
of the most advanced health-care sys
tems in the world? “You're looking at
lot of problems involving public healtk
care, the economy and social attitudes
and they all aggravate one another,}
says Dr. Luella Klein, president of the
American College of Obstetricians ang
Gynecologists. She points out that thd
leading causes of death for infants are
premature delivery and low birt
weight (under five and a half pounds)
In fact, of those who die, nine out of ter
are premature or small for their gestaJ
tional age.

That’s not to diminish the progresj
that’s been made in recent years in sav
ing premature infants. Today, ever
those below two pounds frequently sur§

fant mortality would be to reduce the
number of premature and low-weigh}
births. In this area, there has been lit}
tle progress. Some 240,000 low-birth]}
weight babies are born every year, and
the rate of premature births has no}
changed significantly since the 1950s.
This is particularly tragic since the
solutions to the problem are well
known. “There’s nothing magical about}
what it takes to reduce infant-mor}
tality rates,” says Jeffrey Taylor, chie
of the Division of Maternal and Child
Health at the Michigan Department oj}

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uiblic Health. “We’ve known most of
he answers since the 1920s, but we
aven’t had the political and social will
9 put the solutions into effect.”

Indeed, we continue to learn more
ach year how important nutrition is to
pregnant woman and why she must
tay away from alcohol, cigarettes and
yany drugs. We know that drugs called
yeolytics can be used to stop early la-
or if it’s detected soon enough, and we
now that a high-risk mother can be
aught to recognize signs of early labor
yshe can get help. When a program to
o this was implemented at the Medical
enter of the University of California
t San Francisco between 1978 and
79, there was a 64 percent reduction
i premature births.

And yet, these great medical strides
iake little difference when people
yn’t have access to medical care—ei-
1er during pregnancy and delivery or
‘ter the baby’s birth. The high rate of
ifant mortality is not a medical prob-
m as much as a social and economic
1e in this country, and there are cer-
in groups who bear the brunt of it.
lack babies die at twice the rate of
hite babies. But the problem reaches
yond poor black families in urban
1ettos or the rural South. The victims
e also the newly poor—young couples,
ce the Nelsons, who are hit by unem-
oyment. “Typically, when you become
1employed you lose your health insur-
jice after thirty days, and youre still
}'t poor enough to qualify for Medi-
id,” says Taylor. “There are terrible
oblems in obtaining prenatal care.”
Shockingly, sometimes there is diffi-
| lty as well in gaining admission to a
spital. Jana and Bob Lemley are one
uple who believe that economic con-
lerations may have caused their
by’s death.

Delivered prematurely at Gulf Coast

)spital in Baytown, Texas, the infant,
‘Yighing under two pounds, needed
}2 kind of sophisticated intensive care

at the hospital was unable to give.
'} ctors frantically tried to find a place
Christopher Lemley at hospitals in
aumont, Galveston or Houston—
i spitals that had the facilities to save

> baby’s life—but to no avail. Five
icial hours passed before Jana’s pedi-

‘ician finally found a place for Chris-

yher 170 miles away at Scott and

rite Memorial Hospital in Temple,
cas. Nineteen days later the little

7 died, succumbing to a major stroke.
‘}Why was there no room at other hos-
pals on Christmas Day 1982? Hospital
Ininistrators claimed that every
lBace was filled, but the Lemleys think
If: answer is money. Robert Lemley
1 recently lost his job at an oil com-
| vy and, with it, his health insurance.
} we could have gotten Christopher

into a well-equipped hospital right
away, I believe he would have lived and
so does’ my pediatrician,” says Jana
quietly. “But one by one they turned us
away. They knew we had no insurance,
and we couldn’t guarantee thousands of
dollars in advance. They said there was
no room. But we found out later that
one hospital in Houston had five respi-
rators available. The admitting office
said they were reserved for triplets and
twins, but the mothers hadn’t even gone
into labor. The respirators sat there un-
used for more than two days. They just
didn’t give Christopher a chance.”
Other families, too, have found that
they cannot count on compassion to
save their children. The Office for Civil
Rights of the U.S. Department of
Health and Human Services has chill-
ing evidence of desperately sick babies
and of mothers in labor being shunted
from one hospital to another because
the family had no available cash or in-
surance credentials. Consider these
cases from the files of the Children’s
Defense Fund, a child advocacy group,
and the National Health Law Program.
@ A woman in labor was turned away
from a small Tennessee hospital during
a freezing rainstorm. Two local obste-
tricians refused to deliver her because it
was late at night, the weather was bad
and she had no money. The woman and
her husband, a day laborer who earned
too much to qualify for public assis-
tance, had to drive thirty-five miles
through the storm to a hospital in Hunts-
ville, Alabama, where fortunately their
baby was safely delivered.
@ A seriously ill baby in Ohio was re-
ferred to a county medical center by a
local public clinic. The parents were
kept waiting in the emergency room for
four hours. The pediatrician on call re-
fused to admit or treat the infant, later
saying he “was not going to serve as
backup to any free clinic.” The infant
was finally admitted by another doctor,
but died a few hours later.
@ In California, a woman in labor was
rushed to the emergency room of a hos-
pital, but when a nurse discovered the
baby was in breech position, the
woman was told that because she had
no way of paying for a complicated de-
livery she would have to go to a public
hospital, about an hour’s drive away.
The baby was delivered feet first in the
car on the way. He was not breathing,
and though an ambulance was called,
resuscitation efforts failed.
@ A gravely sick eleven-month-old was
taken to a Texas hospital at the advice
of a local physician. But the recep-
tionist informed the parents that the
baby could not be admitted without a
$450 deposit, which they were unable
to pay. The hospital administrator later
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$225. But the parents, while insisting
that they were willing to make arrange-
ments to pay, were unable to present the
money immediately. The baby was re-
fused admittance and died that afternoon.

The transfer of mothers and children
from one hospital to another is called
the dumping syndrome—and it is dra-
matic evidence that all babies in this
country are not created equal. “When
hospitals experience financial diffi-
culties, they cut down on the number of
Medicaid patients and patients without
insurance,’ says Marilyn Poland, as-
sistant professor of gynecology at
Wayne State University and Hutzel
Hospital in Detroit. “We’ve seen
women turned away even when they’ve
had complications in labor because
Medicaid doesn’t cover the cost of the
complications. They’re stuck back in
the ambulance and sent elsewhere.”

Oddly, right-to-life groups, which
have fought so hard against abortion
and for the rights of handicapped in-
fants, such as Baby Jane Doe, have
raised hardly a peep over the thou-
sands of babies who die because their
mothers don’t get access to medical
care. In fact, in some states, the same
groups that battle abortion have also
battled efforts to increase medical care
to pregnant women. In Oklahoma, for
example, a state that has one of the
worst records in the country for prena-
tal care, a recent bill to set up better
care for women was defeated by one
vote in the state legislature. According
to local newspapers, the main opponent
of the bill was the right-to-life lobby,
which apparently feared that prenatal
clinics might be used to give abortion
counseling. There also appears to be a
puritan backlash—an unstated as-
sumption that pregnant women with-
out money deserve what they get. As
one opponent of the Oklahoma legisla-
tion said after the bill’s defeat: “What
we need is to pass a law teaching those
[pregnant] people to say no.”

An absence of sympathy is only one
of several problems that currently
stands in the way of pregnant women
and babies getting better care. Some
other problems incluce the following.

A lack of education

In the ghetto or in very poor rural
areas, many women are ignorant of the
need for medical care and proper nutri-
tion during pregnancy. Unable to af-
ford transportation to public clinics,
perhaps distrustful of doctors, some
women simply don’t understand why
they should seek medical care when
they don’t feel sick. Others, many of
them teenagers, avoid getting help un-

til late in their pregnancy because they
simply cannot deal with the issue. “If I
went to a doctor, it would be admitting
I was having a baby,” says a fifteen-
year-old girl in a Chicago prenatal
clinic who didn’t get help until her fifth
month. “My mother and everyone else
would find out. Id feel like I was letting
them down.”

For formerly middle-class women
who have lost insurance and cannot af-
ford private obstetrical care, the prob-
lems may be somewhat different. Be-
cause of their circumstances, they are
caught between two worlds. Without
insurance and with private obstetrical
fees averaging about $650 for nine
months of care, and with delivery and
hospital costs (minus complications)
averaging $2,300, they are suddenly
cut off from the kind of medical treat-
ment they've always known. Yet the

hen infant
death rates
among industrialized
nations were compared,
the United States

was found to rank an
appalling eighteenth.

idea of getting government assistance
is often foreign to them. As Caroline
Nelson says, “When you’ve earned your
own way all your life, you don’t think
about going on welfare. You don’t un-
derstand the system, you don’t even
know where to turn.”

Such feelings are fairly typical, agrees
Marilyn Poland, who works in Michi-
gan—a state that is in its fourth year of
double-digit unemployment. “For women
who themselves have lost jobs, or are
married to men who have lost jobs, pre-
ventive health services are generally the
first things to go. You take a look at your
budget and see what you can do without
and what you can’t.”

What keeps people from getting
Medicaid or other forms of assistance?
In some states, they are simply unable
to qualify because the cutoff levels for
Medicaid are so extremely low that
only the very poor receive benefits. But
there is also another factor. “These are
middle-class women who are not used
to going to social-service agencies and
talking to social workers,” Poland con-
tinues. “The other thing that happened
in the recent recession was that there
were cutbacks everywhere, including

the social-service departments.
there are fewer social workers to he
people, even though the need is greate:

A lack of services

Government cutbacks during the 198'
have been disastrous for pregna
women—especially since the cutbac
coincided with high unemployme
rates. In 1981, for example, there w
an 18 percent budget cut in matern
and child health programs, and fort
four states were forced to reduce the
prenatal and delivery services. The r
sult of such cuts is that there is actual
less prenatal care being given in tk
country. In a recent study by the Ch
dren's Defense Fund, twenty-six stat
out of thirty-three studied showed d
clining percentages of women who 1
ceived care in early pregnancy.

According to a recent study by ar
searcher at the Harvard Universi
School of Public Health, these cuts.
translate into higher infant-mortali
rates. In Boston, for example, Penny |
Feldman found infant mortality rose :
percent from 1981 to 1982 in five po
areas where federal grants were s
verely cut back. Preliminary results
studies in Detroit and New York show
similar situation.

The impact of such belt-tightening
that women who have been educated
want help are turned away. “One OKI
homa hospital’ prenatal clinic is
overwhelmed with pregnant wom
that theres a three-month waiti
list,” says Susan Bodtke, former pre
dent of the Nurses Association of t:
American College of Obstetricians ai
Gynecologists and a volunteer pre
nancy counselor for Lutheran Soci
Services in Oklahoma. “If you dot
think about getting help until yo
fifth month, you won’t be seen un
you're practically ready to deliver.”

Flaws in the system

While neonatal experts and social s¢
vices advocates insist that increas
funding for preventive programs is n¢
essary, that is certainly not the only a
swer. There are several difficulties wi
the system itself that have long work
against the best interests of babies.
One of the biggest problems, the ex
tence of quirky Medicaid regulations
different states, was at least partial
eased in July when President Reag:
signed a bill that made Medicaid mo
accessible to pregnant women. P1
viously, states set their own Medica
guidelines, and in some states wom
were not eligible for assistance for
first pregnancy, while in others th
couldn’t get Medicaid coverage if th
were pregnant and married. Now
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Medicaid if they meet eligibility require-
ments for Aid To Families With Depen-
dent Children. And it’s mandatory that
states provide Medicaid during a first
pregnancy for women who would qualify
after the child's birth.

Such changes will certainly make an
important difference. But if we are to
reduce infant mortality, several other
problems must be addressed as well.

@ Unwilling obstetricians. Even when
a woman has Medicaid, she often has
difficulty locating a doctor who will ac-
cept it since the payments are so low
and the paperwork so involved. In Con-
necticut, for example, a 1982 survey
found that 57 percent of the responding
obstetricians and gynecologists refused
Medicaid patients. There’s also some
evidence that because of high malprac-
tice premiums, obstetricians and gyne-
cologists are becoming increasingly re-
luctant to take difficult cases, and
poorer women often present problems.
In fact, a 1983 study found that in Flor-
ida 18 percent of these specialists had
stopped delivering babies altogether
because of ma!practice insurance rates
of up to $35,000 a year. In California,
the same study showed that 10 percent

of ob-gyns planned to stop. This, of
course, puts a heavy burden on public
clinics and hospitals, which are already
suffering from funding cutbacks.

@ Closed hospital doors. Although
many hospitals are required by the
federal Hill-Burton Act to admit emer-
gency patients regardless of their abil-
ity to pay, a number fail to do this, says
Judith Waxman, managing attorney
for the East Coast office of the National
Health Law Program in Washington,
D.C. Three years ago, the Office for
Civil Rights established a policy that a
woman must be accepted as soon as it is
clear that she is in labor. “But many
administrators ignore this unless a pa-
tient knows the law and insists on her
rights,” Waxman says.

The result of these problems is that
many babies who could have come into
the world healthy are born needing
highly expensive medical care. It’s not
very unusual for care of a premature
infant to cost $100,000, and even the
average expense is $17,000 to $24,000.
The irony of this is not lost on child-
care advocates. In fact, in a petition
presented by Public Advocates, Inc., to
the U.S. Department of Health and
Human Services early this year, thir-
teen associations argued that $361 mil-
lion in high-tech medical care could be

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The solution, says Jeffrey Taylor, is {
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will be part-time. Families in
which both parents must work,
along with changes in the

A part-time retail salesperson.

AGUIDE TO
PARI-IIME WORK

By Shirley Sloan Fader

needs of many businesses, are
creating a demand for part-
time jobs and forcing employ-
ers to modify traditional sched-
ules. Now, as a result, chances
are excellent that you can find
part-time work that matches
what you want from a job—be
it convenient hours that will
allow you to be home in the af-
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an opportunity to socialize
with others or the basic train-
ing needed to obtain a full-time
position eventually.

Indeed, today’s burgeoning
part-time job market consists
of hundreds of different kinds
of office, sales, health, indus-
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or even generate income by
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There are even a multitude of
interesting part-time jobs for
the woman who is afraid to job-
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has no marketable skills.

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sonality and to formulate your
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these are most important:

@ Convenient work hours

@ Short commute

@ Work in your home, easily
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@ Work that doesn’t require
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benefits as well as a salary.

@ A job that could lead to a
full-time position with promo-
tion potential

You have probably thought of
other (continued on page 70)

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factors that are important to you. Add
them and read on to see what kind of
part-time work would best suit your
particular set of requirements.

Permanent part-time: group style

From 10 A.M. to 2 P.M. five days a week,
Debby Chabran works as a computer
programmer at the Massachusetts
headquarters of an insurance company.
“I send my kids off to school, and I’m
there when they come home,” she says.
Debby, along with 130 other perma-
nent part-timers at the firm, receives
hourly wages equal to those of the full-
time employees in similar positions, as
well as pou te company health bene-
fits. But bec ause she works just half
of the company’s regular workweek,
Debby’s vacation and pension benefits
are half those of full-timers.

Mary O'Connor and hundreds of
other salespeople work twenty-five to
twenty-eight hours a week for a large
department store New York City.
Not only do they receive the same
wages as the full-timers, but all their
benefits are also equal.

Experts at New Ways to Work, a1
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San Francisco, report that such groups
of permanent part-timers are especially
concentrated in the fields of banking,
insurance, data processing, health care,
education, food service and retail sales.

Group-style part-time work is attrac-
tive to many women because it. pro-
vides a regular paycheck and benefits
as well as social contact with other
part-timers on the same schedule. The
work can be interesting and can keep
your skills polished, and you probably
will not feel obligated to bring any work
home. However, if you’re looking to get
ahead, you would probably have to
switch to a full-time position and alter
your status before management would
recognize that you're promotable.

When looking for this kind of part-
time work, begin by checking the news-
paper ads under the heading “part-time”
as well as under the occupation itself,
such as bookkeeper. Ask working people
you know whether their employers are
looking for part-timers. Employment ex-
perts report that most jobs of all kinds
are filled by word-of-mouth.

Also check job opportunities with the
government. Though the number of
government jobs is shrinking because
of budget cuts, as of October 1983 there
were still about 202,260 permanent
government part-timers and about

51,700 temporary part-timers—from
secretaries to scientists. To learn abou
current openings in federal goverik
ment offices, call the Office of Persox
nel Management, listed under th:
“U.S. Government” heading in you
phone book. For information on loci!
and state government job opportunitie

call your town or county clerk. t

Permanent part-time: individual sty},

When the youngest of Cindy Barnetth
three children was starting school tek
years ago, Cindy found a job teachirt
remedial English three hours a week a
her local community college. Although
Cindy’s previous experience was as||{
high school teacher, her part-time cop
lege job slowly expanded, and she fi
now a full-time associate professor. |;

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weekly as a clinical social workey
She’s been told that she could move uf
to district supervisor if she were wils
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president of marketing at Olsten,
points out that “there are thousands of
part-time jobs out there—as a public
representative in customer service, as a
receptionist, as a survey taker, at infor-
mation centers at conventions, or at
many clerical jobs. Employers value
the sense of responsibility and the ex-
perience in getting along with people
that a mature woman has.”

Job sharing

Connie Hagemen and Marie Desmond
share the job of librarian at a large
Midwestern high school. It’s one job
with the benefits divided between two
people. They both work Wednesdays
and split the other four days between
them. Job sharing, a relatively new
kind of part-time work, represents be-
tween 1 and 2 percent of the jobs held in
this country. Catalyst, the national
women’s career resource center, reports
an impressive variety of job sharers,
including teachers, bank economists,
personnel executives, research assis-
tants and museum curators. Some job
sharers divide each day, with one work-
ing mornings, the other afternoons.
Others alternate weeks. A Chicago
twosome share a position as au-
diovisual specialists in which one
works two straight weeks while the
other has two weeks off.

So far, most people who share jobs have
previously worked for the employer—ei-
ther full-time or part-time. With the em-
ployer aware of the abilities of both indi-
viduals, she or he may be open to the idea
of their sharing the job. Keep in mind,
however, that this arrangement is for peo-
ple with cooperative personalities, not for
competitive individualists who will be
frustrated and restless working in tan-
_ dem. Job sharing works best for those
who are willing to put their career on
hold. Though there are exceptions, gen-
erally the nature of sharing a job makes
it difficult to win promotions or major
salary increases. For more information,
including how to convince your boss to
change a full-time job into a two-person
position, read The Job-Sharing Hand-
book, by Barney Olmsted and Suzanne
Smith (Penguin, 1983), available in book-
stores. For a free list of publications on job
sharing send a legal-sized, self-addressed

stamped envelope to New Ways to Work,
149 Ninth St., San Francisco, CA 94103.

Your own business

Some ways of earning money part-time
at home, such as caring for small chil-
dren or setting up a typing service, have
been proven for generations. They’re
still excellent options for the woman
who is interested in working at home
on a schedule she arranges around her
family responsibilities. And sometimes
the businesses grow. For example,
Nancy DeVries and Lynda Thomas, of
Oakland, New Jersey, were typical
young housewives with six children be-
tween them when they went into busi-
ness at home collating books for a bind-
ery. Neither had a college degree at the
time or any special job training. “We
just kept asking questions, reading
every book we could find on our field
and learning what we needed to know
as we went along,” says Nancy. Now

ot having

business skills

doesn’t mean
you're unemployable.
Cooperativeness and
reliability are also
important on the job.

they design and typeset brochures, an-
nual reports, advertisements, book
covers, packages and hardbound books.
They’ve outgrown their at-home head-
quarters, and now occupy three thou-
sand square feet of an office building
and employ seventeen people.

There are many books available offer-
ing information and ideas on how to
start a business: A good one is Earn
Money at Home: Over 100 Ideas for Busi-
ness Requiring Little or No Capital, by
Peter Davidson (McGraw-Hill, 1982).

The electronic cottage:
The computer comes home

Last year when Kathy Stein told her
boss she was quitting her part-time
data-processing job to be a full-time
homemaker, her employer suggested
they try a new arrangement instead.
He lent her a computer terminal about
the size of an electric typewriter to
keep at home. By tying her phone into
the terminal, Kathy works from her
living room just as efficiently as she did
at the office. The data she processes are

automatically transferred through he
phone to her employer's computer. /
recent article in The Wall Street Jou?
nal on the growing number of peopl
working full- or part-time at home wit!
computers and other sophisticated elec
tronic equipment says there are nov
potentially 50 million jobs like thi:
And because the United States has.
significant shortage of people traine
to use the new electronic machines, suc
as computer consoles or word processors
if you have the skill or take a course an
learn, you'll have many opportunities fo
part-time and full-time jobs.

Author Alvin Toffler, who is credite
with creating the phrase “electroni
cottage” in his best-selling book Th
Third Wave, suggests that people wit.
such computer skills could go directl
to job interviews at banks, insuranc
offices and other businesses and pre
pose doing computer work for ther
from their homes with a terminal len
them by the employer. “Given th
shortage of skilled people,” says Toffle
“there’s an excellent chance such an o
fer will be accepted—if not by the firs
employer, then by another.”

Creating a part-time job

Employment experts say that three ov
of ten jobs today did not exist unt
someone came along and suggeste
doing the work. Often the employe
didn’t realize that the work needed t
be done or didn’t need to hire someon
on a full-time basis. For instance,

young woman from a Midwestern cit
walked into a local newspaper offic
and suggested they needed a drama re
viewer. She came equipped with samp!
columns, already cut to size to fit th
newspaper's format. She sold the pape
on her qualifications and abilities, 2
well as on her idea, and she got the jol

Remember that when you approac
an employer and make your part-tim
suggestion, you are the only applican
If you’re qualified and you present you
proposal in a convincing way, you
chances of success are splendid. Als
any health, community, youth or re
ligious organization you currently d
volunteer work for probably has som
paid staff members—often part-tim¢
Your volunteer experience with ther
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fore a desirable paid part-timer. Asl
For numerous other easy ways for yo
to create a part-time job, see Fro?
Kitchen to Career, by Shirley Sloa
Fader (Stein & Day, 1978).

One final word of advice. Figure ov
what kind of part-time job best suit
you, and don’t be afraid to apply. Re
member that once you focus on whé
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after it, you’ll have gone a long wa
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When Lorraine’s husband, Bill,
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dent of the Ohio electronics com-
pany where he’d worked for the
past seven years, she thought that
at last all their problems would be
solved. They’d be able to pay off
their bills and buy a really nice
house, and Lorraine could quit
that unsatisfying part-time job at
the drugstore. Now she could savor
that delicious feeling of inner se-
curity she’d longed for, and devote
herself full-time to her husband
and their three preschool children.
But Bill’s promotion brought
changes Lorraine hadn’t foreseen.
His new position required them to
socialize and entertain more often,
and Lorraine felt suddenly defi-
cient in style and charm when she
compared herself with the other
company wives. In addition, Bill
was required to travel more often,
and Lorraine found herself ner-
vous and fretful during his ab-
sences. And while Bill's salary in-
crease did help pay off some bills,
others accumulated for clothing,
furnishings and entertainment—
all necessary to fit the new image
as a corporate couple. Maybe this
is just a period of adjustment, Lor-
raine thought, but secretly she be-
gan to feel that her life would
really come together when the
children were all in school. “Then
everything will be under control,”
she decided. “Then I’ll be free from
anxiety and able to breathe.”

How to stop playing it

We all grow up with a picture of
how life is supposed to be. Your
personal plan might have included
a husband, two or three children
and a house surrounded by a white
picket fence. Or maybe you were
raised with the added expectation
of a successful, exciting career. No
matter what individual flourishes
you’ve given your own image of the
ideal life, it undoubtedly included
some critical element that would
make you feel safe. Whether it was
the right man, a picture-book fam-
ily or, as in Lorraine's case, your
husband’s next promotion, you
knew that when you had that, ev-
erything would be fine.

It doesn’t take long on the road
to maturity to discover that life is
never quite that simple. Even if
you have attained many of the
footholds that you believed would
bring you security, you may still
yearn for a permanent feeling of
well-being, a freedom from the
stresses and unexpected diffi-
culties of adult life. And while
marriage, family and a steady in-
come can do much to provide a
sense of stability and material se-
curity, they can never guarantee
that life will proceed happily ever
after. Yet many of us still persist
in believing that some external,
tangible set of circumstances can
protect us from the risks of liv-
ing. Both sexes share this fantasy,
but women, because of certain so-
cial and biological factors, tend to

Irrational fears cause us to act too rashly or not at all. Here's
how to avoid letting your feelings of insecurity run your life.

be more susceptible to insecurity.

Society still views women as less
competent than men, according to
Dr. Rebecca Potter, assistant pro-
fessor of psychiatry at the Univer-
sity of Arizona. “The idea that
women can be autonomous is a rel-
atively new one,” she says. “And
though things are definitely
changing, they change slowly.”

In addition to social attitudes—
which we internalize, to our detri-
ment—women have more “biolog-
ical markers” in their lives that
produce periods of change and
stress. According to Dr. Elissa
Benedek, clinical professor of psy-
chiatry at the University of Michi-
gan Medical Center, it is during
these times (the onset of menstrua-
tion, childbearing and nursing,
menopause) that some women are
most likely to dream of ever-pre-
sent security.

Whatever the causes, this power-
ful wish to feel secure can create a
number of problems, not the least
of which is the mental attitude of
“playing it safe,” either by retreat-
ing in fear from life’s challenges or,
on the other hand, rushing heed-
lessly into action to make every-
thing “right” without considering
the consequences. For many wom-
en, either method of dealing with
life can become a paralyzing trap
that hampers personal growth, re-
lationships and career pursuits. In
addition, a desire for safety often
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dependency on others or a crippling
fear of failure. Most women, however,
find that their need to feel safe surfaces
at particular times in their lives and
gets resolved momentarily only to pop
up again at unexpected moments.

Unexpected anxiety

Nancy is a thirty-eight-year-old maga-
zine editor with a successful career,
supportive family and several close
friends. Yet she continues to find her-
self jolted by bouts of inner shakiness,
often when she least expects them. “I
really don’t understand it,” she says.
“Pll go along and feel fine about every-
thing, and then for no apparent reason,
ll wake up one morning with a feeling
of dread in the pit of my stomach. I'll
feel totally panicked; I just know I’m
going to trip over my own feet, spill the
contents of my briefcase and then
freeze up during an important presen-
tation. I call this my ‘banana peel’ feel-
ing. You know, like I’m slipping and
can’t control the fall.”

Part of Nancy’s problem is grounded
in her personal experience. Having
gone through a divorce and more than
a few ups and downs in her career, she

has brushed up against the kind of
real-life insecurity that can cause tre-
mendous distress. The harsh realities
of modern life include the fact that one
of every two marriages will end in di-
vorce, and women are belatedly dis-
covering the colder aspects of the work-
ing world. All of this adds to the sense
of inadequacy many women have cul-
turally internalized. Making a mar-
riage work can be difficult at times, and
no woman is reassured by knowing that
the ratio of available men to husband-
hunting women is sharply in favor of the
men. In the workplace, the pressures of
performing well on the job, adjusting to
a new boss, negotiating for a raise, the
stress of being fired or shifted into a job
you don’t want—all these and more crop
up from time to time.

Then again, our own attitudes may
increase this anxiety. It seems no mat-
ter how successful we are in obtaining
our personal goals, most of us tend to
up the ante as we go along. Instead of
being content with what we have, we
tend to focus on what is missing or at
risk. And if we have a husband and
children, our anxiety multiplies. We
fret about their well-being, sometimes
more than our own.

How can you cope when you feel as if
your ship is sinking, even though the

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nothing would ever be stable again. I
had this fear that once we got settled
here, we'd have to move again.

“Of course, after a time, I did make
friends and begin a new life,” con-
tinued June. “Volunteering time at a
hospital is what got me started. Now
that I do feel at home, I don’t think I
would be as upset by another move. I’ve
got the perspective to see that I can
depend on myself to make a home
anywhere.”

June lived through her period of anx-
iety and emerged a stronger, more self-
confident person. But many women,
when attacked by insecurity, try to pro-
tect themselves inappropriately. They
may rush into solutions without really
investigating all the possible ramifica-
tions, or they may do*the opposite—
become overly fearful of the unknown
and not act at all.

These reactions are fueled and ag-
gravated by modern expectations, says
Dr. Iris Sangiuliano, a New York City
psychotherapist and author of Jn Her
Time (Morrow/Quill Paperback, 1980),
a book that defines the common transi-
tions in women’s lives and the crises
that trigger growth. “Panic reactions are
a by-product of our ‘instant’ society,”
she says. “We want instant relation-
ships, instant success and instant, perm-
anent security. There is no such thing!”

Hasty solutions

Margaret is a perfect example of what
can happen when we try to play it safe.
Still single at thirty, she panicked and
rationalized her decision to marry a
long-time suitor who she _ believed
would be a good husband, but with
whom she was definitely not in love, by
convincing herself that it was the
“mature” thing to do. She also rushed
into motherhood, believing that it
would fulfill her need to create “a co-
coon,” as she called it. But by the time
Margaret's son turned three, she and
her husband had separated. She was
devastated by her failed marriage. An-
gry and confused, she nonetheless rec-
ognized that she had been naive to
think she could solve everything by
getting married. Yet she was approach-
ing her separation the same way she
had approached her turning-thirty cri-
sis: looking for one neat solution to tidy
up a complex set of problems.

One factor in Margaret’s dilemma
was that she approached life as if it
were a static condition. She attempted
to solve her problem in one bold stroke.
According to Dr. Sangiuliano, it is es-
sential to view life as a step-by-step
process. Any change may bring new
pleasures as well as new respon-

sibilities, but it won’t magically trans-
form your entire life or provide the
inner serenity you find lacking.

Another factor in Margaret’s case
was that, in her attempt to “fix” her
life, she hadn’t imagined honestly what
life would be like with a man she didn’t
love. Afraid to project into the future,
Margaret did further damage by com-
paring her life with the image of other
people’s “perfect” lives. Of course, she
always ended up feeling inferior to this
imaginary standard.

Inability to act

The opposite of Margaret’s hasty solu-
tion to insecurity can be a neurotic in-
ablity to act at all. Sara was a young
newlywed interviewing for a job in the
field of computer software research and
development. When one potential boss
told her he’d like her to write an essay
on her ideas about the business, Sara
rushed home filled with enthusiasm.
But that evening as she sat at the type-
writer, her enthusiasm dried up and
fear set in. Who was she to think she
could write a job-winning essay? Sara
sighed, pulled the blank sheet out of
the typewriter and began searching out
other job leads. When two weeks had
passed, she was chagrined to discover
that the boss had been seriously con-
sidering her, but picked someone else
because he never received Sara’s essay.

Sara’s inability to act stemmed from
a crippling fear of failure. The irony is
that you can’t succeed unless you allow
yourself the opportunity to fail. There
may be some lucky individuals who are
able to follow straight paths right to
their goals, but they are undoubtedly a
rare breed.

The positive approach

Much more typical is Marie, now a suc-
cessful antiques dealer, who failed in
two attempts to set up her own busi-
ness before she established her thriv-
ing shop in its current location. Her
realistic but positive approach kept her
going. “I never expected that setting up
my own business would be easy,” she
confided. “I was the type of kid who had
to study hard all term and cram for a
week just to get a B in school. So when I
made the mistakes I did, and had the
bad breaks I had, I just figured they
were part of what it was going to take
to make my business go. Now that I’ve
made it, I still know the road won't
always be easy. I’ve got to worry about
the competitor who opened a shop down
the street, and my secretary’s thinking
of leaving to get married. You can never
sit back and relax, no matter how suc-
cessful you are.”

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a career or even an athletic competition.
But those who eventually succeed, like
Marie, have the persistence to learn
from their mistakes and use them as
steps on the road to success.

Painful independence

Unfortunately, many women are so ter-
rified by the idea of depending on them-
selves that they never take that first
step. Instead, they seek out another
person to whom they assign the role of
providing security. Donna, an attrac-
tive fifty-two-year-old, illustrates just
how dangerously seductive dependency
can be. When her husband died seven
years ago, she felt like a little girl who
had been thrown into the adult world.
“While Jack was alive I would have de-
scribed myself as an ordinary house-
wife,” she said. “But after he died, I
discovered that I had become more like
his child than his mate. It was a shock
to realize that I hadn’t even driven the
car alone after dark for the twenty-
three years we were married.”

Donna was forced to grow up by cir-
cumstances, a long and painful process.
“The first time I got a bank statement
was traumatic. ’'d had my own check-
ing account before Jack and I were mar-
ried, but that felt like another lifetime.
I remember looking at the canceled checks,
with his signature and crying. I couldn’t
begin to simply compare them to our
bankbook.” Wisely, she asked a friend
to “hold her hand” while she confronted
that simple but dreaded task. “That's
the way I coped at that time. I made
myself do each thing I was afraid to
do—but I didn’t do them alone. I wasn’t
afraid to ask for help. Everyone asked if
there was anything they could do. My
answer was, ‘No, I don’t want you to do
thus and such, but I'd sure appreciate it
if you'd help me do it myself.’”

Donna’s method obviously worked
because today she feels more excited by
life than ever before. “I’m not the meek
soul who peered out at the world over

her husband’s shoulder. Although I};

miss Jack terribly, I found I didn’t need
him to survive. I know I can do any-
thing on my own, because if I can’t, I
have the resources to find out who can
help me.” As Donna so wisely indi-
cates, it’s healthy and desirable for us

to be interdependent with the people in fi

our lives. No one wants to have to do
everything alone. But those who feel
they desperately need another have an
attitude that is self-destructive.

How to meet the challenges

Since it’s clear that no specific set of
circumstances will guarantee the inner
security we (continued on page 146)

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yeaking about some kind of ‘‘fad”’ diet. This

totally different. There are no appetite sup-

‘essants . . .no chalky powders to mix. . . no
renuous exercise regimes to follow. None of
ese things. But here’s the best news. . .

“ALMOST TOO MUCH
FOOD”

During the entire diet you’ll experience no
tual hunger. None at all. We absolutely
larantee it. So you feel satisfied. Even at night.
it you are losing weight. Quickly.
} Let me give you an example:

An Atlanta man aged 34 began the Cooper
3t on April 1, 1982. By September, he’d lost
).6 Ibs. But, more importantly, he reported
solutely no hunger pangs. None whatsoever.
yiese results are verified by certified medical
}>ords on file.

»Another 26-year-old woman under Dr.
}oper’s care lost 42 Ibs. in just 4/2 months.
}ughingly, she complained, ‘‘There’s almost too
ich food on this diet. I’m having trouble eating
,jpall!’” Again, these results were clinically
mnitored and verified.

THE SECRET

| The secret of Dr. Cooper's diet is the special

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/}ories. Only portions. And these specific por-
}as (which are spelled out in the program)
iteate a special negative caloric process that

ttinues all day long . . .a complete 24 hour
jy burning cycle. Fat is burned away around
‘clock. Not just in unhealthy spurts and fits

é'}3e sure to weigh yourself each day. You'll
|} absolutely amazed at the results. One
oj) year-old Atlanta woman lost 3972 Ibs. in just
yveeks.

1 ill of the people we just mentioned were
'}} llowed to eat 3 complete meals a day — plus
all) additional snacks per day. A total of six
ajreals. In doctor's records of the entire pro-

e They ate only nourishing food. No powders
or artificial food substitutes. None. They were
allowed to choose from a wide variety of their
favorite foods available at any grocery store.

e They took no diet pills or stimulants.

e They had no strenuous exercise program to
follow.

¢ They maintained 100% of their energy and
stamina level throughout the entire diet and
their energy was totally natural.

¢ Best of all, they kept the weight off. And, that’s
the most important part of Dr. Cooper’s
program.

KEEPS YOU SLIM
FOR YEARS

How many times have you shed 10 or 20
pounds only to find yourself regaining every
pound within 6 months.

The reason most people regain weight is that
we are all creatures of habit. We all have an
“eating lifestyle.’’ Our habits usually include
three meals a day plus at least two or three
snacks. Most diets try to force us to change all
this. That’s why they fail.

With the Cooper program however, you con-
tinue your normal eating lifestyle. You eat 5 or
6 times a day. Yet you begin to lose weight.
Rapidly.

Consider these facts, too...

{4 The Program is easy to follow. It fits easily
into your busy schedule — even when you're
eating in restaurants or with friends.

4 The Program is healthy. It’s high in essen-
tial fiber and roughage, low in fat, very low
in simple sugars and has ample protein for
anyone.

{4 There is no ketosis. No foul breath odor.

{4 Best of all, you'll be encouraged to eat a wide
variety of foods up to six times per day. But
you must be sure to follow the prescribed
portions. It’s this caloric balance that makes
the diet work.

POST DATE YOUR CHECK
30 DAYS

To prove how effective the Cooper Common
Sense Diet is, we suggest you post date your
check 30 days in advance. That way it isn’t even
negotiable for a full month.

We'll send you the program immediately. Try
it. You'll begin slimming down quickly, comfort-
ably and without hunger pangs. If you're not
satisfied, simply return the program, and we'll
return your ORIGINAL UNCASHED check.
What’s more, we'll return it within three working
days. No excuses. No delays.

READ THESE DOCUMENTED ACCOUNTS
OF ACTUAL WEIGHT LOSS:

Paula K. is 45 years old. She began
‘the Cooper weight loss program in
the fall. Within two months she shed
40 pounds — no hunger not even

@ pang.

60 pounds

no energy loss

Susan S. is 29 years old. She
Gropped 30 pounds to only 128.2
and maintained her new weight —
even over the Christmas holidays.

¢ Ronnie B. is 25. He lost almost

from 227.2 Ibs. to
168.4 Ibs. Like the others he reported
absolutely no hunger and absolutely

¢ Patricia R. is a housewife in
her mid-40's. She lost 33 pounds
in § weeks. She ate so much during
the diet that her sister, who saw her
eating, began the diet three days
later.

William M. is a machinist in his

late 40's. Both hypertensive and
diabetic, he lost 22 pounds in only
6 weeks. With absolutely no hunger.

Carl R. is 52. He lost 44.8 pounds
in five months again, no hunger
or lack of energy.

Or keep the program for up to twelve months.
Try it for an entire year. Even then, if you’re not
satisfied we'll refund your purchase price in full.

This is the fairest way we know to PROVE to
you how well this new program really works.

ABOUT DR. COOPER

Dr. J. T. Cooper is a medical doctor and has
been in the private practice of medicine for the
last 19 years. He is active in post-graduate
research and teaching in the area of weight loss
and weight control. He has also authored a five
volume teaching and instructional program on
bariatrics that is used by physicians throughout
the United States and a number of countries
around the world.

AN IMPORTANT REMINDER .. .

As your weight begins to drop rapidly, do
not allow yourself to become too thin. This is
very important.

It's also very important to consult your
physician before commencing any weight loss
program. Show him this diet. And, be sure
to see him periodically if you intend to take
off large amounts of weight.

To order, use the coupon below. And remem-
ber to post date your check 30 days in advance.

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Pet News

Dog talk

You can learn to read your dog’s moods
and desires more effectively if you
know the basic vocabulary of canine
body language. According to the San
Francisco SPCA, a dog uses five parts
of his body to communicate: the tail,
ears, mouth and teeth, eyes and the fur
along his back (the hackles). The fol-
lowing messages make up every dog’s
body-language repertoire.

Play. When your dog jumps up and
barks excitedly, rolls over or lowers his
front end as you approach, all the while
wagging his tail and “grinning,” it’s a
sure sign he’s looking forward to a game
or playful tussle of some kind. Gently
reach out and pet him, and make sure
the play doesn’t get too rough.
Submission. When your pet lowers
himself to the ground or rolls over on
his back he is usually afraid or wants to
be forgiven for something he has done.
His tail just hangs or is tucked between
his legs, and his ears are flattened
against his head. His mouth may be
open or closed, and he avoids looking at
you. To reassure him, talk quietly and
reach out to pet him gently.
Aggression. This posture indicates your
pet’s dominance over those around him.
He may try to make himself look big
and frightening by standing up straight
with his tail out stiff and his ears high
and forward, and growl while showing
his teeth in a threatening snarl. With
his hackles raised, he may try to stare
directly into your eyes. When two ag-
gressive dogs meet, they will fight if
one does not begin to show the submis-
sive signs mentioned earlier. If a dog
showing signs of aggression comes near

How to know what your dog is trying to tell you,
proper pet diets, and more.

By Roberta Grant

you, stand still, look away and keep
your hands by your sides. Wait until
the dog walks away or calms down be-
fore you slowly begin to move again.
Fear. A frightened dog can become an
aggressive dog. If your pet crouches
slightly with his tail down or tucked
between his legs, if his ears are back
and he’s growling quietly, with slightly
raised hackles, it’s a safe bet he’s fright-
ened. As with an aggressive dog, stand
still, look away and keep your hands at
your sides. Many people have been bit-
ten by dogs showing signs of fear.
Interest. Often, dogs simply show in-
terest on meeting another animal (in-
cluding a human) for the first time.
While deciding whether to communi-
cate submission, aggression, play or
fear, your pet will stand straight, his
tail slightly wagging, ears up, mouth
closed or open in a slight grin. He'll
look at you but not directly into your
eyes. His fur will be smooth, the hackles
down. When a dog shows these signs,
walk slowly and gently give him the
back of your fist to smell. He will proba-
bly begin to show signs of play or sub-
mission. His ears will fall, his tail will
begin to wag. Gently pet him on top of
the head. If he growls, stand still and
wait. Remember, never run up to a
strange dog. He may become fright-
ened or aggressive.

Pet diets

All pets require protein, carbohydrates,
fats, vitamins and minerals in correct
proportions to lead healthy, active
lives. Now on the market are special-
purpose foods, which meet the needs of
different classes of dogs and cats, or

- SUBMISSION
MZ

pets with specific health problems.

Puppy and kitten foods are higher in
both protein and fat than general-pur-
pose foods. They meet the high-energy
nutritional requirements needed for
growth. Reducing diets restrict caloric
intake and should be given to pets who
weigh more than 10 percent above their
recommended body weight. Geriatric
diets are formulated for dogs seven
years or older, and generally restrict
protein intake to alleviate stress on the
kidneys, which process protein waste.
Older cats can continue on their nor-
mal food, but the quantities should be
reduced to match their reduced activi-
ty. Special diets can be very helpful in
prolonging your pet’s health and life
but remember to consult your veteri
narian before changing your pet's nu
tritional pattern.

Newsbriefs

Cures that can kill. You may be tempt

ed to calm a feverish or injured pet bygm
administering a tablet of aspirin or the
aspirin substitute acetaminophen. Take
note, however: The results can be lethal
warns Dr. Richard Cullison, a former
veterinarian/toxicologist at the Univer.
sity of Illinois College of Veterina
Medicine. It’s easy to overdose a house
hold pet, says Dr. Cullison, because o
the size difference between people and™
animals. In addition, animals metabo#
lize drugs differently from humans®
This is particularly true of cats, whos¢
systems are so sensitive to acetamin
ophen (marketed under such brandy
names as Tylenol and Datril) that 4%
single tablet can kill. Never administey
a home remedy to your pet withougl
calling your veterinarian first. .
Help for the homeless. The second anf}
nual “Share Your Love for Dogs” fund
raising drive, sponsored by Gainesgt
continues through October 31. Whe
pet owners redeem newspaper coupon
for Gaines products, Gaines will mate
the coupon value and donate that amo
to the American Humane Association
for a maximum contribution of $100,00G®
The money will enable the AHA to i
crease pet-adoption programs, impro
care of displaced pets and protect t
interests of homeless animals.

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L. ROSE
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the clothes, the more
streamlined the underwear.
One-piece, no-frills teddies,
bra-slips or no-line panties are
a good choice. Lacy underwear
with all the frou-frou should
be worn under looser clothes
or to add a feminine touch
under menswear trousers.

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skirts. Choose
several to match
hemlines. Look for

String bikini.
Barely-there
panty to show off
sleek, toned hips
and thighs. This
bikini panty
works best under
loose sports

gear or skirts
and dresses.

High-cut brief.
The most
flattering panty:
The wrap leg is
cut high to give
you a sexy, leggy
look—but the
panty line is
invisible when
you're dressed.

V-front bikini.
The wide stretch
lace band and
deep V-cut make
these a best bet
for anyone with a
tummy. Another
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Control brief. A
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tummy, V-cut
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Practical but
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Wrap bikini.
The panty with a
design innovation
that cuts out
binding and
bulges—the wrap
eliminates panty
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shirts and pants.

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brief. This is the
basic panty you
wore in grade
school. Now

look for the new
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extra-wide stretch
lace bands that
smooth bulges,
camouflage
tummies. This
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Bloomer brief.
This loose-fitting
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the stores now.
The ultimate in
comfort, these
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under sports or
loose-fit gear.

Tap pants. Lacy,

flirty panties
with flared legs
are pure fun.
Can be worn
under skirts or
loose trousers.
The bonus: This
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bikinis if you
have hips to
hide. Look for
stretch lace

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silhouette,
minimize bumps
and ridges.

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A takeoff on
men’s boxer
shorts, these
panties are loose-
legged and slit
up the sides.
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Some of these products are sampler or promotional sizes and are so
labeled. Prices are specified by the manufacturers. Please allow 8 weeks
for delivery. Supplies may be limited and your money will be returned for
products ordered, should supplies be exhausted. Requests cannot be
processed after January 31, 1985.

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Bob Weber

The Typical WHAT
American Woman ABOUT
YOU?

Age: All females, median
age is 32
Females over 18, median
age is 46

The maturing of the baby boomers has has
raised the median age by three years in the
last decade. And remember, the American
woman now has a life expectancy of 78
years, compared with 48 in 1900!
Marital status:
Married (54%). Never
been divorced (82%) Sambar

Of marriages contracted during the
1970s, however, 50% are expected to end
in divorce. On a more positive note, the
number of divorces declined in 1982, for
the first time since 1962.

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In spite of all the talk about women
postponing marriage in order to pursue
careers, most women still marry in their
early twenties. Even so, the median was
younger—21—only a decade ago.

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Age at birth of first

child: 22 ees
Again, the number of women waiting to

have a child until their late twenties or early

thirties or beyond is relatively small.

However, the number of older first-time

mothers has risen 169% in the last decade.

Number of children: 2 ee
In 1957, at the peak of the baby boom,

the number was 4.

Height: 5'3” ee ee
The ideal weight for a woman of 5’ 3" is

128 lbs.

Weight: 131 lbs. cease bio
131 lbs. is the ideal weight for a woman

of 5' 4".

Residence: Single-

family detached home eS
Not everyone is a homeowner, of course,

but it is encouraging that most people

(66%) have realized the American Dream.

Back in 1940, the figure was a mere 44%,

and in 1950 it was still only up to 55%.

ABOUT ONCE A MONTH SHE: YOU
@ Goes to church

@ Visits her friends

@ Visits her neighbors

EVERY DAY SHE:
@ Reads the newspaper

@ Watches three hours of television
@ Listens to three and a half hours of radio

Have you ever wondered how your lifestyle
and attitudes compare with those of other
women? Here's your opportunity to find
out. We asked Daphne Spain, Ph.D., co-
author of the 1980 Census Bureau
Monograph on Women and Director of the
Women’s Studies Program at the University
of Virginia, to compile data from the 1980
census, the 1982 General Social Survey
conducted by the National Opinion
__ neem Research Center at the University of
_ Chicago, and tables from the Metropolitan
‘yj Life Insurance Co. The result is a profile
of the typical American woman. To find
#4.) Out how close you are to this norm, jot
y {is ahs: ms down your own responses. Then turn to
. a | page 104 for a unique chance to make
%.. “S\\. your opinions known in future issues
“—. of Ladies’ Home Journal by
becoming part of our Reader
Feedback File.

MORE THAN ONCE A MONTH SHE: YOU
@ Visits her parents

@ Visits a brother or

sister

@ Visits other relatives

Community: About

20,000 people Lah ree
In 1950, 36% of this country was rural.

Now, almost 75% of the population lives

in metropolitan areas.

Education: High school

diploma ————
But women enrolled in college now

outnumber men.

Employment: Of all women, 53% are

employed; ofthose, about half work

full-time. Of the 47% not employed,

10% are students or retired,

37% are homemakers. Se
Of wives with children 6-17, 62% are

employed compared with 28% in 1950;

for wives with children under 6, the percen-

tage is 45 today, up from 12% in 1950.

Occupation: Clerical (34%) —___
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male-dominated professional and tech-

nical jobs is still small: 8%.

Personal earnings:

$13,014 is the median for

women.employed full-time
The average man employed full-time

has personal earnings of $21,077.

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Percentages show
how many women put
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“most important” lists:
@ Her family: 92%
@ Her relatives: 54%
@ Her religion: 51%
®@ Her friends: 41%
© Her career: 39%
@ Her leisure: 34%
@ Politics: 9%

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nost satisfying” lists:
Her family life: 89%

THE ABORTION
ISSUE

The Typical
American Woman YOU

WHAT
ABOUT
YOU?

She thinks a woman
should be able to obtain
a legal abortion if:

@ her health is endangered
by the pregnancy: 91%

@ the pregnancy is the
result of rape: 86%

@ there is a strong
chance of a serious
defect in the baby: 84%
®@ she cannot afford more
children: 52%

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“<a woman should be
able to obtain a
legal abortion if:

@ she’s married and
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@ Her friendships: 85%
@ Her health and
fitness: 77%

@ Her hobbies: 69%

@ The place she lives: 64%

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The Typical

American Woman YOU

@ She does not believe
women should run their
homes and let men run
the country: 74%

@ She approves of
married women
earning money even if
their husbands can
support them: 76%

@ She would vote for a
qualified woman for
President: 86%

@ She does not think
men are better suited
to politics than women
are: 639%

@ She favors the Equal
Rights Amendment: 74%

WHAT MATTERS ON THE JOB

The Typical
American Woman

Percentages show how
many women put each
item on their “most
important” lists:

@ Safe, healthful
working conditions: 74%
@ Job security: 64%

@ Interesting work: 64%
@ Helps others: 56%

@ Chance for
advancement: 48%

@ High income: 37%

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@ She thinks birth-control @ She thinks premarital

information should be sex isn’t always wrong: 687%

available to anyone: 92%
@ She favors sex
education in schools: 85%
@ She favors requiring a
police permit for agun: 77%
@ She thinks extramarital

@ She thinks a terminally
ill patient should be allowed
to die if he wishes: 61%

® She thinks divorce
should be more difficult
to obtain: 56%

S& GOVERNMENT SPENDING

® combating crime: 77%

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environment: 54%
@ solving urban
problems: 51%

is spending too much money
on the following:

@ foreignaid: 76% —___

@ the space She is divided on the
program: 50% question of defense
@ welfare: 48% spending:

@ Too much: 32%
@ About right: 39%
@ Too little: 29%

She thinks the government
is spending too little money
on the following:

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FAITH IN THE

FOLKS IN CHARGE
The Typical
American Woman YOU

The following percentages show
what proportion of women have

“a great deal of confidence” in each
institution:

@ medicine: 45%

@ science: 37%

@ religion: 35%

@ education: 34%

@ the Supreme Court: 31%
@ the.military: 31%

@ banks: 27% See
@ majorcorporations: - eS.
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Glaucoma update:
new treatments

Glaucoma is one of the most common
diseases of the eye, affecting approx-
imately 2 percent of the population
over age forty. The disease is charac-
terized by increased fluid pressure in
the eye. Left untreated, the pressure
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Using a laser beam, doctors can ei-
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The new or enlarged channel will allow
more fluid to drain from the eye, reduc-
ing the pressure.

Most recently, researchers have been
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Ophthalmologists at New York Hospi-
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success rate of over 80 percent in treat-
ing patients who did not respond to
other treatment. Dr. D. Jackson Cole-
man and his colleagues use ultrasound
to melt a small spot of tissue in the eye,
creating a new drainage channel. Dr.
Coleman finds the results so encourag-
ing that he’s begun to use ultrasound
on more routine cases of the disease.

106

To snack, or
not to snack

Many people believe that a high-sugar
snack, such as a candy bar, eaten before
exercise or sports will provide an ath-
lete with extra energy. But according to
an article in Physician and Sports-
medicine, the snack doesn’t help, and
may even hurt.

Researchers tested the theory by hav-
ing long-distance runners ride an exer-
cise bicycle to the point of exhaustion—
once after consuming a high-sugar
snack, and once after consuming a
snack of the same volume without sug-
ar. The result: The athletes exercised
25 percent longer without the sugar.

Brain transplants?
Tune in and see

Though brain transplants may sound
like the stuff of science fiction movies,
doctors at Stockholm’s Karolinska In-
stitute have been experimenting with
transplanting small bits of adrenal
gland tissue (the adrenal gland is lo-
cated near the kidney) into the brain as
a treatment for Parkinson’s disease.

Parkinson's disease is a degenerative
disorder characterized by involuntary
tremors and muscular rigidity. Its pri-
mary victims are older men. Parkin-
son’s disease indicates that the brain is
unable to produce sufficient amounts of
the chemical dopamine. The usual
treatment for Parkinson’s is the medi-
cation L-dopa, which converts to
dopamine in the brain.

Since the adrenal gland also secretes
dopamine, researchers hope that trans-
planting adrenal tissue into the brain
will reduce the need for medication. So
far, the researchers report a slight im-
provement in the patients who have un-
dergone the surgery.

Brain grafts such as these are in the
forefront of brain research, and there’s
a great deal of other exciting work
being done. For a fascinating explana-
tion of some of the brain’s mysteries,

By Beth Weinhouse

and a discussion of current resear
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It was a beautiful spring day five
and a half years ago, and Jean
Richwein spent most of the morn-
ing playing with the puppy instead
of doing housework. Her four daugh-
ters, aged eight to fourteen, loved
animals, and the Richweins’ house
in a suburb of Baltimore was home
to a large menagerie.

Karyn, the eldest, said she want-
ed to be a veterinarian and con-
tinually dragged home wounded
animals. Jean, thirty-seven, a reg-
istered nurse, tended their wounds
before trying to find them homes.

Thinking about Karyn, Jean won-
dered why lately everything was
becoming such a battle with her.
Just that morning, Karyn had ar-
gued endlessly because she wanted
to wear a Black Sabbath rock band
T-shirt to school. Muttering darkly,
she’d finally left wearing the oxford
cloth shirt Jean had laid out.

The telephone ring disturbed
Jean’s thoughts, and she almost
tripped over the puppy on her way

112

his is the story of a family that came apart
with much pain, and came together with
much love. It is a story you won’t forget.

to answer it. Her pensive mood
quickly turned to disbelief, then
shock, as she listened to her caller.
It was a woman from the vice-prin-
cipal’s office at Karyn’s high school.

“Mrs. Richwein, we believe your
daughter has ingested a dangerous
substance. Please come to the high
school as soon as possible.”

The words burned in Jean’s ear,
and her legs buckled into a kitchen
chair. Trembling, she misdialed her
husband's office twice before she
got through. But Roy, thirty-nine,
an engineer, wasn’t in. She fumbled
for the car keys and raced to Mount
Hebron High School in Ellicott
City, Maryland, a small, historic
town. She prayed aloud the entire
way in a quavering voice. “Please,
God. Please make it a mistake. Not
Karyn. Not my Karyn.”

Karyn was in the gym teacher's
office, stumped in a chair. She was
conscious, but her eyes were un-
focused and she could barely stand.
Jean, from her experience as a

UeyWoeW (assaf

nurse, recognized the symptoms
a drug overdose.

The vice-principal explained th
Karyn had left the school groun@i
with her friend Sally. When she
turned, it was obvious that she h@
taken something.

“Why did you do this, K
Jean asked more loudly than s]j-
had intended. “Why?” It was o
much later that Jean realized w
Karyn’s clothes looked so odd: Je
could see Karyn’s Black Sabbath
shirt showing underneath her bufi
ton-down shirt.

Once home, Jean learned froje
Sally mother that the girls hj’
discovered a bottle of Demerol,
potent painkiller, in the medicif
cabinet in Sally’s home. Karyn hf)
taken four hundred milligrams,
potentially fatal dosage for a you:
girl. Jean immediately phoned tf’
doctor and described Karyn’s s
toms. The pediatrician was reasstf’
ing: “Drug reactions vary from if)
dividual to individual. It appezhi

that it would take a much larger
dose to slow your daughter's racing
motor, Mrs. Richwein.” Watching
Karyn playing with the puppy, Jean
had to agree that the effects were
wearing off.

“Mommy, do you have to tell Dad-
dy?” Karyn asked, frightened. “He'll
be angry and won’t speak to me.”

Jean dreaded telling Roy about
the overdose. He did not come home
until late that night, after Karyn
and the other girls had gone to
sleep. As he was undressing for bed
and discussing his day, Jean inter-
rupted him with the terrible news.
He continued to undress in silence
after his wife finished.

“Well, aren’t you going to say
anything?”

“Tm tired,” Roy said curtly. “I’ve
had a tough day. I’m going to bed.”

“Your daughter almost died of an
overdose and you have nothing to
say to her?” she demanded. “What's
your responsibility in all of this?”

Roy felt powerless and hated that
feeling more than anything else in
the world. It was important for him
to always be in control—of his
work, his emotions, his family.

Jean woke Karyn up and brought
her into the room, and Roy recog-
nized in her young face the fear
with which he had always faced his
own father. He wanted to say so
many things to her: “Please don’t
hate me. I do love you. Please,
please don’t ever do it again.” But
all he could do was embrace his

siweeping daughter. For the first
time, Jean saw tears running down
hpoer husband’s cheeks. She left them
nj alone and went out on the deck adja-
cent to the bedroom. She knew that
though there were problems in their
marriage, she would never love Roy
as much as she did at this moment.
The day after the overdose, Jean
mand Karyn, who had been suspend-
2d from school for the rest of the
ljweek, painted the outside of the
hfaouse. It gave them a chance to
jyalk, and Jean prided herself on
what she thought was an open, hon-
f@2st relationship with her daughter.

“Have you ever smoked mari-

jpuana?” asked Jean.

i “No,” replied Karyn too quickly.

i) Well, yeah, but only once. Mom,
t's not so bad, is it? Everybody says
tisn’t any worse than alcohol.”

“Honey, people will always find

‘easons to do what they want to
lo,” Jean answered. “It doesn’t
inake it right. Marijuana, alcohol,
ul drugs are bad. Please promise

me that you'll never do it again.”

Karyn promised.

“My promise lasted for five days,
then I started smoking again. I was
twelve when I took my first puff of
pot. By the time I got to Mount He-
bron, I did drugs almost every day
—mostly pot and alcohol. I was ter-
rified of going to high school. I
thought nobody would like me.
Then I discovered if you did drugs,
you were cool. On the morning I
overdosed at school, first I took the
pills at Sallys house, and when
nothing happened, I took a couple
more. Then later, we drank some
Jack Daniel's. We made it back to
school, but the next thing I knew I
was on the floor and it felt like I was
going to die.”

Even though Karyn had prom-
ised not to take drugs again, the
Richweins took her to a drug coun-
selor recommended by the high
school. The counselor was reassur-
ing. “Mr. and Mrs. Richwein, your
daughter doesn’t have a drug prob-
lem,” she said. “She’s just experi-
encing the normal adolescent emo-
tional difficulties.”

Karyn was restricted for the
summer because of the overdose.
She couldn’t go out unless either
Jean or Roy was with her. Jean
watched her like a hawk, surprised
that she took it so well. Even
though there were ripples in the
seeming calm—Karyn and her
mother argued incessantly over
clothes and makeup—the Rich-
weins felt good about the resolution
of the crisis. Each night when Ka-
ryn kissed her parents good night,
Jean whispered a prayer of thanks.

On one such summer night, Jean
awakened to hear a knocking at the
door. She looked out the window to
see a police car parked in front of
the house. It was four A.M. She felt
her stomach tighten as she and Roy
scrambled downstairs.

“Mr. and Mrs. Richwein,” said the
officer, “we have your daughter Ka-
ryn down at the station. She and a
boy were picked up joyriding in a
stolen vehicle. Would one of you
come with us?”

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taken,” protested Roy. “Our daugh-
ter is asleep in her bedroom
downstairs.”

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sponse many times from other par-
ents, insisted he was correct. Still in-
credulous, Roy and Jean led him to
Karyn’s room at the far end of the
house. The (continued on page 168)

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easy-on-the-cook convenience, and all need just
a salad and bread to complete the menus for
sixteen to twenty-five. Our tasty collection stars
family-favorite foods dressed up for guests.
We’ve layered smoked turkey and cheese into
an exotic lasagna; added walnuts, zucchini,
apples and sour cream to a chicken-and-rice
bake. Opposite, clockwise from top: Casserole
de Mer—a shrimp and scallop extravaganza
in a creamy broth served with rice; Shepherd’
Pie—the lamb and mashed potato classic
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If you’re just at the
point of cutting
your hair this fall,
think short: ear-
baring, neck-
exposing, with a
fresh, updated
sexiness. To
understand the
\new short story,
we talked to five
pading New York
. ~hairstylists—
= Avram, Creative
» Director of the
» New York Vidal
La Sassoon Salon;
» “Anthony DeMay
F for Glemby;
Bruno Dessange,
of The Bruno
Dessange Salon;
Howard Fugler;
and John Sahag.
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short of it is

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versatility and
flexibility. Perhaps
you opt fora
tousle of waves or
something

sleek or even
spiky. With
multilayering—
short in back,
longer at the
crown—hair can
be pushed
forward or parted,
fall into bangs or
curvy curls. The
same multilayered
technique was the
start of the styles
shown. A variety
of finishing
details created
the dramatic
differences. So
end your fear of
shears and really
cut loose!

and vice-versa. This modern form of set-
ting lotion helps blow-drying take hold,
gives just-shampooed hair where-you-
want-it control, and can also act as a
styling pickup for dampened hair.

@ New perms let you add body only
where you need it. Just on top, for exam-
ple, to add height; or underneath, just at
the roots, to add volume.

@ Let your fingers do the styling. They
are the best tool—combined with set-
ting gels and mousses—for the new short
cuts. Your fingers can sculpt and direct
hair, or scrunch it into a textured look.

116

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Short cutupkeep [2
@ Mousses were made for short cuts— 3

Cutting cues: How
short should you go?

@ All of our experts agree that a con-
sultation with the hairstylist is a crucial
first step for any hair change. But first
they recommend you do some homework.
@ Collect and clip pictures of several cuts
you like. Include even those that might be
too long or short for your hair: If they
have an element you think will look good
on you, they can help indicate to the styl-
ist what you do and do not like. But leave
the door open for discussion. The looks
you love on a model may not be right for
you, or you may look better than you
thought in a different style. And only
your hairdresser knows for sure.

@ If you. have very long hair and you
want to test out a short cut, try this tip
from Anthony DeMay. After you've
washed your hair, slick it all back: You'll
find that the new short cuts really do take
it all off and reveal your features—some-
times in surprisingly flattering ways.
Look for your best assets to play up.

@ If you have long hair, Howard Fugler
suggests you try pulling it up and softly
away from your neck, letting it fall for-
ward gently to give the illusion of short
hair. Study how your profile, jawline and
neck look uncovered. You just might dis-
cover a whole new you!

@ If you're going from very long to very
short, you may find it easier to do it in
stages. That way you can see how your
hair looks and feels at different lengths.

By Lois Joy
Johnson

Beauty and
| Fashion Editor

|| A double play of
style and cut, the
bi-layered look,
opposite and inset,
has maximum
movement, thanks
to a two-level
cutting technique.
| The face-framing
top layer was cut
to all one length.
)it's highlighted by
)a strong sweep of
tenes that directs
lair onto face. The
' supple, shorter back
)air is undercut at
‘he nape for
extural interest.

=ront and center
styling, cut into
|i ruffly crown,
iccents the short-
short cut, right.
‘he boyish,
varely there back is
ust a hint of hair,
ivhile longer, flirty
ivisps at sides
)aper toward face.
‘he overall look is
lean-lined and
nodern. The no-
uss cut, like all
10se shown, is
fash-mousse-and-
ry easy to keep.
air by Bruno of The Bruno
2ssange Salon, NYC.

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above last year’s looks—shorter than
you've ever dared. Here, how to make
these trimmest of trims Tia ils you.

Five myths
about short hair

@ Only people with perfect features
can wear short hair. “Untrue!” say
our cutting pros. The new cuts can be
adapted for everybody. The important
thing, according to Avram, is “suit-
ability to your face and lifestyle.”

@ Long hair is sexier. Not necessarily.
To a man, our five stylists rate the new
looks as “sexy, glamorous, provoca-
tive.” Howard Fugler says, “They’re a
cross between a boy’s barbershop hair-
cut and how Audrey Hepburn would
wear her hair: a very sexy look.”

@ Too-curly or too-fine hair doesn't
look good short. “I think every hair
texture can be worn short,” states
Anthony DeMay. “Curly works welland
even the finest hair can look great.”
@ Short hair is only for the young.
John Sahag disagrees. “Often, as
women get older, short hair looks bet-
ter... . It reflects a more modern out-
look, a certain sexuality, spontaneity.”
@ Short hair is less versatile than
long hair. Not anymore. As Bruno
Dessange points out, “With these
new styles you can slick hair back or
sweep it forward and still look great.”

More short cuts
to beauty
that combine
all-out sexy,
sophisticated

styling with
‘wash-and-
wear ease.

Updated bob,
shown opposite,
is this year’s
version of the
asymmetrical,
architectural look,
with a wonderful
softness and free-
form allure. It’s

a style that
manages to
combine the best
aspects of long
and short hair.
One side is kept
short for a playful,
2ar-exposing
orofile. The other
side plunges to a
ong, deep curve
‘hat waves onto
‘he face, sweeping
dast one eye. The
yack is very short.

Lush layers that
release hair’s
own natural body
create this
variation on the
classic blunt cut.
Crown hair is
nini-layered into a
sap of rich, swingy
moothness. Ends
of hair were blunt-
cut so that they
could be directed
toward the face to
highlight eyes,
lips and jawline.
For quick-change
ersatility, top hair
can be worn two
ways—in layered
bangs or, with a
little help from
styling mousse,
smoothed behind
ears and softly
redirected for
wavy movement
and texture, as
illustrated in the
inset at right.

The psychology of a haircut

Who hasn’t had her hair cut and then burst into tears?

Parting with treasured tresses can be traumatic enough

to trigger what psychologists call the grieving process.

Especially since a new hairstyle is something that people

feel free to comment about—whether you like it or not
Los Angeles psychotherapist Dianne Barrett calls
the emotional aftermath of a haircut the “Rapunzel syn-
drome.” Women, she says, “go through the same process
of shock, disbelief, bargaining, denial, anger and final
acceptance they would if they faced any significant loss
or change.” How to cope? Suspend judgment to give
yourself time to adjust to your new look. And realize,
that once you stop fighting against it, a good haircut can
actually be an upper. Unlike a diet, a haircut can give

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tion, sixty-four years after the ratification
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significance of this nomination. The
vice-presidency is no longer, as it once
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) highest offices in the land. There will be
) no turning back. A permanent change
) has been wrought in American politics.
| How has this revolution come about?
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the population balance. In the year
1946, a curious phenomenon was re-
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loving,” but
sexy Linda
Evans, one of
today’s most
admired
actr esses, is
still looking
for the right
man to love.

Forever
Linda

| By Phyllis Battelle

Mario Casilli

n a brilliantly sunny
afternoon in Los An-
geles, Linda Evans
has chosen to meet in
the citys dimmest
udeaway—a cocktail lounge of
he Beverly Wilshire Hotel.
iven in the semidarkness, with
ver face in shadows and-her
tay-blond hair tucked under a
yide-brimmed hat. the star of
Vs Dynasty is recognizable.
At a nearby table, a man
yerhears her husky laugh and
pproaches. “Do forgive me,
fiss Evans.” he says tenta-
wely. “My name is Elliott Roos-
velt, and my wife and I just
ranted to say how much we ad-
tire you.” Talk about dynas-
es: Even the son of FDR—a
rominent “Whos Who” him-
2lf—cannot resist the urge to
2ach out to this woman who is
3th elegant and ebullient, a dis-
rming blend of Princess Grace
ad Doris Day. After a few nice-
es, the Roosevelts depart,
eaming. And Linda murmurs
jaintly, “Goodness sakes.”
What is it about Linda Evans
at draws not only men, but

women of all ages? Even in the
dim lighting her blue eyes seem
to glow, but theresS more than
surface beauty. An easy answer
would be that in her role as
Krystle Carrington, shes made
this youth-infatuated nation
suddenly aware of mature sen-
suality. Linda will be forty-one
on November 18.

“I am middle-aged, and I like
middle age,” she says, all but
caressing the words most wom-
en assiduously avoid. “And one
day I’m going to be seriously
old, and that will be terrific, too,
because Ill be wiser—not old
old, but alive old.”

That philosophy alone could
account for the over-forty vote,
but how to explain her appeal to
the young, who flood her with
fan mail?

Meeting her in person pro-
vides answers. There is an in-
candescence, an inner beauty,
about Linda that comes of gen-
uinely caring about others.

She credits God for her suc-
cess and nonstop optimism—“I
had a talk with Him while I was
driving over here”—and thinks

Linda’s
new
perfume—
“Forever
Krystle”

her greatest strength is “being
loving. To me, the highest expe-
rience a human can have is to
love. Nothing is more beauti-
ful.” But she does have flaws,
Linda says. “Oh, tons and tons
of those. Want me to name
them?” Her worst weakness,
she says, is impatience. “I’m tre-
mendously impatient. It started
when my dad was dying of can-
cer, at home. It was very difficult
for me to watch him. I wanted
him to die so he wouldn’t suffer
anymore.” That was more than
a quarter of a century ago, “and
I'm still impatient with suffer-
ing and illness. I want to fix
it so everybody will get well
right away.” continued)

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She continues, “And I have an
impatience with myself. Once I
see what it is that I need to
change in myself, or what it is
that I need to understand, I
want to do it or know it in-
stantly. I want to be an instant
flower, even though I know that
a flower can’t grow without form-
ing roots and putting out a stem.
But I’m working to control the
impatience in my character.”

Learning patience cannot be
easy for her now. After her two
failed marriages and the dis-
solution of a three-year ro-
mance to a California restau-
rateur a little over a year ago,
she is—for almost the first time
in her adult life—alone. Far
from being leery of another
commitment, Linda is eager for
it. “?m not concerned that I’ve
been married twice and it was
not forever. There is nothing
that could make ime not want to
love. As a matter of fact, I know
that Iam much more capable of
loving and giving and sharing
now, because I’ve learned to love
myself, which is vital if you’re
going to love someone else.”

134

That was a difficult concept
for Linda to accept. “Everybody
talks about the importance of
self-esteem,” she says, “and I
never particularly had it.”

The message she received
clearly as a child was, “Do what
people say and they will love
you.” “So,” she continues, “I
chose, most of my life, until
about two years ago, to please
others at all costs—and I dis-
covered only recently that you
don’t need to give up what you
need to be loved. I never thought
that was possible. It’s wonderful
to please other people as long as
you re not violating yourself.”

Linda describes a recent ven-
ture to overcome a long-held re-
pression. “I love music, and my
parents and two sisters and I
used to gather around the piano
and sing. One day my sister
asked, ‘Who’ off-key?’ I was just
horrified, and I made a commit-
ment to myself: Okay, I thought.
No one will ever hear this voice
again. And after that, everyone
would sing except me.” Five
years ago, she forced herself to
find a voice teacher. “I was de-

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out of joy.”

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juice, it is clear she has pr
gressed from repressed to irr
pressible. But happy as s
seems, there are still yearning
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Dynamic
Diahann

By Patrick Pacheco

| Linda’s favorite things ! :

wet
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fighter. She’s had to
be. At one time or an-
other, she’s taken on
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producers, even family and
friends—to fulfill what she calls
her “inner needs.” And like
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A harvest of
favorite fall recipes
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By Mary D. Higgins

squash by any name—acorn, butternut, zucchini—
means delicious eating whether you bake, boil, saute or
stuff it. Pictured above, from the top, Creole Squash—a
hearty mix, with a nod to New Orleans, of crisp bacon,
sauteed onions, tomatoes, okra and summer squash
zipped up with red pepper sauce; Italian Spaghetti Squash—amaz-
ingly like pasta,with green peas and ham in a creamy toss; Squash
Custard Ring—butternut at its best . . . smooth, satisfying, filled
with Brussels sprouts. Recipes for these and more on page 138.

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SUPERB SQUASH
continued from pages 136—137

SQUASH CUSTARD RING
pictured on page 137

For a festive presentation, fill center
with steamed Brussels sprouts, broccoli
florets or green peas.

2 pounds butternut squash, peeled
and seeded
Butter or margarine
5 eggs, slightly beaten
1 cup heavy or whipping cream
1 teaspoon salt
¥_ teaspoon ground nutmeg

Preheat oven to 350°F. Butter a 2-quart
baking dish. Cut squash into 12-inch
chunks and place in prepared dish.
Cover and bake until tender, 1 to 1%
hours. Remove from oven; place in col-
ander to drain and cool.

Meanwhile, butter a 6- or 7-cup ring
mold. Reduce oven temperature to 325°F.

In food processor or blender, puree
squash. In large bowl combine puree
with remaining ingredients; stir until
well combined. Pour into prepared mold.

Place roasting pan in oven. Put filled
mold in pan, then pour 1 inch hot water
into pan. Bake 1 hour. Remove from
oven. Let stand 10 minutes. Invert onto
serving plate. Makes 8 servings, about
200 calories each.

CREOLE SQUASH

pictured on page 137

Creole’s in vogue now, but this is really
just plain good eating.
4 slices bacon
1 cup chopped onions
1 can (14% oz.) stewed tomatoes
Y2 teaspoon bottled red pepper sauce
Y2 teaspoon salt, divided
1 package (10 oz.) frozen cut okra,
thawed
1 pound yellow summer squash, cut
into 1-inch chunks

In large skillet cook bacon until crisp.
Remove with slotted spoon; set aside.
Add onions to drippings in skillet;
saute until tender. Add tomatoes and
liquid, red pepper sauce and ¥% tea-
spoon salt. Simmer 15 minutes.

Crumble bacon and add to tomatoes
with okra, squash and remaining salt.
Cover and cook 20 to 30 minutes more
or until squash is tender. Makes 8 serv-
ings, about 75 calories each.

ITALIAN SQUASH ALFREDO

pictured on page 137

We've got the cream, the Parmesan, the
peas. Where's the pasta? Not here—it’s
low-cal spaghetti squash instead.

1 spaghetti squash (about 3 Ibs.)
138

1 tablespoon butter or margarine
Yq pound ham, cut into thin strips

1 cup frozen peas, thawed

Freshly ground pepper to taste

1 cup heavy or whipping cream
Ya cup grated Parmesan cheese, divided
Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease a 13x9-
inch baking pan. Cut squash in half
and scoop out seeds. Bake cut side down
45 minutes or until tender. Scrape squash
out of shell and drain in colander.

In large skillet melt butter or mar-
garine. Add ham and saute 1 minute.
Add peas and cook 1 minute more. Add
pepper and cream; cook, stirring, 2 to 3
minutes or until cream thickens. Add
hot cooked spaghetti squash; toss to
blend. Sprinkle on 3 tablespoons Par-
mesan cheese and toss again. Spoon
into serving dish and sprinkle with re-
maining cheese. Makes 8 servings,
about 200 calories each.

CURRIED SQUASH AND
APPLE SOUP

A divine soup to welcome that first
chilly day of fall.

2 tablespoons butter or margarine
1 cup chopped onions
1 tablespoon curry powder
3 cups chicken broth
6 cups diced butternut squash
(about 3 Ibs.)
3 cups peeled and diced cooking
apples (about 14 Ibs.)
1 cup heavy or whipping cream
1 cup milk
14% teaspoons salt
Sour cream, for garnish
Chopped unpeeled apple,
for garnish

In large saucepot melt butter or mar-
garine. Add onions and saute 5 min-
utes. Sprinkle curry powder over on-
ions and cook, stirring constantly, 1
minute. Add broth, squash and apples.
Bring to a boil. Reduce heat; cover and
simmer 45 minutes or until squash is
very soft. Remove from heat, uncover
and set aside to cool. In food processor
or blender, puree in small batches until
smooth. Return puree to saucepot. Stir
in cream, milk and salt; reheat.

If desired, garnish each serving with a
dollop of sour cream and a sprinkling of
chopped apple. Makes 8 cups, 260 calo-
ries per serving without garnish.

MISS HULLINGS'S DIVINE
SQUASH AND APPLES

Food editor Sue Huffman brought this
recipe with her from St. Louis's favorite
cafeteria and refuses to have Thanks-
giving dinner without it.

3 pounds butternut squash, halved
and seeded

Ye cup butter or margarine, divided

Y2 teaspoon salt

V4 cup plus 1 tablespoon brown sugar,
divided

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Pinch white pepper
2 cups cornflakes, lightly crushed
Y2 cup chopped pecans
14% pounds Jonathan or other
cooking apples, sliced
3 tablespoons granulated sugar

Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease a 13x9
inch baking dish. Place squash, cut sidé¢
down, in baking dish. Cover and bake
until tender, 1 to 1% hours. Mas
squash; add % cup butter or margarine
salt, 1 tablespoon brown sugar an¢
white pepper.

Meanwhile, grease a 2-quart cas
serole; set aside. In a large skillet me
2 tablespoons butter; add cornflakes
pecans and remaining % cup brov
sugar. Toss until coated. Pour int
small bow] and set aside; wipe out ski
let. In same skillet melt remaining
tablespoons butter. Add apples an
sprinkle with granulated sugar; saut
until soft, stirring occasionally. In pre}
pared casserole, layer half the apples
then half the squash. Repeat layeri
with remaining apples and squash. To}
with cornflake mixture. Bake 12 to
minutes or until heated through. Make}
8 servings, about 330 calories each.

SAUSAGE-STUFFED
ACORN SQUASH

Substitute an equal amount of cooke
rice if you can’t find orzo.

3 medium acorn squash
1 pound sweet Italian sausage,
removed from casings
cup chopped onions
garlic clove, minced
1¥2 cups cooked orzo (rice-shaped
pasta)
Ya cup grated Parmesan cheese
Yq cup chopped parsley
1 egg, beaten
Y2 teaspoon basil
Ya teaspoon salt

Y4 teaspoon pepper

Preheat oven to 350°F. Halve squa;
and scoop out seeds. Butter a bakil
pan large enough to hold squash halv
in a single layer. Bake cut side down
minutes or until fork-tender.
Meanwhile, in large skillet cook sa
sage 5 minutes, breaking into sm
chunks. Drain off excess fat. Add onio
and garlic and cook until onions a
translucent. Remove from heat. Stir
remaining ingredients. Set aside.
Turn squash cut side up. Fill ea
half with about % cup stuffing. Co
loosely with foil. Bake 20 minutes;
cover and bake 15 minutes more. Mak
6 servings, about 575 calories each.

MEXICAN STUFFED SQUASH

A tantalizing side dish to lend a sou
of-the-border air to your menu.
4 large zucchini squash

1 tablespoon salad oil (continu

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continued

Y% cup chopped onion
1 garlic clove, crushed
1 package (10 oz.) frozen whole
kernel corn, thawed
142 cups shredded Monterey jack
cheese
1 cup fresh bread crumbs
1 can (4 oz.) chopped green chilies,
drained
Y2 cup red or green pepper,
finely chopped

BROWNIES
continued from pages 120-121

DOUBLE FUDGE
DIVINITY BROWNIES

pictured on page 120

Marshmallow creme is the extra divi-
dend in these brownies, dubbed “double
fudge” because of the chopped chocolate.

Y2 cup butter

2 squares (1 oz. each) unsweetened
chocolate

2 eggs

1 cup sugar

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

Y2 cup all-purpose flour

Pinch salt

Yq cup milk

Y% cup chopped walnuts

2 squares (1 oz. each) semisweet
chocolate, chopped

2 to ¥%3 cup marshmallow creme

Preheat oven to 325°F. Grease an 8-inch
square baking pan; set aside.

In medium saucepan melt butter and
unsweetened chocolate over low heat.
Set aside to cool. In large mixer bowl
beat eggs until light in color and
slightly thickened. Gradually beat in
sugar. Stir in melted chocolate and re-
maining ingredients except marsh-
mallow creme.

Spread half the batter into prepared
pan. Drop half the marshmallow creme
evenly over surface. Add remaining
batter; top with remaining marsh-
mallow creme. With a knife, cut
through marshmallow to marbleize
top. Bake 40 to 45 minutes or until a
toothpick inserted in center comes out
fairly clean. Do not overbake; these
brownies should be moist. Cool com-
pletely on wire rack before cutting.
Makes 20 bars, 160 calories each.

SUPER-ICED GOODIES

pictured on page 120

Thick, velvety chocolate icing makes
these honey-drenched, almond-studded
brownies superior. The icing is a bequest
from my mother, who used it lavishly in
her infrequent bouts with baking.

3 eggs

1 cup light brown sugar

140

Ye teaspoon salt
Ye teaspoon cumin

In large saucepot bring 4 quarts water
to a boil. Add squash, cover and cook 5
minutes. Remove squash from water.
When cool enough to handle, cut in half
lengthwise and scoop out seeds. Place
on paper towels cut side down; set aside.

Meanwhile, heat oil in skillet. Add
onion and garlic and cook 5 minutes.
Remove from heat. In large bowl com-
bine remaining ingredients. Add onion
mixture and stir to combine.

3 squares (i oz. each) semisweet
chocolate, grated
14% cups all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
Y2 teaspoon baking soda
Y2 teaspoon salt
Yq cup honey
1 cup blanched almonds, chopped
Icing
1% squares (1 oz. each) unsweetened
chocolate
*/3 cup sweetened condensed milk
Yq cup butter, cut into pieces

1 egg yolk, beaten
Ye teaspoon vanilla extract

Preheat oven to 325°F. Grease a 9-inch
square baking pan. In large mixer bowl
beat eggs until light. Gradually beat in
sugar, chocolate, flour, cinnamon, bak-
ing soda and salt until smooth. Beat in
honey just until blended. Fold in al-
monds. Pour into prepared pan. Bake
55 minutes or until a toothpick inser-
ted in.center comes out fairly clean.
Cool on wire rack before icing.

Icing: In saucepan melt unsweetened
chocolate over very low heat. Add con-
densed milk, butter, egg yolk and va-
nilla. Heat, stirring vigorously, until
smooth and thick, about 5 minutes.
Spread over brownies. Let stand until
set before cutting. Makes 36 bars,
about 125 calories each.

CONGO BARS

pictured on page 120

These pecan-chocolate chip confections
come from Mary Guidry, of San Bernar-
dino, California, who serves them as
the happy ending to family picnics.

214 cups all-purpose flour
22 teaspoons baking powder

Y teaspoon salt

¥3 cup butter, softened

¥3 cup shortening
package (6 oz.) light brown sugar
eggs
teaspoon vanilla extract
cup chopped pecans
cup (6 oz.) semisweet chocolate

chips
Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease a 13x9-
inch baking pan; set aside.

In medium bowl combine flour, bak-

ing powder and salt; set aside. In large

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Preheat oven to 350°F. Butter a bak
ing dish large enough to hold squash
halves in a single layer. Fill squash
generously with corn mixture an¢
place in baking dish. Cover with foi
and bake 15 minutes. Uncover an¢
bake 20 minutes more. Makes 8 se
ings, about 180 calories each. En¢

Mary D. Higgins is a free-lance recip
developer and food stylist in Providence
Rhode Island, and a former member a
the LHJ kitchen staff:

mixer bow] cream butter and shorten
ing. Add sugar and beat until light an
fluffy. Add eggs, one at a time, beatin
well after each addition. Add vanille
With mixer at low speed, mix in d
ingredients. Stir in pecans and choco
late chips. Spread evenly into prepare
pan. Bake 40 to 45 minutes or unt
toothpick inserted in center comes o
fairly clean. Cool completely on wi
rack before cutting. Makes 48 bars, 12
calories each.

MAIDA HEATTER’S GREENWICH
VILLAGE BROWNIES

pictured on page 121

The queen of chocolate desserts a
tributes this recipe, first published
Maida Heatter’s Book of Great Cookid
(Alfred A. Knopf, 1977), to a long-va
ished Greenwich Village pastry sho
discovered by Associated Press food ed)
tor Cecily Brownstone.

3 squares (1 oz. each) unsweetened
chocolate

Ye cup butter, softened

1 cup granulated sugar
Y2 cup firmly packed light brown suga
¥3 cup light corn syrup
¥2 teaspoon vanilla extract

1 cup all-purpose flour

Ye teaspoon salt

3 eggs

1% cups pecan halves, divided

Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease an 8-in¢
square baking pan. Line bottom wif
wax paper; grease paper and du
lightly with flour, shaking out excess
In small saucepan melt chocola
over low heat. Set aside. In large mix
bowl cream butter. Add sugars, co
syrup, vanilla and salt. Beat until lig:
and fluffy. Add eggs, one at a tim
beating until smooth after each ade
tion. Beat in melted chocolate. Wi
mixer at low speed, gradually add flov
beating until smooth. Stir in 1
pecans. Spread evenly into prepar@
pan. Arrange remaining pecans 0
top. Bake 1 hour or until a toothpi
inserted in center comes out fairly cleaj
not dry. Cool in pan 30 minutes. Cov}
with rack and invert. Remove pan all
wax paper. Cover with rack and inve
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At holiday get-togethers, it’s easy
to be the life of the party. People
never seem to get enough of the
naturally lively taste of Chex Party
Mix, so chock-full of crunchy grain
tastes, munchy nuts, irresistible
seasonings. So to make yourself
‘the hit of your next party, just make
plenty of Chex Party Mix.

Traditional Chex® Party Mix

1/2 cup (1 stick) Parkay Margarine 22/3 cups Corn Chex® cereal

11/4 teaspoons seasoned salt 22/3 cups Rice Chex® cereal

41/2 teaspoons French’s 22/3 cups Wheat Chex® cereal
Worcestershire Sauce 1 cup salted mixed nuts

Preheat oven to 250° Heat margarine in large shallow roasting pan
(about 15 x 10 x 2 inches) in oven until melted. Remove. Stir in
seasoned salt and Worcestershire sauce. Add Chex and nuts. Mix
until all pieces are coated. Heat in oven 1 hour. Stir every 15 minutes.
Spread on absorbent paper to cool

Microwave directions: In large bowl melt margarine on High 1 min-
ute. Stir in seasoned salt and Worcestershire sauce. Add Chex and
nuts. Mix until all pieces are coated. Microwave on High 6 to 7
minutes, stirring every 2 minutes. Makes about 9 cups.

5-Minute Cheesy Crunch

5 tablespoons Parkay Margarine 6 cups your favorite Chex® cereal
1/2 teaspoon salt 1/3 cup grated Parmesan cheese
Melt margarine in large skillet over low heat. Stir in salt. Add Chex.
Stir until all pieces are coated. Continue to heat and stir for 5 to 6
minutes or until Chex are lightly toasted. Sprinkle on cheese; stir to
coat all pieces. Spread on absorbent paper to cool.

Microwave directions: Melt margarine in large bow! on High 50 to 60
seconds. Stir in salt. Add Chex; stir to coat all pieces. Microwave
High 21/2 to 3 minutes, stirring every 30 seconds. Sprinkle on cheese;
Stir to coat evenly. Spread on absorbent paper to cool. Makes 6 cups.

Free fixin’s for our mix.

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BROWNIES

continued

side up to cool. Brownies cut easier
when chilled. Makes 20 bars, 235 calo-
ries each.

RICH MARBLED WONDERS

pictured on page 121

A marbled treasure sent me by a fan
from Knoxville, Tennessee.

1 cup butter, softened
2 cups sugar
4 eggs
2 tablespoons instant espresso
powder
1 tablespoon orange-flavored liqueur
Y4 teaspoon salt
1% cups all-purpose flour
24 cups chopped pecans
3 squares (1 oz. each) unsweetened
chocolate, melted

Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease a 13x9-
inch baking pan.

In large bowl cream butter. Gradu-
ally add sugar and beat until light and
creamy. Add eggs, one at a time, beat-
ing well after each addition. Beat in
espresso powder, orange liqueur and
salt. Stir in flour and pecans.

Combine half the batter with melted
chocolate. Drop into prepared pan by
teaspoonfuls, alternating the batters to
form a checkerboard. With a knife, cut
through batters to marbleize. Bake 40
minutes or until toothpick inserted in
center comes out fairly clean. Cool on
wire rack; let stand at least 4 hours
before cutting. Makes 48 bars, 115 calo-
ries each.

CASSEROLES
continued from pages 114-115

CASSEROLE DE MER

pictured on page 114

This casserole would do justice to the
most elegant of buffets.

10 cups water
Salt
5 cups lorig-grain rice
4 tablespoons butter or margarine,
divided
2 tablespoons minced shallots
3 pounds shrimp, shelled and
deveined
2 pounds scallops
2 bottles (8 oz. each) clam juice
4 cups heavy or whipping cream
Ye teaspoon white pepper
Y4 cup chopped fresh dill or 1
tablespoon dillweed
Y2 cup lemon juice
3 medium red peppers, julienned

In heavy 5-quart Dutch oven bring
water and 5 teaspoons salt to a boil over
high heat. Add rice. Reduce heat to low
and cook covered 30 to 35 minutes until

142

AUNT MARY'S
SEVEN LAYER BARS

pictured on page 121

Also from Mary Guidry, these bars are
unusual for being layered in the
pan rather than mixed. Rich, multi-
flavored and mouth-watering.

Y2 cup butter
1 package (84 oz.) chocolate wafers,
finely crushed, or 1 cup graham
cracker crumbs
1 cup shredded coconut
1 cup semisweet chocolate chips
Ya cup creamy peanut butter
1 can (14 oz.) sweetened condensed
milk
1 cup chopped walnuts
Preheat oven to 350°F. In 13x9-inch
baking pan melt butter. Combine
crumbs with butter and press evenly
over bottom of pan. Bake 5 minutes.
Remove from oven. Sprinkle on coconut
evenly to form next layer, then choco-
late chips for next layer. Drop peanut
butter by % teaspoonfuls for next layer.
Drizzle milk evenly over surface, being
careful not to let large amounts ac-
cumulate in corners or along edges.
Sprinkle walnuts evenly to form last
layer. Bake 25 minutes. Cool com-
pletely on wire rack. Refrigerate sev-
eral hours or overnight before cutting.
Makes 48 bars, 135 calories each.

CHOCOLATE CARAMEL CHEWIES

These fudgy, nutty oatmeal squares get
their bite from chocolate’s best friend,
caramel. I found the original recipe in

water has been absorbed. Remove from
heat, uncover and let stand 10 minutes.
Meanwhile, in large heavy skillet
melt 3 tablespoons butter or margarine
over medium heat. Add shallots and
cook, stirring frequently, 2 minutes. In-
crease heat to high; add shrimp and
cook, stirring frequently, until they
turn pink, about 2 minutes. With slot-
ted spoon transfer shrimp to Dutch
oven. To same skillet add scallops and
cook, stirring frequently, about 3 min-
utes. With slotted spoon transfer scal-
lops to Dutch oven with shrimp. Add
clam juice to drippings in skillet. Cook
over high heat until reduced to 1 cup.
Add cream, ¥4 teaspoon salt and pepper;
cook over high heat until reduced to 4
cups. Return shrimp and scallops to
cream mixture. Reduce heat and cook,
stirring constantly, about 3 minutes
more. Pour over rice. Add dill and
lemon juice; stir until well combined.
In medium skillet melt 1 tablespoon
butter over medium heat. Add peppers
and saute, stirring frequently, about 5
minutes. Add peppers to shrimp; toss.
Preheat oven to 350°F. Lightly butter

the “Townshend, Vermont, Mother3
Club Bulletin,” circa 1925.

Ye cup plus 1 tablespoon butter,
divided
1 cup firmly packed brown sugar
2 squares (1 oz. each) unsweetened
chocolate, melted
1 egg
2 teaspoons vanilla extract, divided
1% cups all-purpose flour
Ye teaspoon baking soda
Y2 teaspoon salt
1¥2 cups oats, uncooked
cup chopped pecans, divided
ounces caramels
4/3 cup sweetened condensed milk

Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease a 9-inc
baking pan. In large mixer bowl beat
cup butter until creamy. Add brov
sugar and beat 3 minutes. Slowly mi
in melted chocolate, egg and 1% tea
spoons vanilla.
In small bowl combine flour, bakin
soda and salt. Slowly add to chocolat
mixture. Stir in oats and ¥2 cup pecan
Press two thirds of the oat mix
(about 2 cups) into prepared pan.
Meanwhile, in top of double boile
melt caramels, condensed milk and ré¢
maining 1 tablespoon butter over h¢
water, stirring occasionally un
smooth. Stir in remaining ¥% cu
pecans and ¥2 teaspoon vanilla. Po
over oat mixture in baking pan. Car
fully crumble remaining oat mixtw
over top. Bake about 30 minutes. Co
completely on wire rack before cuttin
Makes 36 bars, 145 calories each. Ex

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York City. His latest book is Greene C
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two 13x9-inch glass baking dishes. D
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SHEPHERD'S PIE
pictured on page 114

If your group isn’t into lamb, substit
beef stew meat. In any case, the roast
garlic is essential.

2 large heads garlic (yes, 2 heads)
4 cups chicken broth, divided
Y cup all-purpose flour
5 pounds boneless cubed lamb
shoulder or beef stew meat
4 tablespoons salad oil, divided
1 cup dry vermouth
2 tablespoons butter or
margarine
2 cups chopped onions
2 tablespoons minced garlic
1 pound mushrooms, quartered
2 pounds carrots, cut into
Ye-inch slices
6 medium turnips, peeled and cut
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continued

2 cups green peas
1% teaspoons salt
2 teaspoon pepper

Potato Topping

5 pounds all-purpose potatoes, peeled
and cut into 1-inch cubes
Salt
6 tablespoons butter or margarine
14% cups milk, heated
Yq, teaspoon freshly ground

pepper

Separate garlic heads. (You should have
at least 30 cloves.) Bake in greased
baking dish 20 minutes. Set aside until
cool enough to handle. Remove peel
from cloves. Place garlic in blender con-
tainer. Add 1 cup chicken broth and
blend at high speed until pureed; set
aside.

Meanwhile, in large bowl sprinkle
flour over meat and toss until meat is
coated. In large skillet heat 2 table-
spoons oil over medium heat. Brown
meat several pieces at a time on all
sides, transferring to a large bowl. Add
remaining oil if necessary. When all
meat is browned, pour vermouth into
skillet, scraping up browned bits with a
wooden spoon. Cook over high heat un-
til liquid is reduced to half. Add re-
maining chicken broth; set aside.

Preheat oven to 350°F. In heavy 10-

quart Dutch oven melt butter or mar-
garine over medium heat. Add onions
and minced garlic and saute until
onions are translucent. Add mushrooms
and cook, stirring occasionally, until
liquid from mushrooms has evaporated.
Add garlic puree, meat, chicken broth
mixture, carrots, turnips, peas, salt
and pepper. Stir and bring to a boil over
medium heat. Cover Dutch oven and
bake 2 hours. (Can be made ahead.
Cool, cover and refrigerate up to 24
hours. Reheat in Dutch oven until hot.)
Potato Topping: In 5-quart Dutch oven
cover potatoes with cold water. Add 1
teaspoon salt. Bring to a boil over high
heat. Cook 15 to 20 minutes or until
tender. Drain potatoes well and return
to Dutch oven. Return to medium heat
and shake about 1 minute to “dry.” Re-
move from heat. Add butter and mash.
Add hot milk, salt and pepper and con-
tinue mashing until smooth. Taste for
seasoning. Spoon into large pastry bag
with star tube, if desired.
Assembly: Preheat oven to 350°F
Spoon hot stew into a 5-quart round
casserole or two 13x9-inch baking
dishes. Pipe mashed potatoes on top or
spoon on and spread evenly with spat-
ula. Bake 45 minutes or until potatoes
are lightly browned. Makes 16 to 20
servings, about 675 calories each per
16, 540 calories each per 20.

144

CASSOULET

pictured on page 114

This is one of our favorite entrees for a
crowd. It may be time-consuming, but
the result is fantastique!

3 pounds dried great northern beans
Water
3 pounds salt pork, cut into 3 pieces
Bouquet garni (see Ed. note)

Y2 pound sliced bacon, diced

3 pounds pork tenderloin, trimmed
and cut into 1-inch pieces

42 pounds chicken legs and thighs

2 cups dry white wine

3 tablespoons flour

3 cans (13% or 14% oz. each) chicken
broth, degreased, divided

2 cups tomato puree

5 tablespoons tomato paste

8 large garlic cloves, pressed

2 to 2Y2 pounds kielbasa, cut into
Ya-inch slices

1 teaspoon salt or more to taste

Y2 teaspoon pepper

2 cups fresh bread crumbs

Wash beans; discard any stones or
shriveled beans. Drain and place in
large saucepot. Soak. (For quick-soak
method, combine beans and 6 cups
water. Heat to boiling and boil 2 min-
utes. Remove from heat; cover and let
stand 1 hour.) Or cover beans with
water and soak overnight. Drain.

In large saucepan cover salt pork
with cold water. Bring to a boil; drain.
Add more cold water to salt pork and
bring to a boil. Drain.

In 10-quart Dutch oven combine
beans, salt pork, bouquet garni and
water to cover. Bring to a boil, skim-
ming off foam that rises to the top. Re-
duce heat and simmer 1% hours or un-
til beans are cooked through. Strain
liquid and reserve 1 cup. Remove and
discard salt pork and bouquet garni.
Return beans to Dutch oven.

Meanwhile, in skillet cook bacon un-
til crisp. Remove with slotted spoon and
drain on paper towels; set aside. Re-
move 6 tablespoons drippings for later
use. To remaining drippings in skillet
add pork and cook until browned.
Transfer with slotted spoon to Dutch
oven. In same skillet add chicken and
cook until browned on all sides. Trans-
fer with tongs to Dutch oven. Pour wine
into skillet and stir to loosen browned
bits. In small bowl combine flour and %
cup chicken broth and stir until
smooth. To skillet add tomato puree
and paste, garlic, broth-flour mixture
and remaining broth; stir until smooth.
Bring to a boil; cook 5 minutes over
medium heat, stirring constantly. Pour
into Dutch oven. Add bacon, half the
kielbasa, salt and pepper.

Meanwhile, butter two 5-quart cas-
seroles or one 8-quart casserole. Spoon
in cassoulet. Arrange remaining
kielbasa on top. Sprinkle with bread

crumbs. Dribble on reserved baco:
drippings. (Can be made ahead. Cove
and refrigerate overnight. Bring t
room temperature 2 to 3 hours befo
baking.) Bake 20 minutes in preheate
425°F. oven. Reduce temperature
350°F. and bake 30 minutes more un
hot and bubbly. If needed, pour in re
served bean liquid. (For large casserole
bake 1% hours.) Makes 25 servings
about 700 calories each.
Ed. note: To make a bouquet garni com
bine ¥% teaspoon peppercorns, spri
parsley, 1 teaspoon thyme and 1 bay lez
in cheesecloth. Tie with string.

WALDORF CASSEROLE

This unusual combo of chicken, wil
and white rice, zucchini and apples
enhanced by walnuts and sour cream

2 tablespoons pressed garlic cloves

5 tablespoons lemon juice,
divided

3 teaspoons rosemary, crushed,
divided

4 broiler-fryer chickens (2' to 3 Ibs.
each), cut into 8 pieces

Peel of 2 lemons, cut into 1-inch

pieces

2 onions, each studded with
4 whole cloves

2 celery ribs, cut into 1-inch pieces

2 carrots, cut into 1-inch pieces

3 tablespoons salt, divided

1 teaspoon freshly ground pepper,
divided

1% cups (8 oz.) wild rice

2 cups (1 [b.) long-grain rice

4 pounds zucchini

4 cups sour cream

1 cup heavy or whipping cream

2 cups coarsely chopped walnuts

4 to 5 Red Delicious apples, cored aj
diced (5 cups)

In small bowl combine garlic, 4 tab
spoons lemon juice and 2 teaspod
rosemary. Lift skin of chicken bre
and thigh pieces and insert ¥4 teaspc
garlic-lemon and a piece of lemon peé

In large Dutch oven comb
chicken, onions, celery, carrots, 1 t
spoon salt and ¥%2 teaspoon pepp
cover with water. Bring to a boil. Si
mer, occasionally skimming foam t
rises to the top, 30 minutes or ur
juices of thigh run clear when pier
with a knife. Remove chicken with s
ted spoon; discard vegetables and
serve broth. When cool enough to h
dle, remove skin and bones; cut i
small pieces. Skim fat from broth.
serve 2 cups for sauce and remai
for cooking rice.

Separately cook wild and long-g
rice according to package directi¢
substituting chicken broth for we
Combine in large bowl.

Cut zucchini in half length
With spoon or melon baller, scrape
seeds. Sprinkle 1 tablespoon salt ¢
cut sides and invert on (contin

LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL « OCTOBER

CASSEROLES

continued

paper towels. Set aside 30 minutes to
drain. Then cut zucchini into %4-inch-
wide strips. Bring 2 quarts water and 1
tablespoon salt to a boil; add zucchini
and cook 1 minute. Drain and rinse un-
til cool. Drain again and set aside.

In large saucepan over high heat re-
duce 2 cups reserved broth to 1 cup.
Whisk sour cream into broth and cook
over medium heat, whisking until
blended, about 2 to 3 minutes. Add
cream and remaining 1 teaspoon rose-
mary. Cook, whisking until reduced to
a scant 4 cups. Remove from heat; com-
bine rice, chicken and zucchini. Fold in
walnuts. Add sauce and stir until
blended. (Can be made ahead. Cover
and refrigerate up to 24 hours. Let
stand at room temperature 2 hours.)

Preheat oven to 375°F. Sprinkle ap-
ples with 1 tablespoon lemon juice, 2
teaspoons salt and ¥ teaspoon pepper.
Stir into chicken and rice mixture.
Place in 2 greased 5-quart casseroles.
Cover with foil and bake 40 minutes or
until heated. Remove from oven. Let
stand 10 minutes before serving. Makes
25 servings, about 450 calories each.

LASAGNA MILANO

Smoked turkey and three cheeses turn
this dish into a smashing specialty.

1 pound lasagna noodles
Salt
1 tablespoon olive oil
¥Y_ cup butter or margarine
Y2 cup all-purpose flour
Y4 teaspoon ground white pepper
6 cups milk
2 packages (10 oz. each) frozen
chopped spinach, cooked
according to package directions
2 containers (15 oz. each) ricotta
cheese
1 cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese
Ya teaspoon freshly ground pepper
Y4 teaspoon nutmeg
1¥%2 pounds mozzarella cheese, grated
1% pounds sliced smoked turkey,
julienned

Cook noodles according to package di-
rections with 2 tablespoons salt and
olive oil. Drain. Remove from heat and
plunge into bow! of very cold water.
Drain in single layer on paper towels.
In 3-quart saucepan melt butter or
margarine. Remove from heat. Add
flour and white pepper and cook over
medium heat 1 minute until smooth
and bubbly. Gradually stir in milk.
Cook over medium heat, stirring con-
stantly with a wire whisk, until mix-
ture comes to a boil. Boil 2 minutes.
Remove from heat. Drain spinach,
pressing with the back of a spoon to
remove excess moisture. Place in food
processor fitted with steel blade and

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chop finely. Add ricotta and Parmesan
cheeses, pepper, nutmeg and 1 teaspoon
salt; process until smooth. Add to white
sauce; stir to combine. Taste for season-
ing. Remove 1 cup sauce and set aside.

Butter two 13x9-inch baking dishes.
Line bottom of each dish with 3 noo-
dles. Spread on 2.cups sauce. Place 6
ounces sliced turkey on sauce and
sprinkle ¥4 pound grated mozzarella on
top. Repeat layering, ending with a
third layer of noodles. Sprinkle remain-
ing ¥% pound mozzarella cheese on top
of both casseroles and dribble reserved
sauce over cheese. Cover with foil. (Can
be made ahead. Refrigerate up to 24
hours. Let stand at room temperature 2
hours.) Bake in preheated 350°F. oven
35 to 40 minutes or until bubbly and
cheese is melted. Let stand 15 to 20
minutes before serving. Makes 20 to 24
servings, about 495 calories each per
20, 415 calories each per 24.

ESTOUFFADE

This French beef stew, cooked very
slowly in the oven, is so simple and fla-
vorful that it’s bound to become your
favorite dish for a crowd.

2 tablespoons butter or margarine,
divided
4 tablespoons salad oil, divided
6 pounds beef chuck, cut into
l-inch cubes
1 cup white wine
1 can (13% or 142 oz.)
beef broth
1 cup tomato puree
1 teaspoon salt
Ye teaspoon pepper
3 pounds carrots, peeled and sliced
Y4-inch thick
1% pounds small whole white onio
peeled
12 large potatoes, peeled and sliced
Yq4-inch thick

In large heavy skillet heat 1 tablespoon
butter or margarine and 2 tablespoons
oil over high heat. Brown beef a few
pieces at a time, adding more butter
and oil as needed. As beef browns,
transfer to 8-quart Dutch oven or two
5-quart casseroles. When all beef is
browned, pour wine into skillet and stir
to loosen browned bits. Cook 3 minutes
over high heat. Add broth, tomato
puree, salt and pepper. Bring to a boil.

Arrange carrots on meat in circular
pattern. Add whole onions; top with po-
tatoes. Pour wine mixture over all.
(Can be made ahead. Cover and refrig-
erate up to 24 hours. Let stand at room
temperature 2 hours.) Cover and bake
in preheated 325°F. oven 2 hours. Un-
cover and bake 1¥2 to 2 hours more. Do
not stir. Makes about 18 servings,
about 560 calories each. End

Casseroles to Feed a Crowd developed by
Kate McArn Vosecky and Cathleen Burke.

PLAYING IT SAFE
continued from page 86

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failures. When you contemplate a risk
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can (10% oz.) condensed 1 cup (40z.) shredded
cream of chicken soup Cheddar cheese

cup milk 1 can (2.8 0z.) Durkee
teaspoon Durkee Seasoned Salt French Fried Onions
cups (10 oz.) chopped 1 cup biscuit mix
cooked chicken 1 egg, slightly beaten
package (1 lb.) frozen broccoli, ¥% cup milk

cauliflower and carrots,

thawed and well-drained

Combine soup, milk, salt, chicken, vegetables, % cup cheese and %
can French Fried Onions. Spread mixture into a greased 8 x 12-inch
baking dish. Bake, uncovered, at 425° for 10 minutes. Meanwhile,
combine biscuit mix, egg and milk to form a soft dough. Spoon over
hot chicken mixture to form a lattice design. Bake, uncovered, at 425°
for 20 to 25 minutes or until biscuits are golden. Top lattice with
remaining cheese and onions and bake 3 to 5 minutes or until cheese
melts and onions are lightly browned. MAKES 6 servings.

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Starting here, our clip-and-save
collection of all-new menus you can whip up in style,
even when there’s no time to spare.

PROCEDURE

1. Preheat oven for
shrimp rolls.

2. Prepare meat,
vegetables and sauces
for main dish.

rom the

shrimp
appetizer to the fortune
cookies, this meal is an
Oriental extravaganza.
Don’t forget to serve
the green tea.

3. Start rice.

4. Bake shrimp rolls.
5. Make sundae sauce.
6. Stir-fry main dish.

BEEF WITH ZUCCHINI AND PEPPERS
pictured on page 130

Ys pound beef flank steak

Marinade

2 tablespoons soy sauce
1 tablespoon dry sherry

1 teaspoon cornstarch

2 medium zucchini

2 medium red or green

1/4 teaspoon sugar
2 garlic cloves

Peppers, seeded
3 green onions

Sauce

Yo cup beef broth

1 tablespoon soy sauce
2 teaspoons cornstarch
', teaspoon sesame oil
'/s teaspoon crushed red

pepper

Cut steak in half lengthwise, then cut crosswise into
strips ¥ inch wide. In medium bowl combine all mari-
nade ingredients. Stir until well blended, then add
beef; set aside.

Trim ends from zucchini and cut into ¥%-inch diago-
nal slices. Cut peppers into strips ¥4 inch wide. Cut
onions crosswise into ¥2-inch slices. Set aside.

In 1-cup glass measure combine sauce ingredients.
Stir well and set aside. In wok or 12-inch skillet heat
oil. Add meat; stir-fry 1 minute. Remove with slotted
spoon. Add vegetables; stir-fry 3 minutes. Add meat.
Stir sauce mixture; pour into wok. Bring to a boil; boil
1 minute. Serve immediately with rice. Makes 4 serv-
ings, about 295 calories each.

GINGERED PINEAPPLE SUNDAE

1 can (8/4 oz.) crushed
pineapple in syrup

'y teaspoon sugar

1/s cup salad oil
Hot cooked rice

'/s teaspoon grated fresh
ginger root
Ice cream

In small saucepan combine crushed pineapple and
syrup with ginger. Bring to a boil and cook 5 minutes.
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2. Prepare and bake

Serve sauce warm over vanilla ice cream or pineap-
ple sherbet. Makes about 1 cup sauce, about 12 calo-
ries per tablespoon.

Add 140 calories per each ¥2 cup serving ice cream,
and 120 calories per each ¥2 cup serving sherbet.

ried chicken

the Tex-Mex way,
accompanied by a corn
and sweet pepper mix.
Vinaigrette dressing
is the best choice for
the green salad.

PROCEDURE

3. Make salad.

4. Heat corn.

5. Finish dessert just
before serving.

EL RANCHO CHICKEN
pictured on page 131

2 whole chicken

1. Bake cookies for
dessert.

chicken.

11/4 cups (4 oz.) crushed
breasts, boned, nacho cheese
skinned and chips or tortilla
halved chips

'» cup refrigerated
buttermilk spice
salad dressing

Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease a large cookie sheet.
Pound chicken breasts between 2 sheets wax paper.
Dip chicken into salad dressing to coat both sides,
then dip both sides into crushed nacho chips. Place on
cookie sheet. Bake 30 minutes. Makes 4 servings,
about 500 calories each.

CHERRY STACKS

1, of a 17-ounce roll
slice ’n’ bake
refrigerated
sugar cookies

1 can (21 oz.) cherry
pie filling

Preheat oven to 375°F. Slice cookie dough ¥% inch thick

into 24 slices. Arrange 3 slices on ungreased cookie

sheet in an overlapping circle. Repeat with remaining
slices to form 8 large cookies. Bake 10 minutes or
until golden. Transfer to wire rack to cool.

In small bowl combine cherry pie filling and
amaretto or kirsch; mix well. For each serving, on
dessert plate layer filling between 2 cookies and top
with whipped topping. Makes 4 servings, about 520
calories each.

150

1 tablespoon amaretto
or kirsch (optional)

Ys cup frozen whipped
topping

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some of
your favorite antipasto
ingredients—red
peppers, anchovies,
capers—into a
fabulous tuna sauce
that does great things
for pasta.

PROCEDURE

1. Start heating water
for linguine.

2. Make dessert;
refrigerate.

3. Cook linguine and
make sauce.
4. Prepare vegetables.

TUNA-RED PEPPER PASTA
1 pound linguine

1, teaspoon fresh
ground pepper

Sauce : : ;
a a ee eee ee Ys cup olive oil
1 jar (7 oz.) roasted red 1 can (7 oz.) tuna
peppers packed in olive oil,

2 flat anchovies drained and flaked
2 garlic cloves 1 tablespoon drained
2 teaspoons oregano capers

4 teaspoon salt

Cook linguine according to package directions; drain.
Meanwhile, in blender or food processor combine
roasted peppers (with liquid), anchovies, garlic,
oregano, salt and pepper. Process until smooth. Add
olive oil. Process just until well blended. Add tuna and
capers. Set aside. Drain linguine; toss with sauce.
Makes 4 to 6 servings, about 640 calories each per 4,
425 calories each per 6.

ARTICHOKE HEARTS AND
GREEN BEANS PARMIGIANA

2 tablespoons olive oil

2 large garlic cloves,
chopped

1 package (9 oz.) frozen
artichoke hearts

1 package (9 oz.) frozen
cut green beans

1; cup water
'/s teaspoon salt
Few twists freshly
ground pepper
1 tablespoon grated
Parmesan cheese

In large skillet heat olive oil. Add garlic; saute 1 min-
ute. Add vegetables, water, salt and pepper. Bring
water to a boil. Cover; reduce heat and cook 8 minutes.
Transfer to serving bowl. Sprinkle with cheese.
Makes 6 servings, about 75 calories each.

CHOCOLATE MOCHA CREAM

9 ladyfingers, split Ys cup part-skim ricotta
I cup heavy or cheese
whipping cream 3 tablespoons sugar

LADIES' HOME JOURNAL * OCTOBER 1984

What's the key to quick cooking? Pre-
planning and a full fridge and pantry.

1 teaspoon instant 2 tablespoons mini
espresso coffee chocolate chips

1 teaspoon vanilla

Line 6 dessert dishes with ladyfingers. In blender

combine all remaining ingredients except chocolate

chips. Blend until smooth. Stir in chocolate chips and

spoon into serving dishes. Refrigerate until ready to

serve. Makes 6 servings, 230 calories each.

J
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add a colorful
note to this tangy
marinated steak entree.

PROCEDURE
1. Prepare marinade; 4. Preheat broiler.
add steak. 5. Saute peppers.
2. Cut peppers and 6. Broil steak.
onions. 7. Toast pita bread.
3. Cook rice.
ARMENIAN STEAK WITH SAUTEED PEPPERS
AND TOASTED PITA BREAD
Marinade 1'2 pounds flank steak

2 large green peppers,
cut into 11/2-inch
squares

2 large red peppers,
cut into 11-inch
squares

1 medium onion,
coarsely chopped

1/4 teaspoon salt

4 small pita breads,
split

1/4 cup salad oil

Yq cup olive oil

1/4 cup lemon juice

1 teaspoon marjoram

1 teaspoon thyme

1/2 teaspoon pepper

3 large garlic cloves,
pressed

1 teaspoon salt

Preheat broiler. In bowl combine marinade ingre-
dients. Measure out 5 tablespoons and set aside. Mari-
nate steak in remaining marinade; set aside.

In large skillet heat 2 tablespoons reserved mari-
nade over high heat. Add peppers, onion and salt.
Cook, stirring, over high heat until onions are wilted.
Reduce heat to low. Cover and simmer 15 minutes,
stirring occasionally.

About 12 minutes before vegetables are ready, drain
flank steak and broil 2 to 3 inches from heat source to
desired degree of doneness, about 7 minutes on one
side and 5 minutes on the other for medium-rare.
Meanwhile, brush the inside of each pita bread with
remaining 3 tablespoons marinade. Cut into tri-
angles. Arrange brushed side up on cookie sheet.

When meat is cooked, remove from oven. Reduce tem-
perature to 350°F. and bake pita bread 5 minutes.
Meanwhile, arrange meat and vegetables on a platter.
Serve with rice and warm pita bread. Makes 4 ser-
vings, about 525 calories each.

SS WENU

ou’ll love the

fresh lime
sauce that makes this
pork chop dish so
special. Try it over
chicken and turkey
cutlets as well.

PROCEDURE

1. Start heating water
for noodles.

2. Start pork chops.

3. Cook sprouts and

PORK CHOPS WITH LIME SAUCE

6 pork chops, ¥/a inch 3 tablespoons fresh
thick lime juice, divided
Salt and pepper 1 teaspoon Dijon
1 tablespoon salad oil mustard
Ya cup chicken broth 2 teaspoons cornstarch
1 tablespoon brown 1’; cup water
sugar 2 tablespoons butter or
margarine

noodles while chops
are simmering.
4. Finish chops.

Sprinkle chops with salt and pepper. In 12-inch skillet
heat oil. Add chops. Brown on both sides. Add broth,
brown sugar, 2 tablespoons lime juice and mustard.
Cover and simmer 20 minutes. Transfer chops to serv-
ing platter. Dissolve cornstarch in water. Add to skil-
let. Bring to a boil; boil 1 minute. Remove from heat.
Swirl in remaining 1 tablespoon lime juice and butter
or margarine. Pour over chops. Makes 4 servings,
about 640 calories each.

PEPPERY BRUSSELS SPROUTS

2 tablespoons butter or Brussels sprouts,

margarine trimmed

'*, teaspoon cracked 1; teaspoon salt
black pepper 2 cup water

2 containers (10 oz. 2 teaspoons fresh
each) fresh lemon juice

In medium skillet melt butter or margarine over me-
dium heat. Add pepper and saute 1 minute. Add
sprouts and toss well. Sprinkle on salt and water;
cover and cook over medium-low heat about 8 min-
utes. Uncover, sprinkle on lemon juice and toss.
Makes 6 servings, about 65 calories each.

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reat eating

that starts
with three packaged
ingredients; tastes so
speciai, your guests
will never guess.

PROCEDURE

1. Start heating water 3. Make salad.
for spaghetti, chipped 4. Cook spaghetti and
beef and peas. peas.

2. Heat frozen chipped 5. Toss spaghetti.
beef.

PDQ SPAGHETTI

1 package (10 oz.)
frozen peas with
pearl onions

2 pound thin spaghetti

2 packages (11 oz. each)
frozen creamed
chipped beef

Prepare creamed chipped beef, peas and spaghetti
separately, all according to package directions. In ser
ving bowl toss beef, peas and spaghetti together.
Makes 4 servings, about 505 calories each.

or kids of all

ages—a ground-
beef skillet entree that
goes macaroni one
better. The tasteful
pluses—garlic and
cloves, steak sauce
and, of course,
cranberry juice.

PROCEDURE

1. Start Cran-A-Roni. 4. Chop onion and toss
2. Cook macaroni. salad.

3. Wash salad greens.

CRAN-A-RONI

I pound ground beef 144 teaspoon cinnamon
2 teaspoons cornstarch 1g teaspoon ground
1 cup cranberry juice cloves
1 can (8 oz.) tomato 1 pound elbow
sauce macaroni
1 tablespoon steak 1 cup shredded
sauce Cheddar cheese
'/ teaspoon salt Sour cream
1s teaspoon garlic powder Chopped onions

LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL + OCTOBER 1984

ett
ser
her,

Make hurry-up dinners a family affair.
Assign the kids table-setting duty.

In large skillet brown ground beef, crumbling with
fork as it cooks. Drain off excess fat. Dissolve corn-
starch in cranberry juice. Add to skillet with tomato
sauce, steak sauce, salt, garlic powder, cinnamon and
cloves. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat; simmer 20 min-
utes. Meanwhile, cook macaroni according to package
directions. Drain; transfer to serving platter. Top with
beef mixture. Sprinkle with cheese. Serve with sour
cream and onions, if desired. Makes 4 to 6 servings,
about 585 calories per 4, 390 calories per 6.

SS Wena

“HAM WITH HONEY
MUSTARD GLAZE
-*BROILED BANANAS £ it
*BLACK BEANS he deliciously
aoe differen
ICE CREAM accompaniment calls
| for green-tipped

bananas that will stay
firm when cooked.

PROCEDURE

1. Start black beans. 4. Finish beans.

2. Soak ham in milk. 5. Broil ham with

3. Prepare bananas. bananas.
HAM WITH HONEY MUSTARD GLAZE

1 smoked ham steak 2 tablespoons prepared
(1 lbs.) honey mustard

Milk

Line broiler rack with foil; set aside. In shallow bak-
ing dish combine ham and just enough milk to cover.
Let stand at least 10 minutes. Preheat broiler. Drain
ham. Place on broiler rack and broil just until nicely
browned on both sides. Brush with honey mustard.
Makes 4 servings, about 275 calories each.

BROILED BANANAS

4 green-tipped bananas 2 tablespoons butter or
margarine, melted

Preheat broiler. Cut bananas in half lengthwise. Ar-
range on broiler pan. Brush with butter or margarine.
Broil until golden brown, about 5 minutes. Makes 4
servings, about 125 calories each.

BLACK BEANS ESPECIAL

2 cans (16 oz. each) 14 teaspoon garlic
black beans powder

4 slices bacon, cut into 'g teaspoon thyme
1-inch pieces leaves

1 teaspoon instant Generous dash
minced onion pepper

Drain beans, reserving ¥2 cup liquid; set aside. In
medium skillet cook bacon until almost crisp. Pour off

all fat. Add beans and reserved liquid, onion, garlic
powder, thyme and pepper. Bring to a boil. Reduce
heat, cover and simmer 10 minutes. Makes 4 servings,
about 260 calorieseach.

his dinner’s as

easy as one-
two-three-simmer to
prepare. Once the soup
ingredients are
chopped, the hard work
is over. The key to its
marvelous taste—
bottled clam juice!

PROCEDURE

1. Start chowder.

2. Wash salad greens;
drain.

3. Finish chowder.
4. Toss salad.

SALMON CHOWDER

3 cups half-and-half
cream

's teaspoon salt

'’s teaspoon freshly
ground pepper

3 tablespoons chopped
fresh parsley

'’s pound bacon, diced

2 large potatoes (¥/1 lb.),
peeled and diced

1 cup diced carrots

2 cups bottled clam
juice, divided

I can (15' 02.)
salmon, drained

and flaked

In heavy 3-quart saucepan cook bacon over low heat
until crisp; drain. Add potatoes, carrots and 142 cups
clam juice; bring to a boil. Simmer covered 15 minutes,
until vegetables are cooked. Add salmon, half and
half, remaining clam juice, salt and pepper. Simmer
15 minutes over medium heat to thicken soup, stirring
occasionally. Serve in bowls, garnished with chopped
parsley. Makes 4 servings, about 560 calories each.

raditional

Yorkshire
pudding with a tasty
new twist—namely,
sausage and chives.

PROCEDURE

1. Make Yorkshire
Sausage.

154

2. Prepare apples.
3. Heat cabbage.

YORKSHIRE SAUSAGE

Vegetable non-stick
cooking spray
'’» pound bulk sausage
3 eggs
1 cup milk

1 cup all-purpose flour

1’ teaspoon salt

1 tablespoon minced
chives

Preheat oven to 425°F. Coat 10-inch ovenproof skillet
with non-stick spray. Add sausage; cook over medium
heat until lightly browned, crumbling with fork.
Meanwhile, in mixer bowl beat eggs until light, about
2 minutes. Add milk, flour and salt. Beat until
smooth. Add chives. Pour batter over sausage in skil-
let. Bake 15 minutes. Reduce temperature to 350°F.
Bake 5 to 10 minutes more, or until browned. Cut into
wedges. Makes 4 servings, about 495 calories. each.

COUNTRY FRIED APPLES

2 pounds cooking
apples

'’y cup butter or
margarine

2 tablespoons sugar
1’, teaspoon cinnamon

Core and thinly slice apples. In 12-inch skillet melt

butter or margarine. Add apples. Saute 10 minutes.
Combine sugar and cinnamon; sprinkle over apples.
Cook, stirring occasionally, until tender, about 5 min-
utes more. Makes 4 servings, about 230 calories each.

o make the
spinach salad
as deluxe as the
rest of this dinner, add
mushrooms, red
onions and a little
crumbled blue cheese.

PROCEDURE

1. Start chicken.

2. While chicken is
browning, wash
spinach; drain.

3. Heat water for orzo
while chicken cooks.

4. Make salad.

5. Cook orzo.

CHICKEN OREGANATA

2 garlic cloves, pressed

3 cup lemon juice

I teaspoon oregano

2 tablespoons chopped
parsley

1 broiler-fryer chicken
(3 lbs.), cut into
8 pieces
Salt and pepper
2 tablespoons olive oil

Rinse chicken under cold water. Dry thoroughly.
Sprinkle with salt and pepper. In Dutch oven heat oil.
Add chicken and brown on both sides. Remove from

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Simplify, simplify! Good meals no longer
need two vegetables, salad and dessert.

heat. Transfer chicken to platter; set aside. To drip-
pings add garlic; saute 1 minute. Add lemon juice and
oregano. Return chicken to Dutch oven. Cover; sim-
mer until chicken juices run clear when pricked with
a fork, 20 to 30 minutes. Arrange chicken on serving
platter. Spoon on pan juices and sprinkle with parsley.
Makes 4 servings, about 360 calories each.

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S DERPATIO Ie @ creole creation gets a
head start with frozen
onions, green pepper.
(Toss the extras into

the salad.)
PROCEDURE
1. Start Jambalaya. dessert while
2. Wash salad greens; Jambalaya is
drain. simmering.
3. Make salad and
JAMBALAYA
2 tablespoons salad oil %2 cup water
'’ cup frozen chopped 2 pound kielbasa
onion sausage, sliced
1», cup frozen chopped ' teaspoon salt
green pepper ' teaspoon thyme
2 garlic cloves, pressed leaves
1 rib celery, sliced Yg teaspoon pepper
1 cup long-grain rice '’4 teaspoon bottled red
1 can (16 oz.) stewed pepper sauce
tomatoes 1 package (5 oz.) frozen
1 cup clam juice cooked shrimp

In 3-quart saucepan or large skillet, heat oil. Add
onion, green pepper, garlic and celery. Saute 3 min-
utes. Add remaining ingredients except shrimp; bring
to a boil. Reduce heat, cover and simmer until liquid
is absorbed, 30 minutes. Stir in shrimp. Cover and
cook 5 minutes more. Makes 4 to 6 servings, about
520 calories each per 4, 345 calories each per 6.

MAPLE BANANA PARFAITS

2 cups plain low-fat syrup, divided
yogurt 2 cups sliced bananas

Yq cup plus 4 teaspoons 4 cup granola, divided
maple-flavored

Stir yogurt just until smooth. Spoon 4 cup into each of
4 parfait glasses. Top with 1 tablespoon maple syrup,
then 4 cup bananas. Repeat with remaining yogurt
and bananas. Sprinkle each with 1 tablespoon granola
and drizzle each with 1 teaspoon syrup. Refrigerate up
to 1 hour. Makes 4 servings, about 270 calories each.

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STEAMED RICE Slice and saute it
BUTTERED ZUCCHINI quickly with oregano.
Aopage tse hai And to give the dessert

pineapple some added
spirit, a touch of
creme de menthe.

PROCEDURE
1. Combine milk and 3. Finish liver.
liver. 4. Cook zucchini.
2. Start rice.
LIVER BRAISED IN TOMATO SAUCE
WITH CUMIN
1’, pounds sliced beef 2 garlic cloves, pressed
liver 1 can (16 oz.) crushed
Milk tomatoes,
', cup all-purpose undrained
flour 1 cup beef broth

'/y cup sliced green
onions, divided
1/2 teaspoon sugar

1/z teaspoon salt

Ys teaspoon pepper
1/4 cup salad oil

1 tablespoon cumin

In shallow dish combine liver and just enough milk to
cover. Set aside at room temperature 5 to 10 minutes.
In shallow dish combine flour, salt and pepper. Drain
liver and dip both sides into flour, shaking off excess.
In 12-inch skillet heat oil. Add liver; brown quickly
on both sides. Remove to platter. To drippings in skil-
let add cumin and garlic; saute 1 minute. Add remain-
ing ingredients except 1 tablespoon onion and liver;
cook 5 minutes. Add liver; simmer 3 to 5 minutes.
Garnish with remaining onion. Makes 4 to 6 servings,
about 470 calories each per 4, 315 calories each per 6.

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breaded chicken
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bacon in a super salad
with homemade blue
cheese dressing.

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cook bacon. 4. Toss salad. liquid into small saucepan. Boil rapidly until reduced ra
2. Wash salad greens; 5. Wash strawberries. to ¥% cup. Add cream and salt. Heat through and serve © ‘
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frozen breaded wedges

drumstick-shaped
chicken pieces

4 slices bacon, cut into
1-inch pieces

8 cups torn iceberg
lettuce

4 cups romaine lettuce,
cut crosswise into
'-inch strips

1. cup sweet onion rings
Dressing

1 cup mayonnaise

4/2 cup sour cream

1/4 cup (2 oz.) crumbled
blue cheese

Ye teaspoon pepper

Prepare chicken according to package directions.
Cook bacon until crisp. Drain on paper towels.

In large bowl combine lettuce, tomatoes and onion. ©
In small bowl combine all dressing ingredients; mix
well. Pour over salad; toss. Add chicken and bacon.
Toss again and serve immediately. Makes 4 servings,
about 510 calories each.

immered in a
= wine-and-herb
broth, the flavorful
main-course fish is
completed by the
simple goodness of
steamed broccoli and
stewed tomatoes.

PROCEDURE

1. Start heating
poaching liquid.

2. Prepare vegetables.

3. Poach fish.

POACHED FISH STEAKS WITH
TARRAGON SAUCE

4 fish steaks, about 1
inch thick, cut
from salmon,
halibut or cod

2 cup heavy or
whipping cream

/s teaspoon salt

4. Cook vegetables.
5. Make sauce for fish.

2 cups dry white wine

I cup water

1 small onion,
quartered

2 sprigs parsley

1/2 teaspoon tarragon

1/4 teaspoon peppercorns

In large skillet combine white wine, water, onion,
parsley, tarragon and peppercorns. Bring to a boil.
Add fish in single layer. Reduce heat and simmer
uncovered 15 minutes or until fish is opaque in center.

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every imaginable purpose—paint for
walls, floors, ceilings, tile, cement, even
bathtubs. And you'll find a dizzying ar-
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gloss, semigloss, flat paint, oil-base
paint, latex paint, primers, and more.
Making the right choice can be diffi-
cult. To simplify the subject, we'll talk
only about paint that’s used indoors for
walls, ceilings, furniture and trim.

Let’s start by saying there are only
two main kinds of paint: /atex (or wa-
ter-base) and oil-base.

Latex paints are good for just about
all indoor painting. They’re odor free,
apply easily and dry quickly (some in
just thirty minutes!). They cover effec-
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paint is the cleanup. You can wipe away
drips and splatters as they happen with
a damp cloth—and to clean your equip-
ment, just use soap or detergent and
water before the paint hardens.

An oil-base paint, though, is a better
choice for some jobs, including rooms
where water is used and splashed
around (kitchens, laundry rooms, bath-
rooms) and on trim likely to be scrubbed
frequently (windowsills and doors).

The term oil-base originally referred
to paint that had linseed oil as a base.
But because linseed oil turns paint on
indoor walls yellowish, interior oil-base
paints are now made with synthetic re-
sins or chemical blends instead. (When
used outdoors, though, linseed-base
paint does not discolor.)

If you decide to use oil-base paint,
remember that it has certain disadvan-
tages. It often has a strong odor and
takes longer to dry than latex paint,
sometimes several days. And to clean
away splatters, drips or smudges from
your skin, you must use a flammable
solvent. This must also be used for
cleaning brushes, rollers and paint
pads. (All cleaning cloths should be dis-
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paints are more stain resistant and
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and high-gloss.

Flat paints produce a dull, flat, glar
resistant finish and are most often us¢
on walls and ceilings in living roo
and bedrooms, and on trim that ge
moderate wear. If you want to camo
flage bumpy, uneven surfaces, use fl
paint. The unevenness will seem le
obvious because the surface will not
flect the light. Flat paints are was
able, but do not come as clean as tl
glossier paints.

Semigloss paints produce a little mo
shine than flat paints and are a
washable as well as stain resistay
They’re used mainly in kitchens a
bathrooms and for trim.

High-gloss paints produce a hard, shi
surface that can take a lot of wear a
frequent scrubbing. They’re reco
mended for cabinets, chairs and ot
furniture, and trim. Some manuf:
turers make a high-gloss interior lat
paint, but high-gloss oil-base pair
tend to stand up better.

In between flat and semigloss are t
finishes that are often called “velvet’
“eggshell.” “Satin” is another desc
tion sometimes used by manufacture

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good paint dealer will show you
amples of finishes in stock and pro-
ide information on their use.

RIMERS

primer (also known as a base coat,
1 undercoat or a sealer) is the first coat
at's applied to a surface before paint-
g to provide a coating to which paint
ill adhere. There are four instances
1en using a primer is essential:
When painting new wallboard, bare
od or any unpainted surface.
When painting over a slick surface,
ch as plastic or glass.
When covering a dark surface with
tht paint.
When painting over badly stained or
avily patched surfaces, or over
ightly patterned wallpaper.
mM [here are three main types of prim-
3: oil-base, latex, and the so-called
igmented shellac-base” primers. You
ll probably get better results if you
2 an oil-base primer with an oil-base
int or a latex primer with latex
int. For best results, select your top
it first, read the label carefully and
» buy the primer that’s recom-
mnded for use with it.
Shellac-base primers are used main-
as “stain killers” to camouflage
ined plaster and patterned wall-

paper, wood or metal that has been dis-
colored by tar or creosote, or wood that
has been charred by fire. These primers
also seal sappy wood that would bleed
through other paints. Pigmented shel-
lac-based primers bond securely to non-
porous hard surfaces (plastic, glass,
shiny metal, ceramic tile) to which
paint (or other types of primers) does
not stick easily. The surface can then be
finished with whatever paint you
choose. Denatured alcohol is used to
thin these primers and also to clean up
when the job is done.

SPECIALIZED PAINTS

Ceiling paint. You can use wall paint on
your ceilings if you wish. But if your
ceilings have become yellowed or if they
have been patched, you'll get better
coverage with ceiling paint, which is
thick and hides imperfections in the
surface. Ceiling paints come in both la-
tex and oil-base varieties.

Textured paint. Textured paints, which
come in both oil-base and latex vari-
eties, are flat and heavy-bodied and are
particularly good for camouflaging an
imperfect surface. If you use a roller,
you get a stippled effect. Try a design of
your own when applying textured
paints by twisting the brush back and
forth. Whisk the ceiling with a broom,

or dab it with a sponge or crumbled
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Enamel. Technically, enamel is not con-
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in both oil-base and latex formulations.
Enamel is usually specially formulated
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Epoxy. This is probably the toughest,
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Its flammable and gives off strong
fumes, so work in a well-ventilated
room and follow directions exactly.
Other paints. There are also mildew-
resistant paints and _fire-retardent
paints, stains, shellacs and varnishes. If
you're not sure what paint you need for
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SWEATERS
continued from pages 128-129

GLOSSARY OF ABBREVIATIONS
USED IN INSTRUCTIONS

k = knit rem = remaining
p = purl rep = repeat
st = stitch tog = together
St st = stockinette inc = increase
stitch dec = decrease
sl = slip meas = measure(s)

beg = beginning MC = main color

pat = pattern

dup st = duplicate stitch

PATCHWORK PUT-TOGETHER

(See page 162 for diagram.)

Note: This oversized sweater is easy to knit.
Sizes: Directions are for sizes 8-10. Changes
for sizes 12-14 are in parentheses.

Materials: Pingouin “Pingoland”—75%
acrylic, 25% wool—1% oz. ball (50 grams). 4
(5) each of Rose Indien (Pink) #822 (A), Feu
(Red) #831 (B) and Giroselle (Yellow) #830
(D). 3 (4) of Ecru (White) #853 (C). Size 9
knitting needles, or size to obtain given

gauge. Tapestry needle.
Gauge: Size 9 needles: 3 sts = 1"; 13 rows = 2”.
TO SAVE TIME, TAKE TIME TO CHECK
GAUGE.
Finished measurement at underarm: Approx-
imately 35 (37%)".
Note: Sweater is worked in small and large
patches that are woven tog. The half cross sts
are embroidered when sweater is completed.
Small patches: Make 1 A, 4 B, 3 D. Cast on 13
(14) sts. Work in garter st (k every row) for
22 (23) rows. Bind off.
Large patches: Make 8 A, 8 B, 6 C, 6 D. Cast
on 13 (14) sts. Work in garter st for 44 (48)
rows. Bind off. °
Finishing: Separate Pingoland strands by
untwisting them. Using 1 strand of 1 of the
patch colors, weave patches tog, following
chart for placement. Leave opening for neck
over 2 patches as shown on chart. Following
chart, work half cross st over seams.

PEAL

(See page-165 for diagram.)

Sizes: Directions are for size 8. Changes for
sizes 10,12,14 are in parentheses.

Materials: Pingouin “Pingofrance”’—75%
acrylic, 25% wool—1% oz. ball (50 grams). 7
(8,9,10) Feu (Red) #131 (MC). 1 each of Blanc
(White) #101 (A), Vert Vif (Green) #176 (B)
and Giroselle (Yellow) #130 (C). Sizes 3 and
4 knitting needles, or size to obtain given
gauge. 2 stitch holders and 9 bobbins (if
knitting in B angles and C numbers).
Gauge: Size 4 needles: 6 sts=1"; 8 rows=1".
TO SAVE TIME, TAKE TIME TO CHECK
GAUGE.

Finished measurement at underarm: Approx.
29 (31,33,35)".

Note: Video design can be worked either of 2

ways. 1: MC and A sections are knitted
using a separate ball of yarn for each co
area. B angles are knitted in, using a bob
for each angle (8 bobbins wound with B)
numbers are knitted in, using 1 bobbin &
all numbers and carrying MC or C loos¢
at back of work when not being used. J
2: MC and A sections are knitted in as@
Note 1. Everything else is embroiderediR
duplicate st when piece is completed. §
ways twist yarns on wrong side when chai
ing colors to prevent holes.

Back: With smaller needles and MC, cast
87 (93,99,105) sts. Work in k1, pl ribbing }
2 (2%,2%,3)". Work 1 more row rib, inc
at center—88 (94,100,106) sts. Change
larger needles and St st. Work even u
10% (11%2,12%,13¥%)" from beg or desi
length to underarm, end with a p row.
Armholes: Bind off 4 (5,6,7) sts beg nex
rows—80 (84,88,92) sts. Work even u
armhole meas 6% (634,7,7¥%2)", end with
row. Shape shoulders and neck: Bind of
(8,8,8) sts beg next 2 rows—66 (68,72,
sts. Row 3: Bind off 8 (8,8,9) sts, leave n
14 (14,15,15) sts on needle, sl rem sts t(
holder. Working right side only, bind o
sts, p to end. Bind off rem 8 (8,9,9) sts. Leg
center 22 (24,26,28) sts on holder, s] rem
to larger needle. Work as for right shoul
reversing shaping.

Front: Work same as back until piece m
2% (3,3%,4)” from beg, end with a p row—
(94,100,106) sts. Beg pat. Row 1: With M@®
4 (7,10,13) sts, work row 1 of chart over n¥
80 sts, with another ball MC k 4 (7,10,
sts. Follow center 80 sts from chart oF
work side sts in MC. When front meas sa
as back to underarm, shape armhole

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vack—80 (84,88,92) sts. Work until row 87
bf chart is completed, then work with MC
only for rem of front. Work even until arm-
role meas 4% (4%4,5,5%2)", end with a p row.
Shape neck: K 34 (35,36,37) sts, sl rem sts to
i holder. Working left side only, at neck edge
yind off 3 sts every other row twice, then dec
| st every row twice, every other row 3
jimes—23 (24,25,26) sts. Work until arm-
1ole meas same as back to shoulder, end at
wmhole edge.
jhape shoulder: At arm edge, bind off 7
8,8,8) sts every other row 1 (3,2,1) time,
hen bind off 8 (0,9,9) sts every other row 2
0,1,2) times. Leave center 12 (14,16,18) sts
in holder for front neck, sl rem 34 (35,36,37)
ts to larger needle. Work as for other side,
eversing shaping.
ileeves: With smaller needles and MC, cast
|m 45 (47,51,53) sts. Beg with row 1 and
york in ribbing as lower back for 2
2¥2;242,3)". Work 1 more row rib, inc 12 sts
venly spaced—57 (59,63,65) sts. Change to
jarger needles and St st, inc 1 st each end
very 10th row 10 (11,11,12) times—77
| 31,85,89) sts. Work even until sleeve meas
| 4 (15,16,17)" from beg, or desired length to
) op. Bind off all sts loosely.
4 inishing: Sew left shoulder seam.
4 leckband: With smaller needles, MC, right
ide facing, beg at right back neck edge, pick
4 p and k 91 (95,99,103) sts around neck (in-
4 ludes sts on holders). Work in k 1, p 1 rib for
) rows. Bind off in rib. Sew right shoulder
4 nd neckband seam. If working duplicate st
jjrethod, embroider design following chart
,nto front. Sew in sleeves, sewing straight
dge of sleeve to armhole and bind-offs at
ach armhole. Sew side and sleeve seams.

when changing colors to prevent holes. Dog- iI

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Wye :

Do not block. Wet block. (Wet with cold
water. Roll in a towel to remove excess water.
Lay on a dry towel to measurements. Dry
away from heat.)

Duplicate st (above): Use design chart in
your directions for placing sts. Thread a tap-
estry needle with yarn and fasten on wrong
side of work. *From back, insert needle in
center of st and draw through to front. Slip
needle under two strands of same st as
shown, draw yarn through. Insert needle in
center where it came out, draw through to
back. Rep from*.

DOWNHILL DOGGIES

(See page 164 for diagram.)

Sizes: Directions are for size 6. Changes for
sizes 8 and 10 are in parentheses.

Materials: Brunswick “Germantown Knit-
ting Worsted,” 100% wool—3¥% oz. skein. 2
(2,3) Primary Blue #4242 (A), 1 each of White
#400 (B), Christmas Green #443 (C), Christ-
mas Red #4241 (D), Black #460 (EK), Per-
iwinkle #401 (F) and Saffron #4051 (GQ).
Sizes 6 and 9 knitting needles, or size to
obtain given gauge. 3 stitch holders, 3 but-
tons and ¥% yd. of %"” ribbon.

Gauge: Size 9 needles: 4 sts=1"; 5 rows=1".
TO SAVE TIME, TAKE TIME TO CHECK
GAUGE.

Finished measurement at underarm: Approx.
27% (29¥%2,31¥%2)". Seed st: Row 1: * P 1, k 1;
rep from * across. Row 2: * K over a k and p
over a p; rep from *. Rep row 2 for seed st. _
Note: Dots, front B section and sleeve de-
signs are knitted-in. When working with
more than 1 color, carry color not in use
loosely at back of work, being careful to main-
tain gauge. Always twist yarns on wrong side

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gies and sleds are worked in duplicate st
when garment is completed. Wind a small
ball with B for working knitted-in dots.

Front: With smaller needles and B, cast on
55 (59,63) sts. Work in kl, pl ribbing for 1
(1¥%2,2)". Work 1 more row rib, inc 1 st at
center—56 (60,64) sts. Change to larger
needles and beg pat. Row 1: With B work
seed st over 50 (52,54) sts, with A k 6 (8,10)
sts. Row 2: With A p 7 (9,11) sts, with B work
Seed st across rem of row. Keeping B section
in seed st as established, starting with row 3
follow chart 1. Join small ball of B when
working dots. Work until row 50 (52,54) is
completed. Shape armholes as shown on
chart—44 (48,52) sts. Work until row 60 is
completed. Continue working dots every sev-
enth row as established, being sure dots fall
between dots of previous dot row. Work until
armhole meas 4 (4%2,4%)", end with a p row.
Shape neck: Keeping to dot pat work 13
(14,15) sts, sl rem sts to a holder. Working
left side only, dec 1 st at neck edge every
other row twice—1l1 (12,13) sts. Work even
until entire armhole meas 6 (6%,6%)", end
with a p row. SI sts to a holder for front
button band. Leave center 18 (20,22) sts on
holder for front neck and sl rem 13 (14,15) sts
to larger needle. Work as for left side, revers-
ing shaping, end with a p row. Bind off all sts.
Back: Work as front until ribbing is com-
pleted—56 (60,64) sts. Change to larger nee-
dles and St st. Break off B, join A. Work 6
rows. Row 7: K 1(3,5)A, k 1B, * k 5A, k 1B; rep
from *, end k 0 (2,4) A. Beg with a p row and
work 6 rows with A in St st. Row 14: P 3 (5,7)
A, p 1B, * p 5A, p 1B; rep from *, end p 4
(6,8)A. Rep these 14 rows for dot pat. Work
until there are 50 (52,54) (continued)

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rows above ribbing.

Shape armholes: Work as front—44 (48,52)
sts. Work even until armhole meas 6”
(6¥2,6%4), end with a p row. Bind off 11 (12,13)
sts, with A only k 22 (24,26) sts and sl toa
holder for back neck edge, bind off rem 11
(12,13) sts.

Sleeves: With smaller needles and A, cast on
31 (33,35) sts. Beg with row 1 and work in
rib as lower back for 1% (1%,2%)”. Work 1
more row of ribbing, inc 1 st at center—32
(34,36) sts. Change to larger needles and St
st. Note: * Rows are indicated on chart 2 and
worked in garter st (k every row). Beg
sleeve, starting chart 2 with row 7 (1,1).
Work increases at each side of work as
shown on chart—7 (7,8) increases each side.
Work until row 10 is completed. Row 11: bob-
ble row. Wherever B (bobble) is indicated,
working with G in st work (k 1 front, k 1
back of same st) twice, k 1 front of same st—
5 Gsts on needle, turn, p 5, turn, k 2 tog, k1,
k 2 tog, turn, p 3, turn, with C k 3 tog,
complete row following chart for remaining
bobbles. Work until row 40 is completed.
Work row 41, forming bobbles as established
with F and knitting 3 tog with G. Continue to
follow chart until row 78 is completed—26
(28,32) sts. Keeping to dot pat, dec 1 st each
end every other row 2 (3,4) times more. Bind
off 3 sts beg next 4 rows. Bind off rem sts.
Finishing: Embroider doggies and sleds in
duplicate st on front, following chart 1. Sew
right shoulder seam.

Neckband: With smaller needles, A, right
side facing, beg at left front neck, pick up
and k 67 (71,75) sts around neck edge. Work
in k 1, p1 rib for 4 rows. Bind off in rib.
Left shoulder button band: S] left sts from
holder to smaller needle. Beg at armhole

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edge and k 11 (12,13) sts, pick up and k 4 sts
from beg,along short edge of neckband—15
(16,17) sts. Row 1: Wrong side. * P 1, k 1; rep
from *, end p 1 (0,1). Row 2: Rib 2 (3,4) sts,
yo, dec 1 st, (rib 3 sts, yo, dec 1 st) twice, rib
last st. Next row: Work in rib, working yo
into rib pat. Work 1 more row rib. Bind off in
rib. Overlap buttonhole band on top of left
back shoulder and tack tog at armhole edge.
Sew on buttons opposite buttonholes. Sew in
sleeves. Sew side and sleeve seams. Steam
lightly to measurements. Cut ribbon into 3
equal parts and draw around necks of dog-
gies and tie to form scarfs as shown.
TENNIS MATE

(See page 165 for diagram.)

Note: This is a loose-fitting sweater.

Sizes: Directions are for size 8. Changes for
sizes 10,12,14 are in parentheses.

Materials: Pingouin “Confort”’—50% wool,
40% acrylic, 10% mohair—1% oz. ball (50
grams). 5 (6,7,8) Vert Vif (Green) #141 (MC).
1 ball each of Blane (White) #130 (A) and
Jonquille (Yellow) #101 (B). Sizes 3 and 5
knitting needles, or size to obtain given
gauge. Tapestry needle and 2 buttons.
Gauge: Size 5 needles: 11 sts=2"; 15
rows = 2".

TO SAVE TIME, TAKE TIME TO CHECK
GAUGE.

Finished measurement at underarm: Approx.
30% (32%,34,36¥4)”.

Note: Yoke and sleeve pat are knitted in, fol-
lowing charts 1 and 2. Tennis racket and
balls are worked in duplicate st when gar-
ment is completed. When working with
more than one color, carry yarn not in use
loosely at back of work, being sure to main-
tain gauge.

Back: With smaller needles and MC, cast on
85 (91,95,101) sts. Work in k1, pl ribbing for
2 (2¥2,2%,3)". Change to larger needles and
St st. Work even until 11 (12,13,14)” from

beg, end with a p row. Beg chart 1 as indj
cated for body sizes. Work 6 rows.

Shape armholes: Keeping to pat, bind off
sts beg next 2 rows, then bind off 2 sts be
next 4 rows—71 (77,81,87) sts. Dec 1 st eac
end every other row 4 (5,5,6) times—6
(67,71,75) sts. At same time, when row 19 ¢
chart is completed work with MC only fa
remainder of piece. Work even until armhol
meas 6 (6%, 6%4,7)", end with a p rov
Change to k 1, p 1 rib. Work 6 rows of rik
bing. Bind off in ribbing.

Front: Work same as back until 2 rows 4
shoulder ribbing are completed.
Buttonhole row 1: Work 3 (4,4,5) rib sts, bi
off next 2 sts, work 4 (4,5,5) rib sts, bind o'
next 2 sts, complete row. Row 2: (Work in ri
to bound off sts, cast on 2 sts) twice, com
plete row. Work 2 rows more of rib. Bind o}
in rib.

Sleeves: With smaller needles and MC, cas
on 39 (43,47,51) sts. Work in ribbing 4
lower back for 2 (2%,2%,3)”, end with row
Change to larger needles and St st, inc 8s
evenly spaced across first row—47 (51,55,5$
sts. Work even 10 rows. Inc 1 st each end
next row, then every 10 (10,12,12) rows
times more—59 (63,67,71) sts. Work eve
until 11 (12,13,14)" from beg (continued

OCTOBER RECIPE INDEX

Here is a listing of recipes appearing in this issue, including
those from the Journal kitchen and advertisements.

BROWNIES

Aunt Mary's Seven Layer Bars p. 142

Chocolate Caramel Chewies p. 142

Congo Bars p. 140

Double Fudge Divinity Brownies p. 140

Maida Heattens Greenwich Village Brownies p. 140
Rich Marbled Wonders p. 142

Super-Iced Goodies p. 140

DESSERTS

Cherry Stacks p. 150

Chocolate Mocha Cream p. 150
Easy Peanut Butter Cookies p. 161
Gingered Pineapple Sundae p. 149
“Great Pumpkin Cookies” p. 75
Maple Banana Parfaits p. 155
Strawberry-Glazed Pie p. 110

ENTREES

Almond Shrimp and Peppers p. 28

Armenian Steak with Sauteed Peppers and Toasted
Pita Bread p. 151

Beef with Zucchini and Peppers p. 149

Casserole de Mer p. 142

Cassoulet p. 144

Cheesy Crepes, American Style p. 191

Chicken Oreganata p. 154

Cran-A-Roni p. 152

E} Rancho Chicken p. 150

Estouffade p. 146

Fried Chicken Salad p. 156

Ham with Honey Mustard Glaze p. 153

Italian Spaghetti Squash p. 138

Jambalaya p. 155

Lasagna Milano p. 146

Lattice-Top Chicken Bake p. 148

Liver Braised in Tomato Sauce with Cumin p. 156

PDQ Spaghetti p. 152

Poached Fish Steaks with Tarragon Sauce p. 156

Pork Chops with Lime Sauce p. 152

Salmon Chowder p. 154

Shepherds Pie p. 142

Tuna-Red Pepper Pasta p. i50

Waldorf Casserole p. 144

Yorkshire Sausage p. 154

MISCELLANEOUS

Banana ‘N Nut Muffins p. 203

Curried Squash and Apple Soup p. 138
5-Minute Cheesy Crunch p. 141

Jello 'N Juice p. 159

One-Bow! Buttercream Frosting p. 168
Traditional Chex* Party Mix p. 141

SIDE DISHES

Artichoke Hearts and Green Beans Parmigiana p. 150
Black Beans Especial p. 153

Broiled Bananas p. 153

Country Fried Apples p. 154

Creole Squash p. 138

Mexican Stuffed Squash p. 138

Miss Hullingss Divine Squash and Apples p. 138
Peppery Brussels Sprouts p 152

Sausage-Stuffed Acorn Squash p. 138

Squash Custard Ring p. 138

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or about %” less than desired length to un-
derarm; end with a p row. Follow chart 2 as
indicated for sleeves. Work 6 rows.

Shape cap: Keeping to pat, bind off 3 sts beg
next 2 rows, then bind off 2 sts beg next 2
rows—49 (53,57,61) sts. Dec 1 st each end
every other row 12 (13,14,15) times. Bind off
2 sts beg next 6 rows. Bind off remaining sts.
Finishing: Overlap front neck and shoulder
rib band on top of back rib band and tack at
left armhole edge, then sew about 2 (2,242,2%)”
of right shoulder. Sew in sleeves. Sew on
buttons. Duplicate st tennis racket to front
of sweater, following chart 4, placing it
approx. 2” above ribbing with end of handle
at center front. Follow chart 3 in duplicate st
with B for ball, placing it between right side
edge and racket as shown in picture. On
back of sweater embroider 4 balls with B in
duplicate st, placing first approx. 3” above
ribbing and 5 (5%4,5%,6)" from right side
edge, 2nd ball at 1%” above ribbing and
approx. 7 (7%4,7¥2,7%)” from right side, 3rd
ball at 3” above rib and approx. 4%
(434,5,5¥)” from left side, 4th ball 1” above
ribbing and approx. 2 (24%4,2%,2%4)” from left
side. Sew side and sleeve seams. Steam
lightly to measurements.

FOUR-COLOR FANTASY

(See this page for diagram.)

Note: This oversized, loose-fitting garment
is very easy to knit.

Sizes: Directions are for size 8. Changes for
sizes 10 and 12 are in parentheses.
Materials: Pingouin “Pingoland”—75%
acrylic, 25% wool—1% oz. ball (50 grams). 4
(4,5) each of Rose Indien (Pink) #822 (A)
and Feu (Red) #831 (B). 2 (2,3) each of Ecru
#853 (C) and Giroselle (Yellow) #830 (D).
Size 9 knitting needles, or size to obtain
given gauge. Tapestry needle.

Gauge: Size 9 needles: 3 sts = 1"; 13 rows = 2”.
TO SAVE TIME, TAKE TIME TO CHECK
GAUGE.

Finished measurement at underarm: Approx-
imately 33% (34%4,36)". Note: Sweater is
worked in panels that are woven tog. The
half cross sts are embroidered when sweater
is completed.

A Panels: Make 2. With A, cast on 26 (27,28)
sts. Work in garter st (k every row) for 18%
(19%,20¥)”. Bind off.

B Panels: Make 2. Using B, work same as
for A panel.

C Panels: Make 2. With C, cast on 26 (27, ea
sts. Work garter st for 10% (11%,12%)”
desired length for sleeve. Bind off.

D Panels: Make 2. Using D, work same as
for C panel.

Finishing: Separate Pingoland strands by
untwisting them. Use 1 strand of one of the
panel colors and weave each A panel toa B
panel (center front and back). Weave shoul-
ders tog, leaving center 62 (7,7¥2)" open for
neck. Weave each C panel to a D panel (cen-
ter of sleeve). Match center of sleeve to
shoulder and weave shoulder edges to sides
of front and back. Weave side and sleeve
seams in corresponding colors. Following
chart, work half cross st over seams as
shown.

BE A CLOWN

(See this page for diagram.)

Note: This is a loose-fitting sweater.

Sizes: Directions are for size 6. Changes for
sizes 8 and 10 are in parentheses.

Materials: Anny Blatt “Folie’—53% mohair,
34% wool, 13% acrylic—40 gram ball. 3 (4,4)
each of Ink Blue (A), 4 (5,5) Med. Blue (B), 1

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each of Raspberry (C), Yellow (D) and White
(E). Sizes 5 and 6 knitting needles, or size to
obtain given gauge. 2 stitch holders, 7 bob-
bins and size F aluminum crochet hook for
rope. Small amount of 1”- to 1%"-wide lace.
Gauge: St st on size 6 needles: 9 sts= 2”; 6
rows= 1".
TO SAVE TIME, TAKE TIME TO CHECK
GAUGE.
Finished measurement at underarm: Approx-
imately 29% (314%,33)".
Note: Wind 3 bobbins with B, 2 bobbins with
D, 1 bobbin with C and 1 bobbin with E.
Always twist yarns on wrong side when
changing colors, to prevent holes. Large sec-
tions of clown are worked with bobbins.
Feet, hands and dots are worked in dupli-
cate st. Nose, eyes and rope are embroidered
when piece is completed. Rope is crocheted
in a chain st and sewn to front as shown.
Back: With smaller needles and A, cast on 63
(67,71) sts. Work in k 1, p 1 ribbing for 7
rows. Change to larger needles, B and St st.
Inc 5 sts evenly spaced across first row—68
(72,76) sts. Work even until 11 (12,13)” from
beg or desired length to underarm, ending
with a p row.
Shape armholes: Bind off 3 sts beg next 2
rows. Dec 1 st each end every other row 3
times—56 (60,64) sts. Work even until
armhole meas 5¥ (6,64%2)", end with a p row.
Shape shoulders: Bind off 9 sts beg next 2
rows, then bind off 8 (9,10) sts beg next 2
rows—22 (24,26) sts. S] remaining sts to a
holder for back neck edge.
Front: Work same as back until there are 4B
rows above ribbing—68 (72,76) sts. Note:
Feet are worked on afterward in duplicate st
over 3rd and 4th row. Row 5: With B, k 18
(20,22) sts, follow chart over next 32 sts,
work remaining 18 (20,22) sts with another
ball of B. Keep to chart over 32 sts and work
with B over remaining sts on each side.
Work as back until armhole meas 3% (4,4%)",
end with a p row. When chart is completed,
work with B only—56 (60,64) sts.
Shape neck: K 23 (24,25) sts, sl center 10
(12,14) sts to a holder for front neck edge,
join a 2nd ball B and k 23 (24,25) sts. Work
both sides at the same time. Dec 1 st at each
neck edge every row twice, every other row 4
times—17 (18,19) sts each side. Work’ until
armhole measures same as back to shoulder.
Shape shoulders: At each arm edge, bind off
9 sts once, 8 (9,10) sts once.
Sleeves: With smaller needles and B, cast on
33 (35,37) sts. Work in k 1, p 1 ribbing for 7
rows. Change to larger needles, A and St st.
Work even 1”. Inc 1 st each end of next row,
then every 1" 6 (7,8) times more—47 (51,55)
sts. Work even until 12 (13,14)" from beg or de-
sired length to underarm, end with a p row.
Shape cap: Bind off 3 sts beg next 2 rows. Dec
1 st each end every row 8 times—25 (29,33)
sts, every other row 6 (7,8) times. Bind off 2
sts beg next 2 rows. Bind off remaining sts.
Finishing: Sew left shoulder seam.
Neckband: With smaller needles and A,
right side facing, pick up and k 69 (73,77) sts
around neck (this includes sts on holders).
Work in k 1, p 1 rib for 5 rows. Bind off
loosely in rib. Duplicate st hands, feet and
dots on clown, following chart. With C em-
broider a large french knot in center of face
for nose. Embroider 2 running sts with B on
each side of nose for eyes. With crochet hook
and C make a chain approximately 19” long,
or length needed. Beg and ending at hands,
sew chain to front as shown. Gather one long
edge of lace and sew to neck of clown. Sew in
sleeves. Sew side and sleeve seams. Steam
lightly to measurements. End

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uterine cavity through the fallopian
tubes—onto the surface of the ovary or
bowel, or the lining of the abdominal
cavity. The tissue, although in an ab-
normal location, continues its cyclic
activity and may break down each
month, causing increased menstrual pain.
Treatment depends on the severity
and the extent of the condition, which
can be determined by laparoscopic ex-
amination (looking into the abdomen
with a lighted instrument through a
small incision made near the navel).
Treatment might consist of oral con-
traceptives or more powerful hormones,
such as Danazol and Megace, or surgery.
Pregnancy will also cure the condition.

Decreasing fertility

When a woman approaches her mid- to
late thirties, ovulation is often not as
regular as when she was younger. She
may fail to produce an egg two or three
months out of the year and therefore
cannot become pregnant during these
barren cycles. As time goes on, the
number of estrogen-producing follicles
in the ovary also decreases, which

~ makes the estrogen-dependent tissues

of the uterine lining, where the egg is
implanted after fertilization, less effi-
cient, and so an egg is less likely to
become implanted.

All the eggs a female will ever have
are contained in her ovaries at birth.
Natural aging of these eggs may cause
increased incidence of fetal abnor-
malities and an increased rate of spon-
taneous abortion during the first three
months of pregnancy. But the over-
whelming odds are that if a woman be-

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comes pregnant in her thirties and car-
ries to term, she will have a normal
baby. For a woman over thirty-five, ge-
netic counseling may help in deciding
whether to have amniocentesis (sam-
pling of the fluid surrounding the fetus)
to rule out common birth defects.

Fibroid tumors

Fibroids, or leiomyomas, are the most
common benign tumors of the uterus.
They appear during the reproductive
years and are therefore probably linked
to hormonal stimulation.

Fibroids are solid, benign growths
within the muscular wall of the uterus,
enclosed in a capsule that separates
them from the surrounding tissue.
Often more than one fibroid appears.
Most cause no symptoms, and a woman
will not even realize she has them.
However, she may notice symptoms of
submucous fibroids, which lie just be-
neath the endometrium. Although
rare, they may cause excessive men-
strual bleeding because they distort the
lining of the uterus. Some women may
have such heavy bleeding that they be-
come anemic. In such cases surgical re-
moval of the fibroid or a hysterectomy
is often recommended.

Submucous fibroids can also cause
severe menstrual pain. Because of their
location just under the endometrium,
they may not be detected by a doctor
during a manual pelvic exam, but they
can be detected by pelvic ultrasound.

Fibroids are one of the most common
reasons for hysterectomy. I am con-
vinced that many of these hysterec-
tomies are unnecessary and that most
fibroids should just be watched.
However, for the more unusual situa-
tions—if the fibroids are very large or
have increased very rapidly in size,
obstruct the kidneys or interfere with
bowel movement—surgery may be re-
quired. But my advice to most asymp-
tomatic patients with fibroids is to con-
tinue to have regular checkups and
pelvic sonograms if necessary, and to
watch and wait. With menopause fi-
broids will usually decrease in size.

Benign breast masses

Cysts are the most common benign
problem of the breasts, occurring in
perhaps 30 percent of women. Lumps
that swell and become tender before
menses and then become smaller and
less tender afterward are probably
cysts. Fluctuations in size are rare in
other benign as well as in malignant
tumors of the breast. Cystic breasts,
the condition also known as fibrocystic
disease or chronic cystic mastitis, is the
source of much concern, for it is often
confused with malignancy. Cysts are
most usually found in women in the
thirty - to- forty age group, though they

may occur any time during a woman’s
reproductive life. However, after a
woman is a year or two into meno-
pause, cysts rarely develop.

Although cysts rarely become can-
cerous, women who have very large cysts
are at somewhat greater risk. It is also
more difficult to detect a tumor when
multiple cysts are present, so women
who have them should be examined by a
doctor two to four times a year.

Fibroadenomas, another kind of be-
nign breast mass, are less common in
women over thirty-five than in younger
women. Fibroadenomas are firm, smooth,
rubbery and not painful, and several
are often present at the same time.
They don’t adhere to the surrounding
tissue and will move from side to side
as you push them. These tumors are
often removed using local anesthesia
and studied microscopically to be cer-
tain they are not malignant.

Osteoporosis

We build bone mass until we are about
thirty-five years old. Exercise and a
good diet with plenty of calcium and
vitamin D are essential to replete our
bones with a strong mineral content.
Unfortunately, most women have chron-
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they are weight-conscious and do not
consume sufficient amounts of milk
and other dairy products.

Calcium deficiency plus the in-
creased bone breakdown from the loss
of female hormones at menopause is
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tle bones). Osteoporosis is largely re-
sponsible for 132,000 hip fractures
yearly in American women, which di-
rectly result in the death annually of
more than 58,000 women. To help build
bones, nutritionists recommend that
young women supplement their diet
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door was locked. With a sinking feel-
ing, they realized she was gone. Roy
jimmied the lock and the door fiew
open. An autumn chill blew through
the open window.

“After I was restricted for the summer
because of the overdose, I'd wait till ev-
erybody was asleep, then I’d sneak out
the window. I’d go joyriding with
friends, kids from the neighborhood, in
cars we'd ‘borrow’ from our families or
neighbors. We usually did drugs—a hit
of speed, a tab of acid, angel dust, a
couple of joints or uppers or downers.

“Sometimes Id go out alone. See, even
though I ran around with this group at
school, I felt lonely. When I overdosed in
the spring, not one person came to see
me,and I felt bad about that. I'd go sit in
a field for hours, picking out the con-
stellations in the sky and wondering
where I fit into it all. My best friend was
really my sister Sandi. I turned her on
to drugs when she was about thirteen,
partly to keep her from snitching, but
mainly because she always wanted to do
what I did. She liked what I liked; she
looked up to me.”

Seeing the stricken look on Jean’s face,
the policeman sought to comfort her.
“Don’t worry, Mrs. Richwein, it’s just
kids being kids.”

Kids just being kids, thought Jean
as she waited for Roy to return from the
precinct. How much could “normal ado-
lescent behavior” cover? At least there
weren't any drugs that night. The po-
lice told Jean that they searched the
kids and the car and had found none.

Roy was seething. The sight of his
daughter in the holding cell hurt and
angered him. “I was too soft,” he decided.

| He had to run a tighter ship, turn this
| thing around before it got out of control.

“We weren’t doing anything wrong!”

| screamed Karyn. “It was his sister's car.

Didn’t you ever go out looking for fun
when you were a kid?”

“You're restricted again until I tell
you otherwise,” shouted Roy. He stormed
off to bed, leaving Jean alone in the
kitchen with her daughter.

“Tm sorry.” Karyn was conciliatory.

| She looked like a lost urchin, and Jean

felt her anger melting. She thought, If

only she yelled and screamed at meg
like she does at her father, it would be
easier to discipline her. But she knew

| that for the next two weeks at least,

| sively awake. “I wonder

Karyn would do the housework, be
charming and funny, and Roy’ss strict-
ness would appear even more unfair.
Upstairs in the bedroom they shared,
the two youngest girls lay apprehen-
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what she did now?” said nine-year-old
Wendy to her older sister Dianne.

“J don’t know and I don’t care.” The
reply was cynical for an eleven-year-
old. “Go to sleep, Wen.” Dianne was
frightened. The police and everything.
She cried softly into her pillow.

The Richwein home was becoming a
battlefield. The more Roy cracked
down—giving Karyn more and more
chores to do and curtailing her social
life—the more intractable she became,
and Sandi was picking up some of the
same bad habits. Jean felt alone and
under siege; Roy used work more and
more as an excuse to stay away from
home, and she resented the way he
came in, laid down the law and then
left it to her to enforce it.

The rifts between Jean and Roy were
widening, and Karyn and Sandi, now
fifteen and fourteen years old, seemed
to know exactly how to drive the wedge
in deeper.

“Dave pulled out a gun and pointed it at
me. I was frightened but fascinated. I
knew it was going to be a different kind of
Joyride that night. The guys were trying to
impress us with how tough they were.
‘We're going to rob a 7-Eleven. Wanna
come?’ Candy and I didn’t want any part
of it, so I told them to drop us off at my
boyfriend Robert’s house and to come pick
us up only if they didn’t rob the store. I
was really glad Sandi hadn’t come with
us that night. When the car pulled up
later, we saw all these cartons of cigarettes
and cash in the back seat, but nobody said
anything. A couple of weeks later I almost
Jumped out of my skin when Mom showed
me a newspaper article about the armed
robbery. ‘Don’t you know these guys?’ she
asked me. I answered something lame
like, ‘Yeah, what a shock! They're from
such good families, too.”

Jean was just about to go out the door
when the phone rang. She’d taken the
afternoon off from her part-time job at
the hospital to spend several hours
with Dianne and Wendy. It was their
annual school field day.

The police were on the phone. They
wanted her to pick up Karyn at school
and bring her to the station imme-
diately. Her name had come up in con-
nection with the armed robbery she
had read about in the papers.

Jean tried to keep her quaking voice
under control. “I’m going to take you to
school, but I can’t stay. Karyn’s in se-
rious trouble, and I have to help her.”

Wendy’s large brown eyes became
thoughtful. “Does this mean there's
going to be a lot of yelling and crying
when Daddy comes home?”

170

“T hate her!” snapped Dianne. “Why
doesn’t she go away and leave us alone!”

“Dianne!” Jean took her daughter's
face in her hands and held it close. “You
don’t mean that. There’s not enough
love in this family right now, and that’s
part of the problem. Please help me,”
she pleaded to both her daughters. “I
promise you I'll make it right again,
and there won’t be any more screaming
or yelling.” As much as she meant it,
the promise sounded hollow.

“T don’t know what's going on, but I
have a feeling you do,” Jean accused
Karyn as they drove toward the police
station. She warned her, “If you’ve ever
told the truth in your life, now is the
time to tell it. I've always protected
you, but this time it’s out of my hands.”

At the police station, fear erased Ka-
ryn’s usually smug demeanor, and she
answered the detective’s questions hon-
estly. Satisfied that she had no part
in the robbery, he told Jean that no
charges would be pressed.

True to her word, Jean saw that
there was no more screaming and yell-
ing at the house that night. There were
a lot of slamming doors, however, and
behind them, the family brooded in fear,
anger and pain.

“T really felt awful when I hurt my fam-
ily, especially my mom. But no matter
how hard I tried to be good, I ended up
making a mess of things. I'd work real
hard at school and at the end of the
term, I couldn’t even pass gym. My par-
ents decided that Sandi and I would
transfer to Mount De Sales Academy,
the Catholic school, and repeat our
school year because our marks were so
bad. They thought that it would get us
away from the bad element, but the bad
element is everywhere. I was the bad
element; that’s how I thought of myself.

‘At Mount De Sales, I was deter-
mined to do good and even got some A’s
first term,then I just fell flat on my face.
I felt even more worthless and hopeless.
I was losing my self-esteem because of
boys, too. Among the heads I hung
around with, sex was expected.

“One day Sandi and I were at a party
when a guy pulled out some cocaine and
a needle and started to shoot up. “Can
you do that to me?” I asked him, and he
said sure. It was the most incredible
high, and after that I started shooting
up a lot. Then I began stealing money
from family and friends, small amounts
that weren’t noticed.

“I wore long-sleeved blouses, but I
never worried about Mom finding out. I
mean, who checks a sixteen-year-old
girl’s arms for needle tracks?”

Jean had a strong suspicion that Karyn
was on drugs, but she could get no help
or confirmation from professionals.

After they exhausted the reso
the school guidance counselors
drug counselors, the Richweins
Karyn to a widely known psychologi}
who again tried to allay their fears.
wouldn’t be unduly worried abg
drugs, Mrs. Richwein,” said the p:
chologist. “Karyn has emotional p
lems at school and at home. You a
Mr. Richwein have to learn to let
stop imposing your morality on her.
time, these things have a way of cle:
ing up on their own.”
But the relief that Jean felt wher
professional attempted to reassure }
lessened as the months went by. Wh
ever she brought up the possibili
Karyn’s continued drug use to a co
selor, psychologist or teacher, the
dismiss the idea.
When Karyn became ill with heps
tis, Jean braced herself again for c
firmation that Karyn was on drugs.
knew that hepatitis could be transmit
through dirty needles, and was often
illness of addicts. She confronted the
diatrician who had cared for Kai
since she was six. “Is there any way
is related to drugs?” she asked.
“Only insofar as it’s a reaction
prescription I gave your daughter
that bad sinus infection, Mrs. Ri
wein,” he replied.
Jean caught his eye and looked
him directly. “I meant street drugs.
“Not to my knowledge,” the doc
replied, meeting her gaze. Once agai
Jean seemed to be the only one v
was convinced that Karyn’s proble
were drug-related.

“When I was a little girl, my father
me fishing. When I saw the fish flapp
in the fish box, I screamed, ‘They’re §
focating!’ and I threw water on the
they wouldn’t die. That’s the way I
on drugs—like a fish flapping ¢
dying in the hot sun. I couldn’t comp’
a thought or a sentence, and I felt
my head was going to split open
didn’t physically hold it together.
“One day I came home from sc.
tripping on acid. Voices in my
were screaming how worthless I was
I tried to drown them out by turni
my stereo real loud. Dianne came u
tell me to turn it down. I picked u
pair of scissors and threw them at |
missing her by inches. She just st
there looking at me, terrified.”

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about the scissors incident.
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or for yourself. Pack your bags |
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ird for the first time in her life. Her
ind stinging, she left the room,
imbed five stairs and collapsed in
bs against the railing. Violence never
lved anything, and she knew she had
me it out of frustration and rage.
ill, Jean fought back the urge to apol-
ize. She wanted Karyn to know just
iw angry she was, and she resolved
it to undermine her own authority as
e had done so many times before.
That evening, long after everybody
se had gone to bed, Jean stayed
yake, lying on the living-room couch
id thinking. It was there that Karyn
and her mother. Karyn’s face had
en scrubbed clean and she wore a
ghtgown. Jean was always amazed at
‘w young and innocent her daughters
oked after they put away the hard,
ude adult masks they wore during
e day. She felt her anger melting and
e opened her arms. Crying, Karyn
id her head in her mother’s lap.
“Karyn, what is it?” asked Jean. She
100thed her daughter’s hair as she
d done so many times before.
“Mama, I think I’m going insane.”
“You can tell me, Karyn. [Il
derstand.”

Then, never once looking at her, Ka-
n told Jean about her drug-taking in
ong, scorching litany, and concluded,
was going to shoot up heroin this
ekend. Mother, I need help.”

As Jean listened quietly, she felt a
zhtmarish fog lift. She could see the
idscape for the first time. It was a
2ak landscape, but at least she felt as
she were seeing clearly. “You're pre-
us to me, darling. I promise that
ur daddy and I will do everything to
2 that you will be well again. You
ver need to worry. It’s all over.” They
4) there for hours in silence, Karyn in
etal position on her mother’s lap, un-
Jean went to tell Roy.

The next day, Roy and Jean called
2 family together and told them
out the gravity of Karyn’s problem.
len they decided that the best move
uld be to enroll Karyn in a drug-
1abilitation program as quickly as
ssible. There were four thousand
ug programs in the country to choose
Hm. After a couple of days of frantic
one calls, the Richweins spoke with
2 parents of one of Karyn’s class-
ites, who were pleased with the prog-
ess their daughter was making at a
ll-known psychiatric hospital in Texas.
#yan and Roy were assured that their
ughter would be well at the end of
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through the locked doors of the drug-
abuse ward of the hospital, Karyn
turned to give her parents a weak
smile. Jean lifted praying hands to her
lips: “Dear God, help her.”

“T was terrified on that first day. Every-
one was staring at me as I walked down
the dormitory hall with my suitcase. A
guy came up to me and asked me if I
had any pot. I thought he was kidding.
He wasn’t. I spent most of my time there
high on the prescription drugs the doc-
tors gave me.

“When I left, they put me on lithium
‘to even out my emotional peaks and
valleys,’ they said. I left Texas with a
prescription, a new boyfriend and the

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feeling that I was really straight be-
cause I wasn’t doing street drugs.”

The hospital sent Jean and Roy regular
reports of the therapies and medica-
tions that Karyn was receiving on a
daily basis. It took a leap of faith for
Jean to be convinced that treating drug
abuse with another type of drugs was
going to solve the problem. But any res-
ervations that Jean had evaporated when
Karyn came home. She was better
dressed and her manner was congenial.
She even looked healthier. Jean thought
she had her daughter back again.
Karyn and Sandi began working at a
local antidrug organization that Roy
and Jean had started while (continued)

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their daughter was in Texas. The girls
spent every Friday night at the center,
working as drug counselors and discus-
sion leaders. There, two months after
Karyn’s return, Sandi confronted her,
“You're stoned, aren’t you, Karyn?”

Jean knew there was trouble again,
too, and it made her feel like a fool. The
replay of tensions and arguments at
home took away the last vestiges of her
hope. Instinct told her that Karyn was
back on drugs and that Sandi was be-
coming deeply involved as well. While
cleaning Sandis room, she found a
drawing that seemed to confirm her
suspicions. It was of an eyeball drip-
ping blood and tears.

The depth of her despair came to her
one night while she waited up, as she
always did, for Karyn and Sandi to re-
turn home from a double date. They
were late—it was well past their mid-
night curfew—and she became fearful.
She was shocked to find herself think-
ing, I hope there was an accident. I
hope they are dead. Then, at least, it
would all be over, finally over. At least
that way she would no longer be im-
prisoned by hope. And she would know
that nobody could hurt them, and that
they could no longer hurt the family.
The lights of the car interrupted her
thoughts, and she felt guilty. Has it
come to this? she thought.

Jean confided her fears to her hus-
band. “I’m worried, Roy,” she told him
one night as they lay in bed. “I’m wor-
ried that we're not going to make it.”
That night Jean confided in Roy, pour-
ing out feelings about their marriage
that she had held in check for the twen-
ty years they had been together. She
was scared. She’d never been so open
and honest with him, or so vulnerable.
Please don’t block me out, she thought.

Roy listened and then spoke softly. “I
don’t know how you've put up with me
all these years, Jean,” he responded
tenderly. “I’ve always been terrified
that you’d leave me. I know Id be lost.”
But that night they talked until dawn.

In a diary entry from that weekend,
Roy wrote, “As long as my wife and
I love each other, no matter what hap-
pens to the kids, we can handle it.”

“Sandi and I decided to run away when
I was seventeen and she was sixteen. My
parents had forbidden us ever to see our
boyfriends, Dan and John, again, and
so, because they were being evicted from
their apartment, they said, ‘Why don’t
you come with us to California?’ That
morning I went into Wendy’ room. I
hugged her and said, ‘I love you very
much.’ I did the same to Dianne and my
mom. I knew it would hurt them, but I

174

thought, I’m a screw-up. They'll be bet-
ter off without me.”

Something snapped in Jean when she
received the phone call from the high
school telling her that the girls had
been seen leaving school in a station
wagon with two young men, and that a
student had overheard them talking
about their plans to run away to Cal-
ifornia. How could they do this to me?
thought Jean. If they really loved me,
how could they do this?

After the call, Jean went up to her
daughters’ rooms. She ripped down
rock ’n’ roll posters, tore clothes off
hangers, and piled books, records and
magazines in a heap in the middle of
the floor, as if to torch the sordid past in
a bonfire. Dianne came into the room
and sat on the bed, watching her
mother work with increasing frenzy.
She was frightened. “Mom, our whole
family is falling apart.”

Jean stopped and remembered the

promise she had given to her younger,

daughters, the promise to make things
right again. What am I doing?, she
thought. I have a family to take care of.
She embraced Dianne tightly, and they
wept in each other's arms. Strength-
ened by prayer, Jean plotted to bring
everybody back together again. That
was all that mattered.

Roy’s reaction to the girls’ running
away was different. He was overcome
with a fierce anger. Running away was
the final, unforgivable outrage. As Roy
saw it, Sandi was just a follower, but
Karyn had jerked and pulled apart
their lives for far too long. I don’t even
want a Christmas card or a birthday
card or a Father’s Day card from her, he
thought bitterly.

Knowing how strongly Roy felt about
Karyn’s betrayal, Jean decided to ar-
gue only on Sandi’ behalf. She felt that
if she could convince Roy to help Sandi,
eventually she could reason with him
to help Karyn, too. She told him, “This
is the first time Sandi has really done
anything so very bad. I think she de-
serves a chance.” Roy agreed.

This time, the Richweins decided to
look into a Florida-based drug-rehabil-
itation program called Straight Incor-
porated. Staff members from Straight
had spoken at the local antidrug orga-
nization. Although Straight’s methods
are controversial, Jean had been im-
pressed with the program’s emphasis
on family participation, the use of peer
pressure, and the fact that, unlike the
program in Texas, Straight was totally
drug-free. She had told Roy, “If we need
help again, this is where we'll go.”

The Richweins flew to Florida to
meet with the program directors.

The counselors at Straight told the
Richweins that if they could get Sandi

to the clinic, they would do the resj
When the meeting was over, Jean lin
gered in the office after Roy left 4
whisper that they would eventually bh
bringing in two of their daughters.

Three days after the girls had
away, Jean began to get calls from Ka
ryn. They were brief, since the gir
didn’t want them to be traced. The
were in St. Louis, they were in La
Vegas, they had arrived in San Fran
cisco and were staying with the grand
mother of one of the boys. When Ka
called again, Jean told her, “There's
prepaid ticket for Sandi at the Sa
Francisco airport. It can’t be cashed in
If she is not on the next plane for home
Karyn, you better start running, be
cause I’m hiring a private detective
track you down and press charges
You'll be eighteen soon, but Sandi's
derage. We'll prosecute you.”

“T felt guilty about Sandi, so I mad
sure she was on that plane. Then Da
and I took off for Los Angeles. We staye
in Venice in the garage of a house tha
Dan’s sister shared with a bunch of roc
musicians. One day, walking along t

beach, I remembered the time when
was a child and we were moving fro
Florida to Maryland. It was dark, earl
in the morning, and the four of us

was six, Sandi was five and Dianne a

Wendy were babies—were lying in th
back of the station wagon, our limbs a
tangled and warm. I remember looki

up at the stars and feeling so secure an
happy. Merry Land, I thought. We’
going to Merry Land. When I came bac
to the garage, I didn’t have any drugs
so I just took out this hypo I found o
the dirty floor of a closet in the house.
stuck it in my arm, withdrew blood
and then shot it back in again. I hope
an air bubble would travel to my heart.

Back home, Jean prayed as she pace
back and forth, waiting for the phone t
ring. She instinctively knew tha
Karyn would call that night, and s
was ready. She and Roy had been shu
tling to and from Florida durin
Sandi’ first weeks in Straight, goin
through parent orientation. They we
scheduled for their last weekend. Im
pressed with the program and Sandi
progress, Jean convinced Roy that Ke
ryn, too, deserved one last chance.

When the phone rang, Jean took
deep breath. “Karyn, Sandi's in a drug
rehab center in Florida. We’re going t
visit her this weekend. If you can gé
away, why don’t you join us there?” s
said as nonchalantly as possible. “Yo
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SSS sss sss
i ords were slurred and she’d dropped
jie phone.
How much more time does she have?
»an wondered as she knitted a scarf
te into that night. She knew parents
hose sons and daughters had been re-
irned to them in coffins with an enve-
pe of personal belongings. Drugs
ere such arbitrary killers.
When Karyn called back to tell her
other she’d meet them in Florida,
:an’s heart didn’t leap for joy; she just
»pt knitting quietly. A family can fall
pieces so quickly, she thought, and
metimes you can never patch it up
rain. Jean hoped she could pull her
tughter back from the precipice on
hich she stood.
“Oh, my God!” gasped Jean when
aryn got off the plane at the Tampa
rport. She looked like a skeleton.
1e'd lost twenty pounds, and dark cir-
2s shadowed her eyes. She wore
readbare jeans and plastic heels. Her
eached hair was a mess. Roy, satisfied
at his daughter was on the plane,
rned and went back to the car. Jean
abraced her daughter warmly, feeling
x ribs protruding from under her
impy top. Then she grabbed her
ughter’s hand and held it tightly un-
they reached the motel. If I let go,
an thought, I'll lose her forever.
The next morning Karyn was signed
to Straight. When Jean came into the
om to say good-bye to her daughter,
aryn indignantly said, “You lied to
2!” Her mother smiled at the irony
jd gave her daughter the scarf she
d knitted for her. “The nights can be
ol.” As she watched her daughter go
rough the doors, Jean leaned on Roy’s
oulder and cried with relief and hope
- the first time in four long, battle-
arred years.

felt like a wild animal in a cage at
raight. I punched and kicked and
-eamed, but they told me that even if I
n away, they could get a court order to
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st couple of days, you’re not allowed
say anything in group. You have to
ten to other kids talk about their lone-
ess and their problems with drugs. I
lized that I wasn’t alone. For the first
ae I could share my feelings. After
ree months, I was standing up in
mt of the group, and the director
ked me, ‘How do you feel about what
u've done?’ And I stood there, silent. I
nught about all the pain I'd caused
dall the hurt I felt, and I didn’t know
vat to say. He asked again. And all of
sudden I was hit with these emotions
d feelings, and I just started crying. I
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upon wave of sobs. See, I never forgave
myself for anything until that moment.
I was dead inside. Now I was beginning
to see something green and alive within
me. Then, at another group session with
parents present, they passed around the
microphone and my father asked me to
forgive him and then he told me that he
forgave me and that he loved me. ‘I love
you, too, Dad and Mom,’ I said, and I
felt beautiful and worth something,
really worth something.”

It’s been two years since Karyn and
Sandi went into the Straight drug-re-
habilitation program. The Richweins
live in Glenwood, Maryland, now. They
have left in Ellicott City the memories

that are painful to recall even now. Ka-
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gram after fifteen months. Today, the
girls, who still live at home, are pulling
top grades at a local community college
and are active in church and communi-
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been easy, and it has involved every
~member of the Richwein family.

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continued

which took place at Straight (the orga-
nization now has a branch in nearby
Virginia) and at the Richwein home,
have continued each week since then.

“The most difficult thing for us to do,
especially for me,” says Roy, “has been
to get in touch with our feelings after
repressing them for so long. We were so
rigid, which is common among families
with drug problems. I always thought
that being open, or admitting that I
was wrong, was a sign of weakness.”

In the long talks he has since had
with his daughters, Roy says he was
stunned to discover that all through
the harrowing experience, Karyn never
forgot that the one time she knew that
her father loved her was when he cried
with her after the overdose at school
when she was fourteen. “She carried
this memory like some weather-beaten
memento. I’ve since learned that shar-
ing your feelings is the only way to
show somebody that you really care.
Children shouldn’t have to grab desper-
ately at brief glimpses of love from
their parents,” he says emotionally.

“Tt takes humility to admit you’re
powerless to deal with this problem
alone,” adds Jean. “I always thought I
could control the problem. Then when
we went to Straight, I balked at the
idea that we, the family, were sick.”
Jean winces. “It’s hard to hear that I
sometimes did and sometimes may be
doing things that are not in the best
interests of my family. But I’ve learned
not to be threatened if my family knows
that I’m not perfect, just human.”

Jean says her desire for everything to
be perfect led her to cover up and to
deny what was happening for so long.
She says that her biggest blunder was
to assume the responsibility for Karyn
and Sandi’s mistakes. “They never had
to accept the consequences of their
drug-taking,” says Jean. “I did. If chores
didn’t get done and Roy was due home,
I’d do them just to keep peace in the
family. Of course I resented it, but I’d
vent my frustration on Roy, not the
girls. The most important lesson we’ve
learned is that your child must accept
responsibility for what he or she is do-
ing, not only to herself, but to the whole
family, and not only accept respon-
sibility, but do something about it.”

Looking younger than her nineteen
years in a pink cashmere sweater and
gray pleated skirt, Sandi admits that
for a long time, she blamed everybody
but herself for her problems. When she
realized that she was doing drugs be-
cause she chose to do so, not because of
her sister, or because her life was so
terrible, she was able to grow beyond
her bitterness and anger.

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Sandi believes that the biggest mis-
take her parents made during her bout
with drugs was to underestimate the
girls’ resourcefulness in keeping the
truth from them. “We could play them
against each other,” she observes.
“When they started acting as a team,
then we knew we couldn’t get around
that, so we ran away.”

For Karyn, now twenty, accepting re-
sponsibility for what she did to her
family took a long time, and the proc-
ess still continues. Dressed in jeans
and a sweater decorated with hearts,
which she would have scorned in her
drug phase, she speaks haltingly of the
brutal experience that still haunts her.

She says that she regrets having irre-
trievably lost a whole chunk of her life
to drugs. She is sorry she missed out on
simple things, like her senior prom and
having a girlfriend she could trust.
And she has regrets about more serious
matters as well, such as turning other
people on to drugs.

She acknowledges that staying
straight is not easy, because drugs have
such a glamorous image in American
culture. “It’s easy to glamorize my
past,” she says, “but [ve just got to
remember the terrible feelings of worth-
lessness and self-hate, and I know I
never want to go back to that.”

Wendy and Dianne, now thirteen and
fifteen, realize more than most kids
their age the damage that drugs can in-
flict on a family. “I used to feel cheated,”
remembers Dianne. “I was frightened of
my sisters and thought our family would
never get together again. Now I think
we're closer than other families because
we talk a lot about how we feel.”

“When kids at school talk about how
cool drugs are,” says Wendy, “I tell them
that I don’t think it’s so great. It’s not
easy, and sometimes I chicken out and
don’t say anything, but I know what
can happen.”

For the Richweins, awareness is the
safety net. “I don’t think that short of
keeping a twenty-four-hour watch you
can prevent your child from doing
drugs,” says Jean, “but a parent can be
better informed, more aware. Today we
draw strength and courage from one
another to meet the challenge of being
honest and open.”

The Richweins’ commitment to con-
tinued growth as a family and the fight
against drugs is a contract that is re-
newed every day. Jean and Roy believe
that the worst is behind them, but they
take nothing for granted. Each eve-
ning, as the family sits down to supper,
everybody links hands and_ gives
thanks, forming a family circle that is
fragile yet beautiful. End

Note: All names other than those of the
Richwein family have been changed.

the right man the moment she sees

LINDA EVANS
continued from page 135

him. “It never fails with me. The in-
stant I meet someone I’m going to love,
my heart just goes a-h-h-h,” she mur-
murs. “It hasn’t happened often. It is
very rare. But there comes a feeling
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whom to love. Love chooses you.”

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continued from page 178

one of the most exciting experiences of
my life,” Linda says. “A lot of celebri-
ties have been approached to put their
names.on perfumes after the perfumes
have been created, but they came to me
and said they wanted me to pick my
own essence. The man who created it
also did Opium for Yves Saint Lau-
rent, and he had me sniff every kind of
essence that was ever created. Then I
told him what I liked.”

Remembering her first awareness of
perfumes, she continues, “A boy gave
me a bottle of Joy for my nineteenth
birthday, and I thought it was just
the most wonderful scent in the world
—I wore it for years and years.” After
she became more active, professionally
and personally, she expanded her per-
fume “wardrobe.” “Depending on the
mood, I'd splash on something light, like
L’Air du Temps, or something more ex-
otic, like Caléche.” The new fragrance
is a mating of “the qualities I like,
lightness and sensuality. So I got every-
thing I wanted in one perfume.”

Forever Krystle will also add to Lin-
da’s mounting income. “My parents had
a very hard time financially. Yet money

184

never concerned me very much,” she
insists. “To me, it has only one value,
and that’s the freedom to choose what
you want to do—which is a very rare
thing in this day for a woman. I’m abso-
lutely thrilled that ’'m financially se-
cure, and that I don’t ever have to work
again if I choose not to. That’s a tre-
mendous gift.” She adds quietly, “I cer-
tainly know that I have everything
most grown women would die for. Yet I
go home at night, and sometimes ’m
very sad and very lonely and I think,
What does it mean, what is it worth?
What do I really have, if I don’t have
someone to share it with?”

The pensive mood vanishes as
quickly as it came. “Tonight,” she an-
nounces, “I have a great cookbook I’m
going to read.” She collects them all,
loves to cook, loves to eat, intends to
write her own cookbook someday. “If I
had more time, I’d spend it in the
kitchen. I even get a certain joy out of
cleaning, although I don’t much like to
do ironing or windows,” she says gaily.
“I would be a wonderful housewife, I
really would!”

But then, friends say, Linda becomes
wonderful at anything she chooses to
pursue. Her strong belief in God has
spurred her to steep herself in a study
of international religions. Raised a
Catholic, she says, “I still like to sit in
church, and in Rome I met the Pope,
which was beautiful. But there are cer-
tain things the Church says that I don’t
agree with—they are man’s version of
God. So I try to find God in ways that
are more comfortable to me—in medi-
tation, in being with people who are
laughing or crying. The God in my life
is a joyful, loving, peaceful God.”

For thirteen years, Linda has studied
numerology, the ancient practice of
using a person's name and birth date to
tell his character and see into his past
and future. “I don’t like to talk about it
in an interview unless I have hours and
hours,” she says with a smile, “because
it’s a very beautiful science, but when
you describe it in bits and pieces, it
doesn’t make much sense.” Those who
know her say that if Linda ever gave up
acting, she could become a psychol-
ogist. “She has a unique ability,” says
friend Rachel McCallister, “to change
your life just by talking to you.”

None of Linda’ personal growth
might have taken place had it not been
for pain. Linda considers the breakup
of her first marriage a blessing in dis-
guise. When John Derek told her he
loved another woman, she recalls, “I
was hurt, jealous, angry, resentful— all
the normal emotions. I longed to have
and to keep what I wanted and con-
sidered mine.” But her husband loved
Bo, and chose to be with her. “So I knew
all the wonderful experiences we had

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torian.” Expectations can be self-fulfi
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continued from page 135

that a black actress could do only cer-
tain roles, that women didn’t marry
younger men, that the man always
handled the business. I thought there
must be some other way. I didn’t know
what that way was, but I knew I had to
examine it. For most of my life, that’s
been my primary thrust.”

Now, the woman who played nurse
Julia, the first major black “nice” char-
acter on network TV, is creating, in her
own words, the first “black bitch” on
America’s favorite prime-time soap,
Dynasty. As usual, Diahann is playing
to character, not color, and the myste-
rious Dominique Devereaux is someone
with whom she can identify. Both are
scrappy, ambitious, glamorous—and
both are survivors.

Just how well Diahann has survived
is evident when she walks into the liv-
ing room of her spacious Manhattan
apartment. The sunshine pouring in
through the windows reveals a woman
who could pass for thirty-five instead of
the forty-nine years on record. (She
claims forty-seven—“People are always
trying to make me older.”) Only the
lines on a long, graceful neck give any
hint of age. Her oval face, free of make-

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up, is flawless, without, says Diahann,
the benefit of surgery, though she in-
tends to use it if she feels she needs it.
Her thick black hair emphasizes the
graceful majesty with which she car-
ries herself.

The role of Dominique comes at a
pivotal point in Diahann’s career and
personal life. “I needed this job. I’m
grateful for it,” the actress admits can-
didly. “I wasn’t exactly treading water,
but I was looking for that wonderful
shot in the arm that makes everyone
aware of what you’re doing. I have an
insatiable need to work, and this role
couldn’t be more exciting. I’m abso-
lutely amazed at how fascinated Amer-
ica is by wealthy, powerful, middle-
aged women.”

Diahann reveals her competitive
spirit when she describes how she took
advantage of an opportunity to press
her case with Aaron Spelling, Dy-
nasty’s producer. Last spring, following
the Golden Globe Awards ceremony, at
which she sang one of the nominated
songs, the performer and her entourage
wanted to go out and celebrate. She
asked a friend to make reservations at
a popular Beverly Hills restaurant,
where, coincidentally, Aaron Spelling
was giving a private party.

“They want to know if we’re part of

Aaron’s party,” her friend reported.
With a sly smile, Diahann answered}.
“Tell them yes!” .
“Aaron, darling,” cooed Diahann, aj
she entered the star-studded restau},
rant. “How nice of you to invite us.” fF
“Diahann!” exclaimed Aaron. “I’m sf.
glad you thought of this.”
Esther Shapiro, creator and writer qj”
Dynasty, along with her husbanc), °
Richard, recalls the scene: “When Dia}.
hann entered the room that night
Aaron and I looked at each other an}-
nodded. We had been thinking of intrq},'
ducing Dominique next season. Whe}”
we found out that Diahann was availf
able right away, we decided to includ '
her in the season’s cliff-hanger. Wp
more or less wrote the part of Domi’
nique with Diahann in mind.” :
The jump from her original TV rol},
as the “nice girl” of Julia to the nast}”
bitch of Dynasty is not that much of |
stretch for Diahann. Contradiction},
are not uncommon in either her caree}_
or her personal life. Part of it stem”
from Diahann’s desire to “taste of al
the things that life has to offer—fror
chili to filet mignon.” But she also cor},
cedes, “I’ve been so many different ped’
ple in my life, at one point, I didn}”
know who I was.
“For years I led a double life,” shj’

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explains, “on the one hand creating
Diahann Carroll and on the other hand
trying to deny her, as if that alone
would help me realize who Carol
Diahann Johnson was, this lady that I’d
neglected for so long. It’s been only in
the last couple of years that, through
analysis, I’ve been able to integrate the
different facets of my personality.”
-Carol Diahann Johnson was born in
the Bronx. The adored younger daugh-
ter of a subway conductor and a regis-
tered nurse, she marched to the beat of
a different drum from the beginning.
The actress-to-be spent Sunday morn-
ings fashioning an image of chic and
sophistication from the magazines she
spread across the living-room floor.
But Diahann soon learned that she
could run into problems when her
dreams went beyond the expectations
and desires of her peers. “I heard some
| dangerous phrases when I was a kid,”

she recalls. “‘Oh, she thinks she’s
white.’ I never saw it that way. I wanted
'\to develop myself, to explore other
‘jareas. I refused to accept that I had
}| limited opportunities just because I was
black. I believed then, as I do now, that
('m a contender for everything.”

Diahann Carroll burst onto the
scene in the early fifties after winning
a television talent contest. In 1954, she
debuted in the Harold Arlen musical
House of Flowers, captivating critics and
—| public alike with her naive, sweet pres-
ence and musical styling. Upon seeing
her in the show, Richard Rodgers prom-
lised to write a musical for her.

In 1958 he tried to fulfill that prom-
se with a featured spot in the musical
|Flower Drum Song, but Diahann’s
d color and height doomed that attempt.
'|‘I was the tallest, brownest Oriental
of you've ever seen,” she says. Then
{jin 1962, Rodgers came up with No
A Strings, and a star was born. The role
,jof fashion model Barbara Woodruff
_jwas the start of the actress's insistence
_jon playing to role, not to race—a ten-
dency that would later get her into
)|trouble when Julia clashed with black
jgmilitant attitudes.

id As racial issues heated up in the
i early sixties, Diahann faced a barrage
‘lof heavy criticism. Julia was attacked
: as “insulting, patronizing tokenism.”
_| Further alienated by Diahann’s inter-
“lracial marriage, black militants la-
_|beled her a “white man’s nigger.” As
_|the accusations intensified, the pres-
i sure took its toll. She lost so much
4 weight that she had to be hospitalized.
"| She also lost many friends.

| “A lot of people suggested to me that
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4) was: a black woman. I didn’t believe
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be made at the time.”

In her career Diahann has had to
deal with a narrow, even condescending
mentality that sees her only as a black
actress. For someone as ambitious as
Diahann, the paucity of good roles can
be a never-ending source of frustration.
“T’ve heard such silly, insultingly stu-
pid remarks as to why projects can’t be
integrated,” she says forcefully. “It
makes me damned angry at times, but
I try to rid myself of that destructive
anger. A Broadway musical like No
Strings, a movie like Claudine, comes
once every ten years,” she says plain-
tively. “Black actresses do not work! I’m

sometimes amazed at how few people
realize what it takes for a black
woman to survive in this business.”
As determined as Diahann is in her
career, she has, at the same time, pur-
sued love with a fury, occasionally
raising eyebrows with her unconven-
tional, seemingly reckless, romantic

choices. “Ultimately,” she reflects,
“my life doesn’t revolve around the
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the idea of being alone—something that used to devastate
her—and discovered that it’s not so bad. “For the longest
time I really felt that I needed a man to make me complete.
Time has shown me that I can operate comfortably without
aman,” she remarks. “Now I firmly believe that none of us
should ever begin thinking our lives are about one person
and one person alone. If you believe it starts with yourself,
the relationship will be much richer for it.”

These words of wisdom were learned the hard way—
through bitter experience. One of the worst times for
Diahann was at the peak of her early career. Movie offers
were pouring in, she was in demand for concerts around the
world, her record albums were selling and she had won the
Tony Award for No Strings. But her personal life was
increasingly in tatters.

Her marriage to her first husband, talent manager Monte
Kay (the father of her only child, Suzanne Ottilie, now
twenty-four), was threatened, and delivering the coup de
grace was a tempestuous affair with Sidney Poitier.

Like most of Diahann’s romances, the relationship with
Monte had started out promisingly. He was white, but there
was never any question that he and Diahann loved each other
enough to beat back any resistance from others. “People
become involved in an interracial relationship for the same
reason as most other couples: because they love each other,”
says Diahann softly. “Our problems came about because we
were young and because our timing was off—he was into
home; I was into career.”

Diahann found herself bitter and angry as she tried to
shore up her failing marriage. “For the longest time, I tried to
pretend that everything was fine, everything was perfect.
Then, after I started to examine it, I realized I couldn’t sweep
things under the carpet to keep things peaceful in the house.”

The affair with Poitier, which began when they met on the
set of Porgy and Bess, was passionate and intense.

“Sidney was traumatic,” Diahann recalls. “If Pve ever
been frightened in my life, that was the time. My marriage
was ending, I had no one to talk to and both of us were
strong forces.

“We had to part,” says Diahann, who after nine years
ended the relationship with a long-distance phone call just
before they were to start living together. “It was the best
thing. It would’ve been awful if we had not parted.

“What I’ve learned about relationships since then,” con-
tinues Diahann, “is that you can’t work so hard on them. If
you allow them to become the all-encompassing focus of
your life, then you’re almost banking on failure.”

After Poitier, Diahann and David Frost became one of
the jet set's most glamorous and controversial couples.
They even announced their engagement, but the wedding
never took place. Inexplicably, Diahann left David at the
altar and, within months, married an old friend, Las Vegas
clothier Freddé Glusman, only to divorce him three
months later.

After her divorce from Glusman, Diahann met and fell in
love with Robert DeLeon, a young journalist who came to
interview her at the time of her Oscar nomination for
Claudine. After she lost, he came back for another inter-
view and stayed for supper. He was twenty-four, married
and a father. She was thirty-nine. Diahann sent him away a
couple of times, but Robert was persistent—and ambitious.

Robert was already managing editor of Jet magazine and
an influential member of the black community. He was
friendly with such leading figures as publisher John John-
son and political activist Vernon Jordan.

“He was a man in a big hurry,” says Diahann. “Had he
lived, he would’ve been one of the most (continued)

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interesting men of our time. People
were struck by his brilliance, ambition
and charisma.”

Robert DeLeon was, in many re-
spects, a childhood fantasy for Diahann
—the young, worldly black intellectual
her parents had always wanted for a
son-in-law. Less than four months after
they met, they married, ignoring the
shock and whispers of acquaintances
who wondered aloud if Diahann had
really thought it through. Diahann, in
love, was determined to show the world
that this time the marriage would
work. The ambitious actress sold her
Beverly Hills mansion and moved into
an apartment in Oakland, where her
husband headed a public relations firm
for black entrepreneurs.

After three months of Diahann’s hav-
ing her hair done five times a week and
dining out with businessmen who were
anxious to get a glimpse of Robert’s fa-
mous wife, the DeLeons returned to
Beverly Hills and to the struggle of get-
ting Diahann’s career back on track.
Robert became involved as a producer.
In retrospect the actress considers his
career change a mistake. “I think today
I would only become involved with a
man who was secure enough in his own
career not to feel threatened by his
wife’s career.”

One of the DeLeons’ major problems
was the classic situation of a man over-
shadowed by the fame of his celebrity
wife. Robert, with his own designs for
stardom, did not enjoy being “Mr.
Diahann Carroll.” As his own dreams
receded, he became increasingly mis-
erable. Dubbed the “prince escort” on a
Beverly Hills social circuit that can be
cruel, Robert's self-esteem plunged,
and the marriage suffered.

Then, one night in March of 1977,
two years after they were married,
Robert was returning home from work,
driving the Ferrari Diahann had pur-
chased for him. He had been drinking,
and was very tired. He missed a curve,
plunged down a canyon off Mulholland
Drive, and died of internal injuries.

Seven years later, the episode is still

| painful for Diahann. She steps around

it gingerly, somber and serious, and she
says she doesn’t remember much of the
aftermath of the accident. She must
have been aware of the rumors sur-
rounding his death: that Diahann had
taken Robert away from his family,
wife and child; that she introduced him

| to the fast life, and when he couldn’t
| handle it, he had committed suicide.

“What really got me about Robert’s
death,” says Diahann haltingly, “aside
from the tragic loss of a young, beauti-
ful life, is that it ended the dialogue.

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roll,” says the actress. “I look back q!'
some of the silly things I’ve done, anc#!!!
also have to admit that I’ve had wo}!
derful, precious times, too. I have mof*
now in my life than I’ve ever had: wo}!
that I love, a good, strong relationshp
with my daughter after some pret}!
stormy teen years, and—would you b et
lieve it?—there’s no man in my liffil
And that’s okay, too.” pelt

Since that fateful day in 197}
Diahann has kept a low profile in thi!
regard. If anyone can coax her into t]ft!
romantic terrain she both loves apes
fears, chances are she'll keep it out By
the glare of publicity (although a nflt
tional tabloid has recently linkf¥!
Diahann with singer Vic Damone). ft!

“After Robert died,” she says quiet Fill
“TI told myself never again. I'd nevpilll
allow myself to care that much evp!
again. But time has a way of healirpili
Now I’m almost afraid not to carepili
know I’m supposed to be this toupt
lady from New York, but I don’t want#
shut myself off from those feelinglim
from life, really.” Hen

Diahann becomes pensive, and cd!ill
tinues, “I was so convinced that eve#il
thing had to have an answer. I’ve chffti
lenged and questioned everything |i
my life, refusing the answers I whl:
given and looking for new ones thpilr
made sense to me. But when Robi:
died there were no answers. Robeipitt,
death made me more tolerant, less ifttni
patient. I wanted everything to be rigft:
before. Then I began to question wll
was right. Now I know the only thift!)|
that is right with any degree of cf
tainty is not to take anybody or aiplin
thing for granted. I enjoy...” Diahafiey
stops and corrects herself. “No, ‘enjp*
is too weak a word to express it. I chpa
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YEAR OF THE WOMEN

continued from page 123

Jensus Bureau counted more women
han men. Every year before 1946,
nales were in the majority, almost as if
‘y divine right. Every year since 1946,
he gap has increased in favor of females
‘ue to the decline in immigration (most
mmigrants were men) and the longer

jife span of women. Today women out-

‘umber men by nearly 8 million.
‘or every 100 women in America there

4re 94 men. Women are the permanent
jimerican majority.

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A second reason is the change in the
conomic status of women. American
yomen are self-supporting and inde-
endent as never before. More women
old down jobs, more are lawyers, doc-

}ors, executives, engineers, professors.

ilmost 6 million make more money
han their husbands. And women,
idging by statistics, are hardier than
1en: They expect on the average to live

}) the age of 78, while life expectancy

yr men is 70 years.

The third and most crucial reason is
ne political awakening of women
aemselves. This has taken a long time.

i} usan B. Anthony wrote a century ago,

There will never be complete equality
ntil women help to make the laws.”

Yomen began agitating for the vote at

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eneca Falls, New York, in 1848—and
ney got it seventy-two years later.
4Vomen were then expected to vote as
aeir husbands told them. Female suf-
‘age made little difference.

But the changes in population bal-
4mce and economic status prepared the

aay for political emancipation for wom-

n. Twenty years ago the women’s lib-
ration movement urged women to rec-
ggnize their new independence and to
gssert their new power. The women’s
jiovement had its excesses. But, as
olls show, the feminist crusade has

gicreased both women’ self-esteem

ind men’s respect for women’s rights.

sVomen have gained new confidence.

‘\len have found themselves increasing-

47 on the moral defensive. The idea of
1ale supremacy has vanished along

4 ith the idea of white supremacy.

In the 1980 presidential election,

‘omen for the first time voted in the
game proportion as men, therefore in
gjreater numbers than men; and they

fg as obsolete as the

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}ere credited with electing Democratic

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one-horse shay. No one could doubt that
women had finally made it once that
veteran chronicler of the making of
American Presidents, Theodore H.
White, pronounced the women’s move-
ment probably “the most formidable
new force in American politics.”

What will be the impact of this force?
Here we enter the murky zone of the
gender gap—that is, the reasons why
women vote differently from men. The
gender gap should not be exaggerated.
Polls this spring indicate that a major-
ity of women as well as men favored the
reelection of President Reagan. But men
favored Reagan by twelve points, women
by only four. Therein lies the gap—and
its existence is explained by disagree-
ments over three types of issues.

192

First, there are the issues of sexual
discrimination and equality—the Equal
Rights Amendment, equal pay, equal
pensions, equal access to bank credit,
mortgages and insurance; the avail-
ability of child care, family planning,
abortion. President Reagan has alien-
ated many women by his resistance to
feminist issues and even more by what
they see as the courtly, old-time conde-
scension with which he regards what he
probably calls the fair sex: “If it weren’t
for women, we.men would still be
walking around in skin suits, carrying
clubs.” Commenting on his thirty-one-
year-old daughter Patti and her liber-
ated views, the President has said, “I’m
just sorry that spanking is out of fashion
now.” Many women doubt he would have
said that about a thirty-one-year-old son.

Next are general economic issues.
Employment makes women more sen-

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sitive to economic conditions,especially
when they expect to earn in a lifetime
only half as much as men with the
same educational background. More-
over, women are now so large a propor- }
tion of the very poor that sociologists }
talk about the “feminization of pov-
erty.” Nearly half the 7.5 million
households living in poverty are headed
by women.

Women, in short, are especially vul-
nerable to economic trouble and es-
pecially dependent on federal assis-
tance. They rely more on food stamps,
welfare, child care, mass transit, medi-
cal benefits—programs that have suf- fj
fered grievously under Reagan admin-
istration cutbacks. “The feminization of
poverty,” Bella Abzug observes, “leads
directly to the feminization of politics.”
Polls show the lowest support for Presi-
dent Reagan’s reelection among women
with incomes under $12,500 a year.

The third reason for the gender gap
is war and peace. Polls this year show
women measurably more concerned
than men about nuclear holocaust,
measurably more hostile to trillion-dol-
lar defense spending and to machismo
as the guiding principle of foreign pol-
icy. The John Wayne approach to the
world may make American men glo
with pride, but it leaves a lot of Amer
ican women cold.

Women are in serious politics today
the issues they care most about are als
serious. We see the Democratic part
emphasizing women’s issues in the hop
that the road to victory lies through th
gender gap. But women’s issues are hav
ing an impact on the Republicans, too
Since 1980, President Reagan's con
sciousness has been raised somewhat
partly, no doubt, by his own daughter:
and partly by the quest for reelection.

Recently, the President has been en
gaged in a whirlwind courtship of th
female vote. He proudly lists th
women he has appointed to high post
and promises that the first wom
President will be a Republican. Hi
claims credit for legislative proposal
to toughen child-support enforcement
to increase pension protection fo
women and to secure tax equity. H
travels to wildlife refuges and to ath
letic meets for the handicapped and oj
fers to travel to a summit conference 1
Vienna in order to show that, whateve
the Democrats may say, he is really
man of compassion and peace.

All this sudden attention to feminis
concerns by both major parties is a tril
ute to the new political might that :
now in the hands of American wome!
The candidates are taking women s'
riously as they never have before. The
are pleading for women’s votes ar
they are trying to win those votes, r
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oy profile and pap, but by addressing
she issues women truly care about.

Still, one must not overstate the case.
[he rise of women in American politics
nds a deplorable waste of national tal-
mt and ability. But their participation
loes not automatically ensure the redemp-
jon of American society and the world.

Some enthusiasts talk as if all the
roubles of the planet—oppression, ex-
yloitation, war—are afflictions im-
»osed by males on suffering humanity.
Nhile men are innately brutal and de-
itructive, the argument runs, women
ire led by their biological nature and
heir social role to what Carol Gilligan
n her book In A Different Voice (Har-
‘ard University Press, 1982) calls “the
thic of care.”

“Most women,” explains Roxanne
Junbar, a feminist writer, “have been
rogrammed from early childhood for
.role, maternity, which develops a cer-
ain consciousness of care for others.”
‘heir political views follow in con-
equence. “Theres nothing more
owerful than the instinct a mother
2els for the preservation of her chil-
ren,” says Dr. Helen Caldicott, a pedi-
trician and a mother as well as
yunder of Women’s Action for Nuclear
Jisarmament. The avoidance of nu-
lear war, Dr. Caldicott says, is “the
ltimate parenting issue.” The radical
sminist Robin Morgan sees “a world-
vide women’s revolution as the only
ope for life on the planet.”

Would replacing male supremacy by
2male supremacy really establish the
ethic of care” and usher in the millen-
jum? Experience shows women to be
© more immune to the intoxications
nd corruptions of power than men. It
aakes them just as ambitious, just as
elf-deluded, just as bloodthirsty.

Lucrezia Borgia, Queen Elizabeth I,
vatherine the Great, were not notably
edicated to the ethic of care. Memora-
le women in our own century—
fadame Chiang Kai-shek, Madame
fao Zedong, Madame Nhu in South
“etnam—well earned the sobriquet
Dragon Lady.” Margaret Thatcher, In-
ira Gandhi, Golda Meir and, to take
n American example, Jeane Kirkpa-
rick, have proved unrepentant before
ower and untroubled by violence. Per-
aps, then, women should not claim too
wch and they will disappoint less.

Still, for women this is the most ex-
iting election in American history.
‘hey are now at the heart of American
olitics, and they can no longer be over-
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speak, vote. More women must be sent
to Congress, to gubernatorial man-
sions, to state legislatures, to city halls.
If women do think they can redeem our
politics, now is the time to prove it.

The onward rush of history—popula-
tion changes, women’s new economic
role, the example of female leaders in
other countries—offers women today
the greatest opportunity they have ever
had to alter the American future. The
dreams of Susan B. Anthony and Ele-
anor Roosevelt are today’s realities.

A century ago, brooding over the
future of American democracy, Walt
Whitman saluted the future of “the
women of America, (extricated from
this daze, this fossil and unhealthy air
which hangs about the word lady,) de-
velop’d, raised to become robust equals,
workers, and, it may be, even practical
and political deciders with the men...
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partments; or rather, capable of being
so, soon as they realize it, and can bring
themselves to give up toys and fictions,
and launch forth, as men do, amid real,
independent, stormy life.”

Now women are well launched. For
in this year 1984 it lies within the
power of American women—if they so

wish—to decide the next President, the
next Congress, the future direction of
our national life, and possibly the fu-
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began pulling them in different directions. “It’s been harf}
on Tom,” says his younger brother, Dan. “He would like tJ
have made the marriage work.”

In any case, when Tom took off to Hawaii to begin thi
filming of Magnum, PJ., he was alone. It was not an aus
picious beginning. The pilot had already been done, anc
regretfully, because of his TV commitment, he had turne
down the lead in Raiders of the Lost Ark. Even worse, Tom ga
to Hawaii just in time for the actors’ strike. Dan Sellec
remembers how frustrating it was. “He went by himself, an
then the actors went on strike. He had no money, but ha
rented a house, figuring funds would come in once the shoy
started. To pay the rent, he did odd jobs for the landlady.”

To cheer his brother up, Dan caught a plane and joine
Tom in Hawaii. “We played a lot of volleyball, did st
around the house and were just low-lifing it,” he says.

“The next time I was there, Tom couldn’t sit on the beac
People would come up to the dinner table for autograp
and Tom would say, ‘It’s all part of the territory.’”

Modern times

Today, Tom’s life may have been turned upside down by th
success of Magnum, PJ. and his own incredible fame, b
his friendships are as stable—and normal—as can be.
fact, they do a great deal to support the adage that th
more things change,the more they remain the same.
As in high school and college, Tom’s friendships ar
focused around athletics—as part of the volleyball team <¢
Honolulu’s Outrigger Canoe Club. And there’s a lot of goo
natured razzing that goes on. “Everybody gives everybody
bad time,” says Fred Chuckovich. “When he’s around, To1
fits in with what’s occurred here for the last ten years.”
The teasing knows no bounds—as when, for example, Se
leck’s jeep fell three stories off a parking garage with his ste]
son, Kevin, at the wheel while Tom was teaching him to driv
Miraculously, neither Tom nor Kevin was hurt. Once th
guys at the canoe club learned that, they ribbed him co1
stantly. “The joke around the club for some time was ‘Sig
up for driving lessons with Tom,’” says Chuckovich.
The parties Tom attends with his noncelebrity frienc
are definitely not glamorous—they’re likely to be short
and-T-shirt affairs with people who know him well and wk
are not awestruck by his presence. Sometimes Tom wi
come to such parties alone, but when he wants to, he doesn
hesitate to bring a date. “Tom looks for someone who fi
into a group when he brings a girl to our parties. He doesn
care for anyone shy and clinging,” says Suzanr
Chuckovich. “The girls he’s brought have been intelligei
and have fit in with our ‘old wives.’”
What is Tom looking for in a permanent relationshijy ~
“Tom says he would love to meet a woman who wanted hij...”
for himself, and not for Magnum, PI. or High Road to Chir,
or Lassiter,” says Leonard South. “Tom is a one-womes
man. He doesn’t love to carouse. He is the opposite of Bu
Reynolds, with a woman on each arm. He’d like to fir
someone who wanted him not for the star Tom Selleck bi
for the person.”
In many ways, Tom is not overjoyed by stardom. “When ]--.
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Jeep sitting in the drive. A car bought
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“Just get me a tissue,” Mary Ellen
says. “Hendrick doesn’t need to see
this. I do like him, Toby.”

“So do I.”

“Good. I know he tries too hard. He’s
like me, he just wants to be loved.
Muriel’s telling him she never really
loved him. Maybe she and Daniel have
been talking strategy.” She jokes into
the tissue, blowing a laugh through.

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wake up with enough courage to attack
the basement. I'll just go down and do
it. Look, why don’t you go pick Sharon
up from practice? She'll be thrilled.”

Toby moves toward his mother’s keys
on the wall peg.

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said. Well, my eyes are open now, baby!”
Toby kisses her on the cheek. There’s
a fine scar beneath his mother’s eye,
another running down the temple. She
had a face-lift last Thanksgiving.
“Damned if Ill let all this misery
ruin my beautiful face,” she had said.
“It’s not natural.” And the best thing
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about business as usual. “What hap-
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give a brave and impudent smile and
say, simply, “I got my face lifted.”
Toby loved her for that.

The first trick-or-treater wears a black
cape and a black bucket over her head.
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“Nah,” says Doug. He’s a senior
the high school, a split end on the fo
ball team. “Pumpkin’s gotta be sca

“Oh, Doug, you’re so conventional

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“T don’t know,” says Toby. “A little
friendly, maybe.”

“Same,” says Doug.

“Typical males. No imagination.
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him. He’s such a jerk.”

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a child. He pulls on his Frankenstein mask, and half hid-
den by bushes, he waits.

A moped pulls over the curb onto the flagstone walk. It’s
their cousin Duncan. As usual he wears a camera around
his neck. He is bowlegged and, for a Slattery, short. “That
you, Toby?” he calls out.“Let me shake your paw.”

“How'd you know?” Toby laughs, slapping his gloves.

“You got me once, remember’? I was in eighth, you were in
tenth. Sharon home?”

“Yeah. Doug’s over. Go on in.”

After Duncan come two more Darth Vaders. Then a
brother-sister team, the boy a walking telephone dial, the
girl a receiver. The two of them are connected by a cord.

“They better not have stupid apples,” the boy says. “Or
nuts.” The girl says, “Slatterys always have Reese’s.”

Sharon opens the door. “Don’t call us,” the boy recites,
and his sister: “We'll call you.” They get their Reese’s.

“Told ya,” the girl says.

No one notices Toby. Since the last time he did this he’s
become more adept at lifelessness. He’s happy, watching
this parade of fantasies along the leaf-tickled avenues of
their town, spying on the masqueraders.

Three big kids in navy carry pillowcases. Charcoal under
their eyes. “Sharon Slattery lives here,” says one.

“Sharon Sluttery, you mean

“Yeah, I’d like to hear you say t

“Be realistic.”

“Shhh.”

The door opens. Toby hears, “Well, v
one apiece. Now watch out crossing t!

t to Doug French.”

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200 LADIES' HOME JOURNAL - OCTOBER 1984

, well. Here ya go,

“All right.” “All right already.” “Yeah, see ya, Shar.”

The door closes. The loudmouth imitates Doug.

“Shut up, Petie, I didn’t see you do anything about it.”

Toby listens to them grumble as they slide into darkness.
He should have jumped them. Whoever comes next will feel
the wrath of the monster. He practices groaning.

A car pulls up to the curb. The trick-or-treater is huge,
and he is talking to himself. “I’m gonna kiss me a bear. No,
kiss me a grizzly bear.” This is repeated twice before Toby
realizes that the voice belongs to Hendrick Hayden.

Inches from Toby’s leg, Hendrick stops. He wears a heav-
ily rhinestoned cowboy shirt, a gray Stetson. Holsters with
six-shooters gird his gut. He draws his guns and jabs the air,
twirls the right one, blows the smoke away. He drawls, “’m
gonna kiss mea grizzly bear and rassle me a pretty girl. Oh,
yeah. All right, folks.” He tugs the red bandanna around
his neck so that the knot juts to one side, reaches for the
doorbell and steps back, hands on his silver guns.

Toby groans, rolls his monster head, reaches out for the
cowboy’s ankle.

“Chri---” Hendrick jumps off the steps. One of his cap
guns goes off. If it were real, he would have shot himself in
the leg.

“Hendrick, it’s me,” Toby says, unmasking. “It’s me.”

“Please, sir, don’t shoot,” Sharon pleads from the doorway.

They are all laughing. Hendrick touches Toby’s shoulder.
“Man, you scared the whoop right outta me.”

“Tm sorry,” says Toby shakily. “I couldn’t resist.”

“Just when I’ve been practicing my John Wayne all day.”

“Come on in. Do it for us now!” Sharon calls.

They stand in the foyer, the five of them, Toby with his
Frankenstein mask bunched in his hand.

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1an. Just beautiful. Wish I could move like that.” He pats
is stomach above the gun belt.

“Where's your mother?” he asks Toby.

“Upstairs. Getting ready. Let’s go with the photo. When
he comes down we'll get one with her in it.”

They cluster for the pose. Doug and Sharon, arms draped
ver shoulders, easy as old clothes. She takes a stream of her
mg hair and makes Doug a mustache. Hendrick sucks in
is gut and to Toby it makes him look strong indeed. He's
aller than Toby, and that’s another surprise. He’s handsome
nd a bit overinflated. Toby pulls on his mask.

Draw your guns, marshal!

Moan, monster, moan!

He’s gonna kiss him a grizzly bear and rassle a pretty girl.

They draw closer; the light flashes; they laugh.

“Now where’ the old lady?”

She’s in the basement, wearing her robe, facing the mess.

The place hasn’t been swept in years. Huge scabs of plas-
2x disintegrate into powder on the floor. Remnants of a
ractice flower arrangement she did with Lydia fifteen years
go, strips of bark suggesting Indian dugouts, remain fixed
) the wall, the vines that coursed among them long dead
ow. Here’s an ancient school desk with inkwell and swivel
1air and its saga of carved names. His mother was a school-
»acher. Why is it still here? Beside it, a whitewashed tin

}abinet with the kids’ heights dated in pencil, and the old

‘ain set, now a heap of battered Pullmans and track. Years
go they gave the kids permission to crayon the walls.
haron and Neal, TruLuv 4ever. And columns of numerals
staled in pencil: Toby 169—Dad 44. Ping-Pong matches. He

201

and Toby stopped playing. He hated losing.

“Quitter,” Mary Ellen says.

She thinks about the case. At hearings he actually
smiles at her. He waits in the anteroom, hands in his
pockets, jingling his keys. What for? What can they say to
each other? They could talk about their lawyers, so busy
clearing things up. Twenty-five years of marriage have
boiled away like vapor, leaving them with quibbles over
money. In court, no one cares about blame anymore. Now
they just add up figures, all business. So often she doesn’t
want to think about money, she just wants out. At the
same time she is astonished, thinking about how she was
never paid for all she did. She and everyone else.

“Dammit, Mary Ellen,” she says. “What you did all
those years had value.”

She turns in a circle, besieged by armies of the things
they owned. Upstairs, she knows, her friends and family
are dressed in bright costumes, waiting for her. But now
she’s here, she’s got to make a start. There’s so little she
wants down here. So little she needs! She doesn’t know
whether to laugh or cry. A great faith in cleaning sends
her striding through the junk.

There is noise on the stairs, but she’s oblivious; she’s
found the box of Super 8 films they took in Sainte Auguste,
up in the Laurentians, a decade ago. The reels sit in their
canisters like giant coins, a chest of degraded treasure at
her disposal.

She opens one, another, a third: takes the ends of the
films and twists them together. Holding this knot she
hurls the reels against the wall. Explosions of plaster. She
opens the rest of the cases—there must be two dozen reels
in all—and tears at them, abandoning herself, unraveling
the opaque strands: the celluloid bubbling up at her, spar-
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Real Kids don’t say please
By April and Dan Levy

You’ve heard about Real Men not eat-
ing quiche and Real Women not
pumping gas; now here’s a look at
what makes a Real Kid.

Real Kids don’t say please. They say
thank you only when their mothers
tell them in a menacing voice: “Say
thank you. ”

Real Kids don’t whisper in li-
braries. Within two minutes of being
told to be quiet, they talk louder.

Real Kids don’t use Kleenex. (Every-
body knows what they do use.)

Real Kids don’t make their bed in
the morning and by afternoon they
figure it'd be dumb to make some-
thing you're just going to mess up ina
couple of hours.

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don’t wear galoshes. They don’t carry
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mustache is a Real Kids’ drink.

Three things Real Kids think
improve with age
1. Chewing gum
2. Underpants
3. Halloween candy

Real Kids and their clothes

Given the opportunity, Real Kids
will wear certain items long past
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clothes he likes.) What does a Real
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Underwear with holes

Wranglers

Sneakers

and an E.T. shirt

All the time.

Real Kids and pets

Real Kids need a pet. Almost any pet
will do: a gerbil, a snake, a hermit
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get some mileage out of a solitary light-
ning bug in a mayonnaise jar with two
holes punched in the top. At least until
it stops glowing and loses the will to
keep beating its brains against the glass.

One point worth remembering about
Real Kids and pets: Behind every Real
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fish meal, setting up plastic palm trees,
cleaning the cages, buying the cuttle-
bones, repairing the treadmills, sifting
through the kitty litter, and walking
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From the book REAL KIDS DON'T SAY PLEASE.
Copyright © 1984 by April and Dan Levy.
Published by Stein and Day.

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A To-Do List For You

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more items I feel I must add to that to-do list you probably §
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between attending the P.T.A. meeting, finishing a project for 4
work and planning a dinner party, to: fi
Fill out the coupon on page 198. I’m sure you have been deeply (
shocked, as I have been, by recent newspaper stories about child
molesting. Too often, it seems, some of the adults entrusted with the
care of children in schools, day-care centers and youth organiza-
tions have been guilty of victimizing and abusing these innocent
youngsters. In our special report on page 114, we discuss the escalat-
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Do a monthly BSE. On page 101 you’ll find a moving article about
how three brave women cope with breast cancer, the disease many
women dread most. Although there has been considerable improve-
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and best line of defense remains early detection. Most women know
that they should do a breast self-examination, and yet most neglect |
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on page 102. It only takes minutes, but it can be so important
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Journal discussing women, peace and our children’s future. You'll
find their articles on pages 148 and 149. This November's election is
an especially exciting one for women. Aren’t you always surprised
that in our country less than 67 percent of the population are
registered voters and less than 60 percent of those registered go to
the polls? Much of the world envies our democratic system and our
free elections, and yet not enough of us exercise our most basic
right. Let’s try to change that this election. Be sure you cast your
ballot for your candidate—whoever he or she is.
Have a Happy Thanksgiving. That's the final November to-do for all of
| us. If you want to try your Thanksgiving feast on the light side this
| year, see page 132. But with calories or not, I personally love this
{ most American holiday, because it’s the time I catch up with family
and friends, see how much the kids have grown, light the fire and
} relax. I say a little prayer of thanks as well for so many things—
including the wonderful readers of the Journal.

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EDITOR'S JOURNAL

CAN THIS
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“My husband wanted
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By Lois Duncan

A WOMAN TODAY
“My mother was right”
By Julia Cameron.

MARLO THOMAS
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142 WOMEN TO WATCH

By Shirley James Longshore
and Donna P. Conley

A special report on how
women are really doing.
Plus a look at up-and-
coming women, from the
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“HOW THE A-TEAM
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NEWS FOR PARE
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HOW TO BE HIS

BEST FRIEND
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Strengthen your most
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By Ellen Switzer
The truth about the
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MEDINEWS

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PSYCHOLOGIST’S
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HOW WRITE

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By Linden Gross

What your handwriting
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By Ralph Moss and

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Special section: How three
courageous women coped
with breast cancer.

114 CHILD MOLESTING:
WHAT MUST BE
DONE TO PROTECT
OUR CHILDREN
By Michael J. Weiss
Why kids are abused by those
entrusted with their care.

129 LIVING IN TRULY
TASTELESS TIMES

By Sondra Forsyth Enos

Does the current onslaught
of cultural trash reflect the
real values of our society?

225 DEAR JOURNAL
228 LAST LAUGHS

| 101 A REAL CHOICE

iction

111 LOVE AND WAR
By John Jakes
A Civil War romance.

BE.

80 APPEALING
APPETIZERS

A community cookbook
from Seattle: Great Greek-
style hors d’oeuures.

150 ENTERTAINING ’84
By Sue B. Huffman
Marvelous menu ideas—
elegant entrees, party
breads, divine desserts—
for those special holiday
meals from now through
the New Year.

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UPDATE

By Marilyn Diane Glass
Today's new country living:
A stylish mix of traditional
furniture and
unconventional color.

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his case is based on information

from the files of the Family Ser-

vice Center in Clearwater, Flor-
ida, a private, nonprofit family service
agency, partially funded by the United
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here is from interviews, though all
names have been changed to conceal
identities. The counselor in this case
was M. A. Williams, M.A.

Lynn's turn

“My husband is going to leave me, but
he won't tell me why,” said Lynn,
thirty-four, a tall, thin woman whose soft
voice trembled as
she fought to con-
troi her tears. “I’ve
begged Jack to tell
me what the rea-
sons are for his deci-
sion, but he refuses
to discuss them.

“What makes
this so incredible
is that it’s completely out of character.
If I had to pick one adjective to de-
scribe Jack, it would be responsible.
For the nine years that we’ve been
married, he has been a conscientious
provider, a loyal and loving husband
and a devoted father to our childe:
Jenny, eight, Chris, nine, and my.daug"-
ter from my previous marriage, Mara
thirteen. What’s happened to Jack? How
can he have changed so totally?

“Although you’d never believe it to
see him today, what first attracted me
to my husband was his smile—this
great, big, wonderful grin that lit up
his face. Since my own life had not
given me much to smile about, Jack’s
exuberance hooked me immediately.

“T grew up as the daughter of alco-
holic parents who were divorced when I

“My husband wanted
to call it quits’

Jack gave Lynn and the children everything.
Why would a loving husband suddenly throw it all away?

was a teenager. Dad did maintenance
work, and Mom worked in a depart-
ment store. My own role in the family
was Mother's helper; I did all the house-
work and cooking. I also had full re-
sponsibility for taking care of my young-
er brothers and sisters after school.

“T had few friends in high school. I
was shy, but also there just wasn’t time
to establish any real friendships, and I
didn’t date at all until I was eighteen.
At that point, Jimmy, a boy who lived
nearby, began sending me love letters.
This was the first touch of romance in
my life, and Jimmy’s parents were very
supportive of our relationship. When
Jimmy proposed, I accepted. I soon
found out I had made a mistake.

“Jimmy’s parents were ecstatic about
gaining a daughter-in-law. I soon dis-
covered the reason—their son was kind
and sweet but he was a Mama’s boy who
expected to be waited on hand and foot.

“During the two years we were mar-
ried, I was more of a mother than a
wife. Jimmy couldn’t hold a job. He
wouldn’t tell me when he was fired ei-
ther; he’d just keep leaving the house
in the morning and coming back at
night as though he’d been at work. My
first inkling that another job had been
lost would be when the paycheck didn’t
come in. When I discovered I was preg-
nant, I knew the marriage was over. I
couldn’t parent a baby and a husband.

“I spent the next five years working
in a factory to support myself and my

laughter Mara. That's where I met
ik. At the risk of sounding corny, I
ast say it was love at first sight.

“Hard as it was, and still is, for me

to relate to people socially, with Jack I
was relaxed and at ease from the start.
We dated for only one month before we
were married, and at that point we

both quit our factory jobs. I settled
down to being a housewife and having
babies. Jack went to work as a mason.
One year later, having learned the

By Lois Duncan |

trade backward and forward, he start-
ed his own business.

“Although Jack had sort of drifted
until the time we married, once he de-
cided to make a commitment, he did it
totally. Jack is highly motivated and
very hardworking. During the con-
struction season, he may work from six
in the morning to eleven at night, seven
days a week. The first ten months he
was in business for himself he took two
days off. One of those days it rained,
and the other was Christmas.

“Of course, I never complain, but that
sort of schedule isn’t easy on any of us. I
secretly welcome the slack period when
construction jobs are scarce and we get to
spend more time together as a family.

“For my part, I try to make our home
life as pleasant as possible. Jack is the
head of the household, and I make sure
he knows it. Although his long work
hours do set limits on our sex life, I
don’t make an issue of it. And I never
let outside activities interfere with my
role as wife and mother.

“Because I love him so much, I guess
I’ve tried to hide from myself the extent
to which Jack has changed since we
first met. Recently, though, the changes
in his personality and behavior have
become so evident that I haven’t been
able to keep closing my eyes to them.
He's extremely withdrawn and brooding.

“I don’t nag him to tell me where he’s
been. I’m sure there’s no other woman
involved, and he’s an adult who doesn’t
need mothering like my former husband
did. But I sense that he’s filled with terri-
ble anger. The other night the kids
started squabbling over which TV show
to watch, and Jack jumped up from his
chair and charged over to them. For one
terrible moment, I thought he was going
to hit them! Then he whirled around and
smashed his fist into the wall instead. A
moment later, he was out the door and
gone. He didn’t come back home until
the following morning. (continued)

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“Now Jack has decided to leave us. I
he does, I don’t think I can bear it. H
started to talk to me yesterday about
what sort of work I could do if we neede
a double income to finance two house
holds. I burst into tears and wouldn’
allow him to finish. Life without Jac
would be meaningless. I’ve just got to
save our marriage, but since I don’t
know what’s wrong, it’s impossible for
me to come up with a way to fix things.”

Jack's turn

“T wish I could tell Lynn how to fix
things,” said Jack, thirty-nine, a large,
broad-shouldered man whose dark eyes
mirrored the pain in
his voice. “If I knew
that myself, I'd be
happy to let her have
agoatit. Asitis, ’m
at as much of a loss
as she is. She’ a good
wife, a nice person—
but I don’t care if I
ever see her or my
kids again. I just want to get out of here—
away from all the pressure.

“Life's gotten away from me! I don’t
know whol am anymore! Ihavememories
of earlier years when I fished and camped
and went tearing around on a motorcycle,
but to think back on those days is like
picturing someone else. When I look in
the mirror, the guy who looks back is this
middle-aged, dull-eyed clod who is caught
like a hamster in a wheel and can’t get off.

“As a kid I was the black sheep of our
family. Oh, I didn’t do anything ter-
rible—it’s just that while everybody else
was conforming, I’d do my own thing.
Mom used to call me her Huckleberry
Finn. I guess, in a way, I took after my
strong-willed father. Dad is one of the
finest men I know, and he always pro-
vided well for his family; I want to also.

“Both my parents were college gradu-
ates. Mother was a music major and taught
piano in our home, although her main job
was being a housewife and raising five
children. Dad was an insurance sales-
man, but he’d majored in philosophy. The
importance of education was stressed in
our family, and all of my brothers and
sisters went to college. Typically, I de-
cided to do things differently. After high
school, I took off to explore the country.

“For the next ten years, I drifted
from one thing to another, compara-
tively unpressured and footloose. The
crazy thing was, it proved to be hard to
stay that way. Every time I took a
short-term job at the lowest level, I’d be
shoved up the ladder in spite of myself.
I worked as a dishwasher in a restau-
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continued

in charge of the lot. The same thing
happened when I served a tour of duty
in the army. After less than two years,
I was promoted to buck sergeant.

“By the time I was thirty, Td
gotten the wanderlust out of my sys-
tem and decided it was time to settle
down. The moment I’d made that deci-
sion, I met Lynn. Something clicked
between us right from the beginning.
For nine years now, I have been dedi-
cated to giving Lynn and our children
the same good life my father provided
for his family. I own my own masonry
business, and we do quality work. I’ve
gone into debt to buy a house and fur-
nish it nicely, and I work long hours to
cover the payments. But I wish I'd had
the good sense when I was younger to
have taken my parents up on their offer
to send me to college. My brothers, who
did take advantage of that opportunity,
are securely established in lucrative
white-collar jobs.

“Construction can be a nerve-racking
business because jobs tend to come in
bunches; either everybody's building at
once or nobody’s building. During the
busy months, I take on all the work I
can get, which means I have little time
to spend with my family. Lynn never
complains about this—Lynn never
complains about anything—but I be-
gan to feel guilty that I wasn’t with the
kids more. Those guilty feelings turned
to outright hostility sometimes. When
slack season hits, I try to make up for
this neglect by devoting myself to my
family one hundred percent. Then I feel
guilty because I’m not out earning
money. The slow times can be even
more stressful than the overload times.

“I have nightmares about the ex-
penses that are threatening to bury us.
It costs money to run a business, and
even during dry spells, there are taxes,
insurance and payments on equipment
to keep up. I’m ashamed to admit this,
but there are times when I bitterly re-
sent Lynn for not helping out finan-
cially. I know this is unfair, because I
made it clear at the start that I con-

| sidered her homemaking a full-time job.

But the truth is, I’m too exhausted from

| carrying the full responsibility for our
| finances to worry about whether I’m
| behaving fairly. Lynn prides herself on
| being undemanding, yet she depends

on me for everything. Even when it
comes to our sex life, she expects me to
make all the decisions. She never initi-
ates lovemaking, and though she
doesn’t refuse me, I never can tell if
she’s really in the mood or is just ac-
commodating my desires.

“I feel like a pressure cooker, ready to
blow up. I’m so on edge that the least

wes

,matic one: One month into therapy,

little thing sends me out of control. I
would never forgive myself if I hurt
Lynn or one of the children, but during
the past few weeks, I’ve come close. I’ve
been trying to ensure their safety by
staying away from them. Some nights,
I buy a six-pack and go sit on the beach
and just stare at the water. One night, I
parked by the road and slept in the car.

“T need to get physically away, the
farther the better. If I don’t, I am going
to go crazy. Considering the state I’m
in, my family will be better off without
me. I know my walking out is going to
be rough on Lynn, but she will have to
handle it somehow. I can’t think clearly
enough now to be able to help her.”

The counselor's turn

“When this couple entered counseling,
Jack was in a state of such severe de-
pression that he was unable to function
either mentally or emotionally,” sai
the counselor. “In this condition, an-
other type of person might have at-
tempted suicide. Luckily, Jack was not
inclined toward self-destruction, so ina
frantic, instinctive effort to preserve
his sanity, he was seeking another
method of escape from the pressure.

“The personalities of both Jack and
Lynn had been shaped by their fam-
ilies, and despite surface differences,
they were very much alike. Both were
incredibly conscientious people who
habitually minimized their own feei-
ings in order to perform to perfection
the roles in which they had cast them-
selves. Lynn, for example, saw hersel
as the nonassertive nurturer—uncom-
plaining and undemanding, putting ev-
eryone else’s needs above her own. Hav-
ing grown up parenting younger sib-
lings and then a ne’er-do-well husband,
she had continued to play this role in
her second marriage. Jack, for his part,
had been raised in a subtly controlling
family of high achievers, and all of his
life he had been trying to rebel against
that fact. I say ‘trying’ because this re-
bellion never quite got off the ground.
His track record as a goof-off was actu-
ally quite funny; no matter what non-
descript job he started out with, he was
quickly advanced into a position o
greater responsibility.

“My first major challenge was to get
them to rediscover themselves as indi-
viduals. Jack had to realize it was okay
for a good worker-husband-father to be
self-indulgent at times. Lynn had to
know that a good housewife and mother
could have an identity beyond that.

“Lynn’s moment of truth was a dra-

Jack moved into his own apartment.
Heartbroken, Lynn faced this situation
with an amazing show of strength and
determination. Weighing her talents,
she pinpointed the one (continued)

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continued

that was most marketable and started
her own small business—cleaning houses.

“At first, Jack assumed that isolating
himself from his family would relieve
him of tension. This did not prove to be
true. Six weeks of loneliness were
enough to convince him that life was
empty without the supporting frame-
work of the family unit. To the relief of
all concerned, he moved back home.

“But things had changed there in the
short time he had been gone. Jack was
surprised to find that his wife’s new
business was doing extremely well.
Lynn was busy doing light housekeep-
ing for elderly and disabled people. She
already had five or six regular custom-
ers for her services, and she was aver-
aging eight dollars an hour. She was
also enjoying the company of the wom-
en for whom she was working and con-
sidered several of them friends.

“Now that Lynn’s earnings lightened
their financial burden, Jack felt com-
fortable cutting back on his own work
hours. With Lynn’s encouragement, he
used some of his free time to reinvolve
himself in the activities he had enjoyed
as a youngster—fishing, camping and
motorcycle riding.

“Realizing that she, too, needed
breathing space, Lynn began to take
some private time for herself. One sig-
nificant step she took toward reducing
her dependency upon her husband was
to join a local health club, which of-
fered her an opportunity to make new
friends, as well as get some physical
exercise. As she gained self-confidence
socially, Lynn became more confident
in private also and, much to Jack’s de-
light, started to assume a more aggres-
sive role in lovemaking.

“As the tension in their lives eased,
Jack was able to analyze the motivation
behind his obsession to achieve. He re-
alized that, subconsciously, he had
been attempting to prove himself to his
father. Once he recognized this, he was
able to reassess his personal value sys-
tem. He and Lynn discussed their pri-
orities and agreed that the acquisition
of material possessions was of far less
importance to them than the enjoy-
ment of a simple, unpressured lifestyle.

“This couple terminated therapy after
eight months, feeling good about them-
selves and about their marriage. One
year later, when contacted for permission
to use their story for this article, Lynn
reported that things were ‘still going
great, and Jack’s like a whole different
person.’ Jack could not come to the phone,
since he had just returned from a four-
day camping trip and was shaving off his
beard before taking the whole family
out for cheeseburgers.” End

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“If you are sad and bored,” my moth-
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I remembered the homely
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If your nose is held to the

grindstone rough

And you hold it down there

long enough

Soon you'll say there’s no

such thing

As brooks that babble and

birds that sing

Three things will all your

world compose:

Just you, the grindstone and

your darned old nose.

Though my mother had been wise
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rately diagnosed my condition. “The
best thing for being sad is to learn
something,” advised T.H. White in The
Sword in the Stone. He was only agree-

ing with my mother, who for years had
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Grrrrr. Find a hobby. I had always
resented her standard American oper-
ating advice, the preferred prescription
for the troubled adolescent, the restless
wife, the distraught divorcée. No mat-
ter that I’d been all three of those. Who,
me? A hobby? Forget it! Where would I
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I began with
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much I’m interested in beyond my work
and my family. ...

To be perfectly honest, none of these
statements was true, but I tried to be-
lieve they all were. After all, no one (no
one like me) pursued a hobby. There
was something too frivolous about the
very word. Hobbies weren’t power
thinking. Hobbies weren’t for the new
woman. Hobbies were for the women
we used to be, not the (all right, yes,
sad and bored) woman I had become.

I had learned as a child to embroider
and do needlepoint. I could place a zip-
per by the time I was ten, and at twelve,
I could whip up summer dresses. I en-

“My mother
was tight”

My life was a busy whirl of career, family and friends.
Yet it all seemed flat and stale. What was wrong with me?

auojayy Siuer

joyed long afternoons at Hale’s Fabric
Shop, poring over pattern books, scru-
tinizing bolts of material, speculating
on rickrack, buttons, seam bindings.
For Christmas one year, I made my
mother and all my sisters long velvet
evening skirts. I expected to do these
things always, whiling away long win-
ter evenings tatting pillow slips, em-
broidering antimacassars as my moth-
er and my aunts had always done.

But when Christmas came during
my first year at college, I was “too
busy” to make homemade presents. I
was a fledgling then in the women’s
movement, and so that year all my sib-
lings received consciousness-raising
materials, pointedly political and
something less than festive, I admit.

By last Christmas, I hadn’t sewn in
fifteen years. “Needlepoint is for nin-
nies,” I told myself firmly whenever I
caught myself loitering outside a yarn
shop. Like many of my friends, I had
managed to misconstrue the women’s
movement as a condemnation of any-
thing traditionally feminine.

And so my long winter evenings were
spent reading and writing and revis-
ing—working. Frankly, it never oc-
curred to me to have a hobby. J was my
hobby. My friends and I tuned our-
selves with the devotion of a ham-radio
enthusiast. And we told ourselves that
our work was all-fulfilling. But we dis-
covered, finally, that it wasn’t.

Maybe my mother was right—maybe
it was time to find a hobby.

I began with rhubarb pies and a two-
month exploratory expedition in search
of the perfect pie crust. I remember the
delighted look on my boyfriend’s face
the first time he came home and found
me covered with flour instead of news-
print. “I’m not going to do this all the
time,” I said defensively, although
braiding the latticework tops was so
much fun,I thought I just might. My
boyfriend solemnly (continued) |

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promised he would not throw my type-
writer out the window: I could be both a
writer and a baker. In fact, as I experi-
mented with ratios of lard to water and
salt, I occasionally stumbled onto story
ideas as delicious as the pies. When I
finally did find the perfect recipe it was
...my mother's.

From pies, I moved to another child-
hood skill lost in the mists of middle
age. Although I had been placed on my
first horse at age two, I had never had
any lessons and had always felt embar-
rassed around real riders. But now, I
decided to take some lessons.

Seven blocks from my home, in the
heart of Manhattan, behind plain
wooden doors, I found Claremont Rid-
ing Academy. It was a magical place,
full of the pungent smells of sweat and
leather. Twenty feet from a busy city
street, a ring full of glistening horses
cantered me back to childhood feelings
of awe and delight. Two months later, I
became the proud owner of a hand-me-
down horse, rescued at the last moment
from a public auction. He lived in an
upstairs stall at Claremont.

A horse! What was I doing with a
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am now a hobbyist and my hobby is
Camouflage, large and speckled, who is
currently battling “thrush,” the equine
equivalent of athlete’s foot.

“A horse is some hobby!” I’ve heard
people say. They chide me because. it’s
extravagant—which it is. My riding
clothes—and my horse itself—are sec-
ondhand, but there is really no way to
justify the hours I spend happily chat-
ting about horse lore, joyfully swabbing
dirty hooves. There are other things I
should be doing, to be sure. But inside
the stable doors, I don’t do any of those
things. Immersed in my hobby, I am

not an overworked writer or single
mother. Immersed in my hobby, Iam a
happy woman. | pick the hoof clean,

soak it in plain water in a cheap metal
bucket, wipe it dry, swab it with hydro-
gen peroxide, \ while it fizzes, then
go on to the next hoof. For the moment,
I don’t worry that my daughter's best
friend has just moved away, that the car
keeps coughing. Those are my prob-
lems. My hobby, to my vast surprise, is
now the road to my solutions.

What is going on here? Reading Rollo
Mays book The Courage io Create, I
stumbled onto the answer. It takes both
sides of the brain to solve a problem with
true wisdom. For years, I had been rely-
ing solely on logic, on figuring things
out. Leaving myself no time to mull, I

was trapped on the left side of my brain,
the logical, reasonable side. Once I be-
gan to play a little, especially a rhyth-
mic, repetitive form of play such as rid-
ing, my brain switched over to the right
hemisphere. With the help of this more
intuitive side, the answers to my ques-
tions popped up like bread from a toas-
ter. Immersion, relaxation, solution.
May characterized the process; I was
experiencing its wondrous reality.

“Why do I get my best ideas when I
am shaving?” Einstein once asked a
colleague of his at Princeton. Now I
knew the answer. I remembered stories
of Jane Austen working out her plots
over an evening's sewing, her notebook
hidden on her lap. Far from being a
burden or a hindrance, the sewing
(rhythmic and repetitive just like my
riding) actually helped. I wasn’t alone,
but part of a long tradition.

Like a woman with a new lover, If
found myself unable to resist talking
about my new interest. And when I did,
my friends revealed that they, too, had
recently discovered secret loves of their,
own: gardening, Japanese cuisine, wa-f
tercolor painting. n

Educational expert Dr. Ruth Vanj™
Doran, for fifteen years the director of} jj
the Human Relations Department of
the New School for Social Research in
New York City, happily confirmed that
there has been a dramatic upswing in
learning for learning’s sake. “There is af”
turning away from self-help. People
now come to the university for moreg’
enduring satisfactions.”

“Enduring satisfactions”—a_lovel
phrase and a lovelier turn of events.
“People want to have some balance i
their lives,” said Van Doran. “They re-f —
alize they need to mix vocational andi \,
avocational interests.”

Just like my mother, Dr. Van Dora
believes in hobbies. Hobbies for bal
ance. Hobbies for perspective.

In a competitive world, hobbies arej,
an oasis of enjoyment for enjoyment’,
sake. I will not be appearing with th
Olympic equestrian team, except in my,
fantasies. My sister Loretta’s spectacu
lar needlepoint pillows will be sho
only in her living room. And when myphit
sister Connie takes time out from
mothering and writing, she make
Christmas wreaths that cheer her soul
as well as her siblings’ homes.

For all of us, a hobby improves th
quality of life, endowing us with a 5
sense of luxury. This is frivolous and i
am doing it simply because I love to dq
it. A hobby reminds us that anything=@
worth doing is worth doing even badly#
that while the unexamined life is no
worth living, the unlived life is no
worth examining.

Immersed in my hobby, I feel full
and joyfully alive. End

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BY SUSAN DWORKIN

Recently, Marlo Thomas sat down
in her New York apartment to tell
the Journal what she’s learned
over the last twenty years of
“growing up in public,” as she
calls it. No longer “That Girl,”
Marlo, who turns forty-one this
month, has matured into a very
outspoken actress and wornc
with a husband and family and
some very definite opinions tha
she is only too happy to share
Those opinions are the produc
of a tumultuous two decades, re-
flected in the roles she’s played—
from Danny Thomas's daugh
to “That Girl” to a militant fem:
nist. Today the feminism re-
mains, but it is tempered by her
latest role: wife to Phil Donahue
and stepmother to his five chil-
dren (four boys and a girl). Her
career has also matured consider-
ably. Marlo is steadily developing

her reputation as a serious actress
with such TV films as The Lost
Honor of Kathryn Beck, in which
she co-starred with Kris Kristof-
ferson, and ABC-TV’s Consent-
ing Adult, with Martin Sheen, to
be aired this month.

The new Marlo looks more so-
phisticated, too. She sports a
shorter and somewhat lighter
hairstyle and more stylish cloth-
ing. Some things, however, re-
main the same. Her dark eyes still
sparkle with wit, and she has the
body of a young gymnast.

On this particular morning,
Marlo is wearing a baby- blue

eat suit, which she has worn to
ound the reservoir in Cen-

irk. “I hate running!” she

says, laughing. “I don’t know
what people are talking about
when they say running is fun. It
hurts my chest. It hurts my feet. I

get earaches when I run. I never
hated it before because I never
had to do it. But now that I feel I
must do it, I have to shame my-
self into it and absolutely obsess
on how good I’m going to feel
after its over. Like now I feel ter-
rific. Let’s eat!”

Marlo brings out corn soup,
iced herbal tea and banana
bread, and the conversation be-
gins in earnest. Over the course of
several hours, she will address
an incredibly wide range of top-
ics—all the things women talk
about when they get together. Not
surprisingly, the informal chat
quickly turns to the topic of sex.

SEX

Mario: I used to think
girls didn’t like sex as much as
boys did.

LHJ: How old were you when
you stopped thinking that,
Marlo?

Mario: It’s so long ago, I can’t
remember!

TEENAGE BOYS

Marlo: Back when I
was a teenage girl, I thought
teenage boys were really dan-
gerous. Everybody said they
were. The nuns who were my
teachers said they were. They
said you shouldn’t sit on a boy’s
lap without putting a news-
paper or a pillow down first.
They said you shouldn’t wear
patent leather shoes because
your underpants would be re-
flected in them—I’m not kid-
ding, that’s exactly what they
said. Ask any woman who
went to Catholic (continued)

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could do it, my sister and brother and I could do it. And

} every single person that my father knew seemed to be able
nS [0 Cc OOSE to do comedy.

But one day, when I was in That Girl, we were doing
scene in which my character, Ann Marie, is in an Italian

f] Orn wh restaurant with her boyfriend Donald, and she’s all excite
I because she’s gotten a part in a movie. She’s reading th
I script for the first time, and she’s reading it aloud fo
Donald. And the waiter is eavesdropping.
S O YO ry “Angela walks into the room,” Ann Marie reads, “an

she’s beautiful. Her eyes are bright and her hair is flowing
the >»

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V Marlo: I used to think that comedy was some-
QO. With all those :

And as the lights from the window come up on her, w

realize that she is. . .” Ann Marie stops reading. She can’
go on.
“She is what?” Donald asks.

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Ann Marie is terrified. “She is naked,” she whispers.
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tu otex Mada eS naked sound different from the second naked. He couldn’t
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comedian to do comedy.

MARLO THOMAS

continued

school. And my parents didn’t want me out alone with a
boy at night—only in groups.

Now that I have four stepsons [Phil Donahue’s children;
he also has a daughter], it seems hilarious to me that these
are the dangerous people I heard so much about. These
sweet, friendly, lovable creatures, they’re worried about
their own dangers—what are they going to do with their
lives? What courses should they take? What college should
they attend? They’re desperate to know what the rules are,
and where they fit in. And you know what they’re afraid of

eye A. Its got

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e
LHJ: What did your mother tell you that turned 1] }
out to be true?

Marlo: When I was a kid, I used to ask my mother, “Tell

me, Mom, how will I know when it’s true love?” And my
mother would say, “You'll know.” CO Or e

Well, of course that drove me crazy! “Don’t tell me I'll
know! How will I know? Will lights flash? Will bells ring?”
But my mother would smile enigmatically and float off
toward the kitchen, saying, “You'll know. You'll just know.”

So now—though I’m going to faint from having to
admit this—now younger women friends tell me that
they’re living with a guy, or they’ve stopped living with a
guy, or they've started dating again, and they're all
looking for Mr. Right, and they all ask, “How will I know
when it’s true love?” And you know what I say? I say,
“You'll know.”

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LHJ: What about politics?

Marlo: Everyone I support seems to lose.

LHJ: That’s not what we mean. What do you think about
politicians, and do you have hope for our political future?

Mario: My family used to say that if the politicians didn’t
know what they were doing, they wouldn’t be in Washington.
And I believed that. Now I’ve done a turnaround. I think if
politicians are in Washington, it’s not because they know how
to run the country, it’s because they know how to be politicians.

I believe we have a whole country full of doubters now.
We're like the woman who has been taken advantage of one
too many times. The next guy who comes through the door
is going to get it!

The good news is that with all our doubting and testing,
we still have hope. Just like the woman who’s been taken
advantage of one too many times, all we need is a good,
caring lover to turn us around. Just one, and all our suspi-
cions will melt away.

2 ( PRIORITIES
LHJ: Have your priorities changed? Between now

and, say, ten years ago, do you still maintain the same sense
of the relative importance of things?

Marlo: For years I was so focused on working, that on my
calendar, I wrote everything having to do with work—
rehearsals, screenings, meetings, shootings, editing—in
ink. Then, when I became so involved in the women’s
movement, all the marches, rallies, speeches, fund-raisers
and strategy sessions were also written in ink. But my
|personal life—dinner parties, theater tickets, weddings,

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christenings, even dates—was always written in pencil.
Psychologically, that meant they could be moved. A march
on Washington couldn’t be moved. But an appointment
with a friend for lunch, that could be moved. Now my
personal life is as important to me as my professional life.
LHJ: Did that start when you met Phil?

Marlo: Yes, it has a lot to do with Phil’s impact on my life. It
also has to do with growing up.

LHJ: Does this mean that now your personal life is in ink
and your professional life is in pencil?

Marlo: No, now the whole calendar is in ink. Now nothing
can be moved.

- ( GETTING ANGRY
Marlo: My mother, my aunts and my grand-

mothers all hid their anger. Rage, screaming and yelling
were what the men in our family did, but not the women:
They were too “ladylike.” As a result, I had the impression
that men couldn’t control their anger, and women just
didn’t have anger, they had hurt feelings. “I’m hurt,” my
mother would say. “Of course I’m not angry, I’m disap-
pointed.” That’s the way she would put it.

I think all of history is about women holding their anger
in. My grandfather would fly into a rage and throw glasses
across the room. And in would come my grandmother with
a broom and dustpan and downcast eyes to clean it up.
Like she wasn’t angry, just “disappointed.”

Well, I no longer believe that my grandmother didn’t
have any anger. Now I think she was just afraid to show it.
We women have tried to get men to show their true feel- —

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just trying to get me to practice, and I
did, a little, but not enough. So today I
can’t play.

It turns out that people who play the
piano are the life of the party. I have a
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Anyway, in the last few years I’ve
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I suddenly realized that my father
wasn’t really trying to get me to prac-
tice the piano so that I would be the life
of the party; he was trying to give mea
hobby, something creative that I could
do when I was alone. And because I
didn’t understand how important that
was, it took me until now to find my
hobby. If there are words of wisdom I'd

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like to pass on to my stepkids, they are:
Learn to do something creative by
yourself. Practice the piano, take the
photograph, rebuild the engine, write
the poem, paint the landscape. Do
something, your own something.

Ed. note: Marlo, see our article, “My
Mother Was Right,” page 22.

THE WOMEN’S
MOVEMENT

Marlo: [ have been a feminist
for so long, so strongly, that I can’t re-
member when the women’s movement
wasn’t a part of my life. But I know that
in the early years of my involvement, I
believed that the struggle was going to
be temporary. I thought that surely in
my lifetime, we women would win our
rights, and everything would be okay
forever after. Now I know that isn’t
true, that the struggle for equality isn’t
temporary, and we shouldn’t take for
granted what we have so recently won.

Every single one of us is freer now
than we were twenty years ago. But
freer isn’t the same as free. More fair
isn’t the same as just. And when I hear
a young woman say that she’s not a fem-
inist, I want to plead with her not to give
up the fight when it’s only round one.

If I know anything now that I didn’t
know then, it’s that women cannot stop

struggling for their rights any more #
than Americans can stop nurturing #

progress and defending democracy. You
have to realize that there is no end to it.
And once you learn that, you don’t take
anything for granted, and you never
lose hope for the future.

HOME

Marlo: When I was a child, wel)

traveled so much (because of my fa-§)

ther’s career) that I was sometimes up-

set that I didn’t have a home. And once}

more, in my life today, Phil and I doa
lot of traveling. So I’ve stopped looking

for a real home. I’ve begun to feel at¥

home almost anywhere. I don’t mind
living in a hotel for a while; I travel in!
airplanes as if they were buses, and I’
not settled anywhere. I have a place i
New York and a place in Winnetka and
all kinds of hotels and stopping-off

places in between, and it’s fine with me}

The truth is, home is not a place
Home is where Phil is.

SEX (AGAIN)

LHJ: What's your final word on

sex, Marlo?
Marlo: I used to believe that sex would

grow less interesting as one grew older

LHJ: When did you stop thinking that?
Marlo: I think I finally gave it up or
my last birthday. Enc

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3. You should never use bread to sop
up gravy from your plate.
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4. It is never acceptable to taste food
from another person’ plate.
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5. At a formal dinner, you may not
pick up the small parts of a chicken,
duck or turkey with your fingers.
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6. If there are no ashtrays on the
table at a dinner party, you should
ask the hostess for one.

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7. When a couple are dining out, the
woman always tells the man what
she wants and he orders it.

True False

8. If the service at a restaurant is
terrible, it is acceptable not to tip.
True False

9. If someone asks you the cost of a
gift, furnishings or piece of clothing,
you are not obliged to tell them.
True______ False

10. When you drink wine, always cup

hand and then take a sip.

True False

11. If your guests bring you a gift of
wine or dessert, you are obliged to
serve it with the meal.

True False

12. The hostess always serves herself
first, then passes the food around
the dinner table.

True False

13. At a formal dinner party, all the

15. When the hostess rises to pass
something or to clear the table, you
should also rise to help.

True

False

16. All forks should be placed to the
left of the plate and all knives and
spoons to the right.

True False

17. When a party is given for you,
you should send flowers to your

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Answers

1. False. If she’s the hostess, a woman
must always rise to greet each of her
arriving guests. A woman should also
stand when an older or more prominent
person is being introduced to her, or if
he or she is someone she has wanted to
meet for a long time, or someone with
whom she would like to continue talk-
ing. Otherwise, a woman may remain
seated when being introduced.

2. True. There are some situations in
which elbows are not only permitted on
the table but are actually necessary. If
you are in a restaurant or at a dinner
party where the noise level is high, you
may have to lean forward to hear and
make yourself heard. It seems far more
practical and attractive to lean forward
on your elbows than to yell or hunch
over while trying to carry on a con-
versation. But even in these special sit-
uations you should never put your
elbows on the table while eating.

3. False. You may dip bread into gravy;
however, you should do it properly. Put
a small piece of bread down on the
gravy and then eat it with a fork as
though it were any other helping on
your plate. Any good sauce may be
finished in this way—in fact, to do so is

actually a compliment to the cook.

4. False. You may taste food from an-
other’s plate if you do so unobtrusively.
The correct way is to hand your fork to
your dinner partner, who will pick up a
bit of food from his or her plate and
then carefully hand it back to you. Your
partner may also put a small portion on
your plate before he or she starts eat-
ing. It is definitely not correct to spear
your partner’s food, nor should your
companion give you a bite of food with
his or her fork after having used it.

5. True. When eating poultry at a for-
mal dinner, cut off as much of the meat
as you can and leave the rest on your
plate. However, among family and
friends, small joints such as the wing of
a chicken or a squab may be picked up
with the fingers. Larger joints, such as
a drumstick, may be picked up after
you have eaten the pieces that are more
easily cut off. Never eat the main body
of the bird with your fingers. Other
foods (chops, corn on the cob and as-
paragus) may also be eaten with the
fingers in informal situations, but re-
member to do so as neatly as possible.
6. False. Ashtrays are becoming in-
creasingly obsolete at the dinner table
as many people object to the odor of
cigarette smoke during the meal. By
not having ashtrays at the table, the
hostess is subtly indicating that she

would prefer her guests not to smoke
during the meal. The guests shoulc
comply with the unspoken request and
wait until after they have left the tabld
to light their cigarettes. |
7. False. Many waiters ask the woma
for her order first in an effort to be
polite, and there’s no reason why shé_
shouldn’t answer directly. When in ¢
group, each individual should give his o1
her own order, as this is less confusing}
However, when acouple are dining along
in a restaurant, the woman may tell)
her partner her choice, and it is acceptl)
able for him to order for both of them.
8. True. You may reduce the tip or omi
it entirely if you had poor service. How)
ever, it is courteous to voice a complain
first to the waiter (or whoever was re
sponsible for the poor service), and if h
makes no effort to correct the situation
the headwaiter or whoever is in charg
should be notified.

9. True. You are under no obligation t
give out information about the cost o
things. Good answers for skirting thd
issue are: “More than I probably shoul
have paid,” or “Not as much as you’@
think.” Inquiries about money are ge
erally in poor taste and can be coun!
tered by saying, “I’d rather not tal
about that, if you don’t mind. With th
cost of living what it is, the whole sub
ject is just too depressing. .. .” and thei
change the subject.

10. False. When you are drinking win
you should pick up the glass by th
stem rather than the bowl. If you ar
drinking white wine or champagnd
this helps keep the wine cool; if red of
rosé, it lets you appreciate the color.

In the past, wine experts decree
that certain wines could be served onl:
with certain foods. The rules are nj
longer so rigorous, but white wine i
traditionally served with fish or fow
and red with meat, duck or game. It i}
up to the host to choose any wine he of
she thinks the guests would enjoy. |
11. False. You do not have to serve a gifl)
that a guest brings. In fact, considera
guests should always consult with t
hostess before bringing any wine oj)
food to a dinner party. It is very discor
certing for a hostess who has planned }
light dessert to follow a hearty meal t})
feel that she must serve a rich cake af
sugary pie brought by one of he
guests. A box of candy or other foo
that can be passed around after dinne}
or saved for another occasion is gene]
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to a small dinner party is now becon})
ing widespread because it need not bi
expensive and the hostess may alway)
save the wine for another time if it i)
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ools, stereos, tape recorders, toys,
vatches, luggage, leather goods and au-
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A TAXING QUESTION

Vhile many people wait until spring
efore they think of taxes, now is really
he best time to ask yourself how you
an reduce your 1984 tax bill. You may
vant to offset a profit on one stock, for
xample, by selling one of the under-
chievers in your portfolio. Or, if it’s
ossible, you might want to shift income

from 1984 to 1985 and incur any large
deductible expenses before year’s end.

There also are a few things you
should know about changes that were
made in the tax law this year, accord-
ing to Sidney Kess, a partner with the
accounting firm Main Hurdman.

1. The deadline for putting money
into an IRA has changed. In past years,
you could wait until August 15 and
even beyond. Now, you must have your
money in by April 15.

2. If you were involved in a property
settlement due to a divorce last year, be
sure to consult your accountant before
year’s end. Changes in the law may
make it possible for you to save on
taxes if you act quickly.

3. If you plan on making any deduc-
tions next year for a business-related use
of an automobile, a home computer or
other business equipment, get your rec-
ord-keeping house in order right away.
The IRS has tightened its requirements
and wants careful records kept to prove
that those items were really used for
business-related activities.

THE LONG DISTANCE
DILEMMA

If you live in or near a metropolitan
area, you’ve probably been besieged by
mail from companies that offer dis-
counts on long-distance telephone
rates. But how do you know which one’s
for you? Or whether you should stick
with one of Ma Bell’s children? (Unfor-
tunately, these alternative services are
often not available to people who live
twenty-five to fifty miles or more out-
side of cities.)

The key to picking an alternative
service is to comparison shop. The first
step is to look at last year’s phone bills
and determine your calling habits—
how long your conversations last, for
example, or where and when you make
most of your calls. The Telecommunica-
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mends that you call the toll-free num-
bers for the different phone companies
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some typical calls. To find the companies’
numbers, call 1-800-555-1212. When you
talk to the salespeople, remember to be
persistent. They may be reluctant to give
you exactly the figures you want.

It’s also important to find out what
each company charges for its basic
services, and what special features it
offers. For a chart that includes facts
about the eight largest companies,
send a self-addressed stamped envelope
to the Telecommunications Research
and Action Center, PO. Box 12038,
Washington, D.C. 20005.

HELPLINE!

My elderly mother wants to open a

Joint savings account with a younger
friend, who will take care of her if she
becomes incapacitated. Is this safe?

Watch out. Joint accounts can be a

problem since each person gener-
ally has a right to 50 percent of the
money. So, if your mother’s friend with-
drew half your mother’s money, there’s
little that could be done.

There may also be a problem for po-
tential heirs, in that the surviving
holder of a joint account can generally
lay claim to any money in it.

Such difficulties can be avoided, how-
ever, with these precautions, according
to Joseph T. Arenson, a professor at
New York Law School. @ When the ac-
count is opened, put in writing that it is
a convenience account that can only
be used in certain circumstances. @
Make arrangements so that two signa-
tures are required for any withdrawal.
@ Keep the amount of money in the
account relatively small.

Another option: have your mother
keep her own account, but give limited
power of attorney to you or her friend to
withdraw a specific amount of money
each week to meet her needs.

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the fierce but lovable Mr. T.

artist Alexis Adams,

hen The A-
Team went on
the air, it wasn’t
just a TV se-
ries for me; it
was the beginning of the end of
the worst period of my life,”
says George Peppard.

had three marriages,

ree divorces. I had three chil-
di ‘ts of responsibilities,
al d just come off a five-year
career slide. | was broke and in
debt. I'd borrowed from the

bank to li ’d moved four
times in five years. I had stopped
drinking for the first time since

the age of twenty-two, and I
saw very little hope in terms of
a future film career. Besides
that, I had a patchwork-quilt
history of neurotic problems.
Mine isn’t a string of victories.
Its no golden past. I went
through lots of emotional un-
happiness. I’m really not a
George Peppard fan.”

The silver-haired star of The
A-Team and J are sitting in his
dressing room for the first of a
series of soul-searching talks.
And in spite of what he says,
the Peppard in front of me to-
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His hair is abundant; his powder-blue
eyes clear; his face as handsome as ever,
and his six-foot-one-inch frame is still
lean, thanks to a strict regimen of fish,
chicken and exercise.

Physically, there is little evidence of
the turmoil of the last decade. But as
we talk, I realize that the inner George
has changed a great deal. He is some-
how softer, as he says, “more loving,”
and there is little trace of the arrogance
or autocratic manner that reporters
used to describe.

Instead, I find a man who is surpris-
ingly open, and surprisingly willing to
reveal—and understand—himself. It is
a process that takes us back to Pep-
pard’s beginnings.

“Most actors have some screwup in
their past that brings them to this
world of fantasy, and they work off
their neuroses,” Peppard, fifty-six, ex-
plains. “I was an only child, reared in
the Depression by parents who had
their own problems. I came away with
conflicts, psychological difficulties. My
angst led me to do destructive things.”

Peppard was born in Detroit to Ver-
nelle and George Peppard, a voice
coach and a building contractor, respec-
tively. His parents were Christian spir-
itualists who studied Orientalism,
practiced yoga, ate kelp, discussed the
karmic law, enrolled their son in St.
Paul’s Episcopal Cathedral and encour-
aged him to become a choirboy. He
loved them “immeasurably,” he says,
but being an only child was very lonely.
At seventeen, he opted for the Marine
Corps, “and you stop. being a choirboy
pretty quick there.” A few years later,
his father died, leaving fifteen houses
under construction and lots of debts.
Two weeks after that his mother suf-
fered a heart attack. “That’s when the
drinking started,” he says. “I sat there
staring at a tiny television screen every
night and drank myself to sleep.”

When his mother recovered, George
returned to his university studies, but
instead of becoming a civil engineer as
he had intended, he found himself
drawn to acting. While supporting him-
self with whatever kind of work he

~ could find—as a mechanic, mason, elec-

trician, construction laborer, fencing
instructor, janitor, bank clerk, cabbie,
building contractor and radio announ-
cer—he made his debut at the Pitts-
burgh Playhouse and then made his
way to the Actors Studio. In 1954 he
married aspiring actress Helen Davies;
they had two children, Bradford and
Julie. By 1957, the fellow with the face
of a movie star was in Hollywood.

In the 1960s, George Peppard became
a bona fide film star. He bought a big

house in Beverly Hills, earned $1.5 mil-
lion some years and developed a repu-
tation for being a world-class drinker.
“In this business, there’s a lot of pres-
sure that’s self-generated,” he says.
“And if you take drugs or alcohol to
anesthetize yourself, you compound the
problem. You eventually have to deal
with the aftereffects of the substance,
which leaves you weakened, while the
pressure remains just as strong.”
George takes a gulp from his third cup
of black coffee and continues slowly.
“Drinking is not a good way to deal with
insecurities. It fed the anger inside me.
People would see it in my eyes and step
back. Drinking affected my actions in
ways that were not good for my career—
not good for the people around me.”
Some of the people affected were
George’s wives, though he won’t take
responsibility for all his marital prob-
lems. “Those ladies brought plenty of
problems along with them. I won’t take
the rap solely for my three divorces.”

rinking is not
a good way to
deal with
insecurities.
It fed the anger

inside me. Drinking
affected my actions
in ways that were
not good for people
around me.”

In 1965, Helen Davies and George Pep-
pard were divorced. Shortly afterward he
met actress Elizabeth Ashley. He was a
hot property at the time, had a hilltop
home above Coldwater Canyon and a
woman who couldn’t bear to be away
from him. Ashley was so miserable apart
from George that she once borrowed
$35,000 to buy herself out of a New York
play so they could be together.

The couple married in Los Angeles.
The second Mrs. Peppard bore a child,

Christian, but in the years before their
1972 divorce, the relationship became
increasingly stormy, and Elizabeth be-
gan taking periodic sabbaticals from her
husband. They finally fell so far apart

that she reported it in gritty detail in
her 1978 autobiography, Actress: Post-
cards from the Road.

The book showed a marriage of stun-
ning violence. In one episode, Ashley de-
scribed a fight in the kitchen at four in
the morning. Peppard had been drink-
ing, she wrote, and she was making him

an omelet. “He picked up the hot fryin
pan and swung it at me as hard as h
could,” Ashley wrote. “It caught m
right on the side of the face. He
totally out of control. I was sure he wa:
going to kill me.”

Another passage described this scen
“T lunged for his briefcase to get at th
loaded gun I knew would be the
George came straight at me and I picke
up the case and struck him with it har
enough to stun him, then snapped it ope
and grabbed at the gun, a huge .35
Magnum. I was crazed and I was going
blow him away. He smacked me on th
arm, and when the gun went flying out o
my hand he made a dive for it and got i
back . . .an hour later we were reconciled.’

When the book was published, Georg
said it was full of lies and felt “like some
one asked to prove he doesn’t go home a’
night and pull legs off flies.” He ha
nearly reached the bottom—both in hi
personal life and in his career—after
downhill slide that had started in th
early 1970s. Unable to make the transi
tion from leading man to character actor,
he had found himself in a succession 0:
dissatisfying B movies.

Even Peppard’ budding television ca
reer was cut short by what seemed
be his self-destructive impulses. Hi
successful NBC-TV detective series
Banacek, was canceled in 1974 when h
walked out because a network executiv
would not reveal the name of a new pro
ducer of the show. And his next televisio
enterprise, Doctors’ Hospital, also ende
with a Peppard walkout, this time be
cause, he says, “I had sinus problems.”

And yet he could ill afford to give up
these jobs. While his acting career wi
heading downhill, his alimony bills to his
two ex-wives were definitely upscale, and
he desperately needed to work. His ac-
countant told him that $400,000 a year;
was required simply to keep even.

It was a time of closed doors, a bad
image and big debts. Wife Number One
was getting $1,900 a month. Wife Num-
ber Two was getting $2,500 a month. He
was earning $400 a month. Saying he’d
“arrived at a crossroads in life,” he peti-
tioned a court to reduce his burden. “I'd
paid my first wife long enough, so the
court let me out of that one,” he says. In
the second case, “the lady was earning
more money than I was.” The court
agreed that a settlement of $60,000 over
five years, plus $1 million in property,
would end George's obligations.

While still saddled with debts and still
fueling his problems with bourbon, Pep-
pard married his third wife, actress
Sherri Boucher, on January 30, 1975.

The high point of that marriage was
the wedding, which took place at night
in the Las Vegas desert. Says Peppard,
sighing, “When we got married I was
drunker ’n hell.” (continued)

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After several years of this unhappy union, George realized
that he had to change his life. It was 1978, and he hadjust
turned fifty. “One morning I woke up and said, ‘That’s it.’ I'd
had years of unpleasant experiences, remorse, hungover
guilts that every drinker knows. But suddenly.I could stand
away from myself and see how terribly I’d behaved. The
reverberations. of years of unpleasantness hit, and I was
appalled that I’d been so stupid.

“The vision of myself as a drunk was an emotional shock. I
saw that, for me, whiskey—even wine—was an enemy. There
was no question in my mind that I would never touch it again,
any more than Id take a sip of battery acid. Maybe some
people can drink, but I can’t. It had me by the throat. I
couldn’t go near it again—ever.”

When George stopped, he stopped cold, “and thirty days
later Sherri and I were finished. We were divorced in 1978.”
eriod of my life,”
he tells me'the next afternoon over an all-day lunch. “That's
the irony.” He smiles.“You quit drinking and everything's
supposed to go great, right? For me, everything went to hell.”

By this time, George had decided that he had to move out of
the five-bedroom ranch house that he loved but could r
longer afford. He rented it out, and on December 20, 1978 he
and his ten-year-old son, Christian, who was living with him,
moved into a little condominium in Marina Del Rey. Latex
they moved to a small house and, after George decided
even that was more than he could afford, to a cheaper house
several blocks away. “People would say, ‘Moving again?’ Don’t
you hate to move?’ and I'd say, “You hate it only as much as you
can afford to hate it.’ ’

50 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL + NOVEMBER 1984

Although it was a shock to Christian to learn that fame is
not synonymous with money, in the long run moving out o
Beverly Hills proved beneficial for father and son. A smaller
home in a less imposing town offered a more ordinary life and
a chance for simple friendship that George never had with his
other two children. As George says, “Chris and I had time
together. We grew close.”

But on the career front, Peppard still seemed bent on self-
destruction. The pilot of Dynasty was shot with Peppard, not
John Forsythe, in the Blake Carrington role. But when Pep-
pard disagreed with some network brains on the character por-
trayal, he offered to retire at their earliest convenience. He
was fired the following week. “It seemed like the death thrust
to a career,” he says softly. “I didn’t have much of a movie
name and here was a big series and I was throwing it away.”

After he lost the Dynasty part, George turned to Broadway,
but his auditions for David Merrick and Alan Jay Lerner won
him no parts. Instead, he went on tour—through Atlanta,
Kansas City, Sacramento—in The Sound Of Music. Then one
day, his agent called and told George about The A-Team.

“To have them even consider me—the Idi Amin of televi-
sion—meant my agent had to do lots of talking. They
definitely were not all that anxious for me. From the
beginning I understood that they wanted James Coburn.

“It was a terrific part, a role that wasn’t dependent on a
pretty face. I wanted the show. I read for the producer, the
executives, the network. Everyone seemed to like it. For a
while, I heard nothing. Their worry was whether I would
stick with it. I told them I wanted this series to run, that they
could count on me. I toid them I'd be there.”

And will he? “I don’t really think Ill screw it up,” he says. “I
like getting paid, and I love the show. With all the action and
stunts, the work is arduous, but I enjoy it.”

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yack into his ranch house. “I’ve been living on small money to
yay off my debts,” he says. “I didn’t move right back into the
vig house as soon as I got the series. I waited until I had
nough money. I waited a long while. It will take me another
vear to pay off the banks at eighteen percent interest. I’ll still
ave a considerable mortgage, but by next year I won’t have
he other debts on top of it.”

George is savvy enough to know he can’t predict the future,
yut he has taken steps to try to insure himself against further
inancial disasters. He has an agent, lawyer, business man-
ger : and public relations team, and “a very large accounting
irm” now oversees his investments.

With life sweet again, Peppard is even looking forward to
umother marriage. “I like women a lot,” he says with a grin.
‘That is, if they’re feminine. They bring me comfort. I want a
vyoman in my life.”

The woman he plans to marry is artist Alexis Adams. They
net at a party three years ago, and he describes her as “a very
sentle human being with a good sense of humor. She’ in-
elligent, lovely, brunet, five foot seven, a great figure, thirty
vears old, never married before, and she speaks French.

“Anybody who’ had three divorces obviously doesn’t have
uis head screwed on right, but I have high hopes for this
lationship. When we met I had nothing. Zip. It’s important
o me that she loved me then. I’m thinking that we’ll get
narried in December.”

Indeed, Alexis seems to have become part of the family for
eppard and his now sixteen-year-old son. She cooks
linner every night and makes special dishes for Christian.
What I try to do is be here if he needs me,” she says of
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as though I were his mom.” At the same time, Chris and his
father continue to have a good relationship. They confide in
each other, play games together and spend weekends enjoy-
ing each other's company.

Is Peppard really ready to settle down to a normal, stable
family life? Can he handle a real commitment? He thinks so.
“Tm different now,” he says. “The difference comes in
accepting my own faults. I learn through repetition. I don’t
seem to learn the first few times.

“Anyway, I’ve become more understanding. I’m not as
demanding. If you’re a star and you need something on the
set, they give it to you quick. You’re serviced like a racing car.
Need gas? They pump it into you. Want a prop, a rewrite,
another take? You get it. I’d come home in that mental state,
and being an unhappy man, I’d make demands like my wife
was a prop man. I know not to do that anymore.

“But the biggest difference in this marriage will be that
this wife will have a bourbonless husband. No more am I
trying to be something I’m not. I’ve learned I’m going to make
mistakes and I accept that now. I don’t expect so much of
myself anymore. I’m easier on me, so I’m easier on others.

“For instance, I love a good cup of coffee. Before, if someone
handed me instant, I’d feel put-upon. I'd be irritated. I'd
make a big deal of it. Now, I don’t generate problems. I just
drink the stuff and figure, what the hell, why make a fuss.
Before, I’d have looked for a showdown.”

Peppard lights another in a chain of cigarettes and downs
yet another cup of coffee. There is a short silence before he
continues. “You know, I never intended to mess anything up
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“Talent isn’t innate—it’s something
you develop.” That refreshing opinion
comes from Muriel Silberstein-Storfer,
head of parent-child workshops at New
York’s Metropolitan Museum of Art and
author of Doing Art Together (Simon
& Schuster, 1982).

Silberstein-Storfer emphasizes that
the key to creativity is doing, and she’s
devoted most of her adult life to teach-
ing parents how to “do art” with their
kids. The hardest thing for parents, she
says, is to forget their notions of what's
good and bad art in order to let the child
discover what appeals to him or her.
“You're not teaching them to be art
critics but to discover a way of looking at
the world, to think visually rather than
merely verbally.”

Silberstein-Storfer is also on the
board of the Crayola “Dream-makers”
project (sponsored by Binney &
Smith), a children’s art exhibit to tour
the country in 1985. Works were
chosen for their expression of the
youngsters’ personal aspirations. And
its that individuality, says Silber-
stein-Storfer, that parents, with the
best of intentions, often squelech—by
prescribing what a child should paint
or what color it should be.

How should a parent begin? Sil-
berstein-Storfer suggests, if possible,
getting involved in a parent-child
community art program or reading a
book on the subject. “You wouldn’t
start cooking without instruction or a
book of recipes, would you?” she says.
“Why should art be any different?”

Silberstein-Storfer has other ideas
to help you and your children develop
your creative potential:

@ Work on conquering your own fear of
being creative artistically, sometimes
disguised as “It’ll make a mess.”

@ Don’t feel you have to paint real-
istically. Remember that you are not
making a chair but a painting of a
chair, your own idea of that chair.

e@ Don’t teach technique for tech-
nique’s sake or make a creative expe-
rience into a rigid lesson. When a
child needs to know how to, say, mix

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colors to make green, he’ll ask.

@ Don’t expect too much from a
child—keep in mind his or her age
and experience. Don’t push.

@ Encourage the child to see the world
in an individual way, not to make a
product that others will praise.

@ Never work on your child’s art, and
don’t let him work on yours. It ceases
to be his painting, his vision, if you
have contributed; worse, he may get
the idea that your way is right and
merely imitate you.

@ Don’t be negative about your child’s
work, but on the other hand, don’t
overpraise. Nobody can always live up
to “That's fantastic,” and a child may
not want to try.

e Take kids to amuseum or do proj-
ects with them and they will learn to
think of these activities as enjoyable
and worthwhile.

PLANTS AND KIDS

Now that children are playing indoors
again, parents are more conscious of
household safety. But one of the most
common hazards is frequently over-
looked: houseplants.

According to Dr. Mary Ann How-
land, professor of clinical pharmacol-
ogy at St. John’s University and con-
sultant at New York City’s Poison
Control Center, plants are among the
most commonly ingested poisonous
substances for children under five,
and the most common for those one
year and under. And with the hoh-
days just around the corner, this is an
especially dangerous time because so
much of the traditional holiday green-
ery is toxic.

At the top of the toxic list is mis-
tletoe, which contains a chemical that
affects blood pressure and the heart.
All parts of the plant are poisonous,
but the berries are especially so:
Ingestion of only a small amount of
the berry can cause severe systemic
poisoning. Holly is another dangerous
holiday attraction; like mistletoe, all
parts of the plant are toxic, but the
poison is concentrated in the berries.
Yew, an evergreen sometimes used for
sprigs or wreaths, is also toxic—nee-
dles, bark and seeds included. Parents

should also investigate any gifts
made of seed or beans, cautions Dr.
Howland. The jequirity bean (also
called rosary pea), used to make inex-
pensive necklaces and such, is ex-
tremely lethal.

But, warns Dr. Howland, so many
plants are hazardous that all parts of
all plants must be considered suspect
unless you specifically know other-
wise. Here are her suggestions:

e Identify all plants in writing. At-
tach a label to the bottom of the con-
tainer with the botanical and com-
mon names. Your florist can help.

e If you find that a plant is toxic, get
rid of it, or place it out of the reach of
children and pets. (Fallen leaves from
these plants are also dangerous.)

e@ Never let children put even cut
flowers or leaves in their mouths.

@ Store bulbs and seeds out of reach
and out of sight. Never put them in
the refrigerator: That enhances a
child’s perception of them as food.

e Look up the number of the local or
regional poison control center and
post it in a prominent place.

e Keep a bottle of syrup of ipecac on
hand to induce vomiting, but do not
use it without instructions from your
doctor or poison control center.

And what should you do if you see
that your child has eaten a leaf or
some other part of a plant? The first
thing to do is get it out of the mouth
and note what it is. Exactly what the
child has eaten— whether a leaf, a ber-
ry or some other part of the plant—is
important. Rinse the child’s mouth,
and if he is conscious, give milk. Call
the poison control center immediately.

PARENTING TIP

Organizing hand-me-down infant
clothes is a cinch with the economy-
sized disposable diaper boxes. I kept
an empty box of my older son’s cur-
rent diaper size in his closet to store
clothes that he so rapidly outgrew.
When the box was full I sealed it—no
labeling was necessary. Now when I
need clothes for my second son, I can
unpack the box corresponding to his
diaper size.

—Joy J. Cates, Franklin, TN

~ Whyis]Jan tickled pink
while Judy’ feeling blue?

Wa, Because Jans wearing elastic-leg Huggies’
: which help stop leaking.

But poor Judy’s wearing a saggy diaper that leaks. No wonder
Jan’s on her way to another masterpiece while Judy’s lost her
inspiration.

And that’s enough protection to keep any
baby happy.
Even a temperamental artist like Jan.

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P| f Dr. Balter is a
practicing
psychologist and professor of
educational psychology at New York
University. He also hosts a highly
popular call-in radio program on
WABC TALKRADIO for questions
about child rearing and is a regular

- contributor to The CBS Morning News.

Last term my eleven-year-old

son just wouldn’t study and al-

ways forgot to do his home-
work. I found myself nagging and bat-
tling with him—like when he was a
toddler. Is there something I can do to
make this a better school year?

You can nag, threaten, cajole,
bribe and punish your son un-

til you’re completely exasper-

~ ated—all to no avail.

First of all, you need to figure out
the source of the problem. I'd start by

_ finding out whether he has emotional

or physical problems that require pro-

_ fessional help. Depression, for exam-
_ ple, can cause a lack of motivation and

poor work habits. It’s also possible
that a vision problem or learning dis-
ability has gone undetected. Ask a
school psychologist about tests.

Some other possible sources of the
problem: Perhaps the work in general

was too difficult for him. Then again,
_ maybe he’s a very bright child and the

work simply held no challenge for him.

Remember, too, that forgetfulness
can be a form of resistance. If your son
has trouble opposing you, his anger

_ may show up in “innocent” forms of

retaliation, such as noncompliance.
When people say, “It slipped my mind,”
they convey their sense of blameless-
ness for their lack of cooperation.
There are several things you can do.
(If these don’t help, ask your son’s

By Lawrence Balter, Ph.D.

teacher for additional suggestions.)

Try to avoid the temptation to do
the work for him. If he has fallen be-
hind, see if you can arrange for a tu-
tor. A neutral person is better able to
avoid the emotional pitfalls inherent
in this situation. Even studying with
a friend can be beneficial.

Organize a family conference to dis-
cuss responsibilities. Listen to your
son’s complaints, even if you feel
they’re just excuses. Explain to him
that just as you and your husband
have a responsibility to get to work
and accomplish what you're there for,
so he has certain responsibilities. Let
him figure out how much time he
needs for his homework, and let him
choose the time that’s convenient.

Help him arrange the homework
assignments into manageable sec-
tions. If he perceives a mountain of
homework, he may be afraid to even
start. But if you can help him break it
up into twenty- or thirty-minute seg-
ments—or however long he can sus-
tain the necessary concentration—
perhaps beginning won’t seem so
ominous. This way you'll be his ally
rather than his adversary.

When he finishes a segment, offer
small rewards—a break to watch
some TV, a phone call to a friend, or
some other small relief. But if he miss-
es his segment, don’t punish him. If
you do, he will understand that you
consider this your problem, not his.

Similarly, don’t be too lavish in
your praise when he does his: work.
The idea is to let the natural rewards
and punishments take over—that is,
his pride in a job well done, or his
shame in failing at a task he is capa-
ble of doing well. Achieving this dis-
tance is necessary if he is to under-
stand that the responsibility—and
the consequences—are his, not yours.

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Mildred Newman and Bernard Berkowitz told you in their highly
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evokes images of equality and partnership,
yet we are not speaking of an equality that
seeks to eradicate or deny the differences
between men and women. Instead, we are
thinking of bonds of trust, loyalty, emo-
tional openness and, most of all, closeness.
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way to be together, but we know as well
that its attainment is by no means sim-
ple. From our perspective as psycho-
analysts, it is the fear of closeness that
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living together—whether sex, money
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apart two otherwise loving people.
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any sharp or open conflict, a hidden
fear of closeness accounts for much of
what so many couples describe as
boredom or emptiness. (We speak here
of emotional closeness, not physical in-
timacy. The sexual revolution failed to
deal with the fear of closeness. In fact,
some sexually active people with many
partners succeed in not getting very
close to any of them.)

Achieving closeness is a_ three-
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Strengthen your sense of self

Establishing a strong sense of self
can be difficult for some women. Per-
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feel like a little girl taken care of by
someone big and strong who is wise
enough to make all the right decisions
and take all the uncertainty out of life.
It may even seem as though your man
enjoys seeing you that way. But if you
want to be his best friend—and your
own—you won't present that child’s
identity to him, except in play. The un-
acknowledged wish to be taken care of
can lead to fear of losing control of your
own destiny and autonomy, or to a
vague fear of being swallowed up or
losing your identity. In either case, you
wouldn’t be long contented in such a
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before he felt he was lacking an adult
partner to share his life?

It’s obvious that by playing the obe-
dient child, you’re willing to leave all
the decisions up to him. But if, on the
other hand, you try to show your de-
fiance by playing the teenage rebel,
he’s still controlling you, because all of
your actions depend on what he de-
cides. In such circumstances, whatever
he wants, you want the opposite—and
that’s not independence either.

If you can deal with your wish to
escape being an adult, and if you can
see that adults can be interdependent,
then closeness will no longer signify
becoming childish, nor will you need to
defend yourself against it by reliving
your adolescence. When you eliminate
these anachronistic needs for submis-
sion or dissension, you'll be able to de-
velop closeness and friendship in the
relationship. There can also be a re-
lease of the creative energy necessary
to love and to deal with life.

In order to tap into your own creative
energy and share it with him, you need
to have your own point of view. From
bedrock questions about the meaning
of life, to favorite music or colors, iden-
tity has a great deal to do with making
choices. To the extent that you know
your own mind (and that’s not the same
as having your own way, necessarily),
you are a definite “somebody.”

Having your own identity means not
only having definite points of view on

t's still more
difficult for men
than for women to

reveal their dependent
side—to cry,

to be sentimental,

to say “I love you”

or “I need you.”

intellectual or philosophical matters,
but having your own feelings as well.
Only when you are in touch with your
complete emotional spectrum—fear,
anger, tenderness, pride—can you ex-
press and participate in that deep ex-
change of feeling that love is all about.

It is also important to like yourself.
How can you risk the vulnerability of
closeness if you feel vaguely ashamed
or embarrassed about yourself? Re-
mind yourself of your strengths and ac-
complishments, your victories big and
small. You will then feel full enough
and strong enough to nurture him as
well. Remarkably, giving to him in this
way will not make you feel depleted,
but will instead add to your sense of
yourself. By these simple means you
will be building and protecting an iden-
tity that both you and he can love.

Nurture his self-esteem

Just as it is important to have a good
opinion of yourself, it is vital for your

man to feel good about himself. Hel

him take pride in what he does—a per-
son’s career is an important aspect of
his identity. Remember what makes
him lovable and tell him so. It is almost
impossible to be too complimentary. “T
like what you’re wearing.” “That was
neatly done.” “You’re clever (strong,}
sexy).” The opportunities for saying}
something supportive, as well as true
are ever present and the praise is ever
pleasant to hear.

Lending emotional support to yo
mate can be especially important whe
things go wrong. Remind him that what
ever has happened, he’s not a terribl
person. Help him to recall past victories
To mobilize the strengths needed for a
comeback, he needs to have faith in him:
self. You can help by being realistic bu
positive. This is not the time for re-
criminations. If his best friend can’t be-
lieve in him, how can he?

As much as you love and support yo
mate, you’re also aware that no one is
perfect. If there are things about hi
you'd like to be different, remember th
the desire to change has to come from
him. It cannot be imposed, even if there
is a clear need to alter self-destructive
behavior. The person who thinks well of
himself is more likely to make the effort.
You can help by making him feel loved.
One who feels unloved, with all the
sense of discouragement and bitterness
that implies, is less likely to make the
effort to change.

Beware the putdown

The good effects that follow when you
emphasize the positive have been dem-
onstrated in countless experiments and
observations. On the other hand, the
acid of sarcasm and cynicism can cor-
rode and sour the most loving feelings.
Beware the putdown. You may be a
lovely person to others, but do you feel
condescending toward him? Does a not
of contempt appear when you talk to
your man? We have seen people consis-
tently denigrate a partner out of fear of
losing their own identity. It is as
though they need to prove to them-
selves that this contemptible person is
no one to rely on or trust. The prophecy
can become self-fulfilling. Someone
consistently given a vote of no con-
fidence will tend to become less con-
fident, and thus less reliable.

The need to put down the one you love
may have another irrational source—in
the roots of your past. For example, your
mother may have told you, “All men are big
babies, and they are not to be trusted.” You
may be unwittingly emulating her con-
tempt. Then again, you may be re-enact-
ing a pattern of sibling rivalry. Consider
what so often goes on between brother
and sister. All that bickering, mauling
and hair- (continued on page 67)

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continued from page 58

alling can mask feelings of love. Some
uldren grow up in a stormy at-
.osphere, and they assume this is how
yuples behave. Another possibility is
iat, as a teenager, you believed it sen-
mental or babyish to feel and express
yur love for your parents. You felt
ore separate and independent by
ing gruff and critical at home—and
2w you've carried that pattern into
arried life.

Thus, being in love can at times un-
ittingly evoke attitudes and behav-
Ts associated with love in childhood.
can be a painful revelation for some
20ple to really listen to themselves
Uk to their partners—like a tennis
‘atch, with the barbs zinging back and
rth. Sometimes the hurtful ex-
langes escalate until, as the poet
obert Graves said of a failed mar-
age, “... some things were said which
in never be overcome.”

If you are given to fault-finding and
ckering, don’t get involved with who
arted it. Trying to find the original
uprit is in itself an exercise in blame
iat leads nowhere. Neither wants to
» the first to give in. Thus, vengeance
»gets vengeance, and the tiresome

cycle of parry and riposte goes on.

Instead, try asking yourself who
this fight reminds you of from your
past. A sibling? Your parents? A
friend? You must have loved that per-
son very much to be so angry with him.
And as angry as you may at times feel
toward your present partner, you will
likely find a very deep love hiding be-
hind your anger.

If there are real complaints and
grievances, don’t let them fester. In-
justices collected and saved up get big-
ger and scarier. Don’t wait too long to
find an appropriate time to bring up
what bothers you. Your aim is not to
punish or evoke guilt, but to deal with
the issue so that it no longer comes
between you.

Sharing ideas and feelings

But don’t confine your communication
to what’s wrong with the relationship.
Talk about the things that interest
each of you. People grow apart and be-
come strangers because they fail to
share feelings and ideas. Maintain a
dialogue between the two of you; don’t
give it all to others. Include him in your
life. Once you withhold something
seemingly small—praise from your
boss, a funny incident at the super-
market—the withholding becomes a

pattern that keeps you separated.

Still, small talk isn’t enough. What
about the end of one of those days when
you both feel bruised by life? One of
you, not always the same one, needs to
forgo his or her own needs for the mo-
ment and comfort the other. If you can
hold on a bit longer, your turn will
come. Perhaps you'll even learn to com-
fort each other at the same time so that
no one feels deprived. The solace of love
in a troubled and often unjust world
can heip strengthen and deepen the
bond between you.

Have you allowed yourself to under-
stand his needs and his experiences?
Don’t let his manner fool you. We’re
still burdened by ancient notions of
what it means to be manly. It’s still
more difficult for men than for women
to cry, to be sentimental, to say “I love
you” or “I need you.” It’s hard for him to
ask, to reveal his dependent side.

Perhaps it’s hard for you, too. Have
you told him what you need? “He should
know without having to be asked” is
for infants who don’t know how to talk.
An effective way to let him know is to
express your pleasure whenever he
does do something to make you feel
good. The more explicit your reaction,
the more likely he is to do it again, and
soon. (continued on page 182)

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We've received much
information—and
misinformation—on
female sexuality. Here,
from leading scientific
researchers, are the

latest reassuring facts.

t’s an involuntary, auto-
matic reflex, something
like the blink of an eye,”
says Helen Singer Kaplan,
M.D., one of the world’s leading
sex researchers and director of
the Human Sexuality Teaching
Program at New York Hospital-
Cornell Medical Center’s Payne
Whitney Clinic.

“The earth moved,” said
Maria, the heroine of Ernest
Hemingway’s well-loved novel
For Whom the Bell Tolls.

Both women are _ talking
about orgasm, the sexual cli-
max. Although orgasm is easy

to describe physiologically, the |

feeling it produces is not
Countless writers, from poets to
pornographers, have tried. So,
no doubt, have countless wom-
en, asked by sexually less expe-
rienced friends: “What’s it
really like?”

Most can manage nothing
more accurate than, “It
feels wonderful,” for the sim-
ple reason that orgasm, by its
very nature, is so infinitely per-

just

]

sonal and thus so infinitely dif-
ferent. Yet, because the medical
and scientific facts about
orgasm have come to light only
recently, an extensive mythol-
ogy has developed around it—
myths based on rigid ideas of
what sexual activity is sup-
posed to be, myths that con-
tinue to plague women, vet-
erans of the sexual revolution
though they be.

Less than twenty years ago,
William Masters, M.D., and
Virginia Johnson published the
first scientifically accurate data
about the psychological and
physiological aspects of orgasm.
Their findings—based on ex-
haustive personal interviews,
laboratory studies and exten-
Sive individual questionnaires
as well as the more recent work
on human sexual response by
other eminent researchers—
consist of startling information
about female orgasm, much of
which firmly contradicts earlier
beliefs. For instance, we now
know that:

I. Orgasm does not have to be a
shatteringly ecstatic experience
every time—or, for that matter, at
all. “The pleasure of orgasm var-
ies greatly, from mildly enjoyable
local contractions to an intense
physical and emotional experi-
ence, usually when you are with
someone you love who loves you,”
says Dr. Helen Kaplan. Yet, she
adds, some women continue to be
disappointed in themselves or
their partners “because orgasm is
not always an earthshaking ex-
perience.” Worried about the
level of their sexual excitement,

By Ellen Switzer

these women may fall victim to
“spectatoring,” the term coined
by Masters and Johnson to de-
scribe what happens when people
critically monitor their own reac-
tions and those of their partner.
However, clinical observations
clearly show that for women to
increase their sexual pleasure
they must stop thinking about
what they are doing, how well
they are doing it, and whether
their sensations measure up to
the presumed ideal.

2. Simultaneous orgasm is not
only very rare but also not neces-
sarily desirable. Though there
are no exact figures on the num-
ber of couples who do climax at
the same time, experts contend
that consecutive orgasm is
more intense because it enables
each partner to focus totally on
his or her sensations.

3. Only about 30 percent of all
women can reach orgasm dur-
ing penetration without addi-
tional stimulation, and nearly
50 percent require some other
form of stimulation—be it
stimulation of the clitoris, the
breasts, the inner thighs or
simply the use of sexual fan-
tasies. Data from a Ladies’
Home Journal survey of 83,000
women, published in February
1983, uncovered some surpris-
ingly similar results. Forty per-
cent of the women who re-
sponded reported that they are
often unable to reach orgasm at
all; 36 percent said that even
when they do climax, they have
difficulty doing so. Many of the
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assumptions about sex: “During nor-
mal sex, I never have an orgasm,” wrote
one woman, “but my husband is pa-
tient while I bring myself to orgasm
before or after we make love.” Her
choice of the adjective “normal” is im-
portant, since in fact she is not so dif-
ferent from other women as she thinks.
4. Sex does not have to conclude with
orgasm to be satisfying. Sex therapists
report that touch is often an end in
itself. So, too, is kissing, petting, cud-
dling, sleeping together, even dancing.
These “sexual” activities can be pre-
ludes to intercourse, but they needn’t
be. Indeed, researchers have learned
that 10 percent of women are intracta-
bly inorgasmic, though there is still no
scientific explanation for this fact. Yet
these women seem less disturbed by
their condition than one might suspect:
When they learn that, for them, sex
simply does not climax in orgasm, they
are often quite content to experience
the pleasure that is available to them,
without torturing themselves about
the one missing element.

Changing times

In most ways, however, a woman of
around forty has a better sex life than
her mother, probably even better than
her older sister.

Their grandmothers may not even
have known what an orgasm was, and,
if they did experience one, may have
thought there was something wrong
with them. As recently as the 1920s,
many women knew little about sex un-
til their wedding night, save what their
mothers had told them in brief prenup-
tial conversations. In fact, those who
felt the kind of sexual pleasure the
1980s woman considers her birthright
may have concealed their enjoyment
from their partners, just as many
women today hide the fact that they are
not having orgasms—and for the same
reason: They were trying to live up to
their partner's expectations.

While our grandmothers seldom dis-
cussed sex, our mothers probably
talked a great deal about it, mostly be-
cause they were worried. Were they ex-
periencing the right kind of climax? By
the forties and fifties, Freud’s psycho-
analytical theories had become widely
known and were generally accepted
as gospel by most medical profes-
sionals as well as the general public.
Freud believed there were two sepa-
rate, distinct types of climax: one ori-
ginating in the vagina and reached
during intercourse; the other reached
by clitoral stimulation. To him, only
the vaginal variety was truly valid, a
sign that a woman was mature and had

accepted her femininity. As a result,
countless women tried, sometimes des-
perately, to reach the prescribed kind of
climax with vaginal penetration alone.
When they did not succeed, they con-
sidered themselves abnormal.

Then, when Masters and Johnson
published their landmark research in
1966, women were reassured that “or-
gasm is orgasm,” regardless of how it is
reached. Yet, ironically, the scholarly
work of the two St. Louis researchers
(deliberately presented in a clinical
manner) created a new set of myths
and fantasies about female sexuality.
During the late sixties and early seven-
ties, it was difficult to turn on the tele-
vision without hearing still another au-
thor discuss his or her theories. Typi-
cally, one writer who called herself “J”
wrote a best-seller titled The Sensuous
Woman (Dell, 1969), in which she de-
scribed to her readers the joys they

What exactly is

an orgasm?

Physiologically, a woman’s orgasm
is similar in some ways to the male
sexual climax, different in others,
says Dr. Helen Kaplan. Sexual ex-
citement in both males and females
is marked by genital vasoconges-
tion—that is, blood flowing rapidly
into the genital region. In the ex-
cited male, the blood is trapped in
the penis, causing an erection. In
the female there is no specific organ
to receive the blood and it is dis-
tributed more generally around the
pelvic area, causing the labia and
the tissue inside and around the
vagina to thicken. The result: what
researchers call “the orgasmic plat-
form.” The vagina balloons out in a
kind of internal erection to accom-
modate the penis. The vulva
changes from pale pink to deep red,
and the vaginal walls become wet
and lubricated. The uterus rises
within the pelvis.

“Women do not feel the expansion
of the inner part of the vagina or
the rising of the uterus, but this
excitement phase is usually ex-
tremely pleasurable for women,
possibly even more'than for men,
who tend to focus on the orgasm
itself,” Dr. Kaplan says.

There are differences, however,
between male and female orgasms.
“A man’s orgasm has two phases,
while the female version has one,”
Dr. Kaplan says. “Men experience
an emission phase, women don’t.
Both sexes have very similar con-
traction of the external genital
muscles, which women experience
in the vagina as well as deep in
the pelvis.”

were probably missing: multiple o
gasms (up to a hundred in one lov
making session), orgasms reached wi
an array of mechanical gadgets such
vibrators, and orgasms in myriad
otic positions.

‘ In the long run, this new openne
about female sexuality was, of cours
helpful. But, in the short run, all tho
personal stories produced a whole ne
set of worries for many women. Even
they were experiencing orgasm re
ularly, some wondered why they we
not reaching a hundred climaxes in
row, like “J.” For that matter, why di
the whole idea of sex with a vibrat
turn them off? Perhaps they were ju:
not sensuous enough.

Today, a far healthier attitude a
pears to exist. However, this does n
mean that we are incapable of creati
new myths. In 1982, the “G Spot” a
peared, the book and the popular co
cept, if not the physical reality. The
Spot and Other Recent Discoveri
About Human Sexuality (Holt, Rin
hart and Winston) was written by Ali
K. Ladas, Beverly Whipple and Jo
D. Perry, none of whom is a physicial
or has a doctorate in physiology. Th
based their theories on research do
in the 1940s by Ernst Grafenberg,
German gynecologist. Grafenberg, f
whom the G Spot is named, report
that he had discovered a patch of ere
tile tissue in the upper front wall of t
vagina, directly behind the pubic bon
which acted something like a seco
clitoris. When stimulated, this bea
shaped erogenous zone supposedly p
duced a vaginal orgasm, distinctly di
ferent from clitoral orgasm, as well as
fluid different from vaginal lubricatio
secretions but similar to men’s semin
fluid. Therefore, they speculated, it w
possible that women could ejacula
like men.

Though the G-Spot theories ha
since been discredited (advanced tec
niques of microscopy have failed to di
tinguish any vaginal tissue that is di
ferent from any other), the book was o
The New York Times best-seller list fc
several months, and was extensive]
discussed, as are most new sexual thec
ries, on television talk shows. Why
Were women kidding themselves abou
what they were feeling? Or were the
trying to kid somebody else about thei
supersexuality? Neither, says Dr. Kay
lan. “Some women have exquisite ser
sitivity in their vaginas. Similarl
some women produce much more lubr
cating fluid than others. If these won
en believed that orgasm was not ord
narily possible through vaginal stimt
lation, they certainly might think the
they had a special spot that othe
women did not. In the absence of phys
cal data, the existence of (continue

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the G Spot remains to be proved, though
certainly a reemphasis on vaginal sen-
sitivity is a good thing,” she adds.

The new sex therapy

Certainly, this analysis of the nature o
orgasm has been a major brea
through. Equally interesting—and
more personally valuable—is the new
research into the ways women
learn to leap the obstacles that hay
been blocking their sexual fulfillment
The basic concepts of today’s sex ther-
apy were pioneered by Masters and
Johnson, most importantly the idea
that a couple’ sexual relationship,
rather than the individual who has the
problem, must be treated. Previously,
most professionals believed that all sex-

ual problems were deep-seated and ori-
ginated in painful childhood experi-
ences. But Masters and Johnson proved
that some very simple factors often
trigger sexual dysfunction. Research-
ers in sexual medicine (a subspecialty
of gynecology or urology and psychia-
try) now believe that sexual response is
learned, not inborn. Some women, they
assert, simply have never been taught
respond sexually at all. Others have
uired some psychological habits and
ttitudes that inhibit pleasure. This be-
‘al approach to human sexuality

1 ploneering because it means

have learned, we can also

unlearn—a fact that is apparent in

some surprising answers to questions
women frequently ask about sex. Con-
sider, for ce, some of the following.
Why do women stop having orgasms
when sex has always been exciting? At

any point in a relationship, it is per
fectly normal for lovemaking session
to occasionally end without orgasm, es
pecially if a woman is tired, tense o
anxious, or if she is angry with he
partner and has not been able to re
solve their differences. If sex has be
come routine, a woman might thin
about what changes have occurred i
her life recently (such changes may, 0
the surface, appear to have nothing t
do with her sex life). Once she pinpoin
the problem, she may be able to rid
out a less exciting sexual period unt
her life settles down again.
Sometimes a woman fails to clima
because sex is actually painful. Thi
may be due to some minor medica
problem that can be easily treated one
it is identified—a tiny tear or lesion,
badly tipped uterus, a vagina over
stretched by childbirth or a glandule
imbalance can markedly decrease sex
ual pleasure. It is important for a wom
an to visit her gynecologist for a com
plete examination before assumin
that there is something wrong with he
sexually. However, if she can find ni
explanation for her failure to reac
orgasm, and the problem continues fo
several months, she and her partne
may wish to discuss the situation—firs
with a marriage counselor (who mig
be able to resolve some underlying co
flicts, thus eliminating the need for fuy
ther treatment) and then with a se
therapist. (See “How to find a sex ther
apist,” page 175.)
What can a woman do if her partner
maxes before she is sexually satisfied
First, she should not hesitate to te
him so, therapists say. It often take
women longer than men to reach
state of arousal, but if a couple a
aware of this, they can work together t
strike a more harmonious balance, pe
haps by focusing on the woman’s need
prior to or just after intercourse.
If a woman can reach orgasm only 6
direct stimulation of the clitoris, sho
she try to find other ways to achieve sex
ual satisfaction? If it is really importa
to a woman to climax during coitus, s
might try supplementing intercours
with direct manual stimulation of t
clitoris during intercourse itself, a
using clitoral stimulation just prior t
intercourse. Thus aroused, she may b
able to experience orgasms triggere
by intercourse alone. However, a wom
an is neither more emotionally secu
nor sexier because she climaxes duri
intercourse rather than at some othe
point, and it is best to stop thinki
about what’s happening and simply er,
joy the physical sensations.
Is it wrong to fake an orgasm? Thoug
almost all the advice columnists a
the sex manuals state flatly, “Neve
under any (continued on page 17.

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Rx: A room with a view

Vacation isn’t the only time to look for
a scenic place to stay. According to a
recent study by Roger S. Ulrich, a re-
searcher at the University of Delaware,
postoperative. patients recovering in
hospital rooms with a view do better
than those in rooms without.

Forty-six patients recovering from
gallbladder removal surgery were ob-
served: Twenty-three had hospital
rooms that looked out onte a brick wall;
twenty-three were in hospital rooms in
which the windows overlooked a coun-
try scene. The differences in their re-
covery rates were dramatic.

The nurses’ notes on the charts of
those patients who had nothing but the
monotonous brick wall to stare at in-
cluded more comments such as “upset
and crying” and “needs much encour-
agement.” But the patients with a
pleasant view to gaze at had shorter
hospital stays, fewer negative evalua-
tions from nurses and less need for
painkilling drugs.

And you don’t have to choose a hospi-
tal in the country to reap these benefits
. .. a bucolic scene isn’t the only
therapeutic view for patients. Ulrich
believes that it is the sameness of the
brick wall that has a negative effect,
and that a lively city view might prove
to be just as beneficial to patients as
country greenery.

Mental stress versus
physical exercise

Exercise is supposed to be good for you,
but according to a paper presented at a
recent meeting of the American Col-
lege of Sports Medicine, the wrong
state of mind can negate the benefits.
Steven Siconolfi, director of the Human
Performance Lab at Pawtucket Memo-
rial Hospital in Rhode Island, has
found that stress and frustration dur-
ing exercise—such as that felt while
losing at tennis or racing against a
clock—can strain the heart.

Siconolfi observed that mental stress
during exercise makes the heart rate
and the blood pressure rise. But be-
cause the body does not adjust its use
of oxygen accordingly, the heart is
stressed. He advises that cardiac pa-
tients begin exercise programs slowly,
and only under medical supervision.
And those with healthy hearts should
still exercise, but be aware that emo-
tions can add stress during exercise.

Take a day off...
from smoking

Still smoking and wish you weren’t? Or
are you worried that your teenagers
are succumbing to peer pressure to
smoke? Take two days in November to
educate your children and yourself.

Tune in to public television on
November 14 for Breathing Easy, a one-
hour variety show aimed especially at
teenagers who are making initial deci-
sions about whether to begin smoking.
Check local listings for details.

On November 15, the American Can-
cer Society will hold its eighth annual
“Great American Smokeout,” a day for
all smokers to kick the habit for at
least twenty-four hours. The ACS re-
ports that last year more than one out
of every three smokers in the U.S. par-
ticipated, although only about 4 per-
cent reported that they were still not
smoking one to eleven days later. For
more information, contact your local
chapter of the American Cancer Society.

The shopping-bag
syndrome

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A trip to the supermarket these days
may be fraught with more perils than
simply contending with the ever-rising
prices. Dr. Sheldon Zane, a North
Miami, Florida, rheumatologist, has
observed a medical condition he calls
“the shopping-bag syndrome”—a result.
of many stores’ switch to packing groc-
eries in plastic bags with handles rather
than in the old brown paper bags.

What is the shopping-bag syndrome?
Dr. Zane explains that people who have
existing problems with their fingers or
shoulders such as tendinitis or tennis
elbow may notice that their condition is
aggravated by carrying heavy plastic
shopping bags. Unlike brown paper
bags, which are carried in the arms,
evenly distributing the weight, the
newer bags put all the strain on the
hands, arms and shoulders.

Dr. Zane stresses that the condition
is not caused by carrying the bags—
people who have no existing condition
need not worry—but aggravated by it.
He recommends: “If you have problems,
ask for the old brown paper bags.”

Cooking for
better health

A bran muffin obviously has more fiber
than a cupcake, but which of the fol-
lowing has more fiber: a piece of white
bread, or a piece of white (continued,

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HEALTH

Taking
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continued

\ Pees

bread toast? If you answered, “the
same,” you're wrong.

According to a Cornell University
nutritionist, toasting, broiling, saute-
ing and frying can actually increase
the fiber content of foods.

When foods such as vegetables, meat
or bread are browned, molecules called
‘Maillard polymers are created. “These

molecules closely resemble one of the
‘}fibers found naturally in some foods,”
explains Peter Van Soest, a professor of
nutritional sciences and animal nutri-
tion at Cornell. And as a result, bread
crusts and toast have more fiber than
the center of a loaf or untoasted bread.

FYI: Health info
to send away for

Keep yourself up-to-date on a variety of
health topics by sending for these
(often free) booklets and pamphlets.

@ Do you know as much about your
body as you should? To help answer
questions and explain various aspects
of women’s health, the American Col-
lege of Obstetricians and Gynecologists
publishes a series of free booklets.
“Detecting and Treating Breast Prob-
lems,” “Vaginitis: Causes and Treat-
ments,” “The Menopause Years,” “Os-
teoporosis” and “Infertility: Causes and
Treatments” are just a few of their top-
ics. For each booklet you request, send
a separate self-addressed, stamped,
business-size envelope to: The Resource
Center, The American College of Obste-
tricians and Gynecologists, 600 Mary-
land Ave., SW, Suite 300 East, Wash-
ington, D.C. 20024.

@ An estimated 50 to 80 percent of all
women experience some physical or
psychological symptoms associated
with their menstrual cycles. If you’re
among them, a twenty-four page book-
let entitled, “A Survivors Guide to
Menstrual Cycle Changes/PMS” may
help. To obtain the booklet, mail a $4

check to: PMS Booklet, Planned Par-
enthood of Rochester, 24 Windsor St.,
Rochester, NY 14605.

@ Medicine—prescription or nonpre-
scription—is effective only if taken
properly. To help you use medications
wisely, the Council on Family Health is
offering a free brochure entitled “Ten
Guides to Proper Medicine Use.” Write
to: Council on Family Health, 420 Lex-
ington Ave., New York, NY 10017.

@ From the American Lung Associa-
tion comes a new self-help guide for
adults with asthma. The guide helps
teach how to control asthma and build
self-confidence in managing the con-
dition. To obtain a copy of “The Asthma
Handbook,” write to: American Lung
Association, P.O. Box 596, New York,
NY 10001.

@ Contemplating facial plastic sur-
gery? The American Academy of Facial
and Plastic Reconstructive Surgery of-
fers free brochures entitled, “Facelift,”
“Plastic Surgery of the Nose,” “Plastic
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Forehead” and “Plastic Surgery of the
Ear.” Specify the brochures you want
and send a self-addressed, stamped en-
velope to: American Academy of Facial
and Plastic Reconstructive Surgery,
1101 Vermont Ave., NW, Suite 304,
Washington, D.C. 20005.

e were lured cross-country to Wash-

ington State by the fabulous reci-

pes in the cookbook Greek Cooking
in an American Kitchen. During our stay in
the Northwest we were absolutely enchanted
by a combination of good food, openhearted
hospitality and spectacular scenery. Built on
seven hills, Seattle is perched on the shore of
Puget Sound. Framing it are two glorious
mountain ranges—the Cascades in the east

and the Olympic range in the west. The cli-
mate, when we were there, lived up to its
drizzly reputation, but even that couldn’t
dampen our spirits. And the day we photo-
graphed at the beach overlooking the sound,
the impressive Mount Olympus, (continued)

Greek-style first courses, pictured left to right: Chicken
Rolls and Sausage Rolls; Yogurt-Cucumber Dip with
a selection of raw vegetables; Cheese Triangles; Leek

Peta; Grape Leaves; Eggplant Dip garnished with
parsley; Seafood Peta; Feta Cheese Spread to serve with
crackers; Appetizer Meatballs. Recipes, page 82.

LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL + NOVEMBER 1984

Ssoy Ue|\y

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per te Bee a

Beef ’N Potato Bake

cups frozen hash brown cup water

potatoes, thawed teaspoon Durkee Garlic Salt
tablespoons vegetable oil package (10 oz.)

teaspoon Durkee Ground frozen mixed vegetables
Black Pepper 1 cup (40z.) shredded

pound ground beef Cheddar cheese

package (% oz.) Durkee can (2.8 oz.) Durkee

Brown Gravy Mix French Fried Onions

In a shallow 1%-quart baking dish combine potatoes, oil and pepper.
Firmly press mixture across bottom and up sides of dish to form a
shell. Bake, uncovered, at 400° for 15 minutes. Meanwhile, in skillet,
brown beef; drain. Stir in gravy mix, water and garlic salt; bring toa
boil. Add mixed vegetables; reduce heat to medium and cook 5
minutes. Stir in % cup cheese and % can French Fried Onions; place
in potato shell. Bake, uncovered, at 350° for 15 minutes. Sprinkle with
remaining cheese and onions; bake 5 minutes longer.

MAKES 4 to 6 servings.

BCR Tita your own casseroles even better: = == = |
1. Stir in % can with other ingredients for zest and are’
2, Sprinkle remaining onions over casserole Att last

5 minutes of baking for a magnificent crunchy topping.

COMMUNITY COOKBOOK

continued

named for its Greek counterpart,
peeked out from its cover of rain clouds.

The marvelously comprehensive cook-
book that brought us to the most north-
western corner of the country was a
labor of love by eight women from Seat-
tle’s St. Demetrios Church. The Greek
community has been part of the city’s
ethnic melting pot since the early 1900s.
The cookbook committee was determined
not only to preserve their wonderful
culinary heritage but also to make
their recipes accessible to the modern
American cook. They tested, tasted, re-
tested and adapted over 270 Greek spe-
cialties to fill a hardbound cookbook of
just under 300 pages. The proceeds
from the cookbook, published in 1982,
helped build a new community center
for the church. The cookbook’s twelve
chapters cover the delicious range of
Greek foods, including seafood spe-
cialties and honey-drenched desserts.
We decided to focus on the mouthwater-
ing appetizer recipes you'll find es-
pecially useful during the entertaining
season. The perfect special touch for a
holiday party, they can be enjoyed as a
first course, with a salad or to nibble
with drinks. Diagrams and special chef's
notes scattered throughout the book
unravel the mysteries of everything
from stuffing and rolling grape leaves
to turning out paper-thin filo dough.
It’s the next best thing to dining in the
shadow of Mount Olympus—in Wash-
ington or in Greece!

Greek Cooking in an American
Kitchen, compiled by the St. De-
metrios Greek Orthodox Church of
Seattle, WA, is a comprehensive
guide to preparing Greek specialties
especially for the American cook.
The 296-page hardcover features
more than 270 recipes in large type.

For your copy, send $18.00 (includes
postage and handling) to:

GREEK COOKBOOK
St. Demetrios
Greek Orthodox Church
Dept. LHJ
P.O. Box 19554
Seattle, WA 98109

CHICKEN ROLLS
(ROLLO ME KOTOPOULO)

pictured on page 80

2 whole chicken breasts (1 Ib. each)
1 teaspoon salt
Y4 teaspoon pepper

Filling

6 tablespoons butter or margarine
1 cup finely chopped onion

Y2 cup finely chopped celery

2 tablespoons finely chopped parsley
1 cup reserved chicken broth

2 tablespoons all-purpose flour

Yq teaspoon nutmeg

’% teaspoon salt

Yq teaspoon pepper

3 eggs, well beaten

24 sheets filo dough
¥Y2 pound butter, melted

In large saucepan cover chicken with
water; add salt and pepper. Bring to a
boil. Skim liquid. Simmer until cooked,
about 10 minutes. Remove chicken;
cool. Reserve broth. Remove skin and
bones. In food processor with steel
blade, grind chicken.

Filling: In large skillet melt butter or
margarine. Add onion and celery; saute
until tender. Stir in chicken, parsley
and broth. Cook over medium heat un-
til liquid is completely evaporated,
about 45 minutes. Blend in flour,
nutmeg, salt and pepper; cool. Stir in
eggs until well mixed.

Divide mixture in quarters. Butter 2
baking sheets. Brush 6 sheets filo with
melted butter and arrange in a stack.
Spread 1 cup chicken mixture in center
of top filo sheet. Roll up jelly-roll fash-
ion, tucking in sides to enclose filling.
Repeat with remaining filo and chicken
mixture to make three more rolls.
Place seam side down on prepared bak-
ing sheet. Carefully cut 1-inch slices
through top layers of filo, taking care
not to cut through to filling. (Can be
made ahead. Wrap well and freeze. Do
not thaw before baking.)

Preheat oven to 350°F. Brush tops
and sides with melted butter. Bake 30
minutes or until golden. Cool slightly;
slice, following the original cuts. Serve
warm. Makes 60 appetizers, about 70
calories each.

SAUSAGE ROLLS_
(LOUKANIKO ROLLO)

pictured on page 80

2 tablespoons butter

2 tablespoons olive oil
Ya cup finely chopped onion
2 garlic cloves, minced

Y4 teaspoon salt

Ya teaspoon pepper

1 pound ground beef

1 tablespoon fennel seed

1 teaspoon oregano

2 tablespoons finely chopped parsley
Ya cup tomato sauce

Ya cup water

Dough

Ya cup warm water (105°F—115°F)
1 package active dry yeast
2 tablespoons sugar
2 cups warm water
2 teaspoons salt
1 egs, separated
6% to 7 cups all-purpose flour

3 cups shredded Kasseri or fontina
cheese (about 7 Ib.), divided
2 teaspoons water
Sesame seed

In skillet heat butter and olive oil. Adi
onion and garlic. Sprinkle lightly wit]
salt and pepper and saute until golde

Add ground beef, fennel seed ani
oregano; brown. Stir in parsley, tomat
sauce and water. Simmer uncovered 2
minutes or until most of the liquii
evaporates. Set aside to cool.

Dough: In small bowl combine ¥% cuj
warm water, yeast and sugar. Let stan
3 minutes. In large mixer bowl com
bine 2 cups water, salt, egg yolk an
yeast mixture. Add 3 cups flour; bea
with electric mixer until well com
bined. Add 1 more cup flour and bea
until smooth and elastic, about 5 mi

utes. First using spoon, then handg
gradually stir in remaining flour t/
make a stiff dough. Turn onto lightl
floured surface and knead until smoot}
and elastic, 8 to 10 minutes.

Place dough in greased bow]; turn ti
grease top. Cover and let rise in warm
draft-free place until doubled in bulk
about 14% hours. Turn onto lightl)
floured surface. Divide into 4 equal po
tions. Cover and let rest 5 minutes.

Preheat oven to 375°F. Grease bakin
sheets. Roll each portion to a 14x7¥%
inch rectangle. Spread % cup mea
mixture on each rectangle; sprinkl
with % cup cheese. Fold each rectangl'
in thirds lengthwise. Place two roll
seam side down on each baking shee
Combine egg white and 2 teaspoon)
water; beat lightly. Brush each loa
with egg white mixture; sprinkle wit]
sesame seed. Bake 20 to 25 minutes}
(Can be made ahead. Cool, wrap an
freeze.) Cut into 1l-inch slices. Servi
warm. Makes 4 loaves, 6 slices each|
245 calories per slice.

STUFFED GRAPE LEAVES
(DOLMATHES YIALANDZEE)

pictured on page 80

1 cup olive oil, divided
14% cups chopped green onions
23 cups chopped onions
4 garlic cloves, minced
¥a cup long-grain rice
3 tablespoons tomato paste
29/4 cups water, divided
Ya cup chopped parsley
3 tablespoons chopped fresh mint or
1 tablespoon dried
’% cup chopped fresh dill or
2 tablespoons dillweed
1 teaspoon salt
Yq teaspoon pepper
Y cup fresh lemon juice, divided
1 jar (9 oz.) grape leaves

In large skillet heat ¥ cup oil. Adc

onions and garlic; saute 3 minutes. Ad¢
rice and tomato paste mixed with ¥2 cujf
water; simmer (continued on page 171}

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larvae tt

My neighbor lives alone with her

dachshund and treats it like roy-

alty. I don’t think this is healthy
behavior, especially since this woman is
nasty to my young children and generally
ignores everyone else.

Your instincts are right; your neigh-
bor’s rudeness and isolation most cer-
tainly do not stem from strength or
happiness. Rather, a sense of alienation
and loneliness is what estranges her
from the human contact she may fear
will lead to further rejection. Her dog,
on the other hand, rewards her affec-
tion unstintingly. Perhaps, in her mind,
it has become the child she never had
or that she may have lost due to death
or emotional or physical distance. Her
“fussing” may be the only way she
knows to give and receive love. And her
rudeness to your children might stem
from her jealousy of your family life,
children included. She may also be afraid
that your children will attempt to take
away some of the attention that she re-
ceives from her animal or, even more,
that your children may expect her to
turn some of her attention toward
them. If you can understand the depth
of your neighbor's bond with her pet and
acknowledge it by saying hello to the
dog or asking after its health, you may
do much toward improving your family’s
relationship with your neighbor.

My husband leaves all our vaca-

tion and social plans up to me. I

try to get him to participate in
the decision-making, but he always in-
sists that whatever I want is fine with
him. This makes me uncomfortable.

Let’s reframe your situation. Suppose
you have just been given the oppor-
tunity to make all the decisions about
where you want to spend your vacations
and how you would like to spend your
social time for the rest of your life—if
you choose to go skiing or to the beach,
by car or by plane, the decision is
yours. What an incredible gift! You

PSYCHOLOGISTS
JOURNAL

Why you feel the way you do, plus the latest
psychological research. By Sonya Friedman, Ph.D.

may feel better about your husband’s
attitude if you see it as an opportunity
instead of a burden.

On the other hand, you may feel that
your husband is neglecting you and not
taking an interest in your marriage.
Perhaps his mother took complete
charge of the family’s leisure plans and
he identifies that activity as “women’s
work.” Or he may simply derive very
little pleasure from planning such lei-
sure activities.

If you want to get him involved, try
offering him a choice of movies or res-
taurants, vacation spots or style of trav-
el, and then let him pick the one he
prefers. This gives you an opportunity
to communicate with him and to in-
clude him in the decision-making.

I've tried every remedy in the

book for insomnia—including

hot milk and long walks. Nothing
seems to work. What causes insomnia,
anyway? Is there any surefire cure?

Most insomnia is caused by psychologi-
cal anxiety and depression, and comes
in one of three forms. When a person
can’t fall asleep at night, it’s usually
because she can’t let go of the tension

Children of divorce tend to view people
as either very good or very bad, accord-
ing to a recent article in the Journal of
the American Academy of Child Psychia-
try. This perception is an extension of
the child’s view that one divorcing parent
is “right” and the other “wrong,” says Dr
MarkBlotcky, a psychiatrist at the Timber-
lawn Psychiatry Center in Dallas, Texas,
and one of the authors of the article.
According to Dr Blotcky, one parent may
form an unspoken alliance with a young
child, where both agree that the other
parent is the cause of family problems.

and worries that have accumulate
during the day. Such sleeplessness ma
also be caused by excessive stimulatior
such as heavy exercise or a scar
movie at the end of the day. In th
second form of insomnia, people
asleep but then wake up in the mid
of the night. These people may be ligt
sleepers preoccupied with some prot
lem they are trying to solve. Peopl
with the third kind, caused by anxiet
fall asleep but then awaken early in th
morning. The sleep is not restful an
the person bolts awake, already preot
cupied with conflicts or problems.
Because most sleep disorders at
caused by agitation, anxiety and di
pression, such tried-and-true hypnot:
methods as counting sheep or reading
dull book can be surprisingly effectiv
You might also apply some of the tecl
niques described in The Relaxation Ri
sponse, by Herbert Benson (Williar
Morrow, 1975). As simple as it seem
going to bed at the same hour ever
night is also important, since estal
lishing a rhythm lets you fall aslee
more easily. If you still cannot slee
don’t lie there all night praying fa
sleep to come. Get up, read, do a sma
project and then try going back to bed

This fosters the idealization of one par-
ent and the denigration of the other, |
which can lead to unrealistic perceptions |
of people in general. Yet if both par
ents—despite their problems with each
other—can agree to set rules and to
adopt a more balanced approach, this
will help the child develop more accurate
perceptions within the family and m
other relationships. This may seem diffi-
cult when divorcing couples are antag-
onistic toward each other, but Dr Blotcky
insists that when parents try, they are ca-
pable of substantially satisfying results.

LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL = NOVEMBER 19

Introducing
Fisher-Price Learning Software.
for a lot of little reasons.

A child’s world. For years Fisher-
Price has been a part of it, helping
little ones develop important new
skills as they play.

But now children are
growing up in anew
world, a world where
computers offer excit-
ing new experiences.
And we think
that’s reason
enough to intro-
duce a new kind of Fisher-Price product: ““«
Fisher-Price Learning Software.

We’ ve spent a lot of time working with
leading educational software developers to make sure our games offer the right combina-
tion of fun and educational value. We’ve covered five key areas of your child’s
learning development: Math. Language. Creativity. Basic learning skills. And
computer literacy. And all the games have been thoroughly kid-tested, so we know
they’ re easy to play and offer lasting fun value.

There are games for preschoolers and children under 8, and another
series for children up to 12. Games that let children build an
alphabet city. Play number games in a race against time. Or
create a dance and put on a show. Each game
offers the fun, value, and
educational quality you’ ve
come to expect from

Fisher-Price.

All in all, there
were some pretty big rea-
sons to develop Fisher-

Price Learning
ee Software. STE ais
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But mostly,
we did it for the
little ones.

‘See a ooo

Cartridges are
available for Atari?

Commodore 64™ and Coleco Adam®
home computers and ColecoVision.“

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Your handwriting—without
your even knowing it—

reveals your deepest

feelings, your most secret
desires. Are you what you
write? Read on to find out. =e

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We were stunned. Dr. Pedregal
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each of us, our personality struc-
ture and the emotions we experi-
ence provoke reactions that trans-
late into muscular movement. Just
as an optimist, for example, walks
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his head up, so will that attitude
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Graphologists (handwriting ana-
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Today, graphology—the study
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Even large corporations use
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problems. “A few years ago a large
pharmaceutical corporation asked
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they should choose to head up one
of their foreign branches,” says Dr.
Pedregal. “The two candidates—a
man and a woman—were equally
qualified, but after analyzing their
handwriting, it was obvious to me
that the man simply would not ad-
just to life abroad. The woman, on

the other hand, showed a great ca-
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ommendation, the company opted
for the man. He lasted exactly one
month, then begged to come home.
The woman took his place—she’s
been there for three years.”

How does a graphologist work?
Elementary, my dear Watson.
“Writing is simply a set of printed
gestures that originate at the sub-
conscious level,” explains Dr. Ped-
regal. “The pen you choose to write
with and how hard you press, the
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shape of your letters and how they
are grouped all combine to reveal
facts about you that only a wife,
husband or very close friend would
know. In fact, a thorough hand-
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Of course, for most of us, our
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How our writing deviates from the
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graphologist also looks at in his
analysis. (Illegibility may have ir-
ritated your teachers, but graph-
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individualism and self-confidence.)

A signature tells even more
about a person than writing does
because it is a person’s own special
creation. Whether large, loopy,
scrawled or refined, signatures
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or purpose, signatures remain the
same. Even following a psychologi-
cal trauma, for example, one’s sig-
nature will not be affected for at
least six months.

Just how much can your hand-
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of his personality. Since the analy-
sis of a person’s handwriting does
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more comfortable and will usually
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quested it on this trip to New York. It’s
one of the perks of being a star, one of
the outward trappings of success. And
yet her road to this room was not a
direct one. Now securely ensconced ina
hit TV comedy series—NBC’s Cheers—
with the freedom to make films during
her annual hiatus, Shelley can admit it
was a circuitous path, with a few dead
ends, that finally led her here.

In fact, according to Shelley, she al-
most didn’t make it to this room at all.
Laughing merrily, she recalls: “When I
came into the hotel, my manager
wasn’t here yet to meet me, so the hotel
manager said he would escort me to my
room. I bent down to get something in
my purse, and he disappeared. I fig-
ured, okay, this is New York City. Ev-
erybody moves fast. So I got into the
elevator. Inside, there was a man who
looked like the manager, so when he
got off the elevator, I followed him.”

She continues, “He began walking to
a room in the back of the hotel, and I
protested, ‘I thought I was to gei a room
with a view!’ He looked at me oddly and
said, ‘Are you kidding?’ Now I was be-
ginning to think things were strange.
He opened the door and said, ‘Are you
coming in?’ ” All of a sudden it dawned
on the actress that this man was not the
manager at all, but a perfect stranger.
“T began laughing hysterically and
-went back downstairs to find the real
manager,” she admits with embar-
rassment. “That guy is probably still
wondering who the dizzy blond was.”

Shelley may be blond, but she cer-
tainly isn’t dizzy. And she’s got beauty
as well as brains. Tall (five feet seven),
with huge blue eyes and shoulder-
length hair, she’s as fresh-faced as Di-
ane Chambers, the Boston graduate-
student-turned-waitress she plays on
Cheers. Her style is neither Hollywood
glamorous nor graduate-student frumpy,
but closer to dressed-up preppy. Today
she is wearing a neat navy-blue-and-
white plaid dress with a red sweater
and silver earrings and necklace. A
black patent leather belt and pumps
complete the outfit. As for makeup, it
couldn’t be more natural: just a touch of
blush and lip color, and a little mascara.
The overall effect is that she looks much
younger than her thirty-five years.

As for brains, they’re obvious as soon
as she opens her mouth, although when
: she does, it is often to stress (not always
convincingly) the differences between
herself and the overly intellectual Di-
ane: “Diane is a very thinking person,
a very intellectual person, and so am I,
‘but I make an effort to balance that
‘with the other elements of human exis-

tence. Diane isn’t in touch with her
feelings, intuitions and sensations, and
I’ve made them a priority in my life.”

Unlike Diane, and unlike many
young actresses, Shelley has never
been a waitress. While her career is
now in Hollywood, working on a show
that’s supposed to take place in Boston,
it actually began in the Midwest. After
growing up in Indiana, the only child
of two schoolteachers, and attending
Northwestern University, Shelley went
to work in Chicago as (at different
times) an actress, comedienne, writer
and TV journalist.

It was in Chicago, too, that Shelley
met and married her first husband, a
local director and producer. “I was
young, twenty-one years old, when I got
married, and my husband was nine
years older. He was starting a business
at the time and working very hard. I
didn’t know exactly what I wanted to
do, so I thought I’d help him. That’s how
I got involved writing children’s films
for Encyclopaedia Brittanica. I did nine
of them, and it was a wonderful experi-
ence, but in the process my marriage
got lost. We were both working so hard,
on that and other projects, and it was
too much. We didn’t see how important
it was to take the time away from our
work to devote to our relationship.”

During her separation and after her
divorce, Shelley threw herself into her
work. She co-hosted a magazine-format
television show on the local NBC affili-
ate station. Recalling that early period
of her career, Shelley tells a story that
illustrates the tremendous self-con-
fidence that has propelled her forward:
“One of the cameramen filmed some
beautiful footage of fall foliage, and my
boss, the head producer of the televi-
sion show, said to me, ‘Shelley, why
don’t you find a poem that we can read
while the footage is showing?” Jour-
nalism deadlines being what they are,
there was no time for Shelley to go to
the library, and nobody in the building
had any poetry books. “So I sat down
and wrote a poem myself—I had writ-
ten quite a bit of poetry in college,”
Shelley says proudly. She went to the
producer and told him she had the per-
fect poem. “Who is it by?” he asked.
“Shelley [implying Percy Bysshe
Shelley, the famed poet],” said Shelley.
It wasn’t until after the poem and the
film footage had been mixed that the
producer queried her further. “He said,
“Let me see this poem)’ recalls Shelley.
“Well, I didn’t lie to you,”I said. And he
said, “Yes, it is by Shelley, isn’t it? The
Shelley who works here, right?’ But he
loved the poem.”

Perhaps because of her impressive abil-
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group. It was a natural leap from Sec-
ond City to films: a bit part in A Small
Circle of Friends and then a co-starring
role with Ringo Starr in Caveman. Ev-
erything seemed to be looking up for
the actress, but circumstances con-
spired to bring about her darkest time
and any actresss nightmare—eleven
months with no work.

“Caveman was a great role. I felt
good about it,” she explains. “I thought
it would be a great breakthrough, pro-
pel me forward, but then the industry
closed down with strikes, and I couldn’t
find the kinds of roles I wanted.

“IT was very discouraged. I didn’t
want to stop. I scrambled around and
thrashed around, kicking and scream-
ing, ‘No, I don’t want to stop; I don’t
want to stop.’ But you know, I really
believe that it’s always darkest right
oefore the dawn.”

Eventually, Shelley came to realize
that the forced stop was one of the best
things that ever happened to her. “Cave-
man was a very physical movie. I ran
and I jumped and I fell down over and
Iver again. Even though I needed to
rest, if there had been a good role avail-
able, I probably would have done it,”
she says. “But after a while, after the
arst few weeks of discomfort with not
working, I began to realize that I was
dxecoming more comfortable, slowing
jown. I started looking inward instead
of outward, really taking stock of
where I wanted to go and what my pri-
yrities were. I took walks, went to the
oark, played with my cats. It was actu-
ally a very valuable time for me.”

All of a sudden, things seemed to
some together for Shelley. For one
ching, she met and married her current
ausband, businessman Bruce Tyson.
The couple now live in Brentwood, a
suburb of Los Angeles. “People have re-
narked that since I’ve been married,
chings have gone really well for me. I
chink that’s true,” Shelley says. Her
marriage was in October 1981, and
since then she’s made the films Losin’
't, Night Shift and, most recently, Jr-
‘econcilable Differences, co-starring
Ryan O’Neal and Drew Barrymore.
And, of course, she’s captured the pub-
le with her portrayal of Diane, win-
1uing an Emmy and a Golden Globe
Award. With her success, she’s made
thanges in how she handles her per-
sonal life and her professional life.

‘Tm taking the time for my mar-
‘lage now. I’m not working all day and
all night,” she explains. “Success has
allowed me to say, okay, things are
zoing well. I’m going to take a little
‘ime off.”

The inevitable question arises. What

is her husband Bruce like? Is he any-
thing Hke Sam, the baseball-player-
turned-bar-owner, acted by Ted Dan-
son, whom Shelley alternately flirts
with and insults on Cheers? (Because
of this relationship, the television show
has been compared to Tracy/Hepburn
films, and, indeed, Katharine Hepburn
is one of Shelley Long’s role models.)
“Bruce isn’t a braggart or a woman-
izer, but he was an athlete, and it was
unusual for me to be attracted to that
kind of man. J always went more for
the lean, suffering types, the poets,”
Shelley says, laughing.

“And Bruce is very romantic. He
loves to give flowers, beautiful gifts,
jewelry. We go on dates, too. Generally,
Wednesday night is our date night. We
plan it in advance, dress up and make
it a special evening. Sometimes we go
to the ballet, sometimes to a movie or
a special restaurant. It’s a good night,
and it means a lot to us.”

Recently, Shelley announced that
she and her husband are expecting
their first child. The baby is due in the
beginning of April, and Shelley’s preg-
nancy will be written into Cheers
scripts. “I always felt it would happen
when it was supposed to happen. I
have faith that it will all work out as
it should,” she says. “I used to say that
if I decided to have children at all, I'd
probably have a lot of them. But I’m
getting a late start, so I may not have
the time.” Most of all, Shelley seems
grateful that the option of combining
family and career is open to her.

“It’s hard to have it all, but it can be
done,” she insists. “Anybody who tells
you otherwise is wrong. For a while,
there was tremendous emphasis on

family, and then recently, there’s been |

a tremendous emphasis on career. But
you can’t find everything in just one of
those. There has to be the balance, and
I think it’s nice that women are being
encouraged to seek that balance.”
Besides Kate Hepburn, one of the

women Shelley admires most is Lu- |
reflects |

cille Ball, a choice that
Shelley’s philosophy. “Lucille Ball is a

marvelous actress and a wonderful co- |

medienne, and she had a family in the
middle of all that,” Shelley says enthu-
siastically. “I think she is a great ex-
ample for all of us. Not just for
actresses, but for all women. That you
can have a career and a family, too,
and do it well.” (Lucille Ball returns
Shelley's admiration. She is a big fan
of Cheers.)

Everything is coming together now
for the actress, and, matter-of-factly
rather than boastfully, she takes credit
for her success. “You know, I believe we
orchestrate our own lives,” Shelley says
somberly, refuting those who allow fate
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What happens when a woman
finds a lump in her breast and
it turns out to be cancer? Here
are the true stories of three
women who confronted the
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Christine

On a sunny winter day, Christine Mackin left her brown-

stone in Brooklyn and jogged slowly along Prospect

Park West. As she ran, the sweat began to pour off her.
She loved that feeling. If she didn’t return home soaked,
she didn’t feel as if she had run.

She was nearly halfway through the run when she had
an unpleasant sensation. She was wearing a new bras- \ |
siere, specially designed for runners, but the jogging motion \ i
had loosened it. She reached into her bra to adjust the strap,
and her hand froze. Inside the right cup, near her breastbone,
she felt something. She stopped and touched the area again.
At first she felt nothing, but then, just as she was about to
expel her held-in breath in relief, there it was again. A definite
lump. It was small, about the size of a chickpea, perhaps. The
sweat on her face suddenly went cold.

It can’t be. She started jogging again. It's nothing at all. It'll
probably go away in a few days, Christine thought. But that
self-assurance didn't last. By the time she was within sight of
her house, she felt sick to her stomach.

At home she locked herself in the bathroom and stripped off
her soaking shirt and bra. She felt along the breastbone
carefully, her fingers delineating the new growth. It wasn’t so
large, not even as large as ithad seemed in the park. Her short-
lived optimism disappeared, however, when she examined the
other breast. She felt two distinct growths, each of them bigger
and more menacing than the first.

That day Christine made an appointment to see her
family physician. The doctor examined the lumps. To him
they were not alarming—many women in their mid-thirties
have breast lumps, he explained, and they usually turn out
to be benign. Nevertheless, the lumps shouldn't be ig-
nored, and so he recommended that she see Dr. Leslie
Strong, a noted breast surgeon.

From the book A REAL CHOICE Copyright © 1984 by Ralph W. Moss, based on the cases of Dr.
Leslie Strong, FA.C.S. Reprinted through special arrangement with St. Martin's Press, Inc.

By Ralph Moss and Dr. Leslie Strong

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Christine’s husband, John, came with
her to Dr. Strong's office. After the ex-
amination, they sat together in the con-
sulting room. Their eleven-year-old
daughter was at her dance class.

“It's bad news, isn’t it?” said Christine.
“Three lumps. One of them’s bound to
be cancer.”

“Not necessarily,” said Dr. Strong.
“What you appear to have are fibroade-
nomas. They're common benign tumors.”

“Then | won't need surgery,” she said.

“Not true,” said Dr. Strong bluntly.
“Our principle is that a biopsy should be
performed on all breast tumors palpable
on breast examination.”

Christine froze. John took her hand.
“Okay, Dr. Strong. | just have so many
bad associations with hospitals. My
mother died when | was very young.”

“She did?” asked Dr. Strong, a bit
apprehensive. “What did she die of?”

Chris bit her lip. It had happened so
long ago, yet it remained vivid. “I don’t
really know,” she said. “I remember peo-
ple saying that she had. . . cancer.”

Dr. Strong closed his eyes for a mo-
ment. “Breast cancer?”

“| don’t know,” said Christine.
important?”

“It could be. It could affect your prog-
nosis and treatment.”

Chris swallowed hard. “Well, if it's im-
portant, ! ous Ic can mince oe

“Is it

‘Christine Mackin,” read a voice.

She turned. It was a hospital volun-
teer in charge of admitting.

John had to get to work, but by six
o'clock that evening he was back, with
an outrageously expensive bouquet of
flowers. Somehow, with him there, the
whole thing seemed so absurd. What
was she doing in the hospital?

The next morning, after operating on
Christine, Dr. Strong got the pathologist
on the phone. “This is Dr. Strong. I’m
calling about those three specimens |
just sent to the lab.”

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but number three is a mucin-producing
tumor,” the pathologist told him.

“Are you sure it's cancer?”

“Yes, it's mucinous carcinoma.”

“That's a very rare form of cancer,” Dr.
Strong said, his face reflecting shock.
“But the prognosis on these mucin-pro-
ducers is good, isn't it?”

“Well, | wouldn't say ‘good,’” replied
the pathologist. “Let's just say it's not as
bad. But it’s definitely cancer.”

“It's hard to believe,” Dr. Strong said,
wondering again as he had wondered
many times before: “How the hell do
you tell a woman something like this?”
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Chris lay on the bed in the recovery
room. The world was white. She was
dreaming; a flow of light awakened her.

“Christine,” said Dr. Strong.

“What happened?” she asked.

“Christine,” he said. “I’m sorry. But it
didn’t turn out like we hoped. Two of the
tumors are benign, but the one in the
right breast is cancer.”

“Don’t tell me that,”
eyes widening with fear.

“!’m sorry | have to.” He paused, look-
ing away. “It was an unusual type of
tumor. I'll explain it all to you later. |
didn’t want to leave you here in sus-
pense, Chris, without knowing.”

She started sobbing now, and she
reached out and placed her hand on top
a his on the bars of her bed.

she said, her

Christine had to know more about her
mother. Dr. Strong needed to find out
before they could decide on her treat-
ment. He told Christine that if only her
right breast was involved and if none of
the lymph nodes were positive, she
would have a choice: She could have
the modified radical mastectomy, which
would remove her breast and lymph
nodes, or she could choose a quadrant
resection (or quadrantectomy), which
would remove only the lump and a quar-
ter of the breast along with the lymph
nodes. That eee would be fol-

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either case she could be reconstructe
by a plastic surgeon after six months
Part of it would depend on what Chris}
tine found out about her mother's deat!
If her mother had died of breast cance!
she would have a greater chance a
recurrence. In that case she might op
for a modified radical.

And so there was nothing to do but t¢
visit her father. They had never beer
close. When she arrived he asked her
everything was okay.

Her natural impulse was to say sure
and it took deliberate effort to say, “No

operation next week.”

“Operation, huh? You look okay.”

“They say I’ve got breast cancer.”

“Gee, that's too bad. Really.” He
didn’t seem awfully upset, though. “Yo
know, I’m going on vacation next wee
It's been planned for a long time. I’
lose my money if | canceled now. .

“Sure, | understand. But actually,
didn’t come for sympathy. I’m trying t
find out some details of our family’s his;
tory. In particular, I'd like to know abou
Momma. What was wrong with her?”

“Yeah, well, in those days you didn’}
talk about things like that. It was cancer,
Breast cancer. | guess this kind of thine
sort of runs in families.”

It wasn’t a complete surprise to Chris
tine, of course, but still, hearing it out:
right like this gave her chills.

Her father went on: “It's in the family
all right. Both of her sisters—they bot
had it. Their mother, too.”

Christine said good-bye to her fathe
and fled-into the cold night air. All she
wanted was to get home, cuddle up witr
John and hear his consoling words.

Gladys

Her daughter, Polly, had insisted, anc
so Gladys had come to see Dr. Fine)
laws didn’t like doctors or hospitals;

~ Breast self- examination —

The first line of defense against breast dis-
ease is breast self-examination (BSE). By
routinely examining her own breasts every
month, four to seven days after her period
ends, a woman can often recognize trouble.
This can gain valuable time—and time is of
the essence in the treatment of breast cancer.
Breast self-examination is not hard to do.
Here is the procedure, step-by-step.
1. First, look for any change in the size,
shape or position of the breasts. Stand in
front of a mirror to do this.
2. Next, look at the nipple area. Has one
nipple* become turned in? Is there a dis-

charge? Squeeze the nipple very gently. And
remember always to look on the inside of
your bra for any sign of discharge.

3. Now look at the skin of the breasts. Are
there any changes? For instance, do you
notice any puckering or dimpling? Is there a
rash, localized redness or a change in the
texture of the skin? Lift up the breasts, if
necessary, to look at the undersurface.

4. Next, raise your hands over your head
and study the upper part of the breast that
leads into the armpit. Is there any swelling
here or puckering of the skin?

5. Lie down on your back in a comfortable

position: Some women prefer to perform
this part of the examination in the bath,
using soapy water as a lubricant. Examine
your left breast with your right hand. Use
the front part of the flat of your hand,
keeping your fingers straight and close to-
gether. The important thing is to modulate
the pressure in your hand, for if you press
too hard, sensation will be dulled, and if you
press too lightly, you won't be able to feel
deeply enough. Practice makes perfect. Make
sure you do not pinch the breast, because if
you do, you may feel lumps and other irreg-
vlarities even in normal breasts. ,

3 ee es tee ‘ ‘: a. ware

i She intended to remain well—mainly by
(i: keeping away from all medical men. But
Polly was adamant and cleverly played
on her mother's vanity. You have to take
| care of yourself to keep young, she said.
| Gladys was quite attractive for her
age, which she described as “fifty-
| plus.” She was proud of her figure and
| of her ample bust.
She entered the doctors examination
! room a bit reluctantly, wearing only a hos-
} pital gown. Being nearly undressed in
front of a man, even a white-clad doctor
| like this, was always embarrassing.

“Do you examine yourself regularly?”
the doctor asked as he began the
breast exam.

“Are you kidding?” she said, laughing.

Dr. Fine went along, working system-
# atically. He continued on, then came
| back to the same spot, as if puzzled by

something.

} “I’m glad you let me examine you,” he
¥ said, but his voice sounded different
now. “There's a strange irregularity in

# your left breast. You should get it looked
4 at right away.”

“Looked at?” asked Gladys.

‘A mammogram,” said the doctor. “An
) X-ray of the breast.” He wrote an ad-
| dress on a prescription pad.

STS ee

After mammograms were taken, Gladys
4 called Dr. Fine’s office.

“Mrs. Kalin, they found a mass in the
left breast. Dr. Fine strongly suggests
} that you get a biopsy,” said the nurse.
§ ‘A biopsy?” She knew what that
meant, more or less. She had had
enough friends with cancer to know all
about it, and she was determined that it
would never happen to her.

“Okay,” she said. “Tell the doctor |
thank him very much and I'll think about
it.” But she refused to think about it.

It was some time later that Gladyss
daughter, Polly, ran into an old friend.
The old friend was Dr. Fine’s nurse.

“Polly, how'd your mother make out?”
asked the nurse casually.

6. Slide your hand over the breast now,
starting at the top and moving clockwise in a
circular motion. From the 12 o’clock posi-
tion, move around 360 degrees, going from a
larger circle to a smaller circle.
7. Slide your hand over the nipple in order
to be sure you have felt all parts of the
breast. Feel now for lumps along the top of
the collarbone and in the armpit. Be sure
you have covered the entire left breast.
8. Repeat the procedure with the right
breast. Examine both breasts once a month.
What should you do if you find a lump or
any change in your breast? The first thing is
not to panic. Nine out of ten lumps prove to
be harmless. But it is important to see a
qualified physician, gynecologist or, prefera-
bly, a breast surgeon, to have it checked.

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“Oh, great. Everything was great.”
|) Her mother had mentioned that Fine
) had found a little change in her breast,
but that it had turned out to be nothing.
“What do you mean great?” the nurse
blurted out. “Your mother needs a bi-
opsy. She has a growth!”

) The next evening, Polly waited in the
"living room of her mother’s house until
') Gladys came home from work.

“Well, well, well, to what do we owe
= the honor?” Gladys asked.

| “Ma,” Polly said angrily, “I spoke to Dr.
Fine today. Why did you lie to me?”

) “Did it?” asked her daughter.

“No,” said Gladys, her dark eyes
) more liquid than usual. “It’s still there.”
“Have you told Sam about this?” Polly
», asked. Sam was Gladyss husband,
» Polly's stepfather.

| “You kidding?” she asked. “You think
‘| he wants to hear this?”

= “Ma, you’ve got to get to a hospital for
that biopsy. I'll go with you.”

= “Yeah, well, maybe; we'll see.”
| Gladys turned away and snapped on
| the TV, turning up the volume.

ig Polly kept prodding her mother, and
f Gladys finally made an appointment
| with a breast surgeon. Dr. Lisante was a
') tall, thin man in his early fifties, with a
} pencil-thin mustache.

" “We can get you into the hospital next
§) Monday,” he said curtly, after reviewing
Gladys s mammograms.

He handed her two pieces of paper.
| One was a release to do a biopsy. The
| other, to her utter amazement, was a
similar permission slip—only this one to
do a mastectomy, to remove her breast!

“Whoa,” she said, standing up. “Wait
a minute. Don’t push me, doctor. Why
can't you just do one operation and
then let me think about the other one?”

She had oe hit a nerve, for the

SE i SS a

~ Options i in surgery

There was a time, not so long ago, when
breast cancer automatically meant a radical
mastectomy. Devised by Professor William S.
Halsted in the late nineteenth century, the
operation remained virtually unchanged for
many years. The surgeon removed not just
the breast itself, but the adjoining lymph
nodes, or glands, and the chest wall muscles
as well. It was a debilitating operation.
Today, women with breast cancer have
many options. The Halsted procedure, which
is still routinely practiced in some of this
countryS more traditional medical centers,
is on the way out. More frequently now, a

104

doctor stiffened and became even more
distant. “We don’t do things that way.”

“Why can’t you give me a chance to
make my own decision?”

Dr. Lisante repeated, this time with
visible anger, “The policy of the hospital
is that you have to sign twice so we can
have only one operation if the ump turns
out to be malignant. | don’t want you to
blame me for charging you twice.”

“But that’s my choice,” said Gladys,
amazed at his obstinacy.

“| have no time for such nonsense!”
said the doctor, and he simply stood up
and walked out of the room.

Gladys, shaking with anger, snapped
at his disappearing back, “You creep.
They never should have let you out of
medical schoo!!”

Robin

Robin and Peter spent their summer
vacation on Fire Island: two glorious
weeks in a ramshackle house on the
beach. Now it was almost time to return
to the grind. The restaurant where she
had worked for almost four years was
about to close. The tips there had been
good; she made more working two
nights a week than most of her friends
made working full-time. At age thirty-
three, Robin prided herself on her free,
almost bohemian lifestyle. Now she
worried that she might have to take a
much straighter job with lower pay.

But this afternoon she wouldn't think
about it. She was feeling healthy and
tanned, her brown hair streaked blond
by the sun. Swimming out into the
ocean, she felt like a kid again, so re-
laxed. After half an hour she swam to
shore and found Peter lying on the
beach. He put his arms around her.

“Better get out of your wet clothes,”
he said.

“Out in the open? Are you crazy?” But
she was flattered by his attention.

ey for you,” he said, and he

woman with breast cancer will be offered
one of these alternatives.

1. MODIFIED RADICAL MASTECTOMY.
This involves the removal of the breast and
the lymph nodes under the arm on the af-
fected side. It is a far more sparing opera-
tion than the original Halsted radical, which
removed so many glands and muscles that it
resulted in postoperative problems, such as
“frozen shoulder” or swollen arm.

2. QUADRANTECTOMY. Also called the
quadrant resection, this, as the name im-
plies, is the removal of one quarter, or quad-
rant, of the breast—the quarter in which

“neck. Suddenly he stopped and aic

we
nuzzled his unshaven face into

curiously, “Hey, what's this?”

His hand had brushed against he
breast. She looked down and throug}
her Lycra suit she saw a lump. Th
lump that her doctor said was nothing t
worry about. It was pushing itself oui
demanding attention.

She stared at it dispassionately for §
long moment—then the panic came
She looked up and saw her fear mi
rored in Peter's face.

They struggled up from the beac
not speaking. In their cramped roo
she tore at the straps of her bikini.

There it was. Her “cyst,” as her docto
called it. But it had grown—how it hat
grown. How had she not noticed it?

“Is it your cyst?” Peter asked late:
Normally she would have come baci
with some wisecrack, but now she jus
lay on the bed.

“Robin, is that it? Is that your cyst?”

“Peter, | think | have cancer,” she fi

nally whispered.
(dS Le er Se
Back in the city, Robin’s gynecologis
took one look and turned white. H
made an appointment with Dr Rut
Snyder, one of the leading breast radi
ologists. She took a mammogram, an
referred Robin to Dr. Leslie Strong.

When Dr. Strong felt the lump, hi
heart sank. It was huge now. He fe
under Robin's armpit. The lymph node:
were swollen and hard. While a case c
“swollen glands” under the arm nee
not be serious, when they are couple
with a breast tumor, they are an omi
nous sign. It usually means that the can
cer has spread beyond its original site.

“Bad news, eh?” she said, watchin
his face nervously.

“Robin, we're going to have to do ;
biopsy—dquickly,” he said. “This thin
should have come out months age
Why did you let it go this long?”

“My gynecologist told me not to worr
about it,” she said, her voice growin

the malignant tumor is found. In one lane
mark study, women who received quadrar
tectomies were compared with those wh
had mastectomies: There was absolutely n
difference in survival rates between the tw
ups of women after ten years.

3. LUMPECTOMY. Still very controversial
this procedure involves the removal of jus
the lump and the surrounding tissue.

Of course, each of the above procedure
has its specific indications, depending on th
type and extent of the cancer present. |
must be emphasized that not all breast can
cer is the same. In fact, scientists have dis

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| but not defensive. “He said |
uld watch it.”

de told you to watch this?” Dr.
yng practically yelled. “To watch it?
vatch it do what?” His anger focused
ner well-known gynecologist.

s it cancer?” she asked. “Tell me.”
can’t tell,” he said. It was not quite a
—technically, he wouldn't know until
operation. But everything about it
valed malignancy. “Four out of five of
se turnout...”

our out of five are benign. Fibro-
atevers,” Robin interrupted. “I know
“speech, I’ve heard it.”

hey laughed, but he wouidn’t give
here was no use in alarming her.
‘most important thing was to get
into the hospital and do a biopsy.
in they'd know for sure.

\in’s biopsy was positive. She had
cer. The prognosis was guarded, Dr.
ng said. Because of the apparent
ph-node involvement it looked se-
s. Dr. Strong sent Robin to a radi-
jist, who explained they no longer
ormed the outdated radical mastec-
y, so she could have a modified rad-
mastectomy or a quadrantectomy
wed by radiation.
ut whatever her choice, Dr. Strong
ymmended that Robin have chemo-
apy as well. While her organ scans
2 all negative for cancer, it was still
sible that the tumor cells had settled
iewhere else in her body. She was
ited with Dr. Strong, because he
Idn’'t give her a definitive answer
ut this. “You mean you can't tell me
iin the rest of me?”
lot really. Right now medicine is still
ing the tools to tell in every case
ther cancer has spread beyond the
inal site. Your scans are all nega-
but cancer might still be there and
wouldn’t know. That is why chemo-
apy is so important, since it might
+ out small colonies of cells that we
1ot even see.”

tished at least ten different types of
er affecting this organ, and each can be
ed with different therapies.

‘mpectomy and quadrantectomy are
: successful when used in early cancers,
hich the cancer has not spread out of
initial site. Even so, these operations
include removal of the lymph nodes in
armpit of the affected side, and they
‘be followed up with a course of radio-
py to the entire breast. In lumpectomy,
oster dose of radiation is given the area
which the tumor was removed.

th any of these operations, if the lymph
Ss have turned out to be cancerous or
: are other indications that the disease
spread to other parts of the body, chem-
py is also recommended.

Jeffrey Terreson

enisie ane ‘gag aeebeaeh gan in the
dark in their bedroom. They lay for a
long time without speaking while he
heid her hand.

“What should | do?” she asked finally.
“Dr. Strong wants a decision by tomor-
row. | can’t put it off any longer.”

“You once said you would never have
a mastectomy,” he reminded her.

“That was for you.”

“For me?”

“| didn’t want you to have to live with

. an incomplete woman.”

He laughed, more out of surprise

Ethan any feeling of amusement. “That's

what you think? That | care about things
like that? Its you | love, not your
breasts; don’t you understand?”

“Yes,” she whispered. “I could still
have the quadrantectomy,” she said.
“They would just take out the tumor and
some surrounding tissue. But it would
leave me almost intact.”

Advanced surgical techniques, new synthetic
materials, and the fact that breast surgeons
and plastic surgeons now work more closely
together are all factors that have contrib-
uted to the tremendous advances in breast
reconstruction over the past decade.

These days, even patients who have had
the standard radical mastectomy, with loss
of the breast and chest wall muscles, can
have reconstruction, due to the sophisti-
cated new surgical techniques available. For
women who have quadrantectomies, where
only a quarter of the breast is removed,
reconstruction is generally not necessary.

alt you feel ust as ante, then eS it. But

cosmetic plastic surgery.

Sola ee tek) + ee

- if you feel you’re always going to harbor

doubts and fears, then it might be worth
the sacrifice of the breast.” John
paused. What he didn’t want to do was
make up her mind for her. This was her
decision. “Whatever you do,” he said
finally, “is okay with me. Just so long as
you get well.”

Christine opted for the modified radi-
cal. Dr. Strong explained that they
would have to monitor her very carefully
after the operation. Cancer often ap-
peared in the opposite breast, es-
pecially in women like Christine, who
have already had benign tumors there.

She had spent eight days in the hos-
pital, but it felt like a much longer
period. Going home, the street seemed
incredibly bright, noisy and gritty. It was
equally strange to be back in her house.

“What a mess,” she said, entering the
foyer. “I’d better get to work.”

“Let it lie,” John said, pressing her
hand. “You're incredible. If you were on

your way to meet the President, you’d™

make him wait so you could tidy up the
house first.” She laughed.

He went off into the kitchen, and
Christine thought: How wonderful it is
to be home again. Her daughter,
Melanie, would be home, too, in a few
hours, and then they would all be to-
gether again. A family, a real family.

“What's this?” she asked, as John
emerged through the louvered doors.

“Champagne,” he said, holding up a
bottle. He poured her a glassful.

“To my darling,” he said.

“To you, you sentimental slob,” she
said, clinking glasses. ~

John put his arms around her.

“Well, I'm going to get unpacked, and
then I’m going to try to take a bath.”

“| had different plans for this after-
noon,” he said, caressing her.

She pulled back. “God, you’ve got to
be kidding, John. You mean now?” She
gasped, out of breath. “I don't know. I've
got so much to deal with. .

ae nae sess a long period of

Breast reconstruction surgery

But small-breasted women who opt for a
quadrantectomy may need a small implant.
Even a nipple can now be reconstructed.
Plastic surgeons transplant tissue from be-
hind the ear lobe, the inner thigh or the
labia majora of the vagina to create a new
nipple on the reconstructed breast. (The
original nipple is not used because doctors
fear it may harbor cells from the tumor.)
In most states, medical insurance plans
now reimburse most of the costs of breast
reconstructive surgery, as it is considered
postoperative rehabilitation, and not just

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toward each other, with some ee
difficulties along the way. And now, 4
weren't in the house five minutes,
he wanted to make love to her!

“| don't feel right, John. | mean,
hair's greasy, I've got one breast. .
“And what difference does

make?” he said. “I love you!”

She looked at him for a long mom
She wanted him, too, she realized,
her attitude was keeping her b
Then something inside melted. “
what the heck!” she said lighthearte

John laughed happily. Holding ch
pagne in one hand, he led her up
stairs with the other. She could tell f
his determined manner that he
been planning this all week long.

“Are you sure . . . you want to
this?” she asked as they reached
bedroom. Normally she would h
quickly thrown her clothes over
chair, because making love to John }
her greatest pleasure in life. But
she felt a peculiar strangeness.

“Sure, I'm sure. Why should there
any difference? There isn’t any
ference.” She unbuttoned her blo
hesitantly and turned her back.

“Do you want to show me?” he ask

“Okay,” she said, slowly turning.

John studied her for a long mom:
“It doesn’t look bad at all,” he said }
matter-of-fact voice that just coul
have been faked. The straight line
the incision was neat and clean.
Strong did a nice job,” he said, sen
the irony of his words.

Christine was surprised and relie
He really didn’t care; it didn’t seen
repulse him. She hugged him tightl

“| love you,” John said. “! don’t ¢
about anything as unimportant as th

It was one of those moments of |
that would always stand out in
mind—one of those she would thin
when she looked back on her life ai
best, as something really special,
most mystical i in its intensity.

Can reconstruction hide the developn
of a new cancer in the area of the operi
breast? This was, and is, a major reason |
conservative doctors do not recommend
construction, or advise a delay of up to
years after surgery for breast cancer.

However, many surgeons—Dr. Strong
cluded—now believe this fear is unfount

and that for many women reconstruction

take place immediately. They believe that tl
is no real problem in finding an early re
rence of breast cancer because a patient
be carefully monitored through the usi
manual examination and mammography

fterward, Christine lay next to John,
jody snuggled up against her.
ly, she started crying, waking him.
Vh—what's the matter?” he asked.
m so happy,” she sobbed.

you cry?”

's so wonderful, John. It's too much.
is one of the best moments of my
{sn’t that weird? | should be misera-
But you’ve made me so happy.”

lump in Gladys's left breast would
jo away. Now when she showered
j:ould not help reaching and touch-

erself there.
tally, Polly convinced her to call the
}ican Cancer Society and ask for
vame of a doctor who would do a
»hase operation: first a biopsy,
if necessary, another operation.
‘gave her Dr. Strong’s number.
yen Dr. Strong examined her, he
Hime alarmed. The tumor was hard
firmly rooted in its spot. Gladyss
de also disturbed him. She was
inly “a tough old dame,” as she
fed to herself. But she was also
able, sensitive and very scared.
kay, the first thing is to have a bi-
” Dr. Strong told her.
don’t intend to be operated on,”
# ys countered. “I hate hospitals.”
Bok,” said Dr. Strong, becoming
, if you come to me, you're coming
! y professional advice, and |’m tell-
ou. There’s no way you're going to
fut of this without an operation.”
fially, Gladys said, “Well, maybe
ane biopsy. Ateast you talk to me
#ion’t walk away like that other doc-
id. But I’m warning you. I’m not
1g Overnight.”
m<ay,’ Dr. Strong said, “you win.

You're a hell of a fighter. You can leave
the same day.”

Ea SR a
Gladys woke up quickly after the biopsy
to the sound of the curtain being drawn
back. It was Dr. Strong.

“Gladys, | want to talk to you.”

“You don’t have to bother saying any-
thing, Dr. Strong,” she said. “I can see it
in your face. It's malignant, isn’t it?”

He nodded. “Yes.”

Gladys didn’t cry. She simply said, “I
don’t want to think about this now,” and
then added, “I want to go home.”

They met again a few days later in Dr.
Strong's office. He offered Gladys a
choice of two operative procedures.
She could have a quadrantectomy or a
modified radical mastectomy. After
seeking a second opinion she opted for
the mastectomy. This was a phenome-
non Dr. Strong had seen quite often.
Even when more conservative pro-
cedures, such as the quadrantectomy,
were available, many women still went
for the tried-and-true mastectomy.

Before she left the hospital, Dr.
Strong asked Gladys to look at herself.
Sometimes a patient refused to look at
herself after the operation even after
she went home. The wound then could
become a festering psychological scar.

Gladys showed no sign of following
orders, and so Dr. Strong asked the
head nurse, Dottie McCardle, to assist
him. She gently reminded Gladys about
it the day before she was due to leave.

Gladys sat up. “What do | want to do
that for? Look at the freak of nature?”

“It's for the best,” said Dottie. “Do you
want any help removing the bandages?”

“No, no,” said Gladys, her vulner-
ability showing in her eyes.

Gladys pulled the bandage off and a
cry emerged from her throat. It was
gone. All her denials and delusions
evaporated, leaving her with only empti-
ness. She sobbed, but not as loudly or
bitterly as she had thought she would.
She had been proud of her breasts all
her life. Now men would look at her and
their eyes would focus knowingly on
something lacking there.

At home Gladys was very self-con-
scious about her looks. She studied
herself in the full-length mirror in the
hall. She would catch frightening
glimpses of a strange middle-aged per-
son staring back at her. And, yet, if she
smiled, or.practiced a seductive look in
the mirror, she could again see the
cheerful, sexy Gladys of younger days.

Soon Gladys was back at work, and
she got a visit from George, a salesman
she had known for ages. When her first
husband was alive they had socialized
with George and his wife, Eileen.
“What's happening, George? Since

you changed territories | don’t get to
see you anymore.”

“Yeah,” he said uncomfortably, “it's a
pity. | miss the old times.” Something
was clearly on his mind.

“How's Eileen these days?”

“Not too good,” he mumbled.

“Why? What's the matter?” Gladys
said, immediately alarmed. ]

“You wouldn't recognize her.” Gladys §
could sense the concern in his voice.

“What's wrong?” she asked.

“Listen, Gladys, I'd be lying if | said |
didn’t know about your problem.” He
unconsciously glanced at her breasts. “I
can sympathize with what you’re going
through because Eileen and | have
been through the wringer on this for the
last few years.”

“You have?” said Gladys, amazed. §

“You mean—” F
“Two years ago. But the worst thing
is—Eileen’s become a recluse. |
wouldn't drag you into this, except I’m §
desperate. Could you go talk to her? | §
mean, if anybody could, you could.” :

On Saturday, Gladys drove up to the §
Bronx. She rang the bell, but there was |
no answer. She didn’t think Eileen was
out, not after what George had told her.
She rang again.

Silence. Then the door opened a f[
crack. “Who's that? Gladys?”

“Can I come in?” Gladys said, literally
putting her foot in the door. E

“Do | have any choice?” said Eileen.
“Jeez, | look a wreck. Did George tell
you to do this?” Her voice suddenly
sounded suspicious. I

“You crazy old dame,” said Gladys,
artfully dodging the question. “Coming
here was my own idea.” i

They went into the kitchen. Gladys
remembered in the old days when it

was neat and clean, when there was ff

always something good cooking on the
stove. Now it was filthy and depressing. |
But seeing Eileen was the most pain-
ful. She had aged terribly. She had bags §
under her eyes, and she had let her hair |
grow out gray and unkempt. It was a |}
pitiful sight to anyone who had known
the vivacious Eileen of the old days.
“What's George been telling you? | §

bet he didn’t tell you he’s got another §

woman stashed away somewhere.” I
“That's bunk, Eileen,” Gladys said ve- §
hemently, coming right to the point.

“There's no girl. He's off getting soused, §

and you're too dumb to realize it.”
“You don’t understand,” said Eileen, ff
slumping in her chair. “Gladys, did he
tell you...”
“You mean about your operation?”
“So, he's telling everyone now?”
“Cut it out, Eileen. He had to tell §
somebody, and so he told me.” }
“Well, so you know. That's why | keep §

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: the lights low in here. That way nobody

can see, not even me. To tell you the
truth, hon, I’ve never looked at it. Never.
And | never intend to.”

Eileen poured coffee, and Gladys
could see the unnatural bulge beneath
her nightgown. Oh, Lord, she thought,
she’s probably using a rolled-up pair of
socks in her bra, like when we were kids.

“l'm glad you came now, but where
the hell were you when | needed you?”

Gladys had her opening. “Where was
1? | was in the hospital having the same
thing done to me that they did to you!”

“Are you kidding?” Eileen finally whis-
pered. “When?”

“Just a few months ago. But | don't let
it ruin my life. Its the only life I’ve got or
am likely to get for a long while. | made a
choice, Eileen. You have to make one,
too. And that choice is whether or not to
go on living. In fact, Eileen, the truth is,
we should be darn glad to be alive!”

Eileen reached over and hugged her
friend, crying.

“I've been acting crazy, haven't 1?”
said Eileen. “Il was so ashamed. | felt no
one would want me, that | was useless.”

“Well, that’s a crock. Starting today
you're gonna pull yourself together. First
let's get this mess cleaned up.”

“No, the first thing is for me to get
some kind of—what do you call it—pros-
thetic device. I’ve been ashamed to go
out because | look so terrible. | need to
find a store that sells them. Do you
think you could drive me downtown?”

Gladys smiled. “Hey, what the heck
do you think old friends are for?”

Of all the aspects of cancer treatment,
the one that frightened Robin the most

was chemotherapy. Surgery she could

deal with—once finished, it was over
and done with. Even radiation wasn’t so
bad. But there was something about the
idea of injecting poisons into her veins
that unnerved her, no matter how
therapeutic the purpose.

Two weeks after her surgery, Robin
began chemotherapy, administered by
an oncologist, Dr. Vogel. She felt a bit
nauseous the days of the injections, but
nothing that she couldn't live with. Her
beautiful amber hair started to thin, but
not so much that she had to wear one of
those telltale kerchiefs.

Peter gave her what she called his
“locker room speech.”

“We've been together in the good
times, babe, and now that some bad
timesve come, we’il weather the storm
and stick through them as well.”

It was corny, but she loved him for it.

Aside from Peter's concern, things
seemed pretty much the same on the
surface. But underneath, there were
changes taking place. For the first time
Robin wasn’t sure she could go on just
living day to day anymore, as she had
done for more than ten years. She felt a
deep pull toward some kind of stability
and achievement. She wanted to do
something with her life, make some-
thing. Some new note had crept into her
life. It was a bass note, to be-sure, yet
surprisingly it was not an entirely un-
pleasant change.

One day, after Robin had been re-
ceiving chemotherapy for almost a year,
she picked up a roll of film that she
hadn't bothered to have developed the
previous summer. She was flipping
through the crisp stack of thirty-six pic-
tures as she walked. These days her
head ached constantly; she had no en-
ergy and little verve for life. The chemo-
therapy had become harder and harder
for her to tolerate.

The photographs were from her vaca-
tion with Peter on Fire Island. It was the
last picture that stopped her in her
tracks and made her gasp audibly. It
was taken on the very day she had
“rediscovered” her tumor. And there she
was, squinting into the sun, smiling hap-
pily. Seeing the picture of herself, so
clearly healthy, happy and carefree,
made her incredibly sad.

The chemotherapy was wearing
Robin down. For two weeks out of each
month she would go every day to Dr.
Vogel's office to receive her injections.
She felt sick all the time, and worse,
now she was going bald.

“Just hang in, Robin,” Dr. Vogel said.
“It's doing good; I’m sure it's doing good.
And the hair will grow back as soon as
you finish the therapy.”

So she hung in, month after month.

She still refused to wear a kerchief, as

Ae ee >

_take this anymore.”

Se ie ee

so many chentourepy patients is dic
was a matter of stubborn pride with

Finally one night, she came into
office in a warm-up suit. She had be
walking in the park.

“You're looking hale and hearty,” s
Vogel, as he prepared to give her
injection.

“You think so?” she asked. “I feel
death warmed over. Two weeks of
every. month, then two weeks trying
recover. I’m telling you, this is bad

She felt terrible, despite the warm
suit and the image she tried to proje

“Well, that's done,” said Dr. Vo
after the injection. “See you next we¢
No, you're off next week.”

“You're right,” she said. “It's done.’

Something in her voice unsett
him. He had seen this before. “What
you mean, Robin? What's up?”

“I'm done, Dr. Vogel. Finished. | cz

“Don’t quit on me now, Robin. Yo
be off for two weeks...”

“Off for two weeks, then on
weeks. How long can | go on like this
can’t stand it.”

“Just finish the course. It should
only a little bit longer,” he said.
really in your best interest.”

“Sorry, Dr. Vogel. | can't. . J
then Dr. Vogel started to nat
roariously. Robin was confused.

He shook his head. “This is fun
really funny. The nurse left me a no
but | didn’t see it.” He had her fold
open before him. “This is it!”

“What do you mean?” She was
laughing herseif but also half angry.

“You are finished,” Dr. Vogel sa
“You just completed your twel
monthly cycle of treatments. You
free. | don’t want to ever see you aga
you understand?”

It took « moment for Robin to gre
the significance of this: Somehow
own internal clock had measured off t
weeks, injection by injection,
sounded the alarm on the very day t
treatments were supposed to end.

Unable to restrain herself, she leap
up and threw her arms around her dc
tor's neck, gave him a kiss on his mt
tache and sauntered out of the office.
thick, romantic darkness had c
scended over the city. She would |
meeting Peter for dinner—now th
would really have something to ce
brate. She jumped up into the air and
effortlessly, it seemed—ran the rest
the way home. Ei
i
Ralph Moss is author of The Canc
Syndrome and co-author of the P
film The Cancer War. Dr. Leslie Stro
is a noted surgeon and founder of T
Breast Health Program in New York ©

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TRAVELING LIGHT

For most of us, gaining weight while
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Start thinking about controlling
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will give you an immediate indication
of whether you're overindulging.

Avoid reserving a hotel room that

has a meal plan included, she sug-
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you may tend to overeat just because
the food has been paid for.
. Don’t starve yourself the week be-
“fore you leave, recommend the editors
of the Environmental Nutrition News-
letter. That’s tantamount to planning
to be out of control.

When on the road in the family car,
avoid having food constantly within
reach. “Many people pack as if they
expected to find famine along the
travel route,” the newsletter con-
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cross the Sahara desert, this is un-
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“you couldn’t possibly taste every-
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U.S. CUSTOMS CRACKDOWN

Your vacation’s been great, but now
you're headed for home. And though
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just can’t resist picking up some of
that wonderful spicy sausage and hid-
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bag. After all, how much harm could
one little sausage do?

Plenty, according to the U.S. De-
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contaminated meat brought back to
an area where food scraps are fed to
farm animals, say USDA officials.
And a single piece of fruit harboring a
few insect maggots could start an in-
festation similar to the fruit fly out-
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So, in an effort to discourage trav-
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plant and animal products, USDA in-
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fiscating the prohibited items. Viola-
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$50 on the spot. And though these
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To find out which agricultural prod-
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If you make a call without reading
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@ If you know you'll be making a slew
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e If traveling frequently in the Unit-
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e@ When privacy or comfort aren’t es-
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hotel lobby. Using the public tele-
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yere made, and at the last minute my
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aws that entitle you to a vacation. All
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ip to the individual employer. How- |
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ieople, others (like you) want to use |
ecretarial work as a stepping-stone |
o higher positions. A new book, Not |
‘ust a Secretary: Using the Job to Get |
ji head (John Wiley & Sons, $8.95), by |
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uggests that you interview prospec
ive bosses to get a clear understand- |
ng of the job’ dimensions. During;
our discussion, listen carefully. When |
terms like “potential for growth” are |
sed, find out what types of jobs pre- |
ious secretaries have moved on to. |
ilso, ask what your duties will be. |
Jon’t worry about your prospective |
¥ oss’ reaction. If there really is promo- |
ion potential, the supervisor will be |
jad to tell you about the job sare

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Microwaving, Italian-style...

Give your microwave
cuisine a foreign
accent with these
sumptuous yet
simple recipes.

Thanks to your microwave oven, mak-
ing great Italian food can be quicker
and easier than ever before. The fol-
lowing recipes will help you create a
fabulous Italian feast in no time flat.
Buon appetito!

BRUSCHETTA
Toasted Garlic Bread

A specialty of Tuscany and Umbria,
Bruschetta is traditionally heated over
burning embers to be enjoyed by all as
a prelude to the meal.

Yq cup olive oil
1 teaspoon minced garlic
4 ounces mozzarella cheese, grated
1 tablespoon lemon juice
1 tablespoon finely chopped
fresh parsley
Ye teaspoon freshly grated pepper
1 ounce anchovy fillets, drained and
minced (optional)
Y2 loaf of Italian bread, cut into
Ya-inch slices

In a custard cup, combine olive oil and
minced garlic. Cook on High 30 sec-
onds to 1 minute.

In a small bow! combine remaining
ingredients except bread.

Place a large microwave browning
dish in oven and preheat according to
the manufacturer’s instructions for
toasted sandwiches. This will be
about 3 to 5 minutes on High.

Meanwhile, brush both sides of
bread with garlic oil. On one side of
each bread slice, place 1 tablespoon
cheese mixture and press down
lightly. Place bread, cheese side up,
onto hot browning dish. Cook on High
2 to 3 minutes, or until cheese melts,

PS. 8

rotating dish after 1 minute. Serve
hot. Makes 10 to 12 slices.

MINESTRONE ALLA GENOVESE
Minestrone in the Genoan Style

Stir in basil sauce (pesto) at the table
for the best vegetable soup you will
ever taste. (Recipe for pesto follows.)

tablespoons olive oil
tablespoon butter
garlic clove, minced
medium onion, sliced
cup peeled and diced potato
(1 large)
Y cup thin-sliced celery (1 rib)
’% cup peeled and thin-sliced carrots
(1 medium)
Y2 cup sliced zucchini (1 small)
1 cup %2-inch pieces of green snap
beans (about % Ib.)
14% cups shredded cabbage (about 2
small head)
4 cups beef or chicken broth
cup peeled and seeded ripe
tomatoes, preferably plum or
undrained canned, chopped
2 tablespoons finely chopped
parsley
teaspoon finely chopped fresh
basil, or Ys teaspoon crushed
dried
Freshly ground pepper
cup cooked Great Northern beans
Y4 cup small dry pasta
Freshly grated Parmesan cheese
Pesto (see recipe that follows)

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In a 4-quart microwave casserole with
lid combine oil, butter, garlic and
onion. Cover and cook on High 2 to 3
minutes, stirring once, until vegeta-
bles are slightly tender. Stir in potato,
celery and carrots. Cover and cook 2
to 4 minutes more, stirring once.

Stir in zucchini, green beans and
cabbage. Re-cover and cook 2 to 3
minutes, stirring once.

Add broth, tomatoes, parsley and
basil; stir. Cover and cook on High 10
to 12 minutes, until soup boils, stir-
ring once. Turn power down to Me-
dium (50 percent power) and cook 15
to 20 minutes until potato is almost
tender, stirring occasionally. Add pep-
per to taste.

Add beans and pasta; stir. Cover
and cook on Medium 8 to 12 minutes
until pasta is almost tender. Allow to
stand, covered, about 5 minutes be-
fore serving.

Ladle soup into bowls and sprinkle
with cheese and a spoonful of pesto.
Makes 6 to 8 servings.

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Uncooked Basil Sauce

2 cups firmly packed fresh basil leaves
with stems removed

Ya cup pignoli (pine nuts)

2 garlic cloves, peeled

Y2 cup plus 2 tablespoons grated
Parmesan cheese

Y2 cup olive oil

In the bowl of a food processor or
blender, combine basil, pignoli and
garlic; chop fine. Add cheese and
blend. Slowly pour in oil, while blend-
ing if using a processor, and continue
to blend until a fine paste forms.

Pesto will keep refrigerated for 3
days, or may be frozen in individual
heavy-duty plastic bags or jars.
Makes about 1 cup.

FETTUCCINE ALLA GORGONZOLA
Fettucine with Gorgonzola Sauce

Gorgonzola has the characteristic zing
of a truly great blue cheese, which im-
parts that flavor to this pasta dish.

1 pound fettucine or spaghetti
4 ounces Gorgonzola cheese,
or other blue cheese

¥3 cup milk

3 tablespoons butter

Y4 cup heavy cream

Ys cup grated Parmesan cheese

Bring water to a boil on top of con-
ventional stove and cook pasta until
al dente, or still firm to the bite.

Meanwhile, place Gorgonzola in a
l-quart microwave casserole. Mash
cheese with a fork; stir in milk and
butter. Cook on Medium (50 percent
power) 3 to 5 minutes, or until
creamy, stirring twice. Set aside.

When pasta is almost al dente, add
heavy cream to Gorgonzola sauce and
cook on Medium 2 to 4 minutes, until
sauce is heated through.

Drain pasta; toss with sauce and
grated Parmesan cheese. Serve imme-
diately. Makes 4 servings. (continued)

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CARCIOFI
Artic hokes
4 medium-size artichokes
Lemon juice
Yq cup water

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Cut off stems and about 4 inch of tops
of artichokes. Pull off the few tough
bottom leaves and snip off tip of each
outer leaf with scissors. Rub entire
outside with lemon juice to prevent
discoloration.

In a 2-quart microwave casserole,
pour in water and arrange artichokes,
base down. Cover with lid or vented
plastic wrap and cook on High 9'2 to

14% minutes, until lower leaves can

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Home-style Tomato Meat Sauce

Convenience seems to characterize the
American home, so we call this sauce
“home-style” because it can be pre-
pared from start to finish in a little
over thirty minutes. You can vary the
sauce each time by adjusting the pro-
portions of beef and sausage.

Y2 pound Italian sausage, sweet or hot
Y2 pound lean ground beef

2 tablespoons olive oil

2 garlic cloves, minced

1 onion, chopped

1 can (28 oz.) Italian plum tomatoes,

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undrained and chopped

1 can (6 oz.) tomato paste

Ya cup chopped fresh parsley, or 1
tablespoon dried

1 teaspoon chopped fresh basil, or 4
teaspoon crushed dried

1 teaspoon sugar

Y2 teaspoon salt

Ya teaspoon red pepper flakes
(optional)

Yg teaspoon freshly ground
black pepper i

Y4 teaspoon oregano |

Remove sausage from casing. Bred
up sausage and ground beef. Place
microwave roasting rack in.a 2-quaj
microwave dish (12x 8-inch) ar
spread sausage and beef evenly @
top. Cook on High 5 minutes to co¢
partially, rotating dish once. Draj
and set aside.

In a 3-quart microwave cassero}
with lid, combine oil, garlic ar
onion. Cover and cook on High 3 mii
utes, until onion is slightly tende
Stir in cooked meat and remainir
ingredients with black pepper
taste. Cover and cook on High 20 mi
utes until bubbly hot, stirring twic|
Allow to stand, covered, 5 minute’
Makes 5 cups.

RISOTTO

|
Italian Rice Dish |

When risotto is cooked on the cor
ventional stove, heat must be carefull
regulated so as not to cook the rice tc
quickly. Liquid must be added or
half cup at a time, with constant sti
ring. We found the microwave to t
much more consistent in cooking tha
the conventional stove, and it is don
without any stirring.

3 tablespoons butter
1 medium onion, chopped fine
1 cup Italian Arborio rice, or
short-grain rice
1° cups hot chicken stock
(just boiling)
Y3 cup grated Parmesan cheese

In a 2-quart microwave casserole wit
lid, combine butter and onion. Cove
and cook on High 1% to 2 minutes, ¢
until onion is slightly tender. Add ric
and stir well to coat with butter. Sti
in stock and cover. Cook on High 4 t
6 minutes, or until stock boils.

Stir and re-cover. Cook on Mediur
(50 percent power) 6 to 8 minutes ur
til rice swells, absorbing almost a
the liquid, yet remaining firm to th
bite. Do not stir during cooking.

Stir in grated cheese. Cover agai
and allow to stand 5 minutes; durin
this time rice will continue to cook
Makes 4 servings. En

THE MICROWAVE ITALIAN COOKBOOK © 1984, by Theln
Snyder and Marcia Cone. Reprinted by permission of Ve
Nostrand Reinhold

PS. 10 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL + NOVEMBER 1!

9
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fitness equipment is shaping up as
one of this season’s hottest gifts. And
if youre looking for an important
present or simply some extra-special
stocking stuffers, there are plenty of
options. Here’s a look at workout
equipment sure to be on every bud-
ding fitness buffs most-wanted list.

PEDAL POWER

Great for burning off calories and de-
veloping aerobic fitness (increasing
heart and lung capacity), stationary
exercise bicycles cost from $140 to
$800. (Obviously, the more elaborate
the bike, the more expensive.) But
whether you’re buying a basic exer-
cise bicycle or an electronic one, it
should have a built-in timer to remind
the exerciser not to overdo it and an

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odometer/speedometer to _ indicate
speed and “distance” covered (impor-
tant information when the goal is im-
proved endurance). If the cyclist
you're shopping for is tall, make sure
that the seat post is high enough to
accommodate him. If small children
will be riding the bike, you should be
able to lower the handlebars.

In addition, look for a “weighted”—
or solid—wheel when buying an exer-
cise bicycle, recommends fitness
equipment specialist Arnold Seitel, of
Gem Sporting Goods. A solid wheel
will create better resistance than a
lightweight wheel (similar to what
you'd find on a regular bike), used on
many of the cheaper models. And
make sure that the wheel turns
smoothly. The only way to do this is to
hop on and pedal away.

A final feature: Many of the new
exercise bicycles fold for easy storage
and are small enough to sit unob-
trusively in a corner of a room.

RUNNING FOR THE FUN OF IT

A treadmill may just fit the bill for a

would-be jogger who doesn’t have a
place to run (or who simply doesn’t want
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Add a new dimension to your
family’s life by bringing a foreign
visitor into your home.

By Janet Maughan

Even if you don’t plan to travel this year, you can get a

taste of a new culture—by offering an international trav-
eler some good old-fashioned American hospitality
Sharing your home with students or adults, whether
for a couple of days or an entire school year, is one of the
best ways to learn about places you may never get to
visit. Both family and guest benefit from the cultural
exchange that takes place when foreigners try to deci-
pher the seeming eccentricities of American life
Many host families say that children iu
fit from exposure to foreign cultures. “Hostir
dents over the years has made my children m
the world outside our town,” says Marge Nich¢

field, Illinois. “They're more curious and open to new ideas
because of it.” A guest’s impact doesn’t stop there. In some
families, hosts, inspired by their multilingual guests,
learned a second language, and in others, struggling stu-
dents suddenly found French class more fun.

Perhaps the greatest benefit is making new friends. One
family, who've hosted for many years, claims they could
travel around the world and never check into a hotel.

The typical host family is as varied as the typical Amer-
ican family: Working couples, single parents, families with
children and retirees are all encouraged to participate, and
there are exchange programs to suit almost everybody. All
programs urge hosts to include guests in their everyday
routine. It may be hard to believe, but a trip to the local
supermarket can be as eye-opening to a young Sri Lankan
as an outing to the local museum.

Is hosting right for your family? Although an eager-
ness to welcome a guest into your home is most impor-
tant, there are other considerations. Your entire family
should be supportive of the idea. Flexibility, agree past
hosts, is crucial. Even the most cooperative guest will
disturb the family routine a bit, and hosts may have to
make allowances for guests who find the American way
of life unsettling, or the language confusing. Time is
another factor. While visitors should become part of the
family—even down to helping out with household
chores—hosts must be prepared to spend extra time with
their guest. There may be a little homesickness to cure
or a cultural misunderstanding to iron out. Finally, fam-
ilies are expected to share American culture with their
visitors. If you don’t want to explain why ghosts and
witches ring the doorbell on October 31 or how the Amer-
ican judicial system works, don’t take in a curious guest.

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f Lara Families with teenagers may want to host a high school
student during the academic year. While the respon-
sibility is greater—you're basically becoming the guest
child’s parent—so are the rewards. A great rapport de-
velops, and the student becomes a part of the family.

Whether featuring short- or long-term programs, most
exchange organizations have similar procedures. Visitors
and hosts are screened by local volunteer coordinators
and matched according to interests and preferences. The
programs provide orientation for guests and families,
backup support and counseling, and take care of travel
and insurance costs. Hosts are expected to provide hous-
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students supply their own pocket money.

If you don’t have space for an extra person or your family
isn’t keen about gaining a new member, you can still enjoy
some of the benefits of hosting foreign visitors. Thousands
of foreign students are enrolled in American universities.
Though they don’t need living quarters, they'd love to
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ymmitment, contact Servas, an organization of hosts and
-avelers that arranges homestays for adult visitors and
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tones of beige. It's wonderfully
light in the summer but in the

winter it starts to look—and feel—

cold. How can I warm up the room
without changing the entire look?

~~ Because you have a neutral
» setting you can easily change
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pithout major work or expense. You
just need to add a few finishing
touches. Focus your effort on color,
pattern and texture.

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up your beige room. Try various shades
of yellow, orange, red and brown, either
in combination or alone.

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tire room. The easiest place to start
adding accents is on your sofa, with
throw pillows in warm tones of reds or
oranges. Or, try replacing a light
piece of art with a vibrant quilt or
wall hanging. Make it a focal point in
the room. Then, use the colors in the
piece as your accent colors.

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with floral or plaid accents. Pull out
some of those rag rugs that are hiding
in the attic. If you don’t have rag rugs,
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Is there anything I can do to
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needs is a little revamping:
Cover your quilt with fabric-
backed Dacron, suggests Cecil King, a
well-known New York upholsterer.
This will not only fill out your comfor-
ter but will also ensure that the feath-
ers do not seep through the fabric layers.

Once you have attached this new
layer, you'll want to protect your quilt
with a duvet cover. Choose one that
can be easily removed and thrown
into the washing machine.

If you make your own, the duvet
cover should be one inch smaller on
all sides than the quilt itself so that
you get a puffy, full look, according to
craft consultant Gloria Gralla. For a
dramatic look, opt for brightly colored
material or edge the cover with piping
in a contrasting color.

My husband and I want to buy

new lamps that will provide

suitable light for reading. Can
you give us any suggestions?

When purchasing a lamp, most
people are preoccupied with
style and color. The result: a
new lamp that looks great, but still
leaves them in the dark. The next
time you're looking for a new lamp, be
sure to consider the following points.
Your choice of lamp will depend on
where you intend to do your reading.
Most people don’t realize that the
height of the lamp is an important
consideration. To make sure your
lamp is the proper height, measure
the distance from the floor to the seat
of your reading chair. Then determine
the distance from the seat of the chair
to the level of your eyes when you’re
seated. Add these two figures to-
gether. The bottom edge of the
lampshade should be at this height.
If you choose a floor or wall-mount-
ed lamp for reading, use the formula
above to determine the height of the
base for the first case, or where on the
wall to put your lamp in the second
case. Place the lamp slightly behind
you, either to the left or right of your
shoulder, depending on whether you
are left- or right-handed. If you are
right-handed, place the lamp on your
left side so that your hand or arm
doesn’t cast a shadow on your book.
When buying a table lamp, apply
the above formula and then subtract

the height of the table that the lamp
will stand on. The resulting number
will tell you the proper height.

Lamps should give light that is
both neutral and cool. The light fall-
ing on your book should be free from
glare and shadows. Tip: Light reading
material three times brighter than
softly lit adjacent areas.

My husband and I have agreed
to let our daughter redecorate
her room. She wants to paint
the walls, but this means removing the

wallpaper. Before we start, could you
give us some pointers?

Before beginning your project,

cover your floor or carpet with

drop cloths and make sure the
room is well ventilated. Some general
rules and information to follow:

If you have strippable wallpaper—
made for easy removal—take one cor-
ner and start to strip one vertical
panel at a time. The paper should
come off easily.

If not, purchase commercial wall-
paper remover. Mix the remover with
water and brush it on the wallpaper.
Allow the remover to soak through
the paper so that it can dissolve the
paste. As with the other type, start in
one corner and begin to peel it off. A
putty knife will make the job easier.
Have some large garbage bags handy
so that you can dispose of the paper
immediately, since it will stick to any-
thing it lands on.

For wallpaper that is extremely
stubborn to remove, rent a steamer
from your local wallpaper dealer or
hardware store. This system uses
heat to soften the wallpaper paste. Be
sure to hold the nozzle in place for
about fifteen to twenty seconds to al-
low the steam to penetrate the paper.
Start the process at the bottom of the
wall so that the steam can rise and
work on the area above you. Again,
concentrate on one panel at a time.

The only time removal can get
really tricky is if your wallpaper has
been applied to drywall without an
underlying coat of primer or paint. In
this case, most experts advise paint-
ing over the wallpaper rather than
removing it in order to prevent
gouges in the drywall. When paint-
ing over wallpaper, you must prime
the walls with an oil-based paint,
since a water-thinned paint will pene-
trate the paper and dissolve the paste,
causing the paper to buckle. After a
good priming, apply your paint. A
word of caution: Defects in the wall-
paper (like seams or tears) will show
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running in public). For first-timers,
look for a manual rather than a com-
puterized machine, suggests Bruce
Baltz, a fitness expert who has worked
with celebrities such as Marlo Thomas.
You can still adjust the tension of
these machines (to make running or
walking harder or easier), and you'll
spend a lot less. (Manual treadmills
start at $200. A sophisticated elec-
tronic model can cost $2,000.)

No matter what kind of machine
you decide to buy, test it out before
making your purchase. It should run
smoothly without vibrating.

ROW-HO-HO

A super gift for anyone who takes all-
over fitness seriously, the rowing ma-
chine is designed to work all the ma-
jor muscle groups of the body—arms,
shoulders, back and chest as well as
legs. As the exerciser develops
strength, these machines can be ad-
justed to increase resistance so that
rowing becomes progressively more
strenuous. Prices start at about $100

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chines have only one) moves smoothly
at the various levels of resistance.
Also keep in mind that if the person
for whom you are buying the machine
is taller than six two, a standard-size
rower may be too small. (Larger units
are available.)

If you're looking for the last word in
rowers, top-of-the-line machines have
a built-in microprocessor that gives a
readout on time, strokes per minute,
total number of strokes, calories
burned per minute and total number
of calories burned. These elaborate
models, however, sport elaborate price
tags as well. Expect to pay up to $400.

BOUNCING BONANZA

Minitrampolines have never been
more popular. In fact, their use is
often recommended by fitness experts
to reduce the stress on knees, ankles
and feet when doing aerobic exercise,
“‘unning in place or jumping rope.
\ minitrampoline must be large
ugh to give the exerciser room to
1neuver (forty inches in diameter or
Trampolines this size cost
ut $40. Be sure to check the

springs before you buy—best-qualit
minitramps have double “V” spring
attached to the fabric “lift off’ surface
Finally, if storage is a concern, loo
for model with detachable legs.

JUMP TO IT

With a price tag of just $10, a qualit
Jump rope may be the best buy aroun
for aerobic fitness. Look for a rop
that’s not too light—a weightier rop
is easier to control when it’s in the ai
Length is an important consideratio1
as well. (The rope’s momentum will b
stopped if it hits the ground too fa
out from the jumper’s feet.) Sinc
most people hold a jump rope at hi
height, the ropes handles should
reach the jumper’s hips when the rop
is doubled. Finally, ball bearings if
the handles will allow the rope to ga
faster and require less energy t
swing the rope overhead (an impo

tant consideration by the time you’vé
reached the twentieth jump).

HEAVY HOLIDAY GIFTS

Not just for the Charles Atlas crowc
anymore, weights are for anyone wh¢
wants a leaner, shaped-up body.
Ankle weights are the perfect—anc
perfectly inexpensive—gift for the
runner in your family who wants t
add an extra challenge to his work:
out. Prices range from $10 to $25
Look for those with Velcro-coverec
straps (as opposed to straps wit
buckles). “It’s a matter of conve.
nience,” says Seitel. “Velcro is easie}
to fasten, and you get a perfect fit.”
For the bodybuilder who really
means business, dumbbells could be
just the thing. If the weight lifter in
your life is a beginner, buy a small
starter set. The best ones have a solid
steel bar and come with add-on meta!
plates of iron or chrome. (Chrome
looks great, but you'll pay dearly fon
that high-polish shine. While a basic
iron set will cost $50 or less, the same
set in chrome could cost up to four
times as much.) Stay away from
dumbbells made of breakable plastic.
And why not throw a pair of
weight-lifting gloves under the tree?
The padded gloves will protect your
bodybuilder’s palms and cost just $10.

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A ballet barre is not just a marvelous
gift choice for a budding dancer, it’
perfect for anyone who wants te
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dance movement. The latest word: free
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: With Thankeeiviae aioe here aa
_ Christmas just around the corner, the
‘last thing you have time for is shop-
ping for yourself. But if you’re faced
with a nonstop whirl of family get-
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that your everyday wardrobe needs
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or winter-white outfit. To add holiday
cheer, dress it up with this year's
vibrant color accents.) And _ since
some fabrics—velveteen, silk, satin,
taffeta, angora, lace, crepe de Chine
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Once you've got your basics, investing
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| sweaters. (The ease of sweaterdress-
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| everyday style tends to be casual.)
| Soft mohairs and angoras in jewel-
_ bright colors or icy pastels will warm
| up any outfit. And details such as lace
' inserts at the neck and shoulders, as
| well as “pearl” and sequin trim, add
| an especially festive effect. Look for
| easy oversize shapes—longer rather
| than cropped-at-the-waist styles—
| with generous dolman or raglan
' sleeves. Pair a sequin-strewn sweater
| with a slim knit skirt and you're in-
| stantly “dressed”—no jewelry needed!

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_ Accessories are the easiest and cheap-

est way to add sparkle to your ward-
robe. (Keep in mind, however, that

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rather than prints.) Our suggestions:
Inexpensive, glitter-shot
scarves will make your outfit shine.

' Look for bright, jewel colors such as

sapphire, ruby, amethyst or emerald,
or go with softer “cosmetic” tones
such as peach, pink, rose or lavender.

| Then try the following suggestions:

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; and make a cummerbund for a great
| tuxedo look.

of color.

+ knotting the ends at the opposite hip.
+ This adds instant dash to a simple
| sweater and trouser outfit.

| |ew¢iry. When creating holiday looks

witl§ jewelry, less is not more. Put
aside your more delicate pieces and
opt for bigger, bolder earrings, neck-
laces, cuffs. Newest jewelry trends
this season include:

| for heavy, gold-toned Maltese crosses

studded with faux jewels, as well as

_ motifs such as hearts, stars, anchors,

X’s and O's, in silver tones and stud-
ded with rhinestones. Then, rather
than wearing a solitary pin, scatter
several across a sweater or sweater-
dress at the neckline and shoulders.

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necklaces. Unbutton the top two or
three buttons of a silky shirtwaist and

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out at your ankles.)

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plastic buttons with brass or “Jey
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make your grand entrance! Try on
new clothing and accessory comb:
tions before you get ready for the
event. That way, you'll avoid any
pleasant pre-party surprises and
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When shopping for a freestanding
barre, sturdiness and stability are
primary considerations. If several
people will be using the barre you
buy, look for height adjustment fea-
tures or consider a unit with a double
barre. (One is a convenient height for
children, while the other is standard
adult height.) Prices start at $140.

GO FOR THE STRETCH

An exercise mat may be just the thing
for the person on the go who has only
enough time for some stretching and
a round of sit-ups each day. Though
you can find these for as little as $10,

expect to pay $30 for one that’s thick
enough (mats should be at least one
inch thick, especially if they'll be
placed on a bare floor) and sturdy
enough to withstand abuse.

LOOKING GOOD

Active people can never have too many
leotards or shorts. For leotards, look for
a cotton-synthetic blend (70 percent
cotton and 30 percent synthetic), says
Bruce Baltz. The cotton will absorb
sweat, while the synthetic will help the
leotard to hold its shape. Prices, $7 to
$25. Shorts, priced from $10 to $30,
should be made of soft material (cotton
or nylon) so they don’t rub. If you
choose nylon ones, however, make sure
they have a cotton lining.

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n, Charlie,” Pell yelled, but Charles
ook his head.
) Better not. They weren’t far from the
}wn of Manassas, where the Chesa-
ake and Ohio and Southern railways
>t at the depot. He didn’t know how
ise they were to the Yankee line, and
u couldn’t be too careful.
| At twenty-five, Charles Main, tall,
zgedly handsome and deeply browned,
| d to remind himself that a real war
S going on.
On and on they rode, with the Blue
dge on their left, drawing closer to
anassas Junction. By mid-afternoon
nbrose was hot and tired from
uinting into the glare. “What do you
y we stop at that farm up by the
nd? My canteen’s empty.” They rode
> last quarter mile to the neat white
use with a big green wood behind.
‘Look sharp, Ambrose. There’s an-
ier visitor ahead of us. It may be
nks.” Charles slowed Sport to a
lk. He bobbed his head at the horse
d buggy tied to a shady elm.
He tethered Sport, carried his shot-
n up.to the porch and pounded on the
or. “Stay to one side,” he whispered
| the lieutenant.
| ‘What do you mean, makin’ such a
ket?” said the old farmer who an-
ered the door.
‘Captain Main, Wade Hampton's
gion,” Charles responded, spotting the
mer'’s wife and a young woman inside.
What he saw of the young woman
s decidedly suspicious. Her outer
irt was hoisted to reveal a second
e, with bulging pockets. The farmer’s
fe was holding an armful of oilskin
ckets tied with string. All at once,
,arles almost laughed. He had never
*t a smuggler, let alone an attractive
e. She was about his age, with blue
2s and blond curls, a young woman
io managed to look both robust and
lstty as hell. For a few seconds he felt
lighthearted as a boy. Then he re-
»mbered his duty.
‘Captain Charles Main, ma’am. Of—”
“Wade Hampton's Legion. You have a
id voice, Captain. I’m Mrs. Augusta
welay of Spotsylvania County. But I
ven’t time to waste with you. I fear
ere are Yankee men not far behind
:.” The blue eyes shot Charles a look
scornful it left him almost unable to
eak. “There’s quinine in these pack-
}3, Captain. It will be needed desper-
bly once the real fighting starts. I’m
t the only woman doing this work.”
“And I don’t want to see it undone,”
iarles said. “Hide those packets in
2 attic. My lieutenant will move your
ggy into the woods, Mrs. Barclay. Go
t inside the woodshed in back, and

don’t utter a syllable. If that’s possible.”
Surprisingly, she seemed to like the
sally and smiled as she hurried out.

Charles called to Ambrose to man
the carriage. Moments later he strolled
to the porch. Riders were approaching
at a gallop, half a dozen men all wear-
ing dark blue. They reacted to the sight
of him by drawing sidearms. The lieu-
tenant in charge of the detail held up
his hand. The moment in which Charles
could have been shot passed so quickly,
it was over before he realized it.

He leaned against one of the pillars
as the lieutenant, red as an apple from
the heat, walked his horse to the porch.
Charles knew he had seen the young
Union officer somewhere before.

“Second Lieutenant Prevo, George-
town mounted Dragoons, District of
Washington. I can’t escape the feeling
that we’ve met before—”

Charles suddenly made the connec-
tion. “West Point?”

“By God, that’s it. You were—”

female
smuggler?”
Charles laughed.

“I give you my
word theres no
such person
inside this house.”

“Class of 57. Charles Main, now
Captain, Wade Hampton’s Legion.”

“I reported just before you gradu-
ated.” Prevo paused. “I loved that place.
Well, if you'll pardon us, we'll get on
with our job. We’re pursuing a female
smuggler.” He gave his men the signal
to dismount.

Charles knew that if they dis-
mounted and spread out, Mrs. Barclay
was a goner.

“Female smuggler?” Charles hoped
his stifled laugh sounded convincing.
“Save yourself, Lieutenant. I’ve been
here an hour, and I give you my word,
there’s no such person inside this house.
My word as an officer and Academy
man,” he added offhandedly.

Seconds passed. Then Prevo took a
breath. “I thank you for your gen-
tlemanly cooperation. We have more
ground to cover this hot afternoon.”

The detachment wheeled back to the
road and moved on, as Charles, mo-
mentarily dazed with relief, slumped

against the post. He waited ten min-
utes before calling Augusta Barclay
from her hiding place. “I gave my word
there was no female smuggler in this
house,” he said. “It just missed being
an outright lie.”

“How clever of you.”

He turned and quickly bent over the
trough to splash his face.

There came a touch on his shoulder.
“Captain? I spoke out of turn. You acted
bravely, for which I owe you thanks.”

“No you don’t, Mrs. Barclay. It’s my
war, too.” ‘

Responding with a small nod, she let
her blue eyes hold his for a moment.
“Tell me, Captain Main. Are you al-
ways so loyal to the cause?”

He felt a deep and unfamiliar re-
sponse, unsettling. He told her that he
was a West Point man, and that his
loyalty to the South had never
quenched his doubts about slavery.

“Well, I have never believed in it ei-
ther,’ she answered. “When my hus-
band died, last December, I wrote man-
umission papers for his slaves, Boz and
Washington. They stayed with me,
thank heavens. Otherwise I would have
been forced to sell the farm.”

Just then, Ambrose whistled from
the woods. When Charles gave him the
all clear, the lieutenant brought the
buggy round.

Augusta had broken their gaze. “A
man from Richmond will be here for
the quinine in the morning,” she said.

The farmer and his wife brought her
valise to the porch. Charles welcomed
the chance to take Augusta’s hand and
help her into the buggy.

“If your duties ever bring you along
the Rappahannock to Fredericksburg,
please call on me, Captain.”

“It’s a little late, but please call me
Charles.”

“Then you can call me Augusta.”

Charles grinned. “That’s pretty for-
mal. What about Gus?” It was one of
those things said because it seemed
clever and friendly.

“As a matter of fact, I detest that
name. My brother called me that.”

“Oh, well.” Charles was still glib. “To
err is human, to forgive divine,’ as
Shakespeare said.”

“That's Alexander Pope,” said Au-
gusta. “Good day, Captain.”

“Wait now,” he called, but the chance
to retrieve his show of stupidity disap-
peared as fast as the buggy. Augusta
had whipped up the horse and jolted
out of the dooryard. On the porch, the
farmer nudged his wife. Ambrose ap-
proached with an air of mock gloom.

“Charlie, you put your foot in your
mouth that time.”

“Oh, shut up, Ambrose.” Charles
mounted Sport in a fury, touched his
shako to the (continued on page 190)

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and day-care professionals entrusted with their
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he tragic list could go on and on. In Manhattan Beach,

California, police arrested seven teachers and administra-
tors of a respected preschool on charges of fondling, raping and
sodomizing one hundred and twenty five of the children en-
rolled at the school over a ten-year period.

The founder of the Children’s Theater Company in Min-
neapolis, Minnesota, made national headlines when he was
forced to resign after molesting three teenage boys.

In Greer, South Carolina, a supervisor of a day-care center
pleaded guilty to charges of sexually abusing seven children.
These children ranged in age from two to eleven years old.

In New York City, the commissioner of the Human Resources
Administration was forced to quit after a massive scandal,
involving more than thirty cases of child molestation in day-
care centers, sparked a huge investigation.

No parent wants to worry about the adults entrusted with
children at schools, day-care centers, summer camps and youth
groups such as Big Brothers or Girl Scouts. But newspaper
accounts and courtroom affidavits reveal that such places have
become havens for sex offenders. Whether because of admin-
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cover-ups, thousands of child molesters have slipped into child-
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Part of the problem is the inability
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is often premeditated and perverse,
says Lanning. He recalls the case of a
junior high school guidance counselor
in Maine. The counselor had called stu-
dents into his office for a “maturity
test.” The test consisted of the coun-
selor’s placing a microscope slide on his
desk and ordering the students to put
their tongues on it. As the students
bent over, the counselor fondled their
genitals. “The kids who screamed or
jumped back would be allowed to go
and would not be invited back,” says
Lanning. “Those kids who offered no
resistance would be brought back, and
the acts would progress.”

Deception is the final stage of the
molesters warped drama. Part of the
deception involves silencing the vic-
tims. In the Manhattan Beach case pre-
school instructors reportedly smashed
turtles and hacked up rabbits as a
scare tactic to keep their victims quiet.
Many simply use their authority to

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molester told me that the secret ta
care of itself if you select your victi
properly,” says Lanning. “A teac
will threaten, ‘No one is going to h
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has confirmed the effectiveness of su
a strategy. Often the student wl
comes forward is made to feel like t
offender instead of the victim.

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linsville, Illinois. Richard Van Hoc
was a popular elementary school teac.
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1981, of molesting young girls, tl
school district officials ignored tk
charges. They instead discredited or
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often as three times a week over a fiv
month period. Soon, other charges we!
brought. A social worker who inte
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more than half had had some kind |
sexual encounter with Van Hook du
ing the previous six years. In exchang
for sexual favors, the students had bee
offered better grades.

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Van Hook was (continued on page 19%

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Despite its brevity, this routine
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can be used as a warm-up for a
more vigorous exercise program
or it can be performed when
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1. STRENGTHENS
NECK, SHOULDERS
Stand with feet apart,
arms relaxed by your
sides. Draw in the stom-
ach and pull in the but-
tocks. This will tilt the
pelvis forward and re-
lieve pressure on the
lower back. (Do this pos-
ture check before each
exercise.) Breathe in and
raise the arms forward
and upward. At shoul-
der height, interlace the
thumbs and pull out-
ward; feel the stretch in
your upper arms. Retain
pressure on the thumbs
until arms are stretched
high and close to head.
Hold your breath in this
position for five seconds,
pulling in stomach and
lifting chest. Breathe out
and drop arms slowly out
to the sides. Do five times
when learning exercise.

2. STRETCHES
MUSCLES IN
STOMACH AND BACK
With feet apart, arms
at sides, breathe in
and raise arms, bend-
ing the body backward
so that eyes look up to-
ward the ceiling. Main-
tain the position for three
seconds, then breathe out,
returning to original
position. Do five times.

3. STRETCHES SPINE
With feet together, arms
at sides, breathe in.
Slowly bend forward,
flexing knees slightly;
reach for the floor,
head down. Breathe
out; hold position
for three seconds.
Breathe in; return to
upright position. Re-
peat five times. (Once
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fected, combine exer-
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hese nine exercises done in sequence provide a complete workout.

4. STRETCHES AND
TONES WAISTLINE
Breathe in and slowly
raise right arm sideways
and upward, close to ear.
Breathe out and reach
down outside the left leg
with the left hand. Hold
this position for five sec-
onds with lungs empty.
Return to original stand-
ing position. Alternate
five times on each side.

5. STRETCHES LOWER
BACK AND NECK

Stand with feet apart,
hands held at chest level,
palms down and elbows
out. Reach forward then
out with the right arm,
pivoting around to the
rear as far as possible with
the eyes firmly fixed on the
right hand. Remain in
this turned position for
five seconds. Then return
to starting position. Re-
peat five times to each side.

6. TRIMS WAISTLINE
AND STIMULATES
CIRCULATION IN THE
ABDOMINAL AREA
Stand with the feet apart,
hands behind head. Bend
the body sideways to the
left, and without strain-
ing, turn the head to look
at the left knee. Gently pull
the head as close to the
knee as possible, and fi-
nally, bend forward and
hang. Then circle to the
right side, and return to
the upright position.
Breathe in at the start of
the exercise and out on
completion. Repeat the cir-
cle five times on each side.

7. STRETCHES HIP
JOINTS AND THIGHS,
IMPROVES BALANCE
Stand with the feet to-
gether, arms relaxed at
sides. Slowly, without
bending forward, lift the
left leg and grasp it with
both hands just below the
knee. Pull the knee as close
to the chest as possible
without straining; hold

for five seconds. Point the
toe down and return it to
the floor. Breathe nor-
mally. Repeat five times
with each leg.

8. STRENGTHENS

THE ABDOMINAL
MUSCLES

Lie on your back, knees
bent, arms at your sides.
Breathe in as you raise
your head, looking toward
feet, and slowly come up
into a_ sitting position.
Breathe out, straighten
legs and reach forward to
grasp the legs as far below
the knees as possible. Gently

pull toward knees,
without straining,
for five seconds.
Breathe in as you
return to the sit-
ting position, bend
knees, then breathe
out as you lower
your torso slowly _—
back to the floor.

9. EXERCISES
SPINE AND
SHOULDERS
Lie on stomach with
hands clasped behind
back. Breathing in, slowly
raise the head, chest and

shoulders, stretching arms
downward. Lift eyes to
ceiling and squeeze the
shoulder blades together.
Hold your breath, then
breathe out as you lower
head forward to the floor.
Repeat five times.

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What is this typical
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By Sondra Forsyth Enos

129

oday’s adults were weaned on such wholesome fare as
“Leave It to Beaver,” the Disney classics and “I Want
to Hold Your Hand.” Yet in the eighties, adults and
children alike are subject to significantly stronger
stuff. Have our values changed? Or would most
Americans welcome the dumping of current cultural trash?

The setting is a commonplace
but cozy family room in a two-
story suburban home on a
frosty winter evening. A fire is,
if not blazing, at least doing
reasonably well in the hearth,
stoked now and then by Dad, a
fairly fit forty-year-old whose
recliner is within reach of the
flames. Mom, in a pink sweat
suit, is curled up on the sofa,
half watching the TV as she
browses through a mail-order
catalog. The elder child, a
brown-haired boy of eleven, is
sprawled on the dhurrie rug
reading a magazine about com-
puters and glancing now and
then at the flickering images
on the TV screen while he pol-
ishes off a pudding pop. The
younger child, a blond and pig-
tailed charmer just turned
nine, is snuggled up in the
armchair, pretending to bottle-
feed her Cabbage Patch Kid.
ZAP! The TV show, a seg-
ment of a science fiction mini-
series, is suddenly about abor-
tion, but the issue is not pre-
sented in an even remotely
sensitive fashion that might
inspire healthy dialogue be-
tween parents and children.
No. A teenager far enough
along in a pregnancy to be
“showing” (the alleged father
of her child is a disguised al-
ien) says she wants her unborn
baby destroyed. The adult phy-

sicians agree to oblige her, al-
though the mother-to-be is ob-
viously at least in her second
trimester. Then the screen
shows an operating theater in
a hospital. The teenager is
lying on the operating table
and the abortion is in progress.
At this point the real-life
mother in the two-story house
puts down her catalog and ex-
changes a furtive, worried
glance with her equally con-
cerned husband. They had
hoped for an entertaining, es-
capist program to enjoy with
the children—not this crudely
handled treatment of a contro-
versial subject.

This incident—and it is one
that would not have occurred
when the parents in question
were growing up during the
quiescent fifties—is but one
example of the tastelessness
that seems to have become a
pervasive social phenomenon.
Add to it such signs of the
times as:
® Sexually violent rock videos
that make MTV and its imita-
tors among today’s most pop-
ular programming, with an au-
dience of 21,500,000 daily,
compared with 14,000,000
daily viewers of The CBS Eve-
ning News with Dan Rather.
@ A pornographic videocassette
industry that brought in
$150,000,000 in 1983 alone.

@ “Drive time” radio talk show
hosts whose stock-in-trade is
ethnic insults plus blatantly
salacious comments, yet who
command a respectable share
of the ratings and earn in the
neighborhood of $75,000 to
$500,000 per year.
@ Movies such as Indiana
Jones and the Temple of Doom,
which earned box office mega-
bucks (more than $165,000,000
in one summer) despite nearly
nonstop violence.
@ Close to 20,000 “adult” book-
stores and video stores thriv-
ing in middle-class commu-
nities around the country, a
figure that is almost triple the
number of McDonald’ ham-
burger restaurants.
@ Best-selling joke books filled
with the sort of humor once not
thought suitable in mixed com-
pany, let alone in the presence of
children, and that are now rou-
tinely stocked by airport news-
stands, bookstores on Main
Street and in suburban malls.
These facts could easily be
seen as an indication that the
glorious goal of social and sex-
ual freedom so_ earnestly
sought in the sixties has be-
come nothing more than li-
cense to do as we please. The
American people appear to be
unshockable now, desensitized
even to genuine brutality—not
to (continued on page 184)

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where you can see each item
and judge its condition. Select
your favorites and hang them up.
Try on everything else—mixing
and matching to stretch the ward-
robe possibilities. Weed out the
hopeless—elothes you haven't
worn in three or four years have
probably been hanging there for

a good reason.

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List the pieces you need to
2 complete your wardrobe. Do
your shopping first by flip-
ping through the fashion pages of
magazines to see what's in style
each season. You'll get an idea of
exactly what you need to update.
Comparison-shop at fine re-
tail stores before heading
for an off-price outlet so you
know a good buy when you see it.
Learn to recognize “real”
from copies, even without
a label. Pay attention to
such quality details as full,
sewn-in linings, handstiteched
buttonholes that really button as
well as singie-needle tailoring
along seams, and bone buttons.

Don’t experiment with
5 new looks when discount
shopping unless you know
you can return an item. Take a
clue from your current ward-
robe: If you have never bought
ruffly blouses, then you probably
aren’t the rufily type.
Figure out which manu-
* facturers and designers
generally work well for
you. By doing your homework
ahead of time, you'll be able to
speed through the racks and
zero in on the right garments.
Cheek the care labels. Items
that are “dry clean only”
may cost more in the long
run despite bargain price tags.

STYLE SENSE
ere, advice from the Jour-
nal’s fashion experts on
what will make a fashion-
conscious buy this season.

@ Go-with-anything neutral ba-
sies in grays, beiges, navy, can
stretch your wardrobe—long,
pleated skirts, blazers, a silk
blouse, flannel trousers.

@ Black is always slimming, al-
ways classic. Look for pared-down
shapes—longer knit skirts, boxy
jackets, simple sweaterdresses.
@ Quality-made fashions are
usually more generously cut. If
you want to give a less expensive
item the illusion of a higher price
tag, don’t opt for a snug fit.

@ Light-to-medium-weight wool
or corduroy jackets are better
bets for office wear than heavy,
tweedy blazers. You can always
layer vests, sweaters underneath.
@ Oversize is more modern. If
you're deciding between two
sizes, go for the larger one.

@ Pair longer-length jackets
with the new longer skirts as well
as with trousers for versatility.
@ The important looks for the
season include: soft separates to
wear together for an instant suit or
alone to extend your wardrobe . . .
slouchy sweaters, with raglan
rather than set-in sleeves; boat- or
V-necks, to top off menswear
gabardine trousers; longer, nar-
rower skirts in gathered or
pleated styles . . . mix-and-mateh
knit cardigan, skirt duos.

Allclothing from Labels for Less, NYC. Model
Emlen of Click. Hair and makeup, Pascal
Lewis. Accessories information, page 192

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AT A DEPARTMENT
STORE

on’t discount department
Dp store shopping. Bargain
hunters know that keeping
an eye out for sales can mean big
savings on top-quality merehan-
dise. Just heed the following
smart-shopping tips:
@ Shop clearance sales at the
end of a season, but be sure you
will be able to wear the item into
the next season or the following
year. Don’t choose the latest,
trendiest styles without consider-
ing whether they flatter
how they fit in with your lifest
@ Watch newspapers for sp
purchase and irregui
Take advantage of specia
sales, too, such as Prosi Day
in February, Memori:
Fourth of July, to name
@ Get to know a sale
She may tell you about upe
sales, direct you to bargain :
chandise or even hold somethin;
special for you.
@ Open a charge account. You'll
be sent notices about sales.
@ Look for private labels, a line
of clothing made especially for a
large retail store. Usually, these
will be quality copies of current
designer fashions for much less
money. Private labels—in every-
thing from shoes to sportswear—
are the fashion retaller’s latest
weapon in the battle with off-
pricers for the consumer dollar.

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WHAT CAN YOU EXPECT TO SAVE?

oie We did some comparison shopping in Phoenix, Ari-
3 zona. The chart below shows what the same five
items cost at a high-end retail store, a mid-range
retail store and four off-price stores.

ACRYLIC/COTTON
SWEATER VEST

DESIGNER JEANS

WHITE LONG-SLEEVED
COTTON BLOUSE

Soft textured sweater (left)
with its slouchy, easy fit,

is a great wardrobe updater
to slide over a slim skirt

or trousers. Department-
store price: $49.99.
Off-price: $39.75.

1. Carry a list of your
wardrobe needs when you
shop and refer to it reg-
ularly. You may think
you'll remember that the
gray pants have a nubby
texture, but when faced
with rack upon rack of
tops to choose from. .

| Some pros suggest you
' tote a small notebook, com-
| plete with fabric snips
(taken from inside seams)
to help in selection.

2. Know the price ranges
and price policies of the
store before you go. Some
of the newer off-pricers
carry such high-fashion,
high-priced goods that
even if they are heavily
discounted, you may wind
up spending much more
than you intended.

3. Ask about store services.
Which charge cards do
they accept? Will they take
a personal check? Can you
return merchandise, and if
so, will you get a cash re-
fund or only a store credit?
And what about returns—
do you have a limited time
within which to bring back
items purchased?
(continued on page 182)

TIMELY ADVICE
@ Shop early in the day—during
the week if possible. You are most
likely to avoid crowds and you'll
find the merchandise is fresher.
@ For the best selection, check out
when shipments are due at a par-
ticular store; then wait half a day for
the goods to be unloaded and racked
before heading for the store.

@ Off-pricers “age” their mer-
chandise, discounting the items
more and more until a garment
practically walks out the door.

= @ Shop the stores frequently.

q a merely a matter of being in the

may) right place at the right time.

WORDS TO THE WISE
shopper’s glossary of six important terms you'll see used to
A describe merchandise in ads and signs over the racks in
department as well as the off-price stores.
CANCELLATION: An item that a retail store ordered, then canceled,
probably due to late delivery. The quality of these goods is generally good.
CLOSEOUT: Goods a manufacturer or retailer wants to clear from their
stock because the selling season has ended or the fashion has changed.
DISCONTINUED: Item whose style, finish, color is no longer being made.
IRREGULARS: Slightly flawed goods whose appearance, utility are

SECONDS: Goods that are misshapen or have been mismarked.
SPECIAL PURCHASE: Merchandise ordered for a specific purpose (a
sale or closeout). May not be of same quality as regular merchandise.

Coordinated cardigan and slim skirt offer
instant suit-ability, versatility. You can
pair the cardigan with classic black
trousers, the knit skirt with a hip-belted
pullover. Department-store prices:
cardigan, $87.99; skirt, $59.99.

Off-price: cardigan, $69.75; skirt, $48.75.

usually unaffected (slightly crooked hem stitching, broken buttons, ete.).

new ku
traditional styling
brightened
with imaginative
touches of

all-out dazzling color

an Early American fur-
nishings find happiness
in a contemporary set-
ting? Absolutely! In
fact, it’s a decorating
romance that turns
into a highly successful marriage of
past and present. This houseful of
beautiful rooms proves that the
classic, clean styling of Americana
at its best blends perfectly with jolts
of clear, bright color. The living
room, shown here, is a glowing ex-
ample of how well this stylish union
works. We started with dove-gray
walls to establish an inviting yet
delightfully different backdrop for
the furniture. Clear red and gentle
blue upholstery gives a fillip of
modern verve to the timeless sym-
metry of a camelback sofa, a wing
and a side chair and ottoman; the
floating arrangement of the pieces
creates a cozy conversation area.
The primary palette provides the
perfect complement to the warm
wood finishes of a honey-toned set-
tle (inset, bottom) and 2 maple side
chair. A drop-front secretary in
deep teal (inset, top), filled with
green and blue antique Wedgwood
plates, adds another layer to the
room's color scheme, as do the pure
golden hues of a folding screen dec-
orated with Amish landscapes. A
still life of antique accessories—an
old checkerboard, a weather vane
—and dried grasses arranged on
the mantel creates a delicate, elegant
finishing touch. It’s something old,
something blue, something borrowed
and something wonderfully new!

By Marilyn Diane Glass

Decorating and Design Editor
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Peter Bosch

he dining room &

shows its colors

with daring black \ja@t

walls, pure white (t\sdear=

ceiling and trim, @eyx\\

cool terracotta tiles
warmed by old-fashioned rag ~
rugs. The honey finish of the ban-
quet table, the deep teal tones of
the hoop-back Windsor chairs and
the barn-red coloring of the hunt
board echo and enhance this
strong statement. Traditional coun- :
try touches—redware plates on the mantel, bandboxes beneath the
hunt board and a classic red-and-white bird quilt—softly counter-
point the innovative color combination. The old and new mix con-
tinues with the accessories, which lend texture and interest to the
room. A modern geometric painting (right) is grouped with an
antique basket and a green antique cutlery trencher filled with
winter vegetables. Glorious meadow flowers cascade from a deep-
green basket in the place of honor on the table, the colors picking up
the yellows, golds and greens of the varied tabletop pieces (inset).
140

n exciting blend of
charged-up eighties
color and gracious
Americana styling,
the bedroom is as
fresh and natu-
lly lovely as the wildflowers that
pek from a country pitcher, over-
ow from antique baskets. So-
histicated color accents—deep
‘elon walls, eggplant carpeting,
lashes of red on the window
sat, seafoam green on the bed,
{us a hint of black—complement the various old-style furnishings
nd antique accessories, from the handpainted marriage chest
ibove) to the primitive folk art paintings and framed antique
ampler. Mating designer linens with old quilts, layering country rag
igs on top of wall-to-wall carpeting once again unite the charms of
esterday and today in a look that is uniquely vibrant and alive.

4 wood furniture and screen by Habersham Plantation. Art from Zells and Rattanworks. Antique
‘cessories and quilts from Pat Walton’s Antiques; Bettye Wagner, Antique Store of Marietta;
vanny Taught Us How. Pages 138-139: Blue camelback sofa from Pearson. This page: linens
om Burlington Mills. For shopping details, see page 192.

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How are women faring in the working world? This special report explore

ts no longer news that
women are succeeding. We
know that today half of all
women work and that they
make up a whopping 44
percent of the work force. But
how are they really doing? Be-
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Americ: he laboratories of
modern si » and the judges’
chambers, they really on an
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different fields—business, law,
government, entertainment, the
fine arts, sports, communica-
tions, education, social services
and science—and chart the
changes that have taken place
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found many women in middle-
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very top. In fact, the best news
may be that women’s individual
achievements no longer make
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heir progress—-and profiles thirty exciting achievers on their way up.

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1 the world of business, there’s
ood news and bad for women.
ith women in 30.5 percent of
1e nation’s administrative and
anagerial positions (up from
3.5 percent in 1970), they’re on
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’ go before they reach the top.
oday there still isn’t one female

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As women continue to move
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little doubt that they will take
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where experts predict the first
major female CEOs will appear.
Women are making huge gains
in these fields, and the 1.5 million
new financial-service jobs pre-
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vide plenty of room for women in
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Of course, heading a major firm
is far from being the only route to
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those with that typically Amer-
ican entrepreneurial itch. Women
today own nearly one fourth of
the countrys 13 million small
businesses, and they can boast
about $40 billion a year in reve-
nues. What's more, the growth
rate for companies owned by»
women during the last decade was
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eauty and
ashion Editor

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ater-based foundation
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ush over foundation,
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id lipstick with the
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@ Eye-makeup
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for the
future

By President Ronald Reagan

hen the editors of Ladies’ Hom
Journal asked me to tell yo
about my hopes for our future,
was delighted, because no topi
has been more on my mind o
closer to my heart.

Ive always been an optimist about Amer
ica’s future, and my years in this office hav
only confirmed my belief in all that we cai.
accomplish together. As we look to the promis®
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1 Walter F. Mondale

y vision for America’s future is
rooted in my upbringing. I grew
up in the small towns of south-
ern Minnesota. My dad was a
minister. My mom was a music
teacher. It was the Depression,
d we never had an extra dime. But our fam-
was rich in things money doesn’t mea-
‘e—music, faith, love—and I learned a lot
m them. They taught me to love our land,
‘country and to care for one another.
Jne thread runs through those lessons: the
a of community. I learned, in the words of
in Muir, that each of us is “hitched to the
verse.” Everything I’ve done since then—
m being Vice-President to being a father—has
engthened that belief. As President, I want to
Id a future that recognizes we are “hitched”—
chis earth, to our neighbors around the globe
ito one another as Americans.
Ne have everything we need to build that
ure. We have our values—the values that
\ped build our nation, the ones we in turn
48 on in our own families. We have the
ength of a robust democracy. We have the
iver of industrious women and men working
va free economy. We have the talent of an
cated nation. (continued on page 176)

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Presenting a tempting array of marvelous menu ideas that will steal
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Our fabulous selections include recipes for superstar main dishes, breads
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ur grand and glorious collection of
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sure to garner raves
from your guests.
Left, center stage,
Cranberry-Pear
Charlotte—a miracle
of tender pound
cake, alternating
layers of cranberry-
pear filling and
heavenly Bavarian
cream, with a crown
of fruit on top.
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continued from pages 154-155

CRANBERRY-PEAR CHARLOTTE

pictured on page 154

Time-consuming indeed, but a spectacu-
lar production that will bring raves.

2 cans (29 oz. each) pear halves in syrup
Cranberry Filling

3 cups fresh cranberries
1 cup water
1 cup sugar

Cake

Sugar
1 package (16 oz.) frozen pound cake
Y4 cup reserved pear syrup
2 tablespoons pear brandy

Bavarian

43 cup instant nonfat dry
milk powder

Y2 cup sugar

2 envelopes unflavored gelatin

2 cups reserved pear syrup

12 egg yolks

Pinch salt

1¥2 cups heavy or whipping cream

2 tablespoons confectioners sugar
teaspoon vanilla extract
Y4 cup pear brandy

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Cranberry Topping

Y2 cup water
Y2 cup sugar
12 cups fresh cranberries

Drain pears, reserving syrup.
Cranberry Filling: In medium sauce-
pan combine cranberries and water;
bring to a boil over high heat. Cook 2 to
3 minutes. Stir in sugar. Uncover, bring
to a boil and cook over medium-high
heat 8 minutes, stirring constantly. Set
aside to cool to room temperature. Re-
move %4 cup cranberry mixture to
spread on cake; reserve remaining.
Cake: Grease bottom and sides of a 9-
inch springform pan. Sprinkle with
sugar, rotating pan to coat evenly. Trim
crusts from pound cake. With serrated
knife, split cake evenly into 4 horizon-
tal slices. In small saucepan bring re-
served pear syrup to a boil. Add brandy
and stir; remove from heat. Brush one
side of each layer with brandy-syrup,
then spread each with about 3 table-
spoons filling. Stack. With serrated
knife, cut cake into ¥2-inch slices. Line
sides of pan. When sides are almost
completely covered, use a knife to push
cake pieces together to fit in as many
slices as possible. Place in freezer.
Bavarian: In large saucepan combine
dry milk powder, sugar and gelatin.
Stir in reserved pear syrup, egg yolks
and salt. Let stand 1 minute. Cook over
low heat, stirring, until gelatin is com-
pletely dissolved and mixture coats the
back of a spoon. Do not boil. Remove

156

from heat and continue stirring 3 to 4
minutes. Pour through a fine sieve or
strainer. Refrigerate, stirring occa-
sionally, until mixture mounds when
dropped from a spoon, about 1 hour.

Meanwhile, cut pears into very thin
slices; set aside on paper towels.

Whip cream with confectioners’

sugar and vanilla just until soft peaks
form. Add pear brandy to gelatin mix-
ture; stir until smooth. Fold in cream.
Spoon one-third of the Bavarian evenly
into pan. Place a layer of pear slices,
closely overlapping, over Bavarian.
Spoon on another third of Bavarian,
then spread on reserved cranberry mix-
ture. Top with remaining Bavarian. Re-
frigerate at least 4 to 5 hours or over-
night. Refrigerate remaining sliced
pears. (Can be made ahead. Cover and
refrigerate up to 24 hours.) -
Cranberry Topping: In saucepan com-
bine sugar and water; bring to a boil.
Stir. Add cranberries and reduce. heat
to low. Cook 8 minutes and remove
from heat. Let cool; strain. Discard liq-
uid. Decoratively arrange remaining
sliced pears and cranberry topping on
top of Bavarian. Refrigerate until serv-
ing time. Remove sides of pan. Makes
12 to 14 servings, about 555 calories
each per 12,475 calories each per 14.

FRESH COCONUT CAKE

pictured on page 155

A traditional Southern favorite to grace
your holiday table.

Cake

Y2 cup butter or margarine, softened
1¥%2 cups sugar '
Coconut milk* plus milk to

equal 1 cup
teaspoon vanilla extract
2% cups cake flour
2 teaspoons baking powder
Y2 teaspoon salt
4 eggs whites

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Icing

2 eggs whites
1¥2 cups sugar

Ya cup water

Ya teaspoon cream of tartar
teaspoon vanilla extract

4 cups coarsely grated fresh coconut*

Cake: Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease
and flour three 8-inch round cake pans.

In large mixer bowl with mixer at
medium-high speed, cream butter or
margarine and sugar until light and
fluffy, scraping bowl] occasionally. Re-
duce speed to low and slowly pour in
coconut milk and milk. Add vanilla and
continue mixing.

In medium bowl combine flour, bak-
ing powder and salt. Add all at once to
creamed mixture; beat just until com-
bined. Add egg whites; beat just until
smooth. Do not overbeat.

Divide batter evenly into prepa
pans. Bake 25 minutes or until too
pick inserted in center comes out clea
Cool in pans on wire racks 5 minute
Remove from pans and cool complete
on wire racks before icing.

Icing: In top of double boiler combi
all ingredients except vanilla; be
with portable mixer 1 minute. Pla
over boiling water and beat 7 minuté¢
Remove from heat; add vanilla a
beat 3 minutes more.

Place one cake layer on plate. Spref
¥4 cup icing on top; sprinkle with 1c
coconut. Repeat with second layer.
with third layer. Frost top and sid
with remaining icing. Sprinkle with
maining coconut. Makes 12 servings
about 510 calories each.
*To crack a fresh coconut, drive a n
into coconut’ three “eyes.” Invert o
bowl or cup to let milk drain out;
serve. Bake coconut in preheated 37
oven 15 minutes. Wrap in a towel
prevent pieces from scattering. TI
hard with a hammer all along “eq
tor” of coconut. Shell should split reg
ily so that meat can be easily remov
Shred coconut.

HAZELNUT DACQUOISE
pictured on page 155

To make this classic nut mering :
you'll need a half pound of hazelnuts

Meringue Layers

3 egg whites, at room temperature J
Dash salt .

¥4 cup sugar, divided
1 cup toasted, skinned and finely
chopped hazelnuts*

Hazelnut Butter Cream

3 eggs
Confectioners sugar
Y% teaspoon vanilla extract
1 tablespoon light rum
1 teaspoon instant espresso
coffee powder
1 cup unsalted butter, softened
Ya cup toasted, skinned and ground
hazelnuts

1 cup heavy or whipping cream
Confectioners sugar
Ya cup toasted, skinned and finely
chopped hazelnuts, for garnish

Meringue: Preheat oven to 225°F. Ll
2 cookie sheets with foil. With sp
handle, outline a 10-inch circle on e:
In large mixer bowl combine

whites and salt. Beat at high speed
til foamy. Gradually beat in %
sugar. Beat 5 minutes more until y
stiff and glossy. Combine hazelnuts
remaining 4 cup sugar; mix well.
into meringue. Divide mixture in
and spoon onto each outlined ci
Spread evenly into 10-inch rounds. B
1 hour 15 minutes. Cool on wire ra
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continued

Cover and store at.room temperature up
to 6 months.)

Hazelnut Butter Cream: In small mixer
bowl beat eggs until light. Add 42 cup
confectioners’ sugar and vanilla; con-
tinue beating until very thick. Beat in
rum and espresso; set aside.

In large mixer bow] beat butter until
creamy. Add egg mixture ¥4 cup at a
time, beating well after each addition.
Fold in ground nuts. Cover and refrig-
erate 20 minutes.

To assemble: In large mixer bow] beat
heavy cream at low speed until thick-
ened. Add 1 tablespoon confectioners’
sugar; continue beating at medium
speed until mixture holds its shape
when dropped from a spoon. Carefully
peel foil from meringues. Place one
layer on serving plate. Spread with but-
ter cream to within 1 inch of edge. Spoon
1 cup whipped cream over butter cream.
If desired, spoon remaining whipped
cream into pastry bag fitted with st
tip. Pipe rosettes around edge.

Sprinkle top of sec neringue with

confectioners’ sugar. Place over whipped
cream. Meanwhile, make twelve 12x¥-
inch cardboard strips. Place strips lat-
tice-style over confectioners’ sugar.

158

Sprinkle with hazelnuts. Carefully re-
move strips. Refrigerate at least 1 hour
or up to 4 hours before serving. For
easier cutting, hold serrated knife up-
right and cut with a sawing motion.
Makes 16 servings, 250 calories each.
“To toast and skin nuts, bake 10 to 15
minutes in preheated 350°F. oven until
skins crack. Remove from oven and
wrap in a towel. When cool enough to
handle, roll to remove skins.

GOLD DUST

pictured on page 155

A sophisticated dessert of chestnut
cream in meringue shells.

Meringue

3 egg whites
Ya teaspoon cream of tartar
Ya cup sugar

Candied Pecans

Y2 cup pecan halves
1 cup water

Yq cup sugar

1 cup salad oil

Chestnut Cream

1 can (15¥2 oz.) whole chestnuts
in water

2 tablespoons light brown sugar

1¥2 cups heavy or whipping cream

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3 tablespoons granulated sugar
Ya teaspoon vanilla extract

Meringue: Preheat oven to 22
Grease and lightly flour 2 cod
sheets. With a glass, make 3-inch
cles on cookie sheet. In large m
bowl combine egg whites and crea
tartar. Beat at high speed until foa
Gradually beat in sugar. Beat 5
utes more until very stiff and glo
Spoon meringue into large pastry
with #4 plain tube. Pipe onto coc
sheets, filling in circle. Pipe 2 more
cles in layers around edge to fory
shell. (Or spoon '2 cup meringue
cookie sheet. With the back of a sp¢
make a well in the center to for
shell.) Bake 50 minutes. Turn off gd
and let stand 1 hour. (Can be n
ahead. Store at room temperature
cool, dry place up to 6 months.)
Candied Pecans: Lightly greas
cookie sheet. In small saucepan q
bine pecans and water; bring to a }
Reduce heat and simmer 1 mi
Drain. Add sugar and stir until pe

are well coated. Transfer to cof

sheet. Let dry 30 minutes.

In large skillet heat oil to 375°F.
pecans and cook, stirring freque
until sugar forms a glaze on pecar
to 2 minutes. Remove from oil

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ace half the pecans in food processor
id grind to a uniform powder. (Can be
ade ahead. Cover and refrigerate up
3 months.)

hestnut Cream: Drain chestnuts, re-
rving ¥4 cup liquid. In saucepan com-
ne chestnuts, reserved liquid and
‘own sugar. Bring to a boil. Reduce
sat and simmer 10 to 15 minutes until
lickened. Cool to room temperature.
1 food processor or food mill, puree
vestnut mixture. In mixer bowl com-
ne heavy cream, granulated sugar
ad vanilla; beat until stiff. Gently fold
hipped cream into chestnut puree.
poon into meringue shells. (Can be
ade ahead. Cover and refrigerate up
.6 hours.) Just before serving, gar-
ish with pecan halves and a sprin-
ling of ground nuts. Makes 8 servings,
pout 375 calories each.

DEVASTATING CHOCOLATE
LOAF CAKE

his may not be the fanciest dessert
u've ever made, but it’s definitely one
‘the best tasting.

} squares (1 oz. each)
semisweet chocolate

i cup unsalted butter

l cup sugar

4 egg yolks

2 cup all-purpose flour

Ye teaspoon salt

1 cup heavy or whipping cream

2 tablespoons black raspberry liqueur
2 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa

Raspberry Sauce

2 packages (10 oz. each) frozen
raspberries in syrup, thawed

Y3 cup confectioners sugar

2 tablespoons lemon juice

2 tablespoons black

raspberry liqueur
Preheat oven to 350°F. Butter an 8'2x
4¥%-inch loaf pan. Line bottom and sides
with foil, extending it an inch above
each side. Butter foil, then lightly flour.
In food processor with steel blade

process chocolate to fine granules.
Transfer to mixing bowl. In saucepan
melt butter over medium heat; bring to
a boil, being careful not to burn. Pour
over chocolate; mix until chocolate is
melted and smooth. Add sugar and con-
tinue beating until well combined. Add
egg yolks one at a time, beating until
smooth. Add flour and salt; mix just
until blended. Pour in cream and li-
queur; mix until all ingredients are
well combined. Pour batter into pan
and smooth with spatula. Bake 1 hour
and 15 minutes or until toothpick in-
serted in center comes out barely clean.
(The cake should be very fudgy; don’t
overbake.) Cool on wire rack. Refriger-

ate 5 to 6 hours or overnight to set.
Remove from pan; peel off foil. Turn
over and sprinkle cocoa on top. Cut into
Y-inch slices. Serve in a pool of sauce.
Makes 16 servings, about 285 calories
each without sauce.

Raspberry Sauce: Drain raspberries in
a strainer over a bowl. Reserve 1 cup
syrup. In blender or processor combine
raspberries, reserved syrup, confec-
tioners’ sugar, lemon juice and liqueur.
Process until well combined. Strain
sauce to remove seeds. Makes 2¥3 cups,
about 20 calories per tablespoon.

PEAR STREUSEL PIE

A cheesy crust, not-too-sweet juicy pear
filling and crunchy streusel topping
make this pie a popular dessert.
Pastry
1 cup alf-purpose flour

Yq teaspoon salt

¥3 cup shortening

Y2 cup (2 oz.) shredded

Cheddar cheese
3 to 4 tablespoons ice water

Filling

Yq cup sugar
Yq cup all-purpose flour
Y4 teaspoon cinnamon
5¥2 cups peeled, sliced ripe pears
(about 3 Ibs.) (continued)

Nestle” Peanut Butter
Burst™ Cookies.

Every bite bursts with the
taste of rich, creamy peanut
butter ... because every bite’s
full of Nestlé* Peanut
Butter Morsels.

Serve your family a batch of

Burst™ Cookies today.
They'll be overwhelmed.

Fresh and warm.

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continued

2 teaspoons lemon juice

Topping
¥q4 cup firmly packed light brown sugar

Y2 cup all-purpose flour
¥3; cup butter or margarine

Pastry: In medium bowl combine flour
and salt. With pastry blender or two
knives, cut in shortening until mixture
resembles coarse crumbs. Mix in
cheese. Sprinkle in ice water a table-
spoon at a time, tossing with fork after
each addition until pastry is just moist
enough to hold together. On lightly
floured surface, shape dough into a
ball; flatten slightly. Roll to an 11-inch
circle. Line a 9-inch pie plate; flute
edge. Preheat oven to 375°F.

Filling: In small bowl combine sugar,
flour and cinnamon; set aside. In large
bowl toss pears and lemon juice. Sprin-
kle on dry ingredients and toss until
well mixed. Spoon filling into pie shell.
Topping: In medium bowl combine
brown sugar and flour. With pastry
blender or two knives, cut in butter or
margarine until mixture resembles
coarse crumbs. Sprinkle over pears.
Bake 1 hour. Cool on wire rack. Makes
8 servings, about 370 calories each.

MARQUISE AU CHOCOLAT

Chocolate mousse has never been so spec-
tacular—nested in a shell of ladyfingers
and glazed with semisweet chocolate.

15 ladyfingers (about 12 3-oz. pkgs.)

Mousse

4 eggs, separated
Sugar
Yq cup light rum
4 squares (1 oz. each) semisweet
chocolate
2 squares (1 oz. each) unsweetened
chocolate
Ya cup brewed espresso coffee
¥a cup unsalted butter, softened
Pinch salt

Glaze

4 squares (1 oz. each) semisweet
chocolate
Y2 cup heavy or whipping cream
1 to 2 tablespoons boiling water

Confectioners sugar (optional)

Grease a 6-cup mixer bowl and line
with plastic wrap. Arrange ladyfingers
with cut surfaces against sides and bot-
tom of bow]. Patch any holes; set aside.
Mousse: In top of double boiler combine
egg yolks and 4 cup sugar. With port-

able mixer beat yolks and sugar off the
heat until thick and pale yellow. Add
rum. Place top of double boiler over

simmering, not boiling, water, beating
constantly about 5 minutes, until! hot.
Transfer to metal bowl. Immediately

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cool over a bow! of ice, stirring until the
consistency of thin mayonnaise.
Meanwhile, melt chocolate with cof-
fee until smooth. Remove from heat.
Add butter a tablespoon at a time, stir-
ring, until smooth and creamy. Fold
chocolate mixture into yolk mixture. In
large mixer bowl beat egg whites and
salt until frothy. Sprinkle on 1 table-
spoon sugar and beat until stiff peaks
form. Fold one third of the whites into
the chocolate, then gently fold in re-
maining whites. Spoon into lined bowl.
Top with a layer of ladyfingers. Cover
with plastic wrap and refrigerate over-
night. (Can be made ahead. Cover and
refrigerate up to 2 days.) To serve, in-
vert onto serving plate.
Glaze: In heavy saucepan melt choco-
late with cream over low heat. Remove
from heat; cool to lukewarm. If too
thick, thin with boiling water. With a
spatula, spread entire surface of
mousse with glaze. If desired, sprinkle
top with confectioners’ sugar. Makes 16
servings, about 285 calories each.

LEMON MOUSSE

This tangy dessert makes a refreshing
conclusion to a hearty meal.
4/3 cup sugar, divided
2 teaspoons unflavored gelatin
Pinch salt
4 eggs, separated
V2 cup fresh lemon juice
Yq cup cold water
1 tablespoon grated lemon peel
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1% cups heavy or whipping
cream, divided
Toasted slivered almonds, and
strawberries, for garnish (optional)

To prepare a collar for a 1-quart soufflé
dish, use a sheet of wax paper long
enough to fit around top edge of dish.
Fold in half lengthwise. Wrap around
dish with wax paper extending 2 inches
above rim; secure with tape.

In saucepan combine ¥3 cup sugar,
gelatin and salt. Stir in egg yolks,
lemon juice and water. Let stand 1 min-
ute. Stir over low heat until gelatin is
completely dissolved and _ slightly
thickened. Add lemon peel and vanilla.
Pour into large bowl. Cool.

Beat egg whites until soft peaks form.
Gradually add remaining ¥3 cup sugar.
Continue beating until stiff. Beat 1 cup
cream until soft peaks form. Gently fold
egg whites and whipped cream into
lemon custard. Pour lemon mixture into
prepared dish. Cover and refrigerate
overnight. When ready to serve, whip
remaining ¥3 cup cream. Decorate top
with rosettes. If desired, garnish with
almonds and berries. Makes 8 to 10 serv-
ings, about 250 calories each per 8, 200
calories each per 10. End

Divine Desserts developed by Elizabeth
A. Marks and Cathleen Burke.

BREADS
continued from pages 152—153

DO-AHEAD BISCUITS

pictured on page 152

One of the hassles of biscuits is that t
usually need to be prepared at the la
minute. These can be made up to fo
hours ahead.

1% cups all-purpose flour
4 teaspoons baking powder

2 teaspoons sugar

Y2 teaspoon cream of tartar

Ye teaspoon salt

Ye cup vegetable shortening

2 tablespoons chopped fresh
coriander (cilantro), dill or parsle

4/3 cup milk

In medium bowl combine dry ing
dients; mix well. With pastry blend
or 2 knives, cut in shortening un
mixture resembles coarse crumbs. To
in herbs. Add milk all at once. St
quickly with fork until mixture lea
sides of bowl and forms a ball. ¢
lightly floured surface, knead 10 to
turns. Roll out inch thick. With
2's-inch biscuit cutter, cut out round
Use a straight-down motion and doy
twist the cutter. Scraps may be 1
rolled. Place on ungreased cookie she
(Can be made ahead. Cover tightly a
refrigerate up to 4 hours. Let stand
room temperature 10 minutes befo
baking.) Bake in preheated 450°F. ov
about 12 minutes or until tops
lightly browned. Serve hot. Mak
about 14 biscuits, 130 calories each.

CRANBERRY-ORANGE MUFFINS

pictured on page 152

Great for breakfast, a midnight sna
or anytime in between, these muf]
freeze beautifully.

Y2 cup butter or margarine, softened
1 cup sugar

3 eggs

2 teaspoons grated orange peel
12 teaspoons vanilla extract

2 cups all-purpose flour
22 teaspoons baking powder

34 teaspoon salt

Y2 cup milk
22 cups coarsely chopped fresh or

frozen cranberries

Preheat oven to 375°F. Lightly gree
sixteen 22-inch muffin-pan cups.

In large mixer bowl cream butter
margarine and sugar until light a
fluffy. Add eggs one at a time, beati
well after each addition. Add ora
peel and vanilla. In small bowl combi
flour, baking powder and salt; mix we
With mixer at low speed add dry ing
dients alternately with milk, beg
ning and ending with dry ingredien
Fold in cranberries. Spoon (continud

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continued

batter into prepared cups, filling each
three quarters full. Bake 20 to 30 min-
utes until golden. Cool 5 minutes in
pans; turn out onto wire rack. Serve
warm. Makes 16, 185 calories each.

ONION POPPY FLATBREAD

meio

pictured on page 152

This outstanding yet quick and easy
treat for onion lovers calls for a pack-
aged bread mix.

into melted butter. Arrange buttered
side up in two layers, using 16 balls for
each layer. Cover; let rise in warm
draft-free place until doubled in bulk, 1
to 2 hours (depending on whether you
use quick-rise or standard yeast).

Set oven rack on lowest position. Pre-
heat oven to 375°F. Bake 40 to 45 min-
utes or until golden brown. Cool 5 min-
utes, then turn out onto wire rack.
Brush with melted butter. Serve warm.
Makes 32 rolls, 125 calories each.

BAGUETTES

pictured on pages 152-153

2 tablespoons butter or margarine
4 cups sliced onions
Y4 teaspoon salt
Ye teaspoon pepper
1 package (14 or 16 oz.) yeast white
bread mix
1'2 teaspoons poppy seed

In large skillet melt butter or mar-
garine over low heat. Add onions, salt
and pepper. Increase heat slightly and
saute until translucent but not
browned, about 10 minutes. Cool to
lukewarm.

Preheat oven to 400°F. Grease a
15%x10'2x1-inch jelly-roll pan; set
aside. Prepare bread mix dough accord-
ing to package directions but don’t
knead. On lightly floured surface roll
out to 15%x10'2-inch rectangle. Trans-
fer to prepared pan; press evenly to
edges. Top with sauteed onions; sprin-
kle with poppy seed. Bake 40 to 45 min-
utes. Serve warm. Makes 12 servings,
about 130 calories each.

BUFFET BUBBLE LOAF

pictured on page 152

Perfect for a buffet. Your guests simply
pluck a bubble from the loaf, but be fore-
warned—they'll be back for seconds.

Y2 cup butter or margarine, softened

Y4 cup honey
1% teaspoons salt

2 eggs, at room temperature

*/3 cup nonfat dry milk powder

2 packages active dry yeast

1 cup warm water (105°F—115°F)
52 cups unbleached or bread flour

2 tablespoons butter or margarine,

melted

In large mixer bowl] cream butter or
margarine with honey and salt. Beat in
eggs, then nonfat dry milk powder. Dis-
solve yeast in warm water; add to but-
ter mixture. Blend in 3 cups flour. Beat
at high speed 2 minutes. Stir in re-
maining flour to make a soft dough.
(Dough should be sticky.) Cover tightly;
‘efrigerate overnight or up to 3 days.
Grease a 10-inch tube pan; set aside.
Stir dough down. On lightly floured
surface, divide into 32 equal pieces.
Shape each piece into a ball. Dip tops

162

The secret to the crispy crust is ice
cubes—a tip we learned from The New
York Times’ Pierre Franey.
Dough*

4 cups unbleached or bread flour

2 packages active dry yeast
22 teaspoons salt

2 cups hot tap water (120°F—130°F)
2 cups cake flour (about)

Cornmeal
Cold water
Ice cubes (about 2 cups)

In large mixer bowl combine un-
bleached or bread flour, yeast and salt.
Gradually add hot water. Beat at me-
dium speed 2 minutes. Add cake flour;
stir to make a soft dough. On lightly
floured surface, Knead 5 minutes.
(Dough should be slightly sticky.) Place
in lightly floured bowl (yes, floured).
Cover; let rise in warm, draft-free place
until doubled in bulk, 30 to 60 minutes
(depending on whether you use quick-
rise or standard yeast). Punch dough
down. Cover; let rise again until dou-
bled in bulk, 45 to 65 minutes.

Grease a large cookie sheet. Sprinkle
with cornmeal; set aside. Punch dough
down; divide into 4 equal pieces. Roll
each piece out to a 15x8-inch rectangle.
Roll up from long side jelly-roll fashion.
Place seam side down on_ prepared
cookie sheet, allowing space for rising.
Cover; let rise in warm, draft-free place
until doubled in bulk, 35 to 70 minutes.

Preheat oven to 425°F. With sharp
knife or razor blade, make three diago-
nal slashes about 's inch deep on top of
each loaf. Brush each with water. Work-
ing quickly, throw ice cubes into oven
and immediately place cookie sheet in
oven. Bake 20 minutes. Reduce oven
temperature to 350°F. Bake 30 minutes
more. Transfer to wire racks to cool.
Makes 4 loaves, about seven 2-inch
slices each, about 100 calories per slice.
“Processor Method: In large processor
bowl with steel blade combine un-
bleached or bread flour, yeast and salt.
Process until well mixed. With ma-
chine on, pour hot tap water through
feed tube. Process 1 minute. Add cake
flour and process just until a ball forms.

On lightly floured surface, knead
minutes. Proceed as directed above.

PROSCIUTTO CHEESE TWISTS

pictured on page 153

Inspired by a bread we tasted from Né
York’s specialty food store Dean & D
luca, this ts truly delicious.

2 packages active dry yeast
Y2 cup warm water (105°F—115°F)
2 tablespoons sugar
Y2 teaspoon salt
Ye cup butter or margarine, melted
and cooled
4 eggs, at room temperature
4 to 5 cups unbleached or bread flour
6 ounces prosciutto, diced (it should
be sliced about Ye inch thick)
1 cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese

Glaze

1 egg yolk
1 tablespoon cold water

In large mixer bow! dissolve yeast
warm water. Add sugar, salt, butter
margarine and eggs. Beat until w
blended. Add 2 cups flour. Beat at hi
speed 2 minutes. Stir in prosciut
cheese and enough additional flour
make a soft dough. On lightly flou
surface, knead until smooth and els
tic, 8 to 10 minutes. Place in greas
bowl, turning to grease top. Cover;
rise in warm, draft-free place until dd
bled in bulk, 45 to 70 minutes (depe
ing on whether you use quick-rise
standard active dry yeast).

Grease 2 cookie sheets; set asi
Punch dough down; divide in half.
vide each half into 2 equal pieces.
each piece into a 24-inch rope.
two ropes together, then form inta
circle. Place on prepared cookie she
pinch ends to seal. Repeat with rema
ing two pieces of dough. Cover; let r
in warm, draft-free place until doub
in bulk, 45 to 70 minutes.

Preheat oven to 375°F. Comb
glaze ingredients; blend well. Br
over twists. Bake 20 to 25 minutes
til golden brown. Cool on wire rac
Makes 2 twists, about twenty-two
inch slices each, 105 calories per slic

CRACKLIN’ SPOON BREAD

You haven't tasted spoon bread
you ve tried this version. The crackli
add crunch and flavor; the cream fo
a delicious custard layer in the mida

2 ounces salt pork, finely diced

2 tablespoons butter or margarine
1¥% cups yellow cornmeal

Y3 cup all-purpose flour

3 tablespoons sugar

1 teaspoon baking powder

1 teaspoon baking soda

1 teaspoon salt

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2 eggs, beaten
1 cup heavy or whipping
cream

In small heavy skillet cook salt pork
over medium-low heat until fat is ren-
dered and salt pork is crispy. Remove
and drain on paper towels.

Preheat oven to 400°F. Place butter
or margarine in shallow 1¥2-quart bak-
ing dish. Set in oven to melt, 3 to 5
minutes. Swirl around bottom of dish;
set aside in warm place.

In large bowl combine dry ingre-
dients; mix well. In 1-quart glass mea-
sure combine milk, buttermilk and
eggs; mix well. Pour over dry ingre-

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ORANGE GINGER CORNISH HENS

pictured on page 150

Slipping the ginger butter under the
skin results in a more distinctive flavor.

Y2 cup butter or margarine, softened
12 tablespoons grated fresh ginger

1 teaspoon salt

Yg teaspoon pepper

8 Cornish hens (about 1 Ib. each)

Glaze

Y2 cup orange marmalade
1 tablespoon grated fresh ginger
2 tablespoons lemon juice
2 tablespoons orange-flavored
liqueur
1 tablespoon soy sauce

Sauce

dients and stir just until moistened.
Add crispy salt pork (cracklings); pour
into prepared dish. Drizzle cream over
batter. Do not stir. Bake 35 minutes un-
til golden brown. Let cool 10 minutes
before serving. Makes about 10 serv-
ings, about 275 calories each.

GIANT POPOVERS

Almost a meal in themselves, these
giant popovers are great for brunch or
afternoon tea (it is a nice tradition).

6 eggs

2 cups milk

6 tablespoons butter or margarine,
melted

2 cups all-purpose flour

1 teaspoon salt

Set oven rack on lowest position. Thor-

and roast another 15 minutes (total roast-
ing time, 1 hour). Transfer hens to platter;
keep warm while making sauce.
Sauce: Skim off excess fat in roasting
pan. In small bowl stir cornstarch into
chicken broth until cornstarch is dis-
solved. Place roasting pan over medium
heat. Add broth and bring to a simmer,
stirring to loosen browned bits from bot-
tom. Pour into saucepan. Add liqueur
and bring to a boil over medium heat.
Simmer 1 minute. Season with salt to
taste. Strain.

Garnish hens with kumquats and
parsley. Serve sauce with hens. Makes 8
servings, about 575 calories each.

FEIJOADA COMPLETA

pictured on page 151
This classic Brazilian dish is our: food
editor's favorite party fare. Add a green
salad and lots of beer:

1 tablespoon cornstarch
1 can (13% or 14% oz.) chicken
broth
Yq cup orange-flavored liqueur
Salt

Fresh kumquats and parsley

In small bowl combine butter or mar-
garine, ginger, salt and pepper. Sepa-
rate skin from breast meat very care-
fully. Put 1 teaspoon butter mixture
under skin of each hen. Replace skin.
Rub hens inside and out with remain-
ing butter mixture. Fold wings behind
backs and tie legs together with string.
(Can be made ahead. Cover and refrig-
erate up to 6 hours.) Place hens on their
sides on a rack in large roasting pan.
Preheat oven to 425°F.

Glaze: In saucepan combine all ingre-
dients. Cook over !ow h until mar-

malade melts, stiri ng oc ally.
Roast hens 15 minutes 1 roast
15 minutes more. Turn brea up,

brush with half the glaze
minutes. Brush with remai

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1 pound dried black beans
Water

2 ounces salt pork, diced

1 pound beef stew meat, cut into
l-inch cubes

large onion, sliced

pounds boneless smoked pork butt

tablespoons light rum

tablespoon salad oil, divided

cups chopped onions

garlic cloves, minced

ripe tomato, chopped

tablespoons chopped parsley

pound chorizo or other smoked
garlic sausage

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Accompaniments

Hot cooked rice

Sliced oranges

Sauteed bananas
Cooked spinach or kale
Hot sauce

Wash beans. Discard any stones or
shriveled beans; drain. Combine in
large saucepot with water to cover; soak
overnight. (For quick-soak, combine
beans and 6 cups water. Heat to boiling,

oughly grease twelve 4-ounce souf
dishes or custard cups. Place on t
jJelly-roll pans.

In large mixer bow] beat eggs at mé
dium-high speed until frothy. Redud
speed to low. Gradually add milk an
butter or margarine. Add flour ani
salt; beat just until no lumps of flo
remain. (Can be made ahead. Cove
refrigerate up to 24 hours. Remove fro
refrigerator 1 hour before baking.) Le
stand at room temperature 30 minute
Preheat oven to 425°F. Stir batter, the
pour into prepared dishes or cups, fil
ing each half full. Bake 30 minutes unt
puffed and browned. Serve hot. Make
12, about 190 calories each. Er

Party Breads developed by Joan
Borkoski.

boil 2 minutes and remove from hea
Cover and let stand 1 hour.) Drain.

In Dutch oven or large saucepot sau
salt pork until crisp. Add beef cubé
and brown well on all sides. Stir
sliced onion; saute until soft. Add
cups water, beans, smoked pork a
rum. Cover and simmer 2 hours.

In large skillet heat oil. Add choppe
onions, garlic, tomato and parsle
saute 5 minutes, stirring occasional
Transfer 1 cup beans from Dutch ove
to skillet; mash into vegetables. S
vegetables into Dutch oven; simmer
minutes or until beans are tender.

Meanwhile, cut sausage into ¥2-inc¢
slices. Saute in large skillet unt
browned, about 10 to 15 minutes. Drai
Add to beans and cook until heate
through, about 5 minutes. (Can |
made ahead. Cool; cover and refrigera
up to 24 hours.) Remove pork and cw
into 1-inch cubes. Return to beans.

To serve, transfer beans to servi
platter. Arrange accompaniments aro
beans. Makes 12 servings, about 54
calories each without accompanimen
ACCOMPANIMENTS
Rice: Cook 3 cups long-grain rice af}
cording to the package directio
Makes 9 cups.

Oranges: Peel, slice 4 large oranges.
Bananas: Cut 6 bananas in half lengt
wise. Dredge with ™ cup flour. In lars
skillet melt 3 tablespoons butter «
margarine. Saute bananas until golt
en. Add 2 tablespoons light rum and
teaspoon salt. Saute 1 minute.
Spinach or Kale: Steam 2 pounds spij
ach or kale just until wilted. Drain a
excess liquid.

Hot Sauce: In blender puree 2 choppé¢
tomatoes, 2 tablespoons olive oil,
fresh or canned jalapeno pepper, seedd
and chopped, 3 tablespoons lemon jui!
and 1 garlic clove, pressed. Pour in
serving bowl. Garnish with 5 chopp
green onions, 1 tablespoon choppé
parsley or cilantro. (continue

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| TOURNEDOS WITH COGNAC
AND HERB SAUCE

There’s no classier way to impress your
guests than with these tournedos.

6 beef filets mignon, 1/2 inches thick
Y_ teaspoon salt

4 tablespoons butter, divided

| 1 tablespoon chopped shallots

Ye teaspoon basil

l Yg teaspoon tarragon

Pinch sage

2 teaspoons Worcestershire sauce

Ys cup cognac

6 rusks or rounds of bread, toasted

Let filets stand at room temperature 30
minutes. Sprinkle salt on both sides. In
large skillet melt 2 tablespoons butter.
When bubbling, saute filets 3 to 3%
minutes on each side for rare, 4 to 5
minutes for medium. Remove and keep
warm in 200°F. oven. In same skillet
saute shallots. Remove from heat.
Blend in herbs and Worcestershire.
Add cognac, return to heat and warm.
Ignite. After flame has died down, cook
1 minute. Place filets on rusks or toast
| rounds. Pour any juices from warming
i] pan into sauce. Swirl in 2 tablespoons
i butter. Spoon sauce over beef. Makes 6
servings, about 415 calories each.

BRANDIED CHICKEN BREASTS

Hi Easy on the cook, and the budget, this
dish features a sauce that is terrific over
i a wild-white rice combination.

| 6 whole chicken breasts, split, boned
ii and pounded

I} 4 tablespoons brandy, divided

i 6 tablespoons butter, divided

\ 1 pound mushrooms, sliced

h 2 tablespoons chopped shallots

i| 1 teaspoon tarragon

| 1¥%2 cups heavy or whipping cream

1 teaspoon salt

Rub chicken breasts with 2 tablespoons
brandy; cover and set aside for 1 hour.
In large skillet melt 4 tablespoons
| butter. Add chicken and cook 5 to 6
| minutes per side, turning once. Trans-
| fer to platter, cover and keep warm in
ie 200°F. oven. (Can be made ahead. Hold
1} in warm oven up to 2 hours.)

I In same skillet heat remaining 2 ta-
I blespoons butter. Add mushrooms and
shallots and saute 10 minutes, stirring
il occasionally. When mushrooms are
cooked, stir tarragon and brandy into
mushroom mixture. Add cream and
| salt; simmer 5 minutes, until sauce
thickens slightly. (Can be made ahead.
Cover and let stand at room tempera-
ture up to 2 hours. Heat sauce to sim-
mer.) Place cooked chicken breasts in
sauce; heat through. Makes 8 servings,
about 425 calories each

166

GRILLED FENNEL SHRIMP
AND VEGETABLES

Prepare this the day before and let it
marinate overnight. The actual broiling
takes only four to six minutes.

Marinade

6 tablespoons balsamic vinegar or
red wine vinegar
3 garlic cloves, crushed
1 tablespoon fennel seed, crushed
11% teaspoons Dijon mustard
1'% teaspoons salt
¥4 cup salad oil
¥Y_ cup olive oil
2 or 3 zucchini
1 tablespoon salt
2 or 3 red or green peppers
24 large mushrooms
32 jumbo shrimp (about 1% Ibs.),
peeled and deveined

Marinade: In large bowl combine vin-
egar, garlic, fennel, mustard and salt.
Add oils very slowly, stirring con-
stantly with whisk; set aside.

Cut zucchini into twenty-four %4-inch
slices and place in colander. Sprinkle
with 1 tablespoon salt; let stand 30 min-
utes. Rinse under cold water. Cut pep-
pers into twenty-four 1-inch squares. In
large bowl combine peppers, mushrooms
and zucchini. Add half the marinade;
toss to coat. In another bowl combine
shrimp with remaining marinade; toss
to coat. Cover and refrigerate both 6
hours, tossing occasionally.

Thread shrimp and vegetables on
eight skewers. Each should have 4
shrimp and 8 of each vegetable. Reserve
any leftover marinade for basting.

Preheat broiler. Place skewers on
broiler pan and cook as close to heat as
possible 2 to 3 minutes. Remove and
baste. Turn skewers over and baste
again. Cook 2 to 3 minutes more. Makes
8 servings, about 500 calories each.

BOURBON-GLAZED HAM

Taste the basting glaze after the ham is
baked. If it’s not too salty, its a nice
accompaniment. Just strain and serve.

Basting Glaze

1 cup firmly packed light
brown sugar
12 whole cloves
3 cups water
¥_ cup bourbon

1 fully cooked smoked shank half
ham (5-7 Ibs.)
Radish roses and radish sprouts,
for garnish

Preheat oven to 375°F. In deep roasting
pan combine glaze ingredients; mix
well. Add ham fat side down. Bake 1
hour, basting occasionally. Remove
from oven. Transfer ham to platter and
turn fat side up. Loosen and remove
rind. Score fat in diamond pattern. Re-

turn ham to glaze in roasting pan.
sert meat thermometer into cente
meat without touching bone. Ba
basting occasionally, 1 to 1% ho
until meat thermometer reaches 14(

Serve hot or at room tempera
garnishing with radish roses
radish sprouts, if available. Makes
to 15 servings, about 280 calories e
per 12, 210 calories each per 15.

RACK OF LAMB

How simple—and how elegant. The
fect example of a hassle-free, althoug.
mittedly extravagant, entree for guest

2 trimmed racks of lamb, about 1%
pounds and 8 ribs each (have
butcher cut bones through at ba
and trim ribs down 1 in.)

1 tablespoon salad oil

2 tablespoons Dijon mustard

2 tablespoons dry white wine

Y2 teaspoon salt

Ya teaspoon freshly ground pepper
1 cup fresh bread crumbs

Ye cup chopped parsley

Let lamb stand at room temperat
hour. Preheat oven to 450°F. Rub le
with oil and stand, bone tips up
shallow roasting pan. Roast 15 min

In small bowl combine must
wine, salt and pepper. In another bh
toss bread crumbs and parsley.

Remove roasting pan from oven.
duce temperature to 400°F Brush 4
rack with mustard mixture. Pat b
crumbs over the fat side of each r
Return to oven and roast 15 min
more for rare, 20 minutes for medi
Remove from oven and let stand 5n
utes before carving. Makes 8 servil
about 290 calories each.

SAUSAGE-STUFFED PORK CHO

Bet it’s been ages since you’ve
stuffed pork chops. What a nice trea

Stuffing

Y% pound bulk pork sausage

3/4 cup chopped onion
1 cup fresh bread crumbs

3 tablespoons chopped parsley
1 egg, slightly beaten

8 loin rib pork chops, 1 inch thick, v
pocket for stuffing

Salt and pepper

2 tablespoons salad oil

1 can (13% or 14% oz.) beef broth

Yq cup flour

¥_ cup sour cream
Chopped parsley, for garnish

Stuffing: In skillet brown cruml
sausage over medium heat. Add o
cook 5 minutes. Remove from heat.
bread crumbs, parsley and egg.
Stuff each chop with 2 to 3 ta
spoons stuffing. Rub with salt and
per to taste. Fasten with toothpick.
Preheat oven to 350°F. (contin

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fn: large skillet heat oil and brown
chops on each side. Place in baking pan
in single layer. Add enough beef broth
to cover bottom of pan. Reserve remain-
ing broth. Cover pan with foil and bake
35 minutes. Remove foil and bake 10
minutes more. Transfer to serving dish
and keep warm.

Strain juices from baking pan into
saucepan. Stir in flour; cook 1 minute,
stirring, until smooth and bubbly. Add
remaining beef broth; heat to boiling.
Reduce heat; whisk in sour cream and
salt and pepper to taste.

Garnish with chopped parsley, if de-
sired. Makes 8 servings, about 840 cal-
ories each.

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MENU
*Recipes pictured on pages 132—133

*Oysters Casino
*Roast Turkey and Gravy

*Vegetable-Bread Stuffing
Light Mashed Potatoes
*Broccoli Timbales
*Cranberry Fruit Relish
*Fresh Fruit Compote
*Pumpkin Chiffon Pie

OYSTERS CASINO

This first course, a mere 60 calories, is
so delicious that you won’t limit it to
menus for slimming.

24 fresh oysters, shucked
1% tablespoons butter or margarine
¥3 cup finely chopped shallots
¥3 cup finely chopped red pepper
¥3 cup finely chopped celery
2 tablespoons chopped parsley
1% tablespoons lemon juice
3 drops bottled red pepper sauce
3 slices bacon, cooked and crumbled

Preheat oven to 450°F. Place 3 oysters
in each of 8 individual ovenproof dishes
or ramekins. In small saucepan melt
butter or margarine. Add shallots, red
pepper and celery; saute 5 minutes un-
til tender. Transfer to small bowl. Stir
in parsley, lemon juice and red pepper
sauce. Spoon 1 tablespoon topping over
oysters in each dish. Divide bacon
among dishes. Bake 8 to 10 minutes
until oysters are tender. Makes 8 serv-
ings, about 60 calories each.

ROAST TURKEY

A foil tent helps cep this turkey—bast-
ed with only a scant tal les on of but-
ter—nice and moist.

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TURKEY PIQUANTE

A spicy entree that stars tasty, econom-
ical turkey cutlets.

Sauce

1 tablespoon salad oil
34 cup chopped onion
Y tablespoon chopped garlic
1 can (28 oz.) tomatoes, cut up,
with juice
¥Y3 cup raisins
to 2 fresh jalapefio peppers, seeded and
chopped, or2 tablespoons canned
2 teaspoon cinnamon
’2 teaspoon salt
Y4 teaspoon cloves
Y4 teaspoon freshly ground pepper

1 tablespoon salad oil
1 tablespoon butter or margarine
2 pounds turkey cutlets, pounded

1 ready-to-cook turkey (12—14 Ibs.),
thawed if frozen
Vegetable-Bread Stuffing
(recipe below)
1 tablespoon melted butter or margarine
Salt and pepper

Gravy

Yq cup dry white wine

1% cups chicken broth, defatted
1 tablespoon cornstarch
Yq cup water

Parsley and mushroom caps for garnish

Preheat oven to 325°F. Remove giblets
and neck from body cavity. Rinse tur-
key under cold running water. Drain
and pat dry. Spoon stuffing loosely into
neck and body cavities. (Do not pack
stuffing; it expands during roasting.
Spoon any remaining stuffing into a
casserole; cover and bake during the
last 45 minutes of roasting.) Tie legs
together; skewer neck skin to back. To
help balance the turkey, fasten wings
under back by twisting the ends. Place
breast side up on rack in open shallow
roasting pan. Insert meat thermometer
into thickest part of thigh without
touching bone. Brush skin with melted
butter or margarine and sprinkle light-
ly with salt and pepper. Cover with a
loose tent of heavy-duty foil, creasing
foil crosswise through center and
crimping loosely onto sides of pan.
Roast about 4 to 44% hours. Remove foil
tent during last 20 to 30 minutes to
brown. Roast until thermometer
reaches 185°F. If you don’t have a meat
thermometer, test for doneness by in-
serting fork into thigh. If juice that
oozes is clear, the turkey is done; if
there is a tinge of pink, further roast-
ing is needed. Let turkey stand on a
large platter 20 minutes before carv-
ing. Garnish with parsley and mush-
room caps. Makes 8 to 10 servings, 190
calories per 3-ounce serving.

Gravy: Pour pan drippings into a glass
measure; spoon off fat. Add wine to

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Ya cup slivered almonds, toasted

Sauce: In large skillet heat oil. Ad!
onion and garlic; saute 5 minutes. Sti
in remaining ingredients. Simmer, stiz
ring occasionally, over medium heat 3
minutes or until sauce thickens.

Meanwhile, in large skillet heat o
and butter or margarine over mediur
heat. Cook cutlets in a single layer
about 1 minute per side. Transfer t
skillet with sauce. Cook remaining cu
lets, adding more oil and butter if ne¢
essary. Add cutlets to sauce. Simmer
minutes, spooning sauce over turke
Arrange on serving platter and spri
kle with toasted almonds. Makes 8 sery
ings, about 250 calories each.

Elegant Entrees developed by Mary I
Higgins.

roasting pan and scrape browned bi
from bottom. Into medium saucepa
pour chicken broth, pan drippings a
wine. Bring to a boil over medium-hig
heat. Stir together cornstarch and wate
add to broth. Bring to a boil, stirrir
constantly, for 1 minute. Makes 2 cup
about 5 calories per tablespoon.

VEGETABLE-BREAD STUFFING

Celery, onions and leek add flavor but ni
many calories—95 calories per servi
versus 160 for a standard bread stuffin

2 tablespoons butter or
margarine
2 cups finely chopped celery
2 cups finely chopped onions
1 cup finely chopped leek
(white part only)
Ye pound mushrooms, coarsely
chopped
1 package (8 oz.) herb-seasoned
stuffing mix
1 package (8 oz.) plain croutons
Y2 cup chopped parsley
Yq teaspoon pepper
1 cup dry white wine
1% cups chicken broth, defatted

In large saucepan or Dutch oven m4
butter or margarine. Add cele
onions, leek and mushrooms. Sa
over medium-low heat, stirring oc¢
sionally, until tender. Stir in stuffi
mix, croutons, parsley and pepper. Pa
in wine and chicken broth; toss ligh
with fork until moistened. Makes abq
13 cups, about 95 calories per ¥2 cup.

LIGHT MASHED POTATOES

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Creamed with low-fat cottage chee
skim milk and a tablespoon of bu
these weigh in at 95 calories per serv
versus 160 for the traditional version

8 medium all-purpose potatoes, peel!
and quartered (about 2 Ibs.)
1 teaspoon salt, divided
Y% cup low-fat cottage cheese
Ye cup skim milk (continu@

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1 pkg. (6 oz.) strawberry lemon peel
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1 cup water 2 cups dairy sour cream
lcan(1lb.) whole berry 1/2 cup chopped
cranberry sauce pecans
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Drain pineapple well, reserving all juice. Add
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order given above.
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THANKSGIVING

continued

1 tablespoon butter or margarine
Dash white pepper

1 large saucepan combine potatoes
ith water to cover and ¥2 teaspoon
Ut. Bring to a boil; cover and cook
atil fork-tender, about 20 minutes.
rain well. Dry out potatoes by placing
rer low heat 1 minute or until all
ater has evaporated. Mash potatoes in
uucepan with potato masher or por-
ble electric mixer until no lumps re-
ain. In blender combine cottage
.eese and milk; blend until smooth.
‘ansfer to small saucepan; add butter

margarine and cook until butter
elts. Add to potatoes with ¥2 teaspoon
It and dash pepper. Beat until
100th. Makes 4 cups, about 8 serv-
gs, about 95 calories per ¥2 cup.

BROCCOLI TIMBALES

2 cream in these timbales. The result
only 60 calories per serving, not 160.

2 bunches (1—1¥2 Ibs. each)
fresh broccoli
“2 cups water
Salt
4 cup chicken broth, defatted
2 teaspoons lemon juice
‘4 teaspoon nutmeg
3 eggs

im off and discard broccoli leaves and
ids of stems. Separate into spears. In
acepot bring water to a boil. Add 1
ispoon salt and broccoli. Cover and
»k 10 to 12 minutes, until tender.
ain and cool slightly. Reserve 8 flo-
»s for garnish.

reheat oven to 325°F. Spray eight 5-
iace timbale molds or custard cups
sh nonstick vegetable spray. Arrange
shallow baking pan.

‘n food processor bowl with steel
«de attached, combine cooked broc-
i, chicken broth, lemon juice, ¥ tea-
son salt and nutmeg. Process until
est smooth, scraping bowl once or
ce. Add eggs. Process just until well
‘xed. Spoon into prepared molds.

Piace in oven; pour ¥ inch boiling
water into pan. Bake 40 to 45 minutes
or until knife inserted near center of
molds comes out clean. Let stand 5
minutes before unmolding. Run tip of
knife around edge of molds, then invert
onto serving platter. Garnish with re-
served florets if desired. Makes 8 serv-
ings, about 60 calories each.

CRANBERRY FRUIT RELISH

We all tend to heap on the cranberry sauce
at 25 calories per tablespoon. In this rel-
ish, orange juice, raisins, crushed pineap-
ple and an orange contribute sweetness—
and it’s only 10 calories per tablespoon.

2 cups fresh cranberries

1 medium apple, peeled and chopped

Y3 cup raisins

Y4 cup orange juice

1 tablespoon sugar

1 can (8 oz.) crushed pineapple in own
juice, undrained

1 medium orange, cut into sections

In medium saucepan combine cranber-
ries, apple, raisins, orange juice and
sugar. Bring to a boil. Cover and sim-
mer 20 minutes or until cranberries
pop. Remove from heat. Stir in crushed
pineapple and orange sections. Chill.
(Can be made ahead. Cover and refrig-
erate up to 48 hours.) Makes 4 cups,
about 10 calories per tablespoon.

FRESH FRUIT COMPOTE

Sweetened with orange liqueur and ap-
ricot preserves, this fruit dessert con-
tains no sugar. One hundred ten calories
per serving are exactly half the calories
of a syrup-fruit compote.

Y% cup lemon juice

Y4 cup orange-flavored liqueur

2 tablespoons apricot preserves

2 medium bananas, sliced

1 apple, sliced

1 pear, sliced

1 cup orange sections

1 cup seedless red or green grapes,
halved

In large bowl combine lemon juice, or-
ange-flavored liqueur and apricot pre-
serves. Stir until blended. Add fruit

and toss to coat. Chill until ready to
serve, up to 4 hours. Makes 8 servings,
about 110 calories per serving.

PUMPKIN CHIFFON PIE

What’s Thanksgiving without pumpkin
pie? It’s usually 295 calories per serv-
ing, but this version calls for skimmed
evaporated milk and is only 160 calories.

Crust

5 gingersnaps
3 graham crackers (5x2 in. each)
4 teaspoons butter or margarine,
melted
Filling
1 envelope unflavored gelatin
Y4 cup plus 2 tablespoons dark
brown sugar, divided
Ya teaspoon salt
Y2 teaspoon cinnamon
Pinch nutmeg
2 eggs, separated
1 cup skimmed evaporated milk
Y2 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 can (16 oz.) pumpkin

Crust: Spray bottom and sides of a 9-
inch pie pan with nonstick vegetable
spray. In food processor crush ginger-
snaps and graham crackers to fine
crumbs. Transfer to small bowl. Add
melted butter or margarine and toss.
Pat on bottom and on sides of pie pan.
Filling: In medium saucepan combine
gelatin, ¥%s cup brown sugar, salt and
spices. Blend in egg yolks beaten with
milk. Let stand 1 minute. Cook over
low heat, stirring constantly, until gel-
atin is completely dissolved, about 5
minutes. Transfer to large bowl. Stir in
vanilla and pumpkin. Chill, stirring
occasionally, until mixture mounds
slightly when dropped from a spoon.

In small bowl beat egg whites until soft
peaks form. Gradually add remaining
brown sugar; beat until stiff. Fold into
gelatin mixture. Spoon into crust; chill
until firm. (Can be made ahead. Cover
and refrigerate up to 24 hours.) Makes 8
servings, 160 calories each. End

Thanksgiving on the Light Side de-
veloped by Eileen J. Negrycz.

COMMUNITY COOKBOOK

continued from page 82

uinutes. Remove from heat. Stir in

ssonings. Add ¥% cup lemon juice;

1. In small bowl soak grape leaves in

cup water 15 minutes; drain. Dry,

‘| side down, on paper towels. Trim

| discard stems.

»o stuff grape leaves, spoon a heap-
} teaspoon rice mixture in center of
| side of each leaf. Fold outer parts

sard center; roll up. Do not roll too

atly. In deep saucepan arrange rolls
> by side in layers. Combine 1% cups
rer, Y2 cup oil and % cup lemon juice;

pour over rolls. Place an ovenproof
plate on top to prevent rolls from un-
winding. (The liquid should cover the
rolls.) Bring to a boil over medium
heat; cover and simmer 45 to 60 min-
utes or until tender. Add hot water as
needed to prevent sticking. Serve at
room temperature or chilled. Garnish
with lemon slices. Makes about 50,
about 60 calories each.

LEEK PETA (PRASOPETA)

pictured on page 80

2¥2 cups leeks (about 1 [b.)
3 tablespoons finely chopped fresh

dill or 1Y%2 teaspoons dillweed
Y4 teaspoon salt
6 large eggs
Yq cup grated Parmesan cheese
1 cup (8 oz.) cottage cheese
¥Y4 cup (6 oz.) crumbled feta cheese
5 tablespoons olive oil, divided
Ye teaspoon pepper
6 tablespoons unsalted butter
16 sheets filo dough

Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease a 13x9-

inch baking dish; set aside. Rinse leeks
very well. Cut off green portion. Finely
chop white portion of leeks. Add dill
and salt; let stand 5 minutes.

In large mixer bowl (continued)

171

COMMUNITY COOKBOOK
continued

beat eggs; add cheeses and 3 table-
spoons olive oil. Mix well. Stir in leeks;
sprinkle with pepper.

In small saucepan heat butter and 2
tablespoons olive oil until butter is
melted. Layer half the filo sheets,
brushing with butter-oil. Pour leek
mixture evenly over filo. Layer remain-
ing filo sheets over leek mixture,
brushing each layer with butter-oil.
Brush top with butter-oil. Using a
sharp knife, score top layer of filo into
1%-inch squares, being careful not to
cut into filling. Bake 50 minutes or un-
til golden; cool slightly. Slice peta, fol-
lowing original cuts. Serve warm.
Makes 54, about 55 calories each.

YOGURI-CUCUMBER DIP
(TZATZIKI)

pictured on page 80

1 medium cucumber

2 cups plain yogurt

2 garlic cloves, minced

1 small onion, finely chopped

1 tablespoon olive oil

1 tablespoon white vinegar

1 tablespoon chopped fresh dill or
1 teaspoon dillweed

Peel cucumber, quarter lengthwise and
remove seeds. Grate and squeeze to re-
move excess moisture. In small bowl
combine all ingredients. Cover and re-
frigerate at least 24 hours. Serve cold
with chips, crackers or raw vegetables.
Makes 242 cups, about 5 calories per
tablespoon.

CHEESE TRIANGLES
(TIROPETAKIA)

pictured on page 80

2 cups (16 oz.) small curd cottage
cheese
2 cups (8 oz.) crumbled feta cheese
3 eggs
Dash white pepper
1 pound filo dough
1 pound butter, melted

In medium bowl] combine cheeses, eggs
and pepper; blend thoroughly. Cut filo
sheets into thirds, each measuring
12x5¥4 inches. Prepare 1 strip at a time,
covering remaining strips with damp
cloth to keep from drying out. Brush
entire strip lightly with melted butter.

Fold lengthwise into t! Spread a
heaping teaspoon cheese mixture on
corner nearest you; fold corner over to

form a triangle. Continue folding in tri-
angles down the full length of strip to
make one multilayered triangle. Re-
peat with remaining strips.
made ahead. Wrap with foil and f
Do not thaw before baking.)

Arrange triangles on a buttered |

172

ing sheet seam side down. Preheat oven
to 350°F. Brush with melted butter;
bake 25 minutes or until golden. Serve
warm. Makes 70 appetizers, about 75
calories each.

EGGPLANT DIP
(MELITZANOSALATA)

pictured on page 80
Olive oil
1 medium eggplant
2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice
1 tablespoon vinegar
1 tablespoon finely chopped parsley
2 garlic cloves, minced
1 cup plain yogurt
1 package (3 oz.) cream cheese
1 teaspoon salt
Y4 teaspoon pepper
1 tablespoon bread crumbs
Parsley, for garnish

Preheat oven to 375°F. Brush 13x9-inch
baking pan with 1 teaspoon olive oil.
Cut eggplant in half lengthwise; place
in pan cut side down. Bake 45 minutes
or until soft. Cut eggplant into pieces
(including skin). In blender combine 3
tablespoons olive oil, lemon juice, vin-
egar, parsley, garlic and eggplant;
blend until smooth. Add yogurt, cream
cheese, salt and pepper; blend thor-
oughly. Add bread crumbs and blend
until smooth. Cover and refrigerate
overnight. If top is moist, blot with pa-
per towels. Garnish with parsley. Serve
as a dip with crackers, potato chips or
raw vegetables. Makes 3% cups, about
10 calories per tablespoon.

SEAFOOD PETA
(THALASSINI PETA)

pictured on page 80

10 sheets filo dough
Y2 to Ya cup unsalted butter, melted
Filling
1 tablespoon butter
8 ounces shrimp, shelled and
deveined
Y3 cup white wine
4 ounces Kasseri or fontina cheese,
cut in Y4-inch cubes (1 cup)
Y3 cup finely chopped green onion
Y3 cup chopped parsley
Y2 cup heavy or whipping cream
1 tablespoon all-purpose flour
2 eggs, slightly beaten

Brush bottom and sides of a 9-inch pie
plate with melted butter. On bottom of
pie plate layer 1 filo sheet at a time,
brushing each with melted butter. Let
edges extend about 2 inches over edge
of plate. Trim to shape of plate with
scissors. Roll edges to form a lip, like
pie crust. Use additional butter to
moisten and shape filo.

Filling: Preheat oven to 350°F. In me-
dium saucepan melt butter and saute
shrimp until light pink. Add wine and
bring to a boil, stirring frequently. Re-

move from heat. In medium bow! cor
bine shrimp, cheese, onion and parsle:
Place in filo-lined pie shell. In mix
bowl combine heavy cream, flour an
eggs; beat until smooth. Pour ove
shrimp mixture. (Can be made aheac
Freeze. When solidly frozen, wrap i
foil. When ready to bake, remove fo
and bake unthawed at 350°F. 50 mir
utes or until top is slightly browned.)

Bake 40 minutes. Let stand a fe
minutes before slicing. Makes 6 se
ings, about 410 calories each.

FETA CHEESE SPREAD
(FETA MEZES)

pictured on page 80

8 ounces feta cheese, crumbled

1 package (8 oz.) cream cheese

1 tablespoon milk

2 large garlic cloves, crushed

1 tablespoon finely chopped parsley
Y2 teaspoon oregano
Ye teaspoon thyme or 142 teaspoons

finely chopped fresh thyme
Freshly ground pepper

In food processor process feta cheeg
until creamy. Add cream cheese an
milk; process thoroughly. Add seaso
ings; process until smooth. Refrigerat
at least 1 hour. Serve with crackers, toa!
rounds or raw vegetables. Makes 2 cup
about 45 calories per tablespoon.

APPETIZER MEATBALLS
(KEFTETHAKIA ME OUZO)

pictured on page 80

2 slices white bread, trimmed of crusts
and torn into small pieces
Yq cup ouzo
Y4 cup plus 3 tablespoons olive oil,
divided
Ye cup finely chopped onion
1 pound ground beef
1 egg
1 tablespoon finely chopped fresh
or 1 teaspoon crumbled dried mir
Y cup finely chopped parsley
2 garlic cloves, minced
1 teaspoon salt
Y2 teaspoon oregano nO
Ye teaspoon pepper
Ya cup all-purpose flour

In large bow] soak bread in ouzo at lea h
5 minutes. In large skillet heat 3 tab
spoons oil; add onion and saute un he
translucent. Transfer to bowl wi
soaked bread; add remaining ingr
dients except flour and remaining oi
Knead thoroughly. Shape into 1-in! h
balls; roll in flour to coat lightly. |
In large skillet heat ¥s cup salad of
Cook meatballs over medium heat 8 #
10 minutes, shaking skillet occasio
ally to brown evenly. With slott
spoon, transfer meatballs to ovenprc¢ bch
platter; place in warm oven while coo
ing remaining meatballs. Makes ¢
about 70 calories each. E

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rcumstances,” Helen Kaplan dis-
rrees. “Telling a woman never to pre-
nd to have had a climax, when she
is simply been tired or tense, is unre-
istic,” she says. “Obviously, consis-
ntly faking it is counterproductive.
ilsehood destroys intimacy and
ust.” But when a woman occasionally
es not climax, for whatever reason,
id her partner asks her if she did, she
ight just wish to avoid telling him,
pecially if she knows that he is feel-
g sexually insecure. A man cannot
ll whether a woman has climaxed.

How to find

a sex therapist
if self-help techniques are not effec-
ive in solving sexual problems, pro-
fessional therapy may be warranted,
nut here, too, therapies and tech-
niques are changing.

Masters and Johnson work to-
zether with each troubled couple
and recommend that all sex thera-
xists work as teams. The husband
und wife, separately and together,
see therapists of both sexes for two
‘soncentrated weeks at the Masters
ind Johnson Clinic in St. Louis.

Most therapists today have modi-
ied this technique. Dr. Helen Kap-
an, for instance, has found it is not
iecessary to have two therapists.
\t the Payne Whitney Clinic, which
he heads, a therapist is matched
vith the patient, not necessarily of
he same sex. “Each person’s thera-
seutic needs are different. If you’ve
.ad a hostile relationship with your
ather,’ Dr. Kaplan explains, “you
aight do better with a female
/herapist.”

_ Other second-generation thera-
ists—among them Philip Sarrel,
1.D., and his wife, Lorna, co-direc-
ors of the Sex Counseling Program
t the Yale University Health Serv-
ses —who use the team approach
elieve that it’s generally better for
1e couple to remain at home and at
vork while they are in therapy. In
1e Sarrels’ experience, most cou-
les require from fifteen to twenty
2ssions over a three-month period,
uore with.complex disorders. Un-
kke Masters and Johnson, who con-
mtrate therapy in a period of two
peeks, Dr. Kaplan and the Sarrels
thedule sessions once or twice a
peek. One final caveat: Before con-
hulting a therapist, be sure he 6r

What are multiple orgasms? The sim-
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of experiencing an almost unlimited
number of climaxes, one right after the
other, though men are not. Yet multiple
orgasms can vary from a series of mi-
nor pleasurable contractions of equal
intensity to a series of small orgasms
that lead to an ecstatic peak. Some
women enjoy multiple orgasms rou-
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no right or wrong way to have sex.

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orgasms. It is time, then, for women to
stop questioning—and start enjoying
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* MONDAEE:

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And we have the dreams of a restless
people.

Ihave three hopes for our future. First,
I see a future eee and opportunity
for all who woe and play by the
rules—not just to im “ptere the future for
individual Gears but to enlarge the
future for all Americans.

For example, when I selected Ger-
aldine Ferraro to be my running mate,
it wasn’t because she was the best
woman for the job. She was simply the
best. She earned that nomination—
through effort and a dedication to ex-
cellence. Opening that door of oppor-
tunity gave America more than a great
future Vice-President. It gave new
meaning to the American promise:
That our achievements will be limited
only by our efforts and our dreams.

Today, our Constitution and laws
make us the freest society on earth.
But we must fulfill the promise of
America for all our people if we are to
open the doors to a better future.

We must fulfill our promise that race
and gender will have nothing to do with
success. Today, for example, women are
earning fifty-nine cents for every dollar
earned by men. That problem calls for
pay equity laws, and as President, Ill
work to enact them. Pay equity isn’t
just an economic issue. It’s an aging
issue—because pensions are often
based on wages. It’s a poverty issue—
because women are the fastest-growing
segment of the poor. And, most impor-
tant, it’s an issue of human dignity.

We musi act on our promise of equal
rights for American women. At my sec-
ond inaugural, I want to raise my right
hand and swear to preserve, protect
and defend a Constitution that includes
the Equal Rights Amendment.

Finally, we must protect those prom-
ises in the U.S. Supreme Court. The
next President may have the oppor-
tunity to appoint a majority to the Su-
preme Court—and I want to make sure
that majority is one that understands
what justice is all about.

When I look to a future of fairness,
it’s not based on abstract theories.
Rather, it’s based on what I’ve seen in
my own life, and the issue of women’s
rights provides a good example.

I can’t say I've shared the experi-
ences of America’s women—l’ve never
been told that I can’t belong to a club or
train for a career because of my sex.
But I have listened to and learned from
women. I’ve talked with widows and
divorcées who must suddenly build new
lives for themselves. ['ve met secre-
taries who should be heading their cor-
porations. And I’ve listened to young
women tell me how they face oppor-

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tunities their mothers and grand-
mothers never dreamed possible.

I’ve also watched my daughter, El-
eanor, start out on her career, and
hoped that she—no less than my sons,
Ted and William—would have oppor-
tunities equal to her dreams. And I’ve
seen my wife, Joan, grow and change as
a result of the women’s movement. She’s
staked out her own profession and has
become a stronger person in her own
right. ’'ve had to change, too. But as a
result, our marriage has grown strong-
er, and our family has grown closer.

That’s why I reject the notion of
America as a jungle, where only the
richest or the fittest survive. In the fu-
ture I would lead us toward, America
would be a family, one in which we care
for one another and open the doors of
opportunity for one another.

Second, I see a future in which we
have a community of jobs, growth and
prosperity. For that to happen, the
United States must have stable, long-
term economic growth. Everything we
want depends on it.

To a child, economic growth means
the promise of a quality education. To a
new graduate, it means landing a good

job. To a young couple, it means the
opportunity to own a home. To an un-
employed worker, it means the chance
to live in dignity again. To farmers and
entrepreneurs, it means new markets.
And to our nation as a whole, it means
the ability to compete in a changing
world economy.

To ensure that economic growth, we
must first put America on a sound fi-
nancial footing. Long-term growth isn’t
something we can buy on credit—but
that’s what these massive, $200-billion
budget deficits are. As President, I will
chop those deficits and move us toward
budgetary balance.

Next, we must stop fearing economic
change and start making it work to our
advantage. I believe we must revitalize
our basic industries and encourage our
emerging high-technology industries. I
will take several steps to accomplish
both, including investment in equip-
ment and training, a tougher trade pol-
icy and a program to repair our roads,
bridges and ports.

Finally, we must invest in our future—
and the best investment we can make is
in education. As President, I will lead a
renaissance of learning, training, science
and research. This next generation of
Americans must be the best educated in
history—and as President, I'll make sure
they are.

Third, I see a future in which America
makes the world community safer by
standing for peace, strength and free-
dom. During this campaign parents have
told me about their children’s fears of
nuclear war. And I’ve listened to young

women anguish over whether, in a worl
with fifty thousand nuclear warheads
they should have children at all. I belie
it is time to build a future in which we a
guided by hope rather than by fear, andi
which the sleep of our children is
broken by nuclear nightmares.

To build that future, America must b
strong, and we must use our strength t
keep the peace. We must stand ups fo
human rights in the world again.
concern must run from the terror ae
Russian gulag to the jails of the Latin
American generals. We must shun dic
tatorships of the right and the left—an
stretch out our hand to democracies.

Above all, we must do everythin
possible to freeze those dreadful n
clear weapons before they destro
everything civilization has created
Certainly, the Soviets are dangerou
adversaries, and all arms con
agreements must be mutual and ver
ifiable. But we must stop growling af
the Soviets and start talking with them
or we may not have any future atall. §

During this campaign, I’ve had thi
good fortune to talk with thousands «
Americans: from den mothers to grang
fathers, in factories and fairground
and from Little Rock to Long Island
That kind of communication—betwee
the people and those who seek to repre
sent them—is as American as our flag
And it has enabled me to hear people
stories, their concerns, their ideas, a
their hopes and dreams for America
future. No experience could be mo
valuable or more rewarding.

If there is one group I’ve enjoye
meeting and talking with most, it if)
America’s children. Every so often, PB
make a point of going into a classroor
or day-care center somewhere along mi
travels. Partly I lecture, but mostly
listen. And what I heard a few mont.
ago at a school in Saginaw, Texas, sti!
sticks in my mind.

Like all youngsters, the fifth grade
I talked to that day were full of ques
tions. But these children’s questions af
revolved around our future. They aske
me whether pollution would ruin ou
lakes and streams; whether we coul|
stop the rise in drug abuse; wheth
robots would prevent them from ge
ting jobs; and whether nuclear wa
would destroy our entire planet.

There are many reasons I want to b
President, but the most fundamentz
one is this: I share those children’s cor’
cern for our future. And, as President,
want to lead America toward a bette
future—a future that will live up toa
the potential and promise that I saw if
their young faces.

My message to all Americans—ré@
gardless of party—is this: If you sharf!
that dream, join me, and we'll builf
that better future together. Eni)

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continued from page 148

Je have the freedom and opportunity to
weet great challenges and to better our
ves. And in 1980, we knew that with
yurage to face our problems and to chart

new direction, we could make a new
eginning. It hasn’t been easy or quick,
ut I believe we’re coming together again
1 a great national renewal.

We’ve knocked inflation down and we
itend to keep it down. From Maine to
alifornia, a powerful economic expan-
on is creating a rising tide of jobs and
rosperity. Between November of 1982
nd July of 1984, nearly seven million
mericans found work. This nation has
reated more jobs, at a faster rate, than
ny other industrialized nation on earth.

Just as we’ve given our economy new
rrength, we’ve begun to rebuild Amer-
a's defenses so we can remain secure
nd hold out the hope of freedom. Mo-
ale among our men and women in uni-
rm is up, and America is being re-
pected again as a force for peace, lib-
rty and dignity.

Today, our country is back on her
et, facing the future with confidence.
ut we still face crucial challenges that
e must meet as a nation. The first is
ey to the kind of life we want for our-

selves and our children—economic
growth. An expanding economy under-
lies all our hopes. This is the platform
for prosperity and opportunity for all.

To give you an example, economic ex-
pansion is helping create greater eco-
nomic independence for American
women. Among adult women, employ-
ment has risen to an all-time high. And
the kind of jobs women hold are improv-
ing. In 1983, women filled two thirds of all
the new jobs in managerial and profes-
sional fields. Because inflation is down
and credit is available, small businesses
are prospering. And the number of busi-
nesses owned by women is growing four
times faster than the number of those
owned by men.

My fervent hope is that our economy
stays healthy and that the nightmare
of runaway prices never returns. Here,
again, is a challenge for us to bring
more common sense to federal budget-
ing. Families can’t forever live beyond
their means and neither can the
federal government. There’s been talk
in Washington for some twenty years
about balanced budgets, but too little
action to bring them about. That’s why
I favor a constitutional amendment
forcing the Congress to spend no more
than it takes in.

I believe that increasing personal in-

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centives and rewards and making our
tax code more fair for individuals and
families are the keys to opening wider
the golden door of opportunity. We
passed the biggest tax rate reduction
for all Americans since the Kennedy
tax cuts in the 1960s. Without it, a typi-
cal family’s tax bill would be $1,100
higher this year. We’ve also tried to
help by reducing the marriage penalty,
increasing the child-care credit, and
virtually eliminating the inheritance
tax on a family farm or business for the
surviving spouse. All this has helped
revive the spirit of enterprise, but more
must be done.

To enable you to keep a greater share of
your hard-earned income, to help you put
aside savings for your future, we want to
reform our tax code—make it more sim-
ple, more fair, so your personal tax rates
can come down, not go up.

A strong growth economy is vital to
help us meet our second great chal-
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inventors like Thomas Edison and his-
toric reformers like Susan B. Anthony,
we Americans have always been pi-
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our classrooms, making our factories
more efficient, and creating new fields
like robotics and biotechnology. With
these breakthroughs come new oppor-
tunities in medicine, space exploration
and scores of other fields. If we keep our
economy strong, keep investing in our
future, women will enjoy new oppor-
tunities, while helping lead America
toward progress in fields like scientific
research, communications and the pro-
duction of life-saving medicines.

As we reach for the stars, basic val-
ues and truths will sustain us. I’ve al-
ways believed families and family val-
ues are the foundation of America’s
goodness and strength. We have the
great privilege of standing for some-
thing very noble and inspiring. Faith,
work, family, neighborhood, freedom
and peace are for us more than words;
they describe our character.

Our future is our children. And their
future depends on education—one area
in which I believe we have begun to see
a return to basic values. In recent
years, discipline in our schools grew
lax. Basic subjects were neglected. Par-
ents learned that their children were
drinking and using drugs on school
grounds. Nancy has worked tirelessly

180

to bring the drug problem to the atten-
tion of parents and teachers and to
awaken our children to the danger.

As President, I’ve worked hard to
bring the crisis in our schools to the
forefront. Working as partners, I know
we can make a difference. We've seen
progress in math and reading scores.
But there's still more to do.

Some say the solution is more federal
involvement and money. Well, then,
why was the 600 percent increase in
federal spending on education between
1960 and 1980 accompanied by a steep
and steady decline in Scholastic Apti-
tude Test scores?

I think parents know that the prob-
lem has less to do with huge sums of
money than with getting back to
basics. We can’t expect our children to
lead us forward if they lack a solid
foundation in English, mathematics,
science and history. We can’t expect
young Americans to master computers
if they’re strung out on drugs. But they
can and will rise to academic excellence
if we insist on high standards, and put
you, who are parents, back in the right-
ful place of running our schools.

As I look ahead, I hope for a world

nade safer by our strong, shared com-
mitment to basic values and needs.
Just as we had to face up to a pattern of
violence overseas, so, too, we had to

confront a wave of crime here at home
that left our streets and neighborhoods
unsafe and our families afraid. All too
often, the rights of innocent victims
were ignored, while habitual criminals
got off scot-free. In the years before we
took office, violent crime rose 50 per-
cent; no one seemed safe from crime,
and women were especially vulnerable.

We're trying to reaffirm common
sense values—that say right and wrong
matter; that say individuals must be
responsible for their actions; and that
say, yes, punishment must be swift and
sure for those who prey on the inno
cent. And again, we can make a dif.
ference. We have already. Last year, re
ported crimes showed their sharpest
drop in the history of crime statistics.

Unfortunately, the major part of our
legislative initiative against crime
bail reform, tougher sentencing and
major reforms to crack down on drug
trafficking—still remains bottled up i
the House of Representatives. These re
forms are badly needed and constitu
tionally sound. To make America safe
now and for our future, this package
must be enacted.

The last great challenge is one tha’
as both a President and a grandfather,
feel very deeply about and I know yo
do too—the challenge of building ¢
lasting world peace.

In my State of the Union address las
January, I tried to send a messag'
through the censors to the Soviet peo
ple. I tried to give them a message fro
the heart of America—that we are peo
ple of peace; that if their governme
wants peace, there will be peace; an@
that we can come together in faith an
friendship to build a safer, far bette}
world for our children. That is my deep
est hope, and that is why we have olf
fered the most sweeping proposals i
history, not just to control nucleag
arms, but to reduce them and work tq
ward the day when they can be ba
ished from the earth.

During this campaign season, I’ve a
tended many events at which a ba
played our national anthem. Now, sincf ,
becoming President, I’ve heard quite
few national anthems. But it’s struck
me that I’ve never heard one that enc
with a question, the way ours does. Yo
remember it: We’re asked at the end @
the anthem whether we can still se
our flag flying over the land of the fre
and the home of the brave.

That’s a question we need to ag
every day, because it’s up to us to ma
sure America remains the source of a’
the dreams and opportunities she w:
placed on this good earth to provide. W
can do that. If we remain true to o1
heritage, and true to one another, v
can be confident that America’s be
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HIS BEST FRIEND

continued from page 67

Some couples can communicate well
enough in private, but are quite diffi-
dent about their feelings for each other
in public. In a social setting they ap-
pear so casual about each other that
people wonder if they’re getting on. It
may seem like an opening for someone
to come between them. It’s good to let
your posture and eye contact tell the
world that you are close, and that you
claim each other. This is certainly not
the place to settle disputes or make in-
vidious comparisons. And it’s more fun
to flirt with your own man than with
anyone else at the party.

Conflict is normal

Even if you present a united front to
the world, you must still remember
that in the best relationships, some
confrontation is inevitable. (To expect
otherwise is to live a fantasy.) There
are fights that make things worse, and
those that resolve issues and bring peo-
ple closer. To tip the scales in favor of
the latter outcome, it’s best to avoid the
pointing finger, the accusing tone and
the guilt-provoking indictment. If you
succeed in playing prosecutor or aveng-
ing angel, you also succeed in making

OFF-PRICE SHOPPING

continued from page 137

4. Shop by item, not by store. As our
comparison pricing chart (page 136)
shows, the same store may carry a bar-
gain in classic white shirts but actually
be higher in price on their dresses. If
you really want to save, be prepared to
hop from one store to another.

5. Look everywhere in a store and fa-
miliarize yourself with its layout. Mix-
and-match items are often separated in
off-price stores, so you may need to
search for matching pieces. Examine
tops and bottoms to be sure they are
from the same dye lot and really match.
8. Clothes are not always put back on
the right racks, so check racks for two
sizes larger and smaller than your own.
Check again before you leave.

7. Try on anything that has possibili-
ties. Sale clothing often has little
hanger appeal.

8. Don’t wear jewelry when you shop; it
only gets in the way and you risk losing
it. Wear flat shoes that slip on and off
easily, but bring a pair of heels if you’re
looking for evening clothes.

§. Be prepared for communal dressing
rooms. If you’re modest, wear a one-
piece teddy or leotard. It will cover you
nicely and give you a smooth body line.
W®. Shop with a friend whose opinion
and fashion sense you trust—you’ll
save money as well as time since if

182

your partner feel small. Maybe that’s
what he deserves. After all, he’s made
you feel bad. But why not tell him just
that? Your pain and your distress will
induce enough guilt without further
embellishment. He may even have been
unaware that something he does, or
omits doing, makes you feel abandoned
or neglected. Take the risk of revealing
your vulnerability instead of covering
it with invective.

Even if you manage to communicate
honestly, trying to resolve a serious griev-
ance can seem futile, and can make both
of you irritable or discouraged. Those are
trying times, but they’re not the end of
love—they’re just a part of your feelings
for each other. The biggest mistake is to
allow it to feel like the end of everything.
Remember, there is always another side,
another way to feel. Look out for state-
ments that begin with “You always” or
“You never.” These telltale words signify
an intention to exaggerate a bad feeling
out of all proportion and serve to intro-
duce the unhelpful accusatory stance. Be-
gin your complaint with “T feel. . .” rath-
er than the accusatory “You .. .”

Keeping the fun in sex

Finally, be his best friend as well as
your own by keeping the fun in sex.
Don’t make it a routine obligation.

you're the same size, two people can
cover a store in half the time and swap
clothes in the dressing room.

IL Hit the discount stores only when
your needs are general (some skirts, a
few tops) and time is not at a premium.
If your clothing requirements are very
specific—that is, you definitely need a
light-blue blouse to match your suit—
then head for a department store. Even
though off-pricers carry a much larger
selection than the old-time discount
warehouses, you can never be sure ex-
actly what is in stock at a given time.
22. Define what you mean by a bargain.
For some, 10 percent off the retail price
is a good buy, though others won't even
look unless the tag says less than half.
If an item is over your budget, leave it!
13. Buy in quantity when you find sig-
nificant savings. Pantyhose and under-
wear don’t go out of style.

14. Don’t feel that a reduced item isn’t
as good as one for which you paid full
price. Concentrate on the merchandise,
not the price tag.

1. Don’t balk at having bargain items
altered. Many women feel that dis-
count clothes aren’t good enough to be
altered. They are, as long as the money
and time involved don’t negate the bar-
gain. (See tips 19 and 20, below.) —

16. Examine a garment carefully, since
imperfect items are not always prop-
erly marked. Are all the buttons and
snaps there? Has the fabric faded in

reese

When you take your pleasure, he en
joys it more. Think about what's fun for
you; find out what’s fun for him. Try
find times and places that will add ex-
citement to your intimacy. Keep it play-
ful, and don’t forget surprise.

As you develop physical and emo:
tional closeness, learn to enjoy all th¢
roles you and your partner can play
You can be kids together—cavorting
and giggling. Or each of you can be
come in turn the beloved parent or th
playful child, the wise counselor, teache
or nurse. How about seducer, mistress
pal, playful adversary? These basic com
binations and permutations of relatin
keep love from becoming a bore. Bindin:
it all together are two mature adults
very much in love. Why look elsewhe
for variety and excitement?

All of this is possible if you trust yo
self and if you have your own identit
and he has his. Love between equa]
rests on a solid basis of ego and sel
respect. To be his best friend, you mus
first be your own. Nourish your self-e;
teem, and help protect and cultivate hi
Then you will have the courage need¢
for genuine intimacy and emotionj
openness. You can dare to reveal the hig
den corners of your souls, and doir
so, you will find new wonders to admi
and enjoy together. Er

spots, especially around the shoulderfy
Are there any snags or pulls?

17. Know when you're being pressure
It may be an off-price store, but th,
doesn’t mean the salespeople arej.,
getting a commission. el
18. Shop with few expectations. Ba)
gain-hunting means picking up wh¢
there, not worrying about it if it’s nop,
18. Check for fit. The following pr¢-
lems would involve alterations eitlp!|
too unsightly or too involved to mafy},
the purchase worthwhile: The garme
is so large it must be taken in m@:
than one size; a jacket, dress or coathy
too big in the shoulders; a skirt or tr
sers have prominent hip pockets a
must be taken in (pockets will meet
your derriere!).

20. Keep in mind that if alterations
necessary, leather, suede, cotton, s
gabardine, velvet show stitch ma
2L Check for stains. Lipstick and o
makeup can usually be removed. B
the garment is very badly stained ¢
you have no idea what caused it o:
the stains are from a ballpoint or f
tip pen, don’t buy it.
22. Be a sport. If you’ve never tried
an outfit with a slashed label in a ce
munal dressing room and waited §
the crowd to give you thumbs uff? |
down, then you’ve missed one of life’s }
pleasures. What's stopping you?

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mention the lack of simple civility
and possessed of an insatiable appetity
for whatever might once have bee
thought unsavory, crude, crass a
even decadent. At a moment in histo
when we are supposedly becomi
more conservative, more mindful of erf
during values, our popular culture
becoming flashier, trashier, more
gar and exploitive.
In the words of Amitai Etzioni, r
nowned sociologist and author most r
cently of An Immodest Agenda (McGra
Hill, 1983; paperback, 1984): “We usé
to have a culture which said that the
things were outrageous, that we would
touch them. Such material has alwa
been around, under the table. But nq
we bring it out into the open. The pre
alence of this in our society resu
from a certain coming apart of norms
And this is not a simple instance
teenage rebellion, with the grown-
shaking their heads and asking w
the world is coming to. David Elki
psychologist and best-selling author
The Hurried Child (Addison Wesl
1981) and All Grown Up and No Pla
to Go (Addison Wesley, 1984), says,
think most kids, adolescents, tend to
conservative themselves, with discri
nating powers and good judgmé
about what is quality and what isn
There seems to be no great divergey
of taste between todays younger amy
older generation. In contrast, w r
“Elvis the Pelvis” first gyrated on i
Ed Sullivan Show on September §j,
1956, and was decorously shown of/#
from the waist up, that was becausefi\:
was the kids’ wild and sexy idol, iy
the more staid adults didn’t approve
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cluding jeans ads, are more sexugia|
suggestive than Elvis ever was. Ait
such media stars as Boy George, a s#e
styled drag queen, appear on TVBy
well as on the covers of magazi i
meant for general audiences. 4 hh
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the-editor section of a popular celeb§e)
weekly, reported with amazement {iv
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elements is unsettling, it is poss
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and adults alike seem to be tough]
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t and often undesirable output of
today’s instant information society—is
living in a world of its own creation,
quite apart from the actual life Amer-
icans are living in the eighties.

Even so, the communications indus-
try clearly does not exist in a vacuum.
Ours is a capitalistic society that con-
tinues to produce material only if it is
profitable. If tastelessness abounds, that
is because large numbers of Americans
are willing to pay for tasteless products.
“Blame the people,” says Jerome Kagan,
the eminent Harvard child psychologist,
with no-nonsense bluntness. “Don’t
point the finger at the producer, be-
cause he’ll do what the people want.
The government is not imposing this.
The power lies with the purchaser. Sup-
pose every American parent said he
would not take the children to the next
Spielberg movie. Spielberg would
make different movies. He’s out there
to make money, so why blame him?”
Jack Valenti, president of the Motion
Picture Association of America and the
originator of the industry’s rating sys-
tem, points out that “there are no G
films because there are no G audiences.
Why do you think Disney organized a

new division of distribution called
Touchstone [which produces films that
are not G-rated]? People are hypocriti-
cal about this. Producers give the pub-
lic anything they want.”

And Sandy Bodner, publicity director
for Ballantine Books, publishers of the
widely imitated Truly Tasteless Jokes,
says, “The book was published in Au-
gust 1982, with almost no publicity sur-
rounding it. What happened after that
took place in the marketplace. By Feb-
ruary 1983, it hit The New York Times
best-seller list. It was not published as
a big book. It was definitely a word-of-
mouth success story.”

The clash between our professed
moral values and our taste in entertain-
ment is baffling, but Dr. Etzioni offers a
twofold explanation. “There was a gen-
eral coming apart of morals in the six-
ties and seventies, what I would call a
moral retreat,” he says. “Authority fig-
ures and institutions were debunked.
Watergate is part of it, but it much
larger than that—we lost respect for
fatherhood, motherhood, patriotism,
the church, labor leaders, professors,
physicians, lawyers. There was a con-
centration on one’s pleasures, and it has
been rather a long, hedonistic party. Odd-
ly enough, that is now being exhausted,
and there is a reconstruction. It will go

back halfway. But the media will be t!
last place you see the change.”

Why? That is the second part of
Ktzionis theory. “People suffered fro
regulation in the marketplace,” |
says. “So we started deregulating: ti
airlines, the banks, the telephong
Now people are hostile to the idea
any regulation. We try to let everybo
be his own judge, every communi
make its own decisions, whatever t
result. Along with this, you have t
access explosion, twenty or thirty cha
nels on your dish or cable TV, for exa
ple. Control is much more difficult.
you have thirty-six channels, you’
going to get a blue channel. So, yes, t
media will eventually clean up th
act in response to the moral pendul
swinging back in society, but the med
will be the last to do so.” |

Yet if Dr. Etzioni cites the looseniff
moral standards of the sixties and s@m
enties in explaining the tastelessn@
of the eighties, psychologist Da
Elkind would take us back even ftp
ther, to the thirties and forties. He I
lieves that a misinterpretation —
Freud’s theory of repression is at th
root of much of our current chaos. “Ty
notion was that if you got rid of repr}
sion, everything would be great, everyaf:
would be free and happy,” says Dr. Elkiy

Now we see that this individualistic
sychology, with its emphasis on peak
xperiences, was a lot of garbage that
'an rampant for decades. We need our
alationships, in personal life and in
yeiety as a whole. We can’t let every-
ing hang out and expect to grow and
rosper. We’re slowly coming out of this
ong period of narcissism, but the lega-
7 is what we’re dealing with in bring-
ig up our kids, and I blame my own
rofession for a lot of the problem.”
Interestingly, in the same way that Dr.
lkind is willing to find his profession
ulpable, many of today’s adults are quick
: point to their own youthful excesses.
ne thirty-three-year-old father, who
3ked that his name not be used, says,
jure, I’m what they call an aging hippie.
| xcept now I have a wife, a decent job, a
muple of kids ’'m crazy about. Call mea
ypocrite, but I don’t want them doing
} ugs or sleeping around the way we did.”
§ Indeed, this father speaks for most
irents. Concern about the effect of our
ash-and-trash culture on children,
#wever media-wise the youngsters
ight appear, is widespread. And as
1e mother of two teenage boys ob-
i rved, “It’s not so much my sons’ mor-
s that I believe are in jeopardy. I’m
lloset because they’re being corrupted
7 crass commercialism. They seem to

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think anything goes, as long as it
makes tons of money. And they keep
hearing how much money some movies
make, whether they’re crummy or not,
and how much money some stars make,
whether they can sing or not. That dis-
turbs me, and we talk—and fight—
about this a lot.”

Certainly, children as young as ten
or eleven will readily point out that
grossly gussied-up stars have a good
gimmick going for them, and that they
are making a whole lot of money, and
what is wrong with that? Dr. Elkind
believes most kids see Michael Jackson
as “the Horatio Alger of today, not the
sex symbol of today. The financial suc-
cess is what has the appeal, not so
much the physical appearance or even
the music.”

Kids also seem to know that the pur-
veyors of pop culture are trying to out-
do one another in terms of violence and
gimmickry in order to get attention in
an ever more glutted—and jaded—
marketplace. As horror movies become
more horrifying, rock videos more ex-
plicit, pop stars more outrageous,
youngsters want to look, listen and pay
for the latest, yet do not seem to be
unduly affected by what they see.

Indeed, even social critic Marie
Winn, author of Children Without

Childhood: What Has Happened to
Childhood Innocence? (Pantheon, 1983;
Penguin paperback, 1984), who la-
ments the loss of an era when children
could be protected from adult concerns,
concedes that “if the family situation is
all right, one could exaggerate the po-
tential for harm of this whole informa-
tion society. I don’t think seeing a
tasteless TV show or movie or reading
a dirty joke book is going to have such
an impact on children who have con-
cerned parents and supervision. If a
child sees something about sex or abor-
tion, you're not going to be an ostrich
and say, ‘Let’s not discuss that; let’s go
play with your dolls.’ One deals with
the situation in a way that is appropri-
ate to the child’s age. What happens in
the media is still not as important as
what happens in the child’s real life.
You could think of the TV show as pro-
viding an opportunity for teaching.”
This comforting idea that popular cul-
ture is not pure poison is echoed again
and again by experts and laymen alike.
As Dr. Kagan says emphatically,
“Watching a TV program or going to a
movie is not like inhaling asbestos.
The effects are not as insidious and
irreversible. Parents can and should
intervene and discuss what the kids
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isn’t part of the family’s valuesystem.”

Madelyn Greenberger, thirty-four, of
Winnetka, Illinois, agrees. She is a
clinical social worker whose husband,
Jeffrey, thirty-five, is in real estate de-
velopment. They are the parents of a
six-year-old daughter and a two-year-
old son. “My daughter and all her class-
mates love Michael Jackson,” Madelyn
says. “They bring the records to school
and they’ve seen the video of Thriller.
They dance and do the motions. And
they’re at an age when they’re trying
to form their sexual identity. But I still
think parents are the major influence.”

Other parents concur. Nancy Allison
Wright, forty-six, and her husband,
Bruce, fifty, of Seattle, Washington, al-
low their thirteen-year-old daughter,
Elisabeth, only one hour of television
per day. “I don’t tell her what she can or
can’t watch,” says Nancy, “and it upsets
me when she watches those male-chau-
vinistic MTV videos. But we talk about
what she has watched.”

On the other coast of the country,
thirty-two-year-old Marybeth Walsh, of
Huntington, New York, has similar stan-
dards. She is the mother of twelve-year-
old Amanda, eleven-year-old Nathan and
eight-year-old Aaron. “My husband Pe-
ter [thirty-seven] and I are not permis-
sive,” she says firmly. “We have stri
rules. No TV on school days, three ho
a day on weekends. We ease up a litt
the summer, but we know what
watch and we discuss the shows.”

And Polly Bannerman, thirty-ni
Burke, Virginia, mother and part-t time
document researcher, also has TV
for Kimberley, eleven, and
nine. She and her husband, Graeme,
thirty-nine, a professional staf
ber of the Senate Foreign Relations

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188

Committee, talk with their daughters
about many topics that were not dis-
cussed in their own families in the
1950s. But Polly adds another piece of
parental strategy: “Our girls are so
busy, they barely have time for televi-
sion and all the rest of it. If they are
exposed to any media stuff, it’s soap
operas. They watch with me. General
Hospital is on right after school. At
first I was concerned, but we talk about
everything. We’re so much more open
than our parents were with us, and I
don’t know what you could do to keep a
child from being exposed to the sex and
violence of the media today, short of
putting her in a convent.”

The experts tend to agree that shelter-
ing a child is not possible these days, but
they do feel that parents should not see
this as a sign that there’s no need to take
charge at all. Jack Valenti says, “The

movie rating system is meaningless un-

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less parents exercise parental respon-

sibility. And no government agency, no
censor board, no great white father in the
White House is going to save a child from
some kind of social misconduct if the
parent doesn’t give a darn.” Similarly,
Richard Heffner, chairman of the movie
Classification and Rating Administra-
tion, which was set up in 1968, says,“Re-
member that ‘PG’ doesn’t mean ‘pretty
good.’ It means ‘parental guidance sug-
gested.’ And, yes, I firmly believe parents
should at the very least read reviews or
ask other people about films before tak-
< children to them, and I don’t think it’s
oo much to ask to have parents preview a
film. And if they take kids to anything
other than G-rated films, they'll have to
talk about what goes on.”

This sounds at first like a stern ad-
monition, but in fact the frankness be-
tween today’s parents and children may
be the silver lining to the cloud of taste-

LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL * NOVEMBER 1984

lessness. According to Peggy Charrenj
president of Action for Children’s Tele
vision, a Boston-based organizatioi
dedicated to bettering children’s pra!
gramming, “Parents have more pres
sure on them today to talk to childre¥
about things early. After all, childre®
find out things early. The evening T¥
hours are filled with stuff that used to b
saved for male stag parties. So you can}
say, well, Pll deal with that tomorrow, lik
Scarlett O’Hara. You have to talk aboup
getting pregnant, about sexual abus¢@
about nuclear war, everything.”

Yet Charren does not see this ne
need for openness as bad, and she, likp
the overwhelming majority of Ame
icans, is staunchly opposed to censo¥
ship. “I think that as a democratic soc
ety, we have to be careful not to end up!
censoring in an effort to protect chifi
dren. That’s as least as scary an idea ¢

learn about sex with love. But reall
it’s not sad or terrible to have to tal
with a little child about big topics. R®
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childhood never was so wonderful ari

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lessness. But the trick is to talk with chiir
dren openly and effectively.” ki

Interestingly, most people seem to haf
a touching faith that today’s parents 2 :
particularly equipped to do just thd

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“The parents of today are different frofe

boomers are more mature, and manypie
the mothers are older when they hats:
children. They have careers, they qt;

spable people, and they are willing to
:al with tough topics in an appropriate
ay with their children.”

While virtually everyone agrees that
irent-child interchanges are a salu-
ry aspect of today’s information-satu-
ted society, a number of people do
gorously advocate going beyond
rely talking things over within indi-
‘dual families. They favor speaking
t publicly against material that is
ily objectionable. “One thing I en-
unter all over the country,” says Dr.
kind, “is a tremendous sense of impo-
ice among people, as though they
nt have any control anymore. We
‘1 we’re much less in charge than we
or were before, as though everything
m TV to food additives is getting us.
: have to stop that way of thinking
d exercise the control we do have.”

n the same vein, Dr. Kagan says, “If
vre revolted by what five-year-olds
): watching at five-thirty P.M., stop be-
ring so passively. If the populace of
insylvania wanted to, they could ban
how by referendum. Remember, sev-
} | years ago, the Supreme Court said
| t the community could decide what it
ild permit in its neighborhood.”
4fary Catherine Kilday, assistant
ef of the Enforcement Division in
# Mass Media Bureau of the Federal
/nmunications Commission, confirms
Kagan’s point. “A complaint would
most efficacious if it were lodged at
local station. That is the way to let
sadcasters know what the audience
thinking about specific program-
#ig. Back in the mid-seventies, a fa-
#c complained about a radio show
t included the ‘Filthy Words’ mono-
gpae by George Carlin, and it was
xd indecent. I don’t know whether
ple complain anymore or not. I sup-
2 a few people do.”

djsut not enough, it seems. Perhaps,

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we have brought this slippage of stan-
dards on ourselves by losing sight of
the simple but stirring phrase with
which this country’s Constitution be-
gins. “We, the people .. .” As Gene F.
Jankowski, president of the CBS
Broadcast Group, said this year in an
address before the Federal Communi-
cations Bar Association annual meet-
ing in Washington, D.C.: “I think we
tend to forget how revolutionary this
idea was. The people were being cred-
ited with the wisdom and decency and
courage to direct their own destiny.
They had made a covenant with them-
selves; they freely gave power to each
other with faith that it would lead to a
common good. Virtually all of the polit-
ical philosophy, and certainly the polit-
ical practices of the past, had been
based on the reverse of this premise.
When they were mentioned at all, ‘the
people’ were scorned as an ignorant,

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irresolute and unworthy rabble whose

role was to be led—and nothing else.”
That is something of a clarion call to
all of us. We should muster the courage
to make our opinions known. We can
make a difference. A case in point is
the “PG 13” movie rating, which was
instituted last July 1 in order to flag
certain films as not suitable for chil-
dren under thirteen. Interestingly,
Jack Valenti says, “I never was in favor
of that change. However, most theater
owners wanted it, most big producers
wanted it, and then when Steven
Spielberg, who is probably one of the
most prestigious filmmakers in the
world today, lifted his voice, saying
there ought to be a new category, I was
almost isolated. So I went along with
this.” And even as he bowed to public
pressure, Valenti pointed out that
“each generation has to face new social
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the spontaneity and the instantaneous
aspect of communications. It’s all there,
and it’s all available, so we simply have
to be more responsible.”

The majority of the population, in
fact, probably welcomes that respon-
sibility. As Dr. Etzioni says, “I wouldn’t
say our society is decadent—that
makes me think of the last days of
Rome, or Berlin in the thirties—but
you'd be surprised if you look all across
the country. There are adult bookstores
nationwide, even in the Deep South,
where you'd least expect them. But in
most communities, people know such
things are inappropriate. The tempta-
tion is always to assume that the prod-
uct mirrors the culture that produces
it, but this has not necessarily proven
to be the case. Most of us are not dec-
adent. We are good citizens.”

But as such, we need to remember
and act upon what Theodore Roosevelt
once said: “The first requisite of a good
citizen in this Republic of ours is that
he shall be able and willing to pull his
weight.” Dr. Kagan, expanding on this
notion, says with inspiring forceful-
ness, “The American people are not
being active enough. This is a democ-
racy, so we don’t want censorship, but
the price is that we have to take charge
ourselves. Imagine a boycott. The trash
would end tomorrow.” In other words,
as parents, consumers and citizens, we
already possess the power to make our
popular culture more nearly reflect the
true character of our country today.
Now all we have to do is judiciously
exercise that power. End

How do you feel about these tasteless
times? Please send your opinions to Box
TT, Ladies’ Home Journal, Three Park
Avenue, New York, NY 10016. We will
publish a report on your responses in a
future issue of LHJ.

189

LOVE AND WAR
continued from page 113

farm couple, and rode like a Tatar to-
ward the south. Ambrose had to spur
his steed just to keep up with him.

Though ordered north to battle soon
after, Charles's cavalry did not arrive in
time to back up General Beauregard at
Bull Run. But the entire Hampton
Legion was invited to share in the vic-
tory celebration at Richmond.

The Spotswood ballroom littered
with braid and jewels and lights that
shone on yards of Confederate bunting.
Young women, many quite beautiful,
laughed and danced with the officers,
who outnumbered them three to one.
But there were also unexpected diver-
sions. A burly lieutenant with the be-
ginnings of a beard hurtled over.

“Fitz, you look grand!” Charles ex-
claimed. Fitzhugh Lee, nephew of Rob-
ert E. Lee, had been his close friend at
West Point.

“Not so grand as you, Captain,” Fitz
said, emphasizing the last word.

“Don’t hand me that. I’m captain of a
motley collection of gentlemen sol-
diers.” Charles saw a major request a
dance from a full-bosomed blond wear-
ing pale-blue silk. It was Augusta.

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Charles and Fitz strolled to the re-
freshment bar. Charles was excited to
see Fitz again, but his glance kept
turning to Augusta. She was dancing a
gallopade with the same major.

Fitz startled him by whispering, “If
she’s the one you want, go after her
now, or the night’ll be over before you
have anything to show for it.”

Wondering why he felt so anxious,
Charles maneuvered his way around
the floor. He waited until the music end-
ed, then went charging to her side.

“Will you dance with me, Augusta?”

She smiled, taking Charles’s arm.

“That man had feathers for a brain
and feet of lead,” she said as they
whirled their way across the floor.

Charles felt the airy lightness of her
silk against his sleeve.

“Feathers and lead—that isn’t Mr.
Pope, is it?”

She blushed, which stunned him. “I
never meant to be so prickly.”

“Nevertheless, I approve of you.”

Did he unsettle her with his atten-
tions? His own attraction to her defi-
nitely unsettled him. Still, she felt soft
and exactly right in his arms. They
waltzed past a group of officers; Fitz
Lee applauded him in pantomime.
Charles kept her as a partner the rest
of the evening, then escorted her back

“Just the best ones.

to her boarding house. His sword bumpe
lightly against his leg as they walke
The streets were quiet, empty of all b
occasional carriages bound home fro
the ball.

When they reached the dark stoo
she took a step up, bringing her ey’
level with his. In a far steeple, a be
chimed the hour. The night was wart
but he felt warmer. Her right har
closed tightly on his.

“Will you promise to come visit me
the farm, when you can?” she asked.

“Even if I forget and call you Gus?

She looked at him, bent to hif
Blond curls bounced softly against h
face. “Even then.” She kissed him
the cheek and ran inside.

An inner voice insisted: Be carefi
cavalrymen must travel light. But ¥
felt tall as a house and whistled as §
strode off toward the railway station.

Charles knew it was important whf
he was summoned after tattoo aj
found his colonel, Wade Hampton,
well as a major waiting.
“There is no point in wasting word
Hampton said. “Major Butler is in
ceipt of a petition from members
your troop. They have requested an
election of officers.” a
“Signed by how many men, sir?”

“More than half the troop.”

“God above.” Charles managed a
ugh. “I knew I wasn’t well liked, but
,at makes me sound like a Yankee.”

“You are an exceptionally good of-
cer—” Hampton began.

“T agree,” Butler said.

“But that isn’t the same as being a
ypular one. I thought I should ask you
here you stand.”

“Begging the major’s pardon,” said
harles, “the number of signatures
iarantees I'll lose. I'll have to find
|;me other way to serve.”

Hampton spoke quietly. “I appreciate
] the qualities that make you a fine
| ficer, Charles. I suspect it’s your disci-
|ine that precipitated this, since so
any in the Legion still fancy them-
lves Carolina gentlemen.”

Hampton's voice rose emphatically. “I
‘not want you lost to this command.
|e were impressed by the work you did
} outing with Pell and hope you might
|nsider leading Abner Woolner and a
; uad of scouts farther north.”
|Hampton leaned forward. “It’s the
Jost dangerous of our mounted duty.
4aly the best can handle the job.”

; Charles pondered, but not for long.
411 accept on one condition. Before I

art, ’d like a short furlough.”

Even though the rejection hurt, and

would for some time, Charles felt set
free. His military passport stated that
he had permission to travel to the vi-
cinity of Fredericksburg, subject to the
discretion of the military authorities. If
that discretion had somehow proved an
obstacle, Charles would have put the
spurs to Sport, jumped over the au-
thorities and taken his chances.

As he crossed the miles to Spot-
sylvania County, his eagerness to reach
Barclay’s farm only increased. At last,
he saw the sturdy stone house and
barns on the north side of the road.

“There’s smoke coming out of the
chimney!” he yelled, with only the
gelding to hear it. The main house had
a look of age and strength, behind a
pair of ninety-foot red oaks that must
have sprung up wild. They looked like
excellent climbing trees.

He left his horse with the freedman
out at the barn, and as he clattered up
the kitchen stoop, spurs jingling, Gus
came to the door. She gasped, and a
flour-white hand flew to her chin.
“Charles Main! Is it you?”

“So my passport says. I am respond-
ing to your kind invitation to visit.”

“Come in, come in.” She had been
stirring batter, and took him into the
kitchen. “Let me look at you. Are you
all right? I hear there may be heavy

fighting soon.” She looked flushed, or so
he thought. Only the fire in the great
hearth illuminated the room. “I was
worried when I didn’t hear from you.”

“Didn't I tell you I’m a bad letter
writer? But now I can stay until tomor-
row morning, if it’s all right with you.”

“Of course it is,” she said. “But first,
it’s a bath for you.” She prodded him
with a spoon, determined as any ser-
geant drilling a recruit. “Now, scat,”
she said. He left, laughing.

After he’d had a hot bath in her zinc
tub with a cake of homemade soap, Au-
gusta showed him her fields and build-
ings in a leisurely ramble on foot. They
spoke of many things: conditions in
Richmond, where she would sell pro-
duce in the fall, and the army. She told
him a little about life with her first
husband—he had died of influenza; he
hadn’t approved of her love of poetry
and music; they had wanted a child.
Augusta’s presence drew Charles out of
the dark inner places where he had
dwelled of late.

For dinner she roasted a round of
beef. By the light of the hearth, she and
Charles ate one of the best meals he
had ever tasted. There were thick slices
of browned home-grown potatoes and
hot corn bread so unlike the army’.
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Field Editor: Ruth Reiter, Atlanta, Georgia.
Pages 138-139: Red wing chair, armchair and ottoman from}
Zells*. Blue camelback sofa from Pearson*. Drop leaf coffee tab!

in Palace Arms Red #47-1058; Insets: Drop front secretary iq
Deep Teal #53-2206, love settle bench in Honey #47-1105, a
from Habersham Plantation Corp Primitive art, “Mary Jan
Smith” by Stock, Item #K-800 from Zells*. Red kilim pillows o!
sofa and settle bench from Rattanworks*. Blue pillows and blu:

(inset) all from Bettye Wagner, Antique Store of Marietta, 8
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decoy and blue plate on coffee table, checkerboard and grapevini
wreaths on mantel, pantry boxes, all china and pottery on secre
tary, (inset) baskets on blue bench, blue and white quilt on settl
and rocking horse all from Pat Walton's Antiques, Powde}
Springs, GA 30073.
Page 140: Banquet table in Honey #37-1221, hoop back Windso
chairs in Deep Teal #43-2607, hunt board in Palace Arms R
#23-2035, all from Habersham Plantation Corp. Art by Davii
DeAngelis, from Rattanworks*. Red and white quilt (variation o:
Swallow's Flight, late 1800's) on chair, dishes, crock, decoy, baske
with apples, and pitcher on table al] from Pat Walton's Antiqueg
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tray and basket on hunt board, striped rag runner in front of hun
board, bread basket and green basket with flowers all from Bett:
Wagner, Antique Store of Marietta, 81 Church Street, Marietta
GA 30060. Red and white rag rug beside table from Gra
Taught Us How, 1921 Peachtree Road N-E., Atlanta, GA 30309.
Page 141: Hand-painted wedding chest #17-2120, chest on fra
in Honey #17-2148, hoop back Windsor chair in Deep Tes
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stool in Palace Arms Red #47-1058 (night table) all froy
Habersham Plantation Corp. “Palmetto” green and apricot be
linens by Laura Ashley for Burlington Mills. Pinwheel quilt o
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Granny Taught Us How, 1921 Peachtree Road N.E., Atlanta, G.
30309. Framed sampler, oval weave rug on chair and blue pitch¢
on night table from Pat Walton's Antiques, Powder Springs, G.
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her about his reassignment to Butler's scouts.

Solemnly, her blue eyes fixed on his. “That’s very dangerous

“But less trying than leading men who want to go fift
ways at once, Gus.”

“OQdd—” a log broke in the hearth; and shadows move
sinuously over the walls, the stove, the handmade shelve
holding her dishes. “I can almost listen to that nicknam
without cringing.”

Charles felt pleasantly tired, his muscles loose, his bod
warm, his heart almost content. “It’s been a wonderful day,”
said. He wanted to follow her as she stood up from the tabl
and sweep his arms around her. It wasn’t only propriety thé
prevented him, but a silent self-spoken warning about tim
and place and the circumstances that had brought them togethe

“IT suppose ['d better turn in,” he said. Going to her,
leaned down and this time he was the one who gently kisse
her cheek. “Good night, Gus.”

In the morning, he rode away after breakfast. Gazing ové
his shoulder at the dwindling figure against the backdrop
the stone house and the two red oaks, it seemed impossib
to deny his feelings any longer, but he told himself he
better try. In wartime, no man could make a promise to
woman with any certainty of keeping it.

By the ninth of September, 1862, the hot light of late sun
mer was hazing the rolling country. Autumn was coming o
The leaves had not begun to change color, but Charles ws
already afflicted with the melancholy of the coming seaso
He had sent three letters to Barclays farm in rece
months and received no reply. After his visit, Gus had se
him a present, a volume of poetry by Alexander Pop
Charles kept it in the leather bag of valuables that hu
from a cord around his neck under his coat.

Robert E. Lee maneuvered his divisions in Maryland, reaq
to strike—clear to Pennsylvania, some said. But below t
line, over the hills, McClellan was slowly, steadily pursui
with Federal troops, coming out in force from Washington.

On the sixteenth of September, Brigadier Hampton deploy
all of his regiments behind Stonewall Jackson at Sharpsb

Sharpsburg proved a small, green village in pleasant co
tryside with a few hills but none of the peaks found along t]
Potomac. By dark, Lee’s armies lay quietly along the Sharq
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knew where else. Some woods at the left of the line had lookg,,;
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peared regularly, rolling from those suspicious woods. In tf"!
midst of Old Stonewall Jack’s men, Charles fired, reload€ |
shouted—helped repulse that charge that cost the Yanke§ 4
almost five thousand men. i |

Charles found himself among madmen as the day wore gp;
soldiers in gray, beserk with fear. He never saw the man wii.
shot him. Something struck his chest. He looked down and s¢ ;
asmall hole to the left of a button. He unbuttoned the shirt at
lifted the leather bag. It, too, had a hole, though not on th
reverse side. The ball had been stopped by the book. a

The day ended with both sides facing the long night f"4
searching for survivors. Pickets held their fire. Cand} li
moved across the fields and through the woods, like the lasts}
summer’ fireflies. Charles saw ambulances roll away wif \;
their cargoes. He saw the improvised pavilions where s¥ |.
geons pushed up their sleeves. ss

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in his mind. It would be a more horrible war than anyone h
dreamed, totally without the punctilio of that remote d
when the Yankee lieutenant accepted his word as (continug

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continued

an officer and a West Point cadet that
Augusta wasn’t in the farmhouse. It
seemed to him that gentlemanly life had
completely disappeared, along with the
splendid black horses he had once seen
and the brave shouting lads like Ambrose
Pell he had led in that springtime he
wanted to remember, but could not.

Not until December did Charles ride
back to Barclay’s farm again. Although
the cavalry had been camped nearby, it
was his first opportunity for a visit. An-
ticipation put a smile on his face and
helped banish the memories of Sharps-
burg that were with him so often.

As Charles approached the house, he
noticed two horses tied to the pump,
a gleaming icicle at its spout. Who
could be visiting at this hour? He dis-
mounted in the center of the road, led
Sport to the side and tied him to a fence
rail. Maybe he was imagining things,
and Gus would laugh at him later when
the visitors turned out to be friendly
neighbors. But he held still, standing
near the house, listening.

No ordinary visitors would be out ona
night so brutally cold. He slipped off his
spurs, his heart beating frantically. Lis-
tening in the winter silence, he heard
from the back of the house, the kitchen
side, the sound of a slap. Then brittle,
vicious laughter. Backed against the side
of that building, he finally knew how
much he loved Gus. So deep was the re-
sult of that emotion, his fear for her if
she were in danger, that he could hardly
move. He turned his head toward the
road. There were those two great oaks.
Could he climb up to one of the dormer
windows and enter the house unheard?

He threw a leg over a limb and pulled
himself up. From there it wasn’t so
easy. He went on with what seemed
like excruciating slowness and nearly
fell three times. Save for the stars and
the crescent moon, the sky was black
from horizon to horizon.

“Holy hell,” he whispered, gambling,
finally letting go and flinging both
hands for the dormer. His knees banged

| on the roof; the sound would probably

be heard all the way to the Floridas.

He pulled up a window far enough to
swing through into the chill dark of some
cobwebby place. When his vision ad-
justed, a pale oblong of light showed the
stairs. From the kitchen he heard laugh-
ter again, then blurred words from Gus.
She sounded angry. Next, a smacking
sound. He almost felt the blow himself.

At the bottom of the stairs, he slid
into the warm hall. To the right was the
kitchen doorway.

“You just keep quiet, Missy. I wouldn’t
want to have to bruise up a pretty little

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Reb like you.” The voice was distinct.
“Meant to ask you, Bud. You ever been
with a woman?”

“No, Sarge.” That voice was light; the
speaker was younger.

“We'll change that pretty quick.”

Charles lunged through the doorway,
pistol cocked, spying the two Yankees.
Neither wore a uniform—scouts, then,
like himself. The nearest, a blue-eyed
youngster, screamed and banged out
the door to the yard. The older man was
reaching for Augusta’s bodice as she sat
tied to a chair. He turned and started
out the door with Charles in hot pur-
suit, the pistol aimed at his back. Pale,
Augusta gazed at him, unable to coun-
tenance what she saw.

“Charles, Im all right. Nothing’s
happened. Let him go.”

They heard horses whinny, the riders’
weight on them suddenly. The Yankees
went clattering toward the road.

He grasped her shoulders, leaned
down. “You certain you're all right?”

A small nod. “When you storme
through that door, I thought Id take
leave of my senses.”

“T sent letters.”

“I got them. I sent some, too. Did yo
get them?”

“Not a one. But look.” He pulled th
leather bag out from under his shirt.

“You’ve kept the book with you al
this time?” Her smile vanished. “Th
book was hit. That’s a bullet!”

“Mr. Pope saved my life at Sharpsburg.’

She burst into tears and threw he
arms around him. “What have you don
to me, Charles Main? I love you.” Sh
reached up, pulling him down to a kiss

Later that night, in the cave of warmt:
beneath a comforter, she slept agains
his shoulder. But Charles couldn’t eve
seem to doze. What he had done tonigh:
learned tonight, kept his eyes open an
his heart beating much too fast for
man in the soft aftermath of love.

He was fearful because his feeling
were no longer hidden. He had kno
that he loved her when he stood by th
house, paralyzed because he cared s
much. He knew he loved her when h
was prepared to kill in a place su
posedly safe from violence and all
the other spreading poisons of w
Maybe he ought not to be there. B
how could he be anywhere else?

He had been falling in love with G
since he first saw her. She was passio
and peace, merriment and contempl
tion. She was everything he had ev
desired in a woman without expecting
find it. Love and war were opposi
states, he knew, and he was inescapab
caught in both. He had no choice exce
to go forward, wherever the disparat
forces might carry them. He slipped hy)
arm under her warm shoulder and he ,
her close. Eri’

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CHILD MOLESTING

continued from page 118

well liked in the school district, the sex-
abuse charges only prompted other
teachers—and their union representa-
tives—to rally behind him. They wrote
letters to the local newspaper, defend-
ing Van Hook and discrediting the
girls. One co-worker circulated a list of
the students who testified against Van
Hook at the grand jury hearing, “so
[other] teachers could protect them-
selves.” Even the school principal con-
vinced one complaining parent that a
reported fondling was merely an en-
couraging “come on, get going” pat.

The cover-up and cross-accusations
devastated the girls. They were brand-
ed sluts and whores by the student
body. One of them was diagnosed as a
pathological liar and placed in a men-
tal institution. Another family was
forced to move to escape the taunts of
the students and teachers.

Finally, six years after Van Hook be-
gan molesting students, he was tried
and convicted on seven counts of inde-
cent liberties and perjury. But several
days before he was to be sentenced, Van
Hook committed suicide. Today the
Collinsville school district continues to
face lawsuits from the families of the
sexually molested children.

“The case was unbelievable—and
typical,” says Madison County State
Attorney Don Weber, who prosecuted
Van Hook. “The school district tried to
sweep away the charges and almost got
away with it. Now the kids are going to
have to live with scars from this for the
rest of their lives. It was a horror.”

The molesters

Who are the teachers, camp counselors,
volunteers and other adults who victi-
mize the children placed in their care?
Despite the popular myth, few fit the
“dirty old man in a raincoat” profile.
They tend to be under fifty and they
come from diverse social and economic
backgrounds. While only about 10 per-
cent are women, one of the most
heinous cases to date—Manhattan
Beach, California—involved a seventy-
six-year-old woman. More than 80 per-
cent of molesters were sexually abused
themselves as children. And many tend
to be weak, insecure people who need to
be in control of relationships.

“Child molesters have distorted
thought processes,” says William Hob-
son, acting director of the sex offenders
program at the state prison in Somers,
Connecticut. “They’re not mentally ill
as such, but they have defects in their
developmental process. Many are very
childlike themselves, and they actually
fear adult sexuality.”

It is also surprising (continued

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Fighting back: The
Children's Justice Act

There may be no cure for pedophilia,
but there are ways to reduce the num-
bers of child molesters who gain ac-
cess to children. Senator Paula
Hawkins (R-Fla.) will shortly intro-
duce the Children’s Justice Act,
which, among other provisions, will
call on states to pass legislation to
help identify child-care workers with
a history as sexual abusers. “The
measure,” says Senator Hawkins, “is
long overdue.”

Senator Hawkinss words come
from the conscience of a victim. Last
spring, the senator revealed that as a
five-year-old, she had been sexually
abused by a neighbor. The man who
molested her was arrested, but
Hawkins learned a tough lesson on
how the courts view the nonviolent
child abuser—a lesson that still ap-
plies. “He got off,” she says tersely. “I
can still remember the trauma of the
court proceedings and the hurt from
having my testimony ignored.”

The Children’s Justice Act would
encourage states to enact reforms to
reduce the trauma of child victims
during the investigation and prosecu-
tion of a sexual-abuse case, to improve
the chances for the successful pros-
ecution of child molesters, and to pre-
vent further abuses by requiring rig-
orous background checks—including
fingerprinting—of individuals who
work with children.

In spite of its unquestionably admira-
ble objectives, Senator Hawkins’ bill
will face an uphill battle for passage.
Civil libertarians have resisted past
legislative efforts to adopt more thor-
ough background checks as being an
invasion of privacy. And teachers’
unions have fought fingerprinting as
unfairly singling out their members.

To those who object to the legisla-
tion, child-protection advocates coun-
ter, “What about the civil liberties of
the children?” and argue that the ju-
dicial system is currently stacked in
favor of the abuser, not the victim.
Also, supporters of Senator Hawkins’s
legislation point out that in most
states, criminal background checks
are part of the licensing process for
dozens of professionals, including
lawyers, real estate agents, mortgage
brokers and bail bondsmen.

“If this bill helps us catch just one
guy, it’s worth it,” says John Walsh, of
the National Center for Missing and
Exploited Children, “because it also
means you'll have saved a lot of chil-
dren from being scarred for the rest of
their lives.”

Dear Reader:

I’m sure that you, like the editors
Ladies’ Home Journal, are shocked 4
this report on child molesters who
their positions of trust to prey on ot
nation’s youth. I know that you want
help screen out potential child-ca
professionals and volunteers who ha
a history of sexual offenses. That’s wh
I'm asking you to support passage
the Children’s Justice Act.

A copy of this article is being mail

to every member of Congress, but th
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below, sending one to your senator a

the other to us at the Journal. As Se
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from your readers, the better ou
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background checks for all child-car
employees and volunteers. No chil
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negligent in ensuring that its child
care professionals are morally fit. Thi
tragedy must be stopped.

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continued

that most child molesters are unaware
of the harm they are causing. They
often claim that their victims gladly
welcome the advances. They insist that
some “seductive” children initiate sex-
ual contact and that others cooperate
willingly. They may even justify their
actions on grounds that the children
“need” love because of neglect by their
parents. It rarely occurs to them that
after building up trust with a child,
they take advantage of it. It’s not until
they begin undergoing therapeutic
treatment that many child abusers
learn just how damaging the contact
can be. Some children never recover
from such childhood trauma.

“You have to point out to these
offenders that many of these kids will
be depression-prone and have sexual
dysfunction for the rest of their lives,
says Dr. Michael Cox, of Baylor College
of Medicine’s Sex Offender Program.
“The molesters can’t imagine having
such a thing happen to their own sons
or daughters.”

Most of the experts agree that there

is no cure for child molesters. But
like alcoholics, they can receive ther-
apy to help control their urges. There
are three methods of treatment that
are commonly used.
Psychotherapy: With the traditional ap-
proach, a therapist tries to gain in-
sights into why the child molester
pursues his deviant lifestyle. Programs
like the one at Baylor College involve
group counseling sessions in which
offenders discuss among themselves
strategies to resist the temptation to
abuse children and ways to better their
life-management skills.

MOLESTER’S STORY

continued from page 114

boys over a four-year period. One eight-
year-old complained of being sexually
abused while on an overnight drum
corps outing: A nine-year-old reported
that he’d been fondled on a day-care-
center trip to the town swimming pool.
After having sex, James had “his boys”
pose nude for his Polaroid ce found
a footlocker in his apartment that con
tained stacks of kiddie-porn
movies and photographs.

The story of Billy James is typica
the increasing number of sex offenders
who get to know their victims throug
their work as child-care professionals
and volunteers. How do such people es-
tablish secure footholds in our most
trusted institutions? A talk wit!
reveals just how easy he found ¢!

A pudgy, soft-spoken man with
cent blue eyes and shaggy brown ha

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Behavioral therapy: Some psychiatrists
believe the solution is to realign the
pedophile’s sexual orientation by de-
creasing his desire for children and in-
creasing his desire for adults. One tech-
nique involves placing the offender in a
semihypnotic trance to re-create—and
ruin—his usual sexual encounter.
Drug therapy: This is perhaps the most
controversial approach, involving the
use of drugs to reduce the sexual urges
of child molesters. Dr. Fred Berlin, co-
director of the Sexual Disorders Clinic
of the Johns Hopkins Hospital in Bal-
timore, reports that a large percentage
of men who molest children have a
higher testosterone level than the gen-
eral population.

Because complete rehabilitation is
rare, therapists agree that offenders
must be monitored constantly so that
they don’t revert to their abusive be-
havior. “The urges never go away com-
pletely,’ says Dr. Cox. “It’s a chronic
tendency that can be modified to some
degree but never erased.”

Because of the uncertain results,
some sex-abuse specialists are skepti-
cal about the value of any treatment.
They claim it is easier for child moles-
ters to impress therapists that they’ve
changed their ways than it is for them
to actually change. Bill Dworin, a Los
Angeles police detective who works
with the sexually-exploited-child unit,
recalls a letter he received from a for-
mer music teacher who was confined to
a psychiatric hospital for molesting his
students. “He bragged about how he
was fooling the doctors and telling
them anything necessary to gain an
early release,” says Dworin. “He even
took up photography in the state hospi-
tal so that when he’s released, he can
molest and photograph kids and, by

Billy James seems to radiate a guile-
less charm. For years he procured his
victims through the drum corps and
day-care center, enticing them to his
apartment, where he would begin fon-
dling them and progress to oral inter-
course and sodomy. He’d sometimes
feel guilty afterward and would try dat-
ing women. But contrition would even-
tually give way to desire. “I just felt
more comfortable with young boys,” he
explains. “It started twenty-four years
ago, and I guess I never outgrew it.

“T think it was an addiction,” he con-
tinues. “I never turned to dope or alcohol.
But if some kid came over, away we'd go.”

st how much that addiction
stemmed from his own childhood, Billy
James can’t say. Unlike most molesters
who were themselves abused as young-
sters, he speaks of loving parents, two
sisters and a home life “as happy as
anybody else’s.” At twelve, he began

erimenting with his budding sex-

processing his own film, not be caught
People like this cannot change.”

Such stories have prompted groups
like Society's League Against Mole
ters (SLAM) to push for longer prisor
sentences, if only to keep abusers awa
from children. Traditionally, judges
have been reluctant to send the chil¢
molester to prison, because sex offend
ers are likely to be beaten or rapec
by other convicts. Terming the nonvia
lent sexual abuse of children “a nuisane
offense,” they often sentence child mo
lesters to probation, requiring them
get therapy in the community.

But that reasoning disturbs the FB
Kenneth Lanning, who complains of
double standard. “Until we’re willing
accept the fact that molestation involve
psychological violence of the worst kind
the situation will never improve,” he says
“A guy who brutally rapes a child i
usually dealt with harshly. But the gu
who fondles and seduces a child usuall
gets treated lightly because people thi
he really didn’t hurt the kid.” Lanning§
voice rises in anger as he raps his fist 0}
his desk. “You're talking about betraya
Its bad enough when any adult has se
with a child, but when it’s a child's teac
er or camp counselor—someone t
child looks to for protection—that’s es
pecially damaging psychologically.”

While there may be no way to spot
child molester before he abuses a chile
we can still be on our guard. More rigo
ous background checks and more seve
sentencing may be only a part of whq@
we can do. And in the meantime, we
feel anger and outrage over what he
been done to innocent children, The e
perts may disagree about how best 1
treat child molesters, but one thing
certain—we must do more to keep mg
lesters away from children. "

uality, engaging in show-me-your
show-you-mine sessions of mutual maj
turbation with his pals. But as h
friends grew older and started dati
girls their own age, Billy James rg
mained attracted to prepubescent boy
“J always had this fascination abo
how a boy’s body worked. I don’t kno
why I didn’t move on.”

After high school, he began leading
double life. His first job was as
$21,000-a-year firefighter, and he spe
his off-duty hours around kids. Then]
became a teacher's aide at a day-ca
center. He recalls how he’d get an ere
tion when the preschoolers innocent
climbed over him in class. He start
driving a bus for the local school s
tem, which provided him with more q
portunities to be with children. But i
real source of pleasure was the dru
and bugle corps, which was open
fourth through twelfth graders. Why
a teen himself, James had (continue

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continued

been an active member in the corps,
playing several brass instruments and
also the bass drum. Therefore it appeared
natural for him, as an adult, to return as
a group leader. Soon he began seducing
boys from the drum corps’ ranks.

“T was never into group sex. It was
always one-on-one,” Billy James makes
a point of saying. “We’d start wrestling
and horsing around, and I’d feel him
down there.” He never pressed those
who protested, he claims proudly. “But
if there was no objection, I'd go further.”

Gradually, James began to drift away
from adult society altogether. “People
my own age always seem to want some-
thing more than you’ve got—a fancier
car, a better stereo. Kids can have next
to nothing and think it’s the greatesi
thing in the world.” At his apartment,
Billy James found it easy to entertain
the boys, letting them watch TV, cook-
ing them meals and occasionally invit-
ing them to spend the night. In his
sexual delusions there was no age dif-
ference, no power advantage, no viola-
tion of trust. He was oblivious
depravity. “I didn’t visualize myself a
a thirty-four-year-old guy hav
with kids,” he says. “It was just

202

no”

guys having sex. I didn’t think there
was any harm in what I was doing.”

Billy James admits to having mo-
lested at least twenty-two children in
the past ten years. There was no pat-
tern to his behavior. “I’d do it when I
was frustrated, I'd do it when I was ina
good mood,” he shrugs. There was also
no pattern to his choice of victims.
“Some of the kids came from broken
homes, but there was no set type I went
after.” He swore his victims to secrecy,
but some parents became suspicious,
and he quit one drum corps group when
a couple complained that he had mo-
lested their child. James denied the
charge, but later he admitted to having
sex with others in the group.

At one point James sought help from
a counselor. But the counselor, it
turned out, confessed he was himself
“a homosexual and had his own war
stories,” says James, laughing. Only
one friend, an occasional gay lover, had
any idea of James’ proclivities. His only
advice: “Be careful.”

Despite that warning, Billy James’s
molesting activities persisted. Finally,
two years ago, children began complain-
ing to their parents, and Billy James’s
secret world suddenly became public.
“The more kids they questioned in the
neighborhood,” he recalls, “the more

charges were brought up.” After two ti
als in early 1983, he received an eig
year sentence at the Somers Corre§
tional Institution in Connecticut. The
he tried to hide his crimes from fellof
prisoners. “I get a lot of harassment as
child sex offender,” he complains.

Today Billy James is undergoi
treatment in the prison’s 130-memb
sex-offenders program. He claims hé
gaining an understanding of what
simply calls “my hang-up,” and is slo
ly learning about the psychologic§
damage he has caused his victims. “
wasn’t until I got here that I realizedj
might be causing emotional harm,”
says. “I feel bad that I may have p
somebody through that.”

There is, however, no guarantee thi
James won’t molest any more childre
He will be eligible for parole after on
fifteen months in prison, which mear
that he could be back on the streets 4
soon as next April. Even he is worri4
about his future behavior. “There wi
always be this desire for kids,” he a
mits. “An alcoholic is always going 1
want that drink. In my case, it’s sexu
contact with a kid.” When asked wh
type of job he would look for he say;
unaware of the irony, “I like worki
with kids.” Sadly, there’s nothing
keep him from doing just that. Es}

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always served first. The food should be served around the
table counterclockwise, with the host served last. This can
take some time, depending on the number of people in-
vited, so the hostess should encourage the guests to
start eating before their food gets cold.
13. False. Dessert silver, which is not on the table but
brought in with the dessert plates at a formal dinner, need
~ not match the dinner silver, and after-dinner coffee spoons
are frequently entirely different. Knives and forks should
match unless you have a set of knives with crystal or
carved bone handles that may be used with any pattern.
China, too, may be mixed, but all plates for each course at
one table should match. Silver or glass butter plates or
glass salad plates may be used with any fine china.
14. False. The napkin should be laid to the left of your
place (or in the center if the plates have been removed) in
loose folds, not crumpled or refolded. The same is true if
for some reason you leave the table and then return during
the course of the meal. When you are seated at a formal
dinner party, wait for the hostess to put her napkin in her
lap before you do the same. Ordinarily you would place it
in your lap as soon as you were seated. When the hostess

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lays her napkin on the table, she is signaling her gu
that the meal is over.

15. False. You should remain where you are unless yo
have been specifically asked by the hostess to help. At
casual dinner, you should ask her if you can help. But
she declines, don’t pursue it. At a more formal dinn
party you should not even offer to help or to do the dish
Only if you are dining with very close friends or famil
should you try, unobtrusively, to lend a helping hand.
16. False. There is one exception to the rule. The shell
(or oyster) fork is placed to the right of the spoons
shellfish are to be served. No more than three of an
utensil are ever placed by the plate on the table (with th
exception of the oyster fork making four forks). Therefor
if more than three courses are served before dessert (se
dom, these days), the fork for the fourth course is broug
in at the time that dish is served.

17. True. A bouquet of flowers shows your hostess ho
much you appreciate her kindness. When you are not th
guest of honor, a verbal thanks when you leave is enoug
though a phone call the next day is always appreciated.
it is a very special evening, flowers sent later or a no
would also be very considerate.

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SHELLEY LONG

continued from page 99

their futures. “Some people, I guess,

are here to destroy themselves, and

that’s too bad. I worked with John
Belushi’s brother, Jimmy, at Second
City. I remember hearing about John’s
death on the radio. I was so upset and
angry. He was a gifted man who gave
meny of us moments of pleasure. It’s
since been a clear reminder to me of
how seductive success can be. Every-
thing is going so well, and it’s exactly

what you wanted it to be, and more.
And yeu think, Why should this stop?
You're getting tired, but there's all this
opportunity So you reach for what-
ever’s there our propensity
is, to keep 5 rstand how
those things h. yu don’t
stop every once li st, and

tune in to some inr: you
die. You either die i
the way John did, or y
itual way.”

Shelley, however, does 1
cumbing to the same syndrom
longer I’m in Hollywood, and <
more and more of myself, the moi
clearly I see how easy it is to take a
wrong step,” she admits. “But I’m deal-
ing with it, I see the danger,” she ex-
plains, “so I’m not afraid of it.”

If Shelley Long seems well-adjusted,
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it may be because she spends a lot a
time to make sure she stays that way
She is constantly seeking self-knowl
edge and striving for self-improvement

One of the ways she deals with th
danger of success is through psycho
therapy. “I’m sorry that our cultu
still regards therapy as weird and any
one who is involved with it as sick,
she says sadly. “When you are i
therapy, you’re taking a course o
yourself. And it’s a way of saying, In
important enough and I care abou
myself enough to spend some money
on myself!”

Shelley finds psychotherapy e
pecially helpful in teaching her how t¢
interpret her dreams. She writes hel
dreams down in a journal and ther
spends time analyzing or “amplifying
them. “Recently I had a dream about
king. As I was waking up, I heard ¢
very low, theatrical voice say, ‘Ozyman}
dias.’ I mentioned it to a group o
friends, and someone said, ‘Oh, thé
poet Shelley wrote a poem called Ozy!
mandias.’ Now I’m looking forward td
going to the library and researching
what Shelley used as the basis for his
poem. Then I can get a picture of whaih
the dream represents.”

As she speaks, Shelley sounds mor
and more like the analytical Diane
Chambers. But it is a Diane gone Cal!

Hornia, taken out of the academic
) oston environment and transplanted
» Hollywood to find herself. She con-
)nues, describing the variety of self-
)2lp techniques she uses.
“T started transcendental meditation
yout ten years ago,” she explains. “It’s
2lped me learn how to relax. I have a
) ndency to work too hard, and I found
, some of my early film work in Chi-
igo that I was revved up to high gear.
) hey would cut the camera and I would
ill be in high gear, and I'd stay that
Hay until the camera started again. I
editate for fifteen or twenty minutes
iree times a day. It just turns off my
2ad, which is nice.”
She also uses a Japanese healing
chnique called reiki (pronounced
key) to relax. “Reiki is a very sooth-
g experience, a very loving experi-
ice,” Shelley explains. “Like medita-
Yon, it’s helpful when I’m tired—it’s
nd of a booster for me when days get
‘ng. It’s also great for any kind of acute
ness, like a cut or a headache ora
omachache, and for chronic illnesses
se allergies and backaches.I know it’s
")ade me stronger, and I don’t react to
1 my allergies quite as severely.”
helley’s allergies include wool, house-
iid dust, cheeses and dairy products,
ry spicy foods, onions, mushrooms,
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rich and vibrant symphony, but she
claims that anyone can compose for
themselves just as skillfully; the key
is another mental technique called vi-
sual programming.

“If you want your family to grow up
happy and healthy and loving, visual-
ize them that way. If you want to create
a career, start a business, get promoted
in your job, whatever you want, see
yourself getting it,” she advises. “Visu-
alizing is built into the skills of acting,
but it’s taken me a few years to realize
that I can use it in my personal life as
well as I have used it in my professional
life. In essence, it’s a belief that there’s
goodness in the world and goodness in
the universe, and that a positive ap-
proach to life can generate more of the
positive. I know it sounds corny, but it’s
worked for me.”

Where does the actress visualize her-
self in ten years? “I'll still be working,
and I will have made some significant
contributions to my industry,” Shelley
says confidently. “And I will have a
family, of some size. I will still be
searching and growing and laughing
and loving . . . and learning how to do
all of that better. I see good things for
myself. And by doing that, by seeing
those things, that’s going to help make
them happen.” End

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dollar firm’s president and chief execu-
tive officer.

Now thirty-eight, Wachner is cred-
ited with developing innovative mar-
keting approaches and introducing new
cosmetics and fragrance lines that
have proved to be very successful.

How did Wachner, a widow, achieve her
goal at such a young age? “No matter how
bad things looked at any point,” she says,
“I shrugged and kept walking.”

The great communicators

There’s little doubt that women have
moved off the gardening and society

212

beats to the front line of news report-
ing. At just about any newspaper or
broadcast station today you'll see fe-
male crime reporters and foreign corre-

spondents, investigative sleuths and
political commentators.

But in the executive offices and
boardrooms of America’s great com-
munications empires, the female popu-
lation is still sparse. Women hold only
an estimated 11 percent of the key deci-
sion-making positions at all U.S. daily
and Sunday newspapers.

The situation is no brighter in broad-
casting. While women are rapidly mov-
ing up in the infant cable industry,
women in network broadcasting still
hold only 11 percent of all television and
20 percent of radio news director slots.
And we have yet to see the female equiva-
lent of Walter Cronkite.

The odds are good, however, that

women will soon make it to the togy
About 58 percent of today’s journalisn
students are women, and many of yes
terday’s students have already move
into middle management. And soon som:
of these hard-working journalists wil
surely break through to the senior execu
tive ranks.

An enterprising editor

One woman making front page news i
the journalism business is Mary Ann
Dolan, editor of the Los Angeles Heral
Examiner. She's the first woman to
the show at a major metropolitan dail
without owning it.

Because of her unique perspective, i
sues long relegated to the lifestyle s
tions of newspapers now make hea
lines at the Examiner. But whil
Dolan, thirty-seven, has greatly i
creased the newspaper’ appeal
women, she has certainly not forgotte
the rest of her audience. The paper wo
national acclaim, for example, for i
exposure of labor and health violation
in the garment industry’s sweatshop
And Dolan made sure that the story go
back to the people who needed it most—
the exploited sweatshop workers—by re
leasing the piece to a Spanish-languagi
newspaper and radio station.

“We strive to make the full connec
tion,” says Dolan, who is married. “Mak
ing a difference in people’s lives is a very
sacred process to me.”

The overseas connection

“I asked to come here,” says Lua
Spiegel, manager of the CBS News bu
reau in Beirut, Lebanon. “I had to se¢
this story unfold for myself.”

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60 Minutes, is now one of several wom
en stationed overseas for the networ
But few are in spots as hot as Beirut.

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the thirty-two-year-old Spiegel, who iJ
single. “You just keep your eyes wid¢
open. You take nothing for granted
And you never let your guard down
That’s how you live your life here.”

A cable pioneer

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was taking a big risk when she left the
established world of networks for the
fledgling cable TV industry. But for ar
ambitious woman, it seemed to make
sense. She had already been a radi
and television producer and didn’t se¢
much room for further advancement.

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sure the three major networks will still
be here by 1990,” she says. “But so will
cable television. We have changed
America’s viewing patterns for good.
And, I hope, for the better.”

The verdict on law

In paintings and sculptures, a woman
has always held the scales of justice.
But in the courtroom, men have tradi-
tionally wielded gavels and presented
legal briefs. Today, though, women law-
yers are finally beginning to make a
case for themselves. Women fill about
one third of the openings in law school
now, and close to 14 percent of the na-
tion’s 600,000 lawyers are female—a
200 percent increase since 1970.

Most impressive are the inroads that
women have made on the bench. If you
say “Here comes the judge” in the
United States these days, you’d be talk-
ing about a woman more than 17 per-
cent of the time. (That's triple the
number of female judges in 1970.)

Women are also making their mark
as trial and criminal lawyers. And with
women accounting for one third to one
half of all entering law firm associates,
firms are slowly granting their female
associates partnership status.

With equal rights becoming the norm
in the law profession, equality is more
likely to prevail in the- courtroom.
Women lawyers have already helped
raise the legal consciousness about is-
sues that affect women—sexual ha-
rassment, job discrimination and rape.
And men in the legal profession ' are
beginning to treat women—be they
witnesses or fellow lawyers—with
ever-increasing respect.

A judicial trailblazer

Martha Craig Daughtrey is most cer-
tainly a woman of firsts. She became
the first female assistant district at-
torney in Nashville in 1969. And six
years later, she went on to become Ten-
nessee’s first female judge to sit on an
appellate bench.

Her own success, however, has not
made her forget her commitment to
other women in the profession. This ap-
pellate court judge and forty-two-year-
old mother of one has, in her words,
“pushed and shoved” to have Tennessee's
first female trial judge appointed. She
also helped found the National Associa-
tion of Women Judges, of which she be-
came president this year. “It's not as
great to be first as to help get that second
and third woman in,” she says.

A partner—at home and at work

Marna Tucker has come a long way from
her law student days, when she was

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frequently berated for taking up space
that “should have gone to a man.” In
June, this forty-three-year-old Wash-
ington, D.C., attorney and law firm
partner became the first female presi-
dent of the District of Columbia Bar
Association, one of the country’s largest
legal associations, which has a mem-
bership of forty thousand lawyers.

Known as a top-notch divorce attorney
and a tough negotiator, Tucker is a part-
ner in the law firm she joined in 1973, and
foresees a day in the near future when
many more women reach that status.

Perhaps most refreshing, she doesn’t
think that lawyers must work twenty-
four hours a day to succeed. Married,
with two young children, she has al-
ways emphasized the importance of ing
tegrating the different sides of her life.
“IT don’t separate my work and my fam-
ily,” she says. “I want my children to
understand what I do.”

A tough D.A.

California’s only female district at-
torney inherited a formidable set of
problems from her predecessor whe
she took office almost two years ago.
Drug trafficking in marijuana was o
the increase in Mendocino County, as
was the violence that resulted from it.
But thirty-four-year-old Vivian Rack-
auckas has dealt with the problems in
courageous and definitive way, buildin
up an impressive record of successfu
prosecutions. “I hope I’ve turned the
office around,” says the youngest fe
male D.A. in the nation.

Rackauckas, the single mother of a
four-year-old son, is even prouder of her
record for prosecution in the area oj
child abuse. “Every convicted child mo-
lester has gone to state prison,” say:
Rackauckas, who tries to reeducat
“everyone from law enforcement of:
ficers to judges” about the issue.

The fine world of fine arts

In this century, there has been n
shortage of talented dancers and divas
But public recognition has not been
quick for the women behind the scene:
of the fine and performing arts—th
playwrights, composers, choreog
raphers, curators and other women o
taste and influence who help shape the
world of high culture.

Suddenly, however, women’s contri
butions in these areas are being take
seriously indeed. For two years, wome
playwrights have walked away with thi
Pulitzer Prize for drama, and las
year’s Pulitzer for classical music com
position went to a woman for the firs
time in the history of the prize.

At the same time, women have be
gun to take a bigger role in administr
tion, management and directing—ij
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ie boards, and even a long-time male
i tronghold like the American Guild of
i fusical Artists recently elected a
\ roman president for the first time in
) :s forty-eight-year history.
i With the help of commissions, grants
ind subsidies for promising artists,
|The Rise of Women” promises to be a
how with a very long run.

“The play's the thing”

) onvincing people that being a play-
| | | right is gainful employment is a diffi-
Jult task, but Wendy Wasserstein per-
I asvered: now her third major play, Jsn’t
|: Romantic, is an off-Broadway smash,
} ith a film version in the works.

| Wasserstein, a New Yorker known
| wr her believable characterizations and
}onderfully humorous and human sit-
ations, wanted to be a part of the the-

ter world ever since she accompanied
er mother to matinees as a child.
) Inschool, she realized that good mate-
‘} al was all around her. The result has
een five plays that are both amusing
nd thought-provoking. “Comedy is a
'} ay to take people in,” says the thirty-
‘}aree-year-old unmarried playwright,
‘} put underneath there is a seriousness.”

A noted music maker

nly a handful of people write classical
‘Niusic for a living, and forty-five-year-
id Ellen Taaffe Zwilich is one of them.
ast year, she not only made music, she
lso made history—by becoming the
“)rst woman ever to win the Pulitzer
| rize for composition.

+ An avid piano player as a child,
)wilich, a widow, says she always had
“)uusic in her head but didn’t start writ-

“jag it down until she was eleven. She
y ., layed the trumpet in high school, dab-
‘)led in jazz and went on to become the
‘}rst woman to receive a doctorate in
Tessosition at New York’s prestigious
gp ailliard School of Music.

Now at the top of her profession,
wilich is pleased with her success and
ith the breath of fresh air that women
“People who
‘}ave been outside a system always
ring a new view with them and create
healthy ferment,” she says.

King of the art world

| Whenever I talk to a group of women
“| iterested in becoming art museum di-
a sctors, I tell them that what they really
“heed most is a suit jacket and a tradi-
»onal wife,” says Lyndel King, forty-one,
irector of the University of Minnesota
rt Museum in Minneapolis.

| A former curator, King, who is mar-
te ed, joined the very select but growing
a | roup of female art museum directors in
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museums in the country.

But King is more of a people and art
lover than an academic. “I’ve always
been interested in how art and society
interact,” she says. “I never wanted to
be a hermit art scholar!”

A sporting chance

At the beginning of this century,
women were banned from all Olympic
sports but two: tennis and golf.

Happily, such exclusions are a thing
of the past. This year, ten women’s
events were added to the Summer
Olympics, opening up 35 percent of the

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sports, women are getting full credit as
star athletes. In tennis competitions,
for example, the total annual purse on
the women’s circuit has surpassed $13
million. Superstar Martina Navrati-
lova alone walked away from her grand
slam tennis win—Wimbledon, the
French Open, the U.S. Open and the
Australian Open—$1 million richer.
The surge in women’s collegiate
sports is also news. Thanks to the pas-
sage of the Equal Education Act in 1972,
about 30 percent of all athletic scholar-
ships currently go to women (compared
with only 1 percent in the beginning of
the 1970s). And while the (continued)

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power of that act, it’s hoped that the evey
increasing interest in women’ spo
plus the lobbying efforts of scores a
coaches, administrators and women’s ad
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Directing the action

When the women’s intercollegiate clu
sports program at the University a
Texas at Austin was launched in 1964
the operating budget was $700 for t
year. Today Donna Lopiano—one c
fewer than a dozen women to head
versity athletic departments—handle
a $2.2 million budget, and she has cre
ated a sports program that many othe
universities regard as a model.

“This is one university that’s totall
committed to women’s sports,” says thi
thirty-eight-year-old director of wome
athletics. “We aspire to excellence an
we've got the money to achieve it.” UT
performance record seems to prove he
point. Their squads consistently finis
among the top ten in regional and ne
tional competitions.

“As athletes, women are just begi
ning to hit their stride,” says Lopiand
who is unmarried. “Five years fron
now, you just won’t believe the action.

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Summitt, who is married, is
stranger to international medals. As
player in the 1975 Pan American Game
and the 1976 Olympics, Summitt was 0
medal-winning teams. From there, sh
“went right into coaching and neve
looked back.” The head basketba
coach at the University of Tennessee ha
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the Games,” she says. “I hope we've
reached out and made many more fans.”

Sporis psych

There's an old saying that “winning
isn’t everything.” And Robin Vealey is
one former athlete and coach who
wants competitors to believe it.
“Athletic success is ninety-seven per-
cent mental. Whether the competition
involves Little Leaguers or world-class
athletes, the anxiety and stress associ-
ated with the intense drive to win can
mar performance so easily,” says the
twenty-nine-year-old sports psychologist
for the U.S. Women’s Nordic ski team.

Such opinions might sound like
heresy to many male coaches, but
Vealey is sure that her philosophy
works. “The key to success is to keep
your mind on your own performance,
forget about topping someone else’,
and then watch what happens as your
self-confidence grows.”

The wonders of science

Not long ago, medical schools only
grudgingly accepted a small percen-
tage of women in each entering class.
And when you saw a woman in white in
a hospital or laboratory, she was usu-
ally either a nurse or a technician. Not
anymore. With the number of female
medical students tripling in the last
decade, this field is healthier now for
women than it has ever been.

All areas of science are opening up
for women. Engineering, once unheard
of for women, has registered the high-
est influx of all. Today about 13 percent
of all undergraduate engineering de-
grees go to women, compared with less
than 1 percent in 1970. And more and
more women are beginning careers in
space technology, as well as molecular
genetics, artificial intelligence re-
search and neurobiology.

Of course, as in other fields,
haven’t quite made it to the most pres-
tigious positions in their professions.
Women are still grossly underrepre-
sented on the faculties of medical
schools and make up only a small per-

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liver can be kept on ice for only eight
hours, and we must operate imme-
diately, so I just push my body and
mind through the strain of what’s often
a twenty-four-hour ordeal.”

The author of more than seventy-five
research papers, Dr. Ascher is con-
sidered one of the top practitioners in
her field. But getting there wasn’t easy.
“When I was in medical school, there
really weren’t any role models for wom-
en,” says Dr. Ascher, thirty-five. “People
advised me not to pursue surgery.”

The struggle, however, was worth it.
“What do I like best about being a phy-
sician?” asks Dr. Ascher, who is mar-
ried. “I like it when a little kid comes
back to the clinic for a checkup and
doesn’t even remember who I am or
that he was going to die.”

Feeding the world

“Even when I was a child, I always felt
that no matter what I did, I wanted to
be the best,” says forty-two-year-old
Nina Fedoroff of the Carnegie Institute
of Washington. “For a time I thought I
could be the best physician. But once I
walked into the biology lab, that was it.
I never left.”

And there may come a day when the
world’s hungry have cause to celebrate
that decision. For the last six years,
this molecular biologist, the divorced
mother of two children, has been ex-
perimenting with gene mutations in
corn. While even a simplified explana-
tion of what she does sounds like a for-
eign language, her results will cer-
tainly be understood. If her experi-
ments succeed, scientists will have the
means to make crops hardier and more
nutritious—and the world will benefit
from an increased food supply.

Engineering our future

“First I wanted to be a pilot,” says
Donna Pivirotto, aged forty-three. “By
the time I was ten, I decided that what I
really wanted to be was the person who
designs the plane. Now I’m working on
getting people off the planet.”

Married and the mother of a seven-
year-old girl, Pivirotto heads the team at
the California Institute of Technology Jet
Propulsion Laboratory, which is drafting

plans for a space station in the 1990s. By
making sure ‘hat the space station is easy
to run, b: nning heating, electricity
and even ‘urniture and decorations,
Pivirotto, ar neer, will help launch a

whole new siage of interplanetary explo-
ration. “As we say around here,” she
says with a laugh, “earth is the cradle
of mankind, but you can’t live in the
cradle forever.”

Doing unto others

Nurturing is nothing new to the daugh-
ters, sisters, wives and mothers of the

world. Neither is extending a helpin
hand to those in need, which explain
why generations of women have mad
their careers in the social services—
field that only recently has gained th
respect it deserves. Today there ar
over 75,000 female social workers i
the country, and women account for 7
percent of the membership in the Nz
tional Association of Social Worker:
Women also dominate the voluntee
world at a time when these contribution
are becoming increasingly vital.

In the area of organized religior
women are reaching the pulpit. Whil
some Protestant groups had wome
ministers as early as the nineteent
century, the real boom in this area he
occurred in the last ten years. No
there are hundreds of women in th
Methodist and Presbyterian mini:
tries. And Episcopalians, who bega
ordaining women only eight years agi
are fast catching up. Judaism and Ri
man Catholicism, two religions thé
have traditionally held a more cor
servative view of women’s occupation:
are loosening some of their restriction
There are now about one hundre
women rabbis. Catholic women, whi
still barred from the priesthood, hav
now been accepted as teachers and a
ministrators in seminaries.

Fighting for kids

“Tm a fighter,” claims social worke
Kee MacFarlane. “I take on causes a
the time, and the battles just seem 1
get bigger and bigger.”

MacFarlane, thirty-five, is founds
and director of the Child Sexual Abus
Diagnostic Center of the Children’s
stitute in Los Angeles. She is also or
of the key prosecution witnesses in tk
recent day-care scandal in Manhatt
Beach, California, and is working wi
many of the sexually abused pr
schoolers and their parents.

“Tt takes a kind of armor and a beli
that you can make a difference to
what I do,” says MacFarlane, who
single. “You have to start somewhe
no matter how overwhelming the ca:
seems. I do what I think must be done

A jewel of a role model

“Fortunately, I’m someone who cz

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the National Coalition of One Hundr;
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esteem and establish goals” by provi
ing them with role models and j
opportunities.

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of directors. She is also the only woman
to be part of New York State's Jobs
Training Partnership Council.

The results of all these labors have
been satisfying. “Women have been un-
believably responsive,” says this zeal-
ous crusader. “I am always replenished
by my work.”

Climbing the ranks of religion

There are no female Episcopal bishops
yet, but many are betting that when the
time comes, New York City’s only female
rector, the Reverend Carol Anderson, will
get the job. The first woman to be of-
ficially ordained as priest in New York
back in 1977, Anderson has taken a dying
city parish and turned it into one of the
most dynamic and thriving congrega-
tions on Manhattan’s Upper West Side.

“We raise and train pastors and
teachers to go out into the community
and do what’s needed,” says the thirty-
nine-year-old unmarried rector of All
Angels’ Church. Her church already
sponsors a regular soup kitchen, shel-
ter program and drop-in center where
the neighborhood's needy can find help
and support.

Making the grade

Women have always been the foot sol-
diers in the war against ignorance.
Now for the first time they’re begin-
ning to lead the troops.

Only ten years ago, women’s pros-
pects for advancing to administrative
positions in education were dismal. To-
day there are over three thousand
women principals in the country.
(That's close to 10 percent of the total.)
And in less than ten years, the number
of female school superintendents has
more than quadrupled, rising from
sixty-five to over three hundred.

Women are also climbing to the top of
academia’s ivory towers. Since 1975,
the number of women holding the pres-
tigious title of college president has al-
most doubled, jumping from 148 to 245.
And more than 100,000 female instruc-
tors teach at the university and at the
college level these days.

Every one of these advances is good
news for students, says Donna S. Shay-
lik, director of the Office of Women and
Higher Education at the American
Council on Education. “As more wom-
en assume higher positions in educa-
tion, young women will increasingly
think of themselves as_ potential
leaders,” she says.

“Go with the Flo”
“T thoroughly enjoyed being in school
when I was a child,” says Floretta
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McKenzie, the forty-nine-year-old su-
perintendent of the Washington, D.C.,
school system. “I wanted others to feel
the way I did about learning.”

Since her appointment in 1981, this
divorced mother of two has worked to
ensure that the 89,000 students from
the 187 schools in her charge do just
that. In the process, she has improved
attendance, lowered the dropout rate,
raised test scores and resolved a long-
term budget deficit.

Now in her second term, McKenzie’s
“running love affair with the kids” con-
tinues. “Go with the Flo” is a phrase
that often resounds through the halls of
D.C. schools.

Educating the educators

Teachers will understand more about
the way their students think, thanks to
the research of Harvard psychologist
and educator Carol Gilligan.

Gilligan’s study on the differences in
development between girls and boys
shows that while girls tend to view
themselves as part of a greater whole,
boys focus on their autonomy and their
individual rights. Eavesdrop on a
group of youngsters, she says, and
you'll notice that boys say TT and ‘he,’
while girls talk about ‘we’

Her research will help educators to
better understand the point of view of
both sexes, says the forty-eight-year-
old mother of three boys. “It doesn’t
mean that one view is better or worse;
they’re simply different,” she says.

Writing right
When they have problems, doctors go to
other doctors. Writing instructors
across the country go to Columbia Uni-
versity’s Lucy McCormick Calkins.

The thirty-two-year-old author of
Lessons from a Child: On the Teaching
and Learning of Writing (Heinemann
Educational Books, 1983) has trained
hundreds of teachers in her attempt to
overhaul the way writing is taught in
this country. To date, her innovative

methods have affected more than
80,000 children.
Until recently, educators have

neglected writing instruction in favor
of teaching reading. “But reading and
writing go hand in hand,” says Cal-
kins, who is married and has a step-
daughter. “And teachers need help in
order to provide students with the abil-
ility to fully experience both.”
Thats entertainment

The entertain ment industry is definitely
“a race of the swiftest,” according to Wil-
liam Morris superagent Joan Hyler.
“Anyone can make it,” she says, “but
you've got to be good. Damned good.”

Women are gaining ground rapidly
in the competition for top spots in Hol-

lywood. The ranks of women in vice
presidential and middle managemen
slots are growing. And new productio
companies, headed by teams of wome
with acting and producing experience
are in the spotlight. (Jane Fonda, Bar
bra Streisand, Sally Field and Goldi
Hawn are among those who have take
to packaging their own properties.)

The barriers are greatest for wome
in directing, photography and the tech
nical crafts. Last year, women dire
a scant 4 percent of all feature film
and television series. Why? It may b
that studio executives are unwilling t]
turn the creative and financial contro
over to women, who quite clearly ha
had fewer opportunities than men
establish track records.

What about the future? “Power lie
in being good at what you do,” says Fa
Kanin, past president of the Academ
of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences
“It’s the only power that doesn’t erode

Directing an obsession

“T absolutely cannot work on something
am not passionate about,” says fo
three-year-old director Lynne Littmar
That intensity may well be the key to he
success. This mother of two has re
searched, produced, directed and edite
nearly forty documentaries, and in t
process has earned four Emmys, a Cq
lumbia-DuPont Journalism Award ani
an Oscar for best documentary short fil

In 1981, Littman read a short sto
called The Last Testament about
mother, her children and nuclear wa
She immediately became obsessed wit
making it into a movie, even thoug
she had never raised money before a
directed a feature film.

Littman’s film, Testament, was ré
leased to critical acclaim last year. B
the frenzied dynamo admits that suc
cess doesn’t come easily. “A woma
telephoned recently to interview me fo
a book on the secrets of successful dua
career marriages. And I screamed a
her! It really doesn’t work. There a
no solutions. I have a career, a husban
and children, and my engine runs o
the gasoline of guilt.”

Producing hits

Successful women just don’t let oppo
tunities pass them by. Take Kathleen Ke
nedy. Early in her career, while workin
for a San Diego television station, sh
was asked to substitute for a camerama
“T said ‘Yes, I can operate a camera,’ eve
though I had never done it before,” sh
recalls, laughing. “But I had watched, sq
assumed I could do it.”

Today Kennedy is one of a handful
successful women film producers. A
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t the very top of her profession.

“Producing is like constructing a
uilding,” says Kennedy, aged thirty-one.
You start with nothing, and if you're
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le all over the world really enjoy.”

A Close encounter

he may soon be a superstar, but Glenn
lose wasn’t looking for fame or glamour
then she became an actress. “I didn’t
ater this profession for the limos and
wels. I’m here because I want to work on
rojects that have some redeeming
alue,” she says.

One of the growing number of actresses
ho switch between the screen and the
roadway stage, Close says, “I built my
weer on parts other actresses might
ave considered thankless.”

This has been a winning year for
lose, who received critical acclaim for
er television movie, Something About
melia, a Tony for The Real Thing and
1 Oscar nomination for The Big Chill.
the also married businessman James
varkas in September.)

“Tve never done anything that I wasn’t
holeheartedly committed to,” she says.
fight for my characters and I work hard

get under their skin. Creating human
sings that people are deeply moved by—
ats what it’s all about.”

A vote for women

ae nomination of Geraldine Ferraro is
st the most obvious of the gains women
ave registered in the political arena in
cent years. More than 12,000 women
ive been elected to public office in the
ast decade. They now occupy seats in
mgress, on city councils, state legis-
tures and behind doors marked Mayor,
yunty Commissioner and Governor.
fact, the number of female mayors has
creased by a resounding 500 percent
ace 1973, and the number of female
ate legislators has more than doubled.
Of course, women are still underrepre-
nted in Washington, but that may soon
ange. Today women are getting invalu-
ile experience, not only in state legis-
tures, but also on school boards, local
mmittees and commissions and city
uncils. They contribute to the growing
ol of future candidates with solid politi-
1 know-how and a burning desire for
gher office. Now all they need is money.
irace for the U.S. House of Represen-
tives costs, on average, between $250,000
id $500,000. A Senate race requires a
imimum investment of $1 million.
But there’s little doubt that the Fer-
ro factor has opened up a new vista
¢ women. As a result of that historic
ap, more women than ever before will

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pursue political careers with increased
enthusiasm and faith.

Representing women’s interests

“No question about it—when we're un-
derrepresented in Congress, our needs
and concerns aren’t always addressed,”
says Congresswoman Olympia Snowe
(R-Maine).

As deputy whip in the House, the thir-
ty-seven-year-old Snowe is determined
to make the economic facts of women’s
lives a priority and to amend the ineg-
uities in the system. “Pension reform
and wage discrimination are some of the
issues we're tackling in the Economic
Equity Act,” says Snowe, a widow.

“I want to make a difference,” she
adds. “I want to improve the quality of
life for the people I represent, but I
also want to enhance the lives of all
women in America.”

A political linchpin

“Until recently, the political thinking
was that women take their voting cues
from their husbands and fathers,” says
Dotty Lynch, the first woman to head poll-
ing operations for a major presidential
campaign (Gary Hart’s). Lynch, thirty-
seven, is also credited with revolutioniz-
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men’s and womens opinions separately.

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“In the past, pollsters assumed that
men wearing hard hats could speak for
all blue-collar Americans,” explains
Lynch, who is single. “But the record
shows that isn’t so, that women often
vote differently from men. That’s why I
tabulate the data by gender.”

Lynch’s work could lead to major
gains for women. “Pollsters’ research
lays the groundwork for a campaign”
she says, “anddetermines whose con-
cerns are addressed.”

Pushing for power

“I believe in wielding power,” says Cal-
ifornia assemblywoman Maxine Wa-
ters. “The desire to make systemic
changes in this society means nothing
unless you have the power to push
those changes through.”

In her eight years in the California
legislature, Waters has fought hard for
the constituents of her poor district.

“When I was growing up, I was sur-
rounded by women on fixed incomes
who never had a chance to develop
their full potential,” says the forty-
five-year-old mother of two. “I re
member saying, ‘If this woman had had
a chance, I bet she would have made a
great senator. Thats why I’m here—to
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mae “Fifty American Heroines” fea-

re in your July issue was truly
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uigue and worthwhile endeavors
ould otherwise go unrecognized. I
free with you that these “ordi-
ury citizens” exemplify the gener-
is spirit of the American people.
aanks for making me proud, not
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}zations published in the Septem-

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m inaccuracies: The American

}:ademy of Pediatrics recommends

polio immunization at two
onths of age in addition to the
PT you have listed; and at one
ar the child would have a TB
in test, not a DPT vaccination as
ur schedule shows. After the pre-
hool DPT, everyone should re-
ive a tetanus-diphtheria booster

ery ten years.
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1ank you for Helen Benedict’s di-
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10w” [July].

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esident, I am proud to say that
r organization has sponsored sev-
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r children in the past two years,

md has also implemented a finger-

inting program. Perhaps your ar-

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ties to start similar programs.
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1 age-old problem

iave just finished reading the ar-
le “My Name is Mrs. Simon” by
nma Elliot in the August issue. It
ought back all the frustration,
Iplessness and anger that I felt
st year when my father went

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into the hospital and died there.
Mrs. Elliot speaks for all of us
who have suffered through the loss
of a loved one at the hands of a
heartless and neglectful hospital
staff. Thank you for having the
courage to tell the truth about

those who mistreat the elderly.
—Rose Teepe, Matawan, NJ

I was outraged as I read the moving
article “My Name is Mrs. Simon”
in your August issue.

My own mother died in a hospital
at the age of fifty-six, and while she
was treated well, the idea of anyone
being treated as terribly as Mrs.
Simon was sickens me.

I think the name of this hospital
should have been included in this
article—they deserve it.

—Janice Barclay, West Chicago, IL

Ed. note: Emma Elliot, when she
wrote her piece, felt that pointing
the finger at one particular hospital
would do little good since prejudice
against old people is probably pres-
ent in much of the medical commu-

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nity as well as in American society
at large. However, her article may
make a difference. LHJ has re-
ceived many requests from journals
for physicians, nurses and hospitals
asking for permission to reprint this
article as a teaching tool.

Not just a superstar

I have been a fan of Barbra Strei-.

sand’s for many years, and I was so
excited to read the article in your
August issue, which presented her
as much more than an entertainer.
As Barbra herself said, “I'm a
woman, a mother, a friend, a lover.”
It was great to learn that, like
many divorced women (including
me!), she has had to work hard at
developing the strong relationship
she now shares with her teenage
son. Also, I think she was coura-
geous in taking control of Yenitl,
even though she was criticized sim-
ply because she was a woman.
Stories like this one about people
we admire are a wonderful part of
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PETIZERS

Appetizer Meatballs p. 172
Cheese Triangles p. 172
Chicken Rolls p. 82
Eggplant Dip p. 172

Feta Cheese Spread p. 172
Leek Peta p. 171

Oysters Casino p. 168
Sausage Rolls p. 82
Seafood Peta p. 17

Stuffed Grape Leaves p. 82
Yogurt-Cucumber Dip p. 172

BREADS

Baguettes p. 162

Buffet Bubble Loaf p. 162
Cracklin’ Spoon Bread p. 162
Cranberry-Orange Muffins p. 160
Do-ahead Biscuits p. 160

Giant Popovers p. 164

nion Poppy Flatbread p. 162
Prosciutto Cheese Twists p. 162

DESSERTS

Apple Yam Delight p. 184

Black Forest Torte p. 187

Chocolate Mousse p. 187
Cranberry-Pear Charlotte p. 156
Devastating Chocolate Loaf Cake p. 159
Easy Peanut Butter Cookies p. 167
Fresh Coconut Cake p. 156

Gold Dust p. 158

Hazelnut Dacquoise p. 156

Famous Pumpkin Pie Recipe p. 177
Lemon Mousse p. 160

Marquise au Chocolat p. 160

Pear Streusel Pie p. 159

Pet's Traditional Pumpkin Pie p. 170
Pumpkin Chiffon Pie p. 171

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Bourbon-Glazed Ham p. 166

Brandied Chicken Breasts p. 166

Feijoada Completa p. 164

Grilled Fennel Shrimp and Vegetables p. 166
Orange Ginger Cornish Hens p. 164

Rack of Lamb p. 166

Roast Turkey p. 168

Sausage-Stuffed Pork Chops p. 166

Savory Chicken Stew p. 12

Tournedos with Cognac and Herb Sauce p. 166
Turkey Piquante p. 168

SIDE DISHES

Broccoli Timbales p. 171
Cranberry Fruit Relish p. 171
Fresh Fruit Compote p. 171
Light Mashed Potatoes p. 168
Vegetable-Bread Stuffing p. 168

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Last Laughs

Out of the mouths of babes

I was busy preparing our
Thanksgiving dinner when
Sarah, my _ three-year-old

daughter, wandered into the kitchen.
“What's for dinner?” she asked. “What
goes gobble-gobble?” I said. She
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Lookin’ good

I declared $60,000 on my income tax
for makeup. They called me down for
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. every time she gets on the scale
she says, ‘Oh, my God.’”

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I stood in front of the mirror the other
morning and assessed myself. Imag-
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look terrific in Amarillo, but by the
time I hit Dallas and Fort Worth, I
begin to blouse and don’t thin out un-
til Corpus Christi. —Erma Bombeck

It’s an ill wind that blows when you
leave the hairdresser. —Phyllis Diller

A man amoung men

He’s successful at business,
a financial whiz,

A knowledge of things
scientific is his;

He can fix broken toys,
or a car or T.V.,

His study of literature
fascinates me.

He can do crossword puzzles
without cheating, and more,
He’s an expert at bridge
and at keeping the score;
He’s a man among men,
so I do wonder why
He must ask me each morning,
“Which shirt with which tie?”

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who along with Shannon helped us create a very special holiday cover.

But photographing a cover is just step one in creating a memorabl.
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Dinah Shore (see page 118) as she prepared a practically perfect holida
buffet. Fashion and beauty editor Lois Johnson went to Hollywood as we
to ask a bevy of TV beauties their tricks and tips for shining at holida
parties (page 106). Meanwhile, decorating editor Marilyn Glass and he
associate Deborah James were heading north to New England and south
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and “They Live Their Religion” (page 40). And don’t miss the touching
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Jane’s turn

“Nine months ago, after twenty-two
years of marriage, my husband left me
for a younger woman, an administra-
tive assistant in his office,” said Jane, a
‘handsome woman of forty-two with an
anxious look and clenched hands. “For
weeks, I couldn’t eat and I cried myself
to sleep every night. I’ve been so tense,
‘T've developed high blood pressure.

“Then, just as I had reconciled myself
to the situation—I even had a lawyer
draw up separation papers because
Harry was spending so much of our
money—he shows up and says he’s made
a big mistake. When I asked if he loved
me, he squirmed and said, ‘Jane, I’m all
mixed up. I don’t really know how I feel
except that I want to come home.’

“Well, that just seemed too easy. But
after loving a man for so long, you can’t
simply turn off your feelings. I yearned
to rush into his arms, but I couldn’t
stop thinking about Belle and all the
pain she and Harry had caused me. I
told Harry we needed counseling.

“T still don’t know why Harry left in

ithe first place. Our two children are
|just as distraught as I am. Linda, who
is twenty-two, is a dental hygienist.
‘She lives nearby with her boyfriend.
‘Michael is twenty-one. He still lives at
‘home, though he’s finishing his senior
year at Cal Tech, where he has a full
scholarship—he wants to be an engi-

= He lett me for —
a younger woman

After twenty-two years, Harry packed his bags.
How can Jane save her marriage—and herself?

neer. He’s so much like Harry—he has
that spark of mechanical ingenuity.

“Harry was always dependable. He
was never very talkative, so I just as-
sumed he was as satisfied with our life
as I was. We were introduced by friends
when I was nineteen and Harry was
twenty-two. I was working as a teller at
the same bank where I’m now a loan
officer, and I knew right away that I
wanted to marry Harry. He was so con-
siderate and low-key, very different
from my own father, who was always
bitter that he had no sons.

“My parents were dirt poor. We barely
had enough money for food, and my fa-
ther almost lost our home by foreclosure.
I knew I was just another mouth to feed,
so when I was sixteen I found a job as a
motel chambermaid. My room and board
were paid for, so though I missed my
mother terribly, I moved out. Father
never even said good-bye.

“For the next few years I supported
myself with odd jobs. Then I met Harry.
After six months we were married, and
by the end of the year I was pregnant
with Linda. Michael was born only a
year after Linda. Life was hectic then,
but I tried very hard to run an orderly
and efficient household.

“During the first years of our mar-
riage I didn’t enjoy sex very much, but
Harry was patient. Certainly, I never
refused him. I admit, we did argue a lot
about household chores. Harry says ’m
a nag. I know he works hard all day,
but I don’t think that entitles him to
come home, eat dinner and then spend
the rest of the evening in his darkroom.
Photography is his passion, and I have to
say he does take beautiful pictures—
beach and nature scenes mostly. I learned
to accept the fact that he spent so much
time with his hobby and so little with
me, and I started filling my evenings
with church functions or talking to
friends on the telephone.

“Most of the time I thought our life

ran smoothly, until

about a year or so

ago, when I noticed

that Harry seemed

unusually anxious.

Sometimes, I’d hear

the back door slam

and the car motor

start up. Hours later,

in the middle of the night, he’d return.
When I asked where he’d been, he’d
just say, ‘Driving around.’ I kept prob-
ing, but Harry would never tell me if
anything was wrong. Then one night
he burst out that we were in a rut, that
he wanted to do things differently but
he didn’t know what or how.

“T see now that he was probably try-
ing to prepare me for his leaving, but at
the time, I attributed his restlessness
to work. Harry never had the chance to
go to college. His father was a no-good
drunk who left the family destitute
when Harry was barely ten. Since his
mother depended on him to help around
the house as well as to earn extra money
on weekends, Harry always had a job
after school. College was out of the
question, but Harry is smart, and he’s a
master at solving mechanical prob-
dems. After high school he found a job
working on the assembly line at an au-
tomobile plant. They soon recognized
his talent, and he was trained to be a
tool designer. After years of hard work,
he was promoted to supervisor, a posi-
tion he seemed to enjoy. Then last year,
in an effort to streamline operations,
the company hired someone over
Harry, a much younger man with a
master’s degree in industrial design.

“IT knew he was very upset, so when
he announced that he didn’t want to
come home right after work anymore, I
was uneasy, but I figured he probably
just needed time to cool off after this
big blow. Besides, I was very involved at
the time in planning the annual Christ-
mas bazaar at church—I (continued)

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wanted Harry to get involved, too, but he
was never interested—and frankly, I
didn’t have much time to worry.

“Then, on one occasion, Harry didn’t
show up until two o'clock in the morn-
ing. I was frantic, but Harry just mut-
tered that he’d been out shopping. When
I reminded him that the stores close at
nine o'clock, he quickly changed his
story, saying he’d run into some friends
and had gone for a late dinner.

“That’s when it dawned on me that
another woman might be involved.
Harry had been talking quite a lot about
Belle. She was divorced and had two
small daughters. I had met Belle once
or twice at office parties—she was a
peppy little thing, about twenty-five, I
suppose—but it never occurred to me
that their kidding around was anything
more than lighthearted office banter.

“Then, last Christmas, my world fell
apart. Harry and I had always gone
gift-shopping together, but out of the
blue, he said that he wanted to go by
himself. Foolishly, I assumed he was
buying special presents for the family.
However, on Christmas Day, Harry had
nothing for the children. And he of-
fered no explanation to them for his
behavior. Later that afternoon he gave
me a small bottle of cheap cologne, say-
ing, rather brusquely, that he’d decided to
spend all his money on Belle and her kids
because they were so strapped for funds.

“I was flabbergasted. Harry and I
barely spoke during the next week, and
then, on New Year's Day, he told me he
was leaving, that his bags were packed.
I begged him to stay, at least to tell me
where he was going, but he just said
he’d call me sometime and drove off. I
assumed he was going to live with Belle.

“A few weeks later, one of my son’s
friends spotted Harry at a singles bar
with a noisy group. He had his arm
around a young woman, and from the
description, I knew it was Belle.

“Two months later, our son tracked
Harry down. He was living in a small
studio apartment near the beach.
Michael berated his father for being self-
ish and irresponsible, but Harry told
| him abruptly to mind his own business.
| “When the initial pain subsided, I

began to worry about finances. I tried
to save money from my salary. Harry
had always said I was a skinflint be-
cause I’m determined to stay out of
debt, but after what happened to my

arents, I'm terrified of owing money.
Well, not long after Harry left, the
credit card bills started piling up from
things he’d been charging.

“Then, just as suddenly as he decided
to leave, Harry decided to come back. I
really don’t know what to think. He’s

betrayed my trust, threatened my fi-
nancial security, and made me truly
miserable. Yet he’s the only man [I'll
ever love, and my life is intolerable
without him. What should I do?”
Harry's turn

“Tve made a complete fool of myself,”
said Harry, forty-five, a pale, thin man
in blue jeans and a rumpled cotton
shirt. “I jumped from the frying pan
into the fire, but if I go back to Jane,
will I be any happier?

“Contrary to what Jane thinks, I
didn’t leave home on the spur of the mo-
ment. My life had gone sour, at home
and at work. Until recently, I had a fair
amount of responsibility, but then they
brought in a young man not much older
than my son to do the job I’ve been
doing—and doing well—for years.

“Tm not appreciated at home, either.
Jane treats me like another household
appliance. She expects me to perform
instantly. A few months ago, we had a
huge battle over a window shade. She
kept reminding me to fix it, and I fully
intended to, but for some reason, the
more she reminded me the madder I
got, and the more I kept forgetting. But
that’s the way Jane has always been
about everything. She’s so efficient and
orderly, there’s never any room for fun.
That holds true for sex, too. Seems I’ve
always had some hard-charging woman
around giving me orders.

“When I was a kid, my mother and I
shared a house with my grandmother.
My father was an alcoholic, a real bum,
and mother threw him out of the house
when I was ten. She expected me to be
the man of the family.

“College was out of the question. I
continued to live at home after gradua-
tion and found a job at the local auto
plant. I was so shy about asking a girl
for a date, that if one ever turned me
down, I never asked again. But Jane
always said yes. We were comfortable
together and she made me feel wanted,
so I asked her to marry me.

“The next few years were very hard.
My hours at the plant were long, but I
often worked overtime because it meant
more money. By the time I got home,
though, I was so tired I could hardly
speak, let alone play with the kids. I
suppose that they hardly knew me, and
as time went by, it got harder an
harder to communicate with them. My
only relaxation was my photography.

“After a while I was promoted to su
pervisor of my department. That mean
more money, but still Jane kept squir.
reling away every penny.

“About a year ago, an attractiv
young woman was hired in my depart
ment. Belle’s the opposite of Jane—
she’s fun-loving and talkative, ready t
do new things on the spur (continued

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of the moment. Before long, we were
having coffee breaks and lunch to-
gether. She even invited me to her
house to meet her two young daugh-
ters. I know it sounds corny, but for the
first time in years I felt excited about
something. After the children went to
sleep, we would go upstairs to Belle’s
bedroom and make love. I felt like I was
twenty-two again.

“Belle and I talked about my getting
a divorce, but I didn’t feel ready for that
yet. I wanted to live alone for a while,
to catch up on all the good times. So I
moved out. My first few months were a
real high. I found a furnished studio
myself an ex-
pensive stereo and some new clothes.

“My son finally tracked me down. He
was very upset, and I wanted to explain
to him what was going on with me, but
I guess after all those years of not talk-
ing I couldn’t find the words. Besides, I
did resent Michael's pressuring me.

“But after about six months, Belle
started pressuring me, too. She kept
bugging me to get a divorce, to do this
or that. And her friends were also get-
ting to me. They’re into drugs, and they
have no religion or morals. Their lan-
guage would make a Marine blush.

Now I’m asking myself what I should
do. My affair has cost me thousands of
dollars. Though part of me wants to go
home again, if I fall into that same old
rut, I'll go crazy.”

The counselor's turn

“Harry’s feelings had been bottled up
for so long, that when they finally
erupted, the effect was like a volcano.
Although Harry was just as mystified
by his behavior as Jane, his problem fit
the classic midlife crisis. Both Jane and
Harry needed to understand what had
motivated his rebellion.

“Harry had always felt unloved and
out of control. Growing up without a
father is hard for any child, but Harry
had the added burden of a domineering
mother and the responsibility of sup-
porting her. As a result, he did miss out
on much of the freedom of childhood
and adolescence. At first, marriage to
Jane provided him with a needed es-
cape, but soon, Harry was so bogged
down in supporting his growing family
that once again, he had no time for
himself. Jane’s constant hounding re-
minded him too painfully of his mother.
What's more, though his work had pro-
vided him with some sense of pride,
that, too, had been stripped away.

“Feeling unneeded at work, Harry
would return home to Jane, who had

become so involved in her church wor
that she didn’t seem to need him either,
except as a handyman. Indeed, this
couple’s biggest problem was that th
had forgotten how to share and hav
fun together. In that sense, fun-lovin
Belle and her two daughters provided
refreshing change. They needed Harry.
and for the first time in many years, h
felt appreciated. Of course, having
younger woman interested in him w
also a tremendous boost to his ego, an
Harry began to think that the only wa:
he would ever find any happiness w:
to make a complete break with his past
When his new life also failed to brin;
him happiness, he became despondent.

“Although Jane thought she ha
been fulfilling Harry’s needs by run
ning an efficient household and keep
ing a firm rein on the family finances
in many ways she had been insensitiv
to those things that mattered most
him. At the same time, she recognize:
that her preoccupation with financia
security, though understandable, w
at odds with the life that she and H.
had built for themselves. With two in
comes, they could indulge a few dreams.

“Jane also had to deal with the fac
that Harry was not the same man wh
had left home nine months ago. After
few weeks of counseling, Jane was able
to see that she had been bossing H
around in much the same way that he
own father had bossed her. Once Jane
stopped pressuring Harry so much, he
became more willing to do the things
she asked him to do around the house.

“Of course, the immediate problem
for this couple was what to do about
Harry’s debts. Jane had saved two thou-
sand dollars from her salary durin
their separation, and she was willing to
contribute this toward paying the bills.

“Counseling continued for three
months before Harry decided to move
back home. During that time he tele-
phoned Jane for dates, and they became
explorers of new places. Once Jane was
able to forgive Harry, her blood pres-
sure returned to normal; soon she was
able to respond more enthusiastically
to his lovemaking. At Jane's sugges-
tion, Harry also asked his boss if he
could attend a trade show in San Fran-
cisco and take his son along. Michael
was delighted to spend the time with his
father, who took great pride in introduc-
ing his son to his colleagues.

“Today, Jane and Harry have an ab-
sorbing new interest along with their
full-time jobs—their own photography
business. Harry records weddings and
does portraits, and Jane arranges the
appointments and keeps the books. She
has deposited the earnings in a special
account to help them celebrate their
twenty-fifth wedding anniversary with
a trip to Hawaii.” End

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What do you want to say °

. Vey Tallis

about yourself today?

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A COUPLE TODAY ‘Es

of my newsletter, Financial Success Re-
port, when, during a break, I dutifully
called home to see if my wife, Kay, had
any problems needing my sage advice.
After some routine family matters, she
said, “Oh, yes. By the way, I’m pregnant.”

Because I was still emotionally in-
volved in my meeting, I didn’t think
this was a particularly good time for
her to make a joke, and I told her so.
When she repeated her news, I
said, “You've got to be kidding.”
She said, “No, I’m not. I just got
the word from the doctor.”
Hanging up the phone, I felt
like I had just been sandbagged.

KAY: I admit I was dismayed at
Howard’s first reaction to my
announcement, but I wasn’t
surprised. After all, I was forty-
six, he was fifty-one, and we
were already parents of eight
children of our own, plus an
adopted daughter and six foster
children. We still had five chil-
dren at home, ranging in age
from eleven to twenty, but three
of our five sons and one of our
four daughters were married
and we were reaping the fruits
—four wonderful grandchildren
and a fifth on the way. Now, in-
; stead of watching the last of our
children grow and leave the
nest, we would once more have
night feedings, dirty diapers,
the first day of school and, even-
tually, another teenager—when
we'd be in our sixties. We would
be do-it-yourself grandparents!

|
HOWARD: I was in an intense business
meeting at the California headquarters

| HOWARD: In a state of semishock I
returned to my meeting. Someone
picked up the discussion where we had
left off, but I got up in the middle of a
sentence and walked out of the room.
My business associates followed me out
into the hallway and found me sitting
on the floor with my back against the
wall—in a trance. I then got up and
walked down to the “financial war

The Ruff clan
in a complete

family portrait;
Terri Lynn with
her proud and
doting parents.

‘An unexpected gift”

Gold futures were crystal clear to this financial soothsayer. But
even he couldn’t predict such a special dividend.

room,” our consulting office where
twenty-five consultants take phone calls
from my newsletter subscribers and give
financial counseling. I got their atten-
tion, and all of them, after one look at
me, hung up their phones. During my
financial career I have been a great be-
liever in gold as an investment. My ex-
pression at that moment must have
been something to behold, because
later one of my consultants said, “After
seeing your face, we thought the

government might have just announced
to the world that gold causes cancer.”

| told them that I was about to be-
come a father for the ninth time, and
they sat there poker-faced, waiting for
some sign from me whether this was
good or bad news. Being a bit of a ham,
I milked the moment for every possible
bit of drama. Finally I told them: “This
is the greatest thing that has ever hap-
pened to me.” I then called Kay and told
her that I was thrilled. But knowing that

most wives never believe that kind of
thing until they get flowers to prove it, I
immediately called the florist.

KAY: To celebrate our fertility, Howard
sent me two dozen long-stemmed red
roses. I immediately became the center
of attention in our ever-busy house-
hold, and I reveled in it. When Howard
returned home, we phoned our youngest
child, eleven-year-old Debbie, at camp.
She squealed with delight and cried with
joy. Our daughter Pamela, in
Florida serving on a church vol-
unteer mission, was concerned for
my welfare. She hoped to return
home in time to be with me in the
delivery room. All of our teen-
agers were most respectful and
solicitous of my welfare, and our
familys excitement grew over
the months of my pregnancy.

HOWARD: As the public per-
sonality in the family, I get a lot
of ego-stroking, and although I
try to share the spotlight with
Kay—I may be the head of our
household, but Kay is its heart
—she does tend to get left out.
Now, however, she was looking
like a teenager, and her inner
glow increased in wattage. I was
falling in love all over again.
Professionally, I just had to tell
my subscribers the news, and [ll
admit that I got a thrill out of
letting them know I was still ca-
pable of begetting more than
brilliant financial strategies!

KAY: Despite my age, I enjoyed
good health and had plenty of stamina
throughout my term. Our obstetrician
suggested an amniocentesis because of
the increased possibility (continued)

*For the past five years, this column has
reflected the attitudes and experiences of
American women, as well as an occa-
sional male point of view. Now, for the
first time, we present the sometimes
similar, sometimes disparate voices of
an American husband and wife.

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of Down’s syndrome when a mother-to-
be is over forty, but we declined. As
Mormons, Howard and I would accept
whatever challenges this child would
bring—even Down’s syndrome. Who-
ever the Lord sent us would be loved.

HOWARD: The whole Ruff family was
playing Wallyball [volleyball played on
a racquetball court] about ten on a
Monday night, January 31, 1982, when
a ball fell right in front of Kay; she just
stood there. We, her outraged team-
mates, yelled, “Why didn’t you try?” “I
can’t,” she replied. “I just had a pain.”

> KAY: It had finally started. There was no

need to hurry, I thought, judging from
the long and irregular distance between
contractions. Being a veteran of this sort
of thing, Howard decided we had time for
a good night's rest before going to the
hospital and, to my annoyance, prompt-
ly fell asleep. I couldn't!

By three-thirty the contractions were
five minutes apart. I woke Howard, and
we notified the obstetrician by car
phone during the twenty-minute drive
to Utah Valley Hospital. We had a lot
confidence in this particular obstetri-
cian—he had delivered one of our two

grandsons less than a year earlier.

Once we arrived at the hospital, the
baby started to come a lot faster than
we expected. I was rushed into the de-
livery room, while puffing about a
dozen “Hee, hee, hoo’s!” as the nurses
had told me to do. There was no time
for any painkiller except novocaine.

The obstetrician and father were
ready, and our “diamond-in-the-Ruff”’
arrived, perfect in every way. Although
three weeks early, she weighed a
healthy five pounds fourteen ounces. We
called her Terri Lynn, and our private
room turned into a floral garden with all
the congratulations of our many friends
and family members. It was a switch to
have our married children visit our baby.
We left the hospital on the third day
without any complications.

HOWARD: Although I loved all my
other children, I never really became
emotionally involved with them until
they were old enough to go fishing and
bait their own hooks. Of course, I was a
dutiful father, probably because I lived
in fear that I would fall short of Kay’s
expectations if I didn’t do a good job.
But Terri Lynn had me right where
she wanted me from the start—perhaps
because we were financially secure and
my emotional reservoir was no lon-
ger drained by money worries. Also, I

probably benefited from the grand
father syndrome. Grandparents ar
more doting than parents, and I’m ol
enough to dote with the best of them
only this time on my own child.

At first, I enjoyed it when Kay and
would go out with Terri Lynn and peo
ple would say, “Oh, what a beautifu
baby. Is she your grandchild?” Bu
when I’d answer, “No, I'm her father,’
they'd go away mumbling in embar
rassment. Not wanting to cause anyon
distress, I bought Terri Lynn a T-shi
that says, “He is not my grandfather.’
Our daughter, Pam, also bought her
T-shirt that says, “If you think I
pretty, you should see my mommy.”

KAY: After twenty-eight years of mar-
riage to the most wonderful man,
have again experienced the supreme
joy of welcoming a new life into the
world. We’ve embarked on a delightful
journey, but this time, as veterans, we
can relax and enjoy it. I feel as if the
fountain of youth has been delivered to
my door. My life has been renewed.

These days, I have a baby to talk
about, just as my daughters-in-law do,
but, in addition, I have experience. I
can be a living example, instead o
preaching my views to them. Because
our grandchildren live close by, they
can take the place of close brothers and
sisters, despite the fact that they are
older than Aunt Terri.

Her daddy is crazy about her, but
best of all, he seems to love me even
more than before—a wonderful, unex-
pected benefit. Maybe we ought to...
no! We had better not push our luck.

HOWARD: Amidst all the teasing and
joking Terri Lynn’s arrival occasioned,
my twenty-six-year-old son, Larry,
asked if the baby was unwanted. I be-
came very serious and told him, “No
child is ever unwanted in our house—
but she sure as heck was unexpected.”

Yet even though Terri Lynn was un-
expected, she is now our vote of con-
fidence in the future. As I watch her
toddle across the patio into her
mother’s arms, I realize that I have be-
come much more concerned about the
world she will grow up in. I'm more
committed than ever to fighting uncon-
trolled federal budgets, wild inflation
punctuated by deep recessions, and in-
creasing government intrusion.

To put it simply, Terri Lynn has
changed my life. She has been a great
softening influence on me. How could I
possibly feel tension or anger when
that little girl lights up and cries
“Daddy!” as I walk into the room? She
reminds me that God has chosen to
share with us once again His greatest
power—that of creation—for which I
will be eternally grateful. End

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Regal Thai Lin was the
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queen of our home and
our hearts. But only Pam-

ela, our young daughter
commanded Thai Lin& love.

y wife Jills twentieth

birthday came just two
months after we were married.
I bought her the present I knew
she wanted most in the world—
a Siamese kitten. Thus seven-
week-old Thai Lin became the
first inhabitant of what our
friends would later refer to as
“the Caras zoo.” :

Thai Lin was everything a Si-
amese should be. As a kitten,
she was playful and relentless-
ly affectionate. At first she was
a tomboy; in time she became
an elegant queen. Slowly, the
cream was taken from the coffee
and her baby colors of bronze,
yellow and tan ripened to the
rich brown of seal point. Her
face, ears, legs and tail were
cocoa, her flanks and back lus-
trous tones of tan and brown,
and her breast yellowish cream.
Her voice was rich and full,
and she never hesitated to com-
ment on any infraction of the
house rules she had established.
She was the quintessential Si-
amese cat, regal possessor of
all knowledge and wisdom.

She was so beautiful we
longed to breed her, but that
was not to be. At the onset of
her first heat, it was obvious
that Thai Lin (like many Sia-
mese cats) was truly miserable
as her body blossomed. She
wailed night and day until my
wife and I thought we would go
mad. We looked for reasons to
leave our apartment, and re-
turned to it reluctantly. We
took turns staying up at night
trying to distract Thai Lin from
the forces obviously too power-
ful for her to handle. She was
too young to breed, and we
could only hope her first heat
would be short. It wasn’t. After
eleven sleepless nights and
shell-shocked days, Thai Lin
was finally out of (continued)

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heat. We surrs ender ed her to surgery.
She didn’t n nearly as upset by the
operation as we were.

This Queen of the East was Jill’s cat
from the moment she arrived. She
liked me (she liked anyone who gave
her attention), but she invariably
headed for Jill’s lap when she was sit-
ting, Jill’s ankles when she was stand-
ing and, I fear, Jill’s side of the bed
every single night. Neither Jill nor
Thai Lin could be disciplined con-
cerning this last matter. “She needs
me,” Jill would say, “and she doesn’t
take up much room.” Arguing with ei-
ther of them was useless.

One day, about six months after we
got Thai Lin, Jill and I were walking
down a country lane when we heard a
pitiful cry from behind a stone wall.
Someone had thrown a litter of kittens
there and left them to die. Only one
was still alive; Isabelle—jet black and
feebleminded—became inhabitant num-
ber two in the menagerie. After some
ceremonial spitting and hissing, Thai
Lin and Isabelle settled down. It was
decided between them that Thai Lin
would retain first place in the pecking
order. That was never to change. Though
many other animals were to come and
go over the years, Isabelle was the
only cat Thai Lin would ever tolerate.
Whenever we tried to sneak in an-
other, the growling and snarling would
go on for days.

A dog, however, barely rated a hiss.
The great queen would walk up to any
dog, sit six inches away and clean her
paws in a gesture of obvious disdain.
No dog ever attempted to challenge
Thai Lin. She knew all about dogs, and
they seemed to sense it. Dog owners
would sit nervously on the edge of their
seats as Thai Lin wandered in and ex-
posed herself to attack. When their
dogs just nuzzled Thai Lin gently, the
owners would mutter something under
their breaths about the impossible.
Thai Lin knew that unless provoked
dogs will seldom attack that which dis-
plays no fear. She was neither afraid
nor provocative—just regal.

Isabelle was infected with ear mites
when she joined us, and before we real-
ized she had them, she passed them on
to Thai Lin. Despite the medication we
gave her, Thai Lin scratched and
scratched until she broke a blood vessel
in her ear. Two operations were re-
quired to remove the resulting blood
clot; the second one broke the cartilage
and left her right ear bent over back-
ward against her head. At first we re-
gretted this mar on her beauty, but
Thai Lin wasn’t bothered at all. “She
may be imperfect,” Jill said, “but she

is still the queen.” Thai Lin agreed.

And so the reign of Thai Lin con-
tinued. A poodle was accepted and put
in her place. A pug was taught his man-
ners. Several other dogs, a snake, an
iguana, a hamster and sundry other
animals arrived and, in due time, were
accepted by Thai Lin.

Only one other change in our house-
hold ever really affected our top cat.
Shortly after Thai Lin turned four, our
daughter Pamela was born. From the
moment Pamela arrived, Thai Lin
could focus on nothing else. We intro-
duced her to the baby from a discreet
distance, but that did not satisfy her
curiosity. It became necessary to put a
screen door on our daughter’s bedroom
to keep Thai Lin from joining Pamela
in her crib. But she would sit by the
door, tail curled around her bottom, day
and night. When Pamela was old
enough to go into a playpen, Thai Lin
would squeeze in between the bars, lie

down next to the baby and purr. As
Pamela grew, Thai Lin’s ears took end-
less biting, her tail and fur constant
abuse. Thai Lin merely purred. When
Pamela began to walk at the age of ten
months, Thai Lin followed her like a
dog. Jill’s position of favor had been
lost. Thai Lin was Pamela’s cat, and
that was all there was to it. The rest of
us could have vanished and Thai Lin
would not have noticed. But if Pamela
stayed away for more than a few hours,
she was greeted with a severe scolding
on her return. Jill said her former cat
was fickle, but actually she was de-
lighted to see the friendship grow.

As is the case with all great loves,
this one was reciprocated. Pamela
adored her cat and often said she had
two mothers: “Mummy and Thai Lin.”
No matter what time of night it was
when we went to check in on Pamela,
Thai Lin would be curled up beside her,
purring with eyes half closed. She
watched through the night, slept while
Pamela was in school and was never

more than inches away when she wa
home. Pamela confessed to us that sh
told Thai Lin all her secrets and share:
all of her problems. “Thai Lin unde
stands everything,” Pamela would say
“There's nothing I can’t tell her.” ‘

Three years after Pamela arrived

Though she had abandoned Jill fo)
Pamela, she would never again change
Clay’s special friend was to be a stra},
mongrel shepherd. i

When Pamela was nine, Jill and |
decided that the Caras family needed ‘
change. We planned to go to Englanc
for six months while I worked on
movie project there. The children wer
excited, of course, but Pamela frettei
over Thai Lin’s fate in her absence. Th
United Kingdom has a six-montl
quarantine on animals, so it was im’
possible for our pets to join us. Jill
parents agreed to take care of our zoc
but Pamela still woke in the night sob
bing, saying that Thai Lin would di
without her. We were concerned fo
Pamela, but felt sure she would ad
just—which she did—and felt secur
that Thai Lin would survive the si
months of separation. The parting wa
tearful, but we finally got away and, i
due course, established our home ii
Hampstead, northwest London’s resi
dential area.

For the first time, we had no pets
and the children missed their animal
terribly. We had heard of a breeder
Hazlemere, named Mrs. Dunhill, wh)
bred exquisite Siamese cats, and we de
cided to get one for the children. Ther:
was no quarantine on pets entering th
United States so we would be able t
take the new addition to our menageri
home. So one misty afternoon, ou
green Vauxhall nosed its way out
London’s eternal traffic snarl an
headed for the famous breeder's coun
try home in Surrey. Mrs. Dunhill ha
told us on the phone that none of he
own stock of kittens was old enough t
be sold, but that she did have two male
who had been bred by a friend and lef
with her to sell.

From the moment the two kitten
came into the room, we knew they woul
be impossible. They snarled, whined an
spat at each other, Mrs. Dunhill and us
They were too highly bred, and we kne
they'd always be neurotic.

We declined as politely as possible
Then Mrs. Dunhill began to inquir
about our way of life. When she sense
we truly were animal lovers, she cor
fessed that she did have one kitten fror|
her own famous stock that was ready t
leave. From the moment she entere!
carrying eight-week-old Sumfun Abigai
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‘itten was purring when she came in
‘nd didn’t stop as she was passed
round for the four of us to hold and
)xamine. She was in love with life, and
re were in love with her.

_ Mrs. Dunhill brought out the ped-
gree and explained why Sumfun
yould cost the exorbitant price she was
\sking. This mild-mannered kitten was
“ne granddaughter of Minna, the hero-
jae of the book A Kitten for Christmas,
y Keith Bryant. She was the half sis-
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eloved Cat. To a family for whom
/ooks are second in importance only to
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hortened her name to Abigail, the pa-
vers were transferred and with that the
itten was ours.

| The children adored her, and she
)dored them, but once again, Jill was
he only person who mattered. We were
elieved Abigail hadn’t chosen Pamela
ecause of the battle with Thai Lin that
‘vould be certain to ensue when we
went home. But Abigail resolved any
“tential conflict by declaring her love
or Jill, and so we settled down for the
est of our stay in England. Abigail
layed with the children endlessly. She

attacked their ankles, demolished their
board games and forbade them to do
their homework. But it was Jill she
went to when it was time for love.

Pamela adored this kitten, but al-
ways checked herself when she remem-
bered Thai Lin. She often spoke of her
love for Abigail, but she said she still
loved Thai Lin the most. She dreamed
of returning to her friend. “They'll
never get along,” she predicted. “Thai
Lin will never let her near my room.”

Ten days before we were to return to
America, the cable came. It was brief and
to the point. I still have it. It reads, “Thai
Lin died today in Corwin’s hospital. Old
age.” It was signed by my wife’s parents.

Pamela took it well, all things con-
sidered. She wept, of course, and
blamed herself. “I knew this would
happen if I left,” she cried. And then, “If
only she could have lasted two more
weeks, she would have been all right
with me there.”

The crying ended a few hours later.
Pamela—by now a very sensible girl of
ten—knew how to accept both her loss
and her sorrow. Jill and I regretted that
Abigail had not become Pamela’s kitten
after all. It would have made her loss
that much easier.

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That night—the worst Pamela had
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minutes, the only human being who
really mattered.

I suppose it could be argued that
there was a change in either Jill’s or
Pamela’s attitude that could explain
Abigail’s change of heart, but I don’t
really think there was. And why try to
explain it anyway? The world is full of
such small miracles. This one will be
understood by anyone who ever loved a
cat. For whatever reason one can con-
jecture, within hours of Thai Lin’s death
on the other side of the ocean, when the
potential conflict between the two cats
no longer existed, and when Pamela
needed her most, Abigail changed her
allegiance. In an instant, the Siamese
kitten with the literary heritage became
Pamela’s truest friend—and she was
never to switch again. End

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Left: The Dorman family of Seattle, Washington, stand proudly
before their church, which has joined the Sanctuary movement
for El Salvadorans. Upper right: the Konetzes partake of a Kansas City, Missouri, share a concern for life's

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James 2:20

Flight 224 from Los Angeles was
late, and Peter Dorman paced ner-
vously along the concourse at the
Seattle-Tacoma airport. On this
cold gray afternoon in January
1983, the forty-year-old business
executive was going to do some-
thing that normally would have
been inconceivable to him. He was
going to break the law. And he
was doing so out of the deepest of
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after years of hard work. They

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four-year-old Alex and three-year-
old Casey, were good boys who
were growing up in a warm, loving
and secure environment. Now, the
threat of jail was very real. The
Dormans, along with the rest of
their congregation at Seattle’s Uni-
versity Baptist Church, had joined
the nationwide “Sanctuary” pro-
gram, an underground network of
churches set up to help illegal al-
iens who are escaping the repres-
sion of their native lands. To the
congregations involved, these peo-
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Peter and Nancy had agonized about
how involved they should get, and it
was from their oldest son, Ryan, that
they received confirmation of what they
had to do. They had explained to him
that there were people in El] Salvador
who were in great trouble, but to help
them might mean going to jail.

“We asked Ryan if he knew what that
meant,” says Nancy, “and he said, ‘That
means you won’t be here when we come
home from school.’” Seeing the con-
cern and fear on his young, tender face,
she felt her resolve weakening. But
without hesitation, the little boy told
his parents that they should be in-
volved. “Where else can these people go
if you don’t help them?” he said simply.

Peter thought of his son’s words as he
waited at the airport. A soft-spoken
and gentle man, Peter knew that Ryan
was right, and while he was apprehen-
sive, he believed that God would never
ask a person to fulfill a task without
giving him the courage to do it.

With knots in the pit of his stomach,
he searched people’s faces as they began
to disembark. The two women refu-
gees, Pilar Martinez and Lidia Cruz,
were among the last off the plane, and
one of them was clutching a baby girl.
Suddenly, while Peter watched these
weary and frightened travelers, his own
fears began to abate, and the human
suffering of Central America, once so
remote, became very real to him.

“T was struck by how the subject we
had debated for weeks at emotional
meetings, with all the talk of fines and
imprisonment, in the end came down to
real people, to these seemingly helpless
women and a little baby. The abstract
had become human.”

For several years, Peter and Nancy
had strongly felt that simply practicing
their religion meant little: They had to
live it. In Bible study class, they had
begun to read the Scriptures more
closely and to truly believe that faith
without action was meaningless. Their
_ philosophy became what Peter calls
Christianity’ “alternative reality”—
they believed in a world in which help-
ing people is more important than the
pursuit of wez and power, and in
which suffering must not be ignored.

The idea was so compelling that the
couple relinquished their photo supply
store so that Peter could work full-time
at Worid Concern, an international relief
and development agency. Nancy was am-
bivalent about the drastic change in
their lifestyle. It meant a substantial cut
in salary, and she couldn’t help worrying
about the future.

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“T guess ’m not that adventurous,”
she says with a laugh. “I like security.
But I also saw the difference in Peter.
He’d often come home from the photo
store dispirited and crabby, but now he
was happy and excited. I decided I'd
take that trade-off any day.”

The Dormans had specifically be-
come part of the congregation of Uni-
versity Baptist Church because they
felt that the church took seriously the
Gospels message of social justice.
When the issue of sanctuary came up,
the church had not set out to make a
political statement but simply to reach
out to people who were suffering. They
had already done this in their own com-
munity through a soup kitchen that
the Dormans had helped to start. The
congregation had also adopted a Lao-
tian family. But it wasn’t until the Sal-
vadorans came to live among them that
the Dormans, along with the rest of the
congregation, came to a new under-
standing of suffering and faith.

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to having faith.”

They soon learned that Pilar, the first
woman off the plane, was a thirty-one-
year-old mother, who had herself
worked for social justice in her native
El] Salvador at a church-run clinic. Gal-
vanized in part by the death-squad
murder of Archbishop Oscar Romero, a
friend and co-worker, Pilar ministered
to the needs of the peasants fleeing the
violence-saturated countryside in El
Salvador’s civil conflict. Arrested along
with her six-year-old daughter Mela,
Pilar was repeatedly tortured and
raped by soldiers in front of the child.
Managing to escape, she left her
daughter with friends and took off on

he long trek to “El Norte,” where
entually she was able to team up
ith Sanctuary in Los Angeles.

uidia, the mother of a small baby,
had also endured terrible suffering,
having lost two husbands to the death
squads, including the father of her ten-
month-old child.

Eventually, Pilars daughter Mela

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was able to join her and Lidia, along
with about twenty other Salvadoran
refugees, many of them children. The
Dormans’ congregation welcomed all of
them. And from many, the shocked
church members heard similarly horri-
ble tales of the death squads’ midnight
raids, of hunger and misery.

In a way, it was hearing about such
experiences that made the Dormans’
own fears easier to bear and made
them feel stronger about standing up
for what they believe—even to the
point of writing a letter to the Attorney
General of the United States, bringing
attention to what they were doing. It
explained in part that “our actions are
acts of compassion and love grounded
fundamentally in our religious beliefs.”

So far, the Dormans’ fears of fines
and jail sentences have not been ful-
filled. And they continue to devote
themselves to providing for the twenty
Salvadorans who are now living in the
church’s cramped second-floor offices.
By now, the adventure of helping these
distraught “brothers and sisters” has
come down to the just-as-important
daily drudgery of time-consuming
tasks—assigning people to stay round-
the-clock with the Salvadorans, ar-
ranging doctors’ appointments, collect-
ing clothes for them to wear and mak-
ing presentations to other churches of
the Sanctuary program.

“Sometimes I feel sorry for myself,”
says Nancy. “I haven’t been able to go
jogging in three weeks, and the phone
just won’t stop ringing.” Yet whenever
she begins to feel this way, Nancy says
she has only to consider the suffering
these people have endured to put her
crosses in perspective. And in the two
years since the program began, Peter
and she have thanked God many times
for the happiness and joy that they anc
their children have received from thei
involvement—for the lessons tha
they’ve learned and for the binding re-
lationships that they have with individ
uals whom they once thought of as sim:
ply part of the suffering masses.

“Deeds of loving-kindness are greater
than charity.”
The Torah, Sukkah 49
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tubes and needles snaking around he:
tiny body. Her large dark eyes peer ou
imploringly above the respirator at he:
bearded father, who stares back lov
ingly. Above, monitors track her tin:
heart in the cardiac intensive care uni
of the Birmingham Medical Center a
the University of Alabama.
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oblems. The operation is scheduled

- the next morning, but Malka’s fa-
er, a Hasidic rabbi from Israel who

esn’t speak English, is frightened.
> will not give permission for the op-
ation, he says, until he hears from his
bbi in Israel.

Over the whir of life-sustaining ma-

ines, Howard Konetz, a hospital vol-
iteer, patiently explains to the rabbi

Yiddish that there is nothing to

wry about, that a tracheotomy is a
latively common operation. “Even
izabeth Taylor has had a tracheotomy,
ibbi Goldman,” Howard tells him.

“So whos Elizabeth Taylor?” asks
alka’s father.

® The forty-year-old Birmingham ex-
utive shrugs, and glances at his
atch. It’s ten-forty, and it’s been a long
ty. His “job” at the hospital is to trans-
te, to listen and to offer comfort.

When the call from Israel comes in,
e rabbis instructions are clear: If the
ctor says the operation is necessary,
s necessary. The papers are signed,
id Howard takes the exhausted father
ick to the room he has arranged for
m. “It’s going to be all right, you'll
e,” he says comfortingly, feeling sorry
r the lonely, worried man. Then
oward heads home to his wife, Sheila,
id their three children.

Four years ago, the rabbi at Knesset
rael, the Orthodox temple to which
16 Konetzes belong, asked for volun-
ers with a command of languages to
anslate for Jewish patients who were
ming in increasing numbers to the
irmingham hospital for surgery.

Howard, fluent in Spanish, German
ad Yiddish, found himself giving
‘ore and more time to making rounds
; the hospital. Today, the staff relies
1 him to help out with non-Jewish
jatients as well.

“It's a mitzvah—a good deed,” says
us big, kind man. “If I can offer some
mfort, I’m happy to do it.”

Today, both Sheila and Howard
onetz spend most of their free time
theduling operations, consulting with
octors, giving consolation to families
nd patients, arranging for housing,
roviding transportation and taking
are of the special dietary needs of the
'rthodox Jews. They do so out of love
w God, in the firm belief that they are
ere to serve God through service to
‘neir fellow human beings.

Howard says that working in the hos-
ital—watching lives hanging in the
alance day after day—has strength-
ned his faith in God. Without faith,
ne place would become unbearable.
Vith faith, it becomes a temple. “I can’t
elieve that we are just blips on a

screen,” he says, alluding to the moni-
tors in the intensive care unit. “Some-
where within each of us, there is a
spark within the shell... .”

The Konetzes faithfully observe the
Sabbath, so on Friday afternoon, before
sundown, Howard rushes home to pick
up and deliver the Israeli rabbi’s meal,
which Sheila has prepared for him. She
has also done the rabbi’s washing and
ironing for the week. Although Malka
has had her surgery and is doing well,
the rabbi passed up an invitation to
have Sabbath dinner at the Konetzes’
house so that he could stay at his
daughter's side.

Sheila says that it is important to her
to help families meet their dietary re-
quirements while they are away from
home, so she lovingly prepares food and
provides Sabbath linen and candles for
them. “I hope it makes them feel less
lonely,” says this native Alabaman in a
lilting southern accent.

When Howard returns from bringing
the hamper to the rabbi, Sheila and the
children light the Sabbath candles.
Covering her head with a veil, Sheila
says a blessing over the candles, one for
each member of the family. The cere-
mony never becomes routine for her—
she has intimately witnessed too much
suffering and illness to ever take her
family for granted.

Over dinner, the discussion turns to
the patients, and the children ask
about Malka. Fourteen-year-old Jona-
than remembers David, whom he be-
friended in the hospital last year. They
were the same age, and the teenager
from Israel told Jonathan about his
life there, and asked about American
teens. Often, in the hospital, they
would discuss the meaning of passages
in the Torah. “After the operation,
David and his father came to stay with
us to recuperate,” recalls Jonathan. “I
remember he’d get up in the middle of
the night, sometimes in pain, and call
his father. But I never once heard him
complain. Then one day I came home
from school, and Mom said, ‘David died
today.’ They sent me his prayer books. I
think about him a lot.”

One patient the Konetzes say they
can never forget is Mark Isenberg, a
twenty-four-year-old electrician from
Miami who checked into the center for
a heart transplant in January 1983. On
visits to Mark, Howard learned that
the young man’s parents had both sur-
vived concentration camps as children,
After the war, they emigrated to the
U.S., where they raised Mark and his
sister. But a severe viral illness irre-
parably damaged Mark’s heart. Then,
to make matters worse for the family,
Mark’s father suffered a stroke that left
him incapacitated.

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e young man’s positive attitude. Af-
r the transplant, Mark did well for a
uple of weeks, until a biopsy showed
jection—it wasn’t working. A second
ansplant was scheduled: Through it
l, Mark’s optimism remained un-
minished. He even asked his mother
bring him some dress clothes so
at he could attend Jonathan’s bar
itzvah, which was scheduled for the
2ek following the transplant.
“He would kid me every time I went
see him,” recalls Howard. “‘Hey,
here’s my invitation?’ Even when he
as in isolation and I had to suit up to
‘e him, he said, ‘I want an engraved
vitation, because I’ll be there.’”
The day before the bar mitzvah,
ark died.
“T don’t know why God took Mark’s
fe any more than I can understand
hy he allowed the Holocaust to take
ace,” says Howard somberly. “I don’t
now that we are permitted to ask that
aestion. There’s an overpowering wis-
ym that we don’t understand. It comes
ywn to believing in the wisdom of God.
comes down to faith,” he concludes.
The day after Mark died, young Jon-
shan stood before the congregation of
nesset Israel, which included his
inety-four-year-old grandfather. “I am
link in the chain of Jewish tradition
retching through time,” he said. “We
tust do good works, study the laws of
od and understand our past. We must
2e how it applies to us today.”

“Give, and it shall be given to you.”
Luke 6:38

t Christmastime in the Humphrey
ome in Kansas City, Missouri, there
re two cribs that are usually filled:
me is the nativity cradle with its figu-
ine of the infant Jesus ... and the
ther is a much-used bassinet with a
urgling newborn baby. Both babies
re adored in this large Catholic fam-
y. But when the créche is packed away
yw the year, the real infant remains to
vail, smile and demand attention from
aother Charlotte, father Jim or any
ne of the six children ranging in age
rom seventeen to twenty-six.

In the past twenty years, seventy-two
afants have stayed in the Humphreys’
ome. For two weeks to two months,
hey get a strong dose of love while
vaiting to be adopted. “Oh, but we’re
he ones who have been given!” ex-
laims Charlotte Humphrey, waving
way talk of sacrifice. “It’s a gift to par-
icipate in the beginning of life.”

And it’s not just the beginning of life
hat concerns the Humphreys, but its
later stages, too. For years, they have
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HOLIDAY
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By Wendy Korn

and depletes its supply
of vitamin C and mag-
nesium. Since it’s also a
diuretic, be sure to drink
one glass of water for
every alcoholic drink.

@ Maintain your regu-
lar exercise regimen now.
Absolutely no way, you
say? Then at least walk
briskly around the block
for twenty minutes, or
jog vigorously in place
for five minutes.

® Before dressing to go
out, take a cool shower,
scrubbing all over with
a loofah to stimulate the
circulation, rev you up
and give your skin that
special party glow.

@ Drink a cup of strong-
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PARTY NAILS
or nighttime dazzle, think rhinestones —tiny
dime-store ones set into beautifully manicured
nails. Just before a party, apply two coats of polish.
Place two or three rhinestones on each nail before second
coat dries. Seal with clear top coat. Or how about something
very sexy, very new this season—the “French
ati.” You'll need white or beige opaque nail enamel; a pale,
translucent nail color in pink or peach; top coat. To do: On clean
dry nails, carefully paint tips of each nail with one or two coats
of white or beige enamel. Let dry, then apply one coat of

hen you feel and

sound all stuffed
up, try steaming your
face to unclog sinuses
and make breathing easier:
Bring a large pot of water
to boil and add a few ta-
blespoons of mint leaves or
loose mint tea. Remove
from heat. Lean over pot
with your face about eight

UNDER THE MISTLETOE

ince lips lack protec-

tive oil glands, dry win-
ter air really zaps them
of moisture. Dermatolo-
gists’ tip for severely
chapped lips: Apply an
over-the-counter petro-
leum-based hydrocorti-
sone ointment to lips six
times a day. They should
heal within a day or two.
Another option: Wear an
emollient such as a lip
balm alone or under lip-
stick. Balm’s waxy con-
sistency clings to lips,
keeps on working. Lips
dry out from indoor heat
while you sleep, too, so
apply balm or petroleum
jelly at bedtime.
Last-minute pre-party
emergency lip fixer:
Take a washcloth soaked
in warm water and pat
lips for a few minutes
until they feel softer.

Fe,

inches away. Drape a
towel over your head and
around the pot, close your
eyes and steam for ten to
fifteen minutes, until your
breath flows smoothly.
Get as much rest as pos-
sible, drink plenty of fiu-
ids, and take aspirin or
an aspirin substitute to
lessen aches and pains.

Rub on a thick layer of
petroleum jelly. Let set
for three minutes. (Why
not use the time to close
your eyes and let ten-
sions ebb away?) Then
gently rub your lips with
a warm washcloth, mas-
saging away loose, dry
skin. Apply creamy lip-
stick, using a brush to
glide color on evenly. Blot
and apply a second coat.

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six-second technique for
relaxation, developed by
Charles F. Stroebel, M.D.,
that may be just what you
need to handle holiday
hassles. At the first sign of
stress, breathe deeply and
say to yourself: “Alert,
amused mind; calm body.”
Though it sounds a little
silly, think happy thoughts
and smile at yourself in-
wardly. Breathe deeply
from your stomach so ab-
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start now for holiday re-
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Though it’s the season
for festivities, don’t over-
indulge in holiday cheer.
David Coddon, M.D., di-
rector of the Headache
Clinic at Mt. Sinai Medi-
cal Center, recommends
limiting yourself to two
drinks. That means: 1%
ounces of 80-proof whis-
key, 3 ounces of dessert
wine, such as port or
sherry, 5 ounces of table
wine or 12 ounces of beer.
@ The adage “Never mix,
never worry” is actually
true, says Seymour Dia-
mond, M.D., director of
the Diamond Headache
Clinic in Chicago. Con-
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limiting yourself to one
cocktail, one glass of wine
with dinner, and one after-
dinner liqueur, and be
sure to eat while you
drink, since food absorbs
alcohol. Munch on crack-
ers spread with non-aged
cheeses (cottage and cream
cheese, brie), vegetables,
or lean meats such as
turkey, chicken.

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meats, vegetables, fruits.
And I will eat only until
I’m comfortably full.”
Drink a glass of water
and eat one large ap-
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leaving for a party. The
water fills you up and
the apple is digested
slowly, stabilizing blood
sugar and forestalling
cravings for party food.

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Sybil Ferguson, founder of The Diet Center, sug-
gests these rules for seasonal feasting:

Before plunging into a

lavish holiday spread,
check out the buffet ta-
ble, then go back and
choose a few foods. Load
up on salad; you won't
feel deprived if your
plate is full.

If you crave a rich des-

sert, go ahead and
taste it. Is it so sensa-
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your weight in calories?
Then enjoy and don’t feel
guilty. Diet tomorrow!

Is a food binge immi-

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isn’t necessarily due to
your lack of willpower
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vent a food binge: Drink
eight glasses of water a
day and eat at least three
fruits. The fruits’ natural
sugar will stabilize your
blood sugar levels, thus pre-
venting cyclical cravings.

HOLIDAY SKIN SPOILERS

spoons of mixture into a
bowl and blend in plain
yogurt or buttermilk un-
til a paste is formed.
With fingertips, scrub
face for a few minutes
and rinse. (From Shosh-
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in New York City.)
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Special specs
for tiniest tots

Infants six months of age and even
younger are obviously too young to
learn to read, but they are just the
right age to do something even more
important with their eyes . . . learn to
see. And when they have eye problems,
more and more ophthalmologists and
optometrists think they are old enough

| to do something else: wear glasses.

Dr. John D. Wright, Jr., an Emory
University ophthalmologist, has fitted
infants as young as five months with
spectacles. In cases of abnormal bin-
ocularity—the inability to use the eyes
together properly, as in crossed eyes or
amblyopia (“lazy eye”’)—the glasses
can actually help “teach” the infants to
see properly. And the lesson will be re-
membered for life, enabling the young-
sters to either wear a weaker prescrip-
tion as they get older, wear the glasses
only intermittently or even discard them
entirely. Babies born six or more weeks
premature are at the highest risk of de-
veloping abnormal binocularity, with a
one in seven chance of problems, accord-
ing to Dr. Wright.

How do the babies react to wearing
glasses? Dr. Wright points to the fact
that the infants don’t try to take the

glasses off, meaning, he says, “they
know they see better with them on,’
and enjoy exploring tl vorld with
clear vision. He believes t all babies

should be routinely screened for eye

problems at about age six months. And
he urges parents who have 1cerns
about their child’ vision, no matter

how young the child, to visit a local
ophthalmologist or optometrist

A soapy link
to infections

Cleanliness may be next to godliness,
but it is possible to go overboard. A
study reported in the British medical
journal Lancet found that washing the
genitals with soap may be the cause of
many women’s dysuria—painful or dif-
ficult urination—often associated with
urinary tract infections.

The study found that a majority of
women with dysuria admitted to wash-
ing the genitals with soap, while most
women without dysuria said they
washed with water only. The findings
were the same whether or not a urinary
tract infection was present.

And after the women with dysuria
switched from soap to water, most of
them reported no further problems.

Annual free
cancer screening

Last year, 35,000 Ladies’ Home Journal
readers wrote in for free colon-rectal can-
cer screening tests. Some of them are
alive today because of it. And once again
this year, LHJ readers are urged to par-
ticipate in the free nationwide screening.

Of all cancers, colon-rectal cancer is
the number-two killer of both men and
women in the United States. But early
detection, often before there are any
symptoms, can mean effective treat-
ment and cure. In fact, 75 percent of
all colon cancers can be successfully
treated if caught early enough.

The test, recommended for adults
over age forty, is prepared at home, and
then mailed to the AMC Cancer Re-
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is positive, a second kit will be mailed,
again free, and if the second result con-
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to see a physician. You should know
that a positive result does not neces-
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uch as polyps and ulcers, can also
ause this reading—but it is essential
that cancer be ruled out by a physician.

By Beth Weinhouse

The dates of this year’s Nationa
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pick up the kit at any of the more than
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Quick check
for a strep throat

When is a sore throat just one of win
ter’s annoyances, and when is it a stre]
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sequent I . difficult children—stub-
aggressive, unmotivated—often
change course and suddenly blossom
into competent adolescents. Even chil-
dren who show signs of potentially se-
rious behavior disorders may mature
into well-adjusted adults.

University of Minnesota professor of
psychology Norman Garmezy has la-
beled children who are best able to do
this as “invulnerable.” These “miracle
kids” manage to transcend their trau-
matic childhoods and move from the
ghetto to the corporate boardroom, for
example, and from a milieu of physical
and psychological abuse to a healthy
adult family environment. How are they
able to sidestep the penalties we have
learned to expect as the result of trauma?
From studies conducted around the
world, researchers have distilled five
key characteristics that enable these
children of misfortune to beat the
heavy odds against them.

Feeling in control

Invulnerable youngsters believe they
can influence the course of their lives.
They operate with what psychologists
call an “internal locus of control,” the
conviction that success depends on in-
ternal factors—their own abilities and
efforts—and not on external factors
such as luck or “the breaks.” This belief
allows youngsters to transcend their
traumatic environment, but it’s not
necessarily a notion they’re born with.
Often, a concerned family member or
teacher shows enough love and interest
to inspire a sense of self-worth in a
child who might otherwise have lived a
life shrouded in defeat.

Danny Ryan, for example, was born
into poverty and raised in a violent at-
mosphere in rural Maryland, aban-
doned by his chronically depressed
mother and for years afterward sub-
jected to the alcoholic rages of his indif-
ferent father. In the foster home that
finally took Danny in, he was often
abused. But the big difference in
Danny’s life was his aunt, a woman who

~ had lost one of her own children and

who rescued Danny when he was eight
by taking him into her home. While
she put no limits on her love for him,
she resolutely he!d him responsible for
meeting high pee enee and personal
standards. Danny is a well-adjusted
young man today, enjoying close frien id-
ships and zestfully a nning a career in
computer programming.

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Lessons for parents: helping children cope

While studies show that some young-
sters are by nature more resistant to
stress than others, all of them can be
helped to become more resilient. Here
are five approaches suggested by
studies of invulnerable children.

Boost your child's self-confidence.
Youngsters are motivated by experi-
ences of success. Urge them to do
things they do well—swim, draw, make
model airplanes, play ball, write.
Even small triumphs can build a res-
ervoir of self-confidence on which they
can draw when the going gets rough.

Remember also to reward demon-
strations of strength rather than just
focusing on weaknesses. Don’t react
to every failure—whether a _ poor
grade or a strikeout in a Little
League game—as if it were the end of
the world. That is a sure way to induce
helplessness and destroy self-esteem.
Encourage independence. Young-
sters who believe they are individual-
ists may have a touch of arrogance,
but they will be able to resist stress
far better than those who feel as if
they live constantly in the shadow of
the adults around them. “As our chil-
dren grow up,” says Rutter, “they will
have to make their own decisions, and
we must help them acquire the skills
to do so. Children are not to be re-
garded as extensions of their parents,
and we should not strive to make
them either clones of ourselves as we
are or as we would have liked to be.”
Teach your child to persevere. Chil-
dren crumble in the face of stress not
so much because of the severity of the
situation, but because they feel they
cannot change it, no matter how hard
they try. In order to cope, they need to
adopt that magical attitude our par-
ents called stick-to-it-iveness. A per-
son’s success, we were taught, depends
as much on “I will” as on IQ.

One of the surest ways to encourage
perseverance is by the process psy-
chologists call “modeling’—that is,
by demonstrating the trait ourselves.
The father who gives up a long-
talked-about project when the going
gets rough, for example, is hardly an
inspiring example of persistence
against odds. It’s important to follow
through—by what you do as well as
say, you communicate the belief that
failures can be overcome.

Make your child feel special. “All
children need someone around who is
crazy about them,” says Urie Bron-
fenbrenner, Schurman Professor of
Human Development and Family
Studies at Cornell University. Such
love is unconditional. It does not de-

end on the child’s temperament, at-

tractiveness or intelligence—and it
does not wax and wane in response to
the child’s day-to-day behavior.

We asked dozens of young people
what factors they felt most strength-
ened their personalities, and what
they would do one day to protect the
mental health of their own children.
In words that differed in style and
mood, a common theme emerged.

Give us a sense of being valued, of |
being important and unique, these |}

children said, and you will have of-
fered us the psychological armor with
which to cope, no matter what
stresses life offers.

Help your child adopt healthy role
models. We cannot always control
whom our children will select as he-
roes. But parents can help by expos-
ing youngsters to people who are like-
ly to be a source of stability and
inspiration when needed. Renowned
psychoanalyst Erik Erikson believes

that strong identity figures give the |
child a chance to absorb “something |

most individuals who survive stress
and remain sane take for granted
most of the time.” It is a feeling of
optimism and trust, the assumption
that “somebody is there,’ without
which no one can endure.

Don't treat your child like a fragile
doll. Too many parents believe that
every crisis in their child’s life will
result in psychological disaster. They
assume they are helping their chil-
dren by protecting them from some of
the nastier realities that they t thawte
selves encountered as children. Yet
experts in child development have
concluded that learning to handle a
certain amount of stress early in life
may be necessary preparation for cop-
ing with adult crises. Refusing to al-

low a child to attend the funeral of a |
close relative, for example, can create |
additional confusion and fear about |

sickness and death. Attending the
services might provoke an initial sor-
row, but would further the grieving
and healing process and show that
death is a natural extension of the life

process. Similarly, parents often pro- |
tect their children from the effects of |

a financial crisis. Youngsters can han-
dle much more stress than we think
they can, and we can help develop
that ability by not protecting them
from everything.

It pays to be optimistic about our
children’s potential—and to convey
that optimism. Youngsters clearly
have a magnificent capacity to recover
even from serious problems and set-
backs—and our own confidence in
them is likely to be contagious.

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@irding experiences in school. This
the case, for example, with a sur-
‘ng number of women now being
ied by child psychiatrist Michael
ver at the University of London.
Jorn into abusive and broken fam-
and placed in foster care when
were under five, these women
d be expected to grow up to be trou-
and troublesome adults. And in-
|, some developed emotional distur-
zes, had criminal records and
sared to have meager chances for a
le family relationship of their own.
Dr. Rutter found, to his astonish-
it, that a sizable number of the
ren with such backgrounds showed
roblems and, in fact, are now lead-
satisfying lives.
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due to confidence-building experi-
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‘ts, drama and arts and crafts. The
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Willingness to delay gratification

“Children are not born with the ability
to wait for pleasures,” writes Columbia
University professor of psychology Wal-
ter Mischel, “and unless they learn to
tolerate delay, they will have a difficult
time coping with frustration.” The in-
vulnerable child often has his hopes
dashed, and learns early to accept the
gap that so often separates wishes and
their realization.

Gloria Powell, associate professor of
child psychiatry at UCLA, recalls learn-
ing that lesson as one of five fatherless
children of a family living in poverty in
Roxbury, Massachusetts. “Everything
my mother did and said somehow got
the message across that we would suc-
ceed eventually, no matter how tough
things were for us at the moment.”

Although the attitudes they incorpo-
rated while growing up may seem sur-
prisingly upbeat, invulnerable chil-
dren are by no means free of anguish
along the way. What makes the vital
difference is not the nature of their ex-
periences but the courage and fortitude

these children develop to cope. Berke-
ley developmental psychologist Arlene
Skolnick recounts the story of one
woman who successfully overcame a
childhood marked by the death of her
alcoholic and abusive father and rejec-
tion by her mother and stepmother.
“We suffer,” she said of triumphant
youngsters like herself, “but we don’t
let it destroy us.”

A sense of autonomy: being
your own. person

Resilient children act with the convic-
tion that they are distinct and indepen-
dent individuals. They do not feel that
their destiny is tied to that of their
parents, siblings or peers. Many are
actually able to maintain a safe emo-
tional distance even from a mother or
father who is psychotic or from parents
who are constantly at war. Fred, for
example, was a child of wealthy parents
who fought viciously throughout his
childhood. No day passed without his
parents screaming and cursing at each
other and beating him. One Sunday
morning Fred watched his mother kill
his father with a revolver. Fred then
became the ward of an uncle whose
strange friends—gamblers, racketeers,
prostitutes—paraded through his
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however, Fred is the winner of a nation-
wide talent hunt for future scientists
and about to begin his studies at one of
the nation’s leading universities. Some-
how he and others like him manage to
evade the delusions and sick preoc-
cupations of their immediate world.

Freedom from negative labels

No matter what indignities they face,
resilient children do not fee! stigmatized
as hopelessly inadequate or inferior

Their self-image remains unscarred by
labels such as “culturally deprived,
“handicapped” or “delinquent.” They
thus manage to avoid living as though
the world’s unhappy view of them is in
fact accurate. Comedian Dick Gregory
remembers his mother pointing out an

important distinction. “We ain’t poor,”
she preached, “we're just broke.”

The late Nicholas Hobbs, psychol-
ogist and provost at Vanderbilt Univer-
sity, graphically described what can
happen when a youngster accepts the
stigmatizing labels of society. “It can
blight the life of a child,” he wrote,
“reducing opportunity, diminishing
competence and self-esteem, inducing
alienation from others, nurturing a
meanness of spirit.” Invulnerable chil-
dren remain unmarked by the brands
others seem so surprisingly ready to
burn on their psyches.

Identification with someone
special
Invulnerable children appear to gather
strength from charismatic figures who
turn them on to life’s possibilities.
Sometimes a (continued on page 175)

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That, after all, is what Burns has been
doing since he was seven years old,
when he first discovered the magnetic
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“Four of us kids used to work at a
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like strawberry, chocolate and vanilla.
There was a letter carrier named Lou
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come down and get your mail, and
when you got there he’d teach you har-
mony singing. We didn’t know we
couldn’t sing. But we sang.

“And one day we were making syrup
and we were singing, and we looked
up—because we were in the base-
ment—and there were six or seven peo-
ple standing upstairs listening to us.
And they threw us a few pennies. Well,
I said, ‘This is the business we gotta get
in. We can make more at that than mix-
ing chocolate.’ So that’s how we got to-
gether. We sang on ferryboats and on
streetcars, and we passed around the
hat. Sometimes they put something in
the hat. Sometimes they kept the hat.”

And thus the Pee Wee Quartet was
born, and George Burns was on his way.

Of course, it wasn’t easy at first. Fora
while, when he was fourteen, he kept
his foot in the show business door by
teaching at Phoebe’s College of Dance.
“IT used to teach a fox-trot, a waltz, a
two-step for five dollars. But the trou-
ble was, the only people I taught to
dance were neighborhood guys, and they
couldn’t dance with anybody but me. So,
whenever they went to a wedding I had
to go with them.” Ba-dum-bum.

Then there were the numerous ani-

mal acts. “I worked with a seal: I
worked with a dog. The poor seal died. I
ate the fish.” Ba-dum-bum

persistent. “I used to ride d down
the elevator in the building

the managers worked. I'd ride

down with my cigar in one han:

my picture in the other, waiting {
some manager to say, ‘What are you
doing, kid?’ and give me a job. The ele-
vator boy finally said to me one day,
‘Let me ask you something, kid. Is this

elevator the only place you play?’ ”

Burns is filled with these kinds of tales
from his past. Nevertheless, he lives in
the present, and his days are well orches-
trated. One of the secrets of his success,
which he’s more than willing to share,
involves “getting out of bed and spending
the day loving what you're doing. I can’t
make money in bed,” he says with a dead-
pan expression. “I’ve tried.”

Once out of bed, Burns follows a
fairly regular routine. He exercises
every day—twenty-five minutes of
stretching on the floor, followed by fif-
teen minutes of brisk walking. “One,
two ...I make a noise. The reason is
not that it helps the exercise; I just
want my servants to know Im still
alive. Funny joke, I think,” he adds,
looking around for approval.

After a light breakfast, Burns travels
to his office at Zoetrope Studios. Con-
sidering his stature and the span of his

believe in what

I'm doing. I'd
rather be a failure at
something I’m in love
with than be successful
in something I hate.”

career, it’s a modest collection of rooms.
Jokes from decades past cling to the off-
white walls and nestle in the old orange
and red rug fibers. “We don’t have to be
clean in here,” says Burns. “Just funny.”
On the walls hang pictures of Burns with
Gracie Allen, more pictures of Gracie,
their children, and a collage from New
York's Palace Theater, featuring a young
Milton Berle and Jack Benny.

Many people still think of George
Burns as the other half of Burns and
Allen. Gracie was Burnss partner
through forty years of show business
and obviously the love of his life. They
teamed up in 1923 as a vaudeville act.
“In vaudeville you couldn’t say damn.
You couldn’t say hell. And in those days
there were cancellation clauses in your
contract. You could get canceled after
the first performance. So there was al-
ways a sign backstage saying, “Don’t

1 out your laundry until after the
how. You never knew if you'd stay.”

’n January 7, 1926, George Burns
racie Allen were married. Their

big break came in 1929, when the rest

tion to Gracie) was ill and couldn’t
a movie commitment.

“We were getting about four hun
dollars a week,” recalls Burns. “And
were at a party at Arthur Lyons’ ho
who was handling Jack Benny.
weren’t even invited. Jack took
Arthur Lyons came over and said, ‘Fr
Allen was supposed to make a short
Long Island for Warner Brothers
he can’t make it.’ He says to Jack,
you can go over there tomorrow and
eight minutes, they'll give you seve
teen hundred dollars.’ Jack says,
can’t go over there tomorrow.’ I sai
‘We can go.’ He said, ‘Sure, go ahead.

“We went there, and the set didn’t
our dialogue. We were street corn
and the set was the interior of a livi
room. So we had to improvise. I walk
out, and Gracie lifted up plates
ashtrays. I said, ‘What are you looki
for?’ She said, ‘The audience.’ I sai
‘See the lens sticking out of the c
era?’ She said, ‘Yeah.’ I said, ‘If you lo
in that lens, that’s where the audient
is.’ She said, ‘Oh?’ I said, ‘Gracie, if v
can talk for eight minutes, we cé
make seventeen hundred dollars. Ye
think you can talk for eight minutes
She said, ‘Ask me how my brother is.
said, ‘Hows your brother?’ And :
kept talking. She was in the middle o
joke at eight minutes—I locked at
watch and said, ‘Hold it, the eight ee
utes are up.’ I looked at the camera ar
said, ‘Ladies and gentlemen, we ju
made seventeen hundred dollars. Séz
goodnight, Gracie.’ And Gracie did ju
that. And that picture started a who
new career for us.”

That case of being in the right plas
at the right time led to fourteen sho
films and a dozen features, and in 19%
CBS handed them their own radio pr
gram. The Burns and Allen Show ré
until 1950, when it shifted to telev
sion. The team was a hit until Gracie
retirement in 1958.

“When Gracie retired, I went in
show business,” says Burns. “I was r
tired the whole time I worked with he
When I worked with Gracie I didn’t ha
to do anything. My big lines were, “Yc
don’t say,’ and ‘Oh, really?’ Things lil
that. Gracie did it all. I had the talent ¢
the stage, she had it on. I couldn’t (
what I thought of; Gracie could.”

Interestingly enough, as original
planned, Gracie was supposed to fee
straight lines to her husband—who
given himself all the funny bits. Bi
during their first performance in Uni¢
Hill, New Jersey, Gracie got all tl
laughs, even though she never told
joke. According to Burns, her secr
was her acting ability.

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My husband hates the holidays.

Most of the year he’s easy to get

along with and enjoys family ac-
tivities, but when Christmas comes he
gets short-tempered and withdraws. He
seems to get no pleasure from the fes-
tivities; he avoids them altogether if he
can, and he’s immune to presents and
holiday cheer—a real Scrooge!

For many of us, the Christmas season is
one of the most exciting times of year.
There are parties, fancy clothes, mar-
velous food and, most important, multi-
ple opportunities to show our love for
those around us. Thus, it seems un-
thinkable to us that some of our family
members or friends might actually
dread this holiday period.

Even so, anxiety or slight depression
is a normal response to any celebra-

| tion period, and a big holiday like
| Christmas can heighten and prolong

these feelings. One reason for this reac-
tion is the impossible expectation that
the season will be an exhilarating win-
ter fantasy in which everyone will
joyously participate. The source of even
more anxiety may be found in the

| ghosts of Christmas past: Some people

reexperience with their own families
the bitter disappointments of child-
hood. Now the burden is upon them to
play the bountiful parent, even though
their own cup was never filled. An ex-
treme response to such unresolved con-
flicts of dependency, separation and
abandonment might be anhedonia, a

general inability to experience pleasure.
A man may find the role of father
especially difficult shoulder at

Christmastime. If his own father is
deceased, the holiday can mean reliv-
ing the meaning of that death and
working through once more the fact of
being thrust into adulthood

Because I tend to agree with the pop-
ular saying that there is more little boy
in the man than little g in the
woman, I feel that moving from the role
of child to yearly Santa Claus can bring
up, for many men, their own desire tc
be held, to be taken care of and to be

PSYCHOLOGIST'S
JOURNAL

Why husbands—and all of us—get the holiday —
blues, and how to cope. By Sonya Friedman, Ph.D.

showered with gifts. Christmas is a
child-centered holiday, and this can
arouse feelings of competition and jeal-
ousy in some adults, as well as the des-
perate but unspoken or unrecognized
wish to be a child again, free of respon-
sibility, free of obligation and free to
climb upon the lap of someone who will
grant him his Christmas wish.

Yet it is precisely at this time of year
that a man must reexamine just how
well he does provide for his family.
After all, at Christmas it’s usually Dad
who is expected to be the benevolent
distributor of presents. He may believe
he will be perceived as generous or not,
loving or not, according to how much he
spends. Also, many husbands attempt
to use gifts to compensate for not hav-
ing given their family love or attention
throughout the year. As they do so, feel-
ings of guilt and disappointment often
surface, along with a fear of disappoint-
ing others. Other fathers may experi-
ence an exaggerated sense of exploita-
tion—these men may feel that their
families don’t really want them for
themselves but rather for the gifts they
will give. Consequently, if your hus-
band unexpectedly explodes in anger
during this period, the rage may stem
from his awareness of an emotional
void, a really painful lack of intimacy

People often make the mistake of
buying a gift that they themselves
would like to receive, rather than
empathizing with the recipient.
By sitting down with each family
member and coordinating the ex-
change of gifts, including the

amount spent, you'll be able to
ensure that both givers and re-
ceivers experience pleasure when
| the wrappings come off.

| Delegate holiday tasks while
_ making sure that any decisions
_ regarding family activities gen-

TIPS TO MINIMIZE HOLIDAY STRESS =>

and closeness with the family group.

The holidays can also be a stressfi
period for a man who generally fee
uncomfortable in social situations
who is something of a workaholic. H:
own desire may be to retreat into
den to watch television or to contin
working on a project, but becai
Christmas makes additional deman
for family togetherness, he may fin|
himself accommodating his wife an|
children while secretly begrudging t
sacrifice. Ironically, what others see
pleasurable time together he may exp
rience as more work—a constant d
mand to extend himself and partic
pate, to be charming and gregario
whether he feels that way or not.

If you are aware that many men
perience the holiday season as an
ious period when they must deal wit
some basic life conflicts, perhaps it wi
help you to indulge the little boy i
your husband by making him fee
really special during this time. B
being especially affectionate with hir
and reminding him how very neede
and important he is to the family,
well as to you personally, you can ‘
much to bolster his confidence in him
self as a provider, and to help him fee
genuinely connected to the family dui
ing these stress- and joy-laden days. |

uinely respond to the needs and
desires of your family members.
Don't forget spontaneity! Put-
ting things off until the last min-
ute is not a mortal sin. In fact,
part of the excitement can be
rushing to the market for two
more quarts of eggnog because
you've generously invited five ex-
tra people to your party on the
spur of the moment. Remember
that having fun is just as impor-
tant an aspect of the holidays as
getting the presents wrapped.

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& CRANBERRY SAUCE FOR

Cee TURKEY—1897
66 ash one quart
of cranberries.
} Put them in a porce-
ay ae or granite kettle;
add one quart of cold
water, cover; cook
> until berries
pop—about ten
minutes. Strain
throughacolan-
der, return to the
kettle; ze one pound of granu-
lated sugar; stir until dissolved
and turn out at once. If a firm jelly
is desired, boil the mixture five
minutes, turn into a mould and
stand at once in the cold.”
We put this 1897 recipe to the test in our
1984 kitchens—and found it really
works! One quart of cranberries is
equal to one and a quarter of today’s
convenience bags—and if you want a
“Jelly,” stand the “mould” in the refrig-
erator instead of on an icy sill.

A YARD OF DOLLAR BILLS—
_ 1910 his length of
money makes
} a good present. It
takes five bills to
carry out the idea.
Today it would take
ry six dollar bills. Paper
_ | currency in 1910 was
an inch and a quarter
~» longer than todays—
the dollar really did
go farther back when!
To make: Attach six
— dollar bills along the
length of a tape measure; roll, tie with a
bow and deposit in Christmas stocking.

RIBBONS AND BOWS—1976
eee Christmas ribbons
change ordinary household ac-
ssories into lovely
resents and display
es. You can turn

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encha i sweetmeat
holders; hurricane
globes into princely
lights; supermarket

: oranges int
= Jornaments. Tie lavish
\ bows in holide ay col-
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footed bowls and boxes

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PROOFS OF
REAL FRIENDSHIP—1920
C= lace boudoir cap @ Class-
room frock with duventine col-
lar @ Cream georgette fichu @ Ma-
tron’s evening scarf of black net over
emerald net @ Collar and cuff set of
velvet or satin in any gay shade

Whether it’s flapper-wear or sportswear—
handmade gifts are a proof of friendship!

GIFT FROM THE TREES—1912
touching gift is a bagful of
pinecones to make a cheerful,

bright blaze in a friend’s fireplace.

CHRISTMAS COLORS—1969
he kitchen is the hub of holiday
activities, so dress it in Christ-
mas colors: Paint a large fruit bas-
ket red and fill with green and red
peppers, scallions, artichokes.

THE TINIEST
TREES—1942
argeempty spools
painted red with
water paint will
hold sprigs of pine
boughs nicely up-
right, like little trees.
Use these minia-
tures on tables, man-
telsor windowsills to
brighten the scene.

GIVE-A-GIFT CHRISTMAS
EVE PARTY—1931

wonderful way to teach chil-

dren the spirit of sharing at
Christmas: Throw a kids’ party for
Santa on Christmas Eve. Ask each
guest to bring a present (an old toy
from last Christmas that’s still in
good condition). Supply gift paper,
ribbons, scissors
and fon wrap
have fun wrap-
ping. The idea is
that Santa will
pick up the gifts
when he brings é
this years bounty, “Sas
and then he'll tie the hand-
me-down presents to the children’s
ward at the local hospital.
If you like to reserve Christmas Eve for
family gatherings, throw a give-a-gift
party any time during the pre-holiday
season. This great idea from the De-
pression Era is sure to gladden kids’
hearts in the ’80s, too, and teach even
the youngest the heartwarming lesson
that it is truly blessed to give.

als

REINDEER TOAST—1926
66EB lace a pa-
per pattern
of a reindeer on a,
slice of bread and‘
cut around it with \
a sharp-pointed
paring knife, then
toast very slowly in
a moderate oven un-
til golden brown.”
Why not toast the stars, ales
and Santa shapes of Christmas, too?
A great morning treat for kids of all ages.

FOR KEEPING
TREE ORNAMENTS—1913
6 hen [the tree trimmings]
must be put away, a practi-
cal receptacle is a paper egg-box
that has a dozen small compart-
ments. . . . Save such boxes as they
are received from the grocer’, for
with some soft paper or cotton in the
bottom they are excellent for storing
the fragile decorations until an-
other holiday comes.” (continued)

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A DOLL’S CHRISTMAS TREE
—1903

“In the centre of the room place a tree
about four feet tall, decorate it pret-
tily and hang upon it presents ap-
propriate for dolls only—tiny animals,
doll’s jewelry, home-made doll garments
and small bags of candy.”

Today's Cabbage Patch Kids—and their little
moms—will love having their own personal
Christmas trees to gather around.

A CHRISTMAS TABLECLOTH—1956
“Linen or cotton, any color or size, is
bought in yardage plain and unadorned.
Later, ball fringe may trim it, or ma-
chine-stitched border, or simply an am-
ple hem. As holiday guests linger over
coffee, each is given a soft pencil to
autograph the cloth, and the hostess
plans to embroider the signatures with
her new zigzag sewing attachments. For
years to come it will record friendships.”
1984 update: Buy a permanent press table-
cloth, plus instant “embroidery” pens (avail-
able at crafts shops) in red, green, gold and
siiver. Guests can sign the cloth and you
won’t have any stitchery to do later!

A CHRISTMAS AFTERNOON

TAFFY PULL—1982

In a medium saucepan combine 1%
cups sugar, ¥ cup water, 2 tablespoons
white distilled vinegar and 1% tea-
spoons butter. Cook and stir over me-
dium heat until sugar is dissolved.
Lower heat and continue to cook with-
out stirring to 260°F. on candy ther-
mometer (or until a small amount of
syrup forms a firm ball when dropped
in very cold water). Remove from heat;
stir in ¥2 teaspoon vanilla extract. Im-
mediately pour into buttered 13’x9”
baking pan and set aside until cool
enough to handle (about 15 minutes).
Now for the pull. . . .With clean, lightly but-
tered fingers, you and an assistant can pull
taffy to perfection. First, gather the warm
candy into a ball, divide with a butter knife.
Then pull and stretch the taffy slowly, until
hands are about 18 inches apart, and fold
half of the candy back on the other half be-
fore stretching again. Continue pulling and
folding until taffy gains a satiny luster and
begins getting a little stiff (about 6 to 8 min-
utes). Now form taffy into an egg shape and
lay it flat on its side on a clean surface. Start
pulling from the narrow end in‘o a short rope 2
inch in diameter. Cut the rope : bite-sized
pieces with clean, buttered scissors. Keep
pulling from the small end to form a rope,
cutting until all the taffy is sectioned. Wrap
each piece ina small square of wax paper;
twist ends. Makes seventy-five l-inch pieces.

10 STOCKING

STUFFERS UNDER $1—1980
1. Jumbo crayons

2. Wooden comb from China
3. Package of shoelaces

. Dimestore bandanna

. Tomato pincushion

. Cake of floral soap

. Package of herb bath foam

. Stick eraser

. Strawberry magnets

10. Glue stick

Some of these 1980 bargains may have crept
past the $1 mark by now—but we still think
they're cheap thrills for Christmas 1984.

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HOLIDAY-PERFECT
PICTURES—1898

“To photograph children at home ...
have in mind a clear idea of what is
desired; arrange the accessories. The
next step is to get the child to help... .
It may be that the little one may be
induced to give some time to reading
Mother Goose or that the new bonnet is
to be admired. Perhaps your little assis-
tant will tell you when the goldfish are
still so that they may be photographed.
The pictures which are sure to be most
valued . . . are those which show the lit-
tle ones occupied as they are found to be
when left to their own devices.”

You won’t have to slip behind the black curtain
to get these shots, but you'll still treasure the
snaps you get at Christmas when the family
gathers—especially if you catch the charming
antics of kids in natural poses.

OH, MY ACHING FEET—1891

“A remedy for tender feet is cold water,
about two quarts, two tablespoonfuls of
ammonia, one tablespoonful of bay rum.
Sit with the feet immersed for ten min-
utes, gently throwing the water over the
limbs upward to the knee. Then rub dry
with a... towel and the tired feeling is
gone.”

This soothing stand-up-to-the-holidays foot
soak is still a great idea—whether or not you
use the bay rum and ammonia!

SHARE YOUR SWEETS—1942
“Share your sweets and little luxuries, as
your grandmother did . . . home-canned
peaches or pickled peaches, a jar of
jelly or jam. Honey, too, since sweets
are precious.... Share your rations;
tea and coffee, herbs and spices are
rarities now—we’ve taken them for
granted for 150 years.”

Wartime or not, -everyone loves a ration of
gifts from the kitchen at Christmas.

CHRISTMAS LIGHT SHOW—1972
“To create your own light show, take
out every candlestick in the house. Fill
them with candles of all shapes, sizes
and colors, and mass them for a great
holiday glow.”

Remember to keep lights away from curtains
or any flammable objects.

MATCHING DRINK FOR

DRINK —1900

“Sipping cold water will, in fact, often
allay the craving for alcoholic drinks
—a point worth remembering... .”

advises the Journal health editor.

Sparkling water with slices of lemon or li
will do the trick this season.

GIFTS TO MAKE—1954

“Dress up someone’s closet with box
covered in pretty wallpaper. Or try
adhesive-backed plastic. They come i
attractive colors and stripes, are ve
easy to work with.”

“As an extra ‘tree’ or just a Chris
flight of fancy, the pegboard finds y
another use. We painted ours green, h
it with decorations and small presents.”

An inexpensive salad bowl
servers can be a festive addition to
holiday table if you paint the outside
the bow! and the handles of the serve
with Christmas designs or quotations

THE KISSING BUNCH—1902
“Use two small hoops, placing o
within the other like an open glob
Twine with evergreen and fasten
bunch of mistletoe on the inside.”
This romantic bit of cheer should alway
find a place among the decorations. Use em
broidery hoops to form the globe —a
dream of a magic moment under the mis
tletoe! (Mommy kissing Santa?)

ASK YOUR GRANDPARENTS—194
Since Christmastime is steeped in tr
dition, how about asking your gran
parents about the games they used
play? They may have some old-ti
suggestions to put new fun into the ho
idays this year for all generations.

LOVING FROM THE OVEN—1920
“The puddings, the cakes, the punche
the pies, the stuffings, the creams [
Christmas] always taste better when
is whispered around the groaning bo.
that ‘Mother made the plum puddi
after her great-grandmother’s recip
than if the pudding is a better produ
but comes from the corner caterer.”
Mom's cooking is still best, even in the micr
wave age.

‘TIS THE SEASON TO BE
SINGING —1941

“We suggest that you start your dec
rating to the music of Christmas caro
—on the radio, the phonograph, or ju
hum them happily to yourself. . . .”

PARTY FAVORS— 1982

Little moiré pouches in a rainbow
sortment of colors, filled with sach
and tied with ribbon, make wonde
gifts for Christmas guests. Keep on di
play in a crystal bowl for guests t
take away when they leave.

GIFTS THAT KEEP ON

GIVING— 1962

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cards, then add a section of favorite rec’
pes from your owncollection (continue

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and give to a friend who loves to cook.
Promise of spring: Seeds and bulbs
from your garden, packaged and ready
to plant, to watch, to enjoy. Like friend-
ship, this gift will grow and bloom
through the years.
Children adore anything from the art
store. Assemble paper, rulers, crayons,
compass, stencils. Tie up and present.
Have a wonderful cheese spread?
Whip up a big batch, put it in little
earthenware crocks to share with
friends the recipe for repeat
performances). Something a little bit
sharp is welcome relief in a season so
sweet—and particularly to men.
For the littlest beauty: A rainbow of
ribbons, yard lengths of velvet, satin
nd grosgrain in many widths.
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EXERCISE ANTIDOTE FOR
CHRISTMAS DINNER—1907
“After the Christmas dinner why
you not play ‘Hunt the mble’? T}
will give you good ex which v

doubtless make you feel more comfort-
able after the feast of turkey and En-
glish plum pudding. Or let someone be-
fore dinner hide a bagful of peanuts all
over the house, upstairs and down-

stairs.... But better still is a good
brisk walk outdoors. If you are lucky
enough to be a skater, go out on the ice
for an hour or more.”

A STOCKING FOR MOTHER—1956
Make a stocking ... a gift to Mother.
The whole family contributes—a lacy
hanky, sheer stockings, an exquisite
flower; Dad adds the pearls. Make
stocking about 14 inches tall in small-
patterned Victorian flower print.

Why not make a similar stocking for Dad?
Contents could be cuff links, golf tees, after-

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SNOWBALL DESSERT—1903

A dish of Christmas Snowballs is made
by freezing plain vanilla ice cream
scooped into balls. Roll these in grated
coconut, pile high on a platter, garnish
with glittering rock candy.

SWEEP-SAVING TIP—1946

A tablespoonful of cut-flower food
stirred into the Christmas tree water
will keep the needles from dropping.
Add today’s tree care tips for the green-

a
est Christmas ever:

@ Cut an inch off the trunk, then place tree
in a pail of lukewarm water for three or four
hours before setting it up.

@ Avoid placing the tree near any source of
heat, such as the fireplace or lamps.

@ Use a stand with a water reservoir. (Reser-
voir should be refilled daily with plenty of
lukewarm water.)

A PRESENT FOR THE HOUSE—1956
“Any aid a house lacks makes an ideal
Christmas gift the family can join in—
each giving and each receiving at the
same time. Each member of the house-
hold talks over his choice around the
fireplace, contributes to the fund,
scouts for ideas, and together the fam-
ily triumphantly carries home the final
purchase. Over the years a house grows
steadily more loved and tended, and big
and small givers feel a share in caring
for it. Perhaps that’s why so many fam-
ilies we know treasure the house-gift
custom and the unity it brings.”

Back then, the most popular gifts were port-
able TVs and electric fry pans. Today, they’re
no doubt portable home computers and mi-
crowave ovens. But the thought is the same,
The family will enjoy reminiscing about “th
year we got the computer.” What a splendid
way to keep the Christmas spirit alive!

CHRISTMAS UNDER GLASS—1974
Give custom-blend teas in pretty jars
tied with ribbon. (continued)

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SWEET ROSE BLEND

Combine 2 cups Darjeeling tea leaves,
¥2 cup rose hips, ¥2 cup dried rosebuds
and 1 vanilla bean.

Use 1 teaspoon of tea leaves for each
cup of boiling water in teapot. Steep 2
to 3 minutes. Serve hot with 1 table-
spoon honey and ¥2 teaspoon rose water
added to each cup. Garnish with dried
rose petals if you wish.

SPICY BLEND

Combine 2 cups Ceylon tea leaves with ¥2
cup diced dried apricots, ¥2 cup chopped
crystallized ginger, 2 cinnamon sticks
and 1 tablespoon whole cloves.

Use 1 teaspoon of tea leaves for each
cup of boiling water in teapot. Steep 2
to 3 minutes. Serve hot with 1 teaspoon
orange marmalade added to each cup.
Garnish with 1 cinnamon stick and a
sliver of crystallized ginger.

ORNAMENTS FOR THE TREE—1912
“Ornaments for the tree may be made
from old ‘fancy’ post cards by cutting
out bells, heads, figures, etc. and deco-
rating them with tinsel glued on. They
look as pretty as many similar a-
ments sold for five to ten cents eac

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come snow or rain, it'll still
shine. And it’s much bnghter
than an ordinary flashlight.

What's more, all Durabeam
lights come with long-lasting
DURACELL batteries.

Which should keep Dad’s
face lit up for quite a long time.

hours, creating handmade ornaments that they
—and you—will cherish for years to come.

SUGARPLUM TREE—1960

You'll need paper cups in assorted sizes,
plus lace doilies, construction paper, sa-
tin ribbons, stickers (notary seals are
wonderful—they come in red, gold, sil-
ver at the stationer’s), poster paints and
glue. Let each family member create
original designs, then thread strings or
ribbons through the rims of cups. Fill
each cup with cookies and candies, and
hang on the tree.

ALL WRAPPED UP—1962

“For small packages try red-and-white
bandanna-print paper napkins, or ordi-
nary newsprint closed at sides with ini-
tialed sealing wax. Appliqués of felt
(dollface, bunny, snowman, Christmas
tree and leaves with lollipop flowers)
can be trimmed and glued to any sur-
face. Wallpaper has great style. Tissue-
paper flowers in unusual color com-
binations can be made in all shapes
and sizes, looking like everything from
a bouquet to a delicate wreath.”

FIVE SPECIAL WAYS TO PUT MORE
JOY IN THE HOLIDAYS—1981

1. Read a Christmas classic aloud.
Why not set aside an evening for a

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May. And, of course, there is the origi
of Christmas itself: The birth of Jest
as told in the Bible (Luke 2:1—20).
2. Make a Christmas photomontag
Take a trip back in time with old phot
graphs of your family at past holidé
celebrations. Arrange them in a stor
bought frame. Hang every year or gi’
as a gift to a favorite godparent.

3. Start an heirloom ornament colle
tion for a child. Give one special orn
ment each year. By the time the child
grown, he or she has a priceless colle
tion of Christmas memories.

4. Offer to swap baby-sitting
shopping time. Mothers often have d
ficulty finding time to Christmas shc
You might arrange to sit with a neig
bor’s brood for an afternoon or evenil
while she shops and have her do t
same for you. Or take a friend’s ch
dren shopping with you.
5. Celebrate the seasons en
Lighten end-of-season chores in yo
home by having a Twelfth Night ce.
bration this year on January 6. Serve
warming supper and get to work pi
ting away the family treasures. E

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Most everyone loves to eat—especially
during the holidays—so you won’t go
wrong with these delectable gifts
that you can whip up in your own
kitchen. Not only does a homemade
gift usually cost a lot less than one
that you would buy, but the people on
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thought that went into your offering
as much as the present itself.

PECAN PRALINES

Before you start this recipe, make sure
you have a trusty candy thermometer
with clear, large readable numbers.
For the best results, crack open the
pecans just before assembling the re-
maining ingredients. And once you've
made the pralines, let them ripen for
two days before gift wrapping so that
the sweetness and nutty flavor have a
chance to grow.

2 cups firmly packed light brown
sugar

2 cups sugar

1 cup half and half cream

Y4 cup unsalted butter, softened
Pinch salt

3 cups fresh pecan halves,
cut into rough
Y2-inch pieces

Line 2 cookie sheets with parchment
paper; set aside

Place the sugars and cream in a
heavy 6-quart saucepan. Cover and
place over a low heat to dissolve the
sugar. When the sugar has dissolved
completely, uncover the pot, attach
the candy thermometer so it drops
into the liquid and rvise the heat to
moderately high. Bring he liquid toa
boil, and boil to 228°F. Immediately
add the butter by folespoonfuls: then
the salt and pecans; stir briefly and
continue cooking to 236°F.

Remove the saucepan from the
heat, and cool the mixture to 200°F.

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Stir 1 minute with a sturdy wooden
spoon until thick and glossy. Drop
heaping mounds of the candy mixture
4 inches apart onto the cookie sheets.
Cool the praline patties to room tem-
perature, then peel them off the pa-
per. Store the pralines in a tin. Makes
about 4 dozen.

CARROT-FLECKED BANANA LOAF

This recipe is fun to bake in small 2-
cup loaf pans (children love them), as
well as in a standard loaf pan. To give
as a gift, wrap in clear, heavy plastic
wrap and place the loaf, at an odd
angle, in a small pine basket. Fill up
every space that the bread doesn’t with
tiny pinecones, bright shiny leaves and
sprays of loose pine needles.

2 cups sifted all-purpose flour
(preferably unbleached)
2 teaspoons baking powder
Ya teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon ground
cinnamon
Y2 teaspoon salt
Y% cup unsalted butter, softened
¥Ya4 cup sugar
2 large eggs, at room temperature
¥a cup (lightly packed measurement)
shredded carrots (grate the carrots
on the large holes of a hand
grater)
1 cup (about 2 medium-small) pared
bananas
Ya cup chopped walnuts

Grease and flour a 9x5-inch loaf pan;
set aside. Preheat oven to 350°F. Com-
bine flour, baking powder, baking
soda, cinnamon and salt; set aside.

In the large bowl! of an electric
mixer, cream the butter on moder-
ately high speed for 2 minutes. Add
the sugar and continue beating for 2
minutes. Beat in the eggs, one at a
time, scraping down the sides of the
bowl after each egg is added. Beat in
the carrots and bananas.

On low speed, add the sifted mix-
ture in two portions, blending just un-
til the flour particles have been ab-
sorbed. By hand, stir in the walnuts.

Pour the batter into the prepared
pan and bake the loaf on the lower-
level rack of the oven for 50 minutes
to 1 hour, or until a toothpick inserted
into the bread emerges clean and dry.

Cool in pan on a rack for 10 min-
utes, then invert onto another rack,
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tainer. Makes one loaf.

LIME CREAM

Lemon and lime creams are smoot
and rich, to be enjoyed as spreads fo
warm breakfast or teatime breads, i
between cake layers, or underneath
fresh fruit in a tart. These are big
batch cream recipes, which I make in
avery large professional double boiler.
But you may wish to halve the recipe.

2 cups sugar
Yq teaspoon salt
1 cup freshly squeezed lime juice
6 large eggs, at room temperature
6 large egg yolks, at room temperate
1 cup unsalted butter, cut up into |
chunks

In the top saucepan of a double boiler,
whisk together the sugar, salt and lime
juice. Beat in the eggs, one at a time;
beat in the egg yolks, one at a time.

Place the saucepan over the bottom
saucepan, which has been filled with
gently simmering water. Cook and
whisk over very low heat for 5 minutes.

Begin adding the butter in chunks,
letting each bit melt into the mixture
before adding the next, whisking all
the while. After all of the butter has
been added, continue to cook the mix-
ture until it has thickened up, keep-
ing the heat low and constant, lest the
eggs scramble the cream.

When thickened, after 15 to 20 min-

utes, pour the cream into clean,
pretty jars to % inch of the top. Close
the jars and store the cream in the
refrigerator for up to 1 month. Makes
about 4 cups.
Variation: To make Lemon Cream,
substitute 1 cup lemon juice for the
lime juice and add 2 tapleeP oo
finely grated lemon peel.

APRICOTS IN APRICOT LIQUEUR

These fancy apricots look gorgeous
when packed in decorative jars. Buy
the softest, lushest apricots you can
find, as the liqueur will only enhance
the flavor of the dried fruit, not tender-
ize it. Drained and chopped, these
apricots are a handy addition to some
yeast breads and coffee cakes, and are
delicious in mincemeat, puddings and
fruitcake. (continued on page P.S. 6)

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For gift-giving, place the apricots and liqueur in a clea
Jar, angle a whole vanilla bean in full view and close t
Jar. Decorate with a fabric top if you like, and include ¢
helpful tag that describes some uses for the apricots.

2 pounds whole dried apricots, preferably Turkish
4 supple vanilla beans
Apricot liqueur

Lightly pack the apricots in four pint jars, filling each ja
about two-thirds full. After one third of the jar is filled
slide in a vanilla bean. Pour on enough liqueur to cove
the fruit, about 1 cup for each jar.

Put the lids on the jars and let the apricots stand for
day at room temperature, then refrigerate.

The apricots may remain in the refrigerator for at leas
8 months. They get better as the weeks go by.

GINGER-STUFFED PRUNES
SIMMERED IN RED WINE

These prunes are dressed up on the inside with crys
tallized ginger. Use them carefully cut in half and tucked
into the side of a mound of mousse or ice cream or pud
ding, hot or cold.

5 cups dry red wine
1% cups sugar
4 packages (12 oz. each) pitted prunes
About 80 pieces crystallized ginger, each piece halved
4 teaspoons grated orange peel
4 teaspoons grated lemon peel
1 vanilla bean split down the center

In stainless steel or enameled saucepan, combine wine
and sugar and cook over a low heat, until sugar is
dissolved.

In the meantime, stuff each prune with a piece of
crystallized ginger and press shut with your fingers.

Add the orange and lemon peels and vanilla bea
to liquid; bring to a boil over high heat, boiling for 8
minutes. Add the prunes and simmer for 20 minutes, o
until just tender, basting them often.

Remove the prunes to bow! with a slotted spoon. Boil
syrup for 4 minutes; pour over prunes.

Cool to room temperature. Pack the prunes, with syrup
and peel (discard the vanilla bean),in clean glass jars to
¥2 inch of the top. Cover and refrigerate for 6 months to 1
year. Makes about 1 quart.

GRAPEFRUIT SYRUP

This is a superbly refreshing syrup; its splendid sloshea
over wedges of winter fruit. Fruit syrups such as this one
also make a fine base for homemade sorbet or a light citrus
ice milk.

6 very large grapefruit, sectioned, seeded and pureed
2 cups sugar
Ya cup black currant liqueur

Combine the grapefruit puree and sugar in a 4-quart non-
metallic saucepan. Cover and cook slowly over a low heat
until sugar is dissolved, about 15 minutes. Uncover, pour in
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for 10 minutes.

Pour the syrup through a fine-meshed sieve placed over
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Mothers often accidentally turn their
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Whether you're going
around the world

or just around the
corner, here are up-
to-date travel tips to
help you get where
you want to go and
have the best time
while youre there.
By Linden Gross

DINING A LA CARTE IN THE AIR
If you’ve ever been served a meal
while flying in an airplane, you al-
ready know that most airline food is
not a culinary delight. What you
probably don’t know is that there’s a
way to substantially improve the fare
you're served. Many airlines offer spe-
cially prepared meals that are a lot
tastier than those that are mass-pro-
duced. And tastebuds aren’t the only
reason to request a special meal. Even
if your doctor has you on a strict diet,
chances are good that you'll be able to

satisfy those dietary requirements.
Though not all special meals are
available on every flight, the chart be-
low—reprinted from the Thomas
Cook Business Traveler—will give
you an indication of the vast selection
of special meals available in the air.
Be aware, however, that most airlines
require notification at least twenty-
r hours before flight time. Your
to place your order when

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restaurant just isn’t convenient) to
credit cards and even passports.

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gets listed below will help ensure the
safety of your belongings when away
from home.

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$44.50. It weighs just three pounds.
Write Hammacher Schlemmer, 147 E.
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© To make sure that intruders don’t
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screeching alarm sounds and the door
is jam-locked. The door stop with bat-
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Last-minute mishaps can turn even the most
carefully planned festivities upside down. This
expert advice will help you head off holiday
havoc when things suddenly go wrong.

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aid, stay with the car.

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vent carbon monoxide from backing
up into the car. Make sure the muffler
pipe is completely unblocked and
check it periodically to ensure that it
remains that way.

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antenna to attract the attention
any emergency vehicles in the area.
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on and the windows open a crack t
allow fresh air to enter.

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and huddle together with your con
panions to generate body heat.

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avoid the temptation to leave the car qj
seek help—it’s easy to get lost whe
everything around you is blanketed i
snow. Most snowstorms abate within
few hours—a period of time duri
which you can keep warm within t
safety of your car.

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supplies in your trunk: a few ol
blankets, a small shovel, dry clothin
(such as socks, knit caps and mittens
nonperishable foods and _ beverage
(peanut butter, a box of crackers, ra
sins, and fruit juice in flip-top cans)

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The present you've promised
your child isn’t available

If you’ve ever searched high and lo
for a specific toy only to find thi
every store in the area is sold out, y
know there’ nothing harder than tr
ing to explain to a child why the pre
ent Santa promised isn’t under t
tree. What do you tell your disaj
pointed youngster?

If your child still believes in Santi
you might want to compose a nol
from the North Pole, explaining thi
Santa’s workshop is a little behin
schedule and that the toy will be a fe
days late. With an older child, say
Richard Zeiger, a New York psycho
ogist, you'll need to explain that, a
though you really tried, you could
find the present you promised. Chris
mas morning may not be the be;
time for this lesson, but children a
need to learn that their parents ar
not infallible. Ask what the chi
would like second best and go tt
gether to pick it up.

The moral of the story? Never pron
ise a specific present. Instead, tell you
children that you (or Santa) will try {
get them what they’ve been wishing fo

You get a bad case of the
holiday blues

Although we usually think of the ho
iday season as a hectic, happy tim
filled with family reunions, gift-giy
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yre prevalent now than at other
nes of the year. The reason? “It’s a
ne when everyone else seems to be
} ving a good time, so any sort of
ss—being widowed, divorced, living
> away from relatives—is keenly
t,’ says Dr. Zeiger. But even such
i osaic troubles as a head cold, a spell
bad weather or plain weariness from
ttling holiday shopping crowds can
um gger a bout of the blues.
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futine, suggests Dr. Zeiger. Take a
tle time off to do something just for
u—buy yourself a present, take
}urself out for lunch, treat yourself
a movie. Or, to put your own prob-
ns in perspective, help make some-
e else’s holiday a little happier. Call
visit a friend or volunteer at a local
spital or nursing home. Bring a lit-
» holiday light to the life of someone
10 is less fortunate than you are.
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fld winter day, first check the ther-
gostat. The room in which the ther-
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jf ermostat, the warmth of the lights
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New York suggests checking the
cuit breakers or fuse that controls
if e furnace to make sure all connec-
igons are intact.
J If they are, and if you have an oil
_firner, push the reset button; the
‘funer should click on. If it doesn’t,
iwieck the emergency switch, which
.{.ould be in the “on” position.
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fas Company in Brooklyn, New York,
plvises checking the on/off switch,
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m, check the water gauge glass to see
the water needs replacing. If you still
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fiirman, remember that if the tem-
srature outside is below freezing,
lien a well-insulated house will not
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along the outside of the house) with
newspapers. If you have municipal
water, keep all the faucets above the
basement level running, which will
decrease the likelihood of the water in
the pipes freezing. Finally, wear
heavy sweaters and mittens while you
wait for help to arrive.

You overindulge

It’s hard to ignore the enticements of

one more slice of turkey or a second
piece of homemade pie. But if you
don’t push your chair away from the
table soon enough, you may find your-
self with an uncomfortable burning
sensation behind your breastbone.
This is heartburn, caused when the
valve between the stomach and the
esophagus relaxes because of a change
in pressure, allowing irritating stom-
ach acid into the esophagus.
Unfortunately, the very foods and
beverages served during the holidays
are those that aggravate heartburn
most. Both coffee and alcohol stimu-
late stomach acid production. And
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which can cause heartburn, and loosen
any tight-fitting garments. Over-the-
counter antacids, which neutralize
stomach acid, can provide relief.

Unexpected guests arrive

Friends drop by for a visit when you
least expect them. What can you
serve? Here are some quick snack ideas
from Sue Huffman, Ladies’ Home
Journal food editor:

® Make instant nachos. Put refried
beans or bean dip on tortilla chips;
top with shredded or sliced cheese
(Cheddar or Monterey jack) and broil
or bake at 425°F. until the cheese is
melted. Garnish with a jalapeno pep-
per or green chili slice if you happen
to have one.

@® Wrap bacon around soda crackers
and bake at 425°F. until browned.
(Don’t sneer—they’re delicious!) You
can also wrap bacon around prunes,
dates or olives.

© Summer sausage keeps forever, so
make it a staple in your refrigerator.
Slice it up and serve with hot mustard.
@® Mix = (continued on page P.S. 20)

PS. 13

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your hotel room, the 5-Way Personal
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ually if you are accosted on the street.
Finally, the device, which weighs just
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| ALTITUDE AFFLICTION
- You might be taking in the sights in

Mexico City or Yellowstone National
Park, making your way up a moun-
tain trail, or standing at the top of a

_ ski slope ready for the first run of

your vacation, when suddenly your

_ head begins to ache and you feel
_ slightly weak or nauseous. The first
_ thought that will probably cross your
_ mind is that you have just been hit
with a cold and your vacation is
. ruined. You could be wrong.

It is possible instead that you're

_ suffering from acute mountain sick-
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Since there is less oxygen at higher
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ties, which makes the cells swell, ex-
plains Dr. Charles S. Houston, direc-
tor of the Arctic Institute High
Altitude Physiological Study. The re-
sult is a feeling not unlike a bad
hangover. However, at altitudes of
8,000 feet or more, AMS can progress
into a more serious disorder, which
can be fatal if not treated promptly. If
at any point you begin to experience
symptoms like extreme weakness,
lack of coordination, mental con-
fusion, severe headaches or hallucina-
tions, you should descend at once to
an elevation that’s several thousand
feet lower and seek medical attention.

Trekkers and mountain hikers,
who are taking off on journeys of two
weeks or more, can guard against al-
titude illness by taking two or three
days to reach destinations at 6,500 to
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Making your world a little easier.

Learn how to solve your
decorating problems—follow
the expert advice given in
this column by interior
decorators and designers.
By Deborah S. James

It's time to redecorate our bedroom. My husband
wants plaids, but I'm afraid they'll look too mas-
culine and bold. What do you think?

Your husband is on the right track. Plaids are

classic—crisp, clean and versatile. The most popu-

lar prints in both the fashion and decorating
worlds this year, they'll make your bedroom look contem-
porary and stylish, as well as luxurious.

Plaids don’t have to be loud or overpowering. You can
_ choose subtle patterns or mix a few different plaids that
have the same colors. For a bright, fresh look in your
bedroom, start with plaid sheets and comforter, then mix
in whites and solid colors to complement them.

If you feel more daring, spread plaids throughout the
room. Try plaid curtains or pleated shades. For a more
feminine look, put sheer white curtains under the plaid
ones. Cover your favorite reading chair in a solid color
and throw a'plaid blanket and pillow on top. Then coordi-
nate the room by choosing accessories in the dominant
color of the plaid. Try painted bedside tables, a collection
of small jars or colored picture frames.

The walls and floors of your bedroom can be either
neutral or dramatic. If you are still worried that your
plaids are too strong, paint your room a light neutral
color like white, beige or gray to soften the look. For a
stronger effect, paint the walls a dark color found in the
plaids, like green or blue. The plaids will still be the focal
point of the room, and the look will be timeless.

I just had my living room repainted. Before I put

my pictures back on the walls, do you have any

tips on how I should hang them so that the ar-
rangement itself will look interesting?

First, take inventory of all the prints, paintings

and objects you want to display. Try grouping

them into categories by subject matter, color or
size. Then evaluate your walls. Are they large and able to
take large pieces, or are they interrupted by windows
and doors? Remember that any successful wall arrange-
ment needs space around it. For a wall that has windows
or other architectural features, limit the display to one or
two pieces. But if you have space, be dramatic! A large
print can be the stunning focal point of your room.

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RAHAT ATTN TE TERN TT

When planning your arrangement, use the furniture
n your room for guidance. You can line up the prints so
hat the bottom or the top edges are all the same distance
bove the furniture against that wall. Or try letting the
rrangement stretch the width of a table or sofa. If you
ave a dramatic piece of furniture, such as a chaise, a
ery tall piece of art will help balance its length.

You can also hang pictures so that they form a large
eometric shape. Place the smallest piece at the highest
oint in the grouping and work down and out to the sides

}o form a triangular shape. This works best with a very

arge wall and high ceiling, and will look better if you

Hise an assortment of different sizes. Another successful

hape is the rectangle. Place the largest piece on the top
orner of the grouping, and balance it by placing two
maller pieces diagonally below it. Fill the surrounding
rea with smaller works to form a rectangle. Or form a
quare, with the most impressive piece in the center.
Before you put up a grouping you like, place the pieces

§n the floor and move them around until you are fully

atisfied with the arrangement. Or sketch possible dis-
lays on paper before re-creating them on your walls.

our eye will tell you what looks best.

My apartment has a long, narrow entrance hall
that’s both dreary and ugly. What can I do to make
it look more attractive?

To break up the long wall and bring light to the
space, your best bet is color. A dark hall will look
brighter if you paint or wallpaper with warm,

sight colors—such as apricot, beige or light yellow. You

an also paint the walls with two complementary colors

)r two shades of the same color. Remember to use a flat-

inish paint, since gloss will close in the space.
When wallpapering, try companion papers or a match-

ing border to break up the wall surface. When using

} triped wallpaper, for example, alternate the stripes ver-
}ically and horizontally. Or just paint the walls and use
} vallpaper borders—at the ceiling or at the chair rail—to
ring architectural interest to the hall. (Placing a border
!ust below where the walls and ceiling meet will make
ihe ceiling look lower.)

Keep the floor simple. The hall will look wider with
‘unners or floor cloths that let a small strip of the floor
show on either side. Or paint an uncovered floor with

tieck paint and add a stenciled border. Then dazzle the

»xye by hanging a bright quilt, painting or some of your
thildren’s art at the far end of the hallway. It will attract

jattention and make the corridor seem even shorter.

Finally, take a tip from the pros: Designers often use

small groupings of spotlights at intervals to give the
s mpression of a shorter space.

I found an old parsons table when I was cleaning
out our attic but the top is badly scratched. Is there
any way I can fix it up so that I can use it?

As long as it’s sturdy, your parsons table still has
lots of life left in it. There are several ways to
refurbish the table, depending on the amount of

time, energy and money you want to spend.
The easiest option is to cover the entire table with a

‘§skirt. Take fabric and drape it over the table, allowing for

the overhang plus two extra inches for a hem. Cut the
fabric with pinking shears and secure it with fusible
bonding web—an adhesive available in any houseware
store that requires only ironing to make it stick.

You can also cover just the top of the table (continued)

PS. 17

Give Something of Yourself.

Fill a merry crystal tree with something special

from your kitchen. Find many more delightful ways

. aap something of yourself in Libbey glassware.
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in her own home, especially during the
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You are given an unexpected
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Someone who wasn’t on your Chris
mas shopping list arrives on yo
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Naturally, if you have no emergenc
gifts on hand (or if the present you’
received is so elaborate as to make
token gift inappropriate), the best po
sible course is just to say a gracio
thank you. To avoid such a sticky situ
tion, stockpile a small cache of gift
wrapped items. Macy’s in New Yor!
City offered LHJ a few suggestions.
@ Under $10: a wine-bottle opener, :
jar of imported jam, a tin of English te;
or a crock of French mustard.
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sachet, a box of stationery, a han
made Christmas tree ornament or
ceramic coffee mug.

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wool scarf, a teddy bear or a pair
brightly colored argyle socks.

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per and ribbons.

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tion says to watch for.

@ Bait and switch. If you are attracted
by an advertising offer, but are dis-
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something more expensive.

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dered, do not feel obliged to pay for it.
Sometimes unscrupulous businessmen
will send merchandise and hope that
consumers will mistakenly submit a
payment or feel pressured to do so.

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are useful tips to help you manage your money.

First aid for
mail-order problems

Shopping by mail can certainly save
you time and effort at Christmas, but it
also entails a certain amount of risk.
The item might not be all that was
promised—or might arrive late. It
could be lost in the mail or come broken
into a million pieces. Often, you can
resolve problems like these with the
company from which you've ordered.
But when this fails, there is an alterna-
tive—the Mail Order Action Line.

Run by the Direct Marketing Asso-
ciation, this highly useful service will
help you solve mail-order problems, in-
terceding with companies on your be-
half. Complaints must be submitted in
writing to MOAL, 6 East 43rd Street,
New York, NY 10017.

Include your name and address, the
company’s name and address, a copy of
your canceled check or credit card
statement, and a description of how
you'd like to have your problem solved.
The process of handling complaints
takes about thirty days.

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have begun to worry that I may be liable
if a guest I serve gets into a drunken-
driving accident. Should I be concerned?

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area, and in at least one state—New
Jersey—courts have held that a host
who serves liquor may be responsible for
an accident caused by a drunken guest.

While this is still unusual, there has
generally been a movement toward as-
signing increased legal responsibility
to those who serve liquor. So the trend
certainly bears watching.

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At grace, Mom offered thanks for the
good year her firm had enjoyed. Dad,
who was ever skeptical, murmured that
it would take extra effort by God to
protect firms that expanded when a de-
pression was about to begin.

“You don’t know what you're talking
about, Pat.” Mom poked furiously at
the haddock, which she had cooked be-
cause she knew he liked it. (In 1947,
Catholics ate fish on Christmas Eve.)
“The Depression is over. We’re going to
have prosperity that will make the
twenties look pale by comparison.”

“Those who don’t heed the lessons of
history are doomed to repeat its mis-
takes.” Dad jabbed the tablecloth with
his knife. “It’s your money, but there’s
always a depression after a war, and
building a new plant is inviting trou-
ble.” They were off to the races.

My parents could not disagree on the
most abstract issue without turning it
into a personal quarrel. So they were
always fighting. They had battled in
the early years of their marriage, when
I was too young to know what the fights
were about. Then they separated for
ten years. Now they were fighting at
every possible opportunity in their sec-
ond try together; and soon, I thought
happily, it would fail, too.

Who was I to wish my parents ill at
the Christmas table? I was only their
son, Michael Casey. At sixteen, I
thought I knew all about love. I was in
love with Jeanne Crain from State Fair
(the thought of her made me hun, “It
Might as Well Be Spring,” even though
it was December 24) and Ann Blyth
from A Woman’ Vengeance. But I
didn’t see how such an emotion applied
to my parents, who had been separated
all those years.

Between my fifth and sixteenth birth-
days, I had seen my father only five or
six times, when he was passing through
Chicago on his way to Spain or to China.
(He was an international journalist who
knew as much about European politics
as our precinct captain knew about Cook
County.) He left Chicago the day Pearl
Harbor was bombed and returned only

- “once to our modest bungalow in St. Ur-

sula’s parish on the West Side, when he
was traveling between Australia and
Europe to be on the scene at D day

He was a little man, barely as tall as
Mom, with thin, delicate features, a
dimpled chin, silver blue eyes like mine
and curly brown hair. He was born in
1900, the son of the editor of an Irish
nationalist weekly, and graduated from
St. Ignatius in time to lie about his age
and fight in the Marines at Belleau
Wood in the First World War, and learn
perhaps even then to prefer combat to

the more subtle conflicts of ordinary life.

He was a witty and eloquent man,
more witty and eloquent drunk than
sober. But even cold sober, he talked
like a college professor or an Oxford
graduate in an English novel. No mat-
ter how drunk, he was fastidious about
his appearance, sporting a straw boater,
spats and a cigarette holder. Whether he
was drunk or not, though, I minded the
fact that he drank at all.

Of course, Mom was aware that he
was a heavy drinker when she married
him. She was twenty, and supposedly
movie-star beautiful. She was dazzled
by his charm and courtesy.

Back then, Pat Casey sent her flowers
every day, listened to her opinions,
praised her intelligence and taste and
returned her strong feelings.

Looking back on their life together, I
now see that the reasons for their argu-
ments were irrelevant. They fought be-

y father

waved his

fork at my
mother, like FDR
with his cigarette

holder. “Can't I
have an opinion
without being seen
as challenging
your family?”

cause both of them had to be right all
the time. Their need to be right, my
maternal grandfather’ contempt for
journalists and my father’s drinking had
broken up the marriage once. My uncle,
Monsignor Thomas Canfield Ryan (who
was the cardinal’ secretary), tried to ob-
tain an annulment. But in those days
they were hard to get, even if you had
ecclesiastical clout like we did.

Now Dad had stopped drinking;
Grandfather was dead, but the fights
went on. And Uncle Tom still hated my
father. Just before Dad moved back in
with us, Uncle Tom, who considered
himself Mother's spiritual adviser,
snapped at her, “It was bad enough to
let him take you in once. Why make
the same mistake a second time?”

“T wanted him then,” Mom replied
tersely. “I want him still.”

At sixteen I did not like to think
about passion between my parents. Yet

I found out after they died that she
written him every week while he
away pursuing wars and that he wro
back. Why bother unless they still fel
something for each other, despite th
pain and anger?

When my father came back from the
wars to my mother, he told me his
drinking was behind him. According ta
Dad, he had his last drink in South-
ampton on June 5, 1944, the day before
his forty-fourth birthday, which was
also D day. “Omaha Beach,” he told me.
“sobered me up in a hurry.”

I responded with the cold silence
with which I habitually deflected his
efforts at friendship and penitence.

But he stumbled on, like a man trying
to dig himself out of a ditch. “That morn-
ing in Normandy, I was convinced I was
going to die. So I sort of made a promise
to God.” He cocked an eye in my direc-
tion, a skilled raconteur expecting a re-
sponse. “So far ve kept my part of it.”

If he was looking for approval, he'd
come to the wrong person.

I was a tall, stringy, morose kid.
strong but awkward. I was angrier with
my father than I could tell him. I sat
through that whole Christmas Eve af.
ternoon with Uncle Ed and his wife Kate
and their four little kids, waiting for my
father to take a drink. But he didn’t
Instead, Dad was in his element. He and
Uncle Ed talked about the war, and Dac
worked magic tricks for the kids. Mom
was relaxed and smiling, a rare enough
state for her since Dad returned.

“Your mother and father are cer-
tainly happy together,” Uncle Ed saic
to me as I drove my relatives in our ole
Packard to the station in the late after.
noon. “Sometimes I think I ought tc
leave Aunt Kate for ten years or so, sc
she'll fall in love with me again.”

“If you leave for ten days, I'll break
your neck,” Aunt Kate said cheerfully
“Right, kids?”

The kids were accompanying “How
Are Things in Glocca Morra?” on the
car radio. After the chorus, they echoec
her enthusiastically, “Right!”

I turned off the car radio as soon as |
left them at the station. I had heard
more than enough Finians Rainbou
songs for the year. Returning home
through the lightly falling snow, I pon-
dered my movie ideals of love and won.
dered why my parents fell short of that.
If it was love that bound them together
I wanted no part of that kind of love.

The tension, as I said, exploded in the
argument over grace before supper. But
then an unlikely thing happened. My
father suddenly said, “I don’t under-
stand, Marge. Good fish, by the way.”

“Thank you.” Mom was wearing a
dark green dress with ruffles and looked
beautiful and fragile. “What is it you
don’t understand?” (continued)

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“Hmmm? Oh, yes .. . I don’t understand why you mu:
take everything I say as a personal assault on you and yo
family.” He gestured with his fork, like the late FDR wit
his cigarette holder. “Can’t I have an opinion about th
economic situation without being perceived as challengin
your relations?”

“Sure,” she said, “you could, but you don’t. You alway
have to think you’re smarter than we are.”

“That’s not true.” He rose. “Your parents and your brother
treated me with contempt. I was not good enough for you.”

Same old fight, I thought.

Instead of replying, my mother said, “Sit down, please,
Patrick. A bite of fruitcake won't violate the Christmas fast.”

I didn’t say anything because the script never called for
me to say anything. I ate the fruitcake in a suspended
state, feeling that this was the calm before the storm.

Dad wanted to go to midnight Mass to hear the sermon 0:
our new pastor, Monsignor Muggsy Brannigan, who had
played for the Chicago White Sox in 1916. The late Cardinal
Mundelein had forbidden midnight Mass, allegedly because
there was too much drinking afterward. Then the arch-
bishop reinstated the ancient custom. Out of loyalty to the
cardinal, who was Uncle Tom’s patron, my mother’s family
steadfastly avoided the midnight ceremony as a pagan rite.
Mom repeated this judgment over the fruitcake.

“T don’t understand why the hand of one dead cardinal
should weigh so heavily on us,’ ” Dad bellowed.

“You never could respect anyone,” Mom shouted back.

“T can’t respect a family that blindly follows such idiotic
decrees!” said Dad, rising from the table. He’s going to
leave, I thought. At last he’s going to leave. He’ll tie one on.
He’ll have a lost weekend like they do in the movies and
then we'll be rid of him.

My mother rose, too. Behind her I could see the Christ-
mas tree, which they had decorated, laughing and joking,
the day before. Its lights formed a kind of multicolored halo
about her head and shoulders.

“Tm proud of my family. I won’t repudiate them! I thought
you'd changed, Pat, but you haven’t!” She buried her face in
her hands. And Dad stomped out of the dining room.

A candle in our window welcomed the traveler to Beth-
lehem. Outside the snow was falling heavily. The light of the
candle shone on the snow outside and on our tree indoors.

I looked at my mother’s face, and I suddenly understood
something for the first time—my parents loved each other.
There was a deep fire there that even these noisy hostilities
would never quench. I knew then that I would have to do
something. I bolted from the dining room, dashed to the
doorway and grabbed him.

“You're not leaving,” I said. “That doesn’t help.”

“Let me go, Michael,” he said, but I tightened my arms
around him.

Dad dropped his shoulders within my wrestler’s hold. “We
seem to have produced a son, Marge, who is stronger than
he looks,” he said, as if considering the lead of a story.

“Let him go, Michael.” It was a pretty weak order.

“He’s your husband.”

Mom looked at me. “I suppose that’s true,” she agreed
thoughtfully. Then her arms imprisoned him, too.

“T see,” Dad’s voice choked. “Shall we give this young
hellion the swing vote, so to speak?”

“Why not?”

They were talking about me, but I might as well have
been in Bethlehem for all that my presence mattered. I
released my father. “How does the swing vote decide?” My
mother laughed, not at me, but at my father.

I tried to hate him but could not. (continued)

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“Traitor,” she laughed again. “Serves
me right for having a son.” Though ac-
tually, I thought, she seemed rather
proud of me.

Dad picked up the package of tinsel
from the hallway table, an extra one
that was supposed to be stored in the
attic for next year. He began to arrange
the strands of silver in Mom’ hair.

“Did you know, Mick”—it was the
first time he called me by that name—
“that your mother is really an Irish
countess in disguise? A warrior queen
like Grace O’Malley.”

I hadn’t heard of her.

“Countesses should have strands of
jewelry in their hair,” he continued.
“Should they not, Mick? However, Christ-
mas tinsel gives the same effect, if you
don’t look too closely.”

He laced the bits of foil through her
hair as if he were dressing a bride for
her wedding day. Mom accepted his
efforts with the aristocratic ease of a
warrior countess accustomed to such
delicate service.

“Yes, Mick, your mother is that rare
woman who is more beautiful at thirty-
seven than at twenty. I want her back.”

“You're mad, Pat,” she said weakly.
“And this big, good-looking kid, stand-
ing here grinning at us, is mad, too.”

“Our prison keeper, do you mean?”
Dad arranged a strip of tinsel.

And I understood for the first time
what love really is—an unruly, difficult,
irresistible power that binds people to-
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As we left the church, Monsignor Bran-
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happy they looked.

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BY KATHERINE BARRETT

oreen and Paul Schunk had been planning

their vacation weekend for months. It

would give them their first night alone to-

gether since their three-year-old son, P.J.,

was born, and they had thought and talked
about each detail—the dinners, the romantic eve-
nings, maybe even a room-service breakfast in bed.
Doreen knew it sounded corny, but she began to
think that the weekend of January 13 would give
Paul and her a chance to renew their marriage
vows—to think of themselves once again as a ro-
mantic couple, and not just as the mommy and
daddy of P.J. and one-year-old Becky.

On Friday evening Doreen made baked chicken and
filled the bath with Mr. Bubble before leaving the kids,
safe and secure, with Pauls twenty-one-year-old
brother, Mark. “You know, it’s Friday the thirteenth,”
Mark joked as his brother and sister-in-law kissed the
kids good-bye. “What do I do if someone comes down
with the measles or something?”

But as Paul and Doreen held hands in the dimly lit
lounge of the lovely Italian restaurant, they cer-
tainly weren’t worried. Over a candlelight dinner,
they toasted themselves and the new year with a bottle
of champagne and talked about what a wonderful

eekend they would have. Later, back in their hotel
room, their animated conversation was interrupted

by Mark, who called around eleven-thirty to
at Becky was awake and that he (continued)

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was giving her a bottle. “Now, don’t stay
up all night playing,” Doreen joked to
her brother-in-law. “It’s practically mid-
night. My baby should be in bed.”

When the phone rang at five-thirty
in the morning, Paul and Doreen were
sleeping deeply. He groped for the re-
ceiver, his stomach suddenly tighten-
ing as he heard the catch in his
brother's voice. “We’re all safe and
down at the police station,” Mark said
shakily. “But when we left, the house
was still burning.”

It was PJ. who first discovered the
fire. At about three-thirty he had sleep-
ily thrown off the covers and crawled

~ out of bed. Careful not to wake his sis-

ter, he tiptoed out the door and stopped

at his parents’ room, where Uncle
Mark was : ing. “Going to the bath-
room,” he ca k nodded and the
little boy pad wnstairs.

It smells fun: iere, P.J. thought
as he passed the entrance to the living
room. Inside, there was a smoky haze
in the room, and one wall strange
reddish color, almost as i clow-
ing. On his way back he
paused again, wondering wh. do,
but the smoke around him was n

enough to make him cough. He returned
to his room and went back to sleep.

Only minutes later, the beeping of
the smoke detector roused Mark. Run-
ning downstairs, he was hit with a ter-
rible stench and saw smoke seeping out
of the living-room walls. Oh, my God,
he thought. I’ve got to get the kids. In
seconds, he had the children up, and
while P.J. pulled on a sweatshirt, Mark
frantically dialed the fire department.
A policeman was there within mo-
ments, helping the family outside. It
was eighteen degrees and snowing, but
Mark, hurriedly dressed in pants and a
shirt, did not feel cold. As he saw the
smoke pour out of the house and heard
the sirens, he kept wondering how he
would ever tell Doreen and Paul what
had happened.

But it wasn’t until later that he
thought about the danger. According to
the fire chief of East Longmeadow,
Massachusetts, if the smoke detectors
hadn’t worked, everyone in the house
would probably have died from smoke
inhalation within fifteen minutes.

A dream in ashes

During the forty-five-minute drive
back home, Doreen and Paul were con-
soled by the knowledge that everyone
was okay; they told themselves over and

over that as long as their two children
and Mark were safe, nothing else really
mattered. But when Doreen finally
walked past the fire engines in their
driveway, she couldn’t help gasping.

The seventy-year-old country farm-
house, with its clean white walls and
black pine trim, had been her dream
come true. Surrounded by majestic
trees, it was an oasis in the middle of
town, and Doreen and Paul had fallen in
love with it from the first moment.

But now their dream had literally
turned to ashes. Wearing the fancy
shoes she had worn out to dinner the
night before, Doreen followed Paul to-
ward the house, stepping in the fire-
men’s footprints in the ankle-deep
snow. And with each step, she saw more
of her life scattered around outside. She
bit her lip as she passed piles of her
children’s Christmas toys, blackened
and melted, and was suddenly sickened
when she saw the kids’ colorful embroi-
dered Christmas stockings sticking out
of a pile of snow and ruined clothes.

At the front of their beloved house,
the wind was blowing snow into the
living room through two gaping holes
in the wall, and as Doreen and Paul
moved closer to the open front door,
they saw that the inside was a smolder-
ing, blackened (continued on page 178)

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The very earliest Christian im-
ages of the Madonna and Child
tend to be impressive rather
than touching: Mary is depicted
as Queen of Heaven, with her
child as a tiny king. However, in
the early Renaissance in Italy
the humanity of the Madonna
and Child was emphasized. Art-
ists like Botticelli portrayed the
relationship between Mary and

| WRAPPED HIM IN SWADDLING CLOTHES, AND LAID HIMIN
| AMANGER.” THUS LUKE REPORTED THE BIRTH OF CHRIST

her son as an idealized version
of the universal experience of
mothering—warm, intimate, lov-
ing. Marys pensive expression
points to the seriousness she brings
to her role as mother of Christ.
St. Luke says that in the midst of
the excitement surrounding the
birth of her child, “Mary kept all
these things, and pondered them
in her heart” (Luke 2:19).

That explains why, in the fa-
mous paintings of the Madonna
by Raphael, Mary tends her child
with a solemnity suggesting that
she senses already she will one
day have to give him up to the
world. Her joy is mingled with
the sorrow of inevitable loss.

In the seventeenth century,
the Spaniard Murillo inspired
the devout with his touching
renderings of serene mothers
and joyously wriggling infants.
In Flanders in the same cen-
tury, Rubens turned tradition to
personal use. His tender por-
trayal of his young wife and
their son is clearly based on the
image of the Madonna and
Child. In this way, Rubens un-
derlined the depth of his feeling

TO MARY. FOR CENTURIES, THEIR RELATIONSHIP HAS
BEEN CELEBRATED BY PAINTERS, EACH INTERPRETING
THIS ETERNAL THEME IN THE SPIRIT OF HIS OWN TIME.

for his own cherished family.

It was the happy state of ma-
ternity itself that appealed to
eighteenth-century painters like
Fragonard. Pride and joy ema-
nate from the young woman who
holds her baby up for us to see.

In the late nineteenth century,
the American painter Mary Cas-
satt frequently painted loving
mothers and their children in a

light-filled Impressionist style. In
our own century, even Picasso re-
turned to this age-old theme. His
figures, as monumental and time-
less as ancient sculptures, remind
us of the immortality of mother
and child, which began in Western
art as a visual celebration of a spe-
cial December birthday.

The author teaches art history at Rutgers Uni-
versity, Newark. She is the mother of two boys.

Photo, Rosenthal Art Slides.
RAPHAEL, SMALL
COWPER MADONNA
about 1505 (Washington,
National Gallery of Art,
Widener Collection 1942).
Photo, Rosenthal Art Slides.
BARTOLOME
ESTEBAN MURILLO,
VIRGIN AND CHILD
1670-1672 (New York, Met-
ropolitan Museum of Art,
Rogers Fund 1943, 43.13).
Photo, Metropolitan Museum of Art.
PETER PAUL
RUBENS, HELENA
FOURMENT WITH
HER SON FRANS
about 1635 (Munich, Alte
Pinakothek).

Photo, Saskia, Inc.
JEAN-HONORE
FRAGONARD, A
YOUNG MOTHER,
about 1785 (Paris, The
Louvre). Photo, Saskia, Inc.

MARY CASSATT,
MOTHER ABOUT

TO WASH HER
SLEEPY CHILD,

1880 (Los Angeles Coun-
ty Museum of Art), Mrs.
Fred Hathaway Bixby
bequest.

Photo, Los Angeles County Mu-
seum of Art.

Photo, Rosenthal Art Slides.

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knit mini, below, and tights.
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to consider: a jewel-color shirt
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lids—with makeup that adds
a subtle gleam. But don’t use
gleamers on tiny lines around
eyes or mouth. @ Transmit an
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grance. Layer it on. Use bath
oil, body lotion; finish with a
generous spray of perfume.
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enhances the petite kitchen
tree at Seven Gables.
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Shirley Plantation

Overlooking the James
River in Virginia, Shirley
Plantation’s stately
Queen Anne manor
house is decorated

in lavish style for the
holidays by the owners,
descendants of the
original family.

Quintessentially elegant, the grand
staircase’s banister is draped

with extravagant loops of evergreen
that are tied with regal red ribbon.

Shirley Plantation
sparkles with baskets of
poinsettias, branches of
holly laced with kumquats,
and pots of white narcissus
all through the house.

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potpourri: '
a dough dolly;
crocheted heart

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stockings. For
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Carter’s Grove

Originally owned by
one of the wealthiest
families in Virginia,
Carter’s Grove is now
part of Williamsburg,
where the traditions
and the crafts of a
bygone era are lovingly
displayed every year.

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greenery features narcissus plants
peeking out from a bed of magnolia
leaves, dressed with hedgehog holly.

Carter’s Grove celebrates
the season with a wealth of
fabulous eighteenth-centu
Christmas decorations
that add a holiday gleam to
every room in the house.

A flock of cuddly cottonball lambs prance about
the child-sized tabletop tree in the kitchen.

Holiday
Hang-ups
A bevy of
enchanting oid-
time ornaments:
rolled-paper
star, corncob
pig, Popsicle
angel, pinecone
angel, clothespin
soldier, felt

rum, cornhusk
dolly and (right)
popcorn door
design. Details,
page 186.

Towering tree is decked
“popcorn chains and gaily
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out in a joyous jumble of
colored ornaments. A
kissing ball greets guests.

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who really takes
a Starring role in
planning and
preparing good
food. In fact, for
talk-of-the-town
entertaining,
nobodys finer in
the kitchen than
Dinah. These
recipes, collected
from family,
friends, famous
chefs, add up to
a standout
buffet. Recipes,

page 130.

Appetizers

Left, clockwise from top:
Biscuits with Country
Fried Ham (a Southern-
style staple); Cheeses—
Hot and Cold (a delicious
‘dip both ways!); Mushroom
| Paté (wrapped in bacon);
Snow Peas Stuffed with
Crabmeat (they'll go fast);
Marinated Shrimp (and
colorful Italian vegetables);
Chicken Wings with Spicy
Apricot Sauce (deep-fried
until crispy, golden brown).

Entree

Top right, shown from left
to right: Potatoes Grand-
Mére (Parmesan-topped);
London Broil (brushed
with a luscious Green Pep-
percorn Butter); Romaine
and Strawberry Salad Gio-
vanni (in Christmas colors).

Desserts

Bottom right, from left to
right: Bertha Ann’s Bread
Pudding (a fruity master-
piece to spoon into tall
glasses); Mother’ Pecan
RumCakes(filled with good
spirits); Glazed Fudge Cake
(better than a present!).

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the most cherished holiday literature, we created five richl
delicious desserts plus a spicy, spirited wassail. One taste

is worth a thousand words! Recipes begin on page 159
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CHRISTMAS PIE

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“A Wassaile Song’ from Hesperides
by Robert feeie | 1648

“Falla IA great deal of ateam! She pudding was out of
the copper... . In half a minute Muro. Cratchit
entered—flushed, but amiling proudly—
with the pudding, fike a speckled ea
cannon -ball, sohardand firm, blazing in ee
half of half -a-quarternof ignited brandy,

.. . with Christmas holly stuck inte the top.

Oh, a Wonderful pudding! Bob Cratchit aaid
.. . that he regarded it aa the qreateat auccess
achieved by Muro. Cratchit since their marriage.”

“A Christmas Carol” by Charles Dickens, 1845

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“A Christmas Memory” from Breakfast at Tiffanys by Truman Capote, 1956

. Now out of that
bright snowball of
Christmas gone comes
the stocking, the
stocking of stockings,
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the bed with the arm
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1ere is no better time to eat a piece and a piece of stuffed celery and then
f coconut pie than after you have you dash out to the backyard and

een racing round for hours and climb up on the roof of the

jomeone says, ‘Let’s have a piece of woodhouse and call the others to
oconut pie!’ Everybody goes to the come up there... .”

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he littlest angel at this year’s royal

Christmas gathering will be, of course,
the Prince and Princess of Wales’ new baby.
Three-month-old Prince Henry (called Harry)
is the youngest of the thirty-two royals who
will gather at the storybook setting of Windsor
Castle on Christmas Eve for four days of sump-
tuous family festivities. It will be Diana’s third
Christmas within this exclusive circle, and the
culmination of another triumphant year for
her. While the Princess might have preferred
to spend this special Christmas quietly at
home with her husband and children, she
would not dare refuse the Queen’s annual invi-
tation. It is a royal command.

But long before Christmas Eve (taking time
out from cooing over her new baby), Diana will
be helping to make the holiday special for
those around her and demonstrating again her
gift for kindness. No one who has been close to
the Prince and Princess is ever forgotten. Just
before Christmas, Diana gets behind the wheel
of her blue Ford Escort and braves the London
holiday traffic with her private detective at her
side to deliver her personal gifts to the women
in the workrooms of (continued on page 165)

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celebration _|

By Alex Haley

ega-superstar Michael Jackson is a devout

Christian who doesn’t celebrate Christmas. }
Though he is deeply religious, he is a Jehovah’
Witness and does not observe the holiday.

And while Michael may not celebrate
Christmas or give gifts at holiday time, a}
lesser-known side of this glitzy rock star is his
quiet generosity, both with time and money,
throughout the whole year. Few people know,
for example, that during his wildly successful
summer tour he gave critically ill youngsters
the thrill of their lives—a psychological boost
they desperately needed—by arranging for
them to visit him backstage before each con-
cert. Barely an hour before stepping in front of }
the spotlights, a time when most performers }
would be too tense to entertain, Michael was}
awaiting the ambulances bringing the chil-
dren and their nurses or attendants backstage.
Many of these youngsters were terminally ill,
and they would arrive at his dressing room in
wheelchairs, on crutches or on stretchers.
There, the rock star entertained them, talking
to them quietly and expressing his concern.
This compassionate side of Michael was not
engineered for (continued on page 170)

ELIZABET
AYLOR

e
end ofa tough
year

By Beth Charles

! eo Elizabeth Taylor, 1984 has been a year

of both triumphs and tragedies, of highs
jand lows, of beginnings and endings. It has
been a year in which she has curbed her tend-
Jency to overindulge in food, drink and drugs, a
year in which she chose to break off her en-
}-gagement to Mexican lawyer Victor Gonzalez
fLuna. And it has been a year in which she
} presented herself to her fans the way they love
her best: slim, healthy and beautiful.

And yet, when all is said and done, this will
be the year that Liz will never be able to blot
from memory, primarily because of the death
of Richard Burton. Burton, twice her husband
(and twice her ex-husband) and her co-star in
eleven films, was the Antony to her Cleopatra
in one of the great real-life romances of our
time. Their relationship was a perfect example
of the cliché: They couldn’t live with each other
}.and they couldn’t live without each other.

So during this coming Christmas, which Liz
expects to spend at her home in Gstaad,
# Switzerland, the ghosts of yesterday will be
present. The house, Chalet Ariel, is a five-
§ bedroom wood villa with balconies and huge
®’windows facing ski (continued on page 172)

L_———SSee ee re

hristmas

By Cliff Jahr

was an orange. We were real poor and
fruit was a once-a-year thing. To this day that’s
why I love the smell of oranges.”

Dolly Parton, with a contented sigh, glances
across the terrace of her new Hollywood Hills
apartment and stares at the city lights below.
She is recounting a childhood Christmas in Ten-
nessee, recalling bleak poverty sweetened by the
love of her big, happy family.

“We kids knew there was no Santa,” she
continues, adding lightly, “we thought if there
was, he was a sorry SOB because he never
came around. But Mama and Daddy saw to it
we always got something. At least a pepper-
mint stick. If the tobacco crop had been good,
the boys got a small pocketknife and the girls
got one of those little bitty plastic dolls with red
dots painted for eyes and diapers with a gold
pin. Oh, I loved them little dolls. Cost a nickel.”

Dolly Rebecca Parton was born the fourth of
a dozen kids and grew up in a backwoods two-
bedroom shack that was reached by crossing a
rope bridge. Christmas stockings were tacked
on the wall behind the wood stove. Whether
they were homemade (continued on page 167)

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THE WREATHS O
WILLA SBURG.

pride of welcoming wreaths crafted with loving care in the Williamsburg tradition
B of jo yous Christmas celebrations—to Linnie your own holiday decorations this year.

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The natural beauty of shiny apples, holly Bones: green osage oranda (left); the country
charm of dried flowers, pinecones (center); a pineapple (right); symbol of welcome.

Decorations with a difference—windowsill still life of oranges, apples, kumquats
(left); SS SP apes array of magnolia leaves (center); lemons studded with cloves (right).

Simple yet atriking—"a round of regal feathers (left); chains of cranberries and a
slender candle (center); a garland of grapevine graced with tiny toys—for kids of all ages.

Lizzie Himmel

LADIES' HOME JOURNAL + DECEMBER 1984

| 7

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~ HOLIDAY BUFFET

continued from pages 118-119

DINAH SHORE’S
BUFFET FOR 25

All recipes pictured on pages 118-119

Cheeses—Hot and Cold
with Apple Slices and
Assorted Crackers
Chicken Wings with
Spicy Apricot Sauce
Mushroom Paté
Snow Peas Stuffed with
Crabmeat
Marinated Shrimp
Biscuits with Country
Fried Ham
London Broil
Potatoes Grand-Mére
Romaine and
Strawberry Salad Giovanni
Glazed Fudge Cake
Mother's Pecan Rum Cakes
Bertha Ann's Bread Pudding
Choice of Beverages
Coffee, Tea

SHOPPING LIST

2 packages (6 oz. each) frozen
crabmeat
¥s pound chicken livers
4 dozen chicken wings
1% pounds country ham
5 pounds medium shrimp
3 top sirloin steaks (3% lbs. each)
1 pound sliced bacon
1 pound ground beef
2 pound fresh snow peas
10 shallots
Ys pounds small mushrooms
1 bulb garlic
Parsley
Chives
Celery
Green onion
medium red onions
pound yellow onions
head Boston lettuce
heads romaine or 3 pounds
spinach
bunches watercress
pints strawberries
lemons
apples
pounds potatoes
pint sour cream
packages (3 oz. each) cream
cheese
pound sharp Cheddar cheese
pound Muenster cheese
pound Parmesan cheese

are bd

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pints heavy or whipping
cream
2’ pounds butter
¥ pound unsalted butter
4 cans evaporated milk
2 cans (17 oz. each) fruit
cocktail
2 cans (3% oz. each) flaked
coconut
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¥4 pound shelled pecans
1 box cake flour
Unsweetened chocolate
(4 squares)
Semisweet chocolate
(6 squares)
1 box (8 oz.) dried apricots
1 box shrimp and crab boil or
Chesapeake Bay-—style
seafood seasoning
1 jar capers
Fennel seed
2 jars (12 oz. each) gardiniera
(Italian mixed vegetables)
2 loaves French bread
1 bottle green peppercorns
1 jar Chinese chili paste
1 jar cornichons
Seedless raisins (1% cups)
Assorted crackers
Vermouth (4 cup)

STAPLES TO
HAVE ON HAND

2¥2 dozen eggs All-purpose flour
Shortening Unsweetened cocoa
Peanut oil Bottled red
Imported olive oil pepper sauce
Salad oil Worcestershire sauce
Cider vinegar Salt and pepper
White wine vinegar White pepper
Honey Black peppercorns
Milk Dry mustard
Celery Thyme
Mayonnaise Bay leaf
Dijon mustard Vanilla extract
Cornstarch Cognac or brandy
Baking powder Dry red
Baking soda wine (3 cups)
Sugar Rum (about 2 cup)
Confectioners’ sugar Coffee, tea

SCHEDULE

Up to 1 month ahead:

1. Invite guests.

2. Buy nonperishable ingredients, wine
and liquor.

Up to 2 weeks ahead:

Make and freeze biscuits, rum cakes and
fudge cake.

2 days before:

1. Purchase all remaining ingredients.

2. Prepare and refrigerate mushroom paté,
cheese dips, apricot sauce, marinated
shrimp and green peppercorn butter.

1 day before:

1. Blanch fresh snow peas; wrap and
refrigerate.

2. Wash greens; refrigerate separately.

3. Make salad dressing.

4. Slice potatoes; cover with water. Keep at
room temperature or in refrigerator.

5. Marinate London broil and refrigerate.
6. Prepare chicken wings; cover and
refrigerate.

7. Set up buffet and bar.

Morning of party:

1. Prepare crabmeat filling; stuff snow peas
and arrange on serving platter. Cover and
refrigerate.

2. Unmold paté; garnish and refrigerate.
3. Remove biscuits, rum cakes and fudge cake
from freezer; thaw at room temperature.

4. Prepare bread pudding.

5. Assemble salad; cover and refrigerate.

2 hours before guests arrive:
1. Frychicken wings; keep warm in lowo
2. Prepare potatoes and bake.
3. Remove London broil from refrigerate
4. Remove paté and shrimp from
refrigerator.

30 minutes before serving:

1. Remove both cheeses from refrigerate
bake one to serve hot.
2. Arrange apple slices and crackers on
cheese platter.
3. Heat biscuits and prepare country ha’
4. Remove stuffed snow peas from
refrigerator.

5. Cook London broil.

Just before serving:

1. Pour dressing over salad; toss.
2. Slice London broil.

3. Set up dessert and coffee buffet.

RECIPES

CHEESES—HOT AND COLD

In this recipe you get two for one. Se
hot, it has an entirely different fla
look and appeal than when served cold
can't decide which version I like be
and I doubt your guests will know t
came out of the same batch of ingredien

4 packages (3 oz. each) cream cheese
softened

4 cups (1 Ib.) shredded sharp Chedda'
cheese

4 cups (1 Ib.) shredded Muenster
cheese

Y4 cup Dijon mustard

4 garlic cloves, crushed

2 medium onions, finely minced

Y4 teaspoon bottled red pepper sauce

2 cup finely chopped parsley

’% cup finely chopped chives

Apple slices and assorted crackers

In large bowl mix first 7 ingredien
Divide cheese mixture in half. Cor
bine parsley and chives. Place half t
cheese mixture in a 3-cup serving bo
and sprinkle on half the parsley ai
chives. Cover and refrigerate.

Place remaining cheese mixture i
small oven-proof baking dish; stir
remaining parsley and chives. (Can
made ahead. Cover and refrigerate bo}
halves up to 2 days.) Preheat oven
375°F. Heat cheese mixture in baki
dish 15 minutes. Serve cheeses with a
ple slices and assorted crackers. Maki
6 cups, 3 cups for each appetizer, abo
50 calories per tablespoon.

CHICKEN WINGS WITH SPICY
APRICOT SAUCE

The Reverend Billy Graham enjoys
right good meal whether at home c
on his frequent worldwide tours. Th’
recipe is one of his favorites.

4 dozen chicken wings

1 cup cornstarch

2 teaspoons baking powder
1 teaspoon salt

Yq teaspoon pepper

Pinch sugar (continue

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HOLIDAY BUFFET

continued

2 eggs, beaten
Peanut oil for deep-frying

Sauce

1 cup dried apricots
14% cups water

2 tablespoons cider vinegar

2 tablespoons sugar

2 tablespoons honey

1 teaspoon Chinese chili paste with
garlic or % teaspoon ground
red pepper

Yq teaspoon salt

To prepare chicken wings for frying,
cut off wing tips and middle sections
(reserve to make chicken stock). With a
knife, pare meat on large meaty section
down toward large end of bone, leaving
meat attached at large end. Pull meat
down over bone knob where it’s at-
tached, so that each wing will resemble
a drumstick.

In shallow bow! combine cornstarch,
baking powder, salt, pepper and sugar.
Dip chicken wings in beaten eggs, then
roll in cornstarch mixture. In deep-fat
fryer or Dutch oven heat oil to 375°F.
Fry chicken wings 8 to 10 minutes or
until golden brown. (Can be made
ahead. Keep warm in a 200°F. oven up
to 2 hours.) Serve with apricot sauce.

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Makes about 48, about 45 calories each
without sauce.

Sauce: In heavy 1- to 1¥2-quart sauce-
pan combine apricots and water; bring
to a boil over high heat. Reduce heat to
low, cover and simmer 30 minutes or
until apricots are soft and have ab-
sorbed almost all the liquid (watch
carefully for any signs of burning).

In food processor or blender puree
apricots, or put through a food mill.
Transfer to a bowl; add vinegar, sugar,
honey, chili paste and salt and beat vig-
orously with spoon or wire whisk until
smooth. Cover tightly and refrigerate
until ready to use. (Can be made ahead.
Cover and refrigerate up to 2 days.)
Makes 1% cups, about 20 calories per
tablespoon.

MUSHROOM PATE

Serve the pdté with rye toast points and
cornichons (a French sour pickle).

10 shallots, minced

Yq cup butter

4 cups coarsely chopped mushrooms
¥Ya pound chicken livers, trimmed
Ya cup dry vermouth

Ya teaspoon fennel seed, crushed
2 tablespoons green peppercorns,

crushed slightly
Salt and pepper to taste
1 pound ground beef
Ye cup heavy or whipping cream

Y2 cup fresh bread crumbs
2 eggs, lightly beaten
3 tablespoons cognac or brandy
¥a to 1 pound sliced bacon
1 package (8 oz.) fresh button
mushrooms, stems removed
Boston lettuce and cornichons,
for garnish

In large, heavy skillet cook shallots
butter over low heat, stirring co
stantly, 5 to 7 minutes, until transl
cent. Add chopped mushrooms and co
until some of liquid has evaporat
then add livers. Cook over mediui
heat 5 to 6 minutes, or until livers
lightly browned on outside but st
pink within. Add vermouth, fen
seed, peppercorns and salt to tas
Bring to boil; remove skillet from he
and let cool.

In food processor or blender, proce
mixture in batches until livers a
minced. In large bowl combine liv
mixture with beef, cream, bre
crumbs, eggs and cognac. Season w
with salt and pepper; set aside.

Preheat oven to 375°F. Line a 2-qua’

terrine or 9x5-inch loaf pan with slic
bacon, covering bottom and sides a
leaving enough overhang to fold ov
top. Fill terrine with half the meat mi
ture; cover with button mushrooms a
sprinkle with salt and pepper. Add r
maining meat mixture, being carefi
not to disturb mushrooms. Rap terri
sharply on counter to expel any bu
bles. Smooth top with spatula and fo
overhanging bacon over paté. Cov
with foil and top with lid or cover wi
a triple layer of foil. Place terrine i
baking pan, adding enough hot wat
to outer pan to reach halfway up side
of terrine. Bake 2 hours. Let stand o
wire rack 30 minutes. Remove lid,
using. To weigh down paté, cover with
plate or pan the shape of the paté wit
a 2-pound can on top. Refrigerate ove
night. (Can be made ahead. Refrigera
up to 2 days.)
To serve: Remove from terrine; inver
onto platter. Garnish. Cut into ¥%-ine
slices; cut each slice into quarter:
Makes 72 appetizer servings, about 7
calories each.

SNOW PEAS STUFFED WITH
CRABMEAT

This pretty finger food does not go
long way—even dedicated weight watch
ers have three or four.
’% pound fresh snow peas
Salt
Filling
2 packages (6 oz. each) frozen
crabmeat, thawed and well
drained
2 hard-cooked eggs, finely chopped

4 scant tablespoons mayonnaise, or |
more if needed (continuea

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continued

1 tablespoon lemon juice

3 dashes bottled red pepper sauce

1 teaspoon capers

3 tablespoons finely chopped celery |

Wash and trim snow peas. Split on t¢

side, leaving bottom intact to form a li

tle boat. Blanch in lightly salted boilir)

water 10 seconds, then submerge in co)
water for a moment. Remove and draii
set aside to cool. (Can be made ahead
Cover and refrigerate up to 24 hours.) ©
Filling: In medium bowl combine al
ingredients. Stir very gently until we!

mixed, being careful not to break u
crabmeat. Stuff each snow pea with |
heaping teaspoonful filling. Refrigey)

ate up to 6 hours. Makes about 6¢

about 15 calories each.

MARINATED SHRIMP (

Shrimp and crab boil is available iv
your fish market. The gardiniera §
found in the Italian delicatessen of on!
of our supermarkets. |

1 box (3 oz.) shrimp and crab boil or
Chesapeake Bay-style seafood
seasoning

pounds shrimp, peeled and deveinell
jars (12 oz. each) gardiniera (Italian
mixed vegetables), drained

1 large onion, sliced

1 cup white wine vinegar

1 cup water

Ys cup salad oil 4

2 tablespoons sugar |

Fill 7-quart saucepot %3 full with water!
Add seafood seasoning and cook accord-
ing to package directions. Add shrimp]
and cook until light pink, about 3 to 5)
minutes. Drain immediately. Transfer’
hot shrimp to deep bowl. Add gardin-
iera and onion. Combine remaining in-
gredients, stirring to dissolve sugar,
Pour over shrimp. (Can be made ahead.
Cover and refrigerate up to 2 days.) To
serve, transfer shrimp and gardiniera
with slotted spoon to serving dish; dis-
card marinade. Makes 25 servings,
about 75 calories each.

BISCUITS WITH COUNTRY
FRIED HAM

This is a staple around here, especially
right after Christmas when we receive
country hams from Tennessee and Vir-
ginia. Everything has to be hot—and be
careful not to have too many biscuits for
your guests or you'll spoil their dinner.

3 cups all-purpose flour
tablespoon baking powder

¥a teaspoon salt

¥a cup vegetable shortening
1¥%4 cups milk
14% pounds thinly sliced country ham

or Westphalian ham
Butter (continued)

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HOLIDAY BUFFET

continued

Preheat oven to 400°F. Grease 2 cookie
sheets. In large bowl combine dry in-
gredients. With pastry blender or 2
knives, cut in shortening until mixture
resembles coarse cornmeal. Add milk,
stirring with a fork, until dough is
sticky and not dry. On lightly floured
surface, pat gently % inch thick. Cut
with floured 1-inch round biscuit cutter.
After first batch is cut, pinch dough
together, trying not to mix in too much
flour. Cut out remaining biscuits.

Place on cookie sheets so that
biscuits don’t touch. Bake 10 minutes,
until nice and brown. (Can be made
ahead. Cool, cover and freeze up to 2
weeks. Thaw at room temperature.
Wrap in foil and heat in preheated
350°F. oven 5 to 7 minutes.) Split and
butter biscuits.

In skillet fry ham (cut about the
Same size as biscuit) in butter and place
between split buttered biscuits. Serve
immediately. Makes about 60, about 80
calories each with ham.

LONDON BROIL

SSS ES SS
For this buffet, you will need to triple
the recipe.

Green Peppercorn Butter

Y2 cup unsalted butter, softened
‘4 cup finely chopped fresh parsley
1 tablespoon bottled green
peppercorns, drained
2 teaspoons fresh lemon juice
Y2 teaspoon Dijon mustard
2 teaspoons Worcestershire sauce

Marinade

1 cup dry red wine
Y2 cup olive oil

1 green onion, minced
3 garlic cloves, minced
1 teaspoon salt

2 teaspoon peppercorns
Y2 teaspoon dry mustard
Y2 teaspoon thyme

6 parsley sprigs

1 bay leaf

1 top sirloin steak (31% Ibs.) about 2
inches thick
1 tablespoon cracked peppercorns

“Butter: In food processor combine all

ingredients and mix until smooth.
Transfer to bowl, cover and refrigerate
1 hour. (Can be made ahead. Cover and
refrigerate up to 2 days.)
Marinade: In large glass dish combine
all ingredients. Prick steak with tines
of large fork. Place steak in dish, coat-
ing with marinade. Cover and refrig-
erate, turning occasionally, 4 hours or
overnight.

Drain meat, pat dry and press
cracked peppercorns into it. Let stand
30 minutes to 1 hour. Grill over hot

136

coals or under broiler 5 to 10 minutes
on each side for rare, 8 to 12 minutes
for medium. Transfer to cutting board,
brush with half the butter and let stand
15 minutes. Cut diagonally across the
grain into thin slices and spread on
remaining butter. Makes 8 to 10 serv-
ings, about 805 calories each per 8, 640
calories each per 10. (Triple recipe to
serve 25.)

POTATOES GRAND-MERE

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This is written proof of the fact that
Grand-mére and Momma could pre-
pare all those favorite creamy dishes
without a single smidgen of conscience
about the consequences. I suppose it was
because dinner was in the middle of the
day, was the main meal, and everybody
had to walk back to work.

5 pounds potatoes, unpeeled and sliced
%e-inch thick (about 20 cups)
Salt and white pepper
6 cups heavy or whipping cream
6 tablespoons Dijon mustard
6 garlic cloves, finely chopped
6 tablespoons butter
Ya cup grated Parmesan
cheese

(Potatoes can be sliced ahead. Cover with
water and store at room temperature or
refrigerate up to 1 day. Drain well.)

Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease a 9-quart
baking dish or three 13x9-inch baking
dishes. Layer sliced potatoes in baking
dish; season with salt and pepper. In
saucepan combine cream, mustard,
garlic and butter; heat to boiling. Pour
over potatoes. Cover and bake 1 hour.
Uncover and top with cheese. Bake 30
minutes more, until potatoes are fork-
tender. Makes 25 servings, about 295
calories each.

ROMAINE AND STRAWBERRY
SALAD GIOVANNI
SSS
During strawberry season I'd fly to
Cleveland for this one.

6 heads romaine or 3 pounds spinach,
torn into bite-size pieces (18 cups)

3 bunches watercress, torn into bite-size
pieces (6 cups)

2 pints fresh strawberries, washed,
hulled and sliced

2 medium red onions, thinly sliced

Dressing
1 cup imported olive oil
Ya cup wine vinegar
1% tablespoons sugar
Juice from 2 small lemons
Y2 teaspoon salt
Ya teaspoon black pepper

Separate leaves of romaine or spinach
and watercress, discarding any bruised
or brown parts. Wash and drain in col-
ander. Place in salad bowl with straw-
berries and onions. (Can be made ahead.
Cover and refrigerate up to 6 hours.)

Pour on dressing and toss. Makes 2¢
servings, about 100 calories each.

Dressing: In small jar with tight-fitting
lid combine all ingredients. Cover an
shake well. (Can be made ahead. Covei
and let stand at room temperature up t
1 day. Shake before using.)

-GLAZED FUDGE CAKE

If your guests are chocoholics, yo
should make two cakes.

cup plus 2 tablespoons cake flour
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 teaspoon baking soda
Y2 teaspoon salt
1% cups sugar, divided
2 squares (1 oz. each) unsweetened
chocolate, broken
1 tablespoon unsweetened cocoa
¥3 cup boiling water
2 large eggs

temperature, cut into 6 pieces _
Y2 cup sour cream
1 tablespoon rum

Chocolate Rum Glaze

3 squares (1 oz. each) semisweet
chocolate
2 tablespoons water
2 tablespoons unsalted butter
4 tablespoons confectioners sugar,
sifted
Pinch salt
Whole blanched almonds dipped
in glaze
1 teaspoon rum

Preheat oven to 325°F. Cut a circle off
parchment or wax paper to fit bottom of
an 8-inch springform pan. Place in pan
and butter paper and sides of pan. —

In food processor with steel blade, proc-
ess flour, baking powder, baking sodaf
and salt 5 seconds to blend; set aside.
Process sugar, chocolate and cocoa 1 min-
ute or until chocolate is finely minced.
With machine running, pour boiling}
water through feed tube. Process until
chocolate is melted. Add eggs and proc-
ess for 1 minute. Add remaining sugar
and process 1 minute, stopping once to
scrape down bowl. Add butter and proc-
ess 1 minute more. Add sour cream and
rum and process 5 seconds. Add re-
served dry ingredients and turn ma-
chine on and off 3 or 4 times, just until
flour disappears. Do not overprocess.

Transfer batter to prepared pan and
spread evenly with spatula. Bake on cen-
ter rack in oven 50 to 55 minutes, until
cake begins to withdraw slightly from
sides of pan. Cool in pan on wire rack.
(Cake may fall in center as it cools.)
Chocolate Rum Glaze: In top of double
boiler, combine all ingredients except
rum. Cook slowly until heated through
and chocolate is melted. Add rum and
refrigerate until glaze begins to thicken.

When cake is cool, remove sides of
pan. Invert onto cake platter; remove
bottom of pan and (continued) |

LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL * DECEMBER 1984

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husk on the outside. It means a delicious nutmeat inside.

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The bigger the better. A large nut means ,
more plump, crunchy nutmeat.

When the husk starts splitting,
we start picking. It means the walnut
is at its peak of freshness and flavor.

How to spota
Diamond in the rough.

It takes years of experience and
a critical eye to pick a walnut good
enough to be a Diamond-*

You ve got to know just where
to look. And what to look for.

That's why you should start in
California's Great Central Valley.

The sunny days and cool
_ evenings provide the perfect climate
for growing perfect walnuts.

And its blessed with nich soil
and gentle rains that fill the nuts with
lots of natural goodness and flavor.

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look for trees that have been carefully

pruned and watered. They'll work Ze
hard to produce plumpe, =§<@H/suny

Then, at harvest time,
choose only those nuts that are liter-
ally bursting with freshness from
their bright green husks. Weigh them
and inspect them.

And stamp only the very best
with the Diamond mark of quality.

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continued

r. Sprea ad glaze over top and sides
vith rubber spatula. Garnish with al-
ponds. (Can be made ahead. Freeze un-
wrapped I hour. Wrap and freeze up to
2 weeks. Thaw at room temperature un-
covered 3 hours.) Makes 12 to 16 serv-
ings, about 330 calories each per 12,
240 calories each per 16. (Make two
cakes for party.)

MOTHER'S PECAN RUM CAKES

These are special, reminiscent of the
good old days in Winchester, Tennessee.

2% cups cake flour, sifted
112 cups sugar
teaspoon salt
3% teaspoons baking powder
Y2 cup butter, margarine or shortening,
softened
¥Y_ cup milk
142 teaspoons vanilla extract
4 egg whites, at room temperature
2 teaspoon rum extract
Y_4 cup rum

—_

Pecan Icing

Y2 cup butter, softened
3 scant cups confectioners sugar,
sifted
Pinch salt

Ya cup rum plus more for coating
cake
112 teaspoons vanilla extract
3 cups finely chopped pecans

Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease a 13x9-
inch cake pan. Line with wax paper;
grease paper. In large mixer bowl com-
bine flour, sugar, salt and baking
powder. Add butter, milk and vanilla.
Beat at low speed until blended. Then
beat at medium 2 minutes, scraping
sides of bowl occasionally with rubber
spatula. Add unbeaten egg whites, rum
extract and rum. Beat 2 minutes longer
at medium speed. Pour batter into pan.
Bake 35 to 40 minutes or until surface
springs back when gently pressed with
fingertips. Cool on wire rack.
Pecan Icing: Meanwhile, in small mixer
bowl cream butter and sugar until
light and fluffy. Add salt, rum and va-
nilla. Keep beating until very fluffy.
Cut cake into 1%-inch squares. Pour
a generous teaspoon of rum on each
cake square. Spread icing on all sides
and roll in chopped fresh pecans. The
icing part is messy, but it all comes out
beautifully as you roll it round in chopped
nuts. I use a chopping bow! for this.
(Can be made ahead. Cover and freeze
up to 2 weeks. Thaw uncovered at room
temperature for 2 hours.) Makes 40
squares, about 190 calories each.

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without and it’s infinitely better th
way. For this buffet, make it twice.

12 slices stale French bread, broken yy e
2 cans (13 oz. each) evaporated milk}
22 cups water
1% cups sugar
1 tablespoon vanilla extract
*/3 cup seedless raisins :
1 can (17 oz.) fruit cocktail, drained §
1 cup flaked coconut 4
Y2 cup butter, melted iy

6 eggs il

In large bowl soak bread in milk, wate#) 1
sugar and vanilla. Let stand 1 hou! i
stirring occasionally. F

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inch baking dish. Add raisins, fruif,
cocktail, coconut and melted butte #
Beat eggs well by hand or at low spee P
in mixer; add to mixture, blending we #
by hand. Pour into baking dish. Bake .
hour. Makes 12 to 16 servings, abou i
430 calories per 12, 325 calories per 16).
(Make two puddings for party.) Enc :
Correction: Due to a printing error, t
recipe for Congo Bars on page 140 of t
October 1984 issue calls for too little”
sugar. The correct amount is 16 oz. of}
light brown sugar.

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Vegetables make |
Chicken Marsala..

CHRISTMAS CLASSICS
continued from pages 120-123

CHRISTMAS PIE

Pastry for double-crust pie

4 cup sugar

4 cup quick-cooking tapioca

5 teaspoon cinnamon

4 teaspoon salt

4 cups sliced fresh plums (about 11 Ibs.)
or 2 cans (30 oz. each) whole purple
plums, drained, pitted and sliced

1 package (10 oz.) frozen raspberries,
partially thawed

2 tablespoons butter

1 whole plum, fresh or canned

Yeheat oven to 425°F. Divide pastry
nto 2 pieces, one slightly larger than
he other. On lightly floured surface
oll larger piece into an 11-inch circle
bout ¥% inch thick. Fold pastry into
juarters and place in 9-inch pie plate.
Jnfold to line pie plate; trim overhang-
ng edge 1 inch from rim.

In large bow! combine sugar, tapioca,
‘innamon and salt. Add plums and toss
0 coat. Stir raspberries into plums and
oss again. Spoon into pastry-lined pie
jlate. Dot with butter. Place a whole
alum in center. Roll remaining pastry
“§nto a 10-inch circle. Cut a 1%- to 2-
“}nch hole in center for plum. Top pie
with pastry; seal edges. Bake 15 min-

Nhen you combine Marsala
ie with my best vegetables

| special Italian-seasoned

ice, you'll create a dinner

t’s real Italian, and real good!

CHICKEN MARSALA

package (10 oz.) Birds Eye” Italian
Style International Recipe Vegetables
with a seasoned sauce

tablespoons butter or margarine
chicken cutlets, quartered

cup Marsala wine

tablespoons water

tablespoon flour

t butter in a skillet, add chicken and
wn both sides. Add wine; bring toa

|. Reduce heat, cover and simmer for
ninutes. Push chicken to side of skillet;
i vegetables. Mix water and flour; stir
)» vegetables. Bring to a boil over

dium heat, separating vegetables with
« and stirring until sauce cubes are
»nded. Reduce heat, cover and simmer
‘3 minutes. Stir; serve chicken with
yetables. Makes 3 servings. Calories

t serving-330. Cooking time—under

| minutes.

or more recipes, look on the back of
sirds Eye International Recipes or
rite to International Recipes, General
»oods Corporation, PO. Box 3677,
aankakee, Illinois 60902.

utes. Reduce oven temperature to 375°F.
and bake 40 minutes more or until juice
bubbles up near center of pie. Makes 8
servings, about 400 calories each.

STEAMED PUDDING

2 eggs

Ya cup light brown sugar

Ya cup granulated sugar

Y2 cup butter, melted

1 tablespoon grated orange peel
1¥%2 cups all-purpose flour
teaspoon baking soda

¥Y4 teaspoon salt

Ya teaspoon cream of tartar
22 cups cranberries, coarsely chopped

¥Y_ cup chopped walnuts

Orange Cream (optional)

2 pint heavy or whipping cream

1 tablespoon confectioners sugar

1 tablespoon orange-flavored liqueur
Y2 teaspoon grated orange peel

Grease a 1¥2-quart steamed pudding
mold or heat-proof tube mold and dust
with a little granulated sugar.

In large mixer bowl beat eggs and
sugars at high speed until light and
fluffy, about 5 minutes. Slowly add
melted butter and orange peel and con-
tinue beating just until combined.

In another bowl combine flour, bak-
ing soda, salt and cream of tartar. Stir
into egg mixture just until blended.

Fold in cranberries and walnuts.

Spoon pudding into prepared mold.
Cover with lid or foil. Stand on rack in
deep Dutch oven or saucepot. Pour boil-
ing water halfway up side of mold.
Cover pot and steam 2 hours. Transfer
to wire rack. Uncover and cool 15 min-
utes before unmolding. Serve warm
with Orange Cream. Makes 10 serv-
ings, 340 calories each without cream.
Orange Cream: In bowl beat all ingre-
dients to soft peaks. Makes 2 cups, 30
calories per tablespoon.

WASSAIL

Ys cup brown sugar

Y4 teaspoon ginger

Y4 teaspoon nutmeg

Ye teaspoon cloves

1 cup dry sherry

1 quart ale or strong dark beer

Y3 cup cognac (optional)

1 jar (18 oz.) crab apples, drained

In large saucepan heat sugar, spices,
sherry and ale. If desired, add cognac
just before removing from heat. Pour over
crab apples in serving bowl. Makes ten
Ye-cup servings, about 145 calories each.

FRUITCAKE

1 pound pecan halves
1 pound Brazil nuts
1 cup grated fresh coconut (continued)

,.- 330 Calorie
masterpiece.”

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CHRISTMAS CLASSICS

continued

2 pounds whole pitted dates

Y2 pound candied cherries, halved

Y2 pound candied pineapple wedges

1 pound dried apricots, quartered

1 cup all-purpose flour

2 cans (14 oz. each) sweetened
condensed milk

¥3 cup light rum, plus additional rum for
aging fruitcake

Grease two 9x5-inch loaf pans. Line
bottoms with parchment or wax paper.
Preheat oven to 350°F.

In large bowl combine nuts and
fruits. Add flour; toss. Then add sweet-
ened condensed milk and rum; mix
well. Spoon into prepared loaf pans.
Press down evenly. Bake 1 hour and 15
~ minutes. Cool in pans on wire racks 1
hour. Remove from pan; peel off paper.

Turn right side up. When completely
cool, drizzle about 2 tablespoons rum
on each loaf. Wrap in foil; let stand 24
hours before slicing.

To serve, slice each loaf into nine 1-
inch slices. Cut each slice into thirds.
Makes 27 pieces per loaf, about 280
calories each.

FRUITC/ KE EXCERPT, page 122

by Truman Capote 1958. Reprinted by permission
n House, Inc. Excerpted from BREAKFAST AT

MINCE PIE

2 cup brandy
2 cups dark raisins
1 cup currants
1 orange
1 lemon
1% cups apple cider or apple juice
Y2 pound butter or suet, finely chopped
2 medium tart apples, coarsely
chopped (about 2 cups)
1 medium pear or quince, coarsely
chopped (about 1 cup)
1 cup sugar
2 teaspoon cinnamon
2 teaspoon nutmeg
Y4 teaspoon cloves
1 cup slivered almonds or chopped
walnuts
2 teaspoons lemon juice, divided
Pastry for 2 double-crust pies

Egg Glaze

2 egg yolks
1 teaspoon water

In medium bow] pour brandy over rai-
sins and currants; set aside.

Grate peel from orange, then squeeze
the juice. Repeat with lemon. In me-
dium saucepan combine cider, orange
juice and peel, lemon juice and peel,
butter or suet, apples, pear or quince,
sugar and spices. Simmer 30 minutes,
stirring occasionally. Stir in raisins,
currants and nuts. Simmer 15 minutes

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425°F. Divide pastry into 4 pieces, tw@
slightly larger than the others. O
lightly floured surface roll each large
piece into an ll-inch circle about
inch thick. Line each of two 9-inch pié
plates with one pastry circle. Spoor
half the mincemeat into each pie plate
Sprinkle each with 1 teaspoon lemo
juice. Roll one remaining pastry piece
into a 9-inch circle. Cut into 10 strips
inch wide. (For pretty edge, cut wit.
pastry wheel.) Beat egg yolks with
water for glaze; brush over strips
Weave strips in lattice pattern over fill
ing about 1 inch apart. Fold overhang o:
bottom crust up over strips. Flute edge
brush with glaze. Repeat with remain
ing pastry and glaze for second pie
Bake 30 minutes or until golden
Makes two 9-inch pies, about 540 calo
ries per serving.

For tarts: For 8 tarts you will need half
the filling recipe and pastry for 1 dou
ble-crust pie. Divide pastry in half. Roll
into two 12-inch circles. With a 4-inch
round cookie cutter, cut 8 circles from!
each piece. Line each tart pan with one
4-inch circle. Spoon filling evenly into
each. Sprinkle each with 4 teaspoon
lemon juice. Top with remaining past-
ry; seal tightly. Brush with glaze and

LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL * DECEMBER 1984

vake as directed for lattice-top pies.
Makes 8 tarts, about 540 calories each.

MINCE PIE EXCERPT, page 122

Reprinted by permission of Harold Ober Associates Incorpo-
ated. Copyright © 1954 by J. M. Dent & Sons. Copyright
enewed 1982 by Caitlin Thomas, Llewelyn Edouard Thomas,

# Aeronwy Bryn Thomas-Ellis, Colum Garn Thomas.

COCONUT PIE

Filling

Ya cup cornstarch

2 tablespoons sugar

Yq teaspoon salt

3 egg yolks

2 cups milk

1 tablespoon butter or margarine
1 teaspoon vanilla extract

Ys, cup canned cream of coconut
¥_ cup shredded coconut,

toasted

Meringue

5 egg whites, at room temperature
Y2 teaspoon cream of tartar

Y2 cup plus 2 tablespoons sugar

Ya cup shredded coconut

| 9-inch baked pie shell

Filling: In medium saucepan combine
cornstarch, sugar and salt. In medium
bowl beat egg yolks slightly. Add milk
and beat to combine. Add to saucepan
and cool over medium heat, stirring
constantly with wire whisk, until mix-
ture begins to boil. Cook 1 minute

more, stirring constantly. Remove from
heat. Stir in butter or margarine, va-
nilla and cream of coconut. Fold in
toasted coconut; set aside.

Meringue: In small bowl with mixer at
high speed beat egg whites and cream
of tartar until foamy. Gradually add
sugar, a tablespoon at a time, beating
well after each addition, until sugar is
completely dissolved and whites are

DECEMBER RECIPE INDEX

Here is a listing of recipes appearing in this issue, including
those from the Journal kitchen and advertisements.

APPETIZERS

Biscuits with Country
Fried Ham p. 134

Cheese—Hot and Cold p. 130

Chicken Wings with Spicy
Apricot Sauce p. 130

Marinated Shrimp p. 134
Mushroom Paté p. 132
Smoked Salmon Spread p. 65
Snow Peas Stuffed

with Crabmeat p. 132

Almond Cookies p. 152
Almond Hearts p. 149
Almond Spritz

Cookies p. 152
Almond Wedges p. 149
Anise Cookies p. 148
Anzac Biscuits p. 145
Basler Brunsli p. 149
Bireweche p. 152
Biscotti di Prato p. 147
Boca Raton Pecan Bars p. 150
Butter Cookies p. 151
Chocolate Coconut

Macaroons p. 151
Christmas Cookies p. 145
Coconut Heaps p. 147
Colleens p. 146
Coronets 4 la Ritz p. 151
Dolcezze di Dama p. 147
Friands p. 146
Haman’s Ears p. 147
Hazelnut Macaroons p. 151
Kipfels p. 151

Klejner p. 150

Loundon Fingers p. 148

Macaroons p. 146

No Name Cookies p. 148

Nut Sables p. 150

Oatmeal Cookies p. 146

Original Fennel Seed Holiday
Cookies p. 150

Ovis Nolis p. 147

Palets aux Raisins p. 145

Peanut Butter Cookies p. 145

Prize-winning Chocolate Chip
Cookies p. 152

Snipper/Pepper Cake p. 148

Speculaaspoppen p. 148

Spekulatius p. 146

Sweden Pins p. 149

Tejas p. 149

Vanille Kipferl p. 146

Vanillekipferi p. 145

Walnut Drops p. 150

Walnut Round Cookies p.151

Zurich Nut Cookies p. 152

stiff but not dry.

Preheat oven to 350°F. Pour filling
into baked pie shell. Spread meringue
over filling, sealing it well to the crust.
Bake 10 to 12 minutes or until golden.
Cool on wire rack. Makes 8 servings,
about 370 calories each. End

COCONUT PIE EXCERPT, page 123

Excerpted from MEMORY OF A LARGE CHRISTMAS by Lillian
Smith. Copyright © 1961, 1962 by Lillian Smith. Reprinted
with permission of the publisher W.W. Norton & Company, Inc.

DESSERTS

Bertha Ann's Bread Pudding p. 138
Carrot Cake p. 100

Christmas Pie p. 139

Christmas Wreath Coffee Cake p. 100
Coconut Pie p. 141
Cranberry-Cherry Pie p 100
Fruitcake p. 139

Glazed Fudge Cake p. 136
Midnight Sun Cheese Tart p. 67
Mince Pie p. 140

Mother's Pecan Rum Cakes p. 138
Steamed Pudding p. 139

ENTREES

Chicken Marsala p. 139

Fried Chicken p. 144

Holiday Raisin Glazed Ham p. 164
London Broil p. 136

Sweet and Sour Beef p. 66

MISCELLANEOUS

Christmas Castle p. 154

Country Vegetable Soup p. 10
One-Bow] Buttercream Frosting p. 90
Wassail p. 139

SIDE DISHES

Holiday Rice p. 164

Potato Latkes p. 66

Potatoes Grand-Meére p. 136

Red Cabbage p. 66

Romaine and Strawberry Salad Giovanni p. 136
Yam Sunbursts p. 168

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Our gift package of
tempting delights

from around the world
... and here at home!

by teaspoonfuls into 2-inch ropes with
tapered ends. On ungreased cookie
sheets, bend into crescents. Bake 10
minutes; roll in vanilla sugar. Cool on
wire racks. Makes about 3 dozen
cookies, about 50 calories each.

Ye cup butter, softened
Ye cup confectioners’ sugar
1 egg

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

1 cup all-purpose fiour

Ya Cup ground almonds

6 tablespoons heavy cream

Australia

Sydney
Sebel

In saucepan warm rum and currants or
raisins; set aside 2 hours or overnight.
Preheat oven to 400°F. Grease 2

Anzac Biscuits

1 cup oats = cookie sheets. In mixer bow! beat but-
1 cup all-purpose flour Hamilton ter and sugar until light and fluffy. Add
1 cup sugar egg and vanilla and beat until com-

Southampton
, Princess Hotel

bined, about 1 minute. With wooden
spoon, gently stir in flour and almonds.
(Dough should be soft.) Add raisins
and rum; blend well. Add cream and
stir until combined.

Spoon batter into pastry bag fitted
with plain tube. Pipe into 1¥%-inch
rounds onto cookie sheets, about 1%
inches apart. (Or drop batter by tea-
spoonfuls onto cookie sheets.) Bake 10
minutes or until edges are golden.
Cool on wire rack. Makes. about 5
dozen cookies, about 40 calories each.

¥Y, cup grated coconut
Y2 cup butter
1 tablespoon golden syrup
1% teaspoons baking soda
2 tablespoons boiling water

Peanut Butter Cookies

Y2 cup butter, softened

1 cup peanut butter

2 cups sugar

2 teaspoons vanilla extract
2eggs «

2 cups all-purpose flour

2 teaspoons baking powder
1 teaspoon salt

Preheat oven to 300°F. Grease and
flour 3 cookie sheets. In medium bow!
combine oats, flour, sugar and co-
conut. In small saucepan combine
butter and syrup and stir over low
heat until melted. Mix baking soda
with boiling water and add to melted
bufter. Stir into dry ingredients. Drop
by teaspoonfuls, 1 inch apart, onto
cookie sheets. Bake 10 to 12 minutes.
Cool on cookie sheets. Makes 3 dozen
cookies, about 75 calories each.

In large mixer bowl cream butter, pea-
nut. butter and sugar until light and
fluffy. Beat in vanilla. Add eggs one at
a time, beating well after each addi-

and salt; add to creamed mixture. Re- #4
frigerate 30 minutes.

Preheat oven to 400°F. Divide dough
in half. On lightly floured surface roll
Ys inch thick. Cut out with 2-inch round
cookie cutter and place on ungreased
cookie sheets. Bake 6 to 8 minutes.
Transfer to wire racks-to cool. (Cookies
are better the next day.) Makes 6 dozen
cookies, about 70 calories each.

. Montreal
Queen Elizabeth
Hotel

Austria

Vienna

Hotel 2
Imperial Wien

~ Christmas Cookies

1 cup butter, softened
12 cups confectioners’ sugar
1 egg
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
2 cups all-purpose flour
10 tablespoons rice flour
Dash salt

Vanillekipfer!

6 tablespoons butter, softened
Ys cup sugar
¥, cup all-purpose flour
Y4 cup ground almonds
Vanilla sugar (confectioners’
sugar in which a vanilla bean
has been kept)

Brazil

Preheat oven to 450°F. In large mixer
bowl cream butter and sugar until
light and fluffy. Add egg and vanilla;
beat well. Combine dry ingredients;
add to creamed mixture. With a
cookie press or pastry bag fitted with
a star tube, pipe dough onto 2 un-
greased cookie sheets. Bake 5 to 6
minutes, until golden. Makes 8 dozen
cookies, about 40 calories each.

Janeiro
Rio Palace

In mixer bowl cream butter and sugar
until light and fluffy. Add flour and
nuts; beat at low speed until blended.
Wrap dough and refrigerate 1 hour.

Preheat oven to 375°F. Roll dough

Palets aux Raisins

6 tablespoons light rum
Y2 cup currants or raisins

145

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= Broadway
Worcestershire
The Lygon Arms

Oatmeal Cookies

¥s cup butter
3 tablespoons golden
syrup
243 cups oats
1% cups.all-purpose flour
1 cup turbinado or granulated
sugar
Y2 teaspoon baking soda
Pinch salt

In saucepan melt butter and syrup
over low heat. In large mixer bowl
combine oats, flour, sugar, baking
soda and salt. Add butter-syrup and
beat at high speed 2 minutes. Divide
dough in half. Wrap and refrigerate at
least 30 minutes.

Preheat oven to 275°F. (yes, 275
degrees!). Grease 2 cookie sheets.
On lightly floured surface roll half
the dough ¥% inch thick. With a 2-
inch cookie cutter, cut out. Carefully
transfer to cookie sheet. (Dough is
crumbly and may tend to fall apart.)
Bake 30 to 40 minutes. Cool on wire
racks. Repeat with remaining dough.
Makes 3 dozen cookies, about 100
calories each.

1% cups ground almonds

22 cups confectioners’ sugar,
divided

4 egg whites

Preheat oven to 375°F. Line 2 cookie
sheets with parchment paper.

Into small bowl sift almonds and 1%
cups sugar; set aside. In large mixer
bowl beat egg whites until soft peaks
form. Gradually beat in remaining 1%
cups sugar. Continue beating until
very stiff, about 5 minutes. Sift al-
mond-sugar over meringue; fold in
gently. Drop by teaspoonfuls onto
cookie sheet. Bake 15 minutes. Trans-
fer cookies still on parchment paper

to damp towel until cookies can be
peeled off easily, about 10 minutes.
Makes about 4% dozen cookies,
about 40 calories each.

Paris

Hotel
Plaza Athénée

Friands

1% cups blanched ground
almonds
-1 cup sugar
6 egg whites
2 tablespoons honey
Ys cup all-purpose flour
1% teaspoons grated orange peel
Ya cup butter

Preheat oven to 350°F. Generously
grease 1%-inch tartlet molds. In large
mixer bowl beat almonds, sugar and
egg whites. Blend in honey. Beat in
flour and orange peel.

In small saucepan lightly brown
butter over low heat. Pour through fine
strainer or cheesecloth. With mixer on
high speed, add warm butter to al-
mond mixture. Spoon batter into pre-
pared molds, filling three quarters full.
Place on a cookie sheet and bake 15
to 18 minutes. Let cool 5 minutes; re-
move from molds. Makes 5 dozen
cookies, about 50 calories each.

Germany

Berlin

Bristol
Hotel
Kempinski ~

Spekulatius

Y2 cup butter, softened
1 cup dark brown sugar

Y4 Cup granulated sugar

V2 cup milk
¥Y_ cup finely ground almonds
1 teaspoon vanilla extract

1 teaspoon baking powder
Yo teaspoon baking soda

1 teaspoon cinnamon
Ye teaspoon cloves

Y2 teaspoon nutmeg

Y2 teaspoon allspice

3 cups all-purpose flour

1 egg white

Pinch salt

1 cup sliced almonds

In mixer bowl cream butter and sug-
ars until light and fluffy. Gradually add
milk and beat until well blended. Add

almonds and vanilla; beat until well §
mixed. Combine dry ingredients; add ff
to creamed mixture and mix until
blended. Divide dough in half. Wrap §
and refrigerate at least 1 hour. :.

Grease 2 cookie sheets. On floured Hi,
surface roll half the dough % inch fe
thick. (Dough is fragile, so work #%.
quickly while still cold.) Cut out with a §
2-inch round cookie cutter. Place on #&-
cookie sheets.

With fork beat egg white with salt
until slightly frothy. Brush beaten egg
white on tops of cookies. Place sev-
eral almond slices on each. Refriger-
ate 20 minutes on cookie sheets be-
fore baking. Preheat oven to 325°F.
Bake 15 to 20 minutes. Repeat with
remaining dough. Reroll scraps and
repeat. Cool completely on wire racks.
Makes 6 dozen cookies, about 65
calories each.

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Wiesbaden

Hotel
Nassauer Hof

Vanille Kipferl

1 cup plus 5 tablespoons butter,
softened
Ye cup sugar
1 egg white, at room
temperature
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
2 cups all-purpose flour
1% cups finely ground hazeinuts
Y_ teaspoon salt

Preheat oven to 375°F. Grease and
flour 2 cookie sheets. In large mixer
bowl beat butter and sugar until light
and fluffy. Beat in egg white and va-
nilla until well blended.

In medium bowl combine flour,
ground hazelnuts and salt. Fold into
creamed mixture. On lightly floured
surface knead briefly. Roll dough by
rounded teaspoonfuls into balls:
Place on cookie sheets. Flatten
slightly to 1%-inch rounds. Bake 20
minutes. Cool on wire racks. Makes
about 5 dozen cookies, about 70 cal-
ories each.

Dublin

The Berkeley
Court Hoiel

1 cup ground almonds
Ya cup sugar

Feqg willes
| 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
| Y% teaspoon almond extract

Preheat oven to 325°F. Line 2 cookie
sheets with parchment paper or foil.
| In small bow! mix ground almonds,
|.sugar and salt. Add egg whites and
vanilla and almond extracts; mix well.
| Spoon batter into pastry bag fitted
with a %-inch plain tube; pipe disks
'1¥% inches apart onto cookie sheet.
(Or drop by teaspoonfuls onto cookie
sheets.) Bake 15 minutes or until light-
ly browned. Transfer cookies still on
parchment paper or foil to wire rack to
cool. Makes about 2 dozen cookies,

about 40 calories each.

Jerusalem _
King David

Haman’s Ears

DOUGH: 1 cup butter, softened
Y2 cup sugar
2 tablespoons honey
2 eggs
3% cups all-purpose flour
Y4 teaspoon salt
FILLING: 1 cup sugar
Yo cup milk
Y_ cup finely chopped golden
raisins
Ya teaspoon cinnamon
1% cups coarsely choppe¢
walnuts

DOUGH: In mixer bowl cream butter
and sugar until light and fluffy. Add
honey; beat well. Add eggs; beat until
fluffy. Add flour and salt; mix well. Di-
vide dough into quarters. Wrap and
refrigerate at least 1 hour. (Can be
refrigerated up to 3 days.)

FILLING: In saucepan combine
sugar, milk, raisins and cinnamon;
bring to a boil over medium heat. Stir
in walnuts. Cool before using.

_ Grease 2 cookie sheets. Roll dough
Y inch thick. Cut with a 2'%-inch
round cookie cutter. Place 1 teaspoon
filling in center of each circle. Shape
into a triangle by firmly pinching
edges together, leaving some filling
exposed. Place on cookie sheet. Re-
frigerate 15 minutes.

Préheat oven to 350°F. Bake 20 to
25 minutes, until golden brown. Makes
about 4 dozen cookies, about 125
calories each.

Florence
Ristorante
Da Noi

2¢ eggs, at room temperature

Ye cup sugar

3 tablespoons butter, melted
and cooled

3% cups grated or flaked

coconut

3 squares (1 oz. each)
semisweet chocolate,
melted

Preheat oven to 375°F. Grease and
flour 2 cookie sheets. In large mixer
bowl beat eggs until light. Gradually
add sugar, beating until mixture is
thick and sugar is dissolved. Beat in
melted butter. With rubber spatula,
fold in grated coconut. Let stand 10
minutes. Drop by teaspoonfuls onto
cookie: sheet. Bake 15 to 20 minutes.
Cool on wire racks. Drizzle tops with
melted chocolate. Makes 4 dozen
cookies, about 50 calories each.

Biscotti_di Prato

4 eggs
1% cups sugar

Y, teaspoon grated lemon peel

3 cups all-purpose flour

1 teaspoon baking powder

Y_ teaspoon salt

2 cups toasted, skinned and
coarsely chopped hazelnuts
(about 12 oz.)

Preheat oven to 350°F. Line 2 cookie
sheets with foil. In large mixer bowl
beat eggs and sugar at high speed
about 12 to 15 minutes, until mixture is
thick and pale yellow and forms a rib-
bon when beaters are lifted. Beat in
lemon peel.

In medium bow! combine flour, bak-
ing powder and salt. With mixer at low
speed add dry ingredients to egg
mixture, scraping bowl with rubber
spatula and beating just until well
mixed. Fold in nuts.

Divide dough into thirds. Shape
one third on cookie sheet, forming
14x2-inch strip. Repeat with remaining
dough, forming 3 strips. Bake 25 to
30 minutes, until firm. (Strips will be
pale in color.) Remove cookies from
oven, but do not turn off oven. Let
stand a few minutes. Remove from

foil. While still warm, cut crosswise
into Y-inch slices. Transfer slices back
to cookie sheets, standing upright with
space between them. Return to oven.
Bake 10 minutes more to dry. Cool on
wire racks. Makes about 6% dozen
cookies, about 55 calories each.

Milan
Hotel
Palace

Dolcezze di Dama

1 cup butter, softened

1 cup sugar

4 eggs, at room temperature

1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Grated peel of 1 lemon

1% cups all-purpose fiour

About % cup jam
Confectioners’ sugar

Preheat oven to 375°F. Grease and
flour 4 cookie sheets. In large mixer
bowl cream butter and sugar. Add
eggs one at a time, beating after
each addition. Beat in vanilla and
lemon peel. Add flour and continue
mixing until blended.

Spoon dough into pastry bag fitted
with a %-inch plain tube. Pipe small
round disks onto cookie sheets, or
drop by teaspoonfuls. Bake 10 min-
utes or until golden brown. Cool on
wire racks. Spread center of cooled
cookie with thin layer of jam, then
sprinkle with confectioners sugar.
Makes 10 dozen cookies, about 30
calories each.

Rome
Hotel
Excelsior

Ovis Nolis

2 cups all-purpose flour

Ye Cup confectioners’ sugar

Ye cup cornstarch

1 teaspoon grated lemon peel

6 hard-cooked egg yolks

¥%4 cup butter, softened, cut into
pieces

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

Y2 cup confectioners’ sugar, sifted

Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease and
flour 3 cookie sheets. In large bowl
combine flour, sugar, cornstarch and
lemon peel. Crumble egg yolks into
dry ingredients. Knead in butter and
vanilla. Divide dough into 4 pieces.
On lightly floured surface roll each
piece ¥% inch thick. Cut with a 2%-inch
diamond-shaped cookie cutter. Place
on cookie sheets. Bake 15 to 18 min-
utes. Cool on wire racks and sprinkle

generously with confectioners sugar.
Makes about 8 dozen cookies, about
30 calories each.

Venice
Hotel
Cipriani

Anise Cookies

4 eggs
3 egg yolks
1 cup sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Ys cup cornstarch

1% cups all-purpose flour
1 tablespoon anise seed,

crushed

1 teaspoon grated

lemon peel

Preheat oven to 400°F. Grease and
flour 2 cookie sheets. In large mixer
bowl beat eggs, egg yolks, sugar and
vanilla until doubled in volume, about
10 minutes.

Combine dry ingredients; stir into
egg mixture. With pastry bag fitted with
a #8 plain tube, pipe long strips about
1 inch apart along the length of cookie
sheet. Bake 10 to 12 minutes. Cut strips
into 1-inch pieces. Return to oven to dry
out, about 5 minutes. Cool on wire
racks. Makes 12 dozen cookies, about
15 calories each.

Acapulco
Acapulco
Princess

No Name Cookies

22 cups all-purpose flour
Y2 cup vegetable shortening
Yo cup unsalted butter,
softened
V2 Cup sugar
Yq cup milk
2 teaspoons grated
orange peel
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Ya teaspoon salt

Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease 2 cookie
sheets. In large mixer bowl combine
flour, shortening and butter; beat at
low speed. In another bow! combine
sugar, milk, orange peel, vanilla and
salt; beat into flour mixture. Spoon
dough into pastry bag fitted with a
star tube. Pipe cookies onto cookie
sheets. Bake 18 to 20 minutes. Cool
on wire racks. Makes 4 dozen
cookies, about 70 calories each.

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Netherlands

Amsterdam
Hotel
de l'Europe

Speculaaspoppen
pictured on page 143

1% cups butter, softened
1% cups light brown sugar
7 tablespoons milk
2 tablespoons orange juice
1% cups vanilla wafer crumbs
¥Y_ cup ground aimonds
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 teaspoon salt
3 tablespoons grated
orange peel
3 tablespoons grated
lemon peel
12 tablespoons cinnamon
42 cups all-purpose flour

Preheat oven to 325°F. Grease and
flour two 16-inch cookie molds”.

In large bowl cream butter and
brown sugar until light and fluffy. Beat
in milk and orange juice. In medium
bow! combine vanilla wafer crumbs,
almonds, baking powder, salt, orange
and lemon peels and cinnamon. Beat
into butter mixture. Beat in flour.

Divide dough in half. Press evenly
into prepared molds. Bake 40 to 45
minutes. Cool in molds. Decorate if
desired. Makes two 16-inch spec-
ulaaspoppens or about 6 dozen
cookies, about 110 calories each. |
ED. NOTE: For cut-out .cookies, on
lightly floured surface roll dough “%
inch thick. (If too dry to roll, add 1 to 3
tablespoons milk.) Cut into desired
shapes with 2-inch cookie cutters.
Place on a greased and floured
cookie sheet. Bake at 325°F. for 20
minutes. Cool on wire racks.
*Speculaas molds may be ordered by
mail from H. Roth & Son, 1577 First
Avenue, New York, NY 10028, at
$29.95 each.

Oslo
Hotel
Continental

Snipper/Pepper Cake

22 cups all-purpose flour
Ye Cup sugar

2% teaspoons baking powder _

1% teaspoons ginger
1% teaspoons cinnamon
1% teaspoons ground
coriander
1% teaspoons ground
anise seed
Y2 teaspoon ground black pepper
*%3 cup light corn syrup
Y2 cup milk
3 tablespoons butter

In medium bow! combine flour, sugar,
baking powder, ginger, cinnamon,
coriander, anise seed and pepper. In
small saucepan heat corn syrup, milk
and butter over medium heat until
butter is melted, stirring constantly.
Add to dry ingredients; mix until well
blended. (Dough will be sticky.) Cover
with plastic wrap and _ refrigerate
overnight. ’

Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease and
flour 2 cookie sheets. On_ lightly
floured surface roll dough % inch
thick. With a 2-inch round cookie cut-
ter, cut out and place on cookie
sheets. Bake 15 minutes or until lightly
browned. Cool on wire racks. Makes
about 4 dozen cookies, about 45 cal-
ories each.

Scotland

Auchterarder
Perthshire
Gleneagles

Hotel

Loundon Fingers

1 cup all-purpose flour

Ys cup superfine cornmeal
or corn flour
(not cornstarch)

Ys cup sugar

Ye cup butter

1 egg

3 tablespoons chopped
crystallized ginger

In large bowl combine flour, cornmeal
or corn flour and sugar. With pastry
blender or 2 knives cut in butter. Add
egg and crystallized ginger and mix
by hand until well combined. Shape
into a ball. Wrap well and refrigerate
30 minutes.

Preheat oven to 375°F Lightly
grease a cookie sheet. Divide dough
in half. Refrigerate one half. On lightly
floured surface, roll other half % inch
thick. Cut into 3x1-inch strips. Bake 10
to 12 minutes. Repeat with remaining
dough. Makes about 2 dozen cook-
ies, about 80 calories each.

Hotel Ritz

¥Y, cup heavy or whipping
cream
1 cup sugar
1% cups (8 oz.) firmly packed
ground almonds

Preheat oven to 350°F. Cut eighteen
12x5-inch strips of foil. Place 3 strips
on each cookie sheet.

In medium saucepan combine
cream and sugar. Bring to a boil: boil
3 minutes, stirring constantly. Remove
from heat and stir in almonds; keep
warm. Drop by teaspoonfuls onto foil
strips, 4 cookies per strip.

.Bake 10 to12 minutes, until golden
brown. While still hot, gently press foil
strip lengthwise over a rolling pin or
other cylinder to allow cookies to
curve. When completely cool, gently
peel off foil. Makes 6 dozen cookies,
about 40 calories each.

Stockholm
Grand
Hotel

Sweden Pins ©

1 cup butter, softened
Y, cup sugar
1¥%. cups bread flour
Ye teaspoon salt
1 egg, beaten
Colored sugar crystals
Ground almonds

In large mixer bow! cream butter and
sugar. Add flour and salt; mix until
combined. Wrap dough and refriger-
ate at least 20 minutes.

Preheat oven to 375°F. Grease and
flour 2 cookie sheets. On _ lightly
floured surface roll dough ¥% inch
thick. Refrigerate a few minutes more
so dough will hold shape while cut-
ting. Cut into 1%-inch squares. Brush
tops with beaten egg; sprinkle with
sugar crystals and ground almonds.
Place on cookie sheets; bake 10 to
12 minutes. Cool on wire racks.
Makes about 4 dozen cookies, about
55 calories each.

Switzerland

Hotel
du Rhéne

“Almond Hearts

1% cups confectioners’ sugar,
sifted
1 cup butter, softened
2 egg yolks, divided
1 cup almonds, ground
22 cups all-purpose flour
¥Y_ cup almond halves

In large mixer bowl combine con-
fectioners sugar, butter and 1 egg
yolk. Beat at medium speed until light
and fluffy. Add ground almonds; beat
until blended. Add flour; stir with
wooden spoon until well combined.
Divide dough in half. Wrap and refrig-
erate 2 hours.

Preheat oven to 375°F. Grease and
flour 2 cookie sheets. On lightly
floured surface roll half the chilled
dough % inch thick. Cut with heart-
shaped cookie cutter. Place -on
cookie sheets; brush tops with re-
served egg yolk. Press one almond
half gently on top of each cookie.
Bake 8 to 10 minutes. Cool on wire
rack. Repeat with remaining dough.
Makes about 3 dozen cookies, about
135 calories each.

Lucerne
Palace
Hotel

Basler Brunsli

1% cups confectioners’ sugar
Y4 cup unsweetened cocoa
1 teaspoon cinnamon
1% cups finely ground
hazelnuts
1 teaspoon grated
lemon peel
2 egg whites
2 tablespoons butter, softened

Preheat oven to 325°F. Grease 2
cookie sheets. In saucepan combine
confectioners sugar, cocoa and cin-
namon; stir well. Add remaining ingre-
dients. Cook over low heat, stirring
constantly with wooden spoon until
well blended. Remove from heat.
Drop dough by teaspoonfuls onto
cookie sheets. Bake 15 minutes. Cool
on wire racks. Makes 4 dozen
cookies, about 50 calories each.

Alaska
Anchorage
Hotel Captain Cook

Almond Wedges

ALMOND TOPPING: 132 cups sugar
3% cups sliced blanched almonds
4 egg whites
2 tablespoons flour
Y2 teaspoon cinnamon
Y_ teaspoon nutmeg
CRUST: 22 cups all-purpose flour
Yo cup sugar
1 cup butter
1 egg, beaten
Y2 teaspoon lemon extract
Y2 teaspoon cinnamon
Ye teaspoon nutmeg
APRICOT GLAZE:
Y2 cup apricot preserves
1 tablespoon water
CHOCOLATE GLAZE:
3 squares (1 oz. each)
semisweet chocolate
1 square (1 oz.) unsweetened
chocolate

Preheat oven to 350°F Line a
15¥%x10¥ex1-inch jelly-roll pan with foil.
ALMOND TOPPING: In top of double
boiler over hot, not boiling, water
combine all ingredients. Cook, stirring
occasionally, until mixture reaches
110°F. on candy thermometer. (It
should be just warm.) Remove from
heat and set aside.

CRUST: In large bowl combine flour
and sugar. With pastry blender or 2
knives cut in butter until mixture re-
sembles coarse crumbs. Add egg
and remaining ingredients. With
hands, mix into a smooth dough.
Press into prepared pan; prick with
fork. Bake 15 to 20 minutes or until
golden. Remove from oven; spread al-
mond topping evenly over crust. Re-
turn to oven; bake 25 more minutes.
until light golden brown.

APRICOT GLAZE: Meanwhile, in
small saucepan melt apricot preserves
with water over low heat; strain through
a fine sieve. Brush glaze over almond
topping immediately after pan comes
out of oven. Cool in pan on wire rack.
Cut into 1%-inch squares; cut each
square diagonally in half.

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CHOCOLATE GLAZE: In top of dou-
ble boiler over hot, not boiling, water
melt semisweet and unsweetened
chocolate together. Drizzle on top of
cookies. Allow to set on wax paper-
lined pan. Makes about 12 dozen
cookies, about 55 calories each.

California
Berkeley
Chez Panisse

Wainut Drops

1 cup walnuts

4 tablespoons unsalted butter,
softened

4 tablespoons butter, softened

Ye cup granulated sugar,
divided

1% teaspoons vanilla extract
1 cup all-purpose flour
Vanilla sugar (confectioners’

sugar in which vanilla bean
has been kept)

Preheat oven to 350°F. Toast walnuts
until slightly browned, 5 to 7 minutes.
Cool completely. Grind in food pro-
cessor or blender.

Preheat oven to 300°F. In large
mixer bowl cream butters until light
and fluffy. Add % cup granulated
sugar and vanilla; beat until light and
fluffy. Beat in nuts and flour until thor-
oughly mixed. Spoon half the dough
into pastry bag fitted with a #7 or %-
inch tube. Pipe 1-inch circles on 2
ungreased cookie sheets. Bake 20 to
30 minutes or until lightly browned.
Transfer carefully to wire rack.
(Cookies will be soft and fragile when
hot.) Sprinkle lightly with some of re-
maining % cup granulated sugar. Re-
peat with remaining dough. When
cool, sprinkle very lightly with vanilla
sugar if desired. Makes about 4 dozen
cookies, about 50 calories each.

Los Angeles
Scandia

Klejner

Ye cup butter, softened

1 cup sugar

3 eggs

Ya cup heavy or whipping cream

3¥2 cups all-purpose flour

2 teaspoons baking powder

1 teaspoon ground cardamom

1 teaspoon salt
Salad oil for deep frying
Confectioners’ sugar

In mixer bowl combine butter and
sugar; beat until light and fluffy. Add
eggs and cream; beat until blended.

In medium bow! combine flour, bak-
ing powder, cardamom and salt. Add
to egg mixture, stirring with wooden
spoon. (Dough should be soft, yet stiff
enough to roll.)

Meanwhile, in deep fryer or Dutch
oven heat 3 inches salad oil to 375°F.
On floured surface roll dough % inch
thick. Cut out cookies with 4-inch dia-
mond-shaped cookie cutter or sharp
knife. Make a slit in center of each
and pull one end through. With slotted
spoon, drop dough into hot oil. Brown
both sides. Drain on paper towels.
Sprinkle with confectioners’ sugar.
Makes about 5 dozen cookies, about
60 calories each.

2 San Francisco
The Stanford Court

Nut Sables

Ye cup hazelnuts, toasted

1 cup cake flour, divided

Ye cup butter, cut into pieces,
softened

Ye cup confectioners’ sugar

1 large egg white

Ya teaspoon vanilla extract

Ys teaspoon cloves

Ye teaspoon cinnamon

Ye teaspoon nutmeg

Pinch salt

5 squares (1 oz. each)
semisweet chocolate

1 teaspoon salad oil

In food processor with steel blade,
process nuts with 2 tablespoons of
cake flour until finely ground, about
45 seconds. Remove from bowl and
set aside.

In processor, process butter and
sugar until smooth, about 20 sec-
onds, stopping once to scrape bowl.
Add remaining flour, egg white, va-
nilla, cloves, cinnamon, nutmeg, salt
and hazelnuts. Process until well
blended, about 20 seconds, scraping
bowl. twice.

Transfer dough to wax paper and
shape into a 4%x4¥Yex1-inch block.
Smooth edges. Wrap and refrigerate
until firm enough to slice, about 2
hours.

Preheat oven to 325°F. Grease and
flour two cookie sheets. With sharp
knife, cut dough into 3 equal bars.
Then cut each bar crosswise at %4-
inch intervals.. Place cookies on
cookie sheets. Bake in lower third of

oven 18 to 20 minutes or until edges f
are golden. Cool on wire racks.

Melt chocolate and oil in top of dou-
ble boiler. Dip each cookie diagonally
halfway into the melted chocolate.
Cool on wire racks until chocolate
hardens. Makes 5 dozen cookies,
about 45 calories each.

Wasnigae D.C.
Omni Shoreham

Original Fennel Seed
Holiday Cookies

1 cup butter, softened
1% cups sugar
12 to 2 teaspoons fennel seed
1 teaspoon grated
lemon peel
2 tablespoons anisette
2 cups all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon baking powder
Y2 teaspoon salt
Ye cup chopped pistachio nuts

In large mixer bowl cream butter and
sugar until light and fluffy. Add fennel
seed, lemon peel and anisette; mix
well. In smal! bowl combine flour, bak-
ing powder and salt. Gradually add
flour and nuts to creamed mixture to
make a stiff dough. Refrigerate at
least 30 minutes.

Preheat oven to 350°F. Roll dough
into ¥%-inch balls. Place on ungreased
cookie sheets. Bake 10 to 12 minutes,
until lightly browned. Cool 5 minutes
on cookie sheet. Transfer to wire racks
to cool completely. Makes 7 dozen
cookies, about 50 calories each.

Boca Raton
Boca: Raton Hotel and Club

Boca Raton Pecan Bars

¥Y4 cup butter, softened

Ys Cup sugar

2 eggs

1 teaspoon grated lemon peel
2% cups all-purpose flour

% cup light brown sugar
Ye cup honey

3 cups pecans, toasted
Y, cup heavy or whipping cream

In mixer bowl cream butter and sugar
| until light and fluffy. Add eggs and
lemon peel; beat well. Combine flour
- and baking. powder. Stir into creamed
| mixture until well mixed. Press dough
| into 13x9-inch baking pan. Refriger-
| ate about 30 minutes. Preheat oven to
_375°F. Prick dough with fork. Bake 10
minutes. Remove from oven. Reduce
temperature to 350°F.

TOPPING: Meanwhile, in deep, heavy
saucepan combine butter, sugar and
honey. Bring to a boil, stirring con-
stantly. Cook 5 minutes. Remove from
heat; cool slightly. Stir in pecans and
cream; spread evenly over partially
baked dough. Bake about 30 minutes.
Cool in pan on wire rack before cutting
into 2x1-inch bars. Makes about 4%
dozen cookies, about 150 calories each.

Hawaii
Honolulu

Kahala Hilton

Chocolate Coconut Macaroons

4 egg whites
1 cup sugar
3% ounces shredded coconut
* 2 tablespoons unsweetened —
cocoa

Preheat oven to 325°F. Line cookie
sheets with parchment paper or foil.

In large mixer bowl beat egg whites
until foamy. Gradually add sugar,
beating until stiff peaks form. In small
bowl combine coconut and cocoa;
fold into beaten egg whites. Drop by
half-teaspoonfuls onto cookie sheets.
Bake 25 minutes. Transfer cookies
still on parchment paper to wire rack
to cool. Makes 6 dozen cookies, 20
calories each.

: illinois
Chicago
The Ritz-Carlton

Coronets a la Ritz

Ys cup buiter, softened

%3 cup confectioners’ sugar

2 egg whites

Y%, teaspoon vanilla extract

Y2 cup plus 2 tablespoons
all-purpose flour

FILLING: 1/2 cups heavy cream
3 tablespoons confectioners’

sugar

1% tablespoons orange-
flavored liqueur
Pistachio nuts or
maraschino cherries

Preheat oven to 400°F Grease 2
cookie sheets. In small mixer bowl
cream butter and sugar until light and
fluffy. Gradually add egg whites and
vanilla; blend in flour.

Drop dough by teaspoonfuls 4
inches apart onto cookie sheets. With
back of spoon spread dough into 2'%-
inch circles. Bake 5 minutes or until
golden. Working quickly, remove from
cookie sheet with a spatula. While still
hot, shape into cones, using a funnel

or pastry tube. Cool seam side down. °

lf cookies harden on cookie sheet,
return to oven for 1 minute. Repeat
with remaining dough.

FILLING: Whip cream with sugar and
liqueur until stiff. Pipe or spoon into
cooled cones and garnish with a
pistachio nut or maraschino cherry.
Makes about 4 dozen cookies, about
55 calories each.

Wheeling
Le Francais

Hazelnut Macaroons

2 egg whites
¥Y_ cup sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1% cups toasted, skinned and
ground hazeinuts
Ys cup unsweetened cocoa
Pinch salt

Preheat oven to 325°F. Grease 2
cookie sheets. In large bowl beat egg
whites until foamy. Gradually add
sugar, beating until stiff peaks form.
Add vanilla and beat just until
blended. In small bowl combine nuts,
cocoa and salt. Fold into beaten egg
whites. Drop by teaspoonfuls onto
cookie sheets. Bake 15 minutes. Cool
on wire racks. Makes 2 dozen
cookies, 75 calories each.

# Louisiana
New Orleans

Commander’s Palace

Butter Cookies
1 cup unsalted butter,
softened

Y2 cup sugar
2 teaspoons vanilla extract

2 cups all-purpose flour
Ye teaspoon salt

Preheat oven to 375°F. In mixer bowl
cream butter and sugar until light and
fluffy. Add vanilla and mix well. Mix in
flour and salt until smooth. Press
through a pastry bag onto ungreased
cookie sheet. Bake 10 to 12 minutes.
Cool on wire racks. Makes 4 dozen
cookies, about 65 calories each.

Massachusetts
Boston

Parker House

Walnut Round Cookies

Yo cup butter, softened

Ys cup light brown sugar

1 egg yolk

1 cup all-purpose flour
Pinch salt

Ys cup chopped wainuts

Ys Cup raspberry preserves

Preheat oven to 375°F. Grease 2 cookie
sheets. In large mixer bowl cream butter
and sugar. Add egg yolk; beat until light
and fluffy. Add flour and salt: mix well.
Shape teaspoonfuls of dough into balls;
roll in nuts. Place on cookie sheet 1 inch
apart. Bake 5 minutes; remove from
oven. With wooden spoon handle,
make indentation in center. Return to
oven; bake 5 to 8 minutes more, until
firm. Cool on wire racks. Fill center of
each with % teaspoon raspberry pre-
serves. Makes about 3 dozen cookies,
about 80 calories each.

Missouri
Kansas City

The American Restaurant

Kipfels ras
DOUGH: 2 cups all-purpose flour os
Dash salt +i
1 cup butter
1 package (3 oz.) cream cheese
1 egg yolk

1 tablespoon sour cream
FILLING: % pound wainuts,
ground
Ys cup confectioners’ sugar
1 egg white
2 tablespoons warm milk
Confectioners’ sugar (optional)

DOUGH: In large bowl combine flour
and salt. With pastry blender or 2
knives, cut in butter. Add cream
cheese, egg yolk and sour cream.
Knead gently. Wrap and refrigerate at
least 4 hours or overnight.

FILLING: In small bowl combine all
ingredients; stir until well mixed.

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» Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease 2
- cookie sheets. On floured surface roll
© dough into a 20x12-inch rectangle.
, Cut into 2-inch squares. Spoon 2 tea-
spoon filling in center of each square.
» Roll each into a tube; pinch ends and
bend into a crescent. Place seam
side down 1 inch apart on cookie
sheets. Bake 25 minutes. Cool on wire
racks. If desired, sprinkle with confec-
tioners sugar. Makes about 4 dozen
cookies, about . 85 calories each.

ork
New York City
Lutece

Bireweche

Y4 pound dried pears
Y, pound dried pitted prunes
Y2 cup water
Y4 pound dried figs
Ye cup golden raisins
Ya cup dark raisins
Ys Cup coarsely chopped
hazelnuts
cup coarsely chopped
almonds
cup coarsely chopped wainuts
cup sugar
teaspoon grated lemon peel
Pinch cinnamon
Pinch nutmeg
cup kirsch
pound frozen bread dough,
thawed
egg yolk beaten with 1
tablespoon water

In small saucepan cook pears and
prunes with water until softened, 3
minutes. Drain and discard liquid.
Slice pears, prunes and figs into
strips. In large bowl combine fruit,
nuts, sugar, lemon peel, cinnamon
and. nutmeg; mix well. Add kirsch and
toss. Cover and let marinate over
night. The next day, add bread dough
to fruit and nuts; knead until well dis-
tributed. (Mixture will be very sticky.)
Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease 1 cookie
sheet. With floured hands, shape
dough into 15-inch long, narrow loaf.
Brush with egg yolk and water. Bake 50
to 60 minutes. Cool on wire rack. Cut
into Ye-inch slices. Makes 30 slices,
about 120 calories each.

Pennsylvania
Philadelphia
Four Seasons Hotel

Almond Cookies

1% cups all-purpose fiour

Y2 cup ground almonds

73 Cup sugar

Ya teaspoon baking powder
Ye teaspoon Salt

Ye cup shortening

2 eggs, divided

Y2 teaspoon aimond extract
18 whole almonds

Sugar

Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease and
flour 1 cookie sheet. Combine flour,
almonds, sugar, baking powder and
salt. Cut shortening into flour mixture
until well mixed. Add 1 egg and al-
mond extract; stir until well mixed.
Roll dough into 1-inch balls. Place on
cookie sheets and press down
slightly. Beat remaining egg. Brush
tops with beaten egg and top each
with a whole almond. Sprinkle with
sugar. Bake 15 to 20 minutes. Cool on
wire racks. Makes about 1% dozen
cookies, about 140 calories each.

Tennessee
Memphis
The Peabody

Prize-winning
Chocolate Chip Cookies

1 cup vegetable shortening
¥Y_ cup granulated sugar
¥Y_ cup light brown sugar

2 eggs

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

1% cups all-purpose flour

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1 teaspoon baking soda

1 teaspoon baking powder
Ye teaspoon salt

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) Cut out pattern pieces (see page 158
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on lightweight cardboard; cut out.
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with heavy-duty foil. In medium sauce-
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| margarine. Heat until margarine is
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inch thick. (For towers and turret pieces,
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white, red and green icings, decorate
leces, except tower pieces, as pictured.
et dry. After “gluing” pieces together,
ll of the formations should be allowed to
ry at least 6 hours before further as-
embly. To assemble, refer to diagrams
n page 160.

castle, courtyard and annex:

. With white icing, glue two curved L’s
ogether to make a turret. Repeat with
emaining six L’s to make three more
urrets. Attach two 4-inch green cones
o top of two turrets and two 4-inch red
ones to top of remaining turrets.

|. With green icing, glue three F's at
ight angles to make a slanted roof.
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Hight angles to form Castle.

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Li reen cone to top of each of the two Mss.
ean against a can to dry.

i, With white icing, glue four J’s to-
ether at right angles to form a cube.

i, With white icing, glue the longest

orm Courtyard.

', With white icing, glue both T’s at
ight angles to R to form Annex.

» With white icing, glue K horizon-
ally at bottom of parapets of T and R to
aake roof of Annex.

m). With white icing, glue F-G-roof to
he top of Castle. Glue H-I-roof to the
Mop of J-cube.

0. With white icing, glue edges of
Jjourtyard (Q-S-Q) to Castle. Glue An-
,ex (T-R-T) to Courtyard.

1. With white icing, glue green-
opped L-turrets to Courtyard walls.
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rorners of Castle. Use cans of correct
‘eight to support turrets while drying.

DAY 4

Jse white icing to glue all of the re-
naining pieces.

suard house:

l. Glue three B’s at right angles to
orm three walls of one Guard house.

2. Glue a B' horizontally at the bottom
f parapets.

3. Glue a fourth B to form Guard
aouse.

4. Glue four B”s at right angles to form
i cube; let dry. Glue to top of B’.

5. Repeat steps 1 through 4 with re-
maining B piece to form the second
suard house.

tower:
1. Glue six A’s to one A* to form hex-

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2. Glue As around top end of tower.

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tower. Stand to dry.

Medium towers:

1. Glue two curved X’s together to form
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2. Glue a large green cone to top of
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3. Repeat steps 1 and 2 to form second
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Small towers:

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2. Glue a large red cone to top of tower.

3. Repeat steps 1 and 2 to form two
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towers as pictured.

Wall turrets:

1. Glue a red-topped L-turret to center
of each D wall.

2. Glue top of each red N to bottom of
each red L-turret.

3. Prop up to dry completely.

DAY 5

Assembly: Refer to diagram on page
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glue pieces to wooed base. With diluted
white icing and small brush, touch up
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wasn’t theatrical offstage,” Burns sa
“You’d never know she was in show b
ness. She said funny things, but I doy
think she ever told a joke. Gracie was <
Irish dramatic actress when I met h
not a comedienne. She played the part
that kind of dame—a dizzy cluck.”

Like many great performers, Graci
magical rapport with the audience w:
something of a mystery, an indefinab
blend of humor and straightforwar
ness. Burns struggles to explain. “
Gracie, there were no footlights, no a
dience. She’d just talk to me. Rath
than tell you a joke, she’d explain it
you. For instance, I'd say to Graci
‘This family of yours, do they all li
together?’ She’d say, ‘Sure, my nephe
my uncle, my brothers and cousi
they all sleep in one bed.’ I'd say, ‘T’
surprised your grandfather doesn
sleep there with ’em.’ And she’d sah;
‘Oh, he did, but he died, so they mad|
him get up.’ ”

Gracie Allen died of a heart attack it
1964, and suddenly George Burns w
alone. He kept working, but the los
took its toll. “For months I couldn
sleep,” he says. “I couldn’t adjust to he
not being there next to me. Then, on
night—I can’t explain it—I was abo
to get into bed but instead I pulled ba
the covers on Gracie’s bed and got in ii} ;
I slept like a baby, and I’ve been sleey
ing there ever since.” |

It’s obvious from talking to him thg
Burnss two great passions werlld
Gracie—and show business. “I beliey, .
in what I’m doing, and Gracie believel
in what she did. I don’t think it works
you don’t believe in it, in any busines:
I don’t care what you do for a living
You can make felt hats for a living. Anjf
if you enjoy making them, they'll tu
out to be very good felt hats. But if yo
hate what you’re doing and you’ve gc
to get up in the morning and make felg
hats, they’ll be bad felt hats, they won’
fit. | would rather be a failure at some|{
thing I’m in love with than be success
ful in something I hate.”

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world of comedy, he remains a peren
nial favorite. He has his own low-ke}-
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times at odds with that of other comedi
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Rickles,” Burns explains. “He sweats
But he’s got to work that way. And hi
moves. He talks fast. I don’t sweat.
just stand there, very easy, and when
walk out the people all stand up. The
give me a standing ovation.” Burn
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er two milliners and to the staffs of her various dress-
akers. She arrives, announcing herself, “It’s only me,” and
ands out boxes of expensive chocolates, all prettily gift-
rapped. (Diana loves chocolate herself, but since she is
mstantly watching her weight, she rarely indulges. She
iblimates her own craving by buying boxes of expensive
10colates for others.) A carefully chosen gift—Diana gets
er ideas by remembering snippets of conversation over the
2ar—is also delivered to Kevin Shanley, her hairdresser.

Two weeks before Christmas, the Prince and Princess hold
special buffet luncheon for about one hundred fifty people.
1 addition to their employees from Kensington Palace and
ighgrove, the couple’s country home, there are the staffs
om the royal! train, yacht, helicopters, aircraft and
ousehold stables. During the meal, Diana and Charles
alk among their guests, reminiscing over the year’s
yents. Then, on December 22, the small, strictly personal
aff at Kensington Palace gathers in front of the tree to
ceive Christmas presents from the royal couple.

Besides gifts for their staff, there are also gifts to be
10sen for the family. By her own admission, Diana is a
shopaholic” who thoroughly enjoys making Christmas pur-
1ases. This year, much of her shopping was organized be-
re Henry’s birth, and the rest completed in November.

Some lucky close friend or member of the family may be
rtunate enough this year to receive a gift of one of Diana’s
wn sketches. The Princess enjoys sketching her young
ys, and her light and delicate drawings are above average
r an amateur.

For Prince William, who will be old enough to enjoy the
ee, there will be the usual heap of presents arriving from
ell-wishers all over the world. The Princess personally
yrts through the gifts and keeps anything for “Wills” that
itches her eye. The rest are sent to children’s hospitals.

It is rumored that Prince William will receive a pony from
is father this Christmas. He already has his own pint-sized
olo stick, which was given to Prince Charles on a visit to
ustralia. And though he is only two and a half years old, it
-not unusual for upper-class British children to be set on
orses at this age. William already swims—he wears water
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hen her newest son was born, there was only delight to be
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nnounced he was giving up shooting game birds, a sport
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itentions are, he gave away two of his most valuable guns.)

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er husband, a man who truly has everything. One of her
ost successful Christmas presents to him was a charming
lock that she had engraved with the Prince of Wales feath-
rs, his own personal insignia. And she, too, is giving a
pecial Christmas gift this year—her decision to take up
orseback riding. This will please not only Prince Charles,
ut also the Queen. It is an important part of Diana’s train-
ig as future Queen of England that she learn to be a
»mpetent equestrienne.

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) gather at Windsor Castle for the (continued)

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festivities. On arrival they are met by one of the Queen’s
personal staff and shown to their various suites. In past
years, family complaints about the quality of the accom-
modations got back to the Queen, who now spends time
carefully matching families to suites. Aware that the
bedrooms and bathrooms in the castle were uncomforta-
bly cold, with archaic plumbing, the Queen had them
modernized during the last few years.

At seven-thirty sharp, the family gathers for a glass of
champagne, followed by dinner. Then comes the gift-
giving near the Christmas tree in the Red Drawing
Room. Down the center of the room is an eighty-foot-long
trestle table piled high with hundreds of presents. They
have been arranged with the Queen’ pile at the top of the
table, then the Duke of Edinburgh’s, the Queen Mother's

_and so on down the line to the newest baby.

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gifts to be given, the Queen insists that each gift be
inexpensive. She much prefers a gift with a great deal of
care and thought in it to one that cost a fortune.

Even with a price limit, family members have little
trouble choosing presents for Diana. She likes anything
that is very feminine—bath accessories, Joy perfume, body
lotions, Diorissima toilet water, scatter cushions, cache pots
for her indoor plants and potpourri sachets.

Prince Charles likes accessories for his sporting ac-
tivities, garden furniture, garden tools and any new
electronic gadget on the market.

On Christmas Day the members of the royal family
rise early. The Queen, a stickler for punctuality, expects

166 LADIES' HOME JOURNAL + DECEMBER 1984

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family walks the short distance to St. George’s Chapel for
the morning service. No one is exempt from this tradi-
tion, so it is a field day for press photographers; this is
one of the few times during the year that the whole
family is together in a relaxed and informal way. Christ-
mas Day lunch is a cold buffet, and in one of the smaller
dining rooms, the younger royal children and their nan-
nies gather for their very own Christmas meal. Little
Prince William will no doubt be his usual mischievous
self, and only the attentive eye of his nanny, Barbara
Barnes, prevents him from becoming too boisterous and
getting into trouble with his toddler cousins.

By three in the afternoon, everyone is in place in front
of the television to watch the Queen’s traditional Christ-
mas broadcast to an audience of an estimated 28 million.
No one looks or listens more intently to the broadcast,
which is taped earlier in the month, than the Queen
herself, who is quick to parody her own performance.
“That’s my Mrs. Thatcher voice,” she jokes, or “I look like
a horse” when a camera angle is less than flattering.

There is just enough time after the broadcast for each
family to get some fresh air in Windsor Park to work up
an appetite for the children’s tea party at four. Here,
parents and children, aunts and cousins, all play to-
gether. Princess Diana is particularly good with the chil-
dren, and she knows how to curb overly high spirits.

When the family gathers for a glass of champagne at
seven on Christmas night, they look splendid and regal
indeed. The men wear the special Windsor evening coat with
its black and crimson collar and cuffs and gold buttons,
and the women dress in evening gowns. By seven-thirty
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The menu never varies: seafood cocktail, roast turkey,
lum pudding, mince pies and brandy sauce, followed by
uits from the castle greenhouse, crystallized ginger and
lacé fruits and nuts. Everyone wears festive paper hats,
ist as most British families do at Christmas. When the
inner is finished, the servants retire for the evening, and
1e royal family is left alone. Dancing and charades
rovide amusement until late into the night.

By December 28, the “Family Firm,” as the Queen re-
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1e family go on to Sandringham for shooting and hunt-
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nd Princess Diana stole away to Highgrove for a private
2lebration. This year they will probably do the same,
shering in the new year with their children. During this
ast year, Diana has had William’s room redecorated. It is
ow a real boys room, painted with a mural of jungle
nimals that she selected. Prince Henry has taken over
ne blue-and-white gingham nursery next door.

What will 1985 bring to the royal couple? In England it
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ursery school, especially when a new baby has been in-
roduced into the family. The Princess would like her son
) attend the Young England Kindergarten, in South Ken-
ington, where she taught betore her marriage.

Several things about the coming year are certain,
owever. Princess Diana will continue to delight her mil-
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re in record time. And she will continue to surprise the
ublic by breaking with royal tradition in her charming
nd inimitable way. End

167

DOLLY PARTON
continued from page 127

by her mother or were her farmer father’s work socks, each
one was lovingly inscribed for Willadeene, David, Denver,
Dolly, Bobby, Stella, Cassie, Randy, Floyd, Freida, Larry
or Rachel. (Larry lived only a few hours but has a stocking
to this day.)

“Many years we didn’t have a bought present, so Mama
made dolls and Daddy made toys,” Dolly says. “And even if
the crop failed, Mama always bought Daddy a box of white
handkerchiefs, and he always bought her a box of choco-
late-covered cherries. Of course, we kids ate ’em.”

Dolly’s happiest Christmas came at age eight, when a
spurt of prosperity brought electricity to the cabin. That
year the family’s big spruce tree was lit with a magical
string of bubble lights. And there was a special present.
Back when Dolly’s parents married, in their. mid-teens,
there had been no money for a honeymoon (they retired to
a hayloft) or for a wedding ring. “Now, suddenly Daddy
could afford Mama’s wedding ring,” Dolly remembers,
clapping her hands, “and the kids could hunt where Daddy
hid it. Well, we scrambled all over that house—so happy,
so excited. Gotta find Mama’s new ring! And we did: Daddy
had unscrewed the bulb of a little light on the tree and hid
the ring around the socket. Then he .. . I’m getting emo-
tional now. . . he put it on Mama’s finger and. . .” Dolly’s
eyes start to fill. “Well, maybe we were poor, but we had
Mommy and Daddy and we had each other.”

Of course, Dolly went on to become the queen of country
music and then star in hit movies like 9 to 5 and The Best
Little Whorehouse in Texas. While her Christmas stocking
is rather well filled these days, the family is where her
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Christmas back home and she plans a
joyful celebration, both traditional and
new. To begin with, she has taped her
first holiday special, A Christmas to Re-
member, with Kenny Rogers; it will air
on CBS December 2. And she’s written
five of the ten songs on her first holiday
album, Once Upon a Christmas.

This Christmas, Dolly and husband
Carl Dean will fly off on a spree that
will last almost two weeks, make six
stops and spread cheer among scores of
friends and family. On December 15,
she will fly twenty Tennessee kinfolk to
Los Angeles for some all-expenses-paid
fun, touring Disneyland and the movie
studios. The group will be led by Dolly’s
mother and father and consists of nieces
and nephews, aged four to twenty.“I’m
not taking along the parents,” notes Dolly,
“because the kids think its more fun.”

The following day the gang is off to
Hawaii, this time to fill every bed, sofa
and air mattress Dolly can arrange for
in her new six-bedroom house on Maui.
She’s planned four days of Hawaiian fun,
ending in a big party with presents un-
der the tree before everyone heads home.

After Dolly and Carl’s weekend
pause for more celebrating in Los An-
geles, they will head to her parents’
new farm in Sevierville County, Ten-
nessee, beside the Great Smoky Moun-
tains. This will be Lee and Avie Lee
Parton's first Christmas here after liv-
ing twenty-two years in a smaller place.
It's a big four-bedroom ranch house on a
hill that “looks like a Hallmark Christ-
mas card,” says Dolly proudly.

As Carl and Dolly arrive, dusk will
be settling over the snow-dappled
fields. There will be friends, family, “in-
laws and outlaws” bustling into the
house, almost forty of them, laughing
and talking, their arms full of presents
and appetizing food dishes. Dolly herself
will be decked out in a tight red Spandex
Santa suit trimmed in marabou.

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table can’t seat forty people and also
hold the ham, pork roast, chickens, po-
tatoes (sweet, mashed and fried), dress-
ings, gravies, greens, salads, rolls,
cranberry sauce. . . plus the half dozen
side dishes and as many as three tur-
keys she’s laid out. “So everyone just
grabs a plate,” says Dolly, “and sets
down on the floor, the couch, the beds.
We stand around the table and the
kitchen sink—any old place. Mama’
food don’t taste like nobody else’s ei-
ther. Mushy, spicy, rich, lots of butter
and sugar and things gonna get you
fat. Her chocolate pies taste like they
got love in ’em. We all fight over the
leftovers to take home. I eat Christmas
for a week.”

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Afterward, the Partons settle down
ith guitars, mandolins and fiddles to
ng carols and sacred songs. Dolly will
» some of her new songs, such as /
slieve in Santa Claus and I'll Be
ome With Bells On. Mrs. Parton, whose
ther is a Church of God preacher, will
en her Bible to Matthew and then
ike for a reading of the Christmas
ory. “That’s the one time of the year,”
ys Dolly wistfully, “that we all feel
<e children again.”

Santa arrives around midnight when
ayo McCann, a family friend hired by
olly, comes in to deliver the children’s
sents and “do the ho-ho-ho.” From
s bag last year came Dolly’s gift of
akeup kits for all the little girls, each
t containing perfumes, lipsticks and
eshadows. Exclaims Dolly, laughing,
‘hey just love to play with my stuff.”

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e freshly cut spruce tree. Now begins
e pandemonium of opening all the
fts at once. Last year Dolly received a
atching red-and-white scarf and tam
“stretchy wool,” and Carl, who is an
halt contractor in Nashville, got
elding tools. “Carl gave me a new
ove last year,” exclaims Dolly, “and
eryone got hysterical, but I loved it be-
use I cook all the time, and so does he.”

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e senior Partons didn’t exchange a
yx of handkerchiefs and chocolate-cov-
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iccess allows her to lavish such good
lings on her parents as real estate, a
uck for her father, a new car and a
ink coat for her mother. (This year’s
ft, the biggest of all, can’t be opened
-or described—till Christmas.)

Early on Christmas morning, Dolly
nd Carl are off to asit-down dinner for
lirteen at Carl’s parents’ house, a
ur-hour drive back to Nashville.
Mama Dean’s a great cook,” says
olly, “and she brings out her silver,
2st napkins and lace tablecloth. We
ave such fun. I have my show-biz sto-
es and Carl’s nieces and nephews
ave a million questions: ‘Do you really
now Burt Reynolds? Do you really
now Sly Stallone?”

Dolly and Carl spend Christmas
ight romantically alone together at
1eir lakeside mansion in a nearby
ooded suburb. Along one whole side of
1e house sprawls their bedroom suite.
he windows give a sweeping view of the
ike and woods beyond.

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continued from page 126

headlines. He had strictly forbidden all publicity and he’d
even banned reporters or photographers backstage during
the youngsters’ visits.

This sense of caring is not new to the star. Leslie
Robinette is one youngster who benefited from Michael's
kindness eleven years ago. And at the Knoxville, Ten-
nessee, concert this summer, Leslie, now seventeen, came
back to tell him so.

When Leslie was only five years old, she underwent a
bone-marrow transplant that left her so desperately sick
and depressed that doctors had almost given up on her. It
was then that the child was visited in the hospital by
Michael. She credits her superstar visitor with giving her
the will to live. This summer, Leslie thanked Michael in
person, and the rock star was near tears himself as the
teenager explained what that visit had meant to her.

The singer is as giving with his money as he is with his
time. And his reputation for generosity has placed him
high on the “A-list” for fund-raisers and charitable func-
tions. It isn’t surprising, therefore, that Michael pledged
to give away all of his earnings from the blockbuster Vic-
tory tour to a wide range of charities. And as if this were
not enough, Michael also underwrote the cost of a nine-
teen-bed leukemia research unit for a New York City
hospital this year.

The singer doesn’t forget his family, either. It was no
secret that he didn’t want to do the national tour and
didn’t want to appear in the Pepsi commercials, yet he
agreed to do both for his family’s sake. That decision en-
sured financial security for all the Jacksons.

170 LADIES' HOME JOURNAL + DECEMBER 1984

Michael’s closeness to his family is well-known. It i
from his parents that the singer received both his love a
music and his religious faith. His mother, Katherine, iz
particular, has instilled in him his respect for the chure
Even now, in spite of his awesome fame, he regularly do
a disguise to practice the Jehovah’s Witnesses’ door-to-doo
ministry, distributing copies of The Watchtower ang
Awake! (official publications of the church), just as he dic
when he was a little boy. Michael himself says, “I believe
in the Bible, and I try to follow the Bible. I say little
prayers all through the day.”

In spite of Michael’s obvious religious devotion, ther¢
are problems between the star and his beloved church. The
singer’s toughest conflict is reconciling his glitzy, glam.
orous image with the concerned, caring and spiritual per
son behind the sunglasses and the glitter.

The tenets of the Jehovah’s Witnesses faith include 4
taboo against idolizing any person for any reason. Ob
viously, then, Michael Jackson’s phenomenal success and
his millions of fans have put him in an awkward and
embarrassing position. Many previous members of the
Jehovah’s Witnesses have been excommunicated foy
“worldliness,” and these dissidents, as well as others
point disapprovingly to Michael’s rhinestone glove, his
sparkling costumes and his sizzling rock music as evi
dence that the singer is idolized, if not deified.

Last year, The Watchtower leveled criticism at contem
porary pop music and the development of cult personalities
Witnesses, numbered approximately 2.5 million world
wide, were asked “to destroy albums and videos with ver
bal or visual references to witches, demons or devils.” The
statement was believed to be a veiled reference to Jackson
Thriller, a rock video spoof of old horror movies.

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published an apologetic statement from the singer, made a)
the more remarkable by the fact that he generally avoids th
media. “I would never do anything like that again,” th
magazine quoted Jackson as saying about Thriller, “becaus#>
a lot of people were offended by it, and that makes me fede”
bad. I don’t want them to feel that way. I realize now that i
wasn’t a good idea. Ill never do a video like that again!”

Michael's apology, and his concern for his image, are moti
vated in part by his desire to be seen as a role model fo!
children. His legendary offstage shyness disappears aroun?”
youngsters. Between grueling recording sessions, Michae
has spent happy hours playing games with Kidada an
Rashida, the preteen daughters of composer/produce
Quincy Jones. And he thinks nothing of having a plane fly hi
good friend Emmanuel Lewis, thirteen, the star of TV
Webster, to him for a visit. re

Michael is at his most relaxed with kids, and he claims ti¥:
draw strength from them, explaining, “When I’m upse
about a recording session, I'll dash off on my bike and ride ti
the schoolyard just to be around the kids. When I come bac}
to the studio, I’m ready to move mountains. Kids do that ti?
me; it’s like magic.”

His “magic” is apparent to everyone, child or adult, wh
sees him perform. Unlike other rock stars, Michael has thé
ability to fill auditoriums and stadiums with people of all#
ages, races, nationalities and religious faiths. And whethe’
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runs on one of the area’s major slopes. Of all her many
houses, Chalet Ariel is the one Elizabeth considers home
and where she keeps her most personally valuable posses’
sions, including her mementos of life with Richard Burton

A sentimentalist, Elizabeth saves everything, and thd
chalet is packed with such reminders of the past as every
one of her costumes from the movies she made with Burto
the paintings by Renoir and Van Gogh and Warhol they
bought, and all the cherished flotsam of fourteen year:
together. Surrounded by these symbols of their life togethe
Elizabeth will be constantly reminded of Burton’s deathiF
Even his grave, barely eighty-five miles from the Gstaad>
home, will be a stark reminder to Elizabeth of her loss, andy
she has let it be known that when the time comes, she want;
to be buried at Burton’s side.

Gstaad also brings back memories of other men. Liz an
her last husband, Senator John Warner, often holidayec
there before the couple broke up after five years of mar
riage. Sadly, the split was announced just three days before)
Christmas in 1981. Liz became so depressed that, weeping}!
and gasping for breath, she was taken by ambulance to <
hospital on Christmas Eve.

In 1982 she spent a joyous Christmas in Gstaad witli
Victor Luna and six guests, including her daughter Liz!
Todd, then twenty-five, Liza’s fiancé, Elizabeth’s sor
Christopher Wilding, then twenty-seven, Christopher's wife!
Eileen Getty, and two Getty sisters. It was a picture-boo
setting, Luna recalls, with presents under the tree, Yul
logs blazing in the fireplace and snow-covered mountain:
looming just beyond the windows. :

Household staff decorated the chalet with elaborate wreaths)”
bows, garlands and mistletoe. Although Liz had convertec
to Judaism years ago, there were no Chanukah candles. A
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sapped in the color of Elizabeth’s eyes

. lavender,” remembers Luna. Notes
x publicist, Chen Sam, “The holidays
1 ea major production with Liz.”

4 Life at Chalet Ariel can be a never-
J ding round of parties, but during the
| \liday week, in spite of the elaborate
dcorations and sumptuous meals, it

rms quiet and family centered. Liz
jten invites in some of her neighbors,
ch as old friends Doris Brynner (Yul’s

-wife) or Valentino, whose designs she
jten wears, but mostly she prefers to
ywind at home with her family.

Last Christmas season, Liz and Luna
lked about getting married in
staad, but their plans changed at the
eventh hour. On December 5, Liz fled

The Betty Ford Center in Rancho
irage, California, for treatment.
fince her stay, such stars as Liza Min-
alli, Eileen Brennan, Peter Lawford
ad Mary Tyler Moore have also gone
| The Betty Ford Center for help.) She
mfessed to having become dependent
$1 painkilling drugs and alcohol. “I
as terrified when I first went there. I
cobably never felt as alone in my en-
|re life,” Liz admitted. Christmas that
j2ar was a melancholy affair spent in
1e center’s stucco dining room. Only
una and Liz's mother were allowed a
w hours visit with her for a cafeteria-
syle turkey dinner eaten in the com-
any of some sixty other patients and
jaeir families. “It was not a happy
me,” recalls Luna. “They were very
|trict, no privileges to anybody. At a
ertain time, we had to leave and no
|xceptions.” Liz then returned to where
|he had spent Christmas Eve the night
efore: the no-frills bedroom she
}hared with a roommate.

It was not long after leaving The
setty Ford Center that Liz checked into
he Palm-Aire spa near Fort Lauder-
ale for several weeks of diet, exercise
nd relaxation. When she emerged
fter her stay, she dazzled the public
vith her new, svelte figure and short,
ilond hair. Cheerful and radiant, Liz
vas soon off in a blaze of headlines for a
our through the Far East with Luna.

But the happiness was short-lived.
After eighteen months—a period Liz
oked was “the longest engagement in
the history of the world’—she re-
surned her 16¥2-carat sapphire and di-
amond ring to Luna in late August.
The breakup surprised no one; insid-
ers said that the romance was over
when Liz let it be known almost im-
mediately after Burton died that she
intended to be buried beside her ex-
‘husband. This split was, however, dif-
‘ferent from most of those in her past—
Elizabeth had the maturity and wisdom
to break up with Luna before a marriage
that she believed would have been a mis-

: 173

take. And, most important, she and
Luna have remained good friends.

But instead of celebrating Christmas
with Luna this year, Elizabeth intends
to invite her close friend Liza Minnelli.
(Liza is also a recovering drug and alco-
hol abuser.) Since both women have
spent time at The Betty Ford Center,
and have been cautioned during their
rehabilitation to avoid the company of
friends who are still abusers, Liz and
Liza plan to team up to celebrate the
holiday and offer each other support.
Having some of her children and Liza
around the house should help make Liz's
Christmas merrier. And who knows? By
then there may be a new man in her life.

No matter how her Christmas turns
out this year, Liz has shown that she is
resilient enough to put the turbulent
past behind her. Says Nolan Miller, the
famed Hollywood fashion designer who
created Elizabeth’s costumes for a re-
cent episode of Hotel, “She’s a much,
much stronger person than I'd ex-
pected. She’s very determined and has
enormous strength of character.” In-
stead of an ending, this Christmas
promises a fresh beginning for Liz. She
is slimmer than she has been in years.
She is blond. And her new look has
given her an obvious emotional uplift
that one hopes will take her through
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\other or father fills the role. Studies
| 10W, for example, that the emotional
sars an unstable parent might inflict
an be prevented if the child finds a
rong, mentally healthy ally in the
‘her parent. Most often, however, in-
ulnerable children draw strength
‘om a more distant member of the ex-
eh family or from someone al-

ygether outside it.

For many children, a teacher helps to
»solve feelings of self-loathing and de-
‘at and foster self-confidence. Sociolo-
ist Jane Mercer has found many such
ases among young Southern Califor-
ia Chicanos who as a result have over-
yme adversity. “Almost inevitably,
then you begin to talk to them about
reir early lives,” Mercer observes,
they will mention that at some point
aere was a teacher who convinced
nem they were competent even though
ne system was saying no.”

The case of Uvaldo Palomares is typi-
al. Uvaldo was a completely over-
»0ked member of a large and desper-
tely poor family of migrant workers.
le ricocheted from one impoverished
chool to another, leaving behind a rec-
rd of chronic failure.
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ng the second grade, he was on the
|layground one “day playing marbles
\vith a group of children. A teacher had
)pparently been watching him as he
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noved in and sat down beside him.
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‘be headed for trouble can ultimately
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among young adults who seemed badly
maladjusted ever since they were young
children. In a study at the University
of California at Berkeley by psychol-
ogist Jean Walker Macfarlane, nearly
170 boys and girls were observed from
shortly after birth until they were
eighteen, and then observed again at
thirty. Macfarlane found that even the
most troubled adolescent—a failure in
school, unsuccessful in social contacts
and despondent—may turn into a
happy, successful, well-liked and
highly respected adult. Indeed, about
half the subjects were living more pro-
ductive lives as adults than could have

been predicted from their personalities
as adolescents.

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of weakness and fragility is giving way
to one of strength and adaptability. For
us the result should be renewed con-
fidence and optimism about the destiny
of our children. End

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teenagers on retreat weekends, given
advice to engaged couples, taken in un-
wed mothers and shared their time
with emotionally disturbed children.

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gan back in the early sixties, when
James became involved in the Cursillo
movement, a Catholic laymen’s retreat
that was helping to breathe new life
into the Church. “I learned there,” says
the soft-spoken attorney, “that we had
an obligation to help other people, to
return the blessings we had received in
such abundance.”

Charlotte remembers when Jim
came back from Cursillo and told her
that the family was going to give ten
~ percent of its income to the church. “I
told him, ‘You’re crazy. We don’t even
have enough furniture. I’m not going to
give away our money,” she recalls.
“But Jim explained that it wasn’t a
question of whether the church needed
it or not. We needed to sacrifice. He was
right, and the Lord has returned it to
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Jim, “Let’s do it.” This warm, nurtur-
ing woman explains, “I always felt we
had enough love to go around.”

Seeing the helpless innocence of the
babies who passed in and out of their
lives reinforced the Humphreys’ pas-
sionate espousal of the Catholic Church’s
pro-life position. But rather than carry-
ing antiabortion placards or shouting
slogans, James and Charlotte began to act
upon their ideals by providing pregnant
women with alternatives: driving them to
and from doctors’ appointments, seeing
that they got the counseling they needed,
and even inviting several unwed pregnant
teenagers to stay in their home.

Accepting strangers into the house
wasn’t easy and required a sacrifice on
everyone’ part. Friends warned the
Humphreys that the children might
think they were condoning premarital
sex. But when the first pregnant teen
came to stay with them, James and
Charlotte told the children simply that
a young woman had made a mistake.
“We are all pretty much the same peo-
ple, ultimately,” says James. “We have
the same feelings, needs and desires.
We're just looking for someone to be kind
to us, to understand and to love us.”

The Humphreys have never had re-
grets about sharing a person’ pain, for

they believe that it is to the children if
darkness that the Lord first revea
Himself, and it is through them thz
they have come to know His love a
mercy. And it is this belief that su;
tained Charlotte through the fov
years she was involved in the Marill
School for Emotionally Disturbed an!
Learning Impaired Children.

Seven-year-old Marian, a student d
the school, was born with a brain dys
function and a lower-than-normal IG
Abandoned by her parents, she wa
raised by her grandfather. After
died, she was placed in the schoo}
When Charlotte first volunteered as
teacher’s aide to a class of ten, Maria}
remained cowering in fear under he
desk. Moved by the trust that the othe}
children showed, the child finally inch
her way to Charlotte's side. f

When Charlotte began to take thf
child home, Marian improved dramat
ically, and she valiantly struggled t
write the letters of the alphabet, eageff
to earn the privilege of a “visiting
weekend” at the Humphreys.

Then, one day, Charlotte looked u
from teaching her class to see Marian
happy face peering at her through th
frosted glass of the door. Beckoning he
out into the hallway, Marian whispered
to Charlotte that the director had jus
told her that a family wanted to adop
her. She wanted Charlotte to be thg
first to know the good news.

“Well, I'm sure anybody who saw us
must have thought we deserved to bef
long in the school,” recalls Charlotte
“but we just danced around the hall
way together.” .

The love that the Humphreys shard
all year round is especially evident a
Christmastime. Everyone gathers af
home from their different colleges and
locations, and the house is ablaze wit
color and light. For the past eight
years, instead of buying gifts for each
other, the Humphreys “adopt” a famil
The parish provides them with the
names, ages and sizes of a poor familyg
that has registered with them. Early on#
Christmas Eve the boys take packages
of food, clothes and toys over to the
and then return to get ready for Mid
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shambles. The smoke made Doreen gag,
and she was immediately conscious of
the sun, incongruously streaming into
the house through a hole in the roof.
“Oh, God, my thesis, my papers,” Paul
cried, as firemen trudged past with
chain saws and hoses. For eight years,
he’d been going to night school, working
for his industrial engineering degree,
and now the papers that would help him
graduate next month were gone.

In a daze herself, Doreen suddenly
became conscious of all the treasured
possessions that she might never see
again—her wedding pictures, the pre-
cious photograph of her father, who
died when she was five, the bedroom
crystal set that had been handed down
from her grandmother. She put her head
in her hands and felt someone touch her
shoulder. “It’s not that bad,” the fire chief
said gently, giving her a little hug.
“Everything is going to be okay.”

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As everyo:.* repeatedly told Doreen and
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178 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - DECEMBER 1984

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The recovery begins

On the fire report that was filed in East
Longmeadow that day, the Schunks’
fire was listed as “moderate,” causing
an estimated $25,000 in damage. It was
one of about fifteen large-scale fires
that occur each year in the small town
and fell in the middle in terms of se-
riousness. Twenty-seven volunteer fire-
men responded to the three-alarm call
and brought the fire under control in
about half an hour. Several fire fighters
were treated for smoke inhalation.
Holding hands as they walked
through the debris the next day, Paul
and Doreen tried to soothe each other.
Their children were sleeping at Paul’s
mother’s house, where the couple had
smothered them with kisses that morn-
ing. The fire was out and the house was
still standing and could be rebuilt.
“Thank God for insurance,” Doreen
sighed as she tried to sort through a
pile of smoke-stained clothes. The
agent had told them they were 100 per-
cent covered for everything (continued)

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the Schunks got bids for repairing th
house, ranging from $10,000 to $13,000
the insurance company countered by
saying it estimated the house could bd
repaired for $5,800, and that the Schunks,
would have to find someone to do it foi
that amount of money.

The insurance company also refused
to pay for the trailer that Doreen an
Paul had rented for temporary housing
Though the Schunks had letters from
an electrician and their doctor saying
the house was unlivable, the insurance
company maintained that the house
was habitable and said that because o
this the policy’s $10,000 (continued

How to keep your family safe

FIRE!

continued

but “acts of God.” Doreen, the type of
person who faithfully pays her bills on
the twenty-eighth of the month, had
religiously mailed out the $86 quar-
terly checks on their homeowner’ pol-
icy. Now that expense certainly seemed
to be worth it.

“T knew so little,’ Doreen says, look-
ing back. “I thought we’d find out how
much it cost to repair the house and
replace our belongings, tell the insur-
ance company and get a check. It turns
out that I was very naive.”

Instead, the insurance company

People like Doreen and Paul Schunk
who have had fires end up taking
plenty of precautions to protect them-
selves and their families. But many
others who haven’t endured the dey-
astating experience are lax about
safety measures. “The public simply
isn’t aware of the dimensions of the
problem,” says Philip Schaenman,
former director of the National Fire
Data Center and president of Tri-
Data, a consulting firm in Arlington,
Virginia, that specializes in fire is-
sues. “They really aren’t aware of the
extensive damage that fire can cause.”
In fact, the United States, with
Canada, has the worst record for fire
deaths of industrialized nations. Ac-
cording to Schaenman, who has stud-
ied international comparisons exten-
sively, the fire death rate here is
double that of Europe and two to
three times that of Japan, Hong Kong,
Australia and New Zealand. The
same discrepancy is true for fire
safety generally. For example: In Ja-
pan, where fire safety is almost an
institution, there were 33 building
fires per 100,000 population in 1981. In
the U.S., there were 436 per 100,000.
Schaenman and others believe that
the misery of thousands could be
avoided if the people here followed the
model set by other countries and
made a more forceful push to promote
safety. We asked a number of experts
in this area what they do to protect
themselves and their families. Here
are their responses.
@ Use smoke detectors, putting at
least one on each level of your home.
Test often, according to manufac-
turer’s instructions, to make sure the
batteries are working.
@ Replace broken or frayed electrical
wires. And don’t run them under rugs.
@ Be very careful with cigarettes, and
as you’ve no doubt heard countless
times, don’t smoke in bed. After a

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party, check to make sure there are no
cigarette butts smoldering in ash-
trays—or on the furniture.

@ Don’t store flammabie liquids in
the house.

@ Don’t leave food unattended on the
stove.

@ Make sure that even very young
children understand the difference
between good fires (those in control)
and bad ones. That will help you em-
phasize how dangerous it is to play
with matches and how careful chil-
dren must be in the kitchen and
around other home heating sources.
@ Keep combustibles away from fire-
places, wood stoves and other heating
sources. If you use solid fuel heating,
portable heaters or liquid heaters,
exercise great care. These methods do
require more preventive measures
and more maintenance than gas, oil
or centralized electricity.

@ Make sure your family, even chil-
dren as young as three, know two
routes of escape out of your house.

®@ Generally, get out of the house first
and then call the fire department.

@ Select a place outside your house
where the whole family can meet in
case of a fire and don’t go back inside
to get anything.

@ If you’re inside a blazing building,
get below the smoke. The better air
will be near the floor since smoke
rises. Don’t open a door if the knob
feels hot—that probably means
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may be your instinct to run, but in-
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and roll to put the fire out.

@iIn any public building, always
make sure you and your family know
where the exits are.

@ In a hotel, count the doors between
your room and the exit. In a fire, your
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iving allowance would not be paid out.

While the Insurance Information In-
titute believes that problems like this
ire rare, other experts maintain differ-
mtly. “We get hundreds of calls on
hese kinds of complaints,” says Robert
Tunter, president of the National Insur-
ince Consumers Organization. “It’s a
rery sizable problem because people don’t
snow their rights, and the insurance
‘ompany ends up with all the leverage.”

From the beginning, there had been
signs of trouble. The Schunks weren’t
ible to reach the company until the
Tuesday after the fire, and the adjuster
who came out to their house carried
with him a check for $5,000. (“Beware
of insurance adjusters who come around
with checks in their hands,” says Martin
L. King, technical director of The Na-
tional Institute for Fire Restoration.)

Then, when the Schunks refused to
settle for $5,000, the company seemed
to stonewall. But the couple, too, proba-
bly made some mistakes in handling
the claim. The day after the fire, they
hired a public adjuster, who appeared
at their burned-out house offering to
help them deal with the insurance com-
pany. Many fire victims falsely believe
that a public adjuster is an official gov-
ernment employee. But this is cer-
tainly not the case. “They’re commonly
known as ambulance chasers,” says
King, who points out that public adjus-
ters generally pay off only for very
large claims. Otherwise, they get a cut
of the insurance company settlement
and only serve to make the relationship
between the consumer and the com-
pany more complicated and hostile.

In fact, the public adjuster remained
in the Schunks’ employ for just a short
time, but afterward they made another
error by hiring a lawyer. (“That gener-
ally should be a last resort,” says
King.) The lawyer, unfortunately, sat
on their case for a month. And by the
time the disgusted couple hired an-
other lawyer, in March, the resolve that
they had to fight the insurance com-
pany for the last penny was failing. The
longer they fought, it seemed, the
longer their house went unrepaired
and the longer their lives were in disar-
ray. (What they probably should have
done, experts say, is take advantage of
the arbitration clause in their insur-
ance policy as soon as they saw there
were difficulties. This is relatively inex-
pensive, does not require a lawyer and
means that an impartial observer
would have tried to settle the dif-
ferences between the couple and the
insurance company. They could also
have contacted the Insurance Informa-
tion Institute [1-800-221-4954] for help

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in trying to resolve their problems. In
addition, it would have been wise for
them to check out the reputation of the
company before their fire. In many
states, the insurance commission keeps
a record of the number of complaints
lodged against each company.)

The most intolerable thing for the
Schunks through the whole process
was the delay. While the settlement
was up in the air, they had to live in the
trailer they had rented. Emotionally
drained from the fire and the ongoing
battle with the insurance company,
they felt almost incapable of handling
the problems with the trailer. The
toilet leaked and finally fell off the
wall, the hot water alternately didn’t
function and came out discolored, and
the roof leaked. Doreen became more
and more depressed as she sat day after
day, looking out the window of the
three-room trailer at the wreckage of
her once beautiful home.

It wasn’t until May that a settlement
was finally reached. The Schunks re-
ceived $9,749 for the structural damage
to their house and $7,314 for their per-
sonal belongings, of which $1,706 went
to their lawyer. The figure was about
$10,000 less than they thought they
needed, and the company never did pay
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broke to fight anymore. What with
Paul’s school expenses and two children
to raise, they had barely been manag-
ing before the fire on Paul’s $20,000
salary. Now, with the money from the
insurance company delayed by the ne-
gotiations, they'd had to dip into their
savings. All the kids’ toys had been de-
stroyed, as well as all of Paul’s suits, his
computer and books, almost everything
from the kitchen, including the food
and appliances, and many of Doreen’s
clothes. Because they had begun to use
their own money to pay for repairs and
cleaning, they found themselves so
broke that Doreen even swallowed her
pride and paid a visit to the town’s open
food pantry for help. It was an experi-
ence that was humiliating and embar-
rassing to her and only served to in-
crease the sensation that she had lost
control over her life.

The emotional aftermath

Although Doreen and Paul had ini-
tially thought they would quickly get
over the fire, it continued for months to
eat away at their emotional health and
the stability of their family life.
“People say, ‘Well, no one was hurt,
were they?” Doreen says. “They have
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understands what we’ve been through
1 why we're so upset.”

Doreen herself had trouble under-
itanding why she was so disturbed. A
vurse and a frequent volunteer in the
‘ommunity, she was used to thinking of
1erself as a strong person, one who
‘ended to be rather stoic when faced
with difficulties.

But suddenly, she felt as if her life
were falling apart. She became un-
sharacteristically depressed, she lost her
appetite, couldn’t sleep and couldn't
control her temper. Meanwhile, Paul
responded to the crisis by burying him-
self in his work, and the couple began
to argue incessantly about the time he
spent away from home.

When they argued, P.J. would start
crying. “Daddy, kiss Mommy,” he’d
whimper, or he’d ask for a “family
hug.” “That’s what we do,” says Doreen.
“We all come together and hug each
other, but at that point, I didn’t even
want to touch Paul, much less hug him.”

The fire also seemed to have taken
more of a toll on the little boy than

anyone realized. One day, as a treat,
they went to a Polynesian restaurant
for dinner, and as the “pu-pu” platter
passed by their table, the three-year-
old began to cry hysterically. The flame
that kept the food warm terrified him,
and his parents had to take him from the
restaurant, shaking uncontrollably and
sobbing. For the first time in months,
he began to wet his bed and wake up
screaming at night.

Then, one spring day when the warm
weather made it easier to work outside,
PJ. and Doreen spent a morning clean-
ing up the mess that still littered their
lawn. Suddenly, he spotted his sister's
little baby doll in the trash. Its arms
were burned and blackened, and like
all things that had been in the house,
it still smelled of smoke and mildew.
But PJ. grabbed onto it and wouldn’t
let it go. To P.J., it must have seemed he
was rescuing the doll, much as he him-
self was rescued. He put diapers on his
baby, dressed it, and for two months,
insisted on carrying it everywhere.

The Schunks’ reaction to their fire
was not at all atypical. Several years
ago the U.S. Fire Administration com-
missioned a study on indirect loss from
fire, which found that about 120,000
people each year experience emotional
problems from residential fires, and
40,000 of them consider their problems
very serious.

Even so, there are few, if any, support
groups for fire victims (though recently
there has been a movement in this di-
rection for people who are severely

185

burned) and little public awareness of
their trauma. “People think of loss and
of the grieving process simply as it re-
lates to death,” says Pat Mieszala, a
psychiatric nurse who deals with fire
departments and federal fire programs,
as well as burn and fire victims through
her Chicago-based consulting firm, Burn
Concerns. “But people also mourn for
material possessions. We put a lot of
meaning on the things around us.”
Mieszala also cites other emotions
that are common, many of which the
Schunks experienced—a change in
self-image, anger, guilt, a feeling of lost
control, helplessness and fear. Chil-
dren, who unconsciously put a great
deal of importance on the stability of
their home and the things around
them, are particularly affected. “You
don’t think about it, but young children
go through the same kind of mourning
process as adults for the things that are
important to them. And, of course,
they’re very ego-centered. They think
that they’re the cause of everything
around them, so while they can’t verbal-
ize it, they may feel extremely guilty.”

Constant reminders

The Schunks moved back into their
house in June. But today, almost a year
later, there are still constant reminders

of the fire that turned their lives upside
down. Their country dream house is
only three-quarters repaired, and they
are about $10,000 in debt. On certain
days it still smells of smoke. “Some
nights P.J. will wake up, crying that the
house is on fire and that we should call
the fire department,” Doreen explains.
“We have to take him around the
house, room by room, and show him
that everything’s back to normal and
the house isn’t burning down.”

Doreen and Paul are once again on
good terms, and PJ., after several
months of therapy, has generally re-
covered psychologically. But Doreen
still finds herself crying at odd mo-
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precious photographs of her father...
or when she discovers that a beautiful
sweater her mother made for her was
among the clothes destroyed. And she
and the rest of the family have to deal
with the new fears and feelings of vul-
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out. A furnace has been installed, put-
ting the family deeper into debt, and
the wood stove that started the blaze
stands on the lawn outside, where Dor-
een vows it will stay until she can sell
it. “I'd never use that thing again,”
she says. “I'd never willingly bring fire
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continued from pages 112-116

Williamsburg Decorations, pages 116,128
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Popsicle Angel, page 116
Materials
Raler
Pencil
Y4e-inch-thick
balsa wood strip
X-Acto knife,
No. 11 blade
1 wooden tongue
depressor and
5 wooden
Popsicle sticks, or
6 wooden
Popsicle sticks
Scissors
White glue
Straight pin
1 inch wooden bead for head
1 acorn top for hair
8-inch length of gold cord
Enlarge patterns for wings, chest and arms.
Trace and cut out of balsa wood using X-
Acto knife. Using drawing and grid as a
guide, glue 1 tongue depressor and 2 Popsi-
cle sticks, or 3 Popsicle sticks together as
shown. Use straight pin to apply small
amounts of glue. Allow ¥%-inch protrusion at
one end. This is bottom of piece. Next, glue
top 3 sticks together, 2 side by side and 1
centered on top. Center stick .protrudes %4

Rocking Horse Christmas Stocking, page 115
This is an adaptation of the stocking from
the Shirley Plantation. The stocking was
specially designed and created by Jermie’s
for the readers of Ladies’ Home Journal.
Both the patterns and the finished stockings
are available at Jermie’s, 5701 Grove Ave-
nue, Richmond, VA 23226.
Materials
#14 mono mesh canvas

(14 in. x 18 in.)
Waterproof marking pen
Masking tape
#20 tapestry needle
Paternayan tapestry yarns
Green felt (12 in. x 18 in.) for back

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inch. This forms the neck of the angel. Once
dry, align bottom and top pieces, being sure
that top center stick protrudes %e inch above
back of bottom piece. Place wings along the
edges of second layer of Popsicle sticks; glue
in place. Glue arms on top of wings. Glue
chest piece %c6 inch below top of center Popsi-
cle stick. Glue acorn top over one hole of
bead. Form loop in 8-inch length of cord.
Knot ends twice. Place knotted end of cord
in bead hole. Place bead over top of center
stick (neck), pulling loop to back of orna-
ment. It should be a snug fit.

Rolled-Paper Star, page 116

Materials

Graph paper

Wax paper AD

842 in. long x O@OG

%e in. wide)

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Nail (2 in. size) Oo AO\O)
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Heavy-gauge
thread

Cover a sheet of graph paper with wax pa-
per. Measure strips and cut out. Tear off
¥4-inch paper from each end of strip. Hint:
Torn ends are less conspicuous. To make a
coil, tightly pinch untorn end of one strip of
paper around nail; glue, using straight pin
to apply, and let dry. Roll the rest of the strip,
but with a looser tension. Hold for a mo-
ment, then remove nail. Unroll coil until
roll is the desired size. Glue torn end down
to seal coil. Hold coil until glue sets. Once
outside coil size has been established and
glued, inside loops may be adjusted by re-
rolling slightly. Make and glue all coils,
being sure that all are uniform in size. Make
6 raindrop-shaped coils by pinching coils at

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mesh. Enlarge stocking, fig. 1, and trace out-
line, using marking pen, by placing canvas
over enlargement, leaving even borders.

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one end. Using drawing as a guide, arrange
7 round coils in a circular shape and glue
together. Glue 6 raindrop-shaped coils onto
junctions of 7 round coils. To hang, draw an
8-inch length of heavy-gauge thread through
one raindrop-shaped coil. Knot ends.

Dough Ornaments, page 112
Ornaments created by Anna P. Haley of the
North Shore Garden Club for the House of
the Seven Gables, Salem, MA.
Materials
4 cups flour (roughly sifted)
1 cup salt
1% cups water
Gingerman cookie cutters

(3-in. size)
Fine paintbrush
Kitchen knife or orange stick
Poster paints
Clear acrylic spray
Heavy gauge thread
Mix sifted flour and salt. Slowly add water, a
little at a time. Dough should have a stiff
consistency. Knead dough for about 8 to 10
minutes. Roll out dough to %-inch thick-
ness. Cut out figures with gingerman cookie
cutters and place onto a cookie sheet lined
with foil. Add details to figures by pinching
small pieces of dough from your rolled sheet.
Attach details by moistening area of contact
on ornament with a wet paintbrush, then
gently press pieces together. Try adding but-
tons, scarves, hats, shoes and hair. Before
baking ornaments, use a kitchen knife to
trim edges and a pencil to make a hole at top
of each figure for hanging. Bake at 325°F for
about a half hour, or until they are hard and
dry to the touch. For thicker ornaments al-
low more time to bake. Let cool and then
paint on details with poster paints. Its
easier if you do the finer details last, using a
good quality brush. After paint has dried,
seal both sides with clear acrylic spray and
draw thread through hole.

Bind all edges with tape. To place design,
match line indicated in fig. 2 to center line
drawn on canvas. Bottom of rocker at that
point is 1% inch above seam line. Using one
strand of 3-strand yarn, work as per color
key. Space and work name in 3-inch cuff.
Use toe area for initials of maker and/or
date. When completed, block and, using sew-
ing machine, stitch around worked edges
before cutting out, allowing ¥%-inch seams.
Use as a pattern to cut back and lining. Sew
front to back, right sides facing, leaving top
open. Turn right side out, fold ¥ inch under
at top and baste. Steam lightly. Repeat for
lining but do not turn. Slide into stocking,
placing both folded edges together, and slip
stitch closed. End

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REAL KIDS’ CHRISTMAS

continued from page 92

Christmastime (as long as they don’t
get stuck shopping for cologne for
maiden aunts or books for egghead
cousins.) Generally they go to depart-
ment stores not so much to see elec-
tronic elves hammering toys and curry-
ing aluminum reindeer but to be sure
their parents know where to locate all
the neat stuff they’ve already asked for.
When shopping, Real Kids like to:
Give test runs to skateboards they
might be getting; feel the fur on old
ladies’ coats; race up the down escala-
tors (its more of a challenge with

190

Christmas crowds); take a few turns,
maybe fifty, in the revolving doors.

OH, TANNENBAUM!

Real Kids like to be in on picking out
the Christmas tree. They generally go
for one about three feet higher than the
ceiling and wider than the door.

Real Kids like to be in on the tree
trimming, too, especially if the trim-
mings taste good. Parents who let their
Real Kids trim can count on twice as
much tinsel on the floor as on the tree.

HO-HO-HO, REAL KIDS’ STYLE

No, Virginia, Real Kids don’t believe in
Santa Claus (although they may let their

parents keep believing they do if they
figure it helps increase the presents). |

Real Kids don’t trust department- |)
store Santas either. Especially the ones
who camp out on plastic thrones in the })
centers of shopping malls. But despite
their lack of faith, Real Kids can sus-
pend disbelief long enough to enjoy
going to one of those Santa’s Workshop
places in North Pole, Ohio, or New
Jersey—if there’s a McDonald’ some-
where on the route.

Real Kids do make Christmas lists.
Generally, though, they don’t send
them to the North Pole—at least not
until their parents have had a chance
to read them. These are some items on
a Real Kid’s Christmas list:

@ A dog (you'll have to walk it)

@ Video games (you'll have to pay the
electricity bills they run up)

@ Roller skates (you'll be the one to
trip over them)

@ A bike (you'll find it in the driveway)
@ A stereo (now you, too, will get to
hear Quiet Riot)

Some items you'll never see on a Real
Kid’s Christmas list:

@ Pajamas

@ Pen and pencil sets

@ Pocket dictionaries

@ Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm

Finally, visions of sugarplums don’t
dance in Real Kids’ heads. Their heads
are already too crammed with visions
of shiny new computers and Cabbage
Patch Preemies.

THE NIGHT BEFORE ...
AND THE DAY AFTER

If Real Kids creep down to the living
room late Christmas Eve, it’s not neces-
sarily for a glimpse of Santa. They’re
just checking to see that they’re getting
as much loot as their siblings.

And no matter how late they stay up
on Christmas Eve, Real Kids are al-
ways up before dawn on Christmas
morning. They’re planning the attack.
Any Real Kid worth his eggnog can
open an average Christmas haul within
forty seconds of the go-ahead.

Real Kids might break something
while they’re unwrapping it, particu-
larly if it’s something they don’t like.
The general rule is 50 percent of all
gifts are broken within the first full
day of ownership or the first full hour of
use, whichever comes first.

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL!

With Real Kids around, Christmas is
costlier, messier and noisier. But then
would it really be Christmas without
Real Kids to nag, brag, scheme, scream
and dream? Well, maybe. End

April Levy is co-author with her hus-
band, Dan, of the book Real Kids Don’t
Say Please, published by Stein & Day.

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Or when and if it snows;
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That you searched for everywhere.
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